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Speaker 1 (00:00):
List alive at Tasmania Talks dot com dot au. It
is tas Mania Talks at twenty two to eleven. Will
they say that one of the things in life that
you don't get trained for, you just get lobbed with,
is becoming a parent. For other jobs, you need lots
of training to become a good parent. You just have
to work it out for yourself. But Triple P International
(00:21):
Carrie Marquis Dodds is on the line and she has
a few hints and tips on how to be a
parent and exactly what does it take to be a
good parent?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Kid A Carol, good morning, Alan, how are you.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
I'm very well. I'm not a parent, though I have
no idea, but I see other parents and there's suddenly
there's suddenly parents and they think, oh my goodness, what
am I going to do? What do they do? Most people?
Most people seem to work it out for themselves. But
it's a long slog, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
It is a long slog. And we go to lessons
to learn how to burst a baby, but we then
are sent home with our little bundle of joy and
not necessarily given the tips and advice that we need,
especially in those early months when sleeping and crying patterns
are going to be front and center for most parents,
(01:08):
and how do we respond and support our baby during
those times?
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Will you give it to the grandparents, don't you?
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Well, it's great if you've got that support network, and
families do much better when they do have a family
and support network to help them, because it's exhausting those
first few months. But the good news is that there
is proven, practical strategies available to support parents. We don't
want parents to go through the trial and error and
struggle by themselves. We want them to know that there
(01:36):
are proven tips and they can get online twenty four
to seven now with our online Triple P programs to
find some tips that might help them.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Okay, so, just looking through some of the research that
you've done, I can see here that sixty seven percent
of parents struggle with time management. Forty three percent of
parents admit to being unsure of action to take when
children are misbehaving. Gosh, I guess it's a lot of
this comes down to the child. I guess if the
child's really annoying, I guess it would be harder. I
(02:07):
guess fifty one percent of concerned about their children reaching
their full potential, and thirty nine percent do not think
their children are performing at their optimum level. It's how
do you engage these things if you're a parent.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Yeah, it's really tricky. And what we're finding, I guess
is there's a real lack of confidence among parents at
the moment, and they've probably been thrown for six a
bit over the last few years. With the COVID pandemic.
Financial stress is now really impacting on adults. We've got
natural weather events which are causing concern across the nation.
(02:41):
So when families or the adults are not feeling confident
in their own ability, then it's very hard for them
to be consistent and to also look after the needs
of other people, so their children. And when parents are
not confident, they waiver and children get the message that
some days it's to do this behavior and the next
(03:01):
day it's not okay. So when those expectations aren't really clear,
that's when children struggle as well. So if we can
help adults to take care of themselves and the stresses
that they're dealing with, then it's easier to look after
and support our children.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Do single parents have a harder job. I'm guessing things
like time management for a single parent. That would be
much harder, wouldn't it.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yeah, Well, I guess every family has challenges because you've
got to fit in if you're on your own, or
if you've got extended family time with them, and if
you're working or not working, or extracurricular activities, if you've
got one child or six children. So there's always time
challenges that we're always juggling, and I think that's impacting
families a lot more than in previous decades. We're just
(03:45):
so busy, We've got so many things that we need
to get to and sometimes we forget to just slow
down talk to our children about what's happening and why
we're doing certain things, so that we're bringing them along
with us on all our daily activities.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
What makes a good parent.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Our good parents are warm and nurturing, loving, and their
responsive to their children, so when their children comes to
you with a need, we're able to stay calm and
support them, taking interest in what they're doing. And the
other part of it is that we're really consistent and
have clear limits and expectations for our children's behavior.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Okay, So that sums it up, and what makes a
good child. That's the other thing too, I guess is
there a definition of a good child or is that variable.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
What we're really looking for for children is to give
them the skills that they're going to need to do
well in life. And one of the key things we
know nowadays is resilience and that ability to bounce back
and get back up when you get knocked down or
you get disappointed, and so that ability to cope with
life's ups and downs. That's a really important factor for
children's life success. And then obviously children who are confident
(04:56):
and able to look after themselves. Are they're resilient and confident,
that would be fantastic.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
That would be that would be what you would order
if you could tick the boxes.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
That's right, and we have to work hard to get
to those to that outcome. It's not easy. It's a
daily activity. So, like we said though, now with Australian
government funding, our Triple P online programs are freely available
across Tasmania, so all families with children under twelve. There's
a version specifically for families with babies, and then one
(05:27):
for the preschooler and primary schoolers.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
So how do these work? You jump online and what
do you just put your concern in there? Or how
does it work? What do you see when you log on?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, it's actually a modulized program on the web. So
you register and then you start to write your own
little workbook and your own plan online about what it
is that you want to want to be changing and
looking at. So you're setting your own goals, and then
each week you check back in and learn some more information.
(05:58):
There's video examples and elect the sizes be to do,
and some practice activities. So it's over six to eight
weeks that you'd go through the modules, but you can
log on twenty four to seven, create your user name
and password and use whatever device you like, whether you're
on your smartphone, your tablet's computer.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
And this would answer some of those questions I mean parents,
If I was a parent, I would be thinking to myself,
should my kid be speaking now? Or is he? Is
he or she ahead or behind? Or am I doing
this right? Am I just causing confusion? You know what
I mean? Are the other questions that can.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Be answer absolutely? So there's some information about developmental milestones,
particularly in that baby version, about what you should be
expecting from your little bub but they're not. Also, the
key things that we find families asked about is establishing
good bedtime routines, establishing meal time routines, and getting out
(06:53):
of the door in the morning where everyone's calm and
with everything that they need for the day. So there's
certainly tips to help up set up those activities and routines,
and they are things that when you're a parent you'll
realize they happen every day, and every day you got
to think, what are we going to have a dinner
and is there going to be a battle or are
we going to get through this? And then what's the
bedtime routine going to be? Like? Are we all going
(07:15):
to get to bed on time and get the sleep
that we need so we're ready for the next day.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Some kids are just more energetic than other kids. Is
there some sort of tips that we can give to
parents now that would help with that? I mean, some
kids are just absolutely unstoppable and the parents. You can
see the parents when you go to the shop and
you can just see them. You think you haven't you
haven't yet too much red cordial that stuff just had
that fed through to me, and you can just see
(07:41):
that they're their wits end, what can we do for
them right now?
Speaker 2 (07:45):
And I think it's really important we have really stick
expectations that there's no such thing as a perfect child
who just stampsified their parent and does everything that they're told.
We'd be paying concerned that they're too anxious or too
compliant if that was the case. So we've got to
recognize that we all have our own temperaments, and we
all have our own history and other things that we
bring with us. But the key things are planning ahead,
(08:08):
letting our children know what's going to happen, where we're going, why,
how they can help you on that little outing that
you're going on. We can always engage children in finding
the vegamide and the corn flakes. Everyone can recognize those
key things on the shelves. And then working out what
sort of hayoff I guess or reward there is for
(08:29):
our children once we've done the activity that we have
to do, so we can go to the park, or
we can play a game or visit a special friend.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
So the key is bribery.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah, well it's not really bribery if we're getting into
do things that are pro social and cooperative. But there's
certainly this is what we need to do now, and
this is what you can look forward to when we've
done the jobs that we have to do.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Excellent. All right, now where do we find all these courses?
Where do we look?
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeah, so we can just jump online on our website
which is Triple P T R I P L E
P Hyphenparenting dot net dot au and just find the
program that suits your age group.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And that's all there is to it.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
That's all there is, simple twenty four to seven.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Easy now, easy as that, easy as there all right. Now, well, look,
if I become I'm not going to become a parent.
It's not going to happen. But I'm sure people listening
other people probably saying the same thing. They probably it's
not going to happen. It's not going to happen, But
then somehow it does and there suddenly they'll be looking
for this.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Carol Markey does you could be the best uncle and
the best helper, so you don't necessarily have to be
the biological parent to be having a look at some
chips and advice as well.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
You're scaring me your good care, Carol market Dods. Thank
you very much from Triple T International. It's been a
good chat. Talk to you soon.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Thank you. Bye.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
List alive at Asmania Talks, dot com, dot a u
List alive at Tasmania Talks dot com dot au. It
is tas Mania Talks at twenty two to eleven. Will
they say that one of the things in life that
you don't get trained for, you just get lobbed with,
is becoming a parent. For other jobs, you need lots
of training to become a good parent. You just have
to work it out for yourself. But Triple P International
(00:21):
Carrie Marquis Dodds is on the line and she has
a few hints and tips on how to be a
parent and exactly what does it take to be a
good parent?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Kid A Carol, good morning, Alan, how are you.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
I'm very well. I'm not a parent, though I have
no idea, but I see other parents and there's suddenly
there's suddenly parents and they think, oh my goodness, what
am I going to do? What do they do? Most people?
Most people seem to work it out for themselves. But
it's a long slog, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
It is a long slog. And we go to lessons
to learn how to burst a baby, but we then
are sent home with our little bundle of joy and
not necessarily given the tips and advice that we need,
especially in those early months when sleeping and crying patterns
are going to be front and center for most parents,
(01:08):
and how do we respond and support our baby during
those times?
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Will you give it to the grandparents, don't you?
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Well, it's great if you've got that support network, and
families do much better when they do have a family
and support network to help them, because it's exhausting those
first few months. But the good news is that there
is proven, practical strategies available to support parents. We don't
want parents to go through the trial and error and
struggle by themselves. We want them to know that there
(01:36):
are proven tips and they can get online twenty four
to seven now with our online Triple P programs to
find some tips that might help them.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Okay, so, just looking through some of the research that
you've done, I can see here that sixty seven percent
of parents struggle with time management. Forty three percent of
parents admit to being unsure of action to take when
children are misbehaving. Gosh, I guess it's a lot of
this comes down to the child. I guess if the
child's really annoying, I guess it would be harder. I
(02:07):
guess fifty one percent of concerned about their children reaching
their full potential, and thirty nine percent do not think
their children are performing at their optimum level. It's how
do you engage these things if you're a parent.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Yeah, it's really tricky. And what we're finding, I guess
is there's a real lack of confidence among parents at
the moment, and they've probably been thrown for six a
bit over the last few years. With the COVID pandemic.
Financial stress is now really impacting on adults. We've got
natural weather events which are causing concern across the nation.
(02:41):
So when families or the adults are not feeling confident
in their own ability, then it's very hard for them
to be consistent and to also look after the needs
of other people, so their children. And when parents are
not confident, they waiver and children get the message that
some days it's to do this behavior and the next
(03:01):
day it's not okay. So when those expectations aren't really clear,
that's when children struggle as well. So if we can
help adults to take care of themselves and the stresses
that they're dealing with, then it's easier to look after
and support our children.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Do single parents have a harder job. I'm guessing things
like time management for a single parent. That would be
much harder, wouldn't it.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yeah, Well, I guess every family has challenges because you've
got to fit in if you're on your own, or
if you've got extended family time with them, and if
you're working or not working, or extracurricular activities, if you've
got one child or six children. So there's always time
challenges that we're always juggling, and I think that's impacting
families a lot more than in previous decades. We're just
(03:45):
so busy, We've got so many things that we need
to get to and sometimes we forget to just slow
down talk to our children about what's happening and why
we're doing certain things, so that we're bringing them along
with us on all our daily activities.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
What makes a good parent.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Our good parents are warm and nurturing, loving, and their
responsive to their children, so when their children comes to
you with a need, we're able to stay calm and
support them, taking interest in what they're doing. And the
other part of it is that we're really consistent and
have clear limits and expectations for our children's behavior.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Okay, So that sums it up, and what makes a
good child. That's the other thing too, I guess is
there a definition of a good child or is that variable.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
What we're really looking for for children is to give
them the skills that they're going to need to do
well in life. And one of the key things we
know nowadays is resilience and that ability to bounce back
and get back up when you get knocked down or
you get disappointed, and so that ability to cope with
life's ups and downs. That's a really important factor for
children's life success. And then obviously children who are confident
(04:56):
and able to look after themselves. Are they're resilient and confident,
that would be fantastic.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
That would be that would be what you would order
if you could tick the boxes.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
That's right, and we have to work hard to get
to those to that outcome. It's not easy. It's a
daily activity. So, like we said though, now with Australian
government funding, our Triple P online programs are freely available
across Tasmania, so all families with children under twelve. There's
a version specifically for families with babies, and then one
(05:27):
for the preschooler and primary schoolers.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
So how do these work? You jump online and what
do you just put your concern in there? Or how
does it work? What do you see when you log on?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, it's actually a modulized program on the web. So
you register and then you start to write your own
little workbook and your own plan online about what it
is that you want to want to be changing and
looking at. So you're setting your own goals, and then
each week you check back in and learn some more information.
(05:58):
There's video examples and elect the sizes be to do,
and some practice activities. So it's over six to eight
weeks that you'd go through the modules, but you can
log on twenty four to seven, create your user name
and password and use whatever device you like, whether you're
on your smartphone, your tablet's computer.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
And this would answer some of those questions I mean parents,
If I was a parent, I would be thinking to myself,
should my kid be speaking now? Or is he? Is
he or she ahead or behind? Or am I doing
this right? Am I just causing confusion? You know what
I mean? Are the other questions that can.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Be answer absolutely? So there's some information about developmental milestones,
particularly in that baby version, about what you should be
expecting from your little bub but they're not. Also, the
key things that we find families asked about is establishing
good bedtime routines, establishing meal time routines, and getting out
(06:53):
of the door in the morning where everyone's calm and
with everything that they need for the day. So there's
certainly tips to help up set up those activities and routines,
and they are things that when you're a parent you'll
realize they happen every day, and every day you got
to think, what are we going to have a dinner
and is there going to be a battle or are
we going to get through this? And then what's the
bedtime routine going to be? Like? Are we all going
(07:15):
to get to bed on time and get the sleep
that we need so we're ready for the next day.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Some kids are just more energetic than other kids. Is
there some sort of tips that we can give to
parents now that would help with that? I mean, some
kids are just absolutely unstoppable and the parents. You can
see the parents when you go to the shop and
you can just see them. You think you haven't you
haven't yet too much red cordial that stuff just had
that fed through to me, and you can just see
(07:41):
that they're their wits end, what can we do for
them right now?
Speaker 2 (07:45):
And I think it's really important we have really stick
expectations that there's no such thing as a perfect child
who just stampsified their parent and does everything that they're told.
We'd be paying concerned that they're too anxious or too
compliant if that was the case. So we've got to
recognize that we all have our own temperaments, and we
all have our own history and other things that we
bring with us. But the key things are planning ahead,
(08:08):
letting our children know what's going to happen, where we're going, why,
how they can help you on that little outing that
you're going on. We can always engage children in finding
the vegamide and the corn flakes. Everyone can recognize those
key things on the shelves. And then working out what
sort of hayoff I guess or reward there is for
(08:29):
our children once we've done the activity that we have
to do, so we can go to the park, or
we can play a game or visit a special friend.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
So the key is bribery.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
Yeah, well it's not really bribery if we're getting into
do things that are pro social and cooperative. But there's
certainly this is what we need to do now, and
this is what you can look forward to when we've
done the jobs that we have to do.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Excellent. All right, now where do we find all these courses?
Where do we look?
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeah, so we can just jump online on our website
which is Triple P T R I P L E
P Hyphenparenting dot net dot au and just find the
program that suits your age group.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
And that's all there is to it.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
That's all there is, simple twenty four to seven.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Easy now, easy as that, easy as there all right. Now, well, look,
if I become I'm not going to become a parent.
It's not going to happen. But I'm sure people listening
other people probably saying the same thing. They probably it's
not going to happen. It's not going to happen, But
then somehow it does and there suddenly they'll be looking
for this.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Carol Markey does you could be the best uncle and
the best helper, so you don't necessarily have to be
the biological parent to be having a look at some
chips and advice as well.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
You're scaring me your good care, Carol market Dods. Thank
you very much from Triple T International. It's been a
good chat. Talk to you soon.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Thank you. Bye.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
List alive at Asmania Talks, dot com, dot a u
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