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Speaker 1 (00:09):
Carol. She's queen. She's not afraid of cal learn this
sounds can Hey are you guys? I am so excited
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that you are joining me today. This episode of Get
Real podcast is awesome. I have local, national celebrity and
internet sensation. Y'all probably follow her on Instagram already. If
you don't, you should. Living with Landon It's Landon Hutchinson.
She is just amazing in every way. She's one of
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those people you can really look up to because she
leads her life with so much love and everything that
she does is from her heart. She is married to
star football player Steve Hutcheson. She's got two beautiful kids.
She prioritizes her family. It's her number one. She talks
about how she does that at the same time as
running their sunny at the same time that she's running
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a big business. She just opened a retail store. Living
with Landon and Nashville, I got to peek in and
look at it. It's outstanding and stunning. As she is,
she goes around and does live shows where she just
brings her all of who she is to stage into
life and two women and it's amazing. She is an
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inspirational person. And I loved having her on. We talked
about everything, just from what she thinks makes for a
good marriage, and it's really awesome what she thinks makes
for a good marriage, how she keeps her balance, how
she knows what her passion is, her life story. She
and Steve met when they were in junior. It's either
junior high or high school. So young, and they've been
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sweethearts forever. I loved, loved love this interview here is Landed. Okay,
I am very fired up because I have the sensational
Landon Hutchinson living with Landon a lot of you all
know you're so sweet. One an introduction, You're like to
me your goals in every single way, and I know
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pretty much every woman in America who has discovered you
feels that way. How did how did you become? Wait
a second way to say, I'm like, I'm just a girl.
There's nothing really that special just maybe No, Okay, I'm
gonna tell you what's special about you? Because I have
sweet You know what? Actually, my mother recently told me
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that I should get better about taking a compliment, and
I think most women should. So I'm gonna just say
thank you. I'm gonna tell you what's really special about here,
doesn't it? No, I've gotten pretty good at taking compliments. Okay,
I need to be better at that. Thank you, Thank
you very much for that. You're welcome, because I feel like,
if someone is really going to give me a compliment,
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I'm going to really try to receive that love. And
you give so much love out that you should really
receive it back. And I know you do receive it
back because if I'm so lucky to have them sweet
women that fall along and that's their constant source of
that for me, and honestly, they're the driving force behind
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all of it and why you keep going because I'm
sure like you have many days and now you're juggling
motherhood on top of it. So it's like HiT's a lot.
HiT's a lot. And I think they help fuel that
fire in me, something that I didn't know that I had,
especially with all these little ventures I have going on
and these little like side hustles or whatever it big. Yeah,
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it's it's crazy what's happened here recently, but it's so
fun and I'm so proud of it. You should be,
I am. I think for me, I've been I've always
been a fan of you, but I've been talking hard
lately because I knew it was gonna interview, so I
like dove all into all the things as you say. Um.
The thing I think that resonates so much, at least
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with me, and I'm feeling like probably most women feel
this way is you are just so genuinely yourself and
you put it out there and you share everything. But
you always have this optimistic, lightheartedness to you, which I
gravitate towards because I came in here and I wanted
to cry about plants having feeling and shed, but you're
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so able to see life and process it and then
you find a way to be light about it, which
I feel like we all need this light energy in
our lives. I think it goes back to people tell
me that a lot, and I kind of leaned on
and looked towards my mom because I was like, was
I always like this? And that was exactly what she said. Landon,
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You've always been a light. You've always been happy, You've
always danced around, You've always made conversation and with strangers
at five years old, like you just always have been
that light. You know, like people are attracted to that energy,
And I think a lot of times people will say
to me, man, if you could bottle up your energy,
or like, how do you do it in a day?
And um, I mean, I'm hustling like everybody else. I'm
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trying to get dinner on the table. I'm trying to
take care of my children. I've got to teenagers now,
So of course I'm very mindful of that. Am I
doing it right? I'm always second guessing myself, But I
think and what I say to my husband because he's
a little more like, well, that might happen, and I'm
always like, but it, but it might not. And I
think I've always been in that mindset to just like,
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there's so many things we can't control, so why get
upset about it? And why just beat ourselves up? And
why just let give our energy to that negativity of
the what if? I mean, I feel like, if things
are gonna happen, it's gonna happen, and what do we
know if we don't take a chance, and so many
things before what I'm doing now, I was scared to death.
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It was so much of the fear, the fear of like,
well if it doesn't happen, and what you know. Now
it's more of like you've got the energy behind it
and the drive, and you're so excited and people are
cheering you on. I'm more in the mindset and now
I'm thinking like the fear of like, okay, when that happens,
what's going to change in my life? So I've been
thinking of I love my life and and I'm so
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much busier than I was. I take that back. We're
all busy, We're all a different kind of busy. But
I feel like I've added to my plate and people
are like, why do you keep doing that? My mom said,
like are you never happy? Are you never satisfied? But
I'm just having the best time and I love it.
And I think I'm getting back so much from other women,
And honestly, I'm a giver. So I'm just wanting to
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like continue to like feed these women with just some
positive energy and like a quick dinner idea and a
great under eye concealer, and like how can we love
our husbands more? And how can we take care of
our friendships? And there's just so much of that, So
my energy goes into that. But to answer your question,
I think I've always just and like this it's just
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the way I see things. Just in that way, I
guess I want that is my goal for is I
just made vision boards, but I know your friends with
Mallory Irvin for sure and Nicole I don't even know
how to Saria last name did you call? D D Girls?
And um Ashley Wilson, And I put on my vision
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board that for this year, I just want to enjoy
my life and let whatever flows into my life flow,
and not stressed about all of the things that could
happen that have happened, because that's probably, like you said,
why why it might not happen. So why are we
going to spend our energy worrying about things that probably
most likely won't happen when you could enjoy your whole life. No,
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I just I really try to do that. And I
love what you just said, because this year for me
is about being more present. I watched the last two
years really fly by, and I think it might be
the fact that up, I don't know, Yeah, it was wild,
and I think too, I'm getting a little sad and
sentimental about my kids being home. My husband and I
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went to dinner a couple yeah, like a couple weeks ago.
And it was like in six years were empty nesters.
Well both of them will be gone in six years.
Isn't that wild? And I know it does, and I
know people are going to tell you that, and you're
in the middle of like diapers and naptime and you're like,
it can't go fast enough. And sometimes I remember in
the early years, it's like groundhogs Day. It is like
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I'm doing the same thing. Everybody else's life is going on.
My husband's continuing to go do this and that, and
I'm just like, what happened to my body? What happened
to this? And you're just like sitting there sometimes like
what just basically what happened? What happened? And there's so
much going on around you, But um, it does fly by,
It really really does. And I never believe that. But
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now I'm sitting in it and I'm like, I know,
and I'm just trying to make sure I do the
best job, and like, especially my daughter's a sophomore in
high school and like starting to drive and just like
making good choices and friendships and navigating that social media
is added to it. I'm just like, I don't know,
there's no manual. I've never done this before. Okay, so
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we were talking on Instagram today cat and that you
follow cat? And are they too funny? They're too funny.
They're talking about how there's no manuals after like the
first year of life. They like, you know, when your
baby reaches six much you should be doing solid foods.
But now and then they should be walking all these things,
and then all of a sudden there's no manuals, like
good luck? How do you talk about sex? How do
you talk about driving? How do you talk about Instagram?
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How do you talk about all these things? Like how
do you do it? How do you how do you
navigate all that on a prayer? Honestly, I don't know.
I think it just I don't know life experiences for
yourself and maybe mistakes you've made you can turn that
into a teaching moment. I really I do this thing
with my kids in the car, and we've done it
since they were old enough to talk, you know that
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like three or four, we can have like a little
bit of a conversation. We kind of built on that,
and they would always be super observant, so we'd be
driving and it'd be like, um, you know, let's say um,
a homeless couple on the side of the road, or
like a man or something. They were like, why is
he out there? Why is he holding that sign? It
just gave me like a time to like take it
as a teaching moment and like maybe something was on
the radio. As the years went on, the questions got deeper.
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But I've always we call it life lessons. They could
be simple things that happened at school. Well we've kept
account and so we're up to like three eighties seven
seven life lessons that I've been able to, like just
have those conversations in the car with your kids. But
well we just always would be like what numbers that,
and like we just kind of built on it over
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the years, and we've probably skipped a few numbers, I'm sure,
But I thought it was so interesting because just like
listening to them and with how they see the world
and the world's changing before us. It's not what it
was when you and I were growing up. And so
I don't know, I'm just trying to stay with the
time's gonna be hip and relevant with my daughter so
she doesn't completely tune me out. But um, you know,
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I also wasn't born yesterday and I do say things
that my mom would say to me. I'm like, god,
you sound just like your mom. But um, it's it's not.
I don't know. I'm just going for it. Does your
daughter know that you're this big force that's impacting the
world on such a big level. Does she like think,
oh my god, my mom's so cool? Oh gosh, I
would she She's she's sweet. Her friends are really excited,
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like I made this like very trifle, you know, whip
cream and like pound cake thing, and they're like, I
saw your mom post it on Instagram. So I made
it a sleep over one night, and now it's like,
is she going to make that again? I saw her
making it and they follow me, and so I'm very
careful about all that. I mean, I don't go I
do say a curse word here or there just because
it makes it? Does it? Not? Like ship is like
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can I say that? Yes? Of course, she's my like
number one word. I'm like, well, oh, I mean that's mine.
I'm always like a sleep I mean, sometimes it makes it,
her breaks it. But they're getting older and they're we're
having funnier conversations, like they said, shit, she's you know
those funk whatever. She said it in the car and
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I'm like, actually that was right on target. That was fun. Yeah,
I'm like, but it's real life about to leave the
house in two years, like she's she's about to see
it all. She's saying it with her without me, So
it's funny. But they make me laugh and they ask
a lot of questions and they're real proud of me.
And I do it for them as much as I
do it for myself. When I do it for these women, um,
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just because I think it's so important to watch someone
go after a dream and really live it and like
put the blood, sweat and tears into it and the work.
I mean, they've helped me pack boxes on my dining
room table, like they've kind of gone through the motions.
My husband, everyone's been involved. I've missed dinners, I've missed
volleyball games. I've I mean talking about getting choked up,
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like I could get choked up about that because I
made some sacrifices. But my friend Nicole, yes, and she's
so gosh, she's like a uniform mom. I've balanced. I don't.
I mean, it's wild. But she said to me something
like I've missed a lot of things too, but I
owned it, like I Charlie needs to see me making
a choice and following through, and I think she's so right.
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So I try to think about that a lot. When
I do something, I'm like, I can't be there, um,
and I want to be there. They know that. But
I'm also living my dream, you know, so that you
can live yours. And that's just such a powerful message.
And I think as we're raising kids in this day
and age, like I want my daughter, I want my
son if they want to do something. And I think
the fact that I started doing it at forty is
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also crazy years to three, well, go back a little bit,
but when I got the website and that all started, Yes,
so it's been like probably four for real years, I
would say, so yeah, wow, crazy town. I'm with you
on that though, because to me, it's it's and this
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is why another reason I love you. I was diving
into your blogs and you said you're like a sixty
house wife at heart, which I love because that's a
lost art that needs a comeback it is. I love
that because and I want to talk to you about
that blog and your blog on your rules from marriage,
because I think they're amazing, and how you started dating
your husband when you're in eighth grade and you got
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engaged for one second so and swooped back and stole
you back because he's like, Nope, it's my favorite story
to tell. Not necessarily that part, it's just like everything
about it I love. But I love that you are
telling your daughter in particular, because it has been a
man's world for so long and it's changing like big time,
but it's still it's still changing. I just have that
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conversation today, but I do. I really love you're showing
a way to like be a supportive, great wife but
also be a support of great self to yourself. And
I think that that's such a cool thing. And I
feel like this whole thing that's happening right now with
women who are moms and wives are showing that we
can have careers and we can be great wives, and
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you can be a great mom, but you are going
to have to miss a little bit here and there
for sure, and a lot of sacrifice. But I think
it's important to show women women the modern housewife. It's
just a modern, more modern version. It's still has the
value and the you know, in all the teachable things
and the home cook meal. And I I learned so
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much from my grandmother. So she's been married almost seventy years,
they've they're almost there, nine, almost ninety, still married, still
taking it. It's adorable. But I learned so much watching
them growing up. And I remember at a young age
watching them hold hands and like, you know, open the
door for her, and just the way they left and
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still gave each other a kiss and things like that.
I was like, I want that. I just had that
my mind early on, and like, I want that. So
I think about that as the example I want to
set for my children, for my son, for my daughter,
for her to be respected and someone to support her
and tell her to go out and do it. I
don't I'm not necessarily saying that a woman's places in
the home, but I am a big, big um supporter
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of keeping that foundation at home solid. So to me,
that starts with your marriage and just the simple things
like cooking dinner and having a meal around the table,
and um, serving my husband in that way where it's
like if it means like grabbing him a cup of coffee.
Because I think in the morning, when my feet hit
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the floor, I think, how can I make his day better.
It's not selfish because he's doing the same thing for
me by me doing that for him. So we became
a really good team in that way that I just
think like, Okay, how can I make the people's day
around me better? And so I, you know, start by
just the small things, the little things, even a compliment,
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a kiss on the back of the neck. Like my
grand mother once said, you know when they're out in
the yard and say they're like mowing the grass or whatever,
cutting down a tree and they're sweaty. She said, don't
ever let that moment pass by where it's like that
kind of like sort of hug like, Okay, you're sweaty.
She's like, go in there and just like get in
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there and just give him a kiss and get a
little sweat on you because they're working so hard for you.
Like those kinds of little like old fashioned values. I
think about her all the time and that way. But um,
I'm huge on dating your husband, your spouse after you've
been married for quite some time. I'm a huge believer
in putting my husband first over my children, and that
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some people right now listening might be like, oh, but
I believe it, and it is worked wonders. So talk
to me about how you do that? How do you
choose that? Well, they're just He's my number one. He
is the reason I have these beautiful children. He is
we started this thing. So I'm not gonna let that
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go by. I'm not going to let those years go by.
So what so twenty years goes by? I send these
kids off to college and then I'm like, oh, who
are you? I don't know you. I didn't grow with you,
I didn't age with you, none of that. So I'm
I invest in that. That's my number one. My kids
know that it. I don't not love them or love
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them less than I love him. I just love them
in a different way. And I think it's just so important.
They know we are just like a unit, a solid
there were forced to be reckoned with and there's no
kind of like pulling mom to one side and dad
to the other. It's a team. Now. He's definitely the
bad cop. I'm the good cup. How did you score
that role? Because you're the light? Like the light fun,
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you don't like the ying and the yang. And he
is fun too, and he is sweet and he's just
a big teddy bear. But um, we just we kind
of decided that how we're going to keep the communication
going with the kids. But as far as like back
to the fifties housewhid it's like date your husband. I'm
big on sex. I know you say you never say no,
never say no never, not even ever ever Listen. It's
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one of those things where it's like it might not
be something you're like, oh, but you know, once you
get into it, oh, it's totally like so you just
gotta let go for a second. And I agree. I
think you should definitely have all the sex, but like
sometimes do you feel like you don't have time to
have sex? Yes, I mean they're definitely listen. And when
I say that, I don't want you to think like,
oh my god, they got everything together. I mean there's waves,
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there is a dry spell, and then you got to
pick it back up again. But if you get to
that point, you almost have to make it. Not make
an appointment, but you need to make a conscious effort,
like tonight kind of set the tone earlier in the day.
If it's a text message, I don't know what it is,
but you've got to keep that going. It's a well
oiled machine. And when you don't use it doesn't work
as well. Amen to that. I really think that's a
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huge part of a happy marriage. And even like get
out of your mind, like women are beautiful, every shape, curve, stretch, mark,
all of it. And I think we are our own
worst critics. We get in our own head and we're like, Okay,
well I feel more sexier if I lost like ten
pounds and this, then let me tell you something about
min Then don't see anything but what they want to see.
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They are a full picture person. They are not looking
at like if your ass is a little bit this,
or you this, you gain that or whatever, you gotta sit,
they don't care. They don't want you to brush your teeth.
They don't care. It's really so much simpler than we think.
Oh my god, what do you say? It's oh, oh yeah,
like that. No no, no, no, no, no, you're no
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no no. But I I actually did one of my
shows in Atlanta and I had this woman, Diane, come
up on stage. If anyone's listening that's followed me, they
will know about this. But she came on and she
leaned in and my dad was in the audience, and
we were talking about how you keep a husband. She
leaned in and like whispered this in my ear, and
I like died laughing at everyone in the audience. You know,
three women were like she say, and I was like,
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oh my gosh, here we go. And so I was like,
she said, um, full stomach, empty balls. I can't believe
I just said that. But she was so funny. And
then everyone online was like, what what, what's the secret?
What's the secret, And I'm like, it's actually pretty simple, right,
And I told the women on my insto story that night.
I'm like, I'm not going to say it on here
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because my daughter's friends following this, and I'm like, I
don't think I need to say it. I said, but
go over to Diane's instagram. Do it like Diane. I
don't even know if she still hasn't going And I said,
she'll tell you everything, and she did, and she had
three followers. When I went to bed, she had eleven
thousand and more. Oh my gosh, eleven thousand. She is
so funny. So I don't know if she's still doing it,
but do it like Diane. That's do it like Diane
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on Instagram. She I mean, she was just unassuming. She
came right in the bed. She just was like and
she I just didn't expect that to come out of
her mouth, honestly, But um, I think men are simple.
Um yeah, food, sex just a compliment, stroke the ego.
That's it. It's I used to make it so much
more complicated. We all do. I still do. I I'm
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sitting here right in the rules and I'm still messing
it up. What about your rules? Oh gosh, never I
have seven right, I'm trying to I haven't pulled those
back out and a great I was like, okay, I'm
like totally. I never say no, date your husband, keep
your house tighten right, keep your ass tighten right. Um,
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just take care of yourself. I think when you're a
better self, you're a better mom, you're a better friend,
you're a better wife. I I just I know that, Like,
if I just take care of myself, it could be
simple thing. I could take a walk, I could go
out for drinks with my girlfriend. I could get my
hair done, I could get a pedicure. And it doesn't
have to really be beauty kind of things. I think.
Just like, if you love a great podcast, if you
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love go and take yoga. I don't know. Just do
some things for yourself too. I think we get caught
up in taking care of everybody else and we forget
about us, and I think you're just you're you're not
you're not your goods, your best self, I guess without
investing a little bit, and you're worth the investment. Amen
to that, especially because you're running the lives of all
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these other people. If you're drained and run down and
you don't feel good, get some sleep, you might be
sure or yeah, short tempered or like you don't have
It's just like when you don't like your outfit, then
you're not as nice exactly. You know. It's not superficial
as that may sound. It's like, well, when you feel good,
you're like, okay, I feel good, Amen, feel good. Just
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feel good. Just try to see a little touch up
before your husband comes down. Don't look like a total slab. Okay,
So people, Yeah, I think that was that was another one.
See this is so good. I haven't one of those
rules in a while. I need to. I was like,
that's good because I'm a sweatpants every day and I
don't even brush my hair. I'm like, I'm gonna just
try a little just try like a little bit of
like lip gloss, like a little bit, just a little
bit kind of I run around. I mean I put
a timer on and in twenty minutes I can get
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so much done in my house because I literally just
like let it all go. And I'm like, oh, I'm
gonna hear the garage door opening soon, Like let me
just try to get this together. Um. I think about
cooking a meal, even if you don't know how to
cook it, It can be real simple. Men aren't picky.
I mean, just get yourself a rotissery chicken and a
steam in the bag vegetable and throw some rolls in
and you're like dinner. I mean, it's not really that hard.
I don't it doesn't need to be like on a
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garden or anything. But I think it's worth it. I agree.
I think it's great. I think it's so awesome that
you have sort of like I mean, I don't know
if you've broken it down apartments in a way, but
it's sort of like kind of like how your blog is,
like you have your life, you have beauty, you have
your marriage. Steve has a corner on your blogs. Steve
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buys on Amazon, which I love, but you prioritize all
these things. You prioritize yourself living with land and your store.
You just open like which encompasses all of this. You
kind of make space for all of it. And then
it's almost Because Mallory Urban said something one of her podcasts,
if you your blessings can become burdens if you don't
prioritize them. And I feel like you do such a
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great job of prioritizing your blessings and really taking inventory
of what matters to you, and then you make time
for that instead of just being bombarded by all these
things that you have to do. It's like, no, Okay,
my kids, my husband, myself and all the things that
matter to you. Make it a part of your life
and then it's not a burden to you. I feel like, yeah, no,
I've I think you learned that over the years, and
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I'm trying to take note of those things and be
more present and be I do love the people around
me and I hold them close, and my children, my husband,
myself are definitely the priority. For sure. I've added to
my plate. So I have to be careful because what
I was let happening or what I let happen. Rather
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was all this work related stuff kind of overshadow those
things that are the priority, and so they started taking
a back seat. And then I started feeling really crappy
about that. I just wanted to be more present and
I missed those people. I miss those times, but yet
I was chasing something, so I you know, I think
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it's true, like you can't have it all at the
same time. I think that's true. Um, but I'm trying
this year just to be more mindful and careful of
that and like trying to make sure I make the
time and like setting a work hours, setting work hours
so that I can like pick my kids up from school.
Like I missed those things. I missed the grocery store.
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You know, I don't have someone running to the grocery
store for me. I don't have that kind of stuff.
I just don't get I just don't get it done
in the day. But thankfully, like my husband has kind
of come in. Um he's since retired in the last
six years, and it's funny how life works out. But
he's playing kind of Mr Mom. And I had a
really hard time accepting that and letting him do those
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things for me. I'm not good at letting people help
me because I'm just a woman, and I'm like, I'm
gonna get it done, and we figure out a way
to get it done. But I was stretching myself, you know,
thinking myself out, like or stretching myself of them. What
am I saying that I just was not good at anything.
I was not good at anything. I wasn't being the
greatest mom, I wasn't being the greatest self. I miss
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my friends, I wasn't doing that great job at work.
Like I just was like not there for the people
that needed me. And so I think trying to just
balance that's one thing I'm just really trying to work
on this year. So I set days for myself, so
like I work on Mondays and Wednesdays, and then on
Tuesdays and Thursdays, those are the days for myself. That's
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like if I want to go to Target and run
around with a cup of coffee and like no worry
or like I need to knock out the grocery store
or whatever. I just kind of make those my days.
See my girlfriends, maybe I don't see at lunch or something.
But it's working so far, and I feel so much better.
I feel so much more, like I've taken a big breath,
and I think I'm better at the other everything now,
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not better at everything, but I'm better at these. You know,
I'm better at them, and you feel better, like I
feel so much better. Good outfit. When you make time
for everything and don't feel spread, then do it better.
And I think, also, there's only so many hours. I
think we give ourselves this laundry list of things to do.
And if I could say one thing to you, I remember,
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I know you're in the she's four months old, right,
and it's like you're in this thing where you honestly
just should give yourself two things to do in a day.
You can't with an infant. It's just it's then you
set yourself up for failure, and then you're like, why
didn't get anything done? Then you defeated and you're like, well,
just forget it, and then you're just sad and you
like sleeve a cookie. So I think of you remember
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being like, I'm going to pick up the dry cleaning
and we're going to run in and get these five
grocery items. Somehow between nap, between breastfeeding, between everything, and
I was like and I could check it and be like,
feel accomplished, and the baby is alive and I'm alive
and somehow I'm together and when he gets home. I
don't know. It's not easy. It's not every day it
went like that. But I just remember my mom, I think,
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telling me, like, just maybe pick a couple of things.
Don't make a launch. It's just yourself up for success. Yes,
check those boxes. I love a list. I love paper.
I got a big giant calendar this year. Do you
love to just like spread it out and really like
I was like I need to see it because it
was just on my iPhone and that was causing me
anxiety because i would have to look ahead of a
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day and I'm like, oh god, how does that fit
into my pres like a bird's eye view, I'm like,
there's the week I had the whole month. Yeah, it's
like huge, but it's nice because you draw the line
through it and then go in get all the pretty pens.
It makes me feel better because I can see everything. Yeah,
I know, I feel like, um, just everything's yes on
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the phone and I'm not really good at that. I
don't It's not my favorite way to do it, but
it is kind of I got to get with the times,
do you know you just like calendar wise, like seeing
it all. I'm trying to manage every all the kids
schedule back and forth, and I'm like so many things
to manage well. And I have like a running list
on the right. There's like a section for the running list.
It's like all the things I have to accomplish this month,
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I had like in the corner, and then I can
x them off when they're done, put them on the
calendar when the dates are due, or whatever what I
gotta do. So I know, like, here's my full picture
has has to happen, break it out down on the calendar,
so then I can like empty my brain out. I
can like like a brain dump, like a brain dump.
So then I have to like smart press out about it. Yeah,
because if you least you write it down, you know,
eventually I'll check it out. Might be two months, a year,
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I don't know, you know, you know it's there. So
talk to me about the success of living with Landon.
How did it blow up? How did you start it?
How did it blow up? And I still we're getting
back to the love story of your husband, because that's
my favorite Okay, I love you have his name tattooed
on your wrist. But I know some people will pick
up on that on my ancestor and like when'd you
get that? And I'm like, oh, gosh, I've had that
a while. Now, when did you get it? I would
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kids were maybe ten years ago, almost Yeah, I've had
it for a while living with landon UM. I had Facebook,
then I started with Then I went to Instagram. And
my brother is the driving force behind that because he
was like, you know, grandma hasn't can't see the kids.
I had no social media whatsoever. Crazy. I know people
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are like, what but I really I never had my Space.
I wasn't dialed into any of it. Um. And then
I sold my clothes on Instagram. I saved up enough
money to figure out how to build a website or
have someone do that for me. And I wasn't proud
of the one that I first had because it was
just it was not me branded wise. I was like,
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what happened? I don't think the person really got my
my drift, but um, so I didn't. I didn't go
to it. I don't want anyone to go to it.
So I would do Facebook and so you remember, I'm
or it was still like that you type something on Facebook.
I'd write out a whole recipe and then would just
go down, down, down, down down. People couldn't find it.
So I was like, I really need to get this
website thing together, and so I did, and I found
someone here that did them my logo and branded it,
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and I was like, this is so beautiful. It's white
and crisp and clean and it just feels like me
and I love it. I'm so proud of it. So
I want to tell everyone about it. And so I
just got on Instagram then and I just started sharing
like recipes and maybe my favorite tanked out from Old Navy,
and then maybe like under Eye Concealer, and then I
share a little bit about my marriage and things like that,
and it kind of just I wanted it to be
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always a resource for women. UM. I didn't want women
to compare their lives to it. I just wanted to
be like, girl, do you need a dinner idea? I'm
I got a dinner idea, that kind of thing, and
so it just kind of grew like that. And then
when insto stories um happened, which I think is just
a few years old Um. That is what sent my
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brand on the up. It was because the you know,
the nine squares were really pretty. The website was really pretty.
It looked I mean every picture I took was like
either professionally done or like edited, and it was all
white and crisp, and they were probably like, well, this
is so beautiful to look at, but is she really
like me or it seems like it's yeah, it's like
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all perfect, it seems like and then what And then
I got on there and I'm like not wearing a
braw like picking my kids up for dinner, you know
from school. Yeah, I got a zip. I mean, it
was just like a big ship show really, and people
are like, oh, she really is me, she doesn't have
it all together. And then it kind of just went
from there and I think that's it. I mean, that's
it's it's authentic, it's vulnerable, it's just life, and I
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think people enjoy it and I enjoy sharing with them.
So it just kind of that's how it happened. Were
you nervous to be so vulnerable? No, I've always been
like I love laughing at myself and I don't take
anything serious. All I do is laugh all day long,
really well, because I don't know what the hell I'm doing,
so just keep laughing. But you stay so light with
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that that I think that keeps you so light, I think.
But that's like getting back to how we started this.
It's like, why I get upset about it. I gotta
take chances. I'm not going to know unless I try.
And I've taken so many chances and learned so many
things in the last two years, more than I learned
any other part of my life, even in my twenties.
I mean, I just it's just been a all blowns
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It's just it's been like going back to school. Yeah,
school life and the school of life. To me, well, actually,
I would love to know what is What does success
look like to you? After your journey with you know, trying, failing,
succeeding all of it, your husband, kids, friends, What is
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success to you? Success to me is honestly being able,
let's see it just kind of being able to celebrate
life's successes, like being able to be present and be
in it and just have the people around me. My
marriage is success. My children are success to me. They're
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the things that I have accomplished, and I am proud
of and I keep working at UM I'm not, I don't.
I mean, people are like, what are your dreams? What
are your goals? Sure I'd love a you know, a
n Aisle and Target and this, that and the other.
But I'm also very happy where I am. I don't
want to say I don't think we should ever all
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be content, Like you should just want to go after
things no matter what they are, big or small. They
don't have to be my dream or they don't have
to be your dream. But UM, I think just really
celebrating those little successes. It's the little things that I
think are most important. Like I think if I can
be continue to be happily married and my children be
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happy and do what they love, and I am happy
and I felt like I've done a good job at
those things, than that to me success. I totally agree.
We gotta talk about your love story with Steve Okayed
eight grade, Yes, eighth grade where eighth grade Sweethearts. Um.
I had moved from a another town over my mother.
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UM and father had divorced. It was my mom and
I from age two, and she remarried when I was
twelve and he had two boys, and so we kind
of did the Brady Bunch thing changed schools. I did.
I hated it. I did not want to leave of
all my friends, and I started. We moved over there
in my seventh grade summer, so I started the eighth
grade year, which is just hard years anyway. And then
my mom's like, but this will be better if you
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get into if you go into eighth grade and gather
some friends before you get over to high school, it's
gonna be great. It is true. And like, you know,
a couple couple of weeks in, I see this big, tall,
handsome he was a man at that age. Okay, he's fourteen,
He's six ft two hundred and ninety six pounds, might
have had some facial hair, I don't know. My mom
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was like, he is not in your grade. I'm like, yes,
he is, but now that it isn't so bad. Now
the move isn't so bad. So now I'm like, I
love him. Um. And we had I had a little
scrapbook going. I would say like his gum and like
I mean, I would movie ticket. I'm like psycho. I
was like, I love him. So anyway, I um, we
just it was just Stephen Landon went to the eighth
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grade dance. We all the way up. Um. We stayed
together all the way through our junior year college, so
the eighth grade, all the way through we I mean
we'd break up for two days or like two weeks
at the max, like on and off. But honestly, it
was just a solid thing and it was so fun.
And Um, he went way to college University of Michigan.
I stayed in Florida, went to school, and um, I
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you know, he's he's playing football there and doing well
and all American and all this, and we talked on
the phone between practice and this and that, and it
just started to get like running out of things to say.
You know, it was hard to be away from each other. Yeah,
it was just hard. I mean, we knew everything we
possibly can know, but at that age you're growing so much.
What do you really know? Um? And so I don't
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know why or how I was mature enough to just
be just to make the decision to be like, I
think we should break up. I feel like if we're
meant to be, it will work out. Um. And so
we did. And we were apart for a year and
a half, it was and we had the same friends,
so we kind of kept tabs on one another. He
dated a little bit. I date a little bit, but
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quite honestly, I just wanted to go out with my
girlfriends and I that was it. And I met this, uh,
this guy, and I decided to do this um traveling
nursing program thing, and so it was going off to
rest in Virginia and nurse Also I kind of leave
that out of this story. Was such a short chapter.
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And then I started having babies and then I've spending
no it is it is, And I think that gets
back to why I love what I'm doing is because
I love nurturing and taking care of people, and I
just do it in a different way. Now you know,
it doesn't involve a band aid or a needle. But um,
so I did this program and moved away with him,
and we were out to dinner one night. He wasn't
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you know, so much on like the feelings. I don't
think I knew how strongly he felt about me, But
I was just having fun. I always love Steve. In
the back of my mind, I'm like, well, that's where
it's at for me, and that's what I love. But
he the wait staff comes around and there comes a
ring and I'm like, holy her up and I don't
think I said yes, I just like it was on
my hand. Wake up. The next morning, called my parents.
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My mom's like, well, it takes a year to plan
a wedding, right, She was like I don't know. And
then we uh I got to work on Monday and
I called him and I say, can you come over
after work tonight? And he said sure, and uh I
gave him the ring back. So it wasn't like how
does it feel though to be in love with Steve?
Obviously you care about this other person, but like I
love with Steve and then all of a sudden, this
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guy proposes. I literally was you're the wrong one. It
was like an outer body experience. Like I said, I
I still remember them walking over to the table, but
like I don't remember anything after that. I was like,
what happened? So that was that? And then Steve got
win to that boy and he was on a red
eye flight like he's like nobody, And I was like, well,
we're not getting back together. I don't know what I'm doing.
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And that's what I'm supposed to be. It's a mess
for a while. It is a mess. Life is a mess.
So we're figuring out that love thing and yourself. It
all happens at the same time, I know. And then
I was like yeah, so it was kind of crazy.
And then I was working and he showed up in
my work one day and he's like, let's get married,
let's do this. Let's I'm like, wha, well, I'm not
quitting my job, and just like running off with you.
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Give me a second. So he would drive back and
forth every weekend and we kind of like, no, he
was in Florida training for the draft, and so yeah, no, no,
he would drive down a couple of hours and then
one day, um, he had dinner with my parents and
all of us and we packed up six stuffle bags
of clothes and got in the car and I've never
been home since. You literally have never been home since
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we got engaged in October. They recently just moved this
last year. Were they sad you never came home? I mean,
like I came home, But I like, I like that
was it. I never lived at home. Back to the house,
I'm like, oh, like I list deeper into your parents
never know. I mean, like I that was the last
time I lived at home. Okay, Okay, I'm sorry. Yeah,
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and then we uh we moved out to Seattle and uh,
he was draft he was drafted by the Seahawks. We
moved out their first round big, big, it was big.
It was crazy. Yeah, the first rounder. And we went
out to Seattle and got was that Like that was crazy?
All of a sudden, You're going from these little hometowns.
First of all, you have like a college bank account,
and all of a sudden, I like, you're gonna sign
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and we're just like, what do we do? What do
we do? We don't have a house, we didn't have
a pot and pan, we didn't have a towel, we
have nothing, lived in a hotel. How does that feel that,
all of a sudden be able to buy a house,
to be able to buy all the things. It's just
scary and crazy, and because you just it's like real
life things like insurance and like I was like, I'm
twenty something years old. I have no idea. I have
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no idea. You just fake figure it out. But um,
we got engaged in October. We got married in Miami
the following off season, and we'll be married eighteen years,
twenty eight together. What's it like being and I love
you guys. I love um relationships that start young and
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then you both grow into successful people, because I think
there's all different ways to do it, but that's always
like a really special thing because you've seen each other
in every phase of life, like and like not knowing
this fourteen year old boy is going to go in
the NFL and then have the career that he did
and provide the life that we have and work so
hard and bash his head in for us every day.
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I mean, it's crazy. I didn't think i'd have two
healthy children. You just don't know. I'm so I'm blessed
beyond measure, and so maybe that's it. I mean maybe
by just sitting here and talking about this, it's like
I have no reason than to be extremely happy at
all times, Like I am so fortunate and I feel
so lucky. And if I can put any kind of
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blessing on anybody else and to share this joy and
my energy, it's because I'm just so thankful that I haven't. Honestly,
I think you really just made me, like say that
out loud. I think that, but that is truly how
I feel. I I want to sprinkle it on everybody
that I can because you feel so. I feel I
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love it. I mean I'm waiting. I love my life.
I love myself. You love yourself, You're full of love.
All your buckets are full. Yes, I'm sure there's hard things,
but you don't for one second don't realize that you're blessed. No,
I realize every single day how lucky I am. I
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think that's crucial is to really be aware of your blessings.
And I think for people listening who don't feel maybe
so blessed, there is something that everyone is blessed. We
all are mere walking around right now. I mean you
you're you're responsible for creating your own happiness. You you
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can look at things two ways, and just why not
look to the positive. There's positive in every single thing.
There's a flower in the crack of the sidewalk. I mean,
they're just is light everywhere, and I think you just
need to look for it. And I think sometimes it
gets clouded and we don't um but it's it's you.
Just I think that's if I could say one thing
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that everyone can just try to look. What do you
think using positivity does for a person? I think it's
my overall outlook. I feel like I just believe in
like manifesting it and putting out there and like karma
and just doing good. I just feel like because i've
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because I give so much and I want to do
for others, I feel like God continues to bless me. Honestly,
I really like I just keep wanting to do the good.
That's all I want to do. I'm a giver. I
don't need to receive a gift. I want to give
a gift. Like I if someone gets a new puppy,
I'm like, I'm gonna make him a gift basket. Like
I'm I'm like crazy person in that way. But I'm
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just like, I want to celebrate every bit of life's moments.
And I think that's just it, just it, that's all
I want to do. I I um, it brings you
joy to give? Yes, oh yes, I love giving making
people happy and surprising them him and it just makes
me want to do it more. How do you feel
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when you make someone's a day? I feel I mean,
how many times we said happy, but I feel happy.
I feel good. I feel like that could be one
of the boxes I checked. Like I always say this
to and I say, I've been talking about this to
my children just about like a compliment to a stranger.
It doesn't mean it's It's not a materialistic thing all
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the time. It's not like going out and buying something
for someone. It's giving them something. I mean with just
by using your words, Like how about if someone compliments
your hair or like you're cute jeans or whatever. It's
like you could take on the world. It's one small thing,
and you never know how someone's days going. So I
always feel like it's choosing to see something good in someone.
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It's choosing to see some every If you can, you
can mind everyone up, and you could find a good
thing about everybody, everybody, everybody. It's so true, I think
because I'm so close to the birth experience right now,
because I just had a baby. I'm just like it
is a mirror rickle me on this earth. And I
have been really working on my anxiety every day and
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with having her, because I have so much anxiety about
her life. And I'm just every day telling myself, this
is God's child. She is here on her purpose. She
has a purpose, just like we all have a purpose
because if we actually make it to this life, we
are supposed to be here. It is so freaking hard
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to get here, but it's also not because it's divine.
So if we're here, there's a reason. She's going to
be fine. She's gonna be fine, and whatever her walk
is is her walk. And so I look at all
these people and we hear all these stories, and there's
so much tragedy in the world, but like you said,
you can reframe everything. And if someone's in the middle
of something so god off right now, that's terrible. I
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feel for them more than anything. But there will be
a chance for redemption. And we have a choice to
have a great life and to use everything that happens
in our life as a blessing. And I know that's
a fact. And I always feel guilty because I'm I
feel a lot like you. I'm like, I feel very blessed,
I feel very thankful. So I don't want to sit
around and complain ever. But then I'm like, if people
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people might look at me and be like, well, that's
easy for you to say because you have this, I
say that a lot too, maybe to me, like, of
course you're happy, right, how do you? How do you know?
But I didn't always have the things that I have,
and I didn't have the upbringing like my children have
and I didn't have. So I I made a choice.
And that's one of the things that I say, making
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pretty choices. But that's that's not picking up a pretty
shirt or whatever. I mean, it's more about just making
pretty choices within those relationships and all of that. So
I made choices, and I wasn't set up for a
lot of this, but somehow I found my way to it.
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When you're making that choice, are you aware that you
have two ways to go every time? Like you could
choose the pretty choice or you could choose I don't
mean I don't know. Yeah, no, no, no, no, you're right.
I think I think there's a choice. Yeah. I definitely
am looking at both sides of it. And you're what's
the outcome if I go this way? What? I'm always
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weighing those decisions, um, And some some things are out
of your control. And and you know, with the good
comes to the bad for sure. And running a business,
when you get into a stressful situation, how do you
deal with stress? Like? What does stress look like? How
does it materialize in your life? And how do you
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deal with stress? Um? I can get overwhelmed, really quickly,
really quickly. I think I I'm better if I kind
of like narrow it down and put it in categories
and kind of like figure out what I need to
do and what's what needs to be done today, what
needs to be done tomorrow. I'm saying that because I'm
trying to be better at that, or sometimes if I
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go too big picture, it's just I can't sort it,
and then I'm like, I get and then I get emotional,
and then I I get quiet, and then I get
kind of mad, and then I start acting. I start
taking that out on the people around me, So that's
not good either. I feel like I very much respond,
and then I just want to be like, why don't
want to do any of it? And you want to
back away from it and pretty much oreos whole slave
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of them. No, but I'm learning a lot about being
a leader. I've never been in that position before, so now, well,
I don't know. I'm I think that I just at
the end of the day, I just remind myself I'm
a good person and I want good things for these people,
and I am grateful and super appreciative. I try to
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make sure they know that, and I tell them that
and I build them up. These are the ways I
know how to do it. I don't know if I'm
doing it right, but I I have now. Um, there's
fifteen of us beside the store and every Yeah, it's crazy.
So it's it's a real it's a real thing. Wow,
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it's a real thing. And so I overwhelming. It's amazing.
It's amazing. Look look at your your choices of viewing it.
It is amazing because what's crazy about it. I remember
just after we opened, we went out to dinner. I
took the team out to dinner and we're all sitting around,
all of us, and they're laughing and talking to one
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another and this and that, and I thought, oh my gosh.
Two months ago, these women didn't know each other, and
now look at the bond and the relationships they've made.
I'm most proud of my team. When I sit back
and look at living with Landon, I think like, oh
my gosh, look what I've done. And now comes responsibility.
I'm employing them, I'm paying them, I'm responsible for their
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livelihood in some way. I can't just be like, well, ship,
that was fun and throw it all away. People are investing,
they know well let's just say. I remember in the beginning,
it could be like, oh, well, if you don't want
to do it, you don't have to do it. Now
I'm like, I can't quit now. You got lutes on
the ground. I got boots on the ground. I have
people that you know, get up in the morning for me. So, um,
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I it's a big responsibility to carry that. And I
think sometimes from the outside of my like, oh, she's
you know, she's got a store, she got into this.
But I'm I'm carrying a lot and workers camp and
all of the insurance and the the forms and the
fire marshal. I mean, it's just there's a lot that
goes into I mean I did say in my mind
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like I'm gonna open a store and I'm gonna have
like a little register and I'm gonna wrap things and
it's gonna be so cute. I'm like, oh, ship, here
we are. But it is cute and it is pretty
and we do wrap a lot of things. So, um,
it's going really good. That's how has it been. So
it's been going on October eleven. Talk to me about
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what it has, how the waves of feelings and how
it's gone really well. I will tell you, opening a
store and buying for it and predicting is crazy. It's
it's hard. Um, I'd never have gambled. I mean, if
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I go to Vegas, I would sit by the pool
and get a great fruity cocktail and like, look at
all the lights. I'm not really I'll play like a
slot machine. But I've never been into gambling, so basically
it's buying, spending a lot of money gambling not knowing
if anyone's going to come or how it's going to go.
I mean, I'm fortunate enough to have an amazing um following. Um,
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these sweet women will get on a plane and come
to the store, and we had like the most fantastic
grand opening. I mean, they came out, they showed up
for me like nothing. I mean it was just so emotional.
It was incredible to think that you know, I'm in
their lives, you know, like enough to get to travel
(52:57):
to see someone that you really don't know, but spend
their money. Right And I say that, but in the
same sense, they do know me. I let them in
to like what color underwear I'm wearing, I mean, they
know everything about me. I was totally fascinated. Girl, if
I could, like, can we video this and I block it? Actually, like, well,
(53:19):
I don't know, that might be crossing the line. I'm like,
but the people want to see. I mean, I'm here
to share. I just things like that. I think using
my platform in that way is the best because that
might have reminded a girl to get her mammogram that
maybe wouldn't have and then God only knows. So to me,
I'm just a voice that can just hopefully make us
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think about things you know differently and make those pretty
choices called that mammogram, you know, get those things done.
But will that be your book title? Pretty choices? Making
pretty choices maybe? Or just living with landes, I mean
living with encompasses at all? Yeah, something, because you know,
books come eventually. Yeah. I actually did work on that
and then I put on the back burner. It all
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comes in the right season. I know. That's how last
year was not the time to open a store and
write a book. Let's do one thing at a time. Gosh,
I'm telling you, telling you, I truly believe that it
all flows when it's supposed to. Yeah, I think things
happen when they're supposed to. You can't force the timing. No,
you just have to let it roll. Like your website
and your blog, it blew up when it wanted to.
(54:25):
I mean, it happens like it's gonna happen. It's gonna happen.
If you're doing the work, It's going to happen, don't
you think I think so, I think so, I think so. Yeah,
I know. It's it's wild to think what's happened. What
a difference even a year makes because I went to
market just recently for the store, and it was like
a year ago to the day when I, Um, I
was like, I'm going to open a store, and now
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here we are year later, you did it. It's crazy.
It's like a blur. Do you feel like do you
feel like callings towards things like how do you know
what to buy for your store? Like is it just
like a connection all of a sudden, like that is
what I need? This feels right? Or how do you
know what well? Women will ask me a lot of
things about home interiors and just like clothing and jewelry,
and I mean I even have skin care for selling.
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They're like and it's basically a store made up of
my favorite things, and so um, I wanted to create
a space where they could come and like actually touch
and feel and be in that. And it was so
important to me that it looked a certain way. It
looked like me, it felt like me. I mean we
put in a mock kitchen. I've got like a living
room area, I've got a full closet. So I wanted
(55:28):
them to come in and actually live with land. And
so I want you to come in the kitchen, I
want you to shop in my home. I want you
to shop in my closet. And so that's how the
store is laid out. And it's kind of a unique thing.
I don't know if I've ever seen anything like it
would literally have a refrigerator and like a cabinets and
kitchen stuff and island and all the kitchen stuff. It's neat,
(55:49):
and then you can actually visualize it in your home,
like I have a coffee table, So we have all
the parts to style the coffee table, like the pretty
beans and the candle. You're not just on shelves out
so you can see and fresh flowers. And it's just
important to me. I wanted it to look a certain
way and really reflect the brand. And then um, yeah,
so it's just it's come. I mean, it's really come
(56:10):
to life, which is just wild. Do you think because
you're following your heart so much, you have such good intentions,
such light intentions, such helpful intentions, And do you think
because you've just followed that vibe, that intentions, those feelings
of goodness, that it's all working out in this way
(56:31):
for you? I think so. I'm just I'm trying to
do I'm trying to make make good choices, and all
I can do is be me and like pick the
things that I love, the things that I truly would
have in my home. And I think I didn't answer
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this earlier for you, but it kind of maybe goes
back to this. You know. Um, people were in the beginning,
We're like, what are you gonna buy? What's going to
be in it? And I'm like, I'm going to try
on every piece of clothing. I'm gonna find that greatest
white T shirt and I'm gonna find that dainty, you
know necklace that we would all love. They're not dialing
it in, Yeah, no, not at all. I Mean market's
a blast. I mean it's fun to go. It's it's exhausting,
(57:14):
but it's it's fun to shop. And I remember getting
into a couple of showrooms and I really love a
very um kind of modern chic, very clean, crisp fresh look.
There's really no color in my store. Everything is very neutral,
but that's what appeals to me. And so the woman
was like, well, you know, I know you love the
white this and the white that, and the nude and
(57:35):
the cream and whatever. Um, but we have it in green.
And I was like, And at first I was like, well,
maybe I should buy it in green. What if someone
want to wear it in green or whatever? And then
I was like, no, this is this is my this
is what they love, and this is what they ask
and they kind of love what I love. And that's
what I wanted to create, was that spaceically didn't experience.
(57:57):
And so it is truly the only things I would
have in my home, put on my body, my salad
out of I mean, it is, I mean, and it's
just been that makes it easier. You can stay true.
There's I mean, I'm like, Nope, that's ugly. I wouldn't
buy it, and so I don't. I don't buy it.
I'm let me say this. I am not I am
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not in this to sell anything. And that might sound
really crazy coming from someone that owns a store. I
don't care. I of course want to stay in business,
but I also want you to come in experience it.
Have a glass of wine. We only serve white wine
because I don't want it red anywhere. I'm like, don't
spill anything in here. Everything's white. But um, I want
you to come in and have an experience. It is
(58:42):
a place to touch and feel the brand. I don't
know if I'm going to open ten more stores or
anything like that. I'd love to go online. We're actually
in the middle of working on that right now, which
is super exciting. But I just wanted you to come
in and have a good time and walk out with
something you really love and if you don't see it
that day, then come back. But I I and even
(59:03):
with my Instagram and like you know, people ask my opinion,
like what do I where to a summer wedding, and
then I'll do a post on summer wedding dresses. I'm
not saying by these dresses, I mean, if something appeals you,
this is what I would wear to a wedding. This
is what I love, this is what I love and
If you love it too, then great. Here's the link
to the store that sells it. But other than that,
I'm I never got into this for the money. I
(59:26):
never got into this for any kind of success in
that way. I just I just yeah, honestly, just to help.
I'm having a revelation about you. You are. This is
why I really think people love you is because you
do everything because you love it. And love is so powerful.
And we all want love. Whether someone acts like they
(59:47):
don't want love or not, or they're just gonna be
bitter or whatever, they do want love. Everyone wants left.
That's our innate being. That's why we can. We need
we need it. You have identified and you live how
all do have love in your marriage and have true
love through hard times, through transitions. You've identified how to
have love with your children and have true love through
(01:00:08):
hard times and transitions transitions. You've identified how to love
yourself what it takes for you to love yourself, and
you do that, you commit to it, You commit to love,
and all these areas have I gotta cry. We're all
gonna cry. I almost wanted to cry three time so far.
So I'm trying to keep it together, just like I
think I'm extra Homemronloso. I'll blame it all that, But like,
(01:00:28):
we all want to figure out how to have love
in our lives and we're looking for someone to show us.
And you have committed to love fiercely in your life
and you are living that. You are living with land,
and you should just add in love. But like, even
though even through your struggles and hard times, like when
you get overwhelmed stuff, you're still coming back to love.
(01:00:50):
You're still motivated by love, You're still choosing love and
everything you do. And we all want that and we
need people to show us how we all deserve it.
But you're showing us away. And I think that that
is so important in this life, and I think that's
why people love you. I really do thank you well.
(01:01:10):
You know, it's such an interesting platform. You can do
so many things with it, you know, this influencer or
whatever they're calling it, I don't think of it like that.
I just think I am the girlfriend that you didn't
know you needed. And I want that connection with you,
and I want to love on you and I want
to help you in any way. And quite honestly, as
much as I give to these women, the direct messages
(01:01:31):
and the emails and the responses that come through to me.
It's incredible. I mean every day I'm touched by a
number of stories, a number. I had a woman that
came up to me at one of my events that
was like she started crying. I started crying and she's like,
I had the I had battled some really heavy postpartum depression.
(01:01:53):
And she said, you don't know, but you got me
through it. You were the one I was watching your stories,
you were making your dinner and doing this, and you
didn't even know who I was, but you took me
away from that and you got me through it on
the daily and I, you know, I want to thank
you for that and just different. There was a woman
um in Seattle, mother daughter, they lost their dad and
(01:02:14):
they wanted to start a new tradition at Christmas and
they went out and bought a new tree and they
bought all gold and white ornaments and they're like Landing
would love this. And they did this whole like living
with landon Christmas because they had something that they shared together.
They'd always talk about me, you know, like do you
see who Landon did? And they just made this connection
and like got through the passing of their dad. I mean,
it was just like all these things that I don't
(01:02:36):
even realize who I'm touching, and it's so beautiful. I mean,
I feel so lucky to be doing whatever this is called,
um and and probably just like called to it in
some way. I definitely, I definitely definitely feel like I
am doing what I meant to be doing. And you know,
you go down different path. Your nurse, you're this, you
(01:02:57):
stay at home mom, You're doing all this and then
I don't know somehow how I was just draw into this,
but um, how do you think? How do you think
you get to where you're supposed to be, because that
I feel like a lot. I think you need to
take you need to I think you're just you need
to get on the road and you're gonna get off
and you're gonna get back on. But I think all
of those exits and re entries like create the path
(01:03:21):
you're supposed to be on. I wouldn't be sitting here
right now without every experience that I went through every life,
lesson the divorce, the relationship or lack thereof, with my dad,
that this that that the way I love my husband,
the way his transition through the career. What that all
is looking like? What I mean not connecting with my daughter.
She was five months old before I was like, I
(01:03:42):
don't even know if I love this child. I mean,
all these raw conversations that women need to be having.
I had to go through all that to figure out
who I was and to know how to love and
how to so I think you just need to get
on and while you're in it sometimes, you know, I
wrote in my high school your book was funny. I
was looking through something the other day and I had
(01:04:03):
written my quote was everything happens for a reason. And
I wrote that when I was sixteen years old, seventeen
years old. But that's just the way I always thought
about things. I'm like, it kind of really sucks when
you're in it when it's not the right thing, but
it is the right thing. We've got to go through
every single thing and get that experience and take that
knowledge and the heartache and the tears. All of it
(01:04:26):
make us who we are. We're all that's that's how
we're made up. How do you know when it's time
to move on from something? And how do you know
where to go next? For me, I'm such a creative person.
So I sit in here and I'm like, Okay, I've
got the store, which is so fun, But what do
I what really fuels me? I did a I taught
a class at St. Cecilia's um last week or so,
(01:04:48):
and I sat and stood in front of um, these
high school student girls. And the class was to be
about like fashion and creating a capsule wardrobe and like
what you need every woman needs in their closet. It
but at the end of the day, it wasn't about
the clothes. It was about women being heard, and these
girls being heard. And there was a gal, a girl
(01:05:08):
um in the front of the class that spoke up
because I have a teenage daughter. And I asked these students,
I said, UM, what can I do? I told you
a lot of things today, but what can I do?
What can you teach me what? I asked the girls
And they're all fifteen, sixteen years old? I said, I
have a daughter also, and I would love to know, like,
can I be doing something better as a mother, as
(01:05:28):
a woman, Like what is it that you need from me?
And she said, I wish I was heard. Listen. I
bawled for three days. I bawled on my answers story
that might start balling again, but it just made me
just like heard, yeah, She's like, well, my mom will
kind of rush through what I'm saying and be like okay,
and I write them was like, oh my gosh, we're
(01:05:49):
all guilty of that um and be like okay because
we all just are so busy and it's like, why
gonna get dinner on the table? I can't hear you
right now? And and then I thought to myself, gosh,
is she even heard it home or she heard amongst
her peers and like just wanting to be heard. And
it was just this emotional thing that came over me.
And I went right home and I was like, do
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I listen to my own daughter enough? Do I? You know,
it was a beautiful reminder. I walked in the door
and said to my son, where's dad? You know, I
just gotten home from the day. And he's like, he's
in the bedroom. I walked in there and here's crying,
and he said, you know what, I was just listening
to your story and I don't do I listen? I mean,
it was the most beautiful moment coming from a fifteen
(01:06:34):
year old girl that didn't know me and to speak
up and tell me something that she needed. And so
when you just asked me, like what do I want
to do next? I literally got in the car and
like bawling mess thinking like I need to go. Somebody,
if it's not me, needs to go on this like
school tour across America talking to young women about being
heard and like what they want and just like a
(01:06:56):
mother is it a mother daughter a little class, like
this is the way mine mine works now, Like I
just want to do good things, helpful things like changing
the world in some small little way or giving women
a voice or I don't know, but that's just the
way I think. So you just take an experience and
then I'm like there's a need here when you feel it,
like oh I feel it to this, I still feel it,
(01:07:18):
and I think like I gotta do something with that.
And I felt like God put me, They called me
to come in and do that teaching guest teaching things,
and it's like but why did I mean? I felt
like God had a plan that that girl was going
to ask me that, and it made me led me
to something else. You know, I know, I know we
need to wrap up because you haven't we got a
(01:07:39):
haircut and get a haircut? Or at an hour and five, Holy,
he's gotta go get that hair get I could talk
to you all day. Oh my god, I have so
many things I want to keep talking about. But we'll
do it again podcast because you're starting a potastc as
you need more things. And yeah, I don't know. I
don't know another thing. But I love having conversations just
like this, and I feel like I'm just drawn to it.
(01:07:59):
I'm like, I could just talk all day. I'm just
so curious. I love to know the way people live.
I have so many questions I want to ask you,
you know, and I love some of your podcasts. Please
have me on yes, So I just it's it's it's
another thing that I feel drawn to, and I think
I would. I would really enjoy you will and you're
gonna be amazing at it, and you're gonna help people,
just like you're helping in every take a chance. See,
(01:08:20):
it's all about taking a chance. And it fails miserably,
I'll be like, well, ship, that was fun. It's not
going to fail because if people whoever needs to hear
it is going to hear it. It's gonna be out
there in the world and it's gonna touch who needs.
I love what you're doing too, and I'm I'm proud
of you and the way you put yourself out there.
And it's not easy, you know what though, And I'm
sure this is how you feel. This outlet has turned
(01:08:41):
into so much more. To me. I kind of just
started it. I didn't know what I was doing. Like everybody,
like I think we both can encourage anyone to just
start if you feel called, like a burning desire in
your heart to do something just started. This has led
me to so much joy into so many relationships with
women because I've gotten to have intimate conversations with someone
like you. And it's like, I can't just call you
(01:09:03):
up and just say, hey, can I come over and
talk to you for an hour about your most intimate
stuff in life if there's no reason for it. But
because of this podcast, I've gotten to know people women
and it has just blessed Can I imagine like I
feel like I will. I'm I'm excited to get something
out of everyone's life, Like I'm curious about you because
I know you could teach me something. I feel like
(01:09:24):
we could all teach each other something exactly, and it
might be a little thing that seems silly to us
that we just do. But people want I think people
want to know. I want to be let a little
bit and people want to know. And it makes you
feel not alone, and it makes you realize that like
I look at you and you're this beautiful, bright light
in the world, but like you have your journey. We
all have ship. But it makes you realize it's another podcast, right, yeah,
(01:09:47):
tells all the bad things have to you know, actually
a good one. It is a good idea. Yeah, it's
just I think people really are like, oh, she's it's
all together over there, but but you share and then
you realize nobody has their ship together all away. We're
all just doing the best we can. We are all
having individual struggles, and it's so nice to be able
to just have a real conversation and be like, I'm
(01:10:07):
doing the best I can. Here's what I'm doing. This
is working. This hasn't I failed here, I up here
like I'm and I mean, I I cry, I mean
all of it. I mean I do. I'm human. So
then you're like, here are my tips that work for me?
This is what actually I got out of it. Yeah, exactly,
and we need we need that in our lives, and
so for women like you to be sharing that and
to be vulnerable. And then I just feel so blessed
(01:10:30):
that I get to have conversations because it teaches me
and I'm like, okay, God, I feel so inspired after
a conversation like this, you know, so I know what
true aspiring others. It's just blessed my life. And I
can't wait for you just to keep expanding and expanding
because you're just spreading that love. Thank you. Okay, So
I leave every podcast with leave your Light, Leave your Light?
(01:10:52):
What do you want people to know? I think I
told them you did leave my life. You wanted to
summon up. Oh gosh. Um, I think we'll go back
to making pretty choices. I think, Um, with everything that
you do, you can stand there and look at it
on both hands and really decide, like to either maybe
in the situation, it's take the high road, or maybe
(01:11:15):
it's you know, do something for yourself, or you know,
if you're staying there at Target and you got a
black rubber s bachelor or pretty gold one, maybe pick
the gold one, you know what I mean? I think
it gets down to you can apply that to so
many You can apply that to every situation in life.
You really can, and it it's it does, it does,
And I think just making some pretty choices could maybe
(01:11:37):
just add some light to your life. I love that. Actually,
one more question, how do you deal with the pain?
If you get hit with a pain punch or like
the pain of the world or something heavy, how do
you deal with that and get back to the light? Um,
it'll definitely, it'll definitely ruin my day. Like I'm human,
I'm lucky and blessed to not have very much negativity
(01:12:01):
on this platform. Like I think there's a lot of
like minded women, but of course there's always a few
in the bunch, which I call Peggy, And that's just,
you know, just the negative wants to find the bad
and everything, and I think they spend a lot of
time and I honestly don't have the time or energy
or that's not how I want to spend my time.
But when that does happen, or someone says a nasty
comment or you know whatever, um, it will set me back.
(01:12:25):
Sometimes sometimes you can brush it off and you're like, okay,
but you really start to be like, why did they
say that? Is that what they really think? And then
you start to go back and forth and analyze and
what's going on. Yeah, but that's just it. I that
I get back to Will maybe she's just not having
a great day. I'm not going to fuel the fire.
I'm just going to honestly probably just not address it.
I can't let it consume my life. I don't. I
(01:12:47):
want to put my energy into good things, good things,
and so I just kind of, you know, just kind
of take a deep breath and just think she's having
a bad day. I'm just gonna leave it at that,
and I'm gonna go on with my day, good or bad. Yeah,
I don't know. Sometimes it just stinks. I know, you listen,
(01:13:08):
I always say, like you got to go through the
ship to get to the rainbow. You do. Sometimes some
days you know, they're not all they're not all perfect.
And I love that you're taking this on the road
sometimes like that. You go out and you speak to
women and it's my favorite has that just been So
that's the best things to be in it and their
energy and to meet them and to travel and see
(01:13:29):
different parts of the country and how people live and
like their values and just like I love the Midwest
girls and I love the California girls, and then go
to Dallas where everything is bigger and closer to God,
and then there's like New York and it's just it's
so fun. There's so many different women. But I will
tell you one thing, and this is the wrap up,
because you got to go. This is the truth it.
Every single woman that follows me, I swear you can
(01:13:52):
pick them out of a lineup. They just all dressed
the same, look the same, act, act the same. They're happy,
they're I'd want to have drinks with every single one
of them. They are like there so fun, They're just
like the best women. They're like girlfriends that I would have,
so I can see why they find me a girlfriend.
And so it's so interesting. Anytime I go, I'm like,
(01:14:13):
I love it. I had a girl today in the
store that the store wasn't open. She knocked because she
was from Florida, and she's like, I've been dying to
get here, and I said get in here, and I
locked the door behind her. I'm like, come on in
and she's like, no, who are you sure? And I said, yes,
oh my god, you came from Florida. Get your grass
in here. But it's fun. I love it, Lant And
I really think you're impacting the world in such amazing
(01:14:37):
I'm doing the best that I know how to do. Well,
you're doing it. I'm doing it. I'm trying right there
following it. You're falling love and you're blessing us all
and I'm so grateful having a chance to talk to you.
Thank you, and I'm so glad. I'm glad to meet
all your sweet followers and friends. And I know you've
got a lot of wonderful women listening, So I'm so happy.
Pretty much a PC women that follow my podcast, I'm
(01:14:59):
like nineties six with four percent men. Yeah, they're only
looking for a gift idea of when they get smart,
I rescue them out of they're smart. The more man
should actually do that. But it's so great to be
in a community of women and we're lucky you try
to go. But like I know you love your women friends,
You're so a friend. On top of it, I love
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my friends and that's another thing I love about you.
And you got to invest in those relationships because they'll
get you through the thick and the thin. That was
one of my marriage rules. Don't bitch to your husband,
bitch to your girlfriends. That's really smart, hey, because your
husband doesn't really even I don't even if they know
what to do with us. And also they're gonna come
in and it's like, do they really care if Jimmy
(01:15:42):
or Timmy spilled his apple sauce on your couch? And Jesse,
you got a bit to your friends. You want you
want your home to be a place that they want
to come home to. You can't hit them when they
walk in the door with the nagging and the this
and the that. Like I'm sure they might have had
a shitty day to maybe a business proposal didn't get through,
and you know, I don't know. I just I just
tried to always be like, Okay, I'm just gonna save that.
(01:16:03):
We're gonna have this initial like coming in the door,
and then um, then I'll hit him with them later
maybe maybe maybe it's not really even necessary, But I
feel that same way because I want to talk everything
out and feel it and I want to go through
it all. But like I would rather do that with
a girlfriend because they're on the same wave length as me.
They probably went through the same thing, and so they'll
talk it out. Guy does not want to go down
(01:16:25):
that players to women and men are just like black
and white, let's fix it. And they're just like, well,
tell me the problem so I can fix it. And
you're like, well, well it's because I was feeling like that.
And then they're gonna be They're gonna You're gonna lose them.
Just like when they tell you about the fishing lure,
You're like, I don't really care. I don't. I don't
give two ships about that fishing lure. So I think they,
I mean, bless their hearts, but I don't know if
they really care or they care, but I don't think
(01:16:47):
they understand that they can't go deep with you. But
you have such a big tribe of girls, and y'all
are all badasses and you'll all support each other, and
it is I all love. I just realized the other
day that I have you know how they say like
you'll have a hand five friends in your lifetime that
you can really and it is so true. I just
have this like I can hold them all in one
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hand and I'll never let them go. I mean, I
love it fiercely. I think it's amazing, And I think it's,
like you said, so important to have those women in
your life where they're not going to hold you accountable
if you call and have to bitch about your husband
for a second, because I know you love him, but
you can just get it out, work it out, get
really good advice. Don't have someone good down the rabbit
hole with you. Let you go down the rabbit hole
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for a second and then they help you come out
and hear out ways to like You're like okay, You're like, okay,
that's so bad. I feel better. Thank you, bye, everyone, everyone.
Check out everything she has at living with Landing dot com,
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but if not, you have to thank you. You're a
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bright light. Thank you. This was so fun. That's the fight.