August 23, 2023 • 34 mins
We are getting ready to celebrate one of our many anniversaries. To celebrate we thought it was time to test our relationship and see how well things are really going. Does Hannah know Shane to his core? Does Shane really know Hannah's goals? Join us as we quiz each other on our relationship and let us know the results for you and your partner!
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(00:03):
Yay networks. At the end ofthe day, my partner is glad to
see me. We are together allday. But yes, I'm did you
say noah? Oh? I thoughtyou said no. Hello everyone, welcome
back? Hello did junk yard Mayhem? Hello, Hannah, Hi, shame
(00:25):
hello wife. I wasn't saying hito you. I was saying hi to
everyone listening. It's almost their threeyear ready anniversary. Yeah it is.
What day is the anniversary? Septemberfour? Wow, that's because I told
you what it was like three daysago. How did you remembered? Well,
we have the date that we gotlike for real private marriage in our
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backyard. Yes, we have thedate that we had our family reception reception,
which is like a year later.Yeah, two years, one year
later. I came one year laterhere later. We have a few ani
we have the day that I askedyou marry me. If we have the
day I asked you to be mygirlfriend, we have the day we met.
There's just a lot of days.Do you remember a lot of days?
(01:07):
I remember September fourth, But you'redoing it as we are thinking about
our anniversary, which which we're doinga lot days and days of thinking.
Just almost endless uh, pondering ofour anniversary. Now, we thought we
would do a little episode like wherewe take some marriage puses, Yeah,
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and see if we fight about it. Yeah, see if we agree?
Should we have three puises? Yes, we do, test our love,
our commitment, our ever lasting abilityto remain together. Okay, well,
the first one isn't so much aquiz as like a who's better at?
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I guess that's a quiz you realize, well, actually everything she just said.
No, well, yeah, Ikind of No. The first one
we're gonna do is a like whoblank you know? So the first question
on this quiz it's hard to likethe game that you would play at Oh
my dam Yeah. Yeah that itis exactly like that shoe game or whatever
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they told you about. Yeah,so let's just jump right into this first
one. Who tells the best jokes? Shane me? Probably you do.
But you're so funny. Thank you. I occasionally nail it. I think
i'd try harder. Yeah, youyou put more out there, and you
so but you are the law ofaverages. No, you're definitely funnier.
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That's that's your main characteristic. Also, Virginia, really hard to go through
all of these rapidly. Wait,let's not give contexts. Let's just yeah,
I mean, although I seed tobe a boring the episodes, okay,
who is a movie like? Moreof a movie freak? A movie
freak? Yeah? Me, allthe lodges, Dance Moms and Love Island
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and Love is Blind? Oh my, what, I don't even like Love
is Blind? Why you used to? I didn't even watch the last two
seasons. I don't even know whatyou're talking about. I am not more
into reality TV than I am intolike fiction TV. Now, who's the
one given context? But I'm justyou're you're telling blatant lies about me.
I'm not that I want to watchfor the Violin all the time. For
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the past three we've been watching DanceMoms. But you're into Dance Mom.
I am into it, but Isay, hey, maybe I'm like taking
that off watch a movie, youhiss and drawl. Okay, No,
it's not that I like Dance Momsmore than a movie. It's not that
I like Dance Moms more than adifferent Like I loved The Last of Us,
that's not Dance Moms. Okay.And if you had said stop and
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watch a movie during the last ofus. I would have hissed it you
then too, because I do notlike interrupting my TV show that I look
forward to all day long. Iget very into my shows. I do
not want to take a break forone night and watch a movie. So
you can once we finish Dance Moms, then you can say me, please
watch some movies for a couple ofnights, and I will be like,
I would love to do that withyou. I'm just happy that you run
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along with my joke that you hissat me. That wasn't my problem.
That wasn't my problem. Okay,who was more romantic? Me? Yeah?
I think you probably? Yeah,not by much though, No,
we're both not very romantic. Yeah. Who's more talkative? Yeah? Yeah
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right, yeah it with within likeus? Yeah, such a mouth.
Okay, who's more thoughtful? Jeez? Does that mean like like thoughtful?
I didn't like I bring you agift, or like I remember your birthday
like that type of thoughtful or likeI spend time thinking? No? No,
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yeah, like thoughtful, like doingyou know, like turning things from
the other person, kind like thingsto do, like things for whatever.
Pretty even I think we are,Yeah, I think we are, like
for birthdays and stuff. I don'tthink either of us is like way more
thoughtful than the other. And yeah, in day to day life, like
randomly I'll have your mom helped medo a cute little like surprise for you,
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and randomly you'll do ta little surprisesfor me. We should do that
more. My request from more surprisessurprises? Who eats more food? Yeah,
of course, I know. It'sjust a matter of the physics or
whatever that is. Who is thebetter cook you? Well, I mean
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physically me in reality, I can'tintellectually you, Like, if if both
of us had like a pair ofhands, like an assistant, who was
doing the I have a pair ofhands. No, if we both were
using an assistant and we were theones directing, like you would be better.
So that means you're a better cook. I think they does from mostly
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almost in life, freaking god.Who is more jealous? Oh, I
have a jealous vein. I thinkwe're both equally jealous and too jealous,
although like other people like other people'slike if I see a Instagram post about
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someone that wanted a million dollars,I'll be more more jealous about that than
I. Yeah that's true. Yeah, yeah, that's true. I did
the other day. I can't rememberthe cast, but you said to me
you don't care about anything. Yeah, I don't remember what I wanted.
I was caring about something and youwere like me, I think it's about
something about our car, and youjust have no opinion about anything. That's
(06:42):
yeah, opinions. Yeah. SoI'm just more of everything, very good
with the flow. I'm telling it'ssomething that like rhymes my gear and then
a suddenly, but it's rare.I'm much more easily jealous, elevated in
emotion yep, okay. Who's moreannoying? Definitely by far, so annoy
I am. I don't know howyou deal with me a day in a
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day out. You pester like youlove to pester. I patched your I
push buttons. Yeah, in likefun loving waves and also in fights.
Yeah, I am annoying, andI drive joy out of annoying. But
most of the time I like it'sfine. I like your personality. Occasionally
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in affect you like I like yourpersonality. I'm fine with the annoyingness.
I find it funny and charming andwhatever until it's in a fight, and
then I'm like you were the worstperson my life, like my personality.
Yeah, I like you who willapologize first? Me? Always? Maybe?
Yeah, Occasionally I'll come into theroom. I might not apologize,
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but I will try to end thefight by being like, would you like
to appolish? Yeah, by offeringme the opportunity to apologize, And if
you don't take it, then thatis like a world shattering. Now the
fight is days long if you willnot apologize. So, yeah, that's
not good. It's fun. It'sreally fun than everyone who said I love
you first? Or wait no,maybe, well, yeah, I just
(08:07):
said I love you first. Ithought maybe it was like who's more likely
to say it? But I thinkit's just who did it was me?
It was you? Yeah, Okay, moving on, that's it. Oh
wait, you missed one. Idid miss one. I missed one.
Up. Who is more likely topump the gas? No? I think
I won. I think I hadmore of these than you. So I've
(08:28):
never pumped gas. No you have. You've never done a lot of things.
And on that dough diditated trip bridge? And then we'll be back for
our next quiz. Boy, it'sto make chain try on this one.
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number two, and this one thatShane found is from marriage dot com.
So that sounds official, sounds trustworthy. It sounds so trustworthy. I'm going
(10:43):
to click start quiz. Imagine likein the early days, sorry, in
the early days of the Internet,like stooping up blows juicy u rls,
Marriage dot com. I know,like whoever first dot football dot com?
I know they probably made banks.Yep, someday that was a good move.
(11:03):
I don't have to transition my careerinto f rls that well one day,
I can't me to imagine future moviesand events. Yep, that'll be
great. Good luck. I'd likeseparate bank accounts please before you take that
venture. All right, here's thefirst This is like a this is how
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good is your marriage type quiz?I think, oh boy, because these
are different kinds of questions than wejust did. Question number one, are
you faking your marriage for a YouTubechannel? When was the last time you
or your spouse exchanged I love you? Oh? Today? Well, it's
there's options yes today, a fewhours ago, a few days ago,
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or a few months ago. Ohno, I think it was a few
days ago. Oh, I thinkI love you like I think it was
yesterday. But there's not an optionfor yesterday. It's either today or a
few hours ago. Which one isbetter? Today or a few hours ago?
Well, no, I don't remembersaying it yesterday. I did say,
Oh my god, I merged myhead. I'm so sorry. We
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definitely said yesterday, did yes?Okay, I don't remember. I'd say
it so often anyway. Yeah,it's an every day thing usually. Should
I say a few days ago?For like yesterday, you have to actually
fell out select Yeah, yeah,a few days ago, a few days
a Yeah, this is the resultof you to be like your marriage is
bad? Yeah, what the heck? When was the last time you had
a date night or any romantic orany romantic evening with just the two of
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you? Options are we had onethis week, last week, a few
weeks ago, at least a monthago. This week, yeah, this
week we have like date nights everyoneto make at least. How often do
you talk to each other candidly?Does this sound right now? Every day?
Often? Sometimes or rare? Wetalk every day? Did you imagine
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some interestent person tell me on thiswebsite because they're a little bit worried about
their marriage, and then they're like, how often do you tell it to
rarely? I don't even know when. I don't know what that even means.
That would be like if you don'tspeak a lot? Yeah, okay,
every day. What do you andyour spouse usually talk about? Anything
and everything? Duties and responsibilities,money, whatever is needed to be talked
(13:26):
about, anything and everything, everything. Lately, it's been a lot about
Aliens Shane's new passion project. Duringa fight with your spouse, what do
you what do you usually do?Try to be reasonable and think about it
from their perspective, Stay calm andtell them why I'm angry slash sad.
Get angry and shout at them orignore them. I think they both try
(13:50):
to explain, Yeah, where I'mfrom and how we're feeling. Yeah,
try to be reasonable and think aboutit from their perspective. Yeah, we
sometimes there are reasonableness out the mida little bit. I don't think I'm
trying to think about it from yourperspective when we're fighting. Well, yeah
we do. But it's like,yeah, I know why you feel that
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way, but this is why Ifeel exactly exactly. All right, your
anniversary is coming up, They're right, Shane, Oh wait, really,
what are your plans? Just happensto be correct. A romantic night at
a nice restaurant and then anniversary sexat home boom, A cozy romantic night
at home, opening gifts from oneanother. These all seem equally nice.
(14:33):
Date night at the cinema like,okay, okay, that's nice, A
regular night at home. Gifts areoptional. I hate to say that.
It's just like, I mean,gifts are not necessary. Like we don't
usually do anniversary anniversary gifts. Wehaven't really been doing. We'll do a
nice dinner. Well, we wouldprobably we did a movie first. Well,
(14:54):
I think it would probably actually dolet me do this is we're very
gonna go to dinner, and thenwe're gonna talk about should we do somebody
else after? And then we'll sayno, let's stay home and watch.
Like a cozy, romantic night athome opening guests from one other is nice,
but I don't want to say notromantic night at a night like these
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just are so strange. They don'tone doesn't seem better than to me?
Is there one? It's just liketwenty four hours of saus God, I'm
picking the nice restaurant because we willgo out to dinner, but I do
like a nice night go out todinner. Yeah, Shane, start thinking
about it now, although actually weprobably won't on the date because I don't
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think we're gonna be Yeah, we'regonna be on a trip. Yeah.
So the next day, how doyou feel when you see your spouse loved?
Happy? Like? Why is oneof these better? Rage? Normal
or nervous? Normal? I feelpretty nervous. I feel happy, loved
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or like? Which one's better?Loved or happy? I feel normal or
happy? Normal? It's good?Oh my god, normal is not good.
Normal is very good. I likemy life. Yeah I feel normal
when I see you. I don't. It's not like we've been married for
three I'm gonna stay happy because whenif you walked into the room, I'm
not like I am alive. IfI worked out of the home every day
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and then I came home, youwould be happy to see me. You're
only saying normal because I only everleave the room for like thirty seconds after
very normal. Yeah, happy,I'm going with happy. But I didn't
select loved, so we're not goingto get a good score on that.
They're advised that we break up.How often do you confide in your spouse?
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Often? Sometimes, rarely or never? Oh, you are the only
person I really confide to. I'mgonna say often. Would you talk a
lot? Oh my god? Howwould you describe your intimacy? Okay,
here's the options. Are you ragefilled? Are you ready normal? Every
question that you want to answer isjust a rage? Okay, fantastic,
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Wait to hear these options rare butstill great? Like these are so niche?
And then the other two options areaverage or a dull so fantastic,
rare but still great, which seemslike a really strange option to me,
average or dull. I would sayyou fantastic, Yeah, like, I'm
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happy with it. You don't thinkit's rare but still great. But I
also don't think we're much different thanaverage, you know what I mean?
I know, like our infetry ispretty normal. I don't think it's like,
yeah, I'm selecting that fantastic becauseI don't want to say average,
because are you about the resulting?A dude, whatever this tells rare but
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still great is above average on thisranking, which is odd to me.
Yeah, like why why wouldn't youjust say great? I wonder if it
beings rare? Isn't like once aweek? Like and I hear that,
I think once you Yeah, Imean too? Maybe then this marriage dot
com is a sham went away?Do you miss your partner and want to
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be with them soon? Yes,yes, most of the times sometimes or
honestly I like my Space. Yes, yes I miss you and I'm away
on a busy day. How oftendo you think about them? This doesn't
work when we're together, Ye eachother all the time. We're always together.
A few times during the day whenI come across something that reminds me
(18:32):
of them once or twice, orI barely think of them when I am
busy all the time. We juststand all the time together by choice.
Yeah, but is it possible tobe too Yes, some people would say
that that is not a good thing, but it's not really Guys, are
we like out of ourselves? Arewe to in love? It's fine?
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What is dependency? Is that whatthat is? Yeah, codependency is.
But that's different than just like twoclose. You can just be like very
I don't think that we have likea pathological fringe. G Yeah, yeah,
that's fine. Have you ever hadthe urge to cheat on your partner?
Not at all? No? Like, what are these answers? Not
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at all? And no are thesame? No? No, no,
no is ranked below not at all, not at all? No. Once
maybe once maybe I had an urgeor yes, I will said when we
were watching Lost and it actually lilyit was free drunk down the star of
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Lost. Yes, I'm a Imay have gone down from not at all
to just sit now holy crap,Okay, I'm gonna hit No, that's
so funny. Where do you seeyourself in the next five years? I
hate this pressure with my partner livingthe best life, no one down traveling
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with my partner, so that's lessgood than just with are all ranked?
I mean all the ones that arelike do you cheat? Are all ranked?
Okay, thriving in my career orI would like to live independently by
then? If that's your answer,that's a sign I agree with A,
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B and C. Yeah. Literally, but I'm gonna say my best life
sounds like it's all encompassing. I'mgonna go with that. How often do
you feel upset with your partner?Almost never, very rarely? Like what
sometimes? Or very often? Ifeel like they're really off on like sometimes
sometimes? How about? How oftendo you feel upset with your partner?
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Almost never, very rarely, veryrare? We can do something difference between
sometimes and very rarely. It's toobig. I would just like not often
or like occasionally not often? Understandthing in my head? Okay, there
is a results. Yes, here'sour results everyone. Our headline is maybe
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you and spouse are a little bitromantic? What ready? This is the
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You both likely lead busy lives butstill managed to keep the romance alive.
Try to be a bit more committedwhile trying to be romantic and plan things
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Purchase the marriage dot com it's alink. Yeah, day did die?
All that takes is a little effort? Is so rude, impassive cat.
I feel like one of the editorsfor marriage dot com I was being
pestered by their children to allow themto make a marriage whiz. Their children
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make a drizz I agree that wasridiculous, ridiculous. I do not agree
with the results. I think thatwe are sherry in love. I mean,
they're right, we're not like overlyroma, But I think that they
meant that to be like in agood relation, like you are a little
bit happy. You know, theway it was written was not Your relationship
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is ambiguous. Maybe try a littleharder. Do you think we should take
it again? Trying to get atodd? Okay, see everyone, there's
that take. Let's take a breakand then we'll be back with our third
quiz, which is from the GottmanInstitute. So I do feel like maybe
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this will be a little bit better. Yeah, I already pete that it's
not going to be all right?Wait right, we'll be right back.
Third and final, plaz Yes,if at the end of this you are
all not sure that Hannah and Iare in a thriving, top tier marriage,
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than what. Maybe we have somework to do, Maybe we maybe
we have a little bit of moreeffort to put in. Maybe we need
to dig deep. Okay, allright, this is how well do you
know your partner? Part one?Your knowledge about your partner? Oh boy,
that seems repetitive. Okay, numberone, This is just yes or
no questions. Okay, I canname my partner's best friends. Yes,
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yes, No, did you have? You're so rude? I know what
stress is my partner is currently facing. Yes, yes, why are you
giggling on our dog wall this morning? That's always talking about it? Was
what stressed? Yes? I cantell you some of my partner's life dreams.
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Yes, yes, why would Ibe easy? I can tell you
about my partner's basic philosophy of life. Oh yes, yeah, what is
mine? I just I can tellyou about how you view life. You're
very success oriented, hard work,you know, leaving a legacy that's like
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your whole thing, and yours issloth, hidenism, the pursuit of joy
and comfort above all else. Yesee, I knew we could do it.
I know the names of some ofthe people who have been irritating my
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partner lately. Yes, yeah,I can list the relatives my partner likes
the least. Yeah. Yeah,let's start, David, prove it.
Okay. I know that my partnerknows me pretty well. Yes, I
would say more than pretty well.Okay, continue part two, your romantic
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relationship. Here we go. We'rejust still just yes and now when we
are a part I often think fondlyof my partner. Yes, yes,
I often touch or kiss my partneraffectionately. Yes, there is fire and
passion in this relationship. Who Iwould say no to be honest, Yeah,
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it's not. We're not fire people. I know there's You don't have
fire in you about anything. That'sprobably the problem. I'm just saying.
I don't know if I've ever seenyou like often degrade and minimize. Not
a bad thing. You think thatI have too much like? Yeah,
too many feelings? Yeah, butwe don't have that in like toward each
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other. That's true. We're notlike, let's do the free movie and
we're just we're just not volatile.We're so like just arounded. Yeah I
do. There's people and we're goingtogether and it's just like even all right,
not to deal over the top,but like even in our internet set,
we're not like like careful here,no, what you're about to enjoy?
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Yes, the quiet closeness of it, yes, not like we're not
very much like we're not breaking chandelier. We love cuddling. We're not so
it's a hard thing to talk aboutwhat that is? All right? Next
one, romance is definitely still partof our relationship. Yes, Yes,
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our sex life is mostly satisfying.Mostly. Well it's saying no, not
everyone. You can't be one hundredpercent all the time. Yeah, you're
right, it was just weird.Yes, no, well this is better
than the freaking other questions you didn'tanswer there. I said, yes,
I hit the button. Well theyknow that. I'm sorry, I'm hitting
the buttons everybody. They're all like, okay, your friendship. This is
part three. We're done with thatpart all right, there's six questions.
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My partner is one of my bestfriends. Yes, we just love talking
to each other. Yes, Yes, there's lots of give and take.
Both people have influence in our discussions. Yes, for sure. To the
fault, I would say, yeah, we've mentioned this before in decision well
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we we really have a hard time, okay, when a decision to be
made, I try to pick theoption that I think full Hannibal lights yea
and HANDI will do the opposite yesfor me. So neither of us wants
to say what we want. Weprioritize the others and we're both like,
just say it, what do youwant? Just say it? Yeah?
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And this is about like what arewe having for dinner? So the stakes
are not high, all right.My partner listens respectfully even when we disagree.
M Well, we can say no. Remember in the midst of addision
you're event or an argument. Well, the thing like typically disagreeing yes,
(27:56):
yeah, like in every you know, if in like I don't want to
go here or do this, Yes, but if we're fighting about something,
yeah, so I don't. Wehave occasionally slipped into not listening respecting the
best respectful listeners. Yeah, yeah, but I don't know if I should
say yes or no because most ofthe time we don't fight a lot like,
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no, we listen respectfully. Doyou want me to say so?
Hopefully? I don't care about thisbecause Shane Shane has no opinions about anything.
Listen, I respect we do listenrespectfully. I'm going to say yes,
I hear you, and from nowon I vow that I will always
listen respectfully, honor how you feel, and I love you, passionate,
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thank you. My partner is usuallya great help as a problem solver.
Yes you are I help. Yeah, No, No, I wasn't laughing.
I was laughing because you've told metrying to solve problems way over problem
solve. At the end of theday, my partner is glad to see
me. We are together all day. But yes, I'm did you say
(29:07):
no? Oh? I thought yousaid no. It's to the point where
like we have to consciously be like, maybe let's take an hour or two
to do separate thing because we arenever apart because we just won't if they
don't like make ourselves do that.I know, I know we need to
like run errands separately or something.All right, We generally this is a
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part four your values. We generallymesh well on basic values and goals.
In life. Yes, my partnerappreciates the things I do in this relationship.
Yes, my partner generally likes mypersonality. Wow, I just told
you I did. Yes, soyou can answer that very surely. My
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partner really respects me. Yes.Continue and last time, DM, dad
get results, I have to putmy email in. I know you don't,
okay, said yes, No,I need the results. I need
the results. I need the results. Whoever mats websites like this, Hannah
is your howard you get audience?She could not do those outstaying the results.
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Okay, everyone, I've gotten theresults from our quiz. In my
email it says, how well doyou know your partner? Open to find
out the results are in? Ihope you're shot your score? You don't?
Twenty one out of twenty two.We said we weren't passionate and fiery
or whatever. So fifteen or more? Yes, so we we blew out
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the highest. The highest benchmark wasfifteen or more when we got twenty one
in this YouTube did at fifteen andstill be yes, like a great.
Listen, your love map for yourpartner is strong? What that? Okay?
This is the the core Gottman conceptof love maps. The concept is
simple. You and your partner shouldknow each other intimately. Okay, I
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Knowing the little things about your partner'slife creates a strong foundation for friendship,
friendship and intimacy. What we reallydo? Your love map for your partner
is strong, but you have afairly detailed map of your partner's everyday life,
hopes, fears, and dreams.Try not to take this knowledge and
understanding of each other for granted.Continue to set aside time for to regularly
update your love maps for each other. Ask open ended questions, tell stories,
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and let your partner in on,not just memories of your past.
Excuse me, do my partner questions? That's not true, and we are
out of stories. I think we'vetold every story from our past. Yeah
yeah, but also the details ofyour present and your hopes for the future.
Want to learn? Oh no,I don't want to click your link.
But shocked to me there I foundread about that it is like by
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their standard fifteen twenty two. Yeah, that's like two thirds agreement. Yeah
yeah, knowledge, You could notthose We would not know one third of
my love map, love map,and we still be fine. At what
point does it have an issue?It was like eight and below or something
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eight. I maybe that was thenext I think that was the one.
It was at fourteen to eight eightto fourteen. Uh Is it is a
pivotal time in your relationship. Thereare many strengths you can build upon,
but there are also some weaknesses thatneed your attention. Try learning more about
your partner's inner world and then sevenor fewer. Is there are opportunities for
improvement in your relationship. Yeah,it would have been really fun that if
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we had like pretended the whole timeto like purposely get seven bad answer.
My god, maybe April flows.Yeah, that that's a great. Well,
we'll definitely remember that now that we'vetold them. Steve and I have
for it all right, everyone,do you think our marriage? Take the
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quiz? It's good. Go toGottman Institute and take there. How well
do you know each other? Quizand let us know. I feel like
it's good. Yes, I wishwe had a little bit more passion.
I know, i'd fire. Ineed to figure out how to draw that
out of you. Omans really don'tme thinking, Hey, I love you,
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I love you. Oh now wehaven't for today today check that off
our lest done for today? What? Oh, we're in love? I
heard a sound past by everyone.If you enjoyed this episode, please like
review comment about your own love mapssounds so inappropriate? Uh? And what
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else do I normally say? Ithink I think that's it right? I
know, I thought maybe I hadmore to say. Reew, thank you,
Yes, leave us a nice review? Thank you? And it is
a junkyard out there. Nah ah, you had so much time. No,
yeah, I was taught in thinkingthe whole time. H Now I
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would be a fire. We're fighting. I thought you were going to listen
respectfully. It's a junkyard out there, joke out there, and there are
so many Sindo people looking for lovethat if you've done these pudges along with
us and you're feeling might maybe yourrelationship is spiraling down the drain. Just
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know that come to our junkyard.You wander through our junkyard and find yourself
someone that you con conect with.On twenty two out of twenty two of
Yatman's most important, I'm going totake a stroll through to see if I
can get twenty two. If anyoneyou
Yay networks. At the end ofthe day, my partner is glad to
see me. We are together allday. But yes, I'm did you
say noah? Oh? I thoughtyou said no. Hello everyone, welcome
back? Hello did junk yard Mayhem? Hello, Hannah, Hi, shame
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hello wife. I wasn't saying hito you. I was saying hi to
everyone listening. It's almost their threeyear ready anniversary. Yeah it is.
What day is the anniversary? Septemberfour? Wow, that's because I told
you what it was like three daysago. How did you remembered? Well,
we have the date that we gotlike for real private marriage in our
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backyard. Yes, we have thedate that we had our family reception reception,
which is like a year later.Yeah, two years, one year
later. I came one year laterhere later. We have a few ani
we have the day that I askedyou marry me. If we have the
day I asked you to be mygirlfriend, we have the day we met.
There's just a lot of days.Do you remember a lot of days?
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I remember September fourth, But you'redoing it as we are thinking about
our anniversary, which which we're doinga lot days and days of thinking.
Just almost endless uh, pondering ofour anniversary. Now, we thought we
would do a little episode like wherewe take some marriage puses, Yeah,
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and see if we fight about it. Yeah, see if we agree?
Should we have three puises? Yes, we do, test our love,
our commitment, our ever lasting abilityto remain together. Okay, well,
the first one isn't so much aquiz as like a who's better at?
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I guess that's a quiz you realize, well, actually everything she just said.
No, well, yeah, Ikind of No. The first one
we're gonna do is a like whoblank you know? So the first question
on this quiz it's hard to likethe game that you would play at Oh
my dam Yeah. Yeah that itis exactly like that shoe game or whatever
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they told you about. Yeah,so let's just jump right into this first
one. Who tells the best jokes? Shane me? Probably you do.
But you're so funny. Thank you. I occasionally nail it. I think
i'd try harder. Yeah, youyou put more out there, and you
so but you are the law ofaverages. No, you're definitely funnier.
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That's that's your main characteristic. Also, Virginia, really hard to go through
all of these rapidly. Wait,let's not give contexts. Let's just yeah,
I mean, although I seed tobe a boring the episodes, okay,
who is a movie like? Moreof a movie freak? A movie
freak? Yeah? Me, allthe lodges, Dance Moms and Love Island
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and Love is Blind? Oh my, what, I don't even like Love
is Blind? Why you used to? I didn't even watch the last two
seasons. I don't even know whatyou're talking about. I am not more
into reality TV than I am intolike fiction TV. Now, who's the
one given context? But I'm justyou're you're telling blatant lies about me.
I'm not that I want to watchfor the Violin all the time. For
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the past three we've been watching DanceMoms. But you're into Dance Mom.
I am into it, but Isay, hey, maybe I'm like taking
that off watch a movie, youhiss and drawl. Okay, No,
it's not that I like Dance Momsmore than a movie. It's not that
I like Dance Moms more than adifferent Like I loved The Last of Us,
that's not Dance Moms. Okay.And if you had said stop and
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watch a movie during the last ofus. I would have hissed it you
then too, because I do notlike interrupting my TV show that I look
forward to all day long. Iget very into my shows. I do
not want to take a break forone night and watch a movie. So
you can once we finish Dance Moms, then you can say me, please
watch some movies for a couple ofnights, and I will be like,
I would love to do that withyou. I'm just happy that you run
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along with my joke that you hissat me. That wasn't my problem.
That wasn't my problem. Okay,who was more romantic? Me? Yeah?
I think you probably? Yeah,not by much though, No,
we're both not very romantic. Yeah. Who's more talkative? Yeah? Yeah
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right, yeah it with within likeus? Yeah, such a mouth.
Okay, who's more thoughtful? Jeez? Does that mean like like thoughtful?
I didn't like I bring you agift, or like I remember your birthday
like that type of thoughtful or likeI spend time thinking? No? No,
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yeah, like thoughtful, like doingyou know, like turning things from
the other person, kind like thingsto do, like things for whatever.
Pretty even I think we are,Yeah, I think we are, like
for birthdays and stuff. I don'tthink either of us is like way more
thoughtful than the other. And yeah, in day to day life, like
randomly I'll have your mom helped medo a cute little like surprise for you,
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and randomly you'll do ta little surprisesfor me. We should do that
more. My request from more surprisessurprises? Who eats more food? Yeah,
of course, I know. It'sjust a matter of the physics or
whatever that is. Who is thebetter cook you? Well, I mean
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physically me in reality, I can'tintellectually you, Like, if if both
of us had like a pair ofhands, like an assistant, who was
doing the I have a pair ofhands. No, if we both were
using an assistant and we were theones directing, like you would be better.
So that means you're a better cook. I think they does from mostly
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almost in life, freaking god.Who is more jealous? Oh, I
have a jealous vein. I thinkwe're both equally jealous and too jealous,
although like other people like other people'slike if I see a Instagram post about
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someone that wanted a million dollars,I'll be more more jealous about that than
I. Yeah that's true. Yeah, yeah, that's true. I did
the other day. I can't rememberthe cast, but you said to me
you don't care about anything. Yeah, I don't remember what I wanted.
I was caring about something and youwere like me, I think it's about
something about our car, and youjust have no opinion about anything. That's
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yeah, opinions. Yeah. SoI'm just more of everything, very good
with the flow. I'm telling it'ssomething that like rhymes my gear and then
a suddenly, but it's rare.I'm much more easily jealous, elevated in
emotion yep, okay. Who's moreannoying? Definitely by far, so annoy
I am. I don't know howyou deal with me a day in a
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day out. You pester like youlove to pester. I patched your I
push buttons. Yeah, in likefun loving waves and also in fights.
Yeah, I am annoying, andI drive joy out of annoying. But
most of the time I like it'sfine. I like your personality. Occasionally
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in affect you like I like yourpersonality. I'm fine with the annoyingness.
I find it funny and charming andwhatever until it's in a fight, and
then I'm like you were the worstperson my life, like my personality.
Yeah, I like you who willapologize first? Me? Always? Maybe?
Yeah, Occasionally I'll come into theroom. I might not apologize,
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but I will try to end thefight by being like, would you like
to appolish? Yeah, by offeringme the opportunity to apologize, And if
you don't take it, then thatis like a world shattering. Now the
fight is days long if you willnot apologize. So, yeah, that's
not good. It's fun. It'sreally fun than everyone who said I love
you first? Or wait no,maybe, well, yeah, I just
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said I love you first. Ithought maybe it was like who's more likely
to say it? But I thinkit's just who did it was me?
It was you? Yeah, Okay, moving on, that's it. Oh
wait, you missed one. Idid miss one. I missed one.
Up. Who is more likely topump the gas? No? I think
I won. I think I hadmore of these than you. So I've
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never pumped gas. No you have. You've never done a lot of things.
And on that dough diditated trip bridge? And then we'll be back for
our next quiz. Boy, it'sto make chain try on this one.
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number two, and this one thatShane found is from marriage dot com.
So that sounds official, sounds trustworthy. It sounds so trustworthy. I'm going
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to click start quiz. Imagine likein the early days, sorry, in
the early days of the Internet,like stooping up blows juicy u rls,
Marriage dot com. I know,like whoever first dot football dot com?
I know they probably made banks.Yep, someday that was a good move.
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I don't have to transition my careerinto f rls that well one day,
I can't me to imagine future moviesand events. Yep, that'll be
great. Good luck. I'd likeseparate bank accounts please before you take that
venture. All right, here's thefirst This is like a this is how
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good is your marriage type quiz?I think, oh boy, because these
are different kinds of questions than wejust did. Question number one, are
you faking your marriage for a YouTubechannel? When was the last time you
or your spouse exchanged I love you? Oh? Today? Well, it's
there's options yes today, a fewhours ago, a few days ago,
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or a few months ago. Ohno, I think it was a few
days ago. Oh, I thinkI love you like I think it was
yesterday. But there's not an optionfor yesterday. It's either today or a
few hours ago. Which one isbetter? Today or a few hours ago?
Well, no, I don't remembersaying it yesterday. I did say,
Oh my god, I merged myhead. I'm so sorry. We
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definitely said yesterday, did yes?Okay, I don't remember. I'd say
it so often anyway. Yeah,it's an every day thing usually. Should
I say a few days ago?For like yesterday, you have to actually
fell out select Yeah, yeah,a few days ago, a few days
a Yeah, this is the resultof you to be like your marriage is
bad? Yeah, what the heck? When was the last time you had
a date night or any romantic orany romantic evening with just the two of
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you? Options are we had onethis week, last week, a few
weeks ago, at least a monthago. This week, yeah, this
week we have like date nights everyoneto make at least. How often do
you talk to each other candidly?Does this sound right now? Every day?
Often? Sometimes or rare? Wetalk every day? Did you imagine
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some interestent person tell me on thiswebsite because they're a little bit worried about
their marriage, and then they're like, how often do you tell it to
rarely? I don't even know when. I don't know what that even means.
That would be like if you don'tspeak a lot? Yeah, okay,
every day. What do you andyour spouse usually talk about? Anything
and everything? Duties and responsibilities,money, whatever is needed to be talked
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about, anything and everything, everything. Lately, it's been a lot about
Aliens Shane's new passion project. Duringa fight with your spouse, what do
you what do you usually do?Try to be reasonable and think about it
from their perspective, Stay calm andtell them why I'm angry slash sad.
Get angry and shout at them orignore them. I think they both try
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to explain, Yeah, where I'mfrom and how we're feeling. Yeah,
try to be reasonable and think aboutit from their perspective. Yeah, we
sometimes there are reasonableness out the mida little bit. I don't think I'm
trying to think about it from yourperspective when we're fighting. Well, yeah
we do. But it's like,yeah, I know why you feel that
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way, but this is why Ifeel exactly exactly. All right, your
anniversary is coming up, They're right, Shane, Oh wait, really,
what are your plans? Just happensto be correct. A romantic night at
a nice restaurant and then anniversary sexat home boom, A cozy romantic night
at home, opening gifts from oneanother. These all seem equally nice.
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Date night at the cinema like,okay, okay, that's nice, A
regular night at home. Gifts areoptional. I hate to say that.
It's just like, I mean,gifts are not necessary. Like we don't
usually do anniversary anniversary gifts. Wehaven't really been doing. We'll do a
nice dinner. Well, we wouldprobably we did a movie first. Well,
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I think it would probably actually dolet me do this is we're very
gonna go to dinner, and thenwe're gonna talk about should we do somebody
else after? And then we'll sayno, let's stay home and watch.
Like a cozy, romantic night athome opening guests from one other is nice,
but I don't want to say notromantic night at a night like these
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just are so strange. They don'tone doesn't seem better than to me?
Is there one? It's just liketwenty four hours of saus God, I'm
picking the nice restaurant because we willgo out to dinner, but I do
like a nice night go out todinner. Yeah, Shane, start thinking
about it now, although actually weprobably won't on the date because I don't
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think we're gonna be Yeah, we'regonna be on a trip. Yeah.
So the next day, how doyou feel when you see your spouse loved?
Happy? Like? Why is oneof these better? Rage? Normal
or nervous? Normal? I feelpretty nervous. I feel happy, loved
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or like? Which one's better?Loved or happy? I feel normal or
happy? Normal? It's good?Oh my god, normal is not good.
Normal is very good. I likemy life. Yeah I feel normal
when I see you. I don't. It's not like we've been married for
three I'm gonna stay happy because whenif you walked into the room, I'm
not like I am alive. IfI worked out of the home every day
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and then I came home, youwould be happy to see me. You're
only saying normal because I only everleave the room for like thirty seconds after
very normal. Yeah, happy,I'm going with happy. But I didn't
select loved, so we're not goingto get a good score on that.
They're advised that we break up.How often do you confide in your spouse?
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Often? Sometimes, rarely or never? Oh, you are the only
person I really confide to. I'mgonna say often. Would you talk a
lot? Oh my god? Howwould you describe your intimacy? Okay,
here's the options. Are you ragefilled? Are you ready normal? Every
question that you want to answer isjust a rage? Okay, fantastic,
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Wait to hear these options rare butstill great? Like these are so niche?
And then the other two options areaverage or a dull so fantastic,
rare but still great, which seemslike a really strange option to me,
average or dull. I would sayyou fantastic, Yeah, like, I'm
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happy with it. You don't thinkit's rare but still great. But I
also don't think we're much different thanaverage, you know what I mean?
I know, like our infetry ispretty normal. I don't think it's like,
yeah, I'm selecting that fantastic becauseI don't want to say average,
because are you about the resulting?A dude, whatever this tells rare but
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still great is above average on thisranking, which is odd to me.
Yeah, like why why wouldn't youjust say great? I wonder if it
beings rare? Isn't like once aweek? Like and I hear that,
I think once you Yeah, Imean too? Maybe then this marriage dot
com is a sham went away?Do you miss your partner and want to
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be with them soon? Yes,yes, most of the times sometimes or
honestly I like my Space. Yes, yes I miss you and I'm away
on a busy day. How oftendo you think about them? This doesn't
work when we're together, Ye eachother all the time. We're always together.
A few times during the day whenI come across something that reminds me
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of them once or twice, orI barely think of them when I am
busy all the time. We juststand all the time together by choice.
Yeah, but is it possible tobe too Yes, some people would say
that that is not a good thing, but it's not really Guys, are
we like out of ourselves? Arewe to in love? It's fine?
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What is dependency? Is that whatthat is? Yeah, codependency is.
But that's different than just like twoclose. You can just be like very
I don't think that we have likea pathological fringe. G Yeah, yeah,
that's fine. Have you ever hadthe urge to cheat on your partner?
Not at all? No? Like, what are these answers? Not
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at all? And no are thesame? No? No, no,
no is ranked below not at all, not at all? No. Once
maybe once maybe I had an urgeor yes, I will said when we
were watching Lost and it actually lilyit was free drunk down the star of
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Lost. Yes, I'm a Imay have gone down from not at all
to just sit now holy crap,Okay, I'm gonna hit No, that's
so funny. Where do you seeyourself in the next five years? I
hate this pressure with my partner livingthe best life, no one down traveling
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with my partner, so that's lessgood than just with are all ranked?
I mean all the ones that arelike do you cheat? Are all ranked?
Okay, thriving in my career orI would like to live independently by
then? If that's your answer,that's a sign I agree with A,
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B and C. Yeah. Literally, but I'm gonna say my best life
sounds like it's all encompassing. I'mgonna go with that. How often do
you feel upset with your partner?Almost never, very rarely? Like what
sometimes? Or very often? Ifeel like they're really off on like sometimes
sometimes? How about? How oftendo you feel upset with your partner?
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Almost never, very rarely, veryrare? We can do something difference between
sometimes and very rarely. It's toobig. I would just like not often
or like occasionally not often? Understandthing in my head? Okay, there
is a results. Yes, here'sour results everyone. Our headline is maybe
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you and spouse are a little bitromantic? What ready? This is the
paragraph? You and your spouse seemto be a little bit romantic together.
You both likely lead busy lives butstill managed to keep the romance alive.
Try to be a bit more committedwhile trying to be romantic and plan things
like weekly date nights or going toevents together. All it takes is a
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little effort. Also, here arefive ways to rekindle romance in your marriage.
Purchase the marriage dot com it's alink. Yeah, day did die?
All that takes is a little effort? Is so rude, impassive cat.
I feel like one of the editorsfor marriage dot com I was being
pestered by their children to allow themto make a marriage whiz. Their children
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make a drizz I agree that wasridiculous, ridiculous. I do not agree
with the results. I think thatwe are sherry in love. I mean,
they're right, we're not like overlyroma, But I think that they
meant that to be like in agood relation, like you are a little
bit happy. You know, theway it was written was not Your relationship
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is ambiguous. Maybe try a littleharder. Do you think we should take
it again? Trying to get atodd? Okay, see everyone, there's
that take. Let's take a breakand then we'll be back with our third
quiz, which is from the GottmanInstitute. So I do feel like maybe
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this will be a little bit better. Yeah, I already pete that it's
not going to be all right?Wait right, we'll be right back.
Third and final, plaz Yes,if at the end of this you are
all not sure that Hannah and Iare in a thriving, top tier marriage,
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than what. Maybe we have somework to do, Maybe we maybe
we have a little bit of moreeffort to put in. Maybe we need
to dig deep. Okay, allright, this is how well do you
know your partner? Part one?Your knowledge about your partner? Oh boy,
that seems repetitive. Okay, numberone, This is just yes or
no questions. Okay, I canname my partner's best friends. Yes,
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yes, No, did you have? You're so rude? I know what
stress is my partner is currently facing. Yes, yes, why are you
giggling on our dog wall this morning? That's always talking about it? Was
what stressed? Yes? I cantell you some of my partner's life dreams.
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Yes, yes, why would Ibe easy? I can tell you
about my partner's basic philosophy of life. Oh yes, yeah, what is
mine? I just I can tellyou about how you view life. You're
very success oriented, hard work,you know, leaving a legacy that's like
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your whole thing, and yours issloth, hidenism, the pursuit of joy
and comfort above all else. Yesee, I knew we could do it.
I know the names of some ofthe people who have been irritating my
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partner lately. Yes, yeah,I can list the relatives my partner likes
the least. Yeah. Yeah,let's start, David, prove it.
Okay. I know that my partnerknows me pretty well. Yes, I
would say more than pretty well.Okay, continue part two, your romantic
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relationship. Here we go. We'rejust still just yes and now when we
are a part I often think fondlyof my partner. Yes, yes,
I often touch or kiss my partneraffectionately. Yes, there is fire and
passion in this relationship. Who Iwould say no to be honest, Yeah,
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it's not. We're not fire people. I know there's You don't have
fire in you about anything. That'sprobably the problem. I'm just saying.
I don't know if I've ever seenyou like often degrade and minimize. Not
a bad thing. You think thatI have too much like? Yeah,
too many feelings? Yeah, butwe don't have that in like toward each
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other. That's true. We're notlike, let's do the free movie and
we're just we're just not volatile.We're so like just arounded. Yeah I
do. There's people and we're goingtogether and it's just like even all right,
not to deal over the top,but like even in our internet set,
we're not like like careful here,no, what you're about to enjoy?
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Yes, the quiet closeness of it, yes, not like we're not
very much like we're not breaking chandelier. We love cuddling. We're not so
it's a hard thing to talk aboutwhat that is? All right? Next
one, romance is definitely still partof our relationship. Yes, Yes,
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our sex life is mostly satisfying.Mostly. Well it's saying no, not
everyone. You can't be one hundredpercent all the time. Yeah, you're
right, it was just weird.Yes, no, well this is better
than the freaking other questions you didn'tanswer there. I said, yes,
I hit the button. Well theyknow that. I'm sorry, I'm hitting
the buttons everybody. They're all like, okay, your friendship. This is
part three. We're done with thatpart all right, there's six questions.
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My partner is one of my bestfriends. Yes, we just love talking
to each other. Yes, Yes, there's lots of give and take.
Both people have influence in our discussions. Yes, for sure. To the
fault, I would say, yeah, we've mentioned this before in decision well
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we we really have a hard time, okay, when a decision to be
made, I try to pick theoption that I think full Hannibal lights yea
and HANDI will do the opposite yesfor me. So neither of us wants
to say what we want. Weprioritize the others and we're both like,
just say it, what do youwant? Just say it? Yeah?
(27:36):
And this is about like what arewe having for dinner? So the stakes
are not high, all right.My partner listens respectfully even when we disagree.
M Well, we can say no. Remember in the midst of addision
you're event or an argument. Well, the thing like typically disagreeing yes,
(27:56):
yeah, like in every you know, if in like I don't want to
go here or do this, Yes, but if we're fighting about something,
yeah, so I don't. Wehave occasionally slipped into not listening respecting the
best respectful listeners. Yeah, yeah, but I don't know if I should
say yes or no because most ofthe time we don't fight a lot like,
(28:18):
no, we listen respectfully. Doyou want me to say so?
Hopefully? I don't care about thisbecause Shane Shane has no opinions about anything.
Listen, I respect we do listenrespectfully. I'm going to say yes,
I hear you, and from nowon I vow that I will always
listen respectfully, honor how you feel, and I love you, passionate,
(28:45):
thank you. My partner is usuallya great help as a problem solver.
Yes you are I help. Yeah, No, No, I wasn't laughing.
I was laughing because you've told metrying to solve problems way over problem
solve. At the end of theday, my partner is glad to see
me. We are together all day. But yes, I'm did you say
(29:07):
no? Oh? I thought yousaid no. It's to the point where
like we have to consciously be like, maybe let's take an hour or two
to do separate thing because we arenever apart because we just won't if they
don't like make ourselves do that.I know, I know we need to
like run errands separately or something.All right, We generally this is a
(29:30):
part four your values. We generallymesh well on basic values and goals.
In life. Yes, my partnerappreciates the things I do in this relationship.
Yes, my partner generally likes mypersonality. Wow, I just told
you I did. Yes, soyou can answer that very surely. My
(29:52):
partner really respects me. Yes.Continue and last time, DM, dad
get results, I have to putmy email in. I know you don't,
okay, said yes, No,I need the results. I need
the results. I need the results. Whoever mats websites like this, Hannah
is your howard you get audience?She could not do those outstaying the results.
(30:17):
Okay, everyone, I've gotten theresults from our quiz. In my
email it says, how well doyou know your partner? Open to find
out the results are in? Ihope you're shot your score? You don't?
Twenty one out of twenty two.We said we weren't passionate and fiery
or whatever. So fifteen or more? Yes, so we we blew out
(30:38):
the highest. The highest benchmark wasfifteen or more when we got twenty one
in this YouTube did at fifteen andstill be yes, like a great.
Listen, your love map for yourpartner is strong? What that? Okay?
This is the the core Gottman conceptof love maps. The concept is
simple. You and your partner shouldknow each other intimately. Okay, I
(31:00):
Knowing the little things about your partner'slife creates a strong foundation for friendship,
friendship and intimacy. What we reallydo? Your love map for your partner
is strong, but you have afairly detailed map of your partner's everyday life,
hopes, fears, and dreams.Try not to take this knowledge and
understanding of each other for granted.Continue to set aside time for to regularly
update your love maps for each other. Ask open ended questions, tell stories,
(31:25):
and let your partner in on,not just memories of your past.
Excuse me, do my partner questions? That's not true, and we are
out of stories. I think we'vetold every story from our past. Yeah
yeah, but also the details ofyour present and your hopes for the future.
Want to learn? Oh no,I don't want to click your link.
But shocked to me there I foundread about that it is like by
(31:49):
their standard fifteen twenty two. Yeah, that's like two thirds agreement. Yeah
yeah, knowledge, You could notthose We would not know one third of
my love map, love map,and we still be fine. At what
point does it have an issue?It was like eight and below or something
(32:13):
eight. I maybe that was thenext I think that was the one.
It was at fourteen to eight eightto fourteen. Uh Is it is a
pivotal time in your relationship. Thereare many strengths you can build upon,
but there are also some weaknesses thatneed your attention. Try learning more about
your partner's inner world and then sevenor fewer. Is there are opportunities for
improvement in your relationship. Yeah,it would have been really fun that if
(32:36):
we had like pretended the whole timeto like purposely get seven bad answer.
My god, maybe April flows.Yeah, that that's a great. Well,
we'll definitely remember that now that we'vetold them. Steve and I have
for it all right, everyone,do you think our marriage? Take the
(32:57):
quiz? It's good. Go toGottman Institute and take there. How well
do you know each other? Quizand let us know. I feel like
it's good. Yes, I wishwe had a little bit more passion.
I know, i'd fire. Ineed to figure out how to draw that
out of you. Omans really don'tme thinking, Hey, I love you,
(33:19):
I love you. Oh now wehaven't for today today check that off
our lest done for today? What? Oh, we're in love? I
heard a sound past by everyone.If you enjoyed this episode, please like
review comment about your own love mapssounds so inappropriate? Uh? And what
(33:45):
else do I normally say? Ithink I think that's it right? I
know, I thought maybe I hadmore to say. Reew, thank you,
Yes, leave us a nice review? Thank you? And it is
a junkyard out there. Nah ah, you had so much time. No,
yeah, I was taught in thinkingthe whole time. H Now I
(34:07):
would be a fire. We're fighting. I thought you were going to listen
respectfully. It's a junkyard out there, joke out there, and there are
so many Sindo people looking for lovethat if you've done these pudges along with
us and you're feeling might maybe yourrelationship is spiraling down the drain. Just
(34:35):
know that come to our junkyard.You wander through our junkyard and find yourself
someone that you con conect with.On twenty two out of twenty two of
Yatman's most important, I'm going totake a stroll through to see if I
can get twenty two. If anyoneyou
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