September 17, 2020 • 30 mins
Chase joins Amy for all 4 things! FIRST THING: They chat about ‘The Social Dilemma’ on Netflix and the dangerous impact social media can have on our well-being. Speaking of our well-being, Amy shares something you can do to give yourself a positive boost! SECOND THING: Do you think 2020 sucks? Well, it does, but it's not all bad. There are a few silver linings from this year to keep in mind. Amy and Chase talk about the craziness of this year and why it's important to limit how much news you're taking in (especially during election season). THIRD THING: Adulting can be hard! Amy goes over a few things that = being an adult (some serious, some trivial). FOURTH THING: Can dogs understand love?! Amy tells us the different ways that dogs show love and affection with their owners.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Okay, cap little food for you. So life. Oh it's pretty,
but it's pretty beautiful than that A little mouth kicking four. Okay.
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So Chase and I were face timing last weekend and
he said, have you seen the new documentary that just
came out on Netflix about the social media It's called
Social Dilemma? And I thought, nope, I don't even know
what you're talking about. Never heard of it. But I
am always looking for something good to watch on Netflix,
So of course I immediately watch it within I think
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two days of you telling me. And it's crazy. It's
mind blowing. Yeah, so pretty much. It's it's a documentary
that explores kind of all of these creators who have
made some of these things within Facebook, at Twitter, at
Google and Instagram but like we love like even the
guy that made the like button on Facebook, and it
kind of just talks about how their initial creations have
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become this thing that have not been used the way
they intended, and how like there's this big ethical question
and play in Silicon Valley. In anyways, it's the craziest
thing you'll see. I saw a one review that said,
after watching it, it will make you want to smash
your phone just not even how So, if y'all are
curious about the official description, it says, this documentary drama
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hybrid explores the dangerous human impact of social networking, with
tech experts sounding the alarm on their own creations. The
Rotten Tomatoes critics scores. So you know, it's good, And
this is what critics said about in what the film
tells us doesn't constitute breaking news, but it's a value
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lies in pulling together some alarming, if abstract concepts into
a genuinely scary hole. Like it's terrifying. Oh yeah, I
totally agree. I used to think, Okay, I'm a cool mom.
I mean I am, so why wouldn't I give my
daughter an Instagram account? You know, she was on TikTok
mostly she was using mine, but she deleted that on
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her own and she's a rule follower. But it's just freaky.
I'm even on it. I'm not so much on Facebook,
Instagram and might go to social media. What about you Instagram? Yeah,
I know some people just lean towards Twitter, some Facebook,
but for me it's Instagram. So you know, I think
in general, we know, like you need to go watch
the documentary to understand the part that we're talking about,
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but I'll lean into more of what you may understand
without watching the documentary. And again, it's not stuff that's
going to come as a huge surprise, but it's just
going to blow your mind a little bit. But then,
what we do know is how social media can make
us feel at times, and I did see this article
about our mental well being and things that we can
do to kind of reverse maybe if we're feeling down
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because we've been on social media. And I highly encourage
digital cleanses with the on the weekend, like schedule time
where you completely put your phone away you're not on it,
or maybe you do it during a week day. Just
make sure you're being intentional about that. But pretty much
this is nothing that's breaking news either. But it's always
a good reminder to hear that if you do good,
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you'll feel good. And that's what the article was all about.
Random acts of kindness improve well being more so than say, Chase.
If you were to be a scheduled volunteer, like say
you volunteer your time, but every Saturday you go down
to the shelter and you're working four to five hours,
there's something about a random like spontaneous act of kindness
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that leads people to forming more social connections because they're
more casual about it, and it's an informal interaction, like
you never know who you might meet or what it
may do to improve your day. It's not part of
your routine, and there's some thing really enticing about that
for us. And so I mean feel good news stories
or something we try to incorporate into the Bobby Bones
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Show with our tell Me some of the good segments.
I know that the news can be daunting, but even
they're doing a better job of trying to sprinkle in
a feel good segment, and of course we try to
do that here on the podcast. But this is also
just a friendly reminder that if you are feeling down
about anything, or you're looking to booster well being because
maybe you've been on Instagram too long, then you know,
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look out for those random opportunities to be kind to
somebody or help somebody, and again doesn't have to be monetary,
could be opening the door for somebody and circling back
to what we talk about on the show all the time,
Pimp and Joy, which is all about choosing joy for
yourself and spreading joy to others. You can look for
opportunities throughout your day or your week to pimp some
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joy to somebody. I mean, like you're saying, I think
even the simplicity of like embracing strangers is just there's
something so authentic about it, you know, like actually doing
a random act of kindness is like a beautiful thing.
But it's amazing just acknowledging strangers and how far that
can go in someone's day. I think it's pretty remarkable. Yeah,
the report did say that one of the random acts
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could be stopping to help an elderly neighbor carry groceries.
So maybe at the grocery store you look for someone. Now,
coronavirus just throws a wringe in helping elderly at times,
because Chase, I gotta tell you, my dad is such
a rule follower and he doesn't want to get in trouble.
At his assisted living place. We were on a walk,
Ben and I the dog and Stevenson, and we didn't
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have masks. We didn't plan on seeing my dad, but
we were walking right next to his assisted living place.
So I called him and I said, hey, what are
you doing? He said, Oh, I'm about to go do
my walk, so he does laps around the building and
he's finally to the point where he's allowed to go
do it on his own, but he has to wear
a mask and he can't interact with people. And I
was like, well, we're gonna we'll just wave from across
the parking lot. And he came out, and he knew
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he didn't have masks on, and he knew he didn't
want to get in trouble, so he just kind of
looked at us in power walk and he was like
high and waved and like just kept working, almost like
he didn't even know us. And Stevenson looked at me
and said, Mom, why is Papa ignoring us? I said, well,
I don't think he wants to get his walking privileges
taken away if he's busted talking to us without masks,
even if we are really far away, he just doesn't
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even want to risk it. And I used that as
a learning opportunity for Stevenson about how we all have choices,
and I said, you know how we've been working on
you making choices for yourself and choosing the right thing. Well,
Papal had two choices. He could wave from afar and
continue on his walk and follow the rules, or he
could have come over and then gotten in trouble and
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then lost his privilege to walk. But he chose what
was best for him, and Stevenson was like, oh, okay no,
and I was like, okay, this is what it took
to resonate choices with you. So yeah, so that was,
you know, my dad being elderly and not being able
to really get out and about. So anyway, this is
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back to the article. If you using elderly people as
an example, but maybe there's an elderly person in your
neighborhood that you know can't go out and shop. Maybe
you could order some groceries for them online, or you
can go to the grocery store for them and drop
them off at their porch see if there's anything they need.
Like that could be a random way for you to
look to help somebody. Or do they need prescriptions picked
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up from the drug store. I mean I have to
go to Walgreens for my dad at least once a week,
so I know that there's elderly people out there that
maybe don't have a way to get certain things that
they need. Just because you're going to ask some anything
anything from the store don't expect like this long grocery
list that's gonna be overwhelming or too expensive. It could
be like, Hey, I'll leave my credit card for you
out on the porch, can you go grab my prescription?
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Easy peasy. I also say that to my son. I
think it's a great idea. Yeah, okay, So wrapping up
the first thing here, basically, you gotta go watch The
Social Dilemma on Netflix. And then once you've been on
social media too much, because we know you're still going
to do it anyway and you're feeling down in the
US about things, then boost your well being by helping
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other people. That's the takeaway from this thing. Last week,
as part of our four Things line, we released a
shirt that says It's fine, I'm fine, Everything is fine.
Those are the four lines because Mary had been saying
that to herself a lot. I've been saying it a lot,
and we thought, you know what, that's that can be
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made into four things, and we know our four things
community are people will probably really like this has been
a real turd. But early in the week I had
jumped in the pool with all my clothes on, just
this whole thing. I was really stressed out after a
really taxing day. I don't know if I've even told
you about that, Chase. I talked about it on the
Bobby Bones Show and did a thing on Instagram, but
maybe you didn't see it. But I definitely were in
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the throes of some things in our household and I
had reached my limit, and I walked outside and jumped
in the pool with my clothes on, not my cellphone,
not my shoes, but something about it just felt so
good and so free being and I felt like a
dish in the ocean, even though I was contained in
my pool. But then Mary and I thought after that
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that it's time. It's time to maybe make that shirt.
So we put a pull up and tons of people
said yes, please make it, so now those are available,
which is super cool. But then I see an article
this week that's titled not that Bad, and I click
on it and it was basically saying that this year
may seem like a total disaster, but hasn't been all
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bad because there's positive things that have come out of it,
like the family connections that people have been having. But
then my brain immediately goes, well, but actually there's some
people that haven't been able to be around their family
because the coronavirus. But then I tried to keep it
positive and not go negative. But they mentioned how telemedicine
is making healthcare more accessible than ever and people have
figured out a way to do things virtually, which is
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helpful for a lot of people. Anti racist books are
topping best seller lists and that is a result of
some hard things we've been through, in which is awesome.
I could think it's great people are wanting to learn
more about that and unlearn some things. And then way
more people are washing their hands I mean big when
that isn't awesome. And then lastly it said that Americans
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have adopted hundreds of thousands of shelter pets. Boom. It's
not that bad. You know. I had a rough week
the other week and I was looking back and I'm like,
you know, everything good in my life has come from
a season of growth, and when I've had to grow,
it hasn't been easy. So I'd like to think aside
from the things that have just felt good, like spending
time with family and all of that, that will all
look back and be like, you know, that year forced
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me to do some things that I needed to do
for a long time. Yeah, I agree, I've grown from
the hard times, and that is exactly what I'm trying
to look for in these moments. I don't know yet
what is going to come of this particular season that
I'm in, but I know eventually I'll be thankful for it.
For the time being, I know that jumping in the
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pool with all my clothes on makes me feel really,
really really good. And to circle back real quickly to
the sweater. When I first saw that pop up, I
laughed so hard because guys, that is literally Amy's response
to me whenever I'm like, how you done? Like that,
that is literally word for word. Usually everything's fine, I'm good,
I mean well, Jase sees everything burning down in the background.
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You know, one thing that has definitely helped me with
my mood is limiting news. But I also feel really
out of it because I used to watch way more news,
and then now I'm just consumed by other things. It's
kind of happened. I know that I need to limit
my news anyways because it's just toxic, but it's happening
organically because I have to focus on other things. So
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and I do see that mentally, I'm doing better with
that not watching so much news, Are you limiting news? Yeah?
So kind of my rule of time with news is
I watched thirty minutes in the morning and then maybe
thirty minutes at night, and I try to watch on
a network that isn't like opinion based. So like I
always joke, like, good morning America. It's something important in
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the world. They're going to tell you in the first
thirty minutes, and like it's usually not like filled with opinions.
So I just try to limit myself to thirty minutes
in the morning and try not to read articles in
regards to news on social media at all. Right, you
mean if the news is on social media, you don't
read it. Yeah. Yeah. If you for whatever reason or
just randomly listening to the second thing and you didn't
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hear the first thing, then go back and listen to
that because you'll know why Chase is saying that. Well,
I know that expert after expert on stress and well being,
they say, limit your news. Obviously you need to be informed,
but make sure you set a timer. Don't just have
it on in the background all day. Which when we
were in stay at home like shelter in place, every
part of the country called it something different. We have
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the news on all day long, and that's probably when
I hit a low with news stress, if you want
to call it that. But if you're finding yourself having
anxiety from the news, that make sure you're you're limiting it.
And then yeah, n follow any negative people or news
places on social media that you don't really necessarily need
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to have that stuff in your feed per se. And
then another thing that has added a lot of stress,
which again, I know this year has not been all
that bad, but we have the election coming up. I mean,
anytime I say it is not all that bad because
I shared the little positive things like a bunch of
puppies got adopted from a factory, it's amazing, Like the
minute it comes out of my mouth, I'm like, yeah, actually, no,
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this year has sucked for a lot of people, and
it is a really bad year and it's going to
go down as one of the worst years that we
were ever alive, I'm sure. But to just pile on,
we have the election, which is real bummer because everybody
gets so crazy town and it's just so divisive right now.
And I'm going to tell like a real quick story
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that's kind of along with this that I'm in New
York City right now and last week with September eleven,
and it was the first time I've been in the
city nine eleven, and I was in Dunkin Donuts at
about eight forty five, and then you heard the chime
at forty six, which you know signified the first plane
hitting the first tower, and this woman like literally put
down her purse and reached back and grabbed this man's hand,
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and then he reached back and grabbed mine, and then
there was like eight of us and Dunkin Donuts for
just a moment like held hands, didn't say a thing,
and then just let go and kept on going with
your day. And it was just the whole day of
being in the city reminded you what it felt like
immediately following that horrible day and everything that happened, and
how the country felt so unified. And so I just
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share that because I guess like, I just feel like
there's been days, especially gearing up to this selection, when
I'm just like, oh my god, why can't we get like,
why can't we have a conversation anymore? And then I
think back to that, and I'm like, man, it gives me, hope,
you know what I mean, Like, it just reminds me
that we've been able to come together before, and I
hope it doesn't take something that's terrible to bring us
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together again. But I still love this country and I
love the people. I don't agree with it, but right
now it feels like it's just so heavy in the
midst of that. Yeah, that's that's a really cool story.
I got goose bumps when you told it, but then
I instantly thought, did you hand sanitize right after we
legit all? And it's funny because in New York, like
it's a mandatory mask order, so like when you're down
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the street, everyone's in a mask because they're trying to
keep everything contained. So I in the moment, it was like, oh,
we're doing this, We're holy man. But then we all
passed around sanitizer and I felt like it was worth it. Yeah, totally.
I think that's a good reminder that there is hope
and there are special moments like that happening, and nobody
was concerned about, oh, who are you voting for this
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election before I grab your hand and have this moment.
So I saw that like fifty percent of Americans say
that the president dential election is a significant stressor. And
while I find it to be completely obnoxious and annoying
the people that are so one way and not willing
to talk like it's not one of my main stressors
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right now. But if you're one of the people that
is maybe posting your opinion strongly online, or you're putting
words out there that are hurtful towards a party that
doesn't agree with you, I want to share with you
a post that I saw Jenny Allen put up on Instagram.
She's at Jenny s Allen, she's been on the podcast before,
she's the founder of IF Gathering, and she put this
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in her main post, and then I'll read you the
caption as well. But she typed up, I know everyone
has all worked up about politics and a pandemic, but
don't forget someone reading your words tonight just found out
they have cancer, or they are in a painful marriage,
or their home is threatened by fires, or they are
doubting their faith, or they are so lonely tonight they
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might explode, or they are trying hard not to fall
back into addictions. So that was what she put in
the picture part, and then In the caption, she wrote,
I know the issues matter, but life didn't stop for
a pandemic. Life hasn't stopped for an election. Be kind
and to anyone suffering in any way, we would love
to pray for you tonight. Just leave a comment and
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if you pray for the comment, tell them or like
their post. And if you can't say it publicly, then
all you gotta say for a prayer is unspoken, and
we'll pray for that too. So I thought, man, thank
you Jenny Allen. That was so special and it gave
people and she had almost two thousand comments of people
saying their specific need and then others saying, hey, I'm
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praying for you, or she had other people commenting unspoken
and others were like, hey, I got you. And it
was strangers coming together. Now I know again. And the
first thing we talked about how Instagram may be bad
and social media is awful, but this is Jenny using
her platform and her followers, or even if you don't
have a platform, you just have your friends and family
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following you. This is using it for good. And I
love that she put that reminder out there that don't
forget someone reading your words tonight. Just found out they
have cancer or they are this, or they are that.
And when you put your hurtful words out there or
your opinions so strongly that they are not accepting of
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somebody else that doesn't agree, it's so well, it's just ikey,
it's gross. So let's be bigger than that. Let's be
better than that. I know none of my listeners really
do this, but maybe somebody you know might need to
listen to this episode and be reminded that it just
doesn't get us anywhere. And I know that when we
have leaders and those running in politics saying nasty things,
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it's hard. But it's also that just adds to the
frustration of Okay, well the people at the top are
doing it and talking this way and being nasty. Why
can't we have people just be civilized? But that's just
too much to ask. So there you go again. I'll
just close out this thing by circling back to the
start of it that this year is not that bad.
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That remember, anti races books are the top selling books
right now. They're best sellers, so we are here for that,
and more people are washing their hands. It's amazing. So Chase,
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I saw this thing that said, here are some tough
things that people have to do to become full fledged adults.
So let's break these down. Telling your parents that you
are just not going to agree with them about certain things.
Was that hard for you at times as you matured
into an adult and if you lean a different direction
them or you still kind of the same. No. I
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kind of enjoy leaning into that argument with my parents,
so I didn't struggle with that one. But that is
very adult. Some adults still can't sit at the dinner
table and have a conversation with their parents about maybe
they don't agree with certain things. They just don't even
want to ruffle the feathers, so why even go there.
Then another thing that it had was removing friends from
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your life that you grew up with who are simply
no longer good for you. That's a tough one, that
is for sure adult like, and these are like serious
adult like my adult things that I hate are getting gas,
was doing laundry. I'm like, Okay, maybe I need to
grow up a little bit more. Because another one is
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realizing that some people are making the transition from crazy
kid who parties a little too much to person who
has a serious problem with drinking and drug use, and
I feel, yeah, that's probably more of a twenties type
adult thing. But even as I approached forty, there's times
where I've even had to evaluate not being a party kid,
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but evaluate what am I using to numb myself and
whether it's been my eating disorder or after my mom
died or after the kids came, I was having wine
every night, and I had to be an adult and
rein that in that's just not going to work for me.
I've been in that boat. I mean, I a couple
of years ago started to develop a problem with alcohol,
and luckily great adult friends kind of intervened and helped
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me see that where I was able to take care
of it early. I'd say that would be a tough thing.
I mean, being an adult is dealing with your adult
friends when they have adult problems. That's one thing I
haven't enjoyed well. And then as an adult too, it
says here you have to be okay knowing that there
might be nothing that you can do to help them
because they have to help themselves because they are adults.
I was talking to my therapist about something similar to
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this and how I felt like if I were to
abandon a certain situation similar to this in a way
that I would feel responsible if they went and drank
again or did something. And she said, that's not your responsibility.
That is on that person, So you don't need to
carry that weight. I thought, okay, well I still do,
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and then it ended the little article about being a
real grown up is accepting that sometimes your parents really
were right about things. Oh luckily they don't listen to
this because they're not up to speed on podcasts, but
I would have to admit they were right on a
lot of things. But I don't want to admit, oh,
my gosh, my mom. You know what my mom was
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right about, and since she's passed away, she's not even
here to see it through. But how I treated my
mom so poorly. I was awful to her. My hormones
were crazy, and I mean as I developed into a teenager,
and she just told me, you just wait, I can't
wait for you to have a daughter one day. And
I mean, Stehiera and I would get along great, but
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there's times where there's that friction and I just think, oh,
this is payback for my mom. She was so right,
but I would tell her, no way, I'm not ever
going to be like you. I'm gonna be cool. My
daughter is not going to ever do it. And I'm like, now,
my mom was right. No, I mean I'm almost exactly
like my mom. And you know that's just a natural
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progression of growing up and part of everything. So anyway,
they're just some grown up things. Just know that that
stuff is definitely hard, the stuff I listed off, But
I would love to hear from y'all what things are
hard for you when it comes to adulting. You can
hit me up on Instagram at Radio Amy and then
Chase's Instagram is what is your Yours has an underscore?
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What is it again? Chase lock underscore? Yeah, l O
c k E underscore. So we're all just adults here.
But I actually I do have I get emails from
twelve year olds and sixty something year old. I think
the oldest person I've received an email from his sixty one.
So halla at me if you're older than sixty one,
would love to hear from you. And then the youngest
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person I've received an email from his twelve hit me
up four things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com.
So I have a labordoodle named Kara who has been
in our family for about two years now, and she
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just made it to the I love you level like
I love her now she is awesome, but for a
long time she was in the iould like you kind
of category. We're all just kind of annoyed with her,
but now we all love her. And I think what
took so long was because Josie was so awesome. She
was our Rottweiler that we had for ten plus years.
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She got cancer passed away shortly after our kids got
here from Haiti, so it was just a very heavy time.
The kids were sort of just starting to bond with her,
and then I was like, oh, Josie died, Sorry about that.
And then a few months later they started saying, we
want to get another dog. And so then my friend Kathy,
who runs a dog rescue at Keeley's Dog Rescue on
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Instagram if you ever want to check her out, she
got a call about this labor doodle that had been
tied up for a year, and she called me and said, hey,
I know that you and your kids want a dog.
I know you would prefer it not shed. I got
you a labor doodle if you want it. I thought, okay,
well we'll foster it. So then we fostered it. The
first night we were fostering it, Chase it her. At
the time, it was an it to me because I
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didn't love her. She almost died. She we will yes,
We went to sleep. Then we woke up and went
out into the living room and she was laying there
in a puddle of blood, and we had no idea
what happened. Basically lifeless. The kids are upstairs asleep. This
is their first new puppy. Again, we're still trial run
fostering it out, but ultimately we're thinking we're going to
keep this dog. They had already lost Josie months before,
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so we're like, don't let the kids come downstairs. We've
got to clean up the blood. Ben's picking up Cara,
well she was. She wasn't even named car at the time.
I don't even know that she had a name, but
her head's hanging. He puts her in the car, takes
her to the emergency dog place because it's a Sunday
and we were what's even open, and they said if
we had come in maybe even an hour later, she
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wouldn't have made it. Then she spent a week in
doggie I see you or something. They brought her back
to life, and I thought, Okay, what in the world
is this a sign should we not have this dogg
or is it a sign that we saved her life,
because honestly, we were able to tend to her very quickly,
which when she was out at Kathy's, Cathy has this barn.
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It's a really nice barn. She's got other dogs out there,
and they were kind of living outside in this barn
cage thing, so I don't know that I would have
noticed it right away. So then I ultimately decided, Okay,
this is a blessing, this dog's gift, and she survived,
so clearly this is a sign she's supposed to be ours.
So we officially adopted her. She became our dog, and
then yeah, we just kind of liked her all this
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to say the last I don't know. Earlier in the pandemic.
I think, like maybe March April time frame, she made
it over to the I love you side, and now
I love her. I can't get enough of her. I
just I will be crushed if anything happens to her.
She is Josie status. But I just saw this study
about how dogs can actually recognize I love you, and
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then it told me how dogs say it back. So
if I have any other dog lovers, listen up. So
the study was done by canine Cottages and it followed
four dogs for a week while tracking their heart rates,
and when the owners told their dogs that they loved them,
the dog's heart rates increased on average. Isn't that? And
then the study also found that dog's heart rates decreased
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by on average when they cuddled with their owners. Now,
Josie was not a cuddler, but Carra. Carra cuddles and
now I'm going to be listening to see if her
heart rate slows down because she feels comfortable with me.
And then a veterinarian Dr Heather vin cat She said
that if a dog does these actions, it's how the
dog is saying I love you back. A dog curling
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up next to its owner, wagging their tail when being greeted,
bringing a toy to the owner which signals trust, showing
their pet parents their tummy, and then when in pain
they go to their owner Boom, that's your dog saying
I love you. That's that's awesome. I know that Chase
has a sad dog story and he didn't want to
bring you all down by telling it. But do you
think you'll get another dog anytime? Yeah? For sure. I
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think right now figuring out where I land on the
other end of it is probably the first step. Yeah,
I definitely want another dog. I just need to make
sure I have a place for a big dog I like.
I like big dog. I agree, Ben does not one.
A little dog I could probably handle. Our labor doodle
is full size. But they make those cute little tiny
they make I don't know somewhere people make these tiny
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mini golden doodle things and so cute to me that
Mary has one, but she's living with her parents during coronavirus.
But her name is Hannah and she's so cute. But
I follow a couple of doodle accounts on Instagram and
they are precious. Which speaking of Instagram, if y'all live
in Nashville, I want you to check out Wags and
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Walks Nashville if you're looking to adopt, or rescue or
foster again. The instagram is Wags and Walks Nashville and
our dog Mom stuff that we have up through the
shot Forward supports them. Also, we've been supporting Actually I
don't know if we've updated that, but either way, the
dog Mom is supporting great causes. But also we've worked
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with Proverbs twelve ten animal Rescue and so those are
places in Nashville that I know are great to work
with if you're interested in that. And then if you
live in Austin, we've worked with Austin Pets Alive a lot.
So those are the references I can make. But I
guess just if wherever you live, you could google different
places you could adopt or foster to see if you
want to help out, because again, remember that's one of
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the things from that's not all that bad because people
are at home more and they can foster and adopt it. Well,
that wraps up all four things for today, Chase, thanks
for joining me for all of them. I'm glad to
be with you today. Yeah, so fun. And then a
big thank you to everybody that's been loving our four things.
Fall pullovers there. We've sold out of some sizes, but
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we've been able to keep stuff in stock because y'all
are loving it. And obviously fall isn't even officially here yet.
I think the official day of fall is September twenty
one or twenty two or something so just a couple
more days will officially be there. In New York is
super pretty right now. Yeah, it's beautiful right now. I
finally cooled off. I mean, it wasn't really hot, but
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you know, it's still kind of in the upper eighties,
and now it's like in the seventies. This is totally
like Hoodie weather is my jam. I love New York
in the fall and then at Christmas time. I can't
wait to travel there again, but it probably won't be
until or or I don't even know. Okay, Well, I
hope y'all are having a great week, and we'll see
you on Tuesday for the Q and A episode by
Okay, cap little food for you. So life. Oh it's pretty,
but it's pretty beautiful than that A little mouth kicking four. Okay.
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So Chase and I were face timing last weekend and
he said, have you seen the new documentary that just
came out on Netflix about the social media It's called
Social Dilemma? And I thought, nope, I don't even know
what you're talking about. Never heard of it. But I
am always looking for something good to watch on Netflix,
So of course I immediately watch it within I think
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two days of you telling me. And it's crazy. It's
mind blowing. Yeah, so pretty much. It's it's a documentary
that explores kind of all of these creators who have
made some of these things within Facebook, at Twitter, at
Google and Instagram but like we love like even the
guy that made the like button on Facebook, and it
kind of just talks about how their initial creations have
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become this thing that have not been used the way
they intended, and how like there's this big ethical question
and play in Silicon Valley. In anyways, it's the craziest
thing you'll see. I saw a one review that said,
after watching it, it will make you want to smash
your phone just not even how So, if y'all are
curious about the official description, it says, this documentary drama
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hybrid explores the dangerous human impact of social networking, with
tech experts sounding the alarm on their own creations. The
Rotten Tomatoes critics scores. So you know, it's good, And
this is what critics said about in what the film
tells us doesn't constitute breaking news, but it's a value
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lies in pulling together some alarming, if abstract concepts into
a genuinely scary hole. Like it's terrifying. Oh yeah, I
totally agree. I used to think, Okay, I'm a cool mom.
I mean I am, so why wouldn't I give my
daughter an Instagram account? You know, she was on TikTok
mostly she was using mine, but she deleted that on
(02:22):
her own and she's a rule follower. But it's just freaky.
I'm even on it. I'm not so much on Facebook,
Instagram and might go to social media. What about you Instagram? Yeah,
I know some people just lean towards Twitter, some Facebook,
but for me it's Instagram. So you know, I think
in general, we know, like you need to go watch
the documentary to understand the part that we're talking about,
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but I'll lean into more of what you may understand
without watching the documentary. And again, it's not stuff that's
going to come as a huge surprise, but it's just
going to blow your mind a little bit. But then,
what we do know is how social media can make
us feel at times, and I did see this article
about our mental well being and things that we can
do to kind of reverse maybe if we're feeling down
(03:04):
because we've been on social media. And I highly encourage
digital cleanses with the on the weekend, like schedule time
where you completely put your phone away you're not on it,
or maybe you do it during a week day. Just
make sure you're being intentional about that. But pretty much
this is nothing that's breaking news either. But it's always
a good reminder to hear that if you do good,
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you'll feel good. And that's what the article was all about.
Random acts of kindness improve well being more so than say, Chase.
If you were to be a scheduled volunteer, like say
you volunteer your time, but every Saturday you go down
to the shelter and you're working four to five hours,
there's something about a random like spontaneous act of kindness
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that leads people to forming more social connections because they're
more casual about it, and it's an informal interaction, like
you never know who you might meet or what it
may do to improve your day. It's not part of
your routine, and there's some thing really enticing about that
for us. And so I mean feel good news stories
or something we try to incorporate into the Bobby Bones
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Show with our tell Me some of the good segments.
I know that the news can be daunting, but even
they're doing a better job of trying to sprinkle in
a feel good segment, and of course we try to
do that here on the podcast. But this is also
just a friendly reminder that if you are feeling down
about anything, or you're looking to booster well being because
maybe you've been on Instagram too long, then you know,
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look out for those random opportunities to be kind to
somebody or help somebody, and again doesn't have to be monetary,
could be opening the door for somebody and circling back
to what we talk about on the show all the time,
Pimp and Joy, which is all about choosing joy for
yourself and spreading joy to others. You can look for
opportunities throughout your day or your week to pimp some
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joy to somebody. I mean, like you're saying, I think
even the simplicity of like embracing strangers is just there's
something so authentic about it, you know, like actually doing
a random act of kindness is like a beautiful thing.
But it's amazing just acknowledging strangers and how far that
can go in someone's day. I think it's pretty remarkable. Yeah,
the report did say that one of the random acts
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could be stopping to help an elderly neighbor carry groceries.
So maybe at the grocery store you look for someone. Now,
coronavirus just throws a wringe in helping elderly at times,
because Chase, I gotta tell you, my dad is such
a rule follower and he doesn't want to get in trouble.
At his assisted living place. We were on a walk,
Ben and I the dog and Stevenson, and we didn't
(05:32):
have masks. We didn't plan on seeing my dad, but
we were walking right next to his assisted living place.
So I called him and I said, hey, what are
you doing? He said, Oh, I'm about to go do
my walk, so he does laps around the building and
he's finally to the point where he's allowed to go
do it on his own, but he has to wear
a mask and he can't interact with people. And I
was like, well, we're gonna we'll just wave from across
the parking lot. And he came out, and he knew
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he didn't have masks on, and he knew he didn't
want to get in trouble, so he just kind of
looked at us in power walk and he was like
high and waved and like just kept working, almost like
he didn't even know us. And Stevenson looked at me
and said, Mom, why is Papa ignoring us? I said, well,
I don't think he wants to get his walking privileges
taken away if he's busted talking to us without masks,
even if we are really far away, he just doesn't
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even want to risk it. And I used that as
a learning opportunity for Stevenson about how we all have choices,
and I said, you know how we've been working on
you making choices for yourself and choosing the right thing. Well,
Papal had two choices. He could wave from afar and
continue on his walk and follow the rules, or he
could have come over and then gotten in trouble and
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then lost his privilege to walk. But he chose what
was best for him, and Stevenson was like, oh, okay no,
and I was like, okay, this is what it took
to resonate choices with you. So yeah, so that was,
you know, my dad being elderly and not being able
to really get out and about. So anyway, this is
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back to the article. If you using elderly people as
an example, but maybe there's an elderly person in your
neighborhood that you know can't go out and shop. Maybe
you could order some groceries for them online, or you
can go to the grocery store for them and drop
them off at their porch see if there's anything they need.
Like that could be a random way for you to
look to help somebody. Or do they need prescriptions picked
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up from the drug store. I mean I have to
go to Walgreens for my dad at least once a week,
so I know that there's elderly people out there that
maybe don't have a way to get certain things that
they need. Just because you're going to ask some anything
anything from the store don't expect like this long grocery
list that's gonna be overwhelming or too expensive. It could
be like, Hey, I'll leave my credit card for you
out on the porch, can you go grab my prescription?
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Easy peasy. I also say that to my son. I
think it's a great idea. Yeah, okay, So wrapping up
the first thing here, basically, you gotta go watch The
Social Dilemma on Netflix. And then once you've been on
social media too much, because we know you're still going
to do it anyway and you're feeling down in the
US about things, then boost your well being by helping
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other people. That's the takeaway from this thing. Last week,
as part of our four Things line, we released a
shirt that says It's fine, I'm fine, Everything is fine.
Those are the four lines because Mary had been saying
that to herself a lot. I've been saying it a lot,
and we thought, you know what, that's that can be
(08:25):
made into four things, and we know our four things
community are people will probably really like this has been
a real turd. But early in the week I had
jumped in the pool with all my clothes on, just
this whole thing. I was really stressed out after a
really taxing day. I don't know if I've even told
you about that, Chase. I talked about it on the
Bobby Bones Show and did a thing on Instagram, but
maybe you didn't see it. But I definitely were in
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the throes of some things in our household and I
had reached my limit, and I walked outside and jumped
in the pool with my clothes on, not my cellphone,
not my shoes, but something about it just felt so
good and so free being and I felt like a
dish in the ocean, even though I was contained in
my pool. But then Mary and I thought after that
(09:09):
that it's time. It's time to maybe make that shirt.
So we put a pull up and tons of people
said yes, please make it, so now those are available,
which is super cool. But then I see an article
this week that's titled not that Bad, and I click
on it and it was basically saying that this year
may seem like a total disaster, but hasn't been all
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bad because there's positive things that have come out of it,
like the family connections that people have been having. But
then my brain immediately goes, well, but actually there's some
people that haven't been able to be around their family
because the coronavirus. But then I tried to keep it
positive and not go negative. But they mentioned how telemedicine
is making healthcare more accessible than ever and people have
figured out a way to do things virtually, which is
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helpful for a lot of people. Anti racist books are
topping best seller lists and that is a result of
some hard things we've been through, in which is awesome.
I could think it's great people are wanting to learn
more about that and unlearn some things. And then way
more people are washing their hands I mean big when
that isn't awesome. And then lastly it said that Americans
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have adopted hundreds of thousands of shelter pets. Boom. It's
not that bad. You know. I had a rough week
the other week and I was looking back and I'm like,
you know, everything good in my life has come from
a season of growth, and when I've had to grow,
it hasn't been easy. So I'd like to think aside
from the things that have just felt good, like spending
time with family and all of that, that will all
look back and be like, you know, that year forced
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me to do some things that I needed to do
for a long time. Yeah, I agree, I've grown from
the hard times, and that is exactly what I'm trying
to look for in these moments. I don't know yet
what is going to come of this particular season that
I'm in, but I know eventually I'll be thankful for it.
For the time being, I know that jumping in the
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pool with all my clothes on makes me feel really,
really really good. And to circle back real quickly to
the sweater. When I first saw that pop up, I
laughed so hard because guys, that is literally Amy's response
to me whenever I'm like, how you done? Like that,
that is literally word for word. Usually everything's fine, I'm good,
I mean well, Jase sees everything burning down in the background.
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You know, one thing that has definitely helped me with
my mood is limiting news. But I also feel really
out of it because I used to watch way more news,
and then now I'm just consumed by other things. It's
kind of happened. I know that I need to limit
my news anyways because it's just toxic, but it's happening
organically because I have to focus on other things. So
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and I do see that mentally, I'm doing better with
that not watching so much news, Are you limiting news? Yeah?
So kind of my rule of time with news is
I watched thirty minutes in the morning and then maybe
thirty minutes at night, and I try to watch on
a network that isn't like opinion based. So like I
always joke, like, good morning America. It's something important in
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the world. They're going to tell you in the first
thirty minutes, and like it's usually not like filled with opinions.
So I just try to limit myself to thirty minutes
in the morning and try not to read articles in
regards to news on social media at all. Right, you
mean if the news is on social media, you don't
read it. Yeah. Yeah. If you for whatever reason or
just randomly listening to the second thing and you didn't
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hear the first thing, then go back and listen to
that because you'll know why Chase is saying that. Well,
I know that expert after expert on stress and well being,
they say, limit your news. Obviously you need to be informed,
but make sure you set a timer. Don't just have
it on in the background all day. Which when we
were in stay at home like shelter in place, every
part of the country called it something different. We have
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the news on all day long, and that's probably when
I hit a low with news stress, if you want
to call it that. But if you're finding yourself having
anxiety from the news, that make sure you're you're limiting it.
And then yeah, n follow any negative people or news
places on social media that you don't really necessarily need
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to have that stuff in your feed per se. And
then another thing that has added a lot of stress,
which again, I know this year has not been all
that bad, but we have the election coming up. I mean,
anytime I say it is not all that bad because
I shared the little positive things like a bunch of
puppies got adopted from a factory, it's amazing, Like the
minute it comes out of my mouth, I'm like, yeah, actually, no,
(13:31):
this year has sucked for a lot of people, and
it is a really bad year and it's going to
go down as one of the worst years that we
were ever alive, I'm sure. But to just pile on,
we have the election, which is real bummer because everybody
gets so crazy town and it's just so divisive right now.
And I'm going to tell like a real quick story
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that's kind of along with this that I'm in New
York City right now and last week with September eleven,
and it was the first time I've been in the
city nine eleven, and I was in Dunkin Donuts at
about eight forty five, and then you heard the chime
at forty six, which you know signified the first plane
hitting the first tower, and this woman like literally put
down her purse and reached back and grabbed this man's hand,
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and then he reached back and grabbed mine, and then
there was like eight of us and Dunkin Donuts for
just a moment like held hands, didn't say a thing,
and then just let go and kept on going with
your day. And it was just the whole day of
being in the city reminded you what it felt like
immediately following that horrible day and everything that happened, and
how the country felt so unified. And so I just
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share that because I guess like, I just feel like
there's been days, especially gearing up to this selection, when
I'm just like, oh my god, why can't we get like,
why can't we have a conversation anymore? And then I
think back to that, and I'm like, man, it gives me, hope,
you know what I mean, Like, it just reminds me
that we've been able to come together before, and I
hope it doesn't take something that's terrible to bring us
(14:56):
together again. But I still love this country and I
love the people. I don't agree with it, but right
now it feels like it's just so heavy in the
midst of that. Yeah, that's that's a really cool story.
I got goose bumps when you told it, but then
I instantly thought, did you hand sanitize right after we
legit all? And it's funny because in New York, like
it's a mandatory mask order, so like when you're down
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the street, everyone's in a mask because they're trying to
keep everything contained. So I in the moment, it was like, oh,
we're doing this, We're holy man. But then we all
passed around sanitizer and I felt like it was worth it. Yeah, totally.
I think that's a good reminder that there is hope
and there are special moments like that happening, and nobody
was concerned about, oh, who are you voting for this
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election before I grab your hand and have this moment.
So I saw that like fifty percent of Americans say
that the president dential election is a significant stressor. And
while I find it to be completely obnoxious and annoying
the people that are so one way and not willing
to talk like it's not one of my main stressors
(15:59):
right now. But if you're one of the people that
is maybe posting your opinion strongly online, or you're putting
words out there that are hurtful towards a party that
doesn't agree with you, I want to share with you
a post that I saw Jenny Allen put up on Instagram.
She's at Jenny s Allen, she's been on the podcast before,
she's the founder of IF Gathering, and she put this
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in her main post, and then I'll read you the
caption as well. But she typed up, I know everyone
has all worked up about politics and a pandemic, but
don't forget someone reading your words tonight just found out
they have cancer, or they are in a painful marriage,
or their home is threatened by fires, or they are
doubting their faith, or they are so lonely tonight they
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might explode, or they are trying hard not to fall
back into addictions. So that was what she put in
the picture part, and then In the caption, she wrote,
I know the issues matter, but life didn't stop for
a pandemic. Life hasn't stopped for an election. Be kind
and to anyone suffering in any way, we would love
to pray for you tonight. Just leave a comment and
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if you pray for the comment, tell them or like
their post. And if you can't say it publicly, then
all you gotta say for a prayer is unspoken, and
we'll pray for that too. So I thought, man, thank
you Jenny Allen. That was so special and it gave
people and she had almost two thousand comments of people
saying their specific need and then others saying, hey, I'm
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praying for you, or she had other people commenting unspoken
and others were like, hey, I got you. And it
was strangers coming together. Now I know again. And the
first thing we talked about how Instagram may be bad
and social media is awful, but this is Jenny using
her platform and her followers, or even if you don't
have a platform, you just have your friends and family
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following you. This is using it for good. And I
love that she put that reminder out there that don't
forget someone reading your words tonight. Just found out they
have cancer or they are this, or they are that.
And when you put your hurtful words out there or
your opinions so strongly that they are not accepting of
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somebody else that doesn't agree, it's so well, it's just ikey,
it's gross. So let's be bigger than that. Let's be
better than that. I know none of my listeners really
do this, but maybe somebody you know might need to
listen to this episode and be reminded that it just
doesn't get us anywhere. And I know that when we
have leaders and those running in politics saying nasty things,
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it's hard. But it's also that just adds to the
frustration of Okay, well the people at the top are
doing it and talking this way and being nasty. Why
can't we have people just be civilized? But that's just
too much to ask. So there you go again. I'll
just close out this thing by circling back to the
start of it that this year is not that bad.
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That remember, anti races books are the top selling books
right now. They're best sellers, so we are here for that,
and more people are washing their hands. It's amazing. So Chase,
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I saw this thing that said, here are some tough
things that people have to do to become full fledged adults.
So let's break these down. Telling your parents that you
are just not going to agree with them about certain things.
Was that hard for you at times as you matured
into an adult and if you lean a different direction
them or you still kind of the same. No. I
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kind of enjoy leaning into that argument with my parents,
so I didn't struggle with that one. But that is
very adult. Some adults still can't sit at the dinner
table and have a conversation with their parents about maybe
they don't agree with certain things. They just don't even
want to ruffle the feathers, so why even go there.
Then another thing that it had was removing friends from
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your life that you grew up with who are simply
no longer good for you. That's a tough one, that
is for sure adult like, and these are like serious
adult like my adult things that I hate are getting gas,
was doing laundry. I'm like, Okay, maybe I need to
grow up a little bit more. Because another one is
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realizing that some people are making the transition from crazy
kid who parties a little too much to person who
has a serious problem with drinking and drug use, and
I feel, yeah, that's probably more of a twenties type
adult thing. But even as I approached forty, there's times
where I've even had to evaluate not being a party kid,
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but evaluate what am I using to numb myself and
whether it's been my eating disorder or after my mom
died or after the kids came, I was having wine
every night, and I had to be an adult and
rein that in that's just not going to work for me.
I've been in that boat. I mean, I a couple
of years ago started to develop a problem with alcohol,
and luckily great adult friends kind of intervened and helped
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me see that where I was able to take care
of it early. I'd say that would be a tough thing.
I mean, being an adult is dealing with your adult
friends when they have adult problems. That's one thing I
haven't enjoyed well. And then as an adult too, it
says here you have to be okay knowing that there
might be nothing that you can do to help them
because they have to help themselves because they are adults.
I was talking to my therapist about something similar to
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this and how I felt like if I were to
abandon a certain situation similar to this in a way
that I would feel responsible if they went and drank
again or did something. And she said, that's not your responsibility.
That is on that person, So you don't need to
carry that weight. I thought, okay, well I still do,
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and then it ended the little article about being a
real grown up is accepting that sometimes your parents really
were right about things. Oh luckily they don't listen to
this because they're not up to speed on podcasts, but
I would have to admit they were right on a
lot of things. But I don't want to admit, oh,
my gosh, my mom. You know what my mom was
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right about, and since she's passed away, she's not even
here to see it through. But how I treated my
mom so poorly. I was awful to her. My hormones
were crazy, and I mean as I developed into a teenager,
and she just told me, you just wait, I can't
wait for you to have a daughter one day. And
I mean, Stehiera and I would get along great, but
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there's times where there's that friction and I just think, oh,
this is payback for my mom. She was so right,
but I would tell her, no way, I'm not ever
going to be like you. I'm gonna be cool. My
daughter is not going to ever do it. And I'm like, now,
my mom was right. No, I mean I'm almost exactly
like my mom. And you know that's just a natural
(22:38):
progression of growing up and part of everything. So anyway,
they're just some grown up things. Just know that that
stuff is definitely hard, the stuff I listed off, But
I would love to hear from y'all what things are
hard for you when it comes to adulting. You can
hit me up on Instagram at Radio Amy and then
Chase's Instagram is what is your Yours has an underscore?
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What is it again? Chase lock underscore? Yeah, l O
c k E underscore. So we're all just adults here.
But I actually I do have I get emails from
twelve year olds and sixty something year old. I think
the oldest person I've received an email from his sixty one.
So halla at me if you're older than sixty one,
would love to hear from you. And then the youngest
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person I've received an email from his twelve hit me
up four things with Amy Brown at gmail dot com.
So I have a labordoodle named Kara who has been
in our family for about two years now, and she
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just made it to the I love you level like
I love her now she is awesome, but for a
long time she was in the iould like you kind
of category. We're all just kind of annoyed with her,
but now we all love her. And I think what
took so long was because Josie was so awesome. She
was our Rottweiler that we had for ten plus years.
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She got cancer passed away shortly after our kids got
here from Haiti, so it was just a very heavy time.
The kids were sort of just starting to bond with her,
and then I was like, oh, Josie died, Sorry about that.
And then a few months later they started saying, we
want to get another dog. And so then my friend Kathy,
who runs a dog rescue at Keeley's Dog Rescue on
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Instagram if you ever want to check her out, she
got a call about this labor doodle that had been
tied up for a year, and she called me and said, hey,
I know that you and your kids want a dog.
I know you would prefer it not shed. I got
you a labor doodle if you want it. I thought, okay,
well we'll foster it. So then we fostered it. The
first night we were fostering it, Chase it her. At
the time, it was an it to me because I
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didn't love her. She almost died. She we will yes,
We went to sleep. Then we woke up and went
out into the living room and she was laying there
in a puddle of blood, and we had no idea
what happened. Basically lifeless. The kids are upstairs asleep. This
is their first new puppy. Again, we're still trial run
fostering it out, but ultimately we're thinking we're going to
keep this dog. They had already lost Josie months before,
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so we're like, don't let the kids come downstairs. We've
got to clean up the blood. Ben's picking up Cara,
well she was. She wasn't even named car at the time.
I don't even know that she had a name, but
her head's hanging. He puts her in the car, takes
her to the emergency dog place because it's a Sunday
and we were what's even open, and they said if
we had come in maybe even an hour later, she
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wouldn't have made it. Then she spent a week in
doggie I see you or something. They brought her back
to life, and I thought, Okay, what in the world
is this a sign should we not have this dogg
or is it a sign that we saved her life,
because honestly, we were able to tend to her very quickly,
which when she was out at Kathy's, Cathy has this barn.
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It's a really nice barn. She's got other dogs out there,
and they were kind of living outside in this barn
cage thing, so I don't know that I would have
noticed it right away. So then I ultimately decided, Okay,
this is a blessing, this dog's gift, and she survived,
so clearly this is a sign she's supposed to be ours.
So we officially adopted her. She became our dog, and
then yeah, we just kind of liked her all this
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to say the last I don't know. Earlier in the pandemic.
I think, like maybe March April time frame, she made
it over to the I love you side, and now
I love her. I can't get enough of her. I
just I will be crushed if anything happens to her.
She is Josie status. But I just saw this study
about how dogs can actually recognize I love you, and
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then it told me how dogs say it back. So
if I have any other dog lovers, listen up. So
the study was done by canine Cottages and it followed
four dogs for a week while tracking their heart rates,
and when the owners told their dogs that they loved them,
the dog's heart rates increased on average. Isn't that? And
then the study also found that dog's heart rates decreased
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by on average when they cuddled with their owners. Now,
Josie was not a cuddler, but Carra. Carra cuddles and
now I'm going to be listening to see if her
heart rate slows down because she feels comfortable with me.
And then a veterinarian Dr Heather vin cat She said
that if a dog does these actions, it's how the
dog is saying I love you back. A dog curling
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up next to its owner, wagging their tail when being greeted,
bringing a toy to the owner which signals trust, showing
their pet parents their tummy, and then when in pain
they go to their owner Boom, that's your dog saying
I love you. That's that's awesome. I know that Chase
has a sad dog story and he didn't want to
bring you all down by telling it. But do you
think you'll get another dog anytime? Yeah? For sure. I
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think right now figuring out where I land on the
other end of it is probably the first step. Yeah,
I definitely want another dog. I just need to make
sure I have a place for a big dog I like.
I like big dog. I agree, Ben does not one.
A little dog I could probably handle. Our labor doodle
is full size. But they make those cute little tiny
they make I don't know somewhere people make these tiny
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mini golden doodle things and so cute to me that
Mary has one, but she's living with her parents during coronavirus.
But her name is Hannah and she's so cute. But
I follow a couple of doodle accounts on Instagram and
they are precious. Which speaking of Instagram, if y'all live
in Nashville, I want you to check out Wags and
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Walks Nashville if you're looking to adopt, or rescue or
foster again. The instagram is Wags and Walks Nashville and
our dog Mom stuff that we have up through the
shot Forward supports them. Also, we've been supporting Actually I
don't know if we've updated that, but either way, the
dog Mom is supporting great causes. But also we've worked
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with Proverbs twelve ten animal Rescue and so those are
places in Nashville that I know are great to work
with if you're interested in that. And then if you
live in Austin, we've worked with Austin Pets Alive a lot.
So those are the references I can make. But I
guess just if wherever you live, you could google different
places you could adopt or foster to see if you
want to help out, because again, remember that's one of
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the things from that's not all that bad because people
are at home more and they can foster and adopt it. Well,
that wraps up all four things for today, Chase, thanks
for joining me for all of them. I'm glad to
be with you today. Yeah, so fun. And then a
big thank you to everybody that's been loving our four things.
Fall pullovers there. We've sold out of some sizes, but
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we've been able to keep stuff in stock because y'all
are loving it. And obviously fall isn't even officially here yet.
I think the official day of fall is September twenty
one or twenty two or something so just a couple
more days will officially be there. In New York is
super pretty right now. Yeah, it's beautiful right now. I
finally cooled off. I mean, it wasn't really hot, but
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you know, it's still kind of in the upper eighties,
and now it's like in the seventies. This is totally
like Hoodie weather is my jam. I love New York
in the fall and then at Christmas time. I can't
wait to travel there again, but it probably won't be
until or or I don't even know. Okay, Well, I
hope y'all are having a great week, and we'll see
you on Tuesday for the Q and A episode by
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