A Joke That Went 'Too Far' & The Internet’s Biggest Cheating Scandal

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Speaker 1 (00:08):
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Speaker 2 (00:16):
Hello, and welcome to MoMA Mia out Loud. It's what
women are actually talking about on Monday, the twenty second
of September. I'm Holly Waynwright and I am back from
a sick bed where I have been laid up with
the flu for a little while, dying to be back
talking to you.

Speaker 3 (00:30):
I'm Jesse Stevens.

Speaker 4 (00:31):
I'm very excited that Holly is back and Maya has
officially gone on holiday.

Speaker 2 (00:36):
She has, she's actually left the country.

Speaker 5 (00:38):
She did tell me she downloaded the entire three seasons
of the Summer Return Pretty to watch on the plane,
so prepare for that. When she returns, we'll fly. I
should probably introduce myself. Hello, I'm Claire Murphy. You can
usually hear me on Momma MIA's twice daily news podcast,
The Quickie and on Well for all your women's health
information and funny and gross stuff that our bodies do.

Speaker 2 (00:59):
Funny and gross stuff. My body's been doing some very
funny and gross Murphy. We'll talk offline about that later. Anyway,
Here's what's made our agenda for today.

Speaker 5 (01:10):
Jimmy Kimmel's late night show was pulled off the air
last week. There's been a lot of conversation around it, politically, morally, constitutionally,
but what does that all mean?

Speaker 1 (01:19):
Does it matter? And should we be freaking out?

Speaker 2 (01:21):
I don't want to alarm you out louders, but we
know that you always have a little cry on your
birthday and.

Speaker 1 (01:28):
We know why you do.

Speaker 4 (01:30):
And the wife guy is back, but this time without
his wife. I'm going to explain one of the most
ambitious comebacks in all of Internet history.

Speaker 3 (01:39):
But first, Jesse, in case you missed it.

Speaker 4 (01:42):
This morning Australian Time, a memorial service was held for
conservative activist Charlie Kirk at a stadium in Phoenix, Arizona,
and estimated two hundred thousand people gathered in and around
the stadium and all the speakers were shielded by bullet
proof glass on the stage, which is something we haven't

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seen before. Attendees were also encouraged to wear red, white or.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
Blue to the service.

Speaker 4 (02:10):
Speakers included Robert F. Kennedy, Charlie Kirk's wife Erica Kirk,
Donald Trump Junior, who was very close to Kirk, and
of course President Donald Trump, who spoke last. Erica Kirk
declared that she had forgiven the man who allegedly killed
her husband, and her address had this real focus on love,
which was in stark contrast to Donald Trump's speech which followed.

(02:34):
The President said I hate my opponents, and I don't
want what's best for them. He referred to networks of
radical left maniacs who were to blame for Kirk's murder.
He also repeated the words fight, fight, fight, which you
might remember from after his attempted assassination last year. He
also referred to Kirk as a martyr, a patriot. He

(02:57):
is awarding Kirk posthumously with the Presidential Medal of Freedom,
which is a higher civilian honor. Many speakers cited this
battle between good and evil and said that there was
this struggle going on. Donald Trump Junior asked the crowd,
will you surrender? Will you back down? Will you give
up in fear? And Look, the headline is that Kirk

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was used as a symbol for all that is great
about America. I think even with the colors that people
were encouraged to wear, it was about patriotism and this,
you know, almost a suggestion of some sort of civil
war that's going on in the US at the moment.

Speaker 2 (03:35):
It's interesting though, because as you've said, that's not what
Erica Kirk was talking about. And the parts of it
that I've watched this morning, and obviously we're recording, you know,
at eleven thirty, it's sort of just finished. It was
like a show, and there was a very distinct difference
between Erica Kirk, who was very clearly incredibly emotional, incredibly devastated,

(03:59):
incredibly gracious, you have to say in saying what she
said about her incredibly immoving, and she said.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
The answer to he is not hate. The answer we
know from the Gospel is love and always love.

Speaker 2 (04:13):
And then, as you've said, Jesse, there's that beautiful, gracious
message that I wonder if people can actually hear. And
then you had like Donald Trump Junior treating it like
a stand up show. He was throwing out some jokes.
He made some Kamala jokes, some Hillary jokes, you know,
all the old hits from the MAGA, right, Trump preaching
how much he hates everybody. It just seemed like such

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a stark contrast. Like I think so much of this
conversation is between the very human loss of a person
and then this huge existential war that seems to have
been very much fanned by this assassination.

Speaker 4 (04:50):
Which isn't about Kirk at all, really, you know, and
there's a lot to be said for the left and
the way that they've discussed, the rhetoric that they've used,
the vitriol that's come in the aftermath. But it reminded
me that while the left has dehumanized Kirk, so is
a right like they've used Kirk as a symbol, and
they very much did. And when Trump got up, he

(05:12):
was at a rally. He was at a rally, and
he talked about twenty twenty and how that election was
stolen from him and Joe Biden.

Speaker 5 (05:17):
He made some kind of policy announcement too, in the
middle of all of that, apparently.

Speaker 4 (05:21):
Exactly some medical announcement. And there are reports that people left,
which I found really interesting when he started to speak,
because it did feel really disrespectful.

Speaker 5 (05:30):
You know what's really crazy about looking at this memorial
today is that until September ten, I had never even
heard of Charlie Kirk. I have no idea who he was,
except in real vague passing. I'd seen videos on my
social media feed of him doing those debates with people,
but it was most often positioned from the person who

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was debating him, rather than him.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
And his debate.

Speaker 5 (05:55):
But now, not only do I know who Charlie Kirk is.
I watched that man die almost in real time, which
was horrific to witness, and then not long after that,
I was given conflicting stories as to who his alleged
shooter was, his political allegiances, who he's chose to spend.

Speaker 1 (06:14):
His time with.

Speaker 5 (06:16):
This whole situation from the very get go, felt very
dirty and awful, and we all have participated in it,
whether it's from watching the videos, whether it's making a
comment about Charlie Kirk or his rhetoric, whether it's about
celebrating his death, which some have done, whether it's those
right wing factions who've now collectively got together to bring

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down anyone who even mentions Charlie Kirk's name, to the
politicians who are speaking at these particular events trying to
muster up that same kind of energy that we heard
for January six, it all feels very performative. It all
feels like everyone is in it for themselves, and it
feels like this is where we absolutely expected to be

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at this point in time.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
I'm really not shocked by any of it.

Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, it's very hard to be shocked by anything now
to be I'd suggest that Erica Kirk doesn't seem like
she's in it for herself. I mean, she did say
in her speech about Charlie, she said that she's going
to take on his work and she's going to become
the CEO of Turning Point USA and absolutely going to
keep moving with that, which is deeply understandable given the
kind of person Charlie Kirk was and the mission that

(07:26):
she says their family shared. But it's just that juxtaposition
between a very human grief and then this intense politicization. Anyway,
what we're going to talk about next is kind of adjacent, right, Murphy.

Speaker 5 (07:38):
Yeah, because obviously the fallout, as I mentioned, there's been
a lot of collective movements coming together to stop any
conversation about Charlie Kirk's murder from anyone who's considered vaguely
left of center. So obviously one of those big fallouts
is Jimmy Kimmel. So, if you have not heard, late
night talk show host Jimmy Kimmel is currently off the air.

(07:59):
He's been indefinitely suspended by the ABC after making this
comment about the Charlie Kirk assassination.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
New rose over.

Speaker 6 (08:06):
Then with the Magga Gang desperately trying to characterize this
kid who murdered Charlie Kirk as anything other than one
of them and do everything they can to score political
points from it. In between the finger pointing, there was grieving.
On Friday, the White House flew the flags at half staff,
which got some criticism, but on a human level, you
can see how hard the President is taking this half.

Speaker 4 (08:30):
Indulghos on the low finger friend Charlie Kirk asked, sir personally,
how are you holding up over the last day and
a half served?

Speaker 6 (08:36):
I think very good. And by the way, right there
you see all the trucks.

Speaker 7 (08:40):
They've just started construction of.

Speaker 5 (08:41):
The new Baurold to the White House, which is something
they've been trying to get.

Speaker 6 (08:45):
As you know, for about one hundred and fifty years.

Speaker 7 (08:48):
And it's going to be a beauty.

Speaker 6 (08:50):
Yes, he's at the fourth stage of grief construction. There's demolition.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
Construction.

Speaker 6 (09:00):
This is not how an adult griefs the murderer of
someone he called a friend. This is how a four
year old morns a goldfish.

Speaker 2 (09:06):
Okay, can I just jump in and ask you about Kimmel,
because if you're not massively conversant in American late night culture,
we know that there are these big shows that have dominated,
or they certainly used to dominate American political discourse in
the late nights. But I always get my Jimmy's mixed. Ye,
So there's Jimmy fallon. Yes, it was much as a
little bit more like he always seems a bit more

(09:28):
mischievous he used to be on Saturday Night. Like Kimmel
is the one who's hosted the Oscars a couple of times, right, right,
and Trump has always kind of hated him. I remembered
alive on stage at the Oscars, Trump was tweeting about him,
and he was reading out the quotes, right, And kim
OL's been a big force there for a long time too.

Speaker 1 (09:44):
Yes.

Speaker 5 (09:44):
Also, after it was announced that Stephen Colbert, who's another
one of these late night hosts, that his show was
being canceled in twenty twenty six, Trump put out on
his social media that Kimmel would be next, which and
indeed indeed he is. So After those comments were made
on Kimmel's show, conservative commentators came down really hard. One
had said that he's painted all of the MAGA movement

(10:05):
with the same brush, essentially calling all of them collectively murderers.
Elon Musk then weighed in he was at the memorial today.
Elon Musk was called Kimmel disgusting. X then was lit
up with conservative voices, and that echo chamber spread out
far and wide across the Internet. The ABC then received
pressure from the Federal Communications Commission, which is a government

(10:27):
department that oversees media in the US. The chairman warned
the ABC that they would pull their broadcast license and
calling Kimmel's comments truly sick. Now, there are also major
broadcast companies that take Jimmy Kimmel Show and broadcast it
to stations across America. So they came together and said
that they would pull Kimmel's show. Advertisers were being targeted.

(10:50):
Some employees were also receiving threatening messages. So they bowed
to the pressure and ABC stood Kimmel down. There is,
of course, a lot which we do not have time
to fully deconstruct here today going on up and down
that chain. So these big companies like the ABC, they
need government approval for acquisitions because they've got many fingers

(11:10):
in many pies, and they won't get that if they,
for example, from himmat with them, if Trump is angry
with them over Jimmy Kimmel.

Speaker 2 (11:17):
It's also worth pointing out that when we say the ABC,
we don't mean the Australian Broadcasting Corporations. Yes, even though
the Australian ABC says they've been getting a lot of.

Speaker 5 (11:26):
Complaints about they have hundreds and hundreds which they put
up on their social media just yesterday, and they also
put an email address for who to actually complain to
if they.

Speaker 1 (11:35):
Were like, this is not us.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
Guys, Yes, it's not us.

Speaker 1 (11:37):
We did not do anything.

Speaker 2 (11:38):
Has he been fired forever Murphy or has he been like,
has anyone given an indication of how long Kimmel is
sitting on the bench for and he hasn't spoken about it.

Speaker 1 (11:47):
Has he has not? Sobly sitting with his lawyer?

Speaker 5 (11:50):
Yes, so he is currently in talks with his lawyers.
The reports are is that he is very concerned about
his staff because apparently reportedly he said that he's very
worried about them. They're still financially recovering from the writers'
strike that happened a year or two ago, so he's
in talks, but obviously there is one of the those
broadcast companies that I talked about pulling Kimmel show. They

(12:10):
have asked for him to apologize formally to also pay
Charlie Kirk's family money and pay Kirk's foundation money as
well his nonprofit. So they said that will pave the
path for his return to the airwaves. But of course,
the conversation here is now, how do the late night
show hosts respond to this, because they under threat of

(12:33):
also being kicked off the air if they make jokes
about this situation.

Speaker 2 (12:37):
Well, and also the conversation seems to have gone to Jesse.
This is the beginning of the end of free speech, right,
because when this happened on Thursday, my feeds were suddenly
flooded by lots of well known American leftist comedians. When
I say leftist, I just meant, you know, to be honest,
Until very recently, almost everybody in Hollywood was an outspoken leftist. Yeah,

(12:59):
and so lots of people saying it's happening. We said
authoritarianism was coming. This is the first real sign of that,
is that where this conversation is now, is it about
the death of free speech, which is, let's be clear,
something that the right side of politics, as in the
megaside of politics, free speech was the thing that supposedly
radicalized and evangelized the Elon Musks of the world, the

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Joe Rogan's of the world, the Mark Zuckerberg's of the world.
Charlie Kirk himself as a free speech advocate, of course,
And they're like, but they're saying that it was the
left that we're trying to silence debate and that's what
pushed them to the Trump side. Is this the first
step in authoritarianism?

Speaker 4 (13:36):
To be clear, Trump campaigned on free speech. He talked
in his inaugural address earlier this year. He said, after
years and years of illegal and unconstitutional federal efforts to
restrict free expression, I will sign an executive order to
immediately stop all government censorship and bring back free speech

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to America. There his words months ago. And so I
think everyone is going, hang on, this is absolute hypocrisy.
It is a double standard. There are fractures within the
party that are going this is what we fought for.
As you say, Holly, it is something that has been
pinned on the left in terms of cancel culture and

(14:19):
workism and you know, political correctness gone mad. But the
thing about that, and I would argue, we've talked about
cancel culture on this show. There are definitely instances where
there's been overreach, but that's often self censorship, a board
maybe trying to be really really careful and not offend people.
The difference here is that it's hard power, not soft power.

(14:40):
That's why I think it feels so scary.

Speaker 5 (14:42):
When I spoke to John Barron about this and the Quickie,
he said, the big difference is these directives are coming
from the president down, which has not been the case.
It's normally like a public opinion or is a business
level decision, but this is very much coming from the
White House itself.

Speaker 4 (14:57):
Often it's within the interests of like, for example, they
don't want to lose advertisers. This happens in Australia. Someone
says something offensive, they don't want to lose advertisers. Yeah,
that's a soft power that it can be troubling. But
this is a directive coming from within the White House.
And that's why it feels like communist China. Like it
feels as though you're living under a government who gets

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to decide what you can and cannot say. And the
profound paradox in all of this is, of course they're going,
even at the memorial, look at this bastion of free speech.
You will look his opponents in the eye and speak
to them. And now you're going, you can't disagree with
what Kirk said, the man who got killed for saying

(15:41):
things that like, that's where it leads. Suppression of free
speech leads to something like a bullet because you say,
I do not want that person to speak anymore. I
do not think that person deserves a platform. It is
where you go in terms of an authoritarian regime. This
has played out throughout history, and I think that's why
people My first reaction upon seeing this story was, this
is really scary shit.

Speaker 2 (16:02):
It is scary shit. I think it comes from a
basic place because, as has been widely what Jimmy Kimmel
said there was not that shocking, right. And also on
the day of Charlie Kirk's assassination, Jimmy Kimmel, like most
mainstream democratic figures, said exactly what they should have said,
which is, my heart goes out to his family. This

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is inexcusable. Like he did all of those things right,
What this is actually about is that President Trump hates
to be mocked. Let's face it, most of us do, right.
But from all the way back before he was seriously
standing for politics, the Jimmy Kimmels of the world, in
Trump's view, people that he would broadly call the Hollywood elite,

(16:44):
the leftist Hollywood elite, have taunted him, not taken him seriously,
taken the piss out of him. It goes all the
way back to President Obama at the White House correspondence
dinner in twenty eleven, who stood up and roasted him,
and he was in the room at the time. Trump
he was a guest of Newsweek, and Seth Meyers stood
up and said, Donald Trump says he's going to run
for a president as a Republican, which is surprising since

(17:04):
I just assumed he was running as a joke, and
everybody just took the piss out of him. And many
Trump insiders say that was the moment when Trump went,
I'm coming for you lot, and look what's happened. He did,
and he won, and he didn't need any of these
guys who have been, let's be honest, trashing him for decades.
He didn't need any of them to get him to power.
He doesn't really need their approval, but he hates their

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derision and he's been waiting for this. As Murphy said,
Colbert is going off air. He said that Jimmy Kimmel
was next. Now he says that Falon's next, seth Myers
is next. All these guys are going to go. It's
interesting because their power is reduced in lots of ways
since nobody watches network TV anymore. But they will all go,
and as they lose their jobs from their networks, they

(17:49):
will all go to YouTube, to podcast, to all the
different tech platforms, and they will speak there and whether
or not they really have clout anymore. I think it's
that classic thing in a way that what may lead
to this authoritarianism is like a man's bruised ego.

Speaker 8 (18:07):
You know.

Speaker 5 (18:08):
There's also some reports going around that people like Colbert
and a bunch of others in the background are starting a.

Speaker 3 (18:13):
Rogue news network, which will.

Speaker 5 (18:17):
I'm guessing be Internet based in some way, shape or form.

Speaker 2 (18:20):
Which is what lots of the right guys have done.
It's what Toker Carlson's done and not. You know, like
this is where all these people are talking now.

Speaker 1 (18:27):
Yeah, exactly right.

Speaker 5 (18:28):
So it looks like it might create a whole new
network of sort of left wing ideology there. But just
before we stop talking about this, like do we need
to check ourselves and just look at this from the
other perspective for a minute.

Speaker 4 (18:38):
I've been thinking about this because I don't think that
free speech is unlimited.

Speaker 3 (18:42):
It never has been.

Speaker 4 (18:43):
I think that there are things that Jimmy Kimmel could
have got up and said that are so offensive that
actually maybe would have warranted a little bit of censorship.
So if he had come up and incited violence, excused violence,
said I'm glad he died, he had it coming, who's next?

Speaker 1 (19:00):
Yep.

Speaker 4 (19:01):
Absolutely, I think that there would be a really important
national conversation because there is a standard of speech that exists.
But he didn't say any of those things. And my
first response to this story was, oh, well, I'm going
to look really closely at what Jimmy Kimmel said, because
some left wing commentators have feared into that, and if
that were on the other side, we would be just

(19:21):
as horrified. But to me, it's the banality of what
he said. His crime was being imprecise, Like what he
said was actually factually wrong. It was early days. He
didn't know it was wrong yet, and so that's something
that you know. Inaccuracy, you can definitely charge him with that,
But inaccuracy doesn't get anyone else pulled off the air.
And then some people said, well, the ratings were shit,

(19:43):
so they were just looking for an excuse. That's okay,
but you don't pull people off immediately for bad ratings.

Speaker 1 (19:48):
You wind him up.

Speaker 2 (19:49):
You're right, Murphy in lots of ways. And I think
that one of the things about this is is that
when I looked at all the responses from the other
late night guys, and they were all very clever, because
these are very clever people, and they've got huge staffs
of writing people who are also very clever people, and
they are exactly as I said before, the kind of
people that Trump would dismiss as Hollywood at least, and
they're thinking of the cleverest, funniest ways to go viral

(20:12):
by mocking the president. I would suggest that one of
the things we learned last year is that you can
have every famous, powerful Hollywood person on your side, from
Taylor Swift to Bad Bunny to every single Hollywood starter.
George Clooney and you're still not going to win the
election because nobody likes being mocked and dismissed and taking

(20:33):
the piss out of And that goes for Donald Trump,
but it also goes for Donald Trump's supporters.

Speaker 3 (20:38):
Yeah, it does.

Speaker 4 (20:39):
But I would say that parody and comedy and sending
things up. In the world of comedy, the rules are
that kind of nothing is untouchable, and so of course
these shows were going to touch it in the same way,
whether you were right or left, you were going.

Speaker 1 (20:53):
To touch it.

Speaker 5 (20:54):
South Park they didn't have an episode go live last week,
and they put it down to they left it too
late and didn't get it finished.

Speaker 4 (21:01):
Thirty years and they always managed to get it finished.

Speaker 2 (21:04):
I think that was a smart move on their part
because of they've been all over the headlines lately. For
I was just saying how Donald Trump doesn't like to
be mocked. They have been mocking him on an extreme
scandal more than anyone from the micro penis down exactly,
So those guys would have to be worried. And I
think if they made a call to not go to
air the week of Charlie Kirk's murder because they knew

(21:25):
what they had was inflammatory. I would say that was
probably a smart choice. I think that's exactly what happened.
Not to defend censorship in any way. In a moment,
do you cry on your birthday? So do we and
now we know why. Jesse Claire, do you cry on
your birthdays?

Speaker 1 (21:45):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (21:46):
Okay, I need to know more details about both these things.
At what point on your birthday do you normally cry?
Jesse Stevens normally more than once.

Speaker 4 (21:53):
But I've identified yeah, And I've identified the moment where
I cry, and it's when I am doing something mundane.
So I find myself mopping the floor, scraping a dish,
putting on the dishwasher, and I think it's my fucking
bird and why am I doing this task? And I
also get that feeling on Christmas.

Speaker 2 (22:13):
So basically, a birthday should be a day off from
boring activities.

Speaker 3 (22:17):
It should free path only be extraordinary.

Speaker 2 (22:21):
Murphy, do you like Do you like birthdays or not
like birthdays?

Speaker 7 (22:24):
Oh?

Speaker 5 (22:24):
I love my birthday. I also share my birthday with
the spookiest.

Speaker 1 (22:28):
Holiday of the year. Oh, so Halloween.

Speaker 5 (22:31):
I get to go trick or treating with my child,
which has not always been my favorite thing to do.

Speaker 1 (22:36):
But now I've kind of come around to it, but
I do not cry on my birthday.

Speaker 5 (22:41):
I've made it very clear to my family that I
will not be doing any mondane work on that day,
and that is purely up to them to do all
of that shit and also wait on me hand and foot.
My husband has been well trained to provide cups of
teas in bed if it is a weekend. He's been
very well trained to cook me dinner or take me somewhere.
This has been well established in my household. Plus, I
am the youngest child in my family by a long way,

(23:04):
so like there's a big gap between my brother and
sister and I.

Speaker 1 (23:07):
I have been spoy yelled like.

Speaker 2 (23:10):
Okay, So Murphy is the queen of the birthday boundaries.
That's why I've discovered, now, how you, Holly, I have
been known to cry on my birthday. But the reason
I'm asking you this is because we ran a piece
on Mamma Mia this week which a lot of women
have related to, right, which was about why women cry
on the birthday because apparently it's very common, very common,
and there are a number of reasons. But back day
in this piece, she wrote, for example, there was somebody

(23:32):
who she spoke to who said the biggest fight she's
ever had with her partner was over his failure to
post a public display of birthday love on Instagram, even
though the last time he'd posted was in two thousand
and sixty. So very reasonable things here. Some people said,
maybe it's just an echo of the day that you
first entered the world, scrunched faced and crying and trying
to figure out all this shit.

Speaker 4 (23:54):
It does feel overwhelming in the same way being born.

Speaker 2 (23:57):
Mike, yes, exactly, and counselor Julie Sweet said, the reason
that a lot of women cry is because disappointment and
conflicting emotions often present when the pressure to appear happy
doesn't match in a feeling. So, no matter what's going
on in your life, maybe your relationship is falling apart,
maybe you're sick, maybe your kid's being a shit, maybe
your boss is being a shit, whatever's happening on your birthday,

(24:19):
it's still happening, but you have to kind of pretend
that it isn't and that can be overwhelming. So she said,
Julie Sweet, that this creates a double whammy of overwhelm
and internalized blame, and we end up wondering why we're
not happier, all the while berating ourselves for not feeling
grateful enough.

Speaker 1 (24:36):
I know what that's like.

Speaker 4 (24:37):
Yeah, and I wonder too if it's my expectations are
unsaid because they are unacknowledged within myself, Like I couldn't
if I tried to journal what I wanted my birthday
to look like. I don't necessarily have a vision or
the words, but some part of me clearly has a

(24:58):
standard for the day that is never realized.

Speaker 2 (25:01):
Well, it's complicate, more complicated for you because you share
your birthday. You're a twin right, so through your life,
was it important for your family to make a fuss
of Jesse, make a fuss of Claire? And we also
have the added thing you and I have being Christmas babies. Yep,
so one of the things you'll got ripped.

Speaker 4 (25:17):
Oh we do.

Speaker 2 (25:18):
One of the things that I often used to happen,
not anymore, but I used to struggle with on my
birthday when I was younger, is I was like, nobody
cares because everybody's focused on Christmas and I'm only going
to get joint presents and nobody wants to celebrate d
And there would be that kind of sulky la laugh
thing about.

Speaker 4 (25:34):
It, which is all true. But I think that whether
we want to admit it or not, we do build
it up. As like even when we look at a
calendar year, right, if you were going to put the
first things in, you'd go, well, that's Christmas and that's
my birthday. Like it is, it exists in my head
all year round. The trick I have started to adopt
is I must have a plan. And I resisted that

(25:55):
for a while because I thought that plans inevitably bring
with them expectations and I don't want to be disappointed.

Speaker 5 (26:01):
And was there an expectation that someone else make those
plans because it's your birthday? Maybe maybe I expect to
wake up and just be take him through a day
of joy. And that's never happened.

Speaker 4 (26:12):
Like my mum was always just pissed off because it
was nearly Christmas.

Speaker 5 (26:15):
Like, so your mom popped out like twins after twins,
like she had a lot on her plate.

Speaker 4 (26:20):
Yeah, like she did not care and no, she didn't
care about making it special for each of us.

Speaker 3 (26:24):
She was tired.

Speaker 4 (26:26):
So I now A'm like, it's the existing in those
moments of in between that I really really don't like.
And I've found that with Christmas too, that I wake up,
I have this excitement that I kind of didn't even
expect to have.

Speaker 3 (26:41):
I still have it.

Speaker 4 (26:42):
And you have a plan, and sometimes you'll go and
do the plan, but then I don't like when the
plan's done, I'm just at home, and at six o'clock
on Christmas night, I feel sick because I'm just like,
this is just like any other night. What am I
meant to have leftovers? This is Christmas like?

Speaker 1 (26:56):
And I'm horrified by that.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
This is the thing, said the experts say. And I'm
going to get to your excellent birthday boundaries in a minute,
Claire Murphy, because you have got the right idea, you'll
be surprised to hear the experts say that managing expectations
is the absolute key to this right, but also for
the people around you to understand what's required of them.

Speaker 4 (27:15):
Now.

Speaker 2 (27:15):
There was a brilliant piece online about a man who's
trying to opt out of his wife's unrealistic birthday expectations.
He said, they've been married for years, and they've got kids,
and she really wants a big, big, big fuss on
the birthday, and he's worked out over the years that
no matter what he does, it isn't enough. So one
year he'd planned her she wanted to go skydiving, she
wanted a picnic in a hot air balloon, whatever, and

(27:37):
he did it all, and she still ended up in
tears at the end.

Speaker 1 (27:41):
Of her Oh my god.

Speaker 2 (27:43):
Okay. And so he had written online and he'd said,
I've decided to set a boundary that I'm just out
of the birthday business because I can't win, and we
just have a big fight every year. I told her calmly,
and she responded with shrug shoulders that she knew I'd
changed my mind. He told her that he's not going
to plan anything. He's not going to do anything right.
Her birthday is now two months away, he writes, and
she's been coy, silly, persistent in hints that she's excited

(28:04):
to see what I've got planned. And he's said, I'm
planning a nice dinner at home with our kids and
anything else you need to plan yourself. His wife now
thinks that this is a strategy to hide reverse psychology. Really, so, Murphy,
what's going to happen to this poor man? And are
we sometimes unrealistic in our birthday boundary demands.

Speaker 5 (28:27):
Yeah we are, and we're unrealistic about a lot of
these things. We're unrealistic about what marriage looks, like, we're
unrealistic about our relationship with our boss. Like we're unrealistic
about so many things. And like that could be for
many reasons. Maybe your mum and dad had the most
wonderful relationship in the world, and Dad's spoiled mum and
now you are ruined for every other man that comes after,

(28:47):
or like maybe it's because you've watched too many rom coms.
I don't know whatever it came from. But like, it's
not that I have low expectations. It's just that I
don't expect everyone to I don't know, like stop their
entire lives for one day, Like I don't know. I
just I want people to acknowledge that is my birthday,
by me gifts.

Speaker 1 (29:08):
I love.

Speaker 5 (29:09):
My kid creates the most ridiculous artwork for my birthday
and I love that.

Speaker 1 (29:13):
So, like, there's lots of things that I do expect.

Speaker 5 (29:15):
But if my husband was to get up and go,
I have got an emergency at work. I can't do
your birthday thing today?

Speaker 1 (29:22):
Is that Okay.

Speaker 5 (29:23):
I'd be like, yeah, cool, get on with my day,
Like I'm not so let down by it.

Speaker 2 (29:27):
At the end of it all, Jesse, you're going to
hate one of the suggestions that the expert had, because
we've talked about this on the show before. Instead of
making it your birthday day, make it a birthday week
because you spread your expectations out across the week.

Speaker 3 (29:40):
Oh, I don't think so.

Speaker 2 (29:41):
Do you think that is why people have started doing
birthday weeks.

Speaker 3 (29:44):
That's a good point.

Speaker 4 (29:45):
But then it's like, it's a Monday morning, and I'm
indignant because the Monday mornings aren't meant to happen during
my birthday week. Like I have the pleasure of never
nearly never having to work on my birthday because.

Speaker 2 (29:59):
It's very often sometimes, but it's very often almost holidays,
isn't it.

Speaker 3 (30:03):
Yeah, which maybe puts more pressure on it.

Speaker 4 (30:06):
Like it was always also school holidays, so it was
like the sitting around waiting for a fuss to be
made was just always so so unmeat. It was Luca's
birthday over the weekend, and he was just like not
interested in doing and I kept trying to push something
because I was like, you'll be disappointed. You'll be disappointed,

(30:27):
and we sat.

Speaker 1 (30:27):
There realistically, you'll be disappointed.

Speaker 3 (30:30):
Yeah, well he was fine.

Speaker 4 (30:31):
On Saturday night we watched TVA and a Mexican. I
was like, this is the saddest thing ever, and he
was absolutely found it very joyful.

Speaker 2 (30:38):
You need to have your rules, so as you've got Murphy,
You're like, I expect these things to happen. I expect
the people who live in my house to do these things.
They're not extravagant things, but they're things that matter. And
I'm the same. I'm like, whoever's birthday is in our
house gets breakfast in bed. Whatever they want for their birthday, Yeah, breakfast.
So if it's one of the kids' birthdays and they
want chocolate for breakfast on their birthday, they can have it, fabulo.
That's no problem. I expect to be able to be

(30:58):
eating what I want for dinner that night, whether it's
out or in, and I expect, as previously discussed, to
not have to empty the dishwasher. Those are the can
I ask.

Speaker 3 (31:07):
A question quickly?

Speaker 4 (31:09):
I keep saying to people around me, it's the big
thirty five this year. I want to do something special
for my thirty fifth.

Speaker 1 (31:16):
I'm sorry the what Okay, No, this is good.

Speaker 4 (31:18):
People have started to react, like Uclaire, where they're like,
thirty five ain't a big birthday and I'm like, guys,
I think we should go away for my birthday and
they're like, thirty five isn't a mile.

Speaker 1 (31:27):
So no it's not.

Speaker 5 (31:28):
You get eighteen, you get twenty one, and then it's
ten year increments from that.

Speaker 2 (31:31):
Note, you're on trend. My brother so he had he
was fifty five this year. Yes, we're ancient, and he
had a massive party. He didn't have a massive party
even for his fiftieth, but he had a massive party.
Apparently in Europe, the five years there we go europaid
turn is becoming more and more popular as the one

(31:52):
because the Zeros are so confronting zero.

Speaker 1 (31:55):
It's like I confront you that halfway through.

Speaker 2 (31:58):
So you are on trend.

Speaker 4 (32:00):
Jesse Stevens, Okay, see I've got to do something big
for my master birth Can I tell you what I'm
doing for my birthday this year? I'm turning forty seven,
so it's not at anything birthday, but my best friend
and I are going up to the Gold Coast and
we're recreating our childhood experiences by going to all the
worlds because we used to go to the Lord Kids.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
That's so fine.

Speaker 5 (32:19):
And the beauty of working at mamamir As you get
your birthday day off. I know that sucks for you
guys because often a public call it. Anyway, you get
your birthday day off and then you get to go
and have fun, which is really cool. So yeah, I'm
going to like dream World and wet and wild and stuff.
Oh that's so fun.

Speaker 2 (32:34):
Do you think that man's marriage is going to survive?
The one who's often birthdays and his wife thinks he's planning.

Speaker 1 (32:41):
That's going to be the biggest fight of their entire lives.

Speaker 4 (32:43):
The advice was you need to write her a letter
to warn her, And I'm like, no, she'll just think
this is part of the elaborate prank. Like she's just
going to go, Wow, you've really lowered my expectations.

Speaker 1 (32:53):
It's not gonna end well. It's not going to end well.

Speaker 4 (32:56):
After the break a man named ned, some secret photographs
sent to his wife and the explosion of an internet career.
You either know nothing about this story or every little detail,
and I'm here to explain.

Speaker 2 (33:08):
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Speaker 5 (33:28):
There was a story that went viral over the weekend
back in my hometown of Adelaide. I don't know if
you caught this, but a lady went to donate some
goods to her local second hand store and did something
that if you've ever given.

Speaker 1 (33:41):
Birth to a child, we are all at risk of doing.
She went, dropped off the goods, all is well and good,
went back to the car. She's got a toddler and
a baby. She's strapping them all in.

Speaker 5 (33:50):
She drives away, leaves behind her seven hundred dollar Bugaboo
pram And for anyone who's ever had babies, you know
what a status symbol a Bugaboo pram is. Anyhow, of course,
the thrift stall looks at it and goes, oh, someone's
just left this not where it's supposed to be. They
sold it to someone for twelve bucks, and then this
lady went on the internet.

Speaker 1 (34:10):
She's like, I'm so sorry I left my pram behind.

Speaker 5 (34:13):
Someone bought it for twelve bucks, desperately tried to like
get it back again. Apparently the woman who bought it
for twelve bucks, who thought she had the investment of
the century for moms, then came back and said, yeah,
look it was me.

Speaker 1 (34:26):
I will give it back to you.

Speaker 5 (34:27):
But then apparently Bugaboo has come back to the original
mum who lost your prem and s that here have
another one.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
The other lady.

Speaker 4 (34:35):
Okay, wait, I have a big question that I keep
wondering with this story, because if I left my Pram
outside of Salvos, no one would touch.

Speaker 2 (34:46):
You're thinking the same thing, because you know how before
you donate anything to the salvo that you meant to
clean it and you meant to have it all nice
and well crapped beautiful.

Speaker 3 (34:56):
Must have Pram have been so my pre tailed it.

Speaker 1 (34:59):
People would not detailed it like that.

Speaker 4 (35:02):
Maybe she detailed for fear of infection, like it has
mandarin pills, half a banana, dirty wipes, toys like spills
of smoothie and juice all on the white thing, like
the fact that it was in such condition that it
was sellable. But I reckon I have thought this with
prams because I'm in my parme Era. Love it the

(35:22):
places I leave the pram because I feel as though
like it's got this.

Speaker 3 (35:27):
Stench, yes, stench that's like no one will ever.

Speaker 2 (35:30):
Take active stench.

Speaker 5 (35:31):
But also like a security aur about prams. Yeah, like
I see prams outside of places all the time. You
don't touch them, you don't steal them. They're for babies,
leave exactly. So I leave mine.

Speaker 4 (35:40):
I will go I'm sure you're not meant to do this,
but like into my local. It's not a shopping center,
but it's like a little mall thing, right, And I
will leave it out the front because Luna's at the
age where she likes going up and down the escalator.
That's our excursion. So I will leave it sometimes for
thirty minutes with just whatever in it, thinking that no
one will touch it.

Speaker 3 (35:58):
No one ever does touch it.

Speaker 1 (35:59):
That's the rule.

Speaker 4 (36:00):
So I if I were her, I would not be
expecting anyone to sell my buck a book.

Speaker 2 (36:05):
I also feel for this woman because we all know
that to get the hand me downs to the Salvos,
she would have been driving around with them in the
back of her car for at least six months. We
all do that where you're like I'm definitely donating this,
I'm not throwing it out. But then you don't remember
she was driving around and she thought she had the
PRAM in the back of the car. The bit of
this story, she goes home, she opens the boot, it's
not there and the bags have gone, and she's like,

(36:27):
maybe I've had some kind of breakdown.

Speaker 1 (36:29):
Yeah, I.

Speaker 2 (36:30):
Really feel for her. I understand it on a deep level.
And the fact that someone out there scored a dirty
bugaboo pram for twelve bucks, oh my god.

Speaker 5 (36:40):
Applause, amazing And just finally, could we maybe normalize using
prams when you no longer have a baby?

Speaker 1 (36:45):
Like, just thinking about this, I'm like, God.

Speaker 5 (36:47):
I wish I still had a pram, Like the amount
of stuff you can fit.

Speaker 1 (36:50):
In it, don't have to carry anything.

Speaker 3 (36:52):
So Claire, I have not used a plastic bag for
more than two.

Speaker 2 (36:55):
Years because I'm a mental warrant shark.

Speaker 4 (36:57):
I just have like banana whatever I've bought, just in
the bottom of the pram. But the thing is, if
I see you walking down the street with a PRAM
and no baby, I just assume you drop the baby
off somewhere. I think that you can absolutely go for pram.

Speaker 2 (37:10):
Your kid's ten, but.

Speaker 5 (37:13):
Then eventually you could maybe convert into like a dog pram,
like you know, I'd.

Speaker 3 (37:18):
See a lot of those around.

Speaker 2 (37:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (37:19):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (37:20):
Also the amount of stuff I've accidentally shoplifted because I've
put it in the bottom of the pram and then
walked out without paying for it. I apologize. I promise
not to do that anymore because it's not baby brain.
But like, can we just if we all had a pram,
we'd just be a much happier place.

Speaker 2 (37:34):
I think, where's my midlife pram?

Speaker 1 (37:37):
I've got a lot of shit.

Speaker 2 (37:38):
To hurry around? Have you seen my skincare bag?

Speaker 4 (37:42):
I want to introduce you both to an all or
nothing on a man named Ned former. If that rings
a bell, then you might be a rusted on out
louder who remembers our show from September twenty twenty two.

Speaker 2 (37:56):
Who doesn't. Yes, I've committed exactly, yeah, every single one.

Speaker 4 (38:01):
And that was three years ago, right, and our friend
Ned came up. Let's start at the beginning. Ned was
part of a group called the Try Guys. They were
all over BuzzFeed and then they went to YouTube and
you won't believe it, but they tried things.

Speaker 2 (38:14):
They tried like a comedy kind of thing.

Speaker 4 (38:16):
Yes, and they started like one of their most viral
videos was simulating labor paint. Well, they would try being
pregnant and put on like a pregnancy suit.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
Or they saw one where they got waxed.

Speaker 4 (38:27):
Yes, exactly right, just like try being a poker champion,
all that kind of stuff. And their videos had billions
of views, like they were totally, totally viral, and there
were four of them, and Ned Fulmer was known as
the wife guy. The reason he was kind of known
as that was that he had two little kids at
the time and his wife Ariel, who appeared in a

(38:50):
lot of the content as well. People really leaned into that.

Speaker 2 (38:53):
Life guy became kind of like we've thrown it around
a lot, like I always say, David Beckham's a wife guy.
There are certain celebrities who are always like being really
in love with their wife is part of their brand.

Speaker 3 (39:05):
And that started with Ned.

Speaker 2 (39:06):
Ned.

Speaker 3 (39:07):
It was the first time we heard he's the og
wife guy. He's the og wife guy.

Speaker 4 (39:11):
And look that was until fans photographed Ned having an
affair with the producer of the show.

Speaker 2 (39:19):
This is one of the problems with being a wife, guy,
is that if it turns out that you're not so
great to your wife. What happened?

Speaker 4 (39:26):
So the fan was out and about and he was like,
he must have been kissing us.

Speaker 3 (39:32):
It was very, very obvious.

Speaker 4 (39:33):
But they took photos of Ned and this woman and
then sent them directly to Ariel He's white, directly to
the wife y outed by a fan, and then some
video photo thing went absolutely viral and ultimately Ned was
booted from the group. And this story to give you
a sense of how big it was at the time.

(39:54):
It was parodied on Saturday Night Life, it was in newspapers,
it was everywhere. It made it to us even though
we'd never heard of the Try guys before this moment.
Three years past, both of them disappeared. You've not heard
anything from them. It was one of the biggest cancelations ever.

Speaker 1 (40:09):
Did they get divorced like we presumed that they split.

Speaker 3 (40:12):
Up, We didn't know.

Speaker 2 (40:14):
Lost his job. Basically they booted him from the crew
because he was bringing them into disrepute. Ye wow.

Speaker 4 (40:21):
And there had been sightings those of the two sort
of around where they lived, and they were like, oh,
maybe they're still together, maybe they're not. We don't really know,
but Ned is back. He has a podcast called rock
Bottom where he interviews people who have made big mistakes
and he asked them how they came back. And the
first guest, which doesn't actually quite fulfill that promise of

(40:42):
a podcast, but anyway, his first guest is his wife Aeriel.
And here's a little taste of the conversation they had.

Speaker 8 (40:49):
People ask me like, do you forgive Ned for what
he did? And I mean the answer is no, absolutely not.
How can you forgive somebody for like, for lying to you,
for cheating on you?

Speaker 4 (41:11):
No?

Speaker 2 (41:12):
Fuck no, fuck no.

Speaker 1 (41:14):
I think I like Ariel.

Speaker 3 (41:16):
I like Ariel a.

Speaker 2 (41:17):
Lot, though she obviously has forgiven him, to the point
where when I was reading a little bit about this,
they talk about how they are kind of still together,
like they're not together, but they're together, like as in,
they're together as a family unit, they do things together
as a family. They're not explicit in whether or not
they've moved on or really got divorced, but clearly she

(41:37):
wants everybody to know that she did not stick with
that idiot who was so silly that he was cheating
in public as a famous person who was a.

Speaker 4 (41:46):
Wife guy exactly. Interestingly, he isn't resentful about being canceled.
He says it was justified. And then he totally gets
it and that what the internet wants is a one
dimensional character, which he played into, which was his wife
guy thing. And in Good News, Ariel is setting up
a pottery business. I hope it was a link in
the show notes and we all that for her go

(42:08):
by a pottery.

Speaker 2 (42:08):
So he's coming back and she's coming back in different
ways exactly now what he's been doing for money for
three years.

Speaker 4 (42:14):
Here's my question, right, is because there has been an
enormous amount of resistance, people say, oh interesting. In the podcast,
she calls it the affair, he calls it the scandal. Right,
there's a lot of eye rolling. Three is a long time.

Speaker 2 (42:28):
Does he go into any detail about the affair? I
think he says it's someone at work, right, But he
doesn't give you any context in how long was it
going on?

Speaker 4 (42:36):
No, and then he says something that I didn't like
about how their marriage was kind of a fantasy and
the dream was starting to break. I really hate it
when an affair like this happens and they're kind of like, well,
you know, there was a problem with.

Speaker 3 (42:50):
The marriage, even if that's true.

Speaker 4 (42:52):
Yeah, just like it attempts to place blame on the
other person in a way that I think is really unhelpful.

Speaker 5 (42:57):
Like life can get hard, you don't have to cheat
on your partner. You can have open discussions with them
and act like an adult.

Speaker 3 (43:02):
And in the relationship that's allowed.

Speaker 2 (43:03):
But is there a good way to be a amous
person or a public person and to come back from
a cheating scandal without looking like a dick. Because I'm
thinking about I mentioned before wife Guy Trademarke, wife Guy
David Beckham very famously there was a big cheating scandal
with Heat and Posh in the noughties. Their strategy has
always been don't talk about it. Just don't talk about it,

(43:26):
just don't go there, just don't give it oxygen. Even
in their documentary, the Beckham Documentary, it was kind of
referenced as we went through a hard time. Some of
the headlines even about that story were a bit edited.
So they've never given it fuel. Now this guy is
giving it a lot of fuel in a way, but
he's still kind of talking around it. As you say, Jesse,
he's calling it a scandal, a problem in my marriage,

(43:48):
he's not. Is there a way for a cheater, particularly
a male cheater, although maybe we don't see female cheaters
talking about publicly to win back a female audience, do
you reckon?

Speaker 3 (43:58):
So that's a good point about the female audience.

Speaker 4 (44:01):
That I should say as well is that eighty percent
of the Try guy's audience was young women. And I
think that's the other, the other important factor, and that
I don't think his crime was in fidelity. I think
his crime was being inauthentic. Yes, people felt as though
I was sold this version of you, and now I
saw someone in an article compare him to someone that

(44:23):
was a literal criminal, and I went, no, No, he's not
a criminal. He did something bad that a lot of
people do. I mean, even the word bad, like it's
very moralizing, like who or any of us to judge.

Speaker 2 (44:32):
But she says she felt betrayed, So yeah, so we
know that for her, cheating was a line. Like we
talked about this when it was the Coldplay couple. You
don't always know what's going on in people's marriages. You
don't always know where they're up to and whether or
not they're separating or not. You don't always know. Maybe
they're open. Maybe they're not, but she has clearly said
here like this devastated me and I will never forgive you.

Speaker 5 (44:52):
But I think what you said, Jesse then is so
true in that the audience that he was catering to,
being majority women, are going to be a lot harder
to win back than if your audience is majority men.
Like Donald Trump, for example, has famously cheated on his
wives and and so on and said awful things about women,
and yet it doesn't really matter for him that much
because the majority of his supporters are men. And I

(45:15):
think if you are catering to women, women are so
much more judgmental of you if you have hurt another woman,
unless for whatever reason, the Internet hates that woman, which
could be for various reasons. So we don't hate Ariel.
We like Ariel. So that's why it's going to be
really tough for him to come back unless he takes
full responsibility, which it sounds like he is definitely not

(45:35):
done well.

Speaker 4 (45:36):
It's funny, right because even the name of the podcast
being rock bottom, Like if he went to the best
crisis PR team in the world, which I reckon he has,
and he said, what's a move? I think This is
exactly what they would tell him to do. I think
they'd say, laylo, try and repair things to some extent.
You don't have to get back together, but show that
she can tolerate you. That's a good start. Willing enough

(45:58):
to come on your podcast is enough? Yes, Yes, platform
her because the big thing is always like, well you
got your say, she didn't get hers, So give her
her say.

Speaker 2 (46:06):
There's someone else, though, isn't there who isn't getting a say?
The other woman in this situation, which is why these
things are so thorny to discuss because we always talk
about like you can tell your truth, but your truth
nearly always involves someone else and their truth. So maybe
also wherever that woman is, the woman who was in
the photos that got sent to Ariel, this will blow

(46:26):
all this up for her as well. Like if I
was you know, we're all done our time as internet journalists.
Whatever happened to the woman that ned Fulmer was passing
in that restaurant, like, it also blows that back up
for her. So there's another strategy here, which is that
ned Fulmer came back to make an interesting and original
podcast about something that had nothing to do with his
personal life.

Speaker 4 (46:47):
See, I don't think that was ever an option. I
reckon that he's brand now is rock bottom, Like that's
his brand and he needs white wife guy, and he
needs to own it and go I'm the guy that
was spat out by the internet ruthlessly. I'm going to
explore that in a series with like bear All, and

(47:08):
I think that we've seen a lot of men, even
like the Louis c ks is like they've got to
be the canceled dude.

Speaker 3 (47:14):
They have to kind.

Speaker 4 (47:15):
Of wear that for a while, right, even all their
specials are like corns anything.

Speaker 2 (47:21):
You're so right, But as Murphy's just said, that works
okay for your brand if your brand was never squeaky
clean in the first place. Like the reason why you're
Donald Trump's and your Charlie Sheen's. You were talking about
that doco the other day, Like everybody knows that they
are not morally, you know, untouchable when it comes to
the cheating on their wives. Is probably good for their
brand in some twisted way. They're not pretending. You hit

(47:42):
the nail on the head before Jesse when he said
it's about the inauthenticity, which is why some people get
canceled for things that other people can say freely. It's
because they're like, well, I thought you were somebody different.
I didn't think you were that person.

Speaker 3 (47:54):
Ellen DeGeneres her not being kind.

Speaker 2 (47:56):
Because everyone was like, but she's the nice lady who
dances on the show. But it's interesting because your point
about this is a great strategy to come back into
viewing people at the bottom of pylons. Is that it
because he can't put himself in company of genuine victims,
do you know what I mean? Like people who have
genuinely been misrepresented bleed, Like he can't really put himself

(48:17):
in the company of that when he was having an
affair with a co worker and just was not smart
enough to be private about it.

Speaker 5 (48:25):
Be interesting to see who his next guest lineup is,
because you're right, it would be pretty difficult for him
to connect with someone who's been canceled for other reasons.
But if his list of candidates is like other men
who've done things like that, might be interesting to hear
how men speak to.

Speaker 1 (48:43):
Other men about these moments.

Speaker 5 (48:44):
But I think trotting out Ariel forp one, I think
I could see what they were trying to do with that.
They want to blow open all the cobwebs. They don't
want anyone to ask any more questions. They want that
out of the way upfront, like, stop talking about it,
let's move on with this.

Speaker 1 (48:59):
Now new podcast idea.

Speaker 5 (49:01):
But I'm really interested to see who these next guests
are going to be, because I think that will then
mark what kind of guy this guy is.

Speaker 2 (49:09):
I also think you nailed it in there. There's lots
of enthusiasm for Ariel because very often when a public
man is cheating and then his wife comes out and
says that she stood by him in whatever capacity, she
usually does say that she forgave him. She usually says
I knew he wasn't being himself. I knew he was
going through a hard time. I know there's a lot
of love here. And so to hear Ariel say quite

(49:31):
so clearly no fuck no about this, I think there'd
probably be a lot of women cheering.

Speaker 4 (49:37):
And the question is whether this relaunch is gonna work.
Because he has every right to come back. He can
lost whatever show he wants.

Speaker 2 (49:44):
You could argue that losing your job for a private
you know, is not really fair, but as we've already unpacked,
a's largely because he was being fraudulent in his representation exactly.

Speaker 4 (49:54):
But we don't have any obligation to listen, or to
enjoy or to consume the content.

Speaker 3 (50:00):
And I can't.

Speaker 4 (50:02):
Really see it being because he's his role was. He
described himself as a comede before, and this all has
to get very serious in order for him to wear
it and try and build back his reputation, and I
don't see it working.

Speaker 2 (50:17):
I hobby, I hope her pottery businesses a lot of
cops that say fuck no at the bottom of it.

Speaker 7 (50:21):
Yeah, I love it out loud as a massive thank
you to all of you for being with us here today,
and to you Claire Murphy of course for filling from
Melia Lester, and to everybody for putting up with my
slightly wobbly voice.

Speaker 2 (50:34):
Friends, don't forget that if you want to see our
glorious faces. This is what Need got wrong is he
didn't realize he was Internet famous at a level that
we know. This is why you can't scream at your
daughter in public. No, you see, I can't choke passion
pop at at his school function.

Speaker 8 (50:49):
No.

Speaker 4 (50:49):
The rule is, Claire, you can't cheat in public. It's
got to be behind closed doors. That's the number one
role of having your face on the internet.

Speaker 5 (50:56):
Look, I'm glad you told me that because I would
never have worked that out on my own without you
killing me in.

Speaker 2 (51:01):
If you want to be able to recognize us causing
misdemeanors in public, you need to go over on YouTube
how over to YouTube watch.

Speaker 5 (51:08):
Please don't judge me for my middle aged pram, which
will be in some kind of condition by the time
you see.

Speaker 2 (51:13):
It, and we will be back in your ears tomorrow.

Speaker 4 (51:16):
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Speaker 3 (51:44):
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Speaker 4 (51:47):
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