January 24, 2023 • 23 mins
“Every year you make a resolution to change yourself. This year, make a resolution to be yourself.” - Unknown
Being able to BE YOURSELF is knowing your story, owning your story, and acknowledging what you bring to the table in your relationships. What is part of YOU being YOU that can overflow into someone else’s life when the time is right? This isn’t something to force…just encouraging us to be open to the idea of OVERFLOW (which is something we talked about on the ‘5th Thing’ last week!)
Amy reads an email update from our precious listener Ithzel and how another podcast listener OVERFLOWED into her life. Ithzel’s words are also going to OVERFLOW into your ears as you listen to it. It is a very amazing note!!!
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing. I'm Ami and
I'm Cat and our quote today is unknown. Every year,
you make a resolution to change yourself. This year, make
a resolution to beat yourself so good. I don't know
if it's said with that yourself vibe, but that's just
how I read it. And we're still in the first
month of the year. There's still time to course correct
(00:27):
if you're trying to change yourself. I think it's okay
to want to work on yourself. And if there's areas
that you do actually literally need to change, like if
you're working on not snoozing or not procrastinating, or not
being late or not being a butt head for someone,
you know what you're working on, Okay. I mean sometimes
I can be and I yeah, I don't want to be.
(00:49):
I want to be high vibes, high high vibes, you
know what I mean, high energy, high vibes. I don't
want to bring people down, want to bring people up.
And that includes in my house, and that includes you know,
at work, that includes right now with you high vibes,
which I know there's times in our friendships I've been
(01:09):
low vibes and I brought you down. I'm sure I
don't know that you specifically brought me down, but I
think that's what friendships do. Say EBB and flow of
I'm supporting you, You're supporting me, right. I love Evan Flow. Yeah,
someone else said that to me recently. I was like, yeah,
Evan Flow. You like saying it, or like you like
Evan and flowing. No, I like the the phrase something
(01:32):
like that, like Evan flow. Yeah, someone said it to me,
like I said, I loved it, and then I used
it an email recently, Evan Flow, and I was like,
I felt good. Evan Flow, Evan Flow. I like it.
So anyhow you can work on things with yourself and
ways you want to show up differently, but also don't
(01:54):
lose yourself to anybody else and make sure you're you're
able to be yourself. I like this unknown quote because
so many people, for good reason, don't do resolutions anymore
because they're like, I don't want to New Year and
knew me. I want to be the same person. I
don't want to like all that negative energy. But this
is saying you can still have a resolution and it's
(02:14):
about being you, not taking parts of you away. So
love it. Yeah, I felt like being able to be
yourself is knowing your story and something that you might
need to get to know yourself. Who are you? I
feel like at forty one, I'm still figuring that out.
It's a journey knowing your story, owning your story, what
do you bring to the table and relationships. Kind Of
like we were talking last week, part of you can overflow.
(02:36):
If you're not yourself, you're missing the opportunity to overflow
is yourself into someone else. If y'all didn't hear last
Tuesday's fifth Thing, one of our listeners, Ashley, gave us
an awesome word overflow and shared her perspective of that,
and I was like, oh, this is so good. And
I haven't actually have an email update from another listener,
(02:57):
our girl itself back again. Yeah, And now that I
think about it, inside her email which I'm about to read,
another listener has overflowed into her life. And then when
I redo this email, it sells. Words are going to
be overflowing into everyone's ears that are listening right now,
and there's be so much overflow and I love it,
(03:18):
so I'll just get to it. Amy. I wanted to
thank you for my four things pull over. I love it.
It's fine, I'm fine, everything is fine. Sorry, it took
me so long to get this email to you. Life
has been a role whirlwind. You know I have You
know I have troubles with troubles hard now. I have
a trouble with w's and ours, especially if they're together.
(03:42):
Oh yeah, whirlwind, yeah, whirlwind, real world, real world, real world.
If I really think about it, I can say it.
But you know, I used to do commercials for West
Rock Coffee and I couldn't West Rock Coffee. West. If
I stop and I just sit here and I really
(04:02):
West West Rock Coffee, I can do it. Is that
what a tongue tie is when there's a certain I
don't know what it sounds like that your tongue is
getting like tied up in the wh can't say that
are there's something about the W and R. So here
we go, whirl wind. It is hard for me. But
here and then, Also, since I've deviated from the email already,
(04:23):
it's you don't have to apologize or say sorry it
took so long to get this email to you. I
don't have to apologize right away. You can reframe that
is saying thanks for being patient as I'm just now
getting back to you, right, But it's also I know
you have a lot going on, so I actually have
zero expectation for you to get back to me. We
(04:43):
want an update, we want to know, but if you
chose not to send an update, that would be okay.
So I'm not even over here having to be patient.
I'm being like, whatever it'sl wants this year, we'll share. Okay,
here we go. Life has been a whirlwind could since
chemo started for me. I knew if I waited to
(05:03):
come out on the other side of this, I would
be much happier to give you a life update. I
finished chemo. It was awful, but I did it. I
also finished my first semester of CRN A school with
a four point o g P a someway. Somehow I
survived these last several months. It was extremely difficult, as
my husband was back in Texas finishing his graduate program
(05:24):
and was only able to fly in for each treatment.
Navigating cancer treatment while in school in a new state
with no family zero out of ten recommend But my
sweet husband has graduated and we're finally reunited in Tennessee,
living under one roof with our sweet pup Oh my gosh,
it just hit me. She's in Tennessee. I don't quite
(05:44):
remember where I need to find this out because Tennessee
is not like it's it's not huge, like if it's
Texas would be like, okay, California is really big. You
could be anywhere. But you know, we announced that the
next live podcast is in Nashville. It's zel should be
there a hundred itself. If you're listening to this, and
I'll email you, you got two tickets on me. You
(06:07):
and if you want to bring your husband or you
want to bring your girlfriend, you're coming. And you know, honestly,
if you do bring your husband, it's gonna be fine.
There's gonna be other guys there. But I say girlfriend
because I've been thinking about the night and I wanted
to be like a successful girl's night out, and kat
I was thinking about what are the things that make
up a successful girl's night out for me? And that
would be laughter, sharing, encouragement and connection. And then when
(06:30):
I get home from a successful girl's night out, I
feel refreshed, empowered, motivated, and seen. And that's really my
hope for the evening. So now I'm very excited that
itself is going to be there, and if anybody else
wants to be there, gathering your girl friends, it's going
to be a night of you know, knowing your worth.
And I feel like I might even need to bring
itself on stage because she's been so invested or listeners
(06:53):
are invested in her story and we've shared so much
of it here on the Fifth Thing, which Kat and
I are going to be recording a Fifth Thing with
people that get v I P tickets, so it'll be
a bonus episode, and there's not that many available. We
wanted to keep it more intimate this time, so I
think there's like forty four tickets, and tickets will be
(07:13):
on sale this Friday at ten am at Franklin Theater
dot com. And I'll also have a link in the
show notes and then a link in my Instagram bio
two at Radio Amy, so there should be a way
to find the links. But Okay, I'm just very very
excited about this and it's l coming. So anyway, back
(07:34):
to the email, I go into this new year feeling
so blessed and empowered by my own strength. I am
now halfway through radiation, and even though I still have
I therapy left for a year and more long term
medications to come. I feel relief knowing that I'm one
step closer to life and remission. Thank you for putting
me in contact with Sarah from Arizona. She sent me
(07:54):
the four Things Cancer Fighter pull over, Chemo radiation, cancer
suck It. I say Slee couldn't believe a complete stranger
would do something so touching. It had such an effect
on me. It was so generous, and I'm so grateful
that she did not suppress that generous thought. And thanks
again for sharing my story. I read listen to the
episode in which you read my email, and it's amazing
to see how far I've come and how much I
(08:16):
have grown since that fearful weekend in Austin. I have
attached the video of my last chemo session where I
got to ring the bell only because I was wearing
my Four Things Cancer pull over and I thought you'd
like to see. But also, this is me here seeing
someone ring a bell because I've experienced it firsthand with
my mom. It's all you get to do when you
finished your treatment, and ringing that bell like I have
(08:38):
goose bumps even reading that you rang your bell itself,
because I know what a powerful moment that is, so
thank you for attaching that. Back to the email. My
sweet husband surprised me by inviting all of my classmates
to my last session, and I had no clue. They
all made posters and my sister and Nice drove in
so many emotions. What did cancer a possible? I got
(09:01):
to feel all this love. I mean, I know i'm
cats teering up and I know I have yes, I'm
the same like I have a lump in my throat
reading that. I mean, to be able to look at
going through something like cancer and to know that it
could be potentially so you could feel all the love
from your people is such an amazing perspective itself. And
(09:26):
thank you for overflowing this into us. She also said
I got a gratitude journal for Christmas and she posted
about it on Instagram. Anyway, we I had replied to that,
so she's talking about that, and she said, love your friend,
it's this. I mean, this is just the best email
update ever. And I know that there it's not done,
(09:47):
and I know, I mean, I'm even just assuming by
March the Live that you'll feel okay and could come
to the live, because I don't know your treatment schedule
or how you feel, because different times, one week you
might feel great, then x week you might feel awful.
I guess depending on how things are going. So I
will say on March, no pressure, but you are feeling
(10:09):
okay that week, I would love to meet you in
person and have you there because that would be super
special and you could even share a word with the
crowd and your other fellow people from this community that
are there, because I know right now people listening this
is already such an encouragement to them, and your story
(10:29):
can be an encouragement on a stage like that as well.
So anybody that is coming. Yeah, we did announce March
twenty Nashville, but tickets go on sale this Friday, I
think at ten am, so that is exciting. And the
v i P tickets this time around are going to
include a fifth thing taping, so you get to sit
(10:50):
in on that and some other cool things that we
didn't have in addition to last time. I'm just trying
to think of the value if you're buying a ticket
like that, what is the takeaway? And there's only forty
four spots available for the v I P though this
time just keeping it more intimate and last time, I
wanted to talk to so many different people and there
(11:12):
was a lot of us, so I kind of just
had to gather us in a circle. And you know,
this will just be a little bit different and maybe
allow for a Q and A during the fifth thing
and people to ask especially you'll be there as as
a therapist. But also I know in an event like that,
it's not a replacement for any kind of therapy, and
you'r I want to respect your position when it comes
(11:32):
to the Q and A, and I assume others will,
so don't worry. Well, we'll make sure and check the
questions before, but heads up if you want to be
a part of that and it sell, I hope you're
able to make it. At four point o g P A.
(11:57):
I don't know. Do you remember what you had in college? Well,
I think I had close to that. Oh you did, yeah, whatever,
Yes you did. And I know that one of your
greatest pleasures in life is being number one in the class.
So that was I was. That's undergrad grad school, which
is the hard part of my school. I was at
(12:18):
the bottom grade wise. I don't believe it. Well, I
my teacher did a bell curve one time on our exam,
and I was the lowest grade on the bell curve. Dang. Okay, well,
I guess I believe that I never will forget the
time your dad said to me, Kat, it's just so
smart at her job and everything she does. I don't
even know how she knows all of that. It's crazy
(12:39):
how good she is at her job. He's like, but
when it comes to street smarts or like taking care
of herself and things around the house, like I don't
even know where what happened to her? You know what
happened to me? What my dad likes to do things
for us. So I didn't know how to use a
hammer or a screwdriver, and I have to like, hey Dad,
(13:00):
every five seconds anything something went wrong because he likes
to fix things for me. But now he's teaching me
how to do things. I can use a power drill.
So he evolved. You both evolved. You both evolved, and
you were able to say to him, Dad, I need
you to teach me because in my childhood you just
did it. I don't know if that's what I said,
but maybe he was getting tired of paraphrases. Okay, I'm
(13:23):
guessing I'm mind reading. I wasn't even there is this
how it went. I think it just was like maybe
he was like, I can't come over to your house
every other day when something is not working. So here
you press this button and then the drill turns around.
It's not that hard. I like to do things for
my kids, though there's some stuff where I'm not. I think, oh,
(13:45):
they need to be doing this, and then there's a
part deep inside of me that just wants to do
it for them. But then also I really wanted done right. Okay,
So what is something that you really like doing for
your kids that you know they should probably be able
to do for themselves. Laundry you like to do that?
I love it. It's a problem. I go into the
room and I sneak it. Why I sneak the laundry.
(14:07):
What do you like about laundry? Oh? All of it?
I love. I love my detergent. I love the smell.
I love I don't know. I take it from the
washer to the dry My dog is barking. I don't
know why. I take it from the washer to the dryer.
And then I get to take it out warm and
fold it, and then I get to put it away.
(14:27):
Is it a control thing? I don't know. Yeah, you
gotta dig into that, because laundry is one of my
least favorite things. Oh, I love it. And and the
thing is both of my kids have they know how
to do their own and we've actually added to their
list of chores that they're responsible for. But like I said,
I sneak it. Well, well, laundry. She'll say, like, I
(14:48):
was gonna do my laundry today, but you already did it.
Like I know, such a bad mom. I know. Okay,
well you can do my laundry. I probably would if
we live together, I would, Okay, I honestly would enjoy that.
What kind of like sorting it? You know I do.
I sort everything. I do darks, I do white, I
(15:09):
do towels. And that's the thing with my kids sometimes
they throw everything in together and it drives me. No, no, no, no, no, no,
you don't. Yes, I didn't know. I actually don't tell
me that. I'm not gonna like drive over to your
house and do your laundry for you. I can't. I can't. Oh,
you're asking about detergent, So I'm going to look up
(15:30):
the latest. So my friend Cat, my other friend Cat
Cryo Cat. I have a lot of detergent companies that
I like, but I have if you were to open
up my cabinet, I have the sheets like the I
Love sheets laundry where you put a sheet in and
it's not in a pod like a tide pod. Yeah,
(15:51):
it's really cool. I have probably four different brands of
detergent in my laundry cabinets. Do you have like separate
for owls and then clothes sheet detergent and dinnim Yeah? Okay, okay.
So the one that Cryokat just got me hooked on
is ginger Mango from Method and they don't even sell
(16:13):
it really in the stores anymore. So at least I
have been able to find neither has she and she
loves it, and so I ordered on Amazon. I have
it linked in my Amazon page, which you can find it.
Radio Amy if you want to see any of the
things that I ever talked about, just so you make
sure you're getting the right thing. Earlier this year, Gracie
Molkler was on and we were talking. I was telling
her about my ice cube on the glow Cube, and
(16:37):
I guess people couldn't figure out the right link and
there was a lot of other brands, and I get
that desire of making sure am I ordering the right
one because I don't want to get one that's bad
or not right, and so I'm sure anyone that you
ordered would be fine. But I have the correct glow
Cube up there now and linked, so everything should work.
And some of my Amazon page stuff has been a
(16:57):
little bit wonky. That's probably why the Globe cube wasn't working.
But I think we have it all figured out. It
was definitely a project to get with Amazon and that
and make sure that it was working. But anyway, Mango
ginger or ginger Mango technically is the way you say it.
You use that for your jeans, laundry general, okay, the
(17:17):
brand that where I have like a denim wash. I
think that's the laundress I have myers, I have will Light.
Do you use the dryer balls? No, I don't use
dryer balls or use dryer sheets. I think there's a
ball that you can put in your I don't know,
I'm not I just used whatever is in the closet
and everything is the same, except for I do have
(17:38):
special sheets because I want them to smell good. What
is that the volcano. Is that the candle brandy? You
go high end for the sheets, yeah, and well sheets
and towels. And unless I'm putting towels in with my
other clothes, I don't know that I would want towels here. Like,
some of your towels need to be washed on hot
(18:00):
really in my opinion, Wait, okay, I don't know that
I'm speaking fact. I'm speaking my life rules. Other people
may not abide by this, but in my world, towels
are washed together on hot because because hot kills drums. Okay,
so I have not been killing. And then also if
(18:22):
I wash my white towels and there's little fuzzies that
come off and they get on a black shirt that
I wash it with in my normal clothes, I don't
want the cross contamination. That's fair. That's fair. I think
I just am a little lazy with it because I
hate doing laundry, but you like it, so you're more
(18:44):
tedious with it. Right, So I put the darks on cold.
And then if you do your colors on cold, yes,
colors on cold, white warm. Okay, I need to make
me a chart. Towels are not hot. I mean, I
think it's on the internet. Like this is I don't
know that. I don't know where I could be again,
(19:04):
not a laundry expert here. This is just what I
have always done, and it works for me and it
makes me feel good. You know what I think has
happened to me because my mom made us do our
laundry when you're we were younger. She gave us each
a laundry basket that you're now in charge of doing
your laundry. And I would separate. I didn't really know how,
and also I was very particular as a child. I
separated every single thing. So I've had like one yellow shirt,
(19:27):
I would wash it by itself. If I had like
two green somethings, I would wash them by myself. So
do like twelve loads of laundry that's a waste. Yeah,
Well my mom didn't have to do it, so I
don't think she cared. But I think I got thick
of that and I was like revolting against that. And
now I'm like, put everything together, see what happens. Throw
it all in. Yeah, I that works. I mean you
and my kids if you all want to do that,
(19:48):
But for now, I'm going to keep sneaking in and
doing getting their laundry out of their closet and doing
it real quick and then putting it away and then
being like all good, and then my kids are going
to grow up and not know how to do their laundry.
Didn't mean to go off on that tangent, but let
me tell you Ginger Mango Method brand, get your hands
(20:09):
on some of that cat. Where can people find you
on Instagram at at Cat dot defata and at You
Need Therapy podcast and then you can listen to You
Need Therapy podcast wherever you like to listen to podcasts.
Hit us up on emails for the fifth thing Four
Things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. Or you've
got four Things episode idea or comment or thought, you
(20:31):
can email me there as well at Radio Amy on
Instagram and Radio Amy dot com again for the Amazon
page or links to espoa four Things Gratitude journal which
it's Celsi said she got for Christmas, which I love
that so much. Cat, do you think quickly you could
rattle off four things off the top of your head
that you're thankful for? Yes, um, lodgics, urge it, nice
(20:54):
grocery stores, that things are organized well in Um it's
weird like an organized grocery store, Patrick, your boyfriend Big Patrick,
and saltine crackers. I'm on a like a food jag
with them, Okay, I quickly late July toward chips my
(21:16):
jam right now and since we're talking so much about it,
Ginger mango method, detergent coffee. I love a good I stlatte.
Still here we are in the dead of winter and
I am still drinking ice. I have not switched over
to hots what you like. I like what I like.
And my kids wow, and that they let me do
(21:41):
their laundry. So that's how gratitude works. You can really
like if you think of things, it will snowball into
other things, which then snowball into for me personally, having
perspective about my life and puts me in a better
mood and I'm able to tap into more joy. And
our Four Things Gratitude journal is an amazing tool for gratitude.
(22:05):
So if that's something you're interested in, it's a great gift.
They're super cute and the best part is it's a
win win purchase because of the proceeds go towards education
in Haiti. So you can hit up four Things dot
com for the journals and then don't forget Franklin Theater
dot com. That will be this Friday that you can
go there at ten am. That's when the tickets will
(22:27):
go on sale for the Live in Nashville. And I
posted about on Instagram the other day and I got
some d m s from people that are coming from
out of town and they were curious about hotels Franklin
versus Nashville and Brentwood is right in between, and there's
some good hotels. They're like, you know, nice hotels. It's
not going to be anything that's like in downtown Nashville.
(22:49):
But I don't really know that you want to be
caught up in that craziness. Quite honestly. You could stay
somewhere that's a little bit outside of downtown and then
get around town by going down to Franklin, and then
if you want to go into Nashville to do whatever,
a downtown Franklin is adorable. So I'm very excited to
be doing it at the Historic Theater there. So tickets
will be this Friday, ten am. Four Things Live in Nashville,
(23:12):
And I hope you all are having the day that
you need to have. Bye Bye,
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing. I'm Ami and
I'm Cat and our quote today is unknown. Every year,
you make a resolution to change yourself. This year, make
a resolution to beat yourself so good. I don't know
if it's said with that yourself vibe, but that's just
how I read it. And we're still in the first
month of the year. There's still time to course correct
(00:27):
if you're trying to change yourself. I think it's okay
to want to work on yourself. And if there's areas
that you do actually literally need to change, like if
you're working on not snoozing or not procrastinating, or not
being late or not being a butt head for someone,
you know what you're working on, Okay. I mean sometimes
I can be and I yeah, I don't want to be.
(00:49):
I want to be high vibes, high high vibes, you
know what I mean, high energy, high vibes. I don't
want to bring people down, want to bring people up.
And that includes in my house, and that includes you know,
at work, that includes right now with you high vibes,
which I know there's times in our friendships I've been
(01:09):
low vibes and I brought you down. I'm sure I
don't know that you specifically brought me down, but I
think that's what friendships do. Say EBB and flow of
I'm supporting you, You're supporting me, right. I love Evan Flow. Yeah,
someone else said that to me recently. I was like, yeah,
Evan Flow. You like saying it, or like you like
Evan and flowing. No, I like the the phrase something
(01:32):
like that, like Evan flow. Yeah, someone said it to me,
like I said, I loved it, and then I used
it an email recently, Evan Flow, and I was like,
I felt good. Evan Flow, Evan Flow. I like it.
So anyhow you can work on things with yourself and
ways you want to show up differently, but also don't
(01:54):
lose yourself to anybody else and make sure you're you're
able to be yourself. I like this unknown quote because
so many people, for good reason, don't do resolutions anymore
because they're like, I don't want to New Year and
knew me. I want to be the same person. I
don't want to like all that negative energy. But this
is saying you can still have a resolution and it's
(02:14):
about being you, not taking parts of you away. So
love it. Yeah, I felt like being able to be
yourself is knowing your story and something that you might
need to get to know yourself. Who are you? I
feel like at forty one, I'm still figuring that out.
It's a journey knowing your story, owning your story, what
do you bring to the table and relationships. Kind Of
like we were talking last week, part of you can overflow.
(02:36):
If you're not yourself, you're missing the opportunity to overflow
is yourself into someone else. If y'all didn't hear last
Tuesday's fifth Thing, one of our listeners, Ashley, gave us
an awesome word overflow and shared her perspective of that,
and I was like, oh, this is so good. And
I haven't actually have an email update from another listener,
(02:57):
our girl itself back again. Yeah, And now that I
think about it, inside her email which I'm about to read,
another listener has overflowed into her life. And then when
I redo this email, it sells. Words are going to
be overflowing into everyone's ears that are listening right now,
and there's be so much overflow and I love it,
(03:18):
so I'll just get to it. Amy. I wanted to
thank you for my four things pull over. I love it.
It's fine, I'm fine, everything is fine. Sorry, it took
me so long to get this email to you. Life
has been a role whirlwind. You know I have You
know I have troubles with troubles hard now. I have
a trouble with w's and ours, especially if they're together.
(03:42):
Oh yeah, whirlwind, yeah, whirlwind, real world, real world, real world.
If I really think about it, I can say it.
But you know, I used to do commercials for West
Rock Coffee and I couldn't West Rock Coffee. West. If
I stop and I just sit here and I really
(04:02):
West West Rock Coffee, I can do it. Is that
what a tongue tie is when there's a certain I
don't know what it sounds like that your tongue is
getting like tied up in the wh can't say that
are there's something about the W and R. So here
we go, whirl wind. It is hard for me. But
here and then, Also, since I've deviated from the email already,
(04:23):
it's you don't have to apologize or say sorry it
took so long to get this email to you. I
don't have to apologize right away. You can reframe that
is saying thanks for being patient as I'm just now
getting back to you, right, But it's also I know
you have a lot going on, so I actually have
zero expectation for you to get back to me. We
(04:43):
want an update, we want to know, but if you
chose not to send an update, that would be okay.
So I'm not even over here having to be patient.
I'm being like, whatever it'sl wants this year, we'll share. Okay,
here we go. Life has been a whirlwind could since
chemo started for me. I knew if I waited to
(05:03):
come out on the other side of this, I would
be much happier to give you a life update. I
finished chemo. It was awful, but I did it. I
also finished my first semester of CRN A school with
a four point o g P a someway. Somehow I
survived these last several months. It was extremely difficult, as
my husband was back in Texas finishing his graduate program
(05:24):
and was only able to fly in for each treatment.
Navigating cancer treatment while in school in a new state
with no family zero out of ten recommend But my
sweet husband has graduated and we're finally reunited in Tennessee,
living under one roof with our sweet pup Oh my gosh,
it just hit me. She's in Tennessee. I don't quite
(05:44):
remember where I need to find this out because Tennessee
is not like it's it's not huge, like if it's
Texas would be like, okay, California is really big. You
could be anywhere. But you know, we announced that the
next live podcast is in Nashville. It's zel should be
there a hundred itself. If you're listening to this, and
I'll email you, you got two tickets on me. You
(06:07):
and if you want to bring your husband or you
want to bring your girlfriend, you're coming. And you know, honestly,
if you do bring your husband, it's gonna be fine.
There's gonna be other guys there. But I say girlfriend
because I've been thinking about the night and I wanted
to be like a successful girl's night out, and kat
I was thinking about what are the things that make
up a successful girl's night out for me? And that
would be laughter, sharing, encouragement and connection. And then when
(06:30):
I get home from a successful girl's night out, I
feel refreshed, empowered, motivated, and seen. And that's really my
hope for the evening. So now I'm very excited that
itself is going to be there, and if anybody else
wants to be there, gathering your girl friends, it's going
to be a night of you know, knowing your worth.
And I feel like I might even need to bring
itself on stage because she's been so invested or listeners
(06:53):
are invested in her story and we've shared so much
of it here on the Fifth Thing, which Kat and
I are going to be recording a Fifth Thing with
people that get v I P tickets, so it'll be
a bonus episode, and there's not that many available. We
wanted to keep it more intimate this time, so I
think there's like forty four tickets, and tickets will be
(07:13):
on sale this Friday at ten am at Franklin Theater
dot com. And I'll also have a link in the
show notes and then a link in my Instagram bio
two at Radio Amy, so there should be a way
to find the links. But Okay, I'm just very very
excited about this and it's l coming. So anyway, back
(07:34):
to the email, I go into this new year feeling
so blessed and empowered by my own strength. I am
now halfway through radiation, and even though I still have
I therapy left for a year and more long term
medications to come. I feel relief knowing that I'm one
step closer to life and remission. Thank you for putting
me in contact with Sarah from Arizona. She sent me
(07:54):
the four Things Cancer Fighter pull over, Chemo radiation, cancer
suck It. I say Slee couldn't believe a complete stranger
would do something so touching. It had such an effect
on me. It was so generous, and I'm so grateful
that she did not suppress that generous thought. And thanks
again for sharing my story. I read listen to the
episode in which you read my email, and it's amazing
to see how far I've come and how much I
(08:16):
have grown since that fearful weekend in Austin. I have
attached the video of my last chemo session where I
got to ring the bell only because I was wearing
my Four Things Cancer pull over and I thought you'd
like to see. But also, this is me here seeing
someone ring a bell because I've experienced it firsthand with
my mom. It's all you get to do when you
finished your treatment, and ringing that bell like I have
(08:38):
goose bumps even reading that you rang your bell itself,
because I know what a powerful moment that is, so
thank you for attaching that. Back to the email. My
sweet husband surprised me by inviting all of my classmates
to my last session, and I had no clue. They
all made posters and my sister and Nice drove in
so many emotions. What did cancer a possible? I got
(09:01):
to feel all this love. I mean, I know i'm
cats teering up and I know I have yes, I'm
the same like I have a lump in my throat
reading that. I mean, to be able to look at
going through something like cancer and to know that it
could be potentially so you could feel all the love
from your people is such an amazing perspective itself. And
(09:26):
thank you for overflowing this into us. She also said
I got a gratitude journal for Christmas and she posted
about it on Instagram. Anyway, we I had replied to that,
so she's talking about that, and she said, love your friend,
it's this. I mean, this is just the best email
update ever. And I know that there it's not done,
(09:47):
and I know, I mean, I'm even just assuming by
March the Live that you'll feel okay and could come
to the live, because I don't know your treatment schedule
or how you feel, because different times, one week you
might feel great, then x week you might feel awful.
I guess depending on how things are going. So I
will say on March, no pressure, but you are feeling
(10:09):
okay that week, I would love to meet you in
person and have you there because that would be super
special and you could even share a word with the
crowd and your other fellow people from this community that
are there, because I know right now people listening this
is already such an encouragement to them, and your story
(10:29):
can be an encouragement on a stage like that as well.
So anybody that is coming. Yeah, we did announce March
twenty Nashville, but tickets go on sale this Friday, I
think at ten am, so that is exciting. And the
v i P tickets this time around are going to
include a fifth thing taping, so you get to sit
(10:50):
in on that and some other cool things that we
didn't have in addition to last time. I'm just trying
to think of the value if you're buying a ticket
like that, what is the takeaway? And there's only forty
four spots available for the v I P though this
time just keeping it more intimate and last time, I
wanted to talk to so many different people and there
(11:12):
was a lot of us, so I kind of just
had to gather us in a circle. And you know,
this will just be a little bit different and maybe
allow for a Q and A during the fifth thing
and people to ask especially you'll be there as as
a therapist. But also I know in an event like that,
it's not a replacement for any kind of therapy, and
you'r I want to respect your position when it comes
(11:32):
to the Q and A, and I assume others will,
so don't worry. Well, we'll make sure and check the
questions before, but heads up if you want to be
a part of that and it sell, I hope you're
able to make it. At four point o g P A.
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I don't know. Do you remember what you had in college? Well,
I think I had close to that. Oh you did, yeah, whatever,
Yes you did. And I know that one of your
greatest pleasures in life is being number one in the class.
So that was I was. That's undergrad grad school, which
is the hard part of my school. I was at
(12:18):
the bottom grade wise. I don't believe it. Well, I
my teacher did a bell curve one time on our exam,
and I was the lowest grade on the bell curve. Dang. Okay, well,
I guess I believe that I never will forget the
time your dad said to me, Kat, it's just so
smart at her job and everything she does. I don't
even know how she knows all of that. It's crazy
(12:39):
how good she is at her job. He's like, but
when it comes to street smarts or like taking care
of herself and things around the house, like I don't
even know where what happened to her? You know what
happened to me? What my dad likes to do things
for us. So I didn't know how to use a
hammer or a screwdriver, and I have to like, hey Dad,
(13:00):
every five seconds anything something went wrong because he likes
to fix things for me. But now he's teaching me
how to do things. I can use a power drill.
So he evolved. You both evolved. You both evolved, and
you were able to say to him, Dad, I need
you to teach me because in my childhood you just
did it. I don't know if that's what I said,
but maybe he was getting tired of paraphrases. Okay, I'm
(13:23):
guessing I'm mind reading. I wasn't even there is this
how it went. I think it just was like maybe
he was like, I can't come over to your house
every other day when something is not working. So here
you press this button and then the drill turns around.
It's not that hard. I like to do things for
my kids, though there's some stuff where I'm not. I think, oh,
(13:45):
they need to be doing this, and then there's a
part deep inside of me that just wants to do
it for them. But then also I really wanted done right. Okay,
So what is something that you really like doing for
your kids that you know they should probably be able
to do for themselves. Laundry you like to do that?
I love it. It's a problem. I go into the
room and I sneak it. Why I sneak the laundry.
(14:07):
What do you like about laundry? Oh? All of it?
I love. I love my detergent. I love the smell.
I love I don't know. I take it from the
washer to the dry My dog is barking. I don't
know why. I take it from the washer to the dryer.
And then I get to take it out warm and
fold it, and then I get to put it away.
(14:27):
Is it a control thing? I don't know. Yeah, you
gotta dig into that, because laundry is one of my
least favorite things. Oh, I love it. And and the
thing is both of my kids have they know how
to do their own and we've actually added to their
list of chores that they're responsible for. But like I said,
I sneak it. Well, well, laundry. She'll say, like, I
(14:48):
was gonna do my laundry today, but you already did it.
Like I know, such a bad mom. I know. Okay,
well you can do my laundry. I probably would if
we live together, I would, Okay, I honestly would enjoy that.
What kind of like sorting it? You know I do.
I sort everything. I do darks, I do white, I
(15:09):
do towels. And that's the thing with my kids sometimes
they throw everything in together and it drives me. No, no, no, no, no, no,
you don't. Yes, I didn't know. I actually don't tell
me that. I'm not gonna like drive over to your
house and do your laundry for you. I can't. I can't. Oh,
you're asking about detergent, So I'm going to look up
(15:30):
the latest. So my friend Cat, my other friend Cat
Cryo Cat. I have a lot of detergent companies that
I like, but I have if you were to open
up my cabinet, I have the sheets like the I
Love sheets laundry where you put a sheet in and
it's not in a pod like a tide pod. Yeah,
(15:51):
it's really cool. I have probably four different brands of
detergent in my laundry cabinets. Do you have like separate
for owls and then clothes sheet detergent and dinnim Yeah? Okay, okay.
So the one that Cryokat just got me hooked on
is ginger Mango from Method and they don't even sell
(16:13):
it really in the stores anymore. So at least I
have been able to find neither has she and she
loves it, and so I ordered on Amazon. I have
it linked in my Amazon page, which you can find it.
Radio Amy if you want to see any of the
things that I ever talked about, just so you make
sure you're getting the right thing. Earlier this year, Gracie
Molkler was on and we were talking. I was telling
her about my ice cube on the glow Cube, and
(16:37):
I guess people couldn't figure out the right link and
there was a lot of other brands, and I get
that desire of making sure am I ordering the right
one because I don't want to get one that's bad
or not right, and so I'm sure anyone that you
ordered would be fine. But I have the correct glow
Cube up there now and linked, so everything should work.
And some of my Amazon page stuff has been a
(16:57):
little bit wonky. That's probably why the Globe cube wasn't working.
But I think we have it all figured out. It
was definitely a project to get with Amazon and that
and make sure that it was working. But anyway, Mango
ginger or ginger Mango technically is the way you say it.
You use that for your jeans, laundry general, okay, the
(17:17):
brand that where I have like a denim wash. I
think that's the laundress I have myers, I have will Light.
Do you use the dryer balls? No, I don't use
dryer balls or use dryer sheets. I think there's a
ball that you can put in your I don't know,
I'm not I just used whatever is in the closet
and everything is the same, except for I do have
(17:38):
special sheets because I want them to smell good. What
is that the volcano. Is that the candle brandy? You
go high end for the sheets, yeah, and well sheets
and towels. And unless I'm putting towels in with my
other clothes, I don't know that I would want towels here. Like,
some of your towels need to be washed on hot
(18:00):
really in my opinion, Wait, okay, I don't know that
I'm speaking fact. I'm speaking my life rules. Other people
may not abide by this, but in my world, towels
are washed together on hot because because hot kills drums. Okay,
so I have not been killing. And then also if
(18:22):
I wash my white towels and there's little fuzzies that
come off and they get on a black shirt that
I wash it with in my normal clothes, I don't
want the cross contamination. That's fair. That's fair. I think
I just am a little lazy with it because I
hate doing laundry, but you like it, so you're more
(18:44):
tedious with it. Right, So I put the darks on cold.
And then if you do your colors on cold, yes,
colors on cold, white warm. Okay, I need to make
me a chart. Towels are not hot. I mean, I
think it's on the internet. Like this is I don't
know that. I don't know where I could be again,
(19:04):
not a laundry expert here. This is just what I
have always done, and it works for me and it
makes me feel good. You know what I think has
happened to me because my mom made us do our
laundry when you're we were younger. She gave us each
a laundry basket that you're now in charge of doing
your laundry. And I would separate. I didn't really know how,
and also I was very particular as a child. I
separated every single thing. So I've had like one yellow shirt,
(19:27):
I would wash it by itself. If I had like
two green somethings, I would wash them by myself. So
do like twelve loads of laundry that's a waste. Yeah,
Well my mom didn't have to do it, so I
don't think she cared. But I think I got thick
of that and I was like revolting against that. And
now I'm like, put everything together, see what happens. Throw
it all in. Yeah, I that works. I mean you
and my kids if you all want to do that,
(19:48):
But for now, I'm going to keep sneaking in and
doing getting their laundry out of their closet and doing
it real quick and then putting it away and then
being like all good, and then my kids are going
to grow up and not know how to do their laundry.
Didn't mean to go off on that tangent, but let
me tell you Ginger Mango Method brand, get your hands
(20:09):
on some of that cat. Where can people find you
on Instagram at at Cat dot defata and at You
Need Therapy podcast and then you can listen to You
Need Therapy podcast wherever you like to listen to podcasts.
Hit us up on emails for the fifth thing Four
Things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. Or you've
got four Things episode idea or comment or thought, you
(20:31):
can email me there as well at Radio Amy on
Instagram and Radio Amy dot com again for the Amazon
page or links to espoa four Things Gratitude journal which
it's Celsi said she got for Christmas, which I love
that so much. Cat, do you think quickly you could
rattle off four things off the top of your head
that you're thankful for? Yes, um, lodgics, urge it, nice
(20:54):
grocery stores, that things are organized well in Um it's
weird like an organized grocery store, Patrick, your boyfriend Big Patrick,
and saltine crackers. I'm on a like a food jag
with them, Okay, I quickly late July toward chips my
(21:16):
jam right now and since we're talking so much about it,
Ginger mango method, detergent coffee. I love a good I stlatte.
Still here we are in the dead of winter and
I am still drinking ice. I have not switched over
to hots what you like. I like what I like.
And my kids wow, and that they let me do
(21:41):
their laundry. So that's how gratitude works. You can really
like if you think of things, it will snowball into
other things, which then snowball into for me personally, having
perspective about my life and puts me in a better
mood and I'm able to tap into more joy. And
our Four Things Gratitude journal is an amazing tool for gratitude.
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So if that's something you're interested in, it's a great gift.
They're super cute and the best part is it's a
win win purchase because of the proceeds go towards education
in Haiti. So you can hit up four Things dot
com for the journals and then don't forget Franklin Theater
dot com. That will be this Friday that you can
go there at ten am. That's when the tickets will
(22:27):
go on sale for the Live in Nashville. And I
posted about on Instagram the other day and I got
some d m s from people that are coming from
out of town and they were curious about hotels Franklin
versus Nashville and Brentwood is right in between, and there's
some good hotels. They're like, you know, nice hotels. It's
not going to be anything that's like in downtown Nashville.
(22:49):
But I don't really know that you want to be
caught up in that craziness. Quite honestly. You could stay
somewhere that's a little bit outside of downtown and then
get around town by going down to Franklin, and then
if you want to go into Nashville to do whatever,
a downtown Franklin is adorable. So I'm very excited to
be doing it at the Historic Theater there. So tickets
will be this Friday, ten am. Four Things Live in Nashville,
(23:12):
And I hope you all are having the day that
you need to have. Bye Bye,
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