A lot of people think that sex is just easy for men. But it’s not. A heck of a lot of guys are walking around with sexual anxiety and are worried about their body and/or performance. This can eat away at men’s confidence, leading them to avoid sex, or to have sex that’s less than pleasurable. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about how to build confidence in the bedroom and bust some common myths about male sexuality.
I’m joined once again by Dr. Joshua Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist who is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine. He is a Sexual Health Advisor to Astroglide Lubricants, and one of the co-founders of the sexual wellness brand Popstar, which creates science-backed products to support male sexual health and pleasure.
Some of the specific topics we explore include:
- What does it really men to be “sexually confident?”
- How do popular myths about male sexuality inhibit men’s confidence in the bedroom?
- Is more testosterone really the key to more confidence?
- What can men do if they want to increase their sexual stamina?
- When should you see a professional about sexual performance concerns?
You can visit Joshua’s website to learn more about his work.
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