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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to another episode of You. What any regrets that
you have so far in your years, in your life.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
In my entire life, do I have any regrets?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yeah? You got a bunch, right, there's probably a few
in there. Yeah. Sure. Do you want to hear what
the majority of people say. I'm kind of curious because
a lot of these really relate not pursuing a different
career path that came in last but because I don't
know if a lot of people know, like what else
they could or would do, like in my case now,
from a financial standpoint, absolutely, what do you mean? Well,
(00:30):
I mean, my gosh, look at you. We're in radio. Yeah,
look at your you know, look at your check. But
you know what I mean, look at your bank account.
I mean, there's there's there's people that make more. There's
plenty of other opportunities out there that do better than us.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
It's never too late, though, you could pursue a different path.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Yeah. I think I'm gonna go be a veterinarian. There
you go.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I know somebody who became an orthopedic surgeon after not
being a doctor at all, went to school in like
his forties, I think thirties or forties now, he's an
excellent orthor you're just.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Not as smarter. Later in life, you don't retain as
much speak because you're not interested. You're just less interested
in you know. I just as you get going, you
just kind of like, I don't need that. Do I
really need to do that?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
No?
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I don't need to read that chapter. It's like miscellaneous,
letting friendships fade instead of fighting for them. You know.
But friendships are kind of both, you know what I mean.
It's it's a two way street bingo.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I think that friendships kind of ebb and flow with
your life. It depends on what you've got going on.
It's like those different phases your high school friends, your
college friends, your friends that you have in your single
in your twenties, the friends that you have when you
have kids and a spouse.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Some drop off you pick up some new ones on
the way, yeah, or you just have no friends. How
about trusting the wrong person? We all have a regret there.
I mean, there's always something that you've you've trusted in
the past that's like whoa, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, But ultimately stuff like that, I feel like you
really learn from it too.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
It's good that these things happen. Yeah, spending too much much,
spending too much money on stuff you don't need. That's
a good one there, it is, because money isn't everything.
But man, I tell you, when you look back and
some of the stupid crap you bought and when you
really need money, look when you got two kids going
to college, it's like, why did I buy that thing
(02:12):
that I never ever ever use? You know? And it's
a nickels and dimes. It could be ten bucks here,
it could be a hundred bucks there.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Well, and it's crazy if you're not paying attention how
quickly you can drain money just by getting doing things
like getting lunch every day at a restaurant or getting
a coffee every day.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
A lot of people say missing out on travel opportunities.
Could have gone on this trip, could have gone on
that trip.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I think that's a I think that's a big one.
I think that it is. I don't know, especially when
someone's young and you don't have kids yet, maybe you
don't have a spouse yet or whatever. I think that
it's kind of nice to do some traveling, do traveling
with your kids and spouse too, But it's kind of
nice to do that early on.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Regrets, people having life, not telling someone how they really felt.
That goes one way or the other. We're in a
society right now, I mean, and friendships even for that matter,
and people family for that matter, people don't they don't
want to receive the truth so much.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I've noticed, like even if they're finding out that they're loved.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Well, well, I thought, okay, you know what, that's absolutely
I never thought about that. I was talking about just
reaming somebody a new one for being an idiot.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Yeah, you know, because any proudly you might be with
somebody else, you know what I mean. That's yeah, But
that's my because I told some of the you know,
some people I loved him when I never really did
love them, loved him in the moment.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's why I hesitate a little bit with all of
these because I think I'm really happy with life and
where I'm at right now, and if anything had been different,
if I actually regretted and could change it, then it
might not be where I'm at now.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I guess I look at it in this day and age,
I'm not telling someone how they really felt, because when
people tell them how they really feel, sometimes you there's
repercussions to that, as we've noticed in the last week,
you know, the honest conversations. Just they're taking a little
too far, staying in a relationship too long. Yeah, we've
probably been there.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Oh yeah, I was the queen of that. Sorry to
anybody I ever dated and broke up with, because it
took me a long time to get to that point,
way too long.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Sorry, any names, I couldn't throw a few out.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Come on, I'm just saying I had some relationship.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I mean, do I know them? I don't know them. No,
I just you know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I guess you've probably met a couple of them because
they hang out with my brothers. And if you've been
around my brothers, you probably have been around.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Don't speak And if there are anything like like your brothers,
they probably don't talk either. Your brothers are the strangest
three people I've ever met. They all stand in the
line and they have the same expression on their face
and the same they ha like not along, but they
don't say anything. You have to agree. They're just they're
very It's like, oh my god, I just met three robots.
(04:46):
Not exercising. Taking care of your health.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Better, that's a big one. That one, Yes, because you
could you can do that but still be where you're
at in your life, but fitter and healthier.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
It's a big regret. I mean, yeah, so many people
are like if I just didn't smoke back in the day,
you know, I mean, they have such a different life.
You know, I'm not trying to pick on smokers or anything,
but I mean some of that stuff, I mean, it
just gathers up in your body and it just reeks
havoc later in life, even after you do quit, if
you didn't do it at all.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Well, and then not being physically active. I think working
out can lead to so many health benefits, especially further
on down the line.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
So the second to the top here of the regrets
that people have in life not saving enough money earlier
in life. Money isn't everything, but a lot of people
like man, I missed a lot of opportunities. You know,
I went out just maybe you had a good time though, right,
you know you drank, right, you can't take it with
you when you go, because that's where a lot of
you spending your money goes. It's like stuff that you
digest literally and it's gone and it's over and they
(05:47):
don't really get a life experience out of it so
much other than partying with the fellas a little bit.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I mean, think about if, starting at like sixteen, you
invested twenty bucks a week, where you'd be at now crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
The number one thing that people regret it's caring too
much about what people think. A lot of people regret that.
Now I've had, I've I've been I've always been like that,
and I've changed gears in the last number of months
because I've found you can't. It's it's it's an untenable dealt.
You can't control it at all. You cannot control what
(06:21):
people think, and people are gonna think what they're gonna think. Right, Yeah,
what's wrong with my shoes? Dude, my shoes.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
One person that made a comment about it.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Your dude here, you know, let me add one to
the list. You gotta be able to forgive forgive. Forgiveness
does not mean. It doesn't mean that you have to
hang out with the people. It doesn't mean that you
have to embrace them. But you've gotta forgive everybody, good, evil, everything.
You gotta forgive everything and have a clean slit. You
(06:53):
gotta be able to forgive and that means just throwing
it away. But it doesn't mean that there has to
be like reciprocity or that you have to hang out,
even if it means that that reciprocity. What am I
trying to say, reconcile the reciprocity. No, you don't have
to reconcile. I mean you should try to reconcile, but
you don't have to reconcile. What's that rest the potty reciprocity.
(07:15):
That's like Wisconsin and Minnesota, they have technically reciprocity when
it comes to college tuition a lot of times, or
there's reciprocity. You give a little, I give a little,
take a little, take a little reciprocity. Yeah, but reconcile
is the word. You should try to reconcile. It's good
to reconcile, it's wonderful. But when it comes to forgiving,
you still have to be able to forgive. But reconciling
(07:35):
is not always the option.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
For anyone who has no idea what we're talking about.
Dobs had somebody comment on a photo and kind of
like rip him for whatever for not tying his shoes,
and he has held onto it ever since and it's
been months.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
You gotta forgive my guy.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I'm gonna reconcile or rest the rest proet.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
No, No, you're not gonna rute reciprocity on that. You don't.
Are you going to reconcile? You don't even need to run.
Just forgive, just give. Reconciliation is Reconciliation is awesome. It's
a glorious, glorious thing when you can do it. Put it.
Put it this way, somebody beats the crap out of you.
You're in one of those relationships and they beat the
crap out of you, whether it's physically or emotionally. At
some point you should be able to forgive and move on,
(08:16):
as awful as that experience is. But if you're reconcile,
you're just going to go back and get more beating
the crap out of it.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
I don't know. I think that Dubbs is like the
grudge Master.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
You know what you need to do. Go find that
guy and just beat the snot out of him, and
then everything you'll be reconciled. Thanks for listening to this
episode of I Tell You What. Get more in the
IR Radio app or anywhere you get your podcast. Please rate, review, subscribe,
Donald share and like. Thank you,
Welcome to another episode of You. What any regrets that
you have so far in your years, in your life.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
In my entire life, do I have any regrets?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yeah? You got a bunch, right, there's probably a few
in there. Yeah. Sure. Do you want to hear what
the majority of people say. I'm kind of curious because
a lot of these really relate not pursuing a different
career path that came in last but because I don't
know if a lot of people know, like what else
they could or would do, like in my case now,
from a financial standpoint, absolutely, what do you mean? Well,
(00:30):
I mean, my gosh, look at you. We're in radio. Yeah,
look at your you know, look at your check. But
you know what I mean, look at your bank account.
I mean, there's there's there's people that make more. There's
plenty of other opportunities out there that do better than us.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
It's never too late, though, you could pursue a different path.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Yeah. I think I'm gonna go be a veterinarian. There
you go.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
I know somebody who became an orthopedic surgeon after not
being a doctor at all, went to school in like
his forties, I think thirties or forties now, he's an
excellent orthor you're just.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Not as smarter. Later in life, you don't retain as
much speak because you're not interested. You're just less interested
in you know. I just as you get going, you
just kind of like, I don't need that. Do I
really need to do that?
Speaker 3 (01:11):
No?
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I don't need to read that chapter. It's like miscellaneous,
letting friendships fade instead of fighting for them. You know.
But friendships are kind of both, you know what I mean.
It's it's a two way street bingo.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I think that friendships kind of ebb and flow with
your life. It depends on what you've got going on.
It's like those different phases your high school friends, your
college friends, your friends that you have in your single
in your twenties, the friends that you have when you
have kids and a spouse.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Some drop off you pick up some new ones on
the way, yeah, or you just have no friends. How
about trusting the wrong person? We all have a regret there.
I mean, there's always something that you've you've trusted in
the past that's like whoa, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Yeah, But ultimately stuff like that, I feel like you
really learn from it too.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
It's good that these things happen. Yeah, spending too much much,
spending too much money on stuff you don't need. That's
a good one there, it is, because money isn't everything.
But man, I tell you, when you look back and
some of the stupid crap you bought and when you
really need money, look when you got two kids going
to college, it's like, why did I buy that thing
(02:12):
that I never ever ever use? You know? And it's
a nickels and dimes. It could be ten bucks here,
it could be a hundred bucks there.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Well, and it's crazy if you're not paying attention how
quickly you can drain money just by getting doing things
like getting lunch every day at a restaurant or getting
a coffee every day.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
A lot of people say missing out on travel opportunities.
Could have gone on this trip, could have gone on
that trip.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
I think that's a I think that's a big one.
I think that it is. I don't know, especially when
someone's young and you don't have kids yet, maybe you
don't have a spouse yet or whatever. I think that
it's kind of nice to do some traveling, do traveling
with your kids and spouse too, But it's kind of
nice to do that early on.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Regrets, people having life, not telling someone how they really felt.
That goes one way or the other. We're in a
society right now, I mean, and friendships even for that matter,
and people family for that matter, people don't they don't
want to receive the truth so much.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I've noticed, like even if they're finding out that they're loved.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Well, well, I thought, okay, you know what, that's absolutely
I never thought about that. I was talking about just
reaming somebody a new one for being an idiot.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
Yeah, you know, because any proudly you might be with
somebody else, you know what I mean. That's yeah, But
that's my because I told some of the you know,
some people I loved him when I never really did
love them, loved him in the moment.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's why I hesitate a little bit with all of
these because I think I'm really happy with life and
where I'm at right now, and if anything had been different,
if I actually regretted and could change it, then it
might not be where I'm at now.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I guess I look at it in this day and age,
I'm not telling someone how they really felt, because when
people tell them how they really feel, sometimes you there's
repercussions to that, as we've noticed in the last week,
you know, the honest conversations. Just they're taking a little
too far, staying in a relationship too long. Yeah, we've
probably been there.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Oh yeah, I was the queen of that. Sorry to
anybody I ever dated and broke up with, because it
took me a long time to get to that point,
way too long.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Sorry, any names, I couldn't throw a few out.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Come on, I'm just saying I had some relationship.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
I mean, do I know them? I don't know them. No,
I just you know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I guess you've probably met a couple of them because
they hang out with my brothers. And if you've been
around my brothers, you probably have been around.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Don't speak And if there are anything like like your brothers,
they probably don't talk either. Your brothers are the strangest
three people I've ever met. They all stand in the
line and they have the same expression on their face
and the same they ha like not along, but they
don't say anything. You have to agree. They're just they're
very It's like, oh my god, I just met three robots.
(04:46):
Not exercising. Taking care of your health.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Better, that's a big one. That one, Yes, because you
could you can do that but still be where you're
at in your life, but fitter and healthier.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
It's a big regret. I mean, yeah, so many people
are like if I just didn't smoke back in the day,
you know, I mean, they have such a different life.
You know, I'm not trying to pick on smokers or anything,
but I mean some of that stuff, I mean, it
just gathers up in your body and it just reeks
havoc later in life, even after you do quit, if
you didn't do it at all.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Well, and then not being physically active. I think working
out can lead to so many health benefits, especially further
on down the line.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
So the second to the top here of the regrets
that people have in life not saving enough money earlier
in life. Money isn't everything, but a lot of people
like man, I missed a lot of opportunities. You know,
I went out just maybe you had a good time though, right,
you know you drank, right, you can't take it with
you when you go, because that's where a lot of
you spending your money goes. It's like stuff that you
digest literally and it's gone and it's over and they
(05:47):
don't really get a life experience out of it so
much other than partying with the fellas a little bit.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
I mean, think about if, starting at like sixteen, you
invested twenty bucks a week, where you'd be at now crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
The number one thing that people regret it's caring too
much about what people think. A lot of people regret that.
Now I've had, I've I've been I've always been like that,
and I've changed gears in the last number of months
because I've found you can't. It's it's it's an untenable dealt.
You can't control it at all. You cannot control what
(06:21):
people think, and people are gonna think what they're gonna think. Right, Yeah,
what's wrong with my shoes? Dude, my shoes.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
One person that made a comment about it.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Your dude here, you know, let me add one to
the list. You gotta be able to forgive forgive. Forgiveness
does not mean. It doesn't mean that you have to
hang out with the people. It doesn't mean that you
have to embrace them. But you've gotta forgive everybody, good, evil, everything.
You gotta forgive everything and have a clean slit. You
(06:53):
gotta be able to forgive and that means just throwing
it away. But it doesn't mean that there has to
be like reciprocity or that you have to hang out,
even if it means that that reciprocity. What am I
trying to say, reconcile the reciprocity. No, you don't have
to reconcile. I mean you should try to reconcile, but
you don't have to reconcile. What's that rest the potty reciprocity.
(07:15):
That's like Wisconsin and Minnesota, they have technically reciprocity when
it comes to college tuition a lot of times, or
there's reciprocity. You give a little, I give a little,
take a little, take a little reciprocity. Yeah, but reconcile
is the word. You should try to reconcile. It's good
to reconcile, it's wonderful. But when it comes to forgiving,
you still have to be able to forgive. But reconciling
(07:35):
is not always the option.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
For anyone who has no idea what we're talking about.
Dobs had somebody comment on a photo and kind of
like rip him for whatever for not tying his shoes,
and he has held onto it ever since and it's
been months.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
You gotta forgive my guy.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I'm gonna reconcile or rest the rest proet.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
No, No, you're not gonna rute reciprocity on that. You don't.
Are you going to reconcile? You don't even need to run.
Just forgive, just give. Reconciliation is Reconciliation is awesome. It's
a glorious, glorious thing when you can do it. Put it.
Put it this way, somebody beats the crap out of you.
You're in one of those relationships and they beat the
crap out of you, whether it's physically or emotionally. At
some point you should be able to forgive and move on,
(08:16):
as awful as that experience is. But if you're reconcile,
you're just going to go back and get more beating
the crap out of it.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
I don't know. I think that Dubbs is like the
grudge Master.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
You know what you need to do. Go find that
guy and just beat the snot out of him, and
then everything you'll be reconciled. Thanks for listening to this
episode of I Tell You What. Get more in the
IR Radio app or anywhere you get your podcast. Please rate, review, subscribe,
Donald share and like. Thank you,
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