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(00:00):
Okay, here we go, bigweekend. What are we all doing for
our moms or the moms in ourlives? You know what I'm saying.
People that represent the Mama ship,if you will, it's Chris, Kay
and Sam another episode up. Itell you what I would just like to
if my mother was still here andI missed my mother dearly, I would
(00:20):
like to apologize for all of thestuff that I did, But I want
her to know that she only knowsabout half of it, so we'll just
leave it at that. Are yougoing to apologize for the other half?
She doesn't. No, just complain. I'll apologize, but she does.
You know, there's like, there'sa bunch of stuff. I think she
forgives you. What's on that list? Oh my gosh, really well,
(00:44):
I just want to know one whippingUh, let's just say, donuts in
her car, um, jumping hercar. Yeah, I jumped thanks,
um taking the moped out and jumpingthe moped. It was my dad's moped,
but I was jumping garbage cans.Do you break it? No?
(01:06):
No? No? After that,it didn't start right. My dad couldn't
figure out why. Yeah. Inever got credit for that one though.
That was good. They never fathomfor a second that I would take the
moped out of the garage at twoo'clock in the morning and jump card or
jump trash cans with my friends,because you can't really hear a moped.
They're not that loud, so atnight, it's not like it's that big
(01:27):
of a deal. The crickets arelouder than the moped where we took it.
But it was stupidly right in frontof the dog on house where we
did it. Do you think thatshe did know and just never said anything
like I feel like Mom's always Ilike to run with that because it makes
me feel better. You know.They'll be like, oh, what were
you up to last night? Okay, and they give it the house down
(01:49):
with A buddy of mine was smokinga clove cigarette in my basement and lit
the mattress, a mattress on fire. Oh what kind of cigarette? A
clove cloves cigarette? Ye, closecigaret. I never forget it because it's
stuck. Let me just reeked likethe seasoning was in it. Yeah.
Oh, it just makes me crungejust thinking of the smell of it.
(02:12):
It doesn't look great. I'm confused. Yeah, it was a clove cigarette.
We played pass Out in her basement. That that was a drinking game.
Excellent. You drink until you passout pretty much sounds like the most
Wisconsin game ever. Totally. Iwon. That was the last I was
the last one to pass out.Um, oh my gosh. It was
(02:32):
just just there's a lot of stuff. I mean, you know, ducking
out of school from time to time. That bad though. I wasn't like.
I mean, my my sister wasprobably saint like. I have another
brother who's more saint like. Andthen my oldest brothers were pains in the
(02:52):
ass. I think more so Mikeand Steve, Mike and Greg Greg Greg,
they I think on Mike for sure, at any more stuff than any
of us did all put together.I really wasn't that bad. It was
just, you know, a littlehard on the car, a little hard
on the moped. Um, stayedout at night, had a party at
(03:12):
the house once when my mom wasgone because my dad was out of the
house by that time. It hada little hettle soire. We get together
with some girls from the city.Of course. Yeah that was kind of
fun. Um, I don't know, man, it was just you know,
a typical stuff. But nothing toonothing too nasty really when I when
I think about it, and Iwould say if I did, but I
think bottoming out my dad's moped,jumping it over garbage cans man and I
(03:38):
really had that thing going. Idid something with the governor of the governor
of the it's a mechanical piece ofthe moped and we got it to go
faster. I thought, you meantthe governor of your state, the governor
of Minnesota. What did you dowhen you went from drinking games and mopeds
to messing with a political I hada We did some of the guys who
(04:00):
got the mopen to go like reallyfast and it burnt through gas like there's
no tomorrow. And yeah, itwas pretty you know, typical stuff.
What does your mom know? Kaya, Oh, I've no. I'm trying
to think my mom's pretty pretty good. I don't think that there's anything.
(04:20):
We became best friends sometimes maybe thathappens with daughters, Like teenage years were
pretty rough, I would say,between her and I, and then all
of a sudden, we just camebest friends. Like she would tell me
things now that I didn't know,Like she had a boyfriend she lived with
for a long time, like eightor nine years before my dad. I
just found out this recently, andhe cheated on her with a model.
(04:41):
And so she said one time whenI had a heartbreaker broken up with,
my mom was like nothing beats.Usually you're like, oh yeah, well
I hope the girl's ugly and orsomething. She goes nobody. I knew
that mine was like a supermodel.Oh yes, she was like, I
knew you'd lived through it. Butthat's good though, list she's a supermodel.
No, I mean that's good forhim, not for my mom.
Oh no, it's good for yourmom too. At least it wasn't like
dog meat, because that is thatwhat you know what I mean, you
(05:06):
go for dog meat after well,I get that, but you know,
if you know that upper pedestal,at least you know because otherwise you're looking,
oh my gosh, I'm not asattractive as that. If it's a
supermodel, it's like, okay,it's not like you endorse it. You're
not saying you agree with it.You're not saying that you like it.
But at least if you're gonna godown, you're going down to some quality.
(05:29):
I get it. That's no.And my mom was kind of like
I was talking about, like sheknew things without even really having to say
it. Yeah, my mom talkedabout it at the funeral. Yeah.
Yeah, not to not to jumpin. She knew everything. She she
would come in the house and smell. She had supersonic chnagicles. She could
smell if I spilled something, probablybecause I try to use chloros to clean
it up or something. Um.She would tell if the floor was sticky
(05:50):
from spelling lemonade in this pot ofthe kitchen that nobody ever even walked like
around the table, but she wouldlike smell it or something go over,
stick her foot down. It's like, okay, when when did you spill
the lemonade? Must have been betweenLike now, they are a little detectives.
I just think that they know things. And then Sam and I a
long time ago, we're talking abouthow moms can also find things. You
(06:13):
can't find anything, and they haveno idea what you're even talking about.
But you're like, Mom, thatthing, I can't find it. She's
like behind the door, honey,why can you do that? Yeah?
Yeah, what is that? Yeah? She just she finds everything, stuff
that she's never even seen. She'slike, what does it look like.
I mean, it's kind of likea round thing, a little oblong at
the end, and it's used forturning a screw. And she's like,
oh, yeah, that's right overhere. I don't understand. Dam what
(06:38):
does your mom know? Come on, well, here's the thing. I
can get into anything as a kid, Sam with a bond at of purity.
I really didn't get into anything whenI was a kid. And I've
always been super close to my mom, So we spent We've always spent a
ton of time together, been businesspartners together, and so her and I
just kind of have always done everythingtogether, and she's just kind of a
(06:59):
voice known everything. But I nevergot into trouble. But a big part
of that is because we did fostercare for teenagers my entire life. But
they did foster care starting before Iwas born. And and I love all
my foster siblings that have that hadlived with us, but a lot of
them had gotten into it. Wouldget into a lot of trouble doing like
really bad things, like sometimes veryillegal things victimless crime story, yeah,
(07:24):
but things that they'd get in troublefor it. And I would see the
reaction that they would get when theywould do those things, and I was
like, I do not want tobe on the receiving end of like doing
something so stupid. I was like, none of this stuff was worth it
at a fear of your parents becauseof not a fear of respect respect,
Yes, so I would. Ithink that it helped me understand and respect
(07:46):
authority a little bit. And alsoit's interesting when you see when I was
in that position kind of seeing thesethings happen, it wasn't necessarily the reaction
to the things. It was likeseeing that none of the stuff that they
were doing was really worth it.It was like I was like, why
why would you do these things thatwould get you in trouble? And then
(08:07):
I don't know, I mean,why would you even want it? Was
it worse than jumping their dad's mulpedover garbage? Kinds that is bad?
Well okay, But also here's thehere's the other thing. I think that
my family has different standards for what'sbad, because like my family thinks it's
hilarious when my brothers build a rampout of the manure pile and try to
jump a car with over it.That's that's just dukes of hazard right there.
That's yeah. Like I think thatmy family has a different standard for
(08:30):
what's okay and what's not. WhatI mean, for me, it's like,
don't do drugs, don't sell drugs, don't steal drugs. I'll drug
relates a lot of drunk related thingsteenagers and foster Like. I used to
beat my sister up a lot,and oh my gosh, I would sit
on top of her chest and pinher arms down and then when she would
scream, I'd take off her ownsock and stuff it in her mouth.
(08:52):
And it was funny because I didthat. My dad but like high five
me for like being tough and likeknowing how to take care of myself,
where my mom, who is thegentlest soul, would be like, kaiya,
I am disappointed in you, likethat was her worse. Yeah.
Yeah, so every family's a littlebit different. I mean, I don't
know. My my mom would helpme. Like when we would get we
(09:15):
would decide that we would want toadd an animal to the farm. Sometimes
my dad didn't know, so mymom and I would do it together and
there's another horse wing, come on, okay. An never got into it.
You never had a cigarette out inthe barn almost. I have never
smoked anything in my entire life purity, and I didn't drink. I don't
think I even drank till I waslike twenty one and a half. Sam
(09:41):
Let's go back in time, didn'tknow what they do right this episode of
I tell you what you'll find moreanywhere you find podcasts, and if you
would, please subscribe, rate,review, and download too. Thank you,
Okay, here we go, bigweekend. What are we all doing for
our moms or the moms in ourlives? You know what I'm saying.
People that represent the Mama ship,if you will, it's Chris, Kay
and Sam another episode up. Itell you what I would just like to
if my mother was still here andI missed my mother dearly, I would
(00:20):
like to apologize for all of thestuff that I did, But I want
her to know that she only knowsabout half of it, so we'll just
leave it at that. Are yougoing to apologize for the other half?
She doesn't. No, just complain. I'll apologize, but she does.
You know, there's like, there'sa bunch of stuff. I think she
forgives you. What's on that list? Oh my gosh, really well,
(00:44):
I just want to know one whippingUh, let's just say, donuts in
her car, um, jumping hercar. Yeah, I jumped thanks,
um taking the moped out and jumpingthe moped. It was my dad's moped,
but I was jumping garbage cans.Do you break it? No?
(01:06):
No? No? After that,it didn't start right. My dad couldn't
figure out why. Yeah. Inever got credit for that one though.
That was good. They never fathomfor a second that I would take the
moped out of the garage at twoo'clock in the morning and jump card or
jump trash cans with my friends,because you can't really hear a moped.
They're not that loud, so atnight, it's not like it's that big
(01:27):
of a deal. The crickets arelouder than the moped where we took it.
But it was stupidly right in frontof the dog on house where we
did it. Do you think thatshe did know and just never said anything
like I feel like Mom's always Ilike to run with that because it makes
me feel better. You know.They'll be like, oh, what were
you up to last night? Okay, and they give it the house down
(01:49):
with A buddy of mine was smokinga clove cigarette in my basement and lit
the mattress, a mattress on fire. Oh what kind of cigarette? A
clove cloves cigarette? Ye, closecigaret. I never forget it because it's
stuck. Let me just reeked likethe seasoning was in it. Yeah.
Oh, it just makes me crungejust thinking of the smell of it.
(02:12):
It doesn't look great. I'm confused. Yeah, it was a clove cigarette.
We played pass Out in her basement. That that was a drinking game.
Excellent. You drink until you passout pretty much sounds like the most
Wisconsin game ever. Totally. Iwon. That was the last I was
the last one to pass out.Um, oh my gosh. It was
(02:32):
just just there's a lot of stuff. I mean, you know, ducking
out of school from time to time. That bad though. I wasn't like.
I mean, my my sister wasprobably saint like. I have another
brother who's more saint like. Andthen my oldest brothers were pains in the
(02:52):
ass. I think more so Mikeand Steve, Mike and Greg Greg Greg,
they I think on Mike for sure, at any more stuff than any
of us did all put together.I really wasn't that bad. It was
just, you know, a littlehard on the car, a little hard
on the moped. Um, stayedout at night, had a party at
(03:12):
the house once when my mom wasgone because my dad was out of the
house by that time. It hada little hettle soire. We get together
with some girls from the city.Of course. Yeah that was kind of
fun. Um, I don't know, man, it was just you know,
a typical stuff. But nothing toonothing too nasty really when I when
I think about it, and Iwould say if I did, but I
think bottoming out my dad's moped,jumping it over garbage cans man and I
(03:38):
really had that thing going. Idid something with the governor of the governor
of the it's a mechanical piece ofthe moped and we got it to go
faster. I thought, you meantthe governor of your state, the governor
of Minnesota. What did you dowhen you went from drinking games and mopeds
to messing with a political I hada We did some of the guys who
(04:00):
got the mopen to go like reallyfast and it burnt through gas like there's
no tomorrow. And yeah, itwas pretty you know, typical stuff.
What does your mom know? Kaya, Oh, I've no. I'm trying
to think my mom's pretty pretty good. I don't think that there's anything.
(04:20):
We became best friends sometimes maybe thathappens with daughters, Like teenage years were
pretty rough, I would say,between her and I, and then all
of a sudden, we just camebest friends. Like she would tell me
things now that I didn't know,Like she had a boyfriend she lived with
for a long time, like eightor nine years before my dad. I
just found out this recently, andhe cheated on her with a model.
(04:41):
And so she said one time whenI had a heartbreaker broken up with,
my mom was like nothing beats.Usually you're like, oh yeah, well
I hope the girl's ugly and orsomething. She goes nobody. I knew
that mine was like a supermodel.Oh yes, she was like, I
knew you'd lived through it. Butthat's good though, list she's a supermodel.
No, I mean that's good forhim, not for my mom.
Oh no, it's good for yourmom too. At least it wasn't like
dog meat, because that is thatwhat you know what I mean, you
(05:06):
go for dog meat after well,I get that, but you know,
if you know that upper pedestal,at least you know because otherwise you're looking,
oh my gosh, I'm not asattractive as that. If it's a
supermodel, it's like, okay,it's not like you endorse it. You're
not saying you agree with it.You're not saying that you like it.
But at least if you're gonna godown, you're going down to some quality.
(05:29):
I get it. That's no.And my mom was kind of like
I was talking about, like sheknew things without even really having to say
it. Yeah, my mom talkedabout it at the funeral. Yeah.
Yeah, not to not to jumpin. She knew everything. She she
would come in the house and smell. She had supersonic chnagicles. She could
smell if I spilled something, probablybecause I try to use chloros to clean
it up or something. Um.She would tell if the floor was sticky
(05:50):
from spelling lemonade in this pot ofthe kitchen that nobody ever even walked like
around the table, but she wouldlike smell it or something go over,
stick her foot down. It's like, okay, when when did you spill
the lemonade? Must have been betweenLike now, they are a little detectives.
I just think that they know things. And then Sam and I a
long time ago, we're talking abouthow moms can also find things. You
(06:13):
can't find anything, and they haveno idea what you're even talking about.
But you're like, Mom, thatthing, I can't find it. She's
like behind the door, honey,why can you do that? Yeah?
Yeah, what is that? Yeah? She just she finds everything, stuff
that she's never even seen. She'slike, what does it look like.
I mean, it's kind of likea round thing, a little oblong at
the end, and it's used forturning a screw. And she's like,
oh, yeah, that's right overhere. I don't understand. Dam what
(06:38):
does your mom know? Come on, well, here's the thing. I
can get into anything as a kid, Sam with a bond at of purity.
I really didn't get into anything whenI was a kid. And I've
always been super close to my mom, So we spent We've always spent a
ton of time together, been businesspartners together, and so her and I
just kind of have always done everythingtogether, and she's just kind of a
(06:59):
voice known everything. But I nevergot into trouble. But a big part
of that is because we did fostercare for teenagers my entire life. But
they did foster care starting before Iwas born. And and I love all
my foster siblings that have that hadlived with us, but a lot of
them had gotten into it. Wouldget into a lot of trouble doing like
really bad things, like sometimes veryillegal things victimless crime story, yeah,
(07:24):
but things that they'd get in troublefor it. And I would see the
reaction that they would get when theywould do those things, and I was
like, I do not want tobe on the receiving end of like doing
something so stupid. I was like, none of this stuff was worth it
at a fear of your parents becauseof not a fear of respect respect,
Yes, so I would. Ithink that it helped me understand and respect
(07:46):
authority a little bit. And alsoit's interesting when you see when I was
in that position kind of seeing thesethings happen, it wasn't necessarily the reaction
to the things. It was likeseeing that none of the stuff that they
were doing was really worth it.It was like I was like, why
why would you do these things thatwould get you in trouble? And then
(08:07):
I don't know, I mean,why would you even want it? Was
it worse than jumping their dad's mulpedover garbage? Kinds that is bad?
Well okay, But also here's thehere's the other thing. I think that
my family has different standards for what'sbad, because like my family thinks it's
hilarious when my brothers build a rampout of the manure pile and try to
jump a car with over it.That's that's just dukes of hazard right there.
That's yeah. Like I think thatmy family has a different standard for
(08:30):
what's okay and what's not. WhatI mean, for me, it's like,
don't do drugs, don't sell drugs, don't steal drugs. I'll drug
relates a lot of drunk related thingsteenagers and foster Like. I used to
beat my sister up a lot,and oh my gosh, I would sit
on top of her chest and pinher arms down and then when she would
scream, I'd take off her ownsock and stuff it in her mouth.
(08:52):
And it was funny because I didthat. My dad but like high five
me for like being tough and likeknowing how to take care of myself,
where my mom, who is thegentlest soul, would be like, kaiya,
I am disappointed in you, likethat was her worse. Yeah.
Yeah, so every family's a littlebit different. I mean, I don't
know. My my mom would helpme. Like when we would get we
(09:15):
would decide that we would want toadd an animal to the farm. Sometimes
my dad didn't know, so mymom and I would do it together and
there's another horse wing, come on, okay. An never got into it.
You never had a cigarette out inthe barn almost. I have never
smoked anything in my entire life purity, and I didn't drink. I don't
think I even drank till I waslike twenty one and a half. Sam
(09:41):
Let's go back in time, didn'tknow what they do right this episode of
I tell you what you'll find moreanywhere you find podcasts, and if you
would, please subscribe, rate,review, and download too. Thank you,
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