August 7, 2025 • 19 mins
We’re asking the question we usually breeze past: How are you…really? Amy talks about what it means to slow down and check in with yourself beyond the usual “I’m fine” with her good friend, Chase (who some of you may know from back in the ‘4 Things’ days!) They share tools like body check-ins, journaling, or even the rubber ducky method and how they can help. This conversation is your permission to be honest with yourself about how you’re REALLY doing!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
All right, break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just fons home,
Amy and Cat gotcha come and locking. No, brother, ladies
and felts, do you just follow an the spirit where
it's all the front over real stuff to the chill
stuff and the m but Swayne, sometimes the best thing
you can do it just you feel things. This is
(00:27):
Feeling Things with Amy.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
And Kat, Happy Thursday, Welcome to Couch Talks, the Q
and a episode to the Feeling Things Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I'm Amy, I'm Chase, and this is going to be
real therapy.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Okay, but not really.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Chase is filling in her Cat, and since she's a
licensed therapist, she typically gives a disclaimer about how this
is an actual therapy.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
This can be a tool, but it's you know, not
a replacement for therapy.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
And also because we don't know all the ins and
outs of your life and it's hard to answer the
questions very specifically, like you know, you.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Can't take what we say with like you know, as
word and you need to live.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Free for yourself. I am not a licensed therapist, but yeah,
here to offer some wisdom so.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
You can take what Chase is saying and run with it.
We put up a Q and A box the other
day on Feeling Things Instagram and Kat and I got
some questions. We're going to be answering over time, but
one of them stick out to me, and I thought
we could use it as the couch Talks question or
discussion with Chase since he's sitting in for Kat. And
(01:28):
if you are new or you've only listened to Feeling Things,
and maybe you don't know about Chase. The bonus episode
of my podcast, which is originally called Feeling Things, no,
this is Feeling Things. Yea, it was called four Things
with Amy Brown. You were the fifth Thing, my co captain.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Yeah, I forgot about that. Wasn't it called the Fifth Thing?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah, it was the Q and A episode to the
Four Things podcast. And so right now this just feels
very I'm home circle happy, like we've we've come a
long way. And one of the questions that came in
I believe was geared towards me. But then I thought, well,
(02:13):
this is a good question that we all can be
asking ourselves. And this was from Kristen, a follower that
said how are you? But then she put like, really,
how are you? Almost like you maybe you present as
like things are doing okay, but really are things okay?
And that can show up I think a lot in
(02:33):
our personal lives too, like with friends, like how are
you doing? Like really, how are you? Or you have
the surface level with the person checking you out at
the store that might ask how are you, or even
a self check in how are you? And then you
convince yourself like an autopilot answer of like I'm good,
I'm ye, you're not really.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Doing a deep check in, so, so how are you?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
That question is the inspiration for today's chat, And I think, honestly,
I am good. That's not like a flippant I'm good
or just me brushing off the question and giving you
that autopilot answer. I truly believe I'm answering that with
reflection and intention of I can just say a solid
(03:20):
i'm good.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I think you're really good, and I would say like, obviously,
I think that questions aimed at you, but we're posing
it for all of us for the sake of the episode,
considering how many seasons we've been through together.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I've been friends for a long time, over ten years.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, you're in a really good spot on a lot
of fronts.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Yeah, I mean I did spill something on my shirt
during lunch. So I'm a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
But honestly about that. Did say anything. I didn't bring
it up, but I thought you handled that well because sometimes,
like a couple of years ago, they could have like, yeah,
it could have been a really bad deal. You could
have spun out on that, but you're like, I'm just
gonna low key trying to clean this up. Movie.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
I'm going to go inside and ask for some water
and an act in and I'm gonna like pat down
my white shirt and we will be good to go.
But you're right like sometimes and we don't do those
self chickens, or we let things build up then like
the smallest thing can send us over the edge. So
I am happy to report, Kristin, thank you for asking
that question that I feel really good. Parenting is a
(04:23):
lot right now, but I think any parent out there,
there's just different stages that you go through in and out.
I love being a mom, but those there's some new
challenges there with a now eighteen year old and fifteen
year old school just starting back and trying to figure out, yeah,
what my eighteen year old's going to do next, Like
after her senior year like, what is next? That's a
crazy phase to be in. I have a boyfriend now
(04:45):
of what are we nine months?
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Nine?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
What?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Yes? Really?
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah? Well, okay, do you count when I first start? No?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
No, no, no?
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Do you count the first date or when it was
will you be my girlfriend?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I think you count the first day?
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Okay? So we went out mid October and.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
That's that's wild.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Actually it's August seventh.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
So I remember when you were someone was trying to
set you up with him? Is that like two years ago?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
That was? It took eight months so I think that
was like February of last year, and then I finally
went out with him in October and then now here
we are.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
We like Alex together.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
We like him a lot of approval from this end.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Yeah, he's a very steady level. Yeah, good guy, non chaotic.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
You're just in a really good spot. A boring like
kids are healthy. He's great, He's not boring.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
But I feel like we're kind of boring and I'm
learning like you.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Guys are a good boring though. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
we have things. You're active.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
So if I were to ask you that question, like
if you do a self check.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
In, you're asking how I'm feeling, or how I'm doing,
or is that the same question.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I think the exact question was how are you doing?
Like really, really, how are you?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I think I'm good, I was telling you at lunch.
I stepped down from my role with our company in May,
and so this summer has kind of been a summer
where like, I've spent a lot of time away from devices,
which I've realized. We were talking to Kat yesterday, it
was like I went ten days not being on social media,
and it felt like my mind was healing, just because
so much of the work we do is involved on
(06:23):
socials and the Internet and all that. But it's been
just a really good summer. But in all of that,
I feel a lot of peace, and I feel relaxed
in a way that I haven't in a while. I
still feel like anxious with some things, but as I
was telling you earlier, I'm learning in the last couple
of years of therapy, like two emotions can coexist. I
(06:45):
used to be like, if I'm pissed off, I'm pissed off.
If I'm sad, then I can't be happy, or if
I'm happy, I can't be sad. Like it was this
or that and so I guess to answer the question,
I feel a lot of peace. I feel good, little
anxious about a few things, but I just kind of
like always run with a little bit of anxiety.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I think that's a good reminder about two things or
four or five or six or six being true at
the same time and being able to live together, because
you don't want to miss out on some of that
happiness and peace that you feel because you get so
fixated on the anxiety if you were to spend more
time doing a deep check in. Since this question is
also for everyone listening to ask themselves like how they
(07:28):
really are? What is something that you do when you're
doing a deep check in?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
All right? Like I'm a big note taker, like I do.
I journal for sure. I mean it would look probably
like a psychopaths just because it's a lot of random
notes and it's not very but I always do best
seeing my thoughts on paper, and it helps me truly
understand and process where I'm at or what I'm thinking
(07:55):
through any kind of decision that's coming my way. So
I'm a big journal And I also I mean, like
credit to you years ago, you were the one with
the gratitude journal. That I just started writing a few
things I was grateful for, and then that turned into
writing you know everything, But that's still something occasionally, like
if I'm having a rough week, I'm like, all right,
(08:15):
I'm gonna write down a few things I'm grateful for.
Seeing that on paper feels different to me than just
thinking it.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Yeah, I think journaling is huge for me. And now
I'm thinking about something that we talked about on the
Bobby Bone Show the other day called the rubber ducky method.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Have you heard of that?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
No?
Speaker 3 (08:30):
What is that? Well, it's when you're trying to either
it can come in handy for several things. But if
you're trying to learn something, or you have a presentation
to give and you need to go over stuff, or
you're trying to retain some information, or maybe you're processing.
And now I'm wondering, if you're doing a check in,
could you use the rubber ducky method for your How
(08:51):
are you really check in? And you just pick an object?
Now they're calling it the rubber ducky, but it doesn't
have to be a rubber ducky. But like say you're
in your bathroom and you're getting ready, look over you
see the rubber ducky, but maybe it could be a
plant or a candle, like any object that is nearby
that you can talk to and you explain it all,
lay it all out before the rubber ducky and something
(09:14):
about that interaction with the object helps you process or
retain Okay, so maybe you need to do I.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Think I have that. What is that? So I wake
up really early, but before like I leave the house,
I make my bed and I make my bed every
(09:44):
I made my bed every morning, the exception of a
few times. And it's twenty five years So what when
I made my bed start?
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Because like some people grow up doing that, but I didn't.
And then I started doing it, like yeah, seven eight
years ago, and I've now very committed. My sister was
always a bed maker, and I thought she was weird
for doing that, and now I'm the same and I
make my bed every day and it feels so good.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
It's like a way to.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Check the box, like, oh, I can accomplish something. It
started off with that because Admiral mcgraven gave a commencement
speech about it and talking about.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Great YouTube to go back.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Do you write a book called that?
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
He has the commencement speech.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Okay, so it's a book that's called like make your
Bed every Day or something.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Well, Alison Locke was, I mean since we were little.
I mean she kind of ran, yeah, a tight house
with four boys, and so we all made our bed.
But it was kind of in my adult life, probably
my twenties, that I started to use it as the
thing every day because I realized, like I wanted to
pray every morning, but I never I wasn't consistent about it,
and I was like, I'm going to check in with
(10:48):
how I'm feeling and I'm going to pray about what
I need to pray about when I'm making my bed.
So I associate making my bed with that time, which
I don't know if that's the rubberdu.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Kind of you talk to your bed, but that's prayer.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Well, it's doing the routine of it, okay, is when
I'm kind of doing my morning prayer and kind of
which is essentially a check in and I like that. Yeah,
so it's my rubber ducky, but it's associated with doing
something that I do every day. I even make my
own bed in the hotel.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Okay, So I started doing that as well, and I
don't feel like that's that weird because I stopped getting
any type of housekeeping in between. Like when I'm staying there,
I've just decided I don't want anyone out, want anyone
in and out, So I always make a point to
put the little do not disturb on there, and I
will tidy up my space myself, and it just feels
(11:38):
good to just like it feels good to walk into
your bedroom at the end of the day with a
made bed and pull back and get into the covers.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
I feel the same way if I'm traveling. Yep, that
feels nice.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
So anyways, making my bed is my rubber ducky.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Well, now you get to talk to it in a
new way, Like you could talk to your pillows, like, hey,
how am I really pillow?
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Let me see how I'm doing. Let's see and pillow number.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
One, you can have a conversation in the next pillow.
You're probably not a bunch of pillows guy, Like I
actually I.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Have a lot of pillows. Really Okay, Yeah, I'm staying
at your house this week, and I was kind of
like I expected more pillows on the guest bed.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Well there's one, two, three, four, you have like all those.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Three pillows though, like the the look pillows.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
That's what I mean by pillows. Do you want more
sleep pillows?
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
I love a lot of pillows.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Well, I can bring you more.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
No, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good in my but
I'm saying like I probably have six sleeping pillows.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
An, I didn't know you like a no, And now
I'm interested.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Do you sleep with on like a cuddle like a
body pillow? Because also a couple a couple of other
questions that came in on there. We're asking is Chase single?
Because I can get you a human pillow.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
I am single. We just had lunch with a friend who, uh.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Can we say what she Yeah, we can say she's
casting for the Bachelor.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Yeah, And I was telling her. I was like, can
I like slip you twenty bucks and maybe if there's
some really great candidates that don't make the cut, you
could just refer over here.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
Yeah, because she said, no, fantastic girls auditioning for this,
and that really highly they're over dating, they're over the
apps like they're they're successful there.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
And she said that anybody that.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
Is trying to come in and you can tell they're
trying to just be an influencer or build up their
own brand. They're like cutting it and onto girls that
just really want to be there and aren't trying to
use the show for anything.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
So I might see if she can help me. I
think Kat was kind of guiding me through a few
self reflective things yesterday. So that was good too.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Y'all had like a mini therapy we did.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Poor girl. Anytime I see Kat, I'm like, I'm going
to ask you some questions. She has to do that
all the time.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
But another thing that's helpful.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Which I want to say real quick on the record,
I think Kat in the like how you guys repositioned
the show on the podcast is amazing, Like I love it.
I love her on the show. I love the dynamic
between the two of you. Like I couldn't be a
bigger fan, and I was already a fan obviously what
you were doing.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
But yeah, shout out Kat, Yeah, shout out Kat.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
We love you, We miss you. Sad you're not here,
but that's okay. This is fun having like you're like
the og Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
I'm excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Co host, Yeah, g co host or something like that.
I don't really know what, Like you were just my friend,
like helping me.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
You've just always been here to help you out whatever
you need.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
You'd filter through, you would read the questions from listeners,
and then I would answer them before we wrap. I
was going to share like a body check in, because
I think you can journal. Maybe you try the rubber
ducky slash, make your bed talk to it whatever that
object is, talking it out loud, pray through it, like
if you're trying to do a check in. But I'll
check in with my body for any physical signs because
(14:57):
I'll ask myself how am I? But then if I
want to know really, like okay, do I have tension anywhere?
How's my stomach feeling? Like my throat will speak to
me a lot, like if it feels really closed up
and tight, or you know, if I'm feeling particularly exhausted,
but I can't put my finger on why, like maybe
(15:18):
I thought I got good sleep, Like is there something
else making me exhausted that I'm not paying attention to,
So that way I can address it and then know, Okay,
I guess I'm not as good as I thought I was,
you know, and then once you dig a little deeper,
you can maybe take care of it.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
So a body check in is what I would add
to the list of tools, like just.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
To rubber ducky check body check and just to check
write it down, yeah, check check check.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
And be it be like how you doing? Really? How
you doing?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
And then I feel like someone's.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
Like your roommate or your husband or your wife throwing
like come home and you're sitting there talking to a
rubber ducky.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
I like, do I even have a rubber ducky? I
have a rubber ducky thermometer in my cold plunge.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
To It's going to be really easy for jeep people
because don aren't jeep people the ones that have all
those rubber duckies?
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Oh yeah, because they they duck people.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Which I think is bizarre personally. But I spent a
lot of time being like, why do all these people
have all these rubber ducks?
Speaker 3 (16:20):
Yeah, well that's it's kind of community cute within the
jeep community. And they go around and then they just
like set the rubber duck on the handle, and then
when people come back.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Small children's toys on their car and walk away. It's
not weird.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Morgan on the Bobby Bone Show web Girl Morgan, she
had a jeep. Well she just got rid of it
and got a Bronco. But when she was a jeep girl,
she had her entire jeep lined with ducks. All right, sorry,
I mean we do probably do have listeners that.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Are duck I fully support it. I just when you
don't know that, I was like, why do people have
all these ducks?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
But now yeah, okay, right, so listeners, this is your homework.
You need to do a how are you no? How
are you really?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
How you doing?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Check in? And if you don't know, that's okay.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
I would be patient. You don't have to have it
all figured out. If your body's not talking to you,
you do a body check in. If your rubber ducky's
not helping you get in the info, keep giving it
a go because I think sometimes we can stuff it
down for sure, we can compartmentalize and we can power
through the day. So just start asking yourself more regularly,
(17:33):
and the more you ask, the more the more you
shall receive. Which Kat and I always close the episodes
and now I'm thinking about have the day you need
to have? And that was another question of when are
we going to see merch and I will say Chase
just saw some of our merch stuff in person for
the first time yesterday, and the reason why we don't
have a date yet is Kat and are trying to
(17:55):
wear it as much as possible and live in it
because whatever we do put out, when we put it out,
we want it to be perfect and something that we
want to wear all the time and that you will
enjoy wearing. And there's some stuff where we've worn it
for a little bit and we're like, oh, I'm not
feeling this, and then there's other stuff I'm like, I
keep grabbing for this. So now this is going in
the pile like I'm doing a check in. Yeah, I
(18:16):
have to do like a fit check of will I
actually wear this and do I like it? Or do
I like it for this minute? Or am I consistently
liking it? Because if we're going to put it up
for sale, we want it to be something that you
consistently like and have. The day you need to have
is definitely on an item that I find myself wearing
(18:37):
more often, and I was bummed because I thought I
had one for.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
You that you could take and then.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
We will.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
First customer, our first customer, all right. So that being said,
we hope you have the day oh you need to have.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
There you go like cat.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
Normally I would say it and then Cat will Yeah
all right, So thanks for listening, Like and subscribe.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Tell them all the thanks, Jase, and.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Have the days you need to have. Bye,
All right, break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just fons home,
Amy and Cat gotcha come and locking. No, brother, ladies
and felts, do you just follow an the spirit where
it's all the front over real stuff to the chill
stuff and the m but Swayne, sometimes the best thing
you can do it just you feel things. This is
(00:27):
Feeling Things with Amy.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
And Kat, Happy Thursday, Welcome to Couch Talks, the Q
and a episode to the Feeling Things Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I'm Amy, I'm Chase, and this is going to be
real therapy.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Okay, but not really.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Chase is filling in her Cat, and since she's a
licensed therapist, she typically gives a disclaimer about how this
is an actual therapy.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
This can be a tool, but it's you know, not
a replacement for therapy.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
And also because we don't know all the ins and
outs of your life and it's hard to answer the
questions very specifically, like you know, you.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Can't take what we say with like you know, as
word and you need to live.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Free for yourself. I am not a licensed therapist, but yeah,
here to offer some wisdom so.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
You can take what Chase is saying and run with it.
We put up a Q and A box the other
day on Feeling Things Instagram and Kat and I got
some questions. We're going to be answering over time, but
one of them stick out to me, and I thought
we could use it as the couch Talks question or
discussion with Chase since he's sitting in for Kat. And
(01:28):
if you are new or you've only listened to Feeling Things,
and maybe you don't know about Chase. The bonus episode
of my podcast, which is originally called Feeling Things, no,
this is Feeling Things. Yea, it was called four Things
with Amy Brown. You were the fifth Thing, my co captain.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Yeah, I forgot about that. Wasn't it called the Fifth Thing?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (01:52):
Yeah, it was the Q and A episode to the
Four Things podcast. And so right now this just feels
very I'm home circle happy, like we've we've come a
long way. And one of the questions that came in
I believe was geared towards me. But then I thought, well,
(02:13):
this is a good question that we all can be
asking ourselves. And this was from Kristen, a follower that
said how are you? But then she put like, really,
how are you? Almost like you maybe you present as
like things are doing okay, but really are things okay?
And that can show up I think a lot in
(02:33):
our personal lives too, like with friends, like how are
you doing? Like really, how are you? Or you have
the surface level with the person checking you out at
the store that might ask how are you, or even
a self check in how are you? And then you
convince yourself like an autopilot answer of like I'm good,
I'm ye, you're not really.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Doing a deep check in, so, so how are you?
Speaker 3 (02:56):
That question is the inspiration for today's chat, And I think, honestly,
I am good. That's not like a flippant I'm good
or just me brushing off the question and giving you
that autopilot answer. I truly believe I'm answering that with
reflection and intention of I can just say a solid
(03:20):
i'm good.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I think you're really good, and I would say like, obviously,
I think that questions aimed at you, but we're posing
it for all of us for the sake of the episode,
considering how many seasons we've been through together.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I've been friends for a long time, over ten years.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, you're in a really good spot on a lot
of fronts.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Yeah, I mean I did spill something on my shirt
during lunch. So I'm a little bit.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
But honestly about that. Did say anything. I didn't bring
it up, but I thought you handled that well because sometimes,
like a couple of years ago, they could have like, yeah,
it could have been a really bad deal. You could
have spun out on that, but you're like, I'm just
gonna low key trying to clean this up. Movie.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
I'm going to go inside and ask for some water
and an act in and I'm gonna like pat down
my white shirt and we will be good to go.
But you're right like sometimes and we don't do those
self chickens, or we let things build up then like
the smallest thing can send us over the edge. So
I am happy to report, Kristin, thank you for asking
that question that I feel really good. Parenting is a
(04:23):
lot right now, but I think any parent out there,
there's just different stages that you go through in and out.
I love being a mom, but those there's some new
challenges there with a now eighteen year old and fifteen
year old school just starting back and trying to figure out, yeah,
what my eighteen year old's going to do next, Like
after her senior year like, what is next? That's a
crazy phase to be in. I have a boyfriend now
(04:45):
of what are we nine months?
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Nine?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
What?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Yes? Really?
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Yeah? Well, okay, do you count when I first start? No?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
No, no, no?
Speaker 1 (04:57):
Do you count the first date or when it was
will you be my girlfriend?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I think you count the first day?
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Okay? So we went out mid October and.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
That's that's wild.
Speaker 1 (05:07):
Actually it's August seventh.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
So I remember when you were someone was trying to
set you up with him? Is that like two years ago?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
That was? It took eight months so I think that
was like February of last year, and then I finally
went out with him in October and then now here
we are.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
We like Alex together.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
We like him a lot of approval from this end.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Yeah, he's a very steady level. Yeah, good guy, non chaotic.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
You're just in a really good spot. A boring like
kids are healthy. He's great, He's not boring.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
But I feel like we're kind of boring and I'm
learning like you.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Guys are a good boring though. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
we have things. You're active.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
So if I were to ask you that question, like
if you do a self check.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
In, you're asking how I'm feeling, or how I'm doing,
or is that the same question.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I think the exact question was how are you doing?
Like really, really, how are you?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I think I'm good, I was telling you at lunch.
I stepped down from my role with our company in May,
and so this summer has kind of been a summer
where like, I've spent a lot of time away from devices,
which I've realized. We were talking to Kat yesterday, it
was like I went ten days not being on social media,
and it felt like my mind was healing, just because
so much of the work we do is involved on
(06:23):
socials and the Internet and all that. But it's been
just a really good summer. But in all of that,
I feel a lot of peace, and I feel relaxed
in a way that I haven't in a while. I
still feel like anxious with some things, but as I
was telling you earlier, I'm learning in the last couple
of years of therapy, like two emotions can coexist. I
(06:45):
used to be like, if I'm pissed off, I'm pissed off.
If I'm sad, then I can't be happy, or if
I'm happy, I can't be sad. Like it was this
or that and so I guess to answer the question,
I feel a lot of peace. I feel good, little
anxious about a few things, but I just kind of
like always run with a little bit of anxiety.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I think that's a good reminder about two things or
four or five or six or six being true at
the same time and being able to live together, because
you don't want to miss out on some of that
happiness and peace that you feel because you get so
fixated on the anxiety if you were to spend more
time doing a deep check in. Since this question is
also for everyone listening to ask themselves like how they
(07:28):
really are? What is something that you do when you're
doing a deep check in?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
All right? Like I'm a big note taker, like I do.
I journal for sure. I mean it would look probably
like a psychopaths just because it's a lot of random
notes and it's not very but I always do best
seeing my thoughts on paper, and it helps me truly
understand and process where I'm at or what I'm thinking
(07:55):
through any kind of decision that's coming my way. So
I'm a big journal And I also I mean, like
credit to you years ago, you were the one with
the gratitude journal. That I just started writing a few
things I was grateful for, and then that turned into
writing you know everything, But that's still something occasionally, like
if I'm having a rough week, I'm like, all right,
(08:15):
I'm gonna write down a few things I'm grateful for.
Seeing that on paper feels different to me than just
thinking it.
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Yeah, I think journaling is huge for me. And now
I'm thinking about something that we talked about on the
Bobby Bone Show the other day called the rubber ducky method.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Have you heard of that?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
No?
Speaker 3 (08:30):
What is that? Well, it's when you're trying to either
it can come in handy for several things. But if
you're trying to learn something, or you have a presentation
to give and you need to go over stuff, or
you're trying to retain some information, or maybe you're processing.
And now I'm wondering, if you're doing a check in,
could you use the rubber ducky method for your How
(08:51):
are you really check in? And you just pick an object?
Now they're calling it the rubber ducky, but it doesn't
have to be a rubber ducky. But like say you're
in your bathroom and you're getting ready, look over you
see the rubber ducky, but maybe it could be a
plant or a candle, like any object that is nearby
that you can talk to and you explain it all,
lay it all out before the rubber ducky and something
(09:14):
about that interaction with the object helps you process or
retain Okay, so maybe you need to do I.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Think I have that. What is that? So I wake
up really early, but before like I leave the house,
I make my bed and I make my bed every
(09:44):
I made my bed every morning, the exception of a
few times. And it's twenty five years So what when
I made my bed start?
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Because like some people grow up doing that, but I didn't.
And then I started doing it, like yeah, seven eight
years ago, and I've now very committed. My sister was
always a bed maker, and I thought she was weird
for doing that, and now I'm the same and I
make my bed every day and it feels so good.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
It's like a way to.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Check the box, like, oh, I can accomplish something. It
started off with that because Admiral mcgraven gave a commencement
speech about it and talking about.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Great YouTube to go back.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Do you write a book called that?
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (10:22):
He has the commencement speech.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Okay, so it's a book that's called like make your
Bed every Day or something.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Well, Alison Locke was, I mean since we were little.
I mean she kind of ran, yeah, a tight house
with four boys, and so we all made our bed.
But it was kind of in my adult life, probably
my twenties, that I started to use it as the
thing every day because I realized, like I wanted to
pray every morning, but I never I wasn't consistent about it,
and I was like, I'm going to check in with
(10:48):
how I'm feeling and I'm going to pray about what
I need to pray about when I'm making my bed.
So I associate making my bed with that time, which
I don't know if that's the rubberdu.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Kind of you talk to your bed, but that's prayer.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Well, it's doing the routine of it, okay, is when
I'm kind of doing my morning prayer and kind of
which is essentially a check in and I like that. Yeah,
so it's my rubber ducky, but it's associated with doing
something that I do every day. I even make my
own bed in the hotel.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Okay, So I started doing that as well, and I
don't feel like that's that weird because I stopped getting
any type of housekeeping in between. Like when I'm staying there,
I've just decided I don't want anyone out, want anyone
in and out, So I always make a point to
put the little do not disturb on there, and I
will tidy up my space myself, and it just feels
(11:38):
good to just like it feels good to walk into
your bedroom at the end of the day with a
made bed and pull back and get into the covers.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
I feel the same way if I'm traveling. Yep, that
feels nice.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
So anyways, making my bed is my rubber ducky.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Well, now you get to talk to it in a
new way, Like you could talk to your pillows, like, hey,
how am I really pillow?
Speaker 1 (11:58):
Let me see how I'm doing. Let's see and pillow number.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
One, you can have a conversation in the next pillow.
You're probably not a bunch of pillows guy, Like I
actually I.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Have a lot of pillows. Really Okay, Yeah, I'm staying
at your house this week, and I was kind of
like I expected more pillows on the guest bed.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Well there's one, two, three, four, you have like all those.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Three pillows though, like the the look pillows.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
That's what I mean by pillows. Do you want more
sleep pillows?
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
I love a lot of pillows.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
Well, I can bring you more.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
No, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good in my but
I'm saying like I probably have six sleeping pillows.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
An, I didn't know you like a no, And now
I'm interested.
Speaker 3 (12:40):
Do you sleep with on like a cuddle like a
body pillow? Because also a couple a couple of other
questions that came in on there. We're asking is Chase single?
Because I can get you a human pillow.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
I am single. We just had lunch with a friend who, uh.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Can we say what she Yeah, we can say she's
casting for the Bachelor.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
Yeah, And I was telling her. I was like, can
I like slip you twenty bucks and maybe if there's
some really great candidates that don't make the cut, you
could just refer over here.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
Yeah, because she said, no, fantastic girls auditioning for this,
and that really highly they're over dating, they're over the
apps like they're they're successful there.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
And she said that anybody that.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
Is trying to come in and you can tell they're
trying to just be an influencer or build up their
own brand. They're like cutting it and onto girls that
just really want to be there and aren't trying to
use the show for anything.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
So I might see if she can help me. I
think Kat was kind of guiding me through a few
self reflective things yesterday. So that was good too.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Y'all had like a mini therapy we did.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Poor girl. Anytime I see Kat, I'm like, I'm going
to ask you some questions. She has to do that
all the time.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
But another thing that's helpful.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Which I want to say real quick on the record,
I think Kat in the like how you guys repositioned
the show on the podcast is amazing, Like I love it.
I love her on the show. I love the dynamic
between the two of you. Like I couldn't be a
bigger fan, and I was already a fan obviously what
you were doing.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
But yeah, shout out Kat, Yeah, shout out Kat.
Speaker 3 (14:17):
We love you, We miss you. Sad you're not here,
but that's okay. This is fun having like you're like
the og Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
I'm excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Co host, Yeah, g co host or something like that.
I don't really know what, Like you were just my friend,
like helping me.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
You've just always been here to help you out whatever
you need.
Speaker 3 (14:34):
You'd filter through, you would read the questions from listeners,
and then I would answer them before we wrap. I
was going to share like a body check in, because
I think you can journal. Maybe you try the rubber
ducky slash, make your bed talk to it whatever that
object is, talking it out loud, pray through it, like
if you're trying to do a check in. But I'll
check in with my body for any physical signs because
(14:57):
I'll ask myself how am I? But then if I
want to know really, like okay, do I have tension anywhere?
How's my stomach feeling? Like my throat will speak to
me a lot, like if it feels really closed up
and tight, or you know, if I'm feeling particularly exhausted,
but I can't put my finger on why, like maybe
(15:18):
I thought I got good sleep, Like is there something
else making me exhausted that I'm not paying attention to,
So that way I can address it and then know, Okay,
I guess I'm not as good as I thought I was,
you know, and then once you dig a little deeper,
you can maybe take care of it.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
So a body check in is what I would add
to the list of tools, like just.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
To rubber ducky check body check and just to check
write it down, yeah, check check check.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
And be it be like how you doing? Really? How
you doing?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
And then I feel like someone's.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
Like your roommate or your husband or your wife throwing
like come home and you're sitting there talking to a
rubber ducky.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
I like, do I even have a rubber ducky? I
have a rubber ducky thermometer in my cold plunge.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
To It's going to be really easy for jeep people
because don aren't jeep people the ones that have all
those rubber duckies?
Speaker 1 (16:10):
Oh yeah, because they they duck people.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Which I think is bizarre personally. But I spent a
lot of time being like, why do all these people
have all these rubber ducks?
Speaker 3 (16:20):
Yeah, well that's it's kind of community cute within the
jeep community. And they go around and then they just
like set the rubber duck on the handle, and then
when people come back.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Small children's toys on their car and walk away. It's
not weird.
Speaker 3 (16:35):
Morgan on the Bobby Bone Show web Girl Morgan, she
had a jeep. Well she just got rid of it
and got a Bronco. But when she was a jeep girl,
she had her entire jeep lined with ducks. All right, sorry,
I mean we do probably do have listeners that.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
Are duck I fully support it. I just when you
don't know that, I was like, why do people have
all these ducks?
Speaker 1 (16:59):
But now yeah, okay, right, so listeners, this is your homework.
You need to do a how are you no? How
are you really?
Speaker 2 (17:08):
How you doing?
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Check in? And if you don't know, that's okay.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
I would be patient. You don't have to have it
all figured out. If your body's not talking to you,
you do a body check in. If your rubber ducky's
not helping you get in the info, keep giving it
a go because I think sometimes we can stuff it
down for sure, we can compartmentalize and we can power
through the day. So just start asking yourself more regularly,
(17:33):
and the more you ask, the more the more you
shall receive. Which Kat and I always close the episodes
and now I'm thinking about have the day you need
to have? And that was another question of when are
we going to see merch and I will say Chase
just saw some of our merch stuff in person for
the first time yesterday, and the reason why we don't
have a date yet is Kat and are trying to
(17:55):
wear it as much as possible and live in it
because whatever we do put out, when we put it out,
we want it to be perfect and something that we
want to wear all the time and that you will
enjoy wearing. And there's some stuff where we've worn it
for a little bit and we're like, oh, I'm not
feeling this, and then there's other stuff I'm like, I
keep grabbing for this. So now this is going in
the pile like I'm doing a check in. Yeah, I
(18:16):
have to do like a fit check of will I
actually wear this and do I like it? Or do
I like it for this minute? Or am I consistently
liking it? Because if we're going to put it up
for sale, we want it to be something that you
consistently like and have. The day you need to have
is definitely on an item that I find myself wearing
(18:37):
more often, and I was bummed because I thought I
had one for.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
You that you could take and then.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
We will.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
First customer, our first customer, all right. So that being said,
we hope you have the day oh you need to have.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
There you go like cat.
Speaker 3 (18:56):
Normally I would say it and then Cat will Yeah
all right, So thanks for listening, Like and subscribe.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
Tell them all the thanks, Jase, and.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Have the days you need to have. Bye,
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