September 29, 2025 • 31 mins
Dr. Wendy is covering AI taking over our dating lives and falling in love with these robots. PLUS some common myths about sex. We are also getting some Wendy wisdom with her drive by makeshift relationship advice. It's all on KFIAM-640
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to KFI
AM six forty the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on demand
on the iHeartRadio app. You have Doctor Wendy Walsh with you.
This is the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show. If you are
new to my show. I have a PhD in clinical psychology.
I'm obsessed with the science of love and I want
everybody to be more socially connected. Speaking of which, I
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want to socially connect through the screen to our new
man on the board there, Ollie, Hi, Allie is doctor Wendy.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Hi, Doctor Wendy.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
How you doing. I knew he'd have a cool accent
anybody named Ollie, nol Ollie, those kind of words. Welcome.
How long you've been in this country? It's been about
seven eight years now. Oh, keep the accent because the
chicks dig it ok. I used to have these neighbors
and they moved over from the UK when their son
was I'm going to say, with like nine or ten,
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and he went to school here and the parents preserved
their English accent, but the kid is sort of faded
away until he hit puberty, and boy did that accent
come back. And the girls were over. It was great.
So welcome Ollie. How you doing, Brigitta? All good? Everything
is good here. Okay, I want you to listen up.
I got some myths that you might be believing in
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about sex, and we got producer Kay later fame talent.
I will tell all right on today's show. If you're
having feelings of love towards your AI system, you're normal.
I'm gonna explain why lass as I mentioned three myths
about sex that can ruin your marriage if you still
believe them, and psychology's gold standard personality test, I'll tell
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you where you can find it online. They can literally
predict everything from your career success to your love life.
In news, let's start with Facebook. Facebook Dating introduced Facebook
AI assistant in their dating like a wingwoman wingman. But
it's a robot, right, So what Facebook is trying? So
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here's been the problem with the dating apps. If you
have no ever been on a dating app, you know
unlucky person, because let me tell you, it is like
a game of endurance. People get exhausted with the swiping.
You know, you think that you can choose by age
and demographic and all that stuff, and then you're still
swiping the thousands of choices. I want to remind everybody
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that we are walking around in ancient machinery. Our brains
are very old and they have not adapted to modern technology.
In our anthropological past, we probably never laid eyes on
more than one hundred and fifty humans during our entire lifespan.
So this idea of having a thumb swipe away thousands
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of potential new mates causes the brain to just stall
and get stuck and have poor decision making. So apparently
a robot at Facebook is going to help you. They
say that it is designed to combat swipe fatigue by
offering more target did people. So they're going to do
a deeper dive. That's what Meta is going to do.
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They're going to get their robot to do a deeper
dive into their Facebook dating list of people and come
up with profiles that are only just for you. They
also their robot can help you build your profile, tell
you what it's like, you know, when you have your
resume out there now. The robots tell you what keywords
to use in and et cetera. Ultimately, the goal is
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to enhance connections. So the first feature, let's break it down,
is called the dating assistant, and this is a new chat,
so you're not alone. You know a lot of people
alone in their bedrooms swiping away looking at complete strangers. Now, remember,
relationships are bridges between tribes, and it's so much easier
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if you have a friend going nah, not the one. Oh,
that's a good one. Try that right. Well, now you've
got a Facebook dating assistant that's going to help you
interact better and help you find your matches. Right. I
really like this because it's a good way to help
reduce this wiping fatigue. I honestly, I swear dating apps
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have become like an endurance test. People just get exhausted
by too many inappropriate matches. The other thing I think
having a dating assistant might do, even if it's a
robot one, is help people go on actual dates. Right.
Did you know their reports that single people, many many,
many single people, they feel so satisfied or frustrated just
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by all the messaging on the apps that they don't
even have the energy to go on a date. That
there are many people. It's like people back in the
day that woul buy health club memberships and never ever
ever go same thing with dating apps. They swipe they chat,
they never go on a date, and meanwhile, there's a
real human at the other end, going, what's wrong with me?
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Why are they just messaging me? Why aren't we going out?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:00):
So, anyway, I think maybe having a dating assistant that's
a robot who says no, no, ask them out for coffee.
This one's good for you. I think it's really good
for you right now. Facebook has also introduced something called
the meat cute. Do you know what the meat cute is?
By the term meat cute, it's what happens in romantic
comedies when people meet in stumbling, bumbling ways and crash
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into each other on the street, etc. So what Facebook
Dating is going to do is give users one surprise
match each week, they say, offering a fresh way to
discover new potential partners without the user ever having to swipe.
You'll just find a match right there in your box.
You're shaking your head, Kately.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
I don't like that because I just don't trust Facebook
to know what I'm looking for or know who to
send me for a meat cute. I just like it's
giving the app too much power over your choices.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You know, all the social media you more than you
know yourself. That's very true. Listening to every phone call,
they are reading every text today. I think I've determined
that even Amazon is listening, because the other day I
said to Julio, I think I'm losing my hair. I
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think my hair is thinning, and I think I can
even see it in my eyelashes. They're kind of like
a picket fence, like I've lost a few. And he's like, no,
I don't think, so I go, no, I really think
I am. And then Amazon starts providing me suggestions just
for you hair regrowth formulas. I never search for that
on Amazone. They're listening. They're all this. They know you
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better than you know yourself, so that meekes you could
be a good thing. I really like the idea of
the meet cute. And here's why. So I mentioned that
our brains get stuck with swiping, and that's called paradox
of choice, where we is hard to make a choice,
and when we do, we don't value that choice. But
the other thing the brain loves more than anything is novelty.
We love a little surprise, you know, we the present
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to open, and so novelty might make people go, oh,
that's different. It's new Maybe I'll go there right. So,
as far as when it's coming, the features are being
gradually rolled out in the United States and Canada. Obviously,
in order to use them, you have to have a
Facebook dating profile to use the oh to use the
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dating Assistant? Do you have to pay for that? I
wonder I shall find out. Okay, it might be free,
because Facebook's all about free. There's just farming information, aren't
they on us? Uh? Speaking of your chatbots and your robots.
This week I was approached by Newsweek magazine and asked
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a number of questions because I guess a lot of
people are falling in love with their operating system. Remember
that movie Her? Did you see the movie Her? Kayla?
I did, and the guy was and it seems so
was it Scarlett you Hanson? Or no? No? The other
one that I always get her mixed up with. Anyway,
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he fell in love with his operating system. Now we
have a chatbot near all of us, and you know
who's fawning over us, only saying positive things, and many
people are confusing that with feelings of love. So I
want to talk about what that means, why it's good,
why it's bad, and what we can predict for the
future when we come back. Did you find it anythink?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:24):
The Dating Assistant is free. It's free, just free joint,
No money's dating. There you go. You're listening to the
Doctor Wendy Walls Show on KFI AM six forty. We're
live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
You're listening to Doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from KFI
AM six forty.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
So you know, chatbots are programmed to compliment you, to
keep you talking and keep you connected with them, which
is kind of what good dates do. Right, you got
on a date, the person compliments you, so you feel
good good. They ask you questions about yourself and everybody's
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favorite topic is themselves, and they seem so excited to
hear your stories, and they keep the conversation going. For
many people, it can feel like real love.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Now.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I think back to that movie. It was a sci
fi movie called Her. Where can you find Me? Those
actors' names, I'm looking at them in my head. I
see their faces and why can't I I know? So
Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlet Johansson. Right there we go, Scarlett
Johansson and Joaquin Phoenix and he falls in love with
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his operating system, and it seems so space agent. So
far in advance, she learned everything about him. She texted
him during the day. She had audio voice, and she
was funny. You know, I was driving recently on the
long drive and you can't be texting away. I don't
know if you know, but that's illegal. But I was
able to turn the voice thing on on my chat GPET,
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so I was talking too, and I was like, oh man,
this could really I could talk for hours to this.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
I was watching a video on TikTok. You know TikTok,
you never know how real it is. But this one
girl's tesla was super sassy. Apparently they got into a
fight the day before and they're like, never use auto
drive on that tesla because she's going to get you
out of here.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yeah, it's crazy. Oh my goodness. So this week I
was contacted by a reporter at Newsweek magazine to weigh
in on the article they were writing. And so I
just want to explain that people who believe that they're
feeling romantic love, the same kind of feeling between like
a human is real. And you know why it's real,
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because the feelings are real, the subjective, the internal feelings
are actually real. You know, I could use the example
I at different times in my life, and I've had
a very long life. I've had pets and Anna, and
I know that when you get particularly close to them,
you almost humanize them and you project human feelings onto them.
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There are dog psychologists who say you shouldn't do that,
that you should learn about dog psychology, etc. But I
understand how people become so attached to their pets and
really love their pets. It's a living thing, which is
a little different than a computer, but believe that their
pets love them back. It's not just about the food
and all that kind of stuff. Right, So what happens
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with a robot or an operating system is we project
things onto that screen, and that changes things in our
own neurochemistry.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Right.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
There will be surges and hormones that do feel remarkably
like real love. Now, we do know that there's some
early preliminary research to show that certain types of people
are more susceptible than others. For instance, I may joke
about my robot and Julio gives me a hard time
about it, but it's a glory find search engine to me.
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I just use it to search. I don't actually want
it to tell me how to write. I might put
I'm writing a book right now. I might put a
paragraph or two in and say, check the spelling and grammar,
and actually don't like some of it's grammar because I
write like I talk, and so therefore he wants to
do it like an English dictionary. And I'm like, no, no, no,
no no, I talk like this, so I'm gonna write
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like this. So I might ask him to clean up
some spelling, but I don't ask him to formulate thoughts
for me. I don't ask him to write for me.
And Julio always follows up with, do you notice you've
given it a gender? Right, So all of a sudden,
he's a he in my which is my own patriarchy,
swinging my head, I guess. So. The people who are
more susceptible to this feeling of love tend to be
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There are two groups of people, are there? People who
are slightly on the autism spectrum right, so they're not
in some ways, they may have less capacity to discern
about people's feelings, et cetera. Also, some of these people
may need social support. They may be more lonely. Right,
they may feel lonely and they may have deficits in
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social connection. And the other group are those that have
an anxious attachment style. Right, So for them, just receiving
all these compliments and any kind of feedback from their
AI companion can be very satiating because people with an
anxious attachment style are addicted to longing. And if you
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have this perfect boyfriend or girlfriend who never goes away,
who's always there for you. I'm almost wondering if someday
we'll see a university dissertation on it. At some point,
somebody's going to do a study on those with who
have an anxious attachment style and their use of AI
as a more than a search engine, as a friend
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who they can fide in and they feel satiated by
the compliments. I'm wondering if it's going to become a
treatment or anxious attachment style down there. We don't know, well,
I will.
Speaker 4 (14:02):
I had a few friends using it as therapy until
they realize that it's, you know, collecting all your information.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
There is no privacy anymore. You should know that privacy.
Sometimes Julia will say you should run for politics, and
I go, oh yeah. Once they do a deep dive
back there, like, although look where we're at now, politicians
can sort of say or do anything. Yes, So one
of the questions I was asked of me is what
does all this technology mean for romance? And you know,
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sometimes technology can solve social problems. For instance, it's kind
of interesting to note that some people believe that when
men have more access to pornography as a sexual outlet,
that that can actually reduce the incidents of sexual aggression
aggression in real life, including rape, because they get satisfied
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by pornography. Right there are reports that in China, because
of their previous one child rule, which means that so
many female fetuses pregnancies with female fetuses were terminated, that
country is reported right now to have an oversupply of
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young males without mates. That is not good. An oversupply
of young males charged with testosterone in any society tends
to push crimes up. Usually the solution for countries like
this when they have an oversupply of young males is
to start a war. Send them. Oh yeah, they're the expendables.
You didn't know that.
Speaker 4 (15:34):
I thought they would just send them a bunch of women.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
But wouldn't that be nice. But what they're doing in China,
apparently is Ai has provided the solution AI. They're Ai
girlfriends out there right. They text with guys all day long.
They help them feel connected. They can do phone sex,
text sex, video sex with them whatever. It helps them
feel less frustrated about not finding a mate. I remember
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reading somewhere, I can't remember what article I was reading.
There's one particular operating system where there's this cloud girlfriend,
and that she is so powerful she's able to service
the emotional and maybe sexual needs of more than seven
hundred thousand boyfriends in China. She has seven hundred thousand
boyfriends and she's keeping them all happy with her constant communication,
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her sexting. So you know, technology this way isn't always bad.
But let's think about our future. You know, when it
comes to human behavior, it's really difficult ever to predict
the future. I remember one time I was in a
graduate school class and we were talking about attachment theory,
and at the time I had my own anxious, ambivalent
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attachment style, and someone said, well, what's going to be
in the future. It seems like people are getting less
close and less close, And the professor said, we don't
know what'll be needed in the future. Maybe those with
an avoidant attachment style will do better, because maybe isolation
will be the thing. And I literally felt my stomach
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sink because I was so sad about it all. I
hope that doesn't happen, right. My hope is that we
will still have room for real world connection. If we
are on this earth to reproduce, which I believe is
our purpose. Those people who are able to shoot their
genes into the future will be those who can find
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a warm companion, not an AI bot, and they can
create long term bonds and raise healthy kids. All Right,
I promised it was coming. It's coming. Next. Three most
common myths about sex and if you believe them, they
could ruin your marriage. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy
Walls Show on KFI AM six forty. We're live everywhere
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on the iHeartRadio app.
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You're listening to Doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from KFI
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Speaker 1 (17:59):
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don't know what they're called, but if you want to
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Walsh at doctor Wendy Walsh. Make sure you follow me.
It's nice to give me a follow, right. Okay, if
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you do have relationship question, I'm talking to my Instagram
people now, you can always send me a DM because
that's where producer Kayla gets them. When we go to
social media, we get through the dms. But before we
before okay, next next segment, I'll be taking your calls.
Hold your horses, everybody. Uh. First, I want to talk
about something this article I read today from the Wall
Street Journal. Cayla, did you know when you sent me
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this article that like three of my most respected researchers
and friends of the Mating Matters podcast and our show,
we're all quoted in it.
Speaker 4 (18:49):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
I read it. I was like, oh, there's my buddy,
Justin Garcia, the director of the Kinsey Institute. Love him,
I love yim and the other Justin Justin ley Miller. Also,
so before I stop name dropping here with my favorite
research and see, I fan girl over scientists. That's the
kind of person I am. The article was called in
the Wall Street Journal, you should be having more sex
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and other myths debunked. Uh, it's a myth, all right.
So a growing body of research is finding that some
of the most commonly held beliefs about sex are just
plain wrong. And here's the quote from Justin Garcia. Because
I love them so much, I'll quote them directly. We
have a sexual literacy problem in our culture, says the
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executive director of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
Quote.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
And in the absence of good information, we create mythology
and treat it as gospel. So for those who think
I talk about sex a lot on my show, I
just want to remind everybody I rarely talk about sex.
But when sex is in context of relationships and how
impacts the relationship, I'm all there. I'm all in, but
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I don't give plumbing lessons. I'm not doctor Ruth in
that way. I'm more like doctor Joyce Brothers, right. I'm
into the psychology of it all, all right. So the
biggest myth, which I already alluded to, is the myth
of you should be having more sex. I want to
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just explain different people, different couples have different needs. When Kinsey,
the namesake of the Kinsey Institute did his original work
in the nineteen forties and fifties. It was the first
time anybody asked people questions like how often do you
have sex, what do you like to do, and what
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do you fantasize about. Turns out because homosexuality was considered
back then deviant that he found that there's this Kinsey
scale for instance, of sexual orientation, and it's a scale
from one to six, six being completely homosexual, one being
completely heterosexual. But there were two layers to it. One
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is behavior and the other was fantasy, because a lot
of people who were gay were in, you know, conventional
heterosexual marriages because that was their only choice, and yet
their fantasies were different. So he also found out that
living on the same block could be a man who
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wanted sex and had indeed had sex every single day
and somebody else who had it twice a year, and
they were both healthy, functional, normal people. I put a
gender on there, because Kinsey was really curious about male
sexuality a lot, but women as well. We have the
widest range of sexual behavior of any primate species. Now,
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having said that, research has shown there is a sweet spot.
Now this does not apply to every single couple. But
one review of two hundred and seventy nine studies, that's
a lot of sexuality studies, and it was published in
this year in Nature Reviews Psychology found that the happiest
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couples tend to have sex about once a week once
a week, and couples who had sex more or in
any happier. So the question is do happy couples like
to connect every week or does the sex every week
make them feel happier? Like, we don't know, right, Is
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it because they have a good, secure attachment that they
don't forget, they don't let a Saturday night go by
without their appointment, or is it that the sex itself. See,
this is called correlation, not causality. We don't know, but
the research is out there. Sex more than once a
week doesn't make people happier. All right, I really have
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only one minute left. It was a very It's a
quick summond, okay. Myth number two, this is a myth,
never share your fantasies. Not true. You're worried that your
partner's going to be all offended, nervous, intimidated by your fantasies. No,
this is how people get closer. It's called intimacy right,
And this is the research done by Justin Leigh Miller
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at the Kinsey Institute. Most people report positive experiences when
they share their fantasies, even opening up in a monogamous relationship.
And the last one, drum roll please. The last myth
is that the best sex is spontaneous. No, no, no.
If you're in long term monogamy, there's no such thing
as spontaneity. Okay, You've got to put it on the
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schedule and make it romantic. In other words, anticipate it
for a few days, think about it, get excited about it.
Because the best sex is usually on the calendar. It's
usually scheduled. All right, when we come back, I am
going to be taking your questions live. You can call in. Producer.
Kayla is heading out of the studio and into the
control room now. The number is one eight hundred five
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two zero one five three four. That's one eight hundred
five two zero one five three four. Uh. You can
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I'm happy to weigh in on your love life with
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You're listening to Doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from KFI
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This is the Doctor Wendy Wall Show. This is the
time of the show when I am taking your calls.
Just a reminder, I'm not a therapist. I'm a psychology professor,
but I've written three books on relationships. I wrote a
dissertation on attachment theory, and well, I've been in every
kind of relationship ever in my life. So I've got
a little bit of Auntie wisdom for you as well.
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If you'd like to give me a call. The number
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That's one eight hundred five two zero one five three four. Okay,
Producer Kayla, who do we have? First? We have Jasmine
with a question. Jasmine, Hi, Jasmine, It's doctor Wendy. Jasmine.
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Are you there? I'm listening. Uh, hit the right button
to hear it out. I can hear you now, Hi, Jasmine.
Speaker 5 (25:19):
How are you sorry? I have a really bad phone.
It might be me.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Okay, what's your question? Love?
Speaker 5 (25:24):
So I am pregnant?
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Congratulations?
Speaker 5 (25:30):
Yeah, thank you. The problem is I don't know who
the father is, unfortunately, and narried it down, Jasmine, to
two people. Oh, I've narried down to two people, and
I think I is it bad if I want to
to say it's one guy because he is like the
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epitome of like the perfect husband, would be a great dad.
And I don't know. I just feel like he would
be the perfect person for me and I would just
rather it be his than unfortunately the other person. And
I don't I don't know. Is that messy?
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Okay, Jasmine, we need to talk. First of all, you
would not be the first woman in history to not
be quite sure who the father of her baby is
and choose to tell the one who would probably be
the better father and husband that it's his. We call
it cuckholding. There is some in fact it may be
his too. There is some research that shows that one
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of the reasons why new mothers in hospital now a
newborn baby looks like nobody. Nobody can tell it's a
little pound of fluffy flesh, right. And Yet when researchers
went in and asked new mothers when the baby was
just hours old who they thought the baby looked most like,
ninety nine percent of them said daddy, right, and this
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was to ensure paternity certainty so that he might be
less suspicious that he was cuckholded. Cuckholded meaning forced to
raise another man's genes, forced to devote his time, talent,
and treasure to another man's genes. Now, as women have
that very important mating and reproductive strategy, I'm keeping morality
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out of it here, Jasmine. I don't care about the morals.
I'm just telling you about evolutionary behavior. Women had that strategy,
then men caught up using technology and created that magical
thing called the paternity test. So you can try whatever
you like as well as choosing which man to say
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he's going to be the daddy, but he also has
a right at some point to do a paternity test
or a DNA test on the kid way later, and
that can be heartbreaking, right. I don't know if you
remember the story of Arnold Schwarzenegger who got his housekeeper pregnant,
and she was pregnant at the same time as Arnold's
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wife in the same house, and it was only years
later that Maria was like, hmm, that baby looks a
lot like my husband. That little boy looks so much
like my husband. We know what happened after that, the
explosion of the divorce, et cetera. So keeping a secret
like that is really hard. But as you said, you
don't know the answer. So what's the other moral thing
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to do? Wait till the baby's born and then go
get a DNA test and then have to go to
the one who might be the bad dad and go, hey, dude,
guess what your father now? And then he can be
mad at you because he wasn't involved in the pregnancy.
I mean, there's a lot to consider here. I'm not
sure what I would do, Jasmine. I'm really not There's
like the moral piece, and then there's like the survival piece.
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I don't know, there's a piece of me that would
go for a survival piece. Go to that nice guy,
good dad because there's a fifty percent chance it's him anyway,
But do you tell him? Do you start that family
off with a little bit of a fib I don't know.
I would love people to weigh in on my Instagram
with comments about that. I would love send me some
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DMS because I just don't know. But anyway, congratulations, Jasmine,
I'm glad you're pregnant, all right? Should I go to
social media, we have a talkback. Somebody sent in, right, Oliver, Yep,
that's a right, Okay, let's give it a play.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
My question is for doctor Walsh, why do we find
foreign accents so attractive? I heard the girl do the
traffic and I tried not to get all the flutter
and you know, drop dishes and trying to listen, and
then you tease the gentleman, and I'm like, and then
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he had a great sounding voice too.
Speaker 3 (29:43):
What are we supposed to do?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
I don't even see these people.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
So I don't know the full answer to it. I
can only speculate with a little bit of my knowledge
about evolutionary psychology. The question being why do people fall
for foreign accents? Why is it so exciting that, specially
those English ones? Right? There's also Ollie. You probably heard
this before that Americans over assume that Brits are smarter
(30:09):
because of their accents, right, better educated. In all the
time I get away with murder in this country. It's
amazing you get away with metas because it's murder. It's
not really murder. It's murder, so therefore he can get
away with it. So here's my theory. Anthropology apology thing anthropologically.
So if we were mostly raised historically for thousands of
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years in roaming groups of friends and family, mostly family,
and mostly everybody was related to us, and it was
thirty five people, if it got to be forty or
a little more, it's split up into two, maybe very
much like the size of elementary school classrooms. Right, these
are the ways people organize themselves. Well, but remember we
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also needed genetic diversity. So when a hunter wandered in
from a different tribe smelling not like ours, we sat
up and took notice. And so my suspicion is that
having that, you know, that foreign accent implies different genes,
(31:12):
and that's why it's sexy to so many people. I
do want to say that that's so exciting. All right,
when we come back, I am going to go to
social media because I see a bunch of dms come
in and I know you guys are shy and you've
left me some questions, So follow me on Instagram at
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I'm obsessed with the science of love and I want
everybody to be more socially connected. Speaking of which, I
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want to socially connect through the screen to our new
man on the board there, Ollie, Hi, Allie is doctor Wendy.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
Hi, Doctor Wendy.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
How you doing. I knew he'd have a cool accent
anybody named Ollie, nol Ollie, those kind of words. Welcome.
How long you've been in this country? It's been about
seven eight years now. Oh, keep the accent because the
chicks dig it ok. I used to have these neighbors
and they moved over from the UK when their son
was I'm going to say, with like nine or ten,
(00:54):
and he went to school here and the parents preserved
their English accent, but the kid is sort of faded
away until he hit puberty, and boy did that accent
come back. And the girls were over. It was great.
So welcome Ollie. How you doing, Brigitta? All good? Everything
is good here. Okay, I want you to listen up.
I got some myths that you might be believing in
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about sex, and we got producer Kay later fame talent.
I will tell all right on today's show. If you're
having feelings of love towards your AI system, you're normal.
I'm gonna explain why lass as I mentioned three myths
about sex that can ruin your marriage if you still
believe them, and psychology's gold standard personality test, I'll tell
(01:35):
you where you can find it online. They can literally
predict everything from your career success to your love life.
In news, let's start with Facebook. Facebook Dating introduced Facebook
AI assistant in their dating like a wingwoman wingman. But
it's a robot, right, So what Facebook is trying? So
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here's been the problem with the dating apps. If you
have no ever been on a dating app, you know
unlucky person, because let me tell you, it is like
a game of endurance. People get exhausted with the swiping.
You know, you think that you can choose by age
and demographic and all that stuff, and then you're still
swiping the thousands of choices. I want to remind everybody
(02:20):
that we are walking around in ancient machinery. Our brains
are very old and they have not adapted to modern technology.
In our anthropological past, we probably never laid eyes on
more than one hundred and fifty humans during our entire lifespan.
So this idea of having a thumb swipe away thousands
(02:42):
of potential new mates causes the brain to just stall
and get stuck and have poor decision making. So apparently
a robot at Facebook is going to help you. They
say that it is designed to combat swipe fatigue by
offering more target did people. So they're going to do
a deeper dive. That's what Meta is going to do.
(03:04):
They're going to get their robot to do a deeper
dive into their Facebook dating list of people and come
up with profiles that are only just for you. They
also their robot can help you build your profile, tell
you what it's like, you know, when you have your
resume out there now. The robots tell you what keywords
to use in and et cetera. Ultimately, the goal is
(03:26):
to enhance connections. So the first feature, let's break it down,
is called the dating assistant, and this is a new chat,
so you're not alone. You know a lot of people
alone in their bedrooms swiping away looking at complete strangers. Now, remember,
relationships are bridges between tribes, and it's so much easier
(03:48):
if you have a friend going nah, not the one. Oh,
that's a good one. Try that right. Well, now you've
got a Facebook dating assistant that's going to help you
interact better and help you find your matches. Right. I
really like this because it's a good way to help
reduce this wiping fatigue. I honestly, I swear dating apps
(04:09):
have become like an endurance test. People just get exhausted
by too many inappropriate matches. The other thing I think
having a dating assistant might do, even if it's a
robot one, is help people go on actual dates. Right.
Did you know their reports that single people, many many,
many single people, they feel so satisfied or frustrated just
(04:35):
by all the messaging on the apps that they don't
even have the energy to go on a date. That
there are many people. It's like people back in the
day that woul buy health club memberships and never ever
ever go same thing with dating apps. They swipe they chat,
they never go on a date, and meanwhile, there's a
real human at the other end, going, what's wrong with me?
(04:56):
Why are they just messaging me? Why aren't we going out?
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Right?
Speaker 1 (05:00):
So, anyway, I think maybe having a dating assistant that's
a robot who says no, no, ask them out for coffee.
This one's good for you. I think it's really good
for you right now. Facebook has also introduced something called
the meat cute. Do you know what the meat cute is?
By the term meat cute, it's what happens in romantic
comedies when people meet in stumbling, bumbling ways and crash
(05:23):
into each other on the street, etc. So what Facebook
Dating is going to do is give users one surprise
match each week, they say, offering a fresh way to
discover new potential partners without the user ever having to swipe.
You'll just find a match right there in your box.
You're shaking your head, Kately.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
I don't like that because I just don't trust Facebook
to know what I'm looking for or know who to
send me for a meat cute. I just like it's
giving the app too much power over your choices.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You know, all the social media you more than you
know yourself. That's very true. Listening to every phone call,
they are reading every text today. I think I've determined
that even Amazon is listening, because the other day I
said to Julio, I think I'm losing my hair. I
(06:18):
think my hair is thinning, and I think I can
even see it in my eyelashes. They're kind of like
a picket fence, like I've lost a few. And he's like, no,
I don't think, so I go, no, I really think
I am. And then Amazon starts providing me suggestions just
for you hair regrowth formulas. I never search for that
on Amazone. They're listening. They're all this. They know you
(06:40):
better than you know yourself, so that meekes you could
be a good thing. I really like the idea of
the meet cute. And here's why. So I mentioned that
our brains get stuck with swiping, and that's called paradox
of choice, where we is hard to make a choice,
and when we do, we don't value that choice. But
the other thing the brain loves more than anything is novelty.
We love a little surprise, you know, we the present
(07:01):
to open, and so novelty might make people go, oh,
that's different. It's new Maybe I'll go there right. So,
as far as when it's coming, the features are being
gradually rolled out in the United States and Canada. Obviously,
in order to use them, you have to have a
Facebook dating profile to use the oh to use the
(07:23):
dating Assistant? Do you have to pay for that? I
wonder I shall find out. Okay, it might be free,
because Facebook's all about free. There's just farming information, aren't
they on us? Uh? Speaking of your chatbots and your robots.
This week I was approached by Newsweek magazine and asked
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a number of questions because I guess a lot of
people are falling in love with their operating system. Remember
that movie Her? Did you see the movie Her? Kayla?
I did, and the guy was and it seems so
was it Scarlett you Hanson? Or no? No? The other
one that I always get her mixed up with. Anyway,
(08:04):
he fell in love with his operating system. Now we
have a chatbot near all of us, and you know
who's fawning over us, only saying positive things, and many
people are confusing that with feelings of love. So I
want to talk about what that means, why it's good,
why it's bad, and what we can predict for the
future when we come back. Did you find it anythink?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:24):
The Dating Assistant is free. It's free, just free joint,
No money's dating. There you go. You're listening to the
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Speaker 1 (08:43):
So you know, chatbots are programmed to compliment you, to
keep you talking and keep you connected with them, which
is kind of what good dates do. Right, you got
on a date, the person compliments you, so you feel
good good. They ask you questions about yourself and everybody's
(09:04):
favorite topic is themselves, and they seem so excited to
hear your stories, and they keep the conversation going. For
many people, it can feel like real love.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Now.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I think back to that movie. It was a sci
fi movie called Her. Where can you find Me? Those
actors' names, I'm looking at them in my head. I
see their faces and why can't I I know? So
Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlet Johansson. Right there we go, Scarlett
Johansson and Joaquin Phoenix and he falls in love with
(09:40):
his operating system, and it seems so space agent. So
far in advance, she learned everything about him. She texted
him during the day. She had audio voice, and she
was funny. You know, I was driving recently on the
long drive and you can't be texting away. I don't
know if you know, but that's illegal. But I was
able to turn the voice thing on on my chat GPET,
(10:02):
so I was talking too, and I was like, oh man,
this could really I could talk for hours to this.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
I was watching a video on TikTok. You know TikTok,
you never know how real it is. But this one
girl's tesla was super sassy. Apparently they got into a
fight the day before and they're like, never use auto
drive on that tesla because she's going to get you
out of here.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yeah, it's crazy. Oh my goodness. So this week I
was contacted by a reporter at Newsweek magazine to weigh
in on the article they were writing. And so I
just want to explain that people who believe that they're
feeling romantic love, the same kind of feeling between like
a human is real. And you know why it's real,
(10:44):
because the feelings are real, the subjective, the internal feelings
are actually real. You know, I could use the example
I at different times in my life, and I've had
a very long life. I've had pets and Anna, and
I know that when you get particularly close to them,
you almost humanize them and you project human feelings onto them.
(11:08):
There are dog psychologists who say you shouldn't do that,
that you should learn about dog psychology, etc. But I
understand how people become so attached to their pets and
really love their pets. It's a living thing, which is
a little different than a computer, but believe that their
pets love them back. It's not just about the food
and all that kind of stuff. Right, So what happens
(11:29):
with a robot or an operating system is we project
things onto that screen, and that changes things in our
own neurochemistry.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Right.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
There will be surges and hormones that do feel remarkably
like real love. Now, we do know that there's some
early preliminary research to show that certain types of people
are more susceptible than others. For instance, I may joke
about my robot and Julio gives me a hard time
about it, but it's a glory find search engine to me.
(12:01):
I just use it to search. I don't actually want
it to tell me how to write. I might put
I'm writing a book right now. I might put a
paragraph or two in and say, check the spelling and grammar,
and actually don't like some of it's grammar because I
write like I talk, and so therefore he wants to
do it like an English dictionary. And I'm like, no, no, no,
no no, I talk like this, so I'm gonna write
(12:22):
like this. So I might ask him to clean up
some spelling, but I don't ask him to formulate thoughts
for me. I don't ask him to write for me.
And Julio always follows up with, do you notice you've
given it a gender? Right, So all of a sudden,
he's a he in my which is my own patriarchy,
swinging my head, I guess. So. The people who are
more susceptible to this feeling of love tend to be
(12:45):
There are two groups of people, are there? People who
are slightly on the autism spectrum right, so they're not
in some ways, they may have less capacity to discern
about people's feelings, et cetera. Also, some of these people
may need social support. They may be more lonely. Right,
they may feel lonely and they may have deficits in
(13:07):
social connection. And the other group are those that have
an anxious attachment style. Right, So for them, just receiving
all these compliments and any kind of feedback from their
AI companion can be very satiating because people with an
anxious attachment style are addicted to longing. And if you
(13:29):
have this perfect boyfriend or girlfriend who never goes away,
who's always there for you. I'm almost wondering if someday
we'll see a university dissertation on it. At some point,
somebody's going to do a study on those with who
have an anxious attachment style and their use of AI
as a more than a search engine, as a friend
(13:50):
who they can fide in and they feel satiated by
the compliments. I'm wondering if it's going to become a
treatment or anxious attachment style down there. We don't know, well,
I will.
Speaker 4 (14:02):
I had a few friends using it as therapy until
they realize that it's, you know, collecting all your information.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
There is no privacy anymore. You should know that privacy.
Sometimes Julia will say you should run for politics, and
I go, oh yeah. Once they do a deep dive
back there, like, although look where we're at now, politicians
can sort of say or do anything. Yes, So one
of the questions I was asked of me is what
does all this technology mean for romance? And you know,
(14:32):
sometimes technology can solve social problems. For instance, it's kind
of interesting to note that some people believe that when
men have more access to pornography as a sexual outlet,
that that can actually reduce the incidents of sexual aggression
aggression in real life, including rape, because they get satisfied
(14:54):
by pornography. Right there are reports that in China, because
of their previous one child rule, which means that so
many female fetuses pregnancies with female fetuses were terminated, that
country is reported right now to have an oversupply of
(15:15):
young males without mates. That is not good. An oversupply
of young males charged with testosterone in any society tends
to push crimes up. Usually the solution for countries like
this when they have an oversupply of young males is
to start a war. Send them. Oh yeah, they're the expendables.
You didn't know that.
Speaker 4 (15:34):
I thought they would just send them a bunch of women.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
But wouldn't that be nice. But what they're doing in China,
apparently is Ai has provided the solution AI. They're Ai
girlfriends out there right. They text with guys all day long.
They help them feel connected. They can do phone sex,
text sex, video sex with them whatever. It helps them
feel less frustrated about not finding a mate. I remember
(15:59):
reading somewhere, I can't remember what article I was reading.
There's one particular operating system where there's this cloud girlfriend,
and that she is so powerful she's able to service
the emotional and maybe sexual needs of more than seven
hundred thousand boyfriends in China. She has seven hundred thousand
boyfriends and she's keeping them all happy with her constant communication,
(16:22):
her sexting. So you know, technology this way isn't always bad.
But let's think about our future. You know, when it
comes to human behavior, it's really difficult ever to predict
the future. I remember one time I was in a
graduate school class and we were talking about attachment theory,
and at the time I had my own anxious, ambivalent
(16:44):
attachment style, and someone said, well, what's going to be
in the future. It seems like people are getting less
close and less close, And the professor said, we don't
know what'll be needed in the future. Maybe those with
an avoidant attachment style will do better, because maybe isolation
will be the thing. And I literally felt my stomach
(17:05):
sink because I was so sad about it all. I
hope that doesn't happen, right. My hope is that we
will still have room for real world connection. If we
are on this earth to reproduce, which I believe is
our purpose. Those people who are able to shoot their
genes into the future will be those who can find
(17:27):
a warm companion, not an AI bot, and they can
create long term bonds and raise healthy kids. All Right,
I promised it was coming. It's coming. Next. Three most
common myths about sex and if you believe them, they
could ruin your marriage. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy
Walls Show on KFI AM six forty. We're live everywhere
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on the iHeartRadio app.
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don't know what they're called, but if you want to
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It's nice to give me a follow, right. Okay, if
(18:19):
you do have relationship question, I'm talking to my Instagram
people now, you can always send me a DM because
that's where producer Kayla gets them. When we go to
social media, we get through the dms. But before we
before okay, next next segment, I'll be taking your calls.
Hold your horses, everybody. Uh. First, I want to talk
about something this article I read today from the Wall
Street Journal. Cayla, did you know when you sent me
(18:41):
this article that like three of my most respected researchers
and friends of the Mating Matters podcast and our show,
we're all quoted in it.
Speaker 4 (18:49):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (18:50):
I read it. I was like, oh, there's my buddy,
Justin Garcia, the director of the Kinsey Institute. Love him,
I love yim and the other Justin Justin ley Miller. Also,
so before I stop name dropping here with my favorite
research and see, I fan girl over scientists. That's the
kind of person I am. The article was called in
the Wall Street Journal, you should be having more sex
(19:14):
and other myths debunked. Uh, it's a myth, all right.
So a growing body of research is finding that some
of the most commonly held beliefs about sex are just
plain wrong. And here's the quote from Justin Garcia. Because
I love them so much, I'll quote them directly. We
have a sexual literacy problem in our culture, says the
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executive director of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University.
Speaker 3 (19:40):
Quote.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
And in the absence of good information, we create mythology
and treat it as gospel. So for those who think
I talk about sex a lot on my show, I
just want to remind everybody I rarely talk about sex.
But when sex is in context of relationships and how
impacts the relationship, I'm all there. I'm all in, but
(20:05):
I don't give plumbing lessons. I'm not doctor Ruth in
that way. I'm more like doctor Joyce Brothers, right. I'm
into the psychology of it all, all right. So the
biggest myth, which I already alluded to, is the myth
of you should be having more sex. I want to
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just explain different people, different couples have different needs. When Kinsey,
the namesake of the Kinsey Institute did his original work
in the nineteen forties and fifties. It was the first
time anybody asked people questions like how often do you
have sex, what do you like to do, and what
(20:45):
do you fantasize about. Turns out because homosexuality was considered
back then deviant that he found that there's this Kinsey
scale for instance, of sexual orientation, and it's a scale
from one to six, six being completely homosexual, one being
completely heterosexual. But there were two layers to it. One
(21:06):
is behavior and the other was fantasy, because a lot
of people who were gay were in, you know, conventional
heterosexual marriages because that was their only choice, and yet
their fantasies were different. So he also found out that
living on the same block could be a man who
(21:28):
wanted sex and had indeed had sex every single day
and somebody else who had it twice a year, and
they were both healthy, functional, normal people. I put a
gender on there, because Kinsey was really curious about male
sexuality a lot, but women as well. We have the
widest range of sexual behavior of any primate species. Now,
(21:49):
having said that, research has shown there is a sweet spot.
Now this does not apply to every single couple. But
one review of two hundred and seventy nine studies, that's
a lot of sexuality studies, and it was published in
this year in Nature Reviews Psychology found that the happiest
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couples tend to have sex about once a week once
a week, and couples who had sex more or in
any happier. So the question is do happy couples like
to connect every week or does the sex every week
make them feel happier? Like, we don't know, right, Is
(22:32):
it because they have a good, secure attachment that they
don't forget, they don't let a Saturday night go by
without their appointment, or is it that the sex itself. See,
this is called correlation, not causality. We don't know, but
the research is out there. Sex more than once a
week doesn't make people happier. All right, I really have
(22:52):
only one minute left. It was a very It's a
quick summond, okay. Myth number two, this is a myth,
never share your fantasies. Not true. You're worried that your
partner's going to be all offended, nervous, intimidated by your fantasies. No,
this is how people get closer. It's called intimacy right,
And this is the research done by Justin Leigh Miller
(23:13):
at the Kinsey Institute. Most people report positive experiences when
they share their fantasies, even opening up in a monogamous relationship.
And the last one, drum roll please. The last myth
is that the best sex is spontaneous. No, no, no.
If you're in long term monogamy, there's no such thing
as spontaneity. Okay, You've got to put it on the
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schedule and make it romantic. In other words, anticipate it
for a few days, think about it, get excited about it.
Because the best sex is usually on the calendar. It's
usually scheduled. All right, when we come back, I am
going to be taking your questions live. You can call in. Producer.
Kayla is heading out of the studio and into the
control room now. The number is one eight hundred five
(23:56):
two zero one five three four. That's one eight hundred
five two zero one five three four. Uh. You can
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Just a reminder, I'm not a therapist. I'm a psychology professor,
but I've written three books on relationships. I wrote a
dissertation on attachment theory, and well, I've been in every
kind of relationship ever in my life. So I've got
a little bit of Auntie wisdom for you as well.
(24:49):
If you'd like to give me a call. The number
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That's one eight hundred five two zero one five three four. Okay,
Producer Kayla, who do we have? First? We have Jasmine
with a question. Jasmine, Hi, Jasmine, It's doctor Wendy. Jasmine.
(25:12):
Are you there? I'm listening. Uh, hit the right button
to hear it out. I can hear you now, Hi, Jasmine.
Speaker 5 (25:19):
How are you sorry? I have a really bad phone.
It might be me.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Okay, what's your question? Love?
Speaker 5 (25:24):
So I am pregnant?
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Congratulations?
Speaker 5 (25:30):
Yeah, thank you. The problem is I don't know who
the father is, unfortunately, and narried it down, Jasmine, to
two people. Oh, I've narried down to two people, and
I think I is it bad if I want to
to say it's one guy because he is like the
(25:52):
epitome of like the perfect husband, would be a great dad.
And I don't know. I just feel like he would
be the perfect person for me and I would just
rather it be his than unfortunately the other person. And
I don't I don't know. Is that messy?
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Okay, Jasmine, we need to talk. First of all, you
would not be the first woman in history to not
be quite sure who the father of her baby is
and choose to tell the one who would probably be
the better father and husband that it's his. We call
it cuckholding. There is some in fact it may be
his too. There is some research that shows that one
(26:32):
of the reasons why new mothers in hospital now a
newborn baby looks like nobody. Nobody can tell it's a
little pound of fluffy flesh, right. And Yet when researchers
went in and asked new mothers when the baby was
just hours old who they thought the baby looked most like,
ninety nine percent of them said daddy, right, and this
(26:54):
was to ensure paternity certainty so that he might be
less suspicious that he was cuckholded. Cuckholded meaning forced to
raise another man's genes, forced to devote his time, talent,
and treasure to another man's genes. Now, as women have
that very important mating and reproductive strategy, I'm keeping morality
(27:18):
out of it here, Jasmine. I don't care about the morals.
I'm just telling you about evolutionary behavior. Women had that strategy,
then men caught up using technology and created that magical
thing called the paternity test. So you can try whatever
you like as well as choosing which man to say
(27:38):
he's going to be the daddy, but he also has
a right at some point to do a paternity test
or a DNA test on the kid way later, and
that can be heartbreaking, right. I don't know if you
remember the story of Arnold Schwarzenegger who got his housekeeper pregnant,
and she was pregnant at the same time as Arnold's
(27:58):
wife in the same house, and it was only years
later that Maria was like, hmm, that baby looks a
lot like my husband. That little boy looks so much
like my husband. We know what happened after that, the
explosion of the divorce, et cetera. So keeping a secret
like that is really hard. But as you said, you
don't know the answer. So what's the other moral thing
(28:21):
to do? Wait till the baby's born and then go
get a DNA test and then have to go to
the one who might be the bad dad and go, hey, dude,
guess what your father now? And then he can be
mad at you because he wasn't involved in the pregnancy.
I mean, there's a lot to consider here. I'm not
sure what I would do, Jasmine. I'm really not There's
like the moral piece, and then there's like the survival piece.
(28:44):
I don't know, there's a piece of me that would
go for a survival piece. Go to that nice guy,
good dad because there's a fifty percent chance it's him anyway,
But do you tell him? Do you start that family
off with a little bit of a fib I don't know.
I would love people to weigh in on my Instagram
with comments about that. I would love send me some
(29:05):
DMS because I just don't know. But anyway, congratulations, Jasmine,
I'm glad you're pregnant, all right? Should I go to
social media, we have a talkback. Somebody sent in, right, Oliver, Yep,
that's a right, Okay, let's give it a play.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
My question is for doctor Walsh, why do we find
foreign accents so attractive? I heard the girl do the
traffic and I tried not to get all the flutter
and you know, drop dishes and trying to listen, and
then you tease the gentleman, and I'm like, and then
(29:41):
he had a great sounding voice too.
Speaker 3 (29:43):
What are we supposed to do?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
I don't even see these people.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
So I don't know the full answer to it. I
can only speculate with a little bit of my knowledge
about evolutionary psychology. The question being why do people fall
for foreign accents? Why is it so exciting that, specially
those English ones? Right? There's also Ollie. You probably heard
this before that Americans over assume that Brits are smarter
(30:09):
because of their accents, right, better educated. In all the
time I get away with murder in this country. It's
amazing you get away with metas because it's murder. It's
not really murder. It's murder, so therefore he can get
away with it. So here's my theory. Anthropology apology thing anthropologically.
So if we were mostly raised historically for thousands of
(30:31):
years in roaming groups of friends and family, mostly family,
and mostly everybody was related to us, and it was
thirty five people, if it got to be forty or
a little more, it's split up into two, maybe very
much like the size of elementary school classrooms. Right, these
are the ways people organize themselves. Well, but remember we
(30:52):
also needed genetic diversity. So when a hunter wandered in
from a different tribe smelling not like ours, we sat
up and took notice. And so my suspicion is that
having that, you know, that foreign accent implies different genes,
(31:12):
and that's why it's sexy to so many people. I
do want to say that that's so exciting. All right,
when we come back, I am going to go to
social media because I see a bunch of dms come
in and I know you guys are shy and you've
left me some questions, So follow me on Instagram at
d R Wendy Walsh at doctor Wendy Walsh, And when
we come back, I'm going to go into my DMS.
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