June 14, 2025 • 8 mins
Introducing I Never Told You This: Two People. One big reveal. A simple card deck with questions. Some are light hearted, some deeper…and one that says ‘I Never Told You This’ - the chance for one person to share something they’ve never told the other before.In the first episode of 'I Never Told You This', Mary and Martha Kalifatidis chat about their all-too-relatable experience of protectiveness and anxiety as parents.If you want to continue to enjoy this series, it will be dropping every Thursday over at the But Are You Happy podcast.
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
So you're listening to a MoMA Mia podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Mama Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of land and waters
that this podcast is recorded on Hey you bis, let's
get real for a sec. Did you know one in
five ossies experience and mental health condition each year. That's
a lot of us, and yet so many of us
don't say a word. We bottle it up, we push through,
(00:35):
We tell ourselves we're fine when we're not. But I've
learned that speaking up, just starting that conversation can be
incredibly powerful. It's often the first step toward feeling better
and realizing you're absolutely not alone. That's why I wanted
to share this brand new podcast I Never told you
this a series created to spark honest, meaningful conversations that
(00:58):
support better mental well being, brought to you by Medibank.
I hope you get as much out of this episode
as I did.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I have anxiety myself. I don't even know what to
do with it, how to deal with it. I feel
like we don't really know how to deal with it.
We just kind of get up and just seize the day.
It doesn't matter how you're feeling.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Soldier on two People, One big reveal, I never told
you this a simple card game where one question could
change everything.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
It starts like, what's more things by joy?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
I'm not going to answer that.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Then comes the moment that could shift a relationship forever.
As they finished this sentence, I never told you this.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I've never told you.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
They never told you this.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Today Reality TV influences mother and daughter duo Mary and
Martha Califdidas will be sitting down together.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Quite nervous, but I'm always nervous.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Mary has something big to reveal to her daughter.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
I don't think she's expecting me to say what I'm
going to say.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Welcome, Martha. Oh, thanks for having me Mary. This is
a bit new for us.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Welcome.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
So today we're going to play a little game with
the Midibank family roast cards.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Are you ready to play?
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yes, let's get into this game. I think we need
a little game.
Speaker 4 (02:09):
So who picks?
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Here?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
You go for it? Oh?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Are you ready?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (02:15):
What is the most ridiculous fashion trend you ever followed?
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Those thick fat belts that were like a boob trip
and we'd wear them over the jeans. That has to
be one of the ugliest things I ever did. I'm
five foot two and that made me four foot two.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
I probably told you, but you wouldn't probably listen.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
She had to throw that one in my face and.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Just saying kid, just saying, all right, so I'll pick
a card. Oh, what is something I do that grosses
you out?
Speaker 1 (02:42):
I don't think you do anything they do not. No,
that's right, good answer, Mary. What about me?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Don't because I can say so many things.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I bring it to the table.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Cutting your cuticles, Well.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
That's just like meditation.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
If you go and get that done and then you
like to do more and just keep cutting the cuticles,
it must be a nervous It's definitely a nervous habit.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
Okay, I'll take that, all.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Right, go next? Oh is that me? Oh?
Speaker 4 (03:08):
What do you think your most useless talent is? You've
got plenty of those.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I don't think I've got any. I just timeless for
uselessness in our family.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
I agree?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
What about how you can you start singing every single
commercial song that's ever come on since late nineteen eighty
fifties from the Earth.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I'm going to pick the next card. I never told
you this. When you went on reality TV. All these
comments would come in on social media. It actually affected me,
but I didn't want to show you that it was
(03:50):
affecting me. All these comments that were coming in, and
I'd be staying up till three four in the morning,
and I didn't realize how toxic social media can be.
I didn't know as a parent how I can comfort you.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
No, I can totally understand how that would have affected you.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
With the trolls.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
On the they think they know me, but you really
know me, and so you were reading things that weren't true,
and then that would be just endless cycle.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Now you're a parent, and I'm sure you would probably.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Do the same now that I'm a parent.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
I just want to protect him from everything.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
I could only imagine.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
And that's why I didn't want to burden you with
I've got anxiety, I can't sleep, I was I had
shortness of breath, like I was thinking, mom, don't yeah,
But that's how it was.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
I think to.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Some degree, I did have some idea, because you did
start acting really strange. I definitely think I know you
were staying up really late looking at comments, and I
remember just being to you like, don't.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Worry about it, man, like it's fine.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
But I think at the time, I didn't want to
show you either that it was affecting me, so I
would just say oh.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
To you, like it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
But really, like I would be in my room staying
up reading the comments as well. So I have anxiety myself.
I don't even know what to do with it. Do
you know how to deal with it? I feel like
we don't really know how to deal with it. We
just kind of move on with the day and just
keep the day going. But it doesn't mean that the
anxiety goes.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
Away the rest of this episode of I never told
you this right after.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
The break, Thinking back, I should have just been more
open and told you, like, you know what, it's normal
to feel this way because I'm feeling this way.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah, I think if this had done that, we probably
would have been able to, you know, commune and pack
it and then just deal with it in the open
instead of dealing with it separately in.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Our different rooms.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Yeah, but that's very That's very much what our family does,
though we're not very good at revealing, which is strange
because we're so open that everything about movements and everything,
because we've brought up to be like quite.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Hard and like strong and tarbody. No, you can't get
over it.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Get up and just seize the day. It doesn't matter
how you're feeling.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Soldier on.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
When I was growing up, our parents were very strict.
They never showed an they never you know.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I just find that hard to believe. Yeah, yeah, it
is like the.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Most softest, sweetest, gentlest, emotional, loving caring.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
It wasn't when we were growing up. I just find
it hard to believe.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
She was strict.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Get up old age. It really softens you. It breaks
you down.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
With like searching and being like my own little detective.
I noticed that a lot of these comments weren't coming
from young kids that were just being mean. These were
from parents that had kids. How could you try and
destroy someone else's child. People want kids to be kind,
but they don't teach them the tools to be kind
(06:53):
and not to bring other people down.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
You know, like kids are mean today. I hate that
I was to learn that from somewhere.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. The parents are the
ones that need to actually change.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
I kind of feel a bit sad for you in
a way that you kind of dealt with that on
your own.
Speaker 4 (07:10):
That's what parents do, you know, They try to protect.
I think their kids as much as they can, you know,
So if your son was dealing with anxiety, how would
you help.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Him growing up?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
You always said those that matter don't mind, and those
that mind don't matter. It doesn't really matter because who
are these people to you? As long as like you know, you,
your friends, your family, the people that you care about,
the opinions of others don't really matter.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
That's good. At least you've got something, something stuck, stuck
from all those years.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Yeah, it's not easy being a parent.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
It's so not It's the hardest thing ever. It's so
not easy being a parent. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Oh, thank you, Mary, no worries any time.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
Yeah, and it's nice to know that you're human under
all that. Yeah, it's nice to know that under all
there there is actually some flesh and blood.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Well done, fish pump. Oh is that something we do still?
Speaker 5 (08:18):
This episode was brought to you by Medibank. Live Better
with Medibank. If this conversation brought up any strong feelings
for you, don't forget. There is help out there. Please
see show notes for resources
So you're listening to a MoMA Mia podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Mama Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of land and waters
that this podcast is recorded on Hey you bis, let's
get real for a sec. Did you know one in
five ossies experience and mental health condition each year. That's
a lot of us, and yet so many of us
don't say a word. We bottle it up, we push through,
(00:35):
We tell ourselves we're fine when we're not. But I've
learned that speaking up, just starting that conversation can be
incredibly powerful. It's often the first step toward feeling better
and realizing you're absolutely not alone. That's why I wanted
to share this brand new podcast I Never told you
this a series created to spark honest, meaningful conversations that
(00:58):
support better mental well being, brought to you by Medibank.
I hope you get as much out of this episode
as I did.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
I have anxiety myself. I don't even know what to
do with it, how to deal with it. I feel
like we don't really know how to deal with it.
We just kind of get up and just seize the day.
It doesn't matter how you're feeling.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Soldier on two People, One big reveal, I never told
you this a simple card game where one question could
change everything.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
It starts like, what's more things by joy?
Speaker 3 (01:25):
I'm not going to answer that.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Then comes the moment that could shift a relationship forever.
As they finished this sentence, I never told you this.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
I've never told you.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
They never told you this.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Today Reality TV influences mother and daughter duo Mary and
Martha Califdidas will be sitting down together.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Quite nervous, but I'm always nervous.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Mary has something big to reveal to her daughter.
Speaker 4 (01:50):
I don't think she's expecting me to say what I'm
going to say.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Welcome, Martha. Oh, thanks for having me Mary. This is
a bit new for us.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Welcome.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
So today we're going to play a little game with
the Midibank family roast cards.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Are you ready to play?
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yes, let's get into this game. I think we need
a little game.
Speaker 4 (02:09):
So who picks?
Speaker 5 (02:10):
Here?
Speaker 1 (02:10):
You go for it? Oh?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Are you ready?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (02:15):
What is the most ridiculous fashion trend you ever followed?
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Those thick fat belts that were like a boob trip
and we'd wear them over the jeans. That has to
be one of the ugliest things I ever did. I'm
five foot two and that made me four foot two.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
I probably told you, but you wouldn't probably listen.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
She had to throw that one in my face and.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Just saying kid, just saying, all right, so I'll pick
a card. Oh, what is something I do that grosses
you out?
Speaker 1 (02:42):
I don't think you do anything they do not. No,
that's right, good answer, Mary. What about me?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Don't because I can say so many things.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
I bring it to the table.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
Cutting your cuticles, Well.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
That's just like meditation.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
If you go and get that done and then you
like to do more and just keep cutting the cuticles,
it must be a nervous It's definitely a nervous habit.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
Okay, I'll take that, all.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Right, go next? Oh is that me? Oh?
Speaker 4 (03:08):
What do you think your most useless talent is? You've
got plenty of those.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I don't think I've got any. I just timeless for
uselessness in our family.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
I agree?
Speaker 3 (03:18):
What about how you can you start singing every single
commercial song that's ever come on since late nineteen eighty
fifties from the Earth.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
I'm going to pick the next card. I never told
you this. When you went on reality TV. All these
comments would come in on social media. It actually affected me,
but I didn't want to show you that it was
(03:50):
affecting me. All these comments that were coming in, and
I'd be staying up till three four in the morning,
and I didn't realize how toxic social media can be.
I didn't know as a parent how I can comfort you.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
No, I can totally understand how that would have affected you.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
With the trolls.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
On the they think they know me, but you really
know me, and so you were reading things that weren't true,
and then that would be just endless cycle.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Now you're a parent, and I'm sure you would probably.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
Do the same now that I'm a parent.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
I just want to protect him from everything.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
I could only imagine.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
And that's why I didn't want to burden you with
I've got anxiety, I can't sleep, I was I had
shortness of breath, like I was thinking, mom, don't yeah,
But that's how it was.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
I think to.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Some degree, I did have some idea, because you did
start acting really strange. I definitely think I know you
were staying up really late looking at comments, and I
remember just being to you like, don't.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Worry about it, man, like it's fine.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
But I think at the time, I didn't want to
show you either that it was affecting me, so I
would just say oh.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
To you, like it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
But really, like I would be in my room staying
up reading the comments as well. So I have anxiety myself.
I don't even know what to do with it. Do
you know how to deal with it? I feel like
we don't really know how to deal with it. We
just kind of move on with the day and just
keep the day going. But it doesn't mean that the
anxiety goes.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
Away the rest of this episode of I never told
you this right after.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
The break, Thinking back, I should have just been more
open and told you, like, you know what, it's normal
to feel this way because I'm feeling this way.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah, I think if this had done that, we probably
would have been able to, you know, commune and pack
it and then just deal with it in the open
instead of dealing with it separately in.
Speaker 1 (05:42):
Our different rooms.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Yeah, but that's very That's very much what our family does,
though we're not very good at revealing, which is strange
because we're so open that everything about movements and everything,
because we've brought up to be like quite.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Hard and like strong and tarbody. No, you can't get
over it.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Get up and just seize the day. It doesn't matter
how you're feeling.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Soldier on.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
When I was growing up, our parents were very strict.
They never showed an they never you know.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I just find that hard to believe. Yeah, yeah, it
is like the.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Most softest, sweetest, gentlest, emotional, loving caring.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
It wasn't when we were growing up. I just find
it hard to believe.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
She was strict.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Get up old age. It really softens you. It breaks
you down.
Speaker 4 (06:32):
With like searching and being like my own little detective.
I noticed that a lot of these comments weren't coming
from young kids that were just being mean. These were
from parents that had kids. How could you try and
destroy someone else's child. People want kids to be kind,
but they don't teach them the tools to be kind
(06:53):
and not to bring other people down.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
You know, like kids are mean today. I hate that
I was to learn that from somewhere.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. The parents are the
ones that need to actually change.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
I kind of feel a bit sad for you in
a way that you kind of dealt with that on
your own.
Speaker 4 (07:10):
That's what parents do, you know, They try to protect.
I think their kids as much as they can, you know,
So if your son was dealing with anxiety, how would
you help.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Him growing up?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
You always said those that matter don't mind, and those
that mind don't matter. It doesn't really matter because who
are these people to you? As long as like you know, you,
your friends, your family, the people that you care about,
the opinions of others don't really matter.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
That's good. At least you've got something, something stuck, stuck
from all those years.
Speaker 4 (07:46):
Yeah, it's not easy being a parent.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
It's so not It's the hardest thing ever. It's so
not easy being a parent. I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Oh, thank you, Mary, no worries any time.
Speaker 3 (07:58):
Yeah, and it's nice to know that you're human under
all that. Yeah, it's nice to know that under all
there there is actually some flesh and blood.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Well done, fish pump. Oh is that something we do still?
Speaker 5 (08:18):
This episode was brought to you by Medibank. Live Better
with Medibank. If this conversation brought up any strong feelings
for you, don't forget. There is help out there. Please
see show notes for resources
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