May 28, 2025 • 54 mins
What if fear doesn’t have to be your enemy, but could instead be your compass? Dr. Kristen Holmes explores how fear often runs our lives from the shadows, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Through her TEAM framework, she shows how to rethink time, expectations, attachments, and memory to restore emotional health and build resilience. If you're ready to stop letting your emotions control your life, this episode is for you.
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(00:00) Intro
(01:05) Become Emotionally Resilient Through Trust and Fear
(02:40) The Impact of Fear on Our Lives
(03:29) Relinquishing: A Poem by Kristen Holmes
(04:53) Why Fear Is Not a Bad Thing
(06:21) Building Trust in Yourself
(07:39) How Fear and Trust Work Together
(08:48) The TEAM Framework: Time, Expectations, Attachment, Memory
(10:36) What's a Healthy Relationship with Time?
(13:37) How Dwelling on the Past Keeps You Stuck
(15:00) Why Worrying About the Future Hurts Your Well-Being
(16:28) How to Reconnect with the Present
(17:48) Finding Harmony in the Past, Present, and Future
(19:09) How Your Expectations Shape Your Life
(21:34) Whose Expectations Are You Carrying?
(23:29) The Harm of Unrealistic Expectations
(26:47) Creating Expectations That Actually Serve You
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(30:44) Our Lives Are Built on Attachments
(32:35) Do Your Attachments Still Serve You?
(35:00) Rigid vs. Fluid Attachments Explained
(36:22) How to Know When to Let Go of Attachments
(41:35) Embracing Fluid Attachments to Live Better
(42:40) How to Reclaim Old Memories
(46:31) Avoiding the Trap of Nostalgia
(49:01) Why Your Memories Are Vital to Your Identity
(50:48) Using the TEAM Framework to Build Emotional Resilience
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