Just because someone has letters behind their name DOES NOT mean they have it all figured out. So, what lesson is a doctoral-level therapist learning right now?
In this episode of AMPstigator, Dr. PaQuita Pullen, a therapist-professor-yoga instructor, shares the role scarcity continues to play in her life. You'll also learn how she helps her patients UNLEARN behavior to rediscover purpose.
In this LAUGH-OUT-LOUD episode, Dr. P gives real talk about having a clinician of color and what it's like to show up each day from a place of wholeness.
💥 This episode is for you if 💥
- You follow AMPstigator on Instagram and LOLed with every Dr. P clip
- You're a high-functioning female in public, but a mess in private
- You want to know what lesson a therapist is learning in her own life
📺What you'll hear in this episode📺
This episode begins with Dr. Pullen describing her therapy practice, Ubuntu Counseling & Wellness, which offers personal coaching and development for anyone who needs mental health help. Dr. Pullen shares stats on the stunning lack of clinicians of color in America.
- [21:10] Dr. P describes what steps to take to find just the right therapist and why it's so necessary to get the perfect fit. Plus, how to know when you've outgrown your therapist.
- [23:45] Dr. P gets into the meat of the lesson of how to overcome scarcity. She helps you notice when fear from others is projected on to you and how fear can flourish within you. So, how do we root it out?
- [57:21] Dr. P describes her calling to train other clinicians of color. One of her focuses is on teaching therapy students to ask the right questions. She shares a story from her own experience that illustrates the power in how we pose questions.
- [1:02:11] In the final 8 minutes of the episode, host Lauren Lowrey asks Dr. P if everyone needs stillness. Her captivating answer gives insight into human needs and provides permission for stillness to take whatever form feels right for the practitioner.
🔖 Chapters 🔖
0:36 - Lauren's opening monologue
3:40 - The meaning of 'Ubuntu'
9:38 - How ACES scores affect your personal development
13:35 - The lack of clinicians of color
19:13 - You have to find a therapist who you CONNECT WITH
23:45 - Dr. P's lesson in Overcoming Scarcity, Part 1
28:52 - #SoftBlackGirl
34:17 - How Dr. P helps people UNLEARN on their path to purpose
40:01 - Dr. P's lesson, Part 2: Sometimes people project their scarcity on you
44:41 - How your personal transformation may threaten other people
57:21 - The proper way to ask questions
1:02:12 - Ask Dr. P: 'Does everyone need stillness?'
1:12:10 - Coming up next week on #AMPstigator
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