November 14, 2024 • 18 mins
In this ‘OG’ 4 Things episode Amy talks about the benefits of a ‘phone-free hour’ each day, how celebrating small wins keeps us going, the tough side of love (those hard talks with kids or in any relationship) and a twist on the bucket list that’ll remind you how much you’ve already accomplished.
Here is the Danae Hays TikTok if you need a laugh! (but also reminder: don’t comment on people’s bodies…you never know what they are going through!)
And here’s the episode Amy did with Danae last year!
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Cast up road thing, little food for yourself life. Ain't.
Oh it's pretty bad. Hey, it's pretty beautiful thing beautiful
for that for a little more exciting course, said he.
You're kick in with four Thing with Amy Brown. Happy Thursday.
Four Things Amy. Here, this is an O G style episode.
(00:37):
I've got four totally different things for you. The benefits
of a phone free hour each day, the power of
small wins, at least personally for me experienced them this week,
tough love talks, and reverse bucket lists. Here we go first, right, So,
(00:57):
most of us are glued to our phones for a
lot of the and studies show that sixty two percent
of us feel hooked. And it's not hard to see why.
I mean, we're constantly scrolling, swiping, checking notifications. There's emails,
text messages, dms, Instagram, TikTok, which, speaking of texts and TikTok,
(01:20):
since I'm about to challenge us to be on our
phones less, I'll go ahead and save you some screen
time and play you a video that my friend Claire
sent me that comedian Denay Hayes put up. It just
made me laugh, like I was about to sit down
and record this and I got that and I sort
of laughed. So I'm throwing it in here because there's
(01:40):
also a little reminder about our bodies in the humor
which I loved the four Things episode with Denay from
last year. She came on the podcast. If you missed it,
I will link it in the shown notes. But she's
so funny, and this clip reminds me how funny she is. Okay,
here it is, Yes, tell you the procedure I had
(02:01):
done to lose all this weight, but I just want
to go and tell you it's very painful. It costs
a lot of money, and it takes a lot of time,
Like it's really time consuming. But if you look it up,
it's called a divorce. Okay. So while I did find
that to be funny and relatable, the reminder in the
humor here is that you never know what someone has
(02:23):
going on in their life. So that's why we don't
ask her comment about people's bodies. And while Deney didn't
really seem to care that someone was asking about how
she slimmed down and lost weight, she made a joke
about it. And others may laugh and joke about it too,
but deep down they may not be able to handle
it because the reason for the weight loss or even
(02:46):
weight gain or whatever it is might be because of
something sad, something hard, stressful, you know. So just wanted
to throw that little reminder in there and also give
you a little chuckle in case you needed it. Or
maybe you're going through something hard a divorce, and you're like, oh, huh, okay,
you're not alone. But back to our phone problem. I
(03:06):
have a mini challenge for you for us a phone
free hour each day, just one hour where you put
the phone aside and really experience life distraction free. Like
you could choose any hour to do it, maybe while
while working out or reading a book or going for
(03:27):
a walk. It's a small change, but I think the
results will end up being pretty big. Like without a
screen just stealing our attention, we're more present, engaged, and honestly,
when I put my phone away just feels refreshing. I mean,
this is like a mini digital detox that we can
(03:47):
do together. It's not some extreme thing required here, It's
just a small, realistic situation which coming up in the
second thing, we're going to talk about the power of
small winds, and that's sort of what this little hour
a day will be a little small wind that will
add up and be pretty powerful. And one way to
(04:08):
go about this challenge maybe would be to create a
phone free zone of sorts like your bed. Maybe if
you just don't allow yourself to have your phone in
your bed, then that'll give you back some time because
studies showed that when we leave the screens out of
the bedroom, our brains get the memo it's time to rest.
(04:31):
I was just talking about this with my daughter doing
her homework in her bed with her computer. I'm like, no,
let's go downstairs to either the island, the kitchen table,
the dining room table. Let's sit at a table and
do our homework or at a desk, because when we
work in our bed, then our brain gets confused as
to what is happening, and we want our brain to
(04:53):
get the memo to rest when we're in our beds. Hey,
I'm guilty of having my computer and my phone in
my so I got to practice what I preach. But
lately I feel like because of the amount of homework
even happening in our home, even when we're around the
table and we're eating dinner, we've got our phones and
our computers out just to get everything done, and I
have my computer out during their homework because honestly, I
(05:15):
have to google how to help them with certain things
like math. But today I sort of I've just had enough,
and I'm like, I want real connection. I want to
sit down, I want to have dinner. I want to
be you know, no phones. So that's something that I
decided to do today. Hopefully I can maybe do it
again tomorrow. And I'm being realistic, it's not going to
(05:36):
happen every day at dinner. Honestly, junior high high school days,
like multiple kids, there aren't enough hours in the night
with all they have going on. But we got to
make sure we're intentional about that real time, that real
connection with our kids. And maybe it's not kids, maybe
it's your partner, maybe your roommates, whatever it looks like
(05:56):
for you just when you're around the table. Maybe that's
a no phone zone, your bed, no phone zone, and
again not every single night. And then maybe your hour
doesn't have to be consecutive. It could be a thirty
minute phone free situation and then later on thirty or
you do fifteen fifteen, fifteen fifteen, and that'll give you
(06:19):
your hour. Let's just start with that hour every day,
and I think taking a dedicated hour away from our
devices is going to allow us to just be present
and in the moment, which can, for one, help with
the connection and our relationships. For two, that improves our
overall well being. For three, it can reduce anxiety, and
(06:41):
then also four lead to mental clarity. There are four
benefits in this. I also just love the idea of
connecting more with ourselves, maybe not even just others, but
having that quiet time to reset and recharge and find balance.
Because for me, I feel constantly on and I need
(07:01):
to be intentional about taking time to reset. But sometimes
I'm resetting with a meditation and I'm using my phone
to guide me on a meditation, and that won't fit
into the hour free phone. How am I going to
say this the phone free hour challenge? I'm going to
have to be phone free to meditate if I want to.
(07:21):
I mean, I can still do my walking meditation. I
just have to find another time to maybe walk without
my phone or do something else one hour day. That's it.
Little by little, we're going to be making more space
for real life. Second, all right, sometimes we focus so
(07:41):
much on the big stuff, like the big goals and
the milestones that we forget to celebrate the small winds.
But that's where the magic is, those little victories. They're
fuel for us. And I've had some small wins this
week that got me thinking about this and how powerful
small winds are. One small wind was a relationship thing,
(08:04):
and another was a parenting situation, and I mean, I
had other small wins this week, But there's a spectrum
for me when it comes to the small winds, like
some small things on my to do list or like
drink water, which yeah, I have to start putting that
on my list to get it done. But I'm also
putting it on my list because I took the advice
(08:25):
that my friend Claire gave us, telling us to write
things down, like even the easy stuff on our list
or to do list, like drink coffee. That way we
know we can cross it off because we're gonna drink coffee,
brush teeth, we cross it off. The title of that episode,
by the way, if you want to go listen to it,
is brain Hacks for Productivity for expert tips to get
(08:47):
stuff done. And the list thing is a very very
doable tip that she talked about because when we put
that small stuff on there, and we know we can
cross it off because we know we're for sure doing it.
Then we have that feel good chemical released in the brain,
the dopamine. Like I said, even if it's your morning
(09:08):
coffee or drinking water or folding the laundry. For me personally,
those types of things are on the side of the
spectrum that feels very trivial, but they do add up.
I don't discount them. Then on the other side of
my small winds spectrum, there are small winds that mean
more to me, like more to my spirit, more to
(09:31):
my soul. Like they're small, but they're deep. I guess
this is the way that I would put it. They're
small but deep. And these are the small winds that
you might miss if you're not paying attention, Like I
almost missed my parenting one and the relationship one. But
because I was taking time for each thing, like actually
(09:53):
dedicating real dialed in talk time to each person in situation,
I was more in tune with what was happening. And
in both situations, like a little light bulb just kind
of boo went off in my head and I felt
it in the moment, and I made sure to celebrate
each time because these were small wins that were very,
(10:14):
very meaningful, and I took time to celebrate because each
aha moment or each little victory gives us that dopamine
hit again, that feel good brain chemical. And that's the
same thing that happens when we cross stuff off our
to do list, like Claire told us, But neither my
parenting thing or my relationship thing, neither one of those wins.
(10:38):
They weren't on a to do list. They are things
that just happened organically. So since I couldn't cross them
off a list, I had to be intentional about acknowledging
what happened and have a little party in my brain,
just me, myself and I and I know that the
more that I do this, so I'll encourage you the same.
The more that you do it, the easier it's going
(10:59):
to get to see the small wins, like whether it's
something trivial, like you just finally tackled that drunk drawer
junk drawer, not the drunk drawer, but the junk drawer,
like you've finally tackled that, Or maybe it's something really
personal that doesn't seem huge, but it impacts you on
(11:19):
a deep level, mark them all as wins. When check
they add up, they're powerful. And you know, when I
journal in the morning, I'm gonna actually make note of
my two very personal small wins so that one day
I can look back and reflect on them, because thinking
about them right now is bringing me so much joy.
And my guess is that they'll have even more power
(11:41):
as more time goes by. So I encourage you to
make a little mental note or write down your winds,
because there's like little little sparks that keep us going
and they add up. Like I'm looking at my Christmas
tree right now, and I'm looking at all the lights
on there, and they're all strung together and wrapped around
(12:04):
the tree, and they make something really beautiful. And that's
what I'm thinking about our small winds, Like string them
together and they'll create something really beautiful. So take note.
And we got the third thing. Tough conversations are not
(12:30):
for the vein of heart. Neither is parenting. I had
to have a real hard conversation with one of my
kids this week, and trust me, this was no passive,
let's skip over the hard stuff moment. This was a
full on, I love you enough to hold you accountable
(12:50):
kind of talk. And you know, parenting or any relationship
where you may need to speak up or set boundaries
with someone you love. I make you feel like you're
being the bad guy. I mean, honestly, being passive would
be so much easier, like short term, right, I know
that because I've done it, and then long term it
(13:13):
backfires on you, like just nodding along and letting things slide.
I was that way in my marriage for a while
and then there had to be some tough love moments
for both of us. But when it comes to the
parenting part of tough love, being passive is not why
we're here. It's not why we adopted two kids, or
(13:35):
you adopted kids or birthed kids, brought them into the world,
decided to care for them, and why you want to
raise them up. Like we're here to raise strong, kind,
responsible people. And I sort of had to sit myself
down before I sat my kid down. I had to
give myself a pep talk, and I'm like, yes, this
is what I'm here to do, this is what I
(13:56):
want to do, this is what I'm choosing to do,
and I want to handle it with I knew I
wanted to be calm. So the talk actually happened almost
three hours after I originally thought it would, because if
I had responded in the moment, it wouldn't have gone well.
Tough love parenting takes patience. It also takes follow through.
(14:18):
Like I knew, there had to be consequences, which I
hate enforcing. But you know, every choice has a ripple effect.
We know that as adults, we got to teach that
to our kids and that has to be understood. And
I'm happy to report that I have thus var followed
through on the consequences and I shall continue too because
(14:39):
they're still in effect. And yes, everything about this week
and what has gone on has been very uncomfortable for me.
My kid didn't love it. I didn't love it. But
it's because I love my kids that I'm willing to
go there. And I'm the first to admit that again,
I have been a passive parent before, so if you
have to, you're not alone. But my goal is to
(15:01):
show up and guide even when it's not fun, because
I believe that one day, I really really do. And
I even said this to my kid multiple times. I think,
one day, you're really going to see what I'm saying
and you're going to look back and you're going to
be like, thank you, mom. And I think in all
situations like this, our kids are going to look back
and thank us. And until then we got to just
(15:24):
keep showing up, even if it's hard, harding. Have you
heard of the reverse bucket list? I do believe that
it's something that we've gone over before, but possibly years ago,
and it's coming up again because of a conversation that
(15:45):
I had with someone recently. I was telling them about
a bucket list that I found that belonged to one
of my kids, which more on that one day, possibly
because the way I handled it is actually a small
parenting win that I probably need to celebrate now that
I say that out loud, But anyway, we were talking
about that and they brought up that they've been doing
(16:06):
a reverse bucket list, so instead of looking ahead at
all that they want to do, they're looking back at
all they've accomplished. And for my friend, she said that
she's loved revisiting the cool things that she's already done
that she once dreamed of. And I think sometimes in
our rush to achieve more on our bucket lists, we
(16:30):
forget how much we've already experienced. And maybe it's big
stuff like a trip abroad, like on my kid's list.
That was something that was on there, and then there
was more comical stuff on there. Wasn't funny when I
first read it, but it's funny to me now. But
they got to go to London in Paris with their dad.
So check on the list. Maybe it's finally running a
(16:54):
five k, or getting through a tough season with your
head held high, realizing you're resilient looking back. I believe
if we take time to do it, we'll all see
how far we've come, and we can remind ourselves that, hey,
like we're doing all right. So grab a notebook or
(17:15):
maybe even just think through it. But what would be
on your reverse bucket list? You might surprise yourself with
everything that you've experienced, and it's a great reminder that
even if there's more to come, we've already got so
much to look back on and to check off. So
(17:37):
give it a try. Reverse bucket list, all right, So
that's it are four things for this week. Thank you
for listening. I will see you on Saturday with Leanne
for Outweigh and on Tuesday with Kat for the fifth thing.
I am at Radio Amy on socials. You can also
(17:58):
email if you have any comments or questions Four Things
with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. Bye hmm.
Cast up road thing, little food for yourself life. Ain't.
Oh it's pretty bad. Hey, it's pretty beautiful thing beautiful
for that for a little more exciting course, said he.
You're kick in with four Thing with Amy Brown. Happy Thursday.
Four Things Amy. Here, this is an O G style episode.
(00:37):
I've got four totally different things for you. The benefits
of a phone free hour each day, the power of
small wins, at least personally for me experienced them this week,
tough love talks, and reverse bucket lists. Here we go first, right, So,
(00:57):
most of us are glued to our phones for a
lot of the and studies show that sixty two percent
of us feel hooked. And it's not hard to see why.
I mean, we're constantly scrolling, swiping, checking notifications. There's emails,
text messages, dms, Instagram, TikTok, which, speaking of texts and TikTok,
(01:20):
since I'm about to challenge us to be on our
phones less, I'll go ahead and save you some screen
time and play you a video that my friend Claire
sent me that comedian Denay Hayes put up. It just
made me laugh, like I was about to sit down
and record this and I got that and I sort
of laughed. So I'm throwing it in here because there's
(01:40):
also a little reminder about our bodies in the humor
which I loved the four Things episode with Denay from
last year. She came on the podcast. If you missed it,
I will link it in the shown notes. But she's
so funny, and this clip reminds me how funny she is. Okay,
here it is, Yes, tell you the procedure I had
(02:01):
done to lose all this weight, but I just want
to go and tell you it's very painful. It costs
a lot of money, and it takes a lot of time,
Like it's really time consuming. But if you look it up,
it's called a divorce. Okay. So while I did find
that to be funny and relatable, the reminder in the
humor here is that you never know what someone has
(02:23):
going on in their life. So that's why we don't
ask her comment about people's bodies. And while Deney didn't
really seem to care that someone was asking about how
she slimmed down and lost weight, she made a joke
about it. And others may laugh and joke about it too,
but deep down they may not be able to handle
it because the reason for the weight loss or even
(02:46):
weight gain or whatever it is might be because of
something sad, something hard, stressful, you know. So just wanted
to throw that little reminder in there and also give
you a little chuckle in case you needed it. Or
maybe you're going through something hard a divorce, and you're like, oh, huh, okay,
you're not alone. But back to our phone problem. I
(03:06):
have a mini challenge for you for us a phone
free hour each day, just one hour where you put
the phone aside and really experience life distraction free. Like
you could choose any hour to do it, maybe while
while working out or reading a book or going for
(03:27):
a walk. It's a small change, but I think the
results will end up being pretty big. Like without a
screen just stealing our attention, we're more present, engaged, and honestly,
when I put my phone away just feels refreshing. I mean,
this is like a mini digital detox that we can
(03:47):
do together. It's not some extreme thing required here, It's
just a small, realistic situation which coming up in the
second thing, we're going to talk about the power of
small winds, and that's sort of what this little hour
a day will be a little small wind that will
add up and be pretty powerful. And one way to
(04:08):
go about this challenge maybe would be to create a
phone free zone of sorts like your bed. Maybe if
you just don't allow yourself to have your phone in
your bed, then that'll give you back some time because
studies showed that when we leave the screens out of
the bedroom, our brains get the memo it's time to rest.
(04:31):
I was just talking about this with my daughter doing
her homework in her bed with her computer. I'm like, no,
let's go downstairs to either the island, the kitchen table,
the dining room table. Let's sit at a table and
do our homework or at a desk, because when we
work in our bed, then our brain gets confused as
to what is happening, and we want our brain to
(04:53):
get the memo to rest when we're in our beds. Hey,
I'm guilty of having my computer and my phone in
my so I got to practice what I preach. But
lately I feel like because of the amount of homework
even happening in our home, even when we're around the
table and we're eating dinner, we've got our phones and
our computers out just to get everything done, and I
have my computer out during their homework because honestly, I
(05:15):
have to google how to help them with certain things
like math. But today I sort of I've just had enough,
and I'm like, I want real connection. I want to
sit down, I want to have dinner. I want to
be you know, no phones. So that's something that I
decided to do today. Hopefully I can maybe do it
again tomorrow. And I'm being realistic, it's not going to
(05:36):
happen every day at dinner. Honestly, junior high high school days,
like multiple kids, there aren't enough hours in the night
with all they have going on. But we got to
make sure we're intentional about that real time, that real
connection with our kids. And maybe it's not kids, maybe
it's your partner, maybe your roommates, whatever it looks like
(05:56):
for you just when you're around the table. Maybe that's
a no phone zone, your bed, no phone zone, and
again not every single night. And then maybe your hour
doesn't have to be consecutive. It could be a thirty
minute phone free situation and then later on thirty or
you do fifteen fifteen, fifteen fifteen, and that'll give you
(06:19):
your hour. Let's just start with that hour every day,
and I think taking a dedicated hour away from our
devices is going to allow us to just be present
and in the moment, which can, for one, help with
the connection and our relationships. For two, that improves our
overall well being. For three, it can reduce anxiety, and
(06:41):
then also four lead to mental clarity. There are four
benefits in this. I also just love the idea of
connecting more with ourselves, maybe not even just others, but
having that quiet time to reset and recharge and find balance.
Because for me, I feel constantly on and I need
(07:01):
to be intentional about taking time to reset. But sometimes
I'm resetting with a meditation and I'm using my phone
to guide me on a meditation, and that won't fit
into the hour free phone. How am I going to
say this the phone free hour challenge? I'm going to
have to be phone free to meditate if I want to.
(07:21):
I mean, I can still do my walking meditation. I
just have to find another time to maybe walk without
my phone or do something else one hour day. That's it.
Little by little, we're going to be making more space
for real life. Second, all right, sometimes we focus so
(07:41):
much on the big stuff, like the big goals and
the milestones that we forget to celebrate the small winds.
But that's where the magic is, those little victories. They're
fuel for us. And I've had some small wins this
week that got me thinking about this and how powerful
small winds are. One small wind was a relationship thing,
(08:04):
and another was a parenting situation, and I mean, I
had other small wins this week, But there's a spectrum
for me when it comes to the small winds, like
some small things on my to do list or like
drink water, which yeah, I have to start putting that
on my list to get it done. But I'm also
putting it on my list because I took the advice
(08:25):
that my friend Claire gave us, telling us to write
things down, like even the easy stuff on our list
or to do list, like drink coffee. That way we
know we can cross it off because we're gonna drink coffee,
brush teeth, we cross it off. The title of that episode,
by the way, if you want to go listen to it,
is brain Hacks for Productivity for expert tips to get
(08:47):
stuff done. And the list thing is a very very
doable tip that she talked about because when we put
that small stuff on there, and we know we can
cross it off because we know we're for sure doing it.
Then we have that feel good chemical released in the brain,
the dopamine. Like I said, even if it's your morning
(09:08):
coffee or drinking water or folding the laundry. For me personally,
those types of things are on the side of the
spectrum that feels very trivial, but they do add up.
I don't discount them. Then on the other side of
my small winds spectrum, there are small winds that mean
more to me, like more to my spirit, more to
(09:31):
my soul. Like they're small, but they're deep. I guess
this is the way that I would put it. They're
small but deep. And these are the small winds that
you might miss if you're not paying attention, Like I
almost missed my parenting one and the relationship one. But
because I was taking time for each thing, like actually
(09:53):
dedicating real dialed in talk time to each person in situation,
I was more in tune with what was happening. And
in both situations, like a little light bulb just kind
of boo went off in my head and I felt
it in the moment, and I made sure to celebrate
each time because these were small wins that were very,
(10:14):
very meaningful, and I took time to celebrate because each
aha moment or each little victory gives us that dopamine
hit again, that feel good brain chemical. And that's the
same thing that happens when we cross stuff off our
to do list, like Claire told us, But neither my
parenting thing or my relationship thing, neither one of those wins.
(10:38):
They weren't on a to do list. They are things
that just happened organically. So since I couldn't cross them
off a list, I had to be intentional about acknowledging
what happened and have a little party in my brain,
just me, myself and I and I know that the
more that I do this, so I'll encourage you the same.
The more that you do it, the easier it's going
(10:59):
to get to see the small wins, like whether it's
something trivial, like you just finally tackled that drunk drawer
junk drawer, not the drunk drawer, but the junk drawer,
like you've finally tackled that, Or maybe it's something really
personal that doesn't seem huge, but it impacts you on
(11:19):
a deep level, mark them all as wins. When check
they add up, they're powerful. And you know, when I
journal in the morning, I'm gonna actually make note of
my two very personal small wins so that one day
I can look back and reflect on them, because thinking
about them right now is bringing me so much joy.
And my guess is that they'll have even more power
(11:41):
as more time goes by. So I encourage you to
make a little mental note or write down your winds,
because there's like little little sparks that keep us going
and they add up. Like I'm looking at my Christmas
tree right now, and I'm looking at all the lights
on there, and they're all strung together and wrapped around
(12:04):
the tree, and they make something really beautiful. And that's
what I'm thinking about our small winds, Like string them
together and they'll create something really beautiful. So take note.
And we got the third thing. Tough conversations are not
(12:30):
for the vein of heart. Neither is parenting. I had
to have a real hard conversation with one of my
kids this week, and trust me, this was no passive,
let's skip over the hard stuff moment. This was a
full on, I love you enough to hold you accountable
(12:50):
kind of talk. And you know, parenting or any relationship
where you may need to speak up or set boundaries
with someone you love. I make you feel like you're
being the bad guy. I mean, honestly, being passive would
be so much easier, like short term, right, I know
that because I've done it, and then long term it
(13:13):
backfires on you, like just nodding along and letting things slide.
I was that way in my marriage for a while
and then there had to be some tough love moments
for both of us. But when it comes to the
parenting part of tough love, being passive is not why
we're here. It's not why we adopted two kids, or
(13:35):
you adopted kids or birthed kids, brought them into the world,
decided to care for them, and why you want to
raise them up. Like we're here to raise strong, kind,
responsible people. And I sort of had to sit myself
down before I sat my kid down. I had to
give myself a pep talk, and I'm like, yes, this
is what I'm here to do, this is what I
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want to do, this is what I'm choosing to do,
and I want to handle it with I knew I
wanted to be calm. So the talk actually happened almost
three hours after I originally thought it would, because if
I had responded in the moment, it wouldn't have gone well.
Tough love parenting takes patience. It also takes follow through.
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Like I knew, there had to be consequences, which I
hate enforcing. But you know, every choice has a ripple effect.
We know that as adults, we got to teach that
to our kids and that has to be understood. And
I'm happy to report that I have thus var followed
through on the consequences and I shall continue too because
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they're still in effect. And yes, everything about this week
and what has gone on has been very uncomfortable for me.
My kid didn't love it. I didn't love it. But
it's because I love my kids that I'm willing to
go there. And I'm the first to admit that again,
I have been a passive parent before, so if you
have to, you're not alone. But my goal is to
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show up and guide even when it's not fun, because
I believe that one day, I really really do. And
I even said this to my kid multiple times. I think,
one day, you're really going to see what I'm saying
and you're going to look back and you're going to
be like, thank you, mom. And I think in all
situations like this, our kids are going to look back
and thank us. And until then we got to just
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keep showing up, even if it's hard, harding. Have you
heard of the reverse bucket list? I do believe that
it's something that we've gone over before, but possibly years ago,
and it's coming up again because of a conversation that
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I had with someone recently. I was telling them about
a bucket list that I found that belonged to one
of my kids, which more on that one day, possibly
because the way I handled it is actually a small
parenting win that I probably need to celebrate now that
I say that out loud, But anyway, we were talking
about that and they brought up that they've been doing
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a reverse bucket list, so instead of looking ahead at
all that they want to do, they're looking back at
all they've accomplished. And for my friend, she said that
she's loved revisiting the cool things that she's already done
that she once dreamed of. And I think sometimes in
our rush to achieve more on our bucket lists, we
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forget how much we've already experienced. And maybe it's big
stuff like a trip abroad, like on my kid's list.
That was something that was on there, and then there
was more comical stuff on there. Wasn't funny when I
first read it, but it's funny to me now. But
they got to go to London in Paris with their dad.
So check on the list. Maybe it's finally running a
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five k, or getting through a tough season with your
head held high, realizing you're resilient looking back. I believe
if we take time to do it, we'll all see
how far we've come, and we can remind ourselves that, hey,
like we're doing all right. So grab a notebook or
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maybe even just think through it. But what would be
on your reverse bucket list? You might surprise yourself with
everything that you've experienced, and it's a great reminder that
even if there's more to come, we've already got so
much to look back on and to check off. So
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give it a try. Reverse bucket list, all right, So
that's it are four things for this week. Thank you
for listening. I will see you on Saturday with Leanne
for Outweigh and on Tuesday with Kat for the fifth thing.
I am at Radio Amy on socials. You can also
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email if you have any comments or questions Four Things
with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. Bye hmm.
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