November 19, 2024 • 29 mins
Amy & Kat talk about the ‘toothbrush on scalp’ trend + how to feel better instantly (according to a neuroscientist) + if someone likes you/is really attracted to you then they think THIS about you + why couples should admit their ‘crazy’ when they first start dating + more!
QUOTE: “Too young to retire, too old to learn TikTok” (from the El Arroyo Sign)
Do the below things if you’re feeling a certain way and you want to instantly feel better (this is from TJ Power, a neuroscientist):
Angry - sing
Burned out - walk
Overthinking - write
Anxious - breathe
Stressed - exercise
Sad - gratitude
Lazy - cold shower
Impatient - reflect on progress
Shout out to the UNHEARD episode. :)
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Happy Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Welcome to the Fifth Thing.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
I'm Amy and.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I wasn't recording a minute ago, and Kat and I
basically did the entire episode.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Happy Tuesday t.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Us you watch, I'm not sure that they were. It's
so ironic too, because this episode is literally titled how
to Instantly Feel Better, because that's the theme, and right
now I had to instantly feel better. So I took
one of the tips that we just talked about in
(00:39):
the episode we just recorded Slash Dinner record, and tip
number one was saying.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
When you're angry, you're angry, Well you kind.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Of angry, kind of angry at myself. Yes, I'm not
angry at the world, but I was definitely angry at myself,
and you have every right to be angry at me.
I just wasted your time.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I don't feel anger towards you. I feel like that
is something that happens not often, but I feel like
I've done that before.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh yeah, I've done it before with a guest and
it was I was mortified and it was pretty horrible.
I don't know why I just did it with you.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Because we were messing with the volume, and usually you
press and then we do that.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
I thought we were having a volume issue, and I'm like, Cat,
look there's a volume issue and she said, no, looks
pretty right on, and then I got fixated on the
fact that I still thought there was an issue, and
then there wasn't. So then I was like, all right,
happy Tuesday, Welcome to the fifth thing.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I'm Amy and I'm Kat, and then we had an issue,
and then we.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Did that whole thing, yeah, including lots of stuff that
we wanted to talk about Slash it didn't plan on
talking about, but I liked some of it. So now
we need to somehow organically work it in like we
did last time, which is so hard, but we'll just
have to see how it goes. Like, I don't really
know what's going to happen, so we'll start with the quote. Okay,
this is from the Eleroyo sign, which we love to
pull from for quotes from time to time because are funny.
(02:01):
It's a too young to retire, too old to learn TikTok,
and I'm like, ain't that that's true?
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Even though you have TikTok and I have TikTok.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I have TikTok, and it's I watched it a lot
and sometimes I post to it, but I'm not a
TikTok content creator. I don't put myself in that category.
I will post, yes, but I think people that are
on there regularly and giving us all the good stuff,
like these people that want to do deep dives into
everything that's going on in the world and then feed
(02:32):
it to me in a TikTok Thank.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You, yeah, very much, appreciate it. I could not do
because the videos that look like are really easy to
make and are easy to consume probably are so difficult
to make.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
And some people have put a ton of research and
time and energy into this tiny little TikTok yes to
help me understand what's going on. And speaking of TikTok,
I came across a tip for your scalp, okay, and
it's that you wash your scalp with a toothbrushh And
I just wanted to know if you've ever done that before.
(03:03):
But I asked you this earlier and I know that
the answers no. So now this doesn't feel organic, But
go ahead tell me, have you ever washed your scalp
with a toothbrush?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I have not, And I think you should clarify because
this was confusing when you told to me this is.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Well, that's why we're rerecording.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yes, this is you're doing this in the shower with shampoo.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yes, you're not doing it with toothpaste.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I wasn't thinking that, but at first I just thought
it was like when you're like scratching your scalp with
a toothbrush.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Okay, so it's not like dry brushing. It is you're
in the shower shampooing your hair, and about once a
week you get in there good into the scalp. You
get in there good with a toothbrush, probably not the
one that you brush your teeth with, a different one.
I'm assuming soft bristles, maybe medium. And apparently it helps
(03:53):
exfoliate the scalp area. It removes excess oils, impurities. And
this one girl was swimming by it. She's like, I
do it once a week and it's so great. My
dog didn't bark in the last episode. Nope, no, she
didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
But there she is. Maybe we needed that.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Mm hmm, cars like, uh uh. Girl's not going to
get in an episode without hearing from me.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
So I'm curious about the toothbrush thing, if that would help,
because I know before you said that the girl that
does your hair color said don't I think that's who
it was said, don't use dry shampoo.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Right, Yeah, she wasn't a fan of it.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Well, I use it, and I wonder if that exploading
stuff would help you get rid of but I guess
you're washing your hair.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I mean to your point, Yeah, getting rid of excess
build up.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Yeah, maybe then you could go longer without washing your hair.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
And then I do think there may be something about
it stimulating the hair follicles and then helping it grow.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Oh but did you pack that part up?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Yep, Like I did not read that part, but you
would think that.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Maybe I would think more it would rip your hair
out or there's that, so maybe it does both and
then it evens out.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Don't take it from us, We're not to talk experts
on this harshing particular thing. I just popped up in
my feed and I found it'd be interesting. And then
do you know there are these people on TikTok, Instagram, whatever,
and they just do shock content to like get you
outrage about it, so then you get confused, and like,
(05:18):
stop confusing me, because I don't know if you're for
real or not, and I need just the.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Fact thinking of something particular.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I'm just lots of things that I'm like, are we
really doing that? Or is that really what we're supposed
to do? And then and then I sit down, I'm
like and then I go to the comments and I
realize like, Okay, this isn't for real. But like, I
don't have the time to figure out if it's real
or not. I just need you to tell me, like what,
stop trying to get me to watch your video or
make it go viral. Let's just be real.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
But if they were real, then maybe their video wouldn't
go right directly. I think that's called rage bait. Is
that what that is?
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Mm?
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It's popular because I keep hearing that word.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
See this part we didn't talk about last time. Yeah,
so it's like it's like, I think that's called rage bait.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Have you heard of that?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
No, tell me more.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I keep hearing that word though, and that must be
I think rage bait could be when people are just
talking about highly sensitive things, but also videos that you're
just like, what are they doing? What? And then you
keep watching their videos.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Yeah, there's this one girl that makes these horrible cooking videos.
I mean they are so ridiculous. But I watch every
single one every single time. Oh, it's definitely not real.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Like she's putting like your things together.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Bounces words wrong, Like she'll be like, and then you
put the tortilla in like some people say, like, no,
she's saying it on purpose, because she'll say like garlac.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Or something like, just to make you be like, did
she really just say And then you watch it again
to see if she said garlac and then she like,
she'll put a whole bag of cheetos in a crock
pot and then she's like and then you put the
sour cream on top, and then you let it simmer
for four hours.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
And wait, we could be making thousands of dollars making
those videos, but.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
It also just seems like a waste, and it's so ridiculous.
I don't get it. It's and it's not. How is
this going to last? I don't know? And maybe she
does make money, because you can't get paid on real
views on my lip No.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
In your body emotionally why because I.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Activated right now, I started to feel really hot, Like
could you tell I'm about to rip my flannel off?
I have a shirt underneath, but I think I'm gonna
have to unbutton it and take it off, and then
all of a sudden, my lips started to feel a
little tingly. Honestly, No, it's not about the ladies videos.
(07:43):
It's about that we recorded a whole episode and then
we're doing it again, and then cars starts to bark,
and my dog gives me anxiety. Anxiety, and I love her,
but I do have how to instantly feel better based
on different emotions. And this is from a neuroscientist. Okay,
can't act like you've never heard these before.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I'm so excited to hear these.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
This is from TJ. Power. Again, he's a neuroscientist. How
to instantly feel better when you're angry sing. So there,
there you go. That's why we were like happy to Tuesday
two and you too happy because if you're sing, yeah,
that's what's best for your brain. Like I don't know.
Because he's a neuroscientist, I'm assuming it may activate different
(08:24):
parts in the brain that may help whatever it is
you're going through. If you're feeling burned out, go for
a walk. If you are overthinking, right, if you're feeling anxious,
do breath work. Like an example would be four for four,
So breathe in for four, hold for four, out for four.
If you're feeling stressed, do some form of exercise or
(08:46):
workout or did you see my mini trampoline in the
living room?
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Have you used it?
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Yeah? I've been trying to jump on it, even just
for one minute.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Like at heart, one minute would be enough.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I'm pretty sure I saw on TikTok that jumping for
three minutes is like ten minutes of running.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Well, did you card vascular?
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Did you ever hear that treading water for seven minutes
is like running for forty five? Oh?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Lookers calling me? Oh? Should we answer?
Speaker 1 (09:13):
What are you feeling that he didn't call this last episode?
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Now? I'm really sweating? Hold on, hold on, hold on.
I'm not going to put on the speaker though, but Hello, Hey,
Kat and I are recording, and we're recording like right now,
right now, like your call is on it, but I
don't have you on speaker. Okay, So I was just
going to pick up and call you back because well,
I have to say I've ca call you back, but
I don't know your plans if you have dinner because
(09:38):
he's in New York City, you're flying out tonight I
thought you were coming back tomorrow. Oh baller, okay, all right,
Oh I'll hit you back o goodbye. Okay. So anyway
you're feeling, what are you feeling now? No, now you
(10:01):
take your clothes. Where were we? What was I saying?
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Oh, my tramp? I asked you if you ever heard
that treading water for seven minutes was like running forty five.
I think it's an urban legend, but I used to
do it as a kid all the time.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Well, that is exactly where we were, because my next
thought and then the phone rang, was that whenever I
was training for a marathon in college, so I was
about twenty years old, and I hurt my knee really
bad during training, and I definitely did a lot of
my training in the pool really so that you get
these little harness things that you sit in and you
(10:34):
act like you're running, so it helps you float up
and then you just move your legs like you're water
jogging and water jogging.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I've never heard of that term before. Is that a
real term?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It is a real term, and it's a real thing.
And so we would do that at the pool and
it would help it. It did everything the same like
you could train for a marathon in the water and
go to land and be able to do it.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I almost feel like it would be harder.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Yeah, it's just working the same muscles, but you're not
putting the impact on your joints.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
But you are. I feel like sometimes it's harder to
move through What is harder to move through water than air?
Speaker 2 (11:06):
I mean, also, don't quote me on that, Like, don't
train for a full marathon in the water and then
try to go run. I'm just saying that's what my
coach had me do and it helped me and I
was able to complete the marathon, and then my knee
has not been the same since.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
So ohmen, bow out, Just like, go ahead and sign
up for a different one.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Don't do it. Do a five k yeah or something
like that. Okay, if you're overthinking, right, if you're feeling anxious,
breathe or feeling stressed, exercise or get on your mini trampoline,
(11:44):
which my mom had a mini trampline growing up, so
now when I jump on it, I feel like her,
and so it's like a special thing. I like having
it in there. I've been I put it in the
living room because I want to be by my Christmas
Tree and watch cheesy Christmas movies and bounce.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Have you watched the new Netflix Christmas TV with Gretchen
from Mean Girls? I don't know her name.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Yeah, I know what it's called. It's called like hots. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
It was bad. It was so bad. Yeah, it wasn't
even good bad. It was just bad.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I know. It's like, how did this happen? Because they're
at least normally good bad.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yes, it was just bad. And she's in a lot
of movies like that, and that's the thing. They're still good.
But this one, I was like, absolutely not. It was disappointing.
I was so pumped for it.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Did you see the one on Hulu where it's a
girl she has her own radio show and then she
ends up getting stranded and this cowboy lives there and
he's a widower and they get together. She's a radio
show and he's a widower. Yeah, on boy, I know?
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Is this new?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (12:44):
It's this year, twenty twenty four Christmas.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Have you you've already read it?
Speaker 2 (12:48):
I could have that's my character, like I could. I
could have if I had continued with my acting lessons,
I could have auditioned for that. So she has her
own radio shows and she met a cowboy.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Did somebody steal your life and write a movie about it?
Speaker 2 (13:02):
No? Because not, obviously not all of that is even similar.
But I just think I could have nailed that role.
And the girl that I didn't, the girl that did
play the part, she did great. So that's awesome that
she got that. But the whole time I was watching,
I was like, oh, nobody called me. I know why,
because I gave up on myself.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Why why did you You never even said you stopped
doing the acting lessons. I just assumed you were still
might be doing.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
That because I didn't believe in myself. I know, I'm
not trying any Debbie downer, but it's just it's true.
I gave up on myself. So either I need to
go back to doing the acting lessons, if that's really
something I want to try to pursue, or at the
very least, I want to enroll back into improv classes
because those were so fun.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Did you do like a whole improv group? Did you
do a class? Yeah? Did the whole class? You just
didn't go to number two?
Speaker 2 (13:48):
What do you mean number two?
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Aren't there eight weeks long? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I didn't. I didn't level up, but I did level
one and it's for eight weeks and each class each
week is three hours long. That's a huge commitment when
you got kids and you're working and all the things.
But hey, you make time for the things you want
to do.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
If you did it again, did you have to start
back at one or can you go straight to two?
Speaker 2 (14:09):
I don't know a good question. I would maybe want
to start back at once in a minute, just to
be with the group and get familiar with it. I
don't know that I would want to jump back in
to that. So if you're feeling sad, and this is
how to instantly feel better, practice gratitude. What's something you're
thankful for today, Not that you're sad, but just give
us an example. I'm thankful we didn't do this last
(14:30):
time by the way I did.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
It's a different I just got back from a girl's
trip in Boston. I'm very thankful to have a good
group of friends that I can do random stuff like
that with.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
So fun. Y'all are really good about that. Like planning trips.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yeah, we do a lot of trips. Yeah, maybe sometimes
too many trips because you know, I should be saving
a little bit of money, but Boston great time and
they had some Christmas decorations up, so that's fine.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I love Boston so much, it's one of my favorite cities.
Right now, I am thankful for well so much.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
She's thankful for that phone call.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I'm thankful for my dog making lots of noises out there.
I hope y'all can't hear that, but I am thankful
for her. She does help me feel safe when she
barks and I'm alone. When I'm doing a podcast, i
get a little bit annoyed. I am thankful for her, though,
and Maggie, and I'm thankful for my kids. I'll do
four things gratitude since we're here right now. And I
(15:21):
am thankful for airplanes because I just booked my flight
for Christmas, me and the kids to go to Colorado
to see my sister and then been their dad, my
ex husband, He's also going to Colorado to see his
family at the same time, and so I'm just thankful
that we have that dynamic to where I can go
to Colorado and stay with my sister and the kids,
and then he'll be there too. And then when it's
(15:43):
we swap every Friday, and when the Friday rolls around
that week, they'll leave me and my sister and or
where we're staying there and they'll go down the street
and be with him and his family.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
So so I'm.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Thankful for airplanes making that possible because Colorado's not easy
to get to. Wanted to dry because my son really
wants to drive, and I'm like, why look it up, buddy,
it would take us more than a day, like hours,
it just wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
Does he love a road trip?
Speaker 2 (16:09):
He just doesn't like airplanes. I don't know. He's not
a good thing. And then I guess tied into that,
I guess my fourth thing will be the relationship that
I have with their dad and our family, his family too,
that's like still my family. Like I feel like his
mom and dad will always be my mother and father
in law no matter what. Where are we sad, I
(16:30):
just gratitude.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Boom.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
If you're feeling lazy, take a cold shower another thing
you could do if you don't want to get all
the way in a shower. But you're fine if you
want to wash your face, so we just stick your
face in the ice bath.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
And we already talked about this, but how long do.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
You do it. We talked about it, but we didn't
record it. But well, I build up, so I gradually,
like I'll stick it in and then I hold it
there for like, you know, five seconds, see what I
can handle, and then I release whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
And then I.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Because you made me feel like I couldn't say take
it out.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
You loved it yourself before I left at you and
you said.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
So then you and then you could go maybe ten
seconds and then take it out and the rest and.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Then like I'm thirteen years old.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
I don't know, So then you build up, but like,
don't don't go. Try to hold it in there as
long as possible, because then your nose might get red
or your face could get irritated and burn.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
Your face burn, So just freeze burn.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Take it out, dip, take it out, and then that
may help with any laziness that you have going on
or puffy eyes. Yeah, if you're feeling impatient, reflect on progress.
And if you're feeling impatient, it's probably gonna be difficult
for you to have the patience to sit down and
reflect on any type of progress. But you can do it.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
We believe in you.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
I believe that you can do this difficult thing. Maybe
take time to write it. Which, speaking of writing, I
did share this on the Unheard episode.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I like that's a good way to say it.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
The Unheard episode, the top secret one that was just
for me and Kat is the writing thing. My daughter
who's seventeen, we were having a moment talking through some
stuff and there was something that she was just on
the verge of sharing with me. That's the right word.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Verg just that would think of word verge.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
She was right on the ververge about to tell me yes,
right there, and she couldn't quite get there. Like honestly,
we've sort of stared at each other for about twenty minutes,
and I was like, okay, I mean in every five
minutes or so, I was like, yeah, she's about to
say it because like her eyes would kind of like
just give me that nudge. So then quietly I was
(18:58):
just inside, not out loud, but I was like, Lord,
I'm open to creative solutions. Like I love that saying.
Anytime I'm feeling stuck, I'm just I'm open to creative solutions.
Just make it your mantra. So I'm open to creative solutions.
And then it occurred to me, what if maybe she'd
write it down. So thank you Lord for that creative solution.
And I said, what about if you write it down?
(19:20):
And she said okay. In like point five seconds she
said okay, And so I handed her a notepad and
a pin and she wrote it down. I even left, though,
I gave her space, and I was like, just to
be clear, we're writing it down with the intention that
Mom's going to read it. It's good for you to
sometimes write things down that you just want to release
that nobody's going to read. But like, this is for me,
(19:40):
for us, and she I went to run an errand
and I came back and the notebook was on my bed.
She wrote it all out everything, and I was like, oh,
and it just helped so much. And so just a
reminder with your teenagers or maybe even yourself or your
spouse or your roommate or your friend, sometimes it might
help in a kind way, just to dumb your thoughts
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on the paper and not have to look someone in
the eye and be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
It's less vulnerable, but then it opens up the door
for then you guys to have that conversation in her
to be vulnerable. So it's not a way to bypass vulnerability.
It's a way to open yourself up to it.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah, and now there's understanding. It's like okay, wow, we
can build on this.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
And that might have never ever started. She might have
never said.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
That, Yeah, I'm open to creative solution.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Good job, that's a good proud mom moment.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I was thinking of the things that make me feel
good too that weren't on the list from the neuroscientists.
So I don't know if this is like official, but
I've been loving a good dance party lately too. You
just put on music, whether you're in the kitchen or wherever,
and you just go and just move around, like just
you just move like a free spirit, Like do you
(20:54):
have to name an animal?
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Wait?
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Like I leap and I do all kinds of things,
flail about.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Your dancing is flailing.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Yeah, I'm just like you know what, I'm just like, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
What is your go to song? If you're gonna do that?
Do you have a go to or do you go
to playlist that you play? What is your go to
song if you're going to do that? Do you have
a go to or do you a go to playlist
(21:29):
that you play?
Speaker 2 (21:30):
No? I just say, if we say her name, does
it make other peoples go off? But I say that,
I say Elena play you know whatever it comes to
my mind. Yeah, or country like I don't have to
have I'm not like at the club play I'm doing
around my co I'm not club dancing. I can kind
(21:51):
of dance whatever.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
But I mean, don't know if you had like a
feel good song that you would always use.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Oh, I love nappy roots. Gonna have a good day,
I'm god have a good day, then nobody today. And
I don't know why that's the lyric, But are you
sure don't die?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
I don't body gonna die to day A gonna have
a good which.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
Then makes me sad to think that that's what makes
it a good day.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
If you had to change the words I'm gonna have
a good day. I nobody gonna get in my way.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
They no body up flick me off only when I
drive sometimes. Yeah, I'm gonna have a good day. I'm
gonna be on time all the way. I'm gonna be
so fun every time my kids come in the room
because I I'm an awesome mom. I don't know. See,
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we didn't talk about this part in the last one now,
I would in the unheard because this is.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
An original song. She's made that up on the fly,
and I know that probably surprises some of you.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Got hard for you to believe, because obviously if we
had done that the last one, I would have workshopped
it a little more, because what would you say.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
I'm gonna have good day and nobody's gonna get him
my way, and I'm gonna look super fly today.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
And I am always gonna know what to say.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Hey, that's good.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, since I get paid to talk for a living,
I'm gonna have a good day, not gonna say anything.
I'm gonna always hit record. Hey, so do something weird.
Whatever it is, it's weird. Maybe it's making up songs
like love do you sing a shower? Sometimes? I always
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if a song is in my head.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
My friends recorded me this weekend on our trip because
I was in the shower scene. I didn't know they
could hear me. I thought they were sleep.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Oh Stevenson is like that too, He'll I was just.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Like doing like random songs like but like making beats up.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Oh Stevenson's is good. It's like always praising worship music
first thing in the morning, in the shower, and I'm like, well.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
I think I also was saying everybody in the club
getting tips.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Oh yeah, don't worry. My kids also have other songs
as you know that we have, oh kids these days.
Although Charlotte and the God posted something the other day
that was like, hey, let these kids be kids.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
With their music.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
Everyone's all freaking out by some of the music that's
out these days, and he's like, this was us in
the nineties.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
They have no idea what it means.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Let's hope.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Let's hope that's true because.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Some of it I have had a major problem with lately.
And then Showman the God. I can't remember the song
he referenced, but it was a very good example of
like stuff we were listening to in the nineties that
was totally inappropriate and we were just jamming out to it.
Yeah that's and like he turned out okay.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Yeah, so we were innocently jamming out, Like I think,
get benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
You know. So let's hope. I know, we just talked
about the weird things. So before we go, I want
to touch on this because this came up in the
unheard about being weird, and I just want to encourage
you to just be yourself, be you're weird, be your
whatever you need to be, because people that love you
are loving you for your weirdness, and if they don't,
then it's not real love or it's not real like
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in a friendship. So it's whether it's romantic or friendship.
I saw this whole thing from this philosopher a land
Dee boton You're good at saying that. I don't know
if I'm saying correctly. I came across it on TikTok
and I was like, Oh, because it just feels so
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good to be around people that you can just like
be your weird self around. And that's something that in
my dating relationship that I even said something like the
other day, so stupid or I don't know why I
did that, that's so weird, and I feel like he
literally said, oh, I love that, Like that's what I
think is so great. And that's what this philosopher was saying,
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or someone was quoting this philosph on TikTok about finding
someone that will accept your weirdness.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
And you're just accept it and I like it.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Like what you think is weird, they think is amazing.
And that is attraction like that is what they are
truly attracted you, like, if you want to know in
a nutshell, I believe was what he was saying. If
someone is truly attracted to you, then they think your
weirdness is amazing. Period. Drop the mic and I'm like, yes,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
So do you feel like it can be yourself?
Speaker 2 (26:23):
Yes? Uh? And I feel like I can be weird
and whatever, it's gonna be amazing. And that same philosopher,
I was just doing some research. I thought I was
going to put that on the Bobby Bone Show. Is
like submitting a show prep. But I was like, eh,
I don't know that will work. But I came across
a novel that he wrote called The Course of Love,
and even though it's fiction, it still had things that
could be applicable. And one of the things that was
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in there was about admitting your crazy upfront, and I thought, oh,
this could be a fun segment on The Bobby Bone
Show where everybody's just go around and admit they're crazy, Like,
what's one thing you do that you think is crazy?
And the point of that is a lot of times
in relationships we can try to just put out the
perfection and all the time in the beginning, and then
it just doesn't allow for any sympathy or forgiveness when
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a situation arises because you're like, wait a second, yeah,
I'm blindsided by this, this and this, and obviously crazy
is on a spectrum, but you know what we're talking about,
Like it's just like, hey, what's something that you typically
wouldn't want to admit to someone right away? But if
you just jet it up front, then it'd be good.
So that was the whole thing is admit you're crazy upfront,
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like not that you are crazy, but what are your
little crazy tendencies?
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Emit your crazy? Like yeah, why are you a posture aari?
Like why oh you are? Yeah, yeah you're crazy? What
is yours?
Speaker 2 (27:42):
We'd be here all day, I don't think so, oh
my god, mightn't yours?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Yours?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
And that's our cue to go, Kat? Where can we
find you?
Speaker 1 (27:54):
On Instagram? Kat van Buren.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
And I am at radio Amy.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Can you find your dog?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
She's also on my Instagram sometimes? Yeah, but we'd love
to see you there. You can email us four things
with Amy Brown at gmail dot com and uh yeah, Kat,
and I'll see you later and we hope you're having
the day that you need to have.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
That's all we got.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Don't freak it. Sing, dance, be weird, be awesome, Jump
on the trampoline, do your thing. Leap leap, jump, make
up a song, don't get mad at yourself. Don't you
mess up because we all mess up.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
Dunk your head in cold water. After you mess up.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Mess up, just press record again, but then make sure
you recorded it and then peek out. Oh, we were
not drinking during this episode, but I like, really we
were not, But I hate life. Happy Tuesday, Happy Tuesday,
(28:55):
Happy Tuesday. In a minute, you're gonna find find out
what we're seeing.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
Happy Tuesday to us.
Happy Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Welcome to the Fifth Thing.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
I'm Amy and.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I wasn't recording a minute ago, and Kat and I
basically did the entire episode.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Happy Tuesday t.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Us you watch, I'm not sure that they were. It's
so ironic too, because this episode is literally titled how
to Instantly Feel Better, because that's the theme, and right
now I had to instantly feel better. So I took
one of the tips that we just talked about in
(00:39):
the episode we just recorded Slash Dinner record, and tip
number one was saying.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
When you're angry, you're angry, Well you kind.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Of angry, kind of angry at myself. Yes, I'm not
angry at the world, but I was definitely angry at myself,
and you have every right to be angry at me.
I just wasted your time.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I don't feel anger towards you. I feel like that
is something that happens not often, but I feel like
I've done that before.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh yeah, I've done it before with a guest and
it was I was mortified and it was pretty horrible.
I don't know why I just did it with you.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Because we were messing with the volume, and usually you
press and then we do that.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
I thought we were having a volume issue, and I'm like, Cat,
look there's a volume issue and she said, no, looks
pretty right on, and then I got fixated on the
fact that I still thought there was an issue, and
then there wasn't. So then I was like, all right,
happy Tuesday, Welcome to the fifth thing.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I'm Amy and I'm Kat, and then we had an issue,
and then we.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Did that whole thing, yeah, including lots of stuff that
we wanted to talk about Slash it didn't plan on
talking about, but I liked some of it. So now
we need to somehow organically work it in like we
did last time, which is so hard, but we'll just
have to see how it goes. Like, I don't really
know what's going to happen, so we'll start with the quote. Okay,
this is from the Eleroyo sign, which we love to
pull from for quotes from time to time because are funny.
(02:01):
It's a too young to retire, too old to learn TikTok,
and I'm like, ain't that that's true?
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Even though you have TikTok and I have TikTok.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I have TikTok, and it's I watched it a lot
and sometimes I post to it, but I'm not a
TikTok content creator. I don't put myself in that category.
I will post, yes, but I think people that are
on there regularly and giving us all the good stuff,
like these people that want to do deep dives into
everything that's going on in the world and then feed
(02:32):
it to me in a TikTok Thank.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
You, yeah, very much, appreciate it. I could not do
because the videos that look like are really easy to
make and are easy to consume probably are so difficult
to make.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
And some people have put a ton of research and
time and energy into this tiny little TikTok yes to
help me understand what's going on. And speaking of TikTok,
I came across a tip for your scalp, okay, and
it's that you wash your scalp with a toothbrushh And
I just wanted to know if you've ever done that before.
(03:03):
But I asked you this earlier and I know that
the answers no. So now this doesn't feel organic, But
go ahead tell me, have you ever washed your scalp
with a toothbrush?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I have not, And I think you should clarify because
this was confusing when you told to me this is.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Well, that's why we're rerecording.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Yes, this is you're doing this in the shower with shampoo.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yes, you're not doing it with toothpaste.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I wasn't thinking that, but at first I just thought
it was like when you're like scratching your scalp with
a toothbrush.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Okay, so it's not like dry brushing. It is you're
in the shower shampooing your hair, and about once a
week you get in there good into the scalp. You
get in there good with a toothbrush, probably not the
one that you brush your teeth with, a different one.
I'm assuming soft bristles, maybe medium. And apparently it helps
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exfoliate the scalp area. It removes excess oils, impurities. And
this one girl was swimming by it. She's like, I
do it once a week and it's so great. My
dog didn't bark in the last episode. Nope, no, she
didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
But there she is. Maybe we needed that.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Mm hmm, cars like, uh uh. Girl's not going to
get in an episode without hearing from me.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
So I'm curious about the toothbrush thing, if that would help,
because I know before you said that the girl that
does your hair color said don't I think that's who
it was said, don't use dry shampoo.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Right, Yeah, she wasn't a fan of it.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Well, I use it, and I wonder if that exploading
stuff would help you get rid of but I guess
you're washing your hair.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I mean to your point, Yeah, getting rid of excess
build up.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Yeah, maybe then you could go longer without washing your hair.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
And then I do think there may be something about
it stimulating the hair follicles and then helping it grow.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Oh but did you pack that part up?
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Yep, Like I did not read that part, but you
would think that.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Maybe I would think more it would rip your hair
out or there's that, so maybe it does both and
then it evens out.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Don't take it from us, We're not to talk experts
on this harshing particular thing. I just popped up in
my feed and I found it'd be interesting. And then
do you know there are these people on TikTok, Instagram, whatever,
and they just do shock content to like get you
outrage about it, so then you get confused, and like,
(05:18):
stop confusing me, because I don't know if you're for
real or not, and I need just the.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Fact thinking of something particular.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I'm just lots of things that I'm like, are we
really doing that? Or is that really what we're supposed
to do? And then and then I sit down, I'm
like and then I go to the comments and I
realize like, Okay, this isn't for real. But like, I
don't have the time to figure out if it's real
or not. I just need you to tell me, like what,
stop trying to get me to watch your video or
make it go viral. Let's just be real.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
But if they were real, then maybe their video wouldn't
go right directly. I think that's called rage bait. Is
that what that is?
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Mm?
Speaker 1 (05:52):
It's popular because I keep hearing that word.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
See this part we didn't talk about last time. Yeah,
so it's like it's like, I think that's called rage bait.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Have you heard of that?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
No, tell me more.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
I keep hearing that word though, and that must be
I think rage bait could be when people are just
talking about highly sensitive things, but also videos that you're
just like, what are they doing? What? And then you
keep watching their videos.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Yeah, there's this one girl that makes these horrible cooking videos.
I mean they are so ridiculous. But I watch every
single one every single time. Oh, it's definitely not real.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Like she's putting like your things together.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Bounces words wrong, Like she'll be like, and then you
put the tortilla in like some people say, like, no,
she's saying it on purpose, because she'll say like garlac.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Or something like, just to make you be like, did
she really just say And then you watch it again
to see if she said garlac and then she like,
she'll put a whole bag of cheetos in a crock
pot and then she's like and then you put the
sour cream on top, and then you let it simmer
for four hours.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
And wait, we could be making thousands of dollars making
those videos, but.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
It also just seems like a waste, and it's so ridiculous.
I don't get it. It's and it's not. How is
this going to last? I don't know? And maybe she
does make money, because you can't get paid on real
views on my lip No.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
In your body emotionally why because I.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Activated right now, I started to feel really hot, Like
could you tell I'm about to rip my flannel off?
I have a shirt underneath, but I think I'm gonna
have to unbutton it and take it off, and then
all of a sudden, my lips started to feel a
little tingly. Honestly, No, it's not about the ladies videos.
(07:43):
It's about that we recorded a whole episode and then
we're doing it again, and then cars starts to bark,
and my dog gives me anxiety. Anxiety, and I love her,
but I do have how to instantly feel better based
on different emotions. And this is from a neuroscientist. Okay,
can't act like you've never heard these before.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I'm so excited to hear these.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
This is from TJ. Power. Again, he's a neuroscientist. How
to instantly feel better when you're angry sing. So there,
there you go. That's why we were like happy to Tuesday
two and you too happy because if you're sing, yeah,
that's what's best for your brain. Like I don't know.
Because he's a neuroscientist, I'm assuming it may activate different
(08:24):
parts in the brain that may help whatever it is
you're going through. If you're feeling burned out, go for
a walk. If you are overthinking, right, if you're feeling anxious,
do breath work. Like an example would be four for four,
So breathe in for four, hold for four, out for four.
If you're feeling stressed, do some form of exercise or
(08:46):
workout or did you see my mini trampoline in the
living room?
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Have you used it?
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Yeah? I've been trying to jump on it, even just
for one minute.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Like at heart, one minute would be enough.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I'm pretty sure I saw on TikTok that jumping for
three minutes is like ten minutes of running.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Well, did you card vascular?
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Did you ever hear that treading water for seven minutes
is like running for forty five? Oh?
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Lookers calling me? Oh? Should we answer?
Speaker 1 (09:13):
What are you feeling that he didn't call this last episode?
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Now? I'm really sweating? Hold on, hold on, hold on.
I'm not going to put on the speaker though, but Hello, Hey,
Kat and I are recording, and we're recording like right now,
right now, like your call is on it, but I
don't have you on speaker. Okay, So I was just
going to pick up and call you back because well,
I have to say I've ca call you back, but
I don't know your plans if you have dinner because
(09:38):
he's in New York City, you're flying out tonight I
thought you were coming back tomorrow. Oh baller, okay, all right,
Oh I'll hit you back o goodbye. Okay. So anyway
you're feeling, what are you feeling now? No, now you
(10:01):
take your clothes. Where were we? What was I saying?
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Oh, my tramp? I asked you if you ever heard
that treading water for seven minutes was like running forty five.
I think it's an urban legend, but I used to
do it as a kid all the time.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
Well, that is exactly where we were, because my next
thought and then the phone rang, was that whenever I
was training for a marathon in college, so I was
about twenty years old, and I hurt my knee really
bad during training, and I definitely did a lot of
my training in the pool really so that you get
these little harness things that you sit in and you
(10:34):
act like you're running, so it helps you float up
and then you just move your legs like you're water
jogging and water jogging.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I've never heard of that term before. Is that a
real term?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It is a real term, and it's a real thing.
And so we would do that at the pool and
it would help it. It did everything the same like
you could train for a marathon in the water and
go to land and be able to do it.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
I almost feel like it would be harder.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Yeah, it's just working the same muscles, but you're not
putting the impact on your joints.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
But you are. I feel like sometimes it's harder to
move through What is harder to move through water than air?
Speaker 2 (11:06):
I mean, also, don't quote me on that, Like, don't
train for a full marathon in the water and then
try to go run. I'm just saying that's what my
coach had me do and it helped me and I
was able to complete the marathon, and then my knee
has not been the same since.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
So ohmen, bow out, Just like, go ahead and sign
up for a different one.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Don't do it. Do a five k yeah or something
like that. Okay, if you're overthinking, right, if you're feeling anxious,
breathe or feeling stressed, exercise or get on your mini trampoline,
(11:44):
which my mom had a mini trampline growing up, so
now when I jump on it, I feel like her,
and so it's like a special thing. I like having
it in there. I've been I put it in the
living room because I want to be by my Christmas
Tree and watch cheesy Christmas movies and bounce.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Have you watched the new Netflix Christmas TV with Gretchen
from Mean Girls? I don't know her name.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Yeah, I know what it's called. It's called like hots. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
It was bad. It was so bad. Yeah, it wasn't
even good bad. It was just bad.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I know. It's like, how did this happen? Because they're
at least normally good bad.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yes, it was just bad. And she's in a lot
of movies like that, and that's the thing. They're still good.
But this one, I was like, absolutely not. It was disappointing.
I was so pumped for it.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Did you see the one on Hulu where it's a
girl she has her own radio show and then she
ends up getting stranded and this cowboy lives there and
he's a widower and they get together. She's a radio
show and he's a widower. Yeah, on boy, I know?
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Is this new?
Speaker 3 (12:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (12:44):
It's this year, twenty twenty four Christmas.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Have you you've already read it?
Speaker 2 (12:48):
I could have that's my character, like I could. I
could have if I had continued with my acting lessons,
I could have auditioned for that. So she has her
own radio shows and she met a cowboy.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Did somebody steal your life and write a movie about it?
Speaker 2 (13:02):
No? Because not, obviously not all of that is even similar.
But I just think I could have nailed that role.
And the girl that I didn't, the girl that did
play the part, she did great. So that's awesome that
she got that. But the whole time I was watching,
I was like, oh, nobody called me. I know why,
because I gave up on myself.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Why why did you You never even said you stopped
doing the acting lessons. I just assumed you were still
might be doing.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
That because I didn't believe in myself. I know, I'm
not trying any Debbie downer, but it's just it's true.
I gave up on myself. So either I need to
go back to doing the acting lessons, if that's really
something I want to try to pursue, or at the
very least, I want to enroll back into improv classes
because those were so fun.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Did you do like a whole improv group? Did you
do a class? Yeah? Did the whole class? You just
didn't go to number two?
Speaker 2 (13:48):
What do you mean number two?
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Aren't there eight weeks long? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (13:50):
I didn't. I didn't level up, but I did level
one and it's for eight weeks and each class each
week is three hours long. That's a huge commitment when
you got kids and you're working and all the things.
But hey, you make time for the things you want
to do.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
If you did it again, did you have to start
back at one or can you go straight to two?
Speaker 2 (14:09):
I don't know a good question. I would maybe want
to start back at once in a minute, just to
be with the group and get familiar with it. I
don't know that I would want to jump back in
to that. So if you're feeling sad, and this is
how to instantly feel better, practice gratitude. What's something you're
thankful for today, Not that you're sad, but just give
us an example. I'm thankful we didn't do this last
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time by the way I did.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
It's a different I just got back from a girl's
trip in Boston. I'm very thankful to have a good
group of friends that I can do random stuff like
that with.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
So fun. Y'all are really good about that. Like planning trips.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yeah, we do a lot of trips. Yeah, maybe sometimes
too many trips because you know, I should be saving
a little bit of money, but Boston great time and
they had some Christmas decorations up, so that's fine.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I love Boston so much, it's one of my favorite cities.
Right now, I am thankful for well so much.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
She's thankful for that phone call.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I'm thankful for my dog making lots of noises out there.
I hope y'all can't hear that, but I am thankful
for her. She does help me feel safe when she
barks and I'm alone. When I'm doing a podcast, i
get a little bit annoyed. I am thankful for her, though,
and Maggie, and I'm thankful for my kids. I'll do
four things gratitude since we're here right now. And I
(15:21):
am thankful for airplanes because I just booked my flight
for Christmas, me and the kids to go to Colorado
to see my sister and then been their dad, my
ex husband, He's also going to Colorado to see his
family at the same time, and so I'm just thankful
that we have that dynamic to where I can go
to Colorado and stay with my sister and the kids,
and then he'll be there too. And then when it's
(15:43):
we swap every Friday, and when the Friday rolls around
that week, they'll leave me and my sister and or
where we're staying there and they'll go down the street
and be with him and his family.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
So so I'm.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Thankful for airplanes making that possible because Colorado's not easy
to get to. Wanted to dry because my son really
wants to drive, and I'm like, why look it up, buddy,
it would take us more than a day, like hours,
it just wouldn't.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
Does he love a road trip?
Speaker 2 (16:09):
He just doesn't like airplanes. I don't know. He's not
a good thing. And then I guess tied into that,
I guess my fourth thing will be the relationship that
I have with their dad and our family, his family too,
that's like still my family. Like I feel like his
mom and dad will always be my mother and father
in law no matter what. Where are we sad, I
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just gratitude.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Boom.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
If you're feeling lazy, take a cold shower another thing
you could do if you don't want to get all
the way in a shower. But you're fine if you
want to wash your face, so we just stick your
face in the ice bath.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
And we already talked about this, but how long do.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
You do it. We talked about it, but we didn't
record it. But well, I build up, so I gradually,
like I'll stick it in and then I hold it
there for like, you know, five seconds, see what I
can handle, and then I release whatever.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
And then I.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Because you made me feel like I couldn't say take
it out.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
You loved it yourself before I left at you and
you said.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
So then you and then you could go maybe ten
seconds and then take it out and the rest and.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Then like I'm thirteen years old.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
I don't know, So then you build up, but like,
don't don't go. Try to hold it in there as
long as possible, because then your nose might get red
or your face could get irritated and burn.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
Your face burn, So just freeze burn.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Take it out, dip, take it out, and then that
may help with any laziness that you have going on
or puffy eyes. Yeah, if you're feeling impatient, reflect on progress.
And if you're feeling impatient, it's probably gonna be difficult
for you to have the patience to sit down and
reflect on any type of progress. But you can do it.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
We believe in you.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
I believe that you can do this difficult thing. Maybe
take time to write it. Which, speaking of writing, I
did share this on the Unheard episode.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I like that's a good way to say it.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
The Unheard episode, the top secret one that was just
for me and Kat is the writing thing. My daughter
who's seventeen, we were having a moment talking through some
stuff and there was something that she was just on
the verge of sharing with me. That's the right word.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
Verg just that would think of word verge.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
She was right on the ververge about to tell me yes,
right there, and she couldn't quite get there. Like honestly,
we've sort of stared at each other for about twenty minutes,
and I was like, okay, I mean in every five
minutes or so, I was like, yeah, she's about to
say it because like her eyes would kind of like
just give me that nudge. So then quietly I was
(18:58):
just inside, not out loud, but I was like, Lord,
I'm open to creative solutions. Like I love that saying.
Anytime I'm feeling stuck, I'm just I'm open to creative solutions.
Just make it your mantra. So I'm open to creative solutions.
And then it occurred to me, what if maybe she'd
write it down. So thank you Lord for that creative solution.
And I said, what about if you write it down?
(19:20):
And she said okay. In like point five seconds she
said okay, And so I handed her a notepad and
a pin and she wrote it down. I even left, though,
I gave her space, and I was like, just to
be clear, we're writing it down with the intention that
Mom's going to read it. It's good for you to
sometimes write things down that you just want to release
that nobody's going to read. But like, this is for me,
(19:40):
for us, and she I went to run an errand
and I came back and the notebook was on my bed.
She wrote it all out everything, and I was like, oh,
and it just helped so much. And so just a
reminder with your teenagers or maybe even yourself or your
spouse or your roommate or your friend, sometimes it might
help in a kind way, just to dumb your thoughts
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on the paper and not have to look someone in
the eye and be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
It's less vulnerable, but then it opens up the door
for then you guys to have that conversation in her
to be vulnerable. So it's not a way to bypass vulnerability.
It's a way to open yourself up to it.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah, and now there's understanding. It's like okay, wow, we
can build on this.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
And that might have never ever started. She might have
never said.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
That, Yeah, I'm open to creative solution.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Good job, that's a good proud mom moment.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I was thinking of the things that make me feel
good too that weren't on the list from the neuroscientists.
So I don't know if this is like official, but
I've been loving a good dance party lately too. You
just put on music, whether you're in the kitchen or wherever,
and you just go and just move around, like just
you just move like a free spirit, Like do you
(20:54):
have to name an animal?
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Wait?
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Like I leap and I do all kinds of things,
flail about.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
Your dancing is flailing.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
Yeah, I'm just like you know what, I'm just like, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
What is your go to song? If you're gonna do that?
Do you have a go to or do you go
to playlist that you play? What is your go to
song if you're going to do that? Do you have
a go to or do you a go to playlist
(21:29):
that you play?
Speaker 2 (21:30):
No? I just say, if we say her name, does
it make other peoples go off? But I say that,
I say Elena play you know whatever it comes to
my mind. Yeah, or country like I don't have to
have I'm not like at the club play I'm doing
around my co I'm not club dancing. I can kind
(21:51):
of dance whatever.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
But I mean, don't know if you had like a
feel good song that you would always use.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
Oh, I love nappy roots. Gonna have a good day,
I'm god have a good day, then nobody today. And
I don't know why that's the lyric, But are you
sure don't die?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
I don't body gonna die to day A gonna have
a good which.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
Then makes me sad to think that that's what makes
it a good day.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
If you had to change the words I'm gonna have
a good day. I nobody gonna get in my way.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
They no body up flick me off only when I
drive sometimes. Yeah, I'm gonna have a good day. I'm
gonna be on time all the way. I'm gonna be
so fun every time my kids come in the room
because I I'm an awesome mom. I don't know. See,
(22:49):
we didn't talk about this part in the last one now,
I would in the unheard because this is.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
An original song. She's made that up on the fly,
and I know that probably surprises some of you.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Got hard for you to believe, because obviously if we
had done that the last one, I would have workshopped
it a little more, because what would you say.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
I'm gonna have good day and nobody's gonna get him
my way, and I'm gonna look super fly today.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
And I am always gonna know what to say.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Hey, that's good.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, since I get paid to talk for a living,
I'm gonna have a good day, not gonna say anything.
I'm gonna always hit record. Hey, so do something weird.
Whatever it is, it's weird. Maybe it's making up songs
like love do you sing a shower? Sometimes? I always
(23:41):
if a song is in my head.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
My friends recorded me this weekend on our trip because
I was in the shower scene. I didn't know they
could hear me. I thought they were sleep.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
Oh Stevenson is like that too, He'll I was just.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Like doing like random songs like but like making beats up.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Oh Stevenson's is good. It's like always praising worship music
first thing in the morning, in the shower, and I'm like, well.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
I think I also was saying everybody in the club
getting tips.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Oh yeah, don't worry. My kids also have other songs
as you know that we have, oh kids these days.
Although Charlotte and the God posted something the other day
that was like, hey, let these kids be kids.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
With their music.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
Everyone's all freaking out by some of the music that's
out these days, and he's like, this was us in
the nineties.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
They have no idea what it means.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Let's hope.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
Let's hope that's true because.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Some of it I have had a major problem with lately.
And then Showman the God. I can't remember the song
he referenced, but it was a very good example of
like stuff we were listening to in the nineties that
was totally inappropriate and we were just jamming out to it.
Yeah that's and like he turned out okay.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
Yeah, so we were innocently jamming out, Like I think,
get benefit of the doubt.
Speaker 2 (24:50):
You know. So let's hope. I know, we just talked
about the weird things. So before we go, I want
to touch on this because this came up in the
unheard about being weird, and I just want to encourage
you to just be yourself, be you're weird, be your
whatever you need to be, because people that love you
are loving you for your weirdness, and if they don't,
then it's not real love or it's not real like
(25:11):
in a friendship. So it's whether it's romantic or friendship.
I saw this whole thing from this philosopher a land
Dee boton You're good at saying that. I don't know
if I'm saying correctly. I came across it on TikTok
and I was like, Oh, because it just feels so
(25:32):
good to be around people that you can just like
be your weird self around. And that's something that in
my dating relationship that I even said something like the
other day, so stupid or I don't know why I
did that, that's so weird, and I feel like he
literally said, oh, I love that, Like that's what I
think is so great. And that's what this philosopher was saying,
(25:53):
or someone was quoting this philosph on TikTok about finding
someone that will accept your weirdness.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
And you're just accept it and I like it.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Like what you think is weird, they think is amazing.
And that is attraction like that is what they are
truly attracted you, like, if you want to know in
a nutshell, I believe was what he was saying. If
someone is truly attracted to you, then they think your
weirdness is amazing. Period. Drop the mic and I'm like, yes,
thank you.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
So do you feel like it can be yourself?
Speaker 2 (26:23):
Yes? Uh? And I feel like I can be weird
and whatever, it's gonna be amazing. And that same philosopher,
I was just doing some research. I thought I was
going to put that on the Bobby Bone Show. Is
like submitting a show prep. But I was like, eh,
I don't know that will work. But I came across
a novel that he wrote called The Course of Love,
and even though it's fiction, it still had things that
could be applicable. And one of the things that was
(26:45):
in there was about admitting your crazy upfront, and I thought, oh,
this could be a fun segment on The Bobby Bone
Show where everybody's just go around and admit they're crazy, Like,
what's one thing you do that you think is crazy?
And the point of that is a lot of times
in relationships we can try to just put out the
perfection and all the time in the beginning, and then
it just doesn't allow for any sympathy or forgiveness when
(27:07):
a situation arises because you're like, wait a second, yeah,
I'm blindsided by this, this and this, and obviously crazy
is on a spectrum, but you know what we're talking about,
Like it's just like, hey, what's something that you typically
wouldn't want to admit to someone right away? But if
you just jet it up front, then it'd be good.
So that was the whole thing is admit you're crazy upfront,
(27:28):
like not that you are crazy, but what are your
little crazy tendencies?
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Emit your crazy? Like yeah, why are you a posture aari?
Like why oh you are? Yeah, yeah you're crazy? What
is yours?
Speaker 2 (27:42):
We'd be here all day, I don't think so, oh
my god, mightn't yours?
Speaker 1 (27:51):
Yours?
Speaker 2 (27:51):
And that's our cue to go, Kat? Where can we
find you?
Speaker 1 (27:54):
On Instagram? Kat van Buren.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
And I am at radio Amy.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Can you find your dog?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
She's also on my Instagram sometimes? Yeah, but we'd love
to see you there. You can email us four things
with Amy Brown at gmail dot com and uh yeah, Kat,
and I'll see you later and we hope you're having
the day that you need to have.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
That's all we got.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Don't freak it. Sing, dance, be weird, be awesome, Jump
on the trampoline, do your thing. Leap leap, jump, make
up a song, don't get mad at yourself. Don't you
mess up because we all mess up.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
Dunk your head in cold water. After you mess up.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
Mess up, just press record again, but then make sure
you recorded it and then peek out. Oh, we were
not drinking during this episode, but I like, really we
were not, But I hate life. Happy Tuesday, Happy Tuesday,
(28:55):
Happy Tuesday. In a minute, you're gonna find find out
what we're seeing.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
Happy Tuesday to us.
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