December 12, 2023 • 32 mins
Leanne is back to continue exploring this complex topic of worthiness, diving into the paradox of feeling worthy when you DON'T feel worthy. Once again Leanne talks about the 5 Blocks to God’s love, originally introduced as a 'Self-Imaging' formula, and how these blocks, if not addressed, can hinder your experience of love and worthiness.
This episode focuses on the fourth ingredient and God block: Self-Esteem, where she teaches about understanding Self-Esteem as more than just confidence, but a profound interplay of "knowing, liking, and trusting" yourself.
She explores this concept that most people are walking around very untrusting of themselves, because somewhere along the lines they stopped believing themselves when they made promises to themselves. And this causes them to not only STOP trusting themselves, but to also LOSE respect for themselves, believing themselves less and less the NEXT time they commit to something. And THAT is what damages your Self-Esteem.
She takes you on a deep-dive of how to repair your integrity if you've gotten into the habit of making promises to yourself without actual follow-through. She also shows you how to invite God into this conversation to explore the power of promise-keeping when it comes to restoring your Self-Esteem.
Leanne encourages and invites you to create a new definition of Self-Esteem, only this time around taking your "spiritual integrity" into account and seeking God's perspective on getting back in alignment with yourself WHILE you embrace the concept of taking radical ownership of your own Self-Image...and the spiritual journey towards God-inspired integrity.
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
If you want to go on a journey. If you're skeptical,
don't worry. Not here to preach, going to keep it
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What's that? As well? Sat talking transformation? What's done? Got tato?
Welcome back to what's God got to do with it?
And we are here to continue this series where we
are breaking down this really complex topic of worthiness and
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really what I call the paradox of worthiness because for
a lot of us, feeling worthy when we've never felt worthy, well,
that's really hard and it's really complex and it's not
something that comes naturally. So this is the fifth episode
in this series where on the first episode we broke
down what I call the five blocks to God's love
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and how I discovered that for me when it came
to actually feeling worthy of being loved and not feeling
like I had to earn it or when I'm this
or when I do that, then I'll be lovable, like
not that kind of lovable, I mean loved right now
as I am, and like thinking of it, like that
was a really hard concept for me to grasp it first,
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and it's almost like something was blocking me from receiving it.
But as I shared, God wasn't blocking me, and my
circumstances weren't blocking me. I was the one blocking me,
obviously not intentionally, but my thoughts and perception of myself
that's what was blocking what was already available to me.
And that's why I now call them God blocks, because
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if you're blocking them, it feels like that love is
not even there. So on one side of the coin,
these five things they can be kind of like a recipe,
these magic ingredients that add up to this recipe for worthiness.
But those same things, if you're not aware of it,
and if you stay blocked by them, they will literally
block you from feeling loved and feeling that worthiness. But also,
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like I shared in other episodes, those blocks were the
perfect place for me to just invite God in and
ask him to help me. And I just asked him
to meet me there and help me unblock what was
blocking me and remove anything or really unlearn any lie
that was not coming from him. And that's why I
believe it's so important to recognize your own blocks and
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identify you know, what's keeping you from feeling the love
that's available to you right now, and what's keeping you
from feeling like you're worthy of receiving love and worthy
of being taken care of or valued beyond you know
the size of your genes or bank balance or relationship status,
whatever it is that we value ourselves by, right, And
that's why I'm so excited to keep this conversation going,
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because awareness is truly enough to start that transformation and
create those new neural pathways. So back in episode thirteen,
Removing the Blocks to Self Acceptance, we talked about how
to accept yourself when all you've ever really known is
self rejection or self criticism or shaming yourself. In episode fourteen,
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we talked about health and self care with God's support
and how to remove that if it's a block. And
then last week we talked about how to find your
own self worth if all you've ever known is only
feeling worthy if you weigh a certain amount or achieve
a certain type of success, or measure up to standards
that you probably never even created. So if you missed
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those episodes, definitely go back and check those out. But
just like we did for self acceptance and for health
and self care and for self worth. What I'm gonna
do is show you this next ingredient and the god
block side of it from three different viewpoints. So first,
I'm going to walk you through, as you know, one
of the five ingredients that becomes kind of like like
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I mentioned part of this recipe for worthiness. But then
we'll share how that same ingredient, that same thing can
actually be a god block if you are if you
obviously don't feel worthy of receiving it. And then of
course we'll take a look at what God has to
say about it. So let's dive on in and let's
take a look at the fourth ingredient to your self
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image and worthiness and the fourth god block, which is
self esteem. But first I want to clarify what I
even mean when I say self esteem, because I can
almost guarantee that I'm not using it in the way
that you might have learned it, or that the way
you might think self esteem means. So I know, for me,
I used to think that self esteem simply meant how
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confident I was in myself, but that didn't always feel
very tangible to me, And for me, it was like, well,
how do I magically feel confident in myself when I
don't feel confident right as in, you're learning that that's
the paradox of confidence, in the paradox of self esteem.
But when I broke confidence and self esteem into understanding
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what I call like the no like trust factor of yourself,
it made so much sense and it finally felt like
something I could wrap my hands around and actually do
something about. So that's why I want to first and
foremost just kind of flip it over to you. Do
you feel like you know like and trust yourself? And
the trust factor is the big piece of the puzzle,
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because I found that most people are walking around feeling
very untrusting of themselves because somewhere along the lines, they
stopped believing themselves when they made promises to themselves. So
for example, when we say things like, oh, you know,
this time is going to be different, or Okay, I'm
going to start fresh and this time I'm going to
see it through, or we say like, okay, I'm going
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to do X, Y, and Z one hundred percent this week,
but maybe we add more things to our already maxed
out to do list that we didn't get checked off
the last week. Or the week before that. But we
think that making a list is better than just not
committing to anything. Right. So this was me for so
many years until I finally became aware of it and
addressed it, and I realized that bottom line, I didn't
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believe a word I was saying to myself. Right, so
to other people, absolutely, I prided myself on keeping promises
and commitments to other people, but to myself, no way.
I didn't trust myself to actually follow through on my
word and when I would make, you know, these commitments,
and in turn, I was losing respect for myself little
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by little every single time I made a promise and
didn't follow through. And that's because I would keep making
these open ended promises to myself, but I didn't take
the time and the intention to go upgrade my self
esteem alongside it, like we're talking about today. And what
happened was somewhere along the lines, I completely lost all
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tr trust in myself, but I didn't even know it,
and I was crushing my self esteem as a result.
And so I see this happen all the time and
the work I do with my clients, because just like
I hadn't when they come to me they'd never done
the work on their self esteem, and so you know,
in turn, they were basically just in the habit of
making promises that they didn't want to make. Or maybe
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they were just in the habit of making promises that
they didn't want to keep right keeping it felt like
a threat or too much, or they didn't like it,
or they were just in the habit of making promises
that they couldn't keep. Like they maybe their promises or
their commitments were too grandiose or impossible to stick with
in the long run. And if you think about it,
I mean, the whole I'll start again on Monday mantra
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kind of loses its meaning and its strength every time
you start something only not to finish it, and you
trust yourself less and less. The next time you go
make a promise to yourself that you know air quotes,
this time it's going to be different, because really what's
happening is your brain secretly knows that it's not going
to be different, because nothing on the inside has changed
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since the last time you said that or the last
time you made that promise. And this creates a vicious cycle,
and that vicious cycle continues, and so now instead of
having a relationship with yourself of trust and confidence and
reliance on yourself, aka you know that self esteem factor,
the no like trust factor. Now you've entered into a
relationship with yourself where all of those things are negotiable. Okay.
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Now I want to take a minute and talk about
I said reliance on self. And obviously we talked about
that double edged sort of having too much self reliance,
so we'll talk about that in a minute. But what
I mean when I say reliance on yourself is like
relying on yourself to follow through on your word. Okay,
So I wanted to make that distinction. But when you
are in this relationship with yourself where all of these
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things are negotiable, right, When that's the case, your self
esteem and your trust in yourself have also become negotiable, okay,
and your self image knows it right. And so when
it comes to up leveling and rewiring your self image,
it has to become a matter of understanding the no
like trust factor of yourself and what it would take
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to upgrade it and earn back your own trust and
make certain elements of your life and especially your word
non negotiable. Okay. But when it comes to your self trust,
you have to go earn it back because it doesn't
just magically appear because you become aware of it. And
remember that this bears repeating every time you commit to
something that you know you aren't going to follow through on,
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or that you can't follow through on, or it ends
up going into that category of failure or something that
you maybe tried a bunch of times and didn't work out.
That is not benign, okay, because what happens is you
end up trusting yourself less and less every single time
that happens, and it's actually harming your self esteem and
that self trust and that self respect factor. And that's
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why it's so important to end that cycle and earn
your own trust back. And essentially you have have to
earn your own respect back too, like we're talking about,
because when you lose trust in yourself, you better believe
that you're losing respect for yourself too. So one of
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the biggest things I hear from clients before they set
out to do the work that we come to do
together is that you know they'll start a new planner program.
This is what you know their life was like for
sometimes their whole life for decades, but they'll start a
new planner program and on the surface, you know, they're
gung ho, they're super motivated, and they're ready to take
it by the reins that they feel like they're deeply
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committed and they're hoping but you know, secretly praying that
this time really will be different, like that this will
be the thing that will change everything for them. But
what's happening is secretly, in the back of their mind,
they are waiting for it to fail. You know, maybe
they're actually even outright expecting it to fail because they
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know in their heart of hearts that even though you know,
the plan or the program itself might be different, they
know deep down that they haven't changed, and that they
haven't gotten their mind and their heart and their brain
really aligned in a way that would cause things to
be different. And so specifically, they haven't addressed this self
esteem problem, right, so that self trust factor that's now
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working against them. And so I see it all the time,
you know, pretty much, you know, more times than not,
women come to me and their self esteem is totally shot,
right because time and time again they've witnessed themselves starting, stopping, starting, quitting, starting,
and saying oh forget it, you know, because they get
so frustrated or disgruntled that by the time they've come
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to me, they're at a point where they don't believe
a word they say when they say things like Okay,
this time it's going to be different, or this time
I'm for real, because in reality, you know, again, they've
witnessed themselves time after time making promises to themselves that
they don't keep, or can't keep, or don't even want
to keep. And so not only do they not believe
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a word they say when they make promises to themselves,
but on top of that, they believe themselves less and
less the next time they go make a new promise
or a new commitment or a new declaration. And you
can see how this feels like Groundhog's Day. Like the
next time you go to make a promise, and you're like, okay,
I'm gonna do this, Yeah, this is gonna be different,
But secretly, in the back of your mind, you know
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it's not. Because every time this happens, your self esteem
bank account it's like chronically overdrawn. There's nothing left. You
have no trust or belief left in yourself. And so
that's what I mean when I say it's a self
esteem thing. Okay, but you know, and I know these
things can be really frustrating or sometimes disheartening, but that's
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a really great problem to have because addressing your self
esteem and all of these things that we're talking about
within your self image, it's totally you know, treatable and transformable,
and it's something that you can transform almost immediately with
the right tools and the right strategies. But you know, unfortunately,
and I hate to say this, most people don't do this.
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They don't because it's not the sexy part of transformation, right.
We want to you know, lose ten pounds and ten
minutes or make one hundred thousand dollars in you know,
ten seconds. And you know, so what happens is a
lot of people just commit to the next planner program
or the next kind of shiny short term solution, our
band aid and never address the real problem. Unfortunately, if
we're just being real, and they don't address all the
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other stuff that's bogging them down and bringing them down
and weighing them down. And this is the sort of
thing that most people skip or just don't even think about.
And so, you know, pretty much the number one thing
I have to work on with my clients, and I
have a feeling it's a big thing for you too,
is this self trust factor and earning it back, earning
back your own respect. Now, I do just want to mention,
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just as it is for all of these ingredients in
God blocks, this is not easy. I just want to
acknowledge it. It's simple, but it's not easy. And for
all a lot of us, we're talking about decades of
patterns and tens of thousands of patterns that we're trying
to unwire and rewire here. And if you've been losing
trust in yourself or not falling through on your promises
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to yourself for a long time, that doesn't just go
away in a day or by listening to this podcast.
I wish it did. Right. In fact, all of my clients,
they really invest a good amount of time and energy
just working on the self esteem factor and their recipe
for earning back their own trust because just like you,
they you know, they can't use a cookie cutter, one
size fits all approach. We all really need to figure
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out what this looks like for our own lives, our
own needs, you know, our shortcomings too, because that's that's
a relevant factor. And so just keep in mind today
I'm just here planting these seeds in your brain. Okay,
but if I were to give you a bit of
a high level overview or shortcut, this is what I
would want you to know and just really receive from
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what you're listening to. Okay, First things First, you need
to become a better promise maker, and then the second
part of it is being a better promise keeper. So
let's take a look at those. Let's take a look
at the first thing, the promise making side of it. Okay,
so the first step here is awareness, and again, just
just becoming aware of this is enough to start creating
those shifts. So, first and foremost, where are you making
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promises that you don't really know that you can keep
or you don't really feel committed to sticking with but
you're making them because you think you should or it
feels better than doing nothing. And if you're in that
kind of camp, that's definitely a promise making problem. But
also in the promise making side of things, where are
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you making those big, like massive, grandiose promises They are
not realistic, right, or maybe they're just so vague or
unclear that you can't keep them because you kind of
don't even know what you're keeping, right, So, for example,
saying things like I'm never going to have sugar again.
I hear women say that all the time. I'm never
going to have sugar again, And it's super big, super grandiose,
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and really, do you want to stick with that? Like
do you want to have a life where you can
never ever eat sugar again? Right? And of course that's
a subject all in its own, but that's just one
example of the big, grandiose side of it. But on
the vague side of promise making you know again, another
example that I hear. Obviously, I work with women that
are in a food and body prison, so a lot
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of my examples are related to that. But this is
just for the sake of this podcast episode. You know,
the example of Okay, I'm going to start exercising every
day or I'm going to go to the gym every day.
I hear that, Like, that's things that women come to
me and they're like, I said, that's you know, a
hundred times to myself, Leanne and never never did it, right,
But part of it is like it's so vague, it's
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not specific, it's not precise, it's so unclear. And when
you make a promise like that, if you haven't addressed
the mental emotional barriers that have kept you from following
through on that same thing the other hundred times you
committed to that very same thing. Then again, if it's
too grandiose, too big, too vague, that's a promise making problem, right.
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And again, think of this like a skill set, like, Okay,
how can I up level the skill of being a
better promise maker? Really thinking of it like that, rather
than taking it so personally shaming yourself for it and
giving yourself all of that kind of self rejection alongside it,
We're really just looking at this as data on the
promise making side of it too. Where do you find
yourself making promises that you either can't keep, you don't
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want to keep them, or maybe you don't know how
to keep them? Right? So, again, there's some crossover from
what we were just talking about in the other promise
making sides of things. Right. But if you can't follow
through on it, or you don't want to, or you
don't know how, I invite you not to make the promise,
because that is also a promise making problem, and you'll
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keep harming your self esteem. Okay, and again remember this
is just high level overview nutshell stuff and this goes
way beyond the scope of this episode. But I just
want to get the wheels turning for you. So let's
talk about the promise keeping side of it. Now, this
one is super simple, but it is definitely not easy.
And that's where this is where we have to get introspective.
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We have to hold the mirror up to ourselves. So
for you, I'm inviting you to ask no shame, but
where has your word become a bit negotiable for lack
of a better way of saying it, like, where is
it an integrity gap or simply you're not honoring your word?
And this is a perfect time to invite God into
this conversation, because if becoming the version of you that
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actually follows through on commitments and follows through on promises
that you make to yourself and really this idea of
earning back your own trust and really improving your self esteem,
if that feels like too big of a stretch for you,
then that is what I mean when I say that
the same ingredient to creating your self esteem in the
eyes of love and worthiness and a really whole and
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complete self image, that same ingredient is actually going to
act as a block, okay, And as you're learning, it's
a block to God's view of your value and God's
view of your worth because you're going to assume that
it's not there, because if you are not valuing yourself
and trusting yourself and respecting yourself, you almost like assume
that of everyone else, including God. Right, So coming back
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to this idea of where has your word become a
bit negotiable? Like where is it an integrity gap? Or
you simply are not honoring your word? So coming back
to this idea of where has your word become a
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bit negotiable? Like where is it an integrity gap or
you simply are not honoring your word? So let's take
a look at Matthew five thirty seven. And there's actually
two versions I want to refer to. One is from
the new King James version, where it says, but let
your yes b yes, and your no no for whatever
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is more than these is from the Evil one. Okay,
so let your yes bs and your no no now.
From the NIV version, the New International version, it says
same scripture, but this version says, all you need to
say is simply yes or no. Anything beyond this comes
from the evil one. All you need to say is
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simply yes or no. And so it's another way of
saying commit or don't write. And when it talks about
the evil one first and foremost, that's the out of integrity,
secretly judging yourself like kind of evil in my opinion, Right,
that's one way of looking at it, right, But it's
also a form of dishonesty, even if it's to yourself,
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like if you're lying to yourself, and that's kind of
what I mean by taking a look in the mirror,
No shame, but like, where are you lying to yourself?
Like at the end of the day, that's kind of
the very simple way of saying it. Where are you
out of integrity? Because you are straight up being dishonest
with yourself. Verse from Matthew five thirty three says, again
you have heard that it was said to the people
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long ago. Do not break your oath, but fulfill to
the Lord the vows you have made. And I love
how it even uses the word vow. When you up
level your word and let it be a vow, you
are going to be so much more mindful about making
and keeping those promises when you think of it like
a vow to yourself, right versus just like psh, I
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don't care, I'll say it. It makes me feel better
than not doing anything, or makes me feel better than
just sitting on my couch or ignoring it. But again,
it's not benign. And I know for me that when
I simply looked at honoring my word as a way
of honoring God, it changed everything. But on the flip side,
when you look at it like dishonoring your word or
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moving out of integrity, it's kind of like it's dishonoring God. Right,
not to mention again it harms your self esteem. Okay,
So from Ecclesiastes five four through seven, it says, when
you make a vow to God, do not delay to
fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools. Fulfill your vow.
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It is better not to make a vow than to
make one and not fulfill it. Do not let your
mouth lead you into sin. It says, it is better
not to make a vow than to make one and
not fulfill it. And I love this because it literally
forces you to take a look at your words and
look at it like you're making a vow to God
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and not delay to fulfill it. Like if you're gonna
say it, then actually follow through on it, or don't
don't say it, right, And it literally goes on to
say it's better to not make the vow than to
make one and not fulfill it. And it goes on
to say, don't let your mouth lead you into sin, okay.
In other words, don't let your promises or lack of
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promises kept lead you into sin and lead you out
of integrity with yourself, because again it's not benign. You're
judging yourself every time you do it, and I mean
it with so much love. And that's where it's like
the God that I know, he doesn't want you judging yourself.
He wants you loving yourself and feeling worthy of receiving.
That's the abundance that's available to you. And now you
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can see how again this can be an ingredient and
a block. Okay. And speaking of integrity, proverbs really hits
home on this idea of integrity, which the word nerded
me wants you to know that integrity literally means innocence
or blamelessness, which might I add as the opposite of shame, right,
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But integrity also means moral principle and character. So integrity
is everything for your character, Like how much do you
trust or respect yourself if you have no integrity? Right?
And you're listening to this because you want to be
a person of character and so this is everything, right.
So I just want to point out that Proverbs actually
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mentions that we're integrity a lot. Okay, so Proverbs ten
to nine. This is the NIV version. A lot of
what I share is the NIV version, but there's obviously
so many different versions. But it says whoever walks in
integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be
found out. And to me, it's like, I'm inviting you
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to find yourself out, Like, let integrity be something that's
really important to you, so that you can, in the
words of God, walk securely, right and noticing when you're
out of integrity. It's again there's a there's not a
thing where it's like, hey, you should shame yourself, but
it's calling it a crooked path, right, And we're talking
about living in integrity, being of character, and so I
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think those words are just really powerful looking at it
like a crooked path. Right. Proverbs eleven three says, the
integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are
destroyed by their duplicity. Okay, Duplicity is an interesting word, right,
And to me it just is a reminder of saying
one thing and doing another, and it doesn't have a
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lovely connotation, right, So these are it just reminds me
of like this integrity thing. The opposite of integrity is
duplicity in many ways, right, And so it actually mentions
that word integrity in so many other verses in Proverbs.
But I think you're getting the point right, bottom line, though,
what if your self esteem was not about seeking confidence
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or esteem from the world or from others or like
you originally thought self esteem was defined. But what if
it was about earning back your own trust and earning
back your own respect and getting back in alignment and
in integrity and living the way that God designed for
you in that respect. And that's why I simply invite
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you to take a mental inventory and just ask yourself,
where have you lost total trust for yourself and in
turn lost respect for yourself? And where has your word
and your commitments become negotiable, Like where are you out
of integrity? Okay? And again I am not here to
shame you. There's nothing bad or wrong about any of this.
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You're human. This is the human part of you. But
here's the big distinction, Like the problem that's going to
arise for you when you try to look at all
that external stuff for your self esteem and confidence, but
you totally ignore the part of yourself that's truly going
to make you feel that way and earning back your
own trust and respect. And so what if instead of
all of that and all of the worldly stuff that
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you're trying to gain for confidence and self esteem, you
went and earned back your own trust and your own respect, right,
and got back in integrity, restored what you feel like
would be like the character side of you. And that's
why I'm so adamant about talking about this because most
people have never taken a look at this part of themselves. Right.
And so again, where have you lost trust? Respect? Where
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have your commitments become negotiable? Where's your word become negotiable?
No shame, no judgment. This was me for so much
of my life for the record, right until I discovered
stuff like this. But when we don't respect and trust ourselves,
we will block that value and respect from others and
actively block the value and worth that's available to us
and that God sees in us and wants us to have,
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Like God wants us to have that respect for ourselves
and that trust. Right, and I promise when it comes
to your self image, your self image knows, right like
the value in God's eyes and how much he respects you.
Your self image knows when you're blocking that right, and
there's a way to connect with his version of how
he sees you. But if you don't identify where you're
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currently out of integrity, the other side of it is
you will most likely be walking around feeling ashamed of yourself. Right.
And again, if earning back your own respect and trust
feels like too big of a stretch, this is where
this is going to be. That same ingredient is also
a God block, Okay, And so again, what if your
self esteem was not about seeking confidence from others or
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from the world or for whatever you know you originally
thought you needed for self esteem, but it was really
now entering into this conversation of earning back your own trust,
your respect, you know, getting back in alignment and in
integrity and living the way that God designed for you
in that respect, right, And this is a great place
to ask God to meet you there and even borrow
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his eyes, right because again, the God that I know,
he loves you. He wants you to know how valuable
and lovable and worthy you are right now, okay, But
also the God I know would have so much love
and compassion if you are struggling with this when it
comes to trusting and respecting yourself. And I truly believe
He's just calling us into greater levels of character and integrity.
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That's the way I look at it. I look at
it like, Okay, He's just inviting me into this next level,
not shaming me into it, just inviting me being like, hey,
I see the bigger version of you. I'm here to
meet you there. But this is also again I want
to remind you that hyper dependency on self. Yeah, we
want to take intelligent action, we want to influence this.
But also what if this is where you let God
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in and you surrendered this to God too, and surrendered
the idea that you don't have to carry this burden
of healing this all on your own. And so you know, yes,
we have to put in the work because if we
want to be different, we got to do differently. Right,
But when it comes to the side where this is
where when it comes to like your own trust and respect,
Like if that's a God block or a spiritual block,
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that's where you know, I want to keep watering that
seed that I planted in your brain really back in
the first episode of the series, Like, what if that
God block wasn't yours to break through? And that's where
you really invited God into it. Yes, it's your responsibility,
but it's also not fully your responsibility because you could
rely on God to come in and fill in those
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gaps for you and ask you to meet you there
and show you where you don't have total trust and
respect for yourself, and where your word and your commitments
have become negotiable, and where you're out of integrity. And
so just to make it super simple, what if it
was as simple as praying something like, Hey, God, you know,
please show me where I'm out of integrity and I
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need to earn back my own trust and God, please
show me what integrity looks like through your eyes. Right,
And just I love that prayer because you know, again
the first half where you say, God, please show me
where I'm out of integrity and need to earn back
my own trust, you're asking for revelation and wisdom of
the part of you that you're trying to transform. And
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in the second half, where you say, God, please show
me what integrity looks like through your eyes, you're asking
for a new view and a new belief and in turn,
a new identity. Right, And I'm telling you again, if
you pray this over and over again, he will show
you right. And remember what we give air to, attention, intention, repetition,
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It becomes part of us if we practice it, and
that's why we must practice and we must renew our mind.
So that's my invitation to you, right like the prayer, God,
please please show me where I'm out of integrity, where
I need to earn back my own trust, and please
show me what integrity looks like through your eyes. So
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that's it. That's the invitation to try on this new story,
this new perspective, and just see how it feels, but
also see how it changes how you show up in
your life. Okay, So that's it for this fourth ingredient
and the fourth God block, and we're going to be
back next week to talk about the final ingredient, the
Final God Block, which is all about trading up and
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exchanging external judgments for your God given value. So I
will talk to you then we'll be back with more
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What's that? As well? Sat talking transformation? What's done? Got tato?
Welcome back to what's God got to do with it?
And we are here to continue this series where we
are breaking down this really complex topic of worthiness and
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really what I call the paradox of worthiness because for
a lot of us, feeling worthy when we've never felt worthy, well,
that's really hard and it's really complex and it's not
something that comes naturally. So this is the fifth episode
in this series where on the first episode we broke
down what I call the five blocks to God's love
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and how I discovered that for me when it came
to actually feeling worthy of being loved and not feeling
like I had to earn it or when I'm this
or when I do that, then I'll be lovable, like
not that kind of lovable, I mean loved right now
as I am, and like thinking of it, like that
was a really hard concept for me to grasp it first,
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and it's almost like something was blocking me from receiving it.
But as I shared, God wasn't blocking me, and my
circumstances weren't blocking me. I was the one blocking me,
obviously not intentionally, but my thoughts and perception of myself
that's what was blocking what was already available to me.
And that's why I now call them God blocks, because
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if you're blocking them, it feels like that love is
not even there. So on one side of the coin,
these five things they can be kind of like a recipe,
these magic ingredients that add up to this recipe for worthiness.
But those same things, if you're not aware of it,
and if you stay blocked by them, they will literally
block you from feeling loved and feeling that worthiness. But also,
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like I shared in other episodes, those blocks were the
perfect place for me to just invite God in and
ask him to help me. And I just asked him
to meet me there and help me unblock what was
blocking me and remove anything or really unlearn any lie
that was not coming from him. And that's why I
believe it's so important to recognize your own blocks and
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identify you know, what's keeping you from feeling the love
that's available to you right now, and what's keeping you
from feeling like you're worthy of receiving love and worthy
of being taken care of or valued beyond you know
the size of your genes or bank balance or relationship status,
whatever it is that we value ourselves by, right, And
that's why I'm so excited to keep this conversation going,
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because awareness is truly enough to start that transformation and
create those new neural pathways. So back in episode thirteen,
Removing the Blocks to Self Acceptance, we talked about how
to accept yourself when all you've ever really known is
self rejection or self criticism or shaming yourself. In episode fourteen,
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we talked about health and self care with God's support
and how to remove that if it's a block. And
then last week we talked about how to find your
own self worth if all you've ever known is only
feeling worthy if you weigh a certain amount or achieve
a certain type of success, or measure up to standards
that you probably never even created. So if you missed
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those episodes, definitely go back and check those out. But
just like we did for self acceptance and for health
and self care and for self worth. What I'm gonna
do is show you this next ingredient and the god
block side of it from three different viewpoints. So first,
I'm going to walk you through, as you know, one
of the five ingredients that becomes kind of like like
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I mentioned part of this recipe for worthiness. But then
we'll share how that same ingredient, that same thing can
actually be a god block if you are if you
obviously don't feel worthy of receiving it. And then of
course we'll take a look at what God has to
say about it. So let's dive on in and let's
take a look at the fourth ingredient to your self
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image and worthiness and the fourth god block, which is
self esteem. But first I want to clarify what I
even mean when I say self esteem, because I can
almost guarantee that I'm not using it in the way
that you might have learned it, or that the way
you might think self esteem means. So I know, for me,
I used to think that self esteem simply meant how
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confident I was in myself, but that didn't always feel
very tangible to me, And for me, it was like, well,
how do I magically feel confident in myself when I
don't feel confident right as in, you're learning that that's
the paradox of confidence, in the paradox of self esteem.
But when I broke confidence and self esteem into understanding
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what I call like the no like trust factor of yourself,
it made so much sense and it finally felt like
something I could wrap my hands around and actually do
something about. So that's why I want to first and
foremost just kind of flip it over to you. Do
you feel like you know like and trust yourself? And
the trust factor is the big piece of the puzzle,
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because I found that most people are walking around feeling
very untrusting of themselves because somewhere along the lines, they
stopped believing themselves when they made promises to themselves. So
for example, when we say things like, oh, you know,
this time is going to be different, or Okay, I'm
going to start fresh and this time I'm going to
see it through, or we say like, okay, I'm going
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to do X, Y, and Z one hundred percent this week,
but maybe we add more things to our already maxed
out to do list that we didn't get checked off
the last week. Or the week before that. But we
think that making a list is better than just not
committing to anything. Right. So this was me for so
many years until I finally became aware of it and
addressed it, and I realized that bottom line, I didn't
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believe a word I was saying to myself. Right, so
to other people, absolutely, I prided myself on keeping promises
and commitments to other people, but to myself, no way.
I didn't trust myself to actually follow through on my
word and when I would make, you know, these commitments,
and in turn, I was losing respect for myself little
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by little every single time I made a promise and
didn't follow through. And that's because I would keep making
these open ended promises to myself, but I didn't take
the time and the intention to go upgrade my self
esteem alongside it, like we're talking about today. And what
happened was somewhere along the lines, I completely lost all
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tr trust in myself, but I didn't even know it,
and I was crushing my self esteem as a result.
And so I see this happen all the time and
the work I do with my clients, because just like
I hadn't when they come to me they'd never done
the work on their self esteem, and so you know,
in turn, they were basically just in the habit of
making promises that they didn't want to make. Or maybe
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they were just in the habit of making promises that
they didn't want to keep right keeping it felt like
a threat or too much, or they didn't like it,
or they were just in the habit of making promises
that they couldn't keep. Like they maybe their promises or
their commitments were too grandiose or impossible to stick with
in the long run. And if you think about it,
I mean, the whole I'll start again on Monday mantra
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kind of loses its meaning and its strength every time
you start something only not to finish it, and you
trust yourself less and less. The next time you go
make a promise to yourself that you know air quotes,
this time it's going to be different, because really what's
happening is your brain secretly knows that it's not going
to be different, because nothing on the inside has changed
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since the last time you said that or the last
time you made that promise. And this creates a vicious cycle,
and that vicious cycle continues, and so now instead of
having a relationship with yourself of trust and confidence and
reliance on yourself, aka you know that self esteem factor,
the no like trust factor. Now you've entered into a
relationship with yourself where all of those things are negotiable. Okay.
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Now I want to take a minute and talk about
I said reliance on self. And obviously we talked about
that double edged sort of having too much self reliance,
so we'll talk about that in a minute. But what
I mean when I say reliance on yourself is like
relying on yourself to follow through on your word. Okay,
So I wanted to make that distinction. But when you
are in this relationship with yourself where all of these
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things are negotiable, right, When that's the case, your self
esteem and your trust in yourself have also become negotiable, okay,
and your self image knows it right. And so when
it comes to up leveling and rewiring your self image,
it has to become a matter of understanding the no
like trust factor of yourself and what it would take
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to upgrade it and earn back your own trust and
make certain elements of your life and especially your word
non negotiable. Okay. But when it comes to your self trust,
you have to go earn it back because it doesn't
just magically appear because you become aware of it. And
remember that this bears repeating every time you commit to
something that you know you aren't going to follow through on,
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or that you can't follow through on, or it ends
up going into that category of failure or something that
you maybe tried a bunch of times and didn't work out.
That is not benign, okay, because what happens is you
end up trusting yourself less and less every single time
that happens, and it's actually harming your self esteem and
that self trust and that self respect factor. And that's
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why it's so important to end that cycle and earn
your own trust back. And essentially you have have to
earn your own respect back too, like we're talking about,
because when you lose trust in yourself, you better believe
that you're losing respect for yourself too. So one of
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the biggest things I hear from clients before they set
out to do the work that we come to do
together is that you know they'll start a new planner program.
This is what you know their life was like for
sometimes their whole life for decades, but they'll start a
new planner program and on the surface, you know, they're
gung ho, they're super motivated, and they're ready to take
it by the reins that they feel like they're deeply
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committed and they're hoping but you know, secretly praying that
this time really will be different, like that this will
be the thing that will change everything for them. But
what's happening is secretly, in the back of their mind,
they are waiting for it to fail. You know, maybe
they're actually even outright expecting it to fail because they
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know in their heart of hearts that even though you know,
the plan or the program itself might be different, they
know deep down that they haven't changed, and that they
haven't gotten their mind and their heart and their brain
really aligned in a way that would cause things to
be different. And so specifically, they haven't addressed this self
esteem problem, right, so that self trust factor that's now
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working against them. And so I see it all the time,
you know, pretty much, you know, more times than not,
women come to me and their self esteem is totally shot,
right because time and time again they've witnessed themselves starting, stopping, starting, quitting, starting,
and saying oh forget it, you know, because they get
so frustrated or disgruntled that by the time they've come
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to me, they're at a point where they don't believe
a word they say when they say things like Okay,
this time it's going to be different, or this time
I'm for real, because in reality, you know, again, they've
witnessed themselves time after time making promises to themselves that
they don't keep, or can't keep, or don't even want
to keep. And so not only do they not believe
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a word they say when they make promises to themselves,
but on top of that, they believe themselves less and
less the next time they go make a new promise
or a new commitment or a new declaration. And you
can see how this feels like Groundhog's Day. Like the
next time you go to make a promise, and you're like, okay,
I'm gonna do this, Yeah, this is gonna be different,
But secretly, in the back of your mind, you know
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it's not. Because every time this happens, your self esteem
bank account it's like chronically overdrawn. There's nothing left. You
have no trust or belief left in yourself. And so
that's what I mean when I say it's a self
esteem thing. Okay, but you know, and I know these
things can be really frustrating or sometimes disheartening, but that's
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a really great problem to have because addressing your self
esteem and all of these things that we're talking about
within your self image, it's totally you know, treatable and transformable,
and it's something that you can transform almost immediately with
the right tools and the right strategies. But you know, unfortunately,
and I hate to say this, most people don't do this.
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They don't because it's not the sexy part of transformation, right.
We want to you know, lose ten pounds and ten
minutes or make one hundred thousand dollars in you know,
ten seconds. And you know, so what happens is a
lot of people just commit to the next planner program
or the next kind of shiny short term solution, our
band aid and never address the real problem. Unfortunately, if
we're just being real, and they don't address all the
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other stuff that's bogging them down and bringing them down
and weighing them down. And this is the sort of
thing that most people skip or just don't even think about.
And so, you know, pretty much the number one thing
I have to work on with my clients, and I
have a feeling it's a big thing for you too,
is this self trust factor and earning it back, earning
back your own respect. Now, I do just want to mention,
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just as it is for all of these ingredients in
God blocks, this is not easy. I just want to
acknowledge it. It's simple, but it's not easy. And for
all a lot of us, we're talking about decades of
patterns and tens of thousands of patterns that we're trying
to unwire and rewire here. And if you've been losing
trust in yourself or not falling through on your promises
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to yourself for a long time, that doesn't just go
away in a day or by listening to this podcast.
I wish it did. Right. In fact, all of my clients,
they really invest a good amount of time and energy
just working on the self esteem factor and their recipe
for earning back their own trust because just like you,
they you know, they can't use a cookie cutter, one
size fits all approach. We all really need to figure
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out what this looks like for our own lives, our
own needs, you know, our shortcomings too, because that's that's
a relevant factor. And so just keep in mind today
I'm just here planting these seeds in your brain. Okay,
but if I were to give you a bit of
a high level overview or shortcut, this is what I
would want you to know and just really receive from
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what you're listening to. Okay, First things First, you need
to become a better promise maker, and then the second
part of it is being a better promise keeper. So
let's take a look at those. Let's take a look
at the first thing, the promise making side of it. Okay,
so the first step here is awareness, and again, just
just becoming aware of this is enough to start creating
those shifts. So, first and foremost, where are you making
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promises that you don't really know that you can keep
or you don't really feel committed to sticking with but
you're making them because you think you should or it
feels better than doing nothing. And if you're in that
kind of camp, that's definitely a promise making problem. But
also in the promise making side of things, where are
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you making those big, like massive, grandiose promises They are
not realistic, right, or maybe they're just so vague or
unclear that you can't keep them because you kind of
don't even know what you're keeping, right, So, for example,
saying things like I'm never going to have sugar again.
I hear women say that all the time. I'm never
going to have sugar again, And it's super big, super grandiose,
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and really, do you want to stick with that? Like
do you want to have a life where you can
never ever eat sugar again? Right? And of course that's
a subject all in its own, but that's just one
example of the big, grandiose side of it. But on
the vague side of promise making you know again, another
example that I hear. Obviously, I work with women that
are in a food and body prison, so a lot
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of my examples are related to that. But this is
just for the sake of this podcast episode. You know,
the example of Okay, I'm going to start exercising every
day or I'm going to go to the gym every day.
I hear that, Like, that's things that women come to
me and they're like, I said, that's you know, a
hundred times to myself, Leanne and never never did it, right,
But part of it is like it's so vague, it's
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not specific, it's not precise, it's so unclear. And when
you make a promise like that, if you haven't addressed
the mental emotional barriers that have kept you from following
through on that same thing the other hundred times you
committed to that very same thing. Then again, if it's
too grandiose, too big, too vague, that's a promise making problem, right.
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And again, think of this like a skill set, like, Okay,
how can I up level the skill of being a
better promise maker? Really thinking of it like that, rather
than taking it so personally shaming yourself for it and
giving yourself all of that kind of self rejection alongside it,
We're really just looking at this as data on the
promise making side of it too. Where do you find
yourself making promises that you either can't keep, you don't
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want to keep them, or maybe you don't know how
to keep them? Right? So, again, there's some crossover from
what we were just talking about in the other promise
making sides of things. Right. But if you can't follow
through on it, or you don't want to, or you
don't know how, I invite you not to make the promise,
because that is also a promise making problem, and you'll
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keep harming your self esteem. Okay, and again remember this
is just high level overview nutshell stuff and this goes
way beyond the scope of this episode. But I just
want to get the wheels turning for you. So let's
talk about the promise keeping side of it. Now, this
one is super simple, but it is definitely not easy.
And that's where this is where we have to get introspective.
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We have to hold the mirror up to ourselves. So
for you, I'm inviting you to ask no shame, but
where has your word become a bit negotiable for lack
of a better way of saying it, like, where is
it an integrity gap or simply you're not honoring your word?
And this is a perfect time to invite God into
this conversation, because if becoming the version of you that
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actually follows through on commitments and follows through on promises
that you make to yourself and really this idea of
earning back your own trust and really improving your self esteem,
if that feels like too big of a stretch for you,
then that is what I mean when I say that
the same ingredient to creating your self esteem in the
eyes of love and worthiness and a really whole and
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complete self image, that same ingredient is actually going to
act as a block, okay, And as you're learning, it's
a block to God's view of your value and God's
view of your worth because you're going to assume that
it's not there, because if you are not valuing yourself
and trusting yourself and respecting yourself, you almost like assume
that of everyone else, including God. Right, So coming back
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to this idea of where has your word become a
bit negotiable? Like where is it an integrity gap? Or
you simply are not honoring your word? So coming back
to this idea of where has your word become a
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bit negotiable? Like where is it an integrity gap or
you simply are not honoring your word? So let's take
a look at Matthew five thirty seven. And there's actually
two versions I want to refer to. One is from
the new King James version, where it says, but let
your yes b yes, and your no no for whatever
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is more than these is from the Evil one. Okay,
so let your yes bs and your no no now.
From the NIV version, the New International version, it says
same scripture, but this version says, all you need to
say is simply yes or no. Anything beyond this comes
from the evil one. All you need to say is
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simply yes or no. And so it's another way of
saying commit or don't write. And when it talks about
the evil one first and foremost, that's the out of integrity,
secretly judging yourself like kind of evil in my opinion, Right,
that's one way of looking at it, right, But it's
also a form of dishonesty, even if it's to yourself,
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like if you're lying to yourself, and that's kind of
what I mean by taking a look in the mirror,
No shame, but like, where are you lying to yourself?
Like at the end of the day, that's kind of
the very simple way of saying it. Where are you
out of integrity? Because you are straight up being dishonest
with yourself. Verse from Matthew five thirty three says, again
you have heard that it was said to the people
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long ago. Do not break your oath, but fulfill to
the Lord the vows you have made. And I love
how it even uses the word vow. When you up
level your word and let it be a vow, you
are going to be so much more mindful about making
and keeping those promises when you think of it like
a vow to yourself, right versus just like psh, I
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don't care, I'll say it. It makes me feel better
than not doing anything, or makes me feel better than
just sitting on my couch or ignoring it. But again,
it's not benign. And I know for me that when
I simply looked at honoring my word as a way
of honoring God, it changed everything. But on the flip side,
when you look at it like dishonoring your word or
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moving out of integrity, it's kind of like it's dishonoring God. Right,
not to mention again it harms your self esteem. Okay,
So from Ecclesiastes five four through seven, it says, when
you make a vow to God, do not delay to
fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools. Fulfill your vow.
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It is better not to make a vow than to
make one and not fulfill it. Do not let your
mouth lead you into sin. It says, it is better
not to make a vow than to make one and
not fulfill it. And I love this because it literally
forces you to take a look at your words and
look at it like you're making a vow to God
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and not delay to fulfill it. Like if you're gonna
say it, then actually follow through on it, or don't
don't say it, right, And it literally goes on to
say it's better to not make the vow than to
make one and not fulfill it. And it goes on
to say, don't let your mouth lead you into sin, okay.
In other words, don't let your promises or lack of
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promises kept lead you into sin and lead you out
of integrity with yourself, because again it's not benign. You're
judging yourself every time you do it, and I mean
it with so much love. And that's where it's like
the God that I know, he doesn't want you judging yourself.
He wants you loving yourself and feeling worthy of receiving.
That's the abundance that's available to you. And now you
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can see how again this can be an ingredient and
a block. Okay. And speaking of integrity, proverbs really hits
home on this idea of integrity, which the word nerded
me wants you to know that integrity literally means innocence
or blamelessness, which might I add as the opposite of shame, right,
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But integrity also means moral principle and character. So integrity
is everything for your character, Like how much do you
trust or respect yourself if you have no integrity? Right?
And you're listening to this because you want to be
a person of character and so this is everything, right.
So I just want to point out that Proverbs actually
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mentions that we're integrity a lot. Okay, so Proverbs ten
to nine. This is the NIV version. A lot of
what I share is the NIV version, but there's obviously
so many different versions. But it says whoever walks in
integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be
found out. And to me, it's like, I'm inviting you
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to find yourself out, Like, let integrity be something that's
really important to you, so that you can, in the
words of God, walk securely, right and noticing when you're
out of integrity. It's again there's a there's not a
thing where it's like, hey, you should shame yourself, but
it's calling it a crooked path, right, And we're talking
about living in integrity, being of character, and so I
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think those words are just really powerful looking at it
like a crooked path. Right. Proverbs eleven three says, the
integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are
destroyed by their duplicity. Okay, Duplicity is an interesting word, right,
And to me it just is a reminder of saying
one thing and doing another, and it doesn't have a
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lovely connotation, right, So these are it just reminds me
of like this integrity thing. The opposite of integrity is
duplicity in many ways, right, And so it actually mentions
that word integrity in so many other verses in Proverbs.
But I think you're getting the point right, bottom line, though,
what if your self esteem was not about seeking confidence
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or esteem from the world or from others or like
you originally thought self esteem was defined. But what if
it was about earning back your own trust and earning
back your own respect and getting back in alignment and
in integrity and living the way that God designed for
you in that respect. And that's why I simply invite
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you to take a mental inventory and just ask yourself,
where have you lost total trust for yourself and in
turn lost respect for yourself? And where has your word
and your commitments become negotiable, Like where are you out
of integrity? Okay? And again I am not here to
shame you. There's nothing bad or wrong about any of this.
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You're human. This is the human part of you. But
here's the big distinction, Like the problem that's going to
arise for you when you try to look at all
that external stuff for your self esteem and confidence, but
you totally ignore the part of yourself that's truly going
to make you feel that way and earning back your
own trust and respect. And so what if instead of
all of that and all of the worldly stuff that
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you're trying to gain for confidence and self esteem, you
went and earned back your own trust and your own respect, right,
and got back in integrity, restored what you feel like
would be like the character side of you. And that's
why I'm so adamant about talking about this because most
people have never taken a look at this part of themselves. Right.
And so again, where have you lost trust? Respect? Where
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have your commitments become negotiable? Where's your word become negotiable?
No shame, no judgment. This was me for so much
of my life for the record, right until I discovered
stuff like this. But when we don't respect and trust ourselves,
we will block that value and respect from others and
actively block the value and worth that's available to us
and that God sees in us and wants us to have,
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Like God wants us to have that respect for ourselves
and that trust. Right, and I promise when it comes
to your self image, your self image knows, right like
the value in God's eyes and how much he respects you.
Your self image knows when you're blocking that right, and
there's a way to connect with his version of how
he sees you. But if you don't identify where you're
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currently out of integrity, the other side of it is
you will most likely be walking around feeling ashamed of yourself. Right.
And again, if earning back your own respect and trust
feels like too big of a stretch, this is where
this is going to be. That same ingredient is also
a God block, Okay, And so again, what if your
self esteem was not about seeking confidence from others or
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from the world or for whatever you know you originally
thought you needed for self esteem, but it was really
now entering into this conversation of earning back your own trust,
your respect, you know, getting back in alignment and in
integrity and living the way that God designed for you
in that respect, right, And this is a great place
to ask God to meet you there and even borrow
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his eyes, right because again, the God that I know,
he loves you. He wants you to know how valuable
and lovable and worthy you are right now, okay, But
also the God I know would have so much love
and compassion if you are struggling with this when it
comes to trusting and respecting yourself. And I truly believe
He's just calling us into greater levels of character and integrity.
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That's the way I look at it. I look at
it like, Okay, He's just inviting me into this next level,
not shaming me into it, just inviting me being like, hey,
I see the bigger version of you. I'm here to
meet you there. But this is also again I want
to remind you that hyper dependency on self. Yeah, we
want to take intelligent action, we want to influence this.
But also what if this is where you let God
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in and you surrendered this to God too, and surrendered
the idea that you don't have to carry this burden
of healing this all on your own. And so you know, yes,
we have to put in the work because if we
want to be different, we got to do differently. Right,
But when it comes to the side where this is
where when it comes to like your own trust and respect,
Like if that's a God block or a spiritual block,
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that's where you know, I want to keep watering that
seed that I planted in your brain really back in
the first episode of the series, Like, what if that
God block wasn't yours to break through? And that's where
you really invited God into it. Yes, it's your responsibility,
but it's also not fully your responsibility because you could
rely on God to come in and fill in those
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gaps for you and ask you to meet you there
and show you where you don't have total trust and
respect for yourself, and where your word and your commitments
have become negotiable, and where you're out of integrity. And
so just to make it super simple, what if it
was as simple as praying something like, Hey, God, you know,
please show me where I'm out of integrity and I
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need to earn back my own trust and God, please
show me what integrity looks like through your eyes. Right,
And just I love that prayer because you know, again
the first half where you say, God, please show me
where I'm out of integrity and need to earn back
my own trust, you're asking for revelation and wisdom of
the part of you that you're trying to transform. And
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in the second half, where you say, God, please show
me what integrity looks like through your eyes, you're asking
for a new view and a new belief and in turn,
a new identity. Right, And I'm telling you again, if
you pray this over and over again, he will show
you right. And remember what we give air to, attention, intention, repetition,
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It becomes part of us if we practice it, and
that's why we must practice and we must renew our mind.
So that's my invitation to you, right like the prayer, God,
please please show me where I'm out of integrity, where
I need to earn back my own trust, and please
show me what integrity looks like through your eyes. So
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that's it. That's the invitation to try on this new story,
this new perspective, and just see how it feels, but
also see how it changes how you show up in
your life. Okay, So that's it for this fourth ingredient
and the fourth God block, and we're going to be
back next week to talk about the final ingredient, the
Final God Block, which is all about trading up and
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exchanging external judgments for your God given value. So I
will talk to you then we'll be back with more
What's God Got to Do with It? But in the meantime,
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tell me where you are in your story or maybe
what questions you have, like where do you feel you
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need clarity or support or wisdom in your own journey.
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