November 7, 2025 • 46 mins
In this bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B opens up with a candid reflection on her week and life updates [00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates], setting the tone for an intimate and thought-provoking conversation. This episode blends personal storytelling, listener engagement, and cultural critique, all wrapped in Mandii’s signature humor and honesty.
The discussion kicks off with political awareness and selective ignorance [08:18 Politics and Selective Ignorance], where Mandii unpacks the challenges of engaging in political discussions in today’s hyper-polarized climate. She explores how people often choose comfort over confrontation, avoiding difficult topics to protect their peace — a concept she labels “selective ignorance.” Mandii emphasizes the balance between staying informed and maintaining emotional boundaries, particularly for those constantly exposed to online debates and misinformation.
From there, the episode transitions into a nuanced discussion on cultural sensitivity and accents [16:04 Cultural Sensitivity and Accents], where Mandii reflects on the ways language, dialect, and tone shape perception in professional and social spaces. She highlights how accents can trigger bias — consciously or unconsciously — and challenges listeners to reconsider the assumptions they make about intelligence, professionalism, or background based on how someone speaks.
Next, the conversation moves into an honest exploration of financial struggles and budgeting [20:23 Financial Struggles and Budgeting]. Mandii shares personal anecdotes about learning to manage money while balancing independence, lifestyle, and unexpected life costs. She breaks down the emotional side of financial growth — from guilt and comparison to empowerment — and reminds listeners that everyone’s money journey looks different. The dialogue resonates with anyone navigating the pressures of financial literacy and self-sufficiency in adulthood.
The tone becomes more introspective as Mandii tackles racial profiling and validating experiences [30:57 Racial Profiling and Validating Experiences], recounting personal and listener-submitted stories about bias and discrimination. She reflects on the emotional toll of constantly having to justify one’s experiences, while also calling for empathy and active listening across communities. This segment invites listeners to acknowledge the intersection between awareness and accountability — and the courage it takes to confront uncomfortable truths.
The episode concludes with closing thoughts and announcements [36:22 Closing Thoughts and Announcements], as Mandii encourages her audience to reflect on their own perspectives and the role “selective ignorance” plays in their daily lives. She emphasizes the importance of balance — staying informed without being overwhelmed — and maintaining humanity in a world that often rewards outrage over understanding.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is Mandy be Welcome to Selective Ignorance, a production
of the Blackpec Podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Hey, class mays,
it's for Friday, and we got another bonus episode because
I'm coming to y'all twice a week. Oh my goodness,
we are really in November. Elections just happened. Boil Boy
(00:24):
really excited about this episode. This week we are getting
into more am I ignorant? Questions from you guys, And again,
if you want to submit your question to you know,
have myself and the classmates decide if you're ignorant selectively
or real ignorant for just uninformed, Please over your questions
(00:47):
to Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com. I ain't
even gonna hold y'all. I am honess after like one
of those days I was supposed to record this morning,
woke up to loud ass construction. Now, before I start
(01:08):
my little ramp about my long day and before I
get into these and my ignorant posts, I am very
aware that this is gonna sound like first world problems. Okay,
bear with me though, because I really was proud of
myself with the patience that code today. All Right, So
(01:33):
I wake up I'm planning to record this episode early
before I have video station to record my Saturday show
on the radio. Y'all know I'm a hot one of
seven nine here in Atlanta from six to eight on Saturdays.
Make sure you check that if you local. So i
(01:54):
wake up and I'm planning for a day. I say, okay,
I'm gonna record this episode. I'm gonna go do my
radio show. Then I'm gonna go pick up my tooths
because I finally updated it. This makes me sound real, realbusted. Okay,
(02:16):
I have had the fourteen, so just know I was
three phones behind. Okay, and I think I know last
week I used the word ghetto. I'm just gonna use
it because bitch I broke a nail on a crab leg.
And the reason I broke a nail on a crab
leg this week is because bitch I can't put crab
legs in my mouth because I got veneers and I'll
(02:37):
be damned if I break a tooth on a crab leg.
First of all problems, I told y'all. So anyways, I
wake up this morning, fuck can't record because the construction
is constructioning. So I'm like, okay, I'm gonna record when
I get back home after I pick up my phone,
(02:59):
eat lunch, fix my nail. All of it is in
the same location. So I record my show. Mind you
a little late today, y'all know how I am about late.
Luckily we got the show done in time. It was
all good. But woo go to AT and T to
(03:20):
pick up my phones that was delivered there, and he says,
it's gonna be a switch, you know, switcher up. Maybe
it was not, Maybe it was not, So I had
to wait for one phone to transfer to the next.
Then apparently I had a stolen protection on it that
had to be turned off, which made me have to
(03:42):
wait an extra So he was like, listen, we can't really,
you know, exchange these phones until this is turned off.
Fuck me. So I'm like, bet, I'll go next door
and eat, grab a quick little bite, then I'm gonna
go to the NL. So so I go next door
and I order the lunch pat CEU and a snow
(04:06):
crab hand roll. Now this is where y'all are gonna
left me. But I don't give a fuck because why
y'all lie in to me snow crab hand roll? It said,
snow crab with a cee, y'all get my hand roll
and it just crab with a K in mayonnaise. I said,
(04:27):
you are giving me an imitation crab salad in a
hand roll, and it it really pissed me off because
that's what you said. That's not what I just spent
nine dollars on. I don't want imitation crab in mayonnaise
in my hand roll. So that pissed me off. But
I was like, you know what, this isn't the day
(04:48):
to complain. Like there's already multiple things at this point.
It's just things are just ticket ticket ticket away. So
I go to the nail salon and I'm like, hey,
I just need my big toe fix and and my
pointer finger fix. My y'all, is my pointer finger with
no nails need polish on that whole. I'm trying not
(05:10):
to use a slur because that would be very ignorant
in me. However, I go in and I say, hey,
I need these two fixs. I ain't even gonna put
an accent on because that's see I'm really trying here. AnyWho.
He go, well, did we do your nail? I said no,
(05:35):
but it's an easy fix. Oh well, we only do
full service because people say that we don't have the
colors they need. I said, well, it's white and red.
I know you have both colors. If you're watching this
on video. He looked at me and did this after confirming,
like the colors are fine. I know you have big
(05:57):
apple red and I know you have white. Literally get
those two things because I travel so much and it
makes it for me to get things fixed. He looks
at me, y'all and does this, well, we can't help you.
And I look at him and y'all with all my
(06:19):
might today, y'all, with all my might, I did the
little scrunch, not smile, not saying it is, and just
turned around and exited. So now I'm mad because, y'all,
it is now three zero two p m. If you
(06:45):
live in Atlanta, Georgia, you should not leave your home
between three and seven otherwise expect to sit in traffic.
So I'm like, buck, I gotta go all the way
to my nail salon to get this because I wasn't
gonna let it happen again that I got that same response,
so I didn't get to exchange my phones. I go
back to get my phones, go to the nel saalon, y'all,
(07:09):
today was just a day. So I am recording this
at night. And I don't know if y'all know this
or not, but my brain shuts down after six. It
just does. I still have a nine to five brain, okay,
So I like to get shit done before three o'clock.
(07:34):
If you see me on my other podcast and shit
is questionable, nine times out of ten, it's because we
recorded after five. I fucking hate it. Anyway, that was
my day. I'm recording this. I have a flight in
the morning. If you're listening to this and you are
in New York City, I will be at Tonight's Conversations
(07:58):
in New York at the four o'clock in the eight
o'clock show, So come fuck with your girl. Feel free
to bring your book No Holds bard A doing Manifestor
of Sexual Exploration and Power. I am signing books there,
and bring your book if you have it. I won't
be selling them because I'm not a retailer. But come
(08:19):
on over fuck with your girl again. Before I get
into these am I ignorant posts, you can send yours
to Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com. Now love
this first one real bad because again we just had
(08:41):
the elections take place this week. Make sure you tune
into next week's episode. I'll be joined by my good friend,
comedian Jay Jorden, and we're gonna get into a little
bit more of the political ship. But this episode ain't
gonna be all that. But I am to start with
(09:02):
this question that I saw and I said, ooh, this
is so perfect because bitch I might be answered as
hope any subject line is am I ignorant for thinking
people should just quote unquote ignore politics if it stresses
them out? So I twenty eight year old female told
(09:25):
my coworkers during lunch that I've muted all political news
because I'm tired of hearing about elections, protests, and government drama.
One of them, a little older than me, said, that's
a quote unquote privilege. Choosing to ignore politics is part
of the problem. I told him, I work ten hours
(09:48):
a day, I pay my taxes, and a bitch is exhausted.
I don't see how me not watching debates anyone. He
got visibly annoyed, said my attitude was ignorant an app Now,
am I actually being ignorant by wanting peace and quiet?
Or are people too obsessed with being politically aware these days. Now,
(10:16):
this is a prime example of I would say selective
ignorance with these being here, with the orange Cheeto being
a motherfucking office. We all are fully aware of how
important it is to go vote, because we hear it
every time elections come around. Right. However, however it gets
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and why it gets tricky is where our votes are
supposed to matter. Sometimes we feel like our one vote
doesn't make that big of a difference, and so for
me it's it's it's one of those you damned if
you do, damned if you don't. What else I'm realizing too,
(11:06):
is in terms of local elections, there are a lot
of people like myself. I'm gonna go ahead and here
we be honest with y'all. I'm still registered to I'm
still registered in the state of Florida, my licenses in Florida,
my businesses are in Florida, and so it gets tricky
being in other cities talking about things that are happening
(11:28):
locally and also not being able to vote on those
things because I'm not registered here. I also want to
lean into the fact that life be life in and
one of the things that are very like oh, what's
the word. What's the word. I don't want to say
(11:52):
it's ignorant, but kind of like my conversation I had
with Antonette in terms of capitalism, right, we can't take
it all on. And when I say we can't, one person,
I'm not gonna say it's completely ignorant or apathetic and
(12:14):
don't give a fuck about shit. And it's privileged to
not care because in terms of everything going on, what's happening.
So there's children that you're raising, there's depression, that you're battling,
the nigga that you love and ain't getting his shit together.
(12:36):
Mind you, if you notice, I just different things that
aren't really politically tied. Now, if I went into talking
about the cost of groceries, the cost of gas, rent,
mortgage rates, interest rates, things like that, absolutely, if those
are the things that you absolutely feel are drowning you
(13:00):
don't think you can ignore, but hear me out. If
those other things children, your mental health and depression or anxiety,
or work, or the man or woman you're dating, if
(13:20):
those are the things that are consuming you, I understand
sometimes just not wanting to take on the weight of
the world. I also think, yep, I'm gonna go ahead
and say it it is ignorant to talk, or I'm
just gonna go ahead and say it. I think it's tricky.
(13:41):
I think someone told me my thoughts on whether you
deserve somebody or not on this week's episode of Decision Decisions.
Really was me trying to say in a fucked up way,
if you knew better, you do better. To me, talking
(14:02):
politics at work is but you know better, so don't
do it. You know it gets tricky. You know you're
talking to sometimes people that are on different different ways
of thinking, the same way they used to say in
school to separate church and state, like don't get over here.
(14:25):
I think it's the same at work. I just have
never seen it end up well or do any good
to be at work where you gotta go every motherfucking
day and see the same motherfuckers sometimes more than you
see your family, bringing up things that arise so much
emotions out of people. So to answer your questions, are
(14:50):
you ignorant by wanting peace and quiet, I'm gonna say selectively,
selectively because you do know the importance of I assume,
but I do understand that what is happening baby is
a lot every time you go, bruh. Between finding new
(15:11):
recipes and looking at bitches in these que outfits, it's
messages all war and the orange cheeto in the office
saying that he don't give a fuck about us. You
know what I mean, Like, it's a lot. It's a
lot where the Red and Blue is fighting and it
ain't Cripson bloods baby. We got the Republicans blaming the
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Democrats as to why the government is shut down. Is
still happening. So the Republicans is getting on that goddamn
platform in the White House talking about y'all. See these lines,
y'all at the airport, y'all, see these snap benefits y'all want, bitch,
y'all better blame the Democrats as if the Republicans are
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not the House, the Senate, and the Presidency. Bitch hello, Hello.
So I don't think that you are ignorant by quiet.
I do, however, don't think that people are obsessed with
being politically aware. I think it's important to be politically aware. Also,
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don't think that you need to talk politics with everybody.
I think that you need to form your own opinions.
And the way I do it really it's to do
deep dives, but I'm not against taking a break. I
actually believe we need a break from a lot of
things in life. Your nigga, your kids, sometimes your job.
(16:36):
That's why I take that PTO. Holidays are coming up, like,
I think a lot of us need a break from
a lot of things, and I think that it's perfectly
fine to willfully choose to take a step back from
being consumed with politics. Really good question at the perfect time.
Thank you. All right, this next one, let's see, let's see,
(17:02):
let's see. I got a few here, and I love this, okay,
only because I was. I was trying not to be
ignorant with it, So I feel like I know the
answer to this one. I also had this issue early
this year. The subject right for this one is, am
(17:23):
I ignorant for not understanding a friend gets mad when
I joke about his accent? Ah? Okay, basically just with
the subject line, if you could see where something could
be a problem. Nine times out of ten, ignorant for
(17:44):
acting like you don't understand. And I ain't even gonna
hold you. But here we go. It's six and I've
been dating my boyfriend who's twenty seven from Nigeria for
almost a year. Sometimes, when he says something with a
strong accent, I playfully imitated back, not to mock him,
but because I think it's cute. Last night, he snapped instead,
(18:07):
I'm being quote unquote disrespectful and making him feel less
than I was honestly shocked. I told him everyone jokes
about accents, even in movies. He ain't laughed, though, and
now I feel terrible, but I still don't totally get it.
Am I being ignorant? Or is he being too sensitive? Okay, now,
(18:33):
the same way earlier in the show, I didn't want
to attach the accent to my story because I knew
I knew what it was gonna give right now. I
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had the same issue earlier this year, I was dating
a breat and he also felt a way when I
would respond back in his accent. Now, mind you, I
also can't do accents for shit. I also, when I
(19:20):
drink too much, get an accent. I don't know what accent,
but bitch, I roll mars. I had a little oh
tell you look, I don't even know what accent I
do and he had an issue with it, and I
guess I had to explain to him that I was
doing this accent before I met him. Now, the fact
(19:43):
that you said you are playfully imitating him, give me
two things. A. You know, accents are ways in which
we do normally mock or make fun of people. And
so where yes, yes, he maybe, I assume you live
(20:04):
in amer and for me and what's happening right now,
I could also see him being not only sensitive, but insecure,
possibly about his accent. Also, you said sometimes he says
(20:26):
things with a strong accent, so he may be also
working on his English, and you imitating him could be
poking at him, and he clearly views you as being disrespectful.
Here's my thing. If you love him, you care about
how you make him feel. Didn't do it anymore? I
(20:51):
know I had to pull back from the accents. I did,
and we got a conversations about how he felt about
me doing the accent. Now I'm gonna say you here
are also being selectively ignorant because you saying you don't
totally get it, while also saying that everyone jokes about accents,
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even in movies. Bit you know it's a joke. Bit
you know, the butt of the joke is whoever the accent,
whoever is making fun of the accent, whatever culture is
being mimicked or mocked or imitated. So girl, you you
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being selectively ignorant for being shocked as to why he
got mad, period because you know people get mad at
that shit. You know it's insensitive, period. And so yeah,
you're incactively ignorant here. He may be uh sensitive and
(21:59):
you know, maybe not as confident right now in his
abilities to speak English correctly. I think that this is
not this is you need to die on this. It
ain't worth it. It just ain't worth it. It ain't
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worth it. But also good for you, because girl, I
cannot get that African accent right to say right at all?
At all? Okay, this next one, ooh babe? All right, y'all?
Am I ignorant for telling my cousin to just quote
(22:44):
unquote budget better instead of complaining about being broke. This one,
this one might hit a little nerve. I ain't even
gonna hold you. All right. So my cousin is twenty
nine and is always talking about how hard it is
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to make ends meet. He's got a decent job, but
said groceries and student loans keep him behind. Boy, is
that not the story of so many people last week
when he brought it up again, said you don't need
(23:28):
to learn how to budget better. I do it and
I'm fine. He got defensive and said I was ignorant
because I don't have student debt and my parents helped
me with my down payment for my house. I mean,
I wasn't trying to flex. I just think people make
excuses sometimes. But now I'm wondering was that an ignorant
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take all? Right, here we go, and I feel like
I might need to look up some stats on this one,
because girl. I only say girl that because even though
he has a decent job growth student loans, mind you,
(24:14):
let's even remove student loans with kids only in my
own story in terms of growing up, and I'll get
into my student loan den as well, but sadly make
us look one day from the back. Anyways, growing up,
my mom I remember, had to work multiple jobs. She
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worked at the hospital, she waitress at night, and it
was really it was really hard growing up. We also
were on Section eight food stamps, I think four SEA
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helped her with our daycare when we were in daycare,
and it was difficult. Mind you, this is twenty twenty
five years ago. Inflation is real. What we were able
to pay for rent, and what groceries cost even ten
(25:16):
years ago is night and day to what it is today.
And so absolutely think you were insensitive for one to
this person because you also did say it's not like
he has roommates, he doesn't have help from his parents
based on this email as well, and so ma'am you
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got you had some help. I also think it's terrible to, like,
if someone's venting to you about what's happening right there
in their life, for you to just be like, you
just need a budget to do it. Maybe he is.
What are the statistics of average income to people with
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student loans? Also consider average rent for he's twenty nine
for a late twenty year old. Now, I don't know,
I do not know the area you are, so of
course that matters. Like a city like New York, rent
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for a studio apartment can be twenty five hundred dollars.
I mean, even if you're in Atlanta, it's getting expensive.
The other question is, I mean I already told you
you're insensitive. Are you ignorant? Yes? I almost want to
like Mike drop the Yes. The reason why you're ignorant
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is because a lot of people are just trying to
make ends meet. It's not just about putting your budget
in an Excel sheet anymore. We are literally living in
a time where wages are not rising and rents are
not dropping. Share this. About thirty four percent of the
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population between eighteen to twenty nine years old have student
loan debt. The median pay for twenty five to thirty
four year olds is around fifty six to fifty nine
thousand dollars per year. Mind you, the average student debt
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average is about fourteen K, which wow, even that my
student loans are right now forty four k. But if
you consider this, approximately twenty five percent of their annual
income is loan debt. This isn't bringing up as well
credit card debt. Here, he's got a decent job. That
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says rent, groceries and student loans keep him behind. What
about card note, insurance, phone bill, light, Wi Fi, water, trash,
entertained living. It's very hard for people right now to
catch up. The majority of my family I can't say
(28:16):
has a savings account. I have friends well into their
late This has been the toughest year outside of the
years in our twenties that I've seen Some of my
friends face. I've had to help three friends this year
with rent. Like, we are beyond a place where you
(28:40):
could just look at someone and say, just budget Better.
Are people living above their means? Some of them, some
of them, But it's really difficult when the market doesn't
have anything. But the market is literally at a place
that is outpricing people. And let's not even talk about
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the job market. I think I said it last week, Bro,
Amazon letting go of thirty thousand people. Paramount is letting
go of ten percent of their workforce. We have companies
and industries across the board laying off people because of
the advancements and technology. Because we're now out of the
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wherever we work for pandemic that had people hiring at
an influx. The remote jobs lose are are leaving us.
So people who are able to work remotely that can't
make it into the office have no other choice but
to not continue their jobs. Like, Bro, the holidays are
coming up. I ain't even gonna that hasn't even crossed
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my mind to tell any of my friends, like budget Better,
Like I get where we're at. And again, I can't
even am imagine for the people that are this shit
with kids bitch, where are y'all? How are y'all doing it?
Hew boy, y'all like needs together, putting, putting foods and
(30:14):
plate on the table to feed yourself in kids, and
then y'all got the nerd ad pets. There's them little
gold fish would be hungry, the little poodles would be.
Maybe you eating every other day like it's expensive as hell.
So yes, in every facet of everything, you are dead
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ass ignorant. This is ain't even selectivic you as dead
ass in hell and sensitive as hell, and your cousin
has every right to be upset you saying you weren't
trying to flex when I tell you it is a
flex to be getting help from your parents, to be
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getting help from anybody. If you got a nigga helping you, bro,
it's reflects to someone who's doing it all on their own. Yes,
there are people that make excuses sometimes, and some people
make excuses sometimes. You ignorant as hell in this motherfucker.
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I mean they're telling someone to just budget better. Now,
I will tell y'all my ignorant thing I said, because
it wasn't even that ignorant, because I'm sex positive. I
did two out of three of my friends because one
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already and she just needed to borrow something from lawyers
that was different my other two friends. I let them know,
know you better not be hunching. And I get no
goddamney for these niggas. I ain't even it. I said it,
so maybe I'm a part of why. No, I'm not
(32:05):
a part of why these bitches are in these text
messages asking for forty five dollars, cause I think that's
kind of crazy. If y'all saw the threads that went
public this week and went viral where men were sharing
text messages of women just asking them for money, my
problem was the amounts. Sis, don't ask no man for
nothing under five hundred dollars. We grown like maybe like
(32:26):
three fifty if it's like a phone bill, electric bill,
something small, But bro, don't be niggas for now money
and forty five dollars for gas? Like what are we doing?
But I did say, like, and this will be my
ignorant take. I don't care Trasberry soup all the niggas
and listen, I want y'all I'm wrong, but I don't
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think I am, and I don't think it's ignorant. But
if you are in your late twenties, early thirties and
up and struggling financially as a woman. There ain't no
reason why you should be laying on your back or
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stuffing your throat and need anything paid or behind or
can't do this or can't you don't need to be
fucking or second, any man ain't willing to help. I'm
(33:30):
gonna say that again. And this, this part ain't process.
This part is how you laying up letting a nigga
dig deep into your soul while you suck his soul.
And you got you got things that you can't pay for,
that need to get paid, that's due at the first
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or or do by the fifth. Some of y'all get
lucky to do by a tenth. How how I'm sorry.
That's my take, And maybe that goes into maybe broke
people not shouldn't date. I don't know, I don't know.
I don't know. I don't know. I don't know, I
(34:11):
don't know, I don't know. Let me see what time
it is, cause y'all still gotta pack. I got a
six am flight. And you see what they say about
these tsa laves? Ohkay, i'm'na do one more I'm gonna
do one more. I'm gonna do one more. I'm gonna
do one more. Okay, I think I got one about
some friends. Let me see. Okay, ooh, ooh, let's see.
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Am I ignorant for telling my friend she's not being
racially profiled? Just asked for ID? Oh? Lord? Okay, h bruh,
this is crazy alright. My best friend and I went
to a bar last weekend. She's black, I'm Latina. The
(35:03):
bouncer asked for her ID but didn't ask for mine.
She got upset. It said it was because of her
skin color. I maybe he was just following the rules.
Not everything is about race. She got quiet and later
text me saying I completely invalidated her experience. I mean
(35:25):
I didn't mean to. I honestly just thought she might
be reading too much into it. But now I feel
like I made things worse. Am I ignorant for saying that?
Or was I being realistic? Huh? Okay? This is why
all kimpf okay, skim folk or backward y'all know, I don't.
I don't be no one. He's got damn sayings. But
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it's why i'd be like, hey, brown is not the
same as black calm down things. I do believe that
you should not have invalidate experience. I think no one
that's not black, someone black, that's something that everything is
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not about race. I don't think that that should leave
the lips of anyone who is not black. You did
to a black person. I ply don't even think that
a white person can say it to a Latina. I
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don't think a white person can say it to any
person of color. Right, instead of saying he was just
following the rules, especially knowing that he didn't ask for
your idea? What rules, bitch? If he's not asking for
your id what you should have just said is, bitch,
you look young tonight. There's so many other ways you
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could have answered it. So your question is am I
ignorant for saying it? One hundred percent? This isn't even
selective ignorance. This is one hundred percent ignorance, because bitch,
not everything is about race, even as a Latina. Do
you see what's happening with ice across this country? They
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not picking up Irish people, they ain't picking up Italians. Bro,
everything is about race. We've been talking about the WNBA.
It's Caitlyn Clark and and Angel Reese. If we talk
about quarterbacks and things, we've always compared to Tom Brady's
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but then to the black quarterback. Everything in sports is
about race. Everything in the workplace is about race. We've
talked about the disparities between pay in terms of white men,
black men, black women, like everything under the sun is
actually systemically boils down to race. So one hundred percent
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you ignorant as hell for saying not everything is about
race in regards to this id situation. You could have
absolutely handled it a lot better. And I think you
absolutely completely invalidated her experience because I'm curious to know
how many of these conversations maybe she felt comfortable even
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having with you. Do you know what her experience has
been as a black woman. Do you know if she's
had the experience of being followed around at a store
or being refused entry at other clubs her skin color.
I've had that experience as a big girl, and I
feel like it's a black girl they see me as
black in La Bitch. I'm not gonna let y'all invalidate
my experience. I know y'all like to talk about my biracial,
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light skin ass, but I'm telling you I have been
discriminated against in La clothes. This might be why I
have a deep hate for La, like but she not
me getting into the clubs in Dubai, but La wanted
to at the dope AnyWho. This was years ago, but
still so yeah, I want to say that this is
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an ignorance. I think at this point we know everything
is about race, and I think it's completely ignorant to
say that it's not and to validate anybody who feels
it they are personally being attacked for the color of
their skin. And so I do hope that you have
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a conversation with her. I do that you're open to
hearing her, and I hope that you're open to taking
the account and admitting to being one hundred percent ignorant,
which is crazy because most of these were selectively ignorant,
like bitch, you knew you was wrong. This is one
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hundred percent ignorance. Ain't no way around it. So yeah,
I want to hear more of these, So make sure
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This is Mandy be Welcome to Selective Ignorance, a production
of the Blackpec Podcast Network and iHeartRadio. Hey, class mays,
it's for Friday, and we got another bonus episode because
I'm coming to y'all twice a week. Oh my goodness,
we are really in November. Elections just happened. Boil Boy
(00:24):
really excited about this episode. This week we are getting
into more am I ignorant? Questions from you guys, And again,
if you want to submit your question to you know,
have myself and the classmates decide if you're ignorant selectively
or real ignorant for just uninformed, Please over your questions
(00:47):
to Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com. I ain't
even gonna hold y'all. I am honess after like one
of those days I was supposed to record this morning,
woke up to loud ass construction. Now, before I start
(01:08):
my little ramp about my long day and before I
get into these and my ignorant posts, I am very
aware that this is gonna sound like first world problems. Okay,
bear with me though, because I really was proud of
myself with the patience that code today. All Right, So
(01:33):
I wake up I'm planning to record this episode early
before I have video station to record my Saturday show
on the radio. Y'all know I'm a hot one of
seven nine here in Atlanta from six to eight on Saturdays.
Make sure you check that if you local. So i
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wake up and I'm planning for a day. I say, okay,
I'm gonna record this episode. I'm gonna go do my
radio show. Then I'm gonna go pick up my tooths
because I finally updated it. This makes me sound real, realbusted. Okay,
(02:16):
I have had the fourteen, so just know I was
three phones behind. Okay, and I think I know last
week I used the word ghetto. I'm just gonna use
it because bitch I broke a nail on a crab leg.
And the reason I broke a nail on a crab
leg this week is because bitch I can't put crab
legs in my mouth because I got veneers and I'll
(02:37):
be damned if I break a tooth on a crab leg.
First of all problems, I told y'all. So anyways, I
wake up this morning, fuck can't record because the construction
is constructioning. So I'm like, okay, I'm gonna record when
I get back home after I pick up my phone,
(02:59):
eat lunch, fix my nail. All of it is in
the same location. So I record my show. Mind you
a little late today, y'all know how I am about late.
Luckily we got the show done in time. It was
all good. But woo go to AT and T to
(03:20):
pick up my phones that was delivered there, and he says,
it's gonna be a switch, you know, switcher up. Maybe
it was not, Maybe it was not, So I had
to wait for one phone to transfer to the next.
Then apparently I had a stolen protection on it that
had to be turned off, which made me have to
(03:42):
wait an extra So he was like, listen, we can't really,
you know, exchange these phones until this is turned off.
Fuck me. So I'm like, bet, I'll go next door
and eat, grab a quick little bite, then I'm gonna
go to the NL. So so I go next door
and I order the lunch pat CEU and a snow
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crab hand roll. Now this is where y'all are gonna
left me. But I don't give a fuck because why
y'all lie in to me snow crab hand roll? It said,
snow crab with a cee, y'all get my hand roll
and it just crab with a K in mayonnaise. I said,
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you are giving me an imitation crab salad in a
hand roll, and it it really pissed me off because
that's what you said. That's not what I just spent
nine dollars on. I don't want imitation crab in mayonnaise
in my hand roll. So that pissed me off. But
I was like, you know what, this isn't the day
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to complain. Like there's already multiple things at this point.
It's just things are just ticket ticket ticket away. So
I go to the nail salon and I'm like, hey,
I just need my big toe fix and and my
pointer finger fix. My y'all, is my pointer finger with
no nails need polish on that whole. I'm trying not
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to use a slur because that would be very ignorant
in me. However, I go in and I say, hey,
I need these two fixs. I ain't even gonna put
an accent on because that's see I'm really trying here. AnyWho.
He go, well, did we do your nail? I said no,
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but it's an easy fix. Oh well, we only do
full service because people say that we don't have the
colors they need. I said, well, it's white and red.
I know you have both colors. If you're watching this
on video. He looked at me and did this after confirming,
like the colors are fine. I know you have big
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apple red and I know you have white. Literally get
those two things because I travel so much and it
makes it for me to get things fixed. He looks
at me, y'all and does this, well, we can't help you.
And I look at him and y'all with all my
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might today, y'all, with all my might, I did the
little scrunch, not smile, not saying it is, and just
turned around and exited. So now I'm mad because, y'all,
it is now three zero two p m. If you
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live in Atlanta, Georgia, you should not leave your home
between three and seven otherwise expect to sit in traffic.
So I'm like, buck, I gotta go all the way
to my nail salon to get this because I wasn't
gonna let it happen again that I got that same response,
so I didn't get to exchange my phones. I go
back to get my phones, go to the nel saalon, y'all,
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today was just a day. So I am recording this
at night. And I don't know if y'all know this
or not, but my brain shuts down after six. It
just does. I still have a nine to five brain, okay,
So I like to get shit done before three o'clock.
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If you see me on my other podcast and shit
is questionable, nine times out of ten, it's because we
recorded after five. I fucking hate it. Anyway, that was
my day. I'm recording this. I have a flight in
the morning. If you're listening to this and you are
in New York City, I will be at Tonight's Conversations
(07:58):
in New York at the four o'clock in the eight
o'clock show, So come fuck with your girl. Feel free
to bring your book No Holds bard A doing Manifestor
of Sexual Exploration and Power. I am signing books there,
and bring your book if you have it. I won't
be selling them because I'm not a retailer. But come
(08:19):
on over fuck with your girl again. Before I get
into these am I ignorant posts, you can send yours
to Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com. Now love
this first one real bad because again we just had
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the elections take place this week. Make sure you tune
into next week's episode. I'll be joined by my good friend,
comedian Jay Jorden, and we're gonna get into a little
bit more of the political ship. But this episode ain't
gonna be all that. But I am to start with
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this question that I saw and I said, ooh, this
is so perfect because bitch I might be answered as
hope any subject line is am I ignorant for thinking
people should just quote unquote ignore politics if it stresses
them out? So I twenty eight year old female told
(09:25):
my coworkers during lunch that I've muted all political news
because I'm tired of hearing about elections, protests, and government drama.
One of them, a little older than me, said, that's
a quote unquote privilege. Choosing to ignore politics is part
of the problem. I told him, I work ten hours
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a day, I pay my taxes, and a bitch is exhausted.
I don't see how me not watching debates anyone. He
got visibly annoyed, said my attitude was ignorant an app Now,
am I actually being ignorant by wanting peace and quiet?
Or are people too obsessed with being politically aware these days. Now,
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this is a prime example of I would say selective
ignorance with these being here, with the orange Cheeto being
a motherfucking office. We all are fully aware of how
important it is to go vote, because we hear it
every time elections come around. Right. However, however it gets
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and why it gets tricky is where our votes are
supposed to matter. Sometimes we feel like our one vote
doesn't make that big of a difference, and so for
me it's it's it's one of those you damned if
you do, damned if you don't. What else I'm realizing too,
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is in terms of local elections, there are a lot
of people like myself. I'm gonna go ahead and here
we be honest with y'all. I'm still registered to I'm
still registered in the state of Florida, my licenses in Florida,
my businesses are in Florida, and so it gets tricky
being in other cities talking about things that are happening
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locally and also not being able to vote on those
things because I'm not registered here. I also want to
lean into the fact that life be life in and
one of the things that are very like oh, what's
the word. What's the word. I don't want to say
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it's ignorant, but kind of like my conversation I had
with Antonette in terms of capitalism, right, we can't take
it all on. And when I say we can't, one person,
I'm not gonna say it's completely ignorant or apathetic and
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don't give a fuck about shit. And it's privileged to
not care because in terms of everything going on, what's happening.
So there's children that you're raising, there's depression, that you're battling,
the nigga that you love and ain't getting his shit together.
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Mind you, if you notice, I just different things that
aren't really politically tied. Now, if I went into talking
about the cost of groceries, the cost of gas, rent,
mortgage rates, interest rates, things like that, absolutely, if those
are the things that you absolutely feel are drowning you
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don't think you can ignore, but hear me out. If
those other things children, your mental health and depression or anxiety,
or work, or the man or woman you're dating, if
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those are the things that are consuming you, I understand
sometimes just not wanting to take on the weight of
the world. I also think, yep, I'm gonna go ahead
and say it it is ignorant to talk, or I'm
just gonna go ahead and say it. I think it's tricky.
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I think someone told me my thoughts on whether you
deserve somebody or not on this week's episode of Decision Decisions.
Really was me trying to say in a fucked up way,
if you knew better, you do better. To me, talking
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politics at work is but you know better, so don't
do it. You know it gets tricky. You know you're
talking to sometimes people that are on different different ways
of thinking, the same way they used to say in
school to separate church and state, like don't get over here.
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I think it's the same at work. I just have
never seen it end up well or do any good
to be at work where you gotta go every motherfucking
day and see the same motherfuckers sometimes more than you
see your family, bringing up things that arise so much
emotions out of people. So to answer your questions, are
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you ignorant by wanting peace and quiet, I'm gonna say selectively,
selectively because you do know the importance of I assume,
but I do understand that what is happening baby is
a lot every time you go, bruh. Between finding new
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recipes and looking at bitches in these que outfits, it's
messages all war and the orange cheeto in the office
saying that he don't give a fuck about us. You
know what I mean, Like, it's a lot. It's a
lot where the Red and Blue is fighting and it
ain't Cripson bloods baby. We got the Republicans blaming the
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Democrats as to why the government is shut down. Is
still happening. So the Republicans is getting on that goddamn
platform in the White House talking about y'all. See these lines,
y'all at the airport, y'all, see these snap benefits y'all want, bitch,
y'all better blame the Democrats as if the Republicans are
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not the House, the Senate, and the Presidency. Bitch hello, Hello.
So I don't think that you are ignorant by quiet.
I do, however, don't think that people are obsessed with
being politically aware. I think it's important to be politically aware. Also,
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don't think that you need to talk politics with everybody.
I think that you need to form your own opinions.
And the way I do it really it's to do
deep dives, but I'm not against taking a break. I
actually believe we need a break from a lot of
things in life. Your nigga, your kids, sometimes your job.
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That's why I take that PTO. Holidays are coming up, like,
I think a lot of us need a break from
a lot of things, and I think that it's perfectly
fine to willfully choose to take a step back from
being consumed with politics. Really good question at the perfect time.
Thank you. All right, this next one, let's see, let's see,
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let's see. I got a few here, and I love this, okay,
only because I was. I was trying not to be
ignorant with it, So I feel like I know the
answer to this one. I also had this issue early
this year. The subject right for this one is, am
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I ignorant for not understanding a friend gets mad when
I joke about his accent? Ah? Okay, basically just with
the subject line, if you could see where something could
be a problem. Nine times out of ten, ignorant for
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acting like you don't understand. And I ain't even gonna
hold you. But here we go. It's six and I've
been dating my boyfriend who's twenty seven from Nigeria for
almost a year. Sometimes, when he says something with a
strong accent, I playfully imitated back, not to mock him,
but because I think it's cute. Last night, he snapped instead,
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I'm being quote unquote disrespectful and making him feel less
than I was honestly shocked. I told him everyone jokes
about accents, even in movies. He ain't laughed, though, and
now I feel terrible, but I still don't totally get it.
Am I being ignorant? Or is he being too sensitive? Okay, now,
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the same way earlier in the show, I didn't want
to attach the accent to my story because I knew
I knew what it was gonna give right now. I
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had the same issue earlier this year, I was dating
a breat and he also felt a way when I
would respond back in his accent. Now, mind you, I
also can't do accents for shit. I also, when I
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drink too much, get an accent. I don't know what accent,
but bitch, I roll mars. I had a little oh
tell you look, I don't even know what accent I
do and he had an issue with it, and I
guess I had to explain to him that I was
doing this accent before I met him. Now, the fact
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that you said you are playfully imitating him, give me
two things. A. You know, accents are ways in which
we do normally mock or make fun of people. And
so where yes, yes, he maybe, I assume you live
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in amer and for me and what's happening right now,
I could also see him being not only sensitive, but insecure,
possibly about his accent. Also, you said sometimes he says
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things with a strong accent, so he may be also
working on his English, and you imitating him could be
poking at him, and he clearly views you as being disrespectful.
Here's my thing. If you love him, you care about
how you make him feel. Didn't do it anymore? I
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know I had to pull back from the accents. I did,
and we got a conversations about how he felt about
me doing the accent. Now I'm gonna say you here
are also being selectively ignorant because you saying you don't
totally get it, while also saying that everyone jokes about accents,
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even in movies. Bit you know it's a joke. Bit
you know, the butt of the joke is whoever the accent,
whoever is making fun of the accent, whatever culture is
being mimicked or mocked or imitated. So girl, you you
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being selectively ignorant for being shocked as to why he
got mad, period because you know people get mad at
that shit. You know it's insensitive, period. And so yeah,
you're incactively ignorant here. He may be uh sensitive and
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you know, maybe not as confident right now in his
abilities to speak English correctly. I think that this is
not this is you need to die on this. It
ain't worth it. It just ain't worth it. It ain't
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worth it. But also good for you, because girl, I
cannot get that African accent right to say right at all?
At all? Okay, this next one, ooh babe? All right, y'all?
Am I ignorant for telling my cousin to just quote
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unquote budget better instead of complaining about being broke. This one,
this one might hit a little nerve. I ain't even
gonna hold you. All right. So my cousin is twenty
nine and is always talking about how hard it is
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to make ends meet. He's got a decent job, but
said groceries and student loans keep him behind. Boy, is
that not the story of so many people last week
when he brought it up again, said you don't need
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to learn how to budget better. I do it and
I'm fine. He got defensive and said I was ignorant
because I don't have student debt and my parents helped
me with my down payment for my house. I mean,
I wasn't trying to flex. I just think people make
excuses sometimes. But now I'm wondering was that an ignorant
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take all? Right, here we go, and I feel like
I might need to look up some stats on this one,
because girl. I only say girl that because even though
he has a decent job growth student loans, mind you,
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let's even remove student loans with kids only in my
own story in terms of growing up, and I'll get
into my student loan den as well, but sadly make
us look one day from the back. Anyways, growing up,
my mom I remember, had to work multiple jobs. She
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worked at the hospital, she waitress at night, and it
was really it was really hard growing up. We also
were on Section eight food stamps, I think four SEA
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helped her with our daycare when we were in daycare,
and it was difficult. Mind you, this is twenty twenty
five years ago. Inflation is real. What we were able
to pay for rent, and what groceries cost even ten
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years ago is night and day to what it is today.
And so absolutely think you were insensitive for one to
this person because you also did say it's not like
he has roommates, he doesn't have help from his parents
based on this email as well, and so ma'am you
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got you had some help. I also think it's terrible to, like,
if someone's venting to you about what's happening right there
in their life, for you to just be like, you
just need a budget to do it. Maybe he is.
What are the statistics of average income to people with
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student loans? Also consider average rent for he's twenty nine
for a late twenty year old. Now, I don't know,
I do not know the area you are, so of
course that matters. Like a city like New York, rent
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for a studio apartment can be twenty five hundred dollars.
I mean, even if you're in Atlanta, it's getting expensive.
The other question is, I mean I already told you
you're insensitive. Are you ignorant? Yes? I almost want to
like Mike drop the Yes. The reason why you're ignorant
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is because a lot of people are just trying to
make ends meet. It's not just about putting your budget
in an Excel sheet anymore. We are literally living in
a time where wages are not rising and rents are
not dropping. Share this. About thirty four percent of the
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population between eighteen to twenty nine years old have student
loan debt. The median pay for twenty five to thirty
four year olds is around fifty six to fifty nine
thousand dollars per year. Mind you, the average student debt
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average is about fourteen K, which wow, even that my
student loans are right now forty four k. But if
you consider this, approximately twenty five percent of their annual
income is loan debt. This isn't bringing up as well
credit card debt. Here, he's got a decent job. That
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says rent, groceries and student loans keep him behind. What
about card note, insurance, phone bill, light, Wi Fi, water, trash,
entertained living. It's very hard for people right now to
catch up. The majority of my family I can't say
(28:16):
has a savings account. I have friends well into their
late This has been the toughest year outside of the
years in our twenties that I've seen Some of my
friends face. I've had to help three friends this year
with rent. Like, we are beyond a place where you
(28:40):
could just look at someone and say, just budget Better.
Are people living above their means? Some of them, some
of them, But it's really difficult when the market doesn't
have anything. But the market is literally at a place
that is outpricing people. And let's not even talk about
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the job market. I think I said it last week, Bro,
Amazon letting go of thirty thousand people. Paramount is letting
go of ten percent of their workforce. We have companies
and industries across the board laying off people because of
the advancements and technology. Because we're now out of the
(29:22):
wherever we work for pandemic that had people hiring at
an influx. The remote jobs lose are are leaving us.
So people who are able to work remotely that can't
make it into the office have no other choice but
to not continue their jobs. Like, Bro, the holidays are
coming up. I ain't even gonna that hasn't even crossed
(29:49):
my mind to tell any of my friends, like budget Better,
Like I get where we're at. And again, I can't
even am imagine for the people that are this shit
with kids bitch, where are y'all? How are y'all doing it?
Hew boy, y'all like needs together, putting, putting foods and
(30:14):
plate on the table to feed yourself in kids, and
then y'all got the nerd ad pets. There's them little
gold fish would be hungry, the little poodles would be.
Maybe you eating every other day like it's expensive as hell.
So yes, in every facet of everything, you are dead
(30:36):
ass ignorant. This is ain't even selectivic you as dead
ass in hell and sensitive as hell, and your cousin
has every right to be upset you saying you weren't
trying to flex when I tell you it is a
flex to be getting help from your parents, to be
(30:58):
getting help from anybody. If you got a nigga helping you, bro,
it's reflects to someone who's doing it all on their own. Yes,
there are people that make excuses sometimes, and some people
make excuses sometimes. You ignorant as hell in this motherfucker.
(31:24):
I mean they're telling someone to just budget better. Now,
I will tell y'all my ignorant thing I said, because
it wasn't even that ignorant, because I'm sex positive. I
did two out of three of my friends because one
(31:44):
already and she just needed to borrow something from lawyers
that was different my other two friends. I let them know,
know you better not be hunching. And I get no
goddamney for these niggas. I ain't even it. I said it,
so maybe I'm a part of why. No, I'm not
(32:05):
a part of why these bitches are in these text
messages asking for forty five dollars, cause I think that's
kind of crazy. If y'all saw the threads that went
public this week and went viral where men were sharing
text messages of women just asking them for money, my
problem was the amounts. Sis, don't ask no man for
nothing under five hundred dollars. We grown like maybe like
(32:26):
three fifty if it's like a phone bill, electric bill,
something small, But bro, don't be niggas for now money
and forty five dollars for gas? Like what are we doing?
But I did say, like, and this will be my
ignorant take. I don't care Trasberry soup all the niggas
and listen, I want y'all I'm wrong, but I don't
(32:49):
think I am, and I don't think it's ignorant. But
if you are in your late twenties, early thirties and
up and struggling financially as a woman. There ain't no
reason why you should be laying on your back or
(33:09):
stuffing your throat and need anything paid or behind or
can't do this or can't you don't need to be
fucking or second, any man ain't willing to help. I'm
(33:30):
gonna say that again. And this, this part ain't process.
This part is how you laying up letting a nigga
dig deep into your soul while you suck his soul.
And you got you got things that you can't pay for,
that need to get paid, that's due at the first
(33:51):
or or do by the fifth. Some of y'all get
lucky to do by a tenth. How how I'm sorry.
That's my take, And maybe that goes into maybe broke
people not shouldn't date. I don't know, I don't know.
I don't know. I don't know. I don't know, I
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don't know, I don't know. Let me see what time
it is, cause y'all still gotta pack. I got a
six am flight. And you see what they say about
these tsa laves? Ohkay, i'm'na do one more I'm gonna
do one more. I'm gonna do one more. I'm gonna
do one more. Okay, I think I got one about
some friends. Let me see. Okay, ooh, ooh, let's see.
(34:39):
Am I ignorant for telling my friend she's not being
racially profiled? Just asked for ID? Oh? Lord? Okay, h bruh,
this is crazy alright. My best friend and I went
to a bar last weekend. She's black, I'm Latina. The
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bouncer asked for her ID but didn't ask for mine.
She got upset. It said it was because of her
skin color. I maybe he was just following the rules.
Not everything is about race. She got quiet and later
text me saying I completely invalidated her experience. I mean
(35:25):
I didn't mean to. I honestly just thought she might
be reading too much into it. But now I feel
like I made things worse. Am I ignorant for saying that?
Or was I being realistic? Huh? Okay? This is why
all kimpf okay, skim folk or backward y'all know, I don't.
I don't be no one. He's got damn sayings. But
(35:48):
it's why i'd be like, hey, brown is not the
same as black calm down things. I do believe that
you should not have invalidate experience. I think no one
that's not black, someone black, that's something that everything is
(36:14):
not about race. I don't think that that should leave
the lips of anyone who is not black. You did
to a black person. I ply don't even think that
a white person can say it to a Latina. I
(36:35):
don't think a white person can say it to any
person of color. Right, instead of saying he was just
following the rules, especially knowing that he didn't ask for
your idea? What rules, bitch? If he's not asking for
your id what you should have just said is, bitch,
you look young tonight. There's so many other ways you
(36:56):
could have answered it. So your question is am I
ignorant for saying it? One hundred percent? This isn't even
selective ignorance. This is one hundred percent ignorance, because bitch,
not everything is about race, even as a Latina. Do
you see what's happening with ice across this country? They
(37:19):
not picking up Irish people, they ain't picking up Italians. Bro,
everything is about race. We've been talking about the WNBA.
It's Caitlyn Clark and and Angel Reese. If we talk
about quarterbacks and things, we've always compared to Tom Brady's
(37:40):
but then to the black quarterback. Everything in sports is
about race. Everything in the workplace is about race. We've
talked about the disparities between pay in terms of white men,
black men, black women, like everything under the sun is
actually systemically boils down to race. So one hundred percent
(38:04):
you ignorant as hell for saying not everything is about
race in regards to this id situation. You could have
absolutely handled it a lot better. And I think you
absolutely completely invalidated her experience because I'm curious to know
how many of these conversations maybe she felt comfortable even
(38:25):
having with you. Do you know what her experience has
been as a black woman. Do you know if she's
had the experience of being followed around at a store
or being refused entry at other clubs her skin color.
I've had that experience as a big girl, and I
feel like it's a black girl they see me as
black in La Bitch. I'm not gonna let y'all invalidate
my experience. I know y'all like to talk about my biracial,
(38:47):
light skin ass, but I'm telling you I have been
discriminated against in La clothes. This might be why I
have a deep hate for La, like but she not
me getting into the clubs in Dubai, but La wanted
to at the dope AnyWho. This was years ago, but
still so yeah, I want to say that this is
(39:09):
an ignorance. I think at this point we know everything
is about race, and I think it's completely ignorant to
say that it's not and to validate anybody who feels
it they are personally being attacked for the color of
their skin. And so I do hope that you have
(39:34):
a conversation with her. I do that you're open to
hearing her, and I hope that you're open to taking
the account and admitting to being one hundred percent ignorant,
which is crazy because most of these were selectively ignorant,
like bitch, you knew you was wrong. This is one
(39:55):
hundred percent ignorance. Ain't no way around it. So yeah,
I want to hear more of these, So make sure
you email me Baby Selective Ignorance pod at gmail dot com.
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(40:40):
excited to design it, and even more excited to bring
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I'm gonna read because this shit is collassimon because it
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the Apple podcast app, there's like five or six comments
talking about Carla says Carla was the worst guest I've
ever heard on the podcast. She was far too unintelligent
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this show was not that I'm a contrarian, really, because
I'm not. For as long as I've been potting, I
understand that my thoughts, views, and opinions differ sometimes drastically
than other people, and a part of me loves to
share space and whole conversations with people who have the
(42:56):
same type of strong, opinionated or outlook on life, because again,
we're not all gonna agree, and so a part of
me likes to immerse you guys, into the experience of
people holding conversations, being able to just share their thoughts,
(43:19):
share their experiences, and show y'all how fucked up people
is out of hell, baby, and two of us are
a little fucked up, all of us are a little ignorant.
All of us could learn a little bit more or
a lot of bit more. And so I hope that people.
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I don't want people to think that when they listen
to this podcast that they are going to just you know,
listen and agree with everything that's said. I don't think
that that's realistic. And I like to think that this
is a podcast based on realism, logic, and sometimes a
lack of depending on the lens that you're looking through. Right,
(44:04):
it's crazy because there's another one star review, and it's
because of what Because I like Chris Brown. I can't
take y'all serious around here. I really can't. But if
you support me, if you support this show, if you
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thank y'all for you know, meeting me inside play a
play anyways, Thank you guys so very much. You know
this is where conversations. Sorry, this episode wasn't really a conversation,
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it was me responding, but again, send those emails in.
Thank you so much, y'all. Tune in next week on Tuesday.
This is another episode of Selective Ignorance with your girl
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