January 31, 2019 • 33 mins
Amy gives you 5 weird ways to de-stress your life & she talks with her son, Stevenson, about the benefits of drinking water. We chat with The Nashville Beauty Girl, Keri Claudel, about shaving your face & Amy talks about why it’s important for her to gather her family around the dinner table.
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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Okay, cassup little food for you so life. Oh that's
pretty much. Hey, it's pretty beautiful. Thankful. That's a little
more kicking with four Brown Episode eleven. Here we are
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and Carrie at Nashville Beauty Girl. She is for sure
gonna be on this episode talking about face shaving, so
super pumped about that. And then I have my son
Stevenson on as well, talking about something super simple but
also something really important that I think we all need
to pay attention to you. And then oh, hey, buddy,
I was just talking about you. You want to come
(00:55):
say hi to everybody and tell them that they need
to listen to your segment. Yeah, okay, say listen to
my segment. Listen to us smoke and segment, statement segment. Good,
good job, you got it. You know you've had your
own segment before a lot of times Stevenson or my
daughter Stush here, they'll just be in the intro. But
you've had your own segment before with your protein pancake recipe. Yeah,
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people liked that one. And then you're gonna be on
today's episode with your own segment, and you wrote a
song for the segment, which I think people will appreciate.
Because it will help them remember to do what we're
going to talk about. And then personally me, I've just
been feeling a little bit stressed lately about some stuff.
I don't even really know why. But I've got weird
things that can make you less stressed. So if you're
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feeling stressed like me, I I know when I'm getting
stressed because I do things like pull out my hair
or I start to pick at my face. It's like
I want to torture myself when I'm feeling stressed or something. Oh, which,
speaking of picking at your face, just a reminder that
TLC is taking on the Super Bowl this weekend with
a six hour marathon of Dr Pimble Popper. It's gonna
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air on Sunday, February three, the same day as the
Super Bowl, from five pm to eleven PM, and that's
on TLC. We're going over to a friend's house for
the Super Bowl, so I'll be watching the game, but
I may have to sneak into another room and watch
this like Dr Pimple Popper marathon. Stevenson, do you have
anything you want to say to people before we get started? Yes?
WHOA What do you want to say? Hi? Hi, that's it. Okay,
(02:22):
how about you say enjoy the episode and done the episode?
I love you. Hi. Five. Okay, let's get started. If
you're feeling stressed, then I've got some weird things that
can make you less stressed. Now this isn't your typical
Like find a corner in your room that's quiet and
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be alone and breathe. I mean, sometimes we just gotta
get some stuff done. And this stuff will actually help
you knock some stuff maybe off your to do list,
but you'll walk away from it less stressed. So here
you go. Five weird things that can make you less
rest Number one washing dishes. So a study found that
people who practice being mindful while washing the dishes, you know,
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like smelling the soap and feeling the water temperature, being
in the moment, they felt more inspired and less nervous
after they were done. Number two decluttering your home. Research
suggests that having a cluttered house can cause increased levels
of the stress hormone cortisol throughout the day whenever I'm
feeling nuts. So my husband knows that if we just
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do a ten minute pu which is I got that
from my sister. She's got four kids and she does
like ten minute pus all the time. If you just
do a ten minute pickup session, that's what the PU
stands for, I instantly feel better. So yeah, really work
on that. It will help your stress level. I can
speak to that now. Number three. This one's a little odd,
but y'all, I have read this multiple times from different sources,
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and it is sniffing your partner's laundry. A study last
year in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found
that just smelling your significant other's clothes can make you
feel calmer. Now, when I read this a while ago,
it said that it had to be their dirty clothes, like,
not their clean laundry. But maybe they've worked out and
then they have like some of their sweat stuff on
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their I don't know. Anyway, this isn't the first time
I've heard of this, so I'm passing it along to
you guys. And if you're feeling stressed, then go to
your dirty clothes and sniff your partner's laundry see if
it helps. Number four Exercising in a group. According to
a study, exercising with a group reduced stress about cent
better than working out alone. And I really feel like
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maybe you get energy off the people that you're working
out with. I know that that happens to me at times,
and then I end up having a better workout, and
then that releases all kinds of awesome things, because you know,
working out releases endorphins, and endorphins make you happy, and
happy people don't kill people. I don't know the exact quote,
but that's from Legally Blonde. Pretty sure that's close enough.
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Number five Dwelling on your failures. In a study last year,
researchers found that writing about previous failures help people to
be less stressed when they encountered another difficult situation later on.
And I feel like that's true. We learn from stuff
that we haven't done the best at, like when we've failed,
we hopefully grow from it. And I think when you
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take time to reflect on that and how you've grown,
it will help you handle better situations in the future.
Kind of makes me think of Bobby's book. So I'll
go ahead and shout out fail until you don't right here,
written by Bobby Bones, So check out that book if
you have not, So there you go. But I have
weird things that can make you less stressed. Hope, at
least one of those will help you, guys out if
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you're feeling a little stressed out these days. For this
next thing, I've brought in Stevenson, my son, to help
me talk about it. And we're talking about something that's
it's a fairly simple topic. I feel like it's something easy.
It's something we all do, but we all struggle with
at the same time. And Stevenson, you want to say
(06:01):
hi to everybody and you want to sing your song
that's going to introduce the topic. Okay, ready, okay, so
thank you for that intro song, buddy, that's really good.
What do we talk about at home all the time
that you need to drink water? Yes, and to make
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your pea clear. So something that we struggle with in
our house with Stevenson and Stashira is is hydration. Sometimes
when their mood is a certain way, I'm like, you
know what, I feel like maybe they just need water
because it really can affect your mood, just sort of
like a plant, Like when you water a plant, it
comes back to life. I feel like we are the
same way. And this doesn't just have to do with kids.
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It has to do with adults as well. But it's
something I noticed in them in particular, So we have
really upped our water game, right, Stevenson, we're trying to
drink a lot more water because we don't want your
p to be yellow. Right, Yeah, that yellow is bad? Okay,
you wanted to be clear. I think that what is
another thing we talked about two because you're like, why
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is water so important? Will our bodies need it? Like
high percentage of our body is made up of water,
and we've got to hydrate. And I've told you before
two you can go weeks without food, but you can
only go three to five days without water. That's how
important water is. Do you want a sip of water? Oh,
we'll go grab it, Go grab your bottle. So I
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think that we can get busy with our day and
we can drink coffee and think we're doing good, and
then the next thing, you know, we've had like five
cups of coffee and not that much water, which coffee
is fine, but it can dehydrate you. And you just
got to make sure you're getting enough. And I used
to think I just needed like eight cups of water,
but I've really been upping my water game and I
probably drink ten to eleven cups and I was doing
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a little bit of research before I came on here,
and it says now women should drink nine is a day.
Generally speaking, I mean your height and your weight they
play a role, but generally women ninety ounces, which is
eleven cups of water, and then men should drink a
d O which is sixteen cups. I mean, it seems
like not too long ago we were just saying you
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needed eight cups of water, and so now it's eleven
for me and then sixteen for my husband, which is
a lot. And I know my kids are barely even
getting that. But now that we're monitoring your pea colors,
we're making sure that it's clear. Right, you can play
it one more time, you have ease clear. Okay, yes,
(08:36):
So I know it sounds crazy to be checking the
color of your pa but if it's clear, that means
you're staying hydrated. So I thought i'd run through some
of the benefits of drinking water, just as a reminder.
And again, this is so simple, but sometimes we need
that reminder of oh yeah, like if you really sat
down and thought about how much water you've been drinking
the past few days, would you fall into the category
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of hydration and you've had enough, or would you, you know,
be really falling into the category of like you need
to go grab water and you need to be carrying
around a water bottle with you all day long because
you're clearly dehydrated. Okay, So here are the benefits of
drinking enough water. First of all, it increases brain power
and provides energy. It flushes out toxins. It promotes healthy
weight management and weight loss. Improves your complexion. Hello, we
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all want that. Maintains regularity, if you know what I'm
talking about. Boost immune system, prevents headaches, prevents cramps and sprains,
helps regulate your body temperature, prevents back aches, improves your
heart health, prevents bad breath, takes the edge off hangovers,
and it just spot out puts you in a better mood,
which which is funny because that's something that I've noticed
with my kids too, is when they're kind of in
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a bad mood, if I just water them like a
plant and I make sure Stevenson, I don't ever put
water in your eyes. I put it in your mouth.
I say, buddy, go make sure you're having your water.
Can put water on my face when I go to sleep, Well,
it doesn't work that way. I wish someone would just
water my face and that works, because sometimes you just
really don't feel like drinking water, especially in the winter
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time it's hard. In the summer, it's definitely a lot easier.
But anyway, I know this was like super simple, but
sometimes I need the reminder and maybe you guys did too.
And then Stevenson, you want to close this out with
your song so people can remember your little jingle to
drink water. You have to make your fee. Okay, everybody
(10:30):
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at the shop floord dot com. So I think I
started shaving my face about five years ago. So Kelly,
who I have on here from Velvet's Edge, she does
fashion stuff. She got me shaving my face. And I
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remember the first time I did it. I was so nervous.
I was freaked out. I was ashamed. I didn't want
anybody to know. I remember Bobby and I were in
New York for work, and I think I said to
him I have something to confess, and he looked at me, like,
what is happening? And I just said, I shaved my face.
And I said, and I want to talk about it
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on the show. So I'm super embarrassed. I don't know
how to handle it, but I want to go. I
think people need to know about it. So what did
he say? Big deal? Now? I don't really know what
he thought, but we did it. I came on air.
I think we even teased it, like you're not gonna
believe what Amy's doing. He probably built it up for
a few days and then I came on and I
confessed I shaved my face and it just honestly, I
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can't believe I went so many years without shaving my face,
but nobody had ever told me about it. I knew
I had all this little peach fuzz. But you hear
these rumors that like, if you shave, then it's going
to grow back thick, and you know, obviously I learned
that's nonsense. So, um, all this being said, we're starting
that face shaving segment that I've been talking about, and
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I've got Carrie with me. She's at Nashville Beauty Girl.
She's been on before, and she's going to talk to
us about maybe what you've heard about face shaving and
then why it's like really really good for us. It
does sound strange. I mean, it's definitely like, oh, shave
my face, like you were saying earlier, and it's then't
have to be like shaving cream and a big razor
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in a mirror type of situation. I mean, although I
have used a big razor before. My husband said, I
don't care if you shave your face. I just don't
want to hear you talk about shaving your face, and
I don't ever want to walk in on you shaving
your face. It's funny you say that because with my husband,
because it's kind of like twice a week, my little
beauty routine I do at night, you know. And and
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so I kind of hear footsteps and I'm like, oh God,
I want to get my mirror and do this, but
he's gonna come in, and what if I nick myself?
And then if he sees that? And it's just I
don't know. I don't I'm the same way, not attractive,
and I mean we're like skin medical people. I don't understand. Um.
But yeah, so um, well, first of all, you you
have another name for it, So I try to think
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of other like prettier names like scalpel facial or you know,
facial razoring. You know. I'm like, oh yeah, a scalpel facial.
It's basically pretty much you know in reality what it is.
So um, in the office, I use a medical grade
mechanical tool. It has a handle on it and a
scalpel um it's blunt ended and so I can get
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a little closer in office by doing it. I believe
in doing a wet Derma plane, and so a wet
Dermo plane just means that um, there's a cleanser or
there's something on your skin, so that it actually I
teach my patients to do this that are doing it
at home, so it prevents, you know, as many chances
of getting a little nicks and things like that. Uh.
Derma plane is something that is an exfoliation. It's pretty
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much just getting the peach fuzz off your skin so
your products at home penetrate better or in the office
if we're doing it with the treatment UM and Kelly
situation with doing makeup, it makes your makeup go to
a whole next level, you know, because you don't have
that peach fuzz kind of in the way, and so
it makes for a good canvas for makeup. Um. It's
something that doesn't take a lot of time, but it
just makes a big difference. And it's not gonna grow
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back thicker, no. So what I what I tell patients
and what I personally think myself too, is you know,
when you get used to your skin being really smooth
and it starts to kind of grow back a little
bit and you're like, I'm not used to that. It's like, oh, oh,
what's that? What is that? Um? And so it kind
of makes like, what is it coming back thicker? And
it's not. It's not. And I can again, I've been
doing it five years and it has not come back thicker.
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And again, it's so scary to do it the first time.
So maybe you could get some of your girlfriends together
and y'all could have a We're not calling it face shaving.
You could have what are we calling it, Carrie, scalpel
facial w y'all can have a scalpel facial party and
shave your face is basically and you know you mentioned
the big thing. So sometimes if I've been yes and
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you know boss, you see it in the in the
shaller and I'm like, I feel something I didn't get
that area, I will grab it, just grab a razor
and go for it. But there are these handy little
facial hair razor things that where have I seen? My
daughter goes to hair World because I love them, their
hair World or hair World, hair World, I mean, I
don't know. In Nashville, we have all these places called
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hair World and it's where I go to get stuff
from my daughter's hair and they have the facial hair
races there. But Amazon also has them in one of
the strange names it's called tinkle. They also have flamingos
on the flamingos and the tinkles, and then I brought
you some today. These are the ones I get at Walgreens.
Um Revlon makes them, and they're actually called called a
facial defuzzer. Let me see that you have that name.
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I know, what are you doing? I'm defunifasing. That sounds
better than shaving and maybe husband. And these are like
four dollars and so honestly they're not going to be
um as you know, um sharp for you know, as
I might have in the office to get like a
really close dorma plane um. But I mean after one,
you know, and if you're extra fuzzy, you might have
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to go through too, and then tassom you know, and
then But like I like to use them. I feel
like when I when I use these at home, I
definitely will do it twice a week. Okay, so so
twice a week and then you do it at night. Well,
I mean yeah, now if I'm like right now, I'm
peeling because I just did a chemical peel two nights ago,
so I'll use it this morning to kind of get
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some of that dead skin cells off and then put
you know, a little bit my hydration on and then
put my makeup on. So it just kind of helps
kind of get through a retine peel if you're peeling
from from from like doing at home retinee or you know,
if you're doing like a chemical peel and you're starting
to feel a little bit so um. But if I'm
not doing anything, my favorite way to do it is, yeah,
at night, when I have my own minute, you know,
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like you know, the bath might be running, and shut
the door and maybe a glass of wine there before
I start dermo planing obviously, Um, but I'll have like
a facial steamer, which you can get those on Amazon too. Okay, yeah,
tell me about the facial steamer because I don't have one,
but you said they're twenty bucks on Amazon. There's a
great one and I'll send it to you. You can
also get there's they go to a hundred bucks. But
you can put your face over a stove if you
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want to know. I've done that before, that's sure. And
so just to get a lot of hydration on your
skin so that your skin is not as dry when
you're derma planing you'r or when you're you know dermo
planing yourself, UM makes for less just cuts, and it
makes for just an easier glide. And so when UM,
I usually put my facial steamer on and then UM,
I'll do my cleanser and then I'll be you know,
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shaming my face. And then when I'm done, I might
put on like a sheet mask or a mask, or
I'm definitely putting on my bottom or like a bottom
and see um or even my retina at night, because
those products are going to penet right down deeper. You
don't have this layer of just outer layer of dead
skin and then some peach buzz there. So well, I
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will sometimes do it around my crow's feed area. I
have no idea if there's if this is true or not,
but in my brain I feel like it's helping lessen
the wrinkles that are there. So is that is there
any truth? Do you think it's totally fine? Yes? I
would definitely. I think that if you have just I mean,
as we get you know, closer to forty, you know,
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you know you've got a little bit of crow speed,
that's normal. So if you have dead skin that accumulates
in those it's just gonna look less dry exactly. Yeah,
in your products, your I cream will work better too. Okay,
And I just pulled up on Amazon right now, and
there's like three or four different facial steamers. They all
look like the same, they're all different brands, but they're
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all in the twenty five dollar range. I'm sure all
of them work equally fine. If you just type in
to Amazon, which is what I just did, face steamer
for facial something awesome will come up. But then on Instagram,
I'll try to link whatever Carrie sends me. I'm Radio
Amy and then she's at Nashville Beauty Girl And no joke,
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Carrie literally brought a mirror with her and she's shaving
her face while we're talking. So no, if you hold
your skin, talk around your quick if they have the
facial razors and this is the razor that's the Walgreens,
the tinkle tinkle, So tell people, do you go upward
motion or down? Yeah? So like, so I'm starting the
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cheek area. I want to kind of hold my skin taut,
and I'm just gonna you, like at a forty five
degree angle and and I'm gonna go up with it.
And I'm also going to go over to the side
with it too. You can go at different angles here
there and you can just see that layer of dead
skin and peach fuz. I mean that's that's like you
pump with a pimple. It's pretty satisfying. When you see
the skin on the little racer saying it's you're kind
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of like, Okay, this is awesome. And I like to
get around my lip area because that's on the mouth
when you open like I didn't get in the corners.
That's the trick. So before I did this, I thought,
was I just walking around with this little peach fuzz
mustache and in the sun it's totally obvious. And the
thing with peach fuzz like us is that um is
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that it won't be You can't use laser hair removal
for that laser has to target like a fair skin
and dark hair. The laser just loves you and um,
you know, and we might get a little couple of
those hormonal ones which you can have the lazers. I
have a hormonal Um, what is the hair that comes
out of my chin? And I need to go get
it zapped at ideal And because it's so embarrassing sometimes
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I don't notice how quickly it grows and then it'll
be so long and I get mortified, like, oh my gosh,
did anybody see it? But I always have to take
a tweezer to it and rap it out. I know
I'm the same, I'm the same, but yeah, being fair
hair girls and then also just having that peach fuzz.
I mean, this is like the best way to do it.
And you're getting a two and one satisfaction, you know,
with exfoliation and then getting the peach fuzz off. So yeah, okay, awesome, Well,
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thank you for coming on to talk about um facials
ful thing. I already forgot scaffold facials. I'm just calling
it face shaving whatever. I'm a shame of face and
you know, if if you're nervous to do it, don't
be just I'm gonna do a tutorial and post on
my Instagram page. Okay, so head on over to Nashville
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Beauty Girls. She'll have a tutorial up and you're not alone.
There's nothing to be embarrassed about. I can't believe I
was so embarrassed about it for so long, and now
I really don't care. Obviously, I'm doing a whole podcast
on it. I shaved my face. I have to plug
hairs out of my chin like whatever, it just happens.
I guess the older you get, the less you care
because and you just want to share with other people
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what what's worked. And I think, and when you do good,
you work good. How's it go? When you do good,
you look good and you look good, you feel good.
When you feel good, you work sat backwards and last time,
I love it. It's we have a saying that we're
not very good. You look good, you feel good, when
you feel good. You For me, I work better and
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I work good, I continue get paid. Yeah, we're really
good motivational speakers. Hear me and carry Okay, well, thank
you for coming on, and we're gonna have carry back on.
She's our go to beauty girl. So um, anyway, get
your tinkles out and start shaving. So this last Sunday
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at church and the message eating around the table with
family and friends came up and just how important that is.
And I mean there was way more involved in the message,
but that was a huge takeaway from me and my
husband because I feel like we have noticed that our
kids really enjoy being around the table. We just aren't
very good at always making it happen. And I feel
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like before we came became parents in the last you know,
you're leading up. I mean, we were trying to be
parents for years and years. When we would talk about
having a family, We're like, oh, yeah, we're gonna eat
around the table every single night. But um, life is
just a little crazy kids stuff, work stuff. It's definitely
more difficult to get around the around the table. Now.
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My husband, he grew up eating around the table with
his family pretty much every night. My mother in law
will cook a meal and they would gather around, and
that's just how it was. My circumstance was a lot different.
I grew up with my mom. I mean, when I
was in junior high I had my sister, she was
in high school, but she was really busy and non
drill team and very active. And I don't remember us
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all three of us gathering around the table together and
my mom worked, And then by the time I was
in high school, it was just me and my mom
and she was working, and I just remember, like, you know,
we would pick food up, or if she cooked something,
we weren't necessarily eating it together, or we'd eat in
the living room and I just don't remember meal times
as a family, even when my dad was at home,
like he moved out when I was eight, eight or
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nine years old. So yeah, I still don't remember family
time around the table. And my dad loved food. Food
was his love language. He would cook my I will
say my sister and her family, they are really good
at meal time around the table. And they've got four
kids and she's done a great job with them. And
I don't know if some of that is credited to
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them always making a point as much as they can
to have meals together around the table. I don't know.
Maybe there's something to it, but all I know is
over this last year of you know, being a mom
and dad to Stevenson and Stashira, I have noticed when
we gather around the table, they thrive off of that.
Something in their personality really comes out and they share
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more about their day and we laugh and it's just
it's just really good. But again, you kind of forget.
The weeks go on, and then you're kind of We
have a bar area in our kitchen where they can
sit on bar stools and I can be cooking and
cleaning and talking to them and I can knock out
other stuff if maybe I'm not really hungry, but they
can eat and it's just not the same feel. But
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they're getting food and we are together, but it's not
like when we're gathered around the dining room table together.
So my husband and I, after we left church, we're like, Okay,
we have got to start doing this. This is what
we wanted to do when we got kids, and we've
just not been good about making it happen. So of
course Sunday night, I made dinner and we all sat
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around the table and we had the best time. It
almost confirmed everything, And of course I was really observant
of every little detail because I was like, is this
really worth it? Is this some fantasy I have where
I think they're better around the table boy and we
bond more. But no, it really was like I was
in tune with what was happening, and they are different people,
and I feel like afterwards they were different and we
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felt closer and there was so much laughter, and my
daughter was like, can we play a game? Like when
we got done, she wanted to to play game together
as a family. So it led to more and I
will confess that that was on Sunday and we haven't
been able to gather around the table since then, But
our new goal is to at least try to make
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that happen two to three times a week. Um. And
it's hard because my husband's schedule and then sometimes my
work schedule is a little bit um different. And honestly,
some mornings I have to wake up so early that
I like to eat dinner at four o'clock and my
kids aren't ready to eat dinner. But we've just got
to make it happen. Like, I don't know how we're
going to get those two to three days in every
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night just because of scheduling, but we're going to try
to commit to it. And that would be my challenge
to y'all too, and I'm right there with you, is
that even if it's just one night a week or
one night every two weeks, I mean, because I know
things can be nuts, but let's just try to gather
around the table with our families and and have that
time together. First of all, I think, um, eating meals
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around the table like other things that are good for you. Um.
Besides the the fellowship with your family is it slows
us down and even digestively speaking, I don't know digestively
as a word, but when it comes to your digestion,
like when you're slowing down and you eat slower, it's
better for you. And then secondly, being present is really important,
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and that's what I was focusing on Sunday. I was like, Okay, Wow,
I'm really in this. Nobody has their phones out, the
TV is not on, We're all here, we're sharing stories
like we're in the moment. It just felt really good.
And then thirdly that leads to connection, connecting with others.
And in our case, I was connecting with my husband
and my kids, and it was really good for us.
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So those are three little things that I think, you
know I observed when that was happening, is I ate
a lot slower, which I know is good for me.
I was present in the moment, and then we had
a connection. We were connecting with each other. And maybe
you're listening to this and you're like, well, I don't
have a husband and kids or a wife and kids. Well,
maybe there's some friends or friends with families that you
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could hop in on some family meals and get that
get that fellowship that you're probably craving to you just
don't know it. That would be really good for you
to have. And then if you are a family and
you have single friends in your life, then maybe you
do the part where you invite people over and have
them gather around your table with you. That's something that
our pastor was challenging us to in the message on Sunday,
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was you know, inviting people in, and especially people that
are maybe they're your friends, or maybe you don't know
them that well, you need to get to know them,
or maybe they're totally different than you. It's good to
have that diverse city at the table. So, I don't know,
there's just something that was on my mind, so I
thought I would share it with you all two and
see how you felt about meals around the table. If
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there's any tips you have for me for organizing this
or making it happen, I will gladly take them because
I know that a lot of you out there are
wiser than me and maybe have more life experience than me,
and I'm open to that. But yeah, eating around the table,
let's try to do it more. Whether you've got a family,
whether you're single, whether you've got friends, whether you got whatever,
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just gather around the table together. Okay, that's a wrap
on today's episode. I really appreciate Carrie at Nashville Beauty
Girl on Instagram for stopping in to talk about face shaving.
I love when, you know, I get to have guests
on and they're taking time out of their day to
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come chat with us, So I really appreciate it. And
little Stevenson, he was on Hope you all liked everything
else that we talked about. And then I've got my
email shout out here. This one's from Aaron, and I
chose this one because it's got a tip in here
for anybody else that's listening and trying to write things
down in case I'm sharing something that you, you know,
(30:12):
want to remember. So it says, Hey, Amy, I'm absolutely
in love with your Four Things podcast. Thursdays are my
new favorite day of the week. I was listening this
morning to the most recent episode and wanted to jot
down the recipe for your deodorant. I'm sure you can
do this with other podcast listening apps, but on Apple
Podcast you can slow down or speed up your listening pace.
(30:33):
I've used the time and half speed when I've been
away without WiFi and I'm behind on my daily dose
of the Bobby Bones show. But today, in an attempt
to get your recipe written down without having to press pause,
I used the halftime feature. I was laughing hysterically in
the parking lot of the elementary school. I'm a nanny,
so shout out to all the nannies out there. If
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you need a good laugh, this is a must. You
sounded like you had a little something extra and you're
glowing green smoothie. Thanks all that you do and all
that you are already eager for next Thursday. Aaron in Virginia.
So I chose this again because it's a tip so
you can speed up podcast or slow them down, which
I think is pretty amazing. Like if you're in a hurry,
you're trying to get through something, I listen to things,
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or if I'm listening to an audiobook, I listened to
it on the faster pace, and sometimes they sound like
I can't listen to it too crazy to where I
don't know what they're saying. But speeding it up definitely helps.
But I never thought about slowing it way down if
I was trying to write down a recipe, So I
don't really know what she was implying when she said
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sounds like I had a little something extra my glowing
green smoothie. But maybe that I was uncomfortable and needed
to go to the bathroom. I don't know. Uh So, Aaron,
thank you for that tip, and that's a good one.
I will share recipes from time to time on here.
And I'm sure, yeah, a lot of you are driving
or multitasking or doing other things when you're listening to
this podcast, so you may not necessarily be able to
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stop and write it down, which sometimes stuff that I
talk about, I've got recipes up on my Instagram. Maybe
I'll make a highlight page. I'm at Radio Amy on Instagram.
And then speaking of Radio Amy, we do have radio
amy dot com. Purchase the website. Trying to get that
worked out so that way I can use that as
a place to send y'all and then you won't have
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to write anything down. You won't have to listen to
me talking really really slow, so you can jot it down. Um.
But Aaron, thanks for the tip, because I'm sure a
lot of people didn't even know they could listen to
podcast on a faster speed to help you get through
it faster. Sometimes I don't want a podcast to end,
so I want it to be the full length, like
because it's entertaining me while I'm doing something else but
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audio books for sure, or if I have stuff I'm
really trying to get through but I want to absorb
the information, I'll just listen to it faster. Okay. So
hope everyone is having an awesome day. I hope you
enjoyed this week's episode. If you want to subscribe to
this podcast, if you haven't already, please do it. If
you want to write a review would be amazing too.
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We really appreciate that. A big shout out to Elizabeth
and Mike d for getting this up on iTunes and
I Heart Radio, and then shout out Walker Hayes for
the song be Kind to Joy, Never Lie, Never Lie,
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Cast up broa little food for yourself life ain't. Oh
it's pretty much. Hey, it's pretty beautiful. Thanks beautiful that
for a little more than use said. He can't. You'll
kick in with four with Amy Brown
Okay, cassup little food for you so life. Oh that's
pretty much. Hey, it's pretty beautiful. Thankful. That's a little
more kicking with four Brown Episode eleven. Here we are
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and Carrie at Nashville Beauty Girl. She is for sure
gonna be on this episode talking about face shaving, so
super pumped about that. And then I have my son
Stevenson on as well, talking about something super simple but
also something really important that I think we all need
to pay attention to you. And then oh, hey, buddy,
I was just talking about you. You want to come
(00:55):
say hi to everybody and tell them that they need
to listen to your segment. Yeah, okay, say listen to
my segment. Listen to us smoke and segment, statement segment. Good,
good job, you got it. You know you've had your
own segment before a lot of times Stevenson or my
daughter Stush here, they'll just be in the intro. But
you've had your own segment before with your protein pancake recipe. Yeah,
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people liked that one. And then you're gonna be on
today's episode with your own segment, and you wrote a
song for the segment, which I think people will appreciate.
Because it will help them remember to do what we're
going to talk about. And then personally me, I've just
been feeling a little bit stressed lately about some stuff.
I don't even really know why. But I've got weird
things that can make you less stressed. So if you're
(01:38):
feeling stressed like me, I I know when I'm getting
stressed because I do things like pull out my hair
or I start to pick at my face. It's like
I want to torture myself when I'm feeling stressed or something. Oh, which,
speaking of picking at your face, just a reminder that
TLC is taking on the Super Bowl this weekend with
a six hour marathon of Dr Pimble Popper. It's gonna
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air on Sunday, February three, the same day as the
Super Bowl, from five pm to eleven PM, and that's
on TLC. We're going over to a friend's house for
the Super Bowl, so I'll be watching the game, but
I may have to sneak into another room and watch
this like Dr Pimple Popper marathon. Stevenson, do you have
anything you want to say to people before we get started? Yes?
WHOA What do you want to say? Hi? Hi, that's it. Okay,
(02:22):
how about you say enjoy the episode and done the episode?
I love you. Hi. Five. Okay, let's get started. If
you're feeling stressed, then I've got some weird things that
can make you less stressed. Now this isn't your typical
Like find a corner in your room that's quiet and
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be alone and breathe. I mean, sometimes we just gotta
get some stuff done. And this stuff will actually help
you knock some stuff maybe off your to do list,
but you'll walk away from it less stressed. So here
you go. Five weird things that can make you less
rest Number one washing dishes. So a study found that
people who practice being mindful while washing the dishes, you know,
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like smelling the soap and feeling the water temperature, being
in the moment, they felt more inspired and less nervous
after they were done. Number two decluttering your home. Research
suggests that having a cluttered house can cause increased levels
of the stress hormone cortisol throughout the day whenever I'm
feeling nuts. So my husband knows that if we just
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do a ten minute pu which is I got that
from my sister. She's got four kids and she does
like ten minute pus all the time. If you just
do a ten minute pickup session, that's what the PU
stands for, I instantly feel better. So yeah, really work
on that. It will help your stress level. I can
speak to that now. Number three. This one's a little odd,
but y'all, I have read this multiple times from different sources,
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and it is sniffing your partner's laundry. A study last
year in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found
that just smelling your significant other's clothes can make you
feel calmer. Now, when I read this a while ago,
it said that it had to be their dirty clothes, like,
not their clean laundry. But maybe they've worked out and
then they have like some of their sweat stuff on
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their I don't know. Anyway, this isn't the first time
I've heard of this, so I'm passing it along to
you guys. And if you're feeling stressed, then go to
your dirty clothes and sniff your partner's laundry see if
it helps. Number four Exercising in a group. According to
a study, exercising with a group reduced stress about cent
better than working out alone. And I really feel like
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maybe you get energy off the people that you're working
out with. I know that that happens to me at times,
and then I end up having a better workout, and
then that releases all kinds of awesome things, because you know,
working out releases endorphins, and endorphins make you happy, and
happy people don't kill people. I don't know the exact quote,
but that's from Legally Blonde. Pretty sure that's close enough.
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Number five Dwelling on your failures. In a study last year,
researchers found that writing about previous failures help people to
be less stressed when they encountered another difficult situation later on.
And I feel like that's true. We learn from stuff
that we haven't done the best at, like when we've failed,
we hopefully grow from it. And I think when you
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take time to reflect on that and how you've grown,
it will help you handle better situations in the future.
Kind of makes me think of Bobby's book. So I'll
go ahead and shout out fail until you don't right here,
written by Bobby Bones, So check out that book if
you have not, So there you go. But I have
weird things that can make you less stressed. Hope, at
least one of those will help you, guys out if
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you're feeling a little stressed out these days. For this
next thing, I've brought in Stevenson, my son, to help
me talk about it. And we're talking about something that's
it's a fairly simple topic. I feel like it's something easy.
It's something we all do, but we all struggle with
at the same time. And Stevenson, you want to say
(06:01):
hi to everybody and you want to sing your song
that's going to introduce the topic. Okay, ready, okay, so
thank you for that intro song, buddy, that's really good.
What do we talk about at home all the time
that you need to drink water? Yes, and to make
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your pea clear. So something that we struggle with in
our house with Stevenson and Stashira is is hydration. Sometimes
when their mood is a certain way, I'm like, you
know what, I feel like maybe they just need water
because it really can affect your mood, just sort of
like a plant, Like when you water a plant, it
comes back to life. I feel like we are the
same way. And this doesn't just have to do with kids.
(06:47):
It has to do with adults as well. But it's
something I noticed in them in particular, So we have
really upped our water game, right, Stevenson, we're trying to
drink a lot more water because we don't want your
p to be yellow. Right, Yeah, that yellow is bad? Okay,
you wanted to be clear. I think that what is
another thing we talked about two because you're like, why
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is water so important? Will our bodies need it? Like
high percentage of our body is made up of water,
and we've got to hydrate. And I've told you before
two you can go weeks without food, but you can
only go three to five days without water. That's how
important water is. Do you want a sip of water? Oh,
we'll go grab it, Go grab your bottle. So I
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think that we can get busy with our day and
we can drink coffee and think we're doing good, and
then the next thing, you know, we've had like five
cups of coffee and not that much water, which coffee
is fine, but it can dehydrate you. And you just
got to make sure you're getting enough. And I used
to think I just needed like eight cups of water,
but I've really been upping my water game and I
probably drink ten to eleven cups and I was doing
(07:50):
a little bit of research before I came on here,
and it says now women should drink nine is a day.
Generally speaking, I mean your height and your weight they
play a role, but generally women ninety ounces, which is
eleven cups of water, and then men should drink a
d O which is sixteen cups. I mean, it seems
like not too long ago we were just saying you
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needed eight cups of water, and so now it's eleven
for me and then sixteen for my husband, which is
a lot. And I know my kids are barely even
getting that. But now that we're monitoring your pea colors,
we're making sure that it's clear. Right, you can play
it one more time, you have ease clear. Okay, yes,
(08:36):
So I know it sounds crazy to be checking the
color of your pa but if it's clear, that means
you're staying hydrated. So I thought i'd run through some
of the benefits of drinking water, just as a reminder.
And again, this is so simple, but sometimes we need
that reminder of oh yeah, like if you really sat
down and thought about how much water you've been drinking
the past few days, would you fall into the category
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of hydration and you've had enough, or would you, you know,
be really falling into the category of like you need
to go grab water and you need to be carrying
around a water bottle with you all day long because
you're clearly dehydrated. Okay, So here are the benefits of
drinking enough water. First of all, it increases brain power
and provides energy. It flushes out toxins. It promotes healthy
weight management and weight loss. Improves your complexion. Hello, we
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all want that. Maintains regularity, if you know what I'm
talking about. Boost immune system, prevents headaches, prevents cramps and sprains,
helps regulate your body temperature, prevents back aches, improves your
heart health, prevents bad breath, takes the edge off hangovers,
and it just spot out puts you in a better mood,
which which is funny because that's something that I've noticed
with my kids too, is when they're kind of in
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a bad mood, if I just water them like a
plant and I make sure Stevenson, I don't ever put
water in your eyes. I put it in your mouth.
I say, buddy, go make sure you're having your water.
Can put water on my face when I go to sleep, Well,
it doesn't work that way. I wish someone would just
water my face and that works, because sometimes you just
really don't feel like drinking water, especially in the winter
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time it's hard. In the summer, it's definitely a lot easier.
But anyway, I know this was like super simple, but
sometimes I need the reminder and maybe you guys did too.
And then Stevenson, you want to close this out with
your song so people can remember your little jingle to
drink water. You have to make your fee. Okay, everybody
(10:30):
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(10:51):
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at the shop floord dot com. So I think I
started shaving my face about five years ago. So Kelly,
who I have on here from Velvet's Edge, she does
fashion stuff. She got me shaving my face. And I
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remember the first time I did it. I was so nervous.
I was freaked out. I was ashamed. I didn't want
anybody to know. I remember Bobby and I were in
New York for work, and I think I said to
him I have something to confess, and he looked at me, like,
what is happening? And I just said, I shaved my face.
And I said, and I want to talk about it
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on the show. So I'm super embarrassed. I don't know
how to handle it, but I want to go. I
think people need to know about it. So what did
he say? Big deal? Now? I don't really know what
he thought, but we did it. I came on air.
I think we even teased it, like you're not gonna
believe what Amy's doing. He probably built it up for
a few days and then I came on and I
confessed I shaved my face and it just honestly, I
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can't believe I went so many years without shaving my face,
but nobody had ever told me about it. I knew
I had all this little peach fuzz. But you hear
these rumors that like, if you shave, then it's going
to grow back thick, and you know, obviously I learned
that's nonsense. So, um, all this being said, we're starting
that face shaving segment that I've been talking about, and
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I've got Carrie with me. She's at Nashville Beauty Girl.
She's been on before, and she's going to talk to
us about maybe what you've heard about face shaving and
then why it's like really really good for us. It
does sound strange. I mean, it's definitely like, oh, shave
my face, like you were saying earlier, and it's then't
have to be like shaving cream and a big razor
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in a mirror type of situation. I mean, although I
have used a big razor before. My husband said, I
don't care if you shave your face. I just don't
want to hear you talk about shaving your face, and
I don't ever want to walk in on you shaving
your face. It's funny you say that because with my husband,
because it's kind of like twice a week, my little
beauty routine I do at night, you know. And and
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so I kind of hear footsteps and I'm like, oh God,
I want to get my mirror and do this, but
he's gonna come in, and what if I nick myself?
And then if he sees that? And it's just I
don't know. I don't I'm the same way, not attractive,
and I mean we're like skin medical people. I don't understand. Um.
But yeah, so um, well, first of all, you you
have another name for it, So I try to think
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of other like prettier names like scalpel facial or you know,
facial razoring. You know. I'm like, oh yeah, a scalpel facial.
It's basically pretty much you know in reality what it is.
So um, in the office, I use a medical grade
mechanical tool. It has a handle on it and a
scalpel um it's blunt ended and so I can get
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a little closer in office by doing it. I believe
in doing a wet Derma plane, and so a wet
Dermo plane just means that um, there's a cleanser or
there's something on your skin, so that it actually I
teach my patients to do this that are doing it
at home, so it prevents, you know, as many chances
of getting a little nicks and things like that. Uh.
Derma plane is something that is an exfoliation. It's pretty
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much just getting the peach fuzz off your skin so
your products at home penetrate better or in the office
if we're doing it with the treatment UM and Kelly
situation with doing makeup, it makes your makeup go to
a whole next level, you know, because you don't have
that peach fuzz kind of in the way, and so
it makes for a good canvas for makeup. Um. It's
something that doesn't take a lot of time, but it
just makes a big difference. And it's not gonna grow
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back thicker, no. So what I what I tell patients
and what I personally think myself too, is you know,
when you get used to your skin being really smooth
and it starts to kind of grow back a little
bit and you're like, I'm not used to that. It's like, oh, oh,
what's that? What is that? Um? And so it kind
of makes like, what is it coming back thicker? And
it's not. It's not. And I can again, I've been
doing it five years and it has not come back thicker.
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And again, it's so scary to do it the first time.
So maybe you could get some of your girlfriends together
and y'all could have a We're not calling it face shaving.
You could have what are we calling it, Carrie, scalpel
facial w y'all can have a scalpel facial party and
shave your face is basically and you know you mentioned
the big thing. So sometimes if I've been yes and
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you know boss, you see it in the in the
shaller and I'm like, I feel something I didn't get
that area, I will grab it, just grab a razor
and go for it. But there are these handy little
facial hair razor things that where have I seen? My
daughter goes to hair World because I love them, their
hair World or hair World, hair World, I mean, I
don't know. In Nashville, we have all these places called
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hair World and it's where I go to get stuff
from my daughter's hair and they have the facial hair
races there. But Amazon also has them in one of
the strange names it's called tinkle. They also have flamingos
on the flamingos and the tinkles, and then I brought
you some today. These are the ones I get at Walgreens.
Um Revlon makes them, and they're actually called called a
facial defuzzer. Let me see that you have that name.
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I know, what are you doing? I'm defunifasing. That sounds
better than shaving and maybe husband. And these are like
four dollars and so honestly they're not going to be
um as you know, um sharp for you know, as
I might have in the office to get like a
really close dorma plane um. But I mean after one,
you know, and if you're extra fuzzy, you might have
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to go through too, and then tassom you know, and
then But like I like to use them. I feel
like when I when I use these at home, I
definitely will do it twice a week. Okay, so so
twice a week and then you do it at night. Well,
I mean yeah, now if I'm like right now, I'm
peeling because I just did a chemical peel two nights ago,
so I'll use it this morning to kind of get
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some of that dead skin cells off and then put
you know, a little bit my hydration on and then
put my makeup on. So it just kind of helps
kind of get through a retine peel if you're peeling
from from from like doing at home retinee or you know,
if you're doing like a chemical peel and you're starting
to feel a little bit so um. But if I'm
not doing anything, my favorite way to do it is, yeah,
at night, when I have my own minute, you know,
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like you know, the bath might be running, and shut
the door and maybe a glass of wine there before
I start dermo planing obviously, Um, but I'll have like
a facial steamer, which you can get those on Amazon too. Okay, yeah,
tell me about the facial steamer because I don't have one,
but you said they're twenty bucks on Amazon. There's a
great one and I'll send it to you. You can
also get there's they go to a hundred bucks. But
you can put your face over a stove if you
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want to know. I've done that before, that's sure. And
so just to get a lot of hydration on your
skin so that your skin is not as dry when
you're derma planing you'r or when you're you know dermo
planing yourself, UM makes for less just cuts, and it
makes for just an easier glide. And so when UM,
I usually put my facial steamer on and then UM,
I'll do my cleanser and then I'll be you know,
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shaming my face. And then when I'm done, I might
put on like a sheet mask or a mask, or
I'm definitely putting on my bottom or like a bottom
and see um or even my retina at night, because
those products are going to penet right down deeper. You
don't have this layer of just outer layer of dead
skin and then some peach buzz there. So well, I
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will sometimes do it around my crow's feed area. I
have no idea if there's if this is true or not,
but in my brain I feel like it's helping lessen
the wrinkles that are there. So is that is there
any truth? Do you think it's totally fine? Yes? I
would definitely. I think that if you have just I mean,
as we get you know, closer to forty, you know,
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you know you've got a little bit of crow speed,
that's normal. So if you have dead skin that accumulates
in those it's just gonna look less dry exactly. Yeah,
in your products, your I cream will work better too. Okay,
And I just pulled up on Amazon right now, and
there's like three or four different facial steamers. They all
look like the same, they're all different brands, but they're
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all in the twenty five dollar range. I'm sure all
of them work equally fine. If you just type in
to Amazon, which is what I just did, face steamer
for facial something awesome will come up. But then on Instagram,
I'll try to link whatever Carrie sends me. I'm Radio
Amy and then she's at Nashville Beauty Girl And no joke,
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Carrie literally brought a mirror with her and she's shaving
her face while we're talking. So no, if you hold
your skin, talk around your quick if they have the
facial razors and this is the razor that's the Walgreens,
the tinkle tinkle, So tell people, do you go upward
motion or down? Yeah? So like, so I'm starting the
(19:57):
cheek area. I want to kind of hold my skin taut,
and I'm just gonna you, like at a forty five
degree angle and and I'm gonna go up with it.
And I'm also going to go over to the side
with it too. You can go at different angles here
there and you can just see that layer of dead
skin and peach fuz. I mean that's that's like you
pump with a pimple. It's pretty satisfying. When you see
the skin on the little racer saying it's you're kind
(20:18):
of like, Okay, this is awesome. And I like to
get around my lip area because that's on the mouth
when you open like I didn't get in the corners.
That's the trick. So before I did this, I thought,
was I just walking around with this little peach fuzz
mustache and in the sun it's totally obvious. And the
thing with peach fuzz like us is that um is
(20:39):
that it won't be You can't use laser hair removal
for that laser has to target like a fair skin
and dark hair. The laser just loves you and um,
you know, and we might get a little couple of
those hormonal ones which you can have the lazers. I
have a hormonal Um, what is the hair that comes
out of my chin? And I need to go get
it zapped at ideal And because it's so embarrassing sometimes
(21:03):
I don't notice how quickly it grows and then it'll
be so long and I get mortified, like, oh my gosh,
did anybody see it? But I always have to take
a tweezer to it and rap it out. I know
I'm the same, I'm the same, but yeah, being fair
hair girls and then also just having that peach fuzz.
I mean, this is like the best way to do it.
And you're getting a two and one satisfaction, you know,
with exfoliation and then getting the peach fuzz off. So yeah, okay, awesome, Well,
(21:28):
thank you for coming on to talk about um facials
ful thing. I already forgot scaffold facials. I'm just calling
it face shaving whatever. I'm a shame of face and
you know, if if you're nervous to do it, don't
be just I'm gonna do a tutorial and post on
my Instagram page. Okay, so head on over to Nashville
(21:50):
Beauty Girls. She'll have a tutorial up and you're not alone.
There's nothing to be embarrassed about. I can't believe I
was so embarrassed about it for so long, and now
I really don't care. Obviously, I'm doing a whole podcast
on it. I shaved my face. I have to plug
hairs out of my chin like whatever, it just happens.
I guess the older you get, the less you care
because and you just want to share with other people
(22:10):
what what's worked. And I think, and when you do good,
you work good. How's it go? When you do good,
you look good and you look good, you feel good.
When you feel good, you work sat backwards and last time,
I love it. It's we have a saying that we're
not very good. You look good, you feel good, when
you feel good. You For me, I work better and
(22:31):
I work good, I continue get paid. Yeah, we're really
good motivational speakers. Hear me and carry Okay, well, thank
you for coming on, and we're gonna have carry back on.
She's our go to beauty girl. So um, anyway, get
your tinkles out and start shaving. So this last Sunday
(22:53):
at church and the message eating around the table with
family and friends came up and just how important that is.
And I mean there was way more involved in the message,
but that was a huge takeaway from me and my
husband because I feel like we have noticed that our
kids really enjoy being around the table. We just aren't
very good at always making it happen. And I feel
(23:15):
like before we came became parents in the last you know,
you're leading up. I mean, we were trying to be
parents for years and years. When we would talk about
having a family, We're like, oh, yeah, we're gonna eat
around the table every single night. But um, life is
just a little crazy kids stuff, work stuff. It's definitely
more difficult to get around the around the table. Now.
(23:36):
My husband, he grew up eating around the table with
his family pretty much every night. My mother in law
will cook a meal and they would gather around, and
that's just how it was. My circumstance was a lot different.
I grew up with my mom. I mean, when I
was in junior high I had my sister, she was
in high school, but she was really busy and non
drill team and very active. And I don't remember us
(23:57):
all three of us gathering around the table together and
my mom worked, And then by the time I was
in high school, it was just me and my mom
and she was working, and I just remember, like, you know,
we would pick food up, or if she cooked something,
we weren't necessarily eating it together, or we'd eat in
the living room and I just don't remember meal times
as a family, even when my dad was at home,
like he moved out when I was eight, eight or
(24:20):
nine years old. So yeah, I still don't remember family
time around the table. And my dad loved food. Food
was his love language. He would cook my I will
say my sister and her family, they are really good
at meal time around the table. And they've got four
kids and she's done a great job with them. And
I don't know if some of that is credited to
(24:42):
them always making a point as much as they can
to have meals together around the table. I don't know.
Maybe there's something to it, but all I know is
over this last year of you know, being a mom
and dad to Stevenson and Stashira, I have noticed when
we gather around the table, they thrive off of that.
Something in their personality really comes out and they share
(25:04):
more about their day and we laugh and it's just
it's just really good. But again, you kind of forget.
The weeks go on, and then you're kind of We
have a bar area in our kitchen where they can
sit on bar stools and I can be cooking and
cleaning and talking to them and I can knock out
other stuff if maybe I'm not really hungry, but they
can eat and it's just not the same feel. But
(25:26):
they're getting food and we are together, but it's not
like when we're gathered around the dining room table together.
So my husband and I, after we left church, we're like, Okay,
we have got to start doing this. This is what
we wanted to do when we got kids, and we've
just not been good about making it happen. So of
course Sunday night, I made dinner and we all sat
(25:47):
around the table and we had the best time. It
almost confirmed everything, And of course I was really observant
of every little detail because I was like, is this
really worth it? Is this some fantasy I have where
I think they're better around the table boy and we
bond more. But no, it really was like I was
in tune with what was happening, and they are different people,
and I feel like afterwards they were different and we
(26:09):
felt closer and there was so much laughter, and my
daughter was like, can we play a game? Like when
we got done, she wanted to to play game together
as a family. So it led to more and I
will confess that that was on Sunday and we haven't
been able to gather around the table since then, But
our new goal is to at least try to make
(26:30):
that happen two to three times a week. Um. And
it's hard because my husband's schedule and then sometimes my
work schedule is a little bit um different. And honestly,
some mornings I have to wake up so early that
I like to eat dinner at four o'clock and my
kids aren't ready to eat dinner. But we've just got
to make it happen. Like, I don't know how we're
going to get those two to three days in every
(26:53):
night just because of scheduling, but we're going to try
to commit to it. And that would be my challenge
to y'all too, and I'm right there with you, is
that even if it's just one night a week or
one night every two weeks, I mean, because I know
things can be nuts, but let's just try to gather
around the table with our families and and have that
time together. First of all, I think, um, eating meals
(27:16):
around the table like other things that are good for you. Um.
Besides the the fellowship with your family is it slows
us down and even digestively speaking, I don't know digestively
as a word, but when it comes to your digestion,
like when you're slowing down and you eat slower, it's
better for you. And then secondly, being present is really important,
(27:40):
and that's what I was focusing on Sunday. I was like, Okay, Wow,
I'm really in this. Nobody has their phones out, the
TV is not on, We're all here, we're sharing stories
like we're in the moment. It just felt really good.
And then thirdly that leads to connection, connecting with others.
And in our case, I was connecting with my husband
and my kids, and it was really good for us.
(28:01):
So those are three little things that I think, you
know I observed when that was happening, is I ate
a lot slower, which I know is good for me.
I was present in the moment, and then we had
a connection. We were connecting with each other. And maybe
you're listening to this and you're like, well, I don't
have a husband and kids or a wife and kids. Well,
maybe there's some friends or friends with families that you
(28:25):
could hop in on some family meals and get that
get that fellowship that you're probably craving to you just
don't know it. That would be really good for you
to have. And then if you are a family and
you have single friends in your life, then maybe you
do the part where you invite people over and have
them gather around your table with you. That's something that
our pastor was challenging us to in the message on Sunday,
(28:48):
was you know, inviting people in, and especially people that
are maybe they're your friends, or maybe you don't know
them that well, you need to get to know them,
or maybe they're totally different than you. It's good to
have that diverse city at the table. So, I don't know,
there's just something that was on my mind, so I
thought I would share it with you all two and
see how you felt about meals around the table. If
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there's any tips you have for me for organizing this
or making it happen, I will gladly take them because
I know that a lot of you out there are
wiser than me and maybe have more life experience than me,
and I'm open to that. But yeah, eating around the table,
let's try to do it more. Whether you've got a family,
whether you're single, whether you've got friends, whether you got whatever,
(29:30):
just gather around the table together. Okay, that's a wrap
on today's episode. I really appreciate Carrie at Nashville Beauty
Girl on Instagram for stopping in to talk about face shaving.
I love when, you know, I get to have guests
on and they're taking time out of their day to
(29:50):
come chat with us, So I really appreciate it. And
little Stevenson, he was on Hope you all liked everything
else that we talked about. And then I've got my
email shout out here. This one's from Aaron, and I
chose this one because it's got a tip in here
for anybody else that's listening and trying to write things
down in case I'm sharing something that you, you know,
(30:12):
want to remember. So it says, Hey, Amy, I'm absolutely
in love with your Four Things podcast. Thursdays are my
new favorite day of the week. I was listening this
morning to the most recent episode and wanted to jot
down the recipe for your deodorant. I'm sure you can
do this with other podcast listening apps, but on Apple
Podcast you can slow down or speed up your listening pace.
(30:33):
I've used the time and half speed when I've been
away without WiFi and I'm behind on my daily dose
of the Bobby Bones show. But today, in an attempt
to get your recipe written down without having to press pause,
I used the halftime feature. I was laughing hysterically in
the parking lot of the elementary school. I'm a nanny,
so shout out to all the nannies out there. If
(30:53):
you need a good laugh, this is a must. You
sounded like you had a little something extra and you're
glowing green smoothie. Thanks all that you do and all
that you are already eager for next Thursday. Aaron in Virginia.
So I chose this again because it's a tip so
you can speed up podcast or slow them down, which
I think is pretty amazing. Like if you're in a hurry,
you're trying to get through something, I listen to things,
(31:15):
or if I'm listening to an audiobook, I listened to
it on the faster pace, and sometimes they sound like
I can't listen to it too crazy to where I
don't know what they're saying. But speeding it up definitely helps.
But I never thought about slowing it way down if
I was trying to write down a recipe, So I
don't really know what she was implying when she said
(31:35):
sounds like I had a little something extra my glowing
green smoothie. But maybe that I was uncomfortable and needed
to go to the bathroom. I don't know. Uh So, Aaron,
thank you for that tip, and that's a good one.
I will share recipes from time to time on here.
And I'm sure, yeah, a lot of you are driving
or multitasking or doing other things when you're listening to
this podcast, so you may not necessarily be able to
(31:57):
stop and write it down, which sometimes stuff that I
talk about, I've got recipes up on my Instagram. Maybe
I'll make a highlight page. I'm at Radio Amy on Instagram.
And then speaking of Radio Amy, we do have radio
amy dot com. Purchase the website. Trying to get that
worked out so that way I can use that as
a place to send y'all and then you won't have
(32:18):
to write anything down. You won't have to listen to
me talking really really slow, so you can jot it down. Um.
But Aaron, thanks for the tip, because I'm sure a
lot of people didn't even know they could listen to
podcast on a faster speed to help you get through
it faster. Sometimes I don't want a podcast to end,
so I want it to be the full length, like
because it's entertaining me while I'm doing something else but
(32:41):
audio books for sure, or if I have stuff I'm
really trying to get through but I want to absorb
the information, I'll just listen to it faster. Okay. So
hope everyone is having an awesome day. I hope you
enjoyed this week's episode. If you want to subscribe to
this podcast, if you haven't already, please do it. If
you want to write a review would be amazing too.
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We really appreciate that. A big shout out to Elizabeth
and Mike d for getting this up on iTunes and
I Heart Radio, and then shout out Walker Hayes for
the song be Kind to Joy, Never Lie, Never Lie,
(33:23):
Cast up broa little food for yourself life ain't. Oh
it's pretty much. Hey, it's pretty beautiful. Thanks beautiful that
for a little more than use said. He can't. You'll
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