Why most public speaking advice is wrong—and how to finally overcome your speaking anxiety | Tristan de Montebello (CEO & co-founder of Ultraspeaking)

Tristan de Montebello is the co-creator of Ultraspeaking, the most effective method I’ve come across for rapidly improving communication and presentation skills. In 2017, Tristan became the fastest person ever to reach the finals of the World Championship of Public Speaking, achieving this feat in just seven months with no prior experience. In our conversation, we discuss:

• Why public speaking is a meta skill that can transform your life

• Practical games and exercises to improve your speaking skills

• The “Accordion Method” for preparing talks without memorization

• The “Bow and Arrow Technique” for crafting memorable presentations

• Tristan’s journey to the World Championship of Public Speaking finals

• Lenny doing some of the exercises live on-screen

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Find the transcript at: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/master-public-speaking-tristan-de-montebello

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Where to find Tristan de Montebello:

• X: https://x.com/Montebello

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tristandemontebello/

• Website: https://ultraspeaking.com

• Free email course: https://ultraspeaking.com/lenny/

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Where to find Lenny:

• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com

• X: https://twitter.com/lennysan

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/

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In this episode, we cover:

(00:00) Introduction to Tristan de Montebello and Ultraspeaking

(01:42) Personal experiences with public speaking

(05:35) Misconceptions and meta skills in public speaking

(08:56) Enjoyment as a barometer for effective speaking

(15:30) Tactical tips for public speaking

(29:15) The importance of practice and games

(34:50) Game 1: The Conductor (Accessing different emotional states)

(45:54) Mindset shift: playing the game

(51:07) Game 2: Triple Step (Staying focused amid distractions)

(01:07:51) Quieting the noise

(01:09:46) Game 3: Conviction Prompts (Building executive presence)

(01:17:27) The Accordion Method explained

(01:37:57) The Bow and Arrow technique

(01:43:43) Final thoughts and encouragement

(01:44:55) Lightning round

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Referenced:

• Michael Gendler on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelgendler

• Alienor playing Conductor: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmholFWwHro

• Triple Step: https://ultraspeaking.com/triple-step-game/

• Rapid Fire Analogies: https://ultraspeaking.com/rapid-fire-game/

• Joe Rogan Experience #1309 — Naval Ravikant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3qHkcs3kG44

• The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361

• Tall poppy syndrome: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall_poppy_syndrome

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