June 18, 2024 • 6 mins
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What do you look for in a partner? Today we go through a list of the most important things people look for when dating - and reveal what we find most important in our partners!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Coast Breakfast Bonus Podcast with Tony Jason Sam.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Thanks for listening to our Breakfast Bonus podcast. We're talking
about what people are actually looking for in the dating world. Now,
you see people have a forty looking for partners. A
lot of marriages are falling apart, which is quite sad.
They reckon that COVID and lockdown had a lot to
do with there suddenly stuck at home with these people going, actually,
I don't even.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Like you, and that's what's happened.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Quite annoying.
Speaker 5 (00:22):
It was just intense. Wasn't it even even the best
of relationships for tested through COVID, because you know, you
didn't get to go to work or head up and
play some squash.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
But then you see people like Dave Teresa Gatting now
sitting up Competico, you know, the dating website for people
over forty, deliberately targeting that.
Speaker 4 (00:39):
Market who don't want to just swipe left.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
That's exactly right, Yes, so according to it they do.
Speaker 5 (00:44):
That's what I think. People are far more superficient than
we think at a base level.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
That's all them on.
Speaker 5 (00:50):
People don't want an intellectual connection, they just want to attraction.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
You try tell that to the forty five year old
old woman who's been left by a cheating husband's heads
at home. He just wants a decent guy.
Speaker 5 (01:02):
I know she does. She wants a decent guy that
she's attracted to.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, but ye ain't finding that on Tinder. What you're
finding is a creep that you don't know anything about,
at least with compared to you have done some chicks.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Well, so that they've done this as well, that they've
gone out two thousand adults who are looking for a partner.
The most desirable attributes people are looking for nowadays. And
it's not just a base level. How do you look
what they're saying. No, one's looked at the pantry.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
It's not that at all. So they were emotional intelligence.
That's an easy one. Yet when you you could pick
that was gonna be top of the list.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
It is just the same for women and men, because
I think that different.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
No, it's two thousand adults. So let's say she has
break that down. Okay, as a man and a woman,
that's break this down. Here we go, emotional intelligence top
of the list.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
I think they'd be right up there.
Speaker 5 (01:45):
For me, as long as they can laugh at my jokes.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Yeah, yeah, but also get it when you're having a
bad day.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
I honestly obviously like you've got to be physically attracted
to the person. But I couldn't. I could not deal
with a selfish husband. I could not deal with the
offish husband that's put his needs above me and the kids.
That would be the biggest thing.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
That makes you selfish because you want his needs to
be below yours.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
No, I don't. I didn't say that. I just want
someone that's not going to think that I have to
do it all. And there are a lot of marriages
where the woman still does.
Speaker 5 (02:15):
Everything when you're working. To my wife's not working, so
I just make it do everything.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Emotional intelligence, the ability to get along with your friends
and family.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
Yeah, they've got to get along with my friends and family.
If they don't, it becomes awkward.
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Well, you lose your friends if you've got a partner that, yeah,
you do. I've seen that happen.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
So yeah, Financial stability and you get later in life.
You want people to financially stable. I get that, you know,
if they blow their money and they don't prioritize things,
and I don't know, I think.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
We can live payday to pay day. I get it.
A lot of people do.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
That, fine, but when you know you knew that you
well you want you there's build coming up that you thought,
oh nah, by a whole bunch of new jackets.
Speaker 5 (02:57):
I hear what you're saying here because it's one of
the things I love about my partner most of all.
She's frugal. You know, she's not getting treatments and in
nails done and your hair done and spin it on clothes.
And I think if I had a partner that did that,
that would frustrate me.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I mean, if she wants to go and spend that sort,
it was a fantastic as long as everything else is covered,
do you know.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
What I mean?
Speaker 4 (03:15):
And you also want people that are pitching in, right,
I'd want someone that can can help as well, but
I'm also quite determined to make sure I'm contributing with you.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
You just want a unified plan. Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Eighty percent of people said they're searching for someone who
has certain qualities they don't have, so they're basically the yin.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
To my yan.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
So you learn totally agree with that too.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
You don't say me, say me hear the rest of
the qualities of people are looking for see if you
agree with this. This is becoming more important as you
get older. People who are happy to have a relaxing
and RESTful lazy day. The whole go getter all the time.
If you just happy to chill out and relax with me,
that's what I'm happy.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
It used to be me.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
I didn't.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
I didn't used to be able to relax.
Speaker 5 (03:54):
I can't.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
I know, I like to just have a lazy day,
and usually I'm coma too's on the couch.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Oh, I just don't do it. I honestly don't know what.
I guess.
Speaker 5 (04:01):
I am a relax I just have to go and
do something to relax.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
What am I doing with my Life's?
Speaker 4 (04:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Well my wife tells me. You should know that the
lawns can wait. All the calful wait, just just relat.
Speaker 5 (04:13):
Just don't say funny and the joy of doing nothing.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
It's beautiful.
Speaker 5 (04:17):
It's the only Italian I speak. And I go there.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I love that saying listen here. I want an active
listener who wants to hear about my day.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
I always pretend you're such a kid.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
How are you even married?
Speaker 5 (04:30):
I'm actually really nice, I joke, but I actually am
very caring and nice.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
You often asked me about my day, which is good,
and have I gone to the gym or not? But
I just always so care about accountability.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
So I want someone who knows what they want. Yes,
you don't want someone who's listless in life, you know
what I mean?
Speaker 4 (04:50):
I know what I want a lot of women, well,
certainly my friends. There's nothing worse than a spineless man. Yep,
I agree, Yeah, like indecisive.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
And yeah, you still have to have some male traits
and likewise, some nice feminine traits are nice as well,
you know, not to take it back to the dark ages.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
What feminine traits to I wanted my husband?
Speaker 5 (05:10):
No, I mean I think males for females.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
I thought I was wanting some estrogen coming out of
my husband. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I want someone and I agree with this one here
stimulates me intellectually. Yes, if I can have a conversation
with someone and they teach me something I don't know,
I'm like, yeah, well I do not know that.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
That's cool. I'm stimulated by that.
Speaker 5 (05:27):
Your if you're just hot, you know what I mean, Like,
that's one i'd give up.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
That's why don't give up just a little bit hotter
you know you. You don't want to be intellectual, just hot, someone.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Who doesn't want anyone smarter than them, So he tries
to do.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Don't talk. I just like something that I can what
you like you things.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Thanks for listening to the Coast Breakfast Bonus podcast. Get
your days started with Coasts Feel Good Breakfast, Tony Streets
Reeves and Sam Wallace
The Coast Breakfast Bonus Podcast with Tony Jason Sam.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Thanks for listening to our Breakfast Bonus podcast. We're talking
about what people are actually looking for in the dating world. Now,
you see people have a forty looking for partners. A
lot of marriages are falling apart, which is quite sad.
They reckon that COVID and lockdown had a lot to
do with there suddenly stuck at home with these people going, actually,
I don't even.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Like you, and that's what's happened.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Quite annoying.
Speaker 5 (00:22):
It was just intense. Wasn't it even even the best
of relationships for tested through COVID, because you know, you
didn't get to go to work or head up and
play some squash.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
But then you see people like Dave Teresa Gatting now
sitting up Competico, you know, the dating website for people
over forty, deliberately targeting that.
Speaker 4 (00:39):
Market who don't want to just swipe left.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
That's exactly right, Yes, so according to it they do.
Speaker 5 (00:44):
That's what I think. People are far more superficient than
we think at a base level.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
That's all them on.
Speaker 5 (00:50):
People don't want an intellectual connection, they just want to attraction.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
You try tell that to the forty five year old
old woman who's been left by a cheating husband's heads
at home. He just wants a decent guy.
Speaker 5 (01:02):
I know she does. She wants a decent guy that
she's attracted to.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Yeah, but ye ain't finding that on Tinder. What you're
finding is a creep that you don't know anything about,
at least with compared to you have done some chicks.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Well, so that they've done this as well, that they've
gone out two thousand adults who are looking for a partner.
The most desirable attributes people are looking for nowadays. And
it's not just a base level. How do you look
what they're saying. No, one's looked at the pantry.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
It's not that at all. So they were emotional intelligence.
That's an easy one. Yet when you you could pick
that was gonna be top of the list.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
It is just the same for women and men, because
I think that different.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
No, it's two thousand adults. So let's say she has
break that down. Okay, as a man and a woman,
that's break this down. Here we go, emotional intelligence top
of the list.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
I think they'd be right up there.
Speaker 5 (01:45):
For me, as long as they can laugh at my jokes.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Yeah, yeah, but also get it when you're having a
bad day.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
I honestly obviously like you've got to be physically attracted
to the person. But I couldn't. I could not deal
with a selfish husband. I could not deal with the
offish husband that's put his needs above me and the kids.
That would be the biggest thing.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
That makes you selfish because you want his needs to
be below yours.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
No, I don't. I didn't say that. I just want
someone that's not going to think that I have to
do it all. And there are a lot of marriages
where the woman still does.
Speaker 5 (02:15):
Everything when you're working. To my wife's not working, so
I just make it do everything.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Emotional intelligence, the ability to get along with your friends
and family.
Speaker 3 (02:25):
Yeah, they've got to get along with my friends and family.
If they don't, it becomes awkward.
Speaker 4 (02:28):
Well, you lose your friends if you've got a partner that, yeah,
you do. I've seen that happen.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
So yeah, Financial stability and you get later in life.
You want people to financially stable. I get that, you know,
if they blow their money and they don't prioritize things,
and I don't know, I think.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
We can live payday to pay day. I get it.
A lot of people do.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
That, fine, but when you know you knew that you
well you want you there's build coming up that you thought,
oh nah, by a whole bunch of new jackets.
Speaker 5 (02:57):
I hear what you're saying here because it's one of
the things I love about my partner most of all.
She's frugal. You know, she's not getting treatments and in
nails done and your hair done and spin it on clothes.
And I think if I had a partner that did that,
that would frustrate me.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I mean, if she wants to go and spend that sort,
it was a fantastic as long as everything else is covered,
do you know.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
What I mean?
Speaker 4 (03:15):
And you also want people that are pitching in, right,
I'd want someone that can can help as well, but
I'm also quite determined to make sure I'm contributing with you.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
You just want a unified plan. Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Eighty percent of people said they're searching for someone who
has certain qualities they don't have, so they're basically the yin.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
To my yan.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
So you learn totally agree with that too.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
You don't say me, say me hear the rest of
the qualities of people are looking for see if you
agree with this. This is becoming more important as you
get older. People who are happy to have a relaxing
and RESTful lazy day. The whole go getter all the time.
If you just happy to chill out and relax with me,
that's what I'm happy.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
It used to be me.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
I didn't.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
I didn't used to be able to relax.
Speaker 5 (03:54):
I can't.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
I know, I like to just have a lazy day,
and usually I'm coma too's on the couch.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Oh, I just don't do it. I honestly don't know what.
I guess.
Speaker 5 (04:01):
I am a relax I just have to go and
do something to relax.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
What am I doing with my Life's?
Speaker 4 (04:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Well my wife tells me. You should know that the
lawns can wait. All the calful wait, just just relat.
Speaker 5 (04:13):
Just don't say funny and the joy of doing nothing.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
It's beautiful.
Speaker 5 (04:17):
It's the only Italian I speak. And I go there.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I love that saying listen here. I want an active
listener who wants to hear about my day.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
I always pretend you're such a kid.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
How are you even married?
Speaker 5 (04:30):
I'm actually really nice, I joke, but I actually am
very caring and nice.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
You often asked me about my day, which is good,
and have I gone to the gym or not? But
I just always so care about accountability.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
So I want someone who knows what they want. Yes,
you don't want someone who's listless in life, you know
what I mean?
Speaker 4 (04:50):
I know what I want a lot of women, well,
certainly my friends. There's nothing worse than a spineless man. Yep,
I agree, Yeah, like indecisive.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
And yeah, you still have to have some male traits
and likewise, some nice feminine traits are nice as well,
you know, not to take it back to the dark ages.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
What feminine traits to I wanted my husband?
Speaker 5 (05:10):
No, I mean I think males for females.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
I thought I was wanting some estrogen coming out of
my husband. Absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I want someone and I agree with this one here
stimulates me intellectually. Yes, if I can have a conversation
with someone and they teach me something I don't know,
I'm like, yeah, well I do not know that.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
That's cool. I'm stimulated by that.
Speaker 5 (05:27):
Your if you're just hot, you know what I mean, Like,
that's one i'd give up.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
That's why don't give up just a little bit hotter
you know you. You don't want to be intellectual, just hot, someone.
Speaker 4 (05:37):
Who doesn't want anyone smarter than them, So he tries
to do.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Don't talk. I just like something that I can what
you like you things.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Thanks for listening to the Coast Breakfast Bonus podcast. Get
your days started with Coasts Feel Good Breakfast, Tony Streets
Reeves and Sam Wallace
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