September 27, 2024 • 26 mins
Our favourite moments from the show this week - The years that have the highest risk of divorce, our quest to find New Zealand's friendliest exes, and the difficult wedding guest problem this bride-to-be is having to deal with
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Tony Jason Sam's best show Moments podcast, the
very Best of Coasts Feel Good Breakfast this week.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm not one to rest, so I'm there for the people.
So on Wednesday I go back to work as well,
sacrificing myself for the good of New Zealand. And that
is because I I well, the form here says that
I want a free pool. That's not quite true.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I want a free pool.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
I Sam has scammed something with the pool house.
Speaker 5 (00:25):
Apparently it's going to work.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Out for you.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
So you don't want a free pols. You want to
pay for it. Using the term a free pool is
not quite fair. I want to earn a pool.
Speaker 5 (00:35):
No such thing as a free lunch.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Jess.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
That's exactly right.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
So what I've just well what the people of New
Zealand have decided to do across my social media to
strap me to a billboard and earn it. So that's
effectively what's happening on Wednesday morning. I'm becoming to you
live from a billboard in Kingsland.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
No one really, No one said he had to have
his shoes off. That's an added bonus. That's Sam throwing
it for our delightful when there's.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
A free pool on the line. Also, when you're trying
to earn a pool, you will pretty much do anything
you can so yet that the catch might come off
at some stage, I'll be exposing myself on a billboard.
Speaker 5 (01:07):
Book you've been in Figi.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
You forget that it's this bit been a bit of
a cold snap while you've been away. So if you're
top plus on a billboard, you're going to have some
very erectinable I think I.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Might have term misjudge the fact that we're not in
Fiji anymore, Doctor Roe. PARTA.
Speaker 6 (01:22):
You are saying the weather man obviously, so what if
the weather turns nasty and turns foul?
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I ever looked that far ahead, Jason. I have my
head in my well pool, but it comes with bonuses
for New zealandcy. It's more than just all about me.
It's about where I have to sell. There's two things
to this. So first of all, I have to the
only way I can be released off my billboard is
to sell a pool while I'm up on the billboard.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Until someone has to buy a pool from the poolhouse. Yeah, yeah, Sow,
what time do you get strapped on?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
You'll be strapping in about six in the morning and
I'll be six or seven and then all the way
through till ten and what owse. Yeah, And it comes
with some bonuses though, like I've got thousands of dollars
of pool bits and pieces pool accessories to give away,
and I don't want to give too much away. But
what would you say if in the future I could
(02:12):
wrangle the poolhouse to give away another pool to someone else?
Speaker 3 (02:16):
You reckon, you can do that?
Speaker 2 (02:17):
I think I can.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I would.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
I would love to see that because I've watched some
of your Instagram videos already and what I like about
this poolhouse? And remember I do actually have a pool,
but I'm looking at them, going That's what I would
have wanted when I was looking for my pooll.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
You want to see pools in action, right, If.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
They've got a display yard, which you were in your
speedos on, if you if you don't get distracted by that,
you'll actually see that there were multiple pools that you
can try out and you can see how big they look.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
A pool yard.
Speaker 6 (02:46):
Even if the look as well that there's big tall
palm trees, that's exactly the look you want.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
It's the whole display, right, so we better help you
with this process because you've got to get it right.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah, absolutely do. You don't want it, you don't get
the pool process right, because you'll be highly you will.
Speaker 6 (03:03):
So if you follow in zied Poolhouse on Instagram, you
can watch the action unfold there and all the details
just there.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Also have looks some of the pools they've got there
at Inzed Poolhouse.
Speaker 6 (03:12):
A big giveaway this coming Wednesday if Sam can managed
to sell a Paul whilstrapped to a billboard.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Not tomorrow for the next day. You know me.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
I love a good love story, right, And they've done
a big study of divorce lawyers and marriage counselors and
therapists and everything, and they've actually come up with the
times in your life for years of your marriage, we
are most at risk of divorce.
Speaker 5 (03:31):
I love you, jas, I'll love a good love story.
Let's talk about divorce.
Speaker 6 (03:34):
Yeah, that's actually shocked, because you know, there's any relationship,
there's that honeymoon period, right, the first few months you're
just giddy and love your butterflies and your tummy. What
an amazing feeling, right, And if you're lucky, that lasts
a long time and then there's that urban myth they
call the seven year itch.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
Where people have a bit of a wobble, a.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Bit of a wandering seven years. Yeah, that's right. Yeah,
but no.
Speaker 6 (03:53):
So what they've done is have done the divorce lawyers,
marriage counselors. They all agree there is a certain milestone
in your married life.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Were divorces high risk?
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Oh? And is it a specific year of marriage?
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Is it around the seven year mark? No? No, not
necessarily no.
Speaker 7 (04:08):
No.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
Let's go around the room. How many years is you
won't be married?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Here at two thirteen? Yesterday?
Speaker 5 (04:14):
I have to do the math. I was married in
two thousand and nine.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Oh, that's way too hard a mass.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
Sixteen year, thirty sixteen, this year, sixteen, this year yeah, okay, okay,
it's not sixteen. So in the years one to two
it's risky, but not very risky.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
It's risky.
Speaker 6 (04:32):
Years one to two years is risky for divorce. Ye,
Then years three to four mid risk. I guess that
one to two so you're married?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Oh, god.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
Changed if you like, It doesn't change that much. So
years one to two risky, not very risky though. Then
there's a mild risk between years and three and four.
But then after their win gets really risky. See if
anyone can nail thiss right before.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
Half past six, it's not the seven year, not the
seven year h no.
Speaker 6 (04:57):
And then then later on because the other categories low risk,
mild risk, but there's one that's very risky.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
So Sam's and mild risk zone.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You come out of the immediate risk. You come out
of the immediate risk has resided in the fact she's like,
oh God, what have I done? Got to live with.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
It now she's gone give it up.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
But so what are you regnar is the time and
the marriage, the year in marriage where you are very risky,
high risk of divorce. So it's takes to two six
and nine nine or gives a buzzo eight hundred double Oh.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Forecastle's got the testy two.
Speaker 6 (05:29):
But then a big study and it's the first study
of it's kind where they talk to divorce lawyers and
marriage counselors and therapists and all sorts of couples and
their relationship experts, people like John Aiken from Married at
First Sight. You know these people sort of house and
they said, okay, break it all down. Even thing you've
seen in your career and all your training we're what
are the years most likely where people divorce? And they've
broken it down, they've given you risk factors, mild risk,
(05:49):
high risk, very risky, low risk, all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 5 (05:51):
Didn't you say it was high risk in one to
two years?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
High risk here, yeah, one to two years.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
Yeah, but not that that's not the most risky part though,
So where is the most risky time of a marriage
where things that you're probably going to head south.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
And there's a higher chance of divorce? Paula, What do
you think, my friend?
Speaker 8 (06:06):
Well, eighteen years or the onset of kids?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Oh yeah, the way right.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
The onset of kids is all over the show, isn't it. Well, Sam,
like you had kids before you got married. I think
we had ours two years into marriage.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Well we had them same, we're than ten years in
the marriage, right, and so sorry, our relationship not marriage,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (06:27):
You know we're talking marriage. Yeah, good, yes, Paula. But no,
so they're going to have to eighty.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
You got to load.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
You got to a low risker for that point, Thank
you very much.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Though.
Speaker 6 (06:37):
All right, we'll go to Helen Halen, Hell, hello, Helen,
cutting get my wounds out. I know nothing what do
you reckon the high risker is?
Speaker 7 (06:48):
I think it was about ten to twelve. I'm actually
going to go twenty.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Twenty later on years in Why do you say that, Helen?
Speaker 7 (06:56):
I did after twenty eight?
Speaker 2 (06:59):
What happened.
Speaker 7 (07:01):
Older and wider?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Yeah? Ok, yeah, it's the thing.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
You're noticing that a lot more.
Speaker 6 (07:06):
They call it the Great divorce, remember the great separation
that women are leaving me and me and men are
absolutely blindside about because basically they just the woman gets
sick of looking after an extra child, a man child. Yeah,
good years, but not actually according to this though, mild
risk over the over fifteen years.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
Okay, I'm in the mild risk category.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Now, Colin, what year, what year in the marriage is
the higher a very high risk of divorce?
Speaker 7 (07:32):
I would say thirty to thirty five?
Speaker 6 (07:34):
I think I said, yeah, five years again Helen's train
of fourt a the older you get, the more thing.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Actually, no, this isn't for me after all.
Speaker 7 (07:42):
I just think the kids have gone. You've should have
become a habit, you know. Yeah, yeah, so that would
be really dance and strong.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
You know, you're still friends, but you know, there's something
I'm trying to work out what sort of age group
that would be. So if I've been married fifteen years,
it would be me in another fifteen to twenty. So
I'm looking at fifty five to late fifteen fifty were
getting married in the twenties probably.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, Okay, you've got to keep the passion of live stream.
You've got to stoke the fire you do.
Speaker 6 (08:12):
When I'm fifty five, think again, a great guest, Colleen,
and again all the latest news were seeing out of
New Zealand.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
That seems to be a bit of a trend for
great divorces happening in New Zealand.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
So what does it, Jase?
Speaker 5 (08:20):
Put us out of our misery five years?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Five years into your marriage is very risky for a divorce.
It's not the same rich afterwards. Five years you're a
couple of years to go.
Speaker 5 (08:28):
See, you've got a little way to go.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
But you've got to get past totally.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Mate. I mean we got married so so later life
it will be a great divorce anyway.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
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Speaker 3 (08:48):
All Right, you know what goes into sorting out of
winning a lot? Goes into it.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
There's the meal, there's the menu, there's the outfist, there's
the bridal party, and then of course there's the guest list.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
That is really hard to do, particularly when every single
guest member. You know, it's a significant cost. But we
have quite a scenario here that you might have some
thoughts on.
Speaker 6 (09:06):
So there's one bride having a bit of problem, so
years ago basically the story so years ago, Dad has
an affair, right, and he leaves mum and breaks up
the whole family, ends up marrying this other woman the right.
So now she's the stepmum yep. And the bride is like, okay,
but I don't want her there. She broke up her family.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
Do we know how much longer it was from when
the affair happened. I think it was she was a kid, Okay,
so quite a few years later, and she still doesn't
obviously like the step mum's right hasn't softened over the years.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Softened over the years.
Speaker 6 (09:36):
I mean, like I said, Dad's obviously found love with
this woman. He's married this woman, right, So you did
argue it's a lovely love story.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
I was just going to say, I feel like when
it's an a fear that go.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
I mean, a fear is an a fear, But when
it goes and doesn't last long, at least it was
worth something, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (09:51):
This one is yeah, pay off. He found his true love.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Clearly he wasn't supposed to be with the woman's mum anymore,
and he's found his true love and he's worth her.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
So years later, now the.
Speaker 6 (09:59):
Daughter grow up, go home's a wonderful young woman and
decides to get married. She's like cool, but she doesn't
want the step mother there. Dad still invited. This is
the problem I have Dad still invited.
Speaker 5 (10:09):
I know that you can't.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
He's always going to be her dad, even if she
doesn't agree with his decisions. Yes, you could argue that
she the stepmum's not a relative. Now, Oh it's a
hard situation. When do I wonder what the dad thinks
about all of this?
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Oh, he's guarded, of course, and is he is he
going to walk? Has thaughted down the aisle? I don't
know that. I don't know that far of the detail.
Speaker 4 (10:29):
So the question is do you think she has the
right to just go? Now the stepmom's not coming? Because
you also don't know where the mom sits in this
like she could be very bitter still and very and
it could ruin her day. And if the bride's thinking, well,
it's going to ruin my mom's day of my stepmum's there, you.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 6 (10:47):
There could be there could be some fairness there, I suppose.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
And I also think you don't want to hold onto
the negativity either, because it's not it's not good for you.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
No drinking poison and hoping that the other person. Yeah,
what are your thoughts on?
Speaker 9 (11:02):
This?
Speaker 6 (11:03):
Is the bride right to not invite the step mom,
it's her day, it's her right, is it?
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Or should by gones be going bygones? And dad's fallen
in love? And should we just celebrate love?
Speaker 6 (11:11):
We do?
Speaker 4 (11:11):
You?
Speaker 6 (11:11):
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to two six ninety nine.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Okay, what about this?
Speaker 6 (11:16):
There's a bride having trouble with her guest list for
her upcoming wedding. A few years ago, dad cheated on her, mom,
broke up, the family, walked out, has since married the
woman he was having an affair with, And now the
wedding's about to roll around and the bride wants to know. Well,
I don't want to invite my stepmom. I don't want
her there. She broke up our family.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
Oh yeah, and as you can imagine, it's causing a
few issues. So what's your take on this, Daffy, What
do you think?
Speaker 7 (11:39):
Is it the mom's so bitter about it? Don't bogger?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Just be a mom and dad.
Speaker 8 (11:45):
Yeah, it's not worth getting a drama on your wedding day.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
But is this not going to cause a drama? Was
the dad or does he just have to shut up
and lump it because he kind of caused it?
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Excuse me?
Speaker 2 (11:55):
This is both mom and dad. Dad up in.
Speaker 8 (11:58):
Lond with it.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Yeah, he's got to love that.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Okay.
Speaker 6 (12:02):
Bruce had a good point before he ring, And see,
look who's paying for it. If dad's paying, he can
bring whoever he wants.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Oh I you know, look, I get why you're saying that,
but the whole you're paying, so you can ask whoever
you want. It's still the day bride and groom's day.
You have to remember that. But in saying that, if
you're paying, you should you would you feeling a bit
better if you're paying in your person that you've married
and allowed to go, right, you.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Can't bring your own wife, Helen, what are your thoughts.
Speaker 7 (12:27):
I've actually been in this situation and I'm a divorced parent,
and my take is, you choose to bring a child
into this world, and therefore you need to be good
role models and at the end of the day, it's
your child's day, and whatever emotional problems you have, you
need to put them aside and put your child first
each and every day.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
That is your job, so Helen.
Speaker 6 (12:47):
So if the woman does not want to provide her
dad's wife, yep, okay, all right, thank you very much, Helen.
Interesting one more, Elizabeth, what do your take?
Speaker 3 (12:57):
What do your takes?
Speaker 7 (12:58):
A Hi?
Speaker 10 (12:59):
Him, I kind of agree that the daughter shouldn't have
to bring his step mom. When we got married, we
didn't invite well, I didn't invite my grandfather or.
Speaker 7 (13:09):
Two of my aunties, and my mom was really upset.
Speaker 8 (13:12):
But I didn't get on with them.
Speaker 10 (13:14):
I knew it would cause drama and I was like,
you know what, we've only got sick numbers.
Speaker 8 (13:18):
We really really want to enjoy our day, so you know,
it is what it is. And in then my mum
was fine.
Speaker 7 (13:25):
She was a bit sad, but it is what it is, right.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
So it's hard, isn't it, because you can it can
cause drama by inviting those people, but it can also
cause drama by not inviting them. So it's like it's
sometimes you're stuck in a a rock in a hard place.
And we have had so many texts on this, a
text here she needs to let it happen. Is the
step mom's going to be around for a long time.
We have the situation and both my husband and I
(13:48):
celebrate as families with the exes. I saw a beautiful
video with the father for the bide, got the step
dad from the crowd, and they both walked to the
bride down the aisle.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
Life is too short, I'm thinking that to life's pretty sure.
You want to put this aside for you, just make
it a happy day.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
We don't know the circumstances of how they broke up,
though I think that he plays a big part the lord.
Speaker 10 (14:07):
Here.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
I went to a wedding step mum and mum both invited.
It ruined the day. Big domestics at the bridal table.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
You never forget there.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
What about this one?
Speaker 4 (14:16):
I was wife number three, my late husband's daughter from
wife number one did not want me at her wedding,
a large chunk of which was being paid for by daddy.
I was okay with not going as it was her winning,
but he said if I wasn't invited, he wasn't going.
I went, as didn't did all the other step parents.
We'll see I in that situation. I think that's wrong
of the dad.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
If she's not.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
Invited, I'm not going.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
You're the dad. Get a girl up here, like, come on,
You've got to go, no matter what. Right you might
not be happy with your not being invited, but you're
still the dad.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (14:47):
It's very thank you very much weighing into the views
on both sides, and to be honest, it's pretty split
down the middle.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
A fifty fifty really is I'm there's no right answer.
I don't think it's just you do you Booth, That's
exactly it.
Speaker 6 (14:59):
You do your This weekend started daylight saving. I love
it roll on summer summer as of course to summer.
You could be so finding some summer love, maybe in
the arms.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
Of your ex That's what brand.
Speaker 6 (15:23):
We're on the search for Altado on New Zealand's Friendliest Exes.
If you are on such good terms, like, for example,
Mick Jagger when he split with Jerry Hall, he literally
bought the house next door and moved in so they
could still be kind of hanging out.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Yeah, okay, well it's weird, isn't it. You know that
that whole I'm friends my ex, we're still hanging out
and then all of a sudden, then you know that
people break up live in the same house and bring
people around. Yeah, yeah, I've heard of that too. Yeah,
but we're still we're not married anymore, but we live
in the same house and that's his new partner. It's like, whoa, whoa,
whoa whoa we were.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 6 (15:54):
So this is coming out because you may have seen
the headlines as well. I mean it's everywhere for some reason.
Jennifer lopi Is and ben Air Fleck they're split, but
they're still hanging out, holding hands and still kissing apparently,
And I'm like, I've.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
More blinded Cass Jason, know you watched the video.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Honor repeat, I slowed it down a few times.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
No, no, no, oh, yes, it's probably because again, if
you didn't know who they were, you would think they
were together as a couple holding hands and kissing at
a restaurant. So the question is this morning, how freely
are you with your ex? We're looking for the friendliest
exes that we know of. I W eight one hundred
double O four coaster phone number. Well, you can flick
us a text and tell us all about it, and
you just have to use names if you don't want to,
But that's fine. Maybe YOURX is that good you're hanging
(16:30):
out with them right now and they can talk about
it and go, yeah, fine, we're right here.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Because you do hear of stories that people break up
and then you know, become friends with their wife's new
husband and then they go on couples dates. Yeah, there's
that too. Didn't Quitneth Paltrow do that? Isn't he?
Speaker 3 (16:43):
I think they did? Anyway? Flicker text two six nine
nine on.
Speaker 6 (16:47):
If you haven't checked you a lotto ticket yet, make
sure you want to do that, because one person won
just over a million dollars last night, two people won
half a million dollars each, and twenty one people have wanted.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
To have a ten grand Do they email you for
the results result paper?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (17:00):
God, you love it though you know it's information you
over all, I tell you what I do, like kly
litt bit of gossip out again, the all women's magazines.
I'll be honest about my hand up and yeah I
indulged sometimes now and the women's magazines if you believe it.
When Mick Jagger broke up with Jerry Hall, he moved
next door Jalo and Ben Affleck in the middle of
the divorce, apparently having lunch last week and holding hands
under the table, having a few kisses in the restaurant.
Speaker 9 (17:22):
So what is that?
Speaker 2 (17:22):
They just worked out it's not really going to work
long term, so you know, we call, we've had a
good time and let's go our separate ways and split
up the half a billion dollar of assets and move on.
Speaker 6 (17:30):
Maybe that's exactly it, And apparently it goes that's what
I just read before they're going to meet together with
the divorce Lawyer's one divorce lawyer is dealing with the
whole thing for them, mediation with the divorce lawyer.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
So they're hanging out having lunch together with the divorce lawyer.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
People say it's harder with that much money, but we
wouldn't it be easy to have a divorce and have
to split up half a billion dollars. It's kind of easy.
At the end of the day, you're not going homeless.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Say no, you're not. I guess it would still hurt
against the holiday home, you know, like it's kind.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Of break up.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
But they're obviously all great terms. I laugh.
Speaker 6 (18:00):
You know, I love a good love story, but I
love beans well too. And on the text on two
six nine nine, Hey, guys, my recent ex husband and
new boyfriend paying the same cricket team.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
We're all fine with it.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
There you go.
Speaker 6 (18:11):
There's a lot to unpeg me cricket tea. Yeah, my
ex wife and my new wife are Facebook friends. That's
another one on the texts too, so we're looking for
freely exs right now.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Gooday, Helen, good morning. How are you really well? Thank
you very much? How things great? Really good with the X?
Speaker 7 (18:27):
Yeah, brilliant. So my husband or I still he's my
ex husband of a divorced We have a child together,
and we went together and got the divorce paper signed together,
and then I popped down the road and gave him
the court and you guys know, well I've got medical
issue going on. His new partner cooks me.
Speaker 4 (18:43):
Meals and that we go out.
Speaker 7 (18:45):
We go out to like timebone and six of us
because she's got a daughter as well, have a night
out together or anything we need to discuss. We talk
to each other. And yeah, yeah, car park became a
bit oo. I knew she was looking for one, so
I told her about it and got it, secured it forwards,
Like why not?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
You know, it's very mature. So often though with breakups,
it doesn't act. It doesn't end up that way, does it.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
No?
Speaker 3 (19:08):
But I love that you're doing that. Hell and see
that's the way we live for those life it is.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
But you know, sometimes people aren't amicable for a number
of different reasons. Jason, that's right, you know, And you
can see where people get frustrated and then it starts
to get nasty.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Sure, that's right.
Speaker 6 (19:21):
And even they say even the most amicable breakups can
turn nasty, real sudden, and I hope that hasn't hasn't ever?
Speaker 2 (19:26):
You Marie? How things with your ex really good?
Speaker 8 (19:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (19:29):
We're still friends.
Speaker 8 (19:31):
We have been well ever since split up. So it's
just it may sound easy.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah, have you got kids together?
Speaker 4 (19:38):
No?
Speaker 6 (19:39):
No?
Speaker 2 (19:39):
So when you're so friendly, how friendly are we talking?
Speaker 6 (19:41):
Are we?
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Are you?
Speaker 8 (19:42):
Kind of?
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Would you still catch up? For a dinner a meal, well.
Speaker 8 (19:46):
Not for dinner, no, but we've had caught up for
lunches every now and again. But there's mainly because like
I do as financials forums, so we.
Speaker 5 (19:54):
Want to talk about that.
Speaker 8 (19:56):
But yeah, we're still we're still friends. I don't have
any issues, He doesn't have any issues.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
So what was it that broke up the relationship then?
If you if you can maintain such a great relationship now.
Speaker 8 (20:10):
I think, well, we met a little together, but I
think were my issue. It was actually my issue. He
was sort of never there for me when I needed
him kind of thing, and I think it just got
to the point where I just needed to make a
decision for myself, and yeah, so I chose to end
the relationship that we needed amicably. There wasn't any huge
(20:36):
yelling and screaming or anything like that in any hatreds
so and I was the same with that with my
husband Sends. He passed away sadly, but we were still
friends and you know, so it's just I just kind
of bitterness just brings it down.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
That amory life too short.
Speaker 6 (20:55):
It's like having poison and hoping Jason, of course it is,
but it's easier to say, or I just you know,
don't drink from that car.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
But sometimes it gets the better of you, you know,
and it's impossible not to good.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
I an'tmory.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
That's really it.
Speaker 6 (21:07):
We'll take one more real quickly. Hell are you there,
Andrew ra Yes, Hi, Hi Andrea. So you still go
on good terms with your ex?
Speaker 5 (21:15):
Yes.
Speaker 9 (21:15):
It was my first boyfriend in high school when I
was sixteen. I'm sixty four this year.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Wow, we're still.
Speaker 9 (21:25):
Friends, well sort of, you know. I mean he has
a partner that he keeps very much to himself. I
haven't met her, but his mother and I are best friends.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Okay, that's not weird. You create these wonderful relationships with people,
you don't have to necessarily divorce the people around them.
Speaker 3 (21:45):
You know, that's exactly right.
Speaker 6 (21:46):
Yeah, one last six on two sixty nine nine, my
son and I flattered with my ex husband.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Years after we divorce.
Speaker 6 (21:52):
He again, that's the thing. So years later you get
back together and go fighting together, and there are some
great stories. But and again it's not always the case.
It's not always easy.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
But th people who are doing it take my head
off for you, man, a very mature way to approach the.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
World it is. I don't know if i'd be one
of them.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Jack, I'm not sorry the same.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Thanks for listening to the Best Show Moments podcast. This
week's very best from Coasts, Tony Street, Jace Reeves, and
Sam Wallas.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
It's time for Sam's week News.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Weekly news, sorry, weekly news.
Speaker 4 (22:26):
We haven't been here a lot, so we haven't had
a lot of weekly news. It's kind of lavery three week.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
You guys have missed this, please get into it.
Speaker 6 (22:36):
We have.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
This week was the week that left us with more
questions than answers, such as how many diddles did did
he diddle? Before he was locked up in jail? Because
Beaber has been warning us for years, party didn't know that.
Speaker 11 (22:53):
I was in a Wow.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah, he literally told us what was going on in
the parties all those years ago with a song and
she had the weirdest thing about this whole situation is
they found a thousand bottles of baby Or at Diddy's home. Now,
I've owned one bottle of baby Will my entire life,
and it's still half full.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
I'm not even going to ask any questions about.
Speaker 6 (23:22):
The latest out this morning, though. So Netflix is going
to do a documentary on this whole Diddy situation. Do
you know who has team dealt with Netflix to make
it fifty cent? Who can't stand Diddy? And he is
now the executive producer.
Speaker 5 (23:34):
Saying shes a gold digger.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
In the club.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
You were taking a role of looking stupid this morning.
Something else, providing more questions than answers. When the judge said,
on charge one, the charge.
Speaker 8 (23:53):
Of murder, do you find a defendant Philip John Polkinhorn
guilty or not guilty?
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Not real Yspratisurgent is said to have purchased a lot
of ticket and bought a white Bronco to celebrate the
judge's decision, allegedly before delivering these words to the press today.
To outcome is a huge turning point in our lives.
This process has taken a massive toll on so many
of us. Yes, it must have been really hard on you,
miss Spokenhorn. Moving on Wellington Mare has has all questioning
(24:22):
how much we're all spinning on bills.
Speaker 12 (24:24):
I've just sold my car recently to help pay the bills,
and I walked to work again. My mortgage rates have
doubled in the last few years, so I'm feeling the
crunch as well.
Speaker 9 (24:35):
B s that is b s.
Speaker 8 (24:39):
Tori Farno is on one hundred and eighty nine, seven
hundred and ninety nine dollars a year, shouldn't have children.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
She's got a dog.
Speaker 6 (24:46):
Well, hold on, Heather Diplici on ZB what kind of
dog is it? He'll be a very expensive dogs.
Speaker 4 (24:51):
And also Torri Fano said she she had the issue
and then she said no, I didn't actually sell my car.
And then she goes, oh, no, I did selld my
up like it was. There were about three versions of
the events.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
One hundred and eighty nine thousand dollars hell of a salary,
but I guess that well into night life is very tempting.
David Seymour had a small questioning who was the guilty party,
the truant kids, their parents who now face prosecution, or
the teachers.
Speaker 11 (25:16):
Seymour has also announced another rule which won't go down
well with schools. There will be no more teachers only
days during school time in the term.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Who would like to pick it up from here?
Speaker 4 (25:29):
I can pick it up from here because the new
principle of our primary school was in the headlines last
night saying this is a kick in the guts. What
a way to say I'm the new principal, just straight
into the heralds.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
That's the kicking of the guts that they can't have
a teacher's only day before a long weekend. Look, I
don't want to say too much.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
My kids to go to school and do professional development.
Surely your kid's only a new one.
Speaker 6 (25:52):
Just wait, it's pretty hard, so very much say I think.
And if you're a teacher, there's the broadcasting stands.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
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Speaker 2 (00:08):
I'm not one to rest, so I'm there for the people.
So on Wednesday I go back to work as well,
sacrificing myself for the good of New Zealand. And that
is because I I well, the form here says that
I want a free pool. That's not quite true.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I want a free pool.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
I Sam has scammed something with the pool house.
Speaker 5 (00:25):
Apparently it's going to work.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Out for you.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
So you don't want a free pols. You want to
pay for it. Using the term a free pool is
not quite fair. I want to earn a pool.
Speaker 5 (00:35):
No such thing as a free lunch.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Jess.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
That's exactly right.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
So what I've just well what the people of New
Zealand have decided to do across my social media to
strap me to a billboard and earn it. So that's
effectively what's happening on Wednesday morning. I'm becoming to you
live from a billboard in Kingsland.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
No one really, No one said he had to have
his shoes off. That's an added bonus. That's Sam throwing
it for our delightful when there's.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
A free pool on the line. Also, when you're trying
to earn a pool, you will pretty much do anything
you can so yet that the catch might come off
at some stage, I'll be exposing myself on a billboard.
Speaker 5 (01:07):
Book you've been in Figi.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
You forget that it's this bit been a bit of
a cold snap while you've been away. So if you're
top plus on a billboard, you're going to have some
very erectinable I think I.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
Might have term misjudge the fact that we're not in
Fiji anymore, Doctor Roe. PARTA.
Speaker 6 (01:22):
You are saying the weather man obviously, so what if
the weather turns nasty and turns foul?
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I ever looked that far ahead, Jason. I have my
head in my well pool, but it comes with bonuses
for New zealandcy. It's more than just all about me.
It's about where I have to sell. There's two things
to this. So first of all, I have to the
only way I can be released off my billboard is
to sell a pool while I'm up on the billboard.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Until someone has to buy a pool from the poolhouse. Yeah, yeah, Sow,
what time do you get strapped on?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
You'll be strapping in about six in the morning and
I'll be six or seven and then all the way
through till ten and what owse. Yeah, And it comes
with some bonuses though, like I've got thousands of dollars
of pool bits and pieces pool accessories to give away,
and I don't want to give too much away. But
what would you say if in the future I could
(02:12):
wrangle the poolhouse to give away another pool to someone else?
Speaker 3 (02:16):
You reckon, you can do that?
Speaker 2 (02:17):
I think I can.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
I would.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
I would love to see that because I've watched some
of your Instagram videos already and what I like about
this poolhouse? And remember I do actually have a pool,
but I'm looking at them, going That's what I would
have wanted when I was looking for my pooll.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
You want to see pools in action, right, If.
Speaker 4 (02:32):
They've got a display yard, which you were in your
speedos on, if you if you don't get distracted by that,
you'll actually see that there were multiple pools that you
can try out and you can see how big they look.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
A pool yard.
Speaker 6 (02:46):
Even if the look as well that there's big tall
palm trees, that's exactly the look you want.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
It's the whole display, right, so we better help you
with this process because you've got to get it right.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah, absolutely do. You don't want it, you don't get
the pool process right, because you'll be highly you will.
Speaker 6 (03:03):
So if you follow in zied Poolhouse on Instagram, you
can watch the action unfold there and all the details
just there.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Also have looks some of the pools they've got there
at Inzed Poolhouse.
Speaker 6 (03:12):
A big giveaway this coming Wednesday if Sam can managed
to sell a Paul whilstrapped to a billboard.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
Not tomorrow for the next day. You know me.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
I love a good love story, right, And they've done
a big study of divorce lawyers and marriage counselors and
therapists and everything, and they've actually come up with the
times in your life for years of your marriage, we
are most at risk of divorce.
Speaker 5 (03:31):
I love you, jas, I'll love a good love story.
Let's talk about divorce.
Speaker 6 (03:34):
Yeah, that's actually shocked, because you know, there's any relationship,
there's that honeymoon period, right, the first few months you're
just giddy and love your butterflies and your tummy. What
an amazing feeling, right, And if you're lucky, that lasts
a long time and then there's that urban myth they
call the seven year itch.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
Where people have a bit of a wobble, a.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
Bit of a wandering seven years. Yeah, that's right. Yeah,
but no.
Speaker 6 (03:53):
So what they've done is have done the divorce lawyers,
marriage counselors. They all agree there is a certain milestone
in your married life.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
Were divorces high risk?
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Oh? And is it a specific year of marriage?
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Is it around the seven year mark? No? No, not
necessarily no.
Speaker 7 (04:08):
No.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
Let's go around the room. How many years is you
won't be married?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Here at two thirteen? Yesterday?
Speaker 5 (04:14):
I have to do the math. I was married in
two thousand and nine.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Oh, that's way too hard a mass.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
Sixteen year, thirty sixteen, this year, sixteen, this year yeah, okay, okay,
it's not sixteen. So in the years one to two
it's risky, but not very risky.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
It's risky.
Speaker 6 (04:32):
Years one to two years is risky for divorce. Ye,
Then years three to four mid risk. I guess that
one to two so you're married?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Oh, god.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
Changed if you like, It doesn't change that much. So
years one to two risky, not very risky though. Then
there's a mild risk between years and three and four.
But then after their win gets really risky. See if
anyone can nail thiss right before.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
Half past six, it's not the seven year, not the
seven year h no.
Speaker 6 (04:57):
And then then later on because the other categories low risk,
mild risk, but there's one that's very risky.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
So Sam's and mild risk zone.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You come out of the immediate risk. You come out
of the immediate risk has resided in the fact she's like,
oh God, what have I done? Got to live with.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
It now she's gone give it up.
Speaker 6 (05:16):
But so what are you regnar is the time and
the marriage, the year in marriage where you are very risky,
high risk of divorce. So it's takes to two six
and nine nine or gives a buzzo eight hundred double Oh.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
Forecastle's got the testy two.
Speaker 6 (05:29):
But then a big study and it's the first study
of it's kind where they talk to divorce lawyers and
marriage counselors and therapists and all sorts of couples and
their relationship experts, people like John Aiken from Married at
First Sight. You know these people sort of house and
they said, okay, break it all down. Even thing you've
seen in your career and all your training we're what
are the years most likely where people divorce? And they've
broken it down, they've given you risk factors, mild risk,
(05:49):
high risk, very risky, low risk, all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 5 (05:51):
Didn't you say it was high risk in one to
two years?
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
High risk here, yeah, one to two years.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
Yeah, but not that that's not the most risky part though,
So where is the most risky time of a marriage
where things that you're probably going to head south.
Speaker 3 (06:02):
And there's a higher chance of divorce? Paula, What do
you think, my friend?
Speaker 8 (06:06):
Well, eighteen years or the onset of kids?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Oh yeah, the way right.
Speaker 4 (06:12):
The onset of kids is all over the show, isn't it. Well, Sam,
like you had kids before you got married. I think
we had ours two years into marriage.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Well we had them same, we're than ten years in
the marriage, right, and so sorry, our relationship not marriage,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (06:27):
You know we're talking marriage. Yeah, good, yes, Paula. But no,
so they're going to have to eighty.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
You got to load.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
You got to a low risker for that point, Thank
you very much.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Though.
Speaker 6 (06:37):
All right, we'll go to Helen Halen, Hell, hello, Helen,
cutting get my wounds out. I know nothing what do
you reckon the high risker is?
Speaker 7 (06:48):
I think it was about ten to twelve. I'm actually
going to go twenty.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Twenty later on years in Why do you say that, Helen?
Speaker 7 (06:56):
I did after twenty eight?
Speaker 2 (06:59):
What happened.
Speaker 7 (07:01):
Older and wider?
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Yeah? Ok, yeah, it's the thing.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
You're noticing that a lot more.
Speaker 6 (07:06):
They call it the Great divorce, remember the great separation
that women are leaving me and me and men are
absolutely blindside about because basically they just the woman gets
sick of looking after an extra child, a man child. Yeah,
good years, but not actually according to this though, mild
risk over the over fifteen years.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
Okay, I'm in the mild risk category.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
Now, Colin, what year, what year in the marriage is
the higher a very high risk of divorce?
Speaker 7 (07:32):
I would say thirty to thirty five?
Speaker 6 (07:34):
I think I said, yeah, five years again Helen's train
of fourt a the older you get, the more thing.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Actually, no, this isn't for me after all.
Speaker 7 (07:42):
I just think the kids have gone. You've should have
become a habit, you know. Yeah, yeah, so that would
be really dance and strong.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
You know, you're still friends, but you know, there's something
I'm trying to work out what sort of age group
that would be. So if I've been married fifteen years,
it would be me in another fifteen to twenty. So
I'm looking at fifty five to late fifteen fifty were
getting married in the twenties probably.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
Yeah, Okay, you've got to keep the passion of live stream.
You've got to stoke the fire you do.
Speaker 6 (08:12):
When I'm fifty five, think again, a great guest, Colleen,
and again all the latest news were seeing out of
New Zealand.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
That seems to be a bit of a trend for
great divorces happening in New Zealand.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
So what does it, Jase?
Speaker 5 (08:20):
Put us out of our misery five years?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Five years into your marriage is very risky for a divorce.
It's not the same rich afterwards. Five years you're a
couple of years to go.
Speaker 5 (08:28):
See, you've got a little way to go.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
But you've got to get past totally.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Mate. I mean we got married so so later life
it will be a great divorce anyway.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
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Speaker 3 (08:48):
All Right, you know what goes into sorting out of
winning a lot? Goes into it.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
There's the meal, there's the menu, there's the outfist, there's
the bridal party, and then of course there's the guest list.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
That is really hard to do, particularly when every single
guest member. You know, it's a significant cost. But we
have quite a scenario here that you might have some
thoughts on.
Speaker 6 (09:06):
So there's one bride having a bit of problem, so
years ago basically the story so years ago, Dad has
an affair, right, and he leaves mum and breaks up
the whole family, ends up marrying this other woman the right.
So now she's the stepmum yep. And the bride is like, okay,
but I don't want her there. She broke up her family.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
Do we know how much longer it was from when
the affair happened. I think it was she was a kid, Okay,
so quite a few years later, and she still doesn't
obviously like the step mum's right hasn't softened over the years.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Softened over the years.
Speaker 6 (09:36):
I mean, like I said, Dad's obviously found love with
this woman. He's married this woman, right, So you did
argue it's a lovely love story.
Speaker 5 (09:41):
I was just going to say, I feel like when
it's an a fear that go.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
I mean, a fear is an a fear, But when
it goes and doesn't last long, at least it was
worth something, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (09:51):
This one is yeah, pay off. He found his true love.
Speaker 6 (09:54):
Clearly he wasn't supposed to be with the woman's mum anymore,
and he's found his true love and he's worth her.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
So years later, now the.
Speaker 6 (09:59):
Daughter grow up, go home's a wonderful young woman and
decides to get married. She's like cool, but she doesn't
want the step mother there. Dad still invited. This is
the problem I have Dad still invited.
Speaker 5 (10:09):
I know that you can't.
Speaker 4 (10:11):
He's always going to be her dad, even if she
doesn't agree with his decisions. Yes, you could argue that
she the stepmum's not a relative. Now, Oh it's a
hard situation. When do I wonder what the dad thinks
about all of this?
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Oh, he's guarded, of course, and is he is he
going to walk? Has thaughted down the aisle? I don't
know that. I don't know that far of the detail.
Speaker 4 (10:29):
So the question is do you think she has the
right to just go? Now the stepmom's not coming? Because
you also don't know where the mom sits in this
like she could be very bitter still and very and
it could ruin her day. And if the bride's thinking, well,
it's going to ruin my mom's day of my stepmum's there, you.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Know what I mean?
Speaker 6 (10:47):
There could be there could be some fairness there, I suppose.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
And I also think you don't want to hold onto
the negativity either, because it's not it's not good for you.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
No drinking poison and hoping that the other person. Yeah,
what are your thoughts on?
Speaker 9 (11:02):
This?
Speaker 6 (11:03):
Is the bride right to not invite the step mom,
it's her day, it's her right, is it?
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Or should by gones be going bygones? And dad's fallen
in love? And should we just celebrate love?
Speaker 6 (11:11):
We do?
Speaker 4 (11:11):
You?
Speaker 6 (11:11):
Reckon I eight hundred double O four Coastal Fliga takes
to two six ninety nine.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Okay, what about this?
Speaker 6 (11:16):
There's a bride having trouble with her guest list for
her upcoming wedding. A few years ago, dad cheated on her, mom,
broke up, the family, walked out, has since married the
woman he was having an affair with, And now the
wedding's about to roll around and the bride wants to know. Well,
I don't want to invite my stepmom. I don't want
her there. She broke up our family.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
Oh yeah, and as you can imagine, it's causing a
few issues. So what's your take on this, Daffy, What
do you think?
Speaker 7 (11:39):
Is it the mom's so bitter about it? Don't bogger?
Speaker 2 (11:43):
Just be a mom and dad.
Speaker 8 (11:45):
Yeah, it's not worth getting a drama on your wedding day.
Speaker 4 (11:48):
But is this not going to cause a drama? Was
the dad or does he just have to shut up
and lump it because he kind of caused it?
Speaker 5 (11:55):
Excuse me?
Speaker 2 (11:55):
This is both mom and dad. Dad up in.
Speaker 8 (11:58):
Lond with it.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Yeah, he's got to love that.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Okay.
Speaker 6 (12:02):
Bruce had a good point before he ring, And see,
look who's paying for it. If dad's paying, he can
bring whoever he wants.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Oh I you know, look, I get why you're saying that,
but the whole you're paying, so you can ask whoever
you want. It's still the day bride and groom's day.
You have to remember that. But in saying that, if
you're paying, you should you would you feeling a bit
better if you're paying in your person that you've married
and allowed to go, right, you.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Can't bring your own wife, Helen, what are your thoughts.
Speaker 7 (12:27):
I've actually been in this situation and I'm a divorced parent,
and my take is, you choose to bring a child
into this world, and therefore you need to be good
role models and at the end of the day, it's
your child's day, and whatever emotional problems you have, you
need to put them aside and put your child first
each and every day.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
That is your job, so Helen.
Speaker 6 (12:47):
So if the woman does not want to provide her
dad's wife, yep, okay, all right, thank you very much, Helen.
Interesting one more, Elizabeth, what do your take?
Speaker 3 (12:57):
What do your takes?
Speaker 7 (12:58):
A Hi?
Speaker 10 (12:59):
Him, I kind of agree that the daughter shouldn't have
to bring his step mom. When we got married, we
didn't invite well, I didn't invite my grandfather or.
Speaker 7 (13:09):
Two of my aunties, and my mom was really upset.
Speaker 8 (13:12):
But I didn't get on with them.
Speaker 10 (13:14):
I knew it would cause drama and I was like,
you know what, we've only got sick numbers.
Speaker 8 (13:18):
We really really want to enjoy our day, so you know,
it is what it is. And in then my mum
was fine.
Speaker 7 (13:25):
She was a bit sad, but it is what it is, right.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
So it's hard, isn't it, because you can it can
cause drama by inviting those people, but it can also
cause drama by not inviting them. So it's like it's
sometimes you're stuck in a a rock in a hard place.
And we have had so many texts on this, a
text here she needs to let it happen. Is the
step mom's going to be around for a long time.
We have the situation and both my husband and I
(13:48):
celebrate as families with the exes. I saw a beautiful
video with the father for the bide, got the step
dad from the crowd, and they both walked to the
bride down the aisle.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
Life is too short, I'm thinking that to life's pretty sure.
You want to put this aside for you, just make
it a happy day.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
We don't know the circumstances of how they broke up,
though I think that he plays a big part the lord.
Speaker 10 (14:07):
Here.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
I went to a wedding step mum and mum both invited.
It ruined the day. Big domestics at the bridal table.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
You never forget there.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
What about this one?
Speaker 4 (14:16):
I was wife number three, my late husband's daughter from
wife number one did not want me at her wedding,
a large chunk of which was being paid for by daddy.
I was okay with not going as it was her winning,
but he said if I wasn't invited, he wasn't going.
I went, as didn't did all the other step parents.
We'll see I in that situation. I think that's wrong
of the dad.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
If she's not.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
Invited, I'm not going.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
You're the dad. Get a girl up here, like, come on,
You've got to go, no matter what. Right you might
not be happy with your not being invited, but you're
still the dad.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (14:47):
It's very thank you very much weighing into the views
on both sides, and to be honest, it's pretty split
down the middle.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
A fifty fifty really is I'm there's no right answer.
I don't think it's just you do you Booth, That's
exactly it.
Speaker 6 (14:59):
You do your This weekend started daylight saving. I love
it roll on summer summer as of course to summer.
You could be so finding some summer love, maybe in
the arms.
Speaker 3 (15:08):
Of your ex That's what brand.
Speaker 6 (15:23):
We're on the search for Altado on New Zealand's Friendliest Exes.
If you are on such good terms, like, for example,
Mick Jagger when he split with Jerry Hall, he literally
bought the house next door and moved in so they
could still be kind of hanging out.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Yeah, okay, well it's weird, isn't it. You know that
that whole I'm friends my ex, we're still hanging out
and then all of a sudden, then you know that
people break up live in the same house and bring
people around. Yeah, yeah, I've heard of that too. Yeah,
but we're still we're not married anymore, but we live
in the same house and that's his new partner. It's like, whoa, whoa,
whoa whoa we were.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 6 (15:54):
So this is coming out because you may have seen
the headlines as well. I mean it's everywhere for some reason.
Jennifer lopi Is and ben Air Fleck they're split, but
they're still hanging out, holding hands and still kissing apparently,
And I'm like, I've.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
More blinded Cass Jason, know you watched the video.
Speaker 3 (16:07):
Honor repeat, I slowed it down a few times.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
No, no, no, oh, yes, it's probably because again, if
you didn't know who they were, you would think they
were together as a couple holding hands and kissing at
a restaurant. So the question is this morning, how freely
are you with your ex? We're looking for the friendliest
exes that we know of. I W eight one hundred
double O four coaster phone number. Well, you can flick
us a text and tell us all about it, and
you just have to use names if you don't want to,
But that's fine. Maybe YOURX is that good you're hanging
(16:30):
out with them right now and they can talk about
it and go, yeah, fine, we're right here.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Because you do hear of stories that people break up
and then you know, become friends with their wife's new
husband and then they go on couples dates. Yeah, there's
that too. Didn't Quitneth Paltrow do that? Isn't he?
Speaker 3 (16:43):
I think they did? Anyway? Flicker text two six nine
nine on.
Speaker 6 (16:47):
If you haven't checked you a lotto ticket yet, make
sure you want to do that, because one person won
just over a million dollars last night, two people won
half a million dollars each, and twenty one people have wanted.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
To have a ten grand Do they email you for
the results result paper?
Speaker 4 (17:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (17:00):
God, you love it though you know it's information you
over all, I tell you what I do, like kly
litt bit of gossip out again, the all women's magazines.
I'll be honest about my hand up and yeah I
indulged sometimes now and the women's magazines if you believe it.
When Mick Jagger broke up with Jerry Hall, he moved
next door Jalo and Ben Affleck in the middle of
the divorce, apparently having lunch last week and holding hands
under the table, having a few kisses in the restaurant.
Speaker 9 (17:22):
So what is that?
Speaker 2 (17:22):
They just worked out it's not really going to work
long term, so you know, we call, we've had a
good time and let's go our separate ways and split
up the half a billion dollar of assets and move on.
Speaker 6 (17:30):
Maybe that's exactly it, And apparently it goes that's what
I just read before they're going to meet together with
the divorce Lawyer's one divorce lawyer is dealing with the
whole thing for them, mediation with the divorce lawyer.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
So they're hanging out having lunch together with the divorce lawyer.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
People say it's harder with that much money, but we
wouldn't it be easy to have a divorce and have
to split up half a billion dollars. It's kind of easy.
At the end of the day, you're not going homeless.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Say no, you're not. I guess it would still hurt
against the holiday home, you know, like it's kind.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Of break up.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
But they're obviously all great terms. I laugh.
Speaker 6 (18:00):
You know, I love a good love story, but I
love beans well too. And on the text on two
six nine nine, Hey, guys, my recent ex husband and
new boyfriend paying the same cricket team.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
We're all fine with it.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
There you go.
Speaker 6 (18:11):
There's a lot to unpeg me cricket tea. Yeah, my
ex wife and my new wife are Facebook friends. That's
another one on the texts too, so we're looking for
freely exs right now.
Speaker 3 (18:19):
Gooday, Helen, good morning. How are you really well? Thank
you very much? How things great? Really good with the X?
Speaker 7 (18:27):
Yeah, brilliant. So my husband or I still he's my
ex husband of a divorced We have a child together,
and we went together and got the divorce paper signed together,
and then I popped down the road and gave him
the court and you guys know, well I've got medical
issue going on. His new partner cooks me.
Speaker 4 (18:43):
Meals and that we go out.
Speaker 7 (18:45):
We go out to like timebone and six of us
because she's got a daughter as well, have a night
out together or anything we need to discuss. We talk
to each other. And yeah, yeah, car park became a
bit oo. I knew she was looking for one, so
I told her about it and got it, secured it forwards,
Like why not?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
You know, it's very mature. So often though with breakups,
it doesn't act. It doesn't end up that way, does it.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
No?
Speaker 3 (19:08):
But I love that you're doing that. Hell and see
that's the way we live for those life it is.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
But you know, sometimes people aren't amicable for a number
of different reasons. Jason, that's right, you know, And you
can see where people get frustrated and then it starts
to get nasty.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Sure, that's right.
Speaker 6 (19:21):
And even they say even the most amicable breakups can
turn nasty, real sudden, and I hope that hasn't hasn't ever?
Speaker 2 (19:26):
You Marie? How things with your ex really good?
Speaker 8 (19:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (19:29):
We're still friends.
Speaker 8 (19:31):
We have been well ever since split up. So it's
just it may sound easy.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Yeah, have you got kids together?
Speaker 4 (19:38):
No?
Speaker 6 (19:39):
No?
Speaker 2 (19:39):
So when you're so friendly, how friendly are we talking?
Speaker 6 (19:41):
Are we?
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Are you?
Speaker 8 (19:42):
Kind of?
Speaker 2 (19:42):
Would you still catch up? For a dinner a meal, well.
Speaker 8 (19:46):
Not for dinner, no, but we've had caught up for
lunches every now and again. But there's mainly because like
I do as financials forums, so we.
Speaker 5 (19:54):
Want to talk about that.
Speaker 8 (19:56):
But yeah, we're still we're still friends. I don't have
any issues, He doesn't have any issues.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
So what was it that broke up the relationship then?
If you if you can maintain such a great relationship now.
Speaker 8 (20:10):
I think, well, we met a little together, but I
think were my issue. It was actually my issue. He
was sort of never there for me when I needed
him kind of thing, and I think it just got
to the point where I just needed to make a
decision for myself, and yeah, so I chose to end
the relationship that we needed amicably. There wasn't any huge
(20:36):
yelling and screaming or anything like that in any hatreds
so and I was the same with that with my
husband Sends. He passed away sadly, but we were still
friends and you know, so it's just I just kind
of bitterness just brings it down.
Speaker 3 (20:53):
That amory life too short.
Speaker 6 (20:55):
It's like having poison and hoping Jason, of course it is,
but it's easier to say, or I just you know,
don't drink from that car.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
But sometimes it gets the better of you, you know,
and it's impossible not to good.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
I an'tmory.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
That's really it.
Speaker 6 (21:07):
We'll take one more real quickly. Hell are you there,
Andrew ra Yes, Hi, Hi Andrea. So you still go
on good terms with your ex?
Speaker 5 (21:15):
Yes.
Speaker 9 (21:15):
It was my first boyfriend in high school when I
was sixteen. I'm sixty four this year.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Wow, we're still.
Speaker 9 (21:25):
Friends, well sort of, you know. I mean he has
a partner that he keeps very much to himself. I
haven't met her, but his mother and I are best friends.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Okay, that's not weird. You create these wonderful relationships with people,
you don't have to necessarily divorce the people around them.
Speaker 3 (21:45):
You know, that's exactly right.
Speaker 6 (21:46):
Yeah, one last six on two sixty nine nine, my
son and I flattered with my ex husband.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
Years after we divorce.
Speaker 6 (21:52):
He again, that's the thing. So years later you get
back together and go fighting together, and there are some
great stories. But and again it's not always the case.
It's not always easy.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
But th people who are doing it take my head
off for you, man, a very mature way to approach the.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
World it is. I don't know if i'd be one
of them.
Speaker 3 (22:06):
Jack, I'm not sorry the same.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Thanks for listening to the Best Show Moments podcast. This
week's very best from Coasts, Tony Street, Jace Reeves, and
Sam Wallas.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
It's time for Sam's week News.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Weekly news, sorry, weekly news.
Speaker 4 (22:26):
We haven't been here a lot, so we haven't had
a lot of weekly news. It's kind of lavery three week.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
You guys have missed this, please get into it.
Speaker 6 (22:36):
We have.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
This week was the week that left us with more
questions than answers, such as how many diddles did did
he diddle? Before he was locked up in jail? Because
Beaber has been warning us for years, party didn't know that.
Speaker 11 (22:53):
I was in a Wow.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah, he literally told us what was going on in
the parties all those years ago with a song and
she had the weirdest thing about this whole situation is
they found a thousand bottles of baby Or at Diddy's home. Now,
I've owned one bottle of baby Will my entire life,
and it's still half full.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
I'm not even going to ask any questions about.
Speaker 6 (23:22):
The latest out this morning, though. So Netflix is going
to do a documentary on this whole Diddy situation. Do
you know who has team dealt with Netflix to make
it fifty cent? Who can't stand Diddy? And he is
now the executive producer.
Speaker 5 (23:34):
Saying shes a gold digger.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
In the club.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
You were taking a role of looking stupid this morning.
Something else, providing more questions than answers. When the judge said,
on charge one, the charge.
Speaker 8 (23:53):
Of murder, do you find a defendant Philip John Polkinhorn
guilty or not guilty?
Speaker 2 (23:58):
Not real Yspratisurgent is said to have purchased a lot
of ticket and bought a white Bronco to celebrate the
judge's decision, allegedly before delivering these words to the press today.
To outcome is a huge turning point in our lives.
This process has taken a massive toll on so many
of us. Yes, it must have been really hard on you,
miss Spokenhorn. Moving on Wellington Mare has has all questioning
(24:22):
how much we're all spinning on bills.
Speaker 12 (24:24):
I've just sold my car recently to help pay the bills,
and I walked to work again. My mortgage rates have
doubled in the last few years, so I'm feeling the
crunch as well.
Speaker 9 (24:35):
B s that is b s.
Speaker 8 (24:39):
Tori Farno is on one hundred and eighty nine, seven
hundred and ninety nine dollars a year, shouldn't have children.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
She's got a dog.
Speaker 6 (24:46):
Well, hold on, Heather Diplici on ZB what kind of
dog is it? He'll be a very expensive dogs.
Speaker 4 (24:51):
And also Torri Fano said she she had the issue
and then she said no, I didn't actually sell my car.
And then she goes, oh, no, I did selld my
up like it was. There were about three versions of
the events.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
One hundred and eighty nine thousand dollars hell of a salary,
but I guess that well into night life is very tempting.
David Seymour had a small questioning who was the guilty party,
the truant kids, their parents who now face prosecution, or
the teachers.
Speaker 11 (25:16):
Seymour has also announced another rule which won't go down
well with schools. There will be no more teachers only
days during school time in the term.
Speaker 2 (25:27):
Who would like to pick it up from here?
Speaker 4 (25:29):
I can pick it up from here because the new
principle of our primary school was in the headlines last
night saying this is a kick in the guts. What
a way to say I'm the new principal, just straight
into the heralds.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
That's the kicking of the guts that they can't have
a teacher's only day before a long weekend. Look, I
don't want to say too much.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
My kids to go to school and do professional development.
Surely your kid's only a new one.
Speaker 6 (25:52):
Just wait, it's pretty hard, so very much say I think.
And if you're a teacher, there's the broadcasting stands.
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