Amy brought her cousin, Amanda Rieger Green, on for a special birthday episode since Amy turns 41 tomorrow on 3-18 {these numbers have meaning and Amanda breaks it all down for us, as she uses her abilities as a numerologist and astrologer alongside her precognitive & intuitive gifts with clients.} Amanda is also known as "Amy's Psychic Cousin" on the Bobby Bones Show, so some of you might already be familiar with her. Before they get into numerology & Amy's birthday, they talk about 'THE GIFT OF TIME' and what that means for them as Amanda's mom has just entered the hospice phase of her cancer journey. Making space for others and others making space for you is so important! You also need to make sure you're making space for yourself {it's okay to focus on you - which is exactly why Amy's going away alone for her birthday weekend!!!} They wrap up their conversation talking about Amy's birthday wish of sending some love to the orphanage in Haiti where her kids lived for many years. Some concerns have popped up this month regarding security, water, education and certain needs for a few of the kids needs {i.e. new wheelchairs}, so all #PIMPINJOY items and all ESPWA + 4 THINGS items are supporting this effort...all proceeds...per usual!
TheShopForward.com/amy will take you to all the items supporting the orphanage!
Amanda's Instagram: @soulpathology
Amanda's bio:
Amanda Rieger Green is the founder of Soul Pathology, a self-actualization method focusing on the assessment of mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual immune systems and their viability and cohesiveness.
She is a world-renowned psychic, precognitive and consultant to everyday individuals, organizations, executives, officials, communities, and institutions looking to practice a more conscious way of leading and creating results.
While she holds both a B.A. in Religion and a Master of Public Health with dual concentrations in Health Law, Bioethics and Human Rights and Health Services, and successfully climbed the ranks in organizational and business development as a healthcare executive, her greatest gift of service is helping individuals and organizations alike access their innate potential and abilities through her unprecedented and internationally recognized expertise as a precognitive and psychic medium.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Okay, cass up road, little food for you. So life,
Oh it's pretty, but it's pretty beautiful than that for
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a little month. Four. Happy Thursday, Amy here and I'm
sitting on zoom. I guess I'm sitting across from my
cousin Amanda on zoom and it's fun to see her
(00:43):
on my computer again. I was just with her a
few days ago in Austin, and Amanda, I can let
you go into a little bit of like why I
was there and you can share some of that. But
we were joking over the weekend, but like our theme
was the gift of time, so I thought, oh, this
can be an important thing that would translate well to
some of my podcast listeners and truly embracing the gift
(01:06):
of time and in full transparency. We had recorded something
when we were together, but they were like, uh, we
could do better than that. So here we are again,
right before the episodes about to load up, and you know,
just a few hours people will get to listen to this, Amanda.
But why don't you go ahead and introduce yourself, say
what you do for living? Some people maybe have heard
(01:26):
you on the Bobby Bones Show before. And then also,
what's going on in your life for sure. Thanks Amy.
Hi everyone. My name is Amanda Reeger Green. I am
sometimes known on the Bobby Bones Show as Amy's psychic cousin.
That's my nickname on the show. I've appeared on the
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show a few times and made some fun and accurate
might I say, predictions, which is always always good. My
company is called Soul Pathology, and and much of what
I do in my business is really help you understand
and see the soul of who you are and bring
that into your human self to find your greatest meaning
and purpose to astound you with your own abilities. And
(02:09):
it's it's my heart soul calling an avocation. But Amy
surprised us and came in this weekend to Austin, and
we had talked about it, so it was spontaneous, yet
it was intentional, which I totally love because the way
that it came together. Amy and I have been talking
and my mom has stage four terminal cancer. She's got
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metastatic breast cancer to the bone and she's had this
for four years and and very much like Amy's mother,
my mom has this amazing faith and brilliant attitude. It's
like mind over matter, and she's so strong and so active,
but her decline in the last six months has been
very apparent, and so my husband and I have relocated
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from Belize back to Austin, Texas and just bought a
home so we can move her in and take care
of her and spend this precious time together, the gift
of time. But Amy and I were chatting, and we
have been chatting over the past couple of months because
of how close we are, and we talk about our relationship.
We call each other cousins because our parents were best
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friends and very very close, and so she calls my
mom and Lisa. I called her Mommy and Judy, her
dad uncle Cliff. My my dad was Uncle Louis. My
dad's been dead for years. But all that to say,
we call each other cousins. And you know, family isn't
always blood. And Amy and I, you know know that
we are family like mind, body, heart and soul. And
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we had talked about her coming, but she sends me
a text on Friday morning and says, by the way,
I just went ahead and booked a flight. I'm getting
in my friend Andreas. They gave me up, but you
come meet us when you can. I hope that's all good.
I know you said I wouldn't be in the way,
that I could just come, and and of course you
just came and you did, and we had the gift.
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We made the gift of time. We intentionally the gift
of time. Even though it was daylight savings where we
quote unquote lost an hour, we feel like we gained
so much time back, right, yes, because I mean the
time was just so well spent. And I love that
we shifted that perspective because normally spring forward I really
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struggle with um. But I realized now it was a
total mental thing. I just kept thinking, I'm losing an hour,
I'm losing you know, for years, and then this year,
starting on Friday when we got together, so Friday, Saturday, Sunday,
we were like, oh, we are thankful for this abundance
of time, and we just we had that that attitude.
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And I gotta say, I have not been affected by
the time change this year. And so and we're what
three or four days in, and I'm I had the
gift of time because my flight got canceled when I
was with you, and I had to find another flight
that ended up getting me home at you know, I
think I crawled in bed around one fifteen am. Finally
(05:00):
fell asleep maybe at two AM. So I was joking
that Sunday was just, oh, look at all this, This
is the gift of time. I had the gift of
time at the Atlanta airport with my new layover. So
I just wanted to share that story just now. It
popped into my head to remind you that the gift
of time can show up in all different kinds of ways.
It's just your perspective. Like I could have had a
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really poor attitude about the flight cancelation, the long delay,
because even when I got to Atlanta, it just kept
getting delayed and delayed and delayed. And I just looked
at it as an opportunity to pay surround the Atlanta
airport and reflect on the conversations I had had with
Aunt Lisa and Amanda, and you know, the talks about
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our childhood, you know, because I've known Amanda since basically
I was born. Amanda's mom A Lisa. It was BFF
with my parents, so she was able to tell me
stories about my parents and offer me advice too. I
can't pick up the phone and call my mom or
my dad for that matter, for advice when as a child.
And I know a lot of you listening don't have
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this either, but there is something about if you do
have a healthy relationship with your parents, to be able
to just tell them what's going on and just hear
from them. What would they say. There's probably a handful
of women that I could reach out to if I
needed to, but to get a full weekend with Aunt Lisa,
who really like knew my mom on a very personal level,
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and the other women I'm talking about is like my
mom's biological sister probably, and then there's a few other
best friends that actually are that know Aunt Lisa as well.
Ironically enough, we all grew up in the same neighborhood.
I put up an Instagram post about some of them,
you know, when I left the trip, I put up
like a collage of pictures from the weekend, and one
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of them was a picture of Aunt Lisa and my
mom and a few other of these On Creek women
at my wedding, who are all beautiful, by the way,
like we're they're beautiful inside and out. And you know,
Judy still my Aunt Judy story and Pimp and Joy
came from Aunt Judy and Judy was Judy just said,
you know, all I want is joy, and my mom
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has done the same thing through this journey of cancer.
But all of these women that Amy put in this
picture their beauty and joy, right. I mean, they're beautiful,
but they radiated from the inside out, and they all
just connected as family, even though none of them were blood,
and all of us have grown up that way together
even when we've lived far apart. I call them the
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the O G O C because they're like the original
they lived in Onnon Creek when the neighborhood was first built,
and like they had the first houses there. So O
G O C is how Amanda and I became cousins.
And I love the post so much. I mostly put
it up for me as a reminder. I wanted to
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share some of the things and hopefully be encouragement to
followers that they may see it. But I want to
look back on that post and remember our weekend and
the self care internally externally that we did, the coffee
time we had in our quote unquote Judy mugs and
your mom giving me an old recipe card that was
in my mom's handwriting of the best beer beans ever.
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And I haven't had those beans since for sure, before
my mom died, I hadn't even thought of them, And
now I can't wait to make these beer beans. And
I'm just so thankful for the entire weekend and what
it gave me, especially the time with you, Amanda. And again,
like I said, with Aunt Lisa being able to speak
into me and give me advice that maybe my mother
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would have given me is just super cool. And I
do love your mom's attitude. And I'm just gonna say
a quick story to paint the picture about how Aunt
Lisa is. This is where she's different from my mom.
Totally know where she's going with this story she's about
to tell, and not because I'm psychic, just because I
know exactly what pictures she's about to paint. It's my
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one of my half sisters has called it because mom
lives in Dripping Springs. She's called she's calling it Dripping Springs,
Paris Chic. I know where you're going with this because
that is Aunt Lisa's vibe. So even in the well,
I don't want to say I mean, but we're being
realistic and I think that's another thing we talked about.
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In reality, we're in the final days or months or years.
We don't know what that When you enter hospice, that's
the thing. And maybe some of you aren't familiar with it,
because I certainly didn't know much about hospice until my
mom entered it, and it was kind of this unknown
It was like what are we doing here? And then
they give you this pamphlet and it kind of explains
the different stages of when someone is approaching death, all
(09:40):
the different things you might experience and feel, things they
may experience and feel. And I'm like, why are you
giving me this pamphlet? But I'm so glad they did
because that was like, oh, the light bulb went off,
like oh wow, we're nearing death, and what hospice is
in a nutshell, it's just palliative care, Like they want
to come in and help you be comfortable. You're quitting
(10:02):
any type of medicine, like conventional treatments. You're like chemo
radiation for example, those are off the table, and now
you're moving more to just like what can we do
to keep you comfortable in your final days? And again,
you don't know if it's seven days, seven months, a
year or more. So with at Lisa, we're just thankful
for whatever time we get with her, But yes, I
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guarantee you, until that final day comes, she's going to
be that dripping springs pair of cheeks. So we're I
don't know, she decided to make breakfast or something, and
like Judy would have just been fine with I don't know,
cereal and a normal bowl and a normal spoon, but
Aunt Lisa has these beautiful glass bowls and she fills
(10:46):
it with her cereal and then she perfectly slices the
banana and the milk is poured in. It almost looks
like this bowl of cereal belongs in a commercial. And
then she goes over to her silverware, which is like
real silver, like the kind you can't put in the dishwasher,
and she pulls out her silver spoon, and then she
sits down at the table and she puts like a
(11:07):
cloth napkin in her lap, and she eats this full
of cereal in the most elegant, proper way that I've
ever seen. But she's not snooty by any means. She's
very chill, laid back, but she's just a proper lady
at all times. And it's funny. She has a four
things tote and Amanda made it for her, and it's
(11:28):
got lipstick because she always has on lipstick, even in
these days, like you, she'll put it on every day.
Pinehirst Drive, that's the street we lived on, an Union
Creek also has redecorating because she loves to do that.
And then the fourth thing is Amanda, and that's who
we're talking to now. Of course, it's so funny too
in hearing all this, So just so you all know,
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she says she will come back and haunt me. She
is she has chosen to be cremated. And my mom
is a retired nurse and did a lot of long
term acute care and geriatrics. And if you know a
little bit about me, and I know some of you
listeners are actually clients of mine, but I worked in
hospice and post acute care with my master's degree in
public health for a long time, so you know, when
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the hospice discussions were going on with the aunt duty,
my mom was a big part of that walk and
so was I, But my mom was really the one
that was able to sit down and talk about hospice
and the beautiful interdisciplinary team because it's also about the
family and Amy reminded me about that this weekend. And
this is back to the gift of time, because I
said to Amy and my very logical kind of binary brain,
(12:35):
that analytical box checking getting everything done brain, because I'm human,
I said, Okay, we're moving. We're moving her into a
new house. We found a house. You know. We we
have a meeting with the young collegist, but we'll probably
just wait and sign onto hospice after that, after we
get moved and settled. And Amy said, hey, Amanda, you
know this is the gift of communication, friendship and honest, vulnerable,
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healthy perspective. She said, hey, Amanda, remember her, that's what
hospice does. Like, don't you think maybe it would be
helpful to sign her onto hospice if you so decide
before y'all move, because they're coming in to support you
and during that transitional time. And y'all, I worked in
it an executive healthcare, administrative hospice with doctors and nurses
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and clinicians and social workers and chaplains, the best nurses
I've ever met in my life in hospice for like
six years. And I'm sitting here, I'm the child. This
is personal to me. It took Amy to reflect back
to me what hospice does, and that was like a
huge gift to me. And I sat down and she
and Mom and I talked about it. Mom was able
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to hear it because my mom can be very logical,
and I told you she's a retired nurse. But when
you're in it, you know, it's not that you lose
all of your training and your knowledge and wisdom and experience.
But when we're in it, we need other people to
walk with us in these times times. And that was
such a gift of Amy coming in because my husband
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is in Belize right now with the dogs. He's not
here yet in Austin, and so we had this intimate
female gift of time but where we could see and
hear each other, and Amy spent time and we held
space for Amy, Amy held space for us, and and
it just, you know, it was beautiful in that sense.
And so I do want to thank you because both
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of us heard you and saying, maybe you do sign
on to hospice, because by the way, you can always
sign off of hospice, like if some treatment comes, you
can always make the decision to sign off. But they
are there to support me too. And I need the
support during this time. So thank you. Well, you're welcome.
I mean, but y'all were, yes, you were going. Hospice
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is already happening. Yeah, I just was trying to say,
why wait, let's go ahead and just start it because
it can't hurt. I know your mom likes things orderly,
and the house is getting packed up, then it's gonna
be She didn't want people to be in and out.
And I'm like, you know what, hospice nurses they're coming
to the house that they don't care. They're focusing on
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you the person and you the family. How what can
we do for you? They don't care what anything else
is like if you're moving or not. So just shout
out to all hospice nurses if they're not to be
any listening or if you know what social workers, champions, physicians, nurses, aids.
The nurses aids are like the manna from heaven during hospice.
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I mean, the aids really the whole team that it's
an interdisciplinary team that is not just about the patient.
It's about the family and then the bereavement and grief support,
so which is huge. It's on my heart right now.
So thank you for sharing that, and anyone who's walking
through through this right now with any kind of loved one.
And of course when my dad died, he died acutely,
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so we didn't have hospice, but anybody that's walking through
any kind of grief, you know, I just want to
be in everybody extra love and whoever it is in
your life that you lean on for support, lean on
them for support, because we want to be leaned on,
you know, I want to be leaned on, but I
really appreciate the people that allow me to lean on them.
Thank you for that. Well. I feel like we could
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do a whole episode about this, which maybe we will
one day because I think there are others out there
that need that that type of conversation and both of
us have knowing so much about it. Right now, we'll
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shift gears and go into numerology, which is something that
Amanda was trying to explain to me this weekend because
my birthday, if you're listening to this on Thursday the seventeenth,
my birthday is March eighteenth, Friday, born in shout out
and there's a lot happening with my numbers. So I
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thought Amanda could break some of that down and even
talk about how even in history, how important numbers are.
I think you heard Amanda say how she has a
master's in healthcare, she has an undergrad in religion, and
she's one of the most intelligent people that I know.
We were laughing because when she was a kid, we
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had a mom in our neighborhood, our friend Jill's mom, Susan,
and she called me famous Amos my whole childhood, probably
just because my name is Amy. And then there was
those cookies, Famous Amos, although maybe Susan, maybe Susan is
the psychic because you are famous. Hello, I'm not famous
to your listeners. You are famous because all the listeners
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that are clients of mine, I mean, they think they
know you personally, but you are You're a big deal. Okay,
take it, You're a big deal. But keep keep your head,
keep your head right sized, Okay, pull together. Okay, we're
over now, Thank you. Um. So famous famous was my name,
and then she nicknamed Amanda PC. We were laughing about
that this weekend because PC stands for perfect child, and
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Amanda really was quite honestly, she had amazing grades at
really difficult private schools. I had horrible grades at public school.
But that was because I love to socialize and I
love to talk, and now I get paid to talk,
so it worked out for me. But Amanda always had
great manners. Her mom paras Chic was it was not
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acceptable for Amanda to not say yes, ma'am, yes, sir no,
sir no, mad like all the time, and I was like, Uh,
what is like Amanda PC? Pacy. So it's just funny
that Susan nicknamed her that, But I give you that
background because also her brain is just extremely educated and
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she is very, very smart, and I'm excited for her
wisdom to kind of be here on the podcast today
and share with us some cool stuff that she does
on a daily basis for sure. And you know one
thing that that brings up because I think a lot
of you out there will relate to this the nickname PC.
While we laugh about it and joke about it today,
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it actually put a lot of pressure on me and
so much of my life. If you know my story,
I live life one day at a time, and it's
not about perfection. It is because I labeled myself that
I internalized that, and then I put all this pressure
on myself that you know, setting myself up for these
unrealistic expectations which lead to alcoholism and addiction and other
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disorders that I have healed over the past handful of years.
And I'm very open in my story. But it's about progress,
not perfection. It's about growth, it's about evolution, and it's
about healing not perfection. So so today, while I do
get to be PC and we laugh about it, now
I feel like, I'm like, you know, progress, progress child,
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not perfection child. So we're gonna like, we're gonna rename
that acronym. So one of the things that I do
do in my work and I've done for a long
time because I understand the energy of numbers and numbers.
If you're into astrology, think about this. All the astrological
signs have energies and they have different energetic components. So
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I'm a Libra for instance. You know, if you're a
Libra out there, you know we're about relationships, balance, harmony, peace, justice, fairness.
We're also the people pleasers of the zodiac. We acquiesced
to other people. We don't like confrontation. So there's a
high vibrational aspiration to the energy. And then there's the
shadow side of the energy. Well, numbers are very similar
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in the sense that the numbers zero through nine all
have character traits that have higher vibrational you know, aspirating energies,
and then they have the low vibrational shadow side tendencies.
So that's how Amy and I got to talking about
this because she's turning forty one. So I said, oh
my gosh, this is a big year for you, and
it's already starting to happen and culminate because we broke
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down the numbers for already one and then when you
add four plus one that equals five. So this year
she has a little bit of a code that is
coming together for her through the numbers four, one, and five.
Those are like her. That's her code this year. But
when you talk about the basics of numerology, like the A, B, c's,
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it's the number zero through nine. Those are the building blocks,
and often in working with clients, the easiest way to
break it down is something we call the attitude number,
which is like your personality, how you dawn on people,
your attitude, how you are seeing at first glance, at
first sight. And then there's another number in your birthdate
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that we call the life path, and the life path
is really about your life lesson what you are learning
to embody. And of course both of these numbers have
beautiful qualities that you aspire to and then challenging qualities
that we've digress or fall into their like potholes. So
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we're going to use Amy's birthday to start out as
an example. So we get her attitude number and her
life path number. The attitude number is the day you
were born plus the month you were born, reduced to
a single digit. So her birthday is three eighteen, So
that's three plus one plus eight that equals twelve, and
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then we reduce it down again. One plus two equals three.
So her attitude number is a three. The way she
comes off and comes across to people is the energy
of the three, and it's very true. The three is
the creative child. The three is the communicator, the charismatic,
vivacious performer, the broadcaster. It is also the joy divive
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of life, the influencer that jumps in and just adds
that extra pozzazz. It's also a social number. It can
also be very flighty. It can be you know, have
so many friends, connections in a quaintances that it gets
bogged down in the business of life and isn't grounded
in intentionally. So the lower challenging vibration of the three
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is that it gets overwhelmed. It says yes to everything
when it needs to learn it's communication skills if it's
yes meaning yes, and it's no meaning no, and finding
its truth it's boundaries, so it doesn't over commit and
underperform or overwhelm itself and then have to end up
backing out of things or not being accountable or looking
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or appearing or being scattered so to speak. Does that
resonate with you? Do? You get that? Very much? So?
But what's so incredible about this? And this is where
I love the dialogue of numerology. Is your life path number? Okay,
our life path numbers are calculated by your the summing
up the total of your birth date. So Amy is
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born three eighteen one. And by the way, if you
get out a calculator anyway you add these numbers up
and reduce them down, they will reduce down to the
same numbers. So we're gonna add three plus one plus
eight plus one plus nine plus eight plus one That
equals thirty one. Three plus one equals four her life
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path number or her life lesson what she is aspiring
to embody is the energy of the four. And if
you wrote a three on your paper and a four
on your paper, aesthetically, from an appearance perspective, they are
very different looking. The three is curvy. The four looks like, um,
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you know, a chart. It looks like a graph. It's
very angular. It's like checking boxes. The four is all
about foundations, organization, getting everything in its right place, being
very grounded, checking boxes. It's about process, analytics, routine, looking
for a goal and achieving that the most clear and
efficient way. It's very linear. It's very driven and focused.
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But at the same time, it's shadow self is that
it it can have so much process and thought it
gets into analysis paralysis, and it over analyzes, it broods,
it overthinks, and then it gets bogged down in the details,
even though it loves the details. It gets lost in
its precision, and then it gets it gets cluttered and
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and almost like a hoarder, you know, emotionally hoarded, mentally hoarded.
Uh you know I Physically in the body you can
feel overwhelms, so you can get anxiety. A lot of
people with four energy gets so critical. They're very self critical,
but they're also so adept and so responsible, So they
love routine, they love solid foundations. And for you having
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the three and the four combination, the numbers build on
each other, so bridging your beautiful communication skills with the
energy of the four, which is about standing on solid
ground and also healthy boundaries. The four is also about boundaries.
So the three is the communicators are learning to communicate boundaries,
learning to speak your truth, your yes meaning yes, you're
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no meaning no. The confluence of the three and four
energy is so much of what you have been practicing
and this year, like you've been forty, Hello, you were bag,
you've been in your forty And zero, by the way,
is the great equalizer and enhancer because zero is like
you know, think of it, the circle of life, wedding rings,
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full moons, the sun eclipses the earth. Look at where
we see circles. We see circles um in ancient times.
And and numerology, by the way, because Amy asked me
to mention this. You know, it's in the Bible, It's
in every religious doctrine and text way, and the numerology
that I really follow and understand. The energies of the best.
It was created by Pythagoras, you know um, and so
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it's Pythagorean numerology, and that the numbers have codes and
energies and frequencies and vibrations. And when we start seeing numbers,
and when we look at clocks, we look at data.
And now people in I T are coding all the time.
Numbers are everywhere, the codes are there, the energies are
there to read. But when we understand them and start
to see how they're working together with us or how
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they're limiting us, that's where we have the opportunity. If
this is a language that speaks to you, just like
something like astrology might or what's it called the indiogram.
You know, some people love the indiogram. That's another another
form of looking at numbers and attributes and of of
energies and things. But I want to talk about your
forty and moving into forty one. So tell me some
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of the lessons, Like what did you implore and enact
last year? And I know your listeners know these things,
but in thinking about creating healthy boundaries communication, solid foundations,
what were the some of the things that you walk
through where you feel like that was enhanced or enacted
or leveled up. Yeah, I mean I had to. Really,
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I don't know that I had to guess I was
forced into it. I guess it's a better way to say.
Let's say that the gift of time you got to
I got Okay, I was. I was gifted some life
circumstances that allowed me to make space to work on myself,
which I feel like There's been different seasons when I've
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worked on myself, especially being in recovery from an eating disorder.
I've put in the work on that through different times,
but maybe not all the way, but like two years
ago really dug into that. So I was working through that,
but this other stuff was different kind of work, like
it was deeper than that. And aside from all the
therapy and the different things that showed me kind of yes,
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how I get really anxious about things. I overthink, like
I would lose sleep, I would almost make things worse
because it was just like everything was on a wheel,
like it was just rotating over and over. But I
started to find tools to help me with that. And
by the way, the four loves tools, it loves its resources,
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its loves it's you know, it's pin it paper, notebooks,
coordinating colors, anything that creates foundation and organization. The four
Energy loves that tangible things that create the satiation of
the satisfaction of a job we done. Okay, I organized
this door. I feel grounded, I feel stable. It's about foundations.
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But you were building this year. You did deep digging
to really clean out your internal foundations. So it's like
building a house, you know, on concrete versus the sand
that might have been in the cracks, so to speak.
You're cleaning out the sand and re you know, new
asphalt from the inside out. There was that side of things,
But as I look at the whole year of forty,
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that's when I really leaned in and I've talked about
this on the podcast. To leaned into a calendar and
abiding by a schedule and planning ahead. That was just
never something I had the interest. I don't know interested
that laughing because the four the people who are four
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life pass or four attitudes, their planners there, their schedulers.
They love to check boxes, they love to scratch things
off of their to do list because it's like it
feels good, it feels it creates a sense of fulfillment
or wholeness. And I say often to people, Okay, that
it's the satisfaction of a job well done that feels whole.
It feels fulfilling, and it feels satisfying. I accomplish this,
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this feels good. They're the taskmasters. Well, I have adopted
that this year, and lists have always felt good to me,
and I loved crossing things off, but I wasn't very
good at getting a lot done, so I was always
making lists, but systems went into play like I had
to in order to fit in and do all the
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work I needed to do and like for my job
and be the mom I want to be and focus
on myself with all the therapies plural that I was
doing and I'm still doing some of them, I had
to have structure because there was no way to get
it all done and still get rest and still now
try to focus on friendships and connection and all the
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different moving parts. So it was imperative, just like I was,
I got to or I get to do all of
these things. I just wish you would let me for
this one moment, Amanda, because I do feel that I was,
like I do realize the saying behind get to, but
I did have to go through some like stuff to
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get me there. So I feel as though I was
forced into it, but I'm thankful for it. I guess
is that a good way to say it? Guess what?
The only way through is through is what you just said,
The only way through is true. Yeah, you you get
to get to but to get there, you gotta go through,
which is the I had to. I wasn't gifted this
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awful experience, this challenging, painful, you know, sad, lonely, isolating, disenchanting,
disillusioning experience. Riants. We get it. But the deal is
the gift of time and perspective, being able to say,
what am I learning from this? Like you get to
have your human, messy moments of uh, I don't wanna
like I don't wanna I don't want to life, you know,
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like somebody else, just do it take the wheel and
that's when we get to talk to our souls and
God and all the all the things, whatever your affiliation
is and beliefs. We get to say, golly, I can't
do this alone and start finding tools and resources, which
what one of the things that's beautiful. As we transition
for you into forty one, and I want you to
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tell everybody this. You were supposed to go somewhere else
this weekend. Okay, So here's the one. Okay. So we've
talked about Amy implementing really the higher vibrations of her
for energy last year. I mean, she implemented the systems,
the processes and really found stability, inter stability on the
inside and began to find that sense of security, safety,
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stability on an in eight embodiment level. Now she is
leaning into the four plus the one because this is
her birthday week. We are moving into her birthday energy.
The energy of the one, Okay, think about it is
number one. It's the pioneering spirit. It charges forward. It's I, I,
I ME, me me. Yes. Can it be selfish and
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self centered, but it on a higher level, it's about
the higher self, the soul, really healthy selfishness, self care,
focusing on my truth. What is it that I need?
And how do I communicate that in the highest most
optimal way in my life through my actions, through my intentions,
through my thoughts, through my interactions, my relationships, my choices,
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my words, whatever it may be, How do I implore that?
And So this weekend, this weekend that we spent together.
You were supposed to go somewhere else, weren't you. Yes,
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I was supposed to be in Florida for a wedding,
and so yeah there, I mean, and you and I
had talked about it, like I guess the week before
or maybe even two weeks before, but that that was
the ideal weekend for me to come. And I know
I called you last minute, but I knew earlier in
the week that's what I was gonna do, and I
just assumed we were all still on the same page.
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So it was funny that even though I have a
calendar and I'm trying to be more organized in different things,
I thought, have I confirmed confirmed with Amanda that I'm coming,
Because I was coming no matter what I switched my flight,
it was still very last minute, all things considered, that
I had booked a hotel in a flight to Florida
for a wedding like two and a half months ago.
So yes, it was a big shift to then come there,
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but I knew it was the wise thing for me
to do, which you chose the healthiest path that you
chose what I call yourself with a capital S and
a lot of times be will know in my emails,
I write your and then capital S E L F
versus yourself because there's the the the little us, the
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ego us, and then there's the bigger us. When we
speak our voice and truth and we know it because
it creates this sense of freedom and security and alignment
that feels broader, room ere, and different. And that's what
this weekend felt like. So the the four is your
foundational year. And then when you add the one, you say,
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is this healthy for me? Is this valuable for me?
Am I adding value? What am I bringing to the table?
You know? What? What does this look like? Um? Is
this a valuable quality, effective use of my time? How
am I showing up? You know? And and really looking
at yourself in your engagements and interactions in the world, um,
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in your spiritual life, in your personal life, in your
work life, however that may be. So the four and
the one give you that opportunity as you move in
to this year. And and then on top of that,
when you add four plus one it equals five. And
the energy of the five. If again, if you wrote
a five on your piece of paper, it's curvy on
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the bottom and then angular on the top so it's
kind of top heavy, so it kind of is like
a teeter totter a little bit. But the five is
all about dynamics, shifts and changes. It's about perspectives. It's
about adaptability and flexibility. It's about being able to integrate
change with grace and ease. And guess what the low
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vibe or the shadow side of the five is. It's
changes its mind on a dime. It can lack accountability,
it cannot communicate effectively because I'm over, I'm done with it,
I've ascertained the most value, or I'm just over, I'm done,
I'm out, and it cannot you know, it can forget
to communicate. It can get bored really easily. It can
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get a bit frenetic. But ultimately, the gift of the
five is being able to to become flexible and adaptable
and evolved shift its perspective in order to become more free.
So the four gives you your solid foundation, the one
gives you your individuality, your gift of courage and moving
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forward really finding and speaking and communicating yourself, your truth,
your soul, your wisdom, and the five says to become
more free, to reach up and to expand myself and
my soul in this world on a practical level and
on a higher level as to what you're contributing with yourself,
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to yourself and to the people that you love and
and and and your purpose and your mission and meaning
you know, and you mentioned the Instagram earlier, and just
like that has like when you're in an unhealthy version
of a number, like you have your healthy and unhealthy
versions of the number. I've been like in the with
the numbers, that's your low vibration, your high vaporation. I've
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operated in the low if if I'm speaking this later,
I still don't totally under stand it, but you can
own and recognize, Oh man, I was in a little
low vibration right there. And then I have a choice
as to what I want to do with that. And
I think it was it was at the five. That's like,
it gets to be me, me, me, or which number
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of that that's well, the five can be a little me,
me me, so just because it can also be like
a five year old kicking and screaming, I want my way,
I want what I want, I want it now, I
want it now, I want to now on my ice cream.
Now I can we go get ice cream? Mom? Can
we go get ice cream? Mom? But which one is
the me that's good? Right now? Okay? So the one?
So I for my birthday this weekend, I'm going away alone.
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Like I'm doing a lot of reflecting. I need some
time to just be be me and think and hike
and be with nature and you know, journal and pray
and maybe watch some Real Housewives because I haven't done
that in a minute. Like I'm going to a hotel
and I'm thankful for this gift that my family is
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giveing me to go do this, and I struggle with
just so selfish. But this is a high vibration, and
this is the affirmation I got from Amanda. It's a
high vibration Me, Me, Me, because I'm going with the
intent of taking care of myself, putting my oxygen mask
on first, so that then I can show up and
be a better mom and be better to all the
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different compartments of my life, different people, different groups, different things.
And I need that time. And I'm I come from
a place of extreme gratitude because I know not everybody
can go away for a weekend. But I just wanted
to share this so that you're encouraged that if you
even have five minutes in your day where you get
to focus on yourself to recharge to do something that
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is for you and for you, again with the analogy
of the oxygen masks, like you taking care of yourself.
Maybe you have half a day, maybe you've got thirty minutes.
Maybe you've got thirty minutes every day. That will add
up to a lot of time throughout the week that
you were intentional about doing something for yourself and it's
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not selfish. You are articulating it beautifully because also what
you're choosing to do this weekend, and I will break
it down into the practical small bites of how this
can be applied in the day to day because there's
beautiful ways that you don't have to spend a lot
of time. But also this is the energy of the
five this weekend too, because you're making a dynamic shift,
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which is spending your birthday alone. When was the last
time you spend your birthday alone? Went to when was
the last time you went to a hotel? Just say, Amy,
I'm going away to celebrate myself and watch maybe some
Real Housewives and maybe go get a massage, like you know,
just totally do this, but feel good about it in
your truth and feel grateful that your family is saying, hey,
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go girl, go do this like you go do you?
We want you to do this. This is the first
time I'm yeah, and you're excited about it. So there's
the energy of the five. But what we all can do,
because this is what is important to remember. Whatever we
focus on grows, and it's about building momentum. So whether
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it's in the voice in your head, the dialogue, the language,
the rhetoric, all of that is so important. And I've
had to learn this over the years because I can
I am my own worst critic. When I listened to
that voice, that critical self talk in my head, all
it does is hammer in those those patterns and those
neural networks. So taking a couple of minutes to listen
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to the voice in your head and see if it
is limiting or if it's creating a greater a greater
vibration or space of abundance in your outlook. So five
minutes in your day. But I tell people to breathing exercise,
taking a pause when someone triggers you in the middle
of the day, you get triggered by something you know,
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instead of just reacting, which we do. We're human with
that's that's what we do. But taking a moment and
just taking three rounds of breath, dropping your chin to
your chest, closing your eyes, breathing in and out through
the nose literally resets the right and left hemispheres of
the brain, so the creative side of the brain and
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the binary analytical side of the brain. So you can
actually realign your energy field. And that that takes about
twenty five seconds, you know, and if you can remember
to pause and breathe, which is free to all of
us hopefully, and then some of us do have issues
of course with our breath and breathing. But just to
take a moment to ground, you know, just to stand still,
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or to let the sunlight hit your face. Those are
forms of choosing yourself, choosing your care, your oxygen masks.
And the more the intentional you become, and the more
routine or disciplined, dedicated you become to those little moments,
they start adding up to bigger and bigger moments of
self care intentionality that start to manifest greater abundance, harmony, love, peace, ease, health, wellness, whatever, joy,
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whatever it is that you are seeking at this stage
in your in your journey personally and on a soul level.
And you mentioned like being triggered and just taking time
to breathe, and I don't know, it just came in
on my heart to say this, that having grace for people,
like if you think, of we're all going to be triggered,
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but guess what, You're also going to be the person
that may trigger somebody else. So having that perspective has
been very helpful for me because I have more grace
when maybe i'm you know, something has come up in
a relationship where I'm just frustrated or yes, even triggered,
but then I do take the time for the breath.
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But then somehow me thinking about like incorporating compassion and
grace and that of like that person didn't mean to
do that, or clearly something might be going on there,
because at the same time, I know that I'm doing
that to people, hopefully not intentionally, but there might be
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ways that I'm acting or behaving that are making someone
feel a certain way. And I want that compassion and
grace extended to me. And I think that for me
that's helped some relationships and some different things just having
that that reminder in my head, Well, what you just
brought up is genius because what you added in is
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a superpower. It's a level up, it's a game changer.
Is you added in emotional intelligence. Okay, the breathing exercise
is cognitive, it's physical and physiological, so it's the body
and it's the mind. But when you add in the
compassion and the grace and the emotionality of it for
yourself or the other person involved, when you're the triggerer,
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you know when you pull the trigger because we all
do it. I do it. I know how that feels
and is um and I know how to make an
amends and own it today. Fortunately, and if I don't
have other people in my life that will point that
out to me, and well, it's important for us to
have those people. But you brought in the emotional component
and emotions. Our emotions are intelligent, and when we bring
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in the emotionality that levels up the whole experience. And
compassion and grace, joy, happiness, those things they basically just
radiate and enhance our inner being and our outer beating,
and they they radiate and ripple out into the world
in this in this world, that we live in that
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is so challenging in many ways on a micro and
a macro level. Yeah, I feel like again, we could
go we might need to do another episode, we could
continue to go on and on. But I'm just thankful
for the love and the light that Amanda is in
my life. And I'm thankful for the weekend that we had.
And I hope that our time together and our our
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gift of time together would be an encouragement to you
to find your people and like we said in the beginning,
family doesn't have to be blood and find people where
you know it's you feel safe with. And I felt
like we sat down with coffee Saturday morning, and right
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when we were about to get comfortable and start visiting,
I was overwhelmed with emotion and I almost just started
bawling crying, maybe because I had my little Judy mug,
which is just my mom loved dainty flower MUCKs, like
really thin and at Lisa loves them too, so my
mom had gifted her some, so that's what she still
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has in her cabinets. So we were drinking out of them,
and I just was emotional. But then before I went
into like any sort of meltdown because I never did.
I was then overcome with just a complete peace. This
is where I am, without a doubt supposed to be,
and I just felt so comfortable and then the emotion
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was gone and the peace was there. And so my
hope is that everyone is able to find that and
and have a weekend like that. If you need to
or be open to it, be open to it. Just
be open to changing plans last minute and doing the
wise thing for yourself, not what's right, not what's wrong,
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not what the wise, what is the wise thing? And
I got that from my sister. You know. One last
thing about my mom, Judy, she is the backbone, the
roots of Pimp and Joy and that all started because
of her cancer journey. And we have a campaign going
on right now along with all of our four Things
and a squaw items like from Born, your sweatshirts, star necklace,
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four Things, totes. This is the four Things podcast. So
if you've ever wanted something, four Things, even our most
popular four Things item, which is It's fine and fine,
Everything is fine. I've got my Pimp and Joy hat
on right now. We even created some new Pimp and
Joy collegiate items. Mary had some really cute colors that
she mixed together and came up with. So if you
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already have been enjoy but you want something new, or
you've had your eye on something ESPOA or four Things
all proceeds of everything. This is when Pimp and Joy
and Spoa and four Things are colliding into like one
big campaign to fundraise for the Orphanage in Haiti where
my kids lived, and I guess the fastest way to
find everything that's on there is the shop for dot
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com slash amy and maybe you just pray for the Orphanage.
If that's something you can do for my birthday, keep
them in mind. But if you would like to purchase something,
I have some listeners that mail me gifts to the station,
which is always super sweet, but this is what I
would like in return for that. Or if you've got
to maybe do some shopping for other people in your life,
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why not give them a gift that gives back. This
is a win win purchase. You're supporting the Orphanage. The Orphanage,
just for full transparency, they're doing pretty well themselves on
like monthly expenses. What we're trying to fundraise for or
is stuff that has popped up last minute, like the
wall needs to be addressed, Like their security there is
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major and the wall is crumbling, so they have to
tear it down build a new one. And supplies in
Haiti are so expensive. This wall is just it's going
to cost an arm and a leg. And but it's imperative.
The well broke, the well that's on the property and
having water on the property clean water is super imperative.
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And that the well. They remember when they installed the
well and it was the biggest deal, so that that's
something that needs to be repaired. Education is another thing.
I'll give you all four things. Security, water, Education. There's
a school that my friend Tiffany spearheaded and opened there
and it's run by Haitian teachers and thank goodness she
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did this because now the kids it's not safe for
them to leave the orphanage. They used to go off campus,
but it is not safe to do that. So I'm
so thankful for all these teachers. They make two hundred
dollars a month, two hundred dollars a month, so I
would love to for one help with those salaries if
we can, but give them a bonus. That is where
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the education piece comes in and then the kids, that's
the fourth component. There's two kids there that currently need
new wheelchairs, and then there's some older kids that are
about to age out. You know, it'd be cool to
send them to a trade school like carpentry, electrician school,
something like that, so when they age out, they have
an opportunity for more education and work. So, because when
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you age out, that just means you they lived in
an orphanage. They were not adopted, they didn't get a match,
and now they're going to be adults and leave the
orphanage and then what so we can give them that gift.
So again the shot forward dot com slash Amy, I
think the shot forward dot com slash Haiti will also
get you to the same page as well. I feel
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weird saying my name Amy, But speaking of feeling weird,
another four things item that we added is a four
things he that's kind of like Bobby Bones Show and
pull Over. There's different options, but it says Bobby Amy,
lunchbox Eddie. So those are the four things. So if
you are a B team or hardcore, maybe that's something
you would consider getting and knowing that all proceeds are
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going to a really amazing cause and that orphanage again,
that's where my kids lived. It will always have a
special place in my heart. And Amanda, I know you
understand the whole pimp and Joy thing with Mom and
how special that is. So I'm just thankful that her
legacy lives on. It doesn't it. It lives on in
so many ways. And and really she was with us
this weekend, so she was our fourth thing this weekend.
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I just want to point that out. There was you,
there was me, there was Lisa, my mom, and I
know Aunt Judy was there. So that's our fourth thing
is Aunt Judy. And we definitely did some pimp and joy,
but we we we got to spend the gift of
time and it was intentional and it was beautiful and
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brought out elements of ourselves and our souls so we
could see each other and be seen and hold that
space in a way that we don't always carve out
and do because we're such human doings versus human beings
and and that's that's really what the what the gift
is here is becoming more intentional and being rather than
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always doing. So I love this for your birthday, that
you are choosing this weekend for you but then simultaneously
you are finding this way to give back to something
that has given so much to you through your children
for the Orphanage and and Pimp and Joy and celebrating
your mama and also your dad. Uncle Cliff. We got
to give a shout out to him because he's my
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heart too. Oh yeah, we love Cliff. You know. We
did Okay Bueno shirts for Dad because he should always
say ce bueno, Okay bueno. So um, yeah, we missed dad.
His uh he died on April one of last year,
so that's coming up in a couple of weeks. And
anniversaries are always tough. But anybody else that's experiencing some
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of that right now, I know that it's hard. You're
not alone. I will recommend Megan Divines podcast. Um, she's
a grief expert and she's on my podcast network and
she's amazing. So you can search up Megan Divine if
you're processing any grief right now. She's been on my podcast.
You can search it there. She's also been on cats
(53:28):
You Need Therapy, you know podcast network us girls, we
try to work together, you know. Amana and I are
gonna we're gonna be talking about maybe a podcast for
her one day soon too, because she's just got a
lot of insight and knowledge and a lot of encouragement
and wisdom to share. So Amana, thank you so much.
Where can people find you on Instagram? It's at soul
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pathology dot com or www. Dot soul pathology dot com
is how you can reach out and connect with me,
and I am pretty booked with one to one clients
and session so don't get discour ridge by that. I
put out lots of wonderful resources. You can subscribe to
my newsletter, find me on social I'm working in building
out my team to create more resources and offerings, but
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please do connect with me because it means the world.
And my biggest gift to give back in this lifetime
is really being able to astound people with their own abilities.
And when when you're astounded with your own abilities, that
astounds me and that just you know, doubles the light, doubles,
the joy, doubles the love. Thanks for having me on
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and happy birthday, my my dearest, Happy happy birthday. Thank you,
Bye bye.
Okay, cass up road, little food for you. So life,
Oh it's pretty, but it's pretty beautiful than that for
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a little month. Four. Happy Thursday, Amy here and I'm
sitting on zoom. I guess I'm sitting across from my
cousin Amanda on zoom and it's fun to see her
(00:43):
on my computer again. I was just with her a
few days ago in Austin, and Amanda, I can let
you go into a little bit of like why I
was there and you can share some of that. But
we were joking over the weekend, but like our theme
was the gift of time, so I thought, oh, this
can be an important thing that would translate well to
some of my podcast listeners and truly embracing the gift
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of time and in full transparency. We had recorded something
when we were together, but they were like, uh, we
could do better than that. So here we are again,
right before the episodes about to load up, and you know,
just a few hours people will get to listen to this, Amanda.
But why don't you go ahead and introduce yourself, say
what you do for living? Some people maybe have heard
(01:26):
you on the Bobby Bones Show before. And then also,
what's going on in your life for sure. Thanks Amy.
Hi everyone. My name is Amanda Reeger Green. I am
sometimes known on the Bobby Bones Show as Amy's psychic cousin.
That's my nickname on the show. I've appeared on the
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show a few times and made some fun and accurate
might I say, predictions, which is always always good. My
company is called Soul Pathology, and and much of what
I do in my business is really help you understand
and see the soul of who you are and bring
that into your human self to find your greatest meaning
and purpose to astound you with your own abilities. And
(02:09):
it's it's my heart soul calling an avocation. But Amy
surprised us and came in this weekend to Austin, and
we had talked about it, so it was spontaneous, yet
it was intentional, which I totally love because the way
that it came together. Amy and I have been talking
and my mom has stage four terminal cancer. She's got
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metastatic breast cancer to the bone and she's had this
for four years and and very much like Amy's mother,
my mom has this amazing faith and brilliant attitude. It's
like mind over matter, and she's so strong and so active,
but her decline in the last six months has been
very apparent, and so my husband and I have relocated
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from Belize back to Austin, Texas and just bought a
home so we can move her in and take care
of her and spend this precious time together, the gift
of time. But Amy and I were chatting, and we
have been chatting over the past couple of months because
of how close we are, and we talk about our relationship.
We call each other cousins because our parents were best
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friends and very very close, and so she calls my
mom and Lisa. I called her Mommy and Judy, her
dad uncle Cliff. My my dad was Uncle Louis. My
dad's been dead for years. But all that to say,
we call each other cousins. And you know, family isn't
always blood. And Amy and I, you know know that
we are family like mind, body, heart and soul. And
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we had talked about her coming, but she sends me
a text on Friday morning and says, by the way,
I just went ahead and booked a flight. I'm getting
in my friend Andreas. They gave me up, but you
come meet us when you can. I hope that's all good.
I know you said I wouldn't be in the way,
that I could just come, and and of course you
just came and you did, and we had the gift.
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We made the gift of time. We intentionally the gift
of time. Even though it was daylight savings where we
quote unquote lost an hour, we feel like we gained
so much time back, right, yes, because I mean the
time was just so well spent. And I love that
we shifted that perspective because normally spring forward I really
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struggle with um. But I realized now it was a
total mental thing. I just kept thinking, I'm losing an hour,
I'm losing you know, for years, and then this year,
starting on Friday when we got together, so Friday, Saturday, Sunday,
we were like, oh, we are thankful for this abundance
of time, and we just we had that that attitude.
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And I gotta say, I have not been affected by
the time change this year. And so and we're what
three or four days in, and I'm I had the
gift of time because my flight got canceled when I
was with you, and I had to find another flight
that ended up getting me home at you know, I
think I crawled in bed around one fifteen am. Finally
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fell asleep maybe at two AM. So I was joking
that Sunday was just, oh, look at all this, This
is the gift of time. I had the gift of
time at the Atlanta airport with my new layover. So
I just wanted to share that story just now. It
popped into my head to remind you that the gift
of time can show up in all different kinds of ways.
It's just your perspective. Like I could have had a
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really poor attitude about the flight cancelation, the long delay,
because even when I got to Atlanta, it just kept
getting delayed and delayed and delayed. And I just looked
at it as an opportunity to pay surround the Atlanta
airport and reflect on the conversations I had had with
Aunt Lisa and Amanda, and you know, the talks about
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our childhood, you know, because I've known Amanda since basically
I was born. Amanda's mom A Lisa. It was BFF
with my parents, so she was able to tell me
stories about my parents and offer me advice too. I
can't pick up the phone and call my mom or
my dad for that matter, for advice when as a child.
And I know a lot of you listening don't have
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this either, but there is something about if you do
have a healthy relationship with your parents, to be able
to just tell them what's going on and just hear
from them. What would they say. There's probably a handful
of women that I could reach out to if I
needed to, but to get a full weekend with Aunt Lisa,
who really like knew my mom on a very personal level,
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and the other women I'm talking about is like my
mom's biological sister probably, and then there's a few other
best friends that actually are that know Aunt Lisa as well.
Ironically enough, we all grew up in the same neighborhood.
I put up an Instagram post about some of them,
you know, when I left the trip, I put up
like a collage of pictures from the weekend, and one
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of them was a picture of Aunt Lisa and my
mom and a few other of these On Creek women
at my wedding, who are all beautiful, by the way,
like we're they're beautiful inside and out. And you know,
Judy still my Aunt Judy story and Pimp and Joy
came from Aunt Judy and Judy was Judy just said,
you know, all I want is joy, and my mom
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has done the same thing through this journey of cancer.
But all of these women that Amy put in this
picture their beauty and joy, right. I mean, they're beautiful,
but they radiated from the inside out, and they all
just connected as family, even though none of them were blood,
and all of us have grown up that way together
even when we've lived far apart. I call them the
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the O G O C because they're like the original
they lived in Onnon Creek when the neighborhood was first built,
and like they had the first houses there. So O
G O C is how Amanda and I became cousins.
And I love the post so much. I mostly put
it up for me as a reminder. I wanted to
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share some of the things and hopefully be encouragement to
followers that they may see it. But I want to
look back on that post and remember our weekend and
the self care internally externally that we did, the coffee
time we had in our quote unquote Judy mugs and
your mom giving me an old recipe card that was
in my mom's handwriting of the best beer beans ever.
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And I haven't had those beans since for sure, before
my mom died, I hadn't even thought of them, And
now I can't wait to make these beer beans. And
I'm just so thankful for the entire weekend and what
it gave me, especially the time with you, Amanda. And again,
like I said, with Aunt Lisa being able to speak
into me and give me advice that maybe my mother
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would have given me is just super cool. And I
do love your mom's attitude. And I'm just gonna say
a quick story to paint the picture about how Aunt
Lisa is. This is where she's different from my mom.
Totally know where she's going with this story she's about
to tell, and not because I'm psychic, just because I
know exactly what pictures she's about to paint. It's my
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one of my half sisters has called it because mom
lives in Dripping Springs. She's called she's calling it Dripping Springs,
Paris Chic. I know where you're going with this because
that is Aunt Lisa's vibe. So even in the well,
I don't want to say I mean, but we're being
realistic and I think that's another thing we talked about.
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In reality, we're in the final days or months or years.
We don't know what that When you enter hospice, that's
the thing. And maybe some of you aren't familiar with it,
because I certainly didn't know much about hospice until my
mom entered it, and it was kind of this unknown
It was like what are we doing here? And then
they give you this pamphlet and it kind of explains
the different stages of when someone is approaching death, all
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the different things you might experience and feel, things they
may experience and feel. And I'm like, why are you
giving me this pamphlet? But I'm so glad they did
because that was like, oh, the light bulb went off,
like oh wow, we're nearing death, and what hospice is
in a nutshell, it's just palliative care, Like they want
to come in and help you be comfortable. You're quitting
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any type of medicine, like conventional treatments. You're like chemo
radiation for example, those are off the table, and now
you're moving more to just like what can we do
to keep you comfortable in your final days? And again,
you don't know if it's seven days, seven months, a
year or more. So with at Lisa, we're just thankful
for whatever time we get with her, But yes, I
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guarantee you, until that final day comes, she's going to
be that dripping springs pair of cheeks. So we're I
don't know, she decided to make breakfast or something, and
like Judy would have just been fine with I don't know,
cereal and a normal bowl and a normal spoon, but
Aunt Lisa has these beautiful glass bowls and she fills
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it with her cereal and then she perfectly slices the
banana and the milk is poured in. It almost looks
like this bowl of cereal belongs in a commercial. And
then she goes over to her silverware, which is like
real silver, like the kind you can't put in the dishwasher,
and she pulls out her silver spoon, and then she
sits down at the table and she puts like a
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cloth napkin in her lap, and she eats this full
of cereal in the most elegant, proper way that I've
ever seen. But she's not snooty by any means. She's
very chill, laid back, but she's just a proper lady
at all times. And it's funny. She has a four
things tote and Amanda made it for her, and it's
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got lipstick because she always has on lipstick, even in
these days, like you, she'll put it on every day.
Pinehirst Drive, that's the street we lived on, an Union
Creek also has redecorating because she loves to do that.
And then the fourth thing is Amanda, and that's who
we're talking to now. Of course, it's so funny too
in hearing all this, So just so you all know,
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she says she will come back and haunt me. She
is she has chosen to be cremated. And my mom
is a retired nurse and did a lot of long
term acute care and geriatrics. And if you know a
little bit about me, and I know some of you
listeners are actually clients of mine, but I worked in
hospice and post acute care with my master's degree in
public health for a long time, so you know, when
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the hospice discussions were going on with the aunt duty,
my mom was a big part of that walk and
so was I, But my mom was really the one
that was able to sit down and talk about hospice
and the beautiful interdisciplinary team because it's also about the
family and Amy reminded me about that this weekend. And
this is back to the gift of time, because I
said to Amy and my very logical kind of binary brain,
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that analytical box checking getting everything done brain, because I'm human,
I said, Okay, we're moving. We're moving her into a
new house. We found a house. You know. We we
have a meeting with the young collegist, but we'll probably
just wait and sign onto hospice after that, after we
get moved and settled. And Amy said, hey, Amanda, you
know this is the gift of communication, friendship and honest, vulnerable,
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healthy perspective. She said, hey, Amanda, remember her, that's what
hospice does. Like, don't you think maybe it would be
helpful to sign her onto hospice if you so decide
before y'all move, because they're coming in to support you
and during that transitional time. And y'all, I worked in
it an executive healthcare, administrative hospice with doctors and nurses
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and clinicians and social workers and chaplains, the best nurses
I've ever met in my life in hospice for like
six years. And I'm sitting here, I'm the child. This
is personal to me. It took Amy to reflect back
to me what hospice does, and that was like a
huge gift to me. And I sat down and she
and Mom and I talked about it. Mom was able
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to hear it because my mom can be very logical,
and I told you she's a retired nurse. But when
you're in it, you know, it's not that you lose
all of your training and your knowledge and wisdom and experience.
But when we're in it, we need other people to
walk with us in these times times. And that was
such a gift of Amy coming in because my husband
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is in Belize right now with the dogs. He's not
here yet in Austin, and so we had this intimate
female gift of time but where we could see and
hear each other, and Amy spent time and we held
space for Amy, Amy held space for us, and and
it just, you know, it was beautiful in that sense.
And so I do want to thank you because both
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of us heard you and saying, maybe you do sign
on to hospice, because by the way, you can always
sign off of hospice, like if some treatment comes, you
can always make the decision to sign off. But they
are there to support me too. And I need the
support during this time. So thank you. Well, you're welcome.
I mean, but y'all were, yes, you were going. Hospice
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is already happening. Yeah, I just was trying to say,
why wait, let's go ahead and just start it because
it can't hurt. I know your mom likes things orderly,
and the house is getting packed up, then it's gonna
be She didn't want people to be in and out.
And I'm like, you know what, hospice nurses they're coming
to the house that they don't care. They're focusing on
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you the person and you the family. How what can
we do for you? They don't care what anything else
is like if you're moving or not. So just shout
out to all hospice nurses if they're not to be
any listening or if you know what social workers, champions, physicians, nurses, aids.
The nurses aids are like the manna from heaven during hospice.
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I mean, the aids really the whole team that it's
an interdisciplinary team that is not just about the patient.
It's about the family and then the bereavement and grief support,
so which is huge. It's on my heart right now.
So thank you for sharing that, and anyone who's walking
through through this right now with any kind of loved one.
And of course when my dad died, he died acutely,
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so we didn't have hospice, but anybody that's walking through
any kind of grief, you know, I just want to
be in everybody extra love and whoever it is in
your life that you lean on for support, lean on
them for support, because we want to be leaned on,
you know, I want to be leaned on, but I
really appreciate the people that allow me to lean on them.
Thank you for that. Well. I feel like we could
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do a whole episode about this, which maybe we will
one day because I think there are others out there
that need that that type of conversation and both of
us have knowing so much about it. Right now, we'll
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shift gears and go into numerology, which is something that
Amanda was trying to explain to me this weekend because
my birthday, if you're listening to this on Thursday the seventeenth,
my birthday is March eighteenth, Friday, born in shout out
and there's a lot happening with my numbers. So I
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thought Amanda could break some of that down and even
talk about how even in history, how important numbers are.
I think you heard Amanda say how she has a
master's in healthcare, she has an undergrad in religion, and
she's one of the most intelligent people that I know.
We were laughing because when she was a kid, we
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had a mom in our neighborhood, our friend Jill's mom, Susan,
and she called me famous Amos my whole childhood, probably
just because my name is Amy. And then there was
those cookies, Famous Amos, although maybe Susan, maybe Susan is
the psychic because you are famous. Hello, I'm not famous
to your listeners. You are famous because all the listeners
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that are clients of mine, I mean, they think they
know you personally, but you are You're a big deal. Okay,
take it, You're a big deal. But keep keep your head,
keep your head right sized, Okay, pull together. Okay, we're
over now, Thank you. Um. So famous famous was my name,
and then she nicknamed Amanda PC. We were laughing about
that this weekend because PC stands for perfect child, and
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Amanda really was quite honestly, she had amazing grades at
really difficult private schools. I had horrible grades at public school.
But that was because I love to socialize and I
love to talk, and now I get paid to talk,
so it worked out for me. But Amanda always had
great manners. Her mom paras Chic was it was not
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acceptable for Amanda to not say yes, ma'am, yes, sir no,
sir no, mad like all the time, and I was like, Uh,
what is like Amanda PC? Pacy. So it's just funny
that Susan nicknamed her that, But I give you that
background because also her brain is just extremely educated and
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she is very, very smart, and I'm excited for her
wisdom to kind of be here on the podcast today
and share with us some cool stuff that she does
on a daily basis for sure. And you know one
thing that that brings up because I think a lot
of you out there will relate to this the nickname PC.
While we laugh about it and joke about it today,
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it actually put a lot of pressure on me and
so much of my life. If you know my story,
I live life one day at a time, and it's
not about perfection. It is because I labeled myself that
I internalized that, and then I put all this pressure
on myself that you know, setting myself up for these
unrealistic expectations which lead to alcoholism and addiction and other
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disorders that I have healed over the past handful of years.
And I'm very open in my story. But it's about progress,
not perfection. It's about growth, it's about evolution, and it's
about healing not perfection. So so today, while I do
get to be PC and we laugh about it, now
I feel like, I'm like, you know, progress, progress child,
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not perfection child. So we're gonna like, we're gonna rename
that acronym. So one of the things that I do
do in my work and I've done for a long
time because I understand the energy of numbers and numbers.
If you're into astrology, think about this. All the astrological
signs have energies and they have different energetic components. So
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I'm a Libra for instance. You know, if you're a
Libra out there, you know we're about relationships, balance, harmony, peace, justice, fairness.
We're also the people pleasers of the zodiac. We acquiesced
to other people. We don't like confrontation. So there's a
high vibrational aspiration to the energy. And then there's the
shadow side of the energy. Well, numbers are very similar
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in the sense that the numbers zero through nine all
have character traits that have higher vibrational you know, aspirating energies,
and then they have the low vibrational shadow side tendencies.
So that's how Amy and I got to talking about
this because she's turning forty one. So I said, oh
my gosh, this is a big year for you, and
it's already starting to happen and culminate because we broke
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down the numbers for already one and then when you
add four plus one that equals five. So this year
she has a little bit of a code that is
coming together for her through the numbers four, one, and five.
Those are like her. That's her code this year. But
when you talk about the basics of numerology, like the A, B, c's,
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it's the number zero through nine. Those are the building blocks,
and often in working with clients, the easiest way to
break it down is something we call the attitude number,
which is like your personality, how you dawn on people,
your attitude, how you are seeing at first glance, at
first sight. And then there's another number in your birthdate
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that we call the life path, and the life path
is really about your life lesson what you are learning
to embody. And of course both of these numbers have
beautiful qualities that you aspire to and then challenging qualities
that we've digress or fall into their like potholes. So
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we're going to use Amy's birthday to start out as
an example. So we get her attitude number and her
life path number. The attitude number is the day you
were born plus the month you were born, reduced to
a single digit. So her birthday is three eighteen, So
that's three plus one plus eight that equals twelve, and
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then we reduce it down again. One plus two equals three.
So her attitude number is a three. The way she
comes off and comes across to people is the energy
of the three, and it's very true. The three is
the creative child. The three is the communicator, the charismatic,
vivacious performer, the broadcaster. It is also the joy divive
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of life, the influencer that jumps in and just adds
that extra pozzazz. It's also a social number. It can
also be very flighty. It can be you know, have
so many friends, connections in a quaintances that it gets
bogged down in the business of life and isn't grounded
in intentionally. So the lower challenging vibration of the three
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is that it gets overwhelmed. It says yes to everything
when it needs to learn it's communication skills if it's
yes meaning yes, and it's no meaning no, and finding
its truth it's boundaries, so it doesn't over commit and
underperform or overwhelm itself and then have to end up
backing out of things or not being accountable or looking
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or appearing or being scattered so to speak. Does that
resonate with you? Do? You get that? Very much? So?
But what's so incredible about this? And this is where
I love the dialogue of numerology. Is your life path number? Okay,
our life path numbers are calculated by your the summing
up the total of your birth date. So Amy is
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born three eighteen one. And by the way, if you
get out a calculator anyway you add these numbers up
and reduce them down, they will reduce down to the
same numbers. So we're gonna add three plus one plus
eight plus one plus nine plus eight plus one That
equals thirty one. Three plus one equals four her life
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path number or her life lesson what she is aspiring
to embody is the energy of the four. And if
you wrote a three on your paper and a four
on your paper, aesthetically, from an appearance perspective, they are
very different looking. The three is curvy. The four looks like, um,
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you know, a chart. It looks like a graph. It's
very angular. It's like checking boxes. The four is all
about foundations, organization, getting everything in its right place, being
very grounded, checking boxes. It's about process, analytics, routine, looking
for a goal and achieving that the most clear and
efficient way. It's very linear. It's very driven and focused.
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But at the same time, it's shadow self is that
it it can have so much process and thought it
gets into analysis paralysis, and it over analyzes, it broods,
it overthinks, and then it gets bogged down in the details,
even though it loves the details. It gets lost in
its precision, and then it gets it gets cluttered and
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and almost like a hoarder, you know, emotionally hoarded, mentally hoarded.
Uh you know I Physically in the body you can
feel overwhelms, so you can get anxiety. A lot of
people with four energy gets so critical. They're very self critical,
but they're also so adept and so responsible, So they
love routine, they love solid foundations. And for you having
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the three and the four combination, the numbers build on
each other, so bridging your beautiful communication skills with the
energy of the four, which is about standing on solid
ground and also healthy boundaries. The four is also about boundaries.
So the three is the communicators are learning to communicate boundaries,
learning to speak your truth, your yes meaning yes, you're
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no meaning no. The confluence of the three and four
energy is so much of what you have been practicing
and this year, like you've been forty, Hello, you were bag,
you've been in your forty And zero, by the way,
is the great equalizer and enhancer because zero is like
you know, think of it, the circle of life, wedding rings,
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full moons, the sun eclipses the earth. Look at where
we see circles. We see circles um in ancient times.
And and numerology, by the way, because Amy asked me
to mention this. You know, it's in the Bible, It's
in every religious doctrine and text way, and the numerology
that I really follow and understand. The energies of the best.
It was created by Pythagoras, you know um, and so
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it's Pythagorean numerology, and that the numbers have codes and
energies and frequencies and vibrations. And when we start seeing numbers,
and when we look at clocks, we look at data.
And now people in I T are coding all the time.
Numbers are everywhere, the codes are there, the energies are
there to read. But when we understand them and start
to see how they're working together with us or how
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they're limiting us, that's where we have the opportunity. If
this is a language that speaks to you, just like
something like astrology might or what's it called the indiogram.
You know, some people love the indiogram. That's another another
form of looking at numbers and attributes and of of
energies and things. But I want to talk about your
forty and moving into forty one. So tell me some
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of the lessons, Like what did you implore and enact
last year? And I know your listeners know these things,
but in thinking about creating healthy boundaries communication, solid foundations,
what were the some of the things that you walk
through where you feel like that was enhanced or enacted
or leveled up. Yeah, I mean I had to. Really,
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I don't know that I had to guess I was
forced into it. I guess it's a better way to say.
Let's say that the gift of time you got to
I got Okay, I was. I was gifted some life
circumstances that allowed me to make space to work on myself,
which I feel like There's been different seasons when I've
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worked on myself, especially being in recovery from an eating disorder.
I've put in the work on that through different times,
but maybe not all the way, but like two years
ago really dug into that. So I was working through that,
but this other stuff was different kind of work, like
it was deeper than that. And aside from all the
therapy and the different things that showed me kind of yes,
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how I get really anxious about things. I overthink, like
I would lose sleep, I would almost make things worse
because it was just like everything was on a wheel,
like it was just rotating over and over. But I
started to find tools to help me with that. And
by the way, the four loves tools, it loves its resources,
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its loves it's you know, it's pin it paper, notebooks,
coordinating colors, anything that creates foundation and organization. The four
Energy loves that tangible things that create the satiation of
the satisfaction of a job we done. Okay, I organized
this door. I feel grounded, I feel stable. It's about foundations.
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But you were building this year. You did deep digging
to really clean out your internal foundations. So it's like
building a house, you know, on concrete versus the sand
that might have been in the cracks, so to speak.
You're cleaning out the sand and re you know, new
asphalt from the inside out. There was that side of things,
But as I look at the whole year of forty,
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that's when I really leaned in and I've talked about
this on the podcast. To leaned into a calendar and
abiding by a schedule and planning ahead. That was just
never something I had the interest. I don't know interested
that laughing because the four the people who are four
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life pass or four attitudes, their planners there, their schedulers.
They love to check boxes, they love to scratch things
off of their to do list because it's like it
feels good, it feels it creates a sense of fulfillment
or wholeness. And I say often to people, Okay, that
it's the satisfaction of a job well done that feels whole.
It feels fulfilling, and it feels satisfying. I accomplish this,
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this feels good. They're the taskmasters. Well, I have adopted
that this year, and lists have always felt good to me,
and I loved crossing things off, but I wasn't very
good at getting a lot done, so I was always
making lists, but systems went into play like I had
to in order to fit in and do all the
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work I needed to do and like for my job
and be the mom I want to be and focus
on myself with all the therapies plural that I was
doing and I'm still doing some of them, I had
to have structure because there was no way to get
it all done and still get rest and still now
try to focus on friendships and connection and all the
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different moving parts. So it was imperative, just like I was,
I got to or I get to do all of
these things. I just wish you would let me for
this one moment, Amanda, because I do feel that I was,
like I do realize the saying behind get to, but
I did have to go through some like stuff to
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get me there. So I feel as though I was
forced into it, but I'm thankful for it. I guess
is that a good way to say it? Guess what?
The only way through is through is what you just said,
The only way through is true. Yeah, you you get
to get to but to get there, you gotta go through,
which is the I had to. I wasn't gifted this
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awful experience, this challenging, painful, you know, sad, lonely, isolating, disenchanting,
disillusioning experience. Riants. We get it. But the deal is
the gift of time and perspective, being able to say,
what am I learning from this? Like you get to
have your human, messy moments of uh, I don't wanna
like I don't wanna I don't want to life, you know,
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like somebody else, just do it take the wheel and
that's when we get to talk to our souls and
God and all the all the things, whatever your affiliation
is and beliefs. We get to say, golly, I can't
do this alone and start finding tools and resources, which
what one of the things that's beautiful. As we transition
for you into forty one, and I want you to
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tell everybody this. You were supposed to go somewhere else
this weekend. Okay, So here's the one. Okay. So we've
talked about Amy implementing really the higher vibrations of her
for energy last year. I mean, she implemented the systems,
the processes and really found stability, inter stability on the
inside and began to find that sense of security, safety,
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stability on an in eight embodiment level. Now she is
leaning into the four plus the one because this is
her birthday week. We are moving into her birthday energy.
The energy of the one, Okay, think about it is
number one. It's the pioneering spirit. It charges forward. It's I, I,
I ME, me me. Yes. Can it be selfish and
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self centered, but it on a higher level, it's about
the higher self, the soul, really healthy selfishness, self care,
focusing on my truth. What is it that I need?
And how do I communicate that in the highest most
optimal way in my life through my actions, through my intentions,
through my thoughts, through my interactions, my relationships, my choices,
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my words, whatever it may be, How do I implore that?
And So this weekend, this weekend that we spent together.
You were supposed to go somewhere else, weren't you. Yes,
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I was supposed to be in Florida for a wedding,
and so yeah there, I mean, and you and I
had talked about it, like I guess the week before
or maybe even two weeks before, but that that was
the ideal weekend for me to come. And I know
I called you last minute, but I knew earlier in
the week that's what I was gonna do, and I
just assumed we were all still on the same page.
(34:25):
So it was funny that even though I have a
calendar and I'm trying to be more organized in different things,
I thought, have I confirmed confirmed with Amanda that I'm coming,
Because I was coming no matter what I switched my flight,
it was still very last minute, all things considered, that
I had booked a hotel in a flight to Florida
for a wedding like two and a half months ago.
So yes, it was a big shift to then come there,
(34:47):
but I knew it was the wise thing for me
to do, which you chose the healthiest path that you
chose what I call yourself with a capital S and
a lot of times be will know in my emails,
I write your and then capital S E L F
versus yourself because there's the the the little us, the
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ego us, and then there's the bigger us. When we
speak our voice and truth and we know it because
it creates this sense of freedom and security and alignment
that feels broader, room ere, and different. And that's what
this weekend felt like. So the the four is your
foundational year. And then when you add the one, you say,
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is this healthy for me? Is this valuable for me?
Am I adding value? What am I bringing to the table?
You know? What? What does this look like? Um? Is
this a valuable quality, effective use of my time? How
am I showing up? You know? And and really looking
at yourself in your engagements and interactions in the world, um,
(35:50):
in your spiritual life, in your personal life, in your
work life, however that may be. So the four and
the one give you that opportunity as you move in
to this year. And and then on top of that,
when you add four plus one it equals five. And
the energy of the five. If again, if you wrote
a five on your piece of paper, it's curvy on
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the bottom and then angular on the top so it's
kind of top heavy, so it kind of is like
a teeter totter a little bit. But the five is
all about dynamics, shifts and changes. It's about perspectives. It's
about adaptability and flexibility. It's about being able to integrate
change with grace and ease. And guess what the low
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vibe or the shadow side of the five is. It's
changes its mind on a dime. It can lack accountability,
it cannot communicate effectively because I'm over, I'm done with it,
I've ascertained the most value, or I'm just over, I'm done,
I'm out, and it cannot you know, it can forget
to communicate. It can get bored really easily. It can
(36:51):
get a bit frenetic. But ultimately, the gift of the
five is being able to to become flexible and adaptable
and evolved shift its perspective in order to become more free.
So the four gives you your solid foundation, the one
gives you your individuality, your gift of courage and moving
(37:12):
forward really finding and speaking and communicating yourself, your truth,
your soul, your wisdom, and the five says to become
more free, to reach up and to expand myself and
my soul in this world on a practical level and
on a higher level as to what you're contributing with yourself,
(37:33):
to yourself and to the people that you love and
and and and your purpose and your mission and meaning
you know, and you mentioned the Instagram earlier, and just
like that has like when you're in an unhealthy version
of a number, like you have your healthy and unhealthy
versions of the number. I've been like in the with
the numbers, that's your low vibration, your high vaporation. I've
(37:53):
operated in the low if if I'm speaking this later,
I still don't totally under stand it, but you can
own and recognize, Oh man, I was in a little
low vibration right there. And then I have a choice
as to what I want to do with that. And
I think it was it was at the five. That's like,
it gets to be me, me, me, or which number
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of that that's well, the five can be a little me,
me me, so just because it can also be like
a five year old kicking and screaming, I want my way,
I want what I want, I want it now, I
want it now, I want to now on my ice cream.
Now I can we go get ice cream? Mom? Can
we go get ice cream? Mom? But which one is
the me that's good? Right now? Okay? So the one?
So I for my birthday this weekend, I'm going away alone.
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Like I'm doing a lot of reflecting. I need some
time to just be be me and think and hike
and be with nature and you know, journal and pray
and maybe watch some Real Housewives because I haven't done
that in a minute. Like I'm going to a hotel
and I'm thankful for this gift that my family is
(38:59):
giveing me to go do this, and I struggle with
just so selfish. But this is a high vibration, and
this is the affirmation I got from Amanda. It's a
high vibration Me, Me, Me, because I'm going with the
intent of taking care of myself, putting my oxygen mask
on first, so that then I can show up and
be a better mom and be better to all the
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different compartments of my life, different people, different groups, different things.
And I need that time. And I'm I come from
a place of extreme gratitude because I know not everybody
can go away for a weekend. But I just wanted
to share this so that you're encouraged that if you
even have five minutes in your day where you get
to focus on yourself to recharge to do something that
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is for you and for you, again with the analogy
of the oxygen masks, like you taking care of yourself.
Maybe you have half a day, maybe you've got thirty minutes.
Maybe you've got thirty minutes every day. That will add
up to a lot of time throughout the week that
you were intentional about doing something for yourself and it's
(40:04):
not selfish. You are articulating it beautifully because also what
you're choosing to do this weekend, and I will break
it down into the practical small bites of how this
can be applied in the day to day because there's
beautiful ways that you don't have to spend a lot
of time. But also this is the energy of the
five this weekend too, because you're making a dynamic shift,
(40:25):
which is spending your birthday alone. When was the last
time you spend your birthday alone? Went to when was
the last time you went to a hotel? Just say, Amy,
I'm going away to celebrate myself and watch maybe some
Real Housewives and maybe go get a massage, like you know,
just totally do this, but feel good about it in
your truth and feel grateful that your family is saying, hey,
(40:47):
go girl, go do this like you go do you?
We want you to do this. This is the first
time I'm yeah, and you're excited about it. So there's
the energy of the five. But what we all can do,
because this is what is important to remember. Whatever we
focus on grows, and it's about building momentum. So whether
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it's in the voice in your head, the dialogue, the language,
the rhetoric, all of that is so important. And I've
had to learn this over the years because I can
I am my own worst critic. When I listened to
that voice, that critical self talk in my head, all
it does is hammer in those those patterns and those
neural networks. So taking a couple of minutes to listen
(41:29):
to the voice in your head and see if it
is limiting or if it's creating a greater a greater
vibration or space of abundance in your outlook. So five
minutes in your day. But I tell people to breathing exercise,
taking a pause when someone triggers you in the middle
of the day, you get triggered by something you know,
(41:50):
instead of just reacting, which we do. We're human with
that's that's what we do. But taking a moment and
just taking three rounds of breath, dropping your chin to
your chest, closing your eyes, breathing in and out through
the nose literally resets the right and left hemispheres of
the brain, so the creative side of the brain and
(42:11):
the binary analytical side of the brain. So you can
actually realign your energy field. And that that takes about
twenty five seconds, you know, and if you can remember
to pause and breathe, which is free to all of
us hopefully, and then some of us do have issues
of course with our breath and breathing. But just to
take a moment to ground, you know, just to stand still,
(42:33):
or to let the sunlight hit your face. Those are
forms of choosing yourself, choosing your care, your oxygen masks.
And the more the intentional you become, and the more
routine or disciplined, dedicated you become to those little moments,
they start adding up to bigger and bigger moments of
self care intentionality that start to manifest greater abundance, harmony, love, peace, ease, health, wellness, whatever, joy,
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whatever it is that you are seeking at this stage
in your in your journey personally and on a soul level.
And you mentioned like being triggered and just taking time
to breathe, and I don't know, it just came in
on my heart to say this, that having grace for people,
like if you think, of we're all going to be triggered,
(43:23):
but guess what, You're also going to be the person
that may trigger somebody else. So having that perspective has
been very helpful for me because I have more grace
when maybe i'm you know, something has come up in
a relationship where I'm just frustrated or yes, even triggered,
but then I do take the time for the breath.
(43:44):
But then somehow me thinking about like incorporating compassion and
grace and that of like that person didn't mean to
do that, or clearly something might be going on there,
because at the same time, I know that I'm doing
that to people, hopefully not intentionally, but there might be
(44:04):
ways that I'm acting or behaving that are making someone
feel a certain way. And I want that compassion and
grace extended to me. And I think that for me
that's helped some relationships and some different things just having
that that reminder in my head, Well, what you just
brought up is genius because what you added in is
(44:26):
a superpower. It's a level up, it's a game changer.
Is you added in emotional intelligence. Okay, the breathing exercise
is cognitive, it's physical and physiological, so it's the body
and it's the mind. But when you add in the
compassion and the grace and the emotionality of it for
yourself or the other person involved, when you're the triggerer,
(44:47):
you know when you pull the trigger because we all
do it. I do it. I know how that feels
and is um and I know how to make an
amends and own it today. Fortunately, and if I don't
have other people in my life that will point that
out to me, and well, it's important for us to
have those people. But you brought in the emotional component
and emotions. Our emotions are intelligent, and when we bring
(45:08):
in the emotionality that levels up the whole experience. And
compassion and grace, joy, happiness, those things they basically just
radiate and enhance our inner being and our outer beating,
and they they radiate and ripple out into the world
in this in this world, that we live in that
(45:30):
is so challenging in many ways on a micro and
a macro level. Yeah, I feel like again, we could
go we might need to do another episode, we could
continue to go on and on. But I'm just thankful
for the love and the light that Amanda is in
my life. And I'm thankful for the weekend that we had.
And I hope that our time together and our our
(45:53):
gift of time together would be an encouragement to you
to find your people and like we said in the beginning,
family doesn't have to be blood and find people where
you know it's you feel safe with. And I felt
like we sat down with coffee Saturday morning, and right
(46:14):
when we were about to get comfortable and start visiting,
I was overwhelmed with emotion and I almost just started
bawling crying, maybe because I had my little Judy mug,
which is just my mom loved dainty flower MUCKs, like
really thin and at Lisa loves them too, so my
mom had gifted her some, so that's what she still
(46:35):
has in her cabinets. So we were drinking out of them,
and I just was emotional. But then before I went
into like any sort of meltdown because I never did.
I was then overcome with just a complete peace. This
is where I am, without a doubt supposed to be,
and I just felt so comfortable and then the emotion
(46:57):
was gone and the peace was there. And so my
hope is that everyone is able to find that and
and have a weekend like that. If you need to
or be open to it, be open to it. Just
be open to changing plans last minute and doing the
wise thing for yourself, not what's right, not what's wrong,
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not what the wise, what is the wise thing? And
I got that from my sister. You know. One last
thing about my mom, Judy, she is the backbone, the
roots of Pimp and Joy and that all started because
of her cancer journey. And we have a campaign going
on right now along with all of our four Things
and a squaw items like from Born, your sweatshirts, star necklace,
(47:40):
four Things, totes. This is the four Things podcast. So
if you've ever wanted something, four Things, even our most
popular four Things item, which is It's fine and fine,
Everything is fine. I've got my Pimp and Joy hat
on right now. We even created some new Pimp and
Joy collegiate items. Mary had some really cute colors that
she mixed together and came up with. So if you
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already have been enjoy but you want something new, or
you've had your eye on something ESPOA or four Things
all proceeds of everything. This is when Pimp and Joy
and Spoa and four Things are colliding into like one
big campaign to fundraise for the Orphanage in Haiti where
my kids lived, and I guess the fastest way to
find everything that's on there is the shop for dot
(48:24):
com slash amy and maybe you just pray for the Orphanage.
If that's something you can do for my birthday, keep
them in mind. But if you would like to purchase something,
I have some listeners that mail me gifts to the station,
which is always super sweet, but this is what I
would like in return for that. Or if you've got
to maybe do some shopping for other people in your life,
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why not give them a gift that gives back. This
is a win win purchase. You're supporting the Orphanage. The Orphanage,
just for full transparency, they're doing pretty well themselves on
like monthly expenses. What we're trying to fundraise for or
is stuff that has popped up last minute, like the
wall needs to be addressed, Like their security there is
(49:07):
major and the wall is crumbling, so they have to
tear it down build a new one. And supplies in
Haiti are so expensive. This wall is just it's going
to cost an arm and a leg. And but it's imperative.
The well broke, the well that's on the property and
having water on the property clean water is super imperative.
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And that the well. They remember when they installed the
well and it was the biggest deal, so that that's
something that needs to be repaired. Education is another thing.
I'll give you all four things. Security, water, Education. There's
a school that my friend Tiffany spearheaded and opened there
and it's run by Haitian teachers and thank goodness she
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did this because now the kids it's not safe for
them to leave the orphanage. They used to go off campus,
but it is not safe to do that. So I'm
so thankful for all these teachers. They make two hundred
dollars a month, two hundred dollars a month, so I
would love to for one help with those salaries if
we can, but give them a bonus. That is where
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the education piece comes in and then the kids, that's
the fourth component. There's two kids there that currently need
new wheelchairs, and then there's some older kids that are
about to age out. You know, it'd be cool to
send them to a trade school like carpentry, electrician school,
something like that, so when they age out, they have
an opportunity for more education and work. So, because when
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you age out, that just means you they lived in
an orphanage. They were not adopted, they didn't get a match,
and now they're going to be adults and leave the
orphanage and then what so we can give them that gift.
So again the shot forward dot com slash Amy, I
think the shot forward dot com slash Haiti will also
get you to the same page as well. I feel
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weird saying my name Amy, But speaking of feeling weird,
another four things item that we added is a four
things he that's kind of like Bobby Bones Show and
pull Over. There's different options, but it says Bobby Amy,
lunchbox Eddie. So those are the four things. So if
you are a B team or hardcore, maybe that's something
you would consider getting and knowing that all proceeds are
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going to a really amazing cause and that orphanage again,
that's where my kids lived. It will always have a
special place in my heart. And Amanda, I know you
understand the whole pimp and Joy thing with Mom and
how special that is. So I'm just thankful that her
legacy lives on. It doesn't it. It lives on in
so many ways. And and really she was with us
this weekend, so she was our fourth thing this weekend.
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I just want to point that out. There was you,
there was me, there was Lisa, my mom, and I
know Aunt Judy was there. So that's our fourth thing
is Aunt Judy. And we definitely did some pimp and joy,
but we we we got to spend the gift of
time and it was intentional and it was beautiful and
(52:02):
brought out elements of ourselves and our souls so we
could see each other and be seen and hold that
space in a way that we don't always carve out
and do because we're such human doings versus human beings
and and that's that's really what the what the gift
is here is becoming more intentional and being rather than
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always doing. So I love this for your birthday, that
you are choosing this weekend for you but then simultaneously
you are finding this way to give back to something
that has given so much to you through your children
for the Orphanage and and Pimp and Joy and celebrating
your mama and also your dad. Uncle Cliff. We got
to give a shout out to him because he's my
(52:46):
heart too. Oh yeah, we love Cliff. You know. We
did Okay Bueno shirts for Dad because he should always
say ce bueno, Okay bueno. So um, yeah, we missed dad.
His uh he died on April one of last year,
so that's coming up in a couple of weeks. And
anniversaries are always tough. But anybody else that's experiencing some
(53:07):
of that right now, I know that it's hard. You're
not alone. I will recommend Megan Divines podcast. Um, she's
a grief expert and she's on my podcast network and
she's amazing. So you can search up Megan Divine if
you're processing any grief right now. She's been on my podcast.
You can search it there. She's also been on cats
(53:28):
You Need Therapy, you know podcast network us girls, we
try to work together, you know. Amana and I are
gonna we're gonna be talking about maybe a podcast for
her one day soon too, because she's just got a
lot of insight and knowledge and a lot of encouragement
and wisdom to share. So Amana, thank you so much.
Where can people find you on Instagram? It's at soul
(53:48):
pathology dot com or www. Dot soul pathology dot com
is how you can reach out and connect with me,
and I am pretty booked with one to one clients
and session so don't get discour ridge by that. I
put out lots of wonderful resources. You can subscribe to
my newsletter, find me on social I'm working in building
out my team to create more resources and offerings, but
(54:12):
please do connect with me because it means the world.
And my biggest gift to give back in this lifetime
is really being able to astound people with their own abilities.
And when when you're astounded with your own abilities, that
astounds me and that just you know, doubles the light, doubles,
the joy, doubles the love. Thanks for having me on
(54:33):
and happy birthday, my my dearest, Happy happy birthday. Thank you,
Bye bye.
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