Dan Allender: Trauma, Trust, and the Truth About Marriage

How Do We Overcome the Hidden Forces Behind Marital Challenges?

 

How does your relationships—or even your parents’ marriage—shape the way you see beauty, brokenness, and the world itself? Therapist Dan Allender joins host Curtis Chang for a raw, insightful conversation on how relationships form the backbone of our worldview, especially in times of stress and trauma. They unpack hidden triggers behind marital conflict, the power of empathy over contempt, and why kindness and repentance are key to lasting connection. Whether you're navigating conflict or craving deeper intimacy, this episode delivers transformative wisdom for healthier, faith-rooted relationships.

 

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Read Becky Allender’s written pieces for The Allender Center

Learn more about Steve Call’s The Reconnect Institute

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