March 14, 2023 • 34 mins
Well, this episode is fun!! Amy & Kat talk about all kinds of things: pure happiness, Amy’s colonoscopy, Kat’s weird encounter watching a woman peel an avocado like a potato, a medication mishap, an OBGYN experience that may not be normal, and more!!
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing. I'm Ami and
I'm Cat And today's quote is it's a meme I've
seen multiple times, but it's me right now. Okay, Okay,
My mind is like my web browser. Nineteen tabs are open,
three or frozen, and I have no idea where the
music is coming from. Like that really is how my
(00:25):
computer is? Oh same. I had to restart mine the
other day because it had enough, I think, and I'm like,
what is wrong with it? And then I looked at
all the different things I had to open, and it
was a lot. I get a fear that if I
close out of like a document or something I'm working on,
that I won't save even if I saved it. So
(00:45):
I have everything that I might be working on within
a month open. At least you have a valid reason
for keeping it open, because I don't. I trust that
it's saved. I just want to keep it open for
easy access. Okay. You know which, speaking of things on
my computer or something I left open was in one
of my three Gmail tabs that are open right now,
along with multiple other docs. But Lisa Hay, our friend Lisa,
(01:11):
She has a podcast called Truthius Life. She started outwagh
with me, and she sends out a newsletter and I
love them so much, and I want to read what
she wrote because I think this is sort of a
bonus quote, but it's a quick little newsletter that's such
an encouragement. She said, this morning, I noticed that I
was really happy, not because of anything super positive going on,
(01:33):
but just a general feeling of gratitude and excitedness as
I got that first whiff of spring. I really, really,
really soak up these moments of happiness over nothing, because
for a long time I only knew happiness in the
form of really high highs. Simple joys were not something
I knew how to spot, let alone savor. I took
(01:54):
inventory of why I felt content and realized that since
leaving the hospital with my daughter nearly two months ago,
something inside of me shifted and stayed. I left that
hellhole different, forking the noise clear on my priorities, and
detached from a lot of the mental garbage that was
previously weighing me down. I simply do not give a
(02:17):
crap about a lot of things that I gave a
crap about before. I've changed my life a lot you
may or may not notice but my heart definitely does.
I'm fulfilled. This is enough. While this may not be
my season of huge professional growth in the way that
I wanted, it is my sacred season of mothering and
(02:37):
serving from a place deep within my soul. And wow,
that is liberating. This email is perfection and I love
that she's able to find the simple joy and just
cliffs notes version because she did post about it. It's
not private. But her daughter ended up having some major
medical issues and they had to go to the hospital
and it was very scary, like they thought they could
(02:58):
lose her, and luckily they were finally able to leave.
But that's why she called it a hell hole. And
then finally when she left from there, she left changed
and she hasn't reverted back, and I just thought that's
such a good well, it's something had to happen for
her to kind of wake up and have that, and
we don't all have that, and not I don't want
any of us to all have to go through our
(03:19):
own hell holes. But at the same time, it's back
to that question of what does this make possible? And
for her it opened the door to simple pleasures and
it doesn't have to be a high high like she's
genuinely waking up happy and soaking up the day. And
I just thought it was a real encouragement. It's nice
(03:39):
to hear those stories because you're right, like, I don't
want everybody to have to go through that to then
have the same realization that she had, Like I like
being able to see it through somebody else, just because
I wouldn't wish that on anybody. But what she's saying
is she realized that how good her life actually is
absent from those huge, big accomplishments, and like when you're
(04:00):
just sitting, when she's just sitting with her family, she's like,
oh my gosh, this is nice. That is just yeah,
that's nice being here with you right now. This is nice.
You're watching me build a cabinet downstairs. That's nice. Yes,
Cat has been working on a cabinet assembly for how
many hours today? I think that took three hours. It's
a cute cabinet. It is really cute, and there was
(04:23):
twenty five steps. I'm proud of you. Do you do
you talk about how you're on at all? I don't know. Okay, okay,
oh no, but I don't think it matters. I think
you talk four I mean, I'm just saying it's not
a secret. No, it's not a secret, okay, because I
am gonna give you props because there's an adderall shortage
(04:43):
apparently according to cat at which grocery store public publics,
not all like other stores have it, but for whatever reason, publics,
and that's where she gets her prescription filled. So I
get here and she's like, I haven't had adderall in days.
And you I watched you as symbol that, and you
worked on that, and you focused and you did it,
and it was you. I got to take a little
break for, you know, some friend time. I probably took
(05:06):
a couple pauses in between, but I had been looking
at that cabinet for weeks. Maybe that was what the
motivation really was, that I just need to get this done.
But yeah, there's an adderall shortage. So if you can't
get your medication, I feel you. I almost cried in
publics yesterday, but I held it together over the medication
or the avocado. Avocado was today the medication yesterday because
(05:30):
when they looked at me, they're like, oh, we don't
we can't fill this, and I was like, like today
or can I come back in an hour and they're like, oh, no,
we can't fill this. And I said, can you tell
me when you can? And they're like no, what it
could be months. And then I started to feel like
what am I going to do? So I started calling
other publics and they all were kind of rude because
(05:51):
I imagine everybody's calling them right now because it's not
just me that's affecting. So imagine they're getting hundreds of
calls and they would just like, no, we don't know
when we're gonna get it. We can't help you luck.
And so I was like, Okay, it's gonna be okay,
and it might be a little difficult. Well, it's kind
of reminding me of how last week, you know, how
I self prescribed yourself. And here's the thing. I have
(06:11):
a prescription to my wellbutron and for the first time
ever two actually side note about that. I had to
do like a telemed for something else that I was doing.
I was doing like an ivy drip and they have
to hook you up with a nurse to make sure
that you're like good to go, and they pull me
in this quiet room and they set me down and
they're like, last time you were here, you were not on,
(06:33):
wellbutron or is it? Can you tell us why you're
taking this? And I said, all I think depression and
she was like, okay, I don't know how to answer that.
I'm going to ask you out in the thing because
you know, I never know what's going on. And I
(06:53):
guess they know that that potentially it can be an
ADHD medication. By the way, but that's not what I'm
taking before. So anyway, all this to say, I've been
one hundred and fifty milligrams for a long not a
long time, but a few months, and I had googled
that after a few months. Disclaimer that she's about to
tell No, I am actually telling and you're gonna not
(07:17):
You're not gonna want to do it after I tell you,
not proud of myself. Don't arrest me. I don't think
you can get arrested or or flag me. I don't know.
Could they find me in the pharmacy. No, you're you're
prescribed this medication. Okay, okay, but I miss you. I
mishandled it, yes, but you learned a lesson. You know.
I didn't wake up necessarily feeling like Lisa. You know,
(07:40):
I wasn't like life is so great. So I thought,
you know, I wonder if I should increase to three
hundred milligrams because online it said a lot of people
do you start at the lowest dose, which is what
I'm on, and then you go from there. And so
I thought, okay, this is fine. I'm going to test
this out today. See what's up. It was a Monday
(08:02):
work day, all work day or stay ever. In fact,
I was in a work meeting on Monday afternoon with Fazio,
who we both work closely with, and she's going to
be the executive producer of the live show in Nashville
coming up. Like, so we have a lot that we're
working on, and we just called the meeting. She's like,
let's meet tomorrow. And I was a good idea, Like
(08:23):
I felt horrible it did the opposite. Yeah, yeah, So like,
how come some people can take the three hundred I mean,
I guess that's just not for me. It's fine, it's
not for me to understand. It just also depends that stuff.
I'm not a pharmacist also not a psychiatrist or anything
like that, but the dosages depend on you your makeup,
(08:44):
what other medications you might be on your own genetics,
but also like your height if you're a female, if
you're a male, and so the next time, if you
want to do that, what might you do before you
do that? I know somebody knows. I know. I don't
want y'all to think that I take this lightly at all? Whatsoever?
Already think of like the one negative or two or
three or five that I'm notes that I'm going to
(09:04):
get from people. Well, I can't believe you would talk
about this. No, I'm telling you a real story that
I thought about. And there are people out there that
are like me, and we may google and think, oh,
this should be okay, I'm going to try this, But
now I'm telling you don't because yes, it was horrible,
it didn't work. I won't ever do it again. One
fifties the sweet spot for me, and eventually, but or
(09:29):
I might not even or I might need zero milligrams. Yeah,
I you know what I mean. That'd be no, yeah,
no bills. But that's okay. And Lisa has been very
honest too, throughout different seasons and needing certain medications for
specific times in her life, and so she didn't reference
it here. But I think she's just in a really amazing,
(09:52):
beautiful place, and whether we get there naturally or we
get there with assistance, it doesn't matter. Well, And I
will say that a lot of people, just from a
therapist perspective, I have a lot of clients who, if
you're prescribed a medication, you don't really know or you
don't think it's that big of a deal to like
skip a day, or like I refilled it late, or
(10:13):
like I skipped this day so then I was doubled
it the next day. You don't really realize what the
implications are. So I'm glad that you said this, because
a lot of people do that stuff all the time.
And a client will come in and be like, yeah,
I haven't had my medication in a week, and then
they'll tell me the story about how all this stuff
was going hair wire and they either couldn't sleep or
they're sleeping too much, or their depression was this, And
I'm like, huh, I wonder if that might have had
(10:34):
anything to do with the fact that you might have
changed your medication. Or people think I feel better, I
don't have to take it anymore, and then they stop,
and maybe they could have tapered down. But when you
just stops no bueno, right, which is how I feel
that all the other day I had my colonoscopy and
I didn't take you, I couldn't have anything to drink
(10:56):
the morning of and so for the first time and
forever or I didn't have anything that I take and
I could eat, because you can't eat either if you
absolutely needed it, Like if it's a life saving medication
that you have to have, then you could take a
tiny sip of water with it. You couldn't drink a
sip of water. No. So my procedure was at eight am,
(11:27):
which I would say, hands down, if you're gonna get
a colonoscopy, book at first thing in the morning if
you can, because you can prep the day before, and
then you get to go to the hospital. They'll knock
you out. Next thing you know, they're like countdown ten, nine, eight,
you know, and they're putting the anesthesiologists putting the juice
in your arm or whatever. And I remember I was like, oh,
(11:50):
I'm gonna try to fight this, so I'm gonna stay awake.
I'm gonna stay awake, and the next thing you know,
I'm just totally yeah, gone. Well, I mean I'm waking
up they're like, hello, Hey, how you feeling Amy. My
nurse was so nice. I loved her name was Savannah,
and I was like, I'm feeling good and she said,
do you remember the joke you told me? And I
(12:11):
was like, oh god, because you know, of course, before
I went in, I was looking up colonoscopy jokes online,
speaking of googling things, and I guess I had multiple
in my back pocket, but the one I decided to
go with was did you hear well? At first, I
looked at her and I was like, oh god. I
was like which one she said about the golfer? And
(12:32):
I was like, oh, yes, yes, yes, And did you
hear about the golfer that opened a colonoscopy clinic? I
didn't hear about him? Now, oh he does eighteen holes
a day. So anyway, book your colonoscopy appointment in the morning. Oh,
which this also makes me think. I was just thinking
how Houston is probably editing this and being like, what's
(12:52):
wrong with these girls? But Houston on the day, my
well betun day, Yeah, that I took three mis happened.
He sent Elizabeth a note fasio and said, is Amy okay? Yes?
Why well? Because I was doing like I just wasn't
all with it. It was Monday night. Why didn't I
(13:13):
realize anything was wrong? Well, I was communicating. I don't know,
I don't maybe we didn't talk that day, but I
was messaging Houston saying, I can't find the link to
the fifth thing. It's not loading on my podcast app
and I need to send it to someone because I
needed to send someone the link because I knew what
we had talked about and I wanted to share it
with someone. And it's Monday night and I'm like, I'm
(13:35):
keep refreshing my podcast and it's not there. And he said, Amy,
I just got everything like it's Monday. It loads at
midnight tonight, so for Tuesday. And I was like, oh,
I thought it was Tuesday. Well, because I mean i'd
been working on title and description and I've done all
that stuff. But that's what I do on Mondays. It
was Monday. But that was just one example of some
(13:56):
of my behavior that just wasn't I wasn't all there,
Like I could drive, but I wasn't out, but I
just was tired and not thinking clearly yep, which I
struggle with thinking clearly on the daily. But this was
I've never done that before. I know the days that
things happened since like, uh, I literally was like, actually,
(14:19):
that's really kind of Houston. Yes, And Fazzio is the
one that told me about it. He didn't. He's like,
She's like, Houston hit me up and said, is any okay?
And You're like no, we had to cancel our meeting.
And I'm like, oh, thoughtful. So all this to say,
don't set your doctor, don't do things unless you have
a colonoscopy wointment, and you might need to not take
(14:42):
your meds um and then just get right back on
track the next day, and then don't increase your dosage.
And don't tell my person I did that. She I
hope she doesn't listen to this my psychiatrists. Do you
think I would do that? Well, I guess you can't
because technically you don't know that I go to her. Well,
I can know that you go to her. She can't
acknowledge that you would go to her. How I don't
(15:04):
understand this, hippah. Yeah. I love when people get that confused.
I can know anything that somebody tells me, but I
cannot divulge any of my client's information. Okay, So if you.
But if you were to go to her and say, hey,
I heard I'm worried about Amy. I'm worried about it,
she can't acknowledge that she knows you. Yeah, yeah, So
(15:25):
what's she gonna do about it? Well, she might be like, oh,
I cannot confirm her deny that I know her. And
then she might text you and be like, hey, I've
heard some information or email you. Do you want to
come in for some an anonymous source. She couldn't even
say it's from me, Oh, I'm not okay, her client.
She just can't tell me, oh, thanks for telling me.
She would just say I can either confirm her deny
that I know who that is. Okay, got it? Do
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you know the results of Michael and oscomy? Oh my gosh,
tell me a plus anal? Do you get that immediately? Yeah?
The doctor comes and sits down and she says, hey,
I just wanted to you know, everything looks good. Checked
for anal cancer twice. She I don't know what devil
checked it. She just you know, drew in and then
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went back in, drove down that street a couple of times,
and with her binoculars check things out. The cameras like
the size of your finger, my finger, like that is
going on a man's finger inside a camera, is going
in your body? Yeah, well, when you go to the gynacologist, Yes, no,
(16:28):
my kynacologist sticks regulated finger up there, up the butt. No, yes,
I don't think she did. I would have felt are
you sure? Yeah? Or does she just do that to
me because of my family history? Should I email my
(16:49):
kind of coolog didn't say? Why didn't you say? Okay?
And so wait a second, is that normal? I've never
had that. But she's her finger inside of your ex
cervix or whatever. That obviously your cervix or uterous. It's
the vagina hole. I don't know she's going in there
to Yeah, that's all I know. But I wonder if
(17:14):
it's because it has to be because I've since two
thou and twelve that's been my family history. So that's
when my mom was diagnosed with anal cancer. And then
when you're younger, when you went to the gun of college,
they put the finger up. I don't remember. I don't know.
I was always the worst at going I would go
years and years and years and years and years. Yeah,
(17:36):
I went, don't children don't go or people don't look
us on this like you we have to go. Like
now I go yearly. Because I'm turning forty two this weekend.
I got to be as proactive as possible. Well, there's
so many stories where people, of course, like you never
think it's gonna be you, and so you're like, oh
la la, I'll just go, I'll skip my appointment, but
then like that could be you, that something happens. So
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I'm committed now now that I found a new doctor
and I like her, I will go regularly. I was
finally a new doctor I felt comfortable with. That kept
me from going. You know, it's vulnerable. They might stick
a finger up your pok. Yeah, as they should. I
posted a little video that I took of my little
colonoscopy experience. I mean it doesn't show that because I
(18:19):
was obviously passed out, but just thought I would throw
it up as like I don't know, who knows, maybe
somebody might need to see it or share it with like, hey,
go do this, Like if you've been looking for a
sign to book that appointment, then go, because I know
as well as anybody what it's like to just want
to put stuff off. And someone sent me a DM
(18:40):
and said that their friend recently booked a proactive appointment,
didn't have any symptoms at all whatsoever, and they found
cancer and because they got it early, it's preventable or
treatable or treatable. Sorry, it's preventable if you go early
and detect it, and then it's treatable. So that's a
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pretty wild story and like a huge testament to bus
a colonoscopy, proactive colonoscopy. So, but I don't need one yet,
do I? Or should I go? No, you don't if
you don't have any family history. Because you're in your
young thirties, I would say, I don't know if it's
forty or fifty for women and men, Somewhere in the
forty and fifty range, you start to go more regularly,
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and I think it might be every five years or
so once you hit that age. But for me, my
obgyn was saying every year. But then the doctor when
she sat down, she goes, everything looks good to me.
So I'm going to go ahead and say every three
years for you right now. But if you see symptoms,
get in here. What's a symptom? Blood? Oh, I don't know, constipation,
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it's only when I could pick up I should probably
look up what else I need to do? What should
I look out for? Well, I feel like I'll just
if anything's irregular or feels I pay attention to that
sort of thing. Yeah, which was your mom's cancer? Did
she was it founded a regular checkup or she had symptoms?
So she was not proactive? Well, I mean, I don't
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want to speak for I don't know how proactive she was.
I don't know how regularly she booked appointments, but it's
not It wasn't just her being like, oh here's my
I'm sixty three, I should book an appointment. She had symptoms,
got worried, book to kolonoscopy and that's where they found it.
And then it spread and we thought it was gone,
but it had to stay gone for five years for
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her to really be in remission. And it came back
and it was in her liver and then like her
lungs and then her skin. It was like epidermist cancer.
I don't know, but just spreading. And then that was
the crazy part was seeing because then once it hit
her skin, it grew on the outside, which is crazy,
and like I saw it. Well, since we're talking about
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OBG O I N sticking their fingers up your boats.
Might as well say here, which I've talked about it
a little bit before, but some people think my mom
had breast cancer, which she did not. I think it's
just maybe a common assumption. Yeah, because you probably didn't say, well, yeah,
because my mom didn't like that she had anal cancer,
which I would say, no shame in that. Who cares
that you have? Go get the COLONASKI embrace whatever cancer
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it is you have and scream it from the rooftops
because you're going to help encourage somebody else and you
don't want anybody else to feel shame about it. But
I mean, I get it. She just really wanted it
to be colon or rectal at least, and the doctor
was like, no, it's anal. That's they're all different, and
you have anal. She's like, awesome. And you know there's
(21:27):
no fun runs for that breast cancer. There's like fun
runs and pink ribbons, and so we used to joke
like should we do a fun run and like we'll
all wear brown. Yes, yeah, we didn't do that, but
she would say I have what fair Faucet had, because
fair Fauce it had anal cancer and fair fauce. It
(21:49):
was Charlie's anl So she was like, did she talk
about that? Yeah, she did a whole documentary. Oh, it's interesting,
you could check it out. I remember when my mom
had it. I would google and try to learn and
watch things, and it's just not that common, which I
don't know the stats, so, but it's just not one
that you hear about a lot. But the cancer was
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growing on the outside of her vagina like bumps, Like
what it is? That what it looked like? Just like
like it was fascinating because you know when you see
a tumor on a scan, it just looks like a
blob and they don't even know. They're like, well, that
looks like it could be something. I don't until we
go in and test it. But you don't have a
(22:32):
visual of just how crazy it is cancer. Yeah, and
like how it just completely starts to multiply and take over,
because that's what was happening. So it started off the
size of my pinky nail right here, and then it
grew to like what massive? Yeah, and you can't just
cut it off. No, at this point, there was nothing
they could do. It sounds it was, but she would
(22:54):
still walk places and I felt like if I was walking,
I would get slowdown. I have a tumor growing out
of my vagina right now and it's rubbing and it hurts.
Or I would wear a sign that's like high five me.
I'm walking right now with the tumor coming out of
my legs, you know. But she didn't, she didn't ever
say anything, and she just carried on. But then towards
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the end of life, you know, we were her caregivers.
And that's just a visual that, yeah, I don't ever
lose sight of. And it was very very interesting to
see because you see just how does it look like
disastrous again though, or like is it like a like
a big mole or is it yeah and multiplying, yeah,
and growing and growing and growing and growing. But then
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that's what's happening on the inside when you see it,
but you don't see just don't see it. So it
was fascinating in a way that we got to see that,
and gosh, that makes me think a hospice nurses too,
and just they are the most precious people in the world,
how caring they are. Which I'm going to my aunt's
Geral this weekend. Wow, this took a turn real quick.
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She's now in heaven with my mom. But I'm flying
to Austin on Thursday and her funerals on my birthday,
which is cool. Does I'll get to see family on
my birthday and I wasn't planning on that, and that
would be fun. And then we're gonna come back to Nashville,
or I will and my cousin Amanda, she's actually going
to come a few days after that and then come
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hang out Nashville for a week just to get a
break because she was her mom's primary caregiver and she's
going to come to the Live. So that would be
a lot of fun. And why don't we go ahead
and end on you telling that avocados story, because I
feel like we need to end on a high. So
(24:52):
you may have caught this earlier in the episode, Kat
was saying something about being at Public's almost crying and
it was over her medication. But I mate, I said, well,
was it because of the adderall or the avocado? And
then she said the adderall? And then we went by
the way down that rabbit hole and then here we
are back now and we're going to talk about the avocado. So, yeah,
(25:12):
if you were sitting there wondering this whole time if
I was ever going to talk about the avocado, because
I'm sure you were. Yeah. I went to Public's for groceries,
as I do, and they have Have you ever had
a pub sub? No? Okay, So apparently everybody's obsessed with them,
and Patrick has been obsessed with them, my boyfriend, and
so finally one day I had one. They're so good.
It's like the best sub sandwich you can get, and
(25:34):
it's like fresh They get the stuff from the grocery store.
You know, it's like, what better way to have a
sandwich than Freshman the grocery store. Anyway, so I go
to get a sandwich and I asked for avocado on it,
and normally it's not that big of a deal, and
she starts to put guacamole on it, and I said, no, no, no,
if you don't have avocado, that's fine. I was thinking
I'll just put it on want to get home, And
she said okay, and then the other lady said, you
(25:54):
have to get an avocado from the produce section. She
comes back to the avocado and Patrick looks at me.
It's like that is the most non ripe afficcado I've
ever seen, and it was like hard as a rock.
So I didn't know what to say, like would you
say like, oh, I don't think that's a good one,
Like would you have said something I don't think so right?
So I just was like, well, let's just let her
(26:14):
do it. Yeah, I'll take it off when I got home,
because I knew it was going to be hard. So
she's sitting there for maybe five to seven minutes trying
to cut this apocad like I'm not exaggerating and like everything,
and we wanted to be like, it's not ripe. I
can get look another one if you want, but I didn't.
She asked for help from her manager, and the managers like, oh,
it's not ripe. Do you know how to peel? This
had to be this person's first day, and she said no,
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I don't know how to peel. Patrick looked at me
and he said, they're not going to peel the avocado,
and I zaid, just let them do it. So the
woman takes like a peel or knife and peels all
of the skin off of the avocado like a potato,
and we're just sitting there like we're standing there also,
(26:58):
the lines getting very long behind us, and we're just
watching this happen. And Patrick was like, she's gonna put
that on your sandwich now, like just let them do it.
And it was one of those things where you just
wanted to be like, thank you so much for doing it,
because she worked so hard to get me this avocado,
and then I just threw it away. But if you
were wondering if you can't open an avocado, if you're
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you know, cutting it around, you're trying to pull it open.
If you can't open it, that means it's not ripe,
and you should just put that down and get a
different one, or just skip the avocado, you know up
by the little what's that part? This ze? No in
the on the avocado where the where it's see what's
it called the top? Yeah? The top? But no, no, no, no, no,
(27:47):
it is called something like you know where that little
thing is at the top. I think that's yeah, like
where it's the stuff, the tree, the stamp, thank you,
O god, gosh, remember I have nineteen rowser is open
in my brain right now and like none of them
are working. Gosh, what's wrong with you? Mean you're about
to give this avocado trick. Yeah, oh, this is what
(28:08):
I do when I'm at the store. So right around
the stem area, you can press it and if it
feels soft around that area and then it's good to go. Oh,
I just squeeze the whole thing. One time I told
for you, I don't know why I don't you keep talking.
I'm googling this. So one time I told one of
my browsers, so put another one. One time, my sister
(28:30):
I had just taught her how to make guacamole or
something like that, and I asked her to go get
avocados from the store and she said, how do you
know if they're ripe? And I said, well, if you
put one on the ground and you spin it around
like you twist it like like you would like a
little spinner. I said, if it spins three times and stops,
that means it's ripe. But if it keeps spinning, that
means it's not ripe, and she believed me. People often
(28:53):
ask under this, how can you tell if an avocado
is ripe without squeezing it. The key is checking under
the nubby stem for a sneak peak. Yes of what's
going on under the skin. You can just like squeeze
that part. That way you don't have to squish the
whole avocado, and maybe risk that is actually really helpful.
(29:16):
It's not that I didn't believe you. I just was like, oh,
I've always squeezed the avocado. That makes me feel better
because then I'm not ruining it. I love that they
call it the nubby stem. For a sneak peak, they
say here, you can also pull back the small stem
or the cap at the top of the avocado. That
stem part. If it comes away easily and you find
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green or yellow underneath, you've scored a good avocado. It's
ripe and ready to eat. And then okay, you know what,
can we email this to public's deli. Wow, there's a
whole blog that says don't squeeze the avocados. That's from
Iowa State University. Oh there's another frequently asked question, how
(29:57):
do you ripe in avocados in ten minutes? The original
tip recommends completely wrapping an avocado with tinfoil, then placing
it in a baking dish and transferring it to a
two hundred three fahrenheit oven for ten minutes until it softens.
Why I thought you put it in a brown paper
bag and put it in like a closet, But that's
not gonna be ten minutes. That would be good day. Yeah.
(30:19):
And I think if you put bananas in there with
it too, it makes it or maybe that ripens the bananas.
I don't know that's helpful, because sometimes you need to
make wacamole and all the avocados are hard, or you
want an avocado in your sandwich on your wrap the
tinfoil putting the up and I'll come back in ten minutes.
You want it on your pubs up. Okay, Well, I
hope y'all are happen the day that you need to have.
(30:42):
This episode was fun. Cat's actually going to join me
on Thursday for at least the first thing, So we'll
be talking on Thursday about some stuff. And thank you
for joining me on four things. You're not ever really
on four things. You're normally on the fifth thing and
sometimes that way, but you haven't done four things in
a while. Yeah, it's exciting, guys. Better subscribes, you don't
(31:03):
miss it. Like and subscribe, rate, review, comment, subscribe, share. Yeah,
and if you had feedback, I don't say constructive criticism anymore.
Why because criticism is negative. Oh, even though it's constructive,
it's still a negative word. And I did a whole
episode on using positive language instead of negative language. And
(31:26):
you should see me at home trying to speak this
way because I see it working with my son, and
I was doing this with him before the episode. But
sometimes it's so hard to come up with a way
to say what you're going to say positively without saying
words like no and don't. But where there's a will,
there's a way, and you find the way. It just
(31:47):
takes me a lot longer to communicate, and he's staring
at me waiting for the words. Might help you just
talk slower and say what you mean, you know, versus well,
that's what I'm gonna I'm just trying to say what
I mean. I'm just trying to say what I mean, buddy,
and say I mean. You'd be surprised how many negative
words you use if you really stop to think about it,
(32:10):
because and you're not meaning to they don't mean they're
they're actually negative words that you're you're using them sometimes
for something positive, right, Constructive criticism feedback, so you can
say feedback, like if someone says hey, yeah, thanks for
doing that for me, and you say no problem. What
you're saying, no, your brain has a negative bias. So
(32:31):
so what do you say? You're welcome? Yeah, you're welcome,
or you say like, hey, how are you today? Couldn't
be better? Well, don't say it couldn't because it doesn't.
I'm amazing, I feel great, I'm good. Or could you
do that for me? That's another area where you could say, oh, yeah,
(32:52):
I'll do that, no problem, and you could just say definitely,
of course, yeah, I'd love to. Yes, unless I wouldn't
love too. Then don't say it. Okay, don't do it.
I'll say what you mean me? You say, say you
mean me? Would you say? But don't say it? Mean
there you go. Okay, Well, tune into the fois. Yeah,
(33:12):
and if you have feedback, you don't have to put
that in the iTunes review or iHeart or wherever you
leave your review. You can email your feedback. Four Things
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Need Therapy podcast and her podcast is you Need Therapy
(33:35):
and it's awesome, and couch talks are my favor but
you have a lot of really good interviews and also
solo episodes where you're really diving into stuff and you
still have your four horsemen thing going on right now. Yeah.
So last week we did Criticism, which I talk all
about criticism and really romantic partnerships and how they're different
(33:56):
than complaints, how complaints can actually be really helpful. But
I guess I'll redo it and talk about how we
should really call complaints feedback. Don't. Don't redo it. And
I'm not saying you have to take that episode if
you listen to it. I'm not saying you have to
speak that way all the time, but it's just being
aware and trying to make sure you're using more positive
(34:18):
language when you can. Yeah. No, I think it probably
has a lot of good stuff in it. But if
you can't, then don't see I speak negative. I know, Okay.
By
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to the Fifth Thing. I'm Ami and
I'm Cat And today's quote is it's a meme I've
seen multiple times, but it's me right now. Okay, Okay,
My mind is like my web browser. Nineteen tabs are open,
three or frozen, and I have no idea where the
music is coming from. Like that really is how my
(00:25):
computer is? Oh same. I had to restart mine the
other day because it had enough, I think, and I'm like,
what is wrong with it? And then I looked at
all the different things I had to open, and it
was a lot. I get a fear that if I
close out of like a document or something I'm working on,
that I won't save even if I saved it. So
(00:45):
I have everything that I might be working on within
a month open. At least you have a valid reason
for keeping it open, because I don't. I trust that
it's saved. I just want to keep it open for
easy access. Okay. You know which, speaking of things on
my computer or something I left open was in one
of my three Gmail tabs that are open right now,
along with multiple other docs. But Lisa Hay, our friend Lisa,
(01:11):
She has a podcast called Truthius Life. She started outwagh
with me, and she sends out a newsletter and I
love them so much, and I want to read what
she wrote because I think this is sort of a
bonus quote, but it's a quick little newsletter that's such
an encouragement. She said, this morning, I noticed that I
was really happy, not because of anything super positive going on,
(01:33):
but just a general feeling of gratitude and excitedness as
I got that first whiff of spring. I really, really,
really soak up these moments of happiness over nothing, because
for a long time I only knew happiness in the
form of really high highs. Simple joys were not something
I knew how to spot, let alone savor. I took
(01:54):
inventory of why I felt content and realized that since
leaving the hospital with my daughter nearly two months ago,
something inside of me shifted and stayed. I left that
hellhole different, forking the noise clear on my priorities, and
detached from a lot of the mental garbage that was
previously weighing me down. I simply do not give a
(02:17):
crap about a lot of things that I gave a
crap about before. I've changed my life a lot you
may or may not notice but my heart definitely does.
I'm fulfilled. This is enough. While this may not be
my season of huge professional growth in the way that
I wanted, it is my sacred season of mothering and
(02:37):
serving from a place deep within my soul. And wow,
that is liberating. This email is perfection and I love
that she's able to find the simple joy and just
cliffs notes version because she did post about it. It's
not private. But her daughter ended up having some major
medical issues and they had to go to the hospital
and it was very scary, like they thought they could
(02:58):
lose her, and luckily they were finally able to leave.
But that's why she called it a hell hole. And
then finally when she left from there, she left changed
and she hasn't reverted back, and I just thought that's
such a good well, it's something had to happen for
her to kind of wake up and have that, and
we don't all have that, and not I don't want
any of us to all have to go through our
(03:19):
own hell holes. But at the same time, it's back
to that question of what does this make possible? And
for her it opened the door to simple pleasures and
it doesn't have to be a high high like she's
genuinely waking up happy and soaking up the day. And
I just thought it was a real encouragement. It's nice
(03:39):
to hear those stories because you're right, like, I don't
want everybody to have to go through that to then
have the same realization that she had, Like I like
being able to see it through somebody else, just because
I wouldn't wish that on anybody. But what she's saying
is she realized that how good her life actually is
absent from those huge, big accomplishments, and like when you're
(04:00):
just sitting, when she's just sitting with her family, she's like,
oh my gosh, this is nice. That is just yeah,
that's nice being here with you right now. This is nice.
You're watching me build a cabinet downstairs. That's nice. Yes,
Cat has been working on a cabinet assembly for how
many hours today? I think that took three hours. It's
a cute cabinet. It is really cute, and there was
(04:23):
twenty five steps. I'm proud of you. Do you do
you talk about how you're on at all? I don't know. Okay, okay,
oh no, but I don't think it matters. I think
you talk four I mean, I'm just saying it's not
a secret. No, it's not a secret, okay, because I
am gonna give you props because there's an adderall shortage
(04:43):
apparently according to cat at which grocery store public publics,
not all like other stores have it, but for whatever reason, publics,
and that's where she gets her prescription filled. So I
get here and she's like, I haven't had adderall in days.
And you I watched you as symbol that, and you
worked on that, and you focused and you did it,
and it was you. I got to take a little
break for, you know, some friend time. I probably took
(05:06):
a couple pauses in between, but I had been looking
at that cabinet for weeks. Maybe that was what the
motivation really was, that I just need to get this done.
But yeah, there's an adderall shortage. So if you can't
get your medication, I feel you. I almost cried in
publics yesterday, but I held it together over the medication
or the avocado. Avocado was today the medication yesterday because
(05:30):
when they looked at me, they're like, oh, we don't
we can't fill this, and I was like, like today
or can I come back in an hour and they're like, oh, no,
we can't fill this. And I said, can you tell
me when you can? And they're like no, what it
could be months. And then I started to feel like
what am I going to do? So I started calling
other publics and they all were kind of rude because
(05:51):
I imagine everybody's calling them right now because it's not
just me that's affecting. So imagine they're getting hundreds of
calls and they would just like, no, we don't know
when we're gonna get it. We can't help you luck.
And so I was like, Okay, it's gonna be okay,
and it might be a little difficult. Well, it's kind
of reminding me of how last week, you know, how
I self prescribed yourself. And here's the thing. I have
(06:11):
a prescription to my wellbutron and for the first time
ever two actually side note about that. I had to
do like a telemed for something else that I was doing.
I was doing like an ivy drip and they have
to hook you up with a nurse to make sure
that you're like good to go, and they pull me
in this quiet room and they set me down and
they're like, last time you were here, you were not on,
(06:33):
wellbutron or is it? Can you tell us why you're
taking this? And I said, all I think depression and
she was like, okay, I don't know how to answer that.
I'm going to ask you out in the thing because
you know, I never know what's going on. And I
(06:53):
guess they know that that potentially it can be an
ADHD medication. By the way, but that's not what I'm
taking before. So anyway, all this to say, I've been
one hundred and fifty milligrams for a long not a
long time, but a few months, and I had googled
that after a few months. Disclaimer that she's about to
tell No, I am actually telling and you're gonna not
(07:17):
You're not gonna want to do it after I tell you,
not proud of myself. Don't arrest me. I don't think
you can get arrested or or flag me. I don't know.
Could they find me in the pharmacy. No, you're you're
prescribed this medication. Okay, okay, but I miss you. I
mishandled it, yes, but you learned a lesson. You know.
I didn't wake up necessarily feeling like Lisa. You know,
(07:40):
I wasn't like life is so great. So I thought,
you know, I wonder if I should increase to three
hundred milligrams because online it said a lot of people
do you start at the lowest dose, which is what
I'm on, and then you go from there. And so
I thought, okay, this is fine. I'm going to test
this out today. See what's up. It was a Monday
(08:02):
work day, all work day or stay ever. In fact,
I was in a work meeting on Monday afternoon with Fazio,
who we both work closely with, and she's going to
be the executive producer of the live show in Nashville
coming up. Like, so we have a lot that we're
working on, and we just called the meeting. She's like,
let's meet tomorrow. And I was a good idea, Like
(08:23):
I felt horrible it did the opposite. Yeah, yeah, So like,
how come some people can take the three hundred I mean,
I guess that's just not for me. It's fine, it's
not for me to understand. It just also depends that stuff.
I'm not a pharmacist also not a psychiatrist or anything
like that, but the dosages depend on you your makeup,
(08:44):
what other medications you might be on your own genetics,
but also like your height if you're a female, if
you're a male, and so the next time, if you
want to do that, what might you do before you
do that? I know somebody knows. I know. I don't
want y'all to think that I take this lightly at all? Whatsoever?
Already think of like the one negative or two or
three or five that I'm notes that I'm going to
(09:04):
get from people. Well, I can't believe you would talk
about this. No, I'm telling you a real story that
I thought about. And there are people out there that
are like me, and we may google and think, oh,
this should be okay, I'm going to try this, But
now I'm telling you don't because yes, it was horrible,
it didn't work. I won't ever do it again. One
fifties the sweet spot for me, and eventually, but or
(09:29):
I might not even or I might need zero milligrams. Yeah,
I you know what I mean. That'd be no, yeah,
no bills. But that's okay. And Lisa has been very
honest too, throughout different seasons and needing certain medications for
specific times in her life, and so she didn't reference
it here. But I think she's just in a really amazing,
(09:52):
beautiful place, and whether we get there naturally or we
get there with assistance, it doesn't matter. Well, And I
will say that a lot of people, just from a
therapist perspective, I have a lot of clients who, if
you're prescribed a medication, you don't really know or you
don't think it's that big of a deal to like
skip a day, or like I refilled it late, or
(10:13):
like I skipped this day so then I was doubled
it the next day. You don't really realize what the
implications are. So I'm glad that you said this, because
a lot of people do that stuff all the time.
And a client will come in and be like, yeah,
I haven't had my medication in a week, and then
they'll tell me the story about how all this stuff
was going hair wire and they either couldn't sleep or
they're sleeping too much, or their depression was this, And
I'm like, huh, I wonder if that might have had
(10:34):
anything to do with the fact that you might have
changed your medication. Or people think I feel better, I
don't have to take it anymore, and then they stop,
and maybe they could have tapered down. But when you
just stops no bueno, right, which is how I feel
that all the other day I had my colonoscopy and
I didn't take you, I couldn't have anything to drink
(10:56):
the morning of and so for the first time and
forever or I didn't have anything that I take and
I could eat, because you can't eat either if you
absolutely needed it, Like if it's a life saving medication
that you have to have, then you could take a
tiny sip of water with it. You couldn't drink a
sip of water. No. So my procedure was at eight am,
(11:27):
which I would say, hands down, if you're gonna get
a colonoscopy, book at first thing in the morning if
you can, because you can prep the day before, and
then you get to go to the hospital. They'll knock
you out. Next thing you know, they're like countdown ten, nine, eight,
you know, and they're putting the anesthesiologists putting the juice
in your arm or whatever. And I remember I was like, oh,
(11:50):
I'm gonna try to fight this, so I'm gonna stay awake.
I'm gonna stay awake, and the next thing you know,
I'm just totally yeah, gone. Well, I mean I'm waking
up they're like, hello, Hey, how you feeling Amy. My
nurse was so nice. I loved her name was Savannah,
and I was like, I'm feeling good and she said,
do you remember the joke you told me? And I
(12:11):
was like, oh god, because you know, of course, before
I went in, I was looking up colonoscopy jokes online,
speaking of googling things, and I guess I had multiple
in my back pocket, but the one I decided to
go with was did you hear well? At first, I
looked at her and I was like, oh god. I
was like which one she said about the golfer? And
(12:32):
I was like, oh, yes, yes, yes, And did you
hear about the golfer that opened a colonoscopy clinic? I
didn't hear about him? Now, oh he does eighteen holes
a day. So anyway, book your colonoscopy appointment in the morning. Oh,
which this also makes me think. I was just thinking
how Houston is probably editing this and being like, what's
(12:52):
wrong with these girls? But Houston on the day, my
well betun day, Yeah, that I took three mis happened.
He sent Elizabeth a note fasio and said, is Amy okay? Yes?
Why well? Because I was doing like I just wasn't
all with it. It was Monday night. Why didn't I
(13:13):
realize anything was wrong? Well, I was communicating. I don't know,
I don't maybe we didn't talk that day, but I
was messaging Houston saying, I can't find the link to
the fifth thing. It's not loading on my podcast app
and I need to send it to someone because I
needed to send someone the link because I knew what
we had talked about and I wanted to share it
with someone. And it's Monday night and I'm like, I'm
(13:35):
keep refreshing my podcast and it's not there. And he said, Amy,
I just got everything like it's Monday. It loads at
midnight tonight, so for Tuesday. And I was like, oh,
I thought it was Tuesday. Well, because I mean i'd
been working on title and description and I've done all
that stuff. But that's what I do on Mondays. It
was Monday. But that was just one example of some
(13:56):
of my behavior that just wasn't I wasn't all there,
Like I could drive, but I wasn't out, but I
just was tired and not thinking clearly yep, which I
struggle with thinking clearly on the daily. But this was
I've never done that before. I know the days that
things happened since like, uh, I literally was like, actually,
(14:19):
that's really kind of Houston. Yes, And Fazzio is the
one that told me about it. He didn't. He's like,
She's like, Houston hit me up and said, is any okay?
And You're like no, we had to cancel our meeting.
And I'm like, oh, thoughtful. So all this to say,
don't set your doctor, don't do things unless you have
a colonoscopy wointment, and you might need to not take
(14:42):
your meds um and then just get right back on
track the next day, and then don't increase your dosage.
And don't tell my person I did that. She I
hope she doesn't listen to this my psychiatrists. Do you
think I would do that? Well, I guess you can't
because technically you don't know that I go to her. Well,
I can know that you go to her. She can't
acknowledge that you would go to her. How I don't
(15:04):
understand this, hippah. Yeah. I love when people get that confused.
I can know anything that somebody tells me, but I
cannot divulge any of my client's information. Okay, So if you.
But if you were to go to her and say, hey,
I heard I'm worried about Amy. I'm worried about it,
she can't acknowledge that she knows you. Yeah, yeah, So
(15:25):
what's she gonna do about it? Well, she might be like, oh,
I cannot confirm her deny that I know her. And
then she might text you and be like, hey, I've
heard some information or email you. Do you want to
come in for some an anonymous source. She couldn't even
say it's from me, Oh, I'm not okay, her client.
She just can't tell me, oh, thanks for telling me.
She would just say I can either confirm her deny
that I know who that is. Okay, got it? Do
(15:46):
you know the results of Michael and oscomy? Oh my gosh,
tell me a plus anal? Do you get that immediately? Yeah?
The doctor comes and sits down and she says, hey,
I just wanted to you know, everything looks good. Checked
for anal cancer twice. She I don't know what devil
checked it. She just you know, drew in and then
(16:07):
went back in, drove down that street a couple of times,
and with her binoculars check things out. The cameras like
the size of your finger, my finger, like that is
going on a man's finger inside a camera, is going
in your body? Yeah, well, when you go to the gynacologist, Yes, no,
(16:28):
my kynacologist sticks regulated finger up there, up the butt. No, yes,
I don't think she did. I would have felt are
you sure? Yeah? Or does she just do that to
me because of my family history? Should I email my
(16:49):
kind of coolog didn't say? Why didn't you say? Okay?
And so wait a second, is that normal? I've never
had that. But she's her finger inside of your ex
cervix or whatever. That obviously your cervix or uterous. It's
the vagina hole. I don't know she's going in there
to Yeah, that's all I know. But I wonder if
(17:14):
it's because it has to be because I've since two
thou and twelve that's been my family history. So that's
when my mom was diagnosed with anal cancer. And then
when you're younger, when you went to the gun of college,
they put the finger up. I don't remember. I don't know.
I was always the worst at going I would go
years and years and years and years and years. Yeah,
(17:36):
I went, don't children don't go or people don't look
us on this like you we have to go. Like
now I go yearly. Because I'm turning forty two this weekend.
I got to be as proactive as possible. Well, there's
so many stories where people, of course, like you never
think it's gonna be you, and so you're like, oh
la la, I'll just go, I'll skip my appointment, but
then like that could be you, that something happens. So
(17:59):
I'm committed now now that I found a new doctor
and I like her, I will go regularly. I was
finally a new doctor I felt comfortable with. That kept
me from going. You know, it's vulnerable. They might stick
a finger up your pok. Yeah, as they should. I
posted a little video that I took of my little
colonoscopy experience. I mean it doesn't show that because I
(18:19):
was obviously passed out, but just thought I would throw
it up as like I don't know, who knows, maybe
somebody might need to see it or share it with like, hey,
go do this, Like if you've been looking for a
sign to book that appointment, then go, because I know
as well as anybody what it's like to just want
to put stuff off. And someone sent me a DM
(18:40):
and said that their friend recently booked a proactive appointment,
didn't have any symptoms at all whatsoever, and they found
cancer and because they got it early, it's preventable or
treatable or treatable. Sorry, it's preventable if you go early
and detect it, and then it's treatable. So that's a
(19:02):
pretty wild story and like a huge testament to bus
a colonoscopy, proactive colonoscopy. So, but I don't need one yet,
do I? Or should I go? No, you don't if
you don't have any family history. Because you're in your
young thirties, I would say, I don't know if it's
forty or fifty for women and men, Somewhere in the
forty and fifty range, you start to go more regularly,
(19:22):
and I think it might be every five years or
so once you hit that age. But for me, my
obgyn was saying every year. But then the doctor when
she sat down, she goes, everything looks good to me.
So I'm going to go ahead and say every three
years for you right now. But if you see symptoms,
get in here. What's a symptom? Blood? Oh, I don't know, constipation,
(19:43):
it's only when I could pick up I should probably
look up what else I need to do? What should
I look out for? Well, I feel like I'll just
if anything's irregular or feels I pay attention to that
sort of thing. Yeah, which was your mom's cancer? Did
she was it founded a regular checkup or she had symptoms?
So she was not proactive? Well, I mean, I don't
(20:04):
want to speak for I don't know how proactive she was.
I don't know how regularly she booked appointments, but it's
not It wasn't just her being like, oh here's my
I'm sixty three, I should book an appointment. She had symptoms,
got worried, book to kolonoscopy and that's where they found it.
And then it spread and we thought it was gone,
but it had to stay gone for five years for
(20:24):
her to really be in remission. And it came back
and it was in her liver and then like her
lungs and then her skin. It was like epidermist cancer.
I don't know, but just spreading. And then that was
the crazy part was seeing because then once it hit
her skin, it grew on the outside, which is crazy,
and like I saw it. Well, since we're talking about
(20:45):
OBG O I N sticking their fingers up your boats.
Might as well say here, which I've talked about it
a little bit before, but some people think my mom
had breast cancer, which she did not. I think it's
just maybe a common assumption. Yeah, because you probably didn't say, well, yeah,
because my mom didn't like that she had anal cancer,
which I would say, no shame in that. Who cares
that you have? Go get the COLONASKI embrace whatever cancer
(21:07):
it is you have and scream it from the rooftops
because you're going to help encourage somebody else and you
don't want anybody else to feel shame about it. But
I mean, I get it. She just really wanted it
to be colon or rectal at least, and the doctor
was like, no, it's anal. That's they're all different, and
you have anal. She's like, awesome. And you know there's
(21:27):
no fun runs for that breast cancer. There's like fun
runs and pink ribbons, and so we used to joke
like should we do a fun run and like we'll
all wear brown. Yes, yeah, we didn't do that, but
she would say I have what fair Faucet had, because
fair Fauce it had anal cancer and fair fauce. It
(21:49):
was Charlie's anl So she was like, did she talk
about that? Yeah, she did a whole documentary. Oh, it's interesting,
you could check it out. I remember when my mom
had it. I would google and try to learn and
watch things, and it's just not that common, which I
don't know the stats, so, but it's just not one
that you hear about a lot. But the cancer was
(22:12):
growing on the outside of her vagina like bumps, Like
what it is? That what it looked like? Just like
like it was fascinating because you know when you see
a tumor on a scan, it just looks like a
blob and they don't even know. They're like, well, that
looks like it could be something. I don't until we
go in and test it. But you don't have a
(22:32):
visual of just how crazy it is cancer. Yeah, and
like how it just completely starts to multiply and take over,
because that's what was happening. So it started off the
size of my pinky nail right here, and then it
grew to like what massive? Yeah, and you can't just
cut it off. No, at this point, there was nothing
they could do. It sounds it was, but she would
(22:54):
still walk places and I felt like if I was walking,
I would get slowdown. I have a tumor growing out
of my vagina right now and it's rubbing and it hurts.
Or I would wear a sign that's like high five me.
I'm walking right now with the tumor coming out of
my legs, you know. But she didn't, she didn't ever
say anything, and she just carried on. But then towards
(23:17):
the end of life, you know, we were her caregivers.
And that's just a visual that, yeah, I don't ever
lose sight of. And it was very very interesting to
see because you see just how does it look like
disastrous again though, or like is it like a like
a big mole or is it yeah and multiplying, yeah,
and growing and growing and growing and growing. But then
(23:41):
that's what's happening on the inside when you see it,
but you don't see just don't see it. So it
was fascinating in a way that we got to see that,
and gosh, that makes me think a hospice nurses too,
and just they are the most precious people in the world,
how caring they are. Which I'm going to my aunt's
Geral this weekend. Wow, this took a turn real quick.
(24:05):
She's now in heaven with my mom. But I'm flying
to Austin on Thursday and her funerals on my birthday,
which is cool. Does I'll get to see family on
my birthday and I wasn't planning on that, and that
would be fun. And then we're gonna come back to Nashville,
or I will and my cousin Amanda, she's actually going
to come a few days after that and then come
(24:26):
hang out Nashville for a week just to get a
break because she was her mom's primary caregiver and she's
going to come to the Live. So that would be
a lot of fun. And why don't we go ahead
and end on you telling that avocados story, because I
feel like we need to end on a high. So
(24:52):
you may have caught this earlier in the episode, Kat
was saying something about being at Public's almost crying and
it was over her medication. But I mate, I said, well,
was it because of the adderall or the avocado? And
then she said the adderall? And then we went by
the way down that rabbit hole and then here we
are back now and we're going to talk about the avocado. So, yeah,
(25:12):
if you were sitting there wondering this whole time if
I was ever going to talk about the avocado, because
I'm sure you were. Yeah. I went to Public's for groceries,
as I do, and they have Have you ever had
a pub sub? No? Okay, So apparently everybody's obsessed with them,
and Patrick has been obsessed with them, my boyfriend, and
so finally one day I had one. They're so good.
It's like the best sub sandwich you can get, and
(25:34):
it's like fresh They get the stuff from the grocery store.
You know, it's like, what better way to have a
sandwich than Freshman the grocery store. Anyway, so I go
to get a sandwich and I asked for avocado on it,
and normally it's not that big of a deal, and
she starts to put guacamole on it, and I said, no, no, no,
if you don't have avocado, that's fine. I was thinking
I'll just put it on want to get home, And
she said okay, and then the other lady said, you
(25:54):
have to get an avocado from the produce section. She
comes back to the avocado and Patrick looks at me.
It's like that is the most non ripe afficcado I've
ever seen, and it was like hard as a rock.
So I didn't know what to say, like would you
say like, oh, I don't think that's a good one,
Like would you have said something I don't think so right?
So I just was like, well, let's just let her
(26:14):
do it. Yeah, I'll take it off when I got home,
because I knew it was going to be hard. So
she's sitting there for maybe five to seven minutes trying
to cut this apocad like I'm not exaggerating and like everything,
and we wanted to be like, it's not ripe. I
can get look another one if you want, but I didn't.
She asked for help from her manager, and the managers like, oh,
it's not ripe. Do you know how to peel? This
had to be this person's first day, and she said no,
(26:37):
I don't know how to peel. Patrick looked at me
and he said, they're not going to peel the avocado,
and I zaid, just let them do it. So the
woman takes like a peel or knife and peels all
of the skin off of the avocado like a potato,
and we're just sitting there like we're standing there also,
(26:58):
the lines getting very long behind us, and we're just
watching this happen. And Patrick was like, she's gonna put
that on your sandwich now, like just let them do it.
And it was one of those things where you just
wanted to be like, thank you so much for doing it,
because she worked so hard to get me this avocado,
and then I just threw it away. But if you
were wondering if you can't open an avocado, if you're
(27:21):
you know, cutting it around, you're trying to pull it open.
If you can't open it, that means it's not ripe,
and you should just put that down and get a
different one, or just skip the avocado, you know up
by the little what's that part? This ze? No in
the on the avocado where the where it's see what's
it called the top? Yeah? The top? But no, no, no, no, no,
(27:47):
it is called something like you know where that little
thing is at the top. I think that's yeah, like
where it's the stuff, the tree, the stamp, thank you,
O god, gosh, remember I have nineteen rowser is open
in my brain right now and like none of them
are working. Gosh, what's wrong with you? Mean you're about
to give this avocado trick. Yeah, oh, this is what
(28:08):
I do when I'm at the store. So right around
the stem area, you can press it and if it
feels soft around that area and then it's good to go. Oh,
I just squeeze the whole thing. One time I told
for you, I don't know why I don't you keep talking.
I'm googling this. So one time I told one of
my browsers, so put another one. One time, my sister
(28:30):
I had just taught her how to make guacamole or
something like that, and I asked her to go get
avocados from the store and she said, how do you
know if they're ripe? And I said, well, if you
put one on the ground and you spin it around
like you twist it like like you would like a
little spinner. I said, if it spins three times and stops,
that means it's ripe. But if it keeps spinning, that
means it's not ripe, and she believed me. People often
(28:53):
ask under this, how can you tell if an avocado
is ripe without squeezing it. The key is checking under
the nubby stem for a sneak peak. Yes of what's
going on under the skin. You can just like squeeze
that part. That way you don't have to squish the
whole avocado, and maybe risk that is actually really helpful.
(29:16):
It's not that I didn't believe you. I just was like, oh,
I've always squeezed the avocado. That makes me feel better
because then I'm not ruining it. I love that they
call it the nubby stem. For a sneak peak, they
say here, you can also pull back the small stem
or the cap at the top of the avocado. That
stem part. If it comes away easily and you find
(29:37):
green or yellow underneath, you've scored a good avocado. It's
ripe and ready to eat. And then okay, you know what,
can we email this to public's deli. Wow, there's a
whole blog that says don't squeeze the avocados. That's from
Iowa State University. Oh there's another frequently asked question, how
(29:57):
do you ripe in avocados in ten minutes? The original
tip recommends completely wrapping an avocado with tinfoil, then placing
it in a baking dish and transferring it to a
two hundred three fahrenheit oven for ten minutes until it softens.
Why I thought you put it in a brown paper
bag and put it in like a closet, But that's
not gonna be ten minutes. That would be good day. Yeah.
(30:19):
And I think if you put bananas in there with
it too, it makes it or maybe that ripens the bananas.
I don't know that's helpful, because sometimes you need to
make wacamole and all the avocados are hard, or you
want an avocado in your sandwich on your wrap the
tinfoil putting the up and I'll come back in ten minutes.
You want it on your pubs up. Okay, Well, I
hope y'all are happen the day that you need to have.
(30:42):
This episode was fun. Cat's actually going to join me
on Thursday for at least the first thing, So we'll
be talking on Thursday about some stuff. And thank you
for joining me on four things. You're not ever really
on four things. You're normally on the fifth thing and
sometimes that way, but you haven't done four things in
a while. Yeah, it's exciting, guys. Better subscribes, you don't
(31:03):
miss it. Like and subscribe, rate, review, comment, subscribe, share. Yeah,
and if you had feedback, I don't say constructive criticism anymore.
Why because criticism is negative. Oh, even though it's constructive,
it's still a negative word. And I did a whole
episode on using positive language instead of negative language. And
(31:26):
you should see me at home trying to speak this
way because I see it working with my son, and
I was doing this with him before the episode. But
sometimes it's so hard to come up with a way
to say what you're going to say positively without saying
words like no and don't. But where there's a will,
there's a way, and you find the way. It just
(31:47):
takes me a lot longer to communicate, and he's staring
at me waiting for the words. Might help you just
talk slower and say what you mean, you know, versus well,
that's what I'm gonna I'm just trying to say what
I mean. I'm just trying to say what I mean, buddy,
and say I mean. You'd be surprised how many negative
words you use if you really stop to think about it,
(32:10):
because and you're not meaning to they don't mean they're
they're actually negative words that you're you're using them sometimes
for something positive, right, Constructive criticism feedback, so you can
say feedback, like if someone says hey, yeah, thanks for
doing that for me, and you say no problem. What
you're saying, no, your brain has a negative bias. So
(32:31):
so what do you say? You're welcome? Yeah, you're welcome,
or you say like, hey, how are you today? Couldn't
be better? Well, don't say it couldn't because it doesn't.
I'm amazing, I feel great, I'm good. Or could you
do that for me? That's another area where you could say, oh, yeah,
(32:52):
I'll do that, no problem, and you could just say definitely,
of course, yeah, I'd love to. Yes, unless I wouldn't
love too. Then don't say it. Okay, don't do it.
I'll say what you mean me? You say, say you
mean me? Would you say? But don't say it? Mean
there you go. Okay, Well, tune into the fois. Yeah,
(33:12):
and if you have feedback, you don't have to put
that in the iTunes review or iHeart or wherever you
leave your review. You can email your feedback. Four Things
with Amy Browne gmail dot com. Had the day you
need to have? I'm at Radio Amy. She's at kat
Defata cat dot deaf Fata and then also at You
Need Therapy podcast and her podcast is you Need Therapy
(33:35):
and it's awesome, and couch talks are my favor but
you have a lot of really good interviews and also
solo episodes where you're really diving into stuff and you
still have your four horsemen thing going on right now. Yeah.
So last week we did Criticism, which I talk all
about criticism and really romantic partnerships and how they're different
(33:56):
than complaints, how complaints can actually be really helpful. But
I guess I'll redo it and talk about how we
should really call complaints feedback. Don't. Don't redo it. And
I'm not saying you have to take that episode if
you listen to it. I'm not saying you have to
speak that way all the time, but it's just being
aware and trying to make sure you're using more positive
(34:18):
language when you can. Yeah. No, I think it probably
has a lot of good stuff in it. But if
you can't, then don't see I speak negative. I know, Okay.
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