September 25, 2025 • 25 mins
This week’s Couch Talks reminds us why we love hearing from you! Amy & Kat go over multiple emails: some updates from listeners that have ended up on Couch Talks in the past, Cheryl wrote in and shared her funny “tongue thruster” story from her childhood, and Dave is offering to send us money…no strings attached…so there’s that. Hope you enjoy & have the day you need to have!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Good break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just fons Amy
and Cat gotch covincking No, brother, ladies and folks, do
you just follow Anna Spear where it's on the front
and real stuff to the chill stuff and them. But Swayne,
sometimes the best thing you can do it just stop
you feel things. This is feeling things with Amy and Kat.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Happy Thursday. Welcome to couch Talks. I'm Amy and I'm
Kat and Cat. I don't know if you have to
give you a little disclaimer spiel thinging that you normally
do at the beginning of couch Talks, because this is
sort of like an update episode, okay, where we got
emails from listeners that have formally written in for advice
on couch Talks and they have sent updates.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
So nobody's gonna be confused.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Right unless you offer additional advice within the emails that
are sent. So then you might need to give the disclaimer.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Do you want me to give it?
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Sure?
Speaker 4 (00:58):
I take it back quick that even though we're talking
about feedback, we have given people and you might take
that feedback for yourself. This podcast does not serve as
a replacement for therapy. Yeah, but you might get some
help from it.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Yeah, you might, or you might not. I feel like
someone even said, well, I'll read the emails, but someone
maybe if I included that email, like alluded to the fact,
like to the fact that it doesn't always relate to them,
but it doesn't matter because you never know, like what
little nugget you might get.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Well, I'm excited for the updates.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
And I also sprinkled in a few just random emails,
not an update, Like, let me just start with this
funny one from Dave. Do you know what I'm about
to say? No, Okay, this is in reference to our
Paypig episode in a while back, where I think he
wants to be a paypig yeah, or he is one already,
which well, we got a couple and he would be ours.
(01:53):
So it is financial domination also known as findom where
I called my boyfriend that was a very funny moment
during an episode a few months ago, and I was
demanding money and my boyfriend was just like no, And
Dave sent us an email just said to either one
of you demand money for me, and I will definitely pay,
no strings attached. Please try it. It'll be fun for
(02:15):
both of us. Really, no strings attached. I just need
to know how to send you the cash. I can
do PayPal or Venmo or whatever, just let me know.
So that's an update on findam And I'm like, we
have a donor.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Second or a sponsor or. If there was a way
for us to not be I don't know. The PayPal
and Venmo scares me because, like.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Is you ever report it to your texes? Oh? No,
thank you. It's a gift.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
But it's a gift.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Okay, Well, if you don't.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Know how much, Cryocat says it has to be under
nineteen thousand, five hundred dollars. But he said ask for whatever, I'll.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Pay, so we could get twenty okay, Well if we didn't,
if he could just like mail the money to a
po box, I would feel better about doing this. But
my first thought was, why wouldn't you do something like this? Why?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Why? Why does a po box check feel any different
than just like direct like Venmo or PayPal's like direct money.
I don't in my head, like, so you won't have
to go to the bank and deposit it.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Well, okay, well, in my head, I don't know. It
feels like they could like get in there and like
steal something.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Oh yeah, you feel like if you're giving them your vin.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
But if it's telling them my Venmo name, yeah, Okay, Dave, Okay,
we're are we done with this?
Speaker 3 (03:32):
We're joking. I don't think we're gonna accept that, but
I did think it was interesting that he was offering
and that they are out there. So I do have
an update from anonymous. We obviously know her name, but
her original email was anonymous, so we'll keep her update
anonymous as well. She originally hit us up recently. I
believe this was a fairly recent episode. She was asking
(03:55):
how to support a family member going through a hard
time while also protecting your own peace, like the family
members going through divorce, and they were calling her every
single day and just sucking the life out of her,
and she's like, what do I do? And you gave
advice not to replace therapy, but well, yeah, you're the therapist.
And we shared and she sent a follow up and
(04:19):
I thought this is good. And then she went a
little deeper into some of her backstory, which I thought
might also be helpful for other people if they happened
to be a peacekeeper or an enneagram nine. She'll mention
that Hey, Amy and Kat, I'm so happy my email
got picked for today's episode. I never get picked for anything, lol.
I wanted to follow up and thank you for giving
(04:40):
me some really helpful perspective on this situation. I liked
Kat's question what are you afraid of? And the reminder
that we train people how to treat us. I didn't
share this in my initial email, but I have two
older siblings and the family member I mentioned is my
oldest sibling. Because of our age gap, we've never been
very close before the divorce. We never even talked on
(05:01):
the phone or had a one on one dinner, even
though we live in the same city. That's made this
whole situation feel a little strange and honestly uncomfortable at times.
My siblings and I grew up with parents who were
high functioning alcoholics, and I fell into the role of peacekeeper.
I've always been the one to offer comfort to people,
which has made me a bit of a people pleaser.
(05:22):
I'm also a nine on the Enneagram, so I've been
working on setting boundaries and learning to stand up for myself.
A lot of my internal struggle comes from the feeling
that I need to fix situations for others, and I
have a deep fear of letting people down. My biggest
fear is that someone will be mad or disappointed in me.
With my oldest sibling now reaching out and leaning so
(05:42):
heavily on me, I feel this huge responsibility to show up,
especially because they don't really have a lot of friends.
This episode gave me a lot to think on, and
I think many listeners could apply it in their own
lives too.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Ps.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I love when you mentioned kiss keep it simple stupid.
I heard that on the office years ago and I
say it to my husband all the time, and that
gave me a laugh. Also, you guys got an email
last week from someone saying they don't understand the format
of this podcast, and I want to say that you
may have some extremely long term fans that don't enjoy change,
but I hope you guys know that you have fans
(06:17):
like me who are along for the ride and are
just happy that I get to listen to you guys
in some capacity. Hope you guys have the day you
need to have Anonymous.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
I love that all of it. Also, I love that
she commented about the format of our podcast. I do
want to clarify, though, I don't know that the person
that wrote in asking about the format, she didn't hate it,
she just was confused, right.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Which you said. Here, you guys got an email last
week simon saying they don't understand the format of the podcast. Right.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
Well, we got a couple responses to that of people
being like, I just want you to know like we
like it or like And I guess I'm just feeling
like I need to stick up for the person that
really and originally.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
For sure that's why I in this one. I know
she wasn't saying like she hates it, but some people
don't enjoy change, so it might be a little off
to them, But I get what you're saying. Like the
person genuinely was like, I'm just a little confused, which
like maybe some.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Days were too.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah, and I think that we just yea, hopefully she
got the answer from us that we don't have a
specific format.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
The format is no format, no format. Yeah, but we
appreciate the curiosity behind our format and the change because
structure is good, Like knowing what you're getting is going
to be good. And now that she knows what she's
getting because we've explained it, I get your point. Some
other people reference that. I think, like, this isn't really
(07:43):
an update, but this is just an email from Natalie
and Texas. She said, thanks for sharing the email and
the listener who shared confusion over the format of the podcast.
I personally really enjoy the friendship style conversations. I recently
welcomed our third baby, and my two older kids are
back in school. I've entered a very lonely season of
Pardon It's okay. I know it's not forever, as I'm
not going back to work this time. So hearing two
(08:05):
other women converse about topics is very healing. So that's
from Natalie, So I don't think that's a definitely not
a slam. I think that maybe other people too were
curious and then they reflect on, oh, it is just
like I'm listening to my friends talking, and I actually
enjoy that.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
You never know what you're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
I also, I mean, obviously it sounds like she got
what she needed from our original catch talks we did,
but all this information is actually really helpful to think about,
like why she was feeling the way she did and
being the peacekeeper and why, like I mean, she sounds
like a nine because I don't know that. I if
I had a sibling that had not been a close
(08:48):
relationship to me, would have been able to offer as
much as she even did.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
My sister's a nine.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
My husband's a nine.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
I'm very glad I'm married to a nine. It has
helped our relationship in a lot of ways. And do
everything and never let me down. But sometimes they don't
realize that. Like I know from my husband, I don't
think he realizes how much he takes on. And I'll
even say it sometimes he's like, it's just.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
The way it is.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
And so even for her to recognize that, it's a
big deal to know that you take that on, because
if you don't know you can take it on, you're
just gonna pile pile a pile. So I love nine's
and also like it's okay, take a break.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Yeah, it's good. That's a healthy nine would know to
take a break. Yeah, Because my sister landed herself in
the hospital once and she was like, I know, I
think I'm having a heart attack and they're like, I
think it's anxiety. Because she was trying to fix a
lot of things and she was carrying a lot like
being a fixer and she was like, well, suddenly I
(09:44):
feel better, and they're like, that's because we just gave
you out a van. That's so that also means this
is anxiety, and she was like, Okay, well, I guess
that's better than a heart attack. She didn't realize how
much she was internalizing the situations she was trying to
also fix, or how heavy it was weighing on her.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
And I'm I'm not glad that happened to your sister,
but I'm glad you're sharing that because I think a
lot of people who are in that role think it's
not that big of a deal. I can take this on,
it's not going to affect me. I can handle it
without realizing how much can happen internally to you, even
just physically to you from stress and being playing that role.
(10:28):
I think they minimize it because it's what they've always done,
but that affects all parts of your health.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Speaking of going to the hospital, I'm just curious, like
your thoughts on this, because I was talking to my
cousin the other day because she had to have like
an emergency situation happen, and it's so funny to me
because this is classic her mom. This is just like
how she was raised, Like she's in severe pain and
has to go to the hospital and ended up having
surgery out of nowhere. But that's the type of pain
I'm talking about. But before she went, she should her husband,
(10:56):
I have to take a bath and shave. I know
I'm going to be in some sort of surgery. They're
gonna be looking at my body like I don't know
what's wrong with me, but I'm in such pain. And
she hadn't showered, and so she mustered up the strength
to shower, shave, get ready, put on a cute jogging suit,
and then went to the er and then was admitted
into surgery. And they were pretty much like, yeah, had
(11:19):
we started this any later, this could have been really
like far worse. She was like, well, at Liza look good.
Not look good, but like at least she felt clean
and put together. And I was thinking, like, huh, would
I have that in me? But she was just built
like her mom. When her mom passed away, she was like,
I better die pretty with my lipstick on.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
You know, have you been to the er for something recently?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
No? Okay, I was gonna say you can no.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
But one time, my friend, my other friend this is
years ago got in a car wreck during No Shave November.
One time, my friend, my other friend this is years ago,
(12:04):
got in a car wreck during no Shave November and
she was really freaking out when they the EMS was
putting her but no girls did it. Well I don't know,
maybe she was in Colorado, but I think girls did
(12:24):
it too with their legs hair and stuff.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
And stuff whatever, like their legs.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
So all I know is that when the EMS was
like they had to cut her clothes off and her
legs were all hairy, and she's like, I'm doing no
Shave November, like don't don't you know it's like the
weird things you worry about that you're not ever played.
Like she needs to just worry about her life, right,
But she needed to clarify to the e MT, like,
(12:52):
my legs are so hairy because I'm doing no shave
no normally like this, yeah and that, or my cousin
for that matter. She's like, I must take a bath
before before I go because yeah, So I just don't know.
You never know what you would do in those situations.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
So yeah, I don't think. I don't I don't think
I would be like your cousin. But I do get
the anxiety of it. I think I would be like,
I hope they're not thinking something like I smell or something,
or like I wonder when the last time she's showered.
But I don't think it would force me to shower
before I go to the er, because I think I
get freaked out over medical stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah, really easily.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
And I told you this today. I'm watching The Pit,
which highly suggests people watch that show. My whole idea
of the ER has shifted because of the Pit. Yes,
And and I.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Was at a TV show.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
Yeah, okay. I texted a couple of friends that work
in the medical field, want a doctor, and one was
an R nurse, and the one that was an ER
nurse said that apparently the pit is very realistic to
what it's really like in the ER. And I texted
my friend who's a doctor, just because well, she's in
her red and I sometimes I get confused about it.
(14:03):
And so I didn't know if ER was on her
list of places she is going to work, and I was.
I said, I don't think I want you working there.
It is intense, Yes, And I have a new respect
for everybody that works in the R you have to know.
In my head, I'm like, you have to know everything
about everything. Like I'm a therapist and I specialize in
(14:24):
certain things. So if you come to me with I
can refer you out and like that's okay. In the
ER you have to be able to assess for literally
anything that.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Is a lot of pressure. And I'm also like, how
does people's.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Brains work different than mine?
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Anyway, that's when you say er, That's where my mind
brain goes. It's like, how do the people know all
this stuff?
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Well? I was just curious if you would shower to
shower or not to shower before you go to the R.
I guess I can't answer it. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
Well, what if you broke I mean, I've been to
the ER after breaking a bone playing a sport, so
I'm not gonna shower.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
I know I would say I wouldn't either, But I
feel like, but would she some people?
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Yeah, I feel like she'd be like, my leg is broken,
but I'm gonna ebathe Like that's just how it is.
I will power through. Obviously, it don't control over every
situation like the car wreck. Yeah, sometimes they're just cutting
your clothes off. And you're like, don't.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Take me an yet.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
I just haven't had a chance to shower. Just know
that I'm the type of person that would have if
I could have.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
Also respect for the woman doing no shavee November, I
never thought to do that.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I might participate.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Yeah, okay. Next email also anonymous with the original email,
so the update will be anonymous. It's from the bomb
that needed advice on her daughter inviting another girl to
her birthday party so that the girl could feel included,
and we suggested in a nutshell that this needs to
be her daughter's decision, so she sent us this update. Hey,
Amy and Kat, thank you for reading my email and
(15:46):
for your advice. I wanted to update you and let
you know that I took your advice and approached the
subject with my daughter as you suggested, and she decided
to invite her to the birthday dinner. I'm very proud
of her for making the kind decision, even though I
have respected her decision if it was the alternative. I
also wanted to comment on the episode where a listener
(16:06):
wrote in about another one about the show structure and
say that I love the structure of the show and
keep doing what you're doing. I'm in a season of
life where I don't have time for girlfriends. My husband
and I stay busy with our business and children, so
meeting a friend for coffee to chat is few and
far between. I was being silly when I said that
you both are my coworkers, but it really is refreshing
(16:28):
listening to your show. It's like you're with your friends,
and I love how the conversation can go from something
serious to dryer balls. I may not always be able
to relate, but I can definitely take something from each
episode to apply to my life and also get in
a good laugh. I wish you both the best and
hope that y'all have a live coming to a city
near me. I would definitely make time with some girlfriends
(16:51):
for that. Thank you, Anonymous.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
I have an update.
Speaker 4 (16:55):
Okay, I got dryerballs.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Did you get bumblebees?
Speaker 1 (16:58):
I got sheep? And then I got.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Normal like they look like sheep or they're just well
it's a ball boll, so they're just plain.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
No, it has a sheep on it. Oh cute?
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Okay, I didn't know because they're wool.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Well, when you said shape of different things, I thought
it was going to be like in this there's okay.
I did not expect them to be so big. I
thought they were going to be like the size of
like a golf ball.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
They're like the size of the softball.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Yeah, and Patrick used them, which is a big deal.
I don't know if he sold on them, but he
used it.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I haven't.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Also, I was I had a question about the essential
oil you just like I.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Just put a dab in it on like each ball,
like one vanilla, one little dab. Oh. Here's what I'll do.
Pro tip. I drop it on the balls and then
I take where the drops are and I kind of
rub the balls together so that way the liquid.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
Like okay, oil on mic exactly.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
That's why I do that. So if you drop it
on the balls and then rub the balls together and
then put the balls in because I think one time
some of the essential oil from the ball got on
like a gray shirt and then you could see like residue.
It washed out later, but I had to rewash it
and that was annoying. So that's when I started rubbing,
(18:11):
rubbing the balls together. So there's that. We've got an
email from Cheryl hey Amy and Kat I've been a
listener of this podcast from the very beginning and your
former four Things podcast. I wrote in a couple of
years ago after my dad passed and my mom had dementia,
and your response helped me. I love listening this morning,
especially after the first half had me laughing out loud
(18:33):
when Kat was sharing about the dentist. Just your back
and forth conversation made me feel like I was hanging
out with friends. When Kat described being a tongue thruster,
I knew I had to share. I'm fifty five now,
but when I was in about fifth grade, I was
diagnosed as a tongue thruster.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
That's you, Katy.
Speaker 4 (18:50):
But why I diagnosed in fifth grade? Out what took
so long?
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Sometimes we just get late life diagnosis.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Got a couple of it.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
The dentist said that as my top teeth were growing in,
I was pushing them out with my tongue, so I
went to weekly therapy for it. Kat mentioned a tictac.
I had to put a tiny rubber band on the
top of my tongue and keep it in the roof
of my mouth to train my tongue. A tic tac
seems safer then, sometimes, along with the rubber band at
(19:20):
the tip of my tongue. I also had to put
a poker chip between my lips and keep my mouth
closed while training my tongue. They called this exercise Mother's delight.
You know why because it keeps your child quiet. I
bet I'm guessing, Oh, mother's delight. Can you put this
poker chip?
Speaker 4 (19:37):
She has the rubber band on the river of her
mouth and.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
She's and to have to keep the poker chip between
her lips with her mouth closed training her tongue. I
would think it's mother's delight because they're not talking during that,
my mom had a set a timer for fifteen to
twenty minutes while I did that. Another thing I remember
that I had to do was I had to have
a tape recorder in my bedroom and during the night,
it would come on at random time and give me messages.
(20:01):
I don't remember them exactly, but there were something like,
remember your tongue should be at the top of your mouth. Anyway,
I just wanted to share because I haven't thought of
this in years. Thanks for your podcast. You always get
my mornings off to a great start.
Speaker 4 (20:16):
Shayl Okay, wait a second, should we do tongues subliminals?
Your tongue oh for people, Yeah, you love holding your
tongue at the roof of your mouth, Like no, I should.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Get the should be really popular amongst the tongue thrusters.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
I mean, like I should make it for myself and
then just like play it. Do you think those exist already?
Speaker 3 (20:34):
I'm googling how many people are tongue thrusters.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Also, the rubber band does seem very unsafe. I think
I want to stick with the tictac because the tik
tac will dissolve. And my little brother was listening to
this episode and he thinks that I should sue the dentist.
Speaker 3 (20:49):
Really, he said, I may agree with that.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
He said he was.
Speaker 4 (20:53):
He was texting about the things that I had a
case for, he said, which I don't know actually show
to your listening, he said, I know.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
It was so cute.
Speaker 4 (21:03):
He said, insurance fraud, dental malpractice, pain and suffering monetary
damage is trauma. Those are all the things I think
we can assume for.
Speaker 3 (21:11):
He's not wrong.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
But also they're fancy dentists, so I feel like they
could like fight me, you know.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Or they may just want to settle because they don't
want to deal with you.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
Okay, I can be a nuisance.
Speaker 4 (21:22):
Yeah, I'm sure, and you didn't even catch my tongue thrust.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Who do you think you are?
Speaker 3 (21:26):
Okay, so nearly all infants have a tongue thrust pattern,
which drops around fifty percent in early school aged children
and then twenty five percent adolescents and adults.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
So what is that?
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Like? We all have it, but most of us grow
out of it. But you are part of the twenty
five percent.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
I guess. So what you're saying is I'm special.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Yeah, okay, that's exactly what I was saying.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Let's see adults age seventeen is. But it says why
tongue thrust is a concern, and it goes into all
the issues.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
What does it say?
Speaker 3 (21:58):
The continuous force of the tongue against the teeth can
cause malocclusion, open bites, buck teeth, especially if it persists
past a certain age.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
I do have an is it open bite? Where my
teeth don't touch? Well that would be Is that an
open bite?
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Or is that concerned? I mean, yours aren't like buck teeth,
but they're but they don't.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
Like this weekend, I was eating a bagel sandwich and.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
I yeah, I don't know when I was little, I
had an underbite like a little bulldog.
Speaker 4 (22:29):
But don't even when you have an underbite, don't event
your teeth like meat at all or now.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
No meeting, and my parents nobody realized until my dad
cooked a lot of steak or red meat which was
harder to chew, not like ground beef, but like pieces
of meat, and I would end up. I didn't want to.
I was little, and I was chewing it and I
couldn't chew it enough all the way, so then I
would spit it out my napkin. And my parents started
(22:53):
to find like half chewed up meat and they're like,
why aren't you finishing your food? Like is everything okay?
And I was like, I'm just not able to chew it.
So then they took me the dentist and it has
come underbite. My teeth weren't mecting, and so then I
got a retainer and fixed it. But then one time
it chuck e cheese. My retainer got thrown away and
my grandma got the dumpster to find it, and she found.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
It and you cleaned it really yeah really, well wait,
that makes me sad that you were like hiding your
food because you're just like couldn't You're like, I want
my teeth don't work.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
And I didn't want my dad to think I wasn't
eating you.
Speaker 4 (23:24):
Didn't like it? Yeah, that's also interesting. And why you
couldn't be like, I can't chew this enough? Did you
not want to be like rude of like you overcooked it?
Speaker 3 (23:31):
I just didn't want to draw attention to it. I
don't know. That's just how I chose to handle it.
I was young, sound like a peacemaker, but to this
day I don't. I don't think that's you just felt
some shame maybe, But to this day I never crave
a steak. You know how some people are like, oh,
I just love a good steak, like I don't, and
I like red meat. But I wonder if my lack
(23:53):
of desire for steak is from like the times where
I was uncomfortable trying to chew it.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
If you go to a steakhouse, do you order a
steak or do you get something else?
Speaker 3 (24:04):
I get something else, chicken, salmon probably, Okay. I was like,
you gotta stay dissolved in your mouth.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Like that might really be why?
Speaker 4 (24:14):
But do you love a burger?
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Yeah? I like burger? Yeah, But that's easy to chew.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
But you like a smash burger too, that's even easier.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
Even easier. Yeah, oh, smash burger. That's so good.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
Well, well those are our email updates.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Yeah, it's fun.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
Yeah, so we'd love to hear from y'all, so send
us notes. If you want it to be a part
of couch Talks. You can put that in the subject
if you have an update, even it's from if it's
from years ago, which we had an email from someone
that's sent in a couch Talks a long time ago,
but they shared their tongue thrusting like you can even
be like, hey, I've emailed before, but I have this
(24:48):
story to tell y'all or anything that's relatable.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
Or any tongue thrusts ideas for me, I'll be starting
or laundry.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Oh yeah, so interesting.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Very we're very diverse here. The email well is, Hey,
they're at Feeling Things podcast dot com and on Instagram
we are Feeling Things podcast. That's us, same for YouTube,
all the things. And we hope you have the day
you need to have. Bye bye,
Good break it down.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
If you ever have feelings that you just fons Amy
and Cat gotch covincking No, brother, ladies and folks, do
you just follow Anna Spear where it's on the front
and real stuff to the chill stuff and them. But Swayne,
sometimes the best thing you can do it just stop
you feel things. This is feeling things with Amy and Kat.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Happy Thursday. Welcome to couch Talks. I'm Amy and I'm
Kat and Cat. I don't know if you have to
give you a little disclaimer spiel thinging that you normally
do at the beginning of couch Talks, because this is
sort of like an update episode, okay, where we got
emails from listeners that have formally written in for advice
on couch Talks and they have sent updates.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
So nobody's gonna be confused.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Right unless you offer additional advice within the emails that
are sent. So then you might need to give the disclaimer.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Do you want me to give it?
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Sure?
Speaker 4 (00:58):
I take it back quick that even though we're talking
about feedback, we have given people and you might take
that feedback for yourself. This podcast does not serve as
a replacement for therapy. Yeah, but you might get some
help from it.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Yeah, you might, or you might not. I feel like
someone even said, well, I'll read the emails, but someone
maybe if I included that email, like alluded to the fact,
like to the fact that it doesn't always relate to them,
but it doesn't matter because you never know, like what
little nugget you might get.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Well, I'm excited for the updates.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
And I also sprinkled in a few just random emails,
not an update, Like, let me just start with this
funny one from Dave. Do you know what I'm about
to say? No, Okay, this is in reference to our
Paypig episode in a while back, where I think he
wants to be a paypig yeah, or he is one already,
which well, we got a couple and he would be ours.
(01:53):
So it is financial domination also known as findom where
I called my boyfriend that was a very funny moment
during an episode a few months ago, and I was
demanding money and my boyfriend was just like no, And
Dave sent us an email just said to either one
of you demand money for me, and I will definitely pay,
no strings attached. Please try it. It'll be fun for
(02:15):
both of us. Really, no strings attached. I just need
to know how to send you the cash. I can
do PayPal or Venmo or whatever, just let me know.
So that's an update on findam And I'm like, we
have a donor.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Second or a sponsor or. If there was a way
for us to not be I don't know. The PayPal
and Venmo scares me because, like.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Is you ever report it to your texes? Oh? No,
thank you. It's a gift.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
But it's a gift.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Okay, Well, if you don't.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Know how much, Cryocat says it has to be under
nineteen thousand, five hundred dollars. But he said ask for whatever, I'll.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Pay, so we could get twenty okay, Well if we didn't,
if he could just like mail the money to a
po box, I would feel better about doing this. But
my first thought was, why wouldn't you do something like this? Why?
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Why? Why does a po box check feel any different
than just like direct like Venmo or PayPal's like direct money.
I don't in my head, like, so you won't have
to go to the bank and deposit it.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Well, okay, well, in my head, I don't know. It
feels like they could like get in there and like
steal something.
Speaker 3 (03:23):
Oh yeah, you feel like if you're giving them your vin.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
But if it's telling them my Venmo name, yeah, Okay, Dave, Okay,
we're are we done with this?
Speaker 3 (03:32):
We're joking. I don't think we're gonna accept that, but
I did think it was interesting that he was offering
and that they are out there. So I do have
an update from anonymous. We obviously know her name, but
her original email was anonymous, so we'll keep her update
anonymous as well. She originally hit us up recently. I
believe this was a fairly recent episode. She was asking
(03:55):
how to support a family member going through a hard
time while also protecting your own peace, like the family
members going through divorce, and they were calling her every
single day and just sucking the life out of her,
and she's like, what do I do? And you gave
advice not to replace therapy, but well, yeah, you're the therapist.
And we shared and she sent a follow up and
(04:19):
I thought this is good. And then she went a
little deeper into some of her backstory, which I thought
might also be helpful for other people if they happened
to be a peacekeeper or an enneagram nine. She'll mention
that Hey, Amy and Kat, I'm so happy my email
got picked for today's episode. I never get picked for anything, lol.
I wanted to follow up and thank you for giving
(04:40):
me some really helpful perspective on this situation. I liked
Kat's question what are you afraid of? And the reminder
that we train people how to treat us. I didn't
share this in my initial email, but I have two
older siblings and the family member I mentioned is my
oldest sibling. Because of our age gap, we've never been
very close before the divorce. We never even talked on
(05:01):
the phone or had a one on one dinner, even
though we live in the same city. That's made this
whole situation feel a little strange and honestly uncomfortable at times.
My siblings and I grew up with parents who were
high functioning alcoholics, and I fell into the role of peacekeeper.
I've always been the one to offer comfort to people,
which has made me a bit of a people pleaser.
(05:22):
I'm also a nine on the Enneagram, so I've been
working on setting boundaries and learning to stand up for myself.
A lot of my internal struggle comes from the feeling
that I need to fix situations for others, and I
have a deep fear of letting people down. My biggest
fear is that someone will be mad or disappointed in me.
With my oldest sibling now reaching out and leaning so
(05:42):
heavily on me, I feel this huge responsibility to show up,
especially because they don't really have a lot of friends.
This episode gave me a lot to think on, and
I think many listeners could apply it in their own
lives too.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Ps.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I love when you mentioned kiss keep it simple stupid.
I heard that on the office years ago and I
say it to my husband all the time, and that
gave me a laugh. Also, you guys got an email
last week from someone saying they don't understand the format
of this podcast, and I want to say that you
may have some extremely long term fans that don't enjoy change,
but I hope you guys know that you have fans
(06:17):
like me who are along for the ride and are
just happy that I get to listen to you guys
in some capacity. Hope you guys have the day you
need to have Anonymous.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
I love that all of it. Also, I love that
she commented about the format of our podcast. I do
want to clarify, though, I don't know that the person
that wrote in asking about the format, she didn't hate it,
she just was confused, right.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Which you said. Here, you guys got an email last
week simon saying they don't understand the format of the podcast. Right.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
Well, we got a couple responses to that of people
being like, I just want you to know like we
like it or like And I guess I'm just feeling
like I need to stick up for the person that
really and originally.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
For sure that's why I in this one. I know
she wasn't saying like she hates it, but some people
don't enjoy change, so it might be a little off
to them, But I get what you're saying. Like the
person genuinely was like, I'm just a little confused, which
like maybe some.
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Days were too.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Yeah, and I think that we just yea, hopefully she
got the answer from us that we don't have a
specific format.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
The format is no format, no format. Yeah, but we
appreciate the curiosity behind our format and the change because
structure is good, Like knowing what you're getting is going
to be good. And now that she knows what she's
getting because we've explained it, I get your point. Some
other people reference that. I think, like, this isn't really
(07:43):
an update, but this is just an email from Natalie
and Texas. She said, thanks for sharing the email and
the listener who shared confusion over the format of the podcast.
I personally really enjoy the friendship style conversations. I recently
welcomed our third baby, and my two older kids are
back in school. I've entered a very lonely season of
Pardon It's okay. I know it's not forever, as I'm
not going back to work this time. So hearing two
(08:05):
other women converse about topics is very healing. So that's
from Natalie, So I don't think that's a definitely not
a slam. I think that maybe other people too were
curious and then they reflect on, oh, it is just
like I'm listening to my friends talking, and I actually
enjoy that.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
You never know what you're gonna get.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
I also, I mean, obviously it sounds like she got
what she needed from our original catch talks we did,
but all this information is actually really helpful to think about,
like why she was feeling the way she did and
being the peacekeeper and why, like I mean, she sounds
like a nine because I don't know that. I if
I had a sibling that had not been a close
(08:48):
relationship to me, would have been able to offer as
much as she even did.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
My sister's a nine.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
My husband's a nine.
Speaker 4 (08:55):
I'm very glad I'm married to a nine. It has
helped our relationship in a lot of ways. And do
everything and never let me down. But sometimes they don't
realize that. Like I know from my husband, I don't
think he realizes how much he takes on. And I'll
even say it sometimes he's like, it's just.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
The way it is.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
And so even for her to recognize that, it's a
big deal to know that you take that on, because
if you don't know you can take it on, you're
just gonna pile pile a pile. So I love nine's
and also like it's okay, take a break.
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Yeah, it's good. That's a healthy nine would know to
take a break. Yeah, Because my sister landed herself in
the hospital once and she was like, I know, I
think I'm having a heart attack and they're like, I
think it's anxiety. Because she was trying to fix a
lot of things and she was carrying a lot like
being a fixer and she was like, well, suddenly I
(09:44):
feel better, and they're like, that's because we just gave
you out a van. That's so that also means this
is anxiety, and she was like, Okay, well, I guess
that's better than a heart attack. She didn't realize how
much she was internalizing the situations she was trying to
also fix, or how heavy it was weighing on her.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
And I'm I'm not glad that happened to your sister,
but I'm glad you're sharing that because I think a
lot of people who are in that role think it's
not that big of a deal. I can take this on,
it's not going to affect me. I can handle it
without realizing how much can happen internally to you, even
just physically to you from stress and being playing that role.
(10:28):
I think they minimize it because it's what they've always done,
but that affects all parts of your health.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Speaking of going to the hospital, I'm just curious, like
your thoughts on this, because I was talking to my
cousin the other day because she had to have like
an emergency situation happen, and it's so funny to me
because this is classic her mom. This is just like
how she was raised, Like she's in severe pain and
has to go to the hospital and ended up having
surgery out of nowhere. But that's the type of pain
I'm talking about. But before she went, she should her husband,
(10:56):
I have to take a bath and shave. I know
I'm going to be in some sort of surgery. They're
gonna be looking at my body like I don't know
what's wrong with me, but I'm in such pain. And
she hadn't showered, and so she mustered up the strength
to shower, shave, get ready, put on a cute jogging suit,
and then went to the er and then was admitted
into surgery. And they were pretty much like, yeah, had
(11:19):
we started this any later, this could have been really
like far worse. She was like, well, at Liza look good.
Not look good, but like at least she felt clean
and put together. And I was thinking, like, huh, would
I have that in me? But she was just built
like her mom. When her mom passed away, she was like,
I better die pretty with my lipstick on.
Speaker 4 (11:38):
You know, have you been to the er for something recently?
Speaker 1 (11:41):
No? Okay, I was gonna say you can no.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
But one time, my friend, my other friend this is
years ago got in a car wreck during No Shave November.
One time, my friend, my other friend this is years ago,
(12:04):
got in a car wreck during no Shave November and
she was really freaking out when they the EMS was
putting her but no girls did it. Well I don't know,
maybe she was in Colorado, but I think girls did
(12:24):
it too with their legs hair and stuff.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
And stuff whatever, like their legs.
Speaker 3 (12:31):
So all I know is that when the EMS was
like they had to cut her clothes off and her
legs were all hairy, and she's like, I'm doing no
Shave November, like don't don't you know it's like the
weird things you worry about that you're not ever played.
Like she needs to just worry about her life, right,
But she needed to clarify to the e MT, like,
(12:52):
my legs are so hairy because I'm doing no shave
no normally like this, yeah and that, or my cousin
for that matter. She's like, I must take a bath
before before I go because yeah, So I just don't know.
You never know what you would do in those situations.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
So yeah, I don't think. I don't I don't think
I would be like your cousin. But I do get
the anxiety of it. I think I would be like,
I hope they're not thinking something like I smell or something,
or like I wonder when the last time she's showered.
But I don't think it would force me to shower
before I go to the er, because I think I
get freaked out over medical stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah, really easily.
Speaker 4 (13:28):
And I told you this today. I'm watching The Pit,
which highly suggests people watch that show. My whole idea
of the ER has shifted because of the Pit. Yes,
And and I.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Was at a TV show.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
Yeah, okay. I texted a couple of friends that work
in the medical field, want a doctor, and one was
an R nurse, and the one that was an ER
nurse said that apparently the pit is very realistic to
what it's really like in the ER. And I texted
my friend who's a doctor, just because well, she's in
her red and I sometimes I get confused about it.
(14:03):
And so I didn't know if ER was on her
list of places she is going to work, and I was.
I said, I don't think I want you working there.
It is intense, Yes, And I have a new respect
for everybody that works in the R you have to know.
In my head, I'm like, you have to know everything
about everything. Like I'm a therapist and I specialize in
(14:24):
certain things. So if you come to me with I
can refer you out and like that's okay. In the
ER you have to be able to assess for literally
anything that.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
Is a lot of pressure. And I'm also like, how
does people's.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
Brains work different than mine?
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Anyway, that's when you say er, That's where my mind
brain goes. It's like, how do the people know all
this stuff?
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Well? I was just curious if you would shower to
shower or not to shower before you go to the R.
I guess I can't answer it. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
Well, what if you broke I mean, I've been to
the ER after breaking a bone playing a sport, so
I'm not gonna shower.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
I know I would say I wouldn't either, But I
feel like, but would she some people?
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Yeah, I feel like she'd be like, my leg is broken,
but I'm gonna ebathe Like that's just how it is.
I will power through. Obviously, it don't control over every
situation like the car wreck. Yeah, sometimes they're just cutting
your clothes off. And you're like, don't.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Take me an yet.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
I just haven't had a chance to shower. Just know
that I'm the type of person that would have if
I could have.
Speaker 4 (15:20):
Also respect for the woman doing no shavee November, I
never thought to do that.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
I might participate.
Speaker 3 (15:25):
Yeah, okay. Next email also anonymous with the original email,
so the update will be anonymous. It's from the bomb
that needed advice on her daughter inviting another girl to
her birthday party so that the girl could feel included,
and we suggested in a nutshell that this needs to
be her daughter's decision, so she sent us this update. Hey,
Amy and Kat, thank you for reading my email and
(15:46):
for your advice. I wanted to update you and let
you know that I took your advice and approached the
subject with my daughter as you suggested, and she decided
to invite her to the birthday dinner. I'm very proud
of her for making the kind decision, even though I
have respected her decision if it was the alternative. I
also wanted to comment on the episode where a listener
(16:06):
wrote in about another one about the show structure and
say that I love the structure of the show and
keep doing what you're doing. I'm in a season of
life where I don't have time for girlfriends. My husband
and I stay busy with our business and children, so
meeting a friend for coffee to chat is few and
far between. I was being silly when I said that
you both are my coworkers, but it really is refreshing
(16:28):
listening to your show. It's like you're with your friends,
and I love how the conversation can go from something
serious to dryer balls. I may not always be able
to relate, but I can definitely take something from each
episode to apply to my life and also get in
a good laugh. I wish you both the best and
hope that y'all have a live coming to a city
near me. I would definitely make time with some girlfriends
(16:51):
for that. Thank you, Anonymous.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
I have an update.
Speaker 4 (16:55):
Okay, I got dryerballs.
Speaker 3 (16:57):
Did you get bumblebees?
Speaker 1 (16:58):
I got sheep? And then I got.
Speaker 3 (17:00):
Normal like they look like sheep or they're just well
it's a ball boll, so they're just plain.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
No, it has a sheep on it. Oh cute?
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Okay, I didn't know because they're wool.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Well, when you said shape of different things, I thought
it was going to be like in this there's okay.
I did not expect them to be so big. I
thought they were going to be like the size of
like a golf ball.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
They're like the size of the softball.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Yeah, and Patrick used them, which is a big deal.
I don't know if he sold on them, but he
used it.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I haven't.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Also, I was I had a question about the essential
oil you just like I.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Just put a dab in it on like each ball,
like one vanilla, one little dab. Oh. Here's what I'll do.
Pro tip. I drop it on the balls and then
I take where the drops are and I kind of
rub the balls together so that way the liquid.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
Like okay, oil on mic exactly.
Speaker 3 (17:51):
That's why I do that. So if you drop it
on the balls and then rub the balls together and
then put the balls in because I think one time
some of the essential oil from the ball got on
like a gray shirt and then you could see like residue.
It washed out later, but I had to rewash it
and that was annoying. So that's when I started rubbing,
(18:11):
rubbing the balls together. So there's that. We've got an
email from Cheryl hey Amy and Kat I've been a
listener of this podcast from the very beginning and your
former four Things podcast. I wrote in a couple of
years ago after my dad passed and my mom had dementia,
and your response helped me. I love listening this morning,
especially after the first half had me laughing out loud
(18:33):
when Kat was sharing about the dentist. Just your back
and forth conversation made me feel like I was hanging
out with friends. When Kat described being a tongue thruster,
I knew I had to share. I'm fifty five now,
but when I was in about fifth grade, I was
diagnosed as a tongue thruster.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
That's you, Katy.
Speaker 4 (18:50):
But why I diagnosed in fifth grade? Out what took
so long?
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Sometimes we just get late life diagnosis.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Got a couple of it.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
The dentist said that as my top teeth were growing in,
I was pushing them out with my tongue, so I
went to weekly therapy for it. Kat mentioned a tictac.
I had to put a tiny rubber band on the
top of my tongue and keep it in the roof
of my mouth to train my tongue. A tic tac
seems safer then, sometimes, along with the rubber band at
(19:20):
the tip of my tongue. I also had to put
a poker chip between my lips and keep my mouth
closed while training my tongue. They called this exercise Mother's delight.
You know why because it keeps your child quiet. I
bet I'm guessing, Oh, mother's delight. Can you put this
poker chip?
Speaker 4 (19:37):
She has the rubber band on the river of her
mouth and.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
She's and to have to keep the poker chip between
her lips with her mouth closed training her tongue. I
would think it's mother's delight because they're not talking during that,
my mom had a set a timer for fifteen to
twenty minutes while I did that. Another thing I remember
that I had to do was I had to have
a tape recorder in my bedroom and during the night,
it would come on at random time and give me messages.
(20:01):
I don't remember them exactly, but there were something like,
remember your tongue should be at the top of your mouth. Anyway,
I just wanted to share because I haven't thought of
this in years. Thanks for your podcast. You always get
my mornings off to a great start.
Speaker 4 (20:16):
Shayl Okay, wait a second, should we do tongues subliminals?
Your tongue oh for people, Yeah, you love holding your
tongue at the roof of your mouth, Like no, I should.
Speaker 3 (20:25):
Get the should be really popular amongst the tongue thrusters.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
I mean, like I should make it for myself and
then just like play it. Do you think those exist already?
Speaker 3 (20:34):
I'm googling how many people are tongue thrusters.
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Also, the rubber band does seem very unsafe. I think
I want to stick with the tictac because the tik
tac will dissolve. And my little brother was listening to
this episode and he thinks that I should sue the dentist.
Speaker 3 (20:49):
Really, he said, I may agree with that.
Speaker 1 (20:51):
He said he was.
Speaker 4 (20:53):
He was texting about the things that I had a
case for, he said, which I don't know actually show
to your listening, he said, I know.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
It was so cute.
Speaker 4 (21:03):
He said, insurance fraud, dental malpractice, pain and suffering monetary
damage is trauma. Those are all the things I think
we can assume for.
Speaker 3 (21:11):
He's not wrong.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
But also they're fancy dentists, so I feel like they
could like fight me, you know.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Or they may just want to settle because they don't
want to deal with you.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
Okay, I can be a nuisance.
Speaker 4 (21:22):
Yeah, I'm sure, and you didn't even catch my tongue thrust.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Who do you think you are?
Speaker 3 (21:26):
Okay, so nearly all infants have a tongue thrust pattern,
which drops around fifty percent in early school aged children
and then twenty five percent adolescents and adults.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
So what is that?
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Like? We all have it, but most of us grow
out of it. But you are part of the twenty
five percent.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
I guess. So what you're saying is I'm special.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Yeah, okay, that's exactly what I was saying.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
Let's see adults age seventeen is. But it says why
tongue thrust is a concern, and it goes into all
the issues.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
What does it say?
Speaker 3 (21:58):
The continuous force of the tongue against the teeth can
cause malocclusion, open bites, buck teeth, especially if it persists
past a certain age.
Speaker 4 (22:09):
I do have an is it open bite? Where my
teeth don't touch? Well that would be Is that an
open bite?
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Or is that concerned? I mean, yours aren't like buck teeth,
but they're but they don't.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
Like this weekend, I was eating a bagel sandwich and.
Speaker 3 (22:22):
I yeah, I don't know when I was little, I
had an underbite like a little bulldog.
Speaker 4 (22:29):
But don't even when you have an underbite, don't event
your teeth like meat at all or now.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
No meeting, and my parents nobody realized until my dad
cooked a lot of steak or red meat which was
harder to chew, not like ground beef, but like pieces
of meat, and I would end up. I didn't want to.
I was little, and I was chewing it and I
couldn't chew it enough all the way, so then I
would spit it out my napkin. And my parents started
(22:53):
to find like half chewed up meat and they're like,
why aren't you finishing your food? Like is everything okay?
And I was like, I'm just not able to chew it.
So then they took me the dentist and it has
come underbite. My teeth weren't mecting, and so then I
got a retainer and fixed it. But then one time
it chuck e cheese. My retainer got thrown away and
my grandma got the dumpster to find it, and she found.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
It and you cleaned it really yeah really, well wait,
that makes me sad that you were like hiding your
food because you're just like couldn't You're like, I want
my teeth don't work.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
And I didn't want my dad to think I wasn't
eating you.
Speaker 4 (23:24):
Didn't like it? Yeah, that's also interesting. And why you
couldn't be like, I can't chew this enough? Did you
not want to be like rude of like you overcooked it?
Speaker 3 (23:31):
I just didn't want to draw attention to it. I
don't know. That's just how I chose to handle it.
I was young, sound like a peacemaker, but to this
day I don't. I don't think that's you just felt
some shame maybe, But to this day I never crave
a steak. You know how some people are like, oh,
I just love a good steak, like I don't, and
I like red meat. But I wonder if my lack
(23:53):
of desire for steak is from like the times where
I was uncomfortable trying to chew it.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
If you go to a steakhouse, do you order a
steak or do you get something else?
Speaker 3 (24:04):
I get something else, chicken, salmon probably, Okay. I was like,
you gotta stay dissolved in your mouth.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Like that might really be why?
Speaker 4 (24:14):
But do you love a burger?
Speaker 3 (24:15):
Yeah? I like burger? Yeah, But that's easy to chew.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
But you like a smash burger too, that's even easier.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
Even easier. Yeah, oh, smash burger. That's so good.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (24:23):
Well, well those are our email updates.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
Yeah, it's fun.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
Yeah, so we'd love to hear from y'all, so send
us notes. If you want it to be a part
of couch Talks. You can put that in the subject
if you have an update, even it's from if it's
from years ago, which we had an email from someone
that's sent in a couch Talks a long time ago,
but they shared their tongue thrusting like you can even
be like, hey, I've emailed before, but I have this
(24:48):
story to tell y'all or anything that's relatable.
Speaker 4 (24:50):
Or any tongue thrusts ideas for me, I'll be starting
or laundry.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Oh yeah, so interesting.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Very we're very diverse here. The email well is, Hey,
they're at Feeling Things podcast dot com and on Instagram
we are Feeling Things podcast. That's us, same for YouTube,
all the things. And we hope you have the day
you need to have. Bye bye,
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