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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You're listening to KFI AM sixty on demand. Sandra, Welcome
to the Jesus Christ Show.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Howdy, how do you back? Catch you my thanks for
taking my call.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Here, my pleasure with a greeting like that, of course,
how can I help you?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Well, it sure has been interesting listening to what you've
been having to say in context of what's going on
with me. But essentially, you know, I am an abuse
survivor from my childhood, and you know, stuff happened, and
I do have a relationship with the Lord, but what
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has happened is in my daily walk. It's almost like
I don't really want to touch bases on a daily basis,
and it's like I know everything's going to come out
in the end. You know, every thing works too good?
What works for good?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
You know?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Sure, but.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Excruciating things happen, you know, and there's no guarantee even
though you really, excruciating things happen, and so it's like
on a daily basis, it's like almost like why bother.
I know it's going to come out. I believe, you know,
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But if I have a daily communication and then these
excruciating things happen, I don't see the point I just
rather know that it's going to come out okay, and
you know, not really fussed with it.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Well, so you're saying you don't want to have communication
with God because you don't think it's going to change
the outcome.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Well, I believe that the outcome is going to be okay,
you know, based on myself, based on everything that the
world has done for me.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Okay, man, that's fair enough. But why not have a
relationship while you're here?
Speaker 2 (02:13):
It really hurts?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
What does?
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Well?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You know, it's like there, I am going through something
that is excruciating, and it's still excruciating, and that doesn't
get taken away.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
But you know, but building the relationship with God is
not to take away the bad things in your life.
Bad things will continue to happen. It's to have that
pillar to lean on and to have that strength and
that promise that bolsters you, that builds you up in
a way to be able to take those trials or
those Shakespearean slings and arrows that you take on every day.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Well, when you say being my pillar, you know, I
think of the Lord as my pillar in knowing that
I will be in the end, everything's going to come
out okay, and when I am in heaven, everything will
be okay. But it's really hard when I'm going through
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something that is so painful to connect because it doesn't
make it any less painful, you know. I mean, I
don't just believe it all. It's just I don't want
the things that I'm experiencing that are horrible sometimes too
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well to be so horrible. It's like, it's okay if
they happen, but you know, I just need it to
not maybe be so horrible sometimes.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Well, God is not anesthesia. God is there not to
numb you from the things of this world. As a
matter of fact, it's not just about the promise at
the end. Otherwise, why did God put you here? There's
things to learn here, and part of the learning process
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is learning to rely on God, to lean on God
through times of pain. If you're not doing that, yes,
it retards the relationship. And I and I know that
you're going you have there's this disconnect in your logic.
There's some disconnect in what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Now.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I realize you said you are an abuse survivor that
was at the hands of a parent.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Uh, there were a number of things that were going on.
There was a hazing during my school years, and there
was some incest, although I actually think the hazing was worse.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
In that when you're dealing with peers in one case
and then dealing with people that you should trust, that
skews how you see life. Most certainly, God transcends those things.
And often because of the term, you know, God the
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Father or God the Son or these types of things,
those terms, people kind of apply them in those common
roles in life. And when there's problems in their childhood,
whether it be with a parent, parent or something like that,
that it does make that family structure skewed and makes
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it difficult to see sometimes and to connect with God
because of that. But you're reasoning that you don't want
to connect with God because there's problems in the world
on the day to day basis, I'm just not sure
what that means.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Well, what am I relying on the Lord for? I
already know you know that it's going to come out
in the end, But what is he doing for me now?
If I'm going through something that is excruciating? Now, He's
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not anesthesia, So what am I turning to him for?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
For strength, for the ability to get through it, for
understanding if there's something to understand, or even better, to
direct you away from things that might cause that, Because
there may be things that you bring into your life
as well, in addition to the garbage that comes by
way of someone else or someone else's decision or whatever.
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But you have got in your life actively as a
participant to help guide you away from things that might
be a problem or painful, to help you as an
alarm system, to alarm your body, your senses, your spirit
when you're getting into areas that might not be safe,
and we're good to comfort you and give you strength
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in the areas that you can't control when there's pain,
something to give you to dip into that hope of
the promise of heaven, to dip into that hope here
on earth and utilize that to build you strength during
those times, to get you into the times of normalcy
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or into a time of peace, to get you through that,
to know that you're not alone.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Yeah, yeah, it's yeah. So you're saying, why would.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
You reject those things, Why would you not want those
things in your life? Granted, as I said, God is
not anesthesia. God is not there to numb you to life.
But it doesn't mean that God. I mean, friends do
the same thing. Friends help guide you, friends comfort you
through times of pain. Are you gonna reject everybody in
your life because pain's going to be there. That doesn't
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make sense. Why would you do that with God? If
you wouldn't do that with regular relationships? Do you not
call people when you're in pain? Do you not have
friends that you lean on or people that you trust? No, Well,
then that's the that's the problem. You don't have it
in your life in any way, shape or form.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I guess, I guess you know nobody can fix anything, right.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Well, it's not about fixing things. You're human. You're broken.
By definition. Life hurts, it does. You enter this world
in the pain of someone else and you exit in
the pain of your own. But there's a lot of
beauty to it too, and there's a lot of wonder
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and magic to it. And I will tell you not
all pain is bad and not all pleasure is good.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Yeah, that's true, right.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Because there are people that took pleasure in causing harm
to you, and that was wrong, and I'm sorry that
you experienced those things. But there is a lot of
love and support and a lot of people that would
love to be there for you, and if you don't
let them in, you're missing You're missing a huge part.
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You're missing the the end to the yang. You're missing
the beautiful part on the other side of people coming
together in time of pain and people loving on one another,
and you're missing that, and you're focusing on the ugly
thing and only getting the ugly thing. And I wish
you would branch out. I wish you would allow people
in me included. I know that people like to overly
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spiritualize things, and it seems that you try and separate
the things that you go through in life from God
and kind of vice versa, and they go hand in hand.
God purposely puts you on earth if God wanted you to.
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If it was only about the promise or only about
the end result, then God wouldn't have created this journey
for you, an often beautiful journey that sometimes is painful,
and this purposeful journey is there for you to learn
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things and to know God and to connect with God better.
It's not about well I believe, And I'm just going
to hold my breath until the Kingdom of God comes
and I'll deal with this place. But I don't really
want to deal with this place. That's just not how
it works. God specifically said, my beloved, you're going to
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be here, and I don't want you to be the world.
You've got to be here and you've got to deal
with it and go from that. But I don't want
you to learn from them in that sense. I don't
want you to be them. Those that reject, those that
believe they are their own God, which is what mostly happens,
people become their own God. Think about those the atheists
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or whatnot, and the different beliefs they have in their
own life. They may not believe in God, but trust me,
they have a religion and they have their own things
that they focus on in their life. But this life
has a purpose and God wants to be a part
of that purpose alongside you. Kerrie, Welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Hi Jesus, thank you for taking my call, and thank
you for everything, all the blessings in my life life
good to bad, the ugly.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Oh praise God. How can I help you today?
Speaker 4 (12:04):
I have a life situation that went from bad to
worse to good.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Thank you well, hallelujah, let's hear it.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Beginning of the year I was well, this year, I
was well into my fourth year of unemployment. I was
in May. I was looking at eviction from my humble
little abode, and I went to a county agency here
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that I had heard could help me with that. Unfortunately,
they couldn't help me without me being employed. So I
walked the mile home from there, the first half of
the mile crying and being upset and wondering why God
did this to me, And the second half of the
mile I walked home praying. I got home, was dejected
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for a while, and within an hour and a half
of the time that I got home, I received a
phone call asking me to come in for an interview
for a job, for an application that had been floating
out there for a year. My goodness, in July, I
got that job.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Oh, praise God. That's awesome.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
So it's not always easy to live by face as
opposed to by sight, but it does happen.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Indeed, so, and isn't that interesting sometimes?
Speaker 3 (13:39):
You know?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
It's often people ask, well, why doesn't God want this
for my life? And we have to remind them that
God does want that for your life, but it may
not be the same time frame that you think. And
to hear things like that, and I appreciate you, Carrie
a calling and sharing your story because to hear things
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like you had a you know, a resume, an application,
what have you floating around for a year before you
ever got response on it, before you ever heard back,
or any of those things is a testament to patience
and to your faith because you just don't know. And
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for whatever reason God wanted to teach you that patience
or understanding of spending time with Him during that time,
whatever it was, that you learned it and you're back
on the track to balancing everything out in your life.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
It sounds like, yeah, yes I am. And that's not
to say that my face doesn't waver from time to time.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Because of course it does.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
And you know that.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Did.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
I tried to learn something from every lesson or life
situation again, the goods of bad or the ugly so
but I wanted to say thank you, and it may
not again, it may not always be in our time,
and sometimes the waiting is really really hard, but the
payoff is way worth it, and not just in this.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Life, absolutely, and how sweet that is when it comes together.
I appreciate you calling, carry and God bless you and
your patience and even taking the time to want to
tell a story where you said, hey, you know, things
went from good to bad and then went from bad
to good, because that is a very hard place to live,
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and a lot of people live in that space of wow,
it woes me and nothing is going to get better,
and life is going to continue to be you know,
one pile of dung after the next. And there's a
point where you're sitting there staring at a pile of
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dung and all of a sudden, this little sprout pops
up and you realize, oh, yeah, doung is fertilizer. And
sometimes that garbage that goes on in your life, that
big pile of dung of problems is there to fertilize
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for some reason, to make something else grow, something new,
a new direction, a new insight, a new understanding, a
new tool for your tool belt. We always talked about
that on the show, the life's tool belt that you
use every day, that you reach for to have those
tools that help you get through the day. Well, you
kind of it's like a video game, you know, where
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you earn this and oh, now you have this weapon
or this food supply or this medical supply or whatever
to keep you going. And God has given you those
opportunities in life to collect those things for your toolbox
to make you better and stronger. And if you give up,
you never get to see them. You never get to
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see the ending of the movie, the happy ending. Happy
endings don't only happen in Hollywood. It can happen in
real life if you allow them to, if you allow
God to finish what he started. In Scripture, it says
that God is the author and finisher of your faith.
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And the wonderful, the wonderful thing of that, as we
talked about faith many calls dealing with faith today is
the wonderful part of that is that, yes, you have
to participate, you have to read scripture, you have to pray,
you have to actualize your faith and apply it to things.
But it says that ultimately God not only authors your
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faith but finishes it. God doesn't just leave you in
the lurch. God is there with you in the process
of it all, with you through the good, the bad,
and as Carrie said, the ugly, to move you in
a direction that is positive and beneficial to you and
to others around you if you allow him to, If
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you allow him to guide you and not wrestle with it.
I see people do this all the time, fight with
machines or systems or whatever because they want it and
they want it now. And I'm telling you you should
be aware of that because you may be forcing yourself
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down a path that is much more dangerous, much more
problematic then the path it takes longer that God's got
you on, and that you will force yourself into something
that is a whole world of hurt. I see this
in relationships. People fight to stay in relationships that are
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horrible because emotionally and because of pride, they don't want
somebody to go. But in the long run it's often better.
So many men that stay with women that aren't good
for them, so many women that stay with men that
aren't good for them, and too long. It's okay to
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go down a path and have a relationship and say, hey,
this isn't working, but to keep it going when it's not,
be careful of what you do to expedite things or
to be convenient, because that will ultimately come back and
bite you, and when it does, it will be ten
times bigger than the first problem that if you just
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were patient and waited and trusted that things would work
out in the first place. Tony, Welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Good morning.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
How can I help you.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I'm an eighty three year old woman and I'm revisiting
my will. My estate is not overwhelming, but it's reasonable.
I have two children. In the past, I've always felt
the right thing to do was to divide everything evenly.
I have different thoughts now. I would never leave all
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of my estate to one child, but while I would
while I want to leave the bulk of it to
both children, there will be other considerations that I would
now want to leave to one child and not the other.
Because one child has moved away, and while she occasionally
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sends a card or makes a call, has distanced herself,
the other child has remained close. He includes me in
all hot holidays, visits me oh two or three times
a week, calls me daily. He and his wife basically
take care of me, although I'm still pretty able to
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take care of myself.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Well, are you being punitive or are you just not
close to that child?
Speaker 3 (21:19):
I've thought about that. No, I don't think it's punitive.
I think it's more realistic that people who stay close
to you and help you and work with you, and
for you probably deserve more consideration.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Fair enough. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that, Okay.
I think that in a situation where you feel someone
has given you it, just if you're if you want
to do it in a way where you split it up,
you split up a portion of it, and you say
this is this is goes to my children, and I
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have split this up evenly amongst you, and this is
for you being you know, my blood and my children,
and I love you. And then have as it's you know,
set up in the will or whatever, and this is
an extra amount for this child for taking the extra
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effort to take care of me or watch over my
things or whatever. That's fine as well, however you want
it to be stated. But of course you love your children,
of course, And do you feel that there's some reason
that your daughter has kind of stepped out of the
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picture a little bit?
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Frankly, it seems as though she was always more attached.
She tied up with a boy when she was fifteen,
married him, and seemed to have attached herself to him.
Her friends have always meant more to her than her family.
I've accepted it. But now that I'm older and needing
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more help, I see more reality in rewarding my son more.
It won't be you know, I'm not leaving everything to
one child and not the other. Sure, the largest part
of the estate will be split. I think that's just
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her nature.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Well, I think I think that's that's fair if somebody
has given the extra if a child has given the
extra effort, and often that falls on to one child
that they end up being whether it's proximity or just character,
it's just you know, that's just the way they are.
It ends up falling on one child, even in you know,
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larger families to take care of. I think that that's fair. Yeah,
I think that's fair. It's your money. You can do
what you want. Whether it's even fair if you wanted
to give all just keep this in mind. Have all
of those things. Again, this is not a legal show.
I'll do with morality, but have all those things in order,
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because once you come home with me, they are your
family is left to deal with that and to deal
with any battle that might ensue or frustrations, and do
they have a good relationship as brother and sister or
she's similarly disconnected.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
With him, more attached to other people. I guess similar, okay, similar.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
But just keep those things in mind. But it's fair
for you to do.
Speaker 3 (24:52):
There is.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Nothing right or wrong. I guess. A parent is always
teaching up until the end. Right, And that's a very uh,
that's something that you're you're teaching and you're saying, hey, listen,
we this is a family inheritance. And family is more
than just blood. It is uh, it's you know, a verb,
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and you're participatory in each other's lives. And you have
every right to give that money to whenever you want.
And if that's the case that you choose that that's
fine as well. Just you know, let it be known
and to have that explained in any paperwork so it's
understood and therefore accepted. That last call brings up a
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lot of thoughts about family and connection. And I know
that life is built on relationships. It really is. And
I've said many many times that Scripture is all about relationships. Uh,
it doesn't seem and that's not to be some new
ageing modern thought of whittling everything down to relationships. It's
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the truth. If you go through the beginning and Adam
and Eve to the Book of Revelation. It's all about
interaction with one another, in interaction with God and getting
to the focus, to that center of relationships is the
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key to everything in life. Everything, your job, your well being,
your home, the peace at home, all of those things
really center on how you interact with others and can relate,
and that means and by relating, it means not only
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you know, if you think one sidedly that you deal
well with relationships, that's not a relationship. If you understand people,
take time to understand them. And in a case of
being a parent and leaving money to your children putting
it in a will, I know that there's a lot
of factors that you're thinking about dealing with. Well, this
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person took care of me, or this person took time
with me. But there's also things that you have to
think about when you're gone, and the relationship that that
leaves the rest of the family members in and the
siblings in, and how that could build rivalry or that
rivalry or interaction caused problems in the interaction of those siblings,
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and so your relationships never stop. Isn't that fascinating that
even when someone passes on, that really the spirit of
what they bring to that family unit or whatever continues
to be a part of that family. And oftentimes there
are parents that mistreated children or favored one or did
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something that that continues to last. How many times have
we had phone calls on this very program of people
calling in and saying something happened a long time ago,
the parents are even passed, and it still permeates or
has a driving force in relationships to this very day.
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So obviously, relationships are incredibly important, and sometimes people get
wrapped up in the fact that they're chemical or chemistry
or I connect with this person or I don't connect
with that person. But ultimately, learning how to deal with
other people, learning how to understand other people's needs and
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who they are as a person is part of communicating
and part of having relationships. You need to take time
to understand and to learn about those people as well,
and I encourage you to do that in all walks
of life, family, friends, everything. And I know that there's
a lot of noise out there these days, and a
lot going on in the world, but I want you
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to remember these simple words. I am with you always.
KFI A M six forty on demand
You're listening to KFI AM sixty on demand. Sandra, Welcome
to the Jesus Christ Show.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Howdy, how do you back? Catch you my thanks for
taking my call.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Here, my pleasure with a greeting like that, of course,
how can I help you?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Well, it sure has been interesting listening to what you've
been having to say in context of what's going on
with me. But essentially, you know, I am an abuse
survivor from my childhood, and you know, stuff happened, and
I do have a relationship with the Lord, but what
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has happened is in my daily walk. It's almost like
I don't really want to touch bases on a daily basis,
and it's like I know everything's going to come out
in the end. You know, every thing works too good?
What works for good?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
You know?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Sure, but.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Excruciating things happen, you know, and there's no guarantee even
though you really, excruciating things happen, and so it's like
on a daily basis, it's like almost like why bother.
I know it's going to come out. I believe, you know,
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But if I have a daily communication and then these
excruciating things happen, I don't see the point I just
rather know that it's going to come out okay, and
you know, not really fussed with it.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Well, so you're saying you don't want to have communication
with God because you don't think it's going to change
the outcome.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Well, I believe that the outcome is going to be okay,
you know, based on myself, based on everything that the
world has done for me.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Okay, man, that's fair enough. But why not have a
relationship while you're here?
Speaker 2 (02:13):
It really hurts?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
What does?
Speaker 4 (02:17):
Well?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You know, it's like there, I am going through something
that is excruciating, and it's still excruciating, and that doesn't
get taken away.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
But you know, but building the relationship with God is
not to take away the bad things in your life.
Bad things will continue to happen. It's to have that
pillar to lean on and to have that strength and
that promise that bolsters you, that builds you up in
a way to be able to take those trials or
those Shakespearean slings and arrows that you take on every day.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Well, when you say being my pillar, you know, I
think of the Lord as my pillar in knowing that
I will be in the end, everything's going to come
out okay, and when I am in heaven, everything will
be okay. But it's really hard when I'm going through
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something that is so painful to connect because it doesn't
make it any less painful, you know. I mean, I
don't just believe it all. It's just I don't want
the things that I'm experiencing that are horrible sometimes too
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well to be so horrible. It's like, it's okay if
they happen, but you know, I just need it to
not maybe be so horrible sometimes.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Well, God is not anesthesia. God is there not to
numb you from the things of this world. As a
matter of fact, it's not just about the promise at
the end. Otherwise, why did God put you here? There's
things to learn here, and part of the learning process
(04:14):
is learning to rely on God, to lean on God
through times of pain. If you're not doing that, yes,
it retards the relationship. And I and I know that
you're going you have there's this disconnect in your logic.
There's some disconnect in what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Now.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I realize you said you are an abuse survivor that
was at the hands of a parent.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Uh, there were a number of things that were going on.
There was a hazing during my school years, and there
was some incest, although I actually think the hazing was worse.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
In that when you're dealing with peers in one case
and then dealing with people that you should trust, that
skews how you see life. Most certainly, God transcends those things.
And often because of the term, you know, God the
(05:22):
Father or God the Son or these types of things,
those terms, people kind of apply them in those common
roles in life. And when there's problems in their childhood,
whether it be with a parent, parent or something like that,
that it does make that family structure skewed and makes
(05:44):
it difficult to see sometimes and to connect with God
because of that. But you're reasoning that you don't want
to connect with God because there's problems in the world
on the day to day basis, I'm just not sure
what that means.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Well, what am I relying on the Lord for? I
already know you know that it's going to come out
in the end, But what is he doing for me now?
If I'm going through something that is excruciating? Now, He's
(06:24):
not anesthesia, So what am I turning to him for?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
For strength, for the ability to get through it, for
understanding if there's something to understand, or even better, to
direct you away from things that might cause that, Because
there may be things that you bring into your life
as well, in addition to the garbage that comes by
way of someone else or someone else's decision or whatever.
(06:50):
But you have got in your life actively as a
participant to help guide you away from things that might
be a problem or painful, to help you as an
alarm system, to alarm your body, your senses, your spirit
when you're getting into areas that might not be safe,
and we're good to comfort you and give you strength
(07:14):
in the areas that you can't control when there's pain,
something to give you to dip into that hope of
the promise of heaven, to dip into that hope here
on earth and utilize that to build you strength during
those times, to get you into the times of normalcy
(07:34):
or into a time of peace, to get you through that,
to know that you're not alone.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
Yeah, yeah, it's yeah. So you're saying, why would.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
You reject those things, Why would you not want those
things in your life? Granted, as I said, God is
not anesthesia. God is not there to numb you to life.
But it doesn't mean that God. I mean, friends do
the same thing. Friends help guide you, friends comfort you
through times of pain. Are you gonna reject everybody in
your life because pain's going to be there. That doesn't
(08:14):
make sense. Why would you do that with God? If
you wouldn't do that with regular relationships? Do you not
call people when you're in pain? Do you not have
friends that you lean on or people that you trust? No, Well,
then that's the that's the problem. You don't have it
in your life in any way, shape or form.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I guess, I guess you know nobody can fix anything, right.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Well, it's not about fixing things. You're human. You're broken.
By definition. Life hurts, it does. You enter this world
in the pain of someone else and you exit in
the pain of your own. But there's a lot of
beauty to it too, and there's a lot of wonder
(09:01):
and magic to it. And I will tell you not
all pain is bad and not all pleasure is good.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Yeah, that's true, right.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Because there are people that took pleasure in causing harm
to you, and that was wrong, and I'm sorry that
you experienced those things. But there is a lot of
love and support and a lot of people that would
love to be there for you, and if you don't
let them in, you're missing You're missing a huge part.
(09:34):
You're missing the the end to the yang. You're missing
the beautiful part on the other side of people coming
together in time of pain and people loving on one another,
and you're missing that, and you're focusing on the ugly
thing and only getting the ugly thing. And I wish
you would branch out. I wish you would allow people
in me included. I know that people like to overly
(10:02):
spiritualize things, and it seems that you try and separate
the things that you go through in life from God
and kind of vice versa, and they go hand in hand.
God purposely puts you on earth if God wanted you to.
(10:24):
If it was only about the promise or only about
the end result, then God wouldn't have created this journey
for you, an often beautiful journey that sometimes is painful,
and this purposeful journey is there for you to learn
(10:46):
things and to know God and to connect with God better.
It's not about well I believe, And I'm just going
to hold my breath until the Kingdom of God comes
and I'll deal with this place. But I don't really
want to deal with this place. That's just not how
it works. God specifically said, my beloved, you're going to
(11:09):
be here, and I don't want you to be the world.
You've got to be here and you've got to deal
with it and go from that. But I don't want
you to learn from them in that sense. I don't
want you to be them. Those that reject, those that
believe they are their own God, which is what mostly happens,
people become their own God. Think about those the atheists
(11:33):
or whatnot, and the different beliefs they have in their
own life. They may not believe in God, but trust me,
they have a religion and they have their own things
that they focus on in their life. But this life
has a purpose and God wants to be a part
of that purpose alongside you. Kerrie, Welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
Hi Jesus, thank you for taking my call, and thank
you for everything, all the blessings in my life life
good to bad, the ugly.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Oh praise God. How can I help you today?
Speaker 4 (12:04):
I have a life situation that went from bad to
worse to good.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Thank you well, hallelujah, let's hear it.
Speaker 4 (12:11):
Beginning of the year I was well, this year, I
was well into my fourth year of unemployment. I was
in May. I was looking at eviction from my humble
little abode, and I went to a county agency here
(12:34):
that I had heard could help me with that. Unfortunately,
they couldn't help me without me being employed. So I
walked the mile home from there, the first half of
the mile crying and being upset and wondering why God
did this to me, And the second half of the
mile I walked home praying. I got home, was dejected
(13:00):
for a while, and within an hour and a half
of the time that I got home, I received a
phone call asking me to come in for an interview
for a job, for an application that had been floating
out there for a year. My goodness, in July, I
got that job.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Oh, praise God. That's awesome.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
So it's not always easy to live by face as
opposed to by sight, but it does happen.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
Indeed, so, and isn't that interesting sometimes?
Speaker 3 (13:39):
You know?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
It's often people ask, well, why doesn't God want this
for my life? And we have to remind them that
God does want that for your life, but it may
not be the same time frame that you think. And
to hear things like that, and I appreciate you, Carrie
a calling and sharing your story because to hear things
(14:02):
like you had a you know, a resume, an application,
what have you floating around for a year before you
ever got response on it, before you ever heard back,
or any of those things is a testament to patience
and to your faith because you just don't know. And
(14:24):
for whatever reason God wanted to teach you that patience
or understanding of spending time with Him during that time,
whatever it was, that you learned it and you're back
on the track to balancing everything out in your life.
Speaker 4 (14:42):
It sounds like, yeah, yes I am. And that's not
to say that my face doesn't waver from time to time.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Because of course it does.
Speaker 4 (14:52):
And you know that.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
Did.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
I tried to learn something from every lesson or life
situation again, the goods of bad or the ugly so
but I wanted to say thank you, and it may
not again, it may not always be in our time,
and sometimes the waiting is really really hard, but the
payoff is way worth it, and not just in this.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Life, absolutely, and how sweet that is when it comes together.
I appreciate you calling, carry and God bless you and
your patience and even taking the time to want to
tell a story where you said, hey, you know, things
went from good to bad and then went from bad
to good, because that is a very hard place to live,
(15:41):
and a lot of people live in that space of wow,
it woes me and nothing is going to get better,
and life is going to continue to be you know,
one pile of dung after the next. And there's a
point where you're sitting there staring at a pile of
(16:04):
dung and all of a sudden, this little sprout pops
up and you realize, oh, yeah, doung is fertilizer. And
sometimes that garbage that goes on in your life, that
big pile of dung of problems is there to fertilize
(16:28):
for some reason, to make something else grow, something new,
a new direction, a new insight, a new understanding, a
new tool for your tool belt. We always talked about
that on the show, the life's tool belt that you
use every day, that you reach for to have those
tools that help you get through the day. Well, you
kind of it's like a video game, you know, where
(16:50):
you earn this and oh, now you have this weapon
or this food supply or this medical supply or whatever
to keep you going. And God has given you those
opportunities in life to collect those things for your toolbox
to make you better and stronger. And if you give up,
you never get to see them. You never get to
(17:10):
see the ending of the movie, the happy ending. Happy
endings don't only happen in Hollywood. It can happen in
real life if you allow them to, if you allow
God to finish what he started. In Scripture, it says
that God is the author and finisher of your faith.
(17:32):
And the wonderful, the wonderful thing of that, as we
talked about faith many calls dealing with faith today is
the wonderful part of that is that, yes, you have
to participate, you have to read scripture, you have to pray,
you have to actualize your faith and apply it to things.
But it says that ultimately God not only authors your
(17:54):
faith but finishes it. God doesn't just leave you in
the lurch. God is there with you in the process
of it all, with you through the good, the bad,
and as Carrie said, the ugly, to move you in
a direction that is positive and beneficial to you and
to others around you if you allow him to, If
(18:19):
you allow him to guide you and not wrestle with it.
I see people do this all the time, fight with
machines or systems or whatever because they want it and
they want it now. And I'm telling you you should
be aware of that because you may be forcing yourself
(18:39):
down a path that is much more dangerous, much more
problematic then the path it takes longer that God's got
you on, and that you will force yourself into something
that is a whole world of hurt. I see this
in relationships. People fight to stay in relationships that are
(19:00):
horrible because emotionally and because of pride, they don't want
somebody to go. But in the long run it's often better.
So many men that stay with women that aren't good
for them, so many women that stay with men that
aren't good for them, and too long. It's okay to
(19:24):
go down a path and have a relationship and say, hey,
this isn't working, but to keep it going when it's not,
be careful of what you do to expedite things or
to be convenient, because that will ultimately come back and
bite you, and when it does, it will be ten
times bigger than the first problem that if you just
(19:47):
were patient and waited and trusted that things would work
out in the first place. Tony, Welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Good morning.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
How can I help you.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
I'm an eighty three year old woman and I'm revisiting
my will. My estate is not overwhelming, but it's reasonable.
I have two children. In the past, I've always felt
the right thing to do was to divide everything evenly.
I have different thoughts now. I would never leave all
(20:28):
of my estate to one child, but while I would
while I want to leave the bulk of it to
both children, there will be other considerations that I would
now want to leave to one child and not the other.
Because one child has moved away, and while she occasionally
(20:50):
sends a card or makes a call, has distanced herself,
the other child has remained close. He includes me in
all hot holidays, visits me oh two or three times
a week, calls me daily. He and his wife basically
take care of me, although I'm still pretty able to
(21:11):
take care of myself.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Well, are you being punitive or are you just not
close to that child?
Speaker 3 (21:19):
I've thought about that. No, I don't think it's punitive.
I think it's more realistic that people who stay close
to you and help you and work with you, and
for you probably deserve more consideration.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Fair enough. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that, Okay.
I think that in a situation where you feel someone
has given you it, just if you're if you want
to do it in a way where you split it up,
you split up a portion of it, and you say
this is this is goes to my children, and I
(22:05):
have split this up evenly amongst you, and this is
for you being you know, my blood and my children,
and I love you. And then have as it's you know,
set up in the will or whatever, and this is
an extra amount for this child for taking the extra
(22:25):
effort to take care of me or watch over my
things or whatever. That's fine as well, however you want
it to be stated. But of course you love your children,
of course, And do you feel that there's some reason
that your daughter has kind of stepped out of the
(22:46):
picture a little bit?
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Frankly, it seems as though she was always more attached.
She tied up with a boy when she was fifteen,
married him, and seemed to have attached herself to him.
Her friends have always meant more to her than her family.
I've accepted it. But now that I'm older and needing
(23:12):
more help, I see more reality in rewarding my son more.
It won't be you know, I'm not leaving everything to
one child and not the other. Sure, the largest part
of the estate will be split. I think that's just
(23:32):
her nature.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Well, I think I think that's that's fair if somebody
has given the extra if a child has given the
extra effort, and often that falls on to one child
that they end up being whether it's proximity or just character,
it's just you know, that's just the way they are.
It ends up falling on one child, even in you know,
(23:58):
larger families to take care of. I think that that's fair. Yeah,
I think that's fair. It's your money. You can do
what you want. Whether it's even fair if you wanted
to give all just keep this in mind. Have all
of those things. Again, this is not a legal show.
I'll do with morality, but have all those things in order,
(24:18):
because once you come home with me, they are your
family is left to deal with that and to deal
with any battle that might ensue or frustrations, and do
they have a good relationship as brother and sister or
she's similarly disconnected.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
With him, more attached to other people. I guess similar, okay, similar.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
But just keep those things in mind. But it's fair
for you to do.
Speaker 3 (24:52):
There is.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Nothing right or wrong. I guess. A parent is always
teaching up until the end. Right, And that's a very uh,
that's something that you're you're teaching and you're saying, hey, listen,
we this is a family inheritance. And family is more
than just blood. It is uh, it's you know, a verb,
(25:19):
and you're participatory in each other's lives. And you have
every right to give that money to whenever you want.
And if that's the case that you choose that that's
fine as well. Just you know, let it be known
and to have that explained in any paperwork so it's
understood and therefore accepted. That last call brings up a
(25:43):
lot of thoughts about family and connection. And I know
that life is built on relationships. It really is. And
I've said many many times that Scripture is all about relationships. Uh,
it doesn't seem and that's not to be some new
ageing modern thought of whittling everything down to relationships. It's
(26:05):
the truth. If you go through the beginning and Adam
and Eve to the Book of Revelation. It's all about
interaction with one another, in interaction with God and getting
to the focus, to that center of relationships is the
(26:26):
key to everything in life. Everything, your job, your well being,
your home, the peace at home, all of those things
really center on how you interact with others and can relate,
and that means and by relating, it means not only
(26:47):
you know, if you think one sidedly that you deal
well with relationships, that's not a relationship. If you understand people,
take time to understand them. And in a case of
being a parent and leaving money to your children putting
it in a will, I know that there's a lot
of factors that you're thinking about dealing with. Well, this
(27:11):
person took care of me, or this person took time
with me. But there's also things that you have to
think about when you're gone, and the relationship that that
leaves the rest of the family members in and the
siblings in, and how that could build rivalry or that
rivalry or interaction caused problems in the interaction of those siblings,
(27:34):
and so your relationships never stop. Isn't that fascinating that
even when someone passes on, that really the spirit of
what they bring to that family unit or whatever continues
to be a part of that family. And oftentimes there
are parents that mistreated children or favored one or did
(27:54):
something that that continues to last. How many times have
we had phone calls on this very program of people
calling in and saying something happened a long time ago,
the parents are even passed, and it still permeates or
has a driving force in relationships to this very day.
(28:15):
So obviously, relationships are incredibly important, and sometimes people get
wrapped up in the fact that they're chemical or chemistry
or I connect with this person or I don't connect
with that person. But ultimately, learning how to deal with
other people, learning how to understand other people's needs and
(28:36):
who they are as a person is part of communicating
and part of having relationships. You need to take time
to understand and to learn about those people as well,
and I encourage you to do that in all walks
of life, family, friends, everything. And I know that there's
a lot of noise out there these days, and a
lot going on in the world, but I want you
(28:56):
to remember these simple words. I am with you always.
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