February 14, 2019 • 50 mins
Amy brings her husband on the show to talk about how he’s finally learning to deal with her PMS after 12 years of marriage. Amy gives us 7 habits for good sleep hygiene. Our listener, Justine, makes us want to strive to be casseroles. Amy talks about a bad experience she had with microblading.
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Okay, cast up than little food for you so so life.
Oh that's pretty much. It's pretty beautiful thing. That's a
little more kicking with four with a brown. Okay, here
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we are episode thirteen. We have made it into the teens. Y'all.
Thanks for listening. Thank you for subscribing. If you haven't
already subscribed, there's still time you can and you can
rate and review. Are amazing. But I'm still over here
kind of geeking out about the fact that Tricia Yearwood
wore her Four Things Love pull over during her coffee
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talk this last weekend with Garth Brooks. Yeah, and then
her and Garth start talking about at it and I
had so many people send messages and post stuff and
it was just super cool. And then not only was
she wearing it, she talked about the Four Things tote
that Mary and I made for her and she had
come up to the studio, so I gave it to her,
and I gave her a Pimp and Joy hoodie as well,
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and just talked with her for a minute. But zero expectations,
Like when we do stuff like that, it's like just
because we want to be nice and like share a gift,
Like I don't even know that I'll ever be brought
up or heard of again, and that's totally one. Fine.
So then come to find out that she actually really
likes the stuff and she's wearing it and talking about
it like what. So her and Garthur sitting there on
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the couch talking and she starts to bring up the
four things tote and the four things that are on there.
So I can't remember the four that we picked for
her for sure, but it was like rescue dogs, um,
she loves rescue dogs Sinatra because she just recorded a
Frank Sinatra album Georgia from there. And then think maybe coffee.
I don't know coffee would go since she does the
coffee talk, but I'm just guessing. I can't remember what
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it was. But the thing is, Garth wasn't one of
her four things, and you know, we came up with
them and surprised her with it. So then instantly Garth
is like, oh, your favorite four things, Well, surely Garth
is on there, and she's like, no, honey, it's not.
She goes, but I'll had you in and make you
a fifth thing. And then Mary and I talked about
it later, like, you know what, we should make her
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a four things to that just says Garth four times, Garth, Garth, Garth, Garth,
and then that would be really funny. So that's what
we did this week, and we're giving it to her again,
zero expectations for anything. We just again kind of piggy
backing off of that, and I thought it would be funny.
And then if any of you out there want to
really impress your husband, you could get four things to
with their name four times and they'll be like, dang,
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she really cares about me like a lot. That's awesome.
Mary did something funny over Christmas. Her family had a
white elephant gift thing. I don't know, and um, the
gifts she contributed, I guess is it white elephant or
I think that's what it was. But she made a
tote that said Mary, Mary is awesome, Mary's the best.
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I love Mary. And then someone in her family had
to end up with that four things toe and I
thought it was hilarious. So that's another idea to keep
in mind for a four things tote if you're trying
to be funny. I don't know why I just thought
of that randomly out of nowhere, but okay, let's get
over me. Geeking out about Tricia Yourwood and Garth Brooks
talking about four Things totes and talk about the four
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things in today's episode. So I've got my husband on
this episode, y'all, and we're calling it The Real Real
because I want him to come in and give you
some of the real sides of me. I think on
Instagram you get a certain side. On the radio, there's this.
We try to be as authentic as possible and let
you in, but you're not in on all the things.
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And when you're married to someone, I mean, they know
the real about you. And I think you see online
sometimes people or moms they share like the real real
because it's like the real life situation Asians. So my
husband's coming in to do just that, and this will
be his podcast debut. In fact, I don't even know
that he's come on the Bobby Bones Show in my
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like almost thirteen years on the show. Actually, I take
that back. I think one time he came on to
seeing jingle Bell Rock. I have no idea how I
got him to do that, but that was years ago,
and if I could find the audio, that would be amazing.
I'm gonna have to ask him if he remembers doing
that and why he even agreed to do it, because
he's a pretty shy person, very quiet, more to himself,
(04:34):
like wouldn't really share anything about our lives if I
wasn't on the radio. But he's definitely been a trooper
for a really long time, and he's a trooper for
coming on the podcast as well. So I will have
him on and we're going to get into the importance
of sleep. So I've been emailing back and forth with
a nurse practitioner that listens to the show in the podcast,
(04:55):
and you know, she was talking about how sleep is
so important. I think she brought it up because I
brought up in a different episode that I used to
not prioritize sleep, Like if if you had to put food,
working out, and sleep in any order, it would be
working out at number one for like the longest time,
and then I guess food and then sleep would be
at the bottom. And then now as I've gotten older,
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I've realized how much our bodies need sleep and how
imperative it is and crucial. So I put sleep first,
then food second, eating clean, and then working out last.
Where I used to like stress out or I would
stay up till midnight just to get my workout in.
Oh my goodness. But now I would never do that,
like I would totally choose sleep over working out. And
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my hope is that you guys will take that in
and realize how important it is. So she again as
a nurse practitioner that specializes in sleep and corresponded with
her to try to get some good info for you
guys on sleep hygiene. So that's what we're gonna call it,
sleep hygiene. So I'm pretty excited to you um share
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that with you all and even start to implement some
of the tips into my own life as well. Okay,
I feel like I've been rambling, so I know that's
not everything we're I'm not teasing everything we're gonna get
into in today's episode, but I definitely went off on
the whole Trician Year with Garth Brooks thing in the beginning,
So I feel like I just need to get started,
So let's do it. Okay, here's my husband. Can you
(06:23):
say hi? Hello? It's so weird having you on the
podcast because you don't ever do anything like you you
don't come on the radio. In fact, when I asked
you to do this, I totally expected you to say no,
which I think now that you're into it, obviously you
said yes, so you're willing to come on. We can
see how this one goes, and I think we can
have you back as a regular Well, I mean we're
(06:45):
in the trust here right now because of the fact
that the last time I was on it was tree.
What is that mean? Well, like right now I trust you. Oh,
you're trusting me because last time you feel like you
were tricked. Okay, okay, See, I didn't know for sure
if that was the last time you're on the radio,
so it was. It was. It was the last day
and only time you came on the Bobby Bone Jowdie
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sing jingle bell rock. Yeah, And you told me all
the spouses or significant others were coming in to sing
with them a favorite song. And then nobody even showed
up favorite Christmas song. Yeah, yeah, I have no. I
don't even remember that part of the equation, Like I
don't remember saying yeah, other girlfriend's, boyfriend's wives, whatever whatever
you sold me you came up and then we sang
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it and it wasn't a big gil Oh no, Bobby
faded you out completely. So I was singing it by myself. Okay,
I forgot about that part two. I was supposed to
be like background. You were on the radio for all
your friends to hear you singing jingle bell rock by yourself.
I could see why you probably didn't come back on
the radio for like ten years. Slightly traumatic. Yeah, well,
and then you had work stuff that kept you kind
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of not really you just didn't want to be out there.
And you're, well, I'm just a private person in general,
Like in general, I'm not if we weren't like Mary It,
I wouldn't really talk to anybody. Well, I mean you
talk to people in life, but just not about things. Friends. Yeah,
but I just don't talk about things. Well, I feel
like you should start opening up and being vulnerable. It's
(08:11):
very it's very twenty nine to be vulnerable and open up.
It's uncomfortable. I feel like we could have you on
to talk about things like infertility and adoption, stuff that
we've gone through together marriage because we've been married twelve years.
When it's like being a dad. We could talk about
(08:31):
Haiti and the work there that goes on. And I
feel like when we're in Haiti that's almost when we're
our best do you feel like that. I mean, we
haven't been in a while because we've had the kids
home for a year. But before the kids were home
for almost five years, we were going. You know, I
was at least going four times year. Sometimes you were
going two times year based on your schedule. I think
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it's just easier for because we when we're there, we're
like working on the exact same thing together. There's no
distractions when we're home. You know, we both have careers,
we both have different things we want to get done
every day, so it's easier to be distracted. We're going
to different directions and yeah, you're when we're there, we're
on like there's no nobody's calling you, no last minute things. No,
(09:13):
I want to go to spa or actually I would
go to the spall in Haiti. M I found a
place that already lost that. Yep, Yeah, we could go
to the SPA in Haiti now, so you've lost that.
But you know, I see what you're saying. We're focused
on something. You feel like you're part of something that's
bigger than a lot of our first world problems, and
(09:35):
you're there for them. Yeah, exactly, put everything else aside. Yeah,
we need to we need some hadi time. We need
to get us some hadi time. I think Mary and
I are going to be going soon. I hope that
you and I can go one point soon, but we've
got to We're not ready to take our kids back,
I think, I mean, we got to get passports first.
We need passports for them first. There's all the other things,
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but the whole emotional side of taking kids back to
where they came from, meeting their birth moms. You know,
I really really really want to do that big time.
I know they have met them because they've come by
the orphanage, but I want to do that. So how
do you feel about that? I'm just I mean, I'm
I'm a little nervous about it, obviously. Yeah. Well yeah, well,
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and then maybe we could think of I can open
up um emails or Q and a S for Amy's
husband if people have other topics that they want to
hear from you about. I thought today we would focus
on something that we're actually dealing with in our house
at this very moment, because it's p MS time and
I have been a hot mess and sort of hormonal
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and crazy and kind of where I go with it
sometimes can be I just feel like crazy and not normal.
And I get emails about this podcast like you know, hey,
Amy love the podcast, You're so great, You're awesome, blah
blah blah, and I'm like, Nope, I'm really not that awesome.
I can bring my husband on to confirm that. You know,
(11:07):
I'm crazy and all over the place and maybe even psychotic,
do you well? You know? I mean I'm up here
because I feel like I was like sworn in, like
if I say something wrong or like, are you gonna
hold me accountable for like after show issues, I'm gonna have.
(11:27):
Like so this is a place for you to speak
like this is the real real, This is a real,
real setup. This is not a setup. Okay, I promise
it's the real real Like you can be you can
be honest. We can grow from this. This could be
a time where we can share and reflect. But I
feel like we'll get into the weeds of things. We'll
(11:48):
get deeper into stuff the more I have you on
if you're willing to come back. But since we are
dealing with PMS, I thought we would talk about that.
You're like rolling your eyes right now because you cannot
handle it, So like we didn't even say that growing
up like that wasn't that word didn't happen to my house,
I know, which is weird because you have a mom
and it. And then we were dating and you already
talking like you won't believe how bad it is right now,
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and I'm like, I want to drive the car into
an embankment. You were like talking about this like it's
normal conversation. I'm like, it should be normal. It happens
to every woman, you know, saying my experience was not
every day, but every month. Women have to go through this.
And I feel, quite honestly, like I've got to do
something to get my hormones in check because I don't
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like there it's getting worse. I feel like it's getting
it's significantly getting worse as I get older. I don't
know what's happening, or if it's like something I'm doing
with my diet or what is going on, But I
feel like I have really like small chunk of the
month where I feel awesome and normal, and then the
other ones I'm like totally spastic. What I don't understand
is is how is it a surprise every time? Like
(12:53):
every time it's a surprise, I track it on my
clue app. But you you don't kiss the clue before
that app come out like since it before me, you
get the crazy eye. And then yeah, you get the
crazy eye where you can't like you're maybe smiling, you
may look in, but you know, like somebody's like staring,
like they're not blinking. It's the crazy eye, like you
(13:13):
stopped blinking. I do, yeah, and it's you can tell.
I used to not be able to tell very well,
but now I can see it from wis off. Okay,
let's go over handling her period like a man. Do
you know how to handle my period like a man?
Let me tell you. The first part is being open
to me, wanting to talk about it, and not running
(13:34):
from it because you've been living with it for twelve
years and you still freak out. Yeah. I would just
suggest that maybe, um, looking back, your recommendation would be
understand the environment that guy came from. So if you
grew up with a bunch of women that are like
with them for yes, a very long time. But you've
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been with me for twelve years, so yes, I understand
where you came from. But we've had time to grow.
But I was doing some research and found this on
asthma dot com. So I thought we would run through
the stuff together and you would see if you agree,
if you if you end up handling my period like
a man, and then any other women listening, like if
they've got you know, they're in a relationship, they can
(14:16):
share these tips with their partner, boyfriend, has been significant other, whomever.
Maybe even like just a friend, a friend that has
to deal with a friend that has really severe PMS. Right, okay,
so first of all, don't point out her PMS symptoms?
Do you do that? Do you point out my symptoms? No? Well? Sometimes,
well I try if you don't think you're if you're
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if you don't think it, then I'm just like, hey,
could it be possible? I try to throw it out
and like maybe it's not for sure that you're on
your period, but maybe you think it you're starting your period. Yeah,
but if you be a little bit crazy, I'll be
acting a little bit crazy, and then you will say,
do you really think that this is real? Or is
(14:58):
this hormones p messing? Because then if I'm legit p messing,
then I'm okay with it a little bit. But like
if I'm so far away from like not even pm messing.
Then I just feel crazy and you're accusing me of
pmssing when there's no way that I am. Yeah, but
either way, you have never said yes, I'm pmssing. You've
always said no. And then maybe an hour later, after
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you look at your clue app, then you come back
to me like, oh, I'm PMS the next day or
my clue app will be off by like five days
for whatever reason, and literally the next morning I'll start
my period and I'll have to come to you and
be like, you know what yesterday when I was, you know,
offen crazy town. Okay. Another tip that asked me dot
Com had was don't drop any surprises on her, Like
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do you feel like you try to like limit hitting
me with a curveball? I try to limit options because
you get into that time period where you are you
can't have a hard time making a decision, Like you
can't you can figure out what to wear much less
like if I go, hey, you want to go here? Here? Here,
It's like, why are you hitting me with all these questions? Yeah?
I need like one or two of Yeah, just like
(16:02):
get to the point. Reduce social activities. Okay, So do
you feel like you try to play anything for me
during that time? Or do you understand when I just
want to stay home, like curled up in bed and
not go anywhere and just watch Netflix. I don't understand it,
but I mean, okay, that's what. If that's what how
you feel, then we can do that. It is how
I feel because I've bloated and and I want to
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put sweatpants on and just lay there and chill. Okay.
I mean I feel like you're pretty supportive of that.
Another tip was accommodate her diet changes. Well, how do
you do that? Well? I mean, are you accepting of
my cravings? And like it could be all over the place,
but I mean yeah, like I like, like if you're
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like I want this tonight, or if all of a sudden,
I see that you actually had a French fry, like
it's on, it's over for the night, We're gonna, we're in,
We're getting ice cream. Oh yeah, Which if you go
down French Fry Road it's on. I love it, Yeah,
because then you know you're then I get free free
ice cream that night. Yeah. Like if I'm totally off
the rails, then you're like, sweet me too. I don't
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have to eat salad and cauliflower. We were laughing at
some meme the other day. Now I can't even remember it,
but it was like talking about how everything these days
is made out of cauliflower, like everything, which I mean
cauliflower is great. Like I love cauliflower cross pizza. I like, oh,
I saw a new recipe for um, frozen cauliflower and
(17:27):
frozen banana ice cream. You know, I've made the banana
ice cream which they called an ice cream, Like I
put that in the blender before with some like vanilla
almond milk. But now if you add frozen cauliflower to
the mix, it still gives you the same texture and
more of the ice cream, but not all the sugar
that comes with a banana. So you do like half
and half sound good? That sounds horrible. Probably there's nothing
(17:51):
about that. This sounds probably ice cream. Like there's nobody.
It's like getting the bed jelly bean. It smells like cauliflower.
I feel you wants it. There's not a cauliflower jelly bean.
They have those ones that had the random smells. You
get the bad smelling one. You're like, oh, dang, I
got the bad smelling one one. Um, what was I
(18:13):
going to say? Oh, yeah, you do have to put
it up with a lot of my food crapings. I mean,
I go through like my healthy spells of one to
try out all the new things. Like right now we're
both drinking celery juice, which I love. Are you loving it?
I mean I like the way I feel afterwards. But
I mean it's just like taking medicine, Like you just
do it. Yeah, you just do it. It's part of
(18:33):
the routine. But I mean I think I'm into it.
I think, well, that's something we'll probably keep going. I
don't know about every day, but I do like it
and know that it's good for you. But then, yeah,
if I am you are messing, then we might be
on the what you call it the French fried train. Yeah,
once French fries go down, it's on. You know what's up? Okay?
And then take on some of her chores. That's another
(18:55):
tip from handling her period, Like a man, do you
feel like you I feel like you're good at this,
Like you notice that I am like just off the
rails and I can't even handle and I'll go take
care of the kids. Like the bed, you just lay down,
do whatever you gotta do. Yeah, you'll like do certain
cooking things, or you maybe even vacuum because you know
how I loved to vacuum and that makes me feel good.
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And you'll let me just kind of chill out if
I need to, and you'll definitely let the kids know, Hey,
mom needs her space right now. She's going a little nuts.
So um So I feel like, all in all, you
handle my period like a man, except for the part
where you just don't even like talking about it. Yeah,
I don't know why we have to talk about it.
We're almost done talking about it, but I want to
throw out some tips go for it in case we
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have guys listening since you're actually on or if girls
want to share this with in their life. So first
of all, I think keeping chocolate and mid all on
hand at all times would be a clutch move. Like
if I needed my doll and you're like, oh, I
got you, babe, it's in the cabinet, and go to
the store and get the nighttime model, the daytime model
you get, you can get all kinds of them to
take her go to sleep, to make her wake up,
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to make her would e her like, get all of them,
hold on disclaimer. I don't really like the nighttime at
all because I wake up with like a weird side effections.
I have to know you gave it to her, Just
give it to her. I don't know that I can
done that behavior, but regular m at all would be
super clutched for people. Absolutely to have it on hand.
And then chocolate in the freezer. You know, I like
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that eight percent dark chocolate because it doesn't have as
much sugar in it. But hide it so she can't
see it all the time. Is that what you do? Well, no,
I'm just saying, and then just disappear. Or if you
want some, you can get something and you won't know
the difference. Okay. Another thing is sometimes maybe you know,
keep your distance, but not too much distance because then
she might think something's up. Yeah, that's a challenging one. Um,
(20:43):
but you're gonna have to know your you know your
partner on that one, because what's the what's the distance? Like,
you know, I don't know what I feel like, I
feel like this is stuff you do. Like sometimes you're like,
you know what, let's just take a break, you need
a minute, but then you're not or you kind of
just give me my space. Till I come back around
to normal town and then you know, I'm good with
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that one. You don't give me so much distance where
I freak out, like why are you being this? Why
are you treating me weird? Yeah, like taking off to
go play golf just because he had an episode is
not like a like a good idea an episode. But
like if you want to just go walk around the block,
that's fine, because if you go golf in that's four
hours and then it's a whole thing. I feel like
you can learn or google do research about mood swings
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and really understand them and then understand why they're happening
to her, and and then I feel like you're good
about understanding my mood swings. You're like, Okay, this is
not you right now, so pull it together. Would you
pull me out of ruts? Often like there was the
other day I was in a rut, like I was
so low because sometimes I'll just my mood drops drastically
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and I know it's my p MS, but I get
to this place where I can't even do things. It's
almost like simple tasks I cannot do, like I had
to make a phone call about out dad, and especially
if the task has to do with something that draws
up emotions in me. And my dad has cancer right now.
And it was a simple phone call, was anything crazy,
But I literally put it off for a few days,
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and then when it came time to the day, like
a legit needed it to be done. I couldn't. I
just wanted to get in bed and not do it.
And you got me up, you got me out of bed,
you got the dog, We went on a walk, we
got the sunshine, I got some vitamin D and you
made me do the call while I was on the walk,
and I felt so much better. And that was being
supported but understanding that I was having a mood swing.
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And then you're like, how can I help you get
out of this? I think the biggest lesson is just
to to not avoid it. Like I've tried my entire
life to avoid it. I've tried for the last twelve
years of marriage to avoid it. It's like trying to
avoid it right now. I'm stuck in this chair. I
can't get out of it. Um So, but I would say,
and what I'm trying to do is just jump in,
like just do it. It's going to happen. Buy all
the model, get some chocolate and then just realize that
(22:55):
it's happening. Yeah, and then do you keep I know,
I keep my calendar on the Clue app, which is
a great period tracker app c l U E. But
do you keep a calendar because I saw that some
guys actually secretly track their wives so that they're in
the know. But you don't need to track me with
the calendar. Apparently you can just tell in my eyes. Well,
I mean yeah, and I can tell further and further
(23:16):
away in your eyes. And I mean I can even
tell if we're not together and on the phone because
of your conversation or how you're the stress kind of
comes out of you when you're this stuff is coming,
like it's like you're like building up pressure. Yeah, it's
just like you're building up. It's like it's gonna explode eventually,
like you can feel it. Okay, Well, there you have it.
People that's how to handle her period like a man,
(23:40):
I don't know about that. And then I guess after you,
maybe when this podcast comes about out and you listen
to it because you're a supportive husband and you listen
to my podcast, then you can decide if you want
to come back and we can talk about like more
serious what was that? Well, that was like me, that's
not like adoption and father good and marriage. But we
(24:01):
can or we can talk about more fun, lighthearted stuff. Okay, whatever.
Does you have a balance. We'll have a balance if
you're willing to come back, but that will be up
to you. Nobody's forcing you to be here, so you're
gonna trust Tree right now? Kicked out? Okay, Well, thank
you for coming on. You know you're busy, No problem,
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Sleep is definitely something I'm prioritizing. And I love when
you guys happen to be an expert in something which
I am not an expert in sleep. I just know
(25:05):
that I have it at the top of my list
of something that I want to do, like when it
comes to taking care of my body, I want to
go sleep, I want to eat right, I want to
work out, but kind of in that order, and I
haven't always been in that order. But Jennifer, she is
a nurse at Sarcy Medical Center in Arkansas, So shout
out to everybody that works there, because she hooked me
up with seven habits to good sleep hygiene, Like this
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is stuff she legit gives her patients, and I thought
I would just run through it for some of you
all because maybe you need that reminder that you need
to prioritize sleep and maybe some of these tips could
help you. So basically, we all need to aim for
seven to nine hours of sleep at night, and that's
pretty important, Like we've we've got to just aim for that,
like look at what time you need to wake up
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and then decide when you need to go to bed
so you can get in that seven to nine hours
and then here's like seven tips. I'll run through them. Firstly,
it says keep a regular sleep and wake schedule, which gosh,
I know is so hard, but they say being consistent
is key, and to try to keep your bedtime within
twenty minutes every night, even on the weekends. What see
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I do a morning radio show, which I cannot, Like,
I can't wake up at four am on a Saturday
and a Sunday to keep the same schedule. Like that's
just not going to be happening. Um, so yeah, I
already can do that. One it says avoid caffeine when
it's close to bedtime, actually like five to six hours
away from your bedtime. So if you typically go to
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bed at nine or ten o'clock at night, then boom,
you need to quit drinking coffee at about two pm.
And oh my gosh, how many times do you reach
her that late afternoon latte so you can power through
that's hard. Also, it says year number three, avoid alcohol consumption.
But sometimes I use wine to help me go to sleep.
And that's funny, that's what she put right here. While
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I see many people who use alcohol to help them
fall asleep, it actually inhibits restorative deep sleep and disrupts
your circadian rhythm. Consuming alcohol before going to bed also
causes the muscles around your throat to relax, which can
obstruct your airway and cause sleep apnea. Alcohol is also
a diuretic, causing you to wake up throughout the night
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to go to the bathroom, which is disruptive to your sleep. Shoot,
I like a glass wine. Um turn off electronic devices?
Oh great, that's like TV, smartphone, tablets, all the things,
because they omit that um or emit the blue light,
and that suppresses your melotonin levels, which melatonin into something
your body produces when it gets dark out to signal
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to your body it's time to go to sleep. So
it says here to eliminate blue light emitting devices for
at least two or three hours before bedtime, which I
just ordered those blue light glasses that's supposed to block,
but I don't know. They haven't come in the mail yet.
I ordered on like a week ago, so, Jennifer, I
want to know if those glasses are legit, Like should
we be wearing those? It says here to keep your
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bedroom cool, dark and quiet at nights, which I feel
like we kind of do that and it says here
under that when it's talking about your room, only sleep
or have alone time with your partner in your bed.
Do not eat, watch TV, or perform any other activity
in your bed that you would normally do during your
waking hours. Oh my gosh, my husband and I love
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to go to bed watching Netflix. Currently we're binging Friday
Night Lights, so we're definitely watching TV. We don't really
eat in our bed though, that's not an issue, but
we will have a glass of wine and watch Friday
Night Lights. Jennifer, you're killing me. Also, it says here,
work out at least three hours prior to your bedtime.
I definitely don't work out close to my bedtime, so
that's good for me. But if you need to work out,
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make sure you do it three hours before bedtime because
you don't want it to affect your sleep quality. And again,
sleeping is more important than working out, I think. And
then lastly, number seven, here it says avoid large meals
for at least two to three hours before bedtime because
that could lead to acid reflux and digestive pains, and
those issue can cause sleep disruptions or insomnia. So there
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you go. I don't eat close to bed either. I
try to give myself two to three hours. I think
Oprah said that way back in the day kind of
took that advice to heart, so I've been doing that
ever since, or maybe somebody on Oprah's show said that
and I was like, oh, yeah, okay, so yeah, there
you have it. Seven habits to good sleep hygiene and
again another shout out to Searci Medical Center. At the
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end of every podcast, I do an email shout out,
so it's like a fun surprise. If you've ever emailed me,
you might be listening at the end of an episode
and it might be your email, which would be super cool.
But I'm getting more and more emails, and some of
them just like hit me a little bit more I
find interesting, and I'm like, oh, that could actually be
like a thing, one of the four things. So now
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you might be listening and your email could pop up
as one of my four things. So I really appreciate
you guys sharing stuff with me. And this particular email
hit me because I was like, there's casserole people in life,
and there's spoon people in life. I've never heard of this,
and you might be thinking right now, like, Amy, what
are you talking about spoons and casserole people. Well, I'm
going to clarify with this email that I got from Justine.
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She's listening in St. Louis, Missouri, So thank you Justine
for sending this email. Here's what she said. Hey, Amy,
I was just listening to this week's podcast while making
a French toast cast role for a baby shower tomorrow,
and I had an AHA moment. I love your theme
song and the part about casserole things reminded me of
a former professor's lecture. He says there are two kinds
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of people in life, casseroles and spoons. People who are
spoons are the friends or coworkers who run to a
potluck sign up sheet to be the first ones to
be able to sign up for cups, plates, silverware, et cetera.
You know, the no effort contribution, easy way out. Casserole
people are the ones who sign up to make a
homemade dish or something to add substance to the pot luck.
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Casserole people go above and beyond what is expected own people,
They just show up. It's funny because everyone knows who
the spoons in life are and who the cast roles are.
When you really think of it like this your theme
song trigger was a good reminder for me to strive
to be a cast role. I'm laughing as I'm grating
freaking cream cheese with a food processor for this cast role,
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wishing I would have signed up for cups. Thanks for
the podcast content each week. Love trying all of your things.
Hope you have a fabulous weekend. Justine. So love this,
And plus I love her honesty with like, oh my gosh,
like I should have signed up for spoons or cups
or whatever, and I'm like slaving over this cast role.
But I also love that the theme song was a
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reminder for her to be a casse role in life.
And I love that she emailed me that because it's
reminding me to be a cast role in life, because
as my life gets more hectic and crazy and I've
become a mom especial year I was. I was even
literally thinking about this the other day and had nothing
to do with this email. But when my husband and
I lived in North Carolin, Nina, and it was just
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me and him and I actually did the radio show remotely,
like the whole radio show, like the Bobby Bones Show
was in Austin, and because my husband is in the
Air Force. I had to move and I did the
show from my house, so I didn't have some of
the responsibilities that I have, like when you're in town
with the same people. My workload was a little bit
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lighter and I had more freedom, and plus our whole
workload has just changed since then. This was just another
time in my life. But we didn't have kids, and
you know, if someone in our small group at church
or in my book club, oh my gosh, I was
in a book club that I went to every week,
Like what, I don't even know how I would have
time to go to a book club in my life
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right now, although you know, you can make time for
things that are important and something like that, Oh my gosh,
I kind of crave that. So maybe I should, I
don't know, find a book club to go to and
make it a priority. And that's a little rabbit trail
there for a second. But that's my point is back then,
I had more time and if somebody was pregnant or
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had something going on and needed a meal, like I
remember being in the kitchen making things like making some
recipes that I knew my mom always made for people
in our neighborhood that you know, we're going through something
and we needed to deliver a meal, like legit homemade stuff.
And honestly, I would say, now, in my life, I'm
definitely a spoon person. So maybe we have different seasons
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where you're a casserole person or a spoon person. But
what if we all strive to be the casserole person,
Because I mean, after this little analogy, I'm all in
on that, Like I need to find out a way.
Like my friend Gracie had a baby about a month ago,
and we got a meal train email, you know, to
sign up, and you know, everybody picks a date and
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you deliver food to them so that they always have
something to eat. And I really honestly wanted to make
her a homemade meal, but I didn't have time to
do that. So I did the next best thing. I
didn't show up with just spoons or anything, but I
texted her said, hey, what are you all craving? Can
you tell me when your favorite spots and like, I'll
go pick up your exact order wherever you would like.
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So I went to one of their favorite restaurants and
picked up what they happen to be craving that day.
So but even after I dropped it off and I
was leaving, I just felt so like, even though they
appreciated it, and I'm sure it was fine, like they
didn't care if it was homemade or I bought it
at a restaurant, but there is something awesome about making
it yourself. And you know, food is love, Like in
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my family, my mom and my dad were excellent cooks
and that was their love language. And I just don't
feel like it's been that way for me, and I
kind of want to start using food is love again,
like really making something special for someone and baking things
with my daughter and like, okay, this week, we're prepping
for Valentine's Day. When you're hearing this, it is Valentine's Day,
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but I was thinking about Valentine's gifts for my kids teachers,
and it was like, oh, should we try to make
them something homemade and special sweet, or should I just
go to Target and get little pre made Valentine's for
the teachers? Like I don't know. Of course, I went
to Target and I put the pre made thing, but
I was totally me being a spoon when I should
have been a casserole and made it a whole thing
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with my daughter and my son and we baked in
the kitchen. Now this is me living in fantasy world
right now, where we've got time and we're just like
hanging out in the kitchen baking cookies from scratch and
using like a little heart cookie cutter. Okay, well now
that I'm like in La la land. But I mean,
you can make time for that. And when I say you,
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I'm telling myself, like, Amy, you know you can make
time for that. So I'm going to drive to be
a casserole person, and I hope you guys will too. Okay,
thanks Justine for the email. It's awesome. Growing up, there
were times that I was called half brow because I
had like half of an eyebrow, well on both sides,
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so I had half browse and I would pencil them
in once I got old enough, but I would go
swimming and then it would wash away, and then I
think that's when people were like, hey, what happened to
your eyebrows? Half brow? So that really stuck with me
as an insecurity so I have different stories from like
when I was in college, like I got them tattooed.
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It's some shady shop in College Station, Texas. I should
not have done that, but whatever I did it. I
basically had no eyebrows at that point anyways, because in
the late nineties, like if you grew up in the
nineties and you were in the high school in the nineties,
I don't know what we did. We plucked away all
of our eyebrows. In early two thousand's, we just had
no brows. We were crazy. I don't know why we
would do that, but they were super skinny. But I
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still got it tattooed in, and then that faded because
it really wasn't that deep. And then like when I
was twenty five, I went to this awesome tattoo artist
that did make up in Austin and she was so amazing,
and that was, you know, okay, and then that faded.
So then more recently, like a year and a half ago,
I gave micro blading a try, because obviously that's super
popular right now, and I went to someone in town
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that like a lot of people trusted, even celebrities and
some friends of mine that are just kind of normal,
but I mean I had seen their brows, and then
I saw the celebrity ones on Instagram and I'm like, okay, like,
if these people trust their brows, I'm gonna go here.
So I went there and got my brows micro bladed,
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which micro blading is a little bit different than tattooing.
It's not the deep layer of the skin, but more
on the surface. And it's also not permanent, so that's
great because the color can fade. I mean, I say
that's great because my experience wasn't so amazing and it's
way more natural because it's really fine. It's like this
handheld needle blade situation that makes strokes that are like,
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you know, a hair stroke, and then after they cut
your skin with the blade, they kind of rub in
the ink, which dies it and then it looks like
little hair strokes. It's pretty awesome because you can get
like more of a feather. Look. Well, I got it done,
and when I got done, I looked in the mirror
and I freaked out, freaked out, and I mean, I
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have sensitive skin, so I thought, okay, I'm just having
some sort of reaction and it will really calm down. Well,
my husband and I had a beach trip planned, but
some of my friends had literally gotten microblated, and they
carried on with their life and it was fine. So
I thought I can book this appointment and then go
to the beach with my husband. No big deal, y'all.
My husband was almost embarrassed to be with me. I
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had to wear I had the entire time, and sunglasses.
He said it looked like I had two caterpillars on
my face because the look that she went for was
more of a full feathered I went from basically like
not having that many brows to like, now, this really
thick browse situation, and it was. It was really bad.
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And I even texted her and she was like, oh,
I think they look great, and I'm like, are you?
Are you sure? Because then I would text text the
pictures to some friends and they would they were honest
with me and they're like, oh, I don't really know,
but give it some time. Maybe it needs to heal.
So long story short or short story long, depending on
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how you look at time. I had to get them
lasered off, like laser tattoo removal. And that is actually
how I met the Nashville beauty girl who comes on
my podcast, because she was the one that was able
to laser them off. Actually I went to a different
girl in town that micro blades and I saw I
learned about her from Kelsey Ballerini's Instagram, and I was like, well,
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maybe I can go to this girl. Her name's Megan
and she can fix me and me I want to
see Megan, and she's like, you know, I can't. I
can't fix this, and I actually I know that I
could do your brow and do it well, but you
have to get these taken off, like you have to
get these lasered and gone, and then once you're healed,
you can come back and see me. And I was like,
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are you serious right now? Of course this would have
happened to me. And again, the girl that originally did
them still has continued to do great work. Another one
of my friends, even after my little mishap, went to
this other girl and she came over to my house
and I was like, why do your brows look so amazing?
Like what happened to me? Was it just like an
off day or maybe she thought this look would look
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really good on my face? But yeah, I one day,
maybe I'll post a picture of what I looked like,
but you would laugh out loud. But I also don't
want to throw this other girl on Front Street. Like,
I'm not trying to I'm not gonna say her name,
her business anything, because I know she does great work,
but I don't know what happened with me. It just
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was not great. So again had to get home lasered off.
And that's when Megan referred me to this face and
beauty girl, the Nashville Beauty Girl, which happens to be
Carrie and she's come on the podcast and she was like, okay, girl, yeah,
we gotta laser these off. So we lasered them off.
It took a few treatments and then I had no
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brows again, so I was back to being half brow.
And this was about a year ago or so. So
then once I got that done, I was able to
finally go back to Megan and she did my brows
and we're still working on them. It's like a work
in progress because I told her I wanted to take
it really, really slow because I have, obviously I have,
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you know, some fear with the whole thing, some fears.
But Megan's amazing and she hooked it up and now
I feel like my eyebrows are starting to get back
to normal. But if you're if you ever see me
in person, you see my eyebrows in the sun, you
can kind of see where the other ones got lasered
off because there's this like red tint that's still there
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that will fade over time, but it's just sort of pinky,
and it's something I have to live with, like it's
my fault, like because I went, I went, and I
didn't really micromanage the situation, which is my point in
this whole story is that don't be scared to speak
up and say exactly what you want when you're doing
anything done to your face. And I've actually gotten several
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emails because I mentioned on the Bobby Bones Show that
I got micro blading. I think Carrie Underwood came in
and did an interview and she was talking about how
her brows were micro bladed, and I was like, oh,
mine do. So I started to get emails and people
are like, tell me more about micro blading, like what
do you would you recommend should I get it done?
And the answer is yes, I really like it and
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I totally recommend it because there's just something about having
your brow fell filled in and if it's done right,
it can really shape your face. Like people that are
born with amazing brows, like you're so lucky, but I wasn't.
So you just want to make sure that you've got
the right shape and they'll kind of measure your face
and do whatever, but don't do like you need to
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do your due diligence, Like you've got to do your research.
Make sure you're going to someone that knows what they're doing.
Make sure that they sketch it out on your face
and show you what it's gonna look like, so that
way you can see and then check out their work,
like stalk her instagrams, ask them for before and after photos.
Maybe even like try to get a legit recommendation from
someone that you know and trust, like that's gone to
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this person, um or multiple people, because well, and I
mean here I am saying that, and that's originally what
I did, is I did go to someone and yet
she's still put two caterpillars on my eyebrows. And I
just hope y'all are luckier than I am. But we
still laugh at at me and my friends and my
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husband because of course that would happen to me. But um,
you know, the good news is you can always get
lasered off. You can come see Carrie and she'll laser
them right off and then you can go see Megan
and she'll put them back on. But I would say
it's it's pretty awesome, and I would I would recommend it,
especially if you're someone that has to fill in your
brows all of the time, because it will save you
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so much time, especially if you're ever in the water
or anything where your brows just wipe right off if
you've got them penciled in. So that is my little
spiel on microblading, and uh, do your research, research, research, research,
and then speak up when it's happening. While it's happening,
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make sure they understand exactly what you want and you
know exactly what you're going to get, and then hopefully
you'll be a happy hamper. But all in all, even
with my you know, crazy experience experience, I still recommend it.
So good luck. That's a wrap on today's episode. I
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feel like I gotta say thank you again to my
husband for coming on because I know that he listens
to my podcast because sometimes he gives me feedback or
gives me his thoughts on it. So honey, if you're
listening to this, thank you for joining us. And I
guess I'll see you tonight. If you're listening to this
on the Thursday that it comes out, which is Valentine's Day,
then I look forward to see what you're seeing, what
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you've got planned. I just know that you need me
to be ready early, like five pm, early bird special.
I love that. I think that means we'll be home
early and in bed early, which sounds amazing. We're getting old,
but I'm super pumped. I don't know what you have
in store, but happy Valentine's Day. And I really hope
you like the gift that I got. You can't wait
to give it to you later on. But thanks for
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coming on the podcast. Oh and if anybody has questions
for my husband, y'all can send me questions and maybe
if we can get him back on we can do
a little Q and A with him. Just four things
with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. That's how you
can submit stuff. Which now is also the time in
the podcast that I share emails that I've gotten. And
this one comes from Adriana and she asked this, have
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you ever heard of the think Dirty app? If not,
you should totally check it out. It rates products on
how dirty they are based on their ingredients, It lists
why the ingredients are harmful and provides alternative products that
are cleaner and safer. You can either type in the
product name or you can do what I did and
go around your how scanning everything to see how safe
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your house is. So and again that's from Adriana, which
thanks for sending that in pretty amazing. Um. I actually
do try to use super clean green I guess green
is the way to say it. More green cleaning products
that have clean ingredients. Uh, but it's so hard because
I also just growing up was taught like if you
didn't have that scrub and bubbles stuff foaming around your
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tub and your toilet and all the things, then nothing's
really getting clean. So I would say eight percent of
the products in my house are technically considered green, and
then the other are like really probably toxic and bad
and should not be in my home. But I just
cannot give them up because they just give me that
extra piece of mind if I'm really trying to get
something clean. I do like the Myers products, which the
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reason why I pulled this email from Adriana was because
I was like, I need to download this think dirty
app and I need to scan my Myers products and
see if those are legit. But that's what I use
for countertop spray, glass cleaner, laundry detergent, fabric softener, dryer sheets.
The Myers brand is great. I don't know the flavors,
but I know the colors. I love, like turquoise one
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and the yellow one. The green one I don't like
so much. But it was on sale one time and
I bought a bunch of it. So now I've got
way too much and I can't wait to be done
with it. Target has it. I know that Croaker has it,
so you can find that one. I like it, but
now I need to take it to the think Dirty
app and see if it's legit. Healthy for my home,
I don't know, but seems healthy enough. And I know
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I wish I could get to the point where maybe
I make all my cleaning products, kind of like I'm
into making my deodorant or other things. Maybe I could
just start making all my own cleaning supplies because I
know you can use essential oils and vinegar and alcohol,
like there's things you can do to clean your home
and you can whip it up yourself. But I'm just
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not there yet. Like confession it just seems daunting. I know.
I know I've been saying. I know because some of
you right now are probably listening and you're thinking, like
daunting of the stuff under my cabinets is totally toxic,
and I just can't even think about addressing that at
the moment. I feel your people, I'm right there. It's
like doing an overhaul like that. I think of how
long it took me to overhaul my eating and food
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and different things and learning all about that, Like just
trying to think about doing the house is really difficult.
But I'm I'm almost there. I would say being an
eight percent makes me feel really good. And that's been
over the years, just gradually making it happen. And then
I brought up the essential oils a second ago, and
it reminded me that I've got to get an oil
expert on here to talk about essential oils because I
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get so many emails about essential oils. So, okay, well
there's your little email for the day, and it's Think Dirty.
That's the app. I'm going to download it. If y'all download,
let me know which you think and if you have
any product recommendations for me that are really green for
your home and awesome and less toxic than the scrubbing bubbles.
Then send them my way, big thank you to a
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bit that my d is always and I still get
emails asking who is the person singing your theme song
even though I shout him out in every podcast, which
is just a reminder that sometimes people don't listen all
the way through, which I'm totally guilty of that on
other podcasts that I listened to. So hey, I don't
I don't blame you, no hate here. Um, but it's
Walker Hayes So and he's so awesome. He has done
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another song for us. That's how we met him. He's
the pimp and Joy theme song guy. He wrote a
song from my mom called Joy Like Judy. It's on YouTube.
You can check that out. But those are just things
that are related to me. And then this theme song.
But his catalog of music that he's written and recorded,
he's got some really great stuff. So you should check
him out on iTunes. Actually you should check him out
(49:46):
on the I Heart Radio app. Do that first, because
shout out I Heart Radio my employer. Okay bye, he
can't can't be come to cast up broth thing, little
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food for yourself little life ain't always pretty, but hey,
it's pretty, beautiful thing, beautiful laugh A little more things
tightened up because, of course said he can't. You'll kick
in it with Four Things with Amy Brown,
Okay, cast up than little food for you so so life.
Oh that's pretty much. It's pretty beautiful thing. That's a
little more kicking with four with a brown. Okay, here
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we are episode thirteen. We have made it into the teens. Y'all.
Thanks for listening. Thank you for subscribing. If you haven't
already subscribed, there's still time you can and you can
rate and review. Are amazing. But I'm still over here
kind of geeking out about the fact that Tricia Yearwood
wore her Four Things Love pull over during her coffee
(00:55):
talk this last weekend with Garth Brooks. Yeah, and then
her and Garth start talking about at it and I
had so many people send messages and post stuff and
it was just super cool. And then not only was
she wearing it, she talked about the Four Things tote
that Mary and I made for her and she had
come up to the studio, so I gave it to her,
and I gave her a Pimp and Joy hoodie as well,
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and just talked with her for a minute. But zero expectations,
Like when we do stuff like that, it's like just
because we want to be nice and like share a gift,
Like I don't even know that I'll ever be brought
up or heard of again, and that's totally one. Fine.
So then come to find out that she actually really
likes the stuff and she's wearing it and talking about
it like what. So her and Garthur sitting there on
(01:39):
the couch talking and she starts to bring up the
four things tote and the four things that are on there.
So I can't remember the four that we picked for
her for sure, but it was like rescue dogs, um,
she loves rescue dogs Sinatra because she just recorded a
Frank Sinatra album Georgia from there. And then think maybe coffee.
I don't know coffee would go since she does the
coffee talk, but I'm just guessing. I can't remember what
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it was. But the thing is, Garth wasn't one of
her four things, and you know, we came up with
them and surprised her with it. So then instantly Garth
is like, oh, your favorite four things, Well, surely Garth
is on there, and she's like, no, honey, it's not.
She goes, but I'll had you in and make you
a fifth thing. And then Mary and I talked about
it later, like, you know what, we should make her
(02:22):
a four things to that just says Garth four times, Garth, Garth, Garth, Garth,
and then that would be really funny. So that's what
we did this week, and we're giving it to her again,
zero expectations for anything. We just again kind of piggy
backing off of that, and I thought it would be funny.
And then if any of you out there want to
really impress your husband, you could get four things to
with their name four times and they'll be like, dang,
(02:43):
she really cares about me like a lot. That's awesome.
Mary did something funny over Christmas. Her family had a
white elephant gift thing. I don't know, and um, the
gifts she contributed, I guess is it white elephant or
I think that's what it was. But she made a
tote that said Mary, Mary is awesome, Mary's the best.
(03:06):
I love Mary. And then someone in her family had
to end up with that four things toe and I
thought it was hilarious. So that's another idea to keep
in mind for a four things tote if you're trying
to be funny. I don't know why I just thought
of that randomly out of nowhere, but okay, let's get
over me. Geeking out about Tricia Yourwood and Garth Brooks
talking about four Things totes and talk about the four
(03:27):
things in today's episode. So I've got my husband on
this episode, y'all, and we're calling it The Real Real
because I want him to come in and give you
some of the real sides of me. I think on
Instagram you get a certain side. On the radio, there's this.
We try to be as authentic as possible and let
you in, but you're not in on all the things.
(03:49):
And when you're married to someone, I mean, they know
the real about you. And I think you see online
sometimes people or moms they share like the real real
because it's like the real life situation Asians. So my
husband's coming in to do just that, and this will
be his podcast debut. In fact, I don't even know
that he's come on the Bobby Bones Show in my
(04:10):
like almost thirteen years on the show. Actually, I take
that back. I think one time he came on to
seeing jingle Bell Rock. I have no idea how I
got him to do that, but that was years ago,
and if I could find the audio, that would be amazing.
I'm gonna have to ask him if he remembers doing
that and why he even agreed to do it, because
he's a pretty shy person, very quiet, more to himself,
(04:34):
like wouldn't really share anything about our lives if I
wasn't on the radio. But he's definitely been a trooper
for a really long time, and he's a trooper for
coming on the podcast as well. So I will have
him on and we're going to get into the importance
of sleep. So I've been emailing back and forth with
a nurse practitioner that listens to the show in the podcast,
(04:55):
and you know, she was talking about how sleep is
so important. I think she brought it up because I
brought up in a different episode that I used to
not prioritize sleep, Like if if you had to put food,
working out, and sleep in any order, it would be
working out at number one for like the longest time,
and then I guess food and then sleep would be
at the bottom. And then now as I've gotten older,
(05:17):
I've realized how much our bodies need sleep and how
imperative it is and crucial. So I put sleep first,
then food second, eating clean, and then working out last.
Where I used to like stress out or I would
stay up till midnight just to get my workout in.
Oh my goodness. But now I would never do that,
like I would totally choose sleep over working out. And
(05:40):
my hope is that you guys will take that in
and realize how important it is. So she again as
a nurse practitioner that specializes in sleep and corresponded with
her to try to get some good info for you
guys on sleep hygiene. So that's what we're gonna call it,
sleep hygiene. So I'm pretty excited to you um share
(06:01):
that with you all and even start to implement some
of the tips into my own life as well. Okay,
I feel like I've been rambling, so I know that's
not everything we're I'm not teasing everything we're gonna get
into in today's episode, but I definitely went off on
the whole Trician Year with Garth Brooks thing in the beginning,
So I feel like I just need to get started,
So let's do it. Okay, here's my husband. Can you
(06:23):
say hi? Hello? It's so weird having you on the
podcast because you don't ever do anything like you you
don't come on the radio. In fact, when I asked
you to do this, I totally expected you to say no,
which I think now that you're into it, obviously you
said yes, so you're willing to come on. We can
see how this one goes, and I think we can
have you back as a regular Well, I mean we're
(06:45):
in the trust here right now because of the fact
that the last time I was on it was tree.
What is that mean? Well, like right now I trust you. Oh,
you're trusting me because last time you feel like you
were tricked. Okay, okay, See, I didn't know for sure
if that was the last time you're on the radio,
so it was. It was. It was the last day
and only time you came on the Bobby Bone Jowdie
(07:07):
sing jingle bell rock. Yeah, And you told me all
the spouses or significant others were coming in to sing
with them a favorite song. And then nobody even showed
up favorite Christmas song. Yeah, yeah, I have no. I
don't even remember that part of the equation, Like I
don't remember saying yeah, other girlfriend's, boyfriend's wives, whatever whatever
you sold me you came up and then we sang
(07:29):
it and it wasn't a big gil Oh no, Bobby
faded you out completely. So I was singing it by myself. Okay,
I forgot about that part two. I was supposed to
be like background. You were on the radio for all
your friends to hear you singing jingle bell rock by yourself.
I could see why you probably didn't come back on
the radio for like ten years. Slightly traumatic. Yeah, well,
and then you had work stuff that kept you kind
(07:50):
of not really you just didn't want to be out there.
And you're, well, I'm just a private person in general,
Like in general, I'm not if we weren't like Mary It,
I wouldn't really talk to anybody. Well, I mean you
talk to people in life, but just not about things. Friends. Yeah,
but I just don't talk about things. Well, I feel
like you should start opening up and being vulnerable. It's
(08:11):
very it's very twenty nine to be vulnerable and open up.
It's uncomfortable. I feel like we could have you on
to talk about things like infertility and adoption, stuff that
we've gone through together marriage because we've been married twelve years.
When it's like being a dad. We could talk about
(08:31):
Haiti and the work there that goes on. And I
feel like when we're in Haiti that's almost when we're
our best do you feel like that. I mean, we
haven't been in a while because we've had the kids
home for a year. But before the kids were home
for almost five years, we were going. You know, I
was at least going four times year. Sometimes you were
going two times year based on your schedule. I think
(08:53):
it's just easier for because we when we're there, we're
like working on the exact same thing together. There's no
distractions when we're home. You know, we both have careers,
we both have different things we want to get done
every day, so it's easier to be distracted. We're going
to different directions and yeah, you're when we're there, we're
on like there's no nobody's calling you, no last minute things. No,
(09:13):
I want to go to spa or actually I would
go to the spall in Haiti. M I found a
place that already lost that. Yep, Yeah, we could go
to the SPA in Haiti now, so you've lost that.
But you know, I see what you're saying. We're focused
on something. You feel like you're part of something that's
bigger than a lot of our first world problems, and
(09:35):
you're there for them. Yeah, exactly, put everything else aside. Yeah,
we need to we need some hadi time. We need
to get us some hadi time. I think Mary and
I are going to be going soon. I hope that
you and I can go one point soon, but we've
got to We're not ready to take our kids back,
I think, I mean, we got to get passports first.
We need passports for them first. There's all the other things,
(09:57):
but the whole emotional side of taking kids back to
where they came from, meeting their birth moms. You know,
I really really really want to do that big time.
I know they have met them because they've come by
the orphanage, but I want to do that. So how
do you feel about that? I'm just I mean, I'm
I'm a little nervous about it, obviously. Yeah. Well yeah, well,
(10:23):
and then maybe we could think of I can open
up um emails or Q and a S for Amy's
husband if people have other topics that they want to
hear from you about. I thought today we would focus
on something that we're actually dealing with in our house
at this very moment, because it's p MS time and
I have been a hot mess and sort of hormonal
(10:45):
and crazy and kind of where I go with it
sometimes can be I just feel like crazy and not normal.
And I get emails about this podcast like you know, hey,
Amy love the podcast, You're so great, You're awesome, blah
blah blah, and I'm like, Nope, I'm really not that awesome.
I can bring my husband on to confirm that. You know,
(11:07):
I'm crazy and all over the place and maybe even psychotic,
do you well? You know? I mean I'm up here
because I feel like I was like sworn in, like
if I say something wrong or like, are you gonna
hold me accountable for like after show issues, I'm gonna have.
(11:27):
Like so this is a place for you to speak
like this is the real real, This is a real,
real setup. This is not a setup. Okay, I promise
it's the real real Like you can be you can
be honest. We can grow from this. This could be
a time where we can share and reflect. But I
feel like we'll get into the weeds of things. We'll
(11:48):
get deeper into stuff the more I have you on
if you're willing to come back. But since we are
dealing with PMS, I thought we would talk about that.
You're like rolling your eyes right now because you cannot
handle it, So like we didn't even say that growing
up like that wasn't that word didn't happen to my house,
I know, which is weird because you have a mom
and it. And then we were dating and you already
talking like you won't believe how bad it is right now,
(12:10):
and I'm like, I want to drive the car into
an embankment. You were like talking about this like it's
normal conversation. I'm like, it should be normal. It happens
to every woman, you know, saying my experience was not
every day, but every month. Women have to go through this.
And I feel, quite honestly, like I've got to do
something to get my hormones in check because I don't
(12:31):
like there it's getting worse. I feel like it's getting
it's significantly getting worse as I get older. I don't
know what's happening, or if it's like something I'm doing
with my diet or what is going on, But I
feel like I have really like small chunk of the
month where I feel awesome and normal, and then the
other ones I'm like totally spastic. What I don't understand
is is how is it a surprise every time? Like
(12:53):
every time it's a surprise, I track it on my
clue app. But you you don't kiss the clue before
that app come out like since it before me, you
get the crazy eye. And then yeah, you get the
crazy eye where you can't like you're maybe smiling, you
may look in, but you know, like somebody's like staring,
like they're not blinking. It's the crazy eye, like you
(13:13):
stopped blinking. I do, yeah, and it's you can tell.
I used to not be able to tell very well,
but now I can see it from wis off. Okay,
let's go over handling her period like a man. Do
you know how to handle my period like a man?
Let me tell you. The first part is being open
to me, wanting to talk about it, and not running
(13:34):
from it because you've been living with it for twelve
years and you still freak out. Yeah. I would just
suggest that maybe, um, looking back, your recommendation would be
understand the environment that guy came from. So if you
grew up with a bunch of women that are like
with them for yes, a very long time. But you've
(13:54):
been with me for twelve years, so yes, I understand
where you came from. But we've had time to grow.
But I was doing some research and found this on
asthma dot com. So I thought we would run through
the stuff together and you would see if you agree,
if you if you end up handling my period like
a man, and then any other women listening, like if
they've got you know, they're in a relationship, they can
(14:16):
share these tips with their partner, boyfriend, has been significant other, whomever.
Maybe even like just a friend, a friend that has
to deal with a friend that has really severe PMS. Right, okay,
so first of all, don't point out her PMS symptoms?
Do you do that? Do you point out my symptoms? No? Well? Sometimes,
well I try if you don't think you're if you're
(14:37):
if you don't think it, then I'm just like, hey,
could it be possible? I try to throw it out
and like maybe it's not for sure that you're on
your period, but maybe you think it you're starting your period. Yeah,
but if you be a little bit crazy, I'll be
acting a little bit crazy, and then you will say,
do you really think that this is real? Or is
(14:58):
this hormones p messing? Because then if I'm legit p messing,
then I'm okay with it a little bit. But like
if I'm so far away from like not even pm messing.
Then I just feel crazy and you're accusing me of
pmssing when there's no way that I am. Yeah, but
either way, you have never said yes, I'm pmssing. You've
always said no. And then maybe an hour later, after
(15:18):
you look at your clue app, then you come back
to me like, oh, I'm PMS the next day or
my clue app will be off by like five days
for whatever reason, and literally the next morning I'll start
my period and I'll have to come to you and
be like, you know what yesterday when I was, you know,
offen crazy town. Okay. Another tip that asked me dot
Com had was don't drop any surprises on her, Like
(15:40):
do you feel like you try to like limit hitting
me with a curveball? I try to limit options because
you get into that time period where you are you
can't have a hard time making a decision, Like you
can't you can figure out what to wear much less
like if I go, hey, you want to go here? Here? Here,
It's like, why are you hitting me with all these questions? Yeah?
I need like one or two of Yeah, just like
(16:02):
get to the point. Reduce social activities. Okay, So do
you feel like you try to play anything for me
during that time? Or do you understand when I just
want to stay home, like curled up in bed and
not go anywhere and just watch Netflix. I don't understand it,
but I mean, okay, that's what. If that's what how
you feel, then we can do that. It is how
I feel because I've bloated and and I want to
(16:24):
put sweatpants on and just lay there and chill. Okay.
I mean I feel like you're pretty supportive of that.
Another tip was accommodate her diet changes. Well, how do
you do that? Well? I mean, are you accepting of
my cravings? And like it could be all over the place,
but I mean yeah, like I like, like if you're
(16:44):
like I want this tonight, or if all of a sudden,
I see that you actually had a French fry, like
it's on, it's over for the night, We're gonna, we're in,
We're getting ice cream. Oh yeah, Which if you go
down French Fry Road it's on. I love it, Yeah,
because then you know you're then I get free free
ice cream that night. Yeah. Like if I'm totally off
the rails, then you're like, sweet me too. I don't
(17:05):
have to eat salad and cauliflower. We were laughing at
some meme the other day. Now I can't even remember it,
but it was like talking about how everything these days
is made out of cauliflower, like everything, which I mean
cauliflower is great. Like I love cauliflower cross pizza. I like, oh,
I saw a new recipe for um, frozen cauliflower and
(17:27):
frozen banana ice cream. You know, I've made the banana
ice cream which they called an ice cream, Like I
put that in the blender before with some like vanilla
almond milk. But now if you add frozen cauliflower to
the mix, it still gives you the same texture and
more of the ice cream, but not all the sugar
that comes with a banana. So you do like half
and half sound good? That sounds horrible. Probably there's nothing
(17:51):
about that. This sounds probably ice cream. Like there's nobody.
It's like getting the bed jelly bean. It smells like cauliflower.
I feel you wants it. There's not a cauliflower jelly bean.
They have those ones that had the random smells. You
get the bad smelling one. You're like, oh, dang, I
got the bad smelling one one. Um, what was I
(18:13):
going to say? Oh, yeah, you do have to put
it up with a lot of my food crapings. I mean,
I go through like my healthy spells of one to
try out all the new things. Like right now we're
both drinking celery juice, which I love. Are you loving it?
I mean I like the way I feel afterwards. But
I mean it's just like taking medicine, Like you just
do it. Yeah, you just do it. It's part of
(18:33):
the routine. But I mean I think I'm into it.
I think, well, that's something we'll probably keep going. I
don't know about every day, but I do like it
and know that it's good for you. But then, yeah,
if I am you are messing, then we might be
on the what you call it the French fried train. Yeah,
once French fries go down, it's on. You know what's up? Okay?
And then take on some of her chores. That's another
(18:55):
tip from handling her period, Like a man, do you
feel like you I feel like you're good at this,
Like you notice that I am like just off the
rails and I can't even handle and I'll go take
care of the kids. Like the bed, you just lay down,
do whatever you gotta do. Yeah, you'll like do certain
cooking things, or you maybe even vacuum because you know
how I loved to vacuum and that makes me feel good.
(19:17):
And you'll let me just kind of chill out if
I need to, and you'll definitely let the kids know, Hey,
mom needs her space right now. She's going a little nuts.
So um So I feel like, all in all, you
handle my period like a man, except for the part
where you just don't even like talking about it. Yeah,
I don't know why we have to talk about it.
We're almost done talking about it, but I want to
throw out some tips go for it in case we
(19:38):
have guys listening since you're actually on or if girls
want to share this with in their life. So first
of all, I think keeping chocolate and mid all on
hand at all times would be a clutch move. Like
if I needed my doll and you're like, oh, I
got you, babe, it's in the cabinet, and go to
the store and get the nighttime model, the daytime model
you get, you can get all kinds of them to
take her go to sleep, to make her wake up,
(19:59):
to make her would e her like, get all of them,
hold on disclaimer. I don't really like the nighttime at
all because I wake up with like a weird side effections.
I have to know you gave it to her, Just
give it to her. I don't know that I can
done that behavior, but regular m at all would be
super clutched for people. Absolutely to have it on hand.
And then chocolate in the freezer. You know, I like
(20:21):
that eight percent dark chocolate because it doesn't have as
much sugar in it. But hide it so she can't
see it all the time. Is that what you do? Well, no,
I'm just saying, and then just disappear. Or if you
want some, you can get something and you won't know
the difference. Okay. Another thing is sometimes maybe you know,
keep your distance, but not too much distance because then
she might think something's up. Yeah, that's a challenging one. Um,
(20:43):
but you're gonna have to know your you know your
partner on that one, because what's the what's the distance? Like,
you know, I don't know what I feel like, I
feel like this is stuff you do. Like sometimes you're like,
you know what, let's just take a break, you need
a minute, but then you're not or you kind of
just give me my space. Till I come back around
to normal town and then you know, I'm good with
(21:04):
that one. You don't give me so much distance where
I freak out, like why are you being this? Why
are you treating me weird? Yeah, like taking off to
go play golf just because he had an episode is
not like a like a good idea an episode. But
like if you want to just go walk around the block,
that's fine, because if you go golf in that's four
hours and then it's a whole thing. I feel like
you can learn or google do research about mood swings
(21:26):
and really understand them and then understand why they're happening
to her, and and then I feel like you're good
about understanding my mood swings. You're like, Okay, this is
not you right now, so pull it together. Would you
pull me out of ruts? Often like there was the
other day I was in a rut, like I was
so low because sometimes I'll just my mood drops drastically
(21:49):
and I know it's my p MS, but I get
to this place where I can't even do things. It's
almost like simple tasks I cannot do, like I had
to make a phone call about out dad, and especially
if the task has to do with something that draws
up emotions in me. And my dad has cancer right now.
And it was a simple phone call, was anything crazy,
But I literally put it off for a few days,
(22:10):
and then when it came time to the day, like
a legit needed it to be done. I couldn't. I
just wanted to get in bed and not do it.
And you got me up, you got me out of bed,
you got the dog, We went on a walk, we
got the sunshine, I got some vitamin D and you
made me do the call while I was on the walk,
and I felt so much better. And that was being
supported but understanding that I was having a mood swing.
(22:32):
And then you're like, how can I help you get
out of this? I think the biggest lesson is just
to to not avoid it. Like I've tried my entire
life to avoid it. I've tried for the last twelve
years of marriage to avoid it. It's like trying to
avoid it right now. I'm stuck in this chair. I
can't get out of it. Um So, but I would say,
and what I'm trying to do is just jump in,
like just do it. It's going to happen. Buy all
the model, get some chocolate and then just realize that
(22:55):
it's happening. Yeah, and then do you keep I know,
I keep my calendar on the Clue app, which is
a great period tracker app c l U E. But
do you keep a calendar because I saw that some
guys actually secretly track their wives so that they're in
the know. But you don't need to track me with
the calendar. Apparently you can just tell in my eyes. Well,
I mean yeah, and I can tell further and further
(23:16):
away in your eyes. And I mean I can even
tell if we're not together and on the phone because
of your conversation or how you're the stress kind of
comes out of you when you're this stuff is coming,
like it's like you're like building up pressure. Yeah, it's
just like you're building up. It's like it's gonna explode eventually,
like you can feel it. Okay, Well, there you have it.
People that's how to handle her period like a man,
(23:40):
I don't know about that. And then I guess after you,
maybe when this podcast comes about out and you listen
to it because you're a supportive husband and you listen
to my podcast, then you can decide if you want
to come back and we can talk about like more
serious what was that? Well, that was like me, that's
not like adoption and father good and marriage. But we
(24:01):
can or we can talk about more fun, lighthearted stuff. Okay, whatever.
Does you have a balance. We'll have a balance if
you're willing to come back, but that will be up
to you. Nobody's forcing you to be here, so you're
gonna trust Tree right now? Kicked out? Okay, Well, thank
you for coming on. You know you're busy, No problem,
it's fun. Hey, it's Kayleie Henderson from a Velvet's Edge podcast.
(24:23):
Check out my episode where I sit down with Bobby Bone,
the host of the Bobby Bone Show. It's just an
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I got Bobby to talk a lot about his dating
life and past girlfriends. So yes, I do think I've
loved a lot of people, but I think I would
just show it through action more than i'd say it.
Like would lindsay say to you I love you and
(24:44):
you just look at her. I don't know. I don't think,
So check out the full episode just search Velvet Said
on our Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcast,
Sleep is definitely something I'm prioritizing. And I love when
you guys happen to be an expert in something which
I am not an expert in sleep. I just know
(25:05):
that I have it at the top of my list
of something that I want to do, like when it
comes to taking care of my body, I want to
go sleep, I want to eat right, I want to
work out, but kind of in that order, and I
haven't always been in that order. But Jennifer, she is
a nurse at Sarcy Medical Center in Arkansas, So shout
out to everybody that works there, because she hooked me
up with seven habits to good sleep hygiene, Like this
(25:28):
is stuff she legit gives her patients, and I thought
I would just run through it for some of you
all because maybe you need that reminder that you need
to prioritize sleep and maybe some of these tips could
help you. So basically, we all need to aim for
seven to nine hours of sleep at night, and that's
pretty important, Like we've we've got to just aim for that,
like look at what time you need to wake up
(25:49):
and then decide when you need to go to bed
so you can get in that seven to nine hours
and then here's like seven tips. I'll run through them. Firstly,
it says keep a regular sleep and wake schedule, which gosh,
I know is so hard, but they say being consistent
is key, and to try to keep your bedtime within
twenty minutes every night, even on the weekends. What see
(26:11):
I do a morning radio show, which I cannot, Like,
I can't wake up at four am on a Saturday
and a Sunday to keep the same schedule. Like that's
just not going to be happening. Um, so yeah, I
already can do that. One it says avoid caffeine when
it's close to bedtime, actually like five to six hours
away from your bedtime. So if you typically go to
(26:34):
bed at nine or ten o'clock at night, then boom,
you need to quit drinking coffee at about two pm.
And oh my gosh, how many times do you reach
her that late afternoon latte so you can power through
that's hard. Also, it says year number three, avoid alcohol consumption.
But sometimes I use wine to help me go to sleep.
And that's funny, that's what she put right here. While
(26:54):
I see many people who use alcohol to help them
fall asleep, it actually inhibits restorative deep sleep and disrupts
your circadian rhythm. Consuming alcohol before going to bed also
causes the muscles around your throat to relax, which can
obstruct your airway and cause sleep apnea. Alcohol is also
a diuretic, causing you to wake up throughout the night
(27:16):
to go to the bathroom, which is disruptive to your sleep. Shoot,
I like a glass wine. Um turn off electronic devices?
Oh great, that's like TV, smartphone, tablets, all the things,
because they omit that um or emit the blue light,
and that suppresses your melotonin levels, which melatonin into something
your body produces when it gets dark out to signal
(27:37):
to your body it's time to go to sleep. So
it says here to eliminate blue light emitting devices for
at least two or three hours before bedtime, which I
just ordered those blue light glasses that's supposed to block,
but I don't know. They haven't come in the mail yet.
I ordered on like a week ago, so, Jennifer, I
want to know if those glasses are legit, Like should
we be wearing those? It says here to keep your
(27:59):
bedroom cool, dark and quiet at nights, which I feel
like we kind of do that and it says here
under that when it's talking about your room, only sleep
or have alone time with your partner in your bed.
Do not eat, watch TV, or perform any other activity
in your bed that you would normally do during your
waking hours. Oh my gosh, my husband and I love
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to go to bed watching Netflix. Currently we're binging Friday
Night Lights, so we're definitely watching TV. We don't really
eat in our bed though, that's not an issue, but
we will have a glass of wine and watch Friday
Night Lights. Jennifer, you're killing me. Also, it says here,
work out at least three hours prior to your bedtime.
I definitely don't work out close to my bedtime, so
that's good for me. But if you need to work out,
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make sure you do it three hours before bedtime because
you don't want it to affect your sleep quality. And again,
sleeping is more important than working out, I think. And
then lastly, number seven, here it says avoid large meals
for at least two to three hours before bedtime because
that could lead to acid reflux and digestive pains, and
those issue can cause sleep disruptions or insomnia. So there
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you go. I don't eat close to bed either. I
try to give myself two to three hours. I think
Oprah said that way back in the day kind of
took that advice to heart, so I've been doing that
ever since, or maybe somebody on Oprah's show said that
and I was like, oh, yeah, okay, so yeah, there
you have it. Seven habits to good sleep hygiene and
again another shout out to Searci Medical Center. At the
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end of every podcast, I do an email shout out,
so it's like a fun surprise. If you've ever emailed me,
you might be listening at the end of an episode
and it might be your email, which would be super cool.
But I'm getting more and more emails, and some of
them just like hit me a little bit more I
find interesting, and I'm like, oh, that could actually be
like a thing, one of the four things. So now
(29:50):
you might be listening and your email could pop up
as one of my four things. So I really appreciate
you guys sharing stuff with me. And this particular email
hit me because I was like, there's casserole people in life,
and there's spoon people in life. I've never heard of this,
and you might be thinking right now, like, Amy, what
are you talking about spoons and casserole people. Well, I'm
going to clarify with this email that I got from Justine.
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She's listening in St. Louis, Missouri, So thank you Justine
for sending this email. Here's what she said. Hey, Amy,
I was just listening to this week's podcast while making
a French toast cast role for a baby shower tomorrow,
and I had an AHA moment. I love your theme
song and the part about casserole things reminded me of
a former professor's lecture. He says there are two kinds
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of people in life, casseroles and spoons. People who are
spoons are the friends or coworkers who run to a
potluck sign up sheet to be the first ones to
be able to sign up for cups, plates, silverware, et cetera.
You know, the no effort contribution, easy way out. Casserole
people are the ones who sign up to make a
homemade dish or something to add substance to the pot luck.
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Casserole people go above and beyond what is expected own people,
They just show up. It's funny because everyone knows who
the spoons in life are and who the cast roles are.
When you really think of it like this your theme
song trigger was a good reminder for me to strive
to be a cast role. I'm laughing as I'm grating
freaking cream cheese with a food processor for this cast role,
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wishing I would have signed up for cups. Thanks for
the podcast content each week. Love trying all of your things.
Hope you have a fabulous weekend. Justine. So love this,
And plus I love her honesty with like, oh my gosh,
like I should have signed up for spoons or cups
or whatever, and I'm like slaving over this cast role.
But I also love that the theme song was a
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reminder for her to be a casse role in life.
And I love that she emailed me that because it's
reminding me to be a cast role in life, because
as my life gets more hectic and crazy and I've
become a mom especial year I was. I was even
literally thinking about this the other day and had nothing
to do with this email. But when my husband and
I lived in North Carolin, Nina, and it was just
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me and him and I actually did the radio show remotely,
like the whole radio show, like the Bobby Bones Show
was in Austin, and because my husband is in the
Air Force. I had to move and I did the
show from my house, so I didn't have some of
the responsibilities that I have, like when you're in town
with the same people. My workload was a little bit
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lighter and I had more freedom, and plus our whole
workload has just changed since then. This was just another
time in my life. But we didn't have kids, and
you know, if someone in our small group at church
or in my book club, oh my gosh, I was
in a book club that I went to every week,
Like what, I don't even know how I would have
time to go to a book club in my life
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right now, although you know, you can make time for
things that are important and something like that, Oh my gosh,
I kind of crave that. So maybe I should, I
don't know, find a book club to go to and
make it a priority. And that's a little rabbit trail
there for a second. But that's my point is back then,
I had more time and if somebody was pregnant or
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had something going on and needed a meal, like I
remember being in the kitchen making things like making some
recipes that I knew my mom always made for people
in our neighborhood that you know, we're going through something
and we needed to deliver a meal, like legit homemade stuff.
And honestly, I would say, now, in my life, I'm
definitely a spoon person. So maybe we have different seasons
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where you're a casserole person or a spoon person. But
what if we all strive to be the casserole person,
Because I mean, after this little analogy, I'm all in
on that, Like I need to find out a way.
Like my friend Gracie had a baby about a month ago,
and we got a meal train email, you know, to
sign up, and you know, everybody picks a date and
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you deliver food to them so that they always have
something to eat. And I really honestly wanted to make
her a homemade meal, but I didn't have time to
do that. So I did the next best thing. I
didn't show up with just spoons or anything, but I
texted her said, hey, what are you all craving? Can
you tell me when your favorite spots and like, I'll
go pick up your exact order wherever you would like.
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So I went to one of their favorite restaurants and
picked up what they happen to be craving that day.
So but even after I dropped it off and I
was leaving, I just felt so like, even though they
appreciated it, and I'm sure it was fine, like they
didn't care if it was homemade or I bought it
at a restaurant, but there is something awesome about making
it yourself. And you know, food is love, Like in
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my family, my mom and my dad were excellent cooks
and that was their love language. And I just don't
feel like it's been that way for me, and I
kind of want to start using food is love again,
like really making something special for someone and baking things
with my daughter and like, okay, this week, we're prepping
for Valentine's Day. When you're hearing this, it is Valentine's Day,
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but I was thinking about Valentine's gifts for my kids teachers,
and it was like, oh, should we try to make
them something homemade and special sweet, or should I just
go to Target and get little pre made Valentine's for
the teachers? Like I don't know. Of course, I went
to Target and I put the pre made thing, but
I was totally me being a spoon when I should
have been a casserole and made it a whole thing
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with my daughter and my son and we baked in
the kitchen. Now this is me living in fantasy world
right now, where we've got time and we're just like
hanging out in the kitchen baking cookies from scratch and
using like a little heart cookie cutter. Okay, well now
that I'm like in La la land. But I mean,
you can make time for that. And when I say you,
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I'm telling myself, like, Amy, you know you can make
time for that. So I'm going to drive to be
a casserole person, and I hope you guys will too. Okay,
thanks Justine for the email. It's awesome. Growing up, there
were times that I was called half brow because I
had like half of an eyebrow, well on both sides,
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so I had half browse and I would pencil them
in once I got old enough, but I would go
swimming and then it would wash away, and then I
think that's when people were like, hey, what happened to
your eyebrows? Half brow? So that really stuck with me
as an insecurity so I have different stories from like
when I was in college, like I got them tattooed.
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It's some shady shop in College Station, Texas. I should
not have done that, but whatever I did it. I
basically had no eyebrows at that point anyways, because in
the late nineties, like if you grew up in the
nineties and you were in the high school in the nineties,
I don't know what we did. We plucked away all
of our eyebrows. In early two thousand's, we just had
no brows. We were crazy. I don't know why we
would do that, but they were super skinny. But I
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still got it tattooed in, and then that faded because
it really wasn't that deep. And then like when I
was twenty five, I went to this awesome tattoo artist
that did make up in Austin and she was so amazing,
and that was, you know, okay, and then that faded.
So then more recently, like a year and a half ago,
I gave micro blading a try, because obviously that's super
popular right now, and I went to someone in town
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that like a lot of people trusted, even celebrities and
some friends of mine that are just kind of normal,
but I mean I had seen their brows, and then
I saw the celebrity ones on Instagram and I'm like, okay, like,
if these people trust their brows, I'm gonna go here.
So I went there and got my brows micro bladed,
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which micro blading is a little bit different than tattooing.
It's not the deep layer of the skin, but more
on the surface. And it's also not permanent, so that's
great because the color can fade. I mean, I say
that's great because my experience wasn't so amazing and it's
way more natural because it's really fine. It's like this
handheld needle blade situation that makes strokes that are like,
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you know, a hair stroke, and then after they cut
your skin with the blade, they kind of rub in
the ink, which dies it and then it looks like
little hair strokes. It's pretty awesome because you can get
like more of a feather. Look. Well, I got it done,
and when I got done, I looked in the mirror
and I freaked out, freaked out, and I mean, I
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have sensitive skin, so I thought, okay, I'm just having
some sort of reaction and it will really calm down. Well,
my husband and I had a beach trip planned, but
some of my friends had literally gotten microblated, and they
carried on with their life and it was fine. So
I thought I can book this appointment and then go
to the beach with my husband. No big deal, y'all.
My husband was almost embarrassed to be with me. I
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had to wear I had the entire time, and sunglasses.
He said it looked like I had two caterpillars on
my face because the look that she went for was
more of a full feathered I went from basically like
not having that many brows to like, now, this really
thick browse situation, and it was. It was really bad.
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And I even texted her and she was like, oh,
I think they look great, and I'm like, are you?
Are you sure? Because then I would text text the
pictures to some friends and they would they were honest
with me and they're like, oh, I don't really know,
but give it some time. Maybe it needs to heal.
So long story short or short story long, depending on
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how you look at time. I had to get them
lasered off, like laser tattoo removal. And that is actually
how I met the Nashville beauty girl who comes on
my podcast, because she was the one that was able
to laser them off. Actually I went to a different
girl in town that micro blades and I saw I
learned about her from Kelsey Ballerini's Instagram, and I was like, well,
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maybe I can go to this girl. Her name's Megan
and she can fix me and me I want to
see Megan, and she's like, you know, I can't. I
can't fix this, and I actually I know that I
could do your brow and do it well, but you
have to get these taken off, like you have to
get these lasered and gone, and then once you're healed,
you can come back and see me. And I was like,
(39:57):
are you serious right now? Of course this would have
happened to me. And again, the girl that originally did
them still has continued to do great work. Another one
of my friends, even after my little mishap, went to
this other girl and she came over to my house
and I was like, why do your brows look so amazing?
Like what happened to me? Was it just like an
off day or maybe she thought this look would look
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really good on my face? But yeah, I one day,
maybe I'll post a picture of what I looked like,
but you would laugh out loud. But I also don't
want to throw this other girl on Front Street. Like,
I'm not trying to I'm not gonna say her name,
her business anything, because I know she does great work,
but I don't know what happened with me. It just
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was not great. So again had to get home lasered off.
And that's when Megan referred me to this face and
beauty girl, the Nashville Beauty Girl, which happens to be
Carrie and she's come on the podcast and she was like, okay, girl, yeah,
we gotta laser these off. So we lasered them off.
It took a few treatments and then I had no
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brows again, so I was back to being half brow.
And this was about a year ago or so. So
then once I got that done, I was able to
finally go back to Megan and she did my brows
and we're still working on them. It's like a work
in progress because I told her I wanted to take
it really, really slow because I have, obviously I have,
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you know, some fear with the whole thing, some fears.
But Megan's amazing and she hooked it up and now
I feel like my eyebrows are starting to get back
to normal. But if you're if you ever see me
in person, you see my eyebrows in the sun, you
can kind of see where the other ones got lasered
off because there's this like red tint that's still there
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that will fade over time, but it's just sort of pinky,
and it's something I have to live with, like it's
my fault, like because I went, I went, and I
didn't really micromanage the situation, which is my point in
this whole story is that don't be scared to speak
up and say exactly what you want when you're doing
anything done to your face. And I've actually gotten several
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emails because I mentioned on the Bobby Bones Show that
I got micro blading. I think Carrie Underwood came in
and did an interview and she was talking about how
her brows were micro bladed, and I was like, oh,
mine do. So I started to get emails and people
are like, tell me more about micro blading, like what
do you would you recommend should I get it done?
And the answer is yes, I really like it and
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I totally recommend it because there's just something about having
your brow fell filled in and if it's done right,
it can really shape your face. Like people that are
born with amazing brows, like you're so lucky, but I wasn't.
So you just want to make sure that you've got
the right shape and they'll kind of measure your face
and do whatever, but don't do like you need to
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do your due diligence, Like you've got to do your research.
Make sure you're going to someone that knows what they're doing.
Make sure that they sketch it out on your face
and show you what it's gonna look like, so that
way you can see and then check out their work,
like stalk her instagrams, ask them for before and after photos.
Maybe even like try to get a legit recommendation from
someone that you know and trust, like that's gone to
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this person, um or multiple people, because well, and I
mean here I am saying that, and that's originally what
I did, is I did go to someone and yet
she's still put two caterpillars on my eyebrows. And I
just hope y'all are luckier than I am. But we
still laugh at at me and my friends and my
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husband because of course that would happen to me. But um,
you know, the good news is you can always get
lasered off. You can come see Carrie and she'll laser
them right off and then you can go see Megan
and she'll put them back on. But I would say
it's it's pretty awesome, and I would I would recommend it,
especially if you're someone that has to fill in your
brows all of the time, because it will save you
(43:52):
so much time, especially if you're ever in the water
or anything where your brows just wipe right off if
you've got them penciled in. So that is my little
spiel on microblading, and uh, do your research, research, research, research,
and then speak up when it's happening. While it's happening,
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make sure they understand exactly what you want and you
know exactly what you're going to get, and then hopefully
you'll be a happy hamper. But all in all, even
with my you know, crazy experience experience, I still recommend it.
So good luck. That's a wrap on today's episode. I
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feel like I gotta say thank you again to my
husband for coming on because I know that he listens
to my podcast because sometimes he gives me feedback or
gives me his thoughts on it. So honey, if you're
listening to this, thank you for joining us. And I
guess I'll see you tonight. If you're listening to this
on the Thursday that it comes out, which is Valentine's Day,
then I look forward to see what you're seeing, what
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you've got planned. I just know that you need me
to be ready early, like five pm, early bird special.
I love that. I think that means we'll be home
early and in bed early, which sounds amazing. We're getting old,
but I'm super pumped. I don't know what you have
in store, but happy Valentine's Day. And I really hope
you like the gift that I got. You can't wait
to give it to you later on. But thanks for
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coming on the podcast. Oh and if anybody has questions
for my husband, y'all can send me questions and maybe
if we can get him back on we can do
a little Q and A with him. Just four things
with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. That's how you
can submit stuff. Which now is also the time in
the podcast that I share emails that I've gotten. And
this one comes from Adriana and she asked this, have
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you ever heard of the think Dirty app? If not,
you should totally check it out. It rates products on
how dirty they are based on their ingredients, It lists
why the ingredients are harmful and provides alternative products that
are cleaner and safer. You can either type in the
product name or you can do what I did and
go around your how scanning everything to see how safe
(46:02):
your house is. So and again that's from Adriana, which
thanks for sending that in pretty amazing. Um. I actually
do try to use super clean green I guess green
is the way to say it. More green cleaning products
that have clean ingredients. Uh, but it's so hard because
I also just growing up was taught like if you
didn't have that scrub and bubbles stuff foaming around your
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tub and your toilet and all the things, then nothing's
really getting clean. So I would say eight percent of
the products in my house are technically considered green, and
then the other are like really probably toxic and bad
and should not be in my home. But I just
cannot give them up because they just give me that
extra piece of mind if I'm really trying to get
something clean. I do like the Myers products, which the
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reason why I pulled this email from Adriana was because
I was like, I need to download this think dirty
app and I need to scan my Myers products and
see if those are legit. But that's what I use
for countertop spray, glass cleaner, laundry detergent, fabric softener, dryer sheets.
The Myers brand is great. I don't know the flavors,
but I know the colors. I love, like turquoise one
(47:12):
and the yellow one. The green one I don't like
so much. But it was on sale one time and
I bought a bunch of it. So now I've got
way too much and I can't wait to be done
with it. Target has it. I know that Croaker has it,
so you can find that one. I like it, but
now I need to take it to the think Dirty
app and see if it's legit. Healthy for my home,
I don't know, but seems healthy enough. And I know
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I wish I could get to the point where maybe
I make all my cleaning products, kind of like I'm
into making my deodorant or other things. Maybe I could
just start making all my own cleaning supplies because I
know you can use essential oils and vinegar and alcohol,
like there's things you can do to clean your home
and you can whip it up yourself. But I'm just
(47:55):
not there yet. Like confession it just seems daunting. I know.
I know I've been saying. I know because some of
you right now are probably listening and you're thinking, like
daunting of the stuff under my cabinets is totally toxic,
and I just can't even think about addressing that at
the moment. I feel your people, I'm right there. It's
like doing an overhaul like that. I think of how
long it took me to overhaul my eating and food
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and different things and learning all about that, Like just
trying to think about doing the house is really difficult.
But I'm I'm almost there. I would say being an
eight percent makes me feel really good. And that's been
over the years, just gradually making it happen. And then
I brought up the essential oils a second ago, and
it reminded me that I've got to get an oil
expert on here to talk about essential oils because I
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get so many emails about essential oils. So, okay, well
there's your little email for the day, and it's Think Dirty.
That's the app. I'm going to download it. If y'all download,
let me know which you think and if you have
any product recommendations for me that are really green for
your home and awesome and less toxic than the scrubbing bubbles.
Then send them my way, big thank you to a
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bit that my d is always and I still get
emails asking who is the person singing your theme song
even though I shout him out in every podcast, which
is just a reminder that sometimes people don't listen all
the way through, which I'm totally guilty of that on
other podcasts that I listened to. So hey, I don't
I don't blame you, no hate here. Um, but it's
Walker Hayes So and he's so awesome. He has done
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another song for us. That's how we met him. He's
the pimp and Joy theme song guy. He wrote a
song from my mom called Joy Like Judy. It's on YouTube.
You can check that out. But those are just things
that are related to me. And then this theme song.
But his catalog of music that he's written and recorded,
he's got some really great stuff. So you should check
him out on iTunes. Actually you should check him out
(49:46):
on the I Heart Radio app. Do that first, because
shout out I Heart Radio my employer. Okay bye, he
can't can't be come to cast up broth thing, little
(50:07):
food for yourself little life ain't always pretty, but hey,
it's pretty, beautiful thing, beautiful laugh A little more things
tightened up because, of course said he can't. You'll kick
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