How do you feel about your self-awareness? 95% of people think that they’re self-aware, but only 10-15% actually are! Amy shares a simple fix to increase your self-awareness for a more fulfilled life. This "simple fix" is based on research done by Dr. Tasha Eurich and it all boils down to one word. Amy's cousin, Amanda, joins in on this chat and they both share their experience with this one word and how it's impacted the way they look at their lives.
The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to start using it right away!! It’s a simple phrase that will give you freedom! When you say "Let Them" - you're giving yourself permission to let others do whatever it is that they want to do. You are free from trying to control them. This phrase creates emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life. Shout out to Mel Robbins for teaching this to us!
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United States Marine Corps Corporal Aaron Mankin enlisted in the military out of his hometown of Rogers, Arkansas in 2003, right at the onset of the war in Iraq. He proudly served his country until he was medically retired in 2008. On May 11, 2005, while deployed near the Syrian border of Iraq, Corporal Mankin’s vehicle was attacked with an improvised explosive device (IED). Since then, he has undergone 70 surgeries throughout his recovery to better his face, hands, and arms. He sacrificed so much and deserves this new home so much. Thank you for shopping PIMPINJOY if you're able to help...and you will get these items in time for 4th of July!
HOST:
Amy Brown // @RadioAmy // RadioAmy.com
GUEST:
Amanda Reiger Green // Amy's Psychic Cousin & host of Soul Sessions podcast // @SoulPathology // SoulPathology.com
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
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Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hey, it's pretty beautiful than beautiful for.
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Speaker 5 (00:28):
You're kicking with fouring with.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Amy Brown, Happy Thursday. Four Things Amy here. And I
wonder if I asked you if you are a self
aware person, what you would say, because I feel like
if I was asked that question, I would say, yes,
I am.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
I'm introspective.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
I like to do self analysis, look inward, figure yourself out.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
Well.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
I saw on a ted talk on YouTube from doctor
Tasha that has over four million views. So it's very
popular that ninety five percent of people think that they
are self aware, but only ten to fifteen percent of
us actually are. And the title of the YouTube video
is increase your self awareness with one simple fix. And
we're going to talk about the simple fix today. Also,
(01:08):
I'm going to teach you the let them theory. I
learned this from a girl mel and ever since I did,
I have been walking around I'm like, let them, let them,
let them, let them, And it is so freeing and
I want you to be free too. We're also going
to talk about spreading joy, pimp and joy, building a
home for a hero and how you can be a
part of that and really changing somebody's life and also
having something cool in return as a part of our
(01:30):
patriotic pimp and Joy line.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
It's that time of year.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
And then my cousin, Amanda riger Green, who has been
on the podcast before. She's been on the Bobby Bone Show.
She's known there as my psychic cousin. She has her
own podcast, Soul Sessions podcast. Now and earlier I had
centered this YouTube video and she was like, oh, oh,
I have an example of a time where I've absolutely
(01:55):
used that simple fix. It is powerful. It's just a
word that is game changer. So I was like, oh,
share the story. We're going to record and when you
come on you can share with people. But I've got
her here and I want to set up more of
the video for you so you know what we're going
to be talking about. But what is what we need
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to be saying instead of why? And the reason we
want to say what is because that is what is
going to lead to fulfillment, a more fulfilled life. Because
self awareness has a lot of benefits.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
These are proven.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
You are more fulfilled, you have stronger relationships, You are
a higher performer, which at work will definitely make you
more promotable. The list goes on, which all those same
things sound really great, right, But you're not going to
be more fulfilled and have all of those things if
you're not truly self aware. Remember how ninety five percent
of us think that we are, but only ten to
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fifteen percent of us actually are. And the ten to
fifteen percent what they do differently is they ask what
instead of why? And one example in the video had
to do with a woman that was diagnosed with cancer,
which I'll play that for you in a minute, but
i'll talk you through an example of a guy who
at work really wasn't getting along with his boss, and
(03:12):
he got a poor performance report, and instead of asking himself,
why are we like oil and water, you know, like why.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Do we not get along?
Speaker 4 (03:22):
He asked himself what can I do to show her
I am the best person for this job? So you
see the difference between the what and the why. And
I feel like a lot of times we lean why
because that is looking inwards, trying to figure stuff out
why did this happen?
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Why is this person treating me?
Speaker 7 (03:41):
This way?
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Why did I react that way? I still do it
all the time. I'm sharing with y'all something that I
literally just watched the other day and thought, oh, this
is powerful, and then you know who? It made me
think of Donald Miller and the question he gave us
when he was on the podcast, which is I know
has been a game changer for a lot of you
and for me. I shared it with the CFO of
(04:01):
iHeart Radio or iHeartMedia. I was at a luncheon with
him on Monday and I shared with him, well, you
know what, I like to ask myself what does this
make possible? And he goes, oh, I really like that,
and I'm like, boom, I just told one of my huge, huge, big,
huge super successful bosses that lives in New York, well
(04:24):
and Miami. I think he's back and forth, but whatever.
He is not someone I get a lot of FaceTime with.
But I thought, wow, this is so cool that I
just had FaceTime with him and I got to teach
him what does this make possible? And he really loved it.
And it's what is in that. It's not why did
this happen? It's what does this make possible? It's total
(04:46):
game changer and Amanda, now is the perfect time for
you to share when you were able to use what
instead of why.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well, one thing that I was thinking through which is
a deeper, more intense example of the what, because I
can ask the questions what am I learning through this
when I have a challenging day or an overwhelming situation
that I don't have the answers to in terms of
examining my role. But I remember years ago when the
what became abundantly or innately part of my voice in
(05:17):
a very painful moment. I had been out of town
and my husband picked me up from the airport, and
the whole way home we are talking about my dogs.
I had these two labs texts and we see who
I had adopted since they were two months and they
were about twelve at the time. Love them, loves of
my life. And we're talking about them the whole way home.
Speaker 6 (05:37):
Oh my gosh, how are the dogs? What have they
been up to me?
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You know, that's just the topic of conversation. We get home,
we get to the gate, both of them are excitedly
waiting for us. We're, you know, doing our normal routine.
I get out of the car, I open the gate,
both dogs come meet me and he rolls forward, and
somehow in that moment we see the female ended up
(06:00):
under the wheel of the tire, and it was horrible.
He essentially ran over her, and Tex and I, her brother,
saw it, heard it.
Speaker 6 (06:12):
Dennis was in the midst of it.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
And she died very gracefully and beautifully and painfully in
a moment with us sitting there holding her, and it
was very fast. But I remember, in that horrific moment,
and in that pain, I remembered two things. That morning,
when I got up, I had said my prayers and
(06:37):
my intentions literally were God put me in the right
place at the right time today. And in that moment,
I thought, God is either everything or God is nothing,
meaning everything as exactly as it's supposed to be, whether
I like it, understand it or not. And as I
was hysterically crying and in that awful place, there was
(06:58):
this strange sense of peace that she was leaving at
that time because there was something for me to learn.
And it was like, what am I learning from this?
What am I experiencing? Not why is this happening? But
what is this pulling up from inside of me that
I've been suppressing, and Mom had been diagnosed with cancer.
(07:21):
Dennis and I were preparing to move to belize we
see was having some joint issues and it was going
to be very hard for us to get her to
believe we were going to make it happen. Her body
was kind of failing her, whereas our male lab's body
was stronger. There were a lot of factors, and it
was almost as if the timing was so divine for
her to know when to exit, no, when to leave
(07:44):
this physical world. But it wasn't just about that divine timing.
It was that I needed to grieve. I needed to
feel some stuff that I had just been pushing down
and suppressing. And it was almost like the only way
to do that was to elicit that kind of his
hysterical pain and grief, that trauma. It was traumatic too,
(08:05):
And I wasn't angry at Dennis. You know, you would
think the go to might be I can't believe you
did this, or what weren't you paying attention? Because he
wasn't in a rush, did the same thing he always did,
and somehow she just must have hesitated, And I knew
that it was nobody's fault, and it didn't take away
the pain, but there was a big what there of
(08:25):
what is this teaching me? What is this showing me?
What is this making possible? I didn't exactly ask that question,
but looking back now that's what I was asking.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
And I will tell you this.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
In that moment that was it was so hard because
text her brother and I who you know, I rescued
them at two months old. They were littermates, saying they
were inseparable. We saw it, you know, he was standing
there over her body. I'm kneeling, you know, on the ground,
holding her and she literally looked up, took a breath
and was gone. And there was this is very strange
and almost explicit for me to say, but there was
(08:56):
no blood. Whatever it was was almost clan. It was
the strangest series of circumstances, and the energy there was
almost transcendent. As painful as it was, there was gosh,
what is this all about?
Speaker 6 (09:12):
Not why?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
But what is this about? And more was revealed. I
needed that time to grieve and to express deep loss
and sadness. Yes about we see, but about many other
things that had gone on over the course of a
handful of years that I was able to process healthfully,
not only by myself but with the help of some
other people in that timeframe.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Were you aware of that stuff that you needed to
process and you were just stuffing it down or did
it come to light in that moment of oh shoot,
I didn't even know I needed to work through this.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Most of it I had pushed down because it was
really one foot app in front of the other making
big decisions. I mean, at that point I had left
the corporate world, you know, about three years in at
that point, had started soul pathology, was doing sessions, my
business was evolving. So I don't even know that I
had grieved an old corporate life or certain things around
(10:10):
Dennis retiring us, moving out of the country, selling a
lot of our belongings. There were just multiple things that
I had pushed through and not felt, and there was
pain in there, There was fear in there, there was
sadness in there. That this event gave me the allowance
(10:31):
to feel, to recognize, and I knew to ask for
help in doing it. That was the difference to in
that event is I didn't have all the answers to
the what I had to say, What is this showing me?
What is this revealing in my process work and having
a few other people support me through this.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
One of the examples from the Ted talk was about
a woman that was diagnosed with cancer. So I'm going
to play that one real quick.
Speaker 5 (11:00):
Let me give you a few examples. Nathan, a brand manager,
got a terrible performance review from his new boss. Instead
of asking why are we like oil and water, he
asked what can I do to show her I'm the
best person for this job? It changed everything. People now
(11:20):
point to Nathan and his boss as proof that polar
opposites can work together. Sarah, an education leader, was diagnosed
with breast cancer in her late forties, and when she
asked why me, she said it felt like a death sentence,
So then she asked what's most important to me? This
(11:42):
helped her to find what she wanted her life to
look like in whatever time she had left. She's now
cancer free and more focused on the relationships that mean
the most to her.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Okay, so that's an example of not saying why me,
but choosing to say what is most important to me?
Now that I have this information and I know where
my life stands, what is most important to me. Both
(12:19):
of our moms passed away because of cancer. So I
wish both of our moms were here so we could
ask like, hmm.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
You know, what were you thinking.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
I knew that my mom wanted to choose joy, and
I knew she wanted the.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Lord to use it for good.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
I feel like sometimes I maybe used the language of well,
this is why it happened. Look at pimp and joy
and all this good that has come from it. So
this is why my mom went through that, when really
I don't know that the why would really help me process,
Like in the moment, it might be like, Okay, I
feel good now, but later it may come back to
(12:55):
bite me, at least according to the research that was
shared in this ted to and so now I'm like, okay,
it really is what was made possible and what was
important to my mom. What was important to her was
keeping her eye on the Lord, knowing that he was
the most important thing. She was ready to go home
(13:17):
if that's what he wanted, and and by home I
mean her eternal home, and that she wanted to bring
joy and happiness to others.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
And so that's why she would talk.
Speaker 4 (13:31):
To strangers in the elevator at m D Anderson or
at the hospital.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
She would talk to people that were in the waiting
room alone.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
She was so friendly to her nurses and the people
that would help her, because honestly, sometimes you're in such pain,
or she would be in such pain that I mean,
she would get a little snippy, but that's understandable you're
in pain. But I think hopefully she reserved a lot
of that for me and Christy, which is where you
should we're like, I'm your daughter, or take out whatever
(14:01):
on me. Actually one of my uh, I'm like, is
there something from this? One of my last memories with
her before she went unconscious. We were at Christopher House,
which is a hospice home, and she had to go
to the bathroom. So it was trying to help her
up out of bed and it was just me and
her in the room, and she was so frail and
(14:23):
fragile that I tried to pick her up and I
was trying to get her there, and I was hurting
her and she yelled at me, you're hurting me or
hurting like she was so just seemed angry, but I
know it wasn't anger. It was just pure pain. But
as a daughter, that was seriously one of the last
things she ever said to me or one of our
(14:43):
last encounters where she was able to express something is
it was later that day that they ended up trying
to do the catheter and sedata and then she never
woke back up. But sometimes I have that in my
mind of like, ugh, I hate that that was one
of our last things.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
I don't know. I wasn't planning on bring that up.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
It just kind of popped into my head as like
what can come from that encounter, and maybe it's just
this permission to be able to show up as we
are with those that we are.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Closest to and we love.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Because I completely lost it in front of Stevenson yesterday,
like balling, crying, and I started to wonder if he
should see that we were sitting in the car and
out of nowhere, I just started crying. And it wasn't
totally out of nowhere. He was being kind of difficult
and I sort of just snapped and then started bawling crying.
But then it led to him asking questions, which then
(15:36):
led to me asking him questions, but led to him
sharing about his day. And I don't know that he
was going to share some of the things that he
shared if I hadn't gotten vulnerable and let it all
out in the car. And you know this about my mom,
I never saw her cry.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
She also, your mom didn't get overtly angry like that either.
That's what was coming to mind for me and thinking
about her just in all of my memory. But again
the Christopher House, her vulnerability of not crying necessarily in
front of you, but also I mean not that she
wasn't stern or strict, but getting angry. I don't remember
(16:13):
your mom getting loud and angry. So for her to
be able to say, oh, you're hurting me and it
be kind of that emphatic response, that was a moment
of vulnerability for her to say, I know you're supporting me,
but this is how I feel and it's just it's
vulnerable and in ways that you know, I'm not one
(16:33):
for sentiment. Let's you know a line from your mom
where that's one of those things where I think it's
a moment of vulnerability in the safest way. And I
know with Stevenson, for you in those moments you have,
I think sometimes he craves that that softness and vulnerability,
whether it's your high highs or your low lows, and
(16:55):
to be able to share that with him is probably
relationship building, intimacy building.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
After it all kind of happened, I wanted to reset
and we were parked, we weren't driving in the car,
and I said, hey, let's say a quick prayer together,
and he goes, oh, well, right when you started crying,
I asked the Lord to help you.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
And I thought that was the sweetest thing.
Speaker 4 (17:23):
And I did feel it wasn't like the crying lasted forever,
but I did start to feel like, okay, just needed
to get that out. And then I felt so much better,
and so I was able to tell him thank you
for saying that I felt better, and he you know,
saying that quick prayer for me, and I just thought
that that was so sweet, such a special moment. But
(17:43):
again I was doubting, oh why am I doing this
in front of him? And it really wasn't a bad thing.
We have a relationship as mother and son, and I
think if you have those people that you can be
safe with and around, and they're going to see some
of your highest highes and your lowest lows, but how
quickly do you come back to recover from it and
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talk about it and see where it's going?
Speaker 3 (18:07):
To go.
Speaker 4 (18:08):
So now instead of why was I crying in front
of Stevenson, I'm like, what conversation needed to happen?
Speaker 2 (18:14):
And what did this do? It strengthened the endearment, you know,
that connection because it's personal when you're that vulnerable, and
he was able to show you, Oh, hey, I saw
you were in pain and I said a quick prayer
for you. I mean that probably surprised the heck out
of you, but didn't because you know that about it.
There's a thoughtfulness to him that you know that vulnerability
(18:35):
of you crying gave him the allowance to say, oh, yeah,
I was praying for you. Just now you know that's
a that's a memory that you won't forget.
Speaker 6 (18:43):
I can imagine.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
No, I really think that I will not forget that
moment in the car that just totally organically happened. But
now I see it as a gift. If I got
stuck in the why why am I behaving this way?
And why would I let my son see me break
down randomly in the car, then I would be look, yes,
(19:06):
I would be looking inward why did that happen? But
I'd be stuck in this spiral and it wouldn't be
going anywhere, but what instantly changes it.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Words are powerful and just to shift in perspective. That's
the thing right now, is any for me?
Speaker 6 (19:20):
A lot of times? How can I shift my perspective?
What's my role?
Speaker 2 (19:23):
You know? What is my part in this? And how
can I see things differently? And I like to adding
the how you know what and how which are are helpful.
I feel like the investigative journalists around myself, which is
the self awareness.
Speaker 6 (19:36):
And it's fun.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
It's sometimes I don't like what I find, but it's
really more about the process.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
So you just said investigative journalists, which I don't even
think you know this about the US Marine Corps corporal
that we're teaming up with building humes for heroes to
build a house for through Pimp and Joy, which Pimp
and Joy came from mom. But he was serving in
Iraq as a photographer. He was serving in Iraq as
(20:15):
a photographer correspondent. He was telling stories. He was there
to capture what was happening. I mean he was trained,
he was a marine. He was in Iraq near the
Syrian border and they went over an ied and he
said that he had a gun in one hand and
his camera in the other because he was there to
document things and he's a storyteller, and now he's in
(20:39):
a place where he is using what happened to him
to tell a story that he wasn't going to let
that derail his life for his purpose. He has a
gift of telling stories, and now it just looks a
little different than he thought it was going to. But
this is the seventh year we've done something for a veteran.
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I believe it's our six with building homes for heroes.
In one of the years, we did CA nine dogs
Canine for Warriors, so veterans each got a dog, and
we did I think six dogs, and each dog was
named after someone on the show, so there was a
Bobby and a Namy, and then veterans got the trained dogs.
Because it's twenty thousand dollars per dog.
Speaker 6 (21:18):
It's that much.
Speaker 7 (21:19):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I mean, I knew that it was expensive and those
dogs are their training.
Speaker 6 (21:24):
It's a lot as a huge investment. Wow.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Right, So you are able to do six of those? Yes, yeah,
we did two.
Speaker 6 (21:31):
That's amazing.
Speaker 4 (21:31):
Through the Patriotic Pimp and Joy line, which this line
is something we do leading up to fourth of July
every year, so it's patriotic, pimp and joy a lot
of red, white and blue. You may have seen the
hat that I posted the other day. I mean I
was wearing a black one one day, but then the red,
white and blue one the other day.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
I did see the hat, and I want one of
those for sure, and that all the proceeds where do
they go?
Speaker 4 (21:54):
To?
Speaker 3 (21:55):
Corporal Aaron Mankin.
Speaker 4 (21:56):
So this time around they're two specifically building Homes for Heroes,
which thank you for asking that, Amana, because other people
might want to know. And then also when I send
you one, people are gonna.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
Be like, where'd you get that?
Speaker 4 (22:08):
And then you can say, oh, well, this sufforted one
hundred percent to Building Homes for Heroes is the specific organization.
So that's the organization and they're amazing. But I've got
a clip of Aaron talking about what happened when the
vehicle was hit.
Speaker 7 (22:22):
Our track just happened to hit a stack mine through
a twenty six ton vehicle ten feet in here. I
don't know how I escaped it. Why to tell you
the god honest truth, I mean, it took the lives
of six marines. I had to give my face and
my flesh and a few fingers, But honestly, every day's
been a blessing since now.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
Since then, he's undergone seventy surgeries throughout his recovery to
better his face, his hands, his arms. And here's a
clip of when we revealed to him the other day
on the Bobby Bone Show that we were going to
help build him a new home.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
We're going to work together with building Homes for Heroes,
and our goal is to build you a house that
is easier for you to live in, easier for what
you're going through, easier for your family.
Speaker 7 (23:07):
Oh, I thought just talking here man, Wow, it's so huge.
Speaker 4 (23:15):
He's got two little girls, Amanda, and his reaction when
we told him, you can just tell he's so grateful
as you'll heard, and he didn't know it was coming.
And so this is a very special thing. And tomorrow Friday,
if you're listening to this on Thursday, then tomorrow Friday,
June ninth, at ten Eastern, nine Central, eight Mountains, seven Pacific,
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the new pimpin Joy Patriotic Line is going up and
it's a way for you to support Aaron and his
family and what he sacrificed for our country and once
the home is built, we get picture updates and they're
in front of the house and it's really special. And
this is possible because of Bobby Bone Show listeners, listeners
(24:02):
of this podcast, other people that yeah, maybe ask you
about a pimp and Joy item that you're wearing, and
you get to tell them and they learn like, oh,
it's about spreading joy, and pimp and Joy is what
came from my mom's desire to spread joy, from her
desire for the Lord to use this cancer for good.
(24:23):
That is what has come from this. I'm just going
to keep trying to find ways to use the word
what instead of why, because I think, yeah, my mom,
she didn't get stuck in the why did this happen
to me?
Speaker 3 (24:35):
But I think back to both of our moms.
Speaker 4 (24:36):
What I was curious is if we were here right
now with them and we could sit and ask them.
I don't know that I could say exactly what was
going through her head right when she found out, like
how long till she got to the point of how
she was going to handle it. I just have so
many questions for my mom and my dad, and Amanda
has lost her dad as well, so I think I
(24:57):
could speak for both of us, and saying if your
parents are living, whether both of them, one of them,
or even if your grandparents are living, start asking questions.
Ask all the questions, sit down and think of them,
maybe take a few days to be like, Okay, what
are all the things I want to know? It could
be an everything from recipes to family history to just
(25:18):
how they were at your age, what they've learned in
life since then, how they are at their current age,
what else they want to do in life. Like my
mom always wanted to go on an Alaskan cruise. We
learned that a little too late. We learned that when
she was, you know, not doing too hot, and she
was like, Okay, I think I'm ready to go.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
I finally want to go on that Alaskan cruise.
Speaker 4 (25:39):
And we're like, well, this would have been helpful information,
like three years ago, because we could have taken you.
And now we're trying to book a nine day trip
on a boat and doctors are saying, yeah, probably not
a good idea. So she never got to go. So
ask all the questions.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
There's so many questions I'd love to ask. My dad
losing him at eighteen years old. One of the things
I say is I would have loved to have had
an adult conversation with him where I could ask all
of those questions, and so I got to do a
lot of that in the past year with my mom.
We spent quite a bit of intimate time together and
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I would forget to ask questions. And one of my
half sisters, Mimi, she was really good about saying Amanda,
ask questions, spend time, ask her all the things, and
share things too. That was another thing that was encouraged
is tell her what you're doing, tell her what you're
working on. Don't just assume she already knows. She wants
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to hear about your life and your day. Even though
we lived together in the same house, I would still
sometimes even compartmentalize a little bit and want to talk
more about her and what she had going on. And
it was reminded to me share about me too, which
I didn't think about in sometimes the day to day
and the overwhelm.
Speaker 4 (26:56):
I love that Bobbybones dot com is the website. I
don't know if I said that or the shop for
dot com slash pimp and joy. And I'm pretty sure
that Aunt Lisa, Amanda's mom and my mom would approve
of the new styles because they say pimp and joy y'all.
Speaker 6 (27:12):
They do.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
That's what I've got to have one of these. I'm
getting one for Dennis and I for the summer. Perfect patriotic. Yeah, ready,
the joy hats.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
And for whatever reason, not that you're not patriotic, but
you would prefer a more neutral hat. We have black
ones too that say pimp and joy y'all, and both
of our moms being from the South, we can appreciate
a good y'all.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
Let me just say one thing I love about my
Pimp and Joy merch my hats. They're all more like
trucker hats, so I can wear my sunglasses with them,
not just aviators. I mean, this is like a very
specific thing, but I can have sunglasses on with the
brim of the hat and it doesn't have to be
like a smaller sunglass. I know that is so superficial,
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but that's one of the reasons I love those hats.
Speaker 6 (28:00):
He gives me joy.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
These are those foam trucker hats.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
And then we have the og Pimp and Joy, which
is like a trucker type hat but not foam. And
then we also have dad hats available, but those have
been around a while. The new stuff is the Pimp
and Joy, y'all, and then there's also one that kind
of looks like a baseball jersey. It's like Pimp and
Joy and then it's got stars and stripes. But y'all
just go check them out. See if there's anything that
you want for yourself or a gift or a family member,
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or if you want to get everybody decked out in
time for Fourth of July. Y'all can all be representing
America and representing spreading joy at the same time and
helping build Corporal Mankin a new home that is so deserved.
And I just love his attitude and his outlook on life.
And I mean you can tell by his personality and
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how he is now that he hasn't sat around like
why did this happen to me? He is not in
victim mentality at all. And I think sometimes that's where
why can take us a little bit down that road,
but the what can help dig us out why may
come up?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
But how long are you going to stay there?
Speaker 4 (29:02):
And that's really with anything in my self awareness as
I'm trying to work through things, It's like there are
times I'm behaving in a way that I know why
I don't want to, or if I get into like
a situation, I'm like, oh okay, wow, I recovered three
minutes later. This is pretty awesome because it used to
take me three days.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Resiliency in a new, a healthier form of resiliency.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Yes, Amanda, I have been talking a little bit about
your podcast from time to time, and some people that
may dismiss it right away because you know, they think
it's just a psychic podcast or something. So since you're
on here now, I want you to explain your heart
behind soul Sessions and what all people can expect when
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they're over.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
There, but before you share.
Speaker 4 (29:51):
I recently saw Mel Robbins post about the let them theory,
and something that I'm also working on is letting people
think what they want. If someone wants to not give
something a chance for whatever reason, let them. If someone
wants to have an opinion about something without really knowing
someone or what their heart is about, well let them.
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If my son wants to wear these shorts that I
really think are awful, and sometimes I try to get
him to change, I need to just let him. Let
him wear the dang shorts like it's not that big
of a deal. An example that Mel gave though, was,
you know, the shorts are something trivial, obviously, but there
might be something a little more painful. Like you find
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out your friends are all going on a weekend trip
and you weren't invited for whatever reason. Well, okay, let
them if that's what they wanted to do, but it's
not to let them in a fine I'll let them
and then I'm gonna sit here and skulk about it.
It's a you know what, I'm not going to control
this situation. I don't know the reasoning behind who was
invited and who wasn't invited, but I'm gonna go ahead
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and let them go have their weekend and I'm not
gonna let it ruin my weekend.
Speaker 6 (31:03):
Well, and for me, a lot of times I practice that.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Sometimes easier said than done, for sure, but it's that
a self awareness and that recognition. But it lets me
off the hook, and it lets them off the hook
rather than me having these unreasonable expectations that keep me
out of peace, joy or serenity. You know, let them
is like Okay, I'm gonna let that go, but I'm
gonna let them do what they want. And I'm not
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going to be attached to the why why wasn't I invited?
Or you know, why isn't this about me? Because usually
it's not. I mean, so I think that's a really
good place to come from.
Speaker 4 (31:39):
I just figured out a what for the friends going somewhere? Yes,
what can I do to get invited next time?
Speaker 6 (31:48):
What can I do to be included?
Speaker 4 (31:50):
And I think Mell even said to something along the
lines of maybe this is showing you you need to
be more proactive and plan more events with people you
want to go do stuff with. And if you want
to include some of those people, then maybe they'll know
next time, oh she would like to come to this.
Oftentimes we make up this story of oh, they don't
like me and oh they don't want me to becomes
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this whole thing when really whatever. So I love what
you just shared about that your piece, your serenity, and
you know, our emotional piece is so important, Like I
want to keep that as much as possible. And I
like to have tools in my toolbox to help keep
me there. And I feel like soul sessions is another
tool in people's toolbox. So, yes, you've done some live readings,
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but there's also tools for people, takeaways that people can
store away for when they need it that can help
them show up as their highest self.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Absolutely, the whole aim of the podcast is, yes, developing
self awareness, but spiritual awareness, energetic awareness, growing our souls,
growing our dialogue with our soul. It is directly connect
to God in whatever way you find God, whatever format
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you find God, deepening and strengthening that relationship through your
inner voice, through your relationships, developing your intuition. Of course,
I do some live readings, which are fun because it's
pretty transcendent at times, and it is a God given
gift that it's not me, it is God, and I
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honor it and it's very sacred. But I have amazing
conversations with long term clients, with experts, and having different
people on the show with questions and answers about life
and what they're walking through and going through that is
so accessible and relatable with practical tools and resources on
a personal level, on a spiritual level that taps into
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mental health and well being, emotional intelligence, energy, Everything is energy,
and how we can become really aware of our own
energy and our own voice to harness that and live
more meaningfully, live more aligned more true and happily, which
generates joy, peace, well being, multitude of byproducts.
Speaker 4 (34:12):
Well, I'm so proud of you for doing a podcast.
I know you've wanted to do one for a while
and you are up and running. It's been there for
a few weeks now, So very excited about that. And Amanda,
I love you, I know you. You got to go,
but I'll I'll call you later. We'll catch up so
much later. Yes, we do at soul Pathology on Instagram
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soul Sessions with Amanda Riga Green for podcast and then
website is soulpathology dot com.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Yes, boom, I know you girl, you you do.
Speaker 6 (34:41):
Bye, everyone, thank you,
Okay, cats up, broad thing, little food for yourself life.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Oh it's pretty bad.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hey, it's pretty beautiful than beautiful for.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
That for a little more.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Fais exciting because of course said he can't cut.
Speaker 5 (00:28):
You're kicking with fouring with.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Amy Brown, Happy Thursday. Four Things Amy here. And I
wonder if I asked you if you are a self
aware person, what you would say, because I feel like
if I was asked that question, I would say, yes,
I am.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
I'm introspective.
Speaker 4 (00:43):
I like to do self analysis, look inward, figure yourself out.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
Well.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
I saw on a ted talk on YouTube from doctor
Tasha that has over four million views. So it's very
popular that ninety five percent of people think that they
are self aware, but only ten to fifteen percent of
us actually are. And the title of the YouTube video
is increase your self awareness with one simple fix. And
we're going to talk about the simple fix today. Also,
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I'm going to teach you the let them theory. I
learned this from a girl mel and ever since I did,
I have been walking around I'm like, let them, let them,
let them, let them, And it is so freeing and
I want you to be free too. We're also going
to talk about spreading joy, pimp and joy, building a
home for a hero and how you can be a
part of that and really changing somebody's life and also
having something cool in return as a part of our
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patriotic pimp and Joy line.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
It's that time of year.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
And then my cousin, Amanda riger Green, who has been
on the podcast before. She's been on the Bobby Bone Show.
She's known there as my psychic cousin. She has her
own podcast, Soul Sessions podcast. Now and earlier I had
centered this YouTube video and she was like, oh, oh,
I have an example of a time where I've absolutely
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used that simple fix. It is powerful. It's just a
word that is game changer. So I was like, oh,
share the story. We're going to record and when you
come on you can share with people. But I've got
her here and I want to set up more of
the video for you so you know what we're going
to be talking about. But what is what we need
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to be saying instead of why? And the reason we
want to say what is because that is what is
going to lead to fulfillment, a more fulfilled life. Because
self awareness has a lot of benefits.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
These are proven.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
You are more fulfilled, you have stronger relationships, You are
a higher performer, which at work will definitely make you
more promotable. The list goes on, which all those same
things sound really great, right, But you're not going to
be more fulfilled and have all of those things if
you're not truly self aware. Remember how ninety five percent
of us think that we are, but only ten to
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fifteen percent of us actually are. And the ten to
fifteen percent what they do differently is they ask what
instead of why? And one example in the video had
to do with a woman that was diagnosed with cancer,
which I'll play that for you in a minute, but
i'll talk you through an example of a guy who
at work really wasn't getting along with his boss, and
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he got a poor performance report, and instead of asking himself,
why are we like oil and water, you know, like why.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Do we not get along?
Speaker 4 (03:22):
He asked himself what can I do to show her
I am the best person for this job? So you
see the difference between the what and the why. And
I feel like a lot of times we lean why
because that is looking inwards, trying to figure stuff out
why did this happen?
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Why is this person treating me?
Speaker 7 (03:41):
This way?
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Why did I react that way? I still do it
all the time. I'm sharing with y'all something that I
literally just watched the other day and thought, oh, this
is powerful, and then you know who? It made me
think of Donald Miller and the question he gave us
when he was on the podcast, which is I know
has been a game changer for a lot of you
and for me. I shared it with the CFO of
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iHeart Radio or iHeartMedia. I was at a luncheon with
him on Monday and I shared with him, well, you
know what, I like to ask myself what does this
make possible? And he goes, oh, I really like that,
and I'm like, boom, I just told one of my huge, huge, big,
huge super successful bosses that lives in New York, well
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and Miami. I think he's back and forth, but whatever.
He is not someone I get a lot of FaceTime with.
But I thought, wow, this is so cool that I
just had FaceTime with him and I got to teach
him what does this make possible? And he really loved it.
And it's what is in that. It's not why did
this happen? It's what does this make possible? It's total
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game changer and Amanda, now is the perfect time for
you to share when you were able to use what
instead of why.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Well, one thing that I was thinking through which is
a deeper, more intense example of the what, because I
can ask the questions what am I learning through this
when I have a challenging day or an overwhelming situation
that I don't have the answers to in terms of
examining my role. But I remember years ago when the
what became abundantly or innately part of my voice in
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a very painful moment. I had been out of town
and my husband picked me up from the airport, and
the whole way home we are talking about my dogs.
I had these two labs texts and we see who
I had adopted since they were two months and they
were about twelve at the time. Love them, loves of
my life. And we're talking about them the whole way home.
Speaker 6 (05:37):
Oh my gosh, how are the dogs? What have they
been up to me?
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You know, that's just the topic of conversation. We get home,
we get to the gate, both of them are excitedly
waiting for us. We're, you know, doing our normal routine.
I get out of the car, I open the gate,
both dogs come meet me and he rolls forward, and
somehow in that moment we see the female ended up
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under the wheel of the tire, and it was horrible.
He essentially ran over her, and Tex and I, her brother,
saw it, heard it.
Speaker 6 (06:12):
Dennis was in the midst of it.
Speaker 2 (06:14):
And she died very gracefully and beautifully and painfully in
a moment with us sitting there holding her, and it
was very fast. But I remember, in that horrific moment,
and in that pain, I remembered two things. That morning,
when I got up, I had said my prayers and
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my intentions literally were God put me in the right
place at the right time today. And in that moment,
I thought, God is either everything or God is nothing,
meaning everything as exactly as it's supposed to be, whether
I like it, understand it or not. And as I
was hysterically crying and in that awful place, there was
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this strange sense of peace that she was leaving at
that time because there was something for me to learn.
And it was like, what am I learning from this?
What am I experiencing? Not why is this happening? But
what is this pulling up from inside of me that
I've been suppressing, and Mom had been diagnosed with cancer.
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Dennis and I were preparing to move to belize we
see was having some joint issues and it was going
to be very hard for us to get her to
believe we were going to make it happen. Her body
was kind of failing her, whereas our male lab's body
was stronger. There were a lot of factors, and it
was almost as if the timing was so divine for
her to know when to exit, no, when to leave
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this physical world. But it wasn't just about that divine timing.
It was that I needed to grieve. I needed to
feel some stuff that I had just been pushing down
and suppressing. And it was almost like the only way
to do that was to elicit that kind of his
hysterical pain and grief, that trauma. It was traumatic too,
(08:05):
And I wasn't angry at Dennis. You know, you would
think the go to might be I can't believe you
did this, or what weren't you paying attention? Because he
wasn't in a rush, did the same thing he always did,
and somehow she just must have hesitated, And I knew
that it was nobody's fault, and it didn't take away
the pain, but there was a big what there of
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what is this teaching me? What is this showing me?
What is this making possible? I didn't exactly ask that question,
but looking back now that's what I was asking.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
And I will tell you this.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
In that moment that was it was so hard because
text her brother and I who you know, I rescued
them at two months old. They were littermates, saying they
were inseparable. We saw it, you know, he was standing
there over her body. I'm kneeling, you know, on the ground,
holding her and she literally looked up, took a breath
and was gone. And there was this is very strange
and almost explicit for me to say, but there was
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no blood. Whatever it was was almost clan. It was
the strangest series of circumstances, and the energy there was
almost transcendent. As painful as it was, there was gosh,
what is this all about?
Speaker 6 (09:12):
Not why?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
But what is this about? And more was revealed. I
needed that time to grieve and to express deep loss
and sadness. Yes about we see, but about many other
things that had gone on over the course of a
handful of years that I was able to process healthfully,
not only by myself but with the help of some
other people in that timeframe.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Were you aware of that stuff that you needed to
process and you were just stuffing it down or did
it come to light in that moment of oh shoot,
I didn't even know I needed to work through this.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Most of it I had pushed down because it was
really one foot app in front of the other making
big decisions. I mean, at that point I had left
the corporate world, you know, about three years in at
that point, had started soul pathology, was doing sessions, my
business was evolving. So I don't even know that I
had grieved an old corporate life or certain things around
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Dennis retiring us, moving out of the country, selling a
lot of our belongings. There were just multiple things that
I had pushed through and not felt, and there was
pain in there, There was fear in there, there was
sadness in there. That this event gave me the allowance
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to feel, to recognize, and I knew to ask for
help in doing it. That was the difference to in
that event is I didn't have all the answers to
the what I had to say, What is this showing me?
What is this revealing in my process work and having
a few other people support me through this.
Speaker 4 (10:51):
One of the examples from the Ted talk was about
a woman that was diagnosed with cancer. So I'm going
to play that one real quick.
Speaker 5 (11:00):
Let me give you a few examples. Nathan, a brand manager,
got a terrible performance review from his new boss. Instead
of asking why are we like oil and water, he
asked what can I do to show her I'm the
best person for this job? It changed everything. People now
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point to Nathan and his boss as proof that polar
opposites can work together. Sarah, an education leader, was diagnosed
with breast cancer in her late forties, and when she
asked why me, she said it felt like a death sentence,
So then she asked what's most important to me? This
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helped her to find what she wanted her life to
look like in whatever time she had left. She's now
cancer free and more focused on the relationships that mean
the most to her.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Okay, so that's an example of not saying why me,
but choosing to say what is most important to me?
Now that I have this information and I know where
my life stands, what is most important to me. Both
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of our moms passed away because of cancer. So I
wish both of our moms were here so we could
ask like, hmm.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
You know, what were you thinking.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
I knew that my mom wanted to choose joy, and
I knew she wanted the.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Lord to use it for good.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
I feel like sometimes I maybe used the language of well,
this is why it happened. Look at pimp and joy
and all this good that has come from it. So
this is why my mom went through that, when really
I don't know that the why would really help me process,
Like in the moment, it might be like, Okay, I
feel good now, but later it may come back to
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bite me, at least according to the research that was
shared in this ted to and so now I'm like, okay,
it really is what was made possible and what was
important to my mom. What was important to her was
keeping her eye on the Lord, knowing that he was
the most important thing. She was ready to go home
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if that's what he wanted, and and by home I
mean her eternal home, and that she wanted to bring
joy and happiness to others.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
And so that's why she would talk.
Speaker 4 (13:31):
To strangers in the elevator at m D Anderson or
at the hospital.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
She would talk to people that were in the waiting
room alone.
Speaker 4 (13:38):
She was so friendly to her nurses and the people
that would help her, because honestly, sometimes you're in such pain,
or she would be in such pain that I mean,
she would get a little snippy, but that's understandable you're
in pain. But I think hopefully she reserved a lot
of that for me and Christy, which is where you
should we're like, I'm your daughter, or take out whatever
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on me. Actually one of my uh, I'm like, is
there something from this? One of my last memories with
her before she went unconscious. We were at Christopher House,
which is a hospice home, and she had to go
to the bathroom. So it was trying to help her
up out of bed and it was just me and
her in the room, and she was so frail and
(14:23):
fragile that I tried to pick her up and I
was trying to get her there, and I was hurting
her and she yelled at me, you're hurting me or
hurting like she was so just seemed angry, but I
know it wasn't anger. It was just pure pain. But
as a daughter, that was seriously one of the last
things she ever said to me or one of our
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last encounters where she was able to express something is
it was later that day that they ended up trying
to do the catheter and sedata and then she never
woke back up. But sometimes I have that in my
mind of like, ugh, I hate that that was one
of our last things.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
I don't know. I wasn't planning on bring that up.
Speaker 4 (15:01):
It just kind of popped into my head as like
what can come from that encounter, and maybe it's just
this permission to be able to show up as we
are with those that we are.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
Closest to and we love.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
Because I completely lost it in front of Stevenson yesterday,
like balling, crying, and I started to wonder if he
should see that we were sitting in the car and
out of nowhere, I just started crying. And it wasn't
totally out of nowhere. He was being kind of difficult
and I sort of just snapped and then started bawling crying.
But then it led to him asking questions, which then
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led to me asking him questions, but led to him
sharing about his day. And I don't know that he
was going to share some of the things that he
shared if I hadn't gotten vulnerable and let it all
out in the car. And you know this about my mom,
I never saw her cry.
Speaker 2 (15:51):
She also, your mom didn't get overtly angry like that either.
That's what was coming to mind for me and thinking
about her just in all of my memory. But again
the Christopher House, her vulnerability of not crying necessarily in
front of you, but also I mean not that she
wasn't stern or strict, but getting angry. I don't remember
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your mom getting loud and angry. So for her to
be able to say, oh, you're hurting me and it
be kind of that emphatic response, that was a moment
of vulnerability for her to say, I know you're supporting me,
but this is how I feel and it's just it's
vulnerable and in ways that you know, I'm not one
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for sentiment. Let's you know a line from your mom
where that's one of those things where I think it's
a moment of vulnerability in the safest way. And I
know with Stevenson, for you in those moments you have,
I think sometimes he craves that that softness and vulnerability,
whether it's your high highs or your low lows, and
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to be able to share that with him is probably
relationship building, intimacy building.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
After it all kind of happened, I wanted to reset
and we were parked, we weren't driving in the car,
and I said, hey, let's say a quick prayer together,
and he goes, oh, well, right when you started crying,
I asked the Lord to help you.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
And I thought that was the sweetest thing.
Speaker 4 (17:23):
And I did feel it wasn't like the crying lasted forever,
but I did start to feel like, okay, just needed
to get that out. And then I felt so much better,
and so I was able to tell him thank you
for saying that I felt better, and he you know,
saying that quick prayer for me, and I just thought
that that was so sweet, such a special moment. But
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again I was doubting, oh why am I doing this
in front of him? And it really wasn't a bad thing.
We have a relationship as mother and son, and I
think if you have those people that you can be
safe with and around, and they're going to see some
of your highest highes and your lowest lows, but how
quickly do you come back to recover from it and
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talk about it and see where it's going?
Speaker 3 (18:07):
To go.
Speaker 4 (18:08):
So now instead of why was I crying in front
of Stevenson, I'm like, what conversation needed to happen?
Speaker 2 (18:14):
And what did this do? It strengthened the endearment, you know,
that connection because it's personal when you're that vulnerable, and
he was able to show you, Oh, hey, I saw
you were in pain and I said a quick prayer
for you. I mean that probably surprised the heck out
of you, but didn't because you know that about it.
There's a thoughtfulness to him that you know that vulnerability
(18:35):
of you crying gave him the allowance to say, oh, yeah,
I was praying for you. Just now you know that's
a that's a memory that you won't forget.
Speaker 6 (18:43):
I can imagine.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
No, I really think that I will not forget that
moment in the car that just totally organically happened. But
now I see it as a gift. If I got
stuck in the why why am I behaving this way?
And why would I let my son see me break
down randomly in the car, then I would be look, yes,
(19:06):
I would be looking inward why did that happen? But
I'd be stuck in this spiral and it wouldn't be
going anywhere, but what instantly changes it.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
Words are powerful and just to shift in perspective. That's
the thing right now, is any for me?
Speaker 6 (19:20):
A lot of times? How can I shift my perspective?
What's my role?
Speaker 2 (19:23):
You know? What is my part in this? And how
can I see things differently? And I like to adding
the how you know what and how which are are helpful.
I feel like the investigative journalists around myself, which is
the self awareness.
Speaker 6 (19:36):
And it's fun.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
It's sometimes I don't like what I find, but it's
really more about the process.
Speaker 4 (19:42):
So you just said investigative journalists, which I don't even
think you know this about the US Marine Corps corporal
that we're teaming up with building humes for heroes to
build a house for through Pimp and Joy, which Pimp
and Joy came from mom. But he was serving in
Iraq as a photographer. He was serving in Iraq as
(20:15):
a photographer correspondent. He was telling stories. He was there
to capture what was happening. I mean he was trained,
he was a marine. He was in Iraq near the
Syrian border and they went over an ied and he
said that he had a gun in one hand and
his camera in the other because he was there to
document things and he's a storyteller, and now he's in
(20:39):
a place where he is using what happened to him
to tell a story that he wasn't going to let
that derail his life for his purpose. He has a
gift of telling stories, and now it just looks a
little different than he thought it was going to. But
this is the seventh year we've done something for a veteran.
(21:00):
I believe it's our six with building homes for heroes.
In one of the years, we did CA nine dogs
Canine for Warriors, so veterans each got a dog, and
we did I think six dogs, and each dog was
named after someone on the show, so there was a
Bobby and a Namy, and then veterans got the trained dogs.
Because it's twenty thousand dollars per dog.
Speaker 6 (21:18):
It's that much.
Speaker 7 (21:19):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
I mean, I knew that it was expensive and those
dogs are their training.
Speaker 6 (21:24):
It's a lot as a huge investment. Wow.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Right, So you are able to do six of those? Yes, yeah,
we did two.
Speaker 6 (21:31):
That's amazing.
Speaker 4 (21:31):
Through the Patriotic Pimp and Joy line, which this line
is something we do leading up to fourth of July
every year, so it's patriotic, pimp and joy a lot
of red, white and blue. You may have seen the
hat that I posted the other day. I mean I
was wearing a black one one day, but then the red,
white and blue one the other day.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
I did see the hat, and I want one of
those for sure, and that all the proceeds where do
they go?
Speaker 4 (21:54):
To?
Speaker 3 (21:55):
Corporal Aaron Mankin.
Speaker 4 (21:56):
So this time around they're two specifically building Homes for Heroes,
which thank you for asking that, Amana, because other people
might want to know. And then also when I send
you one, people are gonna.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
Be like, where'd you get that?
Speaker 4 (22:08):
And then you can say, oh, well, this sufforted one
hundred percent to Building Homes for Heroes is the specific organization.
So that's the organization and they're amazing. But I've got
a clip of Aaron talking about what happened when the
vehicle was hit.
Speaker 7 (22:22):
Our track just happened to hit a stack mine through
a twenty six ton vehicle ten feet in here. I
don't know how I escaped it. Why to tell you
the god honest truth, I mean, it took the lives
of six marines. I had to give my face and
my flesh and a few fingers, But honestly, every day's
been a blessing since now.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
Since then, he's undergone seventy surgeries throughout his recovery to
better his face, his hands, his arms. And here's a
clip of when we revealed to him the other day
on the Bobby Bone Show that we were going to
help build him a new home.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
We're going to work together with building Homes for Heroes,
and our goal is to build you a house that
is easier for you to live in, easier for what
you're going through, easier for your family.
Speaker 7 (23:07):
Oh, I thought just talking here man, Wow, it's so huge.
Speaker 4 (23:15):
He's got two little girls, Amanda, and his reaction when
we told him, you can just tell he's so grateful
as you'll heard, and he didn't know it was coming.
And so this is a very special thing. And tomorrow Friday,
if you're listening to this on Thursday, then tomorrow Friday,
June ninth, at ten Eastern, nine Central, eight Mountains, seven Pacific,
(23:40):
the new pimpin Joy Patriotic Line is going up and
it's a way for you to support Aaron and his
family and what he sacrificed for our country and once
the home is built, we get picture updates and they're
in front of the house and it's really special. And
this is possible because of Bobby Bone Show listeners, listeners
(24:02):
of this podcast, other people that yeah, maybe ask you
about a pimp and Joy item that you're wearing, and
you get to tell them and they learn like, oh,
it's about spreading joy, and pimp and Joy is what
came from my mom's desire to spread joy, from her
desire for the Lord to use this cancer for good.
(24:23):
That is what has come from this. I'm just going
to keep trying to find ways to use the word
what instead of why, because I think, yeah, my mom,
she didn't get stuck in the why did this happen
to me?
Speaker 3 (24:35):
But I think back to both of our moms.
Speaker 4 (24:36):
What I was curious is if we were here right
now with them and we could sit and ask them.
I don't know that I could say exactly what was
going through her head right when she found out, like
how long till she got to the point of how
she was going to handle it. I just have so
many questions for my mom and my dad, and Amanda
has lost her dad as well, so I think I
(24:57):
could speak for both of us, and saying if your
parents are living, whether both of them, one of them,
or even if your grandparents are living, start asking questions.
Ask all the questions, sit down and think of them,
maybe take a few days to be like, Okay, what
are all the things I want to know? It could
be an everything from recipes to family history to just
(25:18):
how they were at your age, what they've learned in
life since then, how they are at their current age,
what else they want to do in life. Like my
mom always wanted to go on an Alaskan cruise. We
learned that a little too late. We learned that when
she was, you know, not doing too hot, and she
was like, Okay, I think I'm ready to go.
Speaker 3 (25:37):
I finally want to go on that Alaskan cruise.
Speaker 4 (25:39):
And we're like, well, this would have been helpful information,
like three years ago, because we could have taken you.
And now we're trying to book a nine day trip
on a boat and doctors are saying, yeah, probably not
a good idea. So she never got to go. So
ask all the questions.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
There's so many questions I'd love to ask. My dad
losing him at eighteen years old. One of the things
I say is I would have loved to have had
an adult conversation with him where I could ask all
of those questions, and so I got to do a
lot of that in the past year with my mom.
We spent quite a bit of intimate time together and
(26:14):
I would forget to ask questions. And one of my
half sisters, Mimi, she was really good about saying Amanda,
ask questions, spend time, ask her all the things, and
share things too. That was another thing that was encouraged
is tell her what you're doing, tell her what you're
working on. Don't just assume she already knows. She wants
(26:36):
to hear about your life and your day. Even though
we lived together in the same house, I would still
sometimes even compartmentalize a little bit and want to talk
more about her and what she had going on. And
it was reminded to me share about me too, which
I didn't think about in sometimes the day to day
and the overwhelm.
Speaker 4 (26:56):
I love that Bobbybones dot com is the website. I
don't know if I said that or the shop for
dot com slash pimp and joy. And I'm pretty sure
that Aunt Lisa, Amanda's mom and my mom would approve
of the new styles because they say pimp and joy y'all.
Speaker 6 (27:12):
They do.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
That's what I've got to have one of these. I'm
getting one for Dennis and I for the summer. Perfect patriotic. Yeah, ready,
the joy hats.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
And for whatever reason, not that you're not patriotic, but
you would prefer a more neutral hat. We have black
ones too that say pimp and joy y'all, and both
of our moms being from the South, we can appreciate
a good y'all.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
Let me just say one thing I love about my
Pimp and Joy merch my hats. They're all more like
trucker hats, so I can wear my sunglasses with them,
not just aviators. I mean, this is like a very
specific thing, but I can have sunglasses on with the
brim of the hat and it doesn't have to be
like a smaller sunglass. I know that is so superficial,
(27:56):
but that's one of the reasons I love those hats.
Speaker 6 (28:00):
He gives me joy.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
These are those foam trucker hats.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
And then we have the og Pimp and Joy, which
is like a trucker type hat but not foam. And
then we also have dad hats available, but those have
been around a while. The new stuff is the Pimp
and Joy, y'all, and then there's also one that kind
of looks like a baseball jersey. It's like Pimp and
Joy and then it's got stars and stripes. But y'all
just go check them out. See if there's anything that
you want for yourself or a gift or a family member,
(28:25):
or if you want to get everybody decked out in
time for Fourth of July. Y'all can all be representing
America and representing spreading joy at the same time and
helping build Corporal Mankin a new home that is so deserved.
And I just love his attitude and his outlook on life.
And I mean you can tell by his personality and
(28:46):
how he is now that he hasn't sat around like
why did this happen to me? He is not in
victim mentality at all. And I think sometimes that's where
why can take us a little bit down that road,
but the what can help dig us out why may
come up?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
But how long are you going to stay there?
Speaker 4 (29:02):
And that's really with anything in my self awareness as
I'm trying to work through things, It's like there are
times I'm behaving in a way that I know why
I don't want to, or if I get into like
a situation, I'm like, oh okay, wow, I recovered three
minutes later. This is pretty awesome because it used to
take me three days.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Resiliency in a new, a healthier form of resiliency.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Yes, Amanda, I have been talking a little bit about
your podcast from time to time, and some people that
may dismiss it right away because you know, they think
it's just a psychic podcast or something. So since you're
on here now, I want you to explain your heart
behind soul Sessions and what all people can expect when
(29:48):
they're over.
Speaker 3 (29:49):
There, but before you share.
Speaker 4 (29:51):
I recently saw Mel Robbins post about the let them theory,
and something that I'm also working on is letting people
think what they want. If someone wants to not give
something a chance for whatever reason, let them. If someone
wants to have an opinion about something without really knowing
someone or what their heart is about, well let them.
(30:13):
If my son wants to wear these shorts that I
really think are awful, and sometimes I try to get
him to change, I need to just let him. Let
him wear the dang shorts like it's not that big
of a deal. An example that Mel gave though, was,
you know, the shorts are something trivial, obviously, but there
might be something a little more painful. Like you find
(30:36):
out your friends are all going on a weekend trip
and you weren't invited for whatever reason. Well, okay, let
them if that's what they wanted to do, but it's
not to let them in a fine I'll let them
and then I'm gonna sit here and skulk about it.
It's a you know what, I'm not going to control
this situation. I don't know the reasoning behind who was
invited and who wasn't invited, but I'm gonna go ahead
(30:59):
and let them go have their weekend and I'm not
gonna let it ruin my weekend.
Speaker 6 (31:03):
Well, and for me, a lot of times I practice that.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Sometimes easier said than done, for sure, but it's that
a self awareness and that recognition. But it lets me
off the hook, and it lets them off the hook
rather than me having these unreasonable expectations that keep me
out of peace, joy or serenity. You know, let them
is like Okay, I'm gonna let that go, but I'm
gonna let them do what they want. And I'm not
(31:27):
going to be attached to the why why wasn't I invited?
Or you know, why isn't this about me? Because usually
it's not. I mean, so I think that's a really
good place to come from.
Speaker 4 (31:39):
I just figured out a what for the friends going somewhere? Yes,
what can I do to get invited next time?
Speaker 6 (31:48):
What can I do to be included?
Speaker 4 (31:50):
And I think Mell even said to something along the
lines of maybe this is showing you you need to
be more proactive and plan more events with people you
want to go do stuff with. And if you want
to include some of those people, then maybe they'll know
next time, oh she would like to come to this.
Oftentimes we make up this story of oh, they don't
like me and oh they don't want me to becomes
(32:11):
this whole thing when really whatever. So I love what
you just shared about that your piece, your serenity, and
you know, our emotional piece is so important, Like I
want to keep that as much as possible. And I
like to have tools in my toolbox to help keep
me there. And I feel like soul sessions is another
tool in people's toolbox. So, yes, you've done some live readings,
(32:34):
but there's also tools for people, takeaways that people can
store away for when they need it that can help
them show up as their highest self.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
Absolutely, the whole aim of the podcast is, yes, developing
self awareness, but spiritual awareness, energetic awareness, growing our souls,
growing our dialogue with our soul. It is directly connect
to God in whatever way you find God, whatever format
(33:04):
you find God, deepening and strengthening that relationship through your
inner voice, through your relationships, developing your intuition. Of course,
I do some live readings, which are fun because it's
pretty transcendent at times, and it is a God given
gift that it's not me, it is God, and I
(33:26):
honor it and it's very sacred. But I have amazing
conversations with long term clients, with experts, and having different
people on the show with questions and answers about life
and what they're walking through and going through that is
so accessible and relatable with practical tools and resources on
a personal level, on a spiritual level that taps into
(33:49):
mental health and well being, emotional intelligence, energy, Everything is energy,
and how we can become really aware of our own
energy and our own voice to harness that and live
more meaningfully, live more aligned more true and happily, which
generates joy, peace, well being, multitude of byproducts.
Speaker 4 (34:12):
Well, I'm so proud of you for doing a podcast.
I know you've wanted to do one for a while
and you are up and running. It's been there for
a few weeks now, So very excited about that. And Amanda,
I love you, I know you. You got to go,
but I'll I'll call you later. We'll catch up so
much later. Yes, we do at soul Pathology on Instagram
(34:32):
soul Sessions with Amanda Riga Green for podcast and then
website is soulpathology dot com.
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Yes, boom, I know you girl, you you do.
Speaker 6 (34:41):
Bye, everyone, thank you,
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