July 3, 2025 • 11 mins
In this bonus episode of Get Real, Rebecca Lynn Howard joins Caroline to answer some deep questions. Some of the questions include: How would you describe what you believe your life's purpose is? When was a recent moment in which you felt deeply happy? What are you pretty sure you could never get tired of?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Adae. Carrie Lyne. She's a queen and talking song.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
She's getting not afraid to feel this episode soul.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Just let it flow.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
No one can do we quiet Cary Lone is sounding Carolyne.
All right, now we are back with Rebecca Lynn Howard.
We went through your whole life story.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
I feel like it what a story about you?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Pat, I know right it is after one of these conversations.
It's literally, let me go to the depths of your soul.
I need to know everything about you. But you've put
on a journey from two thousand and two when you
came out with Forgive to touring with Stephen Tyler. The
Loving Mary, the Loving Mary band, uh huh, And that
was actually named after a person.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Yeah, Mary Loving who an honor to be named the
band named Mary. So she's yeah, she's a uh, heavy
hitter in the music business, has been for decades and
and just one of our dear friends. And the way
I came up with that name, you came up with it. Yep.
She had sent me an email and when I opened
(01:13):
up my email, it had her name flipped backwards with
a karma, Yeah, loving Karma Mary, And I was like,
that's the band name. You just knew it. I just
knew it. Told the guys and they and the girls,
and they loved it.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Was Mary loving. So honored that you're honored.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
Yeah, she loves our band.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Well, I mean i'd hope.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
So, yeah, she's one of our biggest things. Tyler. Oh yeah,
I mean, oh yeah, his touring Steven loves her too.
I mean, how luck?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I mean, I guess that's not luck. That's the cosmic universe.
Bring that's fair. But like, what are the chances of
just randomly having a band named after you and not
even really having a tie to the band?
Speaker 4 (01:50):
I know, but we were actively looking for a band name.
I A band name is no joke, it really isn't.
And it just but things like that happened to me
a lot. I feel like I have the gift of
finding things. Oh that's a good gift, you know. And
I found the band name. Oh did it feels so
good to find keys? I can find.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Phones, you find it.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
I just have the gift of finding finds it.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Okay, So now we're going to find some answers out
from these questions. So y'all, if y'all, that was just
a taste of what we talked about Rebecca and Howard
has lived quite the life. Incredible songwriter, got the Trisha
Yearwood single out right now you're going on the stag
show Girls Night is not in your album. I'm not
who you think I am is out lots. I mean,
what a story you've lived. Okay, So now we're going
to have some tell me more. So pick a few
cards that speak to you.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
All right, we'll pick that one. How many you want
me to pick?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Just what?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Maybe one or two more? Whatever you feel?
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Okay, drawing to Okay, Okay, now let's see what they say?
All right? Read them? Oh you want me to? H Okay?
How would you describe what you believe your life's purpose is?
How would you describe what you believe your life's purpose is?
That's because I don't know if I have really discovered
(03:04):
my life's purpose yet. Okay, isn't that funny?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
What do you think it might be?
Speaker 4 (03:09):
I don't know. I feel like I'm on the precipice
of finding it out. I feel like there's a shift,
not necessarily like from one thing to another, but maybe
a shift into the next level, or like an addition
to what I'm already doing. But I feel like everything
I've gone through in the last three years of my
(03:31):
life is not going to be for nothing, and I
feel like that's going to have something to do with
where my journey is going. And so that's what I
would say. I'm not really one hundred percent sure what
my full life's purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Is yet, but baby, it's just to live, to live
it out.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
And to help people, you know, and whether that be
through conversation, whether that be through songwriting, warming you know,
that's just always my heart. Like if you could look
inside my heart, you would just see like a helper's heart.
I just want to help, you know, It's like, let
me fix it. I've always been that way, even growing
(04:15):
up in school, Like my friends would always call me
for advice. My mom she would just laugh at me.
She's like, you have great advice for other people, you
ought to listen to your advice for yourself. So I
think that's what it is is, to help people.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I love that.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Yeah, Okay, let's see what you got NXT. Okay, if
you could be famous for something, what would you want
it to be? Hmm, Well, I feel like that's a
trick question.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
You already are famous for music and singing and writing
songs and touring the world.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
But if it were for something different, let's just say that,
if I could be famous for something besides that, yeah,
I would say. And I don't want to seem come
across like you know, some guru want to be but honestly,
like the legacy I want to leave behind is that
I was good to people and that I just you know,
(05:07):
made people feel loved and wanted and valued and all
the good things you do.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
That.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Thank you, Glen Howard, Thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
That's amazing. Okay, let's see what you got.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Okay, when was a recent moment in which you felt
deeply happy? Hmm? Okay, this one's a little tougher, just
because I have been in such a season of grief.
(05:40):
But I will say that when when Girls Not In
was cut and released and all of these things that
are happening around this song, I'm just so overjoyed for
Tricia too, because she's finally made the album that she's
(06:02):
always wanted to make. She co wrote every single song
on her new album. That's incredible, and she's been a
songwriter all these years and just never did it. And
I'm very proud of her because she's an amazing songwriter. Girls'
Night In was her title. Wow, And you know, because
you've written songs, it's like when you get a great title, man,
(06:24):
they just write themselves. And I feel like she laid
golden chips in my lap that day when we walked
in and she had this song title. So everything around
this song right now, I'm just I'm really giddy about it.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
And Dolly Parton going on TikTok and.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
Word have mercy hit the floor. She was just tik
talking about Girls Night In.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
What a great champion and amazing just to speak about
something she loves like that.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
Yes, Wow, Dolly's the best. And I've sung on Dolly's
records in the past and and have worked with her,
But I mean, that never gets old when Dolly Parton
says something about your song? Are you kidding me? I
called Rachel. We were both trying to I was trying
(07:10):
to pick her up off of the floor and she's
trying to scoop me up off the floor over the phone.
She's like, I can't get up. I'm like, neither can I.
So I've really let myself get excited about this.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
You know you should.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
Yeah, I'm going to I'm just going all in.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
I love it. Let yourself go all in.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
I am.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
You deserve it, I am.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Okay, let's see the last one.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Okay, what are you pretty sure you could never get
tired of dogs? I'm glad because you walked in here, and.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I know right. I mean, dogs are just a gift
to this earth.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
They really are such unconditional love. And when I got
my first dog, I don't know how long you'd been
following me, if you ever knew about Tricksy, but she
was my first dog that I ever got, just she
was just just mine, mama's girl. I got her when
(08:18):
I was nineteen and she lived to be almost nineteen
years old. And so that was really tough, you know,
because my whole adult life was with was with her.
That's the thing.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Dogs marks such seasons of your life.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
God, And it was everything too.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
It was all my moves, all of the first record
deal and losing the record deal and then getting another one,
and all of the successes in all of the letdowns
and marriage divorce.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Who's you divorce?
Speaker 4 (08:53):
My first husband?
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (08:55):
I was married before I was married, before I told
you I'm open book.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Oh my god, are you married the first time? About
eight years, I think, okay, yeah, and then just said nope, Yeah,
it just didn't work out. Okay, but you and Alicia
have been Yeah, so we've saying that. Yeah, I know
Iritia's marriage. I think you were mentioning it, but I
think I breeze pasted it.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
We just have a mutual respect and we talk.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
I feel like that may have been one of the
things in my first marriage. I just the communication. I
just didn't talk. I really didn't know how to be married. Yeah,
I thought I did, I just didn't.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
I mean, it's not easy. No, marriage is not for
the faint of heart. It's amazing, and it's not for children.
It's not it's so many children get married.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
But you know, it will trial run. It was a
good experience. Yeah, and I don't regret anything, So that's amazing. Yeah,
it took me a few years to get there, but
you know, there's no ill feelings.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
And Tricksy was there the whole time.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
Trixy was there the whole time she's and she he's
been where. She was my baby, you know, and I
had my identity wrapped up in her, you know, because
I was Trixy's mom. I was her mama. But I've
had several dogs since, a couple other little men pens,
and then my daddy's dog. We had him for like
(10:18):
fourteen months. He lived another year and two months after
Daddy passed away, and he was seventeen. I grow dogs
real old, and then I lost one at twenty years old.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
I mean, just we're really good to our dogs because
they're really good to us. You know that love is
just there's nothing. There's a great song and a cute,
the cutest little animation. You can look it up on YouTube.
I can't remember the lady's name off the top of
my head, but the song is called God and.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Dog because you know, God's sold backward as dog.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
That's it, and that's in the song, and it's so sweet,
and I ball every time time I watched this little
animation because if you are a dog lover and you
watch this and you listen to the song, it just
speaks to you because it's it's one hundred percent the truth.
They are just the greatest little gifts.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
They are Amen. Rebecca and Howard, you are absolutely amazing.
Thank you for coming on and joining me. I'm not
who you think I am as out right now as
well as girls night entrants, I mean rocking and rolling.
Your life is amazing. Just love you so much.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
I love you too, honey. Thank you for having a today.
This is the best it was.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Okay, bye bye
Adae. Carrie Lyne. She's a queen and talking song.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
She's getting not afraid to feel this episode soul.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Just let it flow.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
No one can do we quiet Cary Lone is sounding Carolyne.
All right, now we are back with Rebecca Lynn Howard.
We went through your whole life story.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
I feel like it what a story about you?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Pat, I know right it is after one of these conversations.
It's literally, let me go to the depths of your soul.
I need to know everything about you. But you've put
on a journey from two thousand and two when you
came out with Forgive to touring with Stephen Tyler. The
Loving Mary, the Loving Mary band, uh huh, And that
was actually named after a person.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
Yeah, Mary Loving who an honor to be named the
band named Mary. So she's yeah, she's a uh, heavy
hitter in the music business, has been for decades and
and just one of our dear friends. And the way
I came up with that name, you came up with it. Yep.
She had sent me an email and when I opened
(01:13):
up my email, it had her name flipped backwards with
a karma, Yeah, loving Karma Mary, And I was like,
that's the band name. You just knew it. I just
knew it. Told the guys and they and the girls,
and they loved it.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Was Mary loving. So honored that you're honored.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
Yeah, she loves our band.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Well, I mean i'd hope.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
So, yeah, she's one of our biggest things. Tyler. Oh yeah,
I mean, oh yeah, his touring Steven loves her too.
I mean, how luck?
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I mean, I guess that's not luck. That's the cosmic universe.
Bring that's fair. But like, what are the chances of
just randomly having a band named after you and not
even really having a tie to the band?
Speaker 4 (01:50):
I know, but we were actively looking for a band name.
I A band name is no joke, it really isn't.
And it just but things like that happened to me
a lot. I feel like I have the gift of
finding things. Oh that's a good gift, you know. And
I found the band name. Oh did it feels so
good to find keys? I can find.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
Phones, you find it.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
I just have the gift of finding finds it.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Okay, So now we're going to find some answers out
from these questions. So y'all, if y'all, that was just
a taste of what we talked about Rebecca and Howard
has lived quite the life. Incredible songwriter, got the Trisha
Yearwood single out right now you're going on the stag
show Girls Night is not in your album. I'm not
who you think I am is out lots. I mean,
what a story you've lived. Okay, So now we're going
to have some tell me more. So pick a few
cards that speak to you.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
All right, we'll pick that one. How many you want
me to pick?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Just what?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Maybe one or two more? Whatever you feel?
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Okay, drawing to Okay, Okay, now let's see what they say?
All right? Read them? Oh you want me to? H Okay?
How would you describe what you believe your life's purpose is?
How would you describe what you believe your life's purpose is?
That's because I don't know if I have really discovered
(03:04):
my life's purpose yet. Okay, isn't that funny?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
What do you think it might be?
Speaker 4 (03:09):
I don't know. I feel like I'm on the precipice
of finding it out. I feel like there's a shift,
not necessarily like from one thing to another, but maybe
a shift into the next level, or like an addition
to what I'm already doing. But I feel like everything
I've gone through in the last three years of my
(03:31):
life is not going to be for nothing, and I
feel like that's going to have something to do with
where my journey is going. And so that's what I
would say. I'm not really one hundred percent sure what
my full life's purpose.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Is yet, but baby, it's just to live, to live
it out.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
And to help people, you know, and whether that be
through conversation, whether that be through songwriting, warming you know,
that's just always my heart. Like if you could look
inside my heart, you would just see like a helper's heart.
I just want to help, you know, It's like, let
me fix it. I've always been that way, even growing
(04:15):
up in school, Like my friends would always call me
for advice. My mom she would just laugh at me.
She's like, you have great advice for other people, you
ought to listen to your advice for yourself. So I
think that's what it is is, to help people.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I love that.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Yeah, Okay, let's see what you got NXT. Okay, if
you could be famous for something, what would you want
it to be? Hmm, Well, I feel like that's a
trick question.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
You already are famous for music and singing and writing
songs and touring the world.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
But if it were for something different, let's just say that,
if I could be famous for something besides that, yeah,
I would say. And I don't want to seem come
across like you know, some guru want to be but honestly,
like the legacy I want to leave behind is that
I was good to people and that I just you know,
(05:07):
made people feel loved and wanted and valued and all
the good things you do.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
That.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Thank you, Glen Howard, Thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
That's amazing. Okay, let's see what you got.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
Okay, when was a recent moment in which you felt
deeply happy? Hmm? Okay, this one's a little tougher, just
because I have been in such a season of grief.
(05:40):
But I will say that when when Girls Not In
was cut and released and all of these things that
are happening around this song, I'm just so overjoyed for
Tricia too, because she's finally made the album that she's
(06:02):
always wanted to make. She co wrote every single song
on her new album. That's incredible, and she's been a
songwriter all these years and just never did it. And
I'm very proud of her because she's an amazing songwriter. Girls'
Night In was her title. Wow, And you know, because
you've written songs, it's like when you get a great title, man,
(06:24):
they just write themselves. And I feel like she laid
golden chips in my lap that day when we walked
in and she had this song title. So everything around
this song right now, I'm just I'm really giddy about it.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
And Dolly Parton going on TikTok and.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
Word have mercy hit the floor. She was just tik
talking about Girls Night In.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
What a great champion and amazing just to speak about
something she loves like that.
Speaker 4 (06:49):
Yes, Wow, Dolly's the best. And I've sung on Dolly's
records in the past and and have worked with her,
But I mean, that never gets old when Dolly Parton
says something about your song? Are you kidding me? I
called Rachel. We were both trying to I was trying
(07:10):
to pick her up off of the floor and she's
trying to scoop me up off the floor over the phone.
She's like, I can't get up. I'm like, neither can I.
So I've really let myself get excited about this.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
You know you should.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
Yeah, I'm going to I'm just going all in.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
I love it. Let yourself go all in.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
I am.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
You deserve it, I am.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Okay, let's see the last one.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Okay, what are you pretty sure you could never get
tired of dogs? I'm glad because you walked in here, and.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I know right. I mean, dogs are just a gift
to this earth.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
They really are such unconditional love. And when I got
my first dog, I don't know how long you'd been
following me, if you ever knew about Tricksy, but she
was my first dog that I ever got, just she
was just just mine, mama's girl. I got her when
(08:18):
I was nineteen and she lived to be almost nineteen
years old. And so that was really tough, you know,
because my whole adult life was with was with her.
That's the thing.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Dogs marks such seasons of your life.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
God, And it was everything too.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
It was all my moves, all of the first record
deal and losing the record deal and then getting another one,
and all of the successes in all of the letdowns
and marriage divorce.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Who's you divorce?
Speaker 4 (08:53):
My first husband?
Speaker 2 (08:54):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (08:55):
I was married before I was married, before I told
you I'm open book.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Oh my god, are you married the first time? About
eight years, I think, okay, yeah, and then just said nope, Yeah,
it just didn't work out. Okay, but you and Alicia
have been Yeah, so we've saying that. Yeah, I know
Iritia's marriage. I think you were mentioning it, but I
think I breeze pasted it.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
We just have a mutual respect and we talk.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
I feel like that may have been one of the
things in my first marriage. I just the communication. I
just didn't talk. I really didn't know how to be married. Yeah,
I thought I did, I just didn't.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
I mean, it's not easy. No, marriage is not for
the faint of heart. It's amazing, and it's not for children.
It's not it's so many children get married.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
But you know, it will trial run. It was a
good experience. Yeah, and I don't regret anything, So that's amazing. Yeah,
it took me a few years to get there, but
you know, there's no ill feelings.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
And Tricksy was there the whole time.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
Trixy was there the whole time she's and she he's
been where. She was my baby, you know, and I
had my identity wrapped up in her, you know, because
I was Trixy's mom. I was her mama. But I've
had several dogs since, a couple other little men pens,
and then my daddy's dog. We had him for like
(10:18):
fourteen months. He lived another year and two months after
Daddy passed away, and he was seventeen. I grow dogs
real old, and then I lost one at twenty years old.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
I mean, just we're really good to our dogs because
they're really good to us. You know that love is
just there's nothing. There's a great song and a cute,
the cutest little animation. You can look it up on YouTube.
I can't remember the lady's name off the top of
my head, but the song is called God and.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Dog because you know, God's sold backward as dog.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
That's it, and that's in the song, and it's so sweet,
and I ball every time time I watched this little
animation because if you are a dog lover and you
watch this and you listen to the song, it just
speaks to you because it's it's one hundred percent the truth.
They are just the greatest little gifts.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
They are Amen. Rebecca and Howard, you are absolutely amazing.
Thank you for coming on and joining me. I'm not
who you think I am as out right now as
well as girls night entrants, I mean rocking and rolling.
Your life is amazing. Just love you so much.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
I love you too, honey. Thank you for having a today.
This is the best it was.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Okay, bye bye
Host
Caroline Hobby
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