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August 19, 2024 31 mins
Do you feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to create a life that you love? Are you ready to take small steps to make it happen? My friend Stephanie May Wilson, a writer, speaker, and podcaster, and I talk about the unique challenges and pressures women face in their 20s and 30s, a time Stephanie calls the "everything era." This is a period marked by significant life decisions, societal expectations, and a whole lot of figuring it out. Stephanie shares her own experiences navigating this tricky terrain and offers some valuable takeaways: Embrace the Power of Choice: The 'everything era' is YOUR time to take the reins and create the life YOU want. It's about aligning your decisions with your values, even when those values don't always align with traditional expectations. Transition to the "I Get to Create It Now Era": Life throws curveballs. Embrace those detours as opportunities for personal growth and course correction. Each challenge is a chance to refine your vision and build the life you love. Don't Be Afraid of Disagreements: Navigating this phase can lead to conflicts with loved ones, especially when it comes to life choices. Use these disagreements as opportunities for open communication and mutual understanding. Listen in as Stephanie shares her personal journey of embracing the "I get to create it now era" and how a move to Spain opened up a whole new chapter of her life.  Follow us on social media at @biancaolthoff and @smaywilson. Stay connected with Stephanie through her adventures.   XO, B RESOURCES/LINKS Guest Stephanie May Wilson stephaniemaywilson.com Book: Create a Life You Love: How to Quiet Outside Voices So You Can Finally Hear Your Own Quote The 'everything era' is a time of uncertainty and pressure to figure out life. Takeaways The 'everything era' refers to the period in a woman's life, typically in her 20s and 30s, when she is making significant life decisions and facing societal pressures. It's important to define what success and happiness mean to you personally, rather than conforming to societal expectations. The transition from the 'everything era' to the 'I get to create it now era' is a defining moment for personal growth and decision-making. You have the power to decide how you want to live your life and make choices that align with your values and desires. When life doesn't go as expected, you have options: you can quit, keep moving forward, change tactics, or ask for help. Surround yourself with a supportive inner circle who can provide guidance and advice, but ultimately trust yourself to make the best decisions for your life. Creating a life you love may involve making intentional decisions that fit for a season but may not be permanent. Taking control of your own life and making decisions that align with your values and desires can lead to personal fulfillment and happiness. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Dwell! Go to dwellbible.com/wgt to receive your 25% discount today.  ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple Spotify ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.” Youtube  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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