June 2, 2025 • 16 mins
Liz Svatek is a transformational coach, rapid transformational therapist, and founder of Warrior Women Inc., a company empowering women over 40. She hosts the top-ranked Conversations with Warrior Women podcast, where she shares inspiring stories of resilience. Liz combines neuroscience, human design, and mindset mastery to help women overcome limiting beliefs and live with purpose.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to The Doctor Wendy Walls Show and KFI
AM six forty Live Everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. My
guest is someone who has been spending a great deal
of her life helping women transform their own lives. I've
actually been honored to be a guest on her podcast,
Conversations with Warrior Women in the past, although now it's
(00:23):
called The Liz swat Oh, I'm gonna say it wrong, Liz,
how do I pronounce your last name? Love?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Swatik?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Swatik Like I'm gonna swatick you out of my way
so I can go forward to be a warrior right.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Swatik Liz Swatik.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Liz is a healer and rapid transformation coach. Rapid I
love that word, and she basically is all about resilience
and when she, just like myself as a journalist, brings
knowledge to the masses, it is from the world's of neuroscience,
(01:01):
human design, and sometimes mastering our own illogical, irrational and
downright wrong beliefs. Liz Swaddick, thank you so much for
being with us.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
I am curious to know how you found your own
passion and what you did before this that led you
to this place of being a healer and transformation coach.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Well, the better question might be what haven't I done?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
I have a resume like that too.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I know, Oh my gosh, I have been. I was
a stand up comedian, I was an actress. I was
in luxury marketing. I had a social media company that
I ended up selling because it was just too much
for me. All this to say, I think, you know,
you hit a certain age. I'm fifty five, Double Nickel,
just had my double Nickel birthday, Happy birthday. I thank you.
(01:56):
I think when you know, when you're in your forty
fifty sixty, I start to realize, you know, maybe the
things you were doing before, just because you're good at
it doesn't mean you want to keep doing it. And
I think I learned that and I kind of hit
a wall at forty nine and I realized I'm not
I'm just kind of going along, just doing kind of
(02:17):
whatever comes to me. I'm not really making these choices
that I want to make. And then I had some
guilt and shame about this that i'd done. I felt
like I was the Jane of all trades and the
master of None. You know, I've done everything and had
some success, but really, now when I look back on it,
I've now it seems like this beautiful mosaic my whole life. Now,
(02:38):
everything I'm doing now I use every single thing I've
ever done in my coaching and my healing. It's almost
like Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz, like I went
down the Yellowick road and here I am and I
have arrived. So it's I think I was always curious
about transformation. I think I've always been curious about healing
(02:59):
and transforming and changing and evolving, and I think now
I get to do it for a living, and that
just is amazing.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Well, what's interesting is I think often of my own
media work. I think of that wonderful saying from is
it from Jonathan Livingston Segull in that book where he
says we teach best what we most need to learn.
And for people like you and I, Liz, who are
extroverts who process externally as we are going through our
(03:31):
own life, navigating of life, we're like shouting it from
the rooftops for people like, oh my goodness, this is
what this is how you do it?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Look I'm doing it, and it sounds like you went.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Through your own transformation to get to this place to
want to share it with other warrior women.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
No, that's exactly right. It's because I have walked this
path that I am an expert in transformation. And also,
you know, I'm also an expert expert of getting knocked
down and getting back up again, which I know you
are as well. I think I think that's kind of
you know when people come to me like, well, Liz,
I can't do it because I'm going through this or this,
(04:12):
and I say, yes, I've done that, Yes me too,
Uh huh, Yes, I've heard this, you know. So I
think because I've been through so many things, everything from
infertility to marriage issues too. I've got a child with
a physical difference. I've got a child with altered of colitis.
I mean, I have things, you know. I've had a
kid with ADHD who's struggled through high school. I've had
(04:32):
so many things. So I think because I've had so
many things, I have a unique way of using my
stand up comedy, using my humor, and really understanding where
women are in midlife and what they what the unique
challenges are of that of that zone.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
And I don't need to tell you that we are
a very unique species in that we are the only
one of three species on the entire planet that has
men upon us a time of a woman's life where
she is wise, experienced, energetic, fun and also sterile and evolution.
Mother Nature was so perfect she was she created the
(05:12):
stage of a woman's life.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I believe well.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Evolutionary psychologists would say to help nurture the next generation,
but that includes getting involved in politics, building businesses, building charities.
That's all nurturing the culture. We become custodians of the
culture because we now have the time to do that.
But figuring out it sounds to me like the people
who follow you and read your work and listen to
(05:35):
your podcast are people who are trying to figure out
how to create that important meaning during that special third
of their life.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Am I right?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You're one hundred percent right. I call it legacy work.
I think a lot of women think of legacy of
what happens after we're gone. I believe that we live
our legacy now in our thoughts are actions, how we
make people feel, how we feel, All the choices that
we're making every single day is leaving a legacy. And
(06:06):
I lead women to that many different ways, but the
first step is always there's needs to be some healing.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Right.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Sometimes we have to go back into our past to
look kind of at how we got where we are,
how did we get here. And when you look at
your past, it's not to live there, right, to not
live in the hood, as I say, the victimhood. Not
live in the hood, but to look at it and
find the diamonds. What are these points of wisdom? And
like exactly, like you're saying, there's a unique wisdom that
(06:35):
comes to us in our forties, fifties and sixties because
we have lived. We have lived and we have wisdom.
And I think there's this kind of prevailing knowledge that
we're supposed to shrink away or feel bad because we're aging.
It's like, no, this is the juiciest period of your life.
This is the time where you need to be sharing
your wisdom. And I have these safe spaces where women
(06:55):
can come and share their wisdom, and you know, there's
everybody gets to, you know, be together and feel safe
enough to expand and grow and try things right and.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Evolves exactly, And let me tell you, there is so
much opportunity for all women to be effective, to create
change and have meaning. And definitely we are not meant
to wither away. We're in what I call our power stage.
This is definitely our power stage. So when we come
back Liz, Liz Swatick, there's a via there by the
(07:25):
way that she says sounds like a W so she
apparently has rewritten the alphabet as well.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
That's how. Yes, this woman's super powerful. Your new book is.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Called Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior
is revealed. I got cut my spears and the Warrior
appears there literally one word got cut off and my
printed thing. I was like, I know something happens with
this Warrior. I know she comes out somehow. Welcome back
to the home stretch of the Doctor Wendywall Show on
KF I am six forty. My guest is Liz Swatik,
(08:00):
dealer and transformation coach. Her new book is called Finding
Your Diamonds, Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears. First
of all, Liz, when I saw your new book cover,
I was thrilled. It's gorgeous. You're gorgeous. The colors are great.
We're not afraid of pink anymore?
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Are we.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
No? Tell unafraid?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Tell me how you chose this title and what does
it really mean? Finding your diamonds?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
So yeah, first of all, I love it because to me,
when I see this cover it's pink and white, it
just would I would want to buy this cover just
because it looks delicious. It looks like a dessert. But
don't don't hear what I'm not saying, because this is
a very deep book. This is a very very deep book,
despite all the pink and every all the things on
the cover. But Finding your Diamonds is about finding the wisdom,
(08:47):
going back in the ashes of your past, maybe even
things that you thought really went terribly or things you
have regret or shame about, and unearthing excavating the diamonds
of wisdom. Because how are diamonds made? Of course through pressure, right, force, heat,
you know all the elements.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
And we've had a lot of pressure. Liz. Let me
just say, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Oh my god. I mean, there's no listen to the
truth is women are just standing on diamonds, that's what
they're doing. And I think they don't understand that. They
think that all these things that have happened to them,
you know, it's ruined parts of their lives, or they
have regret. There is no regret because everything that you
have been through is a diamond. And I think it
takes some distance and time right to hit those juicy
(09:32):
forty fifty sixties, so you can really look and find them.
But I'm encouraging women to find the diamonds that they
can stand on and build a foundation on and then
heal the girl and the warrior appears. I am a
big proponent of little girl work. Back in the day
they called it, you know, inner child work. I call
it little girl work because I work with women. But
(09:52):
that she is really the key. That little girl, when
you reconnect with her, it brings back the playfulness, the energy, lightness,
and then also guess what, you get to feel your feelings.
I mean, every woman I work with, they tell me
their tears are stuck in their throat and they're apologize
for crying, and I say, no, it's okay, right, Like
we're supposed to feel the full range of human emotion.
(10:15):
So that little girl is really the key to our healing.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
And let's talk about some news you can use. Can
you share a couple strategies from the book Finding Your Diamonds.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Yes, and I will tell you. In this book, I
have included a little girl meditation, so you get to
in the kindle, you just click to it. Otherwise you
can see the website to go to, but there is
a meditation. So I'm a big proponent of using meditation
to reconnect with your little girl because I know it's hard, right,
it's hard to kind of imagine sometimes or we're afraid
(10:48):
to do this work. So I've made this gorgeous meditation
that you can do. Also, in every single chapter, I
have exercises everything from boundaries to little girls work, to
legacy work, and questions that you can ask yourself. So
even though I'm using my story to kind of illustrate it,
every single chapter has questions and things you can do
(11:10):
in journal about But one thing I would say if
I had, if I had to give a tip, I
would definitely say that it's getting it's getting quiet. You know,
I think we're really busy. We never slow down.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
We are very busy, Barbie Sias.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
We have people to take care of older people, young people,
work people.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
We barely have time to take care of our own bodies.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Yes, and we are we are the caretakers, and so
I get that. But if you do not slow down,
you cannot hear your intuition. You cannot hear your own voice.
So that's that's the first thing you have to do.
You have to slow down and start letting your feelings
and your thoughts catch up with you. Not that you can.
You don't have to believe every thought you're thinking, because
(11:51):
guess what, that mind is tricky, So I wouldn't believe
every thought comes to your mind. But at least here
hear yourself right, and slow down and a long enough
so that you can actually feel and know where you are.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Where can people get the book?
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Right now. You can get it on Amazon. It's available kindle, paperback, hardcover,
and actually for the next four days it's free on
your kindle.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Wow, you should have told me to bring my kindle
to work. Wait, I think I have the Kindle app.
It might even work on the Kindle app. Right, I'm
gonna try to figure this.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
We can do it.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Try to figure this out. It's interesting that you will
close by talking a little bit about meditation. For any
of our listeners out there who think that meditation is
woo woo California silly stuff, there is. I teach a
section on meditation in my health psychology class to university students,
and I teach what the research says. And what's really
(12:50):
fascinating about the research is, not only does it make
you more empathetic more than anything, you have less rumination
about your stress. Those are thoughts spinning around. It creates
a nice little gap between Oh, a bad thing happened
and what should I do next? There's it slows your
brain enough. It's like you know, you know how Liz.
(13:10):
They call it a practice, right, And I always say
that you know what you're practicing for stress in life?
When you meditate, your practicing for the stress. So I
use the metaphor of like, you know, you don't go
on a StairMaster or a run on a treadmill only
to look good. It's because one day that car is
going to careen at you while you're in a crosswalk
and you're gonnaed to jump out of the way, and
(13:31):
if you've been working out, you'll be able to do that.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
So the same thing with.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Our minds and meditation is if we stop our thoughts.
I mean, we're not supposed to stop our thought. You're
suposed to just watch your thoughts and acknowledge them and
respect them. But it gives you a chance to just
create a little gap or a space between feeling and behavior,
and it gives you, like this little time to think
(13:55):
it out, which is so right. And I'm just so grateful, Liz,
that you do the work you do because I know
this is important to many many women. They feel like,
you know, our culture talks about agism like we're somehow
irrelevant if we can't have a baby yet. Now our
babies are the entire globe of babies and adults. We're
(14:17):
taking care of lots of people right.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Absolutely. And you know it's funny about meditation. You just
made me think of something. When you think about meditation,
you know, you think about all the things you're like
you're saying, you're practicing. We're always practicing what we don't want.
We're always worried, we're focused on what we don't want.
Rarely do we focus on what we do want and
how we do want to feel. No one to ask
women how do you want to feel? But that's the
question you can ask yourself in midlife, and that's what
(14:42):
you get to do when you meditate. You get to
actually focus on what you do want practice what you
do want to feel when you're meditating. So and you're
and meditating brings brain coherence. Everybody tells me, oh my god,
I feel like my brain is scrambled. I can't remember anything.
They're using meditation with Parkinson's now, they're literally helping people
with Parkinson's with brain coherence. It literally tells the centers
(15:05):
of your brain to come back together. So listen. I
went kicking and screamings. I did not want to do it,
but boy, is it important. You're one hundred percent right.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Liz Swadik, thank you so much for joining us today.
The book is Finding Your Diamonds. Heal the Girl and
the Warrior appears. You can get it on Amazon, Kindle anywhere,
and it's free for the next four days. I'm going
to punch it into my Kindle app Liz right away.
Thanks for being with us and that and that brings
the Doctor Wendy Wall Show to a close. It is
(15:36):
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(15:58):
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(16:18):
forty live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app.
Welcome back to The Doctor Wendy Walls Show and KFI
AM six forty Live Everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. My
guest is someone who has been spending a great deal
of her life helping women transform their own lives. I've
actually been honored to be a guest on her podcast,
Conversations with Warrior Women in the past, although now it's
(00:23):
called The Liz swat Oh, I'm gonna say it wrong, Liz,
how do I pronounce your last name? Love?
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Swatik?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Swatik Like I'm gonna swatick you out of my way
so I can go forward to be a warrior right.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Swatik Liz Swatik.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
Liz is a healer and rapid transformation coach. Rapid I
love that word, and she basically is all about resilience
and when she, just like myself as a journalist, brings
knowledge to the masses, it is from the world's of neuroscience,
(01:01):
human design, and sometimes mastering our own illogical, irrational and
downright wrong beliefs. Liz Swaddick, thank you so much for
being with us.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
I am curious to know how you found your own
passion and what you did before this that led you
to this place of being a healer and transformation coach.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Well, the better question might be what haven't I done?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
I have a resume like that too.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I know, Oh my gosh, I have been. I was
a stand up comedian, I was an actress. I was
in luxury marketing. I had a social media company that
I ended up selling because it was just too much
for me. All this to say, I think, you know,
you hit a certain age. I'm fifty five, Double Nickel,
just had my double Nickel birthday, Happy birthday. I thank you.
(01:56):
I think when you know, when you're in your forty
fifty sixty, I start to realize, you know, maybe the
things you were doing before, just because you're good at
it doesn't mean you want to keep doing it. And
I think I learned that and I kind of hit
a wall at forty nine and I realized I'm not
I'm just kind of going along, just doing kind of
(02:17):
whatever comes to me. I'm not really making these choices
that I want to make. And then I had some
guilt and shame about this that i'd done. I felt
like I was the Jane of all trades and the
master of None. You know, I've done everything and had
some success, but really, now when I look back on it,
I've now it seems like this beautiful mosaic my whole life. Now,
(02:38):
everything I'm doing now I use every single thing I've
ever done in my coaching and my healing. It's almost
like Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz, like I went
down the Yellowick road and here I am and I
have arrived. So it's I think I was always curious
about transformation. I think I've always been curious about healing
(02:59):
and transforming and changing and evolving, and I think now
I get to do it for a living, and that
just is amazing.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Well, what's interesting is I think often of my own
media work. I think of that wonderful saying from is
it from Jonathan Livingston Segull in that book where he
says we teach best what we most need to learn.
And for people like you and I, Liz, who are
extroverts who process externally as we are going through our
(03:31):
own life, navigating of life, we're like shouting it from
the rooftops for people like, oh my goodness, this is
what this is how you do it?
Speaker 2 (03:40):
Look I'm doing it, and it sounds like you went.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Through your own transformation to get to this place to
want to share it with other warrior women.
Speaker 3 (03:50):
No, that's exactly right. It's because I have walked this
path that I am an expert in transformation. And also,
you know, I'm also an expert expert of getting knocked
down and getting back up again, which I know you
are as well. I think I think that's kind of
you know when people come to me like, well, Liz,
I can't do it because I'm going through this or this,
(04:12):
and I say, yes, I've done that, Yes me too,
Uh huh, Yes, I've heard this, you know. So I
think because I've been through so many things, everything from
infertility to marriage issues too. I've got a child with
a physical difference. I've got a child with altered of colitis.
I mean, I have things, you know. I've had a
kid with ADHD who's struggled through high school. I've had
(04:32):
so many things. So I think because I've had so
many things, I have a unique way of using my
stand up comedy, using my humor, and really understanding where
women are in midlife and what they what the unique
challenges are of that of that zone.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
And I don't need to tell you that we are
a very unique species in that we are the only
one of three species on the entire planet that has
men upon us a time of a woman's life where
she is wise, experienced, energetic, fun and also sterile and evolution.
Mother Nature was so perfect she was she created the
(05:12):
stage of a woman's life.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
I believe well.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Evolutionary psychologists would say to help nurture the next generation,
but that includes getting involved in politics, building businesses, building charities.
That's all nurturing the culture. We become custodians of the
culture because we now have the time to do that.
But figuring out it sounds to me like the people
who follow you and read your work and listen to
(05:35):
your podcast are people who are trying to figure out
how to create that important meaning during that special third
of their life.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Am I right?
Speaker 3 (05:46):
You're one hundred percent right. I call it legacy work.
I think a lot of women think of legacy of
what happens after we're gone. I believe that we live
our legacy now in our thoughts are actions, how we
make people feel, how we feel, All the choices that
we're making every single day is leaving a legacy. And
(06:06):
I lead women to that many different ways, but the
first step is always there's needs to be some healing.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Right.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Sometimes we have to go back into our past to
look kind of at how we got where we are,
how did we get here. And when you look at
your past, it's not to live there, right, to not
live in the hood, as I say, the victimhood. Not
live in the hood, but to look at it and
find the diamonds. What are these points of wisdom? And
like exactly, like you're saying, there's a unique wisdom that
(06:35):
comes to us in our forties, fifties and sixties because
we have lived. We have lived and we have wisdom.
And I think there's this kind of prevailing knowledge that
we're supposed to shrink away or feel bad because we're aging.
It's like, no, this is the juiciest period of your life.
This is the time where you need to be sharing
your wisdom. And I have these safe spaces where women
(06:55):
can come and share their wisdom, and you know, there's
everybody gets to, you know, be together and feel safe
enough to expand and grow and try things right and.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Evolves exactly, And let me tell you, there is so
much opportunity for all women to be effective, to create
change and have meaning. And definitely we are not meant
to wither away. We're in what I call our power stage.
This is definitely our power stage. So when we come
back Liz, Liz Swatick, there's a via there by the
(07:25):
way that she says sounds like a W so she
apparently has rewritten the alphabet as well.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
That's how. Yes, this woman's super powerful. Your new book is.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Called Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior
is revealed. I got cut my spears and the Warrior
appears there literally one word got cut off and my
printed thing. I was like, I know something happens with
this Warrior. I know she comes out somehow. Welcome back
to the home stretch of the Doctor Wendywall Show on
KF I am six forty. My guest is Liz Swatik,
(08:00):
dealer and transformation coach. Her new book is called Finding
Your Diamonds, Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears. First
of all, Liz, when I saw your new book cover,
I was thrilled. It's gorgeous. You're gorgeous. The colors are great.
We're not afraid of pink anymore?
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Are we.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
No? Tell unafraid?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Tell me how you chose this title and what does
it really mean? Finding your diamonds?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
So yeah, first of all, I love it because to me,
when I see this cover it's pink and white, it
just would I would want to buy this cover just
because it looks delicious. It looks like a dessert. But
don't don't hear what I'm not saying, because this is
a very deep book. This is a very very deep book,
despite all the pink and every all the things on
the cover. But Finding your Diamonds is about finding the wisdom,
(08:47):
going back in the ashes of your past, maybe even
things that you thought really went terribly or things you
have regret or shame about, and unearthing excavating the diamonds
of wisdom. Because how are diamonds made? Of course through pressure, right, force, heat,
you know all the elements.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
And we've had a lot of pressure. Liz. Let me
just say, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Oh my god. I mean, there's no listen to the
truth is women are just standing on diamonds, that's what
they're doing. And I think they don't understand that. They
think that all these things that have happened to them,
you know, it's ruined parts of their lives, or they
have regret. There is no regret because everything that you
have been through is a diamond. And I think it
takes some distance and time right to hit those juicy
(09:32):
forty fifty sixties, so you can really look and find them.
But I'm encouraging women to find the diamonds that they
can stand on and build a foundation on and then
heal the girl and the warrior appears. I am a
big proponent of little girl work. Back in the day
they called it, you know, inner child work. I call
it little girl work because I work with women. But
(09:52):
that she is really the key. That little girl, when
you reconnect with her, it brings back the playfulness, the energy, lightness,
and then also guess what, you get to feel your feelings.
I mean, every woman I work with, they tell me
their tears are stuck in their throat and they're apologize
for crying, and I say, no, it's okay, right, Like
we're supposed to feel the full range of human emotion.
(10:15):
So that little girl is really the key to our healing.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
And let's talk about some news you can use. Can
you share a couple strategies from the book Finding Your Diamonds.
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Yes, and I will tell you. In this book, I
have included a little girl meditation, so you get to
in the kindle, you just click to it. Otherwise you
can see the website to go to, but there is
a meditation. So I'm a big proponent of using meditation
to reconnect with your little girl because I know it's hard, right,
it's hard to kind of imagine sometimes or we're afraid
(10:48):
to do this work. So I've made this gorgeous meditation
that you can do. Also, in every single chapter, I
have exercises everything from boundaries to little girls work, to
legacy work, and questions that you can ask yourself. So
even though I'm using my story to kind of illustrate it,
every single chapter has questions and things you can do
(11:10):
in journal about But one thing I would say if
I had, if I had to give a tip, I
would definitely say that it's getting it's getting quiet. You know,
I think we're really busy. We never slow down.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
We are very busy, Barbie Sias.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
We have people to take care of older people, young people,
work people.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
We barely have time to take care of our own bodies.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Yes, and we are we are the caretakers, and so
I get that. But if you do not slow down,
you cannot hear your intuition. You cannot hear your own voice.
So that's that's the first thing you have to do.
You have to slow down and start letting your feelings
and your thoughts catch up with you. Not that you can.
You don't have to believe every thought you're thinking, because
(11:51):
guess what, that mind is tricky, So I wouldn't believe
every thought comes to your mind. But at least here
hear yourself right, and slow down and a long enough
so that you can actually feel and know where you are.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Where can people get the book?
Speaker 1 (12:04):
Finding Your Diamonds Heal the Girl and the Warrior appears.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Right now. You can get it on Amazon. It's available kindle, paperback, hardcover,
and actually for the next four days it's free on
your kindle.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Wow, you should have told me to bring my kindle
to work. Wait, I think I have the Kindle app.
It might even work on the Kindle app. Right, I'm
gonna try to figure this.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
We can do it.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Try to figure this out. It's interesting that you will
close by talking a little bit about meditation. For any
of our listeners out there who think that meditation is
woo woo California silly stuff, there is. I teach a
section on meditation in my health psychology class to university students,
and I teach what the research says. And what's really
(12:50):
fascinating about the research is, not only does it make
you more empathetic more than anything, you have less rumination
about your stress. Those are thoughts spinning around. It creates
a nice little gap between Oh, a bad thing happened
and what should I do next? There's it slows your
brain enough. It's like you know, you know how Liz.
(13:10):
They call it a practice, right, And I always say
that you know what you're practicing for stress in life?
When you meditate, your practicing for the stress. So I
use the metaphor of like, you know, you don't go
on a StairMaster or a run on a treadmill only
to look good. It's because one day that car is
going to careen at you while you're in a crosswalk
and you're gonnaed to jump out of the way, and
(13:31):
if you've been working out, you'll be able to do that.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
So the same thing with.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Our minds and meditation is if we stop our thoughts.
I mean, we're not supposed to stop our thought. You're
suposed to just watch your thoughts and acknowledge them and
respect them. But it gives you a chance to just
create a little gap or a space between feeling and behavior,
and it gives you, like this little time to think
(13:55):
it out, which is so right. And I'm just so grateful, Liz,
that you do the work you do because I know
this is important to many many women. They feel like,
you know, our culture talks about agism like we're somehow
irrelevant if we can't have a baby yet. Now our
babies are the entire globe of babies and adults. We're
(14:17):
taking care of lots of people right.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Absolutely. And you know it's funny about meditation. You just
made me think of something. When you think about meditation,
you know, you think about all the things you're like
you're saying, you're practicing. We're always practicing what we don't want.
We're always worried, we're focused on what we don't want.
Rarely do we focus on what we do want and
how we do want to feel. No one to ask
women how do you want to feel? But that's the
question you can ask yourself in midlife, and that's what
(14:42):
you get to do when you meditate. You get to
actually focus on what you do want practice what you
do want to feel when you're meditating. So and you're
and meditating brings brain coherence. Everybody tells me, oh my god,
I feel like my brain is scrambled. I can't remember anything.
They're using meditation with Parkinson's now, they're literally helping people
with Parkinson's with brain coherence. It literally tells the centers
(15:05):
of your brain to come back together. So listen. I
went kicking and screamings. I did not want to do it,
but boy, is it important. You're one hundred percent right.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Liz Swadik, thank you so much for joining us today.
The book is Finding Your Diamonds. Heal the Girl and
the Warrior appears. You can get it on Amazon, Kindle anywhere,
and it's free for the next four days. I'm going
to punch it into my Kindle app Liz right away.
Thanks for being with us and that and that brings
the Doctor Wendy Wall Show to a close. It is
(15:36):
always my pleasure to be with you every Sunday from
seven to nine pm. If you missed any part of
the show, Remember, producer Caleb puts it right up on
the iHeartRadio app afterwards as a podcast. I think they
call it Doctor Wendy on Demand. So if you haven't
downloaded the iHeartRadio app, you should search Doctor Wendy Walsh
and then there's a little button at the top called
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(15:58):
you open the app p here, whatever you missed shows up,
so you'll never miss any part of the Doctor Wendy
Walls Show. Also, feel free to follow me on my
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a lot at Dr Doctor at Dr Wendy Walsh is
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(16:18):
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