Phasing Out A Friend

Big Trev finds any chance to talk about playing his Xbox, but there's this one guy who was getting on everybody's nerves while playing as a group, so how do you solve a problem like this as grown adults? You sneakily phase them out! 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Now every Thursday I play Xbox, just catching up with mates.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
We're playing a night at.

Speaker 1 (00:05):
Night until all stupid hours in the morning, like last night.
Last few games that we've been playing, this new one
called Battlefield. It's just come out, so the baita's out.
That's just the practice game. You can play a few
maps before the real one comes out, and you can
pay for the whole game. This is on which particular
content Xbox, PlayStation and computer. So at this moment, we've

(00:31):
got a guy in our group and he's just hating
the game. He goes, I'm no good at this. I
don't know why I'm playing this game anymore. Can we
play something else? I'm thirty. I don't think I'm going
to get the hang of this game. It's really bad.
I can't kill anybody, and it's not working. My control
is not working. I don't really like this game. I
got in a plane, I flew into a mountain. I

(00:54):
don't really like that.

Speaker 2 (00:54):
And it's just continued flew into a mountain.

Speaker 3 (00:56):
Yeah, not to see it because it's control.

Speaker 1 (00:59):
It wasn't working. It's continual, right over and over again.
And then some guys that we used to play with
a few years ago. They jumped on and they're just
good guys. So one lives up Cape York is a policeman.
We've never met these people before. Another one runs pubs
and clubs in Melbourne and they get on there and

(01:19):
they're just enjoying what it is is catching up, have
a bit of ing, how's your family, blah blah blah.
That's all we do in the background. I don't think
I can plain to Mosis. I'm not going to get
used to this game. And you're trying to shout him out.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
Yeah you can't.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
But these two new guys, I'm thinking, Hey, Toddsy, why
don't we just replace old mate with one of these guys.

Speaker 2 (01:39):
Have you ever met old mate in face to face?

Speaker 3 (01:42):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:42):
I met him once once. How did you meet him?

Speaker 3 (01:45):
He's one of Toddsy's mates, shurts up.

Speaker 2 (01:48):
To he has to make the decision.

Speaker 3 (01:50):
If ye okay, cool, so I can do.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
You don't need to.

Speaker 4 (01:55):
Yeah, if he's annoying and we phaced out a friend, yes,
we've done these two. We pased someone out. Yeah, we
still bring it up at all to get togethers me
and the girls.

Speaker 3 (02:06):
You've showed me the photo of how you face that.

Speaker 4 (02:09):
Well, I didn't, that's not how I faced her out.
But if there are any photos, there's usually a black mark,
then that's where she.

Speaker 3 (02:18):
Was, So you like removed her cruelly.

Speaker 4 (02:23):
Yeah, just my finger on one of the photos, because
lots of memories come up and you go, oh no, no, no,
I don't need to see that face.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
And that's like when you have like friends from away
back when you're younger and they've done something like stupid.
When you're growing up, you phase them out. Yeah, we
had another guy who he was in the group and
he went out with a girl, but then they broke up.
They went on a holiday and he left her in
Sydney and flew and flew back to Adelaide. So they

(02:53):
hooked up. Yeah, it was probably good.

Speaker 3 (02:55):
And they flew to Sydney for a week and away
they had a fight. He said it was.

Speaker 2 (02:59):
Her fault and left he left her.

Speaker 3 (03:02):
He left her and then came back to Adelaide.

Speaker 2 (03:04):
Now phase that out, Yeah, so he got phased good Androper.
That's a quick face. Yeah, that's actually let's discuss.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
Maybe you have had experience with this many for Madruba.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
Did you face.

Speaker 5 (03:16):
Someone else I phased my arm al replaced my bridesmaid
three weeks before my wedding. If I can try a sentim,
I've been married thirty years this year, all.

Speaker 4 (03:26):
Right, So how long had you been friends before you
asked her to be a bridesmaid?

Speaker 5 (03:30):
Well, so I met her when I was eleven. I
got married when I was twenty six, so quite a
long time. And she was just causing me all sorts
of grief and oh this is the stuff, and I
just thought, you know what, I can't handle this in
my life anymore. And I literally sent her, sent her
a note because back then said your fact is my
bridesmaid and you're not welcome to the wedding.

Speaker 3 (03:51):
Oh whoa. Wasn't that bad?

Speaker 5 (03:54):
But it was just a series of badness. So it
just wasn't worth It just wasn't worth stress that it
was causing a minority stressful time.

Speaker 2 (04:02):
Yeah, did she ever respond to you?

Speaker 5 (04:05):
Oh yeah, she said some nasty things and everything and
tried to try to come to the wedding, but I had.

Speaker 3 (04:10):
The wedding, Yeah, bouncer boucer on.

Speaker 2 (04:15):
She actually turned up.

Speaker 5 (04:17):
Yeah, she turned up, but we were all in black
ties and no one knew it was about So I
knew it was about, but no one else need I
just thought it was relative and yeah I got rid
of but yeah.

Speaker 1 (04:26):
What so she up and turned up and everything.

Speaker 5 (04:30):
Oh it was formal. She came in babies and songs.
This was just part of the ongoing. But anyway, but
I haven't spoken to her for thirty years, and on
her birthday every year I think about it. But then
I go, yeah, I love that.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
That's so weird that she turned up to the wedding
in babies, in.

Speaker 5 (04:55):
Babies and songs, to a full on black tie wedding. Yeah,
that's just in the example of the stuff. But anyway,
that's a big phase out.

Speaker 4 (05:04):
That's a great out, well done, Yes, deserved phase out.

Speaker 3 (05:07):
Yeah, I don't even know, and I do not like it.

Speaker 5 (05:10):
And big tramp for the driver on one day, not
tomato