Ellis and Bradley's Float Em or Flush Em Thursday July 11th Bree's Letter

This morning, Ellis and Bradley read a letter from Bree in Greenville about her rocky relationship with her guy, James. 

Episode Transcript

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All right, whistle land, it'stime for Ellison Bradley's Float him or flush
U? What flushing him? Here'sEllison Bradley with this morning's Float him or
Flush Him letter. It's up broughtto you by our friends at Benjamin Franklin
Plumbing. We thank them, ofcourse, and thank you Brie out of

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Greenville for a letter about she andher guy. James. Dear Alison Bradley,
what do you do when your boyfriendcheats on you? You dump him?
Right? If only it was thateasy, Okay? James and I
moved in together over three years ago. We kind of figured we'd get married
one day, but we both wantedto be financially grounded first, so we

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worked and saved, and life togethergot pretty dull but comfortable. We were
pretty hot and heavy when we firstmet, and I guess when we moved
in things slowly got less romantic anyway, shocking. Recently, I heard through
a friend that he was seeing agirl from his work when my took me
on the road. I never confrontedhim. I blame myself for letting things

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get that way. He still camehome, still did the chores and plan
our future. We even cuddled withour favorite TV shows at night. Recently,
on one of my road trips,I went home with some random guy
I met at a bar. Ifelt terrible the next morning. I wanted
to come home and tell him whatI'd done, confront him over what I

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know he's done. But instead Igot home from that road trip and we
were romantic. And I've heard througha friend that he broke it off with
that woman he was seeing. Wasthis just a bump in the road on
the way to us being happy foreverafter? I just don't know what to
do. Please help? So Iguess the question is does she just float
things, stay the course? Doesshe flush the relationship? Does she confront

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James? Does she fess up?What does she do? He's living in
ten like, okay, when they'retogether, that's ten like relationship. And
when they're apart, they're not readybreak up. If you want to get
back together later, do it moveout. You're not done cooking, you're
not adults shit like break it up. You know I'll help you move girl.
I got an suv. We canget your plants in there and everything.

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You're not done cooking, you're not. First of all, she needs
to confront James on what he didthat was not right of him as a
man, and then she needs totell him what she did because that's not
right. And I say she needsto leave. I mean they're not ready.
Like I said, they're not donecooking and they're not ready. I
mean, if you still have googlyeyes for somebody else in this world and

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you still want to sleep with someoneelse and you're not ready to commit to
that. Dania Honeycutt on the EllisonBrowley facebook page says move on. Deborah
Blakeley says flush so far, Brie, it's not looking good for you and
James. Hey, I think it'sthe breaks to mind that song from Frozen,
let it Go, Let It Go. Cole never bothered me anyway.

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Yeah, I mean I'm no experton relationships. I mean, you guys
are calling your shows. Probably itcost me a couple that. Yeah.
I think they're they're not they're notready, or they're not right for each
other or both. Yeah, they'vebeen together for three years and I think

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they got in their nose to thegrindstone. Let's be financially sound before we
make a commitment to marriage. Andthen somewhere along the way they lost each
other. Of us have been married. Look, the romance goes away after
a while, the fun stuff,and then that's when the real work starts.
Exactly. You don't walk out thedoor find somebody else, exactly,
and they both did. Yeah,I think a lot of the advice so

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far as there has been ridiculous.They've got three years in and they've worked
through issues. They both have learnedsomething now that they tried each other,
they felt bad about it, theywent back to the relationship. So I
think they've worked through some tough thingswhere now they're ready to focus on each
other, keep saving, keep ittogether. No relationship is easy. It's

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hard work and you have to workthrough the tough stuff to make it last
for a long time. Would youagree maybe it's a good idea for her
to confront him and them openly talkabout what they've done. Or would you
just kind of keep that on thedownload. That's a tough call. It
could go either way. The bestthing would be to come clean and say,
look, I've made a mistake andas far as I'm concerned, this

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will never happen again. Leave itopen for him maybe to respond and like
rather than saying I'm confronting you.You know, confrontation could certainly lead to
division, separation. It needs tobe more of a reciprocal coming at this.
But my wife and I are justcelebrating fifty years in the marriage.

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My wife left one time, we'dhad an argument and she was going back
to her dad. Took our threelittle boys and left and she got back
there and her dad said, hey, you're not coming back here. You've
got a husband. You go homeand you'll work things out. So,
now, fifty year for marriage,how about that? And so it takes
people around them and encourage them.Hey, people make mistakes, you make
errors, you've learned from it,press on and have a great relationship.

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That'd be my advice. Interesting callindeed, Jenny McGee on the Ellison Bradley
Facebook page, it sounds like youboth have commitment issues. Neither can be
trusted. Flush this relationship and giveyourself time to decide what you really want,
a roommate or a life partner.Brie, just for writing the letter,
we do need to tell you themajority of the folks did say you
should probably flush this relationship. Inthe words of Beth Bradley, you ain't

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done yet, girls, you've gotany more minutes and that's Flotomer flushing for
another week with our friends at BenjaminFranklin Plumbing again. The letter is on
the Allison Bradley Facebook page. Keepthe conversation going there. Today's episode will
be on Today's Allison Bradley Podcast oniHeartRadio d Ellison Bradley Show