Unf*ck Your Relationships

We know her, we love her, and we are THRILLED to have her back…everyone please welcome Abigail Elizabeth, business owner, badass mother of two, and an overall gem of a human being.

Abigail was on just a few months ago to chat about her experience doing the work and attending my retreats, and now she’s back to tell us how her life has continued to shift and change since. 

It can be easy to star...

Your skincare routine? Precise.

Your career? Thriving.

Your friendships? Healthy.

Your wardrobe? Curated.

Your dating life? FUCKED.

What tf happened there, exactly? You have top-notch standards for every single area of your life…but for some reason, you’re tolerating all kinds of bullshit when it comes to dating.

Not anymore. Sit down, strap ...

Let me see if I’ve got this right:

You’re chatting with this man, and he’s everything you’ve ever dreamed of. His answers are thought-provoking and emotionally intelligent. He asks questions back. He always has the perfect response…like, always. Every fucking time.

And that’s not even a little suspicious to you? 

Odds are, you haven’t stumbled upon your soulmate, babe—you’ve just ...

So…I did the thing.

I am officially back on the dating apps.

That’s right, my loves—I’m back in the dating trenches. All the things you’re going through? I’m going through them right along with you.

(I figured if I'm releasing a program about dating, it's only fair that I do it alongside you, right?)

But as long as I’m here, I’m going to talk about some of the reasons...

If you’re racking your brain trying to figure out why you can’t seem to find “the one” for you…sit down a sec. I think I might’ve solved it.

So. Your relationships keep failing. You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men. You can’t find someone willing to commit. You can’t track down a secure man. Your dating woes seem to have no fucking end.

Now, hear me out on this one…

It ...

At the very beginning of this year, I went through a pretty devastating breakup.

It’s been nearly seven months now, and I haven’t dated at all since then. Not just because I wasn’t going to jump right on the apps after such a difficult breakup—a girl’s gotta process, after all—but because I just didn’t have a desire to date.

Now, that’s starting to change.

I can feel myself on the...

Unf*ck Your Relationship may be for the girlies (mostly) but this one? This one’s for the boys.

Okay, real talk, this podcast is for everyone. (Love you all, proud of you for being here, XOXO.) But today, we are going to be having some guy talk…because we have an actual guy on the podcast.

That’s right: the elusive man has appeared on Unf*ck Your Relationships. Everyone please welcome Jack Boh...

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again, I’ll say it every fucking time I have a guest on the podcast: I am so fucking excited to introduce you all to one of my beautiful clients, Kellie Irene!

Kellie has done Awakening Her, The Experience, and my retreats, so she’s been in my world for a while. She absolutely embodies main character energy. She’s bold, courageous, vivacious…I love being around her, and I h...

“I’m too needy. I ask for too much. I’m too emotional.”

“I’m not strong enough. I’m not confident enough. I’m not cruisy enough.”

Too much AND not enough…all at the same time? Yes, it is possible…and no, you’re not the only one.

I see this shit every day in my work. Women who feel simultaneously like they are too much, too needy, too difficult, while also feeling like they aren’t ...

I can’t believe I’m about to say this (well, I actually can) but…

WELCOME TO THE 200TH EPISODE OF UNF*CK YOUR RELATIONSHIPS!

Fuuuck, has this been a JOURNEY. Most podcasts don’t even break double digits, let alone triple, let alone hit fucking 200. Can I just take a second to brag on myself? Way to go, Michelle. I’m so proud of you.

And I’m proud of YOU, my loves; every single one...

So. Let’s review.

You’re a high-achieving, self-aware woman. You’ve clocked your patterns and traced them back to their cause. You’ve been in therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve done breathwork, meditation, EFT tapping, all the things…

And you haven’t made any real fucking progress.

Why? Why have you done all the things, but aren’t getting “bett...

When I tell you this particular guest of mine is one of the most joyous, radiant, embodied women that I know…I hope you know that I fucking mean it. And I’m not just saying it because she’s my client.

Meet Chené O’Brien: a client of mine, an embodiment coach, and the owner of the hottest f*cking accent ever.

Chené’s healing journey started from a place of constant self-abandonment…but she cloc...

It all happens so fast.

One minute you’re living your best life. You’re hitting the gym. You’re journaling. You’re doing your embodiment practices. You’re going out with your friends. You’re going on solo dates. You have hobbies that you love…

And then you meet someone.

It is astonishing how QUICKLY I’ve seen women go from their glow-up era to “Wait, did I say the right thing? Did...

Everybody talks about wanting a man who COMMUNICATES, who’s HONEST, who CHOOSES YOU wholeheartedly…

Until one actually shows up. And you go running like your f*cking ass is on fire.

If you grew up without a secure attachment, your brain is wired to read insecurity as desirable. Which means your brain basically can’t tell the difference between a bear attack and a man telling you he really, rea...

If you’ve ever been ugly crying into your pillow, your chest aching like someone f*cking ripped your heart out, and said to yourself, “What the FUCK? I should be over this by now!”

…Then this episode is for you, babe. Welcome to the fucking club.

I’ve worked with hundreds of women, and all of us—including me—have experienced a similar feeling while going through a breakup: the feeling that we’...

Do you ACTUALLY want him…

Or does he just trigger your daddy wound?

Ouch, right? But we really need to talk about it. 

I was the QUEEN of daddy issues once upon a time. So trust me when I say I get exactly how addictive this pattern can be…and how f*cking fast we need to clock it, own it, and clean it tf up.

If you’re always dating the guy who’s hot and cold with you,...

This one’s going to sting, loves…

But we need to talk about feminine energy.

Specifically, we need to talk about performative feminine energy.

We’re seeing a huge resurgence in embracing feminine energy…and that’s fucking amazing. We love to see it. But with that resurgence, I’m also seeing an upswing in people mistaking performative femininity for actual feminine embodiment.

“You’re too much.”

“You’re too emotional.”

“Your standards are too high.”

“You’re too picky.”

“You’re asking for too much.”

RED LIGHT, babe. Hold tf up.

Listen to me very, very, very closely.

You are not too much.

“But Michelle, they said—” I don’t give a shit.

“But Michelle, I asked for—” Did I fucking ...

I hope you have a mirror on hand, babe…because you’re about to take a good, long, hard look at yourself in it.

Here’s the thing: if you feel like you’re always attracting the same emotionally unavailable men, I have good news and bad news.

The good news? It’s not bad luck—you’re not just shit at picking men.

The bad news? It’s actually wired into you to want these kinds of men.