October 18, 2023 • 34 mins
We invite you to our 50 state RV book tour. The cost is too much, but the content is priceless! Join us this week as we plan out a book tour, talk about our scariest meet up, and of course round it out with another AITAH.
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Yay Networks. This story is aboutto make you change your mind when you
realize how big your freaks and Iare in you said it, I was
like, oh no, I meanI'm a freaking every setting, but like,
oh my god, hello everyone,welcome back. Hello. We are
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in California. Yes we are.We're actually in our new podcast in the
studio. No, no, we'renot. We're just sitting against the only
curtain we have. We've pulled inanything that we can change the desk next
to me for some color. Surroundingus, just out of frame are boxes
(00:47):
yea, and garbage bags and moreboxes. But this looks pretty put together.
You would never know that we're justin an empty room. We're doing
well. We're doing great as longas we don't think about it. Yes,
we're perfect. Perfect. Speaking ofperfect, how do you like that
side by? Well, we'll seewhen you get to the next topic.
(01:08):
I have a perfect idea. Okay, are you ready? That fell a
little short? That's fine, speakingof perfect in today's un December your ndio
hover my perfect idea? Oh great. We are going to tell you a
story about something horrific that happened tous a few years ago that we are
just now able to talk about forthe first time, and then we are
(01:33):
going to play am I the ahole at the end. But you've all
been really enjoying with your comments andstuff, Soria. Keep this ther regular
part of our of our podcast andwe enjoy it. What's better than just
sharing your opinion about something that Yeah, saying that someone sucks judging so so
fun. That's what we do here, mayhem condemn and mm hmm. Wait,
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what's your perfect idea? If that'swhat we're starting with? My perfect
idea? Yeah, I was thinking, Hannah, how fun would it be
when our book comes out next yearto organize and execute a book tour.
Oh, that's a very good idea. I feel like we've mentioned, like
we've said we really hope that wedo one. But I think that that
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is a really good idea. Wewill map out all fifty states? No,
No, we will not. Thatwould be ridiculous. You're already dismantling
my perfect pull in ten people perper state. We don't put one like
the city in each state? Whystop there? Why not every city in
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every state? You're trying to notsell our books. I'm just yetting the
the perfect part ready, and wewill reach each city by luxury RV that
you drive. Where are you goingto get this RV from? I don't
know, but I want the outsideof it to be branded faces. Maybe
(03:07):
a bus size version of me.Okay, great. So that's the idea
where you're gonna have groupies that followus city to city. So if anyone
would like to volunteer for that position, like the Drateful Dead, our fans
will flop to our bus. I'mreally I'm a little bit jealous of the
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whole Taylor Swift, Travis Chelsea phenomenally. I want that level of no,
you don't spotlight I don't think youdo on my book tour. I was
gonna say, on what Shane goesto the grocery store. I think it
could be really fun though, onall seriousness, a book tour, Yes,
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what would you want to be partof that? If we really did
it? If we do a booktour, I think something that would be
really fun is having the couples thatare in the book in each area come
to the Yeah, you know,because like they're all from all over.
So I feel like if we did, you know, a couple of different
areas of the us, we wouldhave people from the book actually be able
(04:13):
to come. I love that wecould do like little you know Q and
as with that, like beyond whatwe write about in the book. I
also think we should have an opener. My god, my ideas are so
much, so much better than yourper ideas. Nobody really did in like
an opener, not an opener thatI was kind of using that regular like
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a band, No, not aband, unless you would like to play
an instrument, Hannah, I'll learnan instrument in this interim, and then
I'll open for us nobody, Likeif we could find you know a disabled
to stand up helmet, yeah,or you know someone that would like begin
the show. Yeah, then wecome out and we read from the book.
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Maybe we tell a few stories that'slike the middle and then yeah,
and we can do like the interviewwith the all that we have there.
Whatever. That is a good idea. I'm building your performance. Yeah,
you're rulding a whole show now interms of light down, are you thinking
Pyro or Pyro? This is It'sfunny because we've done a couple of meetups,
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which just by chance, we're goingto talk about one of them in
our next segment and the meetups thatwe have done are so the opposite of
this kind of put together, verylaid back. That is the nicest way
you could have put that. Barebones. Yeah, it's literally us walking
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into an area and being like,oh here hi. So I think it
would be actually very beneficial if wehad a plan other people involved, maybe
to kind of carry us. Thething that I want most from this is
a t shirt with all of ourtoward dates on the back, even though
(06:01):
when I should maybe a chair,no one can see the shirt. You
should put them on the front thesleeves. Yeah, or you didn't have
a tour shirt with only info onthe sleeves, okay, because you're watching
this tour on the life before youreyes. If you wait and see when
it really happens, Yeah, it'llbe so nice to look back on our
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planning session right now. I doreally like the idea, though it's always
applied her to meet up with peoplethat watch our videos or whatever. Yeah,
read our books, yes, Ilove it. Oh cater am Oh
my god, oh my god.Yeah. Food definitely well yeah, on
the RV for share I did bringcookies to that one meet up, but
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no one really ate them because youdon't, you know, like me just
putting out a bowl of cookies.There were like fifty people there who was
going to take the first cookie?And I kept being like, take the
cookies everyone, that's all cuaky.I say it like that, I know
the ties. Everyone the cookie.So I feel like it maybe we need
a bigger like a dedicated time tohave food, like maybe family meal.
(07:08):
It goes opener us meal time,couples that are in the area, then
music and light, orders and minglinglet me yes, and plated dinner oh
my god, shame and wants dineand read? Are these Is this a
free event? Are you thinking?Or you? Oh? No, tickets
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are unavoidable to pay for your luxuryRV. I feel like the tickets are
gonna need to be quite a lot. It shouldn't need to be underwritten by
like thirty businesses. Okay, sothis is a sponsored tour, Oh my
JD. Obviously it's sponsored. Sowe'll see, we'll see what actually comes
to you. No, I amit would be afraid of that obviously,
(07:53):
So we're gonna need to take that, you know, into account when you're
thinking plated dinner. Okay, Well, I'm sorry no, bring your favorite
low hold dish. No, we'renot doing that. All right, I
feel like it's time to move intoour next segment where we talk about the
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junkyard. Okay, so if youjust listen to our last segment and you
were dead a jazzed up about aten dawn our book Tower Media, which
thank you so much. We're excitedto see you. This story is about
to make you change your mind whenyou realize how big a free Hen and
I are in these set down NoI mean, I'm a freaking every setting
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but like, oh my god,can we get that? Can we get
it hot down to that right there? And I'd just say, I'm a
freaking every setday. Meetups are maybethe worst situation you can put me in,
right, I don't because I haveno reference point for that. What
the heck are you supposed to sayto someone? It is the most awkward
(10:22):
experience ever I'm we're going to beginnow. Can I just talk about when
we arrived before we get into theactual horror part? Yep, because I
know we're skipping ahead a little bit. Yeah, this was the last meetup
we ever did. We will buildourselves back up to do another meetup,
mostly because of the pandemics. Itwas twenty night. It was twenty twenty
in January, so like right beforethe pandemic. The road part, Yeah,
(10:46):
we were in Florida in the Tampaarea, and we decided to have
a meetup at a library that waslike right near where we were staying.
Cute, little innocent us. Yeah, and we had done a meetup in
Orland, I think the year before, which was really fun successful. That
was no Panera and there was nolike we honestly expected maybe fifteen people to
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come. It must have been whatlike seventy. Yeah, and the Panera,
I don't know, the very happynot have space, Like I don't
think we were supposed to host aone hundred person event. They had a
little room that we had inquired about, well, we inquired about it once
we filled up the area in themoment weired that room, which was what
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Panera has a giant meeting room init. Like that was so lucky.
It was lucky. But we wentinto that room. We encouraged people to
like buy that's where I bought thecookies if anyone wants to buy a drink.
Like, we just bought a bunchof stuff, and we were like
does this cover It's awful anyway,So we went with a library for our
next one, and we reserved ameeting room. It works perfectly. It
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was very official. Yeah, wewent into the library reserve reserved room.
I know, yeah, this isadult stuff. It's crazy, this is
flag. So we arrive. Ithought we had scheduled it for I think
like eleven am. It was ona Sunday, all I not that it
was at the time that the libraryopened, which we didn't originally realize.
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So we walk from our airbnb tothis library once again like four people or
no one yet because you know,we went like ten minutes early, thinking
we would go into the room.Turns out the library did not open until
the minute the meetup began. Sowhen we arrived at the library, there
were probably fifteen people standing outside tenminutes early, like waiting for the doors
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to be unlocked, and in thatsituation, your average person who was hosting
a meetup, like, all thesepeople obviously are here to meet us.
I have something to say about that, but go ahead. You would think
that we would begin chatting with them. We would think we would make it
(12:56):
a comfortable situation. But no,yad sort of because we were not entirely
sure that those fifteen people were notjust library doors like it might have been
real weard had they not been therefor us. Yeah, some of them
definitely were because they were like,oh my gosh, hi, you know,
like so we said our hellos,but we didn't feel comfortable enough to
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be like all right, proud,like let's begin here. Yeah. It
was really awkward because someone might havejust been returning a book and then they'd
be like, what is going on? So instead for the like most awkward
five minutes of my life waiting forthe library to open, and I've just
said hello and then stood there likestaring at the door silently, like five
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plus minutes, which is the longesttime when you're just staring at a door.
It was just silent. It wasso awkward. I'm shot that those
people that were there didn't just changetheir minds and leave oh boy, in
Hannah a real mirrid in person.I really wonder what they thought. We
were just nervous, and then youknow, once it began, it was
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it was better once people were inthe room. This isn't even the bad
thing that happened. No, no, no, this is this is the
best. This is the highlight ofthe event. They were watching closely during
the event. They were like thirtytimes more confused confused than they were.
We were standing out front awkwardly.So let's win here we go as to
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why we had some strange behavior duringthe meetup. Yep, okay, So
a few days before the meet up, I get a test message from an
unknown number and it turns out tobe a stroll. Yes, who who
found your number? Found the numberand began texting me that they had like
(14:54):
found out the information required to provethat Hannah and I are faking a relationship.
Yeah, and ahead right up front. All of it was completely absentine
and made no sense, and itwas really weird. Weird stuff like a
(15:16):
childhood photo of Hannah from her likeelementary school, yeah, being like,
look here she's lying. Does thatmake sense to you? No? It
was literally just a picture of mefrom when I was like ten or eleven.
Yeah, and was like, see, I didn't know what the point
was. Was it that I wasin Connecticut or I did That point was
(15:37):
that you were in Connecticut. Theydidn't know that you grew up there,
and they were like they and thenone was like an immigration thing for an
Elizabeth Ale word from like Germany innineteen o eight or something, and they
were like, see, Hannah's momis from Germany, not Poland. And
I was like that, first ofall, my mom's maiden name is not
(15:58):
like, that's not who she cancame to the US as. Second of
all nineteen oh eight. So itwas all of these. It was just
a string catch that made no sense, like it was delusional. Yeah,
and so I and I regret that, Yeah, you think Shane blocked the
number right? No, I wantedto have some fun with it. So
(16:19):
I began responding as if this informationwas really upsetting me. It was like,
was opening your eyes to how myfamily was lying? My mom really
did come in nineteen oh eight.I played alone, pretending that Lives is
over one hundred years old and theheada is from a different city, and
(16:40):
therefore lying about being in love withme. Yeah, I played along with
it, and as it progressed,the troll kind of like began to realize
that I was playing along and gotmad. Yeah, which, yeah,
you shouldn't have done that. No, I read you shouldn't have done that.
But they were also using an appwasn't their real phone numbers, so
they would send texts from different numbersthat were just generating numbers. And they
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after that, when they got mad, they sent one that was like poorly
written, so we kind of knewthat it was them still, but it
was like, good morning, Shane, this is your airbnb host. You
have set off the alarm in thehouse and we will be sending the police
if you don't respond within like thirtyseconds. And we were like, there's
no alarm system in our airbnb.This we know who the airbnb host is.
(17:26):
Like, but like really like thatthat was disturbing that they like knew
where we were. Yeah, theyshoudn't have some like knowledge of our whereabouts.
Yeah, And then they made generalsense. And then when we advertise
the meetup, they said like,I'm not too far from Gulfport. I'm
coming to the meetup and I'll exposeyou or something. So this was like
(17:48):
maybe you get to get freaked out. Yeah, they were at the they
were saying pretty horrible films like I'mgonna mess you up, oh like rip
you out of your chair. Yeah, but there was nothing thing could do
because they were strambling their numbers.So like the police, if we had
contacted them, would have been likewhat, yeah, we're arresting people for
(18:11):
spuedium or not like doing this rightnow, speading that's your example. I
don't know, I'm busy arresting peoplefor speeding. I just mean the Hobbs
would not have it and solved it. Yeah, they're not going to like
ten nights. Yeah, this numberscrambler. So anyway, when they yeah,
and to be at the meet upand like pause, be hard.
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We got real worried about the meetupand like everything that they had said to
that point was so delusional that wefelt ninety percent sure that they were not
actually coming to this media. Yeah, but the odds that they were actually
in the Tampa area is so weget into the speed up a little ten
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percent worried that someone is going tobe coming too quo quote exposed us.
Yeah, or kill you or killme. We begin the mede up right,
Yes, it's going, it's going. Well. We're sitting at the
front of a long room and youknow, people are all sitting in front
of us, and then at theback of the room that we're looking at
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is a double door set that youknow, leads from the main area of
the library. So that's where everyonecomes in. And everyone understood him.
I beginning of our presentation. I'mstanding proud. Everyone is like friendly and
happy and looking him. There's noone there like play. Yeah, so
far, so good sothing. Allright, it was fine, We're fine.
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Feed them into ten. The backdoors open, and in lots a
man with a hat pulled down prettylow over his forehead and that camera.
Yeah, he walks in filming,actively filming. We're like mid presentation.
Yeah, so I am like talkingto the audience. I in this man
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and being in my head like,oh my god, oh my god,
it's him. Yeah, he reallycame. I don't know what do we
do, and I don't know whatI sounded like, but I bet my
life that my voice went like this. All right, everyone was enough and
thought was probably we were probably like, uh, anyway, like staring at
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this man, do you remember whathe did then, Like, didn't you
just stand in the back continue intofilm? Yeah, and the whole speech
I remember nothing but just saying onthis man, like making sure that they
didn't do anything, you know,weird. Yeah, So that the like
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presentation part of this ends. Andafter that we always have like a one
on one meet, you know,meeting meet and greet with everyone and the
kind of form a general line andcome up one in a time and like
take pictures whatever he gets in line. Guys, I am sledding buckets.
I'm like him should be flee,like it's just everything to die right now.
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And he was like the last person. So the room is sitting out.
I'm like, oh my god,oh my god, we're gonna die.
I'm doping as I talked to theother people there. Finally it's him
and he walks up to ask cameraand introduces himself as a reporter who I
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had been emailing with and who Iwas well aware was going to be there
that day filming for a story beingdone on us. I knew who he
was, I knew his name,I knew that he'd have a camera,
and all of that went out ofmy mind when I saw him enter I
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he introduced himself. I went,oh, thank god. Yeah, we
started crying a little bit. Weexplained it to him. Yeah, I
don't know. I reacted looking athim real weird and I reacted so weirdly
when he introduced himself, I waslike, WHOA, sorry about that.
(22:21):
I need to tell you what justhappened. Oh my god, Oh lord.
So the guy never actually came theUS and they fell off the face
of you know, our world,like they never contacted you again. So
yeah, I stopt responding, Oh, you know what, I think you
blocked your number in that app,didn't you. You're right? Oh my
god. I thought the police involved. Yeah I've heard that. Yeah,
(22:45):
there was. You can get ona list, like we called someone and
yeah, and they the company waslike, yeah, we can put you
on a protective list, but weneed like a police something. Yeah,
so I had to let email police. It was a whole thing. But
yeah, I was gonna say,I forget about that. Definitely blocked it
from number like apps. Uh huh. So maybe he's been He probably thinks
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you're just ignoring him. He's beengoing for four years. I nearly that
scene for four years. Oh lord, Anyway, we were weird during that
whole meet up. So we're gonnado a book tour and be weird,
try to redeem ourselves in person forall of you. Yeah, it'll be
fun. All Right, We're gonnatake another hit break and then we'll be
back to play am I the AHole? All Right, We're back and
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we're ready to play am I theA Hole? If you haven't heard the
segment before, we are going toread and am I the A Whole?
Post from Reddit that Shane has found. He normally picks just the top one
on the page, so nothing specialabout his selection. And we should remind
you that the outu here is beachingdetermined that the poster is the A hole
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or not the A hole? Ornobody in the story is the A whole?
Yeah, or everybody in the storyis the A hole? Yeah.
So there's lots of different options optionshere. This is a very nuanced discussion
that we're about to have a veryimportant dame. All right, So now
I'm gonna read the post. Mywife and I have always dreamed of celebrating
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our fortieth anniversary with a luxurious vacationjust the two of us, reliving the
romance of our early years. Wehad it all planned out for years now,
and we're excited beyond words. Enterour adult daughter, Jane. Jane
and her husband got wind of ourplans and promptly invited themselves and their two
children, nine and five along agesnine and five. Oh that's not their
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names. I just wasn't sure ifthat would make sense our young children nine
eleven and thirty. I originally putmy foot down and told them this trip
was just for us, which upsether some. But my wife has a
hard time saying no to Jane,as she is the youngest of our children
and our only daughter, and shedidn't want to hurt her feelings, so
she reluctantly agreed to let them join. I wasn't thrilled about it at the
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time, but I wanted to makemy family happy, and I knew my
wife was also okay with the ideaof a family trip. Even if she
was heartbroken we wouldn't get our romantictrip, we went along with it.
The place we were originally going wasnot child friendly, so we changed course
and decided on an all inclusive,family friendly resort. We paid for the
resort and our grandchildren's plane tickets,Jane and her husband only had to pay
for their own airfare. Here's wherethings get complicated. As the vacation got
(25:26):
closer, I started having a changeof heart. I realized that our fortieth
anniversary was a once in a lifetimemilestone, and I wanted to honor it
in a way that was true toour original plans. My wife and I
might not be able to afford atrip like this again for quite some time,
and it's something we always wanted todo. So, without consulting anyone,
I switched our tickets last minute togo to the romantic destination that my
wife and I had originally planned for. I did not tell Jane or her
(25:48):
husband. I didn't even tell mywife until the day before our flight left,
which was a day before Jane's flightleft for their vacation. It wasn't
an easy decision, and I feelguilty about it, but I wanted our
forty our to be the special,intimate celebration we had always hoped for.
We called Jane after we landed totell her, and she was extremely upset.
To say the least, she seemedof the idea that we were going
to look after our grain kids.So she and her husband could have alone
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time, and now that I abandonedher, they would have to do it
all themselves. I hung up onthem when my son and law started shouting,
and my wife and I enjoyed therest of our trip. They came
back the same day we did,but have not answered any of our texts,
and Jane seems to be ignoring me. My wife told me she vastly
preferred our trip to the family tripwe would have taken, but she still
doesn't like how mad Jane is atus and wants me to apologize. I'm
(26:33):
not sure I want you after learningJane and her husband we're using us for
free babysitting and a free trip.But I feel like I should. I
should just to keep the peace.Am I the a hole for changing our
trip destination last minute and leaving Janeand her family to fend for themselves.
I once again chose this one becausethe sense says among people that replied yeah,
(26:56):
was one answer, like they allagreed on one decision m HM,
and I wanted to know if youagree with it, you're not gonna tell
me what it is. Well,I don't know if I can just agree
on like one tiny thing. Ithink that she, Jane should never have
(27:19):
been allowed to like invite herself onthe vacation. I think that was like
the biggest mistake. That was anoverstep. Yeah and yeah, like you
said yes at some point like that, like that just should not have ever
happened. And it's funny because likeJane being the only daughter and the youngest
is like me and my family andmy mom and dad just went on a
vacation to Poland and when they wereplanning it, I was like, well,
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I want to come, Like that'snot nice. Why wouldn't you take
your child? Uh? And mymom was like, no, it's just
well, yeah, I was neverit wasn't entertained. She was like,
no, it's just us. I'llgo with you another time. And I
was like, Okay, sad forme, but like that, you know,
she shouldn't have been allowed to that. I don't I mean, changing
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it last minute is a little weirdand not telling anybody, but I mean,
at the same time, I thinkthat it would be ridiculous to spend
that vacation babysitting your game kids.So why your verdict is the not the
a hole? Yeah? Wow,you agree with most of the replies on
Reddit. I disagree. I thinkthe switch to you. Okay, the
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parents, I agree, made amistake by allowing the dogger to be involved
in the first place. You haveto be able to stand up for your
relationship and be like, this isa romantic family. We're not trying to
have family time on this trick.Hopefully the dog already received that, like
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reasonably and said, you know what, you're right, this is your anniversary.
That was silly of me, butI because he does say I originally
put my foot down and told themthis trip was just for us, which
upset her. But the wife wasupset, and the wife said, okay,
you can. But I do thinkthat changing the flight last minute and
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not even timing the wife. Youmay have by then come around to the
idea of a family vacation and beenexcited about it, and like, okay,
you should reasonably assume that like thatgrandparents being there, they can assist
with the kids on some level,assuming that they're like babysit. The whole
time is messed up. But whenyou're playing in your family vacation, I'm
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talking about the dogger and her husbandand her two kids, like now,
there's a huge factor of having yourparents there to be able to help out.
That might effect if they even goon the trip. And now they're
in a unknown place at this resortand the people that they thought would be
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there aren't there, and I didn'teven tell them that they're not humming.
It changes the whole dynamic of theirvacation. Yeah, but they just got
it, paid for a vacation.All they lost was their babysitters, I
guess. So maybe the higher reasonthey wanted to go was because they wanted
someone else to watch their kids.I don't know, I know, but
but if the grandkids were like,we can't wait to see Grandma and Grandpa
(30:18):
and like have a vacation with them, and now I was like, oh,
sorry, Grandma and Grandma, Idon't tell me, And they didn't
tell us, Like, yeah,it just is a weird thing to lie
about. It feels too big,like travel plans to lie about that or
hide it last minute. Yeah,I think it is an asshole. Oh
my god, yeah, I dofor that behavior. But it's the forty
(30:41):
like the audacity of Jane to justbe like, I'm like, my entire
family is coming on your fortieth weddinganniversary, I changed to Everyone's asshole,
Everyone's the a hole. Yeah.I mean, I think it's really odd
to change the plans and that shouldn'thave been done. But I still think
it was an appropriate reaction to yourvacation being ruined by your extremely immature daughter,
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if you, and then for herto refuse to speak to them after
this, if when you were justgiven a free vacation, But what if
think about it, like if yourmom and dad had said, yeah,
even chanting time along with us toPoland, yeah, and we were like,
oh my god, dury like youknow, and then they said no,
(31:26):
and I wore them down, Likeit's not just that, it's not
like they were like, hey,want to come with us? We don't
know. It's like me being like, I'm I really want to come in
this trip. They put their footdown. I keep going, I'm really
upset, and they finally relent.I don't know if it felt that much
in this story, Well it sayshe put his foot down, but let's
say that we did kind of likepush them and they were eventually like yeah,
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so hey, And so sometimes itgoes by and we think that they're
like into the idea. Now hasthey allowed it? And then we thought
to Poland and we arrive to attachwith your mom and dad say, hey,
we decided to go to Italy.We wanted to be alone. They
told them before they left, thoughthey didn't tell them. Yes they did,
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Shane. Their flight, Jane's flightwas the day after. They texted
them when they land when they landed, okay, we called Jane after we
landed. Her flight was the nextday. Shame Sam, No, no,
but same. I'm presenting you thatidea. We are about to fly
to Poland tomorrow and your mom anddadad says, hey, heads up,
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we went to Italy instead. Wewould be so mad, maybe be like,
really, now we're going to Polandalone, you're in Italy and you
didn't tell us that is messed up. When they had originally planned to go
to Italy and I made them switchbecause we wanted to bring our kids,
we would have been yeah, Italyrest. We would have been like,
you know what, heads up,would have been nice, not enough to
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never like to not respond to them. I don't know. I think it's
still immature, and I would stillhave appreciated the free vacation they sent us
on I don't know. I didn'treally have been mad for a long time.
It's weird to lie about something thatbig anyway. Lie, well,
it's a fib the withholding even partchanging information. Yeah, I just think,
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yeah, I think it all shouldhave been avoided by just not not
changing the trip. To begin withthe moral of the story here, if
your parents are doing on an anniversarytrip, don't force yourself along. That's
good for me to keep in mind. What do you guys say that?
Do you think that this pressure isthe A hole? It is the dog
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or the A whole? Obviously insome way is everyone in the a whole?
Boy? We'll see let us know, all right, how was our
episode? I getting out my judgmentof others for the day. Really sharing
our opinions feels good. Me beinglike an imagere sure feels nice. If
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you enjoyed this episode, please like, comment, review, subscribe all of
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but there will be a played dinner, and you need your tetnis shop before
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Yay Networks. This story is aboutto make you change your mind when you
realize how big your freaks and Iare in you said it, I was
like, oh no, I meanI'm a freaking every setting, but like,
oh my god, hello everyone,welcome back. Hello. We are
(00:27):
in California. Yes we are.We're actually in our new podcast in the
studio. No, no, we'renot. We're just sitting against the only
curtain we have. We've pulled inanything that we can change the desk next
to me for some color. Surroundingus, just out of frame are boxes
(00:47):
yea, and garbage bags and moreboxes. But this looks pretty put together.
You would never know that we're justin an empty room. We're doing
well. We're doing great as longas we don't think about it. Yes,
we're perfect. Perfect. Speaking ofperfect, how do you like that
side by? Well, we'll seewhen you get to the next topic.
(01:08):
I have a perfect idea. Okay, are you ready? That fell a
little short? That's fine, speakingof perfect in today's un December your ndio
hover my perfect idea? Oh great. We are going to tell you a
story about something horrific that happened tous a few years ago that we are
just now able to talk about forthe first time, and then we are
(01:33):
going to play am I the ahole at the end. But you've all
been really enjoying with your comments andstuff, Soria. Keep this ther regular
part of our of our podcast andwe enjoy it. What's better than just
sharing your opinion about something that Yeah, saying that someone sucks judging so so
fun. That's what we do here, mayhem condemn and mm hmm. Wait,
(02:00):
what's your perfect idea? If that'swhat we're starting with? My perfect
idea? Yeah, I was thinking, Hannah, how fun would it be
when our book comes out next yearto organize and execute a book tour.
Oh, that's a very good idea. I feel like we've mentioned, like
we've said we really hope that wedo one. But I think that that
(02:22):
is a really good idea. Wewill map out all fifty states? No,
No, we will not. Thatwould be ridiculous. You're already dismantling
my perfect pull in ten people perper state. We don't put one like
the city in each state? Whystop there? Why not every city in
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every state? You're trying to notsell our books. I'm just yetting the
the perfect part ready, and wewill reach each city by luxury RV that
you drive. Where are you goingto get this RV from? I don't
know, but I want the outsideof it to be branded faces. Maybe
(03:07):
a bus size version of me.Okay, great. So that's the idea
where you're gonna have groupies that followus city to city. So if anyone
would like to volunteer for that position, like the Drateful Dead, our fans
will flop to our bus. I'mreally I'm a little bit jealous of the
(03:30):
whole Taylor Swift, Travis Chelsea phenomenally. I want that level of no,
you don't spotlight I don't think youdo on my book tour. I was
gonna say, on what Shane goesto the grocery store. I think it
could be really fun though, onall seriousness, a book tour, Yes,
(03:52):
what would you want to be partof that? If we really did
it? If we do a booktour, I think something that would be
really fun is having the couples thatare in the book in each area come
to the Yeah, you know,because like they're all from all over.
So I feel like if we did, you know, a couple of different
areas of the us, we wouldhave people from the book actually be able
(04:13):
to come. I love that wecould do like little you know Q and
as with that, like beyond whatwe write about in the book. I
also think we should have an opener. My god, my ideas are so
much, so much better than yourper ideas. Nobody really did in like
an opener, not an opener thatI was kind of using that regular like
(04:33):
a band, No, not aband, unless you would like to play
an instrument, Hannah, I'll learnan instrument in this interim, and then
I'll open for us nobody, Likeif we could find you know a disabled
to stand up helmet, yeah,or you know someone that would like begin
the show. Yeah, then wecome out and we read from the book.
(04:55):
Maybe we tell a few stories that'slike the middle and then yeah,
and we can do like the interviewwith the all that we have there.
Whatever. That is a good idea. I'm building your performance. Yeah,
you're rulding a whole show now interms of light down, are you thinking
Pyro or Pyro? This is It'sfunny because we've done a couple of meetups,
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which just by chance, we're goingto talk about one of them in
our next segment and the meetups thatwe have done are so the opposite of
this kind of put together, verylaid back. That is the nicest way
you could have put that. Barebones. Yeah, it's literally us walking
(05:39):
into an area and being like,oh here hi. So I think it
would be actually very beneficial if wehad a plan other people involved, maybe
to kind of carry us. Thething that I want most from this is
a t shirt with all of ourtoward dates on the back, even though
(06:01):
when I should maybe a chair,no one can see the shirt. You
should put them on the front thesleeves. Yeah, or you didn't have
a tour shirt with only info onthe sleeves, okay, because you're watching
this tour on the life before youreyes. If you wait and see when
it really happens, Yeah, it'llbe so nice to look back on our
(06:23):
planning session right now. I doreally like the idea, though it's always
applied her to meet up with peoplethat watch our videos or whatever. Yeah,
read our books, yes, Ilove it. Oh cater am Oh
my god, oh my god.Yeah. Food definitely well yeah, on
the RV for share I did bringcookies to that one meet up, but
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no one really ate them because youdon't, you know, like me just
putting out a bowl of cookies.There were like fifty people there who was
going to take the first cookie?And I kept being like, take the
cookies everyone, that's all cuaky.I say it like that, I know
the ties. Everyone the cookie.So I feel like it maybe we need
a bigger like a dedicated time tohave food, like maybe family meal.
(07:08):
It goes opener us meal time,couples that are in the area, then
music and light, orders and minglinglet me yes, and plated dinner oh
my god, shame and wants dineand read? Are these Is this a
free event? Are you thinking?Or you? Oh? No, tickets
(07:30):
are unavoidable to pay for your luxuryRV. I feel like the tickets are
gonna need to be quite a lot. It shouldn't need to be underwritten by
like thirty businesses. Okay, sothis is a sponsored tour, Oh my
JD. Obviously it's sponsored. Sowe'll see, we'll see what actually comes
to you. No, I amit would be afraid of that obviously,
(07:53):
So we're gonna need to take that, you know, into account when you're
thinking plated dinner. Okay, Well, I'm sorry no, bring your favorite
low hold dish. No, we'renot doing that. All right, I
feel like it's time to move intoour next segment where we talk about the
(08:13):
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junkyard. Okay, so if youjust listen to our last segment and you
were dead a jazzed up about aten dawn our book Tower Media, which
thank you so much. We're excitedto see you. This story is about
to make you change your mind whenyou realize how big a free Hen and
I are in these set down NoI mean, I'm a freaking every setting
(10:01):
but like, oh my god,can we get that? Can we get
it hot down to that right there? And I'd just say, I'm a
freaking every setday. Meetups are maybethe worst situation you can put me in,
right, I don't because I haveno reference point for that. What
the heck are you supposed to sayto someone? It is the most awkward
(10:22):
experience ever I'm we're going to beginnow. Can I just talk about when
we arrived before we get into theactual horror part? Yep, because I
know we're skipping ahead a little bit. Yeah, this was the last meetup
we ever did. We will buildourselves back up to do another meetup,
mostly because of the pandemics. Itwas twenty night. It was twenty twenty
in January, so like right beforethe pandemic. The road part, Yeah,
(10:46):
we were in Florida in the Tampaarea, and we decided to have
a meetup at a library that waslike right near where we were staying.
Cute, little innocent us. Yeah, and we had done a meetup in
Orland, I think the year before, which was really fun successful. That
was no Panera and there was nolike we honestly expected maybe fifteen people to
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come. It must have been whatlike seventy. Yeah, and the Panera,
I don't know, the very happynot have space, Like I don't
think we were supposed to host aone hundred person event. They had a
little room that we had inquired about, well, we inquired about it once
we filled up the area in themoment weired that room, which was what
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Panera has a giant meeting room init. Like that was so lucky.
It was lucky. But we wentinto that room. We encouraged people to
like buy that's where I bought thecookies if anyone wants to buy a drink.
Like, we just bought a bunchof stuff, and we were like
does this cover It's awful anyway,So we went with a library for our
next one, and we reserved ameeting room. It works perfectly. It
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was very official. Yeah, wewent into the library reserve reserved room.
I know, yeah, this isadult stuff. It's crazy, this is
flag. So we arrive. Ithought we had scheduled it for I think
like eleven am. It was ona Sunday, all I not that it
was at the time that the libraryopened, which we didn't originally realize.
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So we walk from our airbnb tothis library once again like four people or
no one yet because you know,we went like ten minutes early, thinking
we would go into the room.Turns out the library did not open until
the minute the meetup began. Sowhen we arrived at the library, there
were probably fifteen people standing outside tenminutes early, like waiting for the doors
(12:35):
to be unlocked, and in thatsituation, your average person who was hosting
a meetup, like, all thesepeople obviously are here to meet us.
I have something to say about that, but go ahead. You would think
that we would begin chatting with them. We would think we would make it
(12:56):
a comfortable situation. But no,yad sort of because we were not entirely
sure that those fifteen people were notjust library doors like it might have been
real weard had they not been therefor us. Yeah, some of them
definitely were because they were like,oh my gosh, hi, you know,
like so we said our hellos,but we didn't feel comfortable enough to
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be like all right, proud,like let's begin here. Yeah. It
was really awkward because someone might havejust been returning a book and then they'd
be like, what is going on? So instead for the like most awkward
five minutes of my life waiting forthe library to open, and I've just
said hello and then stood there likestaring at the door silently, like five
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plus minutes, which is the longesttime when you're just staring at a door.
It was just silent. It wasso awkward. I'm shot that those
people that were there didn't just changetheir minds and leave oh boy, in
Hannah a real mirrid in person.I really wonder what they thought. We
were just nervous, and then youknow, once it began, it was
(14:09):
it was better once people were inthe room. This isn't even the bad
thing that happened. No, no, no, this is this is the
best. This is the highlight ofthe event. They were watching closely during
the event. They were like thirtytimes more confused confused than they were.
We were standing out front awkwardly.So let's win here we go as to
(14:30):
why we had some strange behavior duringthe meetup. Yep, okay, So
a few days before the meet up, I get a test message from an
unknown number and it turns out tobe a stroll. Yes, who who
found your number? Found the numberand began texting me that they had like
(14:54):
found out the information required to provethat Hannah and I are faking a relationship.
Yeah, and ahead right up front. All of it was completely absentine
and made no sense, and itwas really weird. Weird stuff like a
(15:16):
childhood photo of Hannah from her likeelementary school, yeah, being like,
look here she's lying. Does thatmake sense to you? No? It
was literally just a picture of mefrom when I was like ten or eleven.
Yeah, and was like, see, I didn't know what the point
was. Was it that I wasin Connecticut or I did That point was
(15:37):
that you were in Connecticut. Theydidn't know that you grew up there,
and they were like they and thenone was like an immigration thing for an
Elizabeth Ale word from like Germany innineteen o eight or something, and they
were like, see, Hannah's momis from Germany, not Poland. And
I was like that, first ofall, my mom's maiden name is not
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like, that's not who she cancame to the US as. Second of
all nineteen oh eight. So itwas all of these. It was just
a string catch that made no sense, like it was delusional. Yeah,
and so I and I regret that, Yeah, you think Shane blocked the
number right? No, I wantedto have some fun with it. So
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I began responding as if this informationwas really upsetting me. It was like,
was opening your eyes to how myfamily was lying? My mom really
did come in nineteen oh eight.I played alone, pretending that Lives is
over one hundred years old and theheada is from a different city, and
(16:40):
therefore lying about being in love withme. Yeah, I played along with
it, and as it progressed,the troll kind of like began to realize
that I was playing along and gotmad. Yeah, which, yeah,
you shouldn't have done that. No, I read you shouldn't have done that.
But they were also using an appwasn't their real phone numbers, so
they would send texts from different numbersthat were just generating numbers. And they
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after that, when they got mad, they sent one that was like poorly
written, so we kind of knewthat it was them still, but it
was like, good morning, Shane, this is your airbnb host. You
have set off the alarm in thehouse and we will be sending the police
if you don't respond within like thirtyseconds. And we were like, there's
no alarm system in our airbnb.This we know who the airbnb host is.
(17:26):
Like, but like really like thatthat was disturbing that they like knew
where we were. Yeah, theyshoudn't have some like knowledge of our whereabouts.
Yeah, And then they made generalsense. And then when we advertise
the meetup, they said like,I'm not too far from Gulfport. I'm
coming to the meetup and I'll exposeyou or something. So this was like
(17:48):
maybe you get to get freaked out. Yeah, they were at the they
were saying pretty horrible films like I'mgonna mess you up, oh like rip
you out of your chair. Yeah, but there was nothing thing could do
because they were strambling their numbers.So like the police, if we had
contacted them, would have been likewhat, yeah, we're arresting people for
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spuedium or not like doing this rightnow, speading that's your example. I
don't know, I'm busy arresting peoplefor speeding. I just mean the Hobbs
would not have it and solved it. Yeah, they're not going to like
ten nights. Yeah, this numberscrambler. So anyway, when they yeah,
and to be at the meet upand like pause, be hard.
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We got real worried about the meetupand like everything that they had said to
that point was so delusional that wefelt ninety percent sure that they were not
actually coming to this media. Yeah, but the odds that they were actually
in the Tampa area is so weget into the speed up a little ten
(18:56):
percent worried that someone is going tobe coming too quo quote exposed us.
Yeah, or kill you or killme. We begin the mede up right,
Yes, it's going, it's going. Well. We're sitting at the
front of a long room and youknow, people are all sitting in front
of us, and then at theback of the room that we're looking at
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is a double door set that youknow, leads from the main area of
the library. So that's where everyonecomes in. And everyone understood him.
I beginning of our presentation. I'mstanding proud. Everyone is like friendly and
happy and looking him. There's noone there like play. Yeah, so
far, so good sothing. Allright, it was fine, We're fine.
(19:40):
Feed them into ten. The backdoors open, and in lots a
man with a hat pulled down prettylow over his forehead and that camera.
Yeah, he walks in filming,actively filming. We're like mid presentation.
Yeah, so I am like talkingto the audience. I in this man
(20:02):
and being in my head like,oh my god, oh my god,
it's him. Yeah, he reallycame. I don't know what do we
do, and I don't know whatI sounded like, but I bet my
life that my voice went like this. All right, everyone was enough and
thought was probably we were probably like, uh, anyway, like staring at
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this man, do you remember whathe did then, Like, didn't you
just stand in the back continue intofilm? Yeah, and the whole speech
I remember nothing but just saying onthis man, like making sure that they
didn't do anything, you know,weird. Yeah, So that the like
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presentation part of this ends. Andafter that we always have like a one
on one meet, you know,meeting meet and greet with everyone and the
kind of form a general line andcome up one in a time and like
take pictures whatever he gets in line. Guys, I am sledding buckets.
I'm like him should be flee,like it's just everything to die right now.
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And he was like the last person. So the room is sitting out.
I'm like, oh my god,oh my god, we're gonna die.
I'm doping as I talked to theother people there. Finally it's him
and he walks up to ask cameraand introduces himself as a reporter who I
(21:37):
had been emailing with and who Iwas well aware was going to be there
that day filming for a story beingdone on us. I knew who he
was, I knew his name,I knew that he'd have a camera,
and all of that went out ofmy mind when I saw him enter I
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he introduced himself. I went,oh, thank god. Yeah, we
started crying a little bit. Weexplained it to him. Yeah, I
don't know. I reacted looking athim real weird and I reacted so weirdly
when he introduced himself, I waslike, WHOA, sorry about that.
(22:21):
I need to tell you what justhappened. Oh my god, Oh lord.
So the guy never actually came theUS and they fell off the face
of you know, our world,like they never contacted you again. So
yeah, I stopt responding, Oh, you know what, I think you
blocked your number in that app,didn't you. You're right? Oh my
god. I thought the police involved. Yeah I've heard that. Yeah,
(22:45):
there was. You can get ona list, like we called someone and
yeah, and they the company waslike, yeah, we can put you
on a protective list, but weneed like a police something. Yeah,
so I had to let email police. It was a whole thing. But
yeah, I was gonna say,I forget about that. Definitely blocked it
from number like apps. Uh huh. So maybe he's been He probably thinks
(23:07):
you're just ignoring him. He's beengoing for four years. I nearly that
scene for four years. Oh lord, Anyway, we were weird during that
whole meet up. So we're gonnado a book tour and be weird,
try to redeem ourselves in person forall of you. Yeah, it'll be
fun. All Right, We're gonnatake another hit break and then we'll be
back to play am I the AHole? All Right, We're back and
(23:34):
we're ready to play am I theA Hole? If you haven't heard the
segment before, we are going toread and am I the A Whole?
Post from Reddit that Shane has found. He normally picks just the top one
on the page, so nothing specialabout his selection. And we should remind
you that the outu here is beachingdetermined that the poster is the A hole
(23:56):
or not the A hole? Ornobody in the story is the A whole?
Yeah, or everybody in the storyis the A hole? Yeah.
So there's lots of different options optionshere. This is a very nuanced discussion
that we're about to have a veryimportant dame. All right, So now
I'm gonna read the post. Mywife and I have always dreamed of celebrating
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our fortieth anniversary with a luxurious vacationjust the two of us, reliving the
romance of our early years. Wehad it all planned out for years now,
and we're excited beyond words. Enterour adult daughter, Jane. Jane
and her husband got wind of ourplans and promptly invited themselves and their two
children, nine and five along agesnine and five. Oh that's not their
(24:40):
names. I just wasn't sure ifthat would make sense our young children nine
eleven and thirty. I originally putmy foot down and told them this trip
was just for us, which upsether some. But my wife has a
hard time saying no to Jane,as she is the youngest of our children
and our only daughter, and shedidn't want to hurt her feelings, so
she reluctantly agreed to let them join. I wasn't thrilled about it at the
(25:03):
time, but I wanted to makemy family happy, and I knew my
wife was also okay with the ideaof a family trip. Even if she
was heartbroken we wouldn't get our romantictrip, we went along with it.
The place we were originally going wasnot child friendly, so we changed course
and decided on an all inclusive,family friendly resort. We paid for the
resort and our grandchildren's plane tickets,Jane and her husband only had to pay
for their own airfare. Here's wherethings get complicated. As the vacation got
(25:26):
closer, I started having a changeof heart. I realized that our fortieth
anniversary was a once in a lifetimemilestone, and I wanted to honor it
in a way that was true toour original plans. My wife and I
might not be able to afford atrip like this again for quite some time,
and it's something we always wanted todo. So, without consulting anyone,
I switched our tickets last minute togo to the romantic destination that my
wife and I had originally planned for. I did not tell Jane or her
(25:48):
husband. I didn't even tell mywife until the day before our flight left,
which was a day before Jane's flightleft for their vacation. It wasn't
an easy decision, and I feelguilty about it, but I wanted our
forty our to be the special,intimate celebration we had always hoped for.
We called Jane after we landed totell her, and she was extremely upset.
To say the least, she seemedof the idea that we were going
to look after our grain kids.So she and her husband could have alone
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time, and now that I abandonedher, they would have to do it
all themselves. I hung up onthem when my son and law started shouting,
and my wife and I enjoyed therest of our trip. They came
back the same day we did,but have not answered any of our texts,
and Jane seems to be ignoring me. My wife told me she vastly
preferred our trip to the family tripwe would have taken, but she still
doesn't like how mad Jane is atus and wants me to apologize. I'm
(26:33):
not sure I want you after learningJane and her husband we're using us for
free babysitting and a free trip.But I feel like I should. I
should just to keep the peace.Am I the a hole for changing our
trip destination last minute and leaving Janeand her family to fend for themselves.
I once again chose this one becausethe sense says among people that replied yeah,
(26:56):
was one answer, like they allagreed on one decision m HM,
and I wanted to know if youagree with it, you're not gonna tell
me what it is. Well,I don't know if I can just agree
on like one tiny thing. Ithink that she, Jane should never have
(27:19):
been allowed to like invite herself onthe vacation. I think that was like
the biggest mistake. That was anoverstep. Yeah and yeah, like you
said yes at some point like that, like that just should not have ever
happened. And it's funny because likeJane being the only daughter and the youngest
is like me and my family andmy mom and dad just went on a
vacation to Poland and when they wereplanning it, I was like, well,
(27:41):
I want to come, Like that'snot nice. Why wouldn't you take
your child? Uh? And mymom was like, no, it's just
well, yeah, I was neverit wasn't entertained. She was like,
no, it's just us. I'llgo with you another time. And I
was like, Okay, sad forme, but like that, you know,
she shouldn't have been allowed to that. I don't I mean, changing
(28:02):
it last minute is a little weirdand not telling anybody, but I mean,
at the same time, I thinkthat it would be ridiculous to spend
that vacation babysitting your game kids.So why your verdict is the not the
a hole? Yeah? Wow,you agree with most of the replies on
Reddit. I disagree. I thinkthe switch to you. Okay, the
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parents, I agree, made amistake by allowing the dogger to be involved
in the first place. You haveto be able to stand up for your
relationship and be like, this isa romantic family. We're not trying to
have family time on this trick.Hopefully the dog already received that, like
(28:47):
reasonably and said, you know what, you're right, this is your anniversary.
That was silly of me, butI because he does say I originally
put my foot down and told themthis trip was just for us, which
upset her. But the wife wasupset, and the wife said, okay,
you can. But I do thinkthat changing the flight last minute and
(29:10):
not even timing the wife. Youmay have by then come around to the
idea of a family vacation and beenexcited about it, and like, okay,
you should reasonably assume that like thatgrandparents being there, they can assist
with the kids on some level,assuming that they're like babysit. The whole
time is messed up. But whenyou're playing in your family vacation, I'm
(29:34):
talking about the dogger and her husbandand her two kids, like now,
there's a huge factor of having yourparents there to be able to help out.
That might effect if they even goon the trip. And now they're
in a unknown place at this resortand the people that they thought would be
(29:56):
there aren't there, and I didn'teven tell them that they're not humming.
It changes the whole dynamic of theirvacation. Yeah, but they just got
it, paid for a vacation.All they lost was their babysitters, I
guess. So maybe the higher reasonthey wanted to go was because they wanted
someone else to watch their kids.I don't know, I know, but
but if the grandkids were like,we can't wait to see Grandma and Grandpa
(30:18):
and like have a vacation with them, and now I was like, oh,
sorry, Grandma and Grandma, Idon't tell me, And they didn't
tell us, Like, yeah,it just is a weird thing to lie
about. It feels too big,like travel plans to lie about that or
hide it last minute. Yeah,I think it is an asshole. Oh
my god, yeah, I dofor that behavior. But it's the forty
(30:41):
like the audacity of Jane to justbe like, I'm like, my entire
family is coming on your fortieth weddinganniversary, I changed to Everyone's asshole,
Everyone's the a hole. Yeah.I mean, I think it's really odd
to change the plans and that shouldn'thave been done. But I still think
it was an appropriate reaction to yourvacation being ruined by your extremely immature daughter,
(31:06):
if you, and then for herto refuse to speak to them after
this, if when you were justgiven a free vacation, But what if
think about it, like if yourmom and dad had said, yeah,
even chanting time along with us toPoland, yeah, and we were like,
oh my god, dury like youknow, and then they said no,
(31:26):
and I wore them down, Likeit's not just that, it's not
like they were like, hey,want to come with us? We don't
know. It's like me being like, I'm I really want to come in
this trip. They put their footdown. I keep going, I'm really
upset, and they finally relent.I don't know if it felt that much
in this story, Well it sayshe put his foot down, but let's
say that we did kind of likepush them and they were eventually like yeah,
(31:48):
so hey, And so sometimes itgoes by and we think that they're
like into the idea. Now hasthey allowed it? And then we thought
to Poland and we arrive to attachwith your mom and dad say, hey,
we decided to go to Italy.We wanted to be alone. They
told them before they left, thoughthey didn't tell them. Yes they did,
(32:08):
Shane. Their flight, Jane's flightwas the day after. They texted
them when they land when they landed, okay, we called Jane after we
landed. Her flight was the nextday. Shame Sam, No, no,
but same. I'm presenting you thatidea. We are about to fly
to Poland tomorrow and your mom anddadad says, hey, heads up,
(32:30):
we went to Italy instead. Wewould be so mad, maybe be like,
really, now we're going to Polandalone, you're in Italy and you
didn't tell us that is messed up. When they had originally planned to go
to Italy and I made them switchbecause we wanted to bring our kids,
we would have been yeah, Italyrest. We would have been like,
you know what, heads up,would have been nice, not enough to
(32:52):
never like to not respond to them. I don't know. I think it's
still immature, and I would stillhave appreciated the free vacation they sent us
on I don't know. I didn'treally have been mad for a long time.
It's weird to lie about something thatbig anyway. Lie, well,
it's a fib the withholding even partchanging information. Yeah, I just think,
(33:19):
yeah, I think it all shouldhave been avoided by just not not
changing the trip. To begin withthe moral of the story here, if
your parents are doing on an anniversarytrip, don't force yourself along. That's
good for me to keep in mind. What do you guys say that?
Do you think that this pressure isthe A hole? It is the dog
(33:39):
or the A whole? Obviously insome way is everyone in the a whole?
Boy? We'll see let us know, all right, how was our
episode? I getting out my judgmentof others for the day. Really sharing
our opinions feels good. Me beinglike an imagere sure feels nice. If
(34:01):
you enjoyed this episode, please like, comment, review, subscribe all of
that. And it's a junkyard outthere, and this junk's yard is so
excited to announce that we will behosting a stop on the twenty twenty four
Shane and Hannah book tour. Ticketsare nine hundred dollars standing room only,
(34:25):
but there will be a played dinner, and you need your tetnis shop before
you come. The defense will belocked climate and find them somewhere amongst the
junk. Wow. Goodbye everyone,
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