307: Why Intimacy Feels SO Good With the WRONG People – Shan Boodram

Why do we sometimes get ghosted or friend-zoned after intimacy? How can we navigate mismatched libidos, steer clear of toxic intimacy with the wrong people, or keep the spark alive in long-term relationships?

 

In this episode, Matthew and Audrey sit down with Shan Boodram, a certified sex educator and relationship expert with an M.S. in psychology, for a candid conversation about sex, intimacy, and the unspoken dynamics that shape our love lives. 

 

Topics covered:

 

• Why sex doesn’t always lead to commitment.

• How to confidently communicate your boundaries and desires.

• The psychology behind mismatched libidos and how to address them.

• Why toxic relationships can feel so good (and how to break the cycle).

• Tips for reigniting passion in long-term relationships.

 

Resources mentioned:

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 >> Access Shan Boodram’s resources (including the free quiz she mentioned in this episode) – loversbyshan.com
 
 >>Try Matthew AI (and ask any relationship question for free) – AskMH.com