Practical tools to turn down the volume on fawning.
Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Her book is FAWNING: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find our Way Back.
In this episode we talk about:
- What is fawning, actually
- Chronic vs situational fawning
- The physiological ramifications of fawning
- How power plays into all of this
- Ways to get clarity around unseen bruises and wounds that drive your behavior
- Owning your anger – and how to express it in healthy ways
- How to know if you're a fawner
- Practical steps to unfawn
- Accessible approaches to regulating your nervous system
- How to set boundaries
- Fawning and un-fawning in a work context, specifically
- And her observation, which I've been thinking about a lot, that wounding happens in relationships… but so does healing
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