September 27, 2023 • 35 mins
We are back from our vacation in Door County and oh boy... we have stories for you. But first we have something need your help on. Finally, we have another round of Am I the Asshole? We would really like to know what you think because we are split on this one.
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Yay, networks. Don't ever failurearound me, and if you do,
do not fall on anything important fallsomewhere that's in this thing. Okay,
how everyone, welcome back. Thisis je Mayhem Episode ten billion. Wow.
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We have an important headline. Wedo. We have a fun episode.
We just came back from our DoorCounty trip. We're going to tell
you some really funny and upsetting andall mayhem, all kinds of things that
happen on the trip. And thenat the end we're going to do an
am I the Asshole reading and youknow, discussion. But first we do
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have a very important headline. First, here are the keywords from what you're
about to hear. What advocacy,disability, important, big, monumental,
listen up, help advocate. That'sa lot of keywords. Disability, House
of Representatives, bill, bill,legislation, pay attention. Okay, So
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we are going to put the linkto this web page in the description below
or wherever you're listening watching, it'llbe in the description box. Okay,
so you can find the link there. The headline basically is that there is
a bill that has been introduced inthe House of Representatives that would increase the
asset limits for people on SSI.That is the headline. We will now
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go into detail about what that means. Yeah, we need to give context
on almost every word in that SID, but it's very, very very important
if you don't know people on SSI, which is supplemental Social Security, which
is a way that mended disabled peopleare able to believe for their lives.
Disabled people people who are older andhave almost snow income or assets. And
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to qualify for this, you haveto have less than two thousand dollars in
assets to qualify. If you evergo above that amount, you immediately lose
that money and then you have nothing. And this is the way that disabled
people are forced into set holes ofpoverty that they cannot escape from because they
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need the SSI to pay for theirfood and for living expenses that we all
need to qualify for health insurance,Like you need to keep all of this,
yeah, all the support, butthen you can't save more than two
thousand dollars. So what happens ifa pipe in your house breaks? Yeah,
you don't ever have like an emergencyfund, or if you need a
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wheelchair accessible van, how do yousave up for that? Yeah? Or
really anything that you want to doas it's human being. Yeah, living
a life that not disabled people arenot kept from, Like you want to
buy a computer, yeah, likeliterally anything. And the other kind of
giant reason that this is unfair isthat if you would like to get married,
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that asset limit becomes three thousand dollars, So instead of two thousand each,
you now have to have less andyou can only have as a married
couple three thousand dollars. And sodisabled people very often have to make the
horrible decision to not marry their partnersbecause then their partners assets will be counted
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against them. And a lot oftimes it's not just not married, it's
like not disclosed, like if you'rein a relationship, Yeah, and it's
suspected that you might be in thatrelationship and you're living together or whatever that
counts also, so it's it's reallyhorrible. Yeah, this is something you
don't hand that. And I arespeaking from a placeship of privilege. We
are able to pay for our sponsors. Yeah, it zero work. But
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even us from this fund of privilege, when we were thinking about getting married,
a long hard time to consider ifwe should, yeah, get married,
because down the road, if weneed the almost like as I,
Yeah, it could disqualify us.Yeah, just the fact that we're we
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have assets and we're married and handassets count as mine. Yeah, But
there's hope, and that's what thisis about. Yeah. So this bill
raises the asset limit from two thousandfor an individual to ten thousand for an
individual, and from three thousand fora couple to twenty thousand. So it
takes away that penalty that you getfor being in a partnership with someone.
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Yeah, and it raises that thatmoney. Obviously it's not like the ideal
amount, but you know, twentythousand dollars or ten thousand dollars, but
it's much much higher. And it'salso set to go up with inflation every
year, so it won't just likestay the same and then in twenty years
it's you know, not really fairanymore. I do not think any reasons
the ball human being with a heart, Yeah can listen to this. I
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understand this information and genuinely feel believethat this is not a good thing.
Yeah, this is very very important. Yes, but there is not a
guarantee that it's going to go throughunless you make some noise and your legislaid.
There's no that you believe in this, this is important and you want
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this to happen. And Kurosam hasmade this very easy by putting together a
web page where you can just enter. They have like a message written out.
You can customize it however you want. You put in where you live,
and it automatically sends it to yourrepresentatives. You don't even have to
know who your representatives are the names. Yeah. Instead of going and like
looking up their emails or calling whatever, you can just send this in and
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it'll send it to everyone in yourarea. It's really really useful and thousands
of people have done it already,which is amazing. Yeah. And we
don't often ask you for you know, favors. We don't give big tells
to action. Yeah, but thisis really important for the de shave community.
It is a two minute process foryou. Yes, below, tell
your legislators that you feel this isimportant and let's make it happen. Yeah,
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definitely. This should be so helpfulfor so many of our friends,
yeah, and people in the community. And it's fair, Yes, it's
common sense. Yep. All right, all right, let me off of
hold on, getting off of mysoapbops, all right? Should we take
a break, and then go intoour first story, which is kind of
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a quote that I said when wewere Indoor County. When I walked in
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and smelled something a little off.I think I still had pip on my
wheels. Oh my god, Igot pip on my wheels. That was
just a small moment. I don'tknow why. That's how you're characterizing our
trip. One junk yard mayhem,okay, and the junkyard of life is
filled with poopy wheels. And theworst part is that we don't even know
what kind of poop it was.It wasn't dog, and it wasn't human.
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It was perhaps coyote. We don'teven know where it happened, or
powesome. We didn't have a videoabout our trip coming out. Friday,
says Hannah. Yes Friday, Fridaysays Hannah Shin says, and if I
get it done earlier, then maybeThursday. I feel like there's any day
in the future. Yeah, it'scoming this week with you know, it
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was an a majoring trip and wedid a lot of really found stuff.
Yes, but we have a fewstories that are not in that video because
I didn't film you when you hadpoop on your wheels. Well, okay,
our cabin was very beautiful, lovely. Not really, it wasn't a
cabin. It was a build inlike a new little development. It was
a house, but it was inthe middle of the forest, so that's
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a cabin. There were deer walkingaround, there were deer, turkeys.
Yeah, tons of loild life.We saw leaving poop everywhere that we're dead
unfortunately, well it was a deadsnake. But we would do these loops
through the very nice paved road throughthe woods. My ideal kind of it
was great nature and it was coldenough that there weren't bugs all over us,
(09:24):
like, no mosquitoes, none ofthat. And then we came home
from one of our lots and Igo into the house and handles, you
know, undoing them chloes. LeasianHighness Watson and does chain. You're channeling
something up, Shane, it's poop. You're channeling poops near the house.
Gross. When I was a littlekid, that used to be a almost
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daily part of my life. Ohgod, you're poor, Baron, because
the kids that would drive my chairin the drass offstin yeah and there and
on fields and yeah, I don'tdo that now that I'm an adult.
Really, this kind of brought meback to my youth. That's disgusting you.
I remember, weren't your parents likeannoyed it? Like, weren't didn't
you have like a punishment because youwould get poop in the house so often
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and they would like hose it downoutside. Yeah, there wasn't a punishment.
I thought your parents were annoyed aboutit. No, So the product
hall was when you arrive home fromplaying outside, you have to get mom
or dad or Andrew as she gotolder, to hose off your veals protocol,
not punishment. Well, but whenI disobeyed the product hall and you
(10:37):
said Mabels were probably fine, andthen later on an hour later, my
mom gets home and so Shane,why people all over your leg? Then
that was probably in Treda. Theother big drama yea that we had on
this trip that again we didn't filmbecause this was not for mobile. We
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were distraught. It was like veryunhappy. Yes, a very challenging thing.
It tested our relationship. Oh mygod, we did get in a
fight. I wouldn't say it testedour relationship, but we were fighting.
I felt tested. Well, Ijust I think I'll give the full story
if you don't mind, including whatyou thought you contributed to this problem.
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So basically, while we were IndoorCounty, we knew that we had a
live stream event and because of that, it was very important that we had
good WiFi. The house that wewere staying in was an airbnb that was
again a new build, very modern, very modern, like beautiful house and
wonderfully decorated, had WiFi. Itwas all good. We chat that specific.
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Yeah, we were like, wehave a contracted event, yes that
we had to do. Yeah,it wasn't light for fun. Yeah,
we were just geting live for fun. We had an event that we were
being paid to do and I hadto be online at six pm on Tuesday
night, Yes, it had tobe indeed, wife and we got to
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the cabin on Sunday night. Soon Sunday night, we were watching TV.
It was all fine and first thingI did Internet speed test contest.
It's all good to go, likeno problem. And we were watching TV
that night and the TV all ofa sudden stopped playing the show we were
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streaming and said that it had lostinternet connection. And we checked our phones
and they couldn't connect either. Sowe were like, that's really weird.
I like, I know where therouter is. I'll just you know,
unplug it, plug it back in, reset it and just felt hot test
Like n Hannah said, we wereway way up north. We were way
way up north, Like we didn'thave service yea other than the WiFi.
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Yeah, Like our phone service didn'twork, so we couldn't just like use
There was no five G or LTEor anything like that. It was Wi
Fi or scream to communicate, youknow, there was no other methods.
It was a little LTE, butit would take like five minutes to load
a Facebook page, you know.It was it was really bad for a
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live stream. I'm not gonna workfor a live stream. Uh So I
reset the router, we watch,and then like five minutes later it cuts
out again. It did wort itworked, which was it was like,
Okay, that happens sometimes. Yes, I reset it a couple of times
that night and it was fine,but like, you know, fine to
stream, but it was a littleweird that the router kept cutting out.
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I was deading nervous at that pointbecause it seemed to be a assistant yeah,
tissue. It was a little consistent. The next day was similar.
I think I reset the router maybelike four or five times throughout the course
of the day. We were gettinga little bit more worried, but didn't
necessarily we were. So was justlike, yeah, oh my gosh,
read if it goes out during ourpresentation, that would be really bad because
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it would stay on for like athree hour period, which was fine,
but the day goes on, itseems like the periods that the WiFi stays
on are getting shorter, and byseven pm, I'm resetting this router every
ten minutes. I'm communitating with theairbnb house. Yeah, like, is
there a trick to making this WiFiturn on? And he you know,
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you gave some advice, but itwas playing that like the internet up there
is yeah, pretty limited and youget what you get, so yeah,
there's no other options for Wi Fi. It's just this one company and you
know that's all they can do.So we're resetting it. We're panninging and
by like ten pm, the internetis out. It's not coming back.
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I keep resetting the router and itis not coming back on. We now
have no internet and no service,so it's not like we can even google
like solution what to do. Yeah, we're in very bad moods because you
know, we're interrupting the Oh show. We're trying to all ouse and have
a nice vacation. Yeah, ourshow is now not playing at all,
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and we're panicking about what we're goingto do for our live stream, which
is the next evening. It's anice day and based on you know what
the airbnb owner told us, Ididn't have very high hopes that enginewhere in
town would have life. And youcan't just like go to a hockey shop
for a live stream. It's exactly, you can't be in public. And
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the thing is we were at thatpoint, I was using our very limited
internet capabilities to search for like placesin the county that would have WiFi.
So we were looking for libraries andit would take so long to load each
page. We were so annoyed andevery single library closed at like four pm,
three pm, one pm, andthe live stream was at six and
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we found a coworking space that closedat five. Were like that. That
was a moment of like I dolet down and it was like, oh
my god, calibrating. Actually it'sinto your mom. Yeah, your mom
from Poland, from Poland sent usa link. So I was like,
how about this. We were likeclass solving the problem, yep, but
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they only have until five, Likeno, So I was like about to
haul them then that day and belike, hey, can you stay up?
That's why can we do it?Can we pay you extra? Uh?
So at ten thirty pm, weare in horrible moods. Yeah,
I'm searching on my phone for differentlibraries. I finally found one that was
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open until seven, and I likewrote it down. I was like,
we're gonna go here tomorrow. Theyhave meeting rooms that you can reserve.
We're going to check it out,make sure there's good WiFi. And Shane
is sitting there and I remember thatyou were reclined in your chair. I'd
has irritates, I'd had that everythingbecame stopped with wine complimentary wine. It's
nice, I'd indulged. Yeah,yeah, I'm just giving. You were
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a little out of it and youwere tipped back, laying flat in your
chair. Yes, it does,because imagine me like speeds of sweat.
I'm researching, I'm googling, andI look over and Shane is steering at
the ceiling just as learned. You'renot you're filf. I look over your
like this, grinning. This isunfair, this is probably, I say
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to Shane. I keep updating him, like, oh I found a library,
Oh no, this one's closed whatever, And I tell him I found
one at seven, We're gonna goand see if we can reserve the history
room, and like how much itcosts? I did? I checked out
because I didn't deal with the webpages. But you were also tipped you
were not trying. Before that,I learned, like, yes, I
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and I don't have the emotional makeupto handle and slow internet. So I'm
taking myself out of Yeah, you'retaking out of it, but you're also
like trying to be involved. Soevery couple of seconds, like every fifteen
seconds, Shane would say, whatare we gonna do? And I was
like, Shane, I am activelylooking for a solution. You are not
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helping, Like stop it. Andthen he'd be like, oh, what
are we going to do? Andthen I had my most brilliant idea.
You had a brain blast, yeah, that you had to share. And
I said to you, I founda library. We're going there tomorrow.
It opens at one pm. Wewill be there at one fifteen. We
will reserve this room, blah blahblah. And Shane doesn't listen to any
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of that, says to me,let's drive home now. And I was
like, but like as if thatwas an amazing idea, Like he was.
His eyes were glimmering, and hewas like, let's drive home now.
And I was like, Shane,it's ten thirty. We would arrive
at around four am. Do youthink that that is a good idea?
And I was like, I don'tknow what else to do. I don't
know what else to do. AndI was like, this is I told
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you about this library. It wasawful. I was so mad at you.
Anyway, the next day we goto the library, we reserve the
room, it's all looking great.And felt it you did to be true,
the fact that a library that wasonly ten minutes, Yeah, from
our airbnb not only had WiFi.We went there and we test called people
yeah worked and rooms that you couldread and they were openly enough. It
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was amazing, So we rented that. Then we went home. I reset
the router. I had been unplugginglike both things. But I decided at
this point to unplug not just therouter from this plug, but like also
the plug from the wall, likeI am plugged. No, I had
already unplugged the most basically like thisconnected a lot. I disconnected everything.
It was like the third thing thatI could unplug from the wall. I
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unplugged it instead of just like thepower or whatever. And the internet came
back on. It came alive.So this is like three pm. Species
in three hours, we're using theinternet a lot to see if it's stay
on. And it's staying on five, We're like, do we go to
the library or do we just doit here? Because here is a lot
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easier, you know, just sittingin our in our space. It's a
lot more comfortable, and the lifewas a lot better than it was at
the library. Yeah, if itstays on, stays on, so we
the risk. Yeah, so youstay in the house, do the live
stream there and just hope to Doddthat it didn't go out again. We
were doing it and we begin andit's verything great and it stayed on the
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whole time, the whole time.It was the rest of the trip.
It stayed on, like it literallystayed on the rest of the week.
So I fixed it. You didfix it, And I'm so grateful they
stayed on because if you watched thatlive stream it was on Instagram, it
was like a very professional, youknow thing that with other people involved,
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with a panel of other people.Yeah, it was the thing. If
we would have dissed that, didI know? So, yeah, it
all worked out and all that stressfor nothing, Like we waste an entire
day trying to find a place todo our live stream. Yeah, and
thankfully it was in the beginning ofthe trip. Yeah, like we had
the rest of the week to relaxand not have that. Yes, oh
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boy, again, this is whyI don't like nature cabins. So that
was a little summary of our timein Door County. There's a lot more
and a lot more good stuff.The funniest thing happened on this trip.
Literally one of the funniest thing wasthat Will be in the video that we'd
make about it. Yeah, thatwas pretty funny. I know what you're
talking about. Oh and also what'snot in the video. But I really
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want to say is that one timeShane screamed out in the car that he
saw deer. He was so excited. He was like, dear, dear,
dear. And I looked and itwas a flock of chickens in someone's
yard. My perspective was off andI was ex Shane, those are chickens,
And he was like, oh,I thought they were a lot further
away. Thank you, my lovingwife. All Right, we're gonna take
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you a quick break. Yes,we'll be right back. It's time to
play. Am I not me?But are they the asshole? Are they?
This is taken from the subreddit amI the Asshole? Where people write
in asking, you know, describingsituation and asking people to tell them if
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they are the asshole in the situationor not. I read this when you
sent it to me earlier, didyou. I'm interested to hear your opinion.
I did, and I'd like tohear your opinion as well, so
let us know them as what sideof this story you are on? Yes,
this is a really interesting one.I'm curious what you're going to think
too, Okay. I, atwenty one year old female, attended my
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aunt's wedding a few weeks ago.I was not part of the wedding,
just a guest, which I wasfine with. Before the wedding, everyone
was advised to drink lots of waterand eat beforehand because it was going to
be extremely hot that day. Thewedding started at five pm, and I
had absolutely nothing to eat or drinkup until then, except maybe a granola
bar because I was extremely busy thatday, so when it was time for
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the wedding, I was already tiredand hungry. About thirty minutes into the
wedding, which was at a churchby the way, I was feeling uneasy
and lightheaded, so I excused myselfto go to the washroom. As I
was walking, I got that feelinglike I was about to collapse. The
next thing I can remember was comingto and see lots of people surrounding me,
including the bride and groom. Apparently, when I fainted, I fell
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onto the photographer who was crouched downnear me. Not only that, but
he dropped the camera lens down andit broke. To be honest, I
don't even remember seeing the photographer,but I may have been too dizzy or
something to have seen him. Thewedding was a bit of a cheaper one,
so the photographer was a family friendof the grooms who only had one
camera with him. The bride wasjust in tears that she won't have any
good pictures from her wedding. Thephotographer insisted that he could drive home and
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grab a different one, but itwould take too long. The bride was
indeed mad at me, but Ifelt it was a bit harsh, as
it was extremely embarrassing for me already. Fainting never even crossed my mind is
something that would happen at all.They did get pictures, but they were
on cell phones, all right.You want to know my initial Reactionshole,
My initial reaction to this is like, this sounds fake to me. Something
(23:59):
about the way it's really Yeah,I don't think this actually happened. I
genuinely don't. Let's pretend for theirstake of our Something is off about it.
It doesn't sound like how a realperson would write, like I feel
like this is I don't know,this doesn't sound like a twenty one year
old doesn't matter. It's not real. This is fraudulent. I really feel
like something is off about this.Does anyone else feel like something is off?
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And also it's not under the option. Everyone was advised to drink lots
of water and eat beforehand by whowho reached out to you the day of
the wedding and was like, don'tforget to eat and drink? Who advises
someone family? You had to tellthis girl to eat? You are well,
You're not played in the game.I don't think that this scenario was
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so bizarre. I've imagine if onthe day of our wedding, I sent
out a mass email telling everyone don'tforget to eat and maybe drink some water.
Maybe the church doesn't have airthon dishand the message vis hey, heads
up church, she doesn't have yondish, it's going to be really hot.
So you didn't say the church didn'thave Americ conditioning. Well, if
it was so hot that someone passedout, well she passed out because she
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hadn't eaten or drink anything. Whodoesn't eat or drink until five pm because
she's extremely busy is an asshole?Or do you think that the people that
got mad at her were the assholesif I take this at face value,
which I'm finding very difficult. Ithink if I was the bride and someone
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passed out and broke the camera,like, yeah, I think that this
girl is the asshole. If it'strue that she didn't eat or drink until
five pm because she was busy,and the whole thing of like I wasn't
in the wedding, which I wasfine with. I just thought that was
a very weird thing to include.You don't seem like you're fine with it.
Like imagine if I was like,I'm going to this wedding, I'm
not in it, but I'm finewith that. What Yeah, you're saying
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that. Yeah, I think she'sShe just seems like the whole way it's
written is just very asshole to me. You, I will say, sided
with the overwhelming majority commentors on redd. See that's scary that because I never
read it on Reddit, so Idon't know, Like what if everyone was
against me? Many many people thoughtthat the individual that fainted was the asshole.
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Yeah, I disagree. I thinkthat when you are throwing your reddam,
it is your responsibility to provide alike hospitable environment. No one said
that it was hot in the church. She did not say it was hot
in the church. Well, then, so don't extrapolated. Was it's going
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to be a very hot day.Yeah, it's a hot day. You
can't control the weather our wedding.How a tornado alert? Then imagine me
imagine someone being like, it's theirresponsibility to provide a hospitable environment. I'm
very upset that there was a tornadosiren. No, but okay, it
is up to the person kid tolike make decisions about the day to provide
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a hospitable environment for their body,which includes eating and drinking. But it
doesn't admit them then asshole if they'venever like fainted from not eating, you're
drinking enough in the day, Likewhy would they be why would they expect
to do that at the bedam?But it doesn't I'm just saying, if
you break the camera and ruin someone'swedding, you're the asshole. I don't
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care why you fainted, Like itdoesn't matter, It doesn't mean that,
Like you're you know in that situation, you did that, Like you should
be like, oh my god,I'm so sorry. I should have had
something to eat, Like this wasso easily avoidable. That's the problem if
they had like a medical condition,like sure, you know, but that's
the thing. I just feel likefaint tam is not a kind of It's
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not normal enough that this person shouldhave worried about faint tam, like if
I but even just excusing yourself duringthe wedding and walking down the aisle because
you didn't light headed and run toget to the bathroom. The jet some
water. I don't think she wasgoing to get water. She would refuse
to drink water day. I'm justsaying, I don't like the squirrel m.
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That's so not fair though, likethe vend she didn't have water available
if it was that hot, orlike it's so but it's Shane, it's
thirty minutes in. There's gonna bean entire thing where they provide food and
drink. You do not serve peoplefood and drink at the church. Come
with your own water bottle. Idon't understand about the war name to me
(28:33):
is so odd of a warning.Yeah that I have to believe that it
was a morning based on knowledge ofwhat the church was going to be.
I do not. We cannot saythat. But then she just had a
hot day, not a hot venue. It's hot outside. But why would
it matter, Why would you tellpeople that eat and drink? But then
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she's the asshole because she didn't doit, because it was their responsibility to
make sure their guests were comfortable.Make sure you drink today, that's nice.
And then she didn't, and thenshe broke the camera and the fride
has no photos. She was verybusy, but did she was having a
terribly rough day. It sounds likeshe was getting her hair done and her
nails done. She was having avery busy day. Didn't have time to
eat and drink. Who doesn't havetime to drink? That's just not a
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thing. There is no amount ofbusiness that you can be that. You
can't have water. People who arenews reporters have a cup of water in
front of them unless that like person, what do you on a spaceship?
Did NASA not provide you water?She was in dough reytality. She didn't
have internet either. What in theworld, in what world can you not
have what? And she says maybea granola bar? Okay, did you
(29:41):
eat a granola bar? Did younot eat? A girl? I don't
think that fainting, which to me, is like a very unexpected Metahle issue
should be thought of his asshole behavior, Like, and that's that's really about,
right, I don't even think it's. No, it's not just that.
It's the fact that she is notremorseful at all and says they got
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pictures on cell phones. Why amI the asshole in this situation? He
could have gotten the camera, shesaid, there wasn't time, like,
I'm not the asshole. It's it'sthe reaction. If I fainted and broke
the camera at someone's wedding so thatthey did not get wedding photos, I
would feel so horrible. I don'teven know what I would do, Like
I would have called a Like Idon't even know what I would do.
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I would not post on Reddit beinglike I'm not the asshole? Am I?
Because this is absurd? How couldI be the asshole in this situation?
She's posting looking for people to belike, yeah, the bride's the
asshole. No, No, she'snot. I ruined the wedding. I
think that definitely, But that's adifferent conversation. No, it isn't.
That's what people are judging her on. If she afterwards was like I made
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a horrible mistake not eating and drinking. I'm so sorry. I ruined the
wedding. Oh my god, You'renot an asshole at all. It's okay,
it's okay. But if you golike, excuse me, why are
you so mad at me? I'membarrassed. Now you're the asshole and there
I am asshole on the drowns ofphrase. Am no, but why are
you summarizing me my words incorrectly?I just well, it's more about her
(31:12):
like aftermath behavior. It's both.Yes, it's the irresponsibility of arriving somewhere
where you are compromised and then ruiningthe wedding because of that. I really
spect that. Okay, here wego, Here we go, Shane.
If you were at a wedding youhad too much to drink, this is
like the same thing, not enoughto drink, too much to drink,
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and you know it isn't why let'sdo it with in my blood share like
you know, but you need tobe in a way. That's like if
you had too much to drink andyou backed up trying to get out of
this church and ran over the camera, you're the asshole. Feels very very
different to me. So brime tome, isn't like fat during into it.
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I'm wonder, is it like whatthe aso the whole thing to not
eat because you just kind of expectit. You'll be fine as you normally,
you know what I mean? Yes, asshole behavior. And then you
ruin the wedding. Yep, shouldhave eaten, should have had a cup
of water. So you said youdon't have my blood sugar relatationally? Yes
(32:14):
drop if we had a very verybusy day, yeah, and I was
not able to eat enough yes,during that day. And then oh my
down we go to my blood chegardrops and I'm like, Hannah a vistory
to you during the share of moneydetailed, I can't believe it's happening,
like my blood chegar jobb and needto get out of the church. And
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then you need to get food intomy belt. And I'm beginning to sweat
and do a little bit kind ofhazy from my blood chear jobbing. So
as like Taran, I hit thecamera bag and break the camera. Oh
my god, you but you hitthe camera man and he drops the camera.
Leave. You're the assholele you brokethe camera more care I was eat
(33:00):
more food before you came. II cannot actually didn't happen when you're fin
him, She wasn't like and thenI'm going to fall this way on the
Taborman. She was absolutely not intostroul of what was happening. Shane.
If afterwards you were angry that thebride was mad at you, then you
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are the asshole. I don't care. You've ruined someone's wedding and you ruined
the memories. They will not havephotos now because you didn't eat. I
think you're making the person that postedangrier than they actually reads. I think
you're applying an extra ender to themthat they're like, yeah, I'm not
(33:45):
the asshole. Well they're posting onReddit. Yeah, but a lot of
people right and genuinely just feel like, am I the asshout here? Yeah?
You don't know. If you don'tknow that you're the asshole, not
like that doesn't apologize, Like whodoesn't you don't know If she didn't apologize,
Well, she doesn't accept that thebride is mad. She says,
that's unfair if I then apologize tothe bride profusely, but you don't know
(34:10):
if she's apologized, but so sane, she's on a dyllain. Oh my
god, disappointed in you. I'mliterally the wedding was a bit of a
cheaper one, like she just readsso rudely. I didn't. I don't
mind not being in the wedding.I was already tired and hungry. Oh,
Candra Battery is about to die.Oh my god, we need to
end this for real, Okay,Uh yeah, we'll do it on right,
(34:34):
Shane. We're gonna keep talking aboutthis because I'm disappointed in your in
your lodgic. Next time you faoh, I don't call you the biggest
thing. I don't faint because II'll have plenty to eat. You genuinely,
don't fight. If you did,you're a giant asshole. Don't ever
fait around men. And if youdo, do not fall on anything in
partant fall somewhere that's in this thing. Okay, it's the way she wrote
(34:57):
it to everyone happy issued this episodby the end like subscribe review, and
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Yay, networks. Don't ever failurearound me, and if you do,
do not fall on anything important fallsomewhere that's in this thing. Okay,
how everyone, welcome back. Thisis je Mayhem Episode ten billion. Wow.
(00:26):
We have an important headline. Wedo. We have a fun episode.
We just came back from our DoorCounty trip. We're going to tell
you some really funny and upsetting andall mayhem, all kinds of things that
happen on the trip. And thenat the end we're going to do an
am I the Asshole reading and youknow, discussion. But first we do
(00:48):
have a very important headline. First, here are the keywords from what you're
about to hear. What advocacy,disability, important, big, monumental,
listen up, help advocate. That'sa lot of keywords. Disability, House
of Representatives, bill, bill,legislation, pay attention. Okay, So
(01:15):
we are going to put the linkto this web page in the description below
or wherever you're listening watching, it'llbe in the description box. Okay,
so you can find the link there. The headline basically is that there is
a bill that has been introduced inthe House of Representatives that would increase the
asset limits for people on SSI.That is the headline. We will now
(01:37):
go into detail about what that means. Yeah, we need to give context
on almost every word in that SID, but it's very, very very important
if you don't know people on SSI, which is supplemental Social Security, which
is a way that mended disabled peopleare able to believe for their lives.
Disabled people people who are older andhave almost snow income or assets. And
(02:01):
to qualify for this, you haveto have less than two thousand dollars in
assets to qualify. If you evergo above that amount, you immediately lose
that money and then you have nothing. And this is the way that disabled
people are forced into set holes ofpoverty that they cannot escape from because they
(02:23):
need the SSI to pay for theirfood and for living expenses that we all
need to qualify for health insurance,Like you need to keep all of this,
yeah, all the support, butthen you can't save more than two
thousand dollars. So what happens ifa pipe in your house breaks? Yeah,
you don't ever have like an emergencyfund, or if you need a
(02:43):
wheelchair accessible van, how do yousave up for that? Yeah? Or
really anything that you want to doas it's human being. Yeah, living
a life that not disabled people arenot kept from, Like you want to
buy a computer, yeah, likeliterally anything. And the other kind of
giant reason that this is unfair isthat if you would like to get married,
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that asset limit becomes three thousand dollars, So instead of two thousand each,
you now have to have less andyou can only have as a married
couple three thousand dollars. And sodisabled people very often have to make the
horrible decision to not marry their partnersbecause then their partners assets will be counted
(03:30):
against them. And a lot oftimes it's not just not married, it's
like not disclosed, like if you'rein a relationship, Yeah, and it's
suspected that you might be in thatrelationship and you're living together or whatever that
counts also, so it's it's reallyhorrible. Yeah, this is something you
don't hand that. And I arespeaking from a placeship of privilege. We
are able to pay for our sponsors. Yeah, it zero work. But
(03:54):
even us from this fund of privilege, when we were thinking about getting married,
a long hard time to consider ifwe should, yeah, get married,
because down the road, if weneed the almost like as I,
Yeah, it could disqualify us.Yeah, just the fact that we're we
(04:14):
have assets and we're married and handassets count as mine. Yeah, But
there's hope, and that's what thisis about. Yeah. So this bill
raises the asset limit from two thousandfor an individual to ten thousand for an
individual, and from three thousand fora couple to twenty thousand. So it
takes away that penalty that you getfor being in a partnership with someone.
(04:36):
Yeah, and it raises that thatmoney. Obviously it's not like the ideal
amount, but you know, twentythousand dollars or ten thousand dollars, but
it's much much higher. And it'salso set to go up with inflation every
year, so it won't just likestay the same and then in twenty years
it's you know, not really fairanymore. I do not think any reasons
the ball human being with a heart, Yeah can listen to this. I
(05:00):
understand this information and genuinely feel believethat this is not a good thing.
Yeah, this is very very important. Yes, but there is not a
guarantee that it's going to go throughunless you make some noise and your legislaid.
There's no that you believe in this, this is important and you want
(05:23):
this to happen. And Kurosam hasmade this very easy by putting together a
web page where you can just enter. They have like a message written out.
You can customize it however you want. You put in where you live,
and it automatically sends it to yourrepresentatives. You don't even have to
know who your representatives are the names. Yeah. Instead of going and like
looking up their emails or calling whatever, you can just send this in and
(05:45):
it'll send it to everyone in yourarea. It's really really useful and thousands
of people have done it already,which is amazing. Yeah. And we
don't often ask you for you know, favors. We don't give big tells
to action. Yeah, but thisis really important for the de shave community.
It is a two minute process foryou. Yes, below, tell
your legislators that you feel this isimportant and let's make it happen. Yeah,
(06:12):
definitely. This should be so helpfulfor so many of our friends,
yeah, and people in the community. And it's fair, Yes, it's
common sense. Yep. All right, all right, let me off of
hold on, getting off of mysoapbops, all right? Should we take
a break, and then go intoour first story, which is kind of
(06:32):
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a quote that I said when wewere Indoor County. When I walked in
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and smelled something a little off.I think I still had pip on my
wheels. Oh my god, Igot pip on my wheels. That was
just a small moment. I don'tknow why. That's how you're characterizing our
trip. One junk yard mayhem,okay, and the junkyard of life is
filled with poopy wheels. And theworst part is that we don't even know
what kind of poop it was.It wasn't dog, and it wasn't human.
(08:18):
It was perhaps coyote. We don'teven know where it happened, or
powesome. We didn't have a videoabout our trip coming out. Friday,
says Hannah. Yes Friday, Fridaysays Hannah Shin says, and if I
get it done earlier, then maybeThursday. I feel like there's any day
in the future. Yeah, it'scoming this week with you know, it
(08:39):
was an a majoring trip and wedid a lot of really found stuff.
Yes, but we have a fewstories that are not in that video because
I didn't film you when you hadpoop on your wheels. Well, okay,
our cabin was very beautiful, lovely. Not really, it wasn't a
cabin. It was a build inlike a new little development. It was
a house, but it was inthe middle of the forest, so that's
(09:00):
a cabin. There were deer walkingaround, there were deer, turkeys.
Yeah, tons of loild life.We saw leaving poop everywhere that we're dead
unfortunately, well it was a deadsnake. But we would do these loops
through the very nice paved road throughthe woods. My ideal kind of it
was great nature and it was coldenough that there weren't bugs all over us,
(09:24):
like, no mosquitoes, none ofthat. And then we came home
from one of our lots and Igo into the house and handles, you
know, undoing them chloes. LeasianHighness Watson and does chain. You're channeling
something up, Shane, it's poop. You're channeling poops near the house.
Gross. When I was a littlekid, that used to be a almost
(09:50):
daily part of my life. Ohgod, you're poor, Baron, because
the kids that would drive my chairin the drass offstin yeah and there and
on fields and yeah, I don'tdo that now that I'm an adult.
Really, this kind of brought meback to my youth. That's disgusting you.
I remember, weren't your parents likeannoyed it? Like, weren't didn't
you have like a punishment because youwould get poop in the house so often
(10:13):
and they would like hose it downoutside. Yeah, there wasn't a punishment.
I thought your parents were annoyed aboutit. No, So the product
hall was when you arrive home fromplaying outside, you have to get mom
or dad or Andrew as she gotolder, to hose off your veals protocol,
not punishment. Well, but whenI disobeyed the product hall and you
(10:37):
said Mabels were probably fine, andthen later on an hour later, my
mom gets home and so Shane,why people all over your leg? Then
that was probably in Treda. Theother big drama yea that we had on
this trip that again we didn't filmbecause this was not for mobile. We
(11:00):
were distraught. It was like veryunhappy. Yes, a very challenging thing.
It tested our relationship. Oh mygod, we did get in a
fight. I wouldn't say it testedour relationship, but we were fighting.
I felt tested. Well, Ijust I think I'll give the full story
if you don't mind, including whatyou thought you contributed to this problem.
(11:24):
So basically, while we were IndoorCounty, we knew that we had a
live stream event and because of that, it was very important that we had
good WiFi. The house that wewere staying in was an airbnb that was
again a new build, very modern, very modern, like beautiful house and
wonderfully decorated, had WiFi. Itwas all good. We chat that specific.
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Yeah, we were like, wehave a contracted event, yes that
we had to do. Yeah,it wasn't light for fun. Yeah,
we were just geting live for fun. We had an event that we were
being paid to do and I hadto be online at six pm on Tuesday
night, Yes, it had tobe indeed, wife and we got to
(12:07):
the cabin on Sunday night. Soon Sunday night, we were watching TV.
It was all fine and first thingI did Internet speed test contest.
It's all good to go, likeno problem. And we were watching TV
that night and the TV all ofa sudden stopped playing the show we were
(12:28):
streaming and said that it had lostinternet connection. And we checked our phones
and they couldn't connect either. Sowe were like, that's really weird.
I like, I know where therouter is. I'll just you know,
unplug it, plug it back in, reset it and just felt hot test
Like n Hannah said, we wereway way up north. We were way
way up north, Like we didn'thave service yea other than the WiFi.
(12:50):
Yeah, Like our phone service didn'twork, so we couldn't just like use
There was no five G or LTEor anything like that. It was Wi
Fi or scream to communicate, youknow, there was no other methods.
It was a little LTE, butit would take like five minutes to load
a Facebook page, you know.It was it was really bad for a
(13:11):
live stream. I'm not gonna workfor a live stream. Uh So I
reset the router, we watch,and then like five minutes later it cuts
out again. It did wort itworked, which was it was like,
Okay, that happens sometimes. Yes, I reset it a couple of times
that night and it was fine,but like, you know, fine to
stream, but it was a littleweird that the router kept cutting out.
(13:31):
I was deading nervous at that pointbecause it seemed to be a assistant yeah,
tissue. It was a little consistent. The next day was similar.
I think I reset the router maybelike four or five times throughout the course
of the day. We were gettinga little bit more worried, but didn't
necessarily we were. So was justlike, yeah, oh my gosh,
read if it goes out during ourpresentation, that would be really bad because
(13:54):
it would stay on for like athree hour period, which was fine,
but the day goes on, itseems like the periods that the WiFi stays
on are getting shorter, and byseven pm, I'm resetting this router every
ten minutes. I'm communitating with theairbnb house. Yeah, like, is
there a trick to making this WiFiturn on? And he you know,
(14:18):
you gave some advice, but itwas playing that like the internet up there
is yeah, pretty limited and youget what you get, so yeah,
there's no other options for Wi Fi. It's just this one company and you
know that's all they can do.So we're resetting it. We're panninging and
by like ten pm, the internetis out. It's not coming back.
(14:39):
I keep resetting the router and itis not coming back on. We now
have no internet and no service,so it's not like we can even google
like solution what to do. Yeah, we're in very bad moods because you
know, we're interrupting the Oh show. We're trying to all ouse and have
a nice vacation. Yeah, ourshow is now not playing at all,
(15:00):
and we're panicking about what we're goingto do for our live stream, which
is the next evening. It's anice day and based on you know what
the airbnb owner told us, Ididn't have very high hopes that enginewhere in
town would have life. And youcan't just like go to a hockey shop
for a live stream. It's exactly, you can't be in public. And
(15:22):
the thing is we were at thatpoint, I was using our very limited
internet capabilities to search for like placesin the county that would have WiFi.
So we were looking for libraries andit would take so long to load each
page. We were so annoyed andevery single library closed at like four pm,
three pm, one pm, andthe live stream was at six and
(15:43):
we found a coworking space that closedat five. Were like that. That
was a moment of like I dolet down and it was like, oh
my god, calibrating. Actually it'sinto your mom. Yeah, your mom
from Poland, from Poland sent usa link. So I was like,
how about this. We were likeclass solving the problem, yep, but
(16:04):
they only have until five, Likeno, So I was like about to
haul them then that day and belike, hey, can you stay up?
That's why can we do it?Can we pay you extra? Uh?
So at ten thirty pm, weare in horrible moods. Yeah,
I'm searching on my phone for differentlibraries. I finally found one that was
(16:25):
open until seven, and I likewrote it down. I was like,
we're gonna go here tomorrow. Theyhave meeting rooms that you can reserve.
We're going to check it out,make sure there's good WiFi. And Shane
is sitting there and I remember thatyou were reclined in your chair. I'd
has irritates, I'd had that everythingbecame stopped with wine complimentary wine. It's
nice, I'd indulged. Yeah,yeah, I'm just giving. You were
(16:47):
a little out of it and youwere tipped back, laying flat in your
chair. Yes, it does,because imagine me like speeds of sweat.
I'm researching, I'm googling, andI look over and Shane is steering at
the ceiling just as learned. You'renot you're filf. I look over your
like this, grinning. This isunfair, this is probably, I say
(17:11):
to Shane. I keep updating him, like, oh I found a library,
Oh no, this one's closed whatever, And I tell him I found
one at seven, We're gonna goand see if we can reserve the history
room, and like how much itcosts? I did? I checked out
because I didn't deal with the webpages. But you were also tipped you
were not trying. Before that,I learned, like, yes, I
(17:33):
and I don't have the emotional makeupto handle and slow internet. So I'm
taking myself out of Yeah, you'retaking out of it, but you're also
like trying to be involved. Soevery couple of seconds, like every fifteen
seconds, Shane would say, whatare we gonna do? And I was
like, Shane, I am activelylooking for a solution. You are not
(17:56):
helping, Like stop it. Andthen he'd be like, oh, what
are we going to do? Andthen I had my most brilliant idea.
You had a brain blast, yeah, that you had to share. And
I said to you, I founda library. We're going there tomorrow.
It opens at one pm. Wewill be there at one fifteen. We
will reserve this room, blah blahblah. And Shane doesn't listen to any
(18:17):
of that, says to me,let's drive home now. And I was
like, but like as if thatwas an amazing idea, Like he was.
His eyes were glimmering, and hewas like, let's drive home now.
And I was like, Shane,it's ten thirty. We would arrive
at around four am. Do youthink that that is a good idea?
And I was like, I don'tknow what else to do. I don't
know what else to do. AndI was like, this is I told
(18:40):
you about this library. It wasawful. I was so mad at you.
Anyway, the next day we goto the library, we reserve the
room, it's all looking great.And felt it you did to be true,
the fact that a library that wasonly ten minutes, Yeah, from
our airbnb not only had WiFi.We went there and we test called people
yeah worked and rooms that you couldread and they were openly enough. It
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was amazing, So we rented that. Then we went home. I reset
the router. I had been unplugginglike both things. But I decided at
this point to unplug not just therouter from this plug, but like also
the plug from the wall, likeI am plugged. No, I had
already unplugged the most basically like thisconnected a lot. I disconnected everything.
It was like the third thing thatI could unplug from the wall. I
(19:26):
unplugged it instead of just like thepower or whatever. And the internet came
back on. It came alive.So this is like three pm. Species
in three hours, we're using theinternet a lot to see if it's stay
on. And it's staying on five, We're like, do we go to
the library or do we just doit here? Because here is a lot
(19:48):
easier, you know, just sittingin our in our space. It's a
lot more comfortable, and the lifewas a lot better than it was at
the library. Yeah, if itstays on, stays on, so we
the risk. Yeah, so youstay in the house, do the live
stream there and just hope to Doddthat it didn't go out again. We
were doing it and we begin andit's verything great and it stayed on the
(20:14):
whole time, the whole time.It was the rest of the trip.
It stayed on, like it literallystayed on the rest of the week.
So I fixed it. You didfix it, And I'm so grateful they
stayed on because if you watched thatlive stream it was on Instagram, it
was like a very professional, youknow thing that with other people involved,
(20:36):
with a panel of other people.Yeah, it was the thing. If
we would have dissed that, didI know? So, yeah, it
all worked out and all that stressfor nothing, Like we waste an entire
day trying to find a place todo our live stream. Yeah, and
thankfully it was in the beginning ofthe trip. Yeah, like we had
the rest of the week to relaxand not have that. Yes, oh
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boy, again, this is whyI don't like nature cabins. So that
was a little summary of our timein Door County. There's a lot more
and a lot more good stuff.The funniest thing happened on this trip.
Literally one of the funniest thing wasthat Will be in the video that we'd
make about it. Yeah, thatwas pretty funny. I know what you're
talking about. Oh and also what'snot in the video. But I really
(21:25):
want to say is that one timeShane screamed out in the car that he
saw deer. He was so excited. He was like, dear, dear,
dear. And I looked and itwas a flock of chickens in someone's
yard. My perspective was off andI was ex Shane, those are chickens,
And he was like, oh,I thought they were a lot further
away. Thank you, my lovingwife. All Right, we're gonna take
(21:48):
you a quick break. Yes,we'll be right back. It's time to
play. Am I not me?But are they the asshole? Are they?
This is taken from the subreddit amI the Asshole? Where people write
in asking, you know, describingsituation and asking people to tell them if
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they are the asshole in the situationor not. I read this when you
sent it to me earlier, didyou. I'm interested to hear your opinion.
I did, and I'd like tohear your opinion as well, so
let us know them as what sideof this story you are on? Yes,
this is a really interesting one.I'm curious what you're going to think
too, Okay. I, atwenty one year old female, attended my
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aunt's wedding a few weeks ago.I was not part of the wedding,
just a guest, which I wasfine with. Before the wedding, everyone
was advised to drink lots of waterand eat beforehand because it was going to
be extremely hot that day. Thewedding started at five pm, and I
had absolutely nothing to eat or drinkup until then, except maybe a granola
bar because I was extremely busy thatday, so when it was time for
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the wedding, I was already tiredand hungry. About thirty minutes into the
wedding, which was at a churchby the way, I was feeling uneasy
and lightheaded, so I excused myselfto go to the washroom. As I
was walking, I got that feelinglike I was about to collapse. The
next thing I can remember was comingto and see lots of people surrounding me,
including the bride and groom. Apparently, when I fainted, I fell
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onto the photographer who was crouched downnear me. Not only that, but
he dropped the camera lens down andit broke. To be honest, I
don't even remember seeing the photographer,but I may have been too dizzy or
something to have seen him. Thewedding was a bit of a cheaper one,
so the photographer was a family friendof the grooms who only had one
camera with him. The bride wasjust in tears that she won't have any
good pictures from her wedding. Thephotographer insisted that he could drive home and
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grab a different one, but itwould take too long. The bride was
indeed mad at me, but Ifelt it was a bit harsh, as
it was extremely embarrassing for me already. Fainting never even crossed my mind is
something that would happen at all.They did get pictures, but they were
on cell phones, all right.You want to know my initial Reactionshole,
My initial reaction to this is like, this sounds fake to me. Something
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about the way it's really Yeah,I don't think this actually happened. I
genuinely don't. Let's pretend for theirstake of our Something is off about it.
It doesn't sound like how a realperson would write, like I feel
like this is I don't know,this doesn't sound like a twenty one year
old doesn't matter. It's not real. This is fraudulent. I really feel
like something is off about this.Does anyone else feel like something is off?
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And also it's not under the option. Everyone was advised to drink lots
of water and eat beforehand by whowho reached out to you the day of
the wedding and was like, don'tforget to eat and drink? Who advises
someone family? You had to tellthis girl to eat? You are well,
You're not played in the game.I don't think that this scenario was
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so bizarre. I've imagine if onthe day of our wedding, I sent
out a mass email telling everyone don'tforget to eat and maybe drink some water.
Maybe the church doesn't have airthon dishand the message vis hey, heads
up church, she doesn't have yondish, it's going to be really hot.
So you didn't say the church didn'thave Americ conditioning. Well, if
it was so hot that someone passedout, well she passed out because she
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hadn't eaten or drink anything. Whodoesn't eat or drink until five pm because
she's extremely busy is an asshole?Or do you think that the people that
got mad at her were the assholesif I take this at face value,
which I'm finding very difficult. Ithink if I was the bride and someone
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passed out and broke the camera,like, yeah, I think that this
girl is the asshole. If it'strue that she didn't eat or drink until
five pm because she was busy,and the whole thing of like I wasn't
in the wedding, which I wasfine with. I just thought that was
a very weird thing to include.You don't seem like you're fine with it.
Like imagine if I was like,I'm going to this wedding, I'm
not in it, but I'm finewith that. What Yeah, you're saying
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that. Yeah, I think she'sShe just seems like the whole way it's
written is just very asshole to me. You, I will say, sided
with the overwhelming majority commentors on redd. See that's scary that because I never
read it on Reddit, so Idon't know, Like what if everyone was
against me? Many many people thoughtthat the individual that fainted was the asshole.
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Yeah, I disagree. I thinkthat when you are throwing your reddam,
it is your responsibility to provide alike hospitable environment. No one said
that it was hot in the church. She did not say it was hot
in the church. Well, then, so don't extrapolated. Was it's going
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to be a very hot day.Yeah, it's a hot day. You
can't control the weather our wedding.How a tornado alert? Then imagine me
imagine someone being like, it's theirresponsibility to provide a hospitable environment. I'm
very upset that there was a tornadosiren. No, but okay, it
is up to the person kid tolike make decisions about the day to provide
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a hospitable environment for their body,which includes eating and drinking. But it
doesn't admit them then asshole if they'venever like fainted from not eating, you're
drinking enough in the day, Likewhy would they be why would they expect
to do that at the bedam?But it doesn't I'm just saying, if
you break the camera and ruin someone'swedding, you're the asshole. I don't
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care why you fainted, Like itdoesn't matter, It doesn't mean that,
Like you're you know in that situation, you did that, Like you should
be like, oh my god,I'm so sorry. I should have had
something to eat, Like this wasso easily avoidable. That's the problem if
they had like a medical condition,like sure, you know, but that's
the thing. I just feel likefaint tam is not a kind of It's
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not normal enough that this person shouldhave worried about faint tam, like if
I but even just excusing yourself duringthe wedding and walking down the aisle because
you didn't light headed and run toget to the bathroom. The jet some
water. I don't think she wasgoing to get water. She would refuse
to drink water day. I'm justsaying, I don't like the squirrel m.
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That's so not fair though, likethe vend she didn't have water available
if it was that hot, orlike it's so but it's Shane, it's
thirty minutes in. There's gonna bean entire thing where they provide food and
drink. You do not serve peoplefood and drink at the church. Come
with your own water bottle. Idon't understand about the war name to me
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is so odd of a warning.Yeah that I have to believe that it
was a morning based on knowledge ofwhat the church was going to be.
I do not. We cannot saythat. But then she just had a
hot day, not a hot venue. It's hot outside. But why would
it matter, Why would you tellpeople that eat and drink? But then
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she's the asshole because she didn't doit, because it was their responsibility to
make sure their guests were comfortable.Make sure you drink today, that's nice.
And then she didn't, and thenshe broke the camera and the fride
has no photos. She was verybusy, but did she was having a
terribly rough day. It sounds likeshe was getting her hair done and her
nails done. She was having avery busy day. Didn't have time to
eat and drink. Who doesn't havetime to drink? That's just not a
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thing. There is no amount ofbusiness that you can be that. You
can't have water. People who arenews reporters have a cup of water in
front of them unless that like person, what do you on a spaceship?
Did NASA not provide you water?She was in dough reytality. She didn't
have internet either. What in theworld, in what world can you not
have what? And she says maybea granola bar? Okay, did you
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eat a granola bar? Did younot eat? A girl? I don't
think that fainting, which to me, is like a very unexpected Metahle issue
should be thought of his asshole behavior, Like, and that's that's really about,
right, I don't even think it's. No, it's not just that.
It's the fact that she is notremorseful at all and says they got
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pictures on cell phones. Why amI the asshole in this situation? He
could have gotten the camera, shesaid, there wasn't time, like,
I'm not the asshole. It's it'sthe reaction. If I fainted and broke
the camera at someone's wedding so thatthey did not get wedding photos, I
would feel so horrible. I don'teven know what I would do, Like
I would have called a Like Idon't even know what I would do.
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I would not post on Reddit beinglike I'm not the asshole? Am I?
Because this is absurd? How couldI be the asshole in this situation?
She's posting looking for people to belike, yeah, the bride's the
asshole. No, No, she'snot. I ruined the wedding. I
think that definitely, But that's adifferent conversation. No, it isn't.
That's what people are judging her on. If she afterwards was like I made
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a horrible mistake not eating and drinking. I'm so sorry. I ruined the
wedding. Oh my god, You'renot an asshole at all. It's okay,
it's okay. But if you golike, excuse me, why are
you so mad at me? I'membarrassed. Now you're the asshole and there
I am asshole on the drowns ofphrase. Am no, but why are
you summarizing me my words incorrectly?I just well, it's more about her
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like aftermath behavior. It's both.Yes, it's the irresponsibility of arriving somewhere
where you are compromised and then ruiningthe wedding because of that. I really
spect that. Okay, here wego, Here we go, Shane.
If you were at a wedding youhad too much to drink, this is
like the same thing, not enoughto drink, too much to drink,
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and you know it isn't why let'sdo it with in my blood share like
you know, but you need tobe in a way. That's like if
you had too much to drink andyou backed up trying to get out of
this church and ran over the camera, you're the asshole. Feels very very
different to me. So brime tome, isn't like fat during into it.
(31:53):
I'm wonder, is it like whatthe aso the whole thing to not
eat because you just kind of expectit. You'll be fine as you normally,
you know what I mean? Yes, asshole behavior. And then you
ruin the wedding. Yep, shouldhave eaten, should have had a cup
of water. So you said youdon't have my blood sugar relatationally? Yes
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drop if we had a very verybusy day, yeah, and I was
not able to eat enough yes,during that day. And then oh my
down we go to my blood chegardrops and I'm like, Hannah a vistory
to you during the share of moneydetailed, I can't believe it's happening,
like my blood chegar jobb and needto get out of the church. And
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then you need to get food intomy belt. And I'm beginning to sweat
and do a little bit kind ofhazy from my blood chear jobbing. So
as like Taran, I hit thecamera bag and break the camera. Oh
my god, you but you hitthe camera man and he drops the camera.
Leave. You're the assholele you brokethe camera more care I was eat
(33:00):
more food before you came. II cannot actually didn't happen when you're fin
him, She wasn't like and thenI'm going to fall this way on the
Taborman. She was absolutely not intostroul of what was happening. Shane.
If afterwards you were angry that thebride was mad at you, then you
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are the asshole. I don't care. You've ruined someone's wedding and you ruined
the memories. They will not havephotos now because you didn't eat. I
think you're making the person that postedangrier than they actually reads. I think
you're applying an extra ender to themthat they're like, yeah, I'm not
(33:45):
the asshole. Well they're posting onReddit. Yeah, but a lot of
people right and genuinely just feel like, am I the asshout here? Yeah?
You don't know. If you don'tknow that you're the asshole, not
like that doesn't apologize, Like whodoesn't you don't know If she didn't apologize,
Well, she doesn't accept that thebride is mad. She says,
that's unfair if I then apologize tothe bride profusely, but you don't know
(34:10):
if she's apologized, but so sane, she's on a dyllain. Oh my
god, disappointed in you. I'mliterally the wedding was a bit of a
cheaper one, like she just readsso rudely. I didn't. I don't
mind not being in the wedding.I was already tired and hungry. Oh,
Candra Battery is about to die.Oh my god, we need to
end this for real, Okay,Uh yeah, we'll do it on right,
(34:34):
Shane. We're gonna keep talking aboutthis because I'm disappointed in your in
your lodgic. Next time you faoh, I don't call you the biggest
thing. I don't faint because II'll have plenty to eat. You genuinely,
don't fight. If you did,you're a giant asshole. Don't ever
fait around men. And if youdo, do not fall on anything in
partant fall somewhere that's in this thing. Okay, it's the way she wrote
(34:57):
it to everyone happy issued this episodby the end like subscribe review, and
it's a junkyard out there. Activelyhurry up, hurry up. Uh,
it's a jar out there, andwe're it's gonna be a hot one.
So eat as much as you canto buy
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