July 16, 2020 • 31 mins
FIRST THING: We spend so much time scrolling social media, so we should be intentional about the content that we are consuming. Amy shares a recent follow that she is loving, @DanaMercer, who is helping to create an environment where women can feel normal & confident in their own bodies. SECOND THING: Time magazine released an article with tips for having uncomfortable or hard conversations. Given the current climate of the country, Amy thought these tips might be helpful for people navigation talks about racial injustice, coronavirus, elections, etc... THIRD THING: Can blueberries make us smatert?? Amy shares foods important for brain development...and it's stuff she's feeding her kids...but adults should make sure to consume these foods too if possible! FOURTH THING: With so much craziness going on in the world, how do we keep ourselves mentally healthy? Amy did all the research and is letting y’all know that it is okay to schedule a time to worry about life & other helpful tips!!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Okay, A little food for you so life. Oh it's
pretty Bay, It's pretty beautiful than laugh a little moth
(00:29):
kicking with four an Happy Thursday. I hope you're having
a great week. Today's episode is kind of a quick
one and all four things are me therefore totally random
things that I thought would be good stuff for us
to go over, stuff for me and you both. So
I hope you enjoy the episode, and if you're looking
(00:50):
for something to listen to when you get done listening
to this, I recently started a true crime episode. I'm
only on a true crime podcast. I'm only on episode two,
but I'll just recommend it to you real quick. It's
called bear Brook b E A R B R okay,
and Bobby was talking about it on the Morning show
about how his girlfriend Caitlin was making him listen to
(01:13):
it and at first he's like, I'm not really feeling this,
and then he got into it, which I'm already into
it and I'm only an episode two, so check that out.
Other recommendations I have for you are Unsolved Mysteries on Netflix.
I'm three episodes into that and it's amazing. Let's see. Uh,
yellow Stone is back in case you didn't know. Except
(01:34):
for with yellow Stone, it's not all out there at once,
so you can't just unless, of course, you haven't seen
seasons one and two, then you can go binge them.
But the current season, season three, you have to wait
for the episode to air on Sunday and then Monday
it's available on Amazon, but I think you can watch
it on Peacock's new streaming network for free. But maybe
(01:56):
that's season's one too. I don't know exactly how it
works out, but are just some little recommendations for you,
And then when it comes to books, I guess I'll
give you a podcast in TV shows, I might as
well give you a book recommendation. I'm a little more
than halfway done with the Hunger Grames Hunger Games prequel
(02:16):
that recently came out, and it is so good. So
if you're looking for something fiction to take your mind
off things, obviously, I think a lot of us have
been reading heavy stuff, which I think is still important
to educate yourself. If you've gotten some of those anti
racist books that you know we are we shared on
the podcast over the last couple of months. But if
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you're looking for something light, it's definitely an escape. Then
I recommend this prequel. It's pretty good. It's about President Snow.
It goes sixty four years back, so I love it. Uh.
Let me think if there's anything else I wanted to
share with you all. Stevenson's birthday is coming up on
August tent In the past two years for his birthday,
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we have made shirts that uh with little sings that
he says. And for a while he would say, mom,
chill out, Relax, calm down. So when he turned eight,
we put out a chill Out shirt with the money
going to help the orphanage in Haiti. Then when he
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turned nine last year, we put out Relax, and then
this year we're gonna put out Calm Down. And last
night Mary and I I think finalized the design of
what we wanted to look like. We just need to
get stevenson stamp of approval. But if you have the
other two shirts, and those are kind of that's a
thing where we just put them up for a day
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or two and whatever cells cells, and we don't make anymore.
So it really is a cool collection to have. So
if you have the other two, then get ready on
August ten to have the third one, which might be
my favorite of them all. The design that we came
up with. I was like, oh, this is really cute.
I like it. Or if you don't have the other two,
then maybe you can at least get the calm down one. Um.
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And then speaking of Stevenson, his little handwriting on the
b the chain shirts. Y'all posting your pictures of you
and your families and those shirts, it's just super cool.
And those are shirts that are part of the Ally Fund,
which of the proceeds go to UH fight Racial Injustice.
So y'all are amazing, You're awesome, And coming up on
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this episode, you're going to hear a little talk about
Instagram versus reality. That's the first thing. Then the second
thing I get into is navigating uncomfortable conversations, which some
of us might be having in our homes right now,
given what's going on in the world, or maybe just
any situation that you might be in where you have
to have an uncomfortable conversation. I go through some steps
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on how you can have a productive one. The third
thing best foods for your brain, specifically for kids developing brains.
So if your mom and got kids, you want to
listen to that one but obviously as adults, we could
make sure that we're incorporating these foods as well. And
then the fourth thing is uh, mental health and how
can you um try to have stay mentally healthy, especially
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during these crazy times. UM, and I hope that if
y'all have a chance to practice gratitude during a lot
of this. That's another thing Mary and I were also
working on last night was our Gratitude Journal two point
oh and we were working on our letter that we
put in the beginning, and it was kind of like, uh,
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I never thought we'd live during a pandemic, but here
we are. And one thing that you can do for
yourself during these times that you have control over is
your attitude when it comes to things. And when you
practice giving thanks and having an attitude of gratitude, as
cheesy as that sounds, it really can be beneficial for you.
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So I say this all the time. Doesn't even have
to be in our journal. If you want it to
be great, awesome, support it. If not, then just jot
it down on a piece of paper in nel notebook,
type it into your iPhone and this is the Four
Things podcast. So if it's something that's part of your routine,
then make the four Things gratitude part of your routine.
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Maybe whenever you listen to an episode that reminds you
to pull out your phone and write down four things
that you are thankful for. Cool, cool, cool. Okay, here's
today's episode and I'll see you. Uh. I guess after
this episode next Tuesday for the Q and A episode.
Don't forget to send me your questions. Four Things with
Amy Brown at gmail dot com is where you can
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send those. Okay, bye. First, let's talk Instagram for a second. Well, actually,
I guess social media in general. I say Instagram because
that's the outlet that I'm on the most, but maybe
for you it's Facebook or Twitter or TikTok. But I
think from time to time you need to take inventory
of who you're following, or maybe even who you're not following,
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Like maybe there's accounts you should be following that would
be great for you, that would be informative for you,
that would be uplifting and inspiring for you. Or maybe
there's accounts that you need to mute. Maybe you don't
want to hurt somebody's feeling by unfollowing them, Depending on
the situation or the relationship you have, with the person,
or maybe it's a person that would never even know
if you want followed them. Maybe it's time to just
mute or unfollow because the content is not bringing you joy.
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It doesn't mean that person is bad, it doesn't mean
that their content doesn't bring other people joy, just personally,
it's not resonating with you, So maybe it's time to unfollow.
But when it comes to following accounts that are going
to be good for you, I know for me recently,
I've done some unfollowing and some following, and a lot
of new accounts that I am now thankful to have
in my feed have to do with the racial injustice,
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a lot accounts that are helping hold me accountable to
that educate me, keep me informed. And then also accounts
that are involved in eating disorder recovery, body image stuff,
stuff that's good for me to see every day that
can remind me of the journey that I'm on and
lift me up. And one person I want to share
with you today. The reason why I'm even bringing this
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up is because of a recent follow of mine and
it's at Dana Mercer on Instagram, and I recommend you
give her a follow if you feel like this resonates
with you. I'm going to read with you a post
that she recently put up, but I will let you know.
In her bio she does say that she's in eating
disorder recovery, and she also says I'm just helping gals
feel normal, and that's definitely what her posts do. So
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now I'm gonna share with you the post that she
put up with two side by side pictures. Both pictures
are of her in the same swimsuit, but her body
is in slightly different positions with different lighting. And here's
the caption that she wrote to accompany the picks insta
versus reality or let's talk lighting, because that's the main
difference in these photos. In one, my bum is deliberately
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angled into the shadows. The softer light hides my cellulight
and smooths most of my stretch marks. It's flattering. And
the other I'm just casually squatting beside the mirror. My
hips and thighs are in the sunlight, lumps and bumps
are on show. There are a few posing differences core
tight hips, popped back, squeezing, but mostly this pick is
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about light working. It's magic. When I worked in magazines,
we shot at sunrise or sunset. On most sets there
were people holding sun diffusers and reflectors to help create
the perfect flattering balance of shadow and light. The same
thing happens on social media, just in a different form.
Most instant models know exactly how to pose and work
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their angles, and they know lighting too, like how side
light diffuses from a window. It's the most flattering for abs,
but usually pretty harsh on the face. It's why you'll
often see phones covering the face, or how shadows can
gently a manate certain lumps and bubs. All that is
fine with me, honestly, it's art and photography and there's
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no shame in wanting to look fierce. But what I
also want to remind you about is how so much
on here is filtered, posed, perfected, and how you shouldn't
ever compare yourself to a stranger on the internet, because, girl,
you're just seeing their snapshots taken in perfect lights. Your
reality is a whole lot more varied, diverse and human
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than that. It's more perfectly imperfect, real raw, And that's
a wonderful thing. Indeed, you got this, and then that's
the end of the post. And really, y'all, she has
so many great posts like this. Again, her handle is
at Dana Mercer and she is doing exactly what she
set out to do with her account, helping gals feel normal.
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And so I ask you to just take inventory who
you're following. There's a lot of amazing accounts out there
like this, and what happens when you start following accounts
such as Dana's you see who she's reposting, or who's
commenting on her pictures, or who's reposting her. I mean,
that's how I came across her. Was I believe it
was Mary that reposted her in the beginning, But then
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I realized some of the other girls that I've been
following in the you know, normalized bodies world and eating
disorder recovery world, we're following her as well, and I thought, oh, well,
then it's probably gonna be good for me to follow her.
And so far, I've been super impressed with her encouragement
and her ability to just really get real with people
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and show you insta versus reality. So definitely check her out.
Time magazine put out an article that had some tips
for navigating uncomfortable conversations, and for me, when I read it,
I was like, WHOA, I need to summarize some of
these and share them on the podcast, because I feel
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like there's so many things happening in the world right now,
in our country right now that continue to divide us,
whether it's Black Lives Matter or OVID nineteen, wearing masks
not wearing masks, politics, I mean, November is coming up.
I mean, there's just so many things, and we're just
so divided because we can't have productive dialogue, and some
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people don't get the chance to grow because I feel
like they're holding on two questions or thoughts that they've
been too afraid to bring up with others because they
don't know how to have the conversation. And we really
do have to learn how to better navigate uncomfortable conversations.
So I hope that by sharing these tips, we can
have some of these much needed talks with people, whether
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it's in our own home or with our coworkers, or
online with people that were close to or maybe even
people that were not close to. Online, I mean online
is kind of a dangerous place to have some of
these conversations because even then with texting things or writing
stuff out, it's hard. But I would just encourage you
to take note of these little tips and hopefully they
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will come in handy for you. Tip one, don't go
in thinking the first. Approaching a difficult conversation with the
negative attitude can lead to avoiding an important discussion. And
sometimes we think the conversation is going to be worse
than it actually is because we've built it up in
our head to be this awful, awful thing, when really
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we don't have to sabotage it before the conversation has
even started. Tip number two avoid making you statements. And
now this is something I'm personally guilty of if I'm
having maybe a tough conversation with my husband. The article
said that when we use the word you, it makes
people defensive because they're being associated with the behavior or
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the situation. The phrase you need is especially one that
triggers a lot of people. They feel attacked, and it's
definitely used to frequently. So try to share what you're
trying to share without pointing the finger by using you,
y O, you, or you need just eliminate that. Tip
number three be open. Now we need to be able
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to see the issue from the other person's point of view,
and when we show the openness to the other person.
Then it lessens the severity of the other person's point
of view simply by being open. That's it. That's all
you gotta do with that one. Tip four. Realize you're
probably not going to change someone's beliefs. And now this
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is where I think people struggle, especially I don't know
on Facebook. Just remember you're in a conversation. You're not
at war with the person. You're not in a battle,
and that's a good way to frame it. It's just
a conversation. Like you don't have to be going after them,
like I'm going to change your belief right this very second. Well,
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you can do have a chat with them, and maybe
you're someone that's planting a seed that could change their
perspective or their point of view. If that's what needs
to happen, maybe their point of view doesn't need to
be changed in their mind. Tip number five, no one
to walk away from the discussion. You know, after a while,
you may realized that there's no saving the conversation at all.
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So you may just need to walk away or totally
change the topic. If you'd still like to continue hanging
out with the person, just find something else. Completely different
to talk about and then maybe revisit the conversation at
another time when both of you are ready for it.
So those are just five simple tips on how you
can navigate some uncomfortable conversations. Again, it could have to
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do with any of the many things that are going
on in our crazy world right now, um, but I
also want to say it'd also just be some stuff
in home like things going on. I mean, I brought
up that I struggle with you statements when talking to
my husband, and that isn't necessarily like an intense world
topic conversation, but it's stuff that's going on in our
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home where I immediately probably cause him to go on
the defense because I say you do this, da da
da da, when really I could reframe the conversation and
not try to point fingers, but still have a productive
conversation with him. So take these tips and buy them
in your life wherever you see fit. I was recently
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looking up the best brain foods for kids because I
got two kids and I worry about their brains and
proper development. And I found four of the best brain
foods for kids, which I mean means they're good for
adults too, But I was mainly looking for brain development,
so I thought I would share the foods with you.
But before I get into the four simple foods that
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I found, I have a little story about blueberries from
my family trip to Colorado last week and how my
brother in law was totally giving me a hard time
because I made a bowl of blueberries as a snack
and every time that Stevenson would eat one, I would say, Wow,
you look so much smarter after you ate that blueberry.
Your brain loved it, And Stevenson would smile so big,
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and he was actually reading while eating his snack, and
I could tell he felt more confident with his reading
every time I would encourage him about the blueberry helping
his brain. And my brother in law was sitting across
the mist at the table and just rolling his eyes
at me. I think he thought I was super lame
for telling him that, but I totally disagree. Stevenson loves
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doing positive things for his body. He loves when something
is good for his muscles or even his brain. So
if I can reinforce him eating more berries by giving
him instant positive feedback in the moment, then yes, that
berry did just impact his brain in a positive way.
And I wanted to prove my brother in law wrong,
so I instantly got out my phone and googled our
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blueberries good for the brain, and this is what came up.
Blueberries can help maintain brain function and improve memory. And
I shoved my phone in his face and I was
like boom. According to studies, the antioxidants and blueberries may
affect areas of your brain that are essential for elligence.
So obviously it was totally fine for me to encourage
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Stevenson saying he looked smarter after eating blueberries because by
eating them he was helping out his intelligence. And I mean,
a parent has to do what a parent has to do,
and it's working, so why not do it? Okay, Now
I'll give you the best brain foods to feed your
kids for brain development. Here you go, and what do
you know. First on the list berries They are bursting
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with vitamin C and they're important for the formation of neurotransmitters,
the chemicals used for signaling the nervous system. Plums are
the next food on the list, which can help regulate mood,
which if you're a parent and you want to help
your child out with that, I have not been feeding
my kids plums, but I can tell you what. I'm
adding plums to the list because we got to regulate
that mood, and you know what, I probably need to
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pop a few plums myself. Next on the list sweet potatoes.
They are packed with vitamin A, which is essential to
brain health. And then fish. Something that my kids love
is salmon, and didn't grow up eating salmon at all.
It's something I had to introduce to them and they
really didn't like it at first. But the more that
I made it and figured out exactly how they like
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to eat it, which is more on the crispier side
of things, they really love it. I air fry the salmon.
If you have an air fryer, highly recommend you pop
salmon in there. If you don't have an air fryer,
go to Amazon. I have one on my Amazon page
radio amy dot com to find my favorite things on Amazon.
But my daughter Sashara, she does hers in the air
fryer like three different times. I can cook it one
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round and I'm fine with that. She likes to cook
it three rounds and it gets it the right taste
for her. She likes it a little bit crunchy on top,
but salmon is high in omega three fat called d
h A, which is important for building nerve cells that
are responsible for healthy brain growth and development as well
as learning skills. So there you go, berries, plums, sweet potatoes, fish.
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There's obviously way more foods than that, but this is
just a simple little article that I found, and I
think that kids will like all four of those things.
And then another good account to follow on Instagram, which
I've talked about her before is at Kids Eating Color
and well there's periods in there, so if you're on Instagram,
do at kids dot eat dot in dot color. And
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she has so many great posts on how we as
parents can create a healthy relationship with food and our kids,
because navigating that is hard, especially if you're one of
my Outway listeners and you've struggled with food and you
don't want to pass any of your disordered eating onto
your kids. She helps out a lot with how to
word things for your kids and their little brains to
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receive it and not then sea food is any sort
of reward or treat or make them want it more
when really it's because they were told they couldn't have
it type of situation. You know, I'm talking about and
one of the great tips that I learned from her,
and I don't even know when she posted this, but
I try not to a no to my kids anymore
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when they ask for certain things. I try to switch
the language and instead of saying no, I just say, hey, actually,
we're not going to have that now. I think an
example she gave one time was her kids wanted a
particular snack and her response wasn't no. She just said, oh,
that's not on the menu for today's snack, but maybe
we can plan on that for a snack tomorrow, And
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then she ends up incorporating it in there, and then
it doesn't seem like this thing they can't have, causing
them to crave it even more. And we do that
to ourselves as adults. That's why dieting doesn't work. And
I hate that it took me till I was like
thirty eight thirty nine years old to realize I needed
to be anti diet and ditch everything I had basically
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been taught since I was a kid. But that's been
better for my brain and how I view food, and
hopefully that will be the same for you. But if
your mom and you've got kids, I definitely recommend following
that account and incorporating these brain foods into your kid's
diet if you can so, as we struggle with working
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from home, the kids possibly not going back to school
in the fall. If you're a parent, maybe it's unemployment
for some of you listening right now, or your business
at half capacity, or maybe it has to shut down
again soon, or you're not able to see certain loved
ones that you would love to just give them a
hug and you can't. There's just so much coming at
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us right now, including the news that sometimes we have
to take a step back and focus on our well being,
and I wanted to share with you some ways you
can boost your mental health. I was doing some research
for myself, really because I knew that I needed to
make sure I was paying attention to my well being.
So I thought, you know what, my podcast listeners need
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this too, because I want you to be intentional about
focusing on your well being. It's super important, especially during
crazy times such as these. So one of the things
I keep seeing everywhere when it comes to making sure
that you're taking care of yourself, it's that you should
set a time limit on watching or reading the news
I can't emphasize this enough, and we've had to enforce
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this rule at our house. My husband was having the
news on way too much. And again, a lot of
us aren't going into the office as regularly as we
used to. I mean, maybe you're starting to go back
to work, maybe not, a lot of people are still
full blown working at home. And I know, for me,
when I'm at the studio, I don't have a TV on,
I don't have the news going. But when I could
work from home and my husband is, he has the
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news on all the time, and it's just not healthy.
It's not good. The news consensationalized things. I think it's
important to be informed with what's going on, but it
can be really negative at times and all consuming. I
took a break from the news almost fully on my vacation.
I think I only watched the news like twice when
I was in Colorado with my family, and occasionally we
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come across things on Twitter and Instagram, but really tried
to block it out intentionally. But when we got back
to Nashville, we were back at home and then back
in our normal routine, and there my husband was waking
up in the morning making coffee turning on the news,
and I sat there watching it thinking the world is ending,
doom and gloom. I was just off in la la land,
in my own world, thinking life is great and the
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world is ending. It's over. And I think that I
probably should have eased my way into the news. We
probably went a little too fast, too soon turn it on,
got right into it, and probably watched a little too
much of it. So I highly recommend taking a break.
But when you do re enter into the news world,
do it slowly and make sure you have a way
to incorporate some positive news into your cycle. That's why
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on the Bobby Bones Show, we do tell me something good.
We love sharing the feel good news. Maybe on Instagram,
follow some of the feel good news accounts. That way
you can get those good stories mixed in and you
won't think world is totally falling apart, although a lot
of it is. Another thing you can do for yourself
and your mental well being is to make small decisions
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every day. And I think that this falls in line
with something I've talked about before, and it's just saying
that a lot of people use, but my husband likes
to use as well, and it's how do you eat
an elephant and it's one bite at a time. I'm
someone that can get easily overwhelmed by things. But what's
been super helpful for me as but I've been in
therapy and working through some things, is having a list
of really small accomplishments and small decisions that I can
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take care of every day that I can check off
that really make me feel good. And there are things
that I can control and I know that I can
get done, and that's been helpful. Maybe every day you
give yourself a transition time to go from one thing
to the next, whatever that looks like for you. I mean,
all of us are in totally different walks of life,
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some of us going through similar things but not exactly
the same. Our work situations are, family situations are very different.
But when you're going from thing to thing, give yourself
transition time from each thing because a lot of us
aren't used to doing all the things from the same location,
which is you know for a lot of us our
houses right now, So transition times are important. Schedule a
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worry time now. This is something when I was looking
up into health, I was like, wait, I had to
like research the research that I was doing because I
was like what, But to me it made sense because
I've encouraged a lot of you sometimes to schedule a
crying appointment because crying can be so good for you
and you need to get some of those emotions out.
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So maybe you need to watch a sad movie. Maybe
you need to go to your closet and think of
really sad things and get out all the tears because
crying is good for you. And maybe you don't have
time to cry all the time, but you can set
an appointment to go make yourself cry and it'll be good.
And so when I was researching this, I was like, oh, well, yeah,
scheduling a worry time is basically the same thing as
scheduling or crying time. I don't think it's good to
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carry your worry all throughout the day. Obviously, if you
have an anxiety, it needs to be addressed by a
medical professional. I hope that you will go do that,
But I mean every day worries that maybe popping up.
It's not going to be beneficial for us to just
worry all throughout the day. But if we work it
into our schedule, which might sound a really really weird,
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but you can schedule yourself a time to worry about things,
and it'll be really good for you to get all
of those things out and then you can proceed with
the rest of your day or a better night's sleep. Now,
it sounds like you're scheduling a time to be negative,
but I really don't think that that's the case. I
do think too with this, you could counter that with
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scheduling a time to think about things that you're thankful
for and you're grateful for, like maybe follow the four
Things gratitude protocol, which is just jotting down four things
every day that you're grateful for. I mean, that's why
Mary and I made our journal that we have, which
if you want one, you can find one. It's at
Radio ama dot com or four Things dot com. Um
it's tide Dight it's cute, which I will say. We're
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working on a new one. It's in the works. I've
shared some quotes with you all from it. We're trying
to decide on the cover right now and what we
should do. We actually have two that we're working on,
but one we might have to save till next spring.
But we will have a new one. Because I've seen
that some of you are filling up your journals and
you're done and they're complete, and that's amazing. Maybe you
don't have a journal, maybe you don't want to buy
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a journal, but you can jot down four things in
your phone or you have an old notebook. You can
write them down. Schedule a time to do that too,
So schedule your worried time and schedule your gratitude time,
which leads me to another thing that a lot of
people were saying to do for mental health is to
write or talk out your feelings. So maybe it's journaling,
but in a more in depth way. I think that
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jotting down what you're grateful for is amazing, and you know,
that's what we encourage with the journal. You can either
make it a one word thing or you can do
a whole paragraph. It's up to you. But maybe you
need to journal about what you're really going through right
now and your feelings, or you need to talk to someone,
whether that's your sister, your best friend, your spouse, your
significant other, a therapist maybe, which knowing when to get
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professional help is also something that was on a lot
of lists when it came to taking care of your
mental health. So that's something that you can do. It's
okay to let yourself be sad about things. I saw
a lot of encouragement for that, and how it's okay.
I feel like even to my therapist, I a lot
of times will tell her something that's bothering me and
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I'll immediately back it up with I mean, but it
feels so lame when I say that out loud, because
that's not a real problem, it doesn't seem and she's like, no, no, no, no, no,
you need to address those. It's fine, Yes, there are
worse things in the world, but that's something that's going
on in your life at this moment that you need
to address. So it's okay to feel sad about it
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and to want to talk about it. So allow yourself
to be sad about things, even if it's you know,
like the summer, A lot of people have missed vacations
and things that they have planned, and big parties and
weddings and celebrations and birthdays and milestones and all kinds
of stuff that really yeah, and the grand scheme of thing.
I mean, there's a lot of things going on in
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the world. I mean, people are dying, So why would
you want to feel selfish about not being able to
have this certain party that you wanted to have, or
go on this trip that you wanted to go on.
But it's okay to grieve that's stuff and to sit
with it and to put it out there. It is okay.
Let's give each other permission to do that, and then
you can move on from it and you don't have
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to be stuck with it or have it affect you later.
I mean, it's okay. Let's mourn it in the proper
time to be mourned, which is now. Okay. So that
pretty much sums up some things that I found that
could help you with your mental health. And I just
want each of you to try to take care of
yourselves as best as you can. You yourself, your family,
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your friends, whatever you gotta do, because we are all
in this to other and I think will emerge from
stronger than ever. At least that is my hope
Okay, A little food for you so life. Oh it's
pretty Bay, It's pretty beautiful than laugh a little moth
(00:29):
kicking with four an Happy Thursday. I hope you're having
a great week. Today's episode is kind of a quick
one and all four things are me therefore totally random
things that I thought would be good stuff for us
to go over, stuff for me and you both. So
I hope you enjoy the episode, and if you're looking
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for something to listen to when you get done listening
to this, I recently started a true crime episode. I'm
only on a true crime podcast. I'm only on episode two,
but I'll just recommend it to you real quick. It's
called bear Brook b E A R B R okay,
and Bobby was talking about it on the Morning show
about how his girlfriend Caitlin was making him listen to
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it and at first he's like, I'm not really feeling this,
and then he got into it, which I'm already into
it and I'm only an episode two, so check that out.
Other recommendations I have for you are Unsolved Mysteries on Netflix.
I'm three episodes into that and it's amazing. Let's see. Uh,
yellow Stone is back in case you didn't know. Except
(01:34):
for with yellow Stone, it's not all out there at once,
so you can't just unless, of course, you haven't seen
seasons one and two, then you can go binge them.
But the current season, season three, you have to wait
for the episode to air on Sunday and then Monday
it's available on Amazon, but I think you can watch
it on Peacock's new streaming network for free. But maybe
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that's season's one too. I don't know exactly how it
works out, but are just some little recommendations for you,
And then when it comes to books, I guess I'll
give you a podcast in TV shows, I might as
well give you a book recommendation. I'm a little more
than halfway done with the Hunger Grames Hunger Games prequel
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that recently came out, and it is so good. So
if you're looking for something fiction to take your mind
off things, obviously, I think a lot of us have
been reading heavy stuff, which I think is still important
to educate yourself. If you've gotten some of those anti
racist books that you know we are we shared on
the podcast over the last couple of months. But if
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you're looking for something light, it's definitely an escape. Then
I recommend this prequel. It's pretty good. It's about President Snow.
It goes sixty four years back, so I love it. Uh.
Let me think if there's anything else I wanted to
share with you all. Stevenson's birthday is coming up on
August tent In the past two years for his birthday,
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we have made shirts that uh with little sings that
he says. And for a while he would say, mom,
chill out, Relax, calm down. So when he turned eight,
we put out a chill Out shirt with the money
going to help the orphanage in Haiti. Then when he
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turned nine last year, we put out Relax, and then
this year we're gonna put out Calm Down. And last
night Mary and I I think finalized the design of
what we wanted to look like. We just need to
get stevenson stamp of approval. But if you have the
other two shirts, and those are kind of that's a
thing where we just put them up for a day
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or two and whatever cells cells, and we don't make anymore.
So it really is a cool collection to have. So
if you have the other two, then get ready on
August ten to have the third one, which might be
my favorite of them all. The design that we came
up with. I was like, oh, this is really cute.
I like it. Or if you don't have the other two,
then maybe you can at least get the calm down one. Um.
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And then speaking of Stevenson, his little handwriting on the
b the chain shirts. Y'all posting your pictures of you
and your families and those shirts, it's just super cool.
And those are shirts that are part of the Ally Fund,
which of the proceeds go to UH fight Racial Injustice.
So y'all are amazing, You're awesome, And coming up on
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this episode, you're going to hear a little talk about
Instagram versus reality. That's the first thing. Then the second
thing I get into is navigating uncomfortable conversations, which some
of us might be having in our homes right now,
given what's going on in the world, or maybe just
any situation that you might be in where you have
to have an uncomfortable conversation. I go through some steps
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on how you can have a productive one. The third
thing best foods for your brain, specifically for kids developing brains.
So if your mom and got kids, you want to
listen to that one but obviously as adults, we could
make sure that we're incorporating these foods as well. And
then the fourth thing is uh, mental health and how
can you um try to have stay mentally healthy, especially
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during these crazy times. UM, and I hope that if
y'all have a chance to practice gratitude during a lot
of this. That's another thing Mary and I were also
working on last night was our Gratitude Journal two point
oh and we were working on our letter that we
put in the beginning, and it was kind of like, uh,
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I never thought we'd live during a pandemic, but here
we are. And one thing that you can do for
yourself during these times that you have control over is
your attitude when it comes to things. And when you
practice giving thanks and having an attitude of gratitude, as
cheesy as that sounds, it really can be beneficial for you.
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So I say this all the time. Doesn't even have
to be in our journal. If you want it to
be great, awesome, support it. If not, then just jot
it down on a piece of paper in nel notebook,
type it into your iPhone and this is the Four
Things podcast. So if it's something that's part of your routine,
then make the four Things gratitude part of your routine.
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Maybe whenever you listen to an episode that reminds you
to pull out your phone and write down four things
that you are thankful for. Cool, cool, cool. Okay, here's
today's episode and I'll see you. Uh. I guess after
this episode next Tuesday for the Q and A episode.
Don't forget to send me your questions. Four Things with
Amy Brown at gmail dot com is where you can
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send those. Okay, bye. First, let's talk Instagram for a second. Well, actually,
I guess social media in general. I say Instagram because
that's the outlet that I'm on the most, but maybe
for you it's Facebook or Twitter or TikTok. But I
think from time to time you need to take inventory
of who you're following, or maybe even who you're not following,
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Like maybe there's accounts you should be following that would
be great for you, that would be informative for you,
that would be uplifting and inspiring for you. Or maybe
there's accounts that you need to mute. Maybe you don't
want to hurt somebody's feeling by unfollowing them, Depending on
the situation or the relationship you have, with the person,
or maybe it's a person that would never even know
if you want followed them. Maybe it's time to just
mute or unfollow because the content is not bringing you joy.
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It doesn't mean that person is bad, it doesn't mean
that their content doesn't bring other people joy, just personally,
it's not resonating with you, So maybe it's time to unfollow.
But when it comes to following accounts that are going
to be good for you, I know for me recently,
I've done some unfollowing and some following, and a lot
of new accounts that I am now thankful to have
in my feed have to do with the racial injustice,
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a lot accounts that are helping hold me accountable to
that educate me, keep me informed. And then also accounts
that are involved in eating disorder recovery, body image stuff,
stuff that's good for me to see every day that
can remind me of the journey that I'm on and
lift me up. And one person I want to share
with you today. The reason why I'm even bringing this
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up is because of a recent follow of mine and
it's at Dana Mercer on Instagram, and I recommend you
give her a follow if you feel like this resonates
with you. I'm going to read with you a post
that she recently put up, but I will let you know.
In her bio she does say that she's in eating
disorder recovery, and she also says I'm just helping gals
feel normal, and that's definitely what her posts do. So
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now I'm gonna share with you the post that she
put up with two side by side pictures. Both pictures
are of her in the same swimsuit, but her body
is in slightly different positions with different lighting. And here's
the caption that she wrote to accompany the picks insta
versus reality or let's talk lighting, because that's the main
difference in these photos. In one, my bum is deliberately
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angled into the shadows. The softer light hides my cellulight
and smooths most of my stretch marks. It's flattering. And
the other I'm just casually squatting beside the mirror. My
hips and thighs are in the sunlight, lumps and bumps
are on show. There are a few posing differences core
tight hips, popped back, squeezing, but mostly this pick is
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about light working. It's magic. When I worked in magazines,
we shot at sunrise or sunset. On most sets there
were people holding sun diffusers and reflectors to help create
the perfect flattering balance of shadow and light. The same
thing happens on social media, just in a different form.
Most instant models know exactly how to pose and work
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their angles, and they know lighting too, like how side
light diffuses from a window. It's the most flattering for abs,
but usually pretty harsh on the face. It's why you'll
often see phones covering the face, or how shadows can
gently a manate certain lumps and bubs. All that is
fine with me, honestly, it's art and photography and there's
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no shame in wanting to look fierce. But what I
also want to remind you about is how so much
on here is filtered, posed, perfected, and how you shouldn't
ever compare yourself to a stranger on the internet, because, girl,
you're just seeing their snapshots taken in perfect lights. Your
reality is a whole lot more varied, diverse and human
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than that. It's more perfectly imperfect, real raw, And that's
a wonderful thing. Indeed, you got this, and then that's
the end of the post. And really, y'all, she has
so many great posts like this. Again, her handle is
at Dana Mercer and she is doing exactly what she
set out to do with her account, helping gals feel normal.
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And so I ask you to just take inventory who
you're following. There's a lot of amazing accounts out there
like this, and what happens when you start following accounts
such as Dana's you see who she's reposting, or who's
commenting on her pictures, or who's reposting her. I mean,
that's how I came across her. Was I believe it
was Mary that reposted her in the beginning, But then
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I realized some of the other girls that I've been
following in the you know, normalized bodies world and eating
disorder recovery world, we're following her as well, and I thought, oh, well,
then it's probably gonna be good for me to follow her.
And so far, I've been super impressed with her encouragement
and her ability to just really get real with people
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and show you insta versus reality. So definitely check her out.
Time magazine put out an article that had some tips
for navigating uncomfortable conversations, and for me, when I read it,
I was like, WHOA, I need to summarize some of
these and share them on the podcast, because I feel
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like there's so many things happening in the world right now,
in our country right now that continue to divide us,
whether it's Black Lives Matter or OVID nineteen, wearing masks
not wearing masks, politics, I mean, November is coming up.
I mean, there's just so many things, and we're just
so divided because we can't have productive dialogue, and some
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people don't get the chance to grow because I feel
like they're holding on two questions or thoughts that they've
been too afraid to bring up with others because they
don't know how to have the conversation. And we really
do have to learn how to better navigate uncomfortable conversations.
So I hope that by sharing these tips, we can
have some of these much needed talks with people, whether
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it's in our own home or with our coworkers, or
online with people that were close to or maybe even
people that were not close to. Online, I mean online
is kind of a dangerous place to have some of
these conversations because even then with texting things or writing
stuff out, it's hard. But I would just encourage you
to take note of these little tips and hopefully they
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will come in handy for you. Tip one, don't go
in thinking the first. Approaching a difficult conversation with the
negative attitude can lead to avoiding an important discussion. And
sometimes we think the conversation is going to be worse
than it actually is because we've built it up in
our head to be this awful, awful thing, when really
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we don't have to sabotage it before the conversation has
even started. Tip number two avoid making you statements. And
now this is something I'm personally guilty of if I'm
having maybe a tough conversation with my husband. The article
said that when we use the word you, it makes
people defensive because they're being associated with the behavior or
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the situation. The phrase you need is especially one that
triggers a lot of people. They feel attacked, and it's
definitely used to frequently. So try to share what you're
trying to share without pointing the finger by using you,
y O, you, or you need just eliminate that. Tip
number three be open. Now we need to be able
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to see the issue from the other person's point of view,
and when we show the openness to the other person.
Then it lessens the severity of the other person's point
of view simply by being open. That's it. That's all
you gotta do with that one. Tip four. Realize you're
probably not going to change someone's beliefs. And now this
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is where I think people struggle, especially I don't know
on Facebook. Just remember you're in a conversation. You're not
at war with the person. You're not in a battle,
and that's a good way to frame it. It's just
a conversation. Like you don't have to be going after them,
like I'm going to change your belief right this very second. Well,
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you can do have a chat with them, and maybe
you're someone that's planting a seed that could change their
perspective or their point of view. If that's what needs
to happen, maybe their point of view doesn't need to
be changed in their mind. Tip number five, no one
to walk away from the discussion. You know, after a while,
you may realized that there's no saving the conversation at all.
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So you may just need to walk away or totally
change the topic. If you'd still like to continue hanging
out with the person, just find something else. Completely different
to talk about and then maybe revisit the conversation at
another time when both of you are ready for it.
So those are just five simple tips on how you
can navigate some uncomfortable conversations. Again, it could have to
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do with any of the many things that are going
on in our crazy world right now, um, but I
also want to say it'd also just be some stuff
in home like things going on. I mean, I brought
up that I struggle with you statements when talking to
my husband, and that isn't necessarily like an intense world
topic conversation, but it's stuff that's going on in our
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home where I immediately probably cause him to go on
the defense because I say you do this, da da
da da, when really I could reframe the conversation and
not try to point fingers, but still have a productive
conversation with him. So take these tips and buy them
in your life wherever you see fit. I was recently
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looking up the best brain foods for kids because I
got two kids and I worry about their brains and
proper development. And I found four of the best brain
foods for kids, which I mean means they're good for
adults too, But I was mainly looking for brain development,
so I thought I would share the foods with you.
But before I get into the four simple foods that
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I found, I have a little story about blueberries from
my family trip to Colorado last week and how my
brother in law was totally giving me a hard time
because I made a bowl of blueberries as a snack
and every time that Stevenson would eat one, I would say, Wow,
you look so much smarter after you ate that blueberry.
Your brain loved it, And Stevenson would smile so big,
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and he was actually reading while eating his snack, and
I could tell he felt more confident with his reading
every time I would encourage him about the blueberry helping
his brain. And my brother in law was sitting across
the mist at the table and just rolling his eyes
at me. I think he thought I was super lame
for telling him that, but I totally disagree. Stevenson loves
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doing positive things for his body. He loves when something
is good for his muscles or even his brain. So
if I can reinforce him eating more berries by giving
him instant positive feedback in the moment, then yes, that
berry did just impact his brain in a positive way.
And I wanted to prove my brother in law wrong,
so I instantly got out my phone and googled our
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blueberries good for the brain, and this is what came up.
Blueberries can help maintain brain function and improve memory. And
I shoved my phone in his face and I was
like boom. According to studies, the antioxidants and blueberries may
affect areas of your brain that are essential for elligence.
So obviously it was totally fine for me to encourage
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Stevenson saying he looked smarter after eating blueberries because by
eating them he was helping out his intelligence. And I mean,
a parent has to do what a parent has to do,
and it's working, so why not do it? Okay, Now
I'll give you the best brain foods to feed your
kids for brain development. Here you go, and what do
you know. First on the list berries They are bursting
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with vitamin C and they're important for the formation of neurotransmitters,
the chemicals used for signaling the nervous system. Plums are
the next food on the list, which can help regulate mood,
which if you're a parent and you want to help
your child out with that, I have not been feeding
my kids plums, but I can tell you what. I'm
adding plums to the list because we got to regulate
that mood, and you know what, I probably need to
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pop a few plums myself. Next on the list sweet potatoes.
They are packed with vitamin A, which is essential to
brain health. And then fish. Something that my kids love
is salmon, and didn't grow up eating salmon at all.
It's something I had to introduce to them and they
really didn't like it at first. But the more that
I made it and figured out exactly how they like
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to eat it, which is more on the crispier side
of things, they really love it. I air fry the salmon.
If you have an air fryer, highly recommend you pop
salmon in there. If you don't have an air fryer,
go to Amazon. I have one on my Amazon page
radio amy dot com to find my favorite things on Amazon.
But my daughter Sashara, she does hers in the air
fryer like three different times. I can cook it one
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round and I'm fine with that. She likes to cook
it three rounds and it gets it the right taste
for her. She likes it a little bit crunchy on top,
but salmon is high in omega three fat called d
h A, which is important for building nerve cells that
are responsible for healthy brain growth and development as well
as learning skills. So there you go, berries, plums, sweet potatoes, fish.
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There's obviously way more foods than that, but this is
just a simple little article that I found, and I
think that kids will like all four of those things.
And then another good account to follow on Instagram, which
I've talked about her before is at Kids Eating Color
and well there's periods in there, so if you're on Instagram,
do at kids dot eat dot in dot color. And
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she has so many great posts on how we as
parents can create a healthy relationship with food and our kids,
because navigating that is hard, especially if you're one of
my Outway listeners and you've struggled with food and you
don't want to pass any of your disordered eating onto
your kids. She helps out a lot with how to
word things for your kids and their little brains to
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receive it and not then sea food is any sort
of reward or treat or make them want it more
when really it's because they were told they couldn't have
it type of situation. You know, I'm talking about and
one of the great tips that I learned from her,
and I don't even know when she posted this, but
I try not to a no to my kids anymore
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when they ask for certain things. I try to switch
the language and instead of saying no, I just say, hey, actually,
we're not going to have that now. I think an
example she gave one time was her kids wanted a
particular snack and her response wasn't no. She just said, oh,
that's not on the menu for today's snack, but maybe
we can plan on that for a snack tomorrow, And
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then she ends up incorporating it in there, and then
it doesn't seem like this thing they can't have, causing
them to crave it even more. And we do that
to ourselves as adults. That's why dieting doesn't work. And
I hate that it took me till I was like
thirty eight thirty nine years old to realize I needed
to be anti diet and ditch everything I had basically
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been taught since I was a kid. But that's been
better for my brain and how I view food, and
hopefully that will be the same for you. But if
your mom and you've got kids, I definitely recommend following
that account and incorporating these brain foods into your kid's
diet if you can so, as we struggle with working
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from home, the kids possibly not going back to school
in the fall. If you're a parent, maybe it's unemployment
for some of you listening right now, or your business
at half capacity, or maybe it has to shut down
again soon, or you're not able to see certain loved
ones that you would love to just give them a
hug and you can't. There's just so much coming at
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us right now, including the news that sometimes we have
to take a step back and focus on our well being,
and I wanted to share with you some ways you
can boost your mental health. I was doing some research
for myself, really because I knew that I needed to
make sure I was paying attention to my well being.
So I thought, you know what, my podcast listeners need
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this too, because I want you to be intentional about
focusing on your well being. It's super important, especially during
crazy times such as these. So one of the things
I keep seeing everywhere when it comes to making sure
that you're taking care of yourself, it's that you should
set a time limit on watching or reading the news
I can't emphasize this enough, and we've had to enforce
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this rule at our house. My husband was having the
news on way too much. And again, a lot of
us aren't going into the office as regularly as we
used to. I mean, maybe you're starting to go back
to work, maybe not, a lot of people are still
full blown working at home. And I know, for me,
when I'm at the studio, I don't have a TV on,
I don't have the news going. But when I could
work from home and my husband is, he has the
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news on all the time, and it's just not healthy.
It's not good. The news consensationalized things. I think it's
important to be informed with what's going on, but it
can be really negative at times and all consuming. I
took a break from the news almost fully on my vacation.
I think I only watched the news like twice when
I was in Colorado with my family, and occasionally we
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come across things on Twitter and Instagram, but really tried
to block it out intentionally. But when we got back
to Nashville, we were back at home and then back
in our normal routine, and there my husband was waking
up in the morning making coffee turning on the news,
and I sat there watching it thinking the world is ending,
doom and gloom. I was just off in la la land,
in my own world, thinking life is great and the
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world is ending. It's over. And I think that I
probably should have eased my way into the news. We
probably went a little too fast, too soon turn it on,
got right into it, and probably watched a little too
much of it. So I highly recommend taking a break.
But when you do re enter into the news world,
do it slowly and make sure you have a way
to incorporate some positive news into your cycle. That's why
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on the Bobby Bones Show, we do tell me something good.
We love sharing the feel good news. Maybe on Instagram,
follow some of the feel good news accounts. That way
you can get those good stories mixed in and you
won't think world is totally falling apart, although a lot
of it is. Another thing you can do for yourself
and your mental well being is to make small decisions
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every day. And I think that this falls in line
with something I've talked about before, and it's just saying
that a lot of people use, but my husband likes
to use as well, and it's how do you eat
an elephant and it's one bite at a time. I'm
someone that can get easily overwhelmed by things. But what's
been super helpful for me as but I've been in
therapy and working through some things, is having a list
of really small accomplishments and small decisions that I can
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take care of every day that I can check off
that really make me feel good. And there are things
that I can control and I know that I can
get done, and that's been helpful. Maybe every day you
give yourself a transition time to go from one thing
to the next, whatever that looks like for you. I mean,
all of us are in totally different walks of life,
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some of us going through similar things but not exactly
the same. Our work situations are, family situations are very different.
But when you're going from thing to thing, give yourself
transition time from each thing because a lot of us
aren't used to doing all the things from the same location,
which is you know for a lot of us our
houses right now, So transition times are important. Schedule a
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worry time now. This is something when I was looking
up into health, I was like, wait, I had to
like research the research that I was doing because I
was like what, But to me it made sense because
I've encouraged a lot of you sometimes to schedule a
crying appointment because crying can be so good for you
and you need to get some of those emotions out.
(26:36):
So maybe you need to watch a sad movie. Maybe
you need to go to your closet and think of
really sad things and get out all the tears because
crying is good for you. And maybe you don't have
time to cry all the time, but you can set
an appointment to go make yourself cry and it'll be good.
And so when I was researching this, I was like, oh, well, yeah,
scheduling a worry time is basically the same thing as
scheduling or crying time. I don't think it's good to
(26:58):
carry your worry all throughout the day. Obviously, if you
have an anxiety, it needs to be addressed by a
medical professional. I hope that you will go do that,
But I mean every day worries that maybe popping up.
It's not going to be beneficial for us to just
worry all throughout the day. But if we work it
into our schedule, which might sound a really really weird,
(27:20):
but you can schedule yourself a time to worry about things,
and it'll be really good for you to get all
of those things out and then you can proceed with
the rest of your day or a better night's sleep. Now,
it sounds like you're scheduling a time to be negative,
but I really don't think that that's the case. I
do think too with this, you could counter that with
(27:41):
scheduling a time to think about things that you're thankful
for and you're grateful for, like maybe follow the four
Things gratitude protocol, which is just jotting down four things
every day that you're grateful for. I mean, that's why
Mary and I made our journal that we have, which
if you want one, you can find one. It's at
Radio ama dot com or four Things dot com. Um
it's tide Dight it's cute, which I will say. We're
(28:02):
working on a new one. It's in the works. I've
shared some quotes with you all from it. We're trying
to decide on the cover right now and what we
should do. We actually have two that we're working on,
but one we might have to save till next spring.
But we will have a new one. Because I've seen
that some of you are filling up your journals and
you're done and they're complete, and that's amazing. Maybe you
don't have a journal, maybe you don't want to buy
(28:23):
a journal, but you can jot down four things in
your phone or you have an old notebook. You can
write them down. Schedule a time to do that too,
So schedule your worried time and schedule your gratitude time,
which leads me to another thing that a lot of
people were saying to do for mental health is to
write or talk out your feelings. So maybe it's journaling,
but in a more in depth way. I think that
(28:45):
jotting down what you're grateful for is amazing, and you know,
that's what we encourage with the journal. You can either
make it a one word thing or you can do
a whole paragraph. It's up to you. But maybe you
need to journal about what you're really going through right
now and your feelings, or you need to talk to someone,
whether that's your sister, your best friend, your spouse, your
significant other, a therapist maybe, which knowing when to get
(29:08):
professional help is also something that was on a lot
of lists when it came to taking care of your
mental health. So that's something that you can do. It's
okay to let yourself be sad about things. I saw
a lot of encouragement for that, and how it's okay.
I feel like even to my therapist, I a lot
of times will tell her something that's bothering me and
(29:30):
I'll immediately back it up with I mean, but it
feels so lame when I say that out loud, because
that's not a real problem, it doesn't seem and she's like, no, no, no, no, no,
you need to address those. It's fine, Yes, there are
worse things in the world, but that's something that's going
on in your life at this moment that you need
to address. So it's okay to feel sad about it
(29:52):
and to want to talk about it. So allow yourself
to be sad about things, even if it's you know,
like the summer, A lot of people have missed vacations
and things that they have planned, and big parties and
weddings and celebrations and birthdays and milestones and all kinds
of stuff that really yeah, and the grand scheme of thing.
I mean, there's a lot of things going on in
(30:13):
the world. I mean, people are dying, So why would
you want to feel selfish about not being able to
have this certain party that you wanted to have, or
go on this trip that you wanted to go on.
But it's okay to grieve that's stuff and to sit
with it and to put it out there. It is okay.
Let's give each other permission to do that, and then
you can move on from it and you don't have
(30:34):
to be stuck with it or have it affect you later.
I mean, it's okay. Let's mourn it in the proper
time to be mourned, which is now. Okay. So that
pretty much sums up some things that I found that
could help you with your mental health. And I just
want each of you to try to take care of
yourselves as best as you can. You yourself, your family,
(30:54):
your friends, whatever you gotta do, because we are all
in this to other and I think will emerge from
stronger than ever. At least that is my hope
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