I bought my dream car…with my daughter’s college fund! - r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP1972 - ok storytime

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I bought my dream car with my daughter's college fund.
Uh oh, So how to begin with this? I realize
that on paper, I'm totally the ahole, but when you
dig deeper into my motivations, I'm hoping it's more of
a gray area than anything else, and maybe I did
the right thing. By the way, this comes from my
nineteen seventy two pony on the Best of Redditor updates.

(00:22):
When I was a teenager, my dad bought me a
classic nineteen seventy two Ford Bronco. It was my true
passion and I don't recall a memory from high school
that someone doesn't involve that truck. Plus, my dad and
I would spend hours and hours working on it together,
and we went through that especially father and son rough

(00:42):
Patch when I was a teenager. It was always that
Bruca that brought us back together. I made a huge
mistake and sold the truck when I turned nineteen, and
my dad died of a heart attack two months later.
So while not logically, I've always filled a karmic connection
with the two events.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
WHOA, So he feels like he his dad and murdered
my dad by selling our.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
That is pretty tough. We had a baby in early February.
She was our first and the light of my life.
My wife is doing well, but she went back at
work and she realized that she hates all the daycares
we've tried and really wants to be a stay at
home mom. And plus she's very hormonal from delivery, lack
of sleep, and breastfeeding, so she's having a rough time

(01:26):
and is angry a lot. I guess I need to
say this getting that off your chest there. Two weeks ago,
I was driving through our town's warehouse district and I
saw a bronco that was pretty beat up but resembled mine.
I stopped for nostalgic stake, and the owner came out
and let me take a look inside. My dad and
I glued a wheat penny under the dash as a

(01:49):
sort of security measure, so I sort of checked and
GD if it wasn't my bronco it was. I think
it was the wheat pity was under there.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
Crazy. He had to make him an offer he couldn't refuse.
That's what I'm assuming he's gonna have a next.

Speaker 1 (02:04):
I asked him if he'd consider selling it. He said
someone was actually on I twenty five as we spoke
from Colorado to buy it for twenty one thousand dollars.
I freaked out and asked him if I could buy
it right then and there for twenty three thousand. He said,
if I came up with the cash, yes. I had
been procrastinating and setting up a five twenty nine, so

(02:25):
I had twelve thousand dollars in my savings account that
my wife's parents have given us. I mixed out my
credit card to Venmo, and my mom brought down a
check for four thousand, and I Effen drove away in
my old car.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
Wow. He scrapped together the cash to buy this car,
including the money that his wife's parents gave him for
the kid. I would assume.

Speaker 1 (02:52):
Twelve k for nostalgic reasons.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
So that he could not feel guilty about his dad.
That is what it is, honestly, somewhat probably dang, I'm sorry,
sir is not going to bring him back. He's gone.
I guess it would be good to like be driving
around knowing that, like oh, me and my dad, they
sort of put work into this car. But it could
also be kind of haunting.

Speaker 1 (03:14):
It is haunting because in a way, you're bringing your
own childhood back. But what about your daughters?

Speaker 2 (03:18):
Maybe he can work on it with her. She's just
a baby though, right, so it seems like they's got
a lot of time to get that money back.

Speaker 1 (03:24):
She had twelve K as a baby, ready to go
to cook for like eighteen years.

Speaker 2 (03:30):
And yeah, that will become literally two hundred thousand dollars.

Speaker 1 (03:34):
That is a college one. It was like your dream
come true, like a literal dream come true. It needs
a lot of work. I can't afford it right now,
but it's mine, like in my driveway. Mine again, I
can't describe what is your way.

Speaker 3 (03:47):
It is.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
My wife and her parents are furious with me. They
believe I was deceptive and that a real man would
have sacrificed anything and everything so my wife could go
stay at home with his kids, and that that's setting
aside that they gave me the money for a college fund.
My point is my daughter is only six months old
and we have eighteen years to set up a college

(04:08):
fund of hers. But this Bronco means everything to me,
and if I wouldn't have acted on it would have
been gone forever. Now it can be that same connection
with me and my kids. To me, it's the literal
meaning of happiness.

Speaker 2 (04:23):
He's like, we got eighteen years set up this college fund.
He knows where the Bronco's going, Like he saw the Bronco,
checked the penny thing, knew it was his, knew that
a person was gonna come to buy it. All he
has to do is keep tabs on it and make
a Bronco fund and it might be more down the
road if he can't fix it up. Now what's the point,

(04:44):
Like have the owner do all the work and then
in however many years, when it's even worse, then you
buy it for like fifteen thousand, you know, yeah, exactly,
keep tabs on the car. You know why you pay
for your daughter.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
But he's bringing his back back to life, bring back
that connection. Like I said, on paper, a whole whole story,
gray area. How do you guys see it? EDIT had
no idea this would go so one way. I guess
I messed up. I talked with my mom and she's
basically going to buy the Bronco from me in order
to refill the college debt and pay off the credit card.
The four k will be a gift and she is

(05:17):
going to give me whatever I need to restore it.
She's always been awesome to me, and she's rather the
money be spent now that wait for me and my
sister's inheritance. So sorry to get everyone so mad at me.
I was thinking with my emotions and acted badly. Edit too,
are you the mommy belled you out? Comments? Really necessary?
I found a solution. It's coming from me and my

(05:38):
sister's inheritance, so it's basically like I'm not paying for
it on my own eventually. So he has a solve.
I don't see any problem with that if the mom's
willing to put that up. If you could have done
that from the start, yeah, but it was like so
quick he needed to do it. First move a hole.

Speaker 2 (05:51):
Yeah, first move a hole. He got lucky.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
He so got lucky.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
I think it's hard to regain the respect from his
wife's parents.

Speaker 1 (05:58):
Edit three. My inbox is so buried. I have no
idea what those icons are that were gold used to be.
Does anyone know what those are? Edit four, I'm getting
a four oh three where whenever I try to respond,
I'm not sure what that means. But I'm still reading
because honestly, I'm afraid to go home even with the
rate news. I know my wife is going to be
upset for one reason or another. This guy's freaking out

(06:19):
Edit five. Does anyone know what four h three ever means?
I message moderators edit in the morning. I couldn't figure
out why I was getting so many private messages, but
I guess this must be locked now. I did tell
my wife, though my mom bailed me out and lied
and said I found a buyer for the bronco.

Speaker 2 (06:37):
That's so dumb.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
I'll figure out how to cross that bridge when I
get there. But my wife was so relieved when I
had come to my senses, and I don't want to
disappoint here. It's going to take all my line skills
to put this one off for the next few years.
We have some relevant comments here.

Speaker 2 (06:56):
Okay, dude, this guy is he's just liel Like, Oh,
she was so happy when I told her what she
wanted to hear, so why would I break You know,
it's like, you're just gonna hide this bronco under a
tarp at your mom's house, Like what the heck? What
the heck? Like you already messed up, You're only making
it worse. Like what's he gonna do? Buy it? Later, like,
what's his game plan?

Speaker 1 (07:15):
I feel like the mom and hearing this thing was perfect.
The mom has a great view at this.

Speaker 2 (07:19):
You messed up her, and you continue to mess up,
and you're making bad decisions left and right.

Speaker 1 (07:23):
Relevant comments Jesus dude, Yes, you're the a hole who
spends twenty kight thousand without so much as speaking to
their spouse first. Oh a holes, dude, Madison Pregers says, Wow,
I've had an almost seven month old and your post
literally ruined my day. You're the a hole For this line.
She's still very hormonal from delivery, lack of sleep, and breastwarding,

(07:44):
so she's having a rough time and is angry a lot. Really,
she's not angry because her husband is the type of
person who blew a effing college fund on a junked
out car. While this one really affects me, I'm going
to leave this and try not to check back on
it because I'm heartbroken for you, your wife, and daw Lizard Justice.
You're the a whole. Backstory doesn't make any last of
an a hole. It just explains why you acted like

(08:06):
an a hole. That's a good point. I was about
to mention it and Beef last one Beef twin twenty.
I think the backstory makes him more of an a hole. Interesting,
it was a connection between your dad, your dad dad
that you killed by selling the car in the first
place and buying it back. You're not the a hole.
I don't think that's the reason. I think it's sweet. Honestly,
you made a mistake. You did the worst thing ever.

(08:28):
Your mom helped you out.

Speaker 2 (08:29):
Just admit it and just move forward, or actually sell
the car because like, what's gonna happen in three years,
he's gonna like buy the car. Oh, I've found the
owner and I bought it again. Like, eventually, you're gonna
have the car. Right, the end goal is to have
the car. And what was this response? All I have
to work on my lion skills for the next few years. Yeah,
to pull that off. Yeah, that's a great thing to say.

Speaker 1 (08:52):
I hope your wife and daughter, when she's able to read,
finds this. I hope I'm braying, but that is the
end of that story.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
I'm leaving my husband golf. He cares more about it
than our family before. This is my first time ever
posting on here. I made this post earlier today and
was dragged for writing a wall of text, so I
tried to make it shorter. I'm sorry, I'm emotional and
I've never shared anything like this publicly before. Sorry that

(09:20):
it's still pretty long. Please be kind. This comes from
Island Gal eight eight on the r slash Okay storytimes.
I've read a thirty eight female met my now husband
forty mail ten years ago and we've been together for
eight years and married for five. We both come from big,
close knit families and grew up in neighboring beach towns

(09:40):
on the East Coast. I moved away after high school
and had two kids in my early twenties. After becoming
a single mom, I moved back home for family support.
My kids and I have been through a lot, but
we still have an amazing close bond. When I met
my husband, my son was four and my daughter was
turning six. He had a background that included a long
struggle with addiction, but when we got together he was

(10:01):
sober and trying to get his life on track. I
was naive about addiction and I had no experience with it.
He ended things with me at first, saying he didn't
want to hurt me. Later I found out through a
friend that he relapsed and even ended up in jail.
That was his wake up call, and afterward he turned
his life around. I had moved on dating someone else
for a couple of years. When I became single again,

(10:21):
he reached out and tried to reconnect. He said he
had been waiting patiently and bettering himself, hoping for another
chance to deserve someone like me.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
Okay, nice, interesting.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
To rocky road to potentially get back into.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
That's respectful.

Speaker 2 (10:33):
I had never stopped caring about him, so we started dating,
but I took things slow. Soon it became clear that
we were deeply in love and meant for each other.
After two years, we moved in together and he proposed
Soon after. He'd asked both my parents and my kids
for their blessing, and we got married in twenty nineteen,
with my children as our best man and maid of honor. Well,
that's great. I paid for the wedding almost entirely with

(10:55):
my savings, with some additional help from both sets of parents.
Life was good, but the COVID hit and we were
all stuck in the apartment. Who wasn't Yeah, who wasn't
Yike's and my parents generously helped us buy a house.
My husband did not financially contribute to the down payment,
so on paper, my parents and I own the house together. Okay.
We moved into our home in twenty twenty, and my

(11:17):
husband immediately suggested his dad move in to help with
rent and be closer to the family. His parents are
divorced and his dad lived a couple hours away. My
husband has two brothers that live close by, and one
was expecting a baby, their family's first grandchild. I agreed,
and at first things were great. His dad helped with
the chores, contributed financially, and life seemed manageable. But over

(11:40):
time my husband's contribution to the family started to fade.
I work multiple jobs in healthcare field and solely care
for my kids on my own with help my parents.
My husband loves the kids and they get along great,
but he isn't a very involved step parent.

Speaker 1 (11:55):
Ah.

Speaker 2 (11:56):
I do all their pickups and drop off, course concerts
and parent teacher con Which is the only thing he's
consistent about is showing up for my son's games because
they share an interest in that sport. Okay, so kind
of when it's convenient and interesting for him. Yeah, and
I'm not saying like he has to be their dad,
but you know, if you're married to somebody.

Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yeah, be involved in family.

Speaker 2 (12:17):
Yeah, be involved. My husband works in the city and
has a long commute, but only works three and a
half days a week. Even on his days off, the
vast majority of household and family responsibilities fall on me.
I handle all the grocery shopping, household goods, and I'm
the only one who ever cooks. My husband has never
made dinner.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
That's a huge red flag to me, especially that you're
in the healthcare industry, having to do with people all
the time, you're freaking trained, and he's not contributing at all.

Speaker 2 (12:46):
I just feel like, how do you get to that?
How do you put up all that? They did it
for two years?

Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yeah, you put the moves on, you light on thick.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
Yeah, But like if you date for two years and
he's still never cooked, not like say, you knew what
to expect, but like he's obviously you know, ahole for
not cooking or doing anything. But it's like if that
was the expectation off the bat. Yeah, anyway, our house
isn't perfectly clean, but it's never embarrassingly messy. Just lived

(13:13):
in I struggled to keep up with everything on my
own at times and get very little help around the house.
Other than that, we have a good, loving marriage and
a life we're happy with, no major issues, no infidelity,
no major drama. I've lurked on Reddit a lot and
seen some really troubled marriages, which made me feel lucky
that our problem seemed minor until.

Speaker 1 (13:31):
Oh, no, no golf.

Speaker 2 (13:35):
I know it sounds crazy, but I think golf will
be the end of my marriage. About two years ago,
my husband decided to take up golf. As I mentioned,
my husband struggled with addiction for most of his adult
life and now he's sober for close to nine years now,
but moderation is still a challenge for him. He doesn't save,

(13:55):
he spends. He has more clothes and shoes than anyone
I know. They're middle working class and I was always
taught to save. My savings paid for the wedding and house,
and he doesn't know how to save, just like he
doesn't know how to have hobbies in moderation.

Speaker 1 (14:10):
Dude, that's also another thing. If they don't know how
to cook, why have they not talked about financers or
like their thoughts and approaches two finances.

Speaker 2 (14:17):
Yeah, it seems like he's not a contributor, but it
doesn't seem like a surprise, you know. It seems like
this has always kind of been the way he.

Speaker 1 (14:24):
Is, and I guess golf now is his new vice too.

Speaker 2 (14:27):
Last summer we nearly divorced over the amount of time
he spent golfing. He became obsessed. He worked three and
a half days a week and the other three and
a half days golfing.

Speaker 4 (14:36):
Woo.

Speaker 2 (14:37):
I was going through about of depression at the time,
and he was just gone while I struggled to keep
my head above water. He kept golfing, even when I
literally begged him not to. I thought our marriage was over,
but I pulled myself out of my depression, and once
golf season ended, things went back to being okay. Now
golf season is back, and it's somehow worse than before.

(14:58):
He knows that his excessive golfing nearly led to divorce,
yet he still golfs just as much, if not more.
He takes days off to golf, calls in six to
golf stop, and stays out till nearly nine pm. This
dude better be so good at golf. This dude better
be winning competition.

Speaker 1 (15:16):
What's like a good one or two?

Speaker 2 (15:18):
Yeah, anywhere like within like ten of a handicap is
like okay, yeah, you're like you're golfing. But lordy, lord,
if he's trash, that would add so much insult to
this injury. He's just like still really bad at golf,
and he goes golfing every day. That's crazy.

Speaker 1 (15:35):
Does he have kids? He has Op's kids. That's it.

Speaker 2 (15:39):
He goes to the driving ranges after work daily. It's constant.
Not only does he contribute even less at home, I've
lost any help I once had from my father in
law as well. He now enables my husband's behavior, even
encouraging it. They spend more time golfing together than he
spends with me and the kids, by a huge margin.
We don't even get time with anymore, but his dad does.

(16:01):
He's bailed last minute on family trips that were playing
and confirmed weeks even months in advance. Yeah, he's got
to go. He's got to go. These family trips are
the only time we have together anymore, but now he's
skipping them to play golf. He has no restraint, and
it's all he talks about, cares about, and does.

Speaker 1 (16:18):
You got a divorce. He does not respect you, but
he respects golf.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
This is his new addiction. It's really unfortunate, but this
is his new alcohol. When I try to discuss it,
he has massive meltdowns, calling me lazy, attacking my character,
claiming he does everything around here projection. But I promise
you read it at his best. He does the bare minimum.
He takes care of himself, basically does his own laundry,

(16:43):
while I take care of everyone else. He and his
dad don't even buy their own toilet paper. I know
I'm not perfect, but I provide and care for this household,
and I get very little in return. My kids are
teenagers now and are helpful and gracious, but they also
see me struggle while the two men of the house
golf constantly oo. I can't bring it up anymore. It

(17:03):
gets us nowhere, and the once helpful dynamic of my
father in law, who's been living with us for four
years now has changed drastically.

Speaker 1 (17:12):
His dad is living with them.

Speaker 2 (17:13):
My husband's brothers both have small kids, and my in
laws now help them daily. The help I used to
get now goes to them, and all my father in
law does here is golf with my husband. I find
it hard to believe that my father in law doesn't
realize this is destroying my marriage, yet he's complicit. There
is so much resentment building over this. At this point,

(17:36):
I'm numb. He's the only man I've ever loved so completely.
I thought it was fate when we found each other again.
He could have died like so many of his friends
and people we know, but he lived and we reunited.
We found each other again in this life. We love
each other. But is that enough? Is love enough when
there's no quality time, no help, no support, no regard
for my feelings? So am I the ahole for considering

(17:56):
leaving my marriage over golf? And before anyone suggests that,
I'm sure he's not cheating. His location is always at
one of many golf courses, He's not sneaky, and I
have access to his phone. Despite his faults, he is
not a cheater. He doesn't have the stomach for it.
He would never cheat orstray. I don't want to be
with anyone else. All I've ever wanted is to be
married to him forever. But now I'm not sure I

(18:18):
want to stay in a marriage if this is what
it's going to be like, I'm fairly certain it's beyond repair.
I've begged him to choose me, our marriage, our family,
but he chooses golf. I think I've answered my own question.
But thanks in advance for any encouragement or advice.

Speaker 1 (18:33):
Got him out, Get him out of there. He certainly
does not respect you.

Speaker 2 (18:36):
There's got to be a boundary ultimatum. If you golf
more than this amount of time a week, it's over.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
Oh yeah, and she hasn't talked to him about this,
has she op? I think she has, But he has
a meltdown every time.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
Yeah. Yeah, they almost got divorced. Then she pulled herself
out of her depressions props. Good job with no support
from him. He bailed on vass.

Speaker 1 (19:00):
I say, just get rid of him. If he has
a meltdown every time you talk about this, Yeah, they's
just gaslighting.

Speaker 2 (19:05):
I do everything around here. I watch my clubs, I
work on my game.

Speaker 1 (19:09):
I buy new outfits. You know how long it takes
to find the right shoes for Tuesday drives.

Speaker 2 (19:15):
Yeah, you got your tan khakis, you got your your
you know your cream khaki.

Speaker 1 (19:20):
They always got sales on Facebook Marketplace for the right stuff.

Speaker 2 (19:22):
So get rid of him, but give him an ultimatum first,
give him one last chance.

Speaker 5 (19:27):
My husband won't stop celebrating my pregnancy, but I'm not pregnant.

Speaker 1 (19:32):
Huh.

Speaker 5 (19:33):
Interesting. I'm truly at a loss here. This situation has
gotten worrying and I don't know what to do with it.
Since about a week my husband became convinced I'm pregnant.
I have no idea why, because I'm not. We haven't
even started trying, though we do have plans in the future.

Speaker 1 (19:49):
Are you gaining a couple of pounds?

Speaker 5 (19:51):
By the way, this comes from, you throw our underscore
losing mind on the r best of Redditor updates subreddit. So, oh,
we were just making conversation, and yeah I did mention
feeling tired, but that's all. A few hours later, he
just came in so excited. I told him I'm not,
but he won't let it go.

Speaker 1 (20:12):
Oh, so he thinks it's like a surprise. You can
me in for a surprise for me.

Speaker 5 (20:15):
He has made remarks about how happy he is, what
a wonderful mother I'll be, what our baby will be like.
Not all the time, but it has come up multiple
times a day. I told him I'm not. I even
took a test because even I started wondering and he
was undoubtedly negative. I showed him and he just got annoyed,
said tests can be wrong. He didn't speak to me

(20:36):
for the rest of the evening.

Speaker 1 (20:37):
What this is weird. I'm very confused.

Speaker 5 (20:42):
The next morning, he acted as if nothing happened. When
I tell him I'm not, he just kind of shuts
me out. I lost my shit yesterday when we were
in bed and he put his hand on my stomach.
Told him he's acting crazy. I'm not pregnant and his
behavior is scaring me. He went to sleep in the
guest room after that and left for work early in
the morning. I haven't seen him or spoken to him today.

(21:04):
That's so weird. I'm just at a loss. I don't
know where this obsession is coming from. I even asked
him if I gained weight, if that's what has gotten
him confused. He assured me I didn't. I'm thinking of
contacting his parents or maybe a therapist or something. I
honestly don't understand what's happening, and I'm worried about my husband.

Speaker 1 (21:23):
I do not like this at all.

Speaker 5 (21:25):
Edit next day, thank you for all the replies. I
didn't expect all this. It's been overwhelming, and I'm incredibly grateful.
He's asleep next to me right now, and I keep
going through the comments. My husband is one of the
kindest people I've ever met. I promise you all that
he's not trying to manipulate me or would do anything
to harm me. He just thinks I'm pregnant and won't
talk to me if I'm not. But that does make

(21:47):
me believe something is really wrong. I'll contact my and
his parents in the morning once he's left for work,
maybe go stay with my mom for a bit, though
I hate the idea of leaving him like this. I
will also make an appointment with my docter for a
blood test. Thank you all for the advice. This is
to a longer comment addressing the fact that this could

(22:07):
be a delusion, and delusions can become violent. That's kind
of scary. Ooof this reply hit me hard. I appreciate
it a lot. I'm very torn. I love my husband
very much and am worried about him right now, but
I feel increasingly uncomfortable at home as well. A commentator
said the whole phantom pregnancy thing usually only affects women

(22:29):
but one supposes a guy could have it too. Obviously,
as time goes on and you don't produce a bumper baby,
he'll recognize that you're not pregnant. But this probably isn't
some profound mental illness on his part, just the fervid
wish that you could both start working on becoming parents soon.
Maybe talk to him about your timeline at thirty two.
He's probably just more in the ready to be a

(22:50):
dad phase of life than you are in the ready
to be mom phase at twenty six, So remind him
that you've still got time, So just for contact. This
like phantom pregnancy is a thing like women can have
and it has a crazy name too that I like
can't remember right now off.

Speaker 1 (23:07):
The top of my head, but very unprofessional of you.

Speaker 5 (23:09):
But women will like have this delusion that they're pregnant
and they'll be like super convinced and like go to
doctors and every like all tests will be negative.

Speaker 1 (23:19):
I've read stories about this. This one lady try to
take her sister's baby because they thought it was her
kid and it wasn't and she couldn't get pregnant. Does
it happen with women that mainly can't get pregnant.

Speaker 5 (23:30):
Anyone can get it. But yeah, it's really like interesting
and bizarre. So like these women are genuinely convinced that
they're pregnant but they're not. Yeah, and so this, you know,
they're saying like, oh, maybe like this guy is having it,
but it doesn't seem that way because yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (23:44):
This is very weird expecting a child going.

Speaker 5 (23:46):
Through that, Opie said, I'll try to do that. It
just feels like such a weird response to wanting a child,
agreed comment. He replying to OPI, this is not an
urgent enough response to what seems like a pretty serious delusion.
This behavior isn't normal or explicable in reasonable terms, Ohpi
said fair it is very unlike him. I might call

(24:07):
my mom ask her if I can stay with them
for a bit, if only to get all of this sorted.
I just wanted him to snap out of it. I
missed my husband as I know him.

Speaker 1 (24:15):
That's smart. I like that step.

Speaker 5 (24:16):
Mentor would he harm you if he thought you got
in a bin, because that's a possibility. He may accuse
you of having an open if you get medical confirmation
that you're not pregnant. After he's decided that you are.
This is like jumping to conclusions a little bit, though.

Speaker 1 (24:31):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 5 (24:32):
It could be something, and OPI said, I hadn't even
thought of that. Sorry, thanks for your reply commentary. The
first time I got pregnant, my husband knew before I did.
He had a feeling. Home tests said negative, but a
blood test showed positive. OPI said, Oh my, that's wild.
Either way, I'll meet with my guy no, if only
to have some conclusive proof that I'm not. She did

(24:53):
have an update mini update next day after edit. Things
escalated yesterday, but I'm with my mom and his parents
are at our place.

Speaker 1 (25:02):
Oh no, it may have gotten a little violent.

Speaker 5 (25:04):
That's scary. Okay, this is weird. Update again two days later.
Hi everyone, I hope it's okay I post this update.
I really appreciate everyone asking if I'm safe, and I am.
I wish I could give clear answers, but I can't.
Things escalated when I tried to speak to him. Keeping
some of y'all's advice in mind, I sat him down

(25:25):
and explained to him that I'd love to have kids
with him in the future, but that I'm not pregnant
right now, and that his insistence worries and scares me.
I told him we could go to the doctor together
if that would put his mind at ease, or I
could take another test in front of him. I was
just hoping to snap him out of it. Somehow. He
got very agitated, said many hurtful things and accuse me

(25:46):
of being a liar many times, that I'm trying to
keep our baby away from him, and so on. Nothing
made sense, and I wasn't feeling safe anymore. I knew
my husband would never harm me in any way, but
that wasn't my husband. Things got worse. He did hurt
me no what This girl is still defending him, but

(26:07):
nothing permanent or even emergency care worthy. There is no excusing.
I also know that he if he was in his
right mind, he never would have done anything like this.
Maybe he's having a true like psychotic break. That's what
sounds like, because this is just like getting way too weird.

Speaker 1 (26:25):
This is getting really weird.

Speaker 5 (26:26):
I called mine and his parents, and I'm now staying
with my mom. He did seem to calm down a
bit when his parents arrived. I haven't seen or spoken
to him since then. His mother, she's an angel, is
keeping me posted about everything. We all agree something is
very off about him and we don't know what it is.
But he hasn't agreed to getting himself checked out in
any way. I don't know how they'll go about it,

(26:47):
but they say, and I painfully have to agree that
it's best to keep my distance for a bit, as
most of it is aimed at me. What the heck?

Speaker 1 (26:56):
Why the parents are saying that?

Speaker 5 (26:58):
Yeah, the parents are saying to distance.

Speaker 1 (27:00):
Because she it's her fault basically.

Speaker 5 (27:02):
No, No, they're saying because like he's not well, Like
he's basically like targeting her, so they're trying to protect her.

Speaker 1 (27:10):
Gotcha, that's good, Okay, okay, good parents.

Speaker 5 (27:12):
I'm safe. So is he? I miss him so much
and I just want an answer as to why he's
being like this. I keep trying to figure out if
there were signs before or what I did wrong. Thank
you for all the replies. They were a great help.
It's so kind you cared to ask if I'm safe.
This is so weird.

Speaker 1 (27:28):
So it's a psychotic break and with whatever the name
of the delusions, what did he do to her?

Speaker 5 (27:35):
I mean, she doesn't specify, but she says she hurt him,
They technically could admit him unwillingly since he put somebody
else in physical danger.

Speaker 1 (27:43):
I think that might be the best step until you
figure out what's actually happening. You gotta know what's going
on up there.

Speaker 5 (27:48):
Yeah, I don't know, honestly, weird situation. I'm just trying
to imagine, like, what would happen if I saw this
guy like in a psyche are We might discharge him
if he's just like YadA YadA YadA, But then hearing
that he hurt someone, then we'd be like, Okay, no,
you're staying with us. There's just more comments and another update. Okay,
this is lots of comment. Okay, relevant comment. Let's pray
it's not us since he refuses to get checked out.

(28:11):
I'm so sorry, Op. I hope everything gets better soon.
I don't know if going back to him is a
good idea though he physically hurt you, OP said, I
do think that whatever is causing this is the reason
he hurt. We've been together for some years now and
he's never even raised his voice at me up until this.
I do think this is like something not his baseline.
So yeah, I don't know. I feel like we don't

(28:31):
have enough context for this mini update too. He has
apparently agreed to get himself checked out, but I haven't
heard anything else. He's in the hospital. Many people were
right about it being a medical issue. I'll get more
into it at some point, maybe, but first need to
see what's going to happen with him. I've seen him
a couple of times. Sometimes he's his normal self. Sometimes

(28:52):
he can't stand the side of me. We're managing somehow.
Update two eleven days from og post. I don't know
if anything will see this here, but you've been all
kind and keep asking whether or not we're okay. I
hope i'll reach you like this. I'm going to keep
this short. My husband has a brain tumor.

Speaker 1 (29:10):
I knew it. I freaking knew it. I called that.
I called that from way back. I knew it.

Speaker 5 (29:16):
A lot of people commented this, and I feel an
immense amount of guilt that I hadn't considered it till
then all the headaches. In hindsight, I had previously dismissed
the symptoms because of his stressful work situation and so on.
I'm beating myself up that I hadn't seen it before. Yeah,
so that makes a lot more sense. Yeah, because I'm like,

(29:37):
this guy's too young for dementia, because like, this can
happen with dementia too. This makes a lot more sense.
A wonderful team of neurosurgeons, oncologists and other physicians is
figuring out the best approach here. If there is one,
we'll hear more in the next days. Well, don't divorce him.
He's got a brain tumor. I've spent more time with
my husband. Some moments he's his amazing self. Others he's

(29:57):
filled with anger. It's difficult, but we're managing. I wouldn't
have been able to do without the support of our
friends and family. I love my husband. This situation is terrifying.
In moments of clarity, he's trying to make me laugh,
so I don't worry. That's who he is. Thank you
everyone for pushing me to get him checked out.

Speaker 1 (30:15):
Nice?

Speaker 5 (30:16):
All right?

Speaker 1 (30:17):
All right? Is that it? There's more? I like this step.
This is a saga. Great step. Don't beat yourself up
too much because you don't know. I know, because I
read so many of these freaking stories. I can about
call anything.

Speaker 5 (30:29):
Okay, there's more comments and more updates.

Speaker 1 (30:31):
All right, let's do it.

Speaker 5 (30:33):
This is three weeks later from the original post title.
I'm irrationally angry at my husband for having a brain tumor.
I can't say these feelings out loud, not to the
people around me, so I hope it's okay. I do
it here.

Speaker 1 (30:46):
So she's just venting.

Speaker 5 (30:47):
She's venting, and you know what, I respect that. This
is a very frustrating thing to get.

Speaker 1 (30:51):
Maybe do it in your notes app keep it there.
I don't know about putting it online, but okay.

Speaker 5 (30:56):
But I'm furious with my husband for getting sick. I
know he's not blame, I know he's suffering, Yet I'm
still furious with him. I can't explain it. He's the
love of my life. How dare he get sick? How
dare he change anything about the wonderful life we have planned?
How dare you leave me so much sooner than when
we were old in senile two months ago? Our life

(31:17):
was perfect? How could everything get so horrible so fast?
I love him so much it hurts, and because of that,
I'm so angry with him right now. I feel like
a horrible person.

Speaker 1 (31:28):
I think we should replace him with brain tumor. That's
what it sounds like.

Speaker 5 (31:31):
This also is just kind of like the stages of grief.
It's like denial, anger, acceptance eventually, but that sucks. She
has another update. This is uh the last one. Also,
I'm like kind of concerned because like some brain tumors
are fatal, but not all of them, and it seems

(31:51):
like we don't really know what stage this is at.
So that's a lot. Update post three six weeks since
og post. It's two AI. I'm here so I apologize
if this is not ve coherent. I'm going to step
away from all social media, and I wanted to leave
you all with a brutally honest update. It's silly, but
y'all support has meant a lot to me. Don't get

(32:12):
me wrong. I have wonderful family and friends, but in
a way I have to comfort them too, and I
can't deal with it right now. My husband is dying.

Speaker 1 (32:20):
No, so was that a bad stage.

Speaker 5 (32:23):
In the five weeks since this diagnosis, he's gotten worse quickly. Today,
the decision has been made not to continue treatment or
even properly start it. He's not strong enough. He has
a month maybe if we're lucky. That's crazy. He's thirty two.
I'm furious at the world right now, and I'm furious
at him, which makes me an enormous bitch because what

(32:45):
kind of person is angry at their husband for being ill?
I love him so much and I hate him for it.
I'm sorry this isn't a better update. Wish you all
the best.

Speaker 1 (32:55):
Does it sound like you're actually angry at him. It's
just the brain tumor.

Speaker 5 (33:00):
You're just frustrated at the world, and I would be too.

Speaker 1 (33:02):
Ah, that is tough.

Speaker 5 (33:04):
That's really sad.

Speaker 1 (33:05):
Moral of the story. If someone's acting.

Speaker 5 (33:07):
Crazy, don't rule out a brain tumor. That's really scary though.
And yeah, brain tumors are not common. I feel like
some people like overfreak out, so don't overfreak out if
things happen.

Speaker 1 (33:17):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (33:18):
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Speaker 1 (33:25):
That's so sad. I hate that for Ope, I hope
things turn out well for you.

Speaker 5 (33:31):
I'm praying for you.

Speaker 1 (33:32):
Op the moments that you do have with your husband,
I hope that you can enjoy them and the brain
tumor doesn't like mess all that stuff up.

Speaker 5 (33:39):
And also like, take care of yourself because that's that's
a lot.

Speaker 1 (33:43):
That's the end of that.

Speaker 4 (33:44):
I exposed my friend for cheating with a married man.

Speaker 1 (33:48):
Now her wedding's off.

Speaker 3 (33:50):
Bye Bye, Dunzel gone.

Speaker 4 (33:54):
I thirty five female and my friend are thirty one female.
We'll call her Rachel. Have been close for about four years.
I'm married and she's engaged. Rachel enjoys Spanish music and
my husband is a well known salsa dancer in his scene.

Speaker 3 (34:09):
Spicy We Spicy Spicy.

Speaker 4 (34:12):
We've taken her dancing a couple times, and the three
of us have become pretty close by the way. This
comes from user tomatio Oka forty six thirty three on
the r slash Okay storytime stubreddit. Recently, we all went
to a salsa bar for my husband's friend's birthday party.
Rachel's fiance couldn't make it as he was working during
the night. Rachel drank a whole jug of cocktails by

(34:34):
herself and got pretty tipsy. This is where things got tricky.
While I was on the dance floor with some girlfriends,
my husband stood by our table. Rachel approached him, placed
her hand on his chest and started running it down
while shaking her hips. I'm on tonight did a shakira.
She did it real quick.

Speaker 3 (34:52):
Shakira shakira, shakira, shakira.

Speaker 4 (34:54):
My husband was visibly taken aback and took a small
step backwards, left, and then walked away.

Speaker 1 (35:01):
I saw this happen as.

Speaker 4 (35:03):
In a few others, but I didn't think too much
of it at first, since Rachel had also been dancing
a bit provocatively with other men, including one of the
band members, despite being engaged. After that incident, my husband
felt uncomfortable and decided to leave the party early. He
later told me how uneasy the situation made him, especially
because he's known to be a conservative dancer who strictly

(35:24):
follows social dance etiquette, meaning no inappropriate touching. We agree
that I should have a conversation with Rachel to address
the issue. When I reached out to her to meet
in person, she kept postpony, so we eventually had a
video call. During the conversation, I explained my husband's boundaries
and reassured her that we knew she didn't mean any harm.

(35:44):
We laughed it off, and she even offered to apologize,
but I told her it wasn't necessary. We just wanted
to set boundaries for future interactions. We ended the call
on what I thought was a good note. However, two
days later, she texted me saying she was hurt that
I would think she had other intentions. Then she dropped
a bombshell. She uninvited both me and my husband from

(36:06):
her wedding. Sounds like you don't want people who know
about you your habits to be at your wedding.

Speaker 3 (36:13):
That's what I was gonna say. She doesn't want her
friends and fiance to find.

Speaker 4 (36:17):
Out nobody with the inside scoop is allowed at the wedding.

Speaker 3 (36:20):
Even though so many people witnessed it.

Speaker 1 (36:22):
We were shocked.

Speaker 4 (36:24):
My husband and I have been there for Rachel and
her fiance in many ways, from helping with the proposal,
to designing her wedding invites for free, and even vouching
for her fiance's character in church so they could have
a Catholic wedding. I tried calling Rachel to explain, but
she ignored me and her fiance followed suit. Since we

(36:44):
have mutual friends, some of whom I'm closer to, I
had no choice but to let them know I was uninvited.
A few of them have now decided not to attend
the wedding in solidarity.

Speaker 1 (36:55):
Here's where it gets more complicated.

Speaker 4 (36:58):
After our conversation, Rachel started hanging out at a bar
with my husband's friends. Initially, we decided not to tell
anyone about what happened because we thought she might just
be stressed out due to the wedding. However, I always
love a good However, she started telling them that I
was very sensitive and insecure, which is why she decided

(37:18):
not to have me at the wedding. She conveniently left
out the part where she inappropriately touched my husband. Now
I feel guilty that she's losing friends at her wedding. However,
I felt I had no other option but to explain
why I was uninvited since she wouldn't communicate with me.
Am I the a hole here. I'm gonna say no no.

(37:39):
Initial impression is no, no no. But we have more story.
I have an update. I had to tell one of
my good friends, let's call her Freya. I told Freya
what happened, as she was invited to the wedding as well.
She said she's not surprised by this behavior, as Rachel
has tried to be a little funny with her husband.
Rachel and Freya's husband met at a birthday party and

(38:00):
she started teasing him in a playful manner. Her husband
is a little quiet. She then added him on Instagram
and tried chatting it up with him. He blocked her.
She didn't want to let us all know because Rachel
is someone who's very friendly and a social butterfly, so
she felt maybe she was being a little conservative, but
she said she didn't have a good gut feeling about Rachel.

(38:22):
She and her husband rarely attend any events with Freya
in it, and if she does, her husband refuses to
be there To avoid any sort of drama. They have
chose not to attend the wedding as well. And another update,
So looks like the momentum is starting to swing.

Speaker 3 (38:37):
It looks like Rachel is just she does want to
get married.

Speaker 1 (38:42):
Update. The tea just keeps spilling.

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Speaker 1 (38:51):
Okay, back to the story.

Speaker 4 (38:52):
Firstly, I do want to thank everyone who left comments
and advice. Gave me some pretty good ideas that I
almost executed, but your words gave me some peace and
reassurance as I really felt like a horrible person when
people started to boycott her wedding, so thank you for
the kind words. There is an update. It's a little long,
but bear with me. So I posted my story about

(39:13):
a week ago, but to give you a timeline, that
drama actually kicked off about a month ago. Fast forward
to just a few days ago, and I get a
text from Rachel's fiance at one in the morning. Uh
oh uh, oh, yes, you read that right, one in
the morning. He's asking if my husband and I are
awake because he has an emergency. Next thing I know,

(39:35):
we're on a call. He starts asking us about a guy,
let's call him d who's a band member who frequently
plays at the bar, and ask us for his number.
My husband knows of him and has a mutual friend
with d. But here's where it gets juicy. Turns out
Rachel's fiance caught her lying about where she was one night.

Speaker 1 (39:54):
She'd been hanging.

Speaker 4 (39:55):
Out at Dee's house, of all places, and lied about
being there and that was her excuse. Oh, she was
just dropping off one of my husband's friends. Rachel doesn't
have a car and doesn't even drive, but she said
she was just being a good friend because my husband's
friend was wasted. But here's the kicker. Their friend lives
a good forty minutes away from D's place. You do

(40:17):
the bath. Basically, she lied and said my husband's friend
lives there. It was actually D's house. Apparently she was
with D until four am for drinks at his house alone.

Speaker 1 (40:30):
Did I mention D is married with two kids.

Speaker 3 (40:33):
I want to say something about D's.

Speaker 4 (40:36):
About D's nuts. His wife and children were conveniently out
of town, which is classy. Right, yeah, easy, But wait,
there's more. The lies don't stop there. Rachel's own bridesmaid
caught her dancing inappropriately with D at the bar and
saw them kiss. The bride'smaid and groomsmen were close friends

(40:58):
of both Rachel and her fiance, and has since been
collecting receipts evidence that Rachel has been emotionally cheating and
lying to her fiance talking about I mean physically as well.
I mean they were kissed, this all kiss. Rachel eventually
admitted to everything except sleeping with D, of course, because

(41:19):
they didn't go that far, right, Yeah, that's believable. Her
fiance wanted D's number to talk to him to confirm
if what Rachel said is true, we didn't give his
number because we don't have it, but he found it anyway,
Her fiance is done with her. He can't trust her anymore.
He's even gone as far as talking to her parents

(41:39):
and calling off the wedding.

Speaker 3 (41:41):
As you should.

Speaker 1 (41:42):
This isn't the first time she cheated.

Speaker 4 (41:44):
She was engaged before and cheated on her previous fiance as.

Speaker 3 (41:48):
Well, Rachel.

Speaker 4 (41:50):
Some people just don't change. Back to Rachel's current fiance.
Despite everything, he's been graceful enough to tell people that
the split was mutual, trying to spare her from any
public shame. And how does Rachel repay him for this
kindness by texting everyone she knows claiming she called off
the wedding because her ex fiance is emotionally abusive and

(42:13):
didn't trust her.

Speaker 3 (42:14):
Oh so she's cuckoo.

Speaker 4 (42:16):
I think now it's time for the fiance to reveal
the truth. Oh yeah, If she's going to go on
the war path, the truth needs to be revealed.

Speaker 3 (42:24):
She can't handle the truth.

Speaker 4 (42:25):
I guess that's easier than admitting you've been sneaking out
until four am at another guy's house. Right at this point,
my husband and I decided to tell his friends the
truth because of course Rachel dragged their names into it too.
And now that friend is angry because she was never
that wasted and has never asked Rachel for help, nor

(42:46):
did Rachel send her home at any point in time.
She is ready to confront Rachel for using her as
an alibi. And by the way, if you ever need
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Speaker 1 (43:08):
The truth needs to be revealed.

Speaker 3 (43:09):
The truth definitely needs to be revealed. Rachel is a
compulsive liar, a compulsive cheater, and just a compulsive terrible person.
So I think everyone just leave her b Yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:21):
Rachel, let her go.

Speaker 4 (43:23):
Rachel's very clearly the a hole of this story.

Speaker 3 (43:25):
She loves throwing people under the bus. Like anyone who
she can throw unto the bus, she'll throw under the bus. Well,
you cheat one field the under that's the first thing
you cheat on another fiance. You keep cheating on your fiance,
you'll probably cheat on your next fiance. But I think
in terms of op being worried about like having the
truth be out there and being like the ones kind
of responsible for it. It's like, if anyone gets mad,

(43:46):
if they're directing anger at you, they should be directing
it it. Rachel, Oh, one hundred percent no, and you
want to clear your name. You don't want to seem bad.

Speaker 4 (43:53):
I think, well clear, they're clearing their name and the fiancee.

Speaker 3 (43:57):
No, I was gonna say the fiance deserves to not
have any of this tar because he tried to go.
I was like, oh, you know what, this sucks, wedding's off.
Let's just be you know, friendly. No, she wants she
wants war, She's gonna get war.

Speaker 4 (44:08):
Let's finish the story. Honestly, I've had enough. I've been
telling people what actually happened after the call, because, let's
face it, Rachel doesn't deserve protection when all she does
is throw everyone under the bus. Hey, go to your shot,
high five boop.

Speaker 3 (44:24):
It's like I call it. I called this as I
sees it.

Speaker 4 (44:26):
Her ex fiance tried to spare her some dignity, but
she chose deflection over reflection. I love that if her
shady behavior is out in the open. Now that's on her,
and there you have it. I didn't have to lift
a finger. Wedding canceled, her brides and groomsmen have all unfriended,
her friends, lost, and all because she couldn't keep her
lies straight. Karma did the heavy lifting this time, and

(44:50):
that is the end of that story. Good good job.
So glad that Rachel is gone.

Speaker 3 (44:55):
We'll see you in the next one.

Speaker 4 (44:57):
My maid of honor was blazed during my wedding, so
I'm cutting her off.

Speaker 3 (45:01):
Another victim of the Devil's let us.

Speaker 1 (45:03):
YEA hate to see it.

Speaker 4 (45:05):
I'm a twenty three year old woman who married my husband,
a twenty seven year old man, in November of twenty
twenty four. We got engaged Christmas twenty twenty three and
immediately started planning. We chose our wedding date to coincide
with my late grandparents anniversary, and both of our families
were ecstatic.

Speaker 1 (45:22):
By the way, this.

Speaker 4 (45:23):
Comes from user beautiful U eighty eight thirty eight on
the r slash Okay storytime subredding. So, when it came
to selecting my bridal party, I initially asked a friend
to be in it, but she was undergoing nursing school
and felt she couldn't fully commit. She politely declined, but
agreed to be a bridesmaid. This leads me to my
maid of honor, who i'll call Abby. Abby is my

(45:46):
new brother in law's wife and was previously married, which
will be relevant later. On. Less than two months before
the wedding, Abby informed me that she wouldn't be ordering
the dress I had requested. Keep in mind that I
was covering all hair and makeup costs, providing accommodations for
the night, and even offered to pay for her dress,

(46:07):
which she refused, saying she would never wear it again.

Speaker 1 (46:11):
This was frustrating, especially since she had been.

Speaker 4 (46:14):
Telling me for months that she had picked out a
dress and even sent me photos of it. I made
it clear to my bridal party that they could choose
their dress styles, but the dresses needed to be the
color I provided long and ordered from a specific website
since that's where I was ordering the groomsman's ties. Everyone complied,

(46:34):
except for my maid of honor. When I asked Abby
if she wanted to participate in the wedding, she confirmed
that she did.

Speaker 1 (46:41):
We came to a.

Speaker 4 (46:42):
Mutual agreement she would walk down the aisle, but sit
on the front row with the parents. She seemed happy
with this arrangement, and so was I. Due to the circumstances,
I had to choose a new maidive honor with less
than two months to go. I asked a friend, alcohol Tia,
who agreed to take on the even though she was
dating Abby's ex husband. Oo's that's a little spicy, complicated

(47:07):
layer right there. We discussed this for weeks, and Tia
had been eager to be my maid of honor when
she learned that Abby would not fulfill her duties. Although
I expected Abby to be responsible for planning my bachelorette party,
I didn't have one despite it being planned, and I
was expecting to cover the entire cost. This brings me
to the day of my wedding. Everything was going smoothly,

(47:29):
despite a little drama at the rehearsal between Tia and
my husband's best man, who didn't want to walk together.
We managed to settle that. Then Tia decided she didn't
want her makeup done, and a few other bridesmaids chose
to do their own.

Speaker 1 (47:43):
I took it in stride.

Speaker 4 (47:44):
Everyone in the bridal party kept saying it was my
husband's and my day, and that everyone needed to do
what we wanted. All I wanted was for the day
to be perfect, so I let things slide.

Speaker 1 (47:55):
Yeah, what have we all? Isn't that just a simple request?
One perfect day for my wedding?

Speaker 3 (48:01):
That's that simple again, what's the saying my wedding, my rules.

Speaker 4 (48:06):
Once hair and makeup were done, we all headed back
to the cabin. That's when Tia started acting strange. And
I don't just be nervous. When she agreed to be
my maid of honor, she had mentioned wanting to smoke
a little bit of the devil lettuce to take the
edge off. Having consumed with her multiple times, I knew
she could handle it, so I was fine with it,

(48:28):
and even joked that I might as well. At the cabin,
she kept fumbling with things and looked a bit off.
She became unusually quiet, which isn't like her, but I
tried to brush it off as nerves.

Speaker 1 (48:39):
Oh boy, was I wrong.

Speaker 4 (48:41):
After taking some pictures, we arrived at the venue and
I was ushered into a back room so no one
would see me in my dress. I started to feel nervous.
I should have mentioned earlier that I have some mental
health issues, including severe anxiety. I began to cry and
have an anxiety attack, but I was able to calm
down a little. If you're gonna get anxious on your wedding,

(49:01):
it's yeah, that makes sense. If you have anxiety, I
bet you'd be anxious on your wedding.

Speaker 3 (49:05):
It's one of your biggest days.

Speaker 4 (49:07):
That's when Tia came in and said she was going
to touch up my eyeliner. I thought nothing of it
at first, but then she started rummaging through my makeup bag,
claiming she couldn't find it. I tried to assist her,
but from my bridesmaid's perspective, it looked like helping a
wasted five year old. I eventually told her not to
worry about it, as eyeliner wasn't my main concern. I

(49:28):
was wearing glasses anyway, so it's not a big deal.
The ceremony came and went, and although there were some
bumps in the road, overall it was absolutely beautiful and
at the end.

Speaker 1 (49:37):
Of the day we were Marrieday.

Speaker 4 (49:42):
The reception started and my husband and I went back
down to the pond at the venue to take pictures
while everyone ate, so we could stay on schedule. We
took amazing pictures and were so happy until I returned
to the reception and two of my bridesmaids told me
that Tia was freaking out. She was dragging her dress
sleeve through her food, picking it up with her hands,

(50:03):
and making uncomfortable comments to others in the bridal party.
I was frustrated because she had never acted like this before.
And when she arrived, oh my god, she was at
a higher elevation than the moon, and honestly, I wasn't
convinced it was just from the devil's lettuce. Her eyes
weren't red, but her pupils were enormous, and she could

(50:26):
barely form a coherent sentence. At that moment, I knew
it was going to be a disaster. Yeah, sounds like
she's done a little something on top of whatever.

Speaker 3 (50:36):
She's literally higher than Cloud nine.

Speaker 6 (50:38):
By the way, if you want to see bonus videos
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Speaker 1 (50:42):
On Facebook for more. Okay, back to the story.

Speaker 4 (50:45):
To make matters worse, I realized that our venue owner,
who was also our coordinator, had just entered the room.
This venue had a strict no booze, no substance policy,
and we had been warned that we would be kicked
out if any were found. I know it was stupid
of me to tell Tia that she could consume a

(51:05):
little devil's lettuce before she came. When the coordinator asked
if everything was okay, we all said yes, but we
noted that Tia wasn't going to do her speech because
she was anxious. She had no problem with this and
immediately suggested an alternative.

Speaker 1 (51:18):
We could have an.

Speaker 4 (51:19):
Open floor for anyone who wanted to speak during the
Sparkler exit. This sounded amazing to me, and for about
five minutes everything seemed to be back on track. We
were informed that group pictures were coming up. One of
my bridesmaids took Tia outside to babysit her, while another
helped me go to the bathroom. For anyone who has
worn a white puffy ball gown dress, you understand the struggle.

(51:41):
I can't relate, but I can.

Speaker 3 (51:43):
I know the struggle.

Speaker 4 (51:43):
I can sympathize.

Speaker 3 (51:44):
It's a big struggle.

Speaker 4 (51:45):
When we were done, we all went outside. My husband,
my bridesmaid and I sat down outside waiting for the
family to get ready for pictures and for our photographer
to prepare as well. This is when Tia came over
and started trying to use my dress as a blanket, Yes.

Speaker 1 (52:01):
A blanket.

Speaker 3 (52:02):
What did she take?

Speaker 4 (52:03):
I have a feeling I know what it is, but
I'm not gonna say.

Speaker 3 (52:05):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (52:06):
I seriously couldn't make this up even if I tried.
I asked her not to use my dress in that way,
A no brainer, I thought, and she responded with.

Speaker 1 (52:14):
Oh yeah, ha.

Speaker 4 (52:16):
And then sat so close to me that she might
as well have been in my lap. I believe this
person has consumed a fungus of some kind.

Speaker 3 (52:23):
Ah.

Speaker 4 (52:24):
As you can probably tell, I had reached my limit
with her behavior, and I won't lie. I was being
a bit of an a hole.

Speaker 3 (52:30):
At this point.

Speaker 1 (52:31):
Pictures came and went, and.

Speaker 4 (52:32):
My husband asked if I wanted to take a breather
because he could see the anger and stress on my face.
I agreed, and he and his best man went to
get his overnight bag out of his car and put
it into mine. At that moment, two of my bridesmaids
came outside along with Tia. One of the bride'smaids asked
if she could run to the cabin and get her
stuff and I say yes. Then Tia looked at me

(52:53):
and said, I'm not really sure what's going on, and
I'm sorry I didn't give a speech, but after this,
I don't think we should be friends anymore. Definitely on fungus, Definitely,
way too much fungus. Don't do fungus at a wedding
where you're the maid of honor.

Speaker 1 (53:08):
Dumb, dumb, what are you doing?

Speaker 3 (53:10):
Don't do it at all.

Speaker 1 (53:12):
There's a time in a place.

Speaker 4 (53:14):
After hearing that with the coldest tone and look, I replied,
that's probably for the best. You should get your stuff
and leave. Obviously I had enough. My husband, family, the
entire bridal party, and friends who heard it said I
was one hundred percent in the right. This brought me
to a point where I was completely done and crying

(53:36):
from anger. We ended up not doing a first dance
and instead did a mock send off so the lighting
would be right. We took some fake first dance pictures,
but it just wasn't the same. We left maybe thirty
minutes after everything happened, even though we had events planned
for two more hours. But you know what event we
have planned for you every day, every single weekday three

(53:58):
pmpst every weekday we go live on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,
and Instagram. All you have to do is tap our
profile on any one of those respective platforms and you're
in OP. I think made a perfectly fine call.

Speaker 3 (54:14):
I don't blame OP for any of that, and I
signed with OPU being super angry.

Speaker 4 (54:19):
Yeah, I would be too. Like if if if I
was depending on somebody and they did that the one
day that I was depending on them, I'd be like,
I can't. I can't trust you with a single thing.

Speaker 2 (54:31):
Now.

Speaker 3 (54:31):
Now, if it was again an accident because accidents had happened,
This is a terrible day to have an accident, but
accidents do happen, then I would converse. But it doesn't
seem like this was I doubt it. There's no way
that was an accident because it was like the limit
what you're doing with the Devil's let us.

Speaker 4 (54:45):
It sounds like somebody is not able to participate responsibly
in these kind of activities. Let's finish this story. Now
that I've received some of our photos back, I realized
just how messed up Tia looks in them, And to
be honest, the pictures are quite bad. Not do to
our photographer. She was amazing. It's just the pictures with
Tia in them. She ended up calling me on our honeymoon,

(55:06):
saying she had no idea what she had done, but
that everyone was telling her how she messed everything up
and ruined the entire night. She asked if we could
have a sit down conversation when we returned, But I
don't think that's a good idea. I'm not really sure
what to do, but I don't believe it's my responsibility
to make her feel better about what she did or
to give her a pass. Honestly, after what happened, I

(55:27):
don't want anything to do with her. So am I
the a hole? I think you should maybe try to
hear her out and what happened to her if she's
really like I don't even remember what happened, because that
could be a more serious situation where you have somebody
in that group was potentially doing something very illegal.

Speaker 3 (55:47):
Could have been an accident, It could have been an
accident of like oh what, So.

Speaker 4 (55:51):
I think hear her out on that you can still
be perfectly fine and being like, hey, you know, I
don't want to have any contact with you.

Speaker 3 (55:58):
I think you ruined my wedding. I'm kind of done
with you or low contact, no contact, it's up to you.
But I still what I believe in is here out.

Speaker 4 (56:07):
I hope this isn't condescending, but I feel like this,
like over time will go away on its own.

Speaker 3 (56:13):
It will.

Speaker 4 (56:14):
It doesn't seem like a thing that's a permanent cutting
them off out of my life for good. Yeah, but
definitely like you'd have to reassess the level of your
your friendship for sure. My friend is never happy for me,
and I'm sick of it.

Speaker 3 (56:32):
I'm happy for you, op, I'll be happy for you.

Speaker 1 (56:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (56:35):
And YouTube dakode.

Speaker 1 (56:36):
Yeppy for you happy.

Speaker 4 (56:38):
We got enough happiness to go around over I'll share
some happiness with you. I'm twenty two female and I've
had a friend twenty two female Jess that I met
almost five years ago, and since year one we've been close,
or so I thought. By the way, this comes from
user Cheshire sixty seven on the r slash Okay storytime
subprett it. So everything began this summer when we went

(57:01):
together to a summer internship to another country. We lived
together and everything, and she met someone twenty four male
Frank from a different country also visiting on a group
chat before we got there. They talked a lot, and
when they met in person, they started going out a lot.
I was happy for her, she broke up with someone
not too long ago before that, but I was also

(57:23):
worried because she hates long distance relationships, and even though
she always said they weren't going to be a thing,
they ended up being a thing.

Speaker 3 (57:32):
We're not gonna be a thing. It's not gonna happen.

Speaker 4 (57:35):
Famous last words of people who become things.

Speaker 3 (57:37):
We're a thing.

Speaker 4 (57:38):
A few weeks later, I started talking with someone. We
met their twenty six mail Jason, and we clicked during
our first conversation and compared to them, we made it
official and had it clear that we wanted to keep
dating even as a long distance couple. And look at
that clear communication unheard of. During the last two weeks there,

(57:59):
Jess had a few dis dis agreements with Frank, disagreements
and discussions that even from the beginning had existed but
had been dismissed. This got to a point that he
started calling her names and making her cry more times
than I actually knew, which I discovered later, and our
last week there they broke up. He was the kind
of person who will make you cry and then try

(58:20):
to fix everything with a gift. We told her, me
and our other friends that it wasn't a good thing
to stay with this guy, but she didn't care, and
even after their breakup, they kept talking. One day she
asked my opinion, and I told her the truth that
I didn't even like him, so she should worry about
herself and not let him treat her like that. She

(58:42):
got mad at me and left the room.

Speaker 3 (58:44):
She could fix them. Don't worry, she's like I put
to fix them.

Speaker 1 (58:47):
I could fix him.

Speaker 4 (58:48):
I kept going out with my boyfriend before leaving the country,
and she would make comments telling me to do stuff
with her so that I wouldn't go out, and at
the end of the day she didn't even do that,
just me. Right before leaving, she told me not to
tell my family or someone else at home about my relationship.
After all, I should wait to see if we were

(59:10):
gonna last, which we might not. Anyway, I got so
sad and mad. What kind of friend tells you that
she doesn't think your relationship's gonna work. At the end,
I told my parents and they were okay with it,
and we are still together, congrats. We didn't see each
other much after the summer, but one of our conversations
when we came back was her not happy that I

(59:33):
told people about it, and when I talk about how
my family accepted him, she didn't say anything bad, but
I could feel something was wrong. Weeks later, I was
talking with a friend, the kind that's always there for
you in supporting, so I told him my doubts that
I felt like she wasn't happy about it and the
things that she did when we were visiting that other country,

(59:55):
and his answer surprised me and made me sad. He said, quote,
I'm glad you're not with her so much now. She
has always been like that to you, but you just
never noticed. He told me how she used to say
how I wasn't smart, but I'm actually dumb. Ironically I
have better grades than her. How after an exam she

(01:00:16):
tried to dismiss my note and how I was just lucky.
And she even used to tell people that I liked
her ex boyfriend back when they were dating, which is
something she even told me once, but didn't say that
she told everyone, just that she was sure of it,
and that was a lie.

Speaker 1 (01:00:33):
By the way, I never liked him. I just tolerated
him because of her.

Speaker 4 (01:00:36):
But she never believed me, so that kind of hurt
me more that she wanted so hard to believe that
I was jealous of her and wanted her ex When
your friend's trying to spread their jelly all over the place,
you want to get out of there because that's a
sticky situation. More weeks later, we met in person again
because of a school event, and she just talked about

(01:00:57):
her something I realized she used to do a lot,
but I ignored it before. And when someone mentioned going
to the same country we went to and meeting someone
there like me, she laughed and said not to and
that she should look in another country with better people
than the ones that we met. No one laughed with her,
and I was kind of offended. Yes, seeing as you're

(01:01:18):
dating one of those guys, what was the point of
remarking that when I was right next to her, she's
jealous jelly. By the way, if you want to see
bonus videos not on this page, search Okay Storytime clips on.

Speaker 1 (01:01:30):
Facebook for more. Okay, back to the story.

Speaker 4 (01:01:32):
During these months, my birthday came, but I didn't do anything.
I just went out with my family to eat a
day before it, and on my actual birthday, I was
home playing video games with my boyfriend. But she got
offended because I didn't invite her to do something that
never existed. And now I discovered she's organizing a party
and doing it low key so I wouldn't figure it out.
Breaking news I did, And by the way, breaking news

(01:01:56):
for you. We go live every weekday at three PMPs
two on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch. All you gotta
do is tap on our profile and you're in. I'm
gonna go ahead and say, this person's probably not someone
you want to keep around for a long time.

Speaker 3 (01:02:11):
Yeah, I'm done. Yeah, just like the jealous type, the
jealous archetype where it's like me me, me, me me
and it.

Speaker 4 (01:02:19):
And I feel like this is right at not that
this is like something that people can't do when they're
like teenagers or younger, but I feel like twenty two
twenty three, like that's the age where you start to
like who you want to be with, Like oh, like
my like like her friends said that when they talked,
like yeah, she actually always did this, you just didn't
ever realize it. Now she's seeing like, yeah, this person

(01:02:40):
has intense negative behavior.

Speaker 3 (01:02:43):
Yeah, Also, you just don't want to be even if
it wasn't jealousy, it's just negative all the time, and like, ooh,
you don't want that around you.

Speaker 4 (01:02:50):
Yeah, negative people can be a real drain.

Speaker 3 (01:02:52):
Because I guess what, It'll just bring more negativity around
you and more negative people into the picture, like the
boyfriend that she was on and off again with or
still talking to. Yeah, you don't want that.

Speaker 4 (01:03:02):
Now. I'm conflicted because I felt like she never really
cared about our friendship. I saw her trying hard with
people who treated her horribly, trying to talk to them,
but then coming back and playing victim because they didn't care.
And now she's tried to not talk to me, but
telling our mutual friends how I won't talk to her,

(01:03:22):
even though I tried to tell her stuff and start
a conversation, but she just gave me general responses like
you get in a standard corporate email.

Speaker 3 (01:03:30):
You've got mail.

Speaker 4 (01:03:32):
I'm terrible dealing with emotional stuff. But am I the
a hole for not really wanting to try and talk
to her after everything I discovered? Or am I exaggerating?
And we do have some relevant comments. Sacred Active sixty
one to forty four said she's no friend. Listen to
what people are saying to you. She's jealous of you,
she's sly in a backbier, toxic, no loss here opiever's response,

(01:03:57):
thank you. I wanted to see if someone else sees
it like that or if I was the problem, even
though it is weird after discovering that all those years
together weren't what I thought. And then Adrianne new on
the Bun says, not the a hole. It sounds like
she's a fair weather friend, someone who wants to be
around when it suits her, but not when she needs

(01:04:18):
to show up for other people. You don't need that
in your life. Some relationships and friendships are for a reason,
and some are for a season. And her season is up.
Move on without any guilt. You deserve better.

Speaker 3 (01:04:30):
I like that.

Speaker 4 (01:04:32):
That's funny one I've.

Speaker 3 (01:04:33):
Never heard though.

Speaker 4 (01:04:33):
Some have a reason, some have a season. Some aren't seasoned.

Speaker 3 (01:04:36):
If they're they're just salty.

Speaker 1 (01:04:38):
Yeah, some of them are over seasoned.

Speaker 4 (01:04:40):
Yeah. Sacred Active has another comment. Some people are like that,
they're pretenders. But you can see how now you'll be okay.
I doubt she can form true friendships with anyone, and
that is the end of that story. Like we said,
we said the angel the sort of angel baby move
is maybe having a conversation to get her to see
her ways, but judging by the sound of it, she

(01:05:02):
probably won't even take that well anyway.

Speaker 3 (01:05:04):
She'll she'll flip the words and like, oh, she's coming
at me and she's attacking me. But you're good. You
don't need to do it, you don't need to stress out,
you can move on. Yeah, twenty two years old friendships.
I think this is the age where you find out
friendships don't need to be friendships and you I don't
need that person anymore.

Speaker 4 (01:05:19):
Yeah, some people just will be in your life and
then not.

Speaker 3 (01:05:22):
That's literally that's that's the age where it's like twenty
one to twenty five. He's like, oh, I'm growing apart,
Like I don't need this person in my life. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:05:30):
I think the best advice I could give if I
right before we end the episode here, I think a
big thing for making friends is just being open to
making friends, but also in the same way, like open
to being like, Okay, I don't need this person to
like me. I don't need this person to be my friend.
If you can if you're not seeing any positives. I

(01:05:50):
was coming out of that friendship.

Speaker 3 (01:05:51):
I was just saying, friendships should never be forced. That's
and it seems like you're forcing you yourself.

Speaker 4 (01:05:57):
To I mean, but yeah, that's that's right.

Speaker 3 (01:06:00):
I feel like this.

Speaker 4 (01:06:00):
But friendships do take effort. It's very It's very seldom
where you have a friendship where you can like not
really talk to somebody for years or months and then
pick up right back.

Speaker 3 (01:06:11):
Where you felt like it was yesterday, Like, oh catching up. Yeah,
that's natural. It should feel natural.

Speaker 4 (01:06:15):
It takes maintenance to keep a friendship going.

Speaker 3 (01:06:18):
It's a bond. You got to work on it. But
you try to trust your gut too, and trust what
other people say. If people have views and they're not
where you are, they'll know better. You get to decide
who's worth the maintenance and who's not. Yeah, honestly, that's
kind of it. It might sound kind of callous, but like,
at the end of the day, that's really.

Speaker 1 (01:06:35):
What it is like.

Speaker 4 (01:06:37):
But anyway, that's the end of that story and the
end of this episode.

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