May 26, 2025 • 31 mins
Hi WYBA community,
It's such a joy being able to do this with you this week, and while we have so many more exciting episodes lined up for you, we are so excited to welcome Michael back into the studio for a 2nd week!
I had so much fun asking the questions last week and this week it's Michael asking the hard questions. My producer and Michael have collated all of your burning pregnancy q's and I answer them all! From relationship changes, intimacy and my fears, I loved hearing from you and hoped my honesty helped.
All my love,
Anna xxx
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Wanting to have kids is a huge life decision. But
once you're ready to embark on that journey, what do
you actually need to know? This podcast is the community
you never knew you needed from mums and mums to be.
We're about to embark on this learning journey together and
it's going to be real. It's going to be raw
and a completely non judgmental space. You're listening to Where's
(00:24):
your Bump Hat? And this is Ana Macavoy Staples. I'm
going to be interviewing experts in the field so that
all of our burning questions can be answered, from understanding
our cycle to knowing what is the best time.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
To conceive, and so much more.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
We'll get into the difference between natural verse c section births,
strange pregnancy symptoms and everything in between. Hello and welcome
back to another episode of Where's your Bump Hat? Today,
I am joined by my love fully husband, Michael Staples. Hello,
back again, He's back again.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Can't get rid of me.
Speaker 4 (01:06):
I love having you in the studio and I feel
like people love.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Hearing from me, so well, hopefully more times do you
come in the marria. Really today I am actually going
to be in the hot seat I I'm sure you do.
I have not seen any of these questions and Michael
and our producer have come up.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
With these, and you're going to take the floor.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Yep, you ready? I don't know?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Am I ready?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Hope?
Speaker 1 (01:35):
So so, honey, what do we have to report on
this week?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
What's been happening?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Well, firstly, yeah, your iron levels are very low.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
My iron levels are very low.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So I did a blood test and they were sitting
at twelve and the ob basically said that I need
to try everything to increase them. So I did try supplements.
They made me feel really unwell. And I think because
literally throughout my whole pregnancy, I have been on Danzatron
(02:08):
without fail, every single day from twelve weeks, so I
think I'm already nauseous, and then to add this iron
supplement just really was not sitting well with me. So
we opted to go down the food pathway. So I've
been eating lots of red meat, which I never eat.
I don't really eat a steak or a burger or
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anything like that, lots of spinach popeye style, and I
did another blood test and it's actually still gone down.
So yes, literally just before we came into this podcast,
I got a call from one of the midwifes saying
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that I'm going to have to have an iron transfusion
to get those levels up because the baby's stealing them all.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Yeah, so that's a big update.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It's a huge update. So I need to try and
get that locked in asap. It's a bit hard because
I feel like I'm so busy at the moment. Everyone's
been telling me to slow down, including you. Yeah, but
I feel like it's hard to slow down when you're
pregnant because I almost feel like there's t minus nine
weeks until the baby comes. So I'm like, this is
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my last nine weeks where I can get stuff done
without having a baby to think about. So I'm like, go,
go go. But maybe that's the wrong mindset to be in.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
It's hard to slow down.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
It's hard to slow down, especially when you've got a
lot going on with work and personal and you know
all of the things.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
And so what else has been happening?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
We teased something this week? Do you want to tell
everyone what we teased?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
We teased the baby's name. So we released a letter,
which is a letter s Yeah, you can read into
it what you will.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
And since then, Michael's in having some second thoughts.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
It's not second thoughts. I love the name, but it
just feels as if, now as the time gets closer,
I just want to be open to exploring other names
as backups if after he comes out, we decide, you
know what, he's not this, maybe he's this.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
So we've had a few people tell us stories about
the baby is born. The baby comes out, everyone's excited,
and you look at the baby and you already have
your name, and you're like, this baby does not look
like a Benjamin, or he does not look like a
Jeremiah or whatever the name is.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
You're definitely you did well to not drop the name
there by mistake. It's ninety nine percent locked in. I
just want a.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Back up name just in case, in case he doesn't
look like the name is your main whatever that means.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yeah, whatever that means.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Okay, I think it's time for me to be in
the hot seat, Michael. Michael has the questions, I think,
let's do this.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Okay, So when did you know that you're ready to
try for a baby?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Okay, So we talked about this a little bit in
the first episode, but I think we had always said
post wedding, we were going to try, and then we
got to post wedding and we were kind of like.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Are we sure about this? Are we definitely trying? We
didn't know.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I think it also comes back to the fact that
no one's ever really ready to fully have a baby
because I don't know, you're working and you're creating your life,
and you have this life that you've had for I
guess ten twenty years, and you're happy with it, and
then you're like, is this baby, how is it going
to fit in? How is he or she going to
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fit in? But I think it basically just came down
to the fact that we were like, let's pull off
the band aid and let's just see how we go, let's.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Get better go.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
We just went for it, and here we are, and
here we are pregnant.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Okay. So I mean, I obviously didn't write this question
because I don't know what it means, but have you
considered using a duela for birth or post natally? I
used one for both and highly recommend it as it
helps us make the most of the whole experience. No,
I don't know what a dueler is.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
In this current moment, I haven't looked into it. I
think I would have to do.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Some more research, so I'm just gonna leave it at that.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
So what is a duela? Okay?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
So I think it's basically a person that emotionally guides
you through the birth. I don't think that they're medically trained.
I think it's more like an emotional spiritual t you. Technically,
in this moment, you are myndula. And if anyone's listening
and they are very behind having a duela, please let
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me know. I feel like I don't know enough about
this topic to really comment, but I will look into it.
But again, all of the information is welcome, and even
if you have info, send me a voice note.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Always send me a voice note.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Because I'll probably put it into our wist your bumpat series.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Are you aiming for a natural birth or C section?
And do you mind sharing why you're opting for either?
Speaker 1 (07:37):
So what I will say right now is that the
baby is currently breach. Actually, I think that whole topic
should be a full episode, so I think we'll leave
that one for now, and I think I'm going to
record an episode on both sides and.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Then reveal what I'm going to do. I think that's A.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I think that's a good way to go about it
because there's so much to delve into with natural verse
C section berths. And if you have any voice notes,
please send them in being for Natural or four Sea Section.
I would love to hear from you, and I would
love to put them in the podcast.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
What have you purchased so far for the baby? I
think this is an interesting one because if we have
had boxes turning up to the house, yes, almost every day,
it feels so much. The last few months, that is Mayo,
every Monday, I've been down at the recycling plant with
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fresh cardboard.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Okay, so what most things right?
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Most things, but also not a lot of things. It
feels like.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
So we The first purchase that we ever made was
the Snoop from Happiest Baby.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Very first purchase.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
We've had friends who highly recommended them, said that they
got two three hours extra sleep.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Your friend told the story.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Of well he's sleeping really well and he puts it
all down to the snooth. So for someone who loves
their sleep, that was like my first purchase. We got
the outlet, which is basically this baby monitor sock kind
of thing that you put on the baby's foot and
it checks their oxygen levels and if anything's kind of
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going wrong, it sounds an alarm.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
So it can help with Apple.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Sid's kind of an Apple watch for a baby.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah, okay, in some ways, so we have that. That
was a second purchase.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I bought one of the boom things called uh milkers.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
I'm gonna say no to mil but that's.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
Theoretically kind of what it's.
Speaker 4 (09:59):
They didn't milk what it helps.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Yes, we got breast hump from Mummy Cozy or something
along those lines. And they're the ones that you can
just put into your bra and do things whilst.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
You get We want to say it milk milk.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Very cow like, very cow era.
Speaker 4 (10:29):
Is that insensitive?
Speaker 3 (10:30):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
I'm really sorry if if I've insulted you, because I
will be doing that very soon.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
It's a very cow era.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It is cows get milked.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
We can have a joke out. It doesn't need to
be offensive. It's just it is what it is. That's
what's going to happen, and we have to get comfortable
with it.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Let's get comfortable.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Get comfortable with milk. We can't say books anymore. There's
a band now okay, and what else have we bought?
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We have the ill Tuto, that chair, nursing chair.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
That chair is everything.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
I sit on that chair every day, reclined. It actually
has made my pregnancy so good. It actually shouldn't just
be for mums like we should have got one a
long time ago.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
It shouldn't just be a pregnancy chair that is the
most comfortable a.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Chair that I do love this chair. Chair chairs. It's competing.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
And then we have a baby change table. But that's
what I mean, like I feel like we.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Have and we have a cart.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
The little guy came into the world right now. I
think we have well enough.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
He would be pooling everywhere because we have.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
No nappi but everything. Yeah, so get a bath. There's
a list.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
There is the list. I have the list.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
We're doing well.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
We need like the carrier, the baby carrier.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
If you have any recommendations, please send me a message
for a good baby carrier.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Then the nursery looks lovely.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Nursy does look really good. Michael bought a.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Dad bag at the expo.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
He's a very own dad bag.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
He's quite happy with himself.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
It's cool back.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
It's like it's like this black leather bag and it's
got like you can put like two milk bottles on
either side, like very.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Dad's no one can see that.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I'm like, it's like he's like pulling out two guns,
but it's like two milk bottles.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Yeah. What are your struggles currently with pregnancy?
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I got in problems, you know what.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I think that pregnancy is interesting because every day there's
new things. Obviously, I'm still very nauseous, so I'm taking
man dann Zatron.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Which helps with that.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
But I feel like, for some reason, in the third trimester,
by about four o'clock, the on danzer Tron's really wearing off.
I don't know if it's because my body's used to
it or what, but yeah, I'm starting to feel more nauseous.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I'm just heavy.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
I think you just feel you can feel the weight
of the baby a lot more. So I'm doing like
the old man kind of like I get off a
couch and I'm like, h or I get out of
bed and I'm like, you know, like I'm just making
a lot more grunty noises trying to move things around.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
Well, you may be struggling, but you look beautiful.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
My back was number before. Remember that got out of
the car and.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I was like, oh, my back's numb.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
There's always I.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Was having, like crotch pain. Lightning crotch.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
You take it on every day with such grace.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Though lightning crutches not it.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
I feel like I'm being stabbed with four knives going
up from the crotch area up into my whatever's there uterus.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
That's horrendous.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
That's how That's literally how I describe it.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
I've seen you physically battle a lot. Yeah, you're doing amazing.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
We try to just keep busy and forget about the
pain having even currently.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
How long did it take to fall pregnant?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Five cycles?
Speaker 1 (14:28):
And I wish if I had one wish, it would
just be that I chilled out during the trying process,
because the one month that we did chill out, we
got pregnant.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
In the one month we stopped trying, like we weren't
thinking about it as much like.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
We were having my ties on the beach in Thailand,
living our best life. We were like doing fun things
in Thailand, just living life, and then pregnant.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Yeah, because we were like, oh, probably like might take ages.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
We're always going to conceive when Holida, knowing.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
You it's it's my happy place. Holiday is my happy place.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Everything want they get me pregnant and take me on holiday.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
So initially we're expecting a girl. Well, initially we're expecting
a boy, and then we were expecting a girl. So
the question is have you mourned the life that you
thought you would have had with her.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Well, it's interesting, right, because we did a recording in August,
which is the first episode of Where's Your Bump Hat,
And in that episode we actually say we predict that
we think we'll have a boy first. And I don't
know what it was because we were so hell bent
that we would have a boy first. But in the
cycle that we got pregnant, I had said to you,
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if we get pregnant this cycle, I think it's going
to be a girl. And I think that just set
us up to think we were having a girl. So
we were very much like, it's a girl. All of
those Old Wives tales was like, very much girl girl.
So if you're pregnant and you don't currently know the gender,
don't listen to them. Well, at least that's my experience
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because they were completely all wrong for me. But yeah,
then when we found out it wasn't that I needed
to mourn not having a girl, because I was always
very open to a boy or a girl. But when
we did our gender reveal, we both were very shocked,
Like we were both like what.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Well, mentally in that moment just before we're like, it's
gonna be pink, It's gonna be a girl.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Yeah, we were like, I was gonna say we knew
it was gonna be a girl, but we were wrong.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
But yeah, there was. We didn't really mourn it.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
I think maybe we were like, ah, we thought it
was a girl, but then we were also just like
so fixated on thinking about our baby boy and all
of the cool things that a boy brings to a family,
And yeah there was.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
There wasn't really any mourning period.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Like if I en up having three boys in a row,
then maybe I'd have to have like some sort of
say goodbye to the daughter. I thought I would have
tight feeling, but I don't feel that even one percent
right now. I'm just so excited to meet our boy.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Our little guy.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Yeah, he's the best.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
He is the best. So you've spoken a fair bit
about how you're feeling now in your third trimester. Yeah,
I'm gone through a few of those challenges. But what
trimester do you think has been the hardest.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Oh, I think the first trimester is the hardest. Agree,
because I couldn't take on dann Zatron because you're not
meant to. Well, you can, but I was told that
you can't really take it until twelve weeks.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
But if you do, that's your prerogative.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
In the first trimester, for about a month, you were
you were struggling to get on with me more than
a month. Like now, you've obviously had a lot of struggles,
but you've managed to push through and still get through
your days. Yeah, and in a little bit of pain
and feeling a little sick sometimes. But at the start
it was a battle.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
First trimester is hard. Yeah, it's so hard, and.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I think you Yeah, I was just going back to
back vomiting, just spewing constantly. Felt horrendous, just felt like
I was in a constant hangover.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Yeah, and I hate being hungover.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
I mean everyone hates being hungover, but like just to
be spewing back to back every single day, it's not
good for the teeth enamel.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Yeah, So first, definitely, I think as a bystander to it,
first was super rough. For you.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Second trimester.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I feel like I was promised to dream that never
came true. Like people were saying, Oh my god, you're
gonna have so much energy, You're gonna want to do everything.
The only reason the second trimester was good for me
is because I started having on danzetron and it stopped
the nausea and I could start living a normal day
to day life life again. But I didn't feel that
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real rush of energy or but also I am low
and iron, which we've recently found out, so after the transfusion.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
You might suddenly feel really maybe the third trimester is going.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
To be it.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Maybe it's just an iron level that's made me that
feel really tired.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
And then third trimester, I'm starting to get like a
lot of symptoms, I guess, I would say, and just
heavy heaviness.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
And yeah, you kind of covered this off already. But
the next question is any tips for morning sickness or
nausea in general.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
I didn't find that really anything helped, like.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Ad nausea, nausea, nausia. I mean, at the first trimester,
I had biscuits beside my bed, and as soon as
I woke up, I was eating biscuits. I was getting
so sick of those biscuits by the end of it. Now,
I couldn't even look at a biscuit.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
I forgot it. That morning routine. Yeah, as your eyes
were opening.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Like my eyes weren't even open, and I was like
reaching over.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
I was feeding biscuits just in the hope that it
might make you feel moderately better, which it felt like
it did work for it.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
A couple of hours.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
It seemed to help somewhat.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Yeah, yeah, so, I mean, I don't know, people do
the whole take some ginger, have some ginger tea, Like
I can't even look at any ginger tea now because
I tried so much and it just didn't really help.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Nothing really helps except actual medication.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
But that's my experience, and I know that every pregnancy
is different and things that potentially work for one person
probably didn't work for me.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
But yeah, first try. Mess is a real a battle,
a real battle. It was a bitch for sure. Battles good.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
I think we answered this question, do you think there's
anything that specifically helped you for pregnant? I think we
kind of answered that a few questions ago.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
I think, yeah, maybe us being a little bit more relaxed.
I spoke to Nat who's a natural path on the podcast,
and she spoke a lot about cycles and falling pregnant,
and she was saying that stress is the biggest reason,
or one of the biggest reasons, if you're a healthy
couple that you don't fall pregnant. And I think I
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will say that the month we fell pregnant, we weren't
think we weren't thinking about it. We were, but we weren't,
like it was in the back of my mind, but
I was focused on the holiday.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
I was like, I'm on holiday. Yeah, that's some fun.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
That was my main focus, and then trying was like
kind of an afterthought. Yeah, so I guess we could
say that, but you just don't know. You don't know,
and I think there's so many different factors that play
into it. So yeah, I think falling pregnant is quite hard, really,
and I think it's a really tough journey for a
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lot of people. So yeah, definitely thinking about people who
are still trying to get pregnant, because it can be
really challenging and difficult and it's not an easy waiting game,
is it.
Speaker 3 (22:17):
No, And yeah, we were so lucky and we're so
grateful for how it happened for us.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
Absolutely, do you miss getting botox and filler?
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Yes, But what I will say is I was very
much on the botox train, like every three to four months,
And I do think now that I look a bit
younger now that my botox has worn off. Obviously, when
my face moves a lot, I don't. But I think
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when my face is just still and there's no expression
in my forehead, still I look younger.
Speaker 3 (22:55):
So what's so I'm confused by the point there, So
you miss it or what you look younger without it?
Speaker 2 (23:01):
Like maybe I could have done a little less.
Speaker 3 (23:04):
I think you look beautiful all the time. I respect
your choices and anyone else's.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
He's so sulty about it, not at all.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
But yeah, I do miss it a little bit. I
think it's like made me feel good, and that's why
I liked to have a.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Bit of boater.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
You've quite a small forehead.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
I have a very small for head.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
I don't really need it.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
But in the same breath, like I think over, botox
does really age you as well. So I think it's
been a really good break for me to kind of
take note of that.
Speaker 3 (23:40):
I guess I've got a massive forehead and you don't.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Need anything, honey.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
It's beautiful the way you are.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
I think it's time to reverse the roles and I'm
going to put you in the hot seat next. Okay,
the first question have which again we have answered before
in another podcast, but this has come up so much
so we're just going to retouch on it. It says
(24:09):
would love to hear from Michael his perspective on how
he manages intimacy during pregnancy.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
I do hate talking about this sort of stuff. So yeah,
I mean, like I've sort of touched on in the
other episode, it's not the end of the world. Yeah,
at the start, I was really cautious. The first twelve
weeks is when it's the biggest risk of the pregnancy,
and I felt kind of a little bit paranoid. And
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then as the pregnancy progressed, you're not feeling your best,
You're feeling really sick. You've got a lot of pain. Like,
the most important thing for us is that you're happy
and healthy and the baby is happy and healthy. If
intimacy plays into that, then that's great, But I don't
think it's the most important thing.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Yeah, it's not like we've not done it. Yes, is
like it still happens like here and there.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
It's definitely happened. It's definitely happening. Yeah, it's not as
it's not as regular. But I don't think it's our
number one priority right now. No, Like pregnancy, there's a
lot of stuff going on.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I think we're.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
Worried, like more like concerned about the baby and me. Yeah,
and just trying to keep us both on a good trajectory.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah, pains, aches, everything like that, all of the things.
It's not the most important thing.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Next question, what has surprised you most about seeing your
wife pregnant?
Speaker 2 (25:38):
That's a good one, she looks.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
I mean, yes, so what surprised me?
Speaker 2 (25:50):
It must be strange.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
There's so many elements of that question. It looks so
incredibly hard, so incredibly hard, which I always I mean,
I don't think I really knew what to expect. But yeah,
the challenges that you've gone through and the way you've
taken all those challenges has been amazing. Yeah, this hasn't
really surprised me, but it's so unusual and strange, Like
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we still even now seven months into the pregnancy, it's
still so strange to fully conceptualize that you are actually pregnant.
And obviously it's getting more and more apparent the little
guy he's kicking all the time. I can obviously tell
that you're pregnant visual, but it still does blow my
(26:39):
mind that this in a few months time, there's going
to be a baby with us. So I'm not just
I think I danced around that question a little bit,
but that's my best answer.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
It's so true, and even like everything.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
About it is strange, we keep.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Having these moments like the other night we were watching
this tit Chok and it was like a true depiction
of a night with a new born. And this girl
has basically done a timestamp by each point in the night,
so it's like twelve am, one am, like every time
she's up. And after watching that, Michael and I just
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looked at each other and we were like, holy shit, that.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
Is intense and can we handle that?
Speaker 1 (27:22):
But yeah, it just feels like the more pregnant I get,
the more real it feels. Like at the start, it
felt like I was just pregnant, and then now it's
more about the baby because the baby's now kicking, and
now we're trying to visualize and trying to make fake scenarios.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Of what it's going to be like with the baby.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
No matter how long it goes on for and more
how real it theoretically should become, there is still something
that just feels like it is still connected. Is a disconnect.
It's almost like this fantasy land of oh, you're pregnant,
Oh there's this baby, a calm, and you're setting all
these things up. I think we still really do have
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no idea what's actually in front of us.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
I think when the baby is born, we are going
to get a huge shock, an amazing one, and I'm
worried about that and amazing like not to take away
and say we're not so excited, we are so excited
to meet the baby.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I still think it's going to be shocking to.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
See a real life child of mine and yours, like
me and you mix together. That's so strange. And the
fact that they just don't go away.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
I think so many people talk about that though. You know,
so many people've spoken to talk about that moment of
you're taking them home from the hospital and you're like,
what the hell is going on? Yeah, like we're in
charge of a baby now.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, And just yeah, it's very mind blowing. It is,
and every time we have a conversation like this, it
still blows my mind, and my mind's curry.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
You're pregnant. You are pregnant. That's all. We're here, we're
doing a pregnancy podcast.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
I can't believe it.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
Who would have.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Thought, Okay, how do you deal with the hormones? Any
tips from men struggling with pregnant partners.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Well, I've been very lucky because you have been really
chill and really calm. The tip, the only tip that
I've had to very very occasionally, very rarely use, is
just patience and just trying to be empathetic of everything
that you're going through. Because I feel that those very
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small amount of moments that I've had to just sit back,
be patient, not really say anything, you've kind of just
come out of it because there's been no combativeness from me,
and then a minute later you're.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Just worked through it.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Minute a minute later, you're ready to re embrace. So
re embrace isn't quite the word coming for I think
you've just got to be so patient and empathetic. It's
so hard and challenging what pregnant woman is going through.
So I just know that you know it's it's your
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time to be.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Super patient, and you are, like, I think one of
your best qualities is your patience.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
I will say that.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Let's put it to the test in a few most.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
I'll let you guys know how you guys, Okay, very
last question for you.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
How did you know you were ready for a baby?
Speaker 3 (30:36):
Just meeting the right person? Meeting you? I think very
early in our relationship, I was like, I want to
have kids with this person. Yeah, that's probably the simplest answer.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
Yeah, I love it, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Think I'm like, I don't think we are fully fully ready,
but we're going to just embrace it and try our best.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Thank Yeah, Okay, well, Michael, thank you so much once
again for coming in and gracing us with your presence
at Where's You'll bump out. It's been a pleasure as always. Guys,
if you have any more questions or love having Michael
on the show, please let me know and we can
get him back on for another episode. Michael, thank you
so much for coming in.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Thanks for having me back
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back to another episode of Where's your Bump Hat? Today,
I am joined by my love fully husband, Michael Staples. Hello,
back again, He's back again.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Can't get rid of me.
Speaker 4 (01:06):
I love having you in the studio and I feel
like people love.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Hearing from me, so well, hopefully more times do you
come in the marria. Really today I am actually going
to be in the hot seat I I'm sure you do.
I have not seen any of these questions and Michael
and our producer have come up.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
With these, and you're going to take the floor.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
Yep, you ready? I don't know?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Am I ready?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Hope?
Speaker 1 (01:35):
So so, honey, what do we have to report on
this week?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
What's been happening?
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Well, firstly, yeah, your iron levels are very low.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
My iron levels are very low.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
So I did a blood test and they were sitting
at twelve and the ob basically said that I need
to try everything to increase them. So I did try supplements.
They made me feel really unwell. And I think because
literally throughout my whole pregnancy, I have been on Danzatron
(02:08):
without fail, every single day from twelve weeks, so I
think I'm already nauseous, and then to add this iron
supplement just really was not sitting well with me. So
we opted to go down the food pathway. So I've
been eating lots of red meat, which I never eat.
I don't really eat a steak or a burger or
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anything like that, lots of spinach popeye style, and I
did another blood test and it's actually still gone down.
So yes, literally just before we came into this podcast,
I got a call from one of the midwifes saying
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that I'm going to have to have an iron transfusion
to get those levels up because the baby's stealing them all.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Yeah, so that's a big update.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It's a huge update. So I need to try and
get that locked in asap. It's a bit hard because
I feel like I'm so busy at the moment. Everyone's
been telling me to slow down, including you. Yeah, but
I feel like it's hard to slow down when you're
pregnant because I almost feel like there's t minus nine
weeks until the baby comes. So I'm like, this is
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my last nine weeks where I can get stuff done
without having a baby to think about. So I'm like, go,
go go. But maybe that's the wrong mindset to be in.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
It's hard to slow down.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
It's hard to slow down, especially when you've got a
lot going on with work and personal and you know
all of the things.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
And so what else has been happening?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
We teased something this week? Do you want to tell
everyone what we teased?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
We teased the baby's name. So we released a letter,
which is a letter s Yeah, you can read into
it what you will.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
And since then, Michael's in having some second thoughts.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
It's not second thoughts. I love the name, but it
just feels as if, now as the time gets closer,
I just want to be open to exploring other names
as backups if after he comes out, we decide, you
know what, he's not this, maybe he's this.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
So we've had a few people tell us stories about
the baby is born. The baby comes out, everyone's excited,
and you look at the baby and you already have
your name, and you're like, this baby does not look
like a Benjamin, or he does not look like a
Jeremiah or whatever the name is.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
You're definitely you did well to not drop the name
there by mistake. It's ninety nine percent locked in. I
just want a.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Back up name just in case, in case he doesn't
look like the name is your main whatever that means.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yeah, whatever that means.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Okay, I think it's time for me to be in
the hot seat, Michael. Michael has the questions, I think,
let's do this.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Okay, So when did you know that you're ready to
try for a baby?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Okay, So we talked about this a little bit in
the first episode, but I think we had always said
post wedding, we were going to try, and then we
got to post wedding and we were kind of like.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Are we sure about this? Are we definitely trying? We
didn't know.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I think it also comes back to the fact that
no one's ever really ready to fully have a baby
because I don't know, you're working and you're creating your life,
and you have this life that you've had for I
guess ten twenty years, and you're happy with it, and
then you're like, is this baby, how is it going
to fit in? How is he or she going to
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fit in? But I think it basically just came down
to the fact that we were like, let's pull off
the band aid and let's just see how we go, let's.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Get better go.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
We just went for it, and here we are, and
here we are pregnant.
Speaker 3 (06:21):
Okay. So I mean, I obviously didn't write this question
because I don't know what it means, but have you
considered using a duela for birth or post natally? I
used one for both and highly recommend it as it
helps us make the most of the whole experience. No,
I don't know what a dueler is.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
In this current moment, I haven't looked into it. I
think I would have to do.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Some more research, so I'm just gonna leave it at that.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
So what is a duela? Okay?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
So I think it's basically a person that emotionally guides
you through the birth. I don't think that they're medically trained.
I think it's more like an emotional spiritual t you. Technically,
in this moment, you are myndula. And if anyone's listening
and they are very behind having a duela, please let
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me know. I feel like I don't know enough about
this topic to really comment, but I will look into it.
But again, all of the information is welcome, and even
if you have info, send me a voice note.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Always send me a voice note.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Because I'll probably put it into our wist your bumpat series.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Are you aiming for a natural birth or C section?
And do you mind sharing why you're opting for either?
Speaker 1 (07:37):
So what I will say right now is that the
baby is currently breach. Actually, I think that whole topic
should be a full episode, so I think we'll leave
that one for now, and I think I'm going to
record an episode on both sides and.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Then reveal what I'm going to do. I think that's A.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
I think that's a good way to go about it
because there's so much to delve into with natural verse
C section berths. And if you have any voice notes,
please send them in being for Natural or four Sea Section.
I would love to hear from you, and I would
love to put them in the podcast.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
What have you purchased so far for the baby? I
think this is an interesting one because if we have
had boxes turning up to the house, yes, almost every day,
it feels so much. The last few months, that is Mayo,
every Monday, I've been down at the recycling plant with
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fresh cardboard.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Okay, so what most things right?
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Most things, but also not a lot of things. It
feels like.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
So we The first purchase that we ever made was
the Snoop from Happiest Baby.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
Very first purchase.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
We've had friends who highly recommended them, said that they
got two three hours extra sleep.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Your friend told the story.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Of well he's sleeping really well and he puts it
all down to the snooth. So for someone who loves
their sleep, that was like my first purchase. We got
the outlet, which is basically this baby monitor sock kind
of thing that you put on the baby's foot and
it checks their oxygen levels and if anything's kind of
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going wrong, it sounds an alarm.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
So it can help with Apple.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Sid's kind of an Apple watch for a baby.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah, okay, in some ways, so we have that. That
was a second purchase.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I bought one of the boom things called uh milkers.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
I'm gonna say no to mil but that's.
Speaker 3 (09:57):
Theoretically kind of what it's.
Speaker 4 (09:59):
They didn't milk what it helps.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Yes, we got breast hump from Mummy Cozy or something
along those lines. And they're the ones that you can
just put into your bra and do things whilst.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
You get We want to say it milk milk.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Very cow like, very cow era.
Speaker 4 (10:29):
Is that insensitive?
Speaker 3 (10:30):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
I'm really sorry if if I've insulted you, because I
will be doing that very soon.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
It's a very cow era.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
It is cows get milked.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
We can have a joke out. It doesn't need to
be offensive. It's just it is what it is. That's
what's going to happen, and we have to get comfortable
with it.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Let's get comfortable.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Get comfortable with milk. We can't say books anymore. There's
a band now okay, and what else have we bought?
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We have the ill Tuto, that chair, nursing chair.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
That chair is everything.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
I sit on that chair every day, reclined. It actually
has made my pregnancy so good. It actually shouldn't just
be for mums like we should have got one a
long time ago.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
It shouldn't just be a pregnancy chair that is the
most comfortable a.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Chair that I do love this chair. Chair chairs. It's competing.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
And then we have a baby change table. But that's
what I mean, like I feel like we.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Have and we have a cart.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
The little guy came into the world right now. I
think we have well enough.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
He would be pooling everywhere because we have.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
No nappi but everything. Yeah, so get a bath. There's
a list.
Speaker 4 (11:54):
There is the list. I have the list.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
We're doing well.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
We need like the carrier, the baby carrier.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
If you have any recommendations, please send me a message
for a good baby carrier.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Then the nursery looks lovely.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
Nursy does look really good. Michael bought a.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Dad bag at the expo.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
He's a very own dad bag.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
He's quite happy with himself.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
It's cool back.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
It's like it's like this black leather bag and it's
got like you can put like two milk bottles on
either side, like very.
Speaker 3 (12:25):
Dad's no one can see that.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I'm like, it's like he's like pulling out two guns,
but it's like two milk bottles.
Speaker 3 (12:33):
Yeah. What are your struggles currently with pregnancy?
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I got in problems, you know what.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
I think that pregnancy is interesting because every day there's
new things. Obviously, I'm still very nauseous, so I'm taking
man dann Zatron.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Which helps with that.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
But I feel like, for some reason, in the third trimester,
by about four o'clock, the on danzer Tron's really wearing off.
I don't know if it's because my body's used to
it or what, but yeah, I'm starting to feel more nauseous.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I'm just heavy.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
I think you just feel you can feel the weight
of the baby a lot more. So I'm doing like
the old man kind of like I get off a
couch and I'm like, h or I get out of
bed and I'm like, you know, like I'm just making
a lot more grunty noises trying to move things around.
Speaker 3 (13:36):
Well, you may be struggling, but you look beautiful.
Speaker 4 (13:41):
My back was number before. Remember that got out of
the car and.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
I was like, oh, my back's numb.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
There's always I.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Was having, like crotch pain. Lightning crotch.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
You take it on every day with such grace.
Speaker 4 (13:56):
Though lightning crutches not it.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
I feel like I'm being stabbed with four knives going
up from the crotch area up into my whatever's there uterus.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
That's horrendous.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
That's how That's literally how I describe it.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
I've seen you physically battle a lot. Yeah, you're doing amazing.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
We try to just keep busy and forget about the
pain having even currently.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
How long did it take to fall pregnant?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Five cycles?
Speaker 1 (14:28):
And I wish if I had one wish, it would
just be that I chilled out during the trying process,
because the one month that we did chill out, we
got pregnant.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
In the one month we stopped trying, like we weren't
thinking about it as much like.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
We were having my ties on the beach in Thailand,
living our best life. We were like doing fun things
in Thailand, just living life, and then pregnant.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Yeah, because we were like, oh, probably like might take ages.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
We're always going to conceive when Holida, knowing.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
You it's it's my happy place. Holiday is my happy place.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
Everything want they get me pregnant and take me on holiday.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
So initially we're expecting a girl. Well, initially we're expecting
a boy, and then we were expecting a girl. So
the question is have you mourned the life that you
thought you would have had with her.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Well, it's interesting, right, because we did a recording in August,
which is the first episode of Where's Your Bump Hat,
And in that episode we actually say we predict that
we think we'll have a boy first. And I don't
know what it was because we were so hell bent
that we would have a boy first. But in the
cycle that we got pregnant, I had said to you,
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if we get pregnant this cycle, I think it's going
to be a girl. And I think that just set
us up to think we were having a girl. So
we were very much like, it's a girl. All of
those Old Wives tales was like, very much girl girl.
So if you're pregnant and you don't currently know the gender,
don't listen to them. Well, at least that's my experience
(16:07):
because they were completely all wrong for me. But yeah,
then when we found out it wasn't that I needed
to mourn not having a girl, because I was always
very open to a boy or a girl. But when
we did our gender reveal, we both were very shocked,
Like we were both like what.
Speaker 3 (16:28):
Well, mentally in that moment just before we're like, it's
gonna be pink, It's gonna be a girl.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Yeah, we were like, I was gonna say we knew
it was gonna be a girl, but we were wrong.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
But yeah, there was. We didn't really mourn it.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
I think maybe we were like, ah, we thought it
was a girl, but then we were also just like
so fixated on thinking about our baby boy and all
of the cool things that a boy brings to a family,
And yeah there was.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
There wasn't really any mourning period.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Like if I en up having three boys in a row,
then maybe I'd have to have like some sort of
say goodbye to the daughter. I thought I would have
tight feeling, but I don't feel that even one percent
right now. I'm just so excited to meet our boy.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Our little guy.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Yeah, he's the best.
Speaker 3 (17:20):
He is the best. So you've spoken a fair bit
about how you're feeling now in your third trimester. Yeah,
I'm gone through a few of those challenges. But what
trimester do you think has been the hardest.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Oh, I think the first trimester is the hardest. Agree,
because I couldn't take on dann Zatron because you're not
meant to. Well, you can, but I was told that
you can't really take it until twelve weeks.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
But if you do, that's your prerogative.
Speaker 3 (17:48):
In the first trimester, for about a month, you were
you were struggling to get on with me more than
a month. Like now, you've obviously had a lot of struggles,
but you've managed to push through and still get through
your days. Yeah, and in a little bit of pain
and feeling a little sick sometimes. But at the start
it was a battle.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
First trimester is hard. Yeah, it's so hard, and.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I think you Yeah, I was just going back to
back vomiting, just spewing constantly. Felt horrendous, just felt like
I was in a constant hangover.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Yeah, and I hate being hungover.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
I mean everyone hates being hungover, but like just to
be spewing back to back every single day, it's not
good for the teeth enamel.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Yeah, So first, definitely, I think as a bystander to it,
first was super rough. For you.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Second trimester.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I feel like I was promised to dream that never
came true. Like people were saying, Oh my god, you're
gonna have so much energy, You're gonna want to do everything.
The only reason the second trimester was good for me
is because I started having on danzetron and it stopped
the nausea and I could start living a normal day
to day life life again. But I didn't feel that
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real rush of energy or but also I am low
and iron, which we've recently found out, so after the transfusion.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
You might suddenly feel really maybe the third trimester is going.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
To be it.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Maybe it's just an iron level that's made me that
feel really tired.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
And then third trimester, I'm starting to get like a
lot of symptoms, I guess, I would say, and just
heavy heaviness.
Speaker 3 (19:30):
And yeah, you kind of covered this off already. But
the next question is any tips for morning sickness or
nausea in general.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
I didn't find that really anything helped, like.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Ad nausea, nausea, nausia. I mean, at the first trimester,
I had biscuits beside my bed, and as soon as
I woke up, I was eating biscuits. I was getting
so sick of those biscuits by the end of it. Now,
I couldn't even look at a biscuit.
Speaker 3 (19:59):
I forgot it. That morning routine. Yeah, as your eyes
were opening.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Like my eyes weren't even open, and I was like
reaching over.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
I was feeding biscuits just in the hope that it
might make you feel moderately better, which it felt like
it did work for it.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
A couple of hours.
Speaker 3 (20:16):
It seemed to help somewhat.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Yeah, yeah, so, I mean, I don't know, people do
the whole take some ginger, have some ginger tea, Like
I can't even look at any ginger tea now because
I tried so much and it just didn't really help.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
Nothing really helps except actual medication.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
But that's my experience, and I know that every pregnancy
is different and things that potentially work for one person
probably didn't work for me.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
But yeah, first try. Mess is a real a battle,
a real battle. It was a bitch for sure. Battles good.
Speaker 3 (20:50):
I think we answered this question, do you think there's
anything that specifically helped you for pregnant? I think we
kind of answered that a few questions ago.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
I think, yeah, maybe us being a little bit more relaxed.
I spoke to Nat who's a natural path on the podcast,
and she spoke a lot about cycles and falling pregnant,
and she was saying that stress is the biggest reason,
or one of the biggest reasons, if you're a healthy
couple that you don't fall pregnant. And I think I
(21:27):
will say that the month we fell pregnant, we weren't
think we weren't thinking about it. We were, but we weren't,
like it was in the back of my mind, but
I was focused on the holiday.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
I was like, I'm on holiday. Yeah, that's some fun.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
That was my main focus, and then trying was like
kind of an afterthought. Yeah, so I guess we could
say that, but you just don't know. You don't know,
and I think there's so many different factors that play
into it. So yeah, I think falling pregnant is quite hard, really,
and I think it's a really tough journey for a
(22:02):
lot of people. So yeah, definitely thinking about people who
are still trying to get pregnant, because it can be
really challenging and difficult and it's not an easy waiting game,
is it.
Speaker 3 (22:17):
No, And yeah, we were so lucky and we're so
grateful for how it happened for us.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
Absolutely, do you miss getting botox and filler?
Speaker 1 (22:27):
Yes, But what I will say is I was very
much on the botox train, like every three to four months,
And I do think now that I look a bit
younger now that my botox has worn off. Obviously, when
my face moves a lot, I don't. But I think
(22:49):
when my face is just still and there's no expression
in my forehead, still I look younger.
Speaker 3 (22:55):
So what's so I'm confused by the point there, So
you miss it or what you look younger without it?
Speaker 2 (23:01):
Like maybe I could have done a little less.
Speaker 3 (23:04):
I think you look beautiful all the time. I respect
your choices and anyone else's.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
He's so sulty about it, not at all.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
But yeah, I do miss it a little bit. I
think it's like made me feel good, and that's why
I liked to have a.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Bit of boater.
Speaker 3 (23:21):
You've quite a small forehead.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
I have a very small for head.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
I don't really need it.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
But in the same breath, like I think over, botox
does really age you as well. So I think it's
been a really good break for me to kind of
take note of that.
Speaker 3 (23:40):
I guess I've got a massive forehead and you don't.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Need anything, honey.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
It's beautiful the way you are.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
I think it's time to reverse the roles and I'm
going to put you in the hot seat next. Okay,
the first question have which again we have answered before
in another podcast, but this has come up so much
so we're just going to retouch on it. It says
(24:09):
would love to hear from Michael his perspective on how
he manages intimacy during pregnancy.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
I do hate talking about this sort of stuff. So yeah,
I mean, like I've sort of touched on in the
other episode, it's not the end of the world. Yeah,
at the start, I was really cautious. The first twelve
weeks is when it's the biggest risk of the pregnancy,
and I felt kind of a little bit paranoid. And
(24:36):
then as the pregnancy progressed, you're not feeling your best,
You're feeling really sick. You've got a lot of pain. Like,
the most important thing for us is that you're happy
and healthy and the baby is happy and healthy. If
intimacy plays into that, then that's great, But I don't
think it's the most important thing.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
Yeah, it's not like we've not done it. Yes, is
like it still happens like here and there.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
It's definitely happened. It's definitely happening. Yeah, it's not as
it's not as regular. But I don't think it's our
number one priority right now. No, Like pregnancy, there's a
lot of stuff going on.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
I think we're.
Speaker 1 (25:15):
Worried, like more like concerned about the baby and me. Yeah,
and just trying to keep us both on a good trajectory.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
Yeah, pains, aches, everything like that, all of the things.
It's not the most important thing.
Speaker 1 (25:32):
Next question, what has surprised you most about seeing your
wife pregnant?
Speaker 2 (25:38):
That's a good one, she looks.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
I mean, yes, so what surprised me?
Speaker 2 (25:50):
It must be strange.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
There's so many elements of that question. It looks so
incredibly hard, so incredibly hard, which I always I mean,
I don't think I really knew what to expect. But yeah,
the challenges that you've gone through and the way you've
taken all those challenges has been amazing. Yeah, this hasn't
really surprised me, but it's so unusual and strange, Like
(26:18):
we still even now seven months into the pregnancy, it's
still so strange to fully conceptualize that you are actually pregnant.
And obviously it's getting more and more apparent the little
guy he's kicking all the time. I can obviously tell
that you're pregnant visual, but it still does blow my
(26:39):
mind that this in a few months time, there's going
to be a baby with us. So I'm not just
I think I danced around that question a little bit,
but that's my best answer.
Speaker 2 (26:48):
It's so true, and even like everything.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
About it is strange, we keep.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
Having these moments like the other night we were watching
this tit Chok and it was like a true depiction
of a night with a new born. And this girl
has basically done a timestamp by each point in the night,
so it's like twelve am, one am, like every time
she's up. And after watching that, Michael and I just
(27:13):
looked at each other and we were like, holy shit, that.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
Is intense and can we handle that?
Speaker 1 (27:22):
But yeah, it just feels like the more pregnant I get,
the more real it feels. Like at the start, it
felt like I was just pregnant, and then now it's
more about the baby because the baby's now kicking, and
now we're trying to visualize and trying to make fake scenarios.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Of what it's going to be like with the baby.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
No matter how long it goes on for and more
how real it theoretically should become, there is still something
that just feels like it is still connected. Is a disconnect.
It's almost like this fantasy land of oh, you're pregnant,
Oh there's this baby, a calm, and you're setting all
these things up. I think we still really do have
(28:03):
no idea what's actually in front of us.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
I think when the baby is born, we are going
to get a huge shock, an amazing one, and I'm
worried about that and amazing like not to take away
and say we're not so excited, we are so excited
to meet the baby.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
I still think it's going to be shocking to.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
See a real life child of mine and yours, like
me and you mix together. That's so strange. And the
fact that they just don't go away.
Speaker 3 (28:34):
I think so many people talk about that though. You know,
so many people've spoken to talk about that moment of
you're taking them home from the hospital and you're like,
what the hell is going on? Yeah, like we're in
charge of a baby now.
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Yeah, And just yeah, it's very mind blowing. It is,
and every time we have a conversation like this, it
still blows my mind, and my mind's curry.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
You're pregnant. You are pregnant. That's all. We're here, we're
doing a pregnancy podcast.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
I can't believe it.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
Who would have.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
Thought, Okay, how do you deal with the hormones? Any
tips from men struggling with pregnant partners.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Well, I've been very lucky because you have been really
chill and really calm. The tip, the only tip that
I've had to very very occasionally, very rarely use, is
just patience and just trying to be empathetic of everything
that you're going through. Because I feel that those very
(29:36):
small amount of moments that I've had to just sit back,
be patient, not really say anything, you've kind of just
come out of it because there's been no combativeness from me,
and then a minute later you're.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Just worked through it.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Minute a minute later, you're ready to re embrace. So
re embrace isn't quite the word coming for I think
you've just got to be so patient and empathetic. It's
so hard and challenging what pregnant woman is going through.
So I just know that you know it's it's your
(30:13):
time to be.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Super patient, and you are, like, I think one of
your best qualities is your patience.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
I will say that.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Let's put it to the test in a few most.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
I'll let you guys know how you guys, Okay, very
last question for you.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
How did you know you were ready for a baby?
Speaker 3 (30:36):
Just meeting the right person? Meeting you? I think very
early in our relationship, I was like, I want to
have kids with this person. Yeah, that's probably the simplest answer.
Speaker 2 (30:49):
Yeah, I love it, but I don't.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Think I'm like, I don't think we are fully fully ready,
but we're going to just embrace it and try our best.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
Thank Yeah, Okay, well, Michael, thank you so much once
again for coming in and gracing us with your presence
at Where's You'll bump out. It's been a pleasure as always. Guys,
if you have any more questions or love having Michael
on the show, please let me know and we can
get him back on for another episode. Michael, thank you
so much for coming in.
Speaker 3 (31:20):
Thanks for having me back
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