First, manifestation is something that Amy never thought aligned with her faith, but has come to realize that visualizing what you want to achieve in life makes sense and she felt compelled to share a little bit about this after hearing something Steve Harvey said. Second, Amy has Bethany Ugarte (@lilsipper) on this week. Bethany loves food, but has dealt with digestive issues for most of her life and nearly died because of it. She’s now dedicated to helping others with recipes and tips to live a healthier life! Third, for some reason people are turning to Amy for time management tips — which is comical because Amy feels like a hot mess — but she found some good tips for us all to use!! And forth, Amy shares a study that says taking a hot bath can do the same thing for you as exercise — so now you can skip the gym and relax at home and feel ok about it!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Never lie. Okay, cass up a little food for yourself life, ain't. Oh,
it's pretty much. It's pretty beautiful. Thanks beautiful that a
little month you're kicking with four Brown. Pretty bumped about
(00:33):
today's episode. We're gonna talk manifestation and faith and positive
thinking and law of attraction, which you might be like,
any what, I don't even go there. Why are you
trying to be like the Secret? Well, I'm not. I've
never even read that book, but I know that I've
kind of shunned it and not done certain things that
(00:54):
have anything to do with visualizing stuff or having a
vision board because I thought it was contrad dictory to
my faith. But I don't even really know I felt
that way. But I was listening to Steve Harvey on Masterclass,
Oprah's Masterclass podcast, and I pulled some clips that I
want to share with you all, and I feel like
his dad gave him a tool which was basically manifestation
(01:17):
without calling it that, and it like it is. I
believe it puts Steve Harvey where he is today. So
you know, I just want to share that with you
and then share with you kind of where I am
with it now. I also have Bethany Ugarte coming on.
She's at a little Sipper on Instagram L I L
S I P P e R. And she has an
(01:38):
amazing story of how she healed her body. She really
was near death. Her body was like a skeleton. Even
though she was eating, she just was not digesting food.
And through the right doctors, her holistic team, she was
able to heal herself with the right foods. Now, it
was kind of foods that were killing her, but then
the right foods healed her. And if you are looking
(02:02):
for someone to follow on Instagram that has really easy
recipes that are easy to digest and minimal ingredients, I
highly recommend you follow her. I personally don't have IBS
or any issues, but I love some of her recipes
because my body feels good after I eat them. I
know that they're simple, and I know that they're giving
me nutrients, and I know that they're easy to digest,
(02:23):
and I know that she's really helped a lot of
people with IBS and stomach issues. So maybe you're listening
right now and you're like, WHOA I have that? Well,
she's a really great follow for you, So I'm excited
to hear. I'm excited for y'all to hear my little
interview with her. And then the third thing I've got
for today. I feel like I have been misleading y'all
(02:43):
or I haven't. I don't know, maybe deceiving something. I'm
just getting some emails where I'm like, Okay, whoa, they
need to know the real me. That's not me. I
don't have it all together, so I want to address
something and clear the air on that. And then lastly,
if you don't have time for the gym, but hot
bath sounds amazing to you, well you're in luck because
(03:04):
hot baths are basically like working out and that is
like music to my ears. Before we officially get into
the first thing in today's episode, just want to let
y'all know that all Pimp and Joy items right now
at the Shop Foward the Shop Foward dot Com are
going to Alabama and Georgia tornado relief. If you happen
(03:26):
to be a listener that is in Alabama or Georgia,
our hearts are with you, We're praying, we're sending all
the love and hugs. We can't even imagine. It's catastrophic,
it's terrible, it's awful. Uh. If you're listening and you're like, wait,
what is she talking about? Maybe you haven't seen on
the news, which hopefully you have by now, but I
don't really feel like it got a lot of coverage.
I mean, deadly tornadoes went through that area and left
(03:49):
tons of damage and hundreds of homes at least twenty
three dead. And so I just want y'all to know
that we're thinking of you, and Pimp and Joy is
a way of helping out. Pimp and Joy's our line
that gives back to all kinds of causes, and right
now it's tornado relief. Pimp and Joy is all about
choosing joy for yourself and spreading joy. And this is
(04:10):
how we're going to spread joy to those in Alabama
and Georgia. So check out our line. You've got shirts
and sweatshirts and hats. It all started with my mom
and her battle with cancer. I answered a little bit
more about Pimp and Joy and the Q and a
segment that I now have up on Tuesdays, but you
can also read about it at the shop forward. But
feel good about anything that you purchase knowing that it's
(04:31):
going towards a good cause, and right now, specifically, the
tornado relief and people you know in Alabama and Georgia
that really really need some joy sent their way right
about now and they need they need the help. So
go there if you can check out what we got
the shop forward dot com pimp and joy. Let's talk manifestation,
(04:55):
which is going to kind of lead into positive thinking
and you know whole manifestation thing. Though, real quick I
want to say is I'm not someone that's been into that,
not like an expert on the law of attraction or anything,
but I do try the whole positive thinking and then
I really just started to think, like maybe maybe I
am into this and it's okay, and the positivity then
(05:18):
leads to more gratitude, and I thought of this topic
to discuss while listening to Oprah's Master Class podcast with
Steve Harvey. Definitely go listen to this one. It's good.
And maybe I'm just really into Steve Harvey right now
because we just went on family feud, but I think
that you'll like it no matter what. To check it
out anyway. He shared a story from his childhood when
a teacher asked the class to write down what they
(05:40):
wanted to do when they grew up. And Steve wrote
down that he wanted to be on TV. Well, the
teacher called each student one by one in front of
the class to discuss what they wrote down, and when
Steve got up there, the teacher basically made fun of
him and told him that it wasn't an attainable dream.
Then later the teacher told his parents that Steve wasn't
taking class assignments seriously. Well, Steve's dad told him to
(06:03):
take what he wrote, you know that he wanted to
be on TV, and put it in his drawer and
look at it every day. Take your paper and put
it in your drawer. Every morning when you get up,
read your paper, and every night before you go to bed,
read your paper. That's your paper. What he told me
was a principle of success that if you write it
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down and envisioning anything you see in your mind, you
can hold in your hand and guess what. Steve Harvey,
as you know, he's now on TV. And then I
laughed a lot when he shared this part. Every year,
when the teacher was living, I used to send her
a TV for Christmas because I wanted her to see me.
(06:48):
She saw me one year and she said, boy, you
send me all the TV from wherever you are, and
you don't understand I got two many TV I have
to get the TVs away some time. I know it's
all right though, And I kept that paper, and that
little boy with disturbing problem is on TV seven days
(07:10):
a week. Yeah. So listening to this made me think
of manifestation and that what you think about you bring
about even with simple things like I never used to
notice labradoodles, but once we got one, I started seeing
them everywhere. Or once I think about the color red,
(07:30):
then I start to see the color red. Or you know,
if I test you have a certain car, which I'm
not doing that all the time, but if I have,
if I if I'm focused on a car that I like,
now I start to see him on the road everywhere.
Before I never noticed them. And then with more important
things like our overall attitude, when you focus on negativity,
you tend to be more negative, and when you think
(07:50):
about positivity, you tend to be more positive. You know.
I think about my mom and how she handled her
cancer journey with such a grace because she tried to
stay positive, wanting God's will for her life and for
the cancer to be used for good. So she opted
to choose joy and from that Pimp and Joy was born.
And had she had a negative attitude about her cancer
(08:13):
and let it get her down all the time, then
we would have lost out on the awesome Pimp and
Joy movement. Again, what you think about you bring about
and some call it manifestation or law of attraction. You know,
like that book The Secret, which I can't really talk
about because I never read it or got into it.
It didn't seem to flow with my Christian faith. But
as I've gotten older, I've realized how powerful our mindset
(08:36):
is and how it can affect us. I've had friends
invite me to vision board parties, but I never went
because I felt uncomfortable, again because of my faith. But
when I really think about it, what would God have
against me putting my goals up for the year on
a pretty board or in a book and then just
focusing on them. You know Dr Lewis, he was on
the podcast a few weeks ago talking placebo effect. And
(08:57):
we know that someone can be given a sugar pill
and then they can be told that the pill is
going to help them. Now that sugar pill is doing
absolutely nothing. But because we think that it is, we
may suddenly start to feel better. And when you think
of it this way, encouraging people to think positive, to
attract more positivity, and visually focusing on your goals. Whatever
(09:19):
that looks like for you, it makes sense. I remember
Dirk's Bentley talking on Bobby's podcast, The Bobby Cast about
how he wanted to be a pilot, and then one
day I think he flew on a private jet with
Kenny Chestney or something, and you know, after that he
was like, man, I want to have my own jet
one day. And Signature is a private airport that you'll see,
(09:40):
like that's where private planes flight in and out of.
And you know, he changed his computer password to Signature,
so that way, you know, he was part of his manifestation.
It was just a daily reminder of like one day
I'm going to have a plane and I'm going to
fly in and out of Signature and and he does
that now. So if you want to create something in
life based on visualizing what you want, go for it.
(10:02):
I mean, visualize your goals, your dreams, focus on them,
pray for them, stay positive, following through with the work
needed to attain what you want. And then after all
the work, you receive the fruits of your labor. So
if anything, there's something pretty awesome that can come out
of practicing the law of attraction, our our gratitude will increase.
(10:23):
Like if we force ourselves to think about something positive,
then it makes us appreciate the little things in life.
I mean, I find that so true. And even when
something in our life goes wrong, we can focus at
what we're grateful for and it puts things into perspective.
And I just I always think of my mom in
this case, and I know I always bring her up
(10:43):
as an example, but that was something that was a
really powerful, beautiful example for me, Like I lived it,
I witnessed it. And again I've been honest with you
all that not every day was amazing and she wasn't
constantly choosing joy, but her overall theme was positivity and
joy and what good can come from this? Because can't
it was bad? How can we make it good? And
I mean she had to look for the positive things.
(11:05):
I mean one of her I don't know if I've
shared this on a previous podcast before at all, um,
but one of her assignments from her therapists before death,
I mean, we knew that her life was going to
be ending maybe sort of soon. We just we didn't
know if she had months or or even less than
a year. But I think it ended up being weeks
at this point um when she started journaling. But her
(11:27):
therapist was like, I want you to write down fifty
things that you're thankful for. And it was really really
hard for my mom. She only made it to fourteen.
She didn't even get to fifty. So but you know,
it was sometimes it was like her yogurt, the yogurt
she ate that morning because it tasted good, it was
high fat, had protein stuff her body needed to help
her stay strong. And you know, other people made the list,
(11:48):
like my sister, she was one of the fourteen. I
wasn't one of the fourteen. Although I remember driving her
to and from that therapy session and she was drinking
and insure and as we pulled up to the therapist office,
the ensure spilled everywhere all over the car. So while
she was in therapy, I went to go get the
car cleaned and then came back to get her. But
(12:11):
I still didn't make the list. I didn't make it. Nope,
I'm not better about that at all. But anyway, my
mom had this like yellow journal and then after my
mom died, um she had gotten it from Target, and
my sister went out and found two of those exact
yellow journals and she got one for her and one
for me. And now it's something we keep and we
(12:31):
ride in from time to time. But that journaling activity
and then you know, just practicing gratitude and keeping a
positive mindset and focusing on our goals and what we want,
it made me want to throw out a little activity
for us. So what if every night before bed we
write down four things that were grateful for, like we
(12:52):
reflect on our day. Maybe it's something in the week.
I mean, we're gonna do it every night. We can
be thankful for things through different times, we month, whatever,
just jot down four things. That's it, just four. We'll
stick with the theme of the podcast. The thought of journaling,
for sure overwhelms me, So sitting down before bed to
write out four things that I'm grateful for actually seems doable.
(13:14):
So we don't need to overthink it. Some things might
be grandiose, like other things might be really really simple,
like my mom liking or being thankful for her yogurt um,
Like I can see myself when day being thankful for
the adoption process and allowing me to be a mom
to two beautiful Haitian kiddos and maybe something really special
(13:34):
that they did one day that's that's like a big deal.
But I can also see myself being thankful for my
acne spot treatment. You see, we don't need to overthink it.
So let's do this four things you're grateful for every day,
and I'm gonna suggest doing it at night because I've
heard that gratitude before sleep is awesome for you. But
you can do it whenever you want, and you can
(13:55):
post these on social media and then tag me. I'm
at radio Amy use the hashtag four things gratitude so
that I can see them. And Mary and I have
even played around with doing a four things gratitude journal
for a spua so the journals would benefit haiti Um.
If you all think that would be a good idea,
let me know. In the meantime, just find any old
(14:17):
journal or paper or whatever and write down your four
things each night that you're grateful for. Okay, Okay, I'm
here with Bethany Ugarte and Bethany, it's so crazy because
I follow you on Instagram, and I feel like I
know you, but we've never met. And I brought you
(14:39):
on because I feel like you have an amazing story
to share and I love that you're inspiring so many
people on Instagram. You're helping people feel better, and I
want you to share some of your story on how
eating a certain way saved your life when doctors couldn't,
and your struggles with IBS, and if or curious while
(15:00):
they're listening to this, if they're like, Okay, wait, who
is this Bethany Ugarte, Like she really is someone on
Instagram that's doing a huge thing for people that have
issues um with IBS, And you can dive into deep
deeper things if if there's other issues that you know
about that I don't have IBS, but I will say
I even love your recipes and I feel better when
(15:22):
I'm eating them because they're minimal ingredients. You recreate things
that are stuff that we really like. Like I mean,
girl Scott cookies are totally a thing right now, and
you completely recreated the samoa cookie into something that is
easy to digest and doesn't have any of the crazy
ingredients that you can't pronounce and that your body doesn't
know what the heck to do with them, and you're
(15:45):
all about easy digestion and taking care of your body,
but you share that with everyone. And so it's like
your little gift on Instagram, and you are at Little
Sipper on Instagram, and not little, it's little like litl
when um L I L S I P P e
R at Little Sipper. And so now that I've set
(16:06):
you up a little bit, why don't you share with
us why you started eating and cooking this way? Well,
thank you so much, Amy um. And it's even funny
that you say that you enjoy my recipes even though
you don't have ib S, because I get so many
people saying I started eating the way you do. I
don't really have IBS, but I'm feeling so much better,
(16:27):
and people are just realizing maybe how crappy they were
feeling before but just never knew it. It's it's amazing
because food really did help heal me. I literally almost
died from ib S. I was a walking skeleton. I
could barely even balance on one leg because I just
didn't have the strength and the muscle. So though food
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did help heal me, it also actually made things worse.
It's It's crazy how food can do good or do bad.
I was just having the worst IBS flares. And I
even hate the term IBS because it really could be anything.
You know, doctors give you that label when they really
don't know how to diagnose you, because it's like saying
(17:09):
you have a skin condition. Well, there's so many skin conditions,
Like what is it? You know? So I went from
doctor to doctor specialists. I just went from the top
of the line people, and no one could really figure
it out. I couldn't suggest food. Things were coming out
whole I was spurping like a really horrible sulfur smell,
(17:30):
and it was just I mean, I had to put
my my dream job because I couldn't hold a job.
I was just in pain constantly. And there's so many
other people out there that can relate, hopefully not as much,
but into to some degree. And so I kind of
just took things into my own hands, worked with a
holistic doctor. We went back to basics, started curing my chicken.
(17:53):
I know that sounds weird, but I had to go
on a full on pure a diet for a while,
just like a baby. I had to treat my stomach
like a baby. Wood, basically blending everything until I was
able to tolerate things and digest things properly. Just in
nine months, it was a total transformation from you know,
walking skeleton. I was able to gain back weight, able
(18:15):
to gain back strength, and even my cognitive thinking was
was better because you're just so depleted from everything. And
long story short, now, I mean I have this Instagram.
So many people have reached out saying that they've been
struggling with some sort of IBS and it's affected their
life completely. So now I just make I make recipes
that are easy to digect, good for the body, clean ingredients,
(18:38):
no chemicals, and not only recipes, but I really get
down to the nitty gritty as to what's going on
in the quote unquote health food industry because so many
products are still processed, so you think you're eating healthy,
but when you really get down to it, things are
hidden in ingredients. So I really get down to what's
going on in the food industry and and dissecting that too. Yeah. No,
(19:02):
it's really impressive when you do that, because I have
been obsessed with Trader Joe's snocchi. You know, you just
buy it and you look at the ingredients. I'm like, oh,
it doesn't seem like anything too crazy in here, and
I've been cooking it. And then I saw your post
on your website, which I'll say that her website is
the same as her instagram. It's a little sipper dot
com and up there too. While I'm talking about your website,
(19:22):
you do have a before and after photo. And the
before photo one that you have when you were near death.
I mean, it's it's shocking, like you cringe, You're like,
oh my gosh, how is this possible? Because it's not like,
I mean, you look like intorectic that is about to die.
Just to put it bluntly in case people can't look
it up right now, that's what it looks like. And
but you weren't like you were trying to live and
(19:42):
you were trying to eat, but your body wasn't receiving
any of the nutrients. Yeah, the picture, I mean you
could see my bones popping out, my whole skeletal dream.
It was just it was horrifying and it was embarrassing
and people did think, you know, she just has an
eating disorder, and it was hard to say, know, I am,
I'm eating, but literally things are just passing undigested and
(20:05):
whole and and so. But yeah, it's back to the
whole niokie thing. I know that you saw it on
my website and I recently posted something about it, and
I know that's like a huge thing right now, but
so many people came back and said, oh my goodness,
I thought I was the only one that was getting
sticked from the nioki. So it's really going back to
basis and really look at the ingredients to see what
(20:26):
it is. I've got your thoughts on month powder monk powder. Yeah,
so I do get asked a lot about that. It's
actually you have to be careful with it because there
is a pure monk powder and that can be okay. However,
the monk powder that you can find does have added
a recuitrol or has added multodextrin, and those additives can
(20:49):
freak havoc on the gut. Really have to see me
is it pure or are the ingredients you know, month
fruit plus this is in this okay, So speak quickly
on the maltadextern because that's an ingredient that was brought
to my attention over a year ago, and now I
find it in so many things that I used to
buy and and now if I see it on something,
(21:11):
I will not buy it because they don't have to
companies that you just think you can trust because they
make other products that you can trust. And I'm like,
why if they make this other amazing product, are they
making this product with this ingredient that they know is
not good for us? Like it's just deceiving. So then
it's like there's this blurred thing between companies where you
want to find companies where you can just trust them
(21:32):
across the board you don't even have to really think.
But then at the end of the day, it's a
business for everybody. So talk about multidextern because it's in
a lot of things. It is a multidextern dextro. You'll
find those words. It's a lot of it's basically an
anti taking agent. It's in a lot of dip mixes
and things to help preserve the food the product, and
(21:54):
it actually has been used to be called preservative to
eight that doesn't get your attention. It can cause bloating,
digestive issues, even fat storage for some people. So you
really have to be careful as to what it is.
It's and it's amazing to me because it is considered
natural by the f A. Yeah. I've even heard too
(22:15):
that it is it will cause you to want to
eat more, Yes, because at the end of the day,
it's a refined sugar, to put it, very very yeah
from them, and so it's we react chemically to that,
and therefore we have the urge to keep eating more
and more and more because of that additive. So that's so.
(22:36):
And you know, so I feel like you're full of knowledge.
So is your website, so is your Instagram. And if
people are having maybe they're just in this constant state
of feeling bloated all the time and they've accepted it
as their normal and they're like, well, this is just
my body. I have to live with it. I would
think that if they started to adopt some of the
things that you put up, you know, and in ways
(22:58):
of life that you have, I feel like it could
make a huge difference for them. It's totally can just
a little simple changes can make a huge difference, you know,
So you don't have to go crazy. Start baby steps.
That's what I do. That's what I love. And I'm
so glad that you found me and we've connected, and
you know, I follow you on Instagram, so such a
great community. So the green bread is something I made
(23:22):
that so many people I mentioned it earlier we're freaking
out about. And if people go to your website, there's
a search bar and they can just type in green
bread and it will come up. And what turns it
green is the what's the sunflower butter or the sunflower
seeds or something that mixes with baking soda. Baking soda
is what cause. It's like science, it's it causes the green.
(23:43):
So yeah, it's a chemical reaction. So there's nothing crazy.
There's only like four ingredients, but it really is a
lot of your stuff is a lot of times has
no carbs, no sugar, Paleo friendly, Keto friendly. I mean,
I'm not into a lot of these particular diets, but
some people are, and some people have to literally avoid sugar.
They have to avoid carbs, they have to for their
(24:04):
well being. Like have are you on a the s
OS diet? Someone that else that I follow on Instagram
has to avoid salt, oil and sugar. No, I'm not,
and I'm not actually on any particular diet. I kind
of created my own, thankfully, but I do take into
consideration that people do have to follow off. You know
they're diabetic, what they have this, they did for that.
(24:25):
So I like to give options. I like to create
different recipes. If you want to add a little coconut
sugar or a little honey, you have that option. And
a lot of your stuff is Candida diet friendly. It's
not free a lot of times dairy free. And so
you have to listen, like, I'm not sending you to
a little slipper's website so that you can make something
(24:47):
that's going to be you know what, you know you're
gonna want to serve at Thanksgiving for all your family
to be like, well, this is so amazing. But if
you're trying to start eating in a more clean way
and you really want to see if your body will
see the changes, which it will, then these recipes are good.
And once you start to change your taste buds, because
(25:09):
right now your taste buds are used to it could
be possibly if you're not eating this way. It's used
to process sugar and all the crazy chemicals that make
food just taste so so so amazing, and all the
fat and stuff that's just not good for your body.
Now we're into fats me and a little sipper back
in here. We love that. We just love the healthy fats, yes,
(25:29):
healthy fats um and not fats from other things that
aren't good for you. But make these and just know, Okay,
this is a healthier version. This isn't something. Yeah, it
may take a while for you to adjust, but she
really does have some awesome things that I think that
you would like. Like there's this butternut squash fudge and
I made it the other day and I keep it
(25:49):
in the freezer and whenever I want that, like bite
of chocolate, I know that I can go grab it
and it's literally made from butternut squash, vital proteins um.
What else is in it? Then to cow powder, cashew butter.
You can do a cashew butter or sun butter like
a sunflower butter. So that's something I have in my
freezer right now that I made. And you have some
(26:11):
four ingredient like protein brownies which uses the new Zest
protein powder. I made that, and I have some of
those little squares and my freezer and my husband was
obsessing over those, which you yes like, and it's if
you look at it, it's like, okay, this is just
gonna fill my craving. And really you can stop because
there's nothing in it that's crazy addictive making you want
(26:32):
to go back and eat more. If I eat a
teeny tiny Reese's cup, I go back and I want
to eat ten more because there's all kinds of stuff
in there that's making my body be like, okay, give
me more, give me more. But this stuff just fills
the craving. It's got quality ingredients, easy to digest, stuff
that's good for my body. I can't recommend it enough again,
but I do want to put that disclaimer. If you
(26:53):
are just now easing into this, like a healthy eating lifestyle,
I don't want to fool you. That's like, you know,
if you're used to doing two sticks of butter in
your cookies, Well, this is gonna be a little bit different,
right right. And And something I do want to just
point out is I I'm not about the bad diets.
I don't claim any diet. In fact, I'm all about
real food. I actually don't even count calories. I just
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look at ingredients, not about counting calories. I'm just about real, good,
wholesome food, and that's my focus. Well, I definitely appreciate you,
and I know a lot of people out there, especially
if they have IBS or digestive issues, they certainly appreciate you.
And you have great product recommendations even for when it
comes to like household cleaning items and air fryers and
(27:38):
ways to make the food and smooth these like you're
really great at that. And then I'll just say quickly
too that I know I mentioned news Est a minute ago,
but you you partnered with them and have your own
digestive protein powder that was created with them. It's that's
got to be a super cool feeling. So if people
want to check that out, it's in you S e
z T do that And it's also my website as well. Yeah,
(28:02):
so check that out for sure if you want to
support I've got news S products and think that they're great,
And I think I have some of your protein powder
coming my way and I can't wait to try that
one in the in the little ones that I made,
I know your recipe calls for it the little brownies.
I actually to balance some of the chocolate, I used
the coco powder, but I used all I had on
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hand was the vanilla news S, so I used that
and it turned out great, perfect. Yeah, okay, well, thank
you for coming on. I'm definitely going to have you back.
I think that you have an interesting topic when it
comes to breast implants because we're getting them removed and
you have a message that you want to share with
people about that. So we will definitely have you back
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for that. And thank you for coming on. Oh, thank
you so much, Amy, I appreciate it. It's an honor.
I get notes from you all sometimes that make me
laugh a little bit because I'm like, oh, whoa, I
I think I have deceived in some way, shape or form. Uh.
And this one, this topic in particular that I want
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to discuss this time and management, because I feel like
I have misled y'all. I think that some of you
think I've got it all together and I don't. So
this is me just putting it all out there, like
I am a hot mess. I do not have it
all together some days, and I'm like all over the place,
not even organized, barely can figure out ways to have
calls and meetings because I just don't have it together.
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I mean, there's twenty four hours in a day for everybody.
But I look at other people and I'm like, oh,
they have it all together, Like, how in the world
did they do that? And they do it with such cheese,
and they do it so well. And I do think
that about people, and I've gotten some emails that make
me think that y'all think that about me. So I
just wanted to clear the air. I have zero time
management skills, nor can I offer you tips like I'm
gonna read you this email that I got from Ashley.
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This is an example of what I've been getting from y'all.
I know that you have a million things going on
between work, being a mom, kids, charity, et cetera, and
it seems like you plan it also well. Time management
has never been my strong suit, but between work, married life,
and my side hustle that I'm trying to build, I
just feel like I'm not balancing it at all. Well,
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and she goes, and this is coming from someone who's
only and has no kids or pets, and I see
parents handling this so much better. I would love any advice,
tips and strategies, So Ashley, meaning that I don't have
any personal tips, I can pass your way because I
too feel like you. I went to Forbes because I
feel like Forbes dot Com is smart they know what
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they're doing when it comes to time management. I'm sure.
So I found some stuff that I'm gonna share with
you all. So if anybody else is struggling with time management, boom,
I'm gonna hook you up. And also, can we talk
about me saying boom a lot? Right now? I really am,
and I apologize. It's not lost on me, and I'm
gonna work on it. So let me practice this again. So, Ashley,
I've got some time management tips and I'm going to
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share them with you. Okay, So now I said that
without saying boom. You know, some times words just get
in and then you say them for a little bit
and they have to die out. I wonder if my
son is saying that for some reason. Sometimes some stuff
he says I start to say, but he's much cuter
when he says it. So, uh, let me just give
you some examples of where I feel like I'm failing.
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Like I had a FaceTime meeting with Mary the other
day and we were meeting about some squa stuff and
I was hiding in my bedroom because I had both
kids home that we had our nanny at the house,
which that's another thing, and a nanny that is also
an assistant, and I still don't have it all together.
My husband and I both work, and so when we
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got the kids, we knew that we were going to
need to bring in um some help for sure, like
no doubt, that's just something that we knew we were
going to have to do. Never in a million years
did I ever think my husband and I would be
someone where we said we have a nanny. Like that's
just even weird for me to still say, I still
struggle with it. No offense to our nanny, because she's
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she loves her job, she's proud of her job, she
loves that she's a nanny, and I love that she
loves that. But for me, it's still hard that we're
we're those people, and I'm not trying to be those
people or sound pretentious or anything. That's just that is
what it is. And I want to be honest with
you all two I have help. So not only do
I have help, and I still feel like a hot mess.
So if that that probably just makes me even worse
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than somebody that that doesn't have any help and is
still trying to figure all this out. But Karre is amazing,
and that's the name of our nanny, and she has
taken on some roles helping me even with this podcast
and sorting through emails and helping me come up with
questions for the Tuesday Q and A segment, because I
started to think maybe I could do it all, and
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then I get overwhelmed and I start dropping balls because
there's emails I miss, there's people I forget to reply to.
Let's just let's just pull up my phone right now.
Where is my phone? Let me see, I've got it
right here. Let me let me just let me do
this real quick, okay, unlocking my phone and checking my
I have a hundred and thirty six unread text messages.
I have two thousand, five hundred sixty five unread emails
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and twenty miss phone calls and nineteen voicemails. But my
last voicemail was left on my phone in two thousand
and sixteen, So those nineteen voicemails I haven't checked in
two years. And then I let my voicemail fill up,
so people can't even leave a message anymore. So you
just text, because who leaves the messages anymore? I don't.
I don't. If you do, I'm sorry. I just would
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much for for someone to text me, and then I
may or may not get it because I have a
hundred thirty six unread See I am I'm awful. See
checking like your texts and your emails and getting those
off your list. That would be part of managing your
time and managing your things. So I actually, again, and
anybody else that has emailed me for time management tips,
I don't have them, but I do have a d D.
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And I was going somewhere with this. I think back
to my original story of Mary and I trying to
have a FaceTime meeting, and I just remember hiding out
in my room because again I had the kids at
the house, and then nanny was also there. My husband
was there and had a friend over. They were working
on a project. Then our tutor was there because my
kids they're still trying to learn English, they've only been
in America a year. So the house was full and
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there was nowhere for me to go but to climb
into my bed and kind of sit in front of
my computer and have a meeting. But it was hard
for me to focus because then it was also I
think it was five pm that day, so at that
point I've basically already been working almost twelve hours, and
of sure I had, you know, a workout in between.
Working out is something I always try to fit in.
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I feel like that's important to keep me sane, but
so it hasn't been. It wasn't like straight work. But
at that point my brain isn't all really there. And
then I've got show prep on my mind for the
Bobby Bones show the following morning, because every night we
turn in show prep, so I'm just not in a
good headspace. And the whole time I'm meeting with Mariam
like gosh, I really needed to get it together, and
she's like, oh, I thought you were going to start
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going to we Work with your husband's you had like
an office, and I was like yeah, but that just
really wasn't work king out because every day is just
so different with my schedule, and then parking at we Work,
which is where he has an office that's like a
community office center if y'all aren't familiar with we Work.
But I was twenty minutes in the car with trying
to find parking, and then fifteen minutes to get home,
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So that was like thirty thirty five minutes that I
was driving somewhere where I could have been using that
time for something else, so I opted not to do it. Now,
would that time maybe be me scrolling on Instagram? Was
it productive use of my time? Maybe not? But that
was still thirty five minutes. I did not want to
be in the car because I thought, well, I'll just
work from home. But then working from home can be
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really hard. So I'm rambling for sure. So let me
go ahead and get to some of these time management
tips before I lose some of y'all. But first of all,
they say on Forbes to create a time audit. So
what it comes to time management, the first step you
need to take is finding out where your time actually goes.
You may believe that you only spend thirty minutes on emails,
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but in reality that task is eating up and hour
of your day. And the easiest way to keep trap
of your time is to download an app like Rescue
time or like a calendar to track everything you do
for a week, and then they make a report and
they show you what's sucking your time, what's stealing your time,
and then with this information you can make the appropriate adjustments.
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Now I know my personality, I'm probably not going to
use an app, but maybe this app would be good
for you, but I do need to make my own
version of a time audit. And then Tip number two
is set a time limit to each task. So, for example,
if you want to write an article for something like
you've got a blog, like give yourself two hours. If
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you start at eight am, try to make sure that
it's written by ten am. This makes me think of
something I heard Mary do one day. We were traveling
and she was working on something on the shop Forward website,
and she was like, she really wanted this, like a
pair of shoes. I'm using that as an example. It
could have been jeans, but she was shopping online and
I think we were on a light and she was like,
I really want to buy whatever the shoes, but I'm
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not going to allow myself to do it until I
get done with this task on the website. So that
could be another method. I mean, it's not really setting
a time limit for each task, but it's rewarding yourself
if you complete the task, which sometimes I need to
complete things, which leads me to tip number three. Use
it to do list, but don't abandon tasks. So if
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it's on your list, make sure you cross it off.
For sure. Also tip number four, it says plan ahead.
One of the worst things you can do is wake
up without a plan for the day. I mean, I
feel like I like to wing it. I'm more of
a fly by the scene of my pants kind of girl.
But I guess I should plan the night before. That's
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what they say to do the night before, spend at
least fifteen minutes organizing your office and making a list
of your most important items for the next day. What then,
first thing in the morning, during your morning routine, right
down the three or for most urgent and important matters.
And then tip number five is spend your mornings on
m i T s. Which I know what m I
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t is according to my husband. He taught me this,
but you probably know as well. But it's most important
things because this is what he does. He's like, what
are your m I T s? Write them down and
number them in order of importance and tackle those first.
And I'm like, whatever, I want to tackle whatever's most
fun first. But it says here that Mark Twain once said,
if it's your job to eat a frog, it's best
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to do it first thing in the morning. And if
it's your job to eat two frogs. It's best to
eat the biggest one first. So there you go, take
that little nugget with you. Number six Tip Number six
is learned to delegate an outsource, which I'm definitely getting
better at, but then sometimes I kind of micromanage, Like
if I've given someone just help me with something, then
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I'm like, you know, I involved myself too much instead
of just taking letting them go with it. A Number
seven eliminate half work, which I was a little confused
as to what half work meant, but now it's clear
to me and I'll share it with you. So like,
say you're working on something like it's a project, you're you're,
you're all in, but then you stop randomly to check
(39:10):
your phone for no reason. Boom, that's half work. Or
you try out a new workout routine, but then you
switch to a new program a couple of days later
because you read about it online. Half work while talking
on your phone, your mind wanders to your email inbox.
Half work, that's so me. Oh that is so me.
Big fat star, I'm like drawing a star on the
(39:32):
paper right now. That that is me. Um. Another tip,
I've lost count. I don't know where we are but
it says, here, stop being perfect. I don't. I don't
have that problem. I'm not a perfectionist. I'm not Type A.
But in case you are, you need to stop doing it.
Perfect doesn't exist. Just do the best that you can
and move on. Uh. Next, it says, just say no.
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I know that a lot of times it's hard because
we don't want to upset anybody. But you can only
handle so much. And this is some thing that I've
got to be better at. And sometimes my saying no
or yes too much isn't because I don't want to
hurt anybody or upset anyone. It's that I don't want
them to think I can't do it like I want
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you to think that I can. So I'm just gonna
say yes, which sucks because then I end up not
really being able to do it, and then I feel
like I end up letting people down. So that's a
bummer realization about myself. Another tip on here is don't
waste time waiting. I feel like I've gotten really good
at this. Like if you have a doctor's appointment or
something and you're gonna be in a waiting room or
you have to wait for something, make use of that time.
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Have your computer with you at all times. I can't
tell you how many times now I work in parking
garages because I'm waiting for something I've got to go
somewhere and I get there early, or I'm waiting for
traffic to die down and i just knockout work in
my car, or I've got a podcast going that way,
you're you're bringing in information, you're learning about something, You've
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got something going on, like an inspirational book or something
where you're listening to it. Maybe while you're driving too.
You could be doing that that way, you know you're
not wasting time. And then another tip here says telecommute,
which means work from home. So if you have those
days and now, not everybody can do it, but it
says here the average American commute is over twenty six minutes,
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so and that definitely gets longer. I mean, I know
people that have an hour to and from work, but um,
you know, maybe you don't have the choice to work
from home every day, but what if one day a week,
it says here, you could work from home. Even twice
a week can end up saving you several hours depending
on your commute, So keep that in mind. Okay, so
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there we go. Confession for me, I have zero time
management skills. Got all that info from Forbes dot com.
I was taking notes just like you, and I need
just as much help as you do. Okay, let's talk
hot baths, because one thing I want to do on
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this podcast is encourage you to make time for yourself
and to have those self care moments and not feel
guilty or selfish about it. Especially when you're busy or
you've got a family and you feel like you should
be doing something else. Stop doing that. I mean, a
bath could be something that could be a game changer
for you. Maybe it's something else, but right now we're
gonna talk about baths because I saw a headline for
(42:21):
an article and when I read it, I was like, huh,
well that's interesting and this could be something that's that's
good for you guys. So the headline said a hot
bath can give some of the same benefits as exercise.
Which wouldn't you rather take a hot bath than go
work out some days? I mean, some days you need
to work out, let's be honest. But what if your
self care moment for the day is a hot bath
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and it's like you gotta work out. So I used
to take hot baths all the time. I was a
big fan. But I don't really have access to a
bathtub that much anymore because before we adopted our two kids,
the upstairs bathtub, which is the only place we have
a bath, was always empty. And now that I've got
an eleven year old and an eight year old, it's
(43:05):
like their bath. Like I feel like I would need
to go in there and like clean it all the time.
And then sometimes they're in there and all their shampoos
and some of my son's little bath toys and whatnot.
It's just not the same relaxing feel when you're trying
to take a bath in your kids bath. But all
this to say, I'm going to start making an effort
because I do miss my hot bath time. And so
(43:25):
you're like, well, how are you going to make this
whole thing about taking baths? I mean, it's not that hard,
just run some hot water. But I wanted to run
through this article with you all, and then I want
to tell you all about a really awesome detox bath,
like the ingredients that you need for it, and then
maybe we'll talk about how to set the scene for
a good bath. So the article that made me think
of talking about this said that a nice hot bath
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raises the body temperature the same as if you're working out.
That causes an inflammatory response in the body that's similar
to if you were in training mode. Now there's a
protein in your body called i L six, and that
protein triggers a series of anti inflammatory reactions that help
lower your risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and certain cancers.
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What I know sounds too good to be true, but
basically what I see in this is maybe sometimes if
you're not feeling like working out, it's bathtime. Hot bathtime.
Now you want to make sure that it's really hot.
And I learned that from a Dr Mark Hyman. He's
someone that I followed for a really long time. I
read some of his books, but he has this recipe
for bathtime that's supposed to be really good for your
(44:34):
body and detoxifying. So I when I was taking these
a lot, I was doing about one and a half
to two cups of Epps and salt and then one
cup of baking soda and I would add that to
the hot water with a few drops of lavender to
kind of relax things. But pretty much. What this does
is allows your body to absorb the magnesium from the
(44:57):
EPs and salt it's taken in through the skin, and
then you have alkaline balancing effects from the baking soda,
and both of those things help with sleep. So he
would recommend that you take this hot bath detox situation
before bed. So boom, It's like you relax before bed
and your body gets some of the same cardiovascular benefits
(45:20):
as a workout, but you didn't even have to work out.
Sounds really good to me, and I'm going to now
try to make more time to go upstairs and take
a bath in my kid's bathroom and then maybe light
a few candles, dim the lights. Maybe you make a
playlist ahead of time with some John Mayer or some
Enya or Adele, like something calming like how awesome would
(45:43):
that be? Or put on a podcast that you like
for bathtime. Probably not my podcast so much, but maybe
like an Oprah Super Soul Sunday Conversation or a master
class like the one I recommended earlier with Steve Harvey.
Oh that one was so so good. Anyway, bathtime, do
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it feel good about it? Never have no shame in
your game when it comes to self care. Well, that's
a wrap on today's episode, and I have an awesome email,
Like I'm excited to share this email. So the end
of every four Things podcast, I kind of do an
email shout out, and this one is super cool because
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I feel like we're we're going to be a part
of a relationship and I want to want to follow
this relationship and see if they end up together. So, hey, Amy,
I'm a new listener. I'm a first year law student
and got into the show when this girl, Caroline, who
I have a tiny bit of a crush on, wouldn't
stop mentioning you. She's pretty awesome. So curiosity got the
best of me, and long story short, I'm now an
(46:45):
avid listener of both the Bobby Bones Show and your
four Things podcast. As a guy in his mid twenties,
I feel like in a few weeks you've made me
a more well rounded person. I'm drinking lemon water and
trying to establish healthier eating habits. But perhaps excitingly, after
literally never talking about them in my life, I'm now
able to have conversations about periods, not only with Carol,
(47:08):
but with my mom and sister. Please thank your husband
for coming on the show. Your conversations are a highlight
and show me that couples can keep pushing and challenging
each other well into a relationship. Sorry for the mass text.
I hope you get a chance to read some of it.
And if you say Carol's name on air, I'll win
a bunch of bonus points with her. What up. So
(47:29):
that's basically why I wanted to read this Emaale Well.
First of all, because he's a guy, and I want
to remember that there's guys listening and shout out to
all the guys, all five of you three. I love
that he's adapting things like hot lemon water Carol, sounds
like you've got a keeper. He wants to eat healthy.
He's a law student, like, clearly you've got a good one.
(47:50):
And oh, I need to say his name. He signed
it best Chiboo, which I don't know if I'm saying
your name right, Chiboo. C h I bu But hey, Carol,
shout out. You should go out on another date with Chiboo,
and then Chaboo, update me on you and Carol's relationship
and if you'll break up. I'm sorry, but this was
me trying to help a guy out so that really
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is today's episode. I hope that y'all enjoyed it. And
a big thank you to Mike d and Elizabeth and
Walker Hayes for the theme song. I still get so
many of you asking who sings your theme song? So
I know it's probably like, wow, she says that every
episode Walker Hayes. But I get it. I'm doing tons
of other things while I listen to podcasts at times,
and I don't always absorb every single detail. So Walker
(48:34):
Hayes is singer of my podcast and he's got some
amazing music, so definitely check him out. And then I'm
excited about next week. I've got an angiogram person coming on. Yeah,
so we have that to look forward to for sure.
If you don't know anything about the Instagram, will you
have one week to study up, because next Thursday I'm
(48:56):
sitting down with him and I'm super excited about It's
like a per sonality. It's a way to gauge your personality.
And there's nine different ones one through nine. What number
are you try to figure that out? Okay, Well, we'll
see y'all next week. By be kind too, never life
(49:22):
cast up roa little food for yourself life ain't. Oh
it's pretty, but hey, it's pretty beautiful thing that for
a little moth up, because of course said he can't eat.
You're kicking with four with Amy Brown.
Never lie. Okay, cass up a little food for yourself life, ain't. Oh,
it's pretty much. It's pretty beautiful. Thanks beautiful that a
little month you're kicking with four Brown. Pretty bumped about
(00:33):
today's episode. We're gonna talk manifestation and faith and positive
thinking and law of attraction, which you might be like,
any what, I don't even go there. Why are you
trying to be like the Secret? Well, I'm not. I've
never even read that book, but I know that I've
kind of shunned it and not done certain things that
(00:54):
have anything to do with visualizing stuff or having a
vision board because I thought it was contrad dictory to
my faith. But I don't even really know I felt
that way. But I was listening to Steve Harvey on Masterclass,
Oprah's Masterclass podcast, and I pulled some clips that I
want to share with you all, and I feel like
his dad gave him a tool which was basically manifestation
(01:17):
without calling it that, and it like it is. I
believe it puts Steve Harvey where he is today. So
you know, I just want to share that with you
and then share with you kind of where I am
with it now. I also have Bethany Ugarte coming on.
She's at a little Sipper on Instagram L I L
S I P P e R. And she has an
(01:38):
amazing story of how she healed her body. She really
was near death. Her body was like a skeleton. Even
though she was eating, she just was not digesting food.
And through the right doctors, her holistic team, she was
able to heal herself with the right foods. Now, it
was kind of foods that were killing her, but then
the right foods healed her. And if you are looking
(02:02):
for someone to follow on Instagram that has really easy
recipes that are easy to digest and minimal ingredients, I
highly recommend you follow her. I personally don't have IBS
or any issues, but I love some of her recipes
because my body feels good after I eat them. I
know that they're simple, and I know that they're giving
me nutrients, and I know that they're easy to digest,
(02:23):
and I know that she's really helped a lot of
people with IBS and stomach issues. So maybe you're listening
right now and you're like, WHOA I have that? Well,
she's a really great follow for you, So I'm excited
to hear. I'm excited for y'all to hear my little
interview with her. And then the third thing I've got
for today. I feel like I have been misleading y'all
(02:43):
or I haven't. I don't know, maybe deceiving something. I'm
just getting some emails where I'm like, Okay, whoa, they
need to know the real me. That's not me. I
don't have it all together, so I want to address
something and clear the air on that. And then lastly,
if you don't have time for the gym, but hot
bath sounds amazing to you, well you're in luck because
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hot baths are basically like working out and that is
like music to my ears. Before we officially get into
the first thing in today's episode, just want to let
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the shop forward dot com pimp and joy. Let's talk manifestation,
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which is going to kind of lead into positive thinking
and you know whole manifestation thing. Though, real quick I
want to say is I'm not someone that's been into that,
not like an expert on the law of attraction or anything,
but I do try the whole positive thinking and then
I really just started to think, like maybe maybe I
am into this and it's okay, and the positivity then
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leads to more gratitude, and I thought of this topic
to discuss while listening to Oprah's Master Class podcast with
Steve Harvey. Definitely go listen to this one. It's good.
And maybe I'm just really into Steve Harvey right now
because we just went on family feud, but I think
that you'll like it no matter what. To check it
out anyway. He shared a story from his childhood when
a teacher asked the class to write down what they
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wanted to do when they grew up. And Steve wrote
down that he wanted to be on TV. Well, the
teacher called each student one by one in front of
the class to discuss what they wrote down, and when
Steve got up there, the teacher basically made fun of
him and told him that it wasn't an attainable dream.
Then later the teacher told his parents that Steve wasn't
taking class assignments seriously. Well, Steve's dad told him to
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take what he wrote, you know that he wanted to
be on TV, and put it in his drawer and
look at it every day. Take your paper and put
it in your drawer. Every morning when you get up,
read your paper, and every night before you go to bed,
read your paper. That's your paper. What he told me
was a principle of success that if you write it
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down and envisioning anything you see in your mind, you
can hold in your hand and guess what. Steve Harvey,
as you know, he's now on TV. And then I
laughed a lot when he shared this part. Every year,
when the teacher was living, I used to send her
a TV for Christmas because I wanted her to see me.
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She saw me one year and she said, boy, you
send me all the TV from wherever you are, and
you don't understand I got two many TV I have
to get the TVs away some time. I know it's
all right though, And I kept that paper, and that
little boy with disturbing problem is on TV seven days
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a week. Yeah. So listening to this made me think
of manifestation and that what you think about you bring
about even with simple things like I never used to
notice labradoodles, but once we got one, I started seeing
them everywhere. Or once I think about the color red,
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then I start to see the color red. Or you know,
if I test you have a certain car, which I'm
not doing that all the time, but if I have,
if I if I'm focused on a car that I like,
now I start to see him on the road everywhere.
Before I never noticed them. And then with more important
things like our overall attitude, when you focus on negativity,
you tend to be more negative, and when you think
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about positivity, you tend to be more positive. You know.
I think about my mom and how she handled her
cancer journey with such a grace because she tried to
stay positive, wanting God's will for her life and for
the cancer to be used for good. So she opted
to choose joy and from that Pimp and Joy was born.
And had she had a negative attitude about her cancer
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and let it get her down all the time, then
we would have lost out on the awesome Pimp and
Joy movement. Again, what you think about you bring about
and some call it manifestation or law of attraction. You know,
like that book The Secret, which I can't really talk
about because I never read it or got into it.
It didn't seem to flow with my Christian faith. But
as I've gotten older, I've realized how powerful our mindset
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is and how it can affect us. I've had friends
invite me to vision board parties, but I never went
because I felt uncomfortable, again because of my faith. But
when I really think about it, what would God have
against me putting my goals up for the year on
a pretty board or in a book and then just
focusing on them. You know Dr Lewis, he was on
the podcast a few weeks ago talking placebo effect. And
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we know that someone can be given a sugar pill
and then they can be told that the pill is
going to help them. Now that sugar pill is doing
absolutely nothing. But because we think that it is, we
may suddenly start to feel better. And when you think
of it this way, encouraging people to think positive, to
attract more positivity, and visually focusing on your goals. Whatever
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that looks like for you, it makes sense. I remember
Dirk's Bentley talking on Bobby's podcast, The Bobby Cast about
how he wanted to be a pilot, and then one
day I think he flew on a private jet with
Kenny Chestney or something, and you know, after that he
was like, man, I want to have my own jet
one day. And Signature is a private airport that you'll see,
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like that's where private planes flight in and out of.
And you know, he changed his computer password to Signature,
so that way, you know, he was part of his manifestation.
It was just a daily reminder of like one day
I'm going to have a plane and I'm going to
fly in and out of Signature and and he does
that now. So if you want to create something in
life based on visualizing what you want, go for it.
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I mean, visualize your goals, your dreams, focus on them,
pray for them, stay positive, following through with the work
needed to attain what you want. And then after all
the work, you receive the fruits of your labor. So
if anything, there's something pretty awesome that can come out
of practicing the law of attraction, our our gratitude will increase.
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Like if we force ourselves to think about something positive,
then it makes us appreciate the little things in life.
I mean, I find that so true. And even when
something in our life goes wrong, we can focus at
what we're grateful for and it puts things into perspective.
And I just I always think of my mom in
this case, and I know I always bring her up
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as an example, but that was something that was a
really powerful, beautiful example for me, Like I lived it,
I witnessed it. And again I've been honest with you
all that not every day was amazing and she wasn't
constantly choosing joy, but her overall theme was positivity and
joy and what good can come from this? Because can't
it was bad? How can we make it good? And
I mean she had to look for the positive things.
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I mean one of her I don't know if I've
shared this on a previous podcast before at all, um,
but one of her assignments from her therapists before death,
I mean, we knew that her life was going to
be ending maybe sort of soon. We just we didn't
know if she had months or or even less than
a year. But I think it ended up being weeks
at this point um when she started journaling. But her
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therapist was like, I want you to write down fifty
things that you're thankful for. And it was really really
hard for my mom. She only made it to fourteen.
She didn't even get to fifty. So but you know,
it was sometimes it was like her yogurt, the yogurt
she ate that morning because it tasted good, it was
high fat, had protein stuff her body needed to help
her stay strong. And you know, other people made the list,
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like my sister, she was one of the fourteen. I
wasn't one of the fourteen. Although I remember driving her
to and from that therapy session and she was drinking
and insure and as we pulled up to the therapist office,
the ensure spilled everywhere all over the car. So while
she was in therapy, I went to go get the
car cleaned and then came back to get her. But
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I still didn't make the list. I didn't make it. Nope,
I'm not better about that at all. But anyway, my
mom had this like yellow journal and then after my
mom died, um she had gotten it from Target, and
my sister went out and found two of those exact
yellow journals and she got one for her and one
for me. And now it's something we keep and we
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ride in from time to time. But that journaling activity
and then you know, just practicing gratitude and keeping a
positive mindset and focusing on our goals and what we want,
it made me want to throw out a little activity
for us. So what if every night before bed we
write down four things that were grateful for, like we
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reflect on our day. Maybe it's something in the week.
I mean, we're gonna do it every night. We can
be thankful for things through different times, we month, whatever,
just jot down four things. That's it, just four. We'll
stick with the theme of the podcast. The thought of journaling,
for sure overwhelms me, So sitting down before bed to
write out four things that I'm grateful for actually seems doable.
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So we don't need to overthink it. Some things might
be grandiose, like other things might be really really simple,
like my mom liking or being thankful for her yogurt um,
Like I can see myself when day being thankful for
the adoption process and allowing me to be a mom
to two beautiful Haitian kiddos and maybe something really special
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that they did one day that's that's like a big deal.
But I can also see myself being thankful for my
acne spot treatment. You see, we don't need to overthink it.
So let's do this four things you're grateful for every day,
and I'm gonna suggest doing it at night because I've
heard that gratitude before sleep is awesome for you. But
you can do it whenever you want, and you can
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post these on social media and then tag me. I'm
at radio Amy use the hashtag four things gratitude so
that I can see them. And Mary and I have
even played around with doing a four things gratitude journal
for a spua so the journals would benefit haiti Um.
If you all think that would be a good idea,
let me know. In the meantime, just find any old
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journal or paper or whatever and write down your four
things each night that you're grateful for. Okay, Okay, I'm
here with Bethany Ugarte and Bethany, it's so crazy because
I follow you on Instagram, and I feel like I
know you, but we've never met. And I brought you
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on because I feel like you have an amazing story
to share and I love that you're inspiring so many
people on Instagram. You're helping people feel better, and I
want you to share some of your story on how
eating a certain way saved your life when doctors couldn't,
and your struggles with IBS, and if or curious while
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they're listening to this, if they're like, Okay, wait, who
is this Bethany Ugarte, Like she really is someone on
Instagram that's doing a huge thing for people that have
issues um with IBS, And you can dive into deep
deeper things if if there's other issues that you know
about that I don't have IBS, but I will say
I even love your recipes and I feel better when
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I'm eating them because they're minimal ingredients. You recreate things
that are stuff that we really like. Like I mean,
girl Scott cookies are totally a thing right now, and
you completely recreated the samoa cookie into something that is
easy to digest and doesn't have any of the crazy
ingredients that you can't pronounce and that your body doesn't
know what the heck to do with them, and you're
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all about easy digestion and taking care of your body,
but you share that with everyone. And so it's like
your little gift on Instagram, and you are at Little
Sipper on Instagram, and not little, it's little like litl
when um L I L S I P P e
R at Little Sipper. And so now that I've set
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you up a little bit, why don't you share with
us why you started eating and cooking this way? Well,
thank you so much, Amy um. And it's even funny
that you say that you enjoy my recipes even though
you don't have ib S, because I get so many
people saying I started eating the way you do. I
don't really have IBS, but I'm feeling so much better,
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and people are just realizing maybe how crappy they were
feeling before but just never knew it. It's it's amazing
because food really did help heal me. I literally almost
died from ib S. I was a walking skeleton. I
could barely even balance on one leg because I just
didn't have the strength and the muscle. So though food
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did help heal me, it also actually made things worse.
It's It's crazy how food can do good or do bad.
I was just having the worst IBS flares. And I
even hate the term IBS because it really could be anything.
You know, doctors give you that label when they really
don't know how to diagnose you, because it's like saying
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you have a skin condition. Well, there's so many skin conditions,
Like what is it? You know? So I went from
doctor to doctor specialists. I just went from the top
of the line people, and no one could really figure
it out. I couldn't suggest food. Things were coming out
whole I was spurping like a really horrible sulfur smell,
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and it was just I mean, I had to put
my my dream job because I couldn't hold a job.
I was just in pain constantly. And there's so many
other people out there that can relate, hopefully not as much,
but into to some degree. And so I kind of
just took things into my own hands, worked with a
holistic doctor. We went back to basics, started curing my chicken.
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I know that sounds weird, but I had to go
on a full on pure a diet for a while,
just like a baby. I had to treat my stomach
like a baby. Wood, basically blending everything until I was
able to tolerate things and digest things properly. Just in
nine months, it was a total transformation from you know,
walking skeleton. I was able to gain back weight, able
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to gain back strength, and even my cognitive thinking was
was better because you're just so depleted from everything. And
long story short, now, I mean I have this Instagram.
So many people have reached out saying that they've been
struggling with some sort of IBS and it's affected their
life completely. So now I just make I make recipes
that are easy to digect, good for the body, clean ingredients,
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no chemicals, and not only recipes, but I really get
down to the nitty gritty as to what's going on
in the quote unquote health food industry because so many
products are still processed, so you think you're eating healthy,
but when you really get down to it, things are
hidden in ingredients. So I really get down to what's
going on in the food industry and and dissecting that too. Yeah. No,
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it's really impressive when you do that, because I have
been obsessed with Trader Joe's snocchi. You know, you just
buy it and you look at the ingredients. I'm like, oh,
it doesn't seem like anything too crazy in here, and
I've been cooking it. And then I saw your post
on your website, which I'll say that her website is
the same as her instagram. It's a little sipper dot
com and up there too. While I'm talking about your website,
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you do have a before and after photo. And the
before photo one that you have when you were near death.
I mean, it's it's shocking, like you cringe, You're like,
oh my gosh, how is this possible? Because it's not like,
I mean, you look like intorectic that is about to die.
Just to put it bluntly in case people can't look
it up right now, that's what it looks like. And
but you weren't like you were trying to live and
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you were trying to eat, but your body wasn't receiving
any of the nutrients. Yeah, the picture, I mean you
could see my bones popping out, my whole skeletal dream.
It was just it was horrifying and it was embarrassing
and people did think, you know, she just has an
eating disorder, and it was hard to say, know, I am,
I'm eating, but literally things are just passing undigested and
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whole and and so. But yeah, it's back to the
whole niokie thing. I know that you saw it on
my website and I recently posted something about it, and
I know that's like a huge thing right now, but
so many people came back and said, oh my goodness,
I thought I was the only one that was getting
sticked from the nioki. So it's really going back to
basis and really look at the ingredients to see what
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it is. I've got your thoughts on month powder monk powder. Yeah,
so I do get asked a lot about that. It's
actually you have to be careful with it because there
is a pure monk powder and that can be okay. However,
the monk powder that you can find does have added
a recuitrol or has added multodextrin, and those additives can
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freak havoc on the gut. Really have to see me
is it pure or are the ingredients you know, month
fruit plus this is in this okay, So speak quickly
on the maltadextern because that's an ingredient that was brought
to my attention over a year ago, and now I
find it in so many things that I used to
buy and and now if I see it on something,
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I will not buy it because they don't have to
companies that you just think you can trust because they
make other products that you can trust. And I'm like,
why if they make this other amazing product, are they
making this product with this ingredient that they know is
not good for us? Like it's just deceiving. So then
it's like there's this blurred thing between companies where you
want to find companies where you can just trust them
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across the board you don't even have to really think.
But then at the end of the day, it's a
business for everybody. So talk about multidextern because it's in
a lot of things. It is a multidextern dextro. You'll
find those words. It's a lot of it's basically an
anti taking agent. It's in a lot of dip mixes
and things to help preserve the food the product, and
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it actually has been used to be called preservative to
eight that doesn't get your attention. It can cause bloating,
digestive issues, even fat storage for some people. So you
really have to be careful as to what it is.
It's and it's amazing to me because it is considered
natural by the f A. Yeah. I've even heard too
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that it is it will cause you to want to
eat more, Yes, because at the end of the day,
it's a refined sugar, to put it, very very yeah
from them, and so it's we react chemically to that,
and therefore we have the urge to keep eating more
and more and more because of that additive. So that's so.
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And you know, so I feel like you're full of knowledge.
So is your website, so is your Instagram. And if
people are having maybe they're just in this constant state
of feeling bloated all the time and they've accepted it
as their normal and they're like, well, this is just
my body. I have to live with it. I would
think that if they started to adopt some of the
things that you put up, you know, and in ways
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of life that you have, I feel like it could
make a huge difference for them. It's totally can just
a little simple changes can make a huge difference, you know,
So you don't have to go crazy. Start baby steps.
That's what I do. That's what I love. And I'm
so glad that you found me and we've connected, and
you know, I follow you on Instagram, so such a
great community. So the green bread is something I made
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that so many people I mentioned it earlier we're freaking
out about. And if people go to your website, there's
a search bar and they can just type in green
bread and it will come up. And what turns it
green is the what's the sunflower butter or the sunflower
seeds or something that mixes with baking soda. Baking soda
is what cause. It's like science, it's it causes the green.
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So yeah, it's a chemical reaction. So there's nothing crazy.
There's only like four ingredients, but it really is a
lot of your stuff is a lot of times has
no carbs, no sugar, Paleo friendly, Keto friendly. I mean,
I'm not into a lot of these particular diets, but
some people are, and some people have to literally avoid sugar.
They have to avoid carbs, they have to for their
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well being. Like have are you on a the s
OS diet? Someone that else that I follow on Instagram
has to avoid salt, oil and sugar. No, I'm not,
and I'm not actually on any particular diet. I kind
of created my own, thankfully, but I do take into
consideration that people do have to follow off. You know
they're diabetic, what they have this, they did for that.
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So I like to give options. I like to create
different recipes. If you want to add a little coconut
sugar or a little honey, you have that option. And
a lot of your stuff is Candida diet friendly. It's
not free a lot of times dairy free. And so
you have to listen, like, I'm not sending you to
a little slipper's website so that you can make something
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that's going to be you know what, you know you're
gonna want to serve at Thanksgiving for all your family
to be like, well, this is so amazing. But if
you're trying to start eating in a more clean way
and you really want to see if your body will
see the changes, which it will, then these recipes are good.
And once you start to change your taste buds, because
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right now your taste buds are used to it could
be possibly if you're not eating this way. It's used
to process sugar and all the crazy chemicals that make
food just taste so so so amazing, and all the
fat and stuff that's just not good for your body.
Now we're into fats me and a little sipper back
in here. We love that. We just love the healthy fats, yes,
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healthy fats um and not fats from other things that
aren't good for you. But make these and just know, Okay,
this is a healthier version. This isn't something. Yeah, it
may take a while for you to adjust, but she
really does have some awesome things that I think that
you would like. Like there's this butternut squash fudge and
I made it the other day and I keep it
(25:49):
in the freezer and whenever I want that, like bite
of chocolate, I know that I can go grab it
and it's literally made from butternut squash, vital proteins um.
What else is in it? Then to cow powder, cashew butter.
You can do a cashew butter or sun butter like
a sunflower butter. So that's something I have in my
freezer right now that I made. And you have some
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four ingredient like protein brownies which uses the new Zest
protein powder. I made that, and I have some of
those little squares and my freezer and my husband was
obsessing over those, which you yes like, and it's if
you look at it, it's like, okay, this is just
gonna fill my craving. And really you can stop because
there's nothing in it that's crazy addictive making you want
(26:32):
to go back and eat more. If I eat a
teeny tiny Reese's cup, I go back and I want
to eat ten more because there's all kinds of stuff
in there that's making my body be like, okay, give
me more, give me more. But this stuff just fills
the craving. It's got quality ingredients, easy to digest, stuff
that's good for my body. I can't recommend it enough again,
but I do want to put that disclaimer. If you
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are just now easing into this, like a healthy eating lifestyle,
I don't want to fool you. That's like, you know,
if you're used to doing two sticks of butter in
your cookies, Well, this is gonna be a little bit different,
right right. And And something I do want to just
point out is I I'm not about the bad diets.
I don't claim any diet. In fact, I'm all about
real food. I actually don't even count calories. I just
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look at ingredients, not about counting calories. I'm just about real, good,
wholesome food, and that's my focus. Well, I definitely appreciate you,
and I know a lot of people out there, especially
if they have IBS or digestive issues, they certainly appreciate you.
And you have great product recommendations even for when it
comes to like household cleaning items and air fryers and
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ways to make the food and smooth these like you're
really great at that. And then I'll just say quickly
too that I know I mentioned news Est a minute ago,
but you you partnered with them and have your own
digestive protein powder that was created with them. It's that's
got to be a super cool feeling. So if people
want to check that out, it's in you S e
z T do that And it's also my website as well. Yeah,
(28:02):
so check that out for sure if you want to
support I've got news S products and think that they're great,
And I think I have some of your protein powder
coming my way and I can't wait to try that
one in the in the little ones that I made,
I know your recipe calls for it the little brownies.
I actually to balance some of the chocolate, I used
the coco powder, but I used all I had on
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hand was the vanilla news S, so I used that
and it turned out great, perfect. Yeah, okay, well, thank
you for coming on. I'm definitely going to have you back.
I think that you have an interesting topic when it
comes to breast implants because we're getting them removed and
you have a message that you want to share with
people about that. So we will definitely have you back
(28:42):
for that. And thank you for coming on. Oh, thank
you so much, Amy, I appreciate it. It's an honor.
I get notes from you all sometimes that make me
laugh a little bit because I'm like, oh, whoa, I
I think I have deceived in some way, shape or form. Uh.
And this one, this topic in particular that I want
(29:04):
to discuss this time and management, because I feel like
I have misled y'all. I think that some of you
think I've got it all together and I don't. So
this is me just putting it all out there, like
I am a hot mess. I do not have it
all together some days, and I'm like all over the place,
not even organized, barely can figure out ways to have
calls and meetings because I just don't have it together.
(29:29):
I mean, there's twenty four hours in a day for everybody.
But I look at other people and I'm like, oh,
they have it all together, Like, how in the world
did they do that? And they do it with such cheese,
and they do it so well. And I do think
that about people, and I've gotten some emails that make
me think that y'all think that about me. So I
just wanted to clear the air. I have zero time
management skills, nor can I offer you tips like I'm
gonna read you this email that I got from Ashley.
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This is an example of what I've been getting from y'all.
I know that you have a million things going on
between work, being a mom, kids, charity, et cetera, and
it seems like you plan it also well. Time management
has never been my strong suit, but between work, married life,
and my side hustle that I'm trying to build, I
just feel like I'm not balancing it at all. Well,
(30:11):
and she goes, and this is coming from someone who's
only and has no kids or pets, and I see
parents handling this so much better. I would love any advice,
tips and strategies, So Ashley, meaning that I don't have
any personal tips, I can pass your way because I
too feel like you. I went to Forbes because I
feel like Forbes dot Com is smart they know what
(30:33):
they're doing when it comes to time management. I'm sure.
So I found some stuff that I'm gonna share with
you all. So if anybody else is struggling with time management, boom,
I'm gonna hook you up. And also, can we talk
about me saying boom a lot? Right now? I really am,
and I apologize. It's not lost on me, and I'm
gonna work on it. So let me practice this again. So, Ashley,
I've got some time management tips and I'm going to
(30:55):
share them with you. Okay, So now I said that
without saying boom. You know, some times words just get
in and then you say them for a little bit
and they have to die out. I wonder if my
son is saying that for some reason. Sometimes some stuff
he says I start to say, but he's much cuter
when he says it. So, uh, let me just give
you some examples of where I feel like I'm failing.
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Like I had a FaceTime meeting with Mary the other
day and we were meeting about some squa stuff and
I was hiding in my bedroom because I had both
kids home that we had our nanny at the house,
which that's another thing, and a nanny that is also
an assistant, and I still don't have it all together.
My husband and I both work, and so when we
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got the kids, we knew that we were going to
need to bring in um some help for sure, like
no doubt, that's just something that we knew we were
going to have to do. Never in a million years
did I ever think my husband and I would be
someone where we said we have a nanny. Like that's
just even weird for me to still say, I still
struggle with it. No offense to our nanny, because she's
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she loves her job, she's proud of her job, she
loves that she's a nanny, and I love that she
loves that. But for me, it's still hard that we're
we're those people, and I'm not trying to be those
people or sound pretentious or anything. That's just that is
what it is. And I want to be honest with
you all two I have help. So not only do
I have help, and I still feel like a hot mess.
So if that that probably just makes me even worse
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than somebody that that doesn't have any help and is
still trying to figure all this out. But Karre is amazing,
and that's the name of our nanny, and she has
taken on some roles helping me even with this podcast
and sorting through emails and helping me come up with
questions for the Tuesday Q and A segment, because I
started to think maybe I could do it all, and
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then I get overwhelmed and I start dropping balls because
there's emails I miss, there's people I forget to reply to.
Let's just let's just pull up my phone right now.
Where is my phone? Let me see, I've got it
right here. Let me let me just let me do
this real quick, okay, unlocking my phone and checking my
I have a hundred and thirty six unread text messages.
I have two thousand, five hundred sixty five unread emails
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and twenty miss phone calls and nineteen voicemails. But my
last voicemail was left on my phone in two thousand
and sixteen, So those nineteen voicemails I haven't checked in
two years. And then I let my voicemail fill up,
so people can't even leave a message anymore. So you
just text, because who leaves the messages anymore? I don't.
I don't. If you do, I'm sorry. I just would
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much for for someone to text me, and then I
may or may not get it because I have a
hundred thirty six unread See I am I'm awful. See
checking like your texts and your emails and getting those
off your list. That would be part of managing your
time and managing your things. So I actually, again, and
anybody else that has emailed me for time management tips,
I don't have them, but I do have a d D.
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And I was going somewhere with this. I think back
to my original story of Mary and I trying to
have a FaceTime meeting, and I just remember hiding out
in my room because again I had the kids at
the house, and then nanny was also there. My husband
was there and had a friend over. They were working
on a project. Then our tutor was there because my
kids they're still trying to learn English, they've only been
in America a year. So the house was full and
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there was nowhere for me to go but to climb
into my bed and kind of sit in front of
my computer and have a meeting. But it was hard
for me to focus because then it was also I
think it was five pm that day, so at that
point I've basically already been working almost twelve hours, and
of sure I had, you know, a workout in between.
Working out is something I always try to fit in.
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I feel like that's important to keep me sane, but
so it hasn't been. It wasn't like straight work. But
at that point my brain isn't all really there. And
then I've got show prep on my mind for the
Bobby Bones show the following morning, because every night we
turn in show prep, so I'm just not in a
good headspace. And the whole time I'm meeting with Mariam
like gosh, I really needed to get it together, and
she's like, oh, I thought you were going to start
(34:55):
going to we Work with your husband's you had like
an office, and I was like yeah, but that just
really wasn't work king out because every day is just
so different with my schedule, and then parking at we Work,
which is where he has an office that's like a
community office center if y'all aren't familiar with we Work.
But I was twenty minutes in the car with trying
to find parking, and then fifteen minutes to get home,
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So that was like thirty thirty five minutes that I
was driving somewhere where I could have been using that
time for something else, so I opted not to do it. Now,
would that time maybe be me scrolling on Instagram? Was
it productive use of my time? Maybe not? But that
was still thirty five minutes. I did not want to
be in the car because I thought, well, I'll just
work from home. But then working from home can be
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really hard. So I'm rambling for sure. So let me
go ahead and get to some of these time management
tips before I lose some of y'all. But first of all,
they say on Forbes to create a time audit. So
what it comes to time management, the first step you
need to take is finding out where your time actually goes.
You may believe that you only spend thirty minutes on emails,
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but in reality that task is eating up and hour
of your day. And the easiest way to keep trap
of your time is to download an app like Rescue
time or like a calendar to track everything you do
for a week, and then they make a report and
they show you what's sucking your time, what's stealing your time,
and then with this information you can make the appropriate adjustments.
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Now I know my personality, I'm probably not going to
use an app, but maybe this app would be good
for you, but I do need to make my own
version of a time audit. And then Tip number two
is set a time limit to each task. So, for example,
if you want to write an article for something like
you've got a blog, like give yourself two hours. If
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you start at eight am, try to make sure that
it's written by ten am. This makes me think of
something I heard Mary do one day. We were traveling
and she was working on something on the shop Forward website,
and she was like, she really wanted this, like a
pair of shoes. I'm using that as an example. It
could have been jeans, but she was shopping online and
I think we were on a light and she was like,
I really want to buy whatever the shoes, but I'm
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not going to allow myself to do it until I
get done with this task on the website. So that
could be another method. I mean, it's not really setting
a time limit for each task, but it's rewarding yourself
if you complete the task, which sometimes I need to
complete things, which leads me to tip number three. Use
it to do list, but don't abandon tasks. So if
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it's on your list, make sure you cross it off.
For sure. Also tip number four, it says plan ahead.
One of the worst things you can do is wake
up without a plan for the day. I mean, I
feel like I like to wing it. I'm more of
a fly by the scene of my pants kind of girl.
But I guess I should plan the night before. That's
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what they say to do the night before, spend at
least fifteen minutes organizing your office and making a list
of your most important items for the next day. What then,
first thing in the morning, during your morning routine, right
down the three or for most urgent and important matters.
And then tip number five is spend your mornings on
m i T s. Which I know what m I
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t is according to my husband. He taught me this,
but you probably know as well. But it's most important
things because this is what he does. He's like, what
are your m I T s? Write them down and
number them in order of importance and tackle those first.
And I'm like, whatever, I want to tackle whatever's most
fun first. But it says here that Mark Twain once said,
if it's your job to eat a frog, it's best
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to do it first thing in the morning. And if
it's your job to eat two frogs. It's best to
eat the biggest one first. So there you go, take
that little nugget with you. Number six Tip Number six
is learned to delegate an outsource, which I'm definitely getting
better at, but then sometimes I kind of micromanage, Like
if I've given someone just help me with something, then
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I'm like, you know, I involved myself too much instead
of just taking letting them go with it. A Number
seven eliminate half work, which I was a little confused
as to what half work meant, but now it's clear
to me and I'll share it with you. So like,
say you're working on something like it's a project, you're you're,
you're all in, but then you stop randomly to check
(39:10):
your phone for no reason. Boom, that's half work. Or
you try out a new workout routine, but then you
switch to a new program a couple of days later
because you read about it online. Half work while talking
on your phone, your mind wanders to your email inbox.
Half work, that's so me. Oh that is so me.
Big fat star, I'm like drawing a star on the
(39:32):
paper right now. That that is me. Um. Another tip,
I've lost count. I don't know where we are but
it says, here, stop being perfect. I don't. I don't
have that problem. I'm not a perfectionist. I'm not Type A.
But in case you are, you need to stop doing it.
Perfect doesn't exist. Just do the best that you can
and move on. Uh. Next, it says, just say no.
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I know that a lot of times it's hard because
we don't want to upset anybody. But you can only
handle so much. And this is some thing that I've
got to be better at. And sometimes my saying no
or yes too much isn't because I don't want to
hurt anybody or upset anyone. It's that I don't want
them to think I can't do it like I want
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you to think that I can. So I'm just gonna
say yes, which sucks because then I end up not
really being able to do it, and then I feel
like I end up letting people down. So that's a
bummer realization about myself. Another tip on here is don't
waste time waiting. I feel like I've gotten really good
at this. Like if you have a doctor's appointment or
something and you're gonna be in a waiting room or
you have to wait for something, make use of that time.
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Have your computer with you at all times. I can't
tell you how many times now I work in parking
garages because I'm waiting for something I've got to go
somewhere and I get there early, or I'm waiting for
traffic to die down and i just knockout work in
my car, or I've got a podcast going that way,
you're you're bringing in information, you're learning about something, You've
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got something going on, like an inspirational book or something
where you're listening to it. Maybe while you're driving too.
You could be doing that that way, you know you're
not wasting time. And then another tip here says telecommute,
which means work from home. So if you have those
days and now, not everybody can do it, but it
says here the average American commute is over twenty six minutes,
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so and that definitely gets longer. I mean, I know
people that have an hour to and from work, but um,
you know, maybe you don't have the choice to work
from home every day, but what if one day a week,
it says here, you could work from home. Even twice
a week can end up saving you several hours depending
on your commute, So keep that in mind. Okay, so
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there we go. Confession for me, I have zero time
management skills. Got all that info from Forbes dot com.
I was taking notes just like you, and I need
just as much help as you do. Okay, let's talk
hot baths, because one thing I want to do on
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this podcast is encourage you to make time for yourself
and to have those self care moments and not feel
guilty or selfish about it. Especially when you're busy or
you've got a family and you feel like you should
be doing something else. Stop doing that. I mean, a
bath could be something that could be a game changer
for you. Maybe it's something else, but right now we're
gonna talk about baths because I saw a headline for
(42:21):
an article and when I read it, I was like, huh,
well that's interesting and this could be something that's that's
good for you guys. So the headline said a hot
bath can give some of the same benefits as exercise.
Which wouldn't you rather take a hot bath than go
work out some days? I mean, some days you need
to work out, let's be honest. But what if your
self care moment for the day is a hot bath
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and it's like you gotta work out. So I used
to take hot baths all the time. I was a
big fan. But I don't really have access to a
bathtub that much anymore because before we adopted our two kids,
the upstairs bathtub, which is the only place we have
a bath, was always empty. And now that I've got
an eleven year old and an eight year old, it's
(43:05):
like their bath. Like I feel like I would need
to go in there and like clean it all the time.
And then sometimes they're in there and all their shampoos
and some of my son's little bath toys and whatnot.
It's just not the same relaxing feel when you're trying
to take a bath in your kids bath. But all
this to say, I'm going to start making an effort
because I do miss my hot bath time. And so
(43:25):
you're like, well, how are you going to make this
whole thing about taking baths? I mean, it's not that hard,
just run some hot water. But I wanted to run
through this article with you all, and then I want
to tell you all about a really awesome detox bath,
like the ingredients that you need for it, and then
maybe we'll talk about how to set the scene for
a good bath. So the article that made me think
of talking about this said that a nice hot bath
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raises the body temperature the same as if you're working out.
That causes an inflammatory response in the body that's similar
to if you were in training mode. Now there's a
protein in your body called i L six, and that
protein triggers a series of anti inflammatory reactions that help
lower your risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and certain cancers.
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What I know sounds too good to be true, but
basically what I see in this is maybe sometimes if
you're not feeling like working out, it's bathtime. Hot bathtime.
Now you want to make sure that it's really hot.
And I learned that from a Dr Mark Hyman. He's
someone that I followed for a really long time. I
read some of his books, but he has this recipe
for bathtime that's supposed to be really good for your
(44:34):
body and detoxifying. So I when I was taking these
a lot, I was doing about one and a half
to two cups of Epps and salt and then one
cup of baking soda and I would add that to
the hot water with a few drops of lavender to
kind of relax things. But pretty much. What this does
is allows your body to absorb the magnesium from the
(44:57):
EPs and salt it's taken in through the skin, and
then you have alkaline balancing effects from the baking soda,
and both of those things help with sleep. So he
would recommend that you take this hot bath detox situation
before bed. So boom, It's like you relax before bed
and your body gets some of the same cardiovascular benefits
(45:20):
as a workout, but you didn't even have to work out.
Sounds really good to me, and I'm going to now
try to make more time to go upstairs and take
a bath in my kid's bathroom and then maybe light
a few candles, dim the lights. Maybe you make a
playlist ahead of time with some John Mayer or some
Enya or Adele, like something calming like how awesome would
(45:43):
that be? Or put on a podcast that you like
for bathtime. Probably not my podcast so much, but maybe
like an Oprah Super Soul Sunday Conversation or a master
class like the one I recommended earlier with Steve Harvey.
Oh that one was so so good. Anyway, bathtime, do
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it feel good about it? Never have no shame in
your game when it comes to self care. Well, that's
a wrap on today's episode, and I have an awesome email,
Like I'm excited to share this email. So the end
of every four Things podcast, I kind of do an
email shout out, and this one is super cool because
(46:25):
I feel like we're we're going to be a part
of a relationship and I want to want to follow
this relationship and see if they end up together. So, hey, Amy,
I'm a new listener. I'm a first year law student
and got into the show when this girl, Caroline, who
I have a tiny bit of a crush on, wouldn't
stop mentioning you. She's pretty awesome. So curiosity got the
best of me, and long story short, I'm now an
(46:45):
avid listener of both the Bobby Bones Show and your
four Things podcast. As a guy in his mid twenties,
I feel like in a few weeks you've made me
a more well rounded person. I'm drinking lemon water and
trying to establish healthier eating habits. But perhaps excitingly, after
literally never talking about them in my life, I'm now
able to have conversations about periods, not only with Carol,
(47:08):
but with my mom and sister. Please thank your husband
for coming on the show. Your conversations are a highlight
and show me that couples can keep pushing and challenging
each other well into a relationship. Sorry for the mass text.
I hope you get a chance to read some of it.
And if you say Carol's name on air, I'll win
a bunch of bonus points with her. What up. So
(47:29):
that's basically why I wanted to read this Emaale Well.
First of all, because he's a guy, and I want
to remember that there's guys listening and shout out to
all the guys, all five of you three. I love
that he's adapting things like hot lemon water Carol, sounds
like you've got a keeper. He wants to eat healthy.
He's a law student, like, clearly you've got a good one.
(47:50):
And oh, I need to say his name. He signed
it best Chiboo, which I don't know if I'm saying
your name right, Chiboo. C h I bu But hey, Carol,
shout out. You should go out on another date with Chiboo,
and then Chaboo, update me on you and Carol's relationship
and if you'll break up. I'm sorry, but this was
me trying to help a guy out so that really
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is today's episode. I hope that y'all enjoyed it. And
a big thank you to Mike d and Elizabeth and
Walker Hayes for the theme song. I still get so
many of you asking who sings your theme song? So
I know it's probably like, wow, she says that every
episode Walker Hayes. But I get it. I'm doing tons
of other things while I listen to podcasts at times,
and I don't always absorb every single detail. So Walker
(48:34):
Hayes is singer of my podcast and he's got some
amazing music, so definitely check him out. And then I'm
excited about next week. I've got an angiogram person coming on. Yeah,
so we have that to look forward to for sure.
If you don't know anything about the Instagram, will you
have one week to study up, because next Thursday I'm
(48:56):
sitting down with him and I'm super excited about It's
like a per sonality. It's a way to gauge your personality.
And there's nine different ones one through nine. What number
are you try to figure that out? Okay, Well, we'll
see y'all next week. By be kind too, never life
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cast up roa little food for yourself life ain't. Oh
it's pretty, but hey, it's pretty beautiful thing that for
a little moth up, because of course said he can't eat.
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