January 14, 2020 • 23 mins
This is Amy’s ‘5th Thing’ (a bonus episode) where she answers your questions every Tuesday! ‘4 Things With Amy Brown’ comes out every Thursday, but on Tuesdays Amy answers questions you’ve emailed in. On today’s episode Amy addresses your questions: Her review on Magic Spoon Cereal, seeing a therapist while coping with a loved one’s battle with cancer, relationship advice to a couple just starting out and if she thinks the mail-in food allergy tests are worth it.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's Tuesday, Q and a day on the Bobby Bones Show.
There's a Tuesday song. I've told you all this on
the podcast before, but now anytime I say Tuesday because
the Raging Idiots have a song and we sing it
on Tuesday's, well, no, I just anytime now I hear
anybody says Tuesday in my head of like Tuesday, Eh,
(00:21):
joel ay Dousday, Real Housewives, Boozday, eat some cash shoosday,
like it never fails now. So and I think Bobby's
even making like shirts that say Tuesday. So I'm sure
he'll sell them and they'll go to charity or something.
But Tuesday is definitely becoming a thing, which is fun
because it's the day that our Fifth Thing is released,
(00:41):
and I've got Chase here with me today. Maybe you
hear him. If you're like, what's that other voice? Maybe
you're new. I'll explain that. Tuesday's we do a Q
and a episode called the Fifth Thing, and then on
Thursdays is the Four Things podcast, where we go over
four different things, either totally different, random or maybe with
one person that we're interviewing. It just depends. Every week
(01:02):
is really different. But I will say we're recording at
my house today and it's upstairs in my garage apartment,
and we walk up the stairs and I get out
of breath and like, I'm in good shape. It's weird
if I don't know, why are those stairs just deep
or something? Because anytime I come up and I want
to record something real quick, I have to pause and
sit here for a second and catch my breath so
(01:24):
that I don't come on air. And I'm like, but
you kind of like we're doing a few other things too,
and going straight into coming up here. And I guess
it's because we walk from the house through the yard.
I mean that far. Actually, I'm trying to make an excuse,
but I'm trying to figure out why the heck I
would be out of breath. So we've got questions from
(01:45):
you guys today. We pulled these from the email for
Things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. If you
send questions in there, you never know when they might
get addressed during an episode. So with that said, Chase
is going to read the questions. I will give an
answer first. One is from Robin. Hey, Amy, my question
(02:06):
is if you enjoyed your order of magic spoons Cereal,
do you recommend it. I remember we ordered this and
I never followed up with you on it. Oh did
you get it? Oh? I got it. Oh it's so good.
I mean, it's definitely expensive, so I guess that's why
some people are hesitant because of the price. And I
totally get that. It is expensive cereal. It's adult cereal,
(02:29):
it's mature cereal. It's like MS cereal if you're not
necessarily on a budget cereal. But so my friend Jackie,
who I work with at my Heart, she really wanted
to try it, so I ordered the Variety pack. I
thought it was really great. It's a cereal that has
more quality ingredients than you would see in other cereals,
(02:50):
I guess, and then it has protein added to it,
so somehow in the mix it's more nutritious for you.
At least that's what we're telling ourselves. But I really
liked it, and uh, some of my friends wanted to
try it, well, Jackie in particular. So other friends of
mine have ordered it. But Jackie was like, I don't
want to commit to this. It's expensive, and if you
(03:12):
order the problem is you either have to order the
bundle like the variety pack. And I told her. I
wasn't a big fan of the fruity and cinnamon was
just okay to me, but chocolate and vanilla were my favorite.
And she's like, well, if I order vanilla, I have
to order four a four pack, and if I order
chocolate after the same thing has to be a four pack.
So I said, okay, here's we're gonna do. I would
like some vanilla and chocolate. So I ordered a four
(03:34):
pack of chocolate. She ordered a four pack of vanilla,
and on Saturday she came to my house and we
did a swap. It was like our yeah. And actually
I wasn't even home because I was picking up my dad,
but Stashiro was home, my daughter, so I had to
call her and I said, go in the pantry, put
two boxes of that cereal in a bag. A girl's
gonna knock on the door. Give her the bag. She's
(03:54):
going to hand you a bag. Put it in the pantry.
It sounds it is our magic spoon cereal deal, like
our version of a drug deal. And I'm so glad
we did it because it was our way of beating
the system. Like I ended up getting to Vanilla's two chocolates,
which I like to mix. If you order it, maybe
(04:15):
finds a friend that you can do this with. Is
that way you save a little money. And then I
mix the chocolate and the vanilla in like a survey.
I could do a little bit of chocolate and then
I pour my unsweet and vanilla almond milk on top
and it is so good. So yeah, so chocolate and vanilla,
those chocolatella, those were my favorite flavors. But again, you
can't order just but you know, it's definitely something to
(04:40):
look into. Maybe you've got four friends that want to
try it, and you order a four pack, and then
you'll all split it four ways and you would just
have a four pack, wouldn't you know? You would each
get one box and you wouldn't have to spit. The
problem is chase follow me. The problem is I think
once people try it, if they realize they like it
and they want to invest in cereal, great, But if
you're wanting to try it for the first time and
(05:02):
you're like, what, I have to order a four pack?
I don't even know if I like this stuff, that's
that's the investment. So therefore, if you have four friends,
you each get one box and it's one fourth the price.
All right, okay, thank you, all right. Next question? Alright,
This next one is from Meredith. Hey, Amy, I'm dealing
Can I just say to you, I'm not affiliated with
Magic Student in any way, shape or form. I don't
(05:23):
even know the website magic tune dot Com. Maybe so
we found it on Amazon when we were looking last night.
I don't think so. Amazon would be way too tempting
or easy to warp it. No, no, no, no no no,
because if stuffs on Amazon, I'm like, fine, it's not
real money. I mean it is real money. I'm delusional
for thinking that that it's you know. Next question, Okay,
(05:48):
this one's from Meredith. Hey, Amy, I'm dealing with my
mom being on the decline with cancer. Did you seek
help to deal with your situation elsewhere? I've been toyed
with seeing a therapist to help me cope. Curious your thoughts.
I've never seen a therapist before and just want to
know what you thought. Okay, So, Meredith, Oh gosh, this
is so hard and I'm so sorry that you're dealing
with this, but I highly recommend um getting outside help
(06:11):
for this because there's so much you're going to encounter
towards the end and I didn't. I didn't. I didn't
seek therapy or legit counseling till after she passed. But
my mom actually was in counseling before she died, like
was going to therapy to prepare for end of life,
like we knew she was dying, and she went to
(06:32):
and I would take her. So I think after her
sessions sometimes we would talk through some stuff. So maybe
that was counseling for me. But I really think my
sister and I should have done it, and we could
have handled some of it a little bit better. But
you're never really prepared. And then we were in a
hospice situation with my mom, which the people that worked
there were amazing, and they gave us a lot of
information to help prepare our minds and our hearts for
(06:54):
what was about to happen. And so maybe you could
consider that a little bit of therapy, but everybody is
so different. I think the more you can get ahead
of something like this, I can't say for sure it's
going to make it any better any easier, because oh
my gosh, look at your mother. But it can't hurt,
(07:17):
and it'll give you the tools you need to equip
yourself for what is to come. And with that, I
could say that I could hope you could just navigate
it better, but it's still going to be a very
very hard, difficult time. But my answer would be like,
if you have access to therapy, do it. Yes, all right.
This next one is from Rory. Hey, Amy, I wanted
(07:39):
to see if you had any advice for the beginning
stages of a relationship. I just started in. I just
started dating a new guy for only two months in
and I feel like this could be a really great relationship.
With that being said, I want to make sure we
kind of start off in a healthy place. Do you
have any tips for just starting out by two months?
Ben was proposing to me. You my husband, Like, we
(08:01):
started dating in July, engaged in October, married in December.
So and then yeah, yeah, some of my relationships in
college that I was like super serious about like lasted
two months. So I really don't know that I am
the best person to ask, but I think that you
(08:23):
know when you're in the beginning of a relationship. I
think communication, well, communication is always key in the beginning,
in the middle, towards the end, you've got to communicate.
Especially we want to make it towards the end with them, um,
and you have to continue to work on yourself and
grow and keep being you and make sure that you
try to see all sides of them that you can,
and they see all sides of you that they can.
(08:45):
And we're always evolving, so you know, it's not like
you're going to know in this moment who they're going
to be ten years from now, but whoever they are
at the moment, just focus on getting to know that person,
but also don't lose yourself in them, Like you, I
don't know you're only I don't know you didn't say
(09:05):
your age, so I don't know how old you are,
or what you're past dating relationships are like, or what
you even want out of this relationship. But I think
that you, if you want it to work, for one,
don't lose yourself in it, because I think I was
a little guilty of that sometimes, just throwing myself aside
and being like Okay, I just was like, so wanted
(09:27):
to be with this person, and I was like, Okay,
whatever you need me to do, and then, uh, you know,
put in put in the work to make it whatever
it is you want it to be. And then communicate openly, honestly,
have fun, right, I mean, what would you say? I mean,
I'm trying. I'm looking for some advice myself. I'm like
(09:48):
listening to you right now, I'm like, I don't I
mean communication and any do you find someone recently that
maybe you kind of like? Okay? But see the thing
right now that I'm dealing with is I mean we
talk on the phone, but also she likes to text,
and I think that most women do. I'm just like, well,
(10:09):
but I mean she might like you wait, your old
school you want to talk on the phone. I do like,
I don't like, I don't like to me like text
and send it as the mail have the mailman. I
still do write letters, actually, and I can see you
doing that. Yeah. I do a lot of cards anyways.
So I guess that's interesting. So you're struggling because you
(10:31):
want to talk on the phone and she wants to text. Yeah, Like,
I don't like to text all day, you know, but
I love like you know, when you get done with
work or in the evening whatever, catching up talking about
you on the phone, ever call you or you have
to call her. No, it's I'd say it's mutual. It's like, yeah,
but the texting part, like and I'm cool with like
a few texts here and there, but like when you
(10:51):
get into, like I don't know, trying to have like
a full blown discussion about something via you'll do voice
memo texting where you talked to next. I've never done
that once. I've never done neither. I think I tested
it out once to see if it would work with
Bobby and then I don't. Actually Caroline Hobby now Caroline
(11:12):
Cuver Hobby now she's the Get Real podcast, which she's
come on my podcast before two. But she sent me
a voice text the other night to explain this video
that I had sent her about or I had made
for her, like back in two thousand and fourteen for
marriage advice. I was like, it's like we were at
(11:33):
a bar, or her concert or her husband's band was
playing some I heart event I think maybe, and she
was at a bachelorette party two and they were there
at the concert was part of the night. And they
were on a scavenger hunt too as part of the
bachelorette party, which that's a fun thing to do. I
just in case you got a bachelotte party or in
charge of planning, like try to plan a scavenger hunt
(11:53):
for everybody to go around town. And I guess one
of the things that they had to record or get
advice for married people that they ran into. And so
I was married, and she filmed me, and I gave
the marriage advice, and it was that you shouldn't go
to bed or people say you shouldn't go to bed mad.
(12:16):
And I said in the video, I don't even remember
making this, but and so, but my point is, let
me finish this point and then I'll tell you what
my advice was. I had text her what is that from?
And it was a long obviously that was a long explanation,
and so for her to tipe that ou would take forever.
So she recorded a voice memo and send it to me,
and I was like, Okay, this is a moment where
(12:36):
a voice to text like really makes sense because she
didn't have to type all that out because it was
kind of confusing. So anyway, and then my advice was
that I would I would play back the audio for you.
But it's like a loud band in the background, and honestly,
I wasn't even talking about it, thinking of planning on
talking about this, so I didn't have it prepared, but
(12:57):
I said, people say to not go to bed angry,
but I say it's fine, like if you're fighting, I
mean my husband, and I am not saying this is
for everybody, but we don't abide by that rule. Sometimes
we don't. We try not to sleep apart or like
that's it's like we've tough it out in the same bed,
but we just go to bed, because when you continue
(13:20):
the argument and it's going on and on and there's
no resolve and then you're tired on top of that,
to me, it just prolongs the argument. And then sometimes
if you just get sleep and you sleep it off,
then you wake up and you're like, well, huh, we
were even arguing about I don't even know. It wasn't
even that big of a deal. We were just tired.
I think that's great. Or if it was a big deal,
then you've slept on it and you're rested and you
(13:41):
can have a more thoughtful argument and you can say
what you mean versus saying things that you don't. So
that was my advice. That's my advice. So I don't
know if that'll be useful to anybody, but no, I
think that's awesome. Okay, well, good luck with that girl
that you're texting with. Oh I thought, were yeah, you Rory,
(14:02):
good luck with your two months in relationships going to
go the distance? All right. This one's from Kristen Amy
on the Bobby Bones Show. I remember you talking about
a test you did to determine food sensitivities. I believe
(14:24):
kale was on the list of things you should avoid.
What test company was this and did you find it helpful? Oh? Man,
I thought at the time I was being so cutting edge,
and I mean I really wasn't because tons of people
have done it. But I thought I am just like
getting so much insight on my body and knowing about
myself and nobody else does. But I mean I had
(14:46):
to invest a lot. First of all, it was super expensive,
and no, I do not recommend it. I don't recommend
the company I used. That's why I'm not even going
to say in the name is because I thought at
the time maybe I was using a legit company because
of the dollar amount I was ending. But I then
after that met with Kelly Laveck, who is the nutrition
She's come on the podcast. But again she's like a
(15:09):
celebrity nutritionist. I don't know her credentials per se, because
I know I was calling her a certain thing, and
then I had people emailing me after that were like
different types of nutritionists that were like, it's so offensive
when people call themselves this and that. Look, I don't know.
She's very educated in the realm of health and wellness
and food and our bodies. And I was talking to
(15:32):
her about the food sensitivity tests that I did and
Mary did it too, and I think Bobby did it. Yeah,
so it's said I did. Someone came to my house
drew my blood. Then I mailed it off to a
lab and then they emailed me my results and it
said like on my severe was coffee. That I will
(15:56):
agree with because and I actually have cut back on
coffee consumption. I love coffee. I still have it from
time to time, but I would notice the more I drank,
like the dark circles under my eyes were worse. I
had a little more inflammation. I wasn't as clear and
focused as I should be. But also on my severe
was like blueberries and avocados and Tracy Anderson, who I
(16:20):
love doing her workouts. She avocado is one of her
food sensitivities, so she stays away from it because it
bloats her. But whenever I eat avocado, I'm like, I
don't really notice anything change. So I don't know if
that was accurate. Same thing with blueberries. But in my head,
here's why it's messed up. Well, first of all, I
really may a plan out my thoughts because I just
(16:41):
felt all over the place. But Kelly Leveck told me
that she didn't know if I could trust that place
that I used because they're just taking they were taking
my blood and just basing it off of like, um uh,
like I don't even know how to word it. Gosh,
what is the best way for me to say this? Um? A,
(17:04):
what is it? When you get not a sample? Like, yes,
they drew like a sample conclusion like that if this
many people had this type of blood, it meant like
they were sensitive to that. But it doesn't mean that
every single person is. But the odds are if you
this is what's in your blood, then you might be.
It just wasn't as accurate as they made it seem
(17:25):
it was going to be. And of course she had
a way fancier way of saying it, and I just
butchered it, but hopefully that makes sense. I I but
I took it as here was the problem with it,
especially with someone that had a needing disorder at the time.
And I don't recommend it really for anybody that does
unless you truly are trying to figure you truly want
(17:46):
to figure out your body. And I will go back
to the appropriate person when the time is right, which
that was what Kelly recommended, was to go to a
doctor in your city, find a professional that specializes in it,
that can meet with you and explain everything to you.
I mean, I was just getting stuff off of a
website and I could call one number and they would
look up my case number. They didn't know anything about
(18:07):
me and any other things. And so if you're going
to invest the money, you could do that now, I
will say. Aaron Oprah on my trainer, she's a fan
of that penn Er test, which I see a lot
of people on Instagram post about. I've never used it,
but hey, you could try it. But I feel like
that's maybe sort of the same thing that I did,
But who knows, it could be better. It might be better,
(18:29):
but that could be one you could look into. Because
Aaron swears by it, like she it told her she
was sensitive to onions. Now, this doesn't mean you're allergic
to something. It's a food sensitivity. Like you have stuff
that's you're in the clear on, you have stuff you
as moderate, and then you have stuff that's severe. And
(18:49):
onions are severe for her. And she said, oh my gosh,
Like I just realized, like anytime I eat onions, my
stomach gets so bloated. And kale was on my severe too.
And I used to eat kale all the time, like
it was like a thing. And but I think because
I ate it all the time, maybe I didn't notice
it when I cut it out. Here's the crazy war.
I cut it out because it was on the thing
(19:12):
and I thought, oh my gosh, like this is my
new food bible, like I have to abide by this list.
And again that was the problem with me having and
eating new swords. I took it so seriously that it
affected how I ate. Like, so anyway, I cut the
kale out. Well six months later after I decided I
(19:32):
kind of want some kale, like it's fine. It hurt
my stomach, Like it messed up my stomach like big time.
So now I don't even now, I don't even touch kale.
Then put kale chips in my stocking. So so Christmas
e well, he was trying to be sweet. It was sweet.
(19:54):
He went to Whole Foods to fill up my stocking
because he knows that I want to eat healthy and
I don't want a bunch of like candy or whatever.
Um I don't like It's not like I want a
bunch of like Reese's Christmas trees, although those are my favorite.
Uh So he went and got all this like cute
(20:14):
fun stuff from Whole Foods, and inside of that was
also a bag of kill chips or whatever. And I
told him, I was like, oh my gosh, thank you
for these. But I haven't been able to eat these
for about a year because they messed me up, so
I can't eat them anymore. But I used to be
able to eat them all the time, all the time.
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It wasn't until I eliminated them, which I think maybe
I was just used to. However, I was feeling maybe
my body was like, okay, fine, we'll figure out how
to deal with the sill. And now that I eliminated
it for a long time, and then when I reintroduced it.
My body was like, oh heck, no time for that.
But it was my severe so I don't know, maybe
there's something to it. And the test was a little
(20:56):
bit right. But Kelly said for me, if I was
going to spend money, that I need to like go
to someone that I can meet with and that can
take more than just like my blood that I mail in.
So that is my advice on a food sensitivity test.
I think it can be helpful if done correctly, and
(21:17):
I don't know that I have had it done correctly,
so I speak from a place of doing it. Uh
you know, just kind of yeah, maybe wrong, maybe just
kind of right. Um. I am going to a new
chiropractor this week. I'm super excited about it. I have
this like chronic back pain and I had gone to
(21:39):
another chiropractor and then I just was, I don't know,
turned off by that the whole situation, and I was
going to start physical therapy. But then I have been
really intrigued by this one chiropractor for about seven months
and my friend got me in with him, and so
I was like, oh, well, then I have to go
because I'm just curious. And I filled out all the
(21:59):
paperwork in this or y, and it was so many
more questions other than just about my back, Like he
wanted to know if I had taken one of these tests,
if I had ever done twenty three in me or
ancestry dot Com or anything, because you want to know
my family history. Was my body like he cares about
all the things and the trauma in your life that
could be causing pain in your body and like digestion
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and all that. So I'm, of course I'm super holistic obviously, well,
and you'll need to follow up on that, which isn't
that strange for a chiropractor. But he just seems like
I just like his vibe. I've never met him on Instagram.
I just like his vibe. So I'm kind of excited
(22:40):
about my appointment. It's gonna be I mean, it was.
I'll follow up and let you'll know how it goes
and see what that appointment is like. But I'm gonna
I'll ask him what he thinks about these foods and
activity tests and if he has a good one, maybe
if you will, Okay, well, that's gonna be it for
today's Q and A. UM. We appreciate you'all sending questions.
(23:05):
We will have a new Four Things episode up this Friday,
so make sure you come back for that and then yeah,
I hope you'll have a great, great week, Chase, stay
bye bye bye
It's Tuesday, Q and a day on the Bobby Bones Show.
There's a Tuesday song. I've told you all this on
the podcast before, but now anytime I say Tuesday because
the Raging Idiots have a song and we sing it
on Tuesday's, well, no, I just anytime now I hear
anybody says Tuesday in my head of like Tuesday, Eh,
(00:21):
joel ay Dousday, Real Housewives, Boozday, eat some cash shoosday,
like it never fails now. So and I think Bobby's
even making like shirts that say Tuesday. So I'm sure
he'll sell them and they'll go to charity or something.
But Tuesday is definitely becoming a thing, which is fun
because it's the day that our Fifth Thing is released,
(00:41):
and I've got Chase here with me today. Maybe you
hear him. If you're like, what's that other voice? Maybe
you're new. I'll explain that. Tuesday's we do a Q
and a episode called the Fifth Thing, and then on
Thursdays is the Four Things podcast, where we go over
four different things, either totally different, random or maybe with
one person that we're interviewing. It just depends. Every week
(01:02):
is really different. But I will say we're recording at
my house today and it's upstairs in my garage apartment,
and we walk up the stairs and I get out
of breath and like, I'm in good shape. It's weird
if I don't know, why are those stairs just deep
or something? Because anytime I come up and I want
to record something real quick, I have to pause and
sit here for a second and catch my breath so
(01:24):
that I don't come on air. And I'm like, but
you kind of like we're doing a few other things too,
and going straight into coming up here. And I guess
it's because we walk from the house through the yard.
I mean that far. Actually, I'm trying to make an excuse,
but I'm trying to figure out why the heck I
would be out of breath. So we've got questions from
(01:45):
you guys today. We pulled these from the email for
Things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com. If you
send questions in there, you never know when they might
get addressed during an episode. So with that said, Chase
is going to read the questions. I will give an
answer first. One is from Robin. Hey, Amy, my question
(02:06):
is if you enjoyed your order of magic spoons Cereal,
do you recommend it. I remember we ordered this and
I never followed up with you on it. Oh did
you get it? Oh? I got it. Oh it's so good.
I mean, it's definitely expensive, so I guess that's why
some people are hesitant because of the price. And I
totally get that. It is expensive cereal. It's adult cereal,
(02:29):
it's mature cereal. It's like MS cereal if you're not
necessarily on a budget cereal. But so my friend Jackie,
who I work with at my Heart, she really wanted
to try it, so I ordered the Variety pack. I
thought it was really great. It's a cereal that has
more quality ingredients than you would see in other cereals,
(02:50):
I guess, and then it has protein added to it,
so somehow in the mix it's more nutritious for you.
At least that's what we're telling ourselves. But I really
liked it, and uh, some of my friends wanted to
try it, well, Jackie in particular. So other friends of
mine have ordered it. But Jackie was like, I don't
want to commit to this. It's expensive, and if you
(03:12):
order the problem is you either have to order the
bundle like the variety pack. And I told her. I
wasn't a big fan of the fruity and cinnamon was
just okay to me, but chocolate and vanilla were my favorite.
And she's like, well, if I order vanilla, I have
to order four a four pack, and if I order
chocolate after the same thing has to be a four pack.
So I said, okay, here's we're gonna do. I would
like some vanilla and chocolate. So I ordered a four
(03:34):
pack of chocolate. She ordered a four pack of vanilla,
and on Saturday she came to my house and we
did a swap. It was like our yeah. And actually
I wasn't even home because I was picking up my dad,
but Stashiro was home, my daughter, so I had to
call her and I said, go in the pantry, put
two boxes of that cereal in a bag. A girl's
gonna knock on the door. Give her the bag. She's
(03:54):
going to hand you a bag. Put it in the pantry.
It sounds it is our magic spoon cereal deal, like
our version of a drug deal. And I'm so glad
we did it because it was our way of beating
the system. Like I ended up getting to Vanilla's two chocolates,
which I like to mix. If you order it, maybe
(04:15):
finds a friend that you can do this with. Is
that way you save a little money. And then I
mix the chocolate and the vanilla in like a survey.
I could do a little bit of chocolate and then
I pour my unsweet and vanilla almond milk on top
and it is so good. So yeah, so chocolate and vanilla,
those chocolatella, those were my favorite flavors. But again, you
can't order just but you know, it's definitely something to
(04:40):
look into. Maybe you've got four friends that want to
try it, and you order a four pack, and then
you'll all split it four ways and you would just
have a four pack, wouldn't you know? You would each
get one box and you wouldn't have to spit. The
problem is chase follow me. The problem is I think
once people try it, if they realize they like it
and they want to invest in cereal, great, But if
you're wanting to try it for the first time and
(05:02):
you're like, what, I have to order a four pack?
I don't even know if I like this stuff, that's
that's the investment. So therefore, if you have four friends,
you each get one box and it's one fourth the price.
All right, okay, thank you, all right. Next question? Alright,
This next one is from Meredith. Hey, Amy, I'm dealing
Can I just say to you, I'm not affiliated with
Magic Student in any way, shape or form. I don't
(05:23):
even know the website magic tune dot Com. Maybe so
we found it on Amazon when we were looking last night.
I don't think so. Amazon would be way too tempting
or easy to warp it. No, no, no, no no no,
because if stuffs on Amazon, I'm like, fine, it's not
real money. I mean it is real money. I'm delusional
for thinking that that it's you know. Next question, Okay,
(05:48):
this one's from Meredith. Hey, Amy, I'm dealing with my
mom being on the decline with cancer. Did you seek
help to deal with your situation elsewhere? I've been toyed
with seeing a therapist to help me cope. Curious your thoughts.
I've never seen a therapist before and just want to
know what you thought. Okay, So, Meredith, Oh gosh, this
is so hard and I'm so sorry that you're dealing
with this, but I highly recommend um getting outside help
(06:11):
for this because there's so much you're going to encounter
towards the end and I didn't. I didn't. I didn't
seek therapy or legit counseling till after she passed. But
my mom actually was in counseling before she died, like
was going to therapy to prepare for end of life,
like we knew she was dying, and she went to
(06:32):
and I would take her. So I think after her
sessions sometimes we would talk through some stuff. So maybe
that was counseling for me. But I really think my
sister and I should have done it, and we could
have handled some of it a little bit better. But
you're never really prepared. And then we were in a
hospice situation with my mom, which the people that worked
there were amazing, and they gave us a lot of
information to help prepare our minds and our hearts for
(06:54):
what was about to happen. And so maybe you could
consider that a little bit of therapy, but everybody is
so different. I think the more you can get ahead
of something like this, I can't say for sure it's
going to make it any better any easier, because oh
my gosh, look at your mother. But it can't hurt,
(07:17):
and it'll give you the tools you need to equip
yourself for what is to come. And with that, I
could say that I could hope you could just navigate
it better, but it's still going to be a very
very hard, difficult time. But my answer would be like,
if you have access to therapy, do it. Yes, all right.
This next one is from Rory. Hey, Amy, I wanted
(07:39):
to see if you had any advice for the beginning
stages of a relationship. I just started in. I just
started dating a new guy for only two months in
and I feel like this could be a really great relationship.
With that being said, I want to make sure we
kind of start off in a healthy place. Do you
have any tips for just starting out by two months?
Ben was proposing to me. You my husband, Like, we
(08:01):
started dating in July, engaged in October, married in December.
So and then yeah, yeah, some of my relationships in
college that I was like super serious about like lasted
two months. So I really don't know that I am
the best person to ask, but I think that you
(08:23):
know when you're in the beginning of a relationship. I
think communication, well, communication is always key in the beginning,
in the middle, towards the end, you've got to communicate.
Especially we want to make it towards the end with them, um,
and you have to continue to work on yourself and
grow and keep being you and make sure that you
try to see all sides of them that you can,
and they see all sides of you that they can.
(08:45):
And we're always evolving, so you know, it's not like
you're going to know in this moment who they're going
to be ten years from now, but whoever they are
at the moment, just focus on getting to know that person,
but also don't lose yourself in them, Like you, I
don't know you're only I don't know you didn't say
(09:05):
your age, so I don't know how old you are,
or what you're past dating relationships are like, or what
you even want out of this relationship. But I think
that you, if you want it to work, for one,
don't lose yourself in it, because I think I was
a little guilty of that sometimes, just throwing myself aside
and being like Okay, I just was like, so wanted
(09:27):
to be with this person, and I was like, Okay,
whatever you need me to do, and then, uh, you know,
put in put in the work to make it whatever
it is you want it to be. And then communicate openly, honestly,
have fun, right, I mean, what would you say? I mean,
I'm trying. I'm looking for some advice myself. I'm like
(09:48):
listening to you right now, I'm like, I don't I
mean communication and any do you find someone recently that
maybe you kind of like? Okay? But see the thing
right now that I'm dealing with is I mean we
talk on the phone, but also she likes to text,
and I think that most women do. I'm just like, well,
(10:09):
but I mean she might like you wait, your old
school you want to talk on the phone. I do like,
I don't like, I don't like to me like text
and send it as the mail have the mailman. I
still do write letters, actually, and I can see you
doing that. Yeah. I do a lot of cards anyways.
So I guess that's interesting. So you're struggling because you
(10:31):
want to talk on the phone and she wants to text. Yeah, Like,
I don't like to text all day, you know, but
I love like you know, when you get done with
work or in the evening whatever, catching up talking about
you on the phone, ever call you or you have
to call her. No, it's I'd say it's mutual. It's like, yeah,
but the texting part, like and I'm cool with like
a few texts here and there, but like when you
(10:51):
get into, like I don't know, trying to have like
a full blown discussion about something via you'll do voice
memo texting where you talked to next. I've never done
that once. I've never done neither. I think I tested
it out once to see if it would work with
Bobby and then I don't. Actually Caroline Hobby now Caroline
(11:12):
Cuver Hobby now she's the Get Real podcast, which she's
come on my podcast before two. But she sent me
a voice text the other night to explain this video
that I had sent her about or I had made
for her, like back in two thousand and fourteen for
marriage advice. I was like, it's like we were at
(11:33):
a bar, or her concert or her husband's band was
playing some I heart event I think maybe, and she
was at a bachelorette party two and they were there
at the concert was part of the night. And they
were on a scavenger hunt too as part of the
bachelorette party, which that's a fun thing to do. I
just in case you got a bachelotte party or in
charge of planning, like try to plan a scavenger hunt
(11:53):
for everybody to go around town. And I guess one
of the things that they had to record or get
advice for married people that they ran into. And so
I was married, and she filmed me, and I gave
the marriage advice, and it was that you shouldn't go
to bed or people say you shouldn't go to bed mad.
(12:16):
And I said in the video, I don't even remember
making this, but and so, but my point is, let
me finish this point and then I'll tell you what
my advice was. I had text her what is that from?
And it was a long obviously that was a long explanation,
and so for her to tipe that ou would take forever.
So she recorded a voice memo and send it to me,
and I was like, Okay, this is a moment where
(12:36):
a voice to text like really makes sense because she
didn't have to type all that out because it was
kind of confusing. So anyway, and then my advice was
that I would I would play back the audio for you.
But it's like a loud band in the background, and honestly,
I wasn't even talking about it, thinking of planning on
talking about this, so I didn't have it prepared, but
(12:57):
I said, people say to not go to bed angry,
but I say it's fine, like if you're fighting, I
mean my husband, and I am not saying this is
for everybody, but we don't abide by that rule. Sometimes
we don't. We try not to sleep apart or like
that's it's like we've tough it out in the same bed,
but we just go to bed, because when you continue
(13:20):
the argument and it's going on and on and there's
no resolve and then you're tired on top of that,
to me, it just prolongs the argument. And then sometimes
if you just get sleep and you sleep it off,
then you wake up and you're like, well, huh, we
were even arguing about I don't even know. It wasn't
even that big of a deal. We were just tired.
I think that's great. Or if it was a big deal,
then you've slept on it and you're rested and you
(13:41):
can have a more thoughtful argument and you can say
what you mean versus saying things that you don't. So
that was my advice. That's my advice. So I don't
know if that'll be useful to anybody, but no, I
think that's awesome. Okay, well, good luck with that girl
that you're texting with. Oh I thought, were yeah, you Rory,
(14:02):
good luck with your two months in relationships going to
go the distance? All right. This one's from Kristen Amy
on the Bobby Bones Show. I remember you talking about
a test you did to determine food sensitivities. I believe
(14:24):
kale was on the list of things you should avoid.
What test company was this and did you find it helpful? Oh? Man,
I thought at the time I was being so cutting edge,
and I mean I really wasn't because tons of people
have done it. But I thought I am just like
getting so much insight on my body and knowing about
myself and nobody else does. But I mean I had
(14:46):
to invest a lot. First of all, it was super expensive,
and no, I do not recommend it. I don't recommend
the company I used. That's why I'm not even going
to say in the name is because I thought at
the time maybe I was using a legit company because
of the dollar amount I was ending. But I then
after that met with Kelly Laveck, who is the nutrition
She's come on the podcast. But again she's like a
(15:09):
celebrity nutritionist. I don't know her credentials per se, because
I know I was calling her a certain thing, and
then I had people emailing me after that were like
different types of nutritionists that were like, it's so offensive
when people call themselves this and that. Look, I don't know.
She's very educated in the realm of health and wellness
and food and our bodies. And I was talking to
(15:32):
her about the food sensitivity tests that I did and
Mary did it too, and I think Bobby did it. Yeah,
so it's said I did. Someone came to my house
drew my blood. Then I mailed it off to a
lab and then they emailed me my results and it
said like on my severe was coffee. That I will
(15:56):
agree with because and I actually have cut back on
coffee consumption. I love coffee. I still have it from
time to time, but I would notice the more I drank,
like the dark circles under my eyes were worse. I
had a little more inflammation. I wasn't as clear and
focused as I should be. But also on my severe
was like blueberries and avocados and Tracy Anderson, who I
(16:20):
love doing her workouts. She avocado is one of her
food sensitivities, so she stays away from it because it
bloats her. But whenever I eat avocado, I'm like, I
don't really notice anything change. So I don't know if
that was accurate. Same thing with blueberries. But in my head,
here's why it's messed up. Well, first of all, I
really may a plan out my thoughts because I just
(16:41):
felt all over the place. But Kelly Leveck told me
that she didn't know if I could trust that place
that I used because they're just taking they were taking
my blood and just basing it off of like, um uh,
like I don't even know how to word it. Gosh,
what is the best way for me to say this? Um? A,
(17:04):
what is it? When you get not a sample? Like, yes,
they drew like a sample conclusion like that if this
many people had this type of blood, it meant like
they were sensitive to that. But it doesn't mean that
every single person is. But the odds are if you
this is what's in your blood, then you might be.
It just wasn't as accurate as they made it seem
(17:25):
it was going to be. And of course she had
a way fancier way of saying it, and I just
butchered it, but hopefully that makes sense. I I but
I took it as here was the problem with it,
especially with someone that had a needing disorder at the time.
And I don't recommend it really for anybody that does
unless you truly are trying to figure you truly want
(17:46):
to figure out your body. And I will go back
to the appropriate person when the time is right, which
that was what Kelly recommended, was to go to a
doctor in your city, find a professional that specializes in it,
that can meet with you and explain everything to you.
I mean, I was just getting stuff off of a
website and I could call one number and they would
look up my case number. They didn't know anything about
(18:07):
me and any other things. And so if you're going
to invest the money, you could do that now, I
will say. Aaron Oprah on my trainer, she's a fan
of that penn Er test, which I see a lot
of people on Instagram post about. I've never used it,
but hey, you could try it. But I feel like
that's maybe sort of the same thing that I did,
But who knows, it could be better. It might be better,
(18:29):
but that could be one you could look into. Because
Aaron swears by it, like she it told her she
was sensitive to onions. Now, this doesn't mean you're allergic
to something. It's a food sensitivity. Like you have stuff
that's you're in the clear on, you have stuff you
as moderate, and then you have stuff that's severe. And
(18:49):
onions are severe for her. And she said, oh my gosh,
Like I just realized, like anytime I eat onions, my
stomach gets so bloated. And kale was on my severe too.
And I used to eat kale all the time, like
it was like a thing. And but I think because
I ate it all the time, maybe I didn't notice
it when I cut it out. Here's the crazy war.
I cut it out because it was on the thing
(19:12):
and I thought, oh my gosh, like this is my
new food bible, like I have to abide by this list.
And again that was the problem with me having and
eating new swords. I took it so seriously that it
affected how I ate. Like, so anyway, I cut the
kale out. Well six months later after I decided I
(19:32):
kind of want some kale, like it's fine. It hurt
my stomach, Like it messed up my stomach like big time.
So now I don't even now, I don't even touch kale.
Then put kale chips in my stocking. So so Christmas
e well, he was trying to be sweet. It was sweet.
(19:54):
He went to Whole Foods to fill up my stocking
because he knows that I want to eat healthy and
I don't want a bunch of like candy or whatever.
Um I don't like It's not like I want a
bunch of like Reese's Christmas trees, although those are my favorite.
Uh So he went and got all this like cute
(20:14):
fun stuff from Whole Foods, and inside of that was
also a bag of kill chips or whatever. And I
told him, I was like, oh my gosh, thank you
for these. But I haven't been able to eat these
for about a year because they messed me up, so
I can't eat them anymore. But I used to be
able to eat them all the time, all the time.
(20:35):
It wasn't until I eliminated them, which I think maybe
I was just used to. However, I was feeling maybe
my body was like, okay, fine, we'll figure out how
to deal with the sill. And now that I eliminated
it for a long time, and then when I reintroduced it.
My body was like, oh heck, no time for that.
But it was my severe so I don't know, maybe
there's something to it. And the test was a little
(20:56):
bit right. But Kelly said for me, if I was
going to spend money, that I need to like go
to someone that I can meet with and that can
take more than just like my blood that I mail in.
So that is my advice on a food sensitivity test.
I think it can be helpful if done correctly, and
(21:17):
I don't know that I have had it done correctly,
so I speak from a place of doing it. Uh
you know, just kind of yeah, maybe wrong, maybe just
kind of right. Um. I am going to a new
chiropractor this week. I'm super excited about it. I have
this like chronic back pain and I had gone to
(21:39):
another chiropractor and then I just was, I don't know,
turned off by that the whole situation, and I was
going to start physical therapy. But then I have been
really intrigued by this one chiropractor for about seven months
and my friend got me in with him, and so
I was like, oh, well, then I have to go
because I'm just curious. And I filled out all the
(21:59):
paperwork in this or y, and it was so many
more questions other than just about my back, Like he
wanted to know if I had taken one of these tests,
if I had ever done twenty three in me or
ancestry dot Com or anything, because you want to know
my family history. Was my body like he cares about
all the things and the trauma in your life that
could be causing pain in your body and like digestion
(22:19):
and all that. So I'm, of course I'm super holistic obviously, well,
and you'll need to follow up on that, which isn't
that strange for a chiropractor. But he just seems like
I just like his vibe. I've never met him on Instagram.
I just like his vibe. So I'm kind of excited
(22:40):
about my appointment. It's gonna be I mean, it was.
I'll follow up and let you'll know how it goes
and see what that appointment is like. But I'm gonna
I'll ask him what he thinks about these foods and
activity tests and if he has a good one, maybe
if you will, Okay, well, that's gonna be it for
today's Q and A. UM. We appreciate you'all sending questions.
(23:05):
We will have a new Four Things episode up this Friday,
so make sure you come back for that and then yeah,
I hope you'll have a great, great week, Chase, stay
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