November 12, 2024 • 27 mins
Amy & Kat are diving into things women wish men knew—because let’s be honest, understanding what we all want can make relationships so much easier. Oh, and things get a little personal! Amy might have a relationship update soon, and her 14-year-old son, Stevenson, even joins in to share his own (hilarious) take on dating.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing. I'm Amy and
I'm Kat and Kat is back. She was sick last
week and I'm very excited to have her here. We
just sat on my couch and talked for I don't
know a couple of hours. We had a lot to
catch up on and hopefully we'll be able to catch
y'all up on it soon. It was so fun to
(00:24):
see your face.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I thought you were about to say, we're about to
catch everybody up on what we're talking about.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Yeah. No, we're going to need a minute for that.
But it's very exciting and my cheeks hurt from smiling
so much.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's so cute.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
We have a really fun quote. And I don't know
if y'all love The Office, but that's one of my
go to shows to go back and watch. That just
makes me laugh. Friends, Office, I've just been watched The Office,
Golden Girls, Well you need to that's your homework assignment
every season.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
How my seasons are a lot.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Okay, this is just kind of funny. Hopefully y'all can
relate to it. But it's Michael Scott and he's talking
about Howie has to show up at work and decompress,
and I saw someone had posted this clip on TikTok
and they wrote about it. Me and my work bestie
explaining why we have to start every day with thirty
minutes of personal conversations, and this was the clip from
(01:19):
the office, accompanying.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
That I can't just start my job up immediately. I
need time to decompress or I will die.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So there you go, Kat, we just had to decompress.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
It's just us. It would die, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
You had to have our thirty minutes slash two hours
of catch up. But you were out of the country
and then you were sick, and I felt like I
hadn't seen you in a while, and so much has changed, really.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Really, so much has Cheerly, I'm moving to Italy.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Oh yeah, I mean in your dream world. But maybe
wouldn't that be awesome?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Patrick would never do it.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
I'd mentioned to him that I can claim so this
and shit, and he was like, we don't need to
do that, Catherine.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I have nine things that women wish men knew. So
this is the secret of what women want. And I
know we have a predominantly female audience, but I thought
it's well, it's good as women for us to know
what we want or to have a list to go
off of where's this from, and then we can share
it with our people. I'll just say I took a
(02:23):
screenshot of it and I sent.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
It to somebody because you agree with it. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
That was just like a little hint.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
The first thing is small things count. Like some guys
think that all they have to do is surprise their
woman like every once in a while, and then they're
set for life. But we're keeping notes, like in the
back of our brains, Like if you were to just
pick up our favorite feel good treat, maybe while you're
(02:50):
out and about on your way home, like very random,
like it's your favorite bottle of wine, your favorite kind
of chocolate or cheese, or maybe if you know we
want to read a new book or something, you just
pop by the store and get a book or order
it on Amazon. You know, if you overhear us talking
about something with our girlfriend, then just pay attention. It's
little things and it doesn't have to cost a lot,
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but it could be just the gesture of.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
You doing it.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
It's small things count.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Like putting my towel on the towel warmer while I'm
taking a shower.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
You have a towel warmer.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I have two towel warmers.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Where'd you get that?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I think they're both from Amazon.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
They're different, but we keep one in the guests bathroom
and one in our bathroom. But also I saw something
on instagium I think where people are using their towel
warmers in the winter for blanket warmers.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I don't know. I just feel like, is this a
house fire waiting to happen?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
A towel warmer I don't very safe? And we unplug
it where we're not using it. Okay, good, It doesn't
make it.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
It's just like, oh no, I know that that hot.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I'm just get that hot.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
But you don't keep it plugged in like.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
No, anti, it will automatically turn off after an hour.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Oh smart, Yeah, so you're good.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Yeah, our house is not going to burn down from
a towewarmer. I think I will burn down for the
candle to keep leaving lit throughout the night.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Yes, that could happen. Definitely, do not do that. But
I think I'm scarred because in fourth grade, my friend
Kristen Souse burnt down because of a lamp timer. Oh
my gosh a lot of times with things I'm plugging
in around the house, like I just think, I wonder
if this could burn the house down, Like Steven said
on one of those things you plug into the wall
clapper where you clap to turn your light on and off,
(04:23):
and I got nervous having a muse it too often,
Like I'm like, I'm plugged the clapper because what if
it catches our house on fire? But I think it's
from that.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Maybe that was a faulty lamp.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
I'm sure it was, because plenty of people have lamp
timers and everything's just fine. But that's just where my
brain always goes. I'm like, is that gonna blow the
house up?
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Well, maybe we don't get you a towel wormer for
right now. We'll work on that later.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
The E word. Do you know what the E word is?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Everybody?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Effort? Oh yeah, take out the trash, call us to
see how our day is going, or do something really special,
especially if it's like birthday anniversary something like that, but
show us we are worth your time. Which I can
get on board with the effort situation, like obviously for
birthday anniversary or something like that. But that's where I
(05:11):
had to use that one line on that one guy.
I shared it here, right, it's like in order for
me to stay interested, like I'm gonna need this, this
and this, and really what I was saying is I
need to see some effort. If not, then this is
just not gonna work. Confidence is hot, arrogance is not.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Yeah, I mean every girl loves the man that's comfortable
in his own skin. You know it's hot right now?
Gray sweatpants. And I learned on the Bodybone show why why, Well,
gray sweatpants are trending because you can see through them
or like you can't outline, not see through them, but
like outline, So guys are wearing gray sweats to like I.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Want you to see there.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
But I talked about on the show. I did not
know that part. I just thought gray sweatpants were.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
In right now because the color is cool. The color,
it's a vibe.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
And so I say it and they're all like, Amy,
you know why right, And I said, no, I just
learned something new. But speaking of trends and being confident,
if you feel confident in that way, get yourself some
great sweatcams. But you know, we love a man who's
comfortable in his own skin and someone that makes us
feel safe and protected.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
I feel like that versus hot arrogance feels more like
you make me feel more smaller, or you're better than me,
or it's.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Not comfortable, it doesn't feel good. I can't stand it.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Yeah, you can, like actually taste the difference.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I feel like lately that's one of my party tricks, be.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Able to tell us he's got it, he's got it,
she's got it.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I don't know that I'm as quick to spot it
in women as I am.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Men.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Really, Stevenson just walked in here. Come over to the
mic if you're gonna say hi, we're actually going over
nine things women wish men knew. And hey, well, so
let me tell you the story about Stevenson. So I
pick him up with the football game the other day
and there are girls all around them, and they come
(07:10):
running up to my car, Miss Brown, Miss Brown. Hey,
no no, no, no no. And his friend gets in
the car and he's like gosh, and I was like
what and he goes, Stevenson could get any girl stop
and he chooses not to. And Stevenson's like, well, they're
(07:31):
my friends, they're my sisters in christ. Oh, and you
can correct me if I'm wrong. But he said, like,
if I don't think I could be with the girl
for I don't know, at least like six years, then
I don't want to be with her. Just correct, Okay,
see I'm correct.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
So did that make you feel so proud as a mom?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I was like, okay, yeah, I got a stud.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I'm just that guy. He just said that.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
All right, we're gonna keep herding. So chivalry is not dead,
be old fashioned from time to time. We love that.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Do you like your door open like your car door?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Yeah, it doesn't have to be every time, but it's
kind of nice.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
You know. What I really appreciate is when you're walking
on the sidewalk and the guy comes and stands between
the road. Love that, Yeah, that, It's like, oh, let
me be the one that gets hit by the car.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
That's like the hottest thing you can do.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
It really is.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So keep that in mind. I'm sure there are some
women listening there like, oh, I don't want any of that,
like and I want to pay for the first thing,
and don't get my door and I can get my
chair and blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
But I like both.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Yeah, I can take think of bouth and if you
feel that way as a woman, that is okay. I
think this is just majority of women. This is kind
of the secret of what we want. So maybe ask
yourself deep down, why am I resisting him getting the
door for me? And why am I resisting him paying?
Or why am I resisting this? And maybe deep down
it'll be awesome.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
Well, maybe it's because sometimes when guys do it, it's
an arrogant thing, like I want to control you kind
of thing versus a kind I just want to like
open your door to show that I care about you.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Yeah, you tell the difference.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
They don't think that you're actually capable of taking care
of yourself, But it's feeling when it's coming from a
man who knows how capable you are, but yet they
still want to care for you in that way. This
is number five. Don't be a man baby. This is
(09:32):
number five. Don't be a man baby. Women love taking
care of their men and helping them out. But honestly,
as soon as it starts to become like you're in
like mom mode for them, I think that that's extremely
what we're attractive.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Where do you draw the line of mom mode like,
what are you doing that You're like, Okay, now I
feel like your mom.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I mean for me. I think there could be a
couple of things, like a man that just like can't
keep but the things take care of his things. Does
he have something that he needs to address and he's
avoiding it and you're having to deal with it. Some
of it may be a really deep level, so that
feels cruel, But this could go both ways, male or women.
(10:15):
Any adult that maybe has some stuff they need to
take care of and they're not and theyre's sort of
become a child in their relationship. So there could be drugs,
alcohol that becomes like you're taking care of a child, yeah,
Or if they're just not emotionally mature and you feel
like you're constantly dealing with a child, like it.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
Feels like you're talking to somebody who's like lower on
like an emotionally developmental stage.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Or do they want to play video games all day?
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I don't understand the adult video game stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Or like do they want their food cut up into
little pieces?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
That's where I draw the line. I'm not doing an
airplane with my boyfriends open.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Why listen and take interest? After a hectic day. I
feel like that is definitely hot if you've got a
guy that will genuinely listen to how your day went. Like,
(11:18):
we like to talk, we like to pour out our feelings.
So yeah, it's really awesome when a guy asks and
then genuinely listens, and then we'll confide in that person,
like because if you're our person, then we trust you
and you're who we want to unload on and we
likely want your advice. But you could also say, before
we unload, do you want me to just listen and
(11:40):
take it all in or do you want me to
listen and offer solutions, because sometimes we don't want it
to be fixed because men can be fixers.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well, that's also our job to tell them that.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Right, Let's say the guy doesn't ask, we can say like, hey,
I just want you to listen to this, or hey,
I want your feedback on this.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Yeah, both ways.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
It's the TV.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Seriously, you're sun down.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
But you know that's why I don't like football on
during the daytime, like on a Saturday football being on
is because good luck, I have memories of my dad
watching football during the daytime and ignoring me, like or
I'd be saying something and he wouldn't hear me. And
you know what is sort of equivalent in today, sort
(12:19):
of like regarding me as a mom, is maybe if
I'm on my phone and my kids say something and
I don't hear them, and I'm like, oh, shoot, I
gotta put my phone down or put down social media
or get off, so that when they're forty three and
someone has their phone out in the daytime, they're not
like put it away, but I will. I'll walk into
like a home and I'll be like football's during the daytime, Like, oh,
(12:40):
it just gives me a weird hating.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Our house on Saturday, I would hate it.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
I would.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Seven be honest.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Well that's pretty straightforward.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Yeah, I'm like, that's no secret. Yeah, that's kind of
funny that it made the list. But I think it
could also fall under the category like just being honest
with your emotions and what you're feeling, vulnerability in a way.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
And like simple stuff. I think sometimes people try to
give the right answer or the answer or say the
thing that they think somebody wants to hear, Versus I
want to hear the truth. If you don't want to
go to this restaurant, tell me you don't want to
go there, We'll find one that we both want to
go to. If you don't like this TV show, just
tell me, we'll find a new one. Those are like
small potatoes examples, but sometimes just be honest versus try
(13:29):
to please somebody or try to please us.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
What if like, you have on an outfit and you
go to big p and he does not like it,
and you're like, hey, what do you think of the stress?
And he's like, honestly, it's not flattering on you or whatever.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Well I have.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
If I'm asking him that I'm putting myself in that position.
So if that's on my stuff to work on. If
I'm asking because I feel self conscious and I want
somebody to give me a boost of whatever confidence, then
I have to be aware that he might not like it.
But if i'm asking, I'm like, I don't know, I
really want your opinion. And if he's like, oh, I
don't like that dress, I'm like, okay, cool, I won't
wear it, Like I didn't really know if I liked it.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Either makes sense. If you're asking the question, then you're
the one that needs to be ready for what the
answer is.
Speaker 4 (14:12):
Also, there's tact in the way that if somebody doesn't
like something and I'll be like, oh, you look disgusting.
Pack it's done that he'll say like that's not my favorite,
and I'm like, well, I like it anyway, So I'm
packing it and I'm gonna wear on vacation and you're
gonna have to.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
Look at it.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
That makes me think of that Zach Bryan's story. We
were talking about a little bit of their whole story,
and I guess it was her dress to Golden Globes
and he didn't like it.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
He unfollowed her, I mean, on social media, but then
posted a picture of her in the dress, being like,
she's so beautiful. It sounds like there's some mental health
stuff going on there.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Oh yeah. Like I personally just have zero interest in
ever listening to his music again.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
It was done, even his songs that he has duets with,
like Noah Kahn, He's a song. I was like, I
can't listen to that song right now.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Maybe ever so in a nutshell in case you're not
tracking with what we're talking about, Zach Bryant and offered
his now ex girlfriend twelve million dollars. Not offered sort
of was like, hey, take this, take this his team
and stay quiet about your experience with Zach Bryan, which
why I just called I can't think of her first.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Name, Brianna. I just think chicken fry, Chicken fry. She's
so cute.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
But she turned it down, and she's talked publicly about it. Obviously,
it's on YouTube. You can go watch it. She has
a very very very popular podcast, BFFs, so check that
out if you want more of the details. But in
a nutshell, this little sliver of it is about the money,
and I was just curious what you would do. I'm
not taking the money, Okay.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Well, I have thoughts on this because I think depending
on where somebody is in life, I can see it
being an understandable decision to take the money because you
might not have an ability to ever see that kind
of money ever again, and that could make a huge
difference in your life and your family's life and whoever.
But if you're like her where she's I don't know
how much money she's making, still a lot of money
(16:03):
to her, but she does very well for herself, and
who knows. A lot of theories online are saying that
they think that Dave Portnoy maybe could have offered her
a certain amount of money to not sign it. I
can see that happening, like, hey, don't sign it, and
I'll give you five million dollars so then you can
talk about it on our podcast. I mean, I'm assuming
he's done this to other women and has paid them
off too. They maybe not have been in the same
(16:26):
financial situation Brianna.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Is in, so it's easy. It would be harder for
them to turn the money down.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Okay, makes sense. I totally understand that, Yes, And I
guess it's easy for me to say, like as someone
with we have a career, like we have things, we
can take care of ourselves. But who knows what situation
like I may be, And it's a completely different chapter
in my life where I could be like, Okay, yeah,
I'll shut up and I just hope this doesn't happen
to somebody else. Okay, we're down to the final two.
(17:03):
Things Make us a priority comes in at number eight. Yeah,
we need to feel like we're more important than.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
A video game or football game.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
It sounds to me like I'm raising a son that's
going to prioritize women, Like right now, he just got
home from school and he stop playing his video game.
And that's okay, you know why, because you're the SI front.
I can't give a girl six years like I can't.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
If I can't commit to that give her what she deserves,
then I don't deserve her.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Obviously, we all need to have time for our friends
and our hobbies and work and all that. But your
woman should feel as though she's in the priority. Third
place is not gonna be cool. No, your woman should
not come in third, first, the lord second, you. Okay, right,
(17:56):
here's a fun thing you could do. Even women like
our men should be are priority, or they should feel that.
Do you think it would be healthy or an okay
question to say, like, hey, babe, do you feel like
you're a priority. I'm genuinely doing a check in because
you might think that you're making someone feel that way,
but it could be that, like, you know what, I
(18:17):
think we're both failing at this and the kids are
taking priority right now, as they should, and it's very
difficult because kids have so much going on. But what
are the ways that you can try to make your
relationship or priority. Or if you don't have kids, or
you're dating but work is totally number one, or maybe
(18:38):
it is too much church, too much the Lord, or.
Speaker 4 (18:41):
Like you're working out or you're whatever it is. I
think that's healthy to have check ins.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
The final one, number nine. Are you ready for it?
Speaker 2 (18:49):
I'm nervous.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
It doesn't don't notice the small things. This is you know,
notice their hairstyle.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Remember when Patrick didn't notice that I got my hair cut?
Speaker 1 (19:00):
But did they get a new dress? Did he notice
that stuff?
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yeah? If I come home with a bag of the
shopping bag, or if he seize my credit card?
Speaker 1 (19:09):
What do you do now when you get your haircut?
Since you had that moment with him.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
I haven't got my haircut since then.
Speaker 4 (19:15):
But what I've learned is I need to tell him
that I am going to get my haircut and not
put him in a position to hurt my feelings on accident.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
You don't have expectations, Yeah, yeah, I mean just say something.
Acknowledge our effort, whatever that may be.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
Notice if I settled up the living room while you
were gone, or settle up, what do you mean clean?
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Settle up? Is that what you say? Yeah? And I've
never said tidy up.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Oh, I've never said settled up. Settled ups like settling
up a bet like I owe you five dollars. Let's
settle up.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
I think it you can use settle in both situations.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I guess you could.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
I just have not ever heard that tidy sounds like
something like maybe somebody from The Golden Girls would.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Say, whitey tidy, tidy up, pick up.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
P you.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
One thing that I want to notice about you because
you could do this with friendships too. I notice that
you are not going to be Martha Stewart.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Is that supposed to be like a dig? Because I
don't want to make a turkey wrapped in a pastry?
Speaker 1 (20:16):
No, you watched her documentary and you were like, what
in the what?
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Which?
Speaker 1 (20:20):
I watched it too, And listen if you haven't watched
it yet, we're not going to give anything away because
but honestly you should. People watch it.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
Watch it.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
I thought it was fascinating because she's in it. It's
not like they're taking interviews from other people. It's her
own interview that's giving her own character.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Okay, well, then I'll back you up on that that
I was interested.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I don't know that I would use the.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Word fascinating, But thinking back on some of the things
that she said, this is the part we won't give away.
That part was fascinating and Kat she was in Italy
and Kat was staying across the street, like your hotel
was across the street from a church that Martha Stewart
references that she went to while she was in Italy
on her honeymoon. And what she said that happened in
(21:03):
that church, my mind is blown. And then also how
she justified it versus what her husband did.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Is she delusional?
Speaker 4 (21:11):
That's why I'm like, this is fascinating that she is so,
I mean, she just says it straight how she thinks
it is. There's no wavering and I'm like, you are
really confident about how you just said that, And I
find that very interesting.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
But it's like if you're a producer of that show
or like you're doing it, You're like, are.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
You well they did?
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Are you sure they did what they did?
Speaker 4 (21:31):
Like you could hear the interview being like and what
like what do you consider that? And she's like, Oh, I.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Had it on while I was getting ready, so I
was in and out, and sometimes I blow dryer was
on or I'd be in my bathroom. So that's probably
why maybe I wasn't fully enthralled. But there are some
scenes thinking back where I'm like, gosh, that is so interesting.
She is definitely one of a kind.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Are you paying attention?
Speaker 1 (21:55):
I was paying attention. You're You're probably not going to
be Martha, and not for that reason. It's just like, gosh,
the pressure of perfection.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Oh yeah, I could never be me.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
No, my sister could be Martha Stewart for sure. Not
her personality that's clear to me.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Not her attention to detail m hm, and beauty good
for her. Does she have a garden?
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Hmm? She doesn't have a garden, Like she doesn't grow vegetables. No,
but she has all pretty plants flowers.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
It's still a garden.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Okay. True, I'm gonna grow food though.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
I would love to do that too. You have a
good backyard for that.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
I've done it before. I did it in North Carolina.
I earlier this year decided I wanted to do it
mainly so I could have something to offer if the
world were to fall apart. Like what am I going
to offer? Like I need to know how to grow food? Uhuh? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Are you worried.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
About But I can't you remember what made me think
of that? But I thought, I really need to get
my gardening skills. It couldn't hurt back because I couldn't
need to have value, or nobody's gonna pick you to
be on the team.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
She can garden with her.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
There's gonna be these different community is being built.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
What's your skill?
Speaker 1 (23:02):
What's your skill?
Speaker 2 (23:03):
You should do it? Then?
Speaker 1 (23:04):
What would be your skill?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Well, I don't have one. Like maybe I could just art,
help teach art, or I could help people feel better
about the cop apocalypse like you already have.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
You're the community therapist.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
But that would be a sad job. I think I'd
rather garden. I want your skill.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
I came across some quote that was like, before I
agree to twenty twenty five, I'm gonna need to see
terms and conditions. I'm ready for twenty twenty five, though
I'm ready for the holidays. I'm ready for twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Let's go because you want a fresh start or because
you just are ready for west Yes.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
No outside influence at all whatsoever, just me internally. That's
how I feel, like, maybe I just finally feel this better.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Was twenty twenty four a good year for you? Would
you say overall it was better?
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Like if I had to rank the years, the last
five years. So if we're going into twenty twenty five,
my prediction is twenty twenty five is going.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
To be the best. Why you're ready for it?
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Okay, twenty twenty suck for everybody, Yeah, because that was COVID.
Twenty twenty one sucked for R for me just personally.
Twenty twenty two was probably still trying to recover from that.
Still sucky. Is that the year I got divorced? I'm
not sure. Yeah, And then this year has been I
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it has been totally terrible. There's been like lots of growth.
I feel like I'm done with all the you know.
Speaker 4 (24:31):
You're getting the benefits of all the stuff that you've
been through and worked on in.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Yeah, life's of roller coasters go. So I know that
we might go down again, But listen, I would have
to have a long talk with God. If we went
as low as twenty twenty one again, I'd be like,
is this for real? Remember?
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Are you trying to prove? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Like I learned, Yeah, I learned.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
I promise I don't need any more lessons. No, just kidding.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
If we were to go low again, the thing is,
I think it wouldn't probably feel as low, Yeah, because
I'm equipped and I know the gain on the other side. Okay, Well,
here's the twenty twenty five there's five Are you scared
of it? I think there's person outside influences. I'm talking
about just you internally, because I know that there's a
lot of emotion around like whatever people things.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Internally. Yeah, I'm ready for twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
But like you and Big P like in your little world, and.
Speaker 4 (25:20):
There's a lot of things that we're excited about in
twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
So yeah, I'm ready to get there. But there's I
keep won't even to say, but there's other things that
I'm not excited about. That's okay.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Well yeah, but I think everything with everything and everybody
all the time. The only thing that you can control
is yourself and how you want to show up and
your fruit. Yeah you know what your fruit is?
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Well, I would like it to be gardening, no.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Love, joey, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self control. Okay,
and that fruit's free. You don't even have to learn
how to grow it, well you kind of, yeah, you
have to tend to it. Okay. I'm Radio Amy. You
can find me on socials. There and we're gonna hang
up and have to go. Speaking of socials, handle a
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parenting situation about a little TikTok dingy dingy thingy dingy
dingy that a friend just turned me onto. Parenting is fun? Cat,
Where can people find.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
You on Instagram at Cat van Buren.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
I'll see you all Thursday for four things and Cat
and I'll see all next Tuesday for a fit thing again.
Have the day you need to have? Bye bye. Maybe
you like being a little man baby. Some people role play,
you know, or they wanna.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
I think it's hot baby.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Ferbies is that where you dress up and like a
ferbie for a costume.
Speaker 4 (26:48):
A Ferbie is like a pet, the little pet that
would come to life and the eyes would open.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Oh well, what is it when adults like to dress up?
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Oh, you're right, I think there is something like that.
It's a verb. But also the Ferbies a toy that
we had when we were kids.
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing. I'm Amy and
I'm Kat and Kat is back. She was sick last
week and I'm very excited to have her here. We
just sat on my couch and talked for I don't
know a couple of hours. We had a lot to
catch up on and hopefully we'll be able to catch
y'all up on it soon. It was so fun to
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see your face.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I thought you were about to say, we're about to
catch everybody up on what we're talking about.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Yeah. No, we're going to need a minute for that.
But it's very exciting and my cheeks hurt from smiling
so much.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
It's so cute.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
We have a really fun quote. And I don't know
if y'all love The Office, but that's one of my
go to shows to go back and watch. That just
makes me laugh. Friends, Office, I've just been watched The Office,
Golden Girls, Well you need to that's your homework assignment
every season.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
How my seasons are a lot.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Okay, this is just kind of funny. Hopefully y'all can
relate to it. But it's Michael Scott and he's talking
about Howie has to show up at work and decompress,
and I saw someone had posted this clip on TikTok
and they wrote about it. Me and my work bestie
explaining why we have to start every day with thirty
minutes of personal conversations, and this was the clip from
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the office, accompanying.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
That I can't just start my job up immediately. I
need time to decompress or I will die.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So there you go, Kat, we just had to decompress.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
It's just us. It would die, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
You had to have our thirty minutes slash two hours
of catch up. But you were out of the country
and then you were sick, and I felt like I
hadn't seen you in a while, and so much has changed, really.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Really, so much has Cheerly, I'm moving to Italy.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Oh yeah, I mean in your dream world. But maybe
wouldn't that be awesome?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Patrick would never do it.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
I'd mentioned to him that I can claim so this
and shit, and he was like, we don't need to
do that, Catherine.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I have nine things that women wish men knew. So
this is the secret of what women want. And I
know we have a predominantly female audience, but I thought
it's well, it's good as women for us to know
what we want or to have a list to go
off of where's this from, and then we can share
it with our people. I'll just say I took a
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screenshot of it and I sent.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
It to somebody because you agree with it. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
That was just like a little hint.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
The first thing is small things count. Like some guys
think that all they have to do is surprise their
woman like every once in a while, and then they're
set for life. But we're keeping notes, like in the
back of our brains, Like if you were to just
pick up our favorite feel good treat, maybe while you're
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out and about on your way home, like very random,
like it's your favorite bottle of wine, your favorite kind
of chocolate or cheese, or maybe if you know we
want to read a new book or something, you just
pop by the store and get a book or order
it on Amazon. You know, if you overhear us talking
about something with our girlfriend, then just pay attention. It's
little things and it doesn't have to cost a lot,
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but it could be just the gesture of.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
You doing it.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
It's small things count.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Like putting my towel on the towel warmer while I'm
taking a shower.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
You have a towel warmer.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I have two towel warmers.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Where'd you get that?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
I think they're both from Amazon.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
They're different, but we keep one in the guests bathroom
and one in our bathroom. But also I saw something
on instagium I think where people are using their towel
warmers in the winter for blanket warmers.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I don't know. I just feel like, is this a
house fire waiting to happen?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
A towel warmer I don't very safe? And we unplug
it where we're not using it. Okay, good, It doesn't
make it.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
It's just like, oh no, I know that that hot.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I'm just get that hot.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
But you don't keep it plugged in like.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
No, anti, it will automatically turn off after an hour.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Oh smart, Yeah, so you're good.
Speaker 4 (03:55):
Yeah, our house is not going to burn down from
a towewarmer. I think I will burn down for the
candle to keep leaving lit throughout the night.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Yes, that could happen. Definitely, do not do that. But
I think I'm scarred because in fourth grade, my friend
Kristen Souse burnt down because of a lamp timer. Oh
my gosh a lot of times with things I'm plugging
in around the house, like I just think, I wonder
if this could burn the house down, Like Steven said
on one of those things you plug into the wall
clapper where you clap to turn your light on and off,
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and I got nervous having a muse it too often,
Like I'm like, I'm plugged the clapper because what if
it catches our house on fire? But I think it's
from that.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Maybe that was a faulty lamp.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
I'm sure it was, because plenty of people have lamp
timers and everything's just fine. But that's just where my
brain always goes. I'm like, is that gonna blow the
house up?
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Well, maybe we don't get you a towel wormer for
right now. We'll work on that later.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
The E word. Do you know what the E word is?
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Everybody?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Effort? Oh yeah, take out the trash, call us to
see how our day is going, or do something really special,
especially if it's like birthday anniversary something like that, but
show us we are worth your time. Which I can
get on board with the effort situation, like obviously for
birthday anniversary or something like that. But that's where I
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had to use that one line on that one guy.
I shared it here, right, it's like in order for
me to stay interested, like I'm gonna need this, this
and this, and really what I was saying is I
need to see some effort. If not, then this is
just not gonna work. Confidence is hot, arrogance is not.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Yeah, I mean every girl loves the man that's comfortable
in his own skin. You know it's hot right now?
Gray sweatpants. And I learned on the Bodybone show why why, Well,
gray sweatpants are trending because you can see through them
or like you can't outline, not see through them, but
like outline, So guys are wearing gray sweats to like I.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Want you to see there.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
But I talked about on the show. I did not
know that part. I just thought gray sweatpants were.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
In right now because the color is cool. The color,
it's a vibe.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
And so I say it and they're all like, Amy,
you know why right, And I said, no, I just
learned something new. But speaking of trends and being confident,
if you feel confident in that way, get yourself some
great sweatcams. But you know, we love a man who's
comfortable in his own skin and someone that makes us
feel safe and protected.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
I feel like that versus hot arrogance feels more like
you make me feel more smaller, or you're better than me,
or it's.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Not comfortable, it doesn't feel good. I can't stand it.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Yeah, you can, like actually taste the difference.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I feel like lately that's one of my party tricks, be.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Able to tell us he's got it, he's got it,
she's got it.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I don't know that I'm as quick to spot it
in women as I am.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Men.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Really, Stevenson just walked in here. Come over to the
mic if you're gonna say hi, we're actually going over
nine things women wish men knew. And hey, well, so
let me tell you the story about Stevenson. So I
pick him up with the football game the other day
and there are girls all around them, and they come
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running up to my car, Miss Brown, Miss Brown. Hey,
no no, no, no no. And his friend gets in
the car and he's like gosh, and I was like
what and he goes, Stevenson could get any girl stop
and he chooses not to. And Stevenson's like, well, they're
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my friends, they're my sisters in christ. Oh, and you
can correct me if I'm wrong. But he said, like,
if I don't think I could be with the girl
for I don't know, at least like six years, then
I don't want to be with her. Just correct, Okay,
see I'm correct.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
So did that make you feel so proud as a mom?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I was like, okay, yeah, I got a stud.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I'm just that guy. He just said that.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
All right, we're gonna keep herding. So chivalry is not dead,
be old fashioned from time to time. We love that.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Do you like your door open like your car door?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Yeah, it doesn't have to be every time, but it's
kind of nice.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
You know. What I really appreciate is when you're walking
on the sidewalk and the guy comes and stands between
the road. Love that, Yeah, that, It's like, oh, let
me be the one that gets hit by the car.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
That's like the hottest thing you can do.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
It really is.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So keep that in mind. I'm sure there are some
women listening there like, oh, I don't want any of that,
like and I want to pay for the first thing,
and don't get my door and I can get my
chair and blah blah blah.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
But I like both.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Yeah, I can take think of bouth and if you
feel that way as a woman, that is okay. I
think this is just majority of women. This is kind
of the secret of what we want. So maybe ask
yourself deep down, why am I resisting him getting the
door for me? And why am I resisting him paying?
Or why am I resisting this? And maybe deep down
it'll be awesome.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
Well, maybe it's because sometimes when guys do it, it's
an arrogant thing, like I want to control you kind
of thing versus a kind I just want to like
open your door to show that I care about you.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Yeah, you tell the difference.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
They don't think that you're actually capable of taking care
of yourself, But it's feeling when it's coming from a
man who knows how capable you are, but yet they
still want to care for you in that way. This
is number five. Don't be a man baby. This is
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number five. Don't be a man baby. Women love taking
care of their men and helping them out. But honestly,
as soon as it starts to become like you're in
like mom mode for them, I think that that's extremely
what we're attractive.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
Where do you draw the line of mom mode like,
what are you doing that You're like, Okay, now I
feel like your mom.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I mean for me. I think there could be a
couple of things, like a man that just like can't
keep but the things take care of his things. Does
he have something that he needs to address and he's
avoiding it and you're having to deal with it. Some
of it may be a really deep level, so that
feels cruel, But this could go both ways, male or women.
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Any adult that maybe has some stuff they need to
take care of and they're not and theyre's sort of
become a child in their relationship. So there could be drugs,
alcohol that becomes like you're taking care of a child, yeah,
Or if they're just not emotionally mature and you feel
like you're constantly dealing with a child, like it.
Speaker 4 (10:34):
Feels like you're talking to somebody who's like lower on
like an emotionally developmental stage.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Or do they want to play video games all day?
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I don't understand the adult video game stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Or like do they want their food cut up into
little pieces?
Speaker 2 (10:50):
That's where I draw the line. I'm not doing an
airplane with my boyfriends open.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Why listen and take interest? After a hectic day. I
feel like that is definitely hot if you've got a
guy that will genuinely listen to how your day went. Like,
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we like to talk, we like to pour out our feelings.
So yeah, it's really awesome when a guy asks and
then genuinely listens, and then we'll confide in that person,
like because if you're our person, then we trust you
and you're who we want to unload on and we
likely want your advice. But you could also say, before
we unload, do you want me to just listen and
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take it all in or do you want me to
listen and offer solutions, because sometimes we don't want it
to be fixed because men can be fixers.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well, that's also our job to tell them that.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Right, Let's say the guy doesn't ask, we can say like, hey,
I just want you to listen to this, or hey,
I want your feedback on this.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Yeah, both ways.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
It's the TV.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Seriously, you're sun down.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
But you know that's why I don't like football on
during the daytime, like on a Saturday football being on
is because good luck, I have memories of my dad
watching football during the daytime and ignoring me, like or
I'd be saying something and he wouldn't hear me. And
you know what is sort of equivalent in today, sort
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of like regarding me as a mom, is maybe if
I'm on my phone and my kids say something and
I don't hear them, and I'm like, oh, shoot, I
gotta put my phone down or put down social media
or get off, so that when they're forty three and
someone has their phone out in the daytime, they're not
like put it away, but I will. I'll walk into
like a home and I'll be like football's during the daytime, Like, oh,
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it just gives me a weird hating.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Our house on Saturday, I would hate it.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
I would.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Seven be honest.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Well that's pretty straightforward.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Yeah, I'm like, that's no secret. Yeah, that's kind of
funny that it made the list. But I think it
could also fall under the category like just being honest
with your emotions and what you're feeling, vulnerability in a way.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
And like simple stuff. I think sometimes people try to
give the right answer or the answer or say the
thing that they think somebody wants to hear, Versus I
want to hear the truth. If you don't want to
go to this restaurant, tell me you don't want to
go there, We'll find one that we both want to
go to. If you don't like this TV show, just
tell me, we'll find a new one. Those are like
small potatoes examples, but sometimes just be honest versus try
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to please somebody or try to please us.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
What if like, you have on an outfit and you
go to big p and he does not like it,
and you're like, hey, what do you think of the stress?
And he's like, honestly, it's not flattering on you or whatever.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Well I have.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
If I'm asking him that I'm putting myself in that position.
So if that's on my stuff to work on. If
I'm asking because I feel self conscious and I want
somebody to give me a boost of whatever confidence, then
I have to be aware that he might not like it.
But if i'm asking, I'm like, I don't know, I
really want your opinion. And if he's like, oh, I
don't like that dress, I'm like, okay, cool, I won't
wear it, Like I didn't really know if I liked it.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
Either makes sense. If you're asking the question, then you're
the one that needs to be ready for what the
answer is.
Speaker 4 (14:12):
Also, there's tact in the way that if somebody doesn't
like something and I'll be like, oh, you look disgusting.
Pack it's done that he'll say like that's not my favorite,
and I'm like, well, I like it anyway, So I'm
packing it and I'm gonna wear on vacation and you're
gonna have to.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
Look at it.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
That makes me think of that Zach Bryan's story. We
were talking about a little bit of their whole story,
and I guess it was her dress to Golden Globes
and he didn't like it.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
He unfollowed her, I mean, on social media, but then
posted a picture of her in the dress, being like,
she's so beautiful. It sounds like there's some mental health
stuff going on there.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
Oh yeah. Like I personally just have zero interest in
ever listening to his music again.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
It was done, even his songs that he has duets with,
like Noah Kahn, He's a song. I was like, I
can't listen to that song right now.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Maybe ever so in a nutshell in case you're not
tracking with what we're talking about, Zach Bryant and offered
his now ex girlfriend twelve million dollars. Not offered sort
of was like, hey, take this, take this his team
and stay quiet about your experience with Zach Bryan, which
why I just called I can't think of her first.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Name, Brianna. I just think chicken fry, Chicken fry. She's
so cute.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
But she turned it down, and she's talked publicly about it. Obviously,
it's on YouTube. You can go watch it. She has
a very very very popular podcast, BFFs, so check that
out if you want more of the details. But in
a nutshell, this little sliver of it is about the money,
and I was just curious what you would do. I'm
not taking the money, Okay.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Well, I have thoughts on this because I think depending
on where somebody is in life, I can see it
being an understandable decision to take the money because you
might not have an ability to ever see that kind
of money ever again, and that could make a huge
difference in your life and your family's life and whoever.
But if you're like her where she's I don't know
how much money she's making, still a lot of money
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to her, but she does very well for herself, and
who knows. A lot of theories online are saying that
they think that Dave Portnoy maybe could have offered her
a certain amount of money to not sign it. I
can see that happening, like, hey, don't sign it, and
I'll give you five million dollars so then you can
talk about it on our podcast. I mean, I'm assuming
he's done this to other women and has paid them
off too. They maybe not have been in the same
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financial situation Brianna.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Is in, so it's easy. It would be harder for
them to turn the money down.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Okay, makes sense. I totally understand that, Yes, And I
guess it's easy for me to say, like as someone
with we have a career, like we have things, we
can take care of ourselves. But who knows what situation
like I may be, And it's a completely different chapter
in my life where I could be like, Okay, yeah,
I'll shut up and I just hope this doesn't happen
to somebody else. Okay, we're down to the final two.
(17:03):
Things Make us a priority comes in at number eight. Yeah,
we need to feel like we're more important than.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
A video game or football game.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
It sounds to me like I'm raising a son that's
going to prioritize women, Like right now, he just got
home from school and he stop playing his video game.
And that's okay, you know why, because you're the SI front.
I can't give a girl six years like I can't.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
If I can't commit to that give her what she deserves,
then I don't deserve her.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Obviously, we all need to have time for our friends
and our hobbies and work and all that. But your
woman should feel as though she's in the priority. Third
place is not gonna be cool. No, your woman should
not come in third, first, the lord second, you. Okay, right,
(17:56):
here's a fun thing you could do. Even women like
our men should be are priority, or they should feel that.
Do you think it would be healthy or an okay
question to say, like, hey, babe, do you feel like
you're a priority. I'm genuinely doing a check in because
you might think that you're making someone feel that way,
but it could be that, like, you know what, I
(18:17):
think we're both failing at this and the kids are
taking priority right now, as they should, and it's very
difficult because kids have so much going on. But what
are the ways that you can try to make your
relationship or priority. Or if you don't have kids, or
you're dating but work is totally number one, or maybe
(18:38):
it is too much church, too much the Lord, or.
Speaker 4 (18:41):
Like you're working out or you're whatever it is. I
think that's healthy to have check ins.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
The final one, number nine. Are you ready for it?
Speaker 2 (18:49):
I'm nervous.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
It doesn't don't notice the small things. This is you know,
notice their hairstyle.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Remember when Patrick didn't notice that I got my hair cut?
Speaker 1 (19:00):
But did they get a new dress? Did he notice
that stuff?
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yeah? If I come home with a bag of the
shopping bag, or if he seize my credit card?
Speaker 1 (19:09):
What do you do now when you get your haircut?
Since you had that moment with him.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
I haven't got my haircut since then.
Speaker 4 (19:15):
But what I've learned is I need to tell him
that I am going to get my haircut and not
put him in a position to hurt my feelings on accident.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
You don't have expectations, Yeah, yeah, I mean just say something.
Acknowledge our effort, whatever that may be.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
Notice if I settled up the living room while you
were gone, or settle up, what do you mean clean?
Speaker 2 (19:37):
Settle up? Is that what you say? Yeah? And I've
never said tidy up.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Oh, I've never said settled up. Settled ups like settling
up a bet like I owe you five dollars. Let's
settle up.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
I think it you can use settle in both situations.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I guess you could.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
I just have not ever heard that tidy sounds like
something like maybe somebody from The Golden Girls would.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Say, whitey tidy, tidy up, pick up.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
P you.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
One thing that I want to notice about you because
you could do this with friendships too. I notice that
you are not going to be Martha Stewart.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Is that supposed to be like a dig? Because I
don't want to make a turkey wrapped in a pastry?
Speaker 1 (20:16):
No, you watched her documentary and you were like, what
in the what?
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Which?
Speaker 1 (20:20):
I watched it too, And listen if you haven't watched
it yet, we're not going to give anything away because
but honestly you should. People watch it.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
Watch it.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
I thought it was fascinating because she's in it. It's
not like they're taking interviews from other people. It's her
own interview that's giving her own character.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Okay, well, then I'll back you up on that that
I was interested.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I don't know that I would use the.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Word fascinating, But thinking back on some of the things
that she said, this is the part we won't give away.
That part was fascinating and Kat she was in Italy
and Kat was staying across the street, like your hotel
was across the street from a church that Martha Stewart
references that she went to while she was in Italy
on her honeymoon. And what she said that happened in
(21:03):
that church, my mind is blown. And then also how
she justified it versus what her husband did.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
Is she delusional?
Speaker 4 (21:11):
That's why I'm like, this is fascinating that she is so,
I mean, she just says it straight how she thinks
it is. There's no wavering and I'm like, you are
really confident about how you just said that, And I
find that very interesting.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
But it's like if you're a producer of that show
or like you're doing it, You're like, are.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
You well they did?
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Are you sure they did what they did?
Speaker 4 (21:31):
Like you could hear the interview being like and what
like what do you consider that? And she's like, Oh, I.
Speaker 1 (21:37):
Had it on while I was getting ready, so I
was in and out, and sometimes I blow dryer was
on or I'd be in my bathroom. So that's probably
why maybe I wasn't fully enthralled. But there are some
scenes thinking back where I'm like, gosh, that is so interesting.
She is definitely one of a kind.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Are you paying attention?
Speaker 1 (21:55):
I was paying attention. You're You're probably not going to
be Martha, and not for that reason. It's just like, gosh,
the pressure of perfection.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Oh yeah, I could never be me.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
No, my sister could be Martha Stewart for sure. Not
her personality that's clear to me.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Not her attention to detail m hm, and beauty good
for her. Does she have a garden?
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Hmm? She doesn't have a garden, Like she doesn't grow vegetables. No,
but she has all pretty plants flowers.
Speaker 2 (22:18):
It's still a garden.
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Okay. True, I'm gonna grow food though.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
I would love to do that too. You have a
good backyard for that.
Speaker 1 (22:24):
I've done it before. I did it in North Carolina.
I earlier this year decided I wanted to do it
mainly so I could have something to offer if the
world were to fall apart. Like what am I going
to offer? Like I need to know how to grow food? Uhuh? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (22:41):
Are you worried.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
About But I can't you remember what made me think
of that? But I thought, I really need to get
my gardening skills. It couldn't hurt back because I couldn't
need to have value, or nobody's gonna pick you to
be on the team.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
She can garden with her.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
There's gonna be these different community is being built.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
What's your skill?
Speaker 1 (23:02):
What's your skill?
Speaker 2 (23:03):
You should do it? Then?
Speaker 1 (23:04):
What would be your skill?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Well, I don't have one. Like maybe I could just art,
help teach art, or I could help people feel better
about the cop apocalypse like you already have.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
You're the community therapist.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
But that would be a sad job. I think I'd
rather garden. I want your skill.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
I came across some quote that was like, before I
agree to twenty twenty five, I'm gonna need to see
terms and conditions. I'm ready for twenty twenty five, though
I'm ready for the holidays. I'm ready for twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Let's go because you want a fresh start or because
you just are ready for west Yes.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
No outside influence at all whatsoever, just me internally. That's
how I feel, like, maybe I just finally feel this better.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Was twenty twenty four a good year for you? Would
you say overall it was better?
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Like if I had to rank the years, the last
five years. So if we're going into twenty twenty five,
my prediction is twenty twenty five is going.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
To be the best. Why you're ready for it?
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Okay, twenty twenty suck for everybody, Yeah, because that was COVID.
Twenty twenty one sucked for R for me just personally.
Twenty twenty two was probably still trying to recover from that.
Still sucky. Is that the year I got divorced? I'm
not sure. Yeah, And then this year has been I
(24:25):
it has been totally terrible. There's been like lots of growth.
I feel like I'm done with all the you know.
Speaker 4 (24:31):
You're getting the benefits of all the stuff that you've
been through and worked on in.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Yeah, life's of roller coasters go. So I know that
we might go down again, But listen, I would have
to have a long talk with God. If we went
as low as twenty twenty one again, I'd be like,
is this for real? Remember?
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Are you trying to prove? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Like I learned, Yeah, I learned.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
I promise I don't need any more lessons. No, just kidding.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
If we were to go low again, the thing is,
I think it wouldn't probably feel as low, Yeah, because
I'm equipped and I know the gain on the other side. Okay, Well,
here's the twenty twenty five there's five Are you scared
of it? I think there's person outside influences. I'm talking
about just you internally, because I know that there's a
lot of emotion around like whatever people things.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Internally. Yeah, I'm ready for twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
But like you and Big P like in your little world, and.
Speaker 4 (25:20):
There's a lot of things that we're excited about in
twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
So yeah, I'm ready to get there. But there's I
keep won't even to say, but there's other things that
I'm not excited about. That's okay.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Well yeah, but I think everything with everything and everybody
all the time. The only thing that you can control
is yourself and how you want to show up and
your fruit. Yeah you know what your fruit is?
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Well, I would like it to be gardening, no.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Love, joey, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self control. Okay,
and that fruit's free. You don't even have to learn
how to grow it, well you kind of, yeah, you
have to tend to it. Okay. I'm Radio Amy. You
can find me on socials. There and we're gonna hang
up and have to go. Speaking of socials, handle a
(26:09):
parenting situation about a little TikTok dingy dingy thingy dingy
dingy that a friend just turned me onto. Parenting is fun? Cat,
Where can people find.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
You on Instagram at Cat van Buren.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
I'll see you all Thursday for four things and Cat
and I'll see all next Tuesday for a fit thing again.
Have the day you need to have? Bye bye. Maybe
you like being a little man baby. Some people role play,
you know, or they wanna.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
I think it's hot baby.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Ferbies is that where you dress up and like a
ferbie for a costume.
Speaker 4 (26:48):
A Ferbie is like a pet, the little pet that
would come to life and the eyes would open.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Oh well, what is it when adults like to dress up?
Speaker 2 (26:56):
Oh, you're right, I think there is something like that.
It's a verb. But also the Ferbies a toy that
we had when we were kids.
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