May 27, 2025 • 15 mins
On this weeks episode of WYHA, Anna is on maternity leave and we have prepared some episodes answering your burning hotlines! This week, a listener has called in asking how to ask his new partner for some 'me time' after going through the honeymoon phase. We workshop how to go about this and how to navigate this while keeping everyone happy, enjoy xx
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, on Sunday, I'm actually gonna have a girl's day.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
What do you mean we had we were going to
go surfing together.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Where's Your Head At? Is a podcast that talks all
things right. Hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hi, I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now
too newlywed not to each other. Just a female and
male best friend here for the good, the bad, and
the ugly times.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So, Matt, where's your head at? Good morning?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Good morning Anna, Good morning everyone. Where's your head at? Hannah?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Well, I'm a maternity leave and we are recording a
hotline episode currently in the studio. Right now, we're both
standing up, and we've never done a podcast standing.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I've seen a couple of people stand in like the
radio presenters stand and I was like, you know what,
let's try standing up. Let's see how far through this
episode we can get standing, because I think I'm going
to get a little bit over it.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I would never have agreed to standing, but honestly, at
this point in my pregnancy, I'm heavily pregnant. My hips
who saw, I'm just aching all.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Over standing make it worse.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
No, because i feel like I'm kind of moving side
to side, so I'm stretching out my hair.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, you are swaying to side, just.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Like treating this as a bit of a workout.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Well, if you stand, I'm pretty sure we'll find a
start on that. You will burn more calories than sitting
down at your desk. So if you're listening to this
at work, stand up.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Do you know what a friend of mine actually she
got one of those little slow treadmills that you walk on.
Why Yeah, and she loves it. She's like all four
I The thing is one of my worst moments in
life was when I was I used to do PT
training and I was like going ham on the treadmill
(02:07):
with my PT and fell off fully fell off frontwards
or backwards backwards like I was running. Obviously I don't
know how it happened, and just went flying off the
back like absolutely flying badly, like badly. And then my
PT was like really like awkward about it.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
He was like are you He was like, you're Okay,
the speed was only at four point five. You're worse
shape than I thought.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
No, I was really fit then, But the problem was
is I think I got two cocky. So I was
going at like fifteen or something fast. And then imagine
flying off a treadmill like that. That would hurt. Yeah,
And that's the reason why I feel like, because I
work at home a lot on my phone or laptop,
and it would be nice to just be like slowly
walking whilst doing it. It's almost like subconscious, like you
(02:55):
wouldn't even know, but imagine. I mean, if you go
flying off that, it's probably not.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Really red flag. I mean at my old office in
the Gold Coast, they have desks that would stand up
and a lot of people would stand while working. Yeah,
so that would burn calories doing that.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
You're all about I.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Have what was the other thing I said today? Something?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
But you said something else.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
I'm like, I'm in my fitness era. You know what
they say, though, don't count calories, make calories count?
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Why you someone bought with this who hurt you? Like, well,
you don't need to count calories.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
All right? And so we've brought some stories to today's episode. Yes,
I saw an article and it said study say that
couples who fart together tend to have a healthier and
happier relationship. So it's actually come up a couple of
times on my Instagram this week.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
And do you agree with this?
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Do you fight in front of Michael?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Do you agree with this?
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I I'll start by saying, I have never had a
girlfriend or partner of fart in front of me.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Ever, I had what about like by accident.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
They're like, oops, yeah, years ago. I'm talking years like
sixteen year old. My girlfriend she was asleep on okay,
actually I was watching continue watching the movie and she farted,
broke herself up and she was like and I was like,
did you fart? She was like no, And I was like,
I kept watching the movie and I realized you hard.
I wasn't going to play on it.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
You know what about you? Are?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
You just like let him?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
He's letting them riff.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I mean with my wife, I won't far as much
in previous relationship.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
That's nice of you. Yeah, I said that, Michael, don't
part for me. It does not stop.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Yeah, previous relationship. So I would just let it rip
and on stop like you know, and I do this
thing where I go to to like cover it up
as if it was like, you know, so it's pretty funny.
But then it's funny when they're silent and no one knows. No,
but I go, no, my ship doesn't stink.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Oh okay, sorry, guys. Isn't this an annoying thing that
Matt says that his ship doesn't stink, His farts didn't stink.
He just has no regrance to his bo Apparently.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I don't do I have. Have you ever smelled bo
on me? No?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I have it, but I can't really like pinpoint anyone
who have smelled bo on unless it's like really pungent, true,
I think, yeah, like you can't help it. There is
a thing where you can get both ups under your
arms and it stops sweating, which I think.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Is that sweating is good for you.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Though sweating, I guess is good for you. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
The study suggests that couples who are open enough to
far in front of each other may have stronger bonds
and better emotional health. It's a marker of intimacy, honesty,
and relaxation within the relationship, which can lead to more
trust in the partnership.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah. Well, look, I well.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You're pregnancy, you probably can you have you lost any
control of it yet?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Or he took the words right out of oh really
tell what you were about to say. So, like I
like never farted in front of mye unless it was
like an accident, yeah, or like if I was in
my sleep and I'm like oh, but like like if
I needed to like do that, I would go to
the bathroom and then I'm like, you know, I'm on
the toilet's free reign whatever. But like never before really,
(06:05):
and then since getting pregnant, they've slipped out a little
bit because I think there's a lot.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Of pressure and Michael's cool with that.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
I mean Michael doesn't like he doesn't I care more
about it than he does.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
If your wife is pregnant at that point, you wouldn't care.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
I don't think do guys even care if if a
woman farts.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
I've never been in that situation really.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Like when is when is too soon? Like it's like
date number one or two make me feel like WHOA, well,
let's not get too comfortable.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
What would you do with you? Like a guy you
want on a date? We fared on like date one
or two.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I think it might turn me off. Like as from
a woman's perspective, I think i'd be like, restrain yourself,
cleanch harder.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Be a bit too us when we're touching on it,
we'll leave on this. Do you strategically fart when you
need to? Or like, do you so like when you
plan it, like you go, okay, I need a fart
do in front of Michael and wander off.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
No, it's not like a planned thing that I've like
written like my schedule for off like that.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
But you're feeling and I can't do it here, so
I'll just wander off.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
No, I think just if I go to the bathroom,
that's when it happens for me, Like that's like my
designated time. He's not in the bathroom with you.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Is going to the bathroom. That's too much. I'm seeing
too much on this.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Just the last question what I asked you before As
a guy, when is too soon to fart in front
of a girl? No for the girl, because you're saying
that guys don't care if a girl farts, But when
is too soon?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Let me I don't for personally. Yeah, I mean the
first or second date would be too soon. I think
that would be a bit of.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Like, whoa, you're like, I think for me, like we
have to be exclusive before you're even looking like farting.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Okay, yeah, let's say exclusive. Then it's such a goo
question because I do like it's like.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Well, it's just because you were so like guys don't care.
So then I was like, well, when would you care?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I don't know if I actually ever would care, I could.
You could probably laugh it off if it was by acts,
like if she lifted a leg on the couch and
let one rip on the first day, a leg on
the first day, that would be sort of like, whooh,
you're comfortable a leg?
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Okay. I think it's time for rusting into this hotline
because man, I'm just having way too much fun talking.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
About everyone's like what the fuck am I listening to?
They have lowered themselves to toilet humor.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I'm about to go into like labor, like I'm about
to lose all dignity toilets low. It's just funny.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
This hotline is anonymous. Let's hear what they have to say.
Huge fan of podcast for a while now, person, I'm
calling in. I've just got into a new relationship with
my girlfriend. It's been going pretty well, doing absolutely everything together,
go on my parks, markets, I go out surf and
(09:11):
she comes with me, spend a lot of time with
each other's houses and whatnot.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
That was really good and all for like the first
few months the relationship, and I loved it. But now
before the relationship was very much like a personal sort
of guy.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
I enjoyed my personal space and my time.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Alone and for the first three months so it was
good and I love being with her, but it just
got to start to get a bit much now, not
even personal space. But I don't know how to tell
her that I need a bit of time without sounding rude.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
So I just wondering if you'd hang me out with that
would be great.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Thanks again, love his mote. Thanks for the voicemail. That's
a really good one.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
How do you tackle that situation, because what do you say?
For the first three months he loved it and enjoyed it.
In the honeymoon stage, you know, fireworks going off. But
I'm a big advocate for personal time. Yes, absolutely, I
love my time to myself.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I think everyone does need to have time alone to
really recharge. Yeah, And I think my advice to him
would just be be really honest and just say, look,
I'm like, I love when this is going. Are they together? Yeah,
verificially together? I think you said yeah, yeah, I like,
I'm I really enjoy hanging out with you. I just
need to prioritize some alone time and like getting some
(10:25):
work stuff done and.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Honestly is the best policy. So I agree, I think
he should express that to her. What happens if say
he expresses that to her and she gets upset? How
do you tackle that situation? She goes, well, you don't
love me, you don't want to hang out with me?
Am I too much?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I would say, just validate her feelings, because how she's
feeling would be correct, and just say like, look, you
have every right to feel this way. We've hung out
twenty four to seven, but it's just not maintainable, and
I want to, like, you know, make the most of
the moments we have together, but also have some me
time and some personal time where I can recharge. I'm
the best verson me for you.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Well, it could be he could be a single for what,
you know, maybe like twenty five years. I'm just saying
he could be single for most of his life. He
could have grown into habits of like having alone time
and then what to just date someone that you love
and they're just taking up all you know what I mean,
you're with them all the time.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
It gets a lot.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
It could be a lot, you know.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
It's a lot for everyone. It's also transition, you know,
like it's a it's a life transition, going from being
single only thinking about you, your needs, What am I
going to do this weekend? What's my plans to actually
having someone else in the mix and also thinking about them,
how that's going to make them feel.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I've got one for you. Then if you don't mesh
into twine properly, are you? Are you right for each other?
Speaker 1 (11:44):
You know?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
So I think so you're not. Like if it doesn't
because he said that she went surfing with him or
something like, he's she's obviously taking up the hobbies as well.
So I think that's a good sign.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
I don't think you could just go surfing like I
think she probably knows how. It's like pretty, it's a skill,
a niche thing. She's on the boogie board like.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Side of catching the waves. Well, that's what I mean. Like,
I mean I think that he's I think it's cute.
They're doing a lot of stuff together, and I would
encourage partners to do that, but I would also encourage
them to find their own time, in their own space.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
And a happy medium, Like relationships evolve, Like how things
are at the start of a relationship is never how
they're gonna continue on, you know, full blown one hundred
percent honeymoon phase is very like they might have.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Each other in a month and not want to hang
out together at all. Psimistic might be like, I'm not
coming safing with you, no.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
But I think I think, you know, every relationship after
the honeymoon phase kind of gets into like a bit
of a groove and maybe he's thinking about it, maybe
she's thinking about it, and she's just not really voiced it,
like he hasn't voiced it to her.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Well, other things come in there as well, like work
might come up. She might get busier at work, or
he might get busier, and they might not spend time
as much together, and you know, looking back in a
couple of months, you might be like, oh, I miss
her hanging out with her all the time. Yeah, So,
I mean, what would the advice is, Honestly, it's the
best policy.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Validate her feelings, Validate.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Her feelings very strong man. That's an important thing I've realized,
and just understand each other, hold space and listen. You
can't get angry if someone wants alone time.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
If you take it personally, you can, like if it's
said in the wrong way, you could be like, oh,
they don't like me anymore. Like you could take it personally.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Okay, you're telling me that you want a loone time.
Tell me are we doing? Like?
Speaker 1 (13:33):
No?
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Tell me. Here's an example of telling how you.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
So it's a weekend, it's Friday night, I would just say.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
We're sitting down eating a pizza, or you're Michael Sprience
a time. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Yeah, So I'll just say, Hey, on Sunday, I'm actually
going to have a girl's day.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
What do you mean we had we were going to
go surfing together. So we're not going surfing together. You
don't love me, I've nothing to you.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
No one is going to react like that. Literally, no
one is going to say that, just like I really
need to like reach I would say, I just really
haven't seen my friends in a while, and I really
want to reach oute my calf friends.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Am I not your friend? Do I not feel your
calf got me? Oh?
Speaker 1 (14:24):
My God, it's a lot coming right now.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
So that's how that's why you would tackle it.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Yeah, just be open on it.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
By the way, I was doing like the worst case scenario,
Like that's not real.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
No hope. No one acts, especially in a new relationship,
like people are like tiptoeing around each other like yeah,
no problem, like have fun. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
I was just joking. Yeah no, Look, if that's I reckon,
that's the best way to say it.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Okay, Well that was we.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Stood up the whole time. Maybe I feel goofy that
we're standing up.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
I actually love standing up. I feel like my hits
are loosening by the second for this baby to come out.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
If water could break it any stage, you can pop
out any time, and we'll be back when maternitally finishes.
Have you put in your leaf form for that? We
have a date.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
We said six weeks. That's all I'm getting, apparently the.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Extra time.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Okay, guys, until next time. Bye,
Hey, on Sunday, I'm actually gonna have a girl's day.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
What do you mean we had we were going to
go surfing together.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Where's Your Head At? Is a podcast that talks all
things right. Hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hi, I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now
too newlywed not to each other. Just a female and
male best friend here for the good, the bad, and
the ugly times.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So, Matt, where's your head at? Good morning?
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Good morning Anna, Good morning everyone. Where's your head at? Hannah?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Well, I'm a maternity leave and we are recording a
hotline episode currently in the studio. Right now, we're both
standing up, and we've never done a podcast standing.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I've seen a couple of people stand in like the
radio presenters stand and I was like, you know what,
let's try standing up. Let's see how far through this
episode we can get standing, because I think I'm going
to get a little bit over it.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I would never have agreed to standing, but honestly, at
this point in my pregnancy, I'm heavily pregnant. My hips
who saw, I'm just aching all.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Over standing make it worse.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
No, because i feel like I'm kind of moving side
to side, so I'm stretching out my hair.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, you are swaying to side, just.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Like treating this as a bit of a workout.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Well, if you stand, I'm pretty sure we'll find a
start on that. You will burn more calories than sitting
down at your desk. So if you're listening to this
at work, stand up.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Do you know what a friend of mine actually she
got one of those little slow treadmills that you walk on.
Why Yeah, and she loves it. She's like all four
I The thing is one of my worst moments in
life was when I was I used to do PT
training and I was like going ham on the treadmill
(02:07):
with my PT and fell off fully fell off frontwards
or backwards backwards like I was running. Obviously I don't
know how it happened, and just went flying off the
back like absolutely flying badly, like badly. And then my
PT was like really like awkward about it.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
He was like are you He was like, you're Okay,
the speed was only at four point five. You're worse
shape than I thought.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
No, I was really fit then, But the problem was
is I think I got two cocky. So I was
going at like fifteen or something fast. And then imagine
flying off a treadmill like that. That would hurt. Yeah,
And that's the reason why I feel like, because I
work at home a lot on my phone or laptop,
and it would be nice to just be like slowly
walking whilst doing it. It's almost like subconscious, like you
(02:55):
wouldn't even know, but imagine. I mean, if you go
flying off that, it's probably not.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
Really red flag. I mean at my old office in
the Gold Coast, they have desks that would stand up
and a lot of people would stand while working. Yeah,
so that would burn calories doing that.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
You're all about I.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Have what was the other thing I said today? Something?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
But you said something else.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
I'm like, I'm in my fitness era. You know what
they say, though, don't count calories, make calories count?
Speaker 1 (03:21):
Why you someone bought with this who hurt you? Like, well,
you don't need to count calories.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
All right? And so we've brought some stories to today's episode. Yes,
I saw an article and it said study say that
couples who fart together tend to have a healthier and
happier relationship. So it's actually come up a couple of
times on my Instagram this week.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
And do you agree with this?
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Do you fight in front of Michael?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Do you agree with this?
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I I'll start by saying, I have never had a
girlfriend or partner of fart in front of me.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Ever, I had what about like by accident.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
They're like, oops, yeah, years ago. I'm talking years like
sixteen year old. My girlfriend she was asleep on okay,
actually I was watching continue watching the movie and she farted,
broke herself up and she was like and I was like,
did you fart? She was like no, And I was like,
I kept watching the movie and I realized you hard.
I wasn't going to play on it.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
You know what about you? Are?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
You just like let him?
Speaker 1 (04:23):
He's letting them riff.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
I mean with my wife, I won't far as much
in previous relationship.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
That's nice of you. Yeah, I said that, Michael, don't
part for me. It does not stop.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Yeah, previous relationship. So I would just let it rip
and on stop like you know, and I do this
thing where I go to to like cover it up
as if it was like, you know, so it's pretty funny.
But then it's funny when they're silent and no one knows. No,
but I go, no, my ship doesn't stink.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Oh okay, sorry, guys. Isn't this an annoying thing that
Matt says that his ship doesn't stink, His farts didn't stink.
He just has no regrance to his bo Apparently.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I don't do I have. Have you ever smelled bo
on me? No?
Speaker 1 (05:05):
I have it, but I can't really like pinpoint anyone
who have smelled bo on unless it's like really pungent, true,
I think, yeah, like you can't help it. There is
a thing where you can get both ups under your
arms and it stops sweating, which I think.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Is that sweating is good for you.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Though sweating, I guess is good for you. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
The study suggests that couples who are open enough to
far in front of each other may have stronger bonds
and better emotional health. It's a marker of intimacy, honesty,
and relaxation within the relationship, which can lead to more
trust in the partnership.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah. Well, look, I well.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
You're pregnancy, you probably can you have you lost any
control of it yet?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Or he took the words right out of oh really
tell what you were about to say. So, like I
like never farted in front of mye unless it was
like an accident, yeah, or like if I was in
my sleep and I'm like oh, but like like if
I needed to like do that, I would go to
the bathroom and then I'm like, you know, I'm on
the toilet's free reign whatever. But like never before really,
(06:05):
and then since getting pregnant, they've slipped out a little
bit because I think there's a lot.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Of pressure and Michael's cool with that.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
I mean Michael doesn't like he doesn't I care more
about it than he does.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
If your wife is pregnant at that point, you wouldn't care.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
I don't think do guys even care if if a
woman farts.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
I've never been in that situation really.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
Like when is when is too soon? Like it's like
date number one or two make me feel like WHOA, well,
let's not get too comfortable.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
What would you do with you? Like a guy you
want on a date? We fared on like date one
or two.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
I think it might turn me off. Like as from
a woman's perspective, I think i'd be like, restrain yourself,
cleanch harder.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Be a bit too us when we're touching on it,
we'll leave on this. Do you strategically fart when you
need to? Or like, do you so like when you
plan it, like you go, okay, I need a fart
do in front of Michael and wander off.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
No, it's not like a planned thing that I've like
written like my schedule for off like that.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
But you're feeling and I can't do it here, so
I'll just wander off.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
No, I think just if I go to the bathroom,
that's when it happens for me, Like that's like my
designated time. He's not in the bathroom with you.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Is going to the bathroom. That's too much. I'm seeing
too much on this.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Just the last question what I asked you before As
a guy, when is too soon to fart in front
of a girl? No for the girl, because you're saying
that guys don't care if a girl farts, But when
is too soon?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Let me I don't for personally. Yeah, I mean the
first or second date would be too soon. I think
that would be a bit of.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Like, whoa, you're like, I think for me, like we
have to be exclusive before you're even looking like farting.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Okay, yeah, let's say exclusive. Then it's such a goo
question because I do like it's like.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Well, it's just because you were so like guys don't care.
So then I was like, well, when would you care?
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I don't know if I actually ever would care, I could.
You could probably laugh it off if it was by acts,
like if she lifted a leg on the couch and
let one rip on the first day, a leg on
the first day, that would be sort of like, whooh,
you're comfortable a leg?
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Okay. I think it's time for rusting into this hotline
because man, I'm just having way too much fun talking.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
About everyone's like what the fuck am I listening to?
They have lowered themselves to toilet humor.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I'm about to go into like labor, like I'm about
to lose all dignity toilets low. It's just funny.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
This hotline is anonymous. Let's hear what they have to say.
Huge fan of podcast for a while now, person, I'm
calling in. I've just got into a new relationship with
my girlfriend. It's been going pretty well, doing absolutely everything together,
go on my parks, markets, I go out surf and
(09:11):
she comes with me, spend a lot of time with
each other's houses and whatnot.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
That was really good and all for like the first
few months the relationship, and I loved it. But now
before the relationship was very much like a personal sort
of guy.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
I enjoyed my personal space and my time.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Alone and for the first three months so it was
good and I love being with her, but it just
got to start to get a bit much now, not
even personal space. But I don't know how to tell
her that I need a bit of time without sounding rude.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
So I just wondering if you'd hang me out with that
would be great.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Thanks again, love his mote. Thanks for the voicemail. That's
a really good one.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
How do you tackle that situation, because what do you say?
For the first three months he loved it and enjoyed it.
In the honeymoon stage, you know, fireworks going off. But
I'm a big advocate for personal time. Yes, absolutely, I
love my time to myself.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
I think everyone does need to have time alone to
really recharge. Yeah, And I think my advice to him
would just be be really honest and just say, look,
I'm like, I love when this is going. Are they together? Yeah,
verificially together? I think you said yeah, yeah, I like,
I'm I really enjoy hanging out with you. I just
need to prioritize some alone time and like getting some
(10:25):
work stuff done and.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Honestly is the best policy. So I agree, I think
he should express that to her. What happens if say
he expresses that to her and she gets upset? How
do you tackle that situation? She goes, well, you don't
love me, you don't want to hang out with me?
Am I too much?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I would say, just validate her feelings, because how she's
feeling would be correct, and just say like, look, you
have every right to feel this way. We've hung out
twenty four to seven, but it's just not maintainable, and
I want to, like, you know, make the most of
the moments we have together, but also have some me
time and some personal time where I can recharge. I'm
the best verson me for you.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Well, it could be he could be a single for what,
you know, maybe like twenty five years. I'm just saying
he could be single for most of his life. He
could have grown into habits of like having alone time
and then what to just date someone that you love
and they're just taking up all you know what I mean,
you're with them all the time.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
It gets a lot.
Speaker 2 (11:18):
It could be a lot, you know.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
It's a lot for everyone. It's also transition, you know,
like it's a it's a life transition, going from being
single only thinking about you, your needs, What am I
going to do this weekend? What's my plans to actually
having someone else in the mix and also thinking about them,
how that's going to make them feel.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I've got one for you. Then if you don't mesh
into twine properly, are you? Are you right for each other?
Speaker 1 (11:44):
You know?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
So I think so you're not. Like if it doesn't
because he said that she went surfing with him or
something like, he's she's obviously taking up the hobbies as well.
So I think that's a good sign.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
I don't think you could just go surfing like I
think she probably knows how. It's like pretty, it's a skill,
a niche thing. She's on the boogie board like.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
Side of catching the waves. Well, that's what I mean. Like,
I mean I think that he's I think it's cute.
They're doing a lot of stuff together, and I would
encourage partners to do that, but I would also encourage
them to find their own time, in their own space.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
And a happy medium, Like relationships evolve, Like how things
are at the start of a relationship is never how
they're gonna continue on, you know, full blown one hundred
percent honeymoon phase is very like they might have.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
Each other in a month and not want to hang
out together at all. Psimistic might be like, I'm not
coming safing with you, no.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
But I think I think, you know, every relationship after
the honeymoon phase kind of gets into like a bit
of a groove and maybe he's thinking about it, maybe
she's thinking about it, and she's just not really voiced it,
like he hasn't voiced it to her.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Well, other things come in there as well, like work
might come up. She might get busier at work, or
he might get busier, and they might not spend time
as much together, and you know, looking back in a
couple of months, you might be like, oh, I miss
her hanging out with her all the time. Yeah, So,
I mean, what would the advice is, Honestly, it's the
best policy.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Validate her feelings, Validate.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Her feelings very strong man. That's an important thing I've realized,
and just understand each other, hold space and listen. You
can't get angry if someone wants alone time.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
If you take it personally, you can, like if it's
said in the wrong way, you could be like, oh,
they don't like me anymore. Like you could take it personally.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Okay, you're telling me that you want a loone time.
Tell me are we doing? Like?
Speaker 1 (13:33):
No?
Speaker 2 (13:33):
Tell me. Here's an example of telling how you.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
So it's a weekend, it's Friday night, I would just say.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
We're sitting down eating a pizza, or you're Michael Sprience
a time. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Yeah, So I'll just say, Hey, on Sunday, I'm actually
going to have a girl's day.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
What do you mean we had we were going to
go surfing together. So we're not going surfing together. You
don't love me, I've nothing to you.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
No one is going to react like that. Literally, no
one is going to say that, just like I really
need to like reach I would say, I just really
haven't seen my friends in a while, and I really
want to reach oute my calf friends.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Am I not your friend? Do I not feel your
calf got me? Oh?
Speaker 1 (14:24):
My God, it's a lot coming right now.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
So that's how that's why you would tackle it.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Yeah, just be open on it.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
By the way, I was doing like the worst case scenario,
Like that's not real.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
No hope. No one acts, especially in a new relationship,
like people are like tiptoeing around each other like yeah,
no problem, like have fun. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
I was just joking. Yeah no, Look, if that's I reckon,
that's the best way to say it.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Okay, Well that was we.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Stood up the whole time. Maybe I feel goofy that
we're standing up.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
I actually love standing up. I feel like my hits
are loosening by the second for this baby to come out.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
If water could break it any stage, you can pop
out any time, and we'll be back when maternitally finishes.
Have you put in your leaf form for that? We
have a date.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
We said six weeks. That's all I'm getting, apparently the.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Extra time.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Okay, guys, until next time. Bye,
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