Best Gabe Ever

Goodbye JBU! Hello Gabe’s new pod! Please stick around!! A listener writes in asking what to do if her partner doesn’t want to get married. The duo want your follow ups to your past IQs! The last Hypotheticals is played. A partner sleeps in the nude on business trips with their coworker. You’re new at work and a man in another department wants to show you the ropes. A parent fakes night terrors for a good reason? And then, ta...

Allison and John can use “pregnant wife” when she’s hungry. Then, an OP deals with a daughter in law who wants her to make a very intense coffee order for her in the mornings. A woman admits in her vows IN FRONT OF EVERYONE that she scammed her husband into marrying her. Melisa and Gabe share how to work smarter not harder when trying to get a love interest’s attention. The classic Gen Z v Millennial debate rages on. For our ...

Allison's preparing her nails for the arrival of her baby. A listener writes in asking if it was a mistake not to settle down when they were younger. Then, therapist Emma Kazarian (Allison's other BFF) joins the show to talk about working as a relationship OCD therapist and couples therapist while having OCD herself. And in Topix, Allison is not looking forward to writing Thank You Notes.

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Going hardcore from the beginning. r/justnofamily brings a tale of a mother in law forcing unmarried older sisters to dance in a pig trough during the wedding reception. Can animals talk with buttons? An OP learns that they don't like dating multiple people while their partner does -- but they're still polyam. A parent worries their children are idiots. A front desk worker watches two people have an insane break up where th...

Baseball! Then, a listener writes in asking how to stay connected to their long distance partner while they transition AND open the relationship. Then, educator Margeaux Feldman joins the show to talk about their work on traumatizing events turning into trauma and what about community helps heal us. And finally, JBU is winding down and a new pod is ahead! Ahhhh!

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Gabe and Allison have some hot take animal thoughts to share. Some employers need to know how to erase HTML in their texts, or at least get people's names right in the templates. The trio discuss whether or not to give people ultimatums in relationships and whether or not you have to share that ultimatum with your partner. r/apartmentliving brings us a wholesome tale about an OP finding candy wrappers on their porch. An O...

Gabe and a friend got lemon tattoos. A listener writes in asking about whether they are supposed to make up with their friend's partner who has become disrespectful to the friend. Then, Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein join the show to talk about Dialectical Behavior Therapy, their book Real Skills For Real Life, and what tactics we can use to emotionally regulate and get out of painful patterns. In hypotheticals... ...

Oops! Lots of relationship advice. Would you be in the wedding of the boyfriend who cheated on you with your best friend -- and now they're getting married? A woman forgets her friend is divorced and sends an awkward text. Why do people want to tell Allison and Melisa their life stories? Spaghetti dog closes us out! 

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Allison's pregnancy update! Then, we answer a listener's question about if age is just a number (when she, younger, approached him, older). Next, they're joined by author Jacob Tobia comes by to speak about their book "Before They Were Men" and the rhetoric around men being co-survivors of patriarchy instead of solely beneficiaries. Finally, Gabe discusses some more information he’s uncovered about his ongoing c...

First, middle school boyfriends. R/sipstea brings us cute and funny coming out stories. Is it justified for a woman to not want to buy a house for her fiance and put his name on it? A man’s ex wife marries her affair partner and they make their combined last name her ex husband’s full name. Can you be a juice sommelier? 

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Gabe and Allison answer a listeners question about how to handle her emotions about her changing body as she ages. Then investigative reporter Alleen Brown joins the show to discuss environmental justice and the lawsuit against Greenpeace by Energy Transfer (the company behind the Dakota Access Pipeline) which is meant to bankrupt the organization. And finally, do we love or hate PR couples? Bennifer, Traylor, Sydney Sweeney ...

Allison's very go-with-the-flow about her forthcoming baby. An OP writes about stealing items from a bully who had lots of expensive things and made everyone at school feel like shit. The choice had long-term consequences. A woman dumps her boyfriend because he won't stop moving forward on starting a business with her abusive ex. An apartment dweller wants a neighbor to stop making his place smell like weed. Is a note a goo...

Gabe has a new overnight job and Allison has too many questions. They then answer a listeners question about how much she should push her husband who suffers from terrible anxiety outside his comfort zone for his own good. Then, harpist an recipient of the 2025 Doris Duke Artist Awards, Brandee Younger joins the show to talk about jazz, the importance of instruments in schools, and the spirituality of live music. She ...

Allison is deep into “Sally” TikTok. Gabe has lost faith in humanity because of one subreddit Allison proposes, but learns to love it again from another. More politicians should quit. R/AmITheAsshole brings us an OP who wants to ask her sister to wash her hair before being a bridesmaid in her wedding. A guy on R/ThatHappened keeps bragging about wild sex stories, among other unrealistic events. Gabe cleanses the palate with r...

Note: Gabe was having some audio issues at the beginning of the interview.

A listener writes in asking what to do now that her friend got quickie married to someone with a lot of internalized misogyny. Then, psychotherapist Jessica Baum joins the show to talk about healing attachment wounds from a trauma-informed lens. And finally, Gabe shares what it’s been like dealing with brain fog during his chronic illness.

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We don’t get into the Reddit articles until waaaaay into the episode, but first, a very good conversation about word usage and the divide between the LBT and the G communities. Then, a Redditor posts screenshots between her partner and a new girl on his team discussing how the girl questioned OP’s relationship with his kids. An OP explains how a local family they know is getting horribly scammed by an “international currency ...

Ice helmet! Then, Allison and Gabe answer a listener's question about whether it would be okay to get back together with their ex while still very much needing to heal. If you get back together, what would be different this time? Then, Michigan Secretary of State Jocelyn Benson joins the show to talk about her methods for fighting back against Trump and his cronies. And finally, why won't people take a goddamn Advil? ...

Everyone loved Superman. An OP's boyfriend watches Oppenheimer way too often because he wants to be a filmmaker. Fame doesn't equal followers, just like Reddit badges don't mean you're the top 1 percent of everything on the site. Gabe shares a skateboarding mystery. A text message mix-up leads to a beautiful, possibly false, story involving a green or gold item. Melisa would never delete text messages because ...

Content Warning: Discussion of rape in the dolphin conversation 

Allison gives a pregnancy update. A listener writes in about how to handle the love of their life leaving them. Then Dr. Justin Gregg, author of "Humanish: What Talking to Your Cat or Naming Your Car Reveals About the Uniquely Human Need to Humanize," joins the podcast to teach us about dolphins and killer whales. Can AI help us communicate with them? Can t...