In this episode, Mark welcomes back psychotherapist and author Hilary Jacobs Hendel for a profound conversation on emotions, parenting, and breaking cycles of suppression. Together, they explore Hilary’s groundbreaking “Change Triangle” tool and her new book Parents Have Feelings Too, which equips parents to better understand their own emotions so they can support their children’s. Hilary explains why emotions are not “good” or “bad” but vital information, how unprocessed feelings fuel anxiety, depression, and addictions, and why modeling emotional fluency is the most powerful gift parents can offer. Through stories, practical tools, and raw insights, this episode unpacks how embracing emotions—rather than burying them—can transform parenting, heal intergenerational trauma, and create deeper, healthier connections at home and beyond
Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW has a passion for teaching people how to understand and process emotions for healing. She is the author of the international award-winning book, “It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self” and “Parents Have Feelings, Too” . She is a certified psychoanalyst and AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor.. You can find free resources plus classes and curricula on emotions and the Change Triangle at hilaryjacobshendel.com.
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