November 26, 2019 • 25 mins
This is Amy’s ‘5th Thing’ (a bonus episode) where she answers your questions every Tuesday! ‘4 Things With Amy Brown’ comes out every Thursday, but on Tuesdays Amy answers questions you’ve emailed in.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Okay, Happy Tuesday. I feel like I have so much
on my brain right now and so much to say,
and I feel like this is one of those episodes where,
at least maybe right now in the beginning, I'm gonna
kind of be all over the place because I just
have so many thoughts. Um. First of all, we sold
out of our four Things Gratitude journal, and I know
we defined it as a pre order, and some people
were like, wait a second, how can you sell out
(00:21):
of a pre order if you're pre ordering it? Okay,
I guess we should have called it a pre sale
because we had already placed an order with the publisher,
so we had to commit to that upfront, even though
we don't even have the books or the journals in
our hands, so we're still a couple of weeks away
from receiving them. So that's why we called it a
(00:41):
pre order. Um. But we we didn't even think we
would sell out of that amount, So that's why we
were a little surprised we even even pulling that trigger.
We were like, oh, should we do that? Are you sure?
And y'all, our minds are blown, our hearts are full.
They sold out a project Meta Share who they're the
organization we're working with right now in Haiti. Like they
(01:03):
are so pumped. I think we're gonna be able to
hook them up this Christmas. Like when we last year
around Christmas time with all the Christmas shopping, SPA was
supporting my life Speaks and the day after Christmas, I
think we were able to share with them what we
were sending them, and it was a hundred thousand dollars.
And Mary and I will go over this more on
(01:24):
Thursday because we're gonna do a gift guide episode for
y'all where we really go over the products that we have,
but not just SPA products and the Shop Forward product
product Excuse me, I can't talk products and PIM and joy.
We're gonna share with you other items that aren't even
related to us, that don't even give back, even though
we love y'all shopping with companies that give back um
(01:44):
or small businesses or ways you you know, entrepreneurs, female
run business however you want to do it and throw
your support around, like especially when you're doing a lot
of shopping. We're all about that. But we also have
just a lot of things you can find on Amazon
or you can grab at the mall or whatever. We
it's not like your typical gift guide where we have
like specific products through the entire episode that we're talking
(02:06):
about our specific companies. Like we just it's like, we
know that you've got women, men, mom's, dad's kids all
in your life, and we're going to go over things
that we would like to get and that we think
you would enjoy giving or the others in your life
would like to get. From stocking stuffers, two books you
might want to read, to legit presence under the tree. Um,
(02:29):
we'll just kind of go over it all. But obviously
we'll be highlighting a SPA because we wanna that's that's
what we want to support. Anyway, back to Project Medicare
and the journals, they're like freaking out. They were so
excited that we sold out obviously, and so we were
able to order another round. I think we might still actually,
(02:49):
as I record this, be waiting for a confirmation of
if they're going to ship on time. But yeah, just
know that we are working on it. We got some
crazy emails. We got really nice emails that were like, oh,
I'm so bummed I missed out. If you're getting more,
can you please notify me because we had a you know,
a little notification thing up on the website where you
could click to be notified if we get more. But
(03:10):
then we also go at really mean notes where people
were not that joyful, which kind of made me want
to get them a Gratitude Journal even more because studies
show that there, you know, or Burnet Brown even says
there is no joy without gratitude, um or without gratitude,
there is no joy Camember exactly. But we quote her
(03:31):
in our book. We have in our journal. We have
quotes throughout the journal. I don't know if you have
seen pictures. If you're listening right now and you're like, what,
I've never even heard of the four things Gratitude Journal
didn't even know they had one. You can go check
it out at you know, radio amy dot com. And
we are getting more, and I would say, Mary and
I we haven't recorded the Gift Guide episode yet, but
(03:52):
we'll be doing that um this week for Thursday's episode.
So we will announce on Thursday when we're gonna be
selling more journals, because I think by them, we'll have
a confirmation from the publisher. So that in a nutshell,
which is pretty exciting. Thursday's episode will be fun that
will go up on Thanksgiving Day because a lot of
people are gonna be doing shopping, um, and maybe you
(04:14):
all wanna you are gonna be in the shopping spirit
after Thanksgiving, and so we wanted you to be prepared.
And so I would say during that episode, maybe have
a pin and paper out if you want to, so
you can jot down some of the ideas. Or Mary
and might be working on putting something on the website
where it will have all the spawn shop Forward items
(04:34):
that we talked about, but also links to some of
the other products that will link you straight to Amazon
or the store wherever we're talking about. That makes sense, Okay,
all right, well let's get into today's Q and A episode.
I think I think I'm ready for that. I don't know.
I feel like there's something else I wanted to tell y'all.
And this is what I get from not writing down
my thoughts. Um, I'm fully decorated for Christmas. Oh, I
(04:56):
know I would need to give the Keaton Clause episode
that she was on the Q and A a a couple
of weeks ago. Keaton Clause Keaton with a K Claus
with a k that's her Instagram handled too at keating
clause she finally came over and did the Christmas overhaul
at my house and we've got a tree up and
some cute little dick or is nothing too crazy, but
(05:17):
I just feel like totally in the holiday spirit now
that she came and put it all together and I
was traveling and gone and I came kind of came
home and it was it was done, and I was like, oh, Keaton,
I love you, Like this is amazing. But she did
give good tips on the Q and a episode if
you're starting to decorate, because I know a lot of
you after Thanksgiving you'll start to decorate, So she has
some tips you might want to listen to. And then
(05:38):
also on her website, you know, she shares in the
podcast that she does like they have like a virtual
consulting type thing because she knows a lot of you
don't live in Nashville and or it may not be
within your budget to have someone come to your house.
Like that's not lost on us, please, like she even
gets that. But she has made a career out of
(05:58):
this and she's really good at it. So hey, let's
support her even just by like you know, giving her
a shout out on Instagram or following her listening to
her tips, Like, I'm just really proud of her for
going out and doing this. But anyway, some people have
signed up for like to get help online and she'll
send you a list of everything you need to get
and how to get it for like a fee. But anyway,
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I guess I was just saying, my household is in
the Christmas spirit. I hope y'all are getting there. I
have my sister and her husband and their four kids
all staying at my house. My in laws arrive tomorrow. Um,
I think on Thanksgiving Day, I'm hosting twenty three people
or so, so should be interesting and fun, Like I
(06:42):
cannot wait. But let me tell you all I ordered.
I was thinking, twenty three people, that's a lot of dishes.
So I ordered like really nice disposable stuff, um like
really nice looking like it just looks like silverware but
it's not. And then the plates look like real plates
but they're not it, And I get it not the
most environmentally friendly, but it's like one day out of
(07:05):
the year, and I just didn't want to do a
bunch of dishes. Well, my sister, she's like Martha Stewart,
and she could not handle that. She's like, food tastes
better on a real plate. We are not using plastic
or paper or anything over Thanksgiving. And I was like, really,
like that just it's just not my personality, Like I
don't care, but I love that she cares. I love
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that about my sister. We're just so different. We're alike
in some ways, but we're so different. And so now
that she's at the house, like she's kind of helping
me make it look legit. So if y'all see pictures
on my Instagram of Thanksgiving going down at my house
and it looks really legit, it's not me, it's her.
And she's so good. She has a gift, she's so talented,
and I'm thankful. And then yeah, I hope she's ready
(07:48):
to do the dishes as well, because I'm gonna be like,
this was your idea. Okay, there we go, there's my thoughts. Um,
I'll get into the questions because I have been rambling
for literally like eight minutes, but hopefully all of that
and we'll kind of zip through some of these questions. So, um,
(08:10):
this one is from Anna. I've been a listener for
a little over a year now, and I'm a huge fan.
My fiance is an Air Force pilot, so I've really
been able to relate to you on that level. We're
actually in the middle of his first deployment. Do you
have any advice on how to handle deployments during the holidays?
Any tips would be appreciated. And oh gosh, I mean
(08:32):
everybody's personality is so different. Um, I would say it's
you need to know how the personality of your fiance
is and how he's gonna want it to be handled
on that day, Like does he want constant reminders that
he's not there? Um? Or does he want all the
reminders because he wants to feel like he's there? You know,
(08:55):
like there's that fine line someone might want to be like, yes,
let's talk on Christmas it's a normal day, because over there,
I mean they may get like a turkey. Well, first
of all, every deployment is different. I know for my husband,
he was gone during the holidays sometimes and the base
wherever they were eating was aware like, Okay, this is
this is a holiday these guys are used to celebrating.
(09:15):
Let's make sure that on the menu we've got turkey
and cranberry sauce and dressing and whatever. Some guys may
not have that luxury, but your fancy's air force. So
I'm thinking maybe, um, people used to get my husband
a hard time that we're in different branches of the
military because they say air forces like the kush one.
So um, again, I don't know where he is, what
(09:37):
he has going on, but he'll have little things maybe
that will be there for him to kind of still
that void and remind him that it's a holiday and
he's not with his family. Um. But if you're having
tons of fun back home and doing this and that
and this and that, you know, there's two types of people.
One would want to hear every detail of what you're
(09:57):
doing that's amazing for the holidays, and another might be like,
spare me the details, wish me a merry Christmas, but
I'll find out more about it when I get back,
because it's too hard for me to witness what's going
on without me. And I feel like, you know, fomo,
you know what I mean. So UM, I would say,
gauge the personality and then continue on with your traditions,
(10:18):
be with your family, honor him as though he's he's there.
With you. Maybe do something that he loves to if
you know, if there's like some Christmas game or Christmas
movie or Christmas song or his favorite meal or his
favorite dish or whatever that you he wouldn't really enjoy
if he was there, Like do all that, like everything
you're it's a fiance. So I don't know if you'll
(10:40):
have kids, are not? I'm assuming no, But maybe someone's
listening right now and you're married and it's your first
appointment and you've got kids, um, and you're probably or
maybe it's not your first one. You're still trying to
figure it out. And again, my my advice is not
like you know, legit advice, but I'm just giving you
what I know worked for me and my husband. Um,
(11:02):
but do continue on the traditions with the kids. Take
lots of pictures. Again, you either share the pictures when
your person gets home, whether it's your husband or your wife,
or you send them to them right away. Um, Which
I mean, aren't we so lucky we live in a
digital time where we can face time with our deployed spouses.
We can uh, you know, email pictures right away. Like
(11:25):
my father in law was at Vietnam and for he
was gone a lot, and like my mother in law
and like my husband and his sister, like, they used
to have to record messages to him on like a
cassette tape and then they would mail it and he
would get it and he would play the cassette tape
and get to hear their voices. Or they would have
(11:45):
to do handwritten letters, which you know, I would say,
that is something cool that we don't do enough of
that you should do because it's so easy to just
send your loved one deployed an email and say, hey,
we're thinking, but if you can get ahead and maybe
send that like now, I don't know how long it
takes your fiance to get stuff, um anna but or
(12:07):
anybody listening, but I used to have to mail stuff
like weeks in advance, so that would be like now,
if you want them to get it by Christmas, but
a handwritten card and maybe some cookies and like care packages,
um or something thoughtful or something thoughtful for other people. Now.
I have even read stuff before where some spouses say,
like enough with the care packages that guys don't really care,
(12:27):
but whatever, I don't care. I'd rather send something and
nobody care about it. Did not send anything, and people
be like, what the heck, we don't have anything. UM,
So I would send extra stuff and then my husband
would set it out and they had like a common
area and they would put like candy or cookies or
different things, coffee that everybody could kind of take from.
Because there's some guys deployed over there that don't have
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they don't have anything, they don't have anybody mailing them
a dang thing. So if you can brighten another soldier's
day to um, you know, that's helpful, or send extra
car It's like if you do have kids, have them
like decorate cards for not just their loved one that's
over there, um, but just kind of they just remain
generic for other people to enjoy. Um. Make time to
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connect as much as you can, again based on that
person's personality. UM. I don't know. I don't know really
how to give any other helpful information other than that,
but I would just it's like there's there's two types
of people. The person that wants to be in on
every detail or the person that wants the details maybe
when they get back home, but you know, just feel
(13:36):
it out, let them know, but definitely don't let traditions
slip even though they're just not around, like keep it up,
take the pictures, play the games, watch the movies, have
all the fun. You know, it's hard too, is the
spouse when or the fiance or the girlfriend or the
boyfriend or whatever, when the loved one is gone and
everyone's like trying to cheer you up and it's just sad,
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And it's okay sometimes if you just want to go,
like be by yourself for your at Christmas parties and
it's starting to be a real bummer because your significant
others not. They're like, it's okay to go home and
go to bed early and take a bath and pour
a glass of wine and go to sleep like it's fine.
Everyone will understand. Next question is from Christie. I know
the type of mom and wife I want to be,
(14:19):
and I strive to be that person every day. I
think writing in a gratitude journal would help even more.
I have never been one to talk too much about
my feelings, but I do not know where to start
or even if I can get myself to pick up
that pin again. Do you have tips on becoming a
writer again? And now I just want to say, like
if this was um this email was triggered maybe because
(14:41):
of the gratitude journals. Obviously we put those out. I
just want to say that to express gratitude or write
down things that you are thankful for or requires no
writing skills. And I think, um, you know, because I
can't write. And that's why Mary and I wanted to
come up with the journal, was because we knew we
should be, you know, writing down things that we were
(15:04):
thankful for, um. Because we just hear over and over
how great that is for you to do. UM. But
we aren't journal ors either, and it's intimidating and overwhelming
because we can't write. So I would say, Christie, just
pick up the pin and start writing. And the more
you do it, the more you'll start to open up.
I even found that, like if I as, I've been
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starting to do it more and more. Sometimes it's like
one or two things. And then even that's why we
put stickers in the journal too, is because for when
you don't have the words, you can just put a
sticker maybe of something that you're thankful for. If we've
got one in there that applies to something, uh, you
know that you've done recently, they're like okay, yeah, that
I'm thankful for that, but um, you know, or you
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can make it like a whole little paragraph, which I
have found myself doing that, sometimes one or two words,
sometimes like a really like something that happened, like I
shared an experience with my dad or with my kids,
and I'm gonna have that as a memory. And so
it is getting me out of my comfort zone and
it's allowing me to do it. But I feel you, Christie,
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and you just got to pick up the pen. That
would be my tip to you is just start writing.
Who cares how it sounds like this is gonna be
something for you. And if anything, if you go back
and like read your gratitude journals like in the future,
and you go back and see what you wrote, like
you can laugh at yourself how you wrote it and
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then maybe see how you progressed. I really feel like
it is going to make me a better journal er.
But who cares if it doesn't, like, it's really not
the point. The point is recognizing things that you're grateful
for and putting it on paper. That way, it's there
and it's important and we all should be doing it.
Even if you don't have a gratitude journal. Just join
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us in the four Things movement. None of us even
have the journals yet. Shoot, I told you on the
intro before I when started the questions that we don't
even have We have one copy and that's the one
I've been writing in one copy. But just get a
piece of paper and or get your own blank journal
and write down four things every day. And maybe you
don't do it every day, who cares? Like, just do
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it as much as you can and start recognizing the
things in your life that you're thankful for and see
if you notice a difference in your attitude and your
overall being and in your sleep and just who you
are as a person. Next question is from Aaron. I
was hoping you could do one thing on how to
disconnect from cable or answer how to cut the chord
on your fifth Thing podcast. Wait what, I'm trying to
(17:36):
convince my husband to get rid of our cable, but
he isn't insisting that. Oh, she wants me to Okay,
she wanted me to address it on this episode. Sorry
for a second there, when I read that question out
loud for the first time, it sounded like she wanted
to cut the chord on my podcast, Like how can
I stop listening to your fifth thing? Okay, Aaron, My bad.
So you just want to know how to cut the chord,
(17:56):
and you want to addressed on the fifth thing, which
is exactly what's happening. Um, you're trying to convince your
husband and get rid of the cable, but he's insistent
that you keep it because of football and hockey. Um,
my husband was the same way, Aaron. But we got
rid of it and through Hulu Live, we're able to
watch sports, so you should be fine. Now, we're not
big hockey people, so I don't really know for sure,
but I know you can watch live sports, so it
(18:18):
should be a non issue. We have not missed a
football game and we do not have cable, so it
is possible. And I will say, um, the main things
we have right now, all of that is done through
Hulu Live, by the way. Um, but then we also
have like on our TV. We but if if you
don't have a smart TV, I guess you can't really
(18:40):
do the apps. I'm not sure, but you can do
him on your computer. Like, I don't feel like we're
missing out on any TV because of Netflix and Amazon
Prime and Apple TV. And our bill is still so
much less than it was, and we had cable and
we don't have a bunch of ridiculous stations that were
not ever watching. Um. I will say the one thing
that's a bummer about this is the Hallmark Christmas Movie channel.
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There's no Hallmark channel, so I'm still trying to figure
that out. Like I've been having to watch those other
ways on my computer. But I want to cook, like
snuggle up on the couch and watch one and not
on my computer. I want to watch it on like
the big TV. So I'm telling my husband, like, You've
got to figure this out because this is so important.
But Aaron, tell your husband it's totally fine. He will
(19:22):
be able to watch football and hockey. Next question is
from Sarah. She said this one might be if we're
the Nashville Beauty Girl. Um, when it comes to washing
your face, she said, I've heard a lot of your
(19:42):
podcast stuff on facial things. Is it okay to use
a makeup remover wipe followed with a wash rag with
warm water and call it good? I mean, I still
apply night cream, but I don't wash with my soap
at night, just wondered her thoughts. I can't be the
only one who does this right. I mean, when I
read this, Sarah, I is like, oh, I don't really
know how I feel about this. Um. Actually, I had
(20:07):
some breakouts happening the last time I went to see Carrie,
which is the natural Beauty girl, and she asked me,
are you wiping your face off with a makeup remover wipe?
And then is that like, is that what you're doing?
And I told her no, I'm just washing my face.
And I don't know why she asked me that because
we never expanded on it. And I will tell you
(20:28):
that I'm gonna be recording a podcast with her and
her husband, Dr Drew Um. He's a dermatologist or like
a most surgeon like dermatologist type person um, which we're
having them come on to do like a joint thing.
So I'll address this with her. Um. But my husband
just had malanoma removed from his face, so he had
(20:51):
skin cancer taken off of his face, like right in
the middle of his face. And like, this scar is
no joke. But because it was done by a most
surgeon in like six weeks, there's not supposed to be
a scar. I mean, I don't know. It seems pretty insane.
To me because the scar was massive and there were
so many stitches, but uh, it's we're going to kind
of talk about uh skin protection, sun damage, uh kind
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of what early detection and how great it is that
my husband went in and I had to prompt him
to go in and do it. Like, my husband has
had this thing kind of just growing in his face
and it wasn't really serious looking, and it wasn't raised.
It just started to look a little suspicious to me,
and it was not going away, and it was just
getting a little bit bigger. And I was like, you've
got to go in. You have to make an appointment,
(21:32):
you have to go in, and he wouldn't. So finally
I just made him an appointment with Carrie and he
went to see her and she was like, you have
to go to a legit dermatologist right now. So I
called a dermatologist from Carrie's office, and because she was concerned,
he finally was listening to an expert and went into
the dermatologist say, biopsied it, and sure enough, it was
skin cancer. So I just would urge you if you
(21:55):
see anything suspicious on a loved one and they're kind
of being hard headed about it, urged them to go
to the doc. Or maybe it's you. You're you're ignoring
something on your body that you shouldn't. Try to go
to a doctor and get a biopseed and see if
it's anything serious. Um, so that you can catch it early. Um.
But that's a sidebarrow Nashville Beauty Girl, because Sarah, I'll
(22:16):
when I have her on, I'll ask this question about
the facial wipes because I would say no, if I
was you, I would use the soap and wash your
face really good and then put your night cream on,
because to me, I just don't feel like those wipes
really get it clean. And then like you could do
a wipe and then wash your face so you get
it like extra clean. But then I don't know that
might be too much. So I'm not the expert, and
(22:38):
I haven't had time to talk to carry about this,
but I will address it for you and then, UM,
heads up. If you are Margaret and you emailed me
a question about the micro derm abrasion and you're fifty
years old and you want to minimize fine lines, I
will talk to Carrie about that when we record. And
then Aubrey, you submitted a question wondering about the light
(22:59):
mask ing UM if asking if I still use it,
And that's something I learned about from the National Beauty Girl,
and yes I still use it. Ordered it on Amazon.
It's at radio mea dot com for Amazon stuff, and
you can you can find my favorite things there on Amazon,
and I do still use it. I know you bought
the newtra Gina one which I think Target has in
(23:20):
case you'll want that one, which is for acne. And
I know, Aubrey you mentioned in the email that your
fiance makes fun of you for wearing it. But welcome
to the club. Like my husband is scared, like most
girls I know, like their husbands aren't totally into it.
But yes, I still use mine. And it is good
for killing bacteria and it is good for building collagen,
so it's fine. Yes, still use it. UM And I
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guess that's it, and I'll have maybe I'll have Nashville
Beauty Girl do a follow up on that too, of
like some of the benefits again, just in case you'll forget.
And then quickly, uh, the eye patches that I've been
talking about on my Amazon that are half the price
of the ones I used to use. I just got
another box in and I'm still using them pretty pumped
and telling all my friends about them. So those are
(24:06):
up as well, and they're like sixteen dollars for the
little jar. And I was thinking, I think Mary and
I may talk about this on the gift guide, so
I'll just save that for Thursday. But I figured that
might be a cute little um gift for somebody in
your life, like or I don't know, is that offensive
to get somebody eye patches. I gave my sister those
gold ones that were really expensive on my Amazon page
(24:28):
one year for Christmas. I wonder I'm gonna have to
ask her if she was offended by that, But these
sixteen ones are great. Or maybe if you're looking for
like a super clutch stocking stuffer, like if you're a
mom listening and you have like a daughter in college
like I would love getting that, or you have a
daughter like my age like this thirty going on forty,
I would love some eye patches. Hook it up. Okay, Uh,
(24:51):
I have rambled long enough, so I'm gonna go. Plus
my whole family's like waiting on me. But I hope
y'all are having a great you know, Tuesday, go going
into the to the holidays, and that you're surrounded by
family and friends and loved ones or somebody um or
you know somebody's all the people in your life um,
(25:11):
and that you are just gonna find things to be
super thankful for, especially this week because it's Thanksgiving. And
then don't forget Thursday will be the Gift Guide episode
with me and Mary Woo
Okay, Happy Tuesday. I feel like I have so much
on my brain right now and so much to say,
and I feel like this is one of those episodes where,
at least maybe right now in the beginning, I'm gonna
kind of be all over the place because I just
have so many thoughts. Um. First of all, we sold
out of our four Things Gratitude journal, and I know
we defined it as a pre order, and some people
were like, wait a second, how can you sell out
(00:21):
of a pre order if you're pre ordering it? Okay,
I guess we should have called it a pre sale
because we had already placed an order with the publisher,
so we had to commit to that upfront, even though
we don't even have the books or the journals in
our hands, so we're still a couple of weeks away
from receiving them. So that's why we called it a
(00:41):
pre order. Um. But we we didn't even think we
would sell out of that amount, So that's why we
were a little surprised we even even pulling that trigger.
We were like, oh, should we do that? Are you sure?
And y'all, our minds are blown, our hearts are full.
They sold out a project Meta Share who they're the
organization we're working with right now in Haiti. Like they
(01:03):
are so pumped. I think we're gonna be able to
hook them up this Christmas. Like when we last year
around Christmas time with all the Christmas shopping, SPA was
supporting my life Speaks and the day after Christmas, I
think we were able to share with them what we
were sending them, and it was a hundred thousand dollars.
And Mary and I will go over this more on
(01:24):
Thursday because we're gonna do a gift guide episode for
y'all where we really go over the products that we have,
but not just SPA products and the Shop Forward product
product Excuse me, I can't talk products and PIM and joy.
We're gonna share with you other items that aren't even
related to us, that don't even give back, even though
we love y'all shopping with companies that give back um
(01:44):
or small businesses or ways you you know, entrepreneurs, female
run business however you want to do it and throw
your support around, like especially when you're doing a lot
of shopping. We're all about that. But we also have
just a lot of things you can find on Amazon
or you can grab at the mall or whatever. We
it's not like your typical gift guide where we have
like specific products through the entire episode that we're talking
(02:06):
about our specific companies. Like we just it's like, we
know that you've got women, men, mom's, dad's kids all
in your life, and we're going to go over things
that we would like to get and that we think
you would enjoy giving or the others in your life
would like to get. From stocking stuffers, two books you
might want to read, to legit presence under the tree. Um,
(02:29):
we'll just kind of go over it all. But obviously
we'll be highlighting a SPA because we wanna that's that's
what we want to support. Anyway, back to Project Medicare
and the journals, they're like freaking out. They were so
excited that we sold out obviously, and so we were
able to order another round. I think we might still actually,
(02:49):
as I record this, be waiting for a confirmation of
if they're going to ship on time. But yeah, just
know that we are working on it. We got some
crazy emails. We got really nice emails that were like, oh,
I'm so bummed I missed out. If you're getting more,
can you please notify me because we had a you know,
a little notification thing up on the website where you
could click to be notified if we get more. But
(03:10):
then we also go at really mean notes where people
were not that joyful, which kind of made me want
to get them a Gratitude Journal even more because studies
show that there, you know, or Burnet Brown even says
there is no joy without gratitude, um or without gratitude,
there is no joy Camember exactly. But we quote her
(03:31):
in our book. We have in our journal. We have
quotes throughout the journal. I don't know if you have
seen pictures. If you're listening right now and you're like, what,
I've never even heard of the four things Gratitude Journal
didn't even know they had one. You can go check
it out at you know, radio amy dot com. And
we are getting more, and I would say, Mary and
I we haven't recorded the Gift Guide episode yet, but
(03:52):
we'll be doing that um this week for Thursday's episode.
So we will announce on Thursday when we're gonna be
selling more journals, because I think by them, we'll have
a confirmation from the publisher. So that in a nutshell,
which is pretty exciting. Thursday's episode will be fun that
will go up on Thanksgiving Day because a lot of
people are gonna be doing shopping, um, and maybe you
(04:14):
all wanna you are gonna be in the shopping spirit
after Thanksgiving, and so we wanted you to be prepared.
And so I would say during that episode, maybe have
a pin and paper out if you want to, so
you can jot down some of the ideas. Or Mary
and might be working on putting something on the website
where it will have all the spawn shop Forward items
(04:34):
that we talked about, but also links to some of
the other products that will link you straight to Amazon
or the store wherever we're talking about. That makes sense, Okay,
all right, well let's get into today's Q and A episode.
I think I think I'm ready for that. I don't know.
I feel like there's something else I wanted to tell y'all.
And this is what I get from not writing down
my thoughts. Um, I'm fully decorated for Christmas. Oh, I
(04:56):
know I would need to give the Keaton Clause episode
that she was on the Q and A a a couple
of weeks ago. Keaton Clause Keaton with a K Claus
with a k that's her Instagram handled too at keating
clause she finally came over and did the Christmas overhaul
at my house and we've got a tree up and
some cute little dick or is nothing too crazy, but
(05:17):
I just feel like totally in the holiday spirit now
that she came and put it all together and I
was traveling and gone and I came kind of came
home and it was it was done, and I was like, oh, Keaton,
I love you, Like this is amazing. But she did
give good tips on the Q and a episode if
you're starting to decorate, because I know a lot of
you after Thanksgiving you'll start to decorate, So she has
some tips you might want to listen to. And then
(05:38):
also on her website, you know, she shares in the
podcast that she does like they have like a virtual
consulting type thing because she knows a lot of you
don't live in Nashville and or it may not be
within your budget to have someone come to your house.
Like that's not lost on us, please, like she even
gets that. But she has made a career out of
(05:58):
this and she's really good at it. So hey, let's
support her even just by like you know, giving her
a shout out on Instagram or following her listening to
her tips, Like, I'm just really proud of her for
going out and doing this. But anyway, some people have
signed up for like to get help online and she'll
send you a list of everything you need to get
and how to get it for like a fee. But anyway,
(06:22):
I guess I was just saying, my household is in
the Christmas spirit. I hope y'all are getting there. I
have my sister and her husband and their four kids
all staying at my house. My in laws arrive tomorrow. Um,
I think on Thanksgiving Day, I'm hosting twenty three people
or so, so should be interesting and fun, Like I
(06:42):
cannot wait. But let me tell you all I ordered.
I was thinking, twenty three people, that's a lot of dishes.
So I ordered like really nice disposable stuff, um like
really nice looking like it just looks like silverware but
it's not. And then the plates look like real plates
but they're not it, And I get it not the
most environmentally friendly, but it's like one day out of
(07:05):
the year, and I just didn't want to do a
bunch of dishes. Well, my sister, she's like Martha Stewart,
and she could not handle that. She's like, food tastes
better on a real plate. We are not using plastic
or paper or anything over Thanksgiving. And I was like, really,
like that just it's just not my personality, Like I
don't care, but I love that she cares. I love
(07:26):
that about my sister. We're just so different. We're alike
in some ways, but we're so different. And so now
that she's at the house, like she's kind of helping
me make it look legit. So if y'all see pictures
on my Instagram of Thanksgiving going down at my house
and it looks really legit, it's not me, it's her.
And she's so good. She has a gift, she's so talented,
and I'm thankful. And then yeah, I hope she's ready
(07:48):
to do the dishes as well, because I'm gonna be like,
this was your idea. Okay, there we go, there's my thoughts. Um,
I'll get into the questions because I have been rambling
for literally like eight minutes, but hopefully all of that
and we'll kind of zip through some of these questions. So, um,
(08:10):
this one is from Anna. I've been a listener for
a little over a year now, and I'm a huge fan.
My fiance is an Air Force pilot, so I've really
been able to relate to you on that level. We're
actually in the middle of his first deployment. Do you
have any advice on how to handle deployments during the holidays?
Any tips would be appreciated. And oh gosh, I mean
(08:32):
everybody's personality is so different. Um, I would say it's
you need to know how the personality of your fiance
is and how he's gonna want it to be handled
on that day, Like does he want constant reminders that
he's not there? Um? Or does he want all the
reminders because he wants to feel like he's there? You know,
(08:55):
like there's that fine line someone might want to be like, yes,
let's talk on Christmas it's a normal day, because over there,
I mean they may get like a turkey. Well, first
of all, every deployment is different. I know for my husband,
he was gone during the holidays sometimes and the base
wherever they were eating was aware like, Okay, this is
this is a holiday these guys are used to celebrating.
(09:15):
Let's make sure that on the menu we've got turkey
and cranberry sauce and dressing and whatever. Some guys may
not have that luxury, but your fancy's air force. So
I'm thinking maybe, um, people used to get my husband
a hard time that we're in different branches of the
military because they say air forces like the kush one.
So um, again, I don't know where he is, what
(09:37):
he has going on, but he'll have little things maybe
that will be there for him to kind of still
that void and remind him that it's a holiday and
he's not with his family. Um. But if you're having
tons of fun back home and doing this and that
and this and that, you know, there's two types of people.
One would want to hear every detail of what you're
(09:57):
doing that's amazing for the holidays, and another might be like,
spare me the details, wish me a merry Christmas, but
I'll find out more about it when I get back,
because it's too hard for me to witness what's going
on without me. And I feel like, you know, fomo,
you know what I mean. So UM, I would say,
gauge the personality and then continue on with your traditions,
(10:18):
be with your family, honor him as though he's he's there.
With you. Maybe do something that he loves to if
you know, if there's like some Christmas game or Christmas
movie or Christmas song or his favorite meal or his
favorite dish or whatever that you he wouldn't really enjoy
if he was there, Like do all that, like everything
you're it's a fiance. So I don't know if you'll
(10:40):
have kids, are not? I'm assuming no, But maybe someone's
listening right now and you're married and it's your first
appointment and you've got kids, um, and you're probably or
maybe it's not your first one. You're still trying to
figure it out. And again, my my advice is not
like you know, legit advice, but I'm just giving you
what I know worked for me and my husband. Um,
(11:02):
but do continue on the traditions with the kids. Take
lots of pictures. Again, you either share the pictures when
your person gets home, whether it's your husband or your wife,
or you send them to them right away. Um, Which
I mean, aren't we so lucky we live in a
digital time where we can face time with our deployed spouses.
We can uh, you know, email pictures right away. Like
(11:25):
my father in law was at Vietnam and for he
was gone a lot, and like my mother in law
and like my husband and his sister, like, they used
to have to record messages to him on like a
cassette tape and then they would mail it and he
would get it and he would play the cassette tape
and get to hear their voices. Or they would have
(11:45):
to do handwritten letters, which you know, I would say,
that is something cool that we don't do enough of
that you should do because it's so easy to just
send your loved one deployed an email and say, hey,
we're thinking, but if you can get ahead and maybe
send that like now, I don't know how long it
takes your fiance to get stuff, um anna but or
(12:07):
anybody listening, but I used to have to mail stuff
like weeks in advance, so that would be like now,
if you want them to get it by Christmas, but
a handwritten card and maybe some cookies and like care packages,
um or something thoughtful or something thoughtful for other people. Now.
I have even read stuff before where some spouses say,
like enough with the care packages that guys don't really care,
(12:27):
but whatever, I don't care. I'd rather send something and
nobody care about it. Did not send anything, and people
be like, what the heck, we don't have anything. UM,
So I would send extra stuff and then my husband
would set it out and they had like a common
area and they would put like candy or cookies or
different things, coffee that everybody could kind of take from.
Because there's some guys deployed over there that don't have
(12:49):
they don't have anything, they don't have anybody mailing them
a dang thing. So if you can brighten another soldier's
day to um, you know, that's helpful, or send extra
car It's like if you do have kids, have them
like decorate cards for not just their loved one that's
over there, um, but just kind of they just remain
generic for other people to enjoy. Um. Make time to
(13:14):
connect as much as you can, again based on that
person's personality. UM. I don't know. I don't know really
how to give any other helpful information other than that,
but I would just it's like there's there's two types
of people. The person that wants to be in on
every detail or the person that wants the details maybe
when they get back home, but you know, just feel
(13:36):
it out, let them know, but definitely don't let traditions
slip even though they're just not around, like keep it up,
take the pictures, play the games, watch the movies, have
all the fun. You know, it's hard too, is the
spouse when or the fiance or the girlfriend or the
boyfriend or whatever, when the loved one is gone and
everyone's like trying to cheer you up and it's just sad,
(13:58):
And it's okay sometimes if you just want to go,
like be by yourself for your at Christmas parties and
it's starting to be a real bummer because your significant
others not. They're like, it's okay to go home and
go to bed early and take a bath and pour
a glass of wine and go to sleep like it's fine.
Everyone will understand. Next question is from Christie. I know
the type of mom and wife I want to be,
(14:19):
and I strive to be that person every day. I
think writing in a gratitude journal would help even more.
I have never been one to talk too much about
my feelings, but I do not know where to start
or even if I can get myself to pick up
that pin again. Do you have tips on becoming a
writer again? And now I just want to say, like
if this was um this email was triggered maybe because
(14:41):
of the gratitude journals. Obviously we put those out. I
just want to say that to express gratitude or write
down things that you are thankful for or requires no
writing skills. And I think, um, you know, because I
can't write. And that's why Mary and I wanted to
come up with the journal, was because we knew we
should be, you know, writing down things that we were
(15:04):
thankful for, um. Because we just hear over and over
how great that is for you to do. UM. But
we aren't journal ors either, and it's intimidating and overwhelming
because we can't write. So I would say, Christie, just
pick up the pin and start writing. And the more
you do it, the more you'll start to open up.
I even found that, like if I as, I've been
(15:25):
starting to do it more and more. Sometimes it's like
one or two things. And then even that's why we
put stickers in the journal too, is because for when
you don't have the words, you can just put a
sticker maybe of something that you're thankful for. If we've
got one in there that applies to something, uh, you
know that you've done recently, they're like okay, yeah, that
I'm thankful for that, but um, you know, or you
(15:47):
can make it like a whole little paragraph, which I
have found myself doing that, sometimes one or two words,
sometimes like a really like something that happened, like I
shared an experience with my dad or with my kids,
and I'm gonna have that as a memory. And so
it is getting me out of my comfort zone and
it's allowing me to do it. But I feel you, Christie,
(16:08):
and you just got to pick up the pen. That
would be my tip to you is just start writing.
Who cares how it sounds like this is gonna be
something for you. And if anything, if you go back
and like read your gratitude journals like in the future,
and you go back and see what you wrote, like
you can laugh at yourself how you wrote it and
(16:28):
then maybe see how you progressed. I really feel like
it is going to make me a better journal er.
But who cares if it doesn't, like, it's really not
the point. The point is recognizing things that you're grateful
for and putting it on paper. That way, it's there
and it's important and we all should be doing it.
Even if you don't have a gratitude journal. Just join
(16:50):
us in the four Things movement. None of us even
have the journals yet. Shoot, I told you on the
intro before I when started the questions that we don't
even have We have one copy and that's the one
I've been writing in one copy. But just get a
piece of paper and or get your own blank journal
and write down four things every day. And maybe you
don't do it every day, who cares? Like, just do
(17:12):
it as much as you can and start recognizing the
things in your life that you're thankful for and see
if you notice a difference in your attitude and your
overall being and in your sleep and just who you
are as a person. Next question is from Aaron. I
was hoping you could do one thing on how to
disconnect from cable or answer how to cut the chord
on your fifth Thing podcast. Wait what, I'm trying to
(17:36):
convince my husband to get rid of our cable, but
he isn't insisting that. Oh, she wants me to Okay,
she wanted me to address it on this episode. Sorry
for a second there, when I read that question out
loud for the first time, it sounded like she wanted
to cut the chord on my podcast, Like how can
I stop listening to your fifth thing? Okay, Aaron, My bad.
So you just want to know how to cut the chord,
(17:56):
and you want to addressed on the fifth thing, which
is exactly what's happening. Um, you're trying to convince your
husband and get rid of the cable, but he's insistent
that you keep it because of football and hockey. Um,
my husband was the same way, Aaron. But we got
rid of it and through Hulu Live, we're able to
watch sports, so you should be fine. Now, we're not
big hockey people, so I don't really know for sure,
but I know you can watch live sports, so it
(18:18):
should be a non issue. We have not missed a
football game and we do not have cable, so it
is possible. And I will say, um, the main things
we have right now, all of that is done through
Hulu Live, by the way. Um, but then we also
have like on our TV. We but if if you
don't have a smart TV, I guess you can't really
(18:40):
do the apps. I'm not sure, but you can do
him on your computer. Like, I don't feel like we're
missing out on any TV because of Netflix and Amazon
Prime and Apple TV. And our bill is still so
much less than it was, and we had cable and
we don't have a bunch of ridiculous stations that were
not ever watching. Um. I will say the one thing
that's a bummer about this is the Hallmark Christmas Movie channel.
(19:00):
There's no Hallmark channel, so I'm still trying to figure
that out. Like I've been having to watch those other
ways on my computer. But I want to cook, like
snuggle up on the couch and watch one and not
on my computer. I want to watch it on like
the big TV. So I'm telling my husband, like, You've
got to figure this out because this is so important.
But Aaron, tell your husband it's totally fine. He will
(19:22):
be able to watch football and hockey. Next question is
from Sarah. She said this one might be if we're
the Nashville Beauty Girl. Um, when it comes to washing
your face, she said, I've heard a lot of your
(19:42):
podcast stuff on facial things. Is it okay to use
a makeup remover wipe followed with a wash rag with
warm water and call it good? I mean, I still
apply night cream, but I don't wash with my soap
at night, just wondered her thoughts. I can't be the
only one who does this right. I mean, when I
read this, Sarah, I is like, oh, I don't really
know how I feel about this. Um. Actually, I had
(20:07):
some breakouts happening the last time I went to see Carrie,
which is the natural Beauty girl, and she asked me,
are you wiping your face off with a makeup remover wipe?
And then is that like, is that what you're doing?
And I told her no, I'm just washing my face.
And I don't know why she asked me that because
we never expanded on it. And I will tell you
(20:28):
that I'm gonna be recording a podcast with her and
her husband, Dr Drew Um. He's a dermatologist or like
a most surgeon like dermatologist type person um, which we're
having them come on to do like a joint thing.
So I'll address this with her. Um. But my husband
just had malanoma removed from his face, so he had
(20:51):
skin cancer taken off of his face, like right in
the middle of his face. And like, this scar is
no joke. But because it was done by a most
surgeon in like six weeks, there's not supposed to be
a scar. I mean, I don't know. It seems pretty insane.
To me because the scar was massive and there were
so many stitches, but uh, it's we're going to kind
of talk about uh skin protection, sun damage, uh kind
(21:12):
of what early detection and how great it is that
my husband went in and I had to prompt him
to go in and do it. Like, my husband has
had this thing kind of just growing in his face
and it wasn't really serious looking, and it wasn't raised.
It just started to look a little suspicious to me,
and it was not going away, and it was just
getting a little bit bigger. And I was like, you've
got to go in. You have to make an appointment,
(21:32):
you have to go in, and he wouldn't. So finally
I just made him an appointment with Carrie and he
went to see her and she was like, you have
to go to a legit dermatologist right now. So I
called a dermatologist from Carrie's office, and because she was concerned,
he finally was listening to an expert and went into
the dermatologist say, biopsied it, and sure enough, it was
skin cancer. So I just would urge you if you
(21:55):
see anything suspicious on a loved one and they're kind
of being hard headed about it, urged them to go
to the doc. Or maybe it's you. You're you're ignoring
something on your body that you shouldn't. Try to go
to a doctor and get a biopseed and see if
it's anything serious. Um, so that you can catch it early. Um.
But that's a sidebarrow Nashville Beauty Girl, because Sarah, I'll
(22:16):
when I have her on, I'll ask this question about
the facial wipes because I would say no, if I
was you, I would use the soap and wash your
face really good and then put your night cream on,
because to me, I just don't feel like those wipes
really get it clean. And then like you could do
a wipe and then wash your face so you get
it like extra clean. But then I don't know that
might be too much. So I'm not the expert, and
(22:38):
I haven't had time to talk to carry about this,
but I will address it for you and then, UM,
heads up. If you are Margaret and you emailed me
a question about the micro derm abrasion and you're fifty
years old and you want to minimize fine lines, I
will talk to Carrie about that when we record. And
then Aubrey, you submitted a question wondering about the light
(22:59):
mask ing UM if asking if I still use it,
And that's something I learned about from the National Beauty Girl,
and yes I still use it. Ordered it on Amazon.
It's at radio mea dot com for Amazon stuff, and
you can you can find my favorite things there on Amazon,
and I do still use it. I know you bought
the newtra Gina one which I think Target has in
(23:20):
case you'll want that one, which is for acne. And
I know, Aubrey you mentioned in the email that your
fiance makes fun of you for wearing it. But welcome
to the club. Like my husband is scared, like most
girls I know, like their husbands aren't totally into it.
But yes, I still use mine. And it is good
for killing bacteria and it is good for building collagen,
so it's fine. Yes, still use it. UM And I
(23:44):
guess that's it, and I'll have maybe I'll have Nashville
Beauty Girl do a follow up on that too, of
like some of the benefits again, just in case you'll forget.
And then quickly, uh, the eye patches that I've been
talking about on my Amazon that are half the price
of the ones I used to use. I just got
another box in and I'm still using them pretty pumped
and telling all my friends about them. So those are
(24:06):
up as well, and they're like sixteen dollars for the
little jar. And I was thinking, I think Mary and
I may talk about this on the gift guide, so
I'll just save that for Thursday. But I figured that
might be a cute little um gift for somebody in
your life, like or I don't know, is that offensive
to get somebody eye patches. I gave my sister those
gold ones that were really expensive on my Amazon page
(24:28):
one year for Christmas. I wonder I'm gonna have to
ask her if she was offended by that, But these
sixteen ones are great. Or maybe if you're looking for
like a super clutch stocking stuffer, like if you're a
mom listening and you have like a daughter in college
like I would love getting that, or you have a
daughter like my age like this thirty going on forty,
I would love some eye patches. Hook it up. Okay, Uh,
(24:51):
I have rambled long enough, so I'm gonna go. Plus
my whole family's like waiting on me. But I hope
y'all are having a great you know, Tuesday, go going
into the to the holidays, and that you're surrounded by
family and friends and loved ones or somebody um or
you know somebody's all the people in your life um,
(25:11):
and that you are just gonna find things to be
super thankful for, especially this week because it's Thanksgiving. And
then don't forget Thursday will be the Gift Guide episode
with me and Mary Woo
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