Unf*ck Your Relationships
Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I’m your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman. I get it, you’re done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let’s be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life. For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working. I knew I couldn’t continue to repeat the same cycle with different men. Something had to change. I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first. And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness. You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let’s get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe. For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.michellepanning.com I would love to connect with you more on social media! You can find me at: IG: @michellepanning Website: michellepanning.com
Episodes
“I’m too needy. I ask for too much. I’m too emotional.”
“I’m not strong enough. I’m not confident enough. I’m not cruisy enough.”
Too much AND not enough…all at the same time? Yes, it is possible…and no, you’re not the only one.
I see this shit every day in my work. Women who feel simultaneously like they are too much, too needy, too difficult, while also feeling like they aren’t ...
I can’t believe I’m about to say this (well, I actually can) but…
WELCOME TO THE 200TH EPISODE OF UNF*CK YOUR RELATIONSHIPS!
Fuuuck, has this been a JOURNEY. Most podcasts don’t even break double digits, let alone triple, let alone hit fucking 200. Can I just take a second to brag on myself? Way to go, Michelle. I’m so proud of you.
And I’m proud of YOU, my loves; every single one...
So. Let’s review.
You’re a high-achieving, self-aware woman. You’ve clocked your patterns and traced them back to their cause. You’ve been in therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve done breathwork, meditation, EFT tapping, all the things…
And you haven’t made any real fucking progress.
Why? Why have you done all the things, but aren’t getting “bett...
When I tell you this particular guest of mine is one of the most joyous, radiant, embodied women that I know…I hope you know that I fucking mean it. And I’m not just saying it because she’s my client.
Meet Chené O’Brien: a client of mine, an embodiment coach, and the owner of the hottest f*cking accent ever.
Chené’s healing journey started from a place of constant self-abandonment…but she cloc...
It all happens so fast.
One minute you’re living your best life. You’re hitting the gym. You’re journaling. You’re doing your embodiment practices. You’re going out with your friends. You’re going on solo dates. You have hobbies that you love…
And then you meet someone.
It is astonishing how QUICKLY I’ve seen women go from their glow-up era to “Wait, did I say the right thing? Did...
Everybody talks about wanting a man who COMMUNICATES, who’s HONEST, who CHOOSES YOU wholeheartedly…
Until one actually shows up. And you go running like your f*cking ass is on fire.
If you grew up without a secure attachment, your brain is wired to read insecurity as desirable. Which means your brain basically can’t tell the difference between a bear attack and a man telling you he really, rea...
If you’ve ever been ugly crying into your pillow, your chest aching like someone f*cking ripped your heart out, and said to yourself, “What the FUCK? I should be over this by now!”
…Then this episode is for you, babe. Welcome to the fucking club.
I’ve worked with hundreds of women, and all of us—including me—have experienced a similar feeling while going through a breakup: the feeling that we’...
Do you ACTUALLY want him…
Or does he just trigger your daddy wound?
Ouch, right? But we really need to talk about it.
I was the QUEEN of daddy issues once upon a time. So trust me when I say I get exactly how addictive this pattern can be…and how f*cking fast we need to clock it, own it, and clean it tf up.
If you’re always dating the guy who’s hot and cold with you,...
This one’s going to sting, loves…
But we need to talk about feminine energy.
Specifically, we need to talk about performative feminine energy.
We’re seeing a huge resurgence in embracing feminine energy…and that’s fucking amazing. We love to see it. But with that resurgence, I’m also seeing an upswing in people mistaking performative femininity for actual feminine embodiment.
“You’re too much.”
“You’re too emotional.”
“Your standards are too high.”
“You’re too picky.”
“You’re asking for too much.”
RED LIGHT, babe. Hold tf up.
Listen to me very, very, very closely.
You are not too much.
“But Michelle, they said—” I don’t give a shit.
“But Michelle, I asked for—” Did I fucking ...
I hope you have a mirror on hand, babe…because you’re about to take a good, long, hard look at yourself in it.
Here’s the thing: if you feel like you’re always attracting the same emotionally unavailable men, I have good news and bad news.
The good news? It’s not bad luck—you’re not just shit at picking men.
The bad news? It’s actually wired into you to want these kinds of men.
Buckle up and grab the burn cream, everyone…
This is the story of how I got f*cking ROASTED by Dr. Gabor Maté.
As most of you know, I recently went through a breakup, and there are a lot of f*cking complicated (and even “contrary”) emotions that come with that. So when I got to go and hear Dr. Gabor Maté speak—and then got the incredible opportunity to ask a question—I asked him how to navigat...
So—we’ve talked before about how butterflies in the stomach, not being able to eat, etc. are actually signs of some fucking MAJOR dysregulation, not being in love…
But what happens when you DO start avoiding that feeling…and you end up dating someone who’s boring as batshit?
On one hand, it is super fucking easy to mistake “safe” for “boring” when you’re used to dating in dysregulation. But on...
I got introduced to a new phrase (but not a new idea) by a recent Chappell Roan interview: Walk Away Energy.
When asked how she stays so chill despite all her success, Chappell Roan said it was because she has “walk away energy.” And I absolutely had to sit down and talk about that.
“Walk away energy” is similar to the detachment idea we were talking about here recently. It’s the idea that yo...
It is truly so exciting to watch one of your clients blossom…and my guest this week, Abigail, is a perfect example.
Just a short while ago, she was living in her spare bedroom, trying to “fix” herself for the sake of other people…and now, I've witnessed this woman blossom and come into her own as she embodies what it means to be a high-value woman.
Too many of you think that these kinds of tra...
Here’s what to do if you feel someone pulling away from you. Ready?
Let them.
I’m serious as f*ck. If someone starts to pull away from you, if someone wants to break up, if someone refuses to meet your standards, if someone won’t pick their shit up off the floor even when you’ve asked a hundred times…
Just let them.
The “Let Them” theory, coined by Mel Robbins, is lit...
When you hear “detachment,” what do you think it means?
If your mind went straight to the idea of apathy, not caring what happens or what you’re doing, etcetera…you’re not the only one.
But you’re also wrong.
Detachment isn’t apathy. Detachment is power.
And when you master detachment…it’s going to transform your whole motherf*cking life.
Here are some ...
Well.
We broke up.
You probably got that from the title. But in case you were wondering…no, it’s not clickbait.
My partner Drew and I have decided to split up.
It’s sad. And right. And so, so hard.
I’m grieving. I’m excited. I’m struggling. I’m hopeful. There is such duality in breakups, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the relationship might have bee...
Two words:
Pretty. Privilege.
It’s thrown in the faces of people who happen to be conventionally attractive to imply that they have no right to complain about their struggles, particularly if they struggle with confidence.
“Well, you have the perfect body, so you can’t be insecure.”
“Well, you’re pretty, so what do you have to feel bad about?”
You know wh...
Trying to be the perfect woman is killing your love life.
I mean it—this little perfectionism thing you’ve got going on? It’s not protecting you from anything, babe—it’s actually keeping you stuck in the same patterns you’ve been playing out for your whole dating life.
Perfectionism is not a protector—it’s a prison. And until you get up the courage to show up as the person you actually are, no...
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